Misadventures in Atlanta

By QC

June 10, 2008 8:09 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers..have a nice, cool day…i’ll check back later ;)

By AmazonRed

June 10, 2008 8:15 AM | Link to this

Happy Tuesday.

There is always more below the surface after first meeting someone. But there has to be something that brings you in.

Once you graduate school, it’s more difficult just to make friends for the heck of it, especially after the opposite sex.

So I guess no, I havent really met someone that I wasn’t impressed with at first only to start thinking of them more later. That first impression is usually a good gauge.

By SlimOne

June 10, 2008 8:16 AM | Link to this

Good Morning all….haven’t had my morning fart yet, so i’ll check back in later.

By Raqi

June 10, 2008 8:32 AM | Link to this

That is usually a surefire indicator that you have been bit. After you have gone on your merry way and that person just happens to come across your mind for no apparent reason. Or even worse shows up in dream world.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

June 10, 2008 8:35 AM | Link to this

Morning, all, and excellent topic Bella. :-)

“Do you think it’s difficult in our fast-paced dating culture to look past the immediate attractions — someone who’s a great conversationalist, an expert charmer or a beauty queen — to appreciate the important, sometimes indefinable qualities underneath?”

No, I don’t think it’s difficult at all. It’s really a matter of the will and whether or not a person wants to put for the effort necessary to look deeper than those “immediate attractions” you mentioned. In relationships, what we oftentimes term as “difficult” boils down to a simple question of whether we want to or not.

By PornStar* in da Building (**6'1**)

June 10, 2008 8:49 AM | Link to this

This happen to me recently and to say that I am totally smitten by this older man is an underfreaking statement. Whoa!!!!!!!!!!!

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

June 10, 2008 8:58 AM | Link to this

Raqi I totally agree with your statement about the dream world. I know personally that lets me know that I may be more interested than I am willing to admit. You dont dream about any and everyone! LOL

Morning All! Need a pepsi, BRB

By Rell

June 10, 2008 9:05 AM | Link to this

muther uker i am ill - not sick

Do you think it’s difficult in our fast-paced dating culture to look past the immediate attractions — someone who’s a great conversationalist, an expert charmer or a beauty queen — to appreciate the important, sometimes indefinable qualities underneath?”

Yes it is hard because many and many folks now-a-days were MASK….so it is hard to guage is this person serious — sometimes what you see is what you get there is nothing there to look for…so again dating is like the lottery - lots of luck involved…just check yahoo personals…e-harmony..etc….this dating thing is very tricky

By Kym aka Enchantress Divine

June 10, 2008 9:18 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

sigh I will lurker around this morning until the topic changes.

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this

Breezy Morning All

sitting in the Lounge…

By QC

June 10, 2008 9:28 AM | Link to this

Hey Relly-Rell how ya doing

By QC

June 10, 2008 9:32 AM | Link to this

Cee-me-me..let’s fix breakfast since we’re chillin in da blog lounge

By ChurchLady

June 10, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone

I’m so tired stayed up late last night making baskets for the sick and shut in.

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this

Aaaalright Queen but don’t you come in hear with the “S@xy Dance”…Cee doesn’t do funny behavior in the kitchen around food - AT ALL!

Now how come there is no breakfast meat left? Who’s going vegeterian?

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

June 10, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this

QC can you please have some fresh fruit?? I’ll go get plates, forks/knives/spoons, cups & napkins

Wassup Cemeeli,Rell, SlimOne, Darrell and errbody that will come strollin in…

Kym come out dat corner chica! :0) QC and Cemeeli are bout to cook some breakfast

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

June 10, 2008 9:45 AM | Link to this

Rell *”…this dating thing is very tricky…”

No doubt, man, and I completely agree. Which leads to the deeper question of why is dating so tricky in the first place?

I would argue that, to my earlier point, it’s an issue of the extent to which each of is willing to be open and transparent toward the other, which is another reason why I, personally, prefer to take the “open book” approach when dating someone.

As I see it, if a woman is trying to get to know me better, it’s my job to make that process easier for her. She shouldn’t have to break out a shovel and dig for details about me, though that’s not to say I’m to be a “geyser” of information about myself from the word “Hello”.

My point is, individual circumstances notwithstanding, that each of us holds within ourselves the ability to make this whole dating process a lot less tricky and a lot less laborious for the other person, if we’re only willing to do so.

By SexyCool

June 10, 2008 9:45 AM | Link to this

that’s how i was with coach…actually thought he was kinda interesting looking when i met him…even now…i can look at him sometimes and think…oh well, never mind what i think…

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

June 10, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

I’m tired as hell….but good morning anyway!

6’1 Glad to see someone else has your attention. So you really let go of the person who shall remain nameless???

on topic that has happen to me. I think I do not like men who are aggressive to me. If you push up to much on me I will pull away and not like you. But if you chill and relax and approach me friendly and not hounddog-ish…we may have lift off. There was a cute nice guy that I blew off before because he ws coming at me with the relationship/dating thing. I shut down real quick. But we just started hanging out..I felt no pressure so I enjoyed his company a lot more and actually wanted to spend more time with him. I found myself thinking differently about him….all he did was just chill and let me be…and I liked him more.

By Raqi

June 10, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this

I think the term “grow on you” may be appropriate for this topic. The attraction builds over time by way of social interactions. Been there done that.

As far as today’s dating rituals are concerned we are living in an instant gratification era. We sometimes tend go for what makes our temp rise at first sight later to realize everything that looks good is not always good for you.

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this

Breakfast menu: vanilla french toast, blueberry pancakes, eggs on scramble w/cheese, hashbrowns scattered-covered-diced, freshcut watermelon, grapes, mango, bluberries,yougurt/granola parfait and water, and some leftover Naked juice in the coolers.

Have at it folks.

By QC

June 10, 2008 9:52 AM | Link to this

Mo I got your fruit…i’ve gotta add a little water to these grits..where’s the butter…Cee, can you turn that turkey & sausage over please..i don’t want it to burn..ok we’ll be ready in about 10 minutes…

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

June 10, 2008 9:53 AM | Link to this

Raqi “We sometimes tend go for what makes our temp rise at first sight later to realize everything that looks good is not always good for you.”

5^!

By QC

June 10, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

I’m gonna fry some “chicken wings” just in case “Musing & Demi” stop by…if not i’m they’ll get ate…let me add a dash of my secret spice to this salamon…aight, y’all can line up and eat NOW….enjoy!

By PornStar* in da Building (**6'1**)

June 10, 2008 9:56 AM | Link to this

Staceye Yeah, I am now Black free and on to Big#2! So far too good!

By Rell

June 10, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

Sup qc and m…sexycool what it dew

darrell…your job is not be an information booth.your job is to direct and secure that is it…you can shape you to that women by the info you give….she needs to know the things that will get her booted off the island..along with your passions and general interest….thats what she needs up front…now later on you can tell her about your barry manilow collection and care bear bedsheets…but men need to stop with all the info sharing and phone macking with women..get more interactive and live life with your new love interest…expose her to your world outside of the bedroom…the bedroom is reserved for business - not blue ball session because you have not built up enough trust or rapport for the women to buy into your program…feel me

By Textless

June 10, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

Good morning all. Somebody tell me this…why are these 25, 29, 26 year olds trying to get w/me. It’s just weird! A friend of mine gave her brother my number (w/o asking me first). He called last night. We had a decent convo. He’s TWENTY-FIVE! Boy o boy!

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

Queen you’re slow…your brother has already came in here and fixed seconds…He said you’re as slow as you always was when you all were kids. we need that sausage though

By QC

June 10, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

Cee don’t forget we also have:

cheese/regular grits, chicken wings, salamon patties, pork, beef & turkey sausages/bacon, Biscuits w/gravy &

MAMOSAS

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 10:07 AM | Link to this

Hi, Mo,Kym,Stac,6’10,Raqi

Ladies i’m sorry this was funny as hayo.

…care bear bedsheets…

Rell um…chew your breakfast first!

By Raqi

June 10, 2008 10:07 AM | Link to this

I like the house hunting analogy that Bella used. People choose to buy houses for different reasons. Location, style, cost, amenities, size and so on. Like she said you may not be immediately impressed by the existing cabinetry but later realize that it has so much more to offer when you look at the picture.

As with dating or choosing a mate, consider the whole package. I was thinking about that yesterday while reading some of the comments. A mate is a package deal.

By SexyLeggs

June 10, 2008 10:09 AM | Link to this

Sorry folk, forgot to change my moniker back from a different blog…Textless is me! Just had some shredded wheat, but would love a bowl of fruit…thanks much!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

June 10, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

Rell “…your job is to direct and secure that is it”

I see your point, but the irony is that a lot of women see a man’s level of transparency as translating to a certain degree of “security” for them.

I mean, let’s face it, many women have some sort of wall up to begin with so, with that in mind, I say why not at least try to penetrate that wall with a little volitional honesty and openness? Of course, it’s up to her to respond to such a gesture, but I don’t see as I have anything to lose by at least attempting to set a positive example.

But, then again, that’s just me.

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

June 10, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

Thanks for the spread ladies!! I may as well cancel any thoughts of being productive today at work

Rell care bear sheets! I would love to laugh at that but it hits a lil close to home!! Remember my phone? LOL!!

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

QC chica, i was about to ask you what is a Mimosa?…nevermind it was at a late morning wedding and i asked what it was, after i had already took a drink of it.

By shell

June 10, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

Textless, It’s the same for me. The last two men I dated were both twenty-five and I am just turn 36 last week. The last guy who ask for my phone number was 27.

It’s strange.

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this

Mo Do you have Care Bear graphics on your phone?…gone and tell it…

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

June 10, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this

What’s up, Mo? :-)With apologies for the late response as I was in a meeting. ;-)

By Kym aka Enchantress Divine

June 10, 2008 10:18 AM | Link to this

Sorry I am just not feeling this topic this morning so I will sit here with a bannana nut muffin and read.

By Lurker

June 10, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this

Darrell 9:45 This is not a jab at you, just my thoughts. Dating really ain’t deep and only seem tricky cause folks won’t be themselves and let the real come through. What’s tricky about portraying the person you really are? Even in doing so and things don’t work out, nothing colossal about that. But when ahead of the real there are lies, deceit, fake-ism, talking out of both sides of the neck, yeah it gets really hairy and tricky. Most of the time when folks are less than forthcoming, there are ulterior motive. I cannot stand a person that won’t deal on the real. I believe a person and can get whatever it is they want moreso by being upfront. I think someone said it yesterday or last week. Relax, be true, keep it real and EVERYTHING will come your way…with ease.

By anonymousella

June 10, 2008 10:23 AM | Link to this

heh heh … i’m in this situation now with a friend who lives in another city. i always thought he was fun and funny. but when i saw him last, something had shifted.

we both kind of recognized each other’s dopeness and fell into a deeper friendship. then i found out he has a little crush on me … and now i’m re-examining him in that light.

of course, this could also be a sign that i need to get out of the house and meet some local folks.

By PornStar* in da Building (**6'1**)

June 10, 2008 10:23 AM | Link to this

Great Breakfast spread you guys, pepsi’s and mojitos for all the ladies and forehead kisses for all the vertically challenged men! lol

By QC

June 10, 2008 10:23 AM | Link to this

Mimosa - Mamosa..girl they are soooooooooo good* I poured me some up in my 32oz cup so i’ll be giggling all day!!!!

By For Real

June 10, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

On topic: I think this quote sums up the issues many have with dating or life period.

We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are. - Anais Nin

By Rell

June 10, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

I mean, let’s face it, many women have some sort of wall up to begin with so, with that in mind, I say why not at least try to penetrate that wall with a little volitional honesty and openness? Of course, it’s up to her to respond to such a gesture, but I don’t see as I have anything to lose by at least attempting to set a positive example.

how as that approach worked for you homie…every women does not need dr phil….feel me….again all that opening up is for her girlfriends and not for the man she needs to look at when things get rough..nothing wrong with being emotional or vunerable around your women..but you have to do it within the context of the current state of affairs……women dont get all excited because you just had a will and grace moment….but they will if you show that you have a lil toughness about you..able to set boundries for the relationship and provide that comfort and security she is looking for..your emotional side will come thru with lil things…like a morning tap on the a*…a hug from behind and sexy whisper in the ear…or you telling her dayum you look nice today..things like that…not the time when you cried because your grade school crushed made her own box and checked maybe!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

June 10, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

Lurker “What’s tricky about portraying the person you really are?”

Exactly my point. It’s our failure to do that (for whatever reason) that makes things all complicated and ambiguous. (By the way, I didn’t take your 10:20 as a “jab”. It was good post.)

By Bre'

June 10, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this

I have to say young bucks have alot of courage. I get approached by young ones all the time. And I really try not to be like I’m closer to your mother’s age. Well on my to my 40’s and your on your way to 25.

I will say this some of them I’ve spoken with really have there stuff together. They have some type of property, car, even a PA account, traveled a little bit. And do more than just play video games. They are stepping up there game. I just don’t know if I have time to invest in the possiblity of teaching one of them “things”.

Where is Demi, I’ve missed reading him while in Lurkville?

By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON

June 10, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

Good Mornting

Darrell Go some balls…Please! A sensitive man is oxymoronic and a turn off….Do not mention the CARE BEAR bedsheets…She will be out the fuggin door quick!

By For Real

June 10, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

I still don’t understand why dating is considered tricky. DATING is a verb it’s something you do or don’t do. DATING is not a hard target search.

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 10:33 AM | Link to this

so you just gonna mess me up all day w/your idioms?

a will and grace moment

your grade school crushed made her own box and checked maybe!

By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON

June 10, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

Rell You’re a* is off the chain today!! Give Darrell a got damn break. Go easy on him!

not the time when you cried because your grade school crushed made her own box and checked maybe!

LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

Blow am i sitting in the wrong section today? i’on think we should be laughing like this so early in the morning-i haven’t my seconds on breakfast and fruit this morning.

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

June 10, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

Good morning folks, does absence make my heart grow fonder? YES, I recently reconnected with a guy I dated for several months. During the couple of months that we were in hiatus he ran across my mind alot while I was awake and in my dreams. The abssence has made me appreciate him more.

Textless/SexyLeggs nothing wrong with a young buck! LOL

By Simp

June 10, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this

Cemee Good morning. Textless/Sexy I thought cougars loved the younger man.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

June 10, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this

Rell

The “Dr. Phil” analogy is misplaced, dude. I’m not trying solve her problems, I’m trying to let her inside ME, which is completely the opposite of that “Dr. Phil” connection you’re trying to make. And as far as how that’s worked for me, I’ve never had a relationship not work out because I was too open with her. Matter of fact, to hear them tell it, it wa a welcome change to have met a man who not only can speak in complete sentences, but who can do so without having to be prodded first with a branding iron.

By SexyLeggs

June 10, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

Bre, I’m with you on that.

MLL, I know, it’s just different. I go from one extreme to the other, the young bucks or the 60+ w/no stamina. Ok, applications on the table…I need a boy toy. J/K, but I am reevulating some thangs!!!!

By QC

June 10, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

Cee Darrell don’t do seconds girl…and his first plate will be it..let’s make some SMOOTHIES!!!!!

By Willie Dynamite

June 10, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this

Morning All,

Lester Hayes dayum mayne, let ol boy get a standing 8 count. You killing him. Thats some funny shyt right there. And I agree totally!!!

Darrell Are You about to cross-over homie?

By PornStar* in da Building (**6'1**)

June 10, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this

RELL Bruh, you just said a mouthful then homie!

By For Real

June 10, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this

Darrell You will never, ever, understand women. It might be time for you to realize that point. Stop trying to use logic and rational thinking on women. The reasons your open style doesn’t translate to women is bc women love to have secrets and they love to dig and discover your secrets. So, when you come with the open style appoarch they lose interest bc you tell them everything. Put it like this, 98% of women who shop, go to the store with great hopes of finding that expensive name brand on sale for $12.99. When they find it, they beam and scream to the world about how much they paid for it and will talk about for days as if they have discovered the cure for cancer. And they will get mad at you bc you are not as excited as they are bc they bought a shirt for $12.99.

By Raqi

June 10, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

Rell your 10:26 is dead on. Nicely spoken.

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

QC so he doesn’t ever never ever think about going back? What about when mom dukes cooks?

Simp Hey…best get you a plate before WilleD put hotsauce on everythang.

By Simp

June 10, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs DO you have spring fever? Get back in the race. I’m going to slide my application under your door.

By Rell

June 10, 2008 11:00 AM | Link to this

@Darrell…why do i feel alot of heating coming from that post…lol

if thats your lane cool — but i say why not try something different for a change…and the dr phil tag is correct..you did state you are a counsol of sorts….or do i have that wrong. A welcome change — and i beat you took that lil at-a-boy and ran with it…look i dont need a women to give me a medal for doing me..if she likes it cool, but i would rather get kudos for going above and beyond duty…not for representing my myself..dont need it..also the laws of attraction also applies so that lil prodding is good for some women…some like that measure of pursuit dont get twisted.

By Atl Lady

June 10, 2008 11:03 AM | Link to this

For Real That’s so funny and yet so true!!! About the $12.99 thing. My friend was wondering why I was jumping up and down when I recently bought some shirts brand new for $4.99 each. Darrell I’ve got mad luv and respect for your thought process. Hang in there You will find your queen.

By Blow Me a.k.a MOST HATED ON

June 10, 2008 11:03 AM | Link to this

Darrell I also see that you proud yourself too much…

You kill me with some of the things you say!!

welcome change to have met a man who not only can speak in complete sentences

Stop it!

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

June 10, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli I am a Tweety Bird fan and I had Tweety on my old cell phone! I confess!

Okay I am full now and so in need of a nap, thanks again ladies!!

By Bre'

June 10, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

*It’s something for sure in the spring/hot summer air causing spring fever.

Everyone seems to be at itching for something….even if its not good for them.

By SexyLeggs

June 10, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

Simp, yes cougars love younger men. I just thought I’d start trying to meet men more my age. This doesn’t seem to be working, because I like a nice, tight body like the rest of you guys! Yeah, it just might be spring fever!

Darrell, you are a very intelligent man, just lighten up a tad (if possible).

By Simp

June 10, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

It’s too dayum early for hotsauce.

By CARE BEAR

June 10, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

Its not nice to talk about CARE BEARS….You make Care Bear cry.

By The Truth

June 10, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

Darrell Cut this other level shyt out. Life is only that deep for buddhist monks. A chick doesn’t want to get that deep with you to early. Keep it light and airy like a good biscuit. All will be revealed over time. Be superficial like everyone else. Get your numbers up and meet folks. Enjoy the day and you’ll find someone to share it.

I’m putting you on a 30 word per post limit. No more mini books.

And no more “depths of my emotions” posts. Try saying “my feelings were hurt” and then move on.

Rell lmao.

BTw, they may have caught the blue jean bandits. No more hook ups. LOL

By Simp

June 10, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

Bre and sexy. Soon as I walk outside and take in that hot air. I want a body next to mine, hell if i’m going to be hot, i want to enjoy it. Sexy, i was always told, when you put a lot into one area, you are limiting yourself. Now go fly like an eagle.

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this

..gettin’ on the bandwagon…

Darrell imma stop eating and laughing long enough to say this to you….

…he has supplied for you riches and gifts…and he that prepareth for you a mate, will also give unto your heart…

oh, i can get a sensible post in today.

By QC

June 10, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this

Cee when Momma cooks it’s a whole different story….he hardly ever go back for 2nds…i’ll be in lurkesville for a while…until the topic changes and becomes more pleasant..it’s too cloudy in here for me….HOLLA

By Atl Lady

June 10, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

Truth I’m still waiting on my gift for dad hit list. We don’t live in the same city right now and it’ll be 4th of July before I make it to where he is. I need to be able to put it in the mail by tomorrow.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

June 10, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

Answer me this, Blow: how the hell does a person who doesn’t mind being honest and open about himself in the first place “grow some balls”? Don’t you think that counts for something? Or, would you rather I use flash cards to communicate with you? smh

It seems you need reminding that as it relates to a person’s comments on this blog, there are two things that are important and necessary:

You seem to possess the former, but are sorely lacking in the latter. I would suggest you to go back and re-read my posts - each of which talks about the importance of me being open and transparent about me. Did you catch that, Blow? In other words, this is me talking about my desire for her to get to know me better, not me trying to pull up a couch and psychoanalyze anyone, as you and Rell are seemingly trying to spin this.

I don’t know. Maybe next time I’m on a date I’ll just sit there like a totem pole and not utter a single word until asked. Would that make me more “ballsy” in your eyes? Or maybe I’ll just walk her into the restaurant with a slight lean in my step or my pants sagging? Or, how ‘bout this, Blow? How ‘bout I really man-up and outright refuse to pay the bill when it comes and say “You pay it, beyotch!”?

Yep, that oughta do it. :-/

smh

By Kym aka Enchantress Divine

June 10, 2008 11:50 AM | Link to this

So has the topic changed yet? Oh by the way Darell I hear that Congress has proposed the biggest budget-tax hike in US History..I saw a glimer of it on CNBC and now doing the mad search on NYTimes to find info.

This week’s theme in politics-The Economy

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

did i just feel a cool breeze come in here?

By Rell

June 10, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

Or maybe I’ll just walk her into the restaurant with a slight lean in my step or my pants sagging? Or, how ‘bout this, Blow? How ‘bout I really man-up and outright refuse to pay the bill when it comes and say “You pay it, beyotch!”?

YOUR SLIP IS SHOWING

again dude do you — i am not spinning anything — all i am saying there is another side to the game and some have agreed and there will be some that still thinks RELL IS OUT OF HIS RABBIT ARSE MIND….so i will say this and lets change the subject - try it before you talk down on it…and trust i have tried that approach letting all the baby powder out of me….all that got me was a bunch of female friends and overage on my minutes…..only a couple of times did it lead to a a couple of “t** tay baths” and nothing more…..so lets change the topic…whats up white american problem with the fist pound….they love when tiger fist pumps but the future pres cant give his wife a pound - is that too black for american culture…and a a* pat on the football field is ok…lets talk about it people

By AmazonRed

June 10, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

While I don’t want to hear how you cried for 3 months after the wife and kids left, I do want to know that you are OPEN to discussing most anything when we get to that point.

So while Truth has a point about just “keeping it light” in the beginning, I do want to know that the keys to the castle are at least WILLING to open, like Darrell mentioned.

By Sybil

June 10, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

Uh-oh - y’all done got the sensitive man all riled up.

By AmazonRed

June 10, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

Correction, meant to say I don’t want to hear about how you cried for 3 months ON THE FIRST DATE (or in the beginning) but I do certainly want to know that over time.

By The Truth

June 10, 2008 11:59 AM | Link to this

Atl I’ve tried to send those gifts 3 times but they dont show up. Maybe because of the links I attached. I copied the last post so I won’t have to retype them. Shoot me an email to atlred01@yahoo.com. I’ll get em to you.

By Ice from QuickTrip

June 10, 2008 12:00 PM | Link to this

Looks like Darrell aka Wordsmith just blew Blow’s azz right off the blog, LMAO!!! Dayuuuummmm Keep doing what you’re doing Darrell, you blog like you’re a nice person. Don’t worry about these simple minded bloggers who think they know it all. I’m sure they mean well but just don’t know how to say it; i lurk all the time and had to put my $5 comment on blast.

By Raqi

June 10, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

Darrell Yes, every or most women want her guy to open up to her. But when and how it’s done makes the difference. Sometimes actions are better received than words. And not just that information should come at the appropriate time. Take some of the things Rell stated. Those are actions that show emotion. That shows the lady that you are there for her. You care. It’s not something that should be stated in conversation outside of an incident because you will probably get “yeah, okay, whatever, I hear ya” as a response. Or a why are you telling me this? expression. Open up as needed. Don’t overload your woman with unnecessary info or sentiments. Just like you men don’t want to be overloaded.

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

June 10, 2008 12:04 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs Young bucks! I luv em, they are so energetic and fresh! The ones I’ve met and one I currently have my fingers on are not hauled down and stained yet. I’m seeing more and more younger men going after older women.

Darrell maybe you should take a lighter approach in dating and not read too much into it. You maybe coming across as intimidating to the ladies which may be causing them to lose interest fast. Material things are good but what does it bring you if you don’t have someone to share it with? I’ve been reading you for a while and you are very DEEP whikle it’s okay sometimes most women don’t want to hear all that all the time. Relax, chill, enjoy, take the rod out. J/K

By SexyLeggs

June 10, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this

OK Simp, I’m flying like an eagle.

By Melissa

June 10, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

I bet the people offering dating advice to Darell couldn’t get a date with a inmate, let alone a person of quality.

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

June 10, 2008 12:13 PM | Link to this

Good point Raqi @12:03

By SexyLeggs

June 10, 2008 12:13 PM | Link to this

Sure wish we could open up the fire hydrant. I miss that as a little girl.

By SexyCool

June 10, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

The sad reality is that due to the state of dating in Atlanta, a lot of extra regular dudes who would not otherwise get a second look are running around town with an inflated top shelf status when they are sadly average.

One thing that I used to run into while dating is that a lot of guys think they are a ten, when in reality, they are more like a four or five.

There are a lot of extra regular dudes like some who post here running around Atlanta not knowing how unimpressive they are.

But since there seems to be an attitude among women of “ANYthing is better than NOthing”, men in Atlanta experience a dating eutopia where they can easily date up with little effort.

By 2CPTG©

June 10, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

“I bet the people offering dating advice to Darell couldn’t get a date with a inmate, let alone a person of quality.”

from the looks of things, neither can Darrell!

By Kym aka Enchantress Divine

June 10, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

I guess Darrell you are the Huckleberry this week…just K.I.M. and do you. Whenever I give or get advice I always think consider the source.

By Ice from QuickTrip

June 10, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

^5 Melissa YOU ARE SO RIGHT! That being FEDERAL, STATE OR CITY INMATES LMAO!!!!!

By Bre'

June 10, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

Very well putSexy.

By SlimOne

June 10, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

Absence makes the heart grow fonder

I thought that was the topic of today. So Darrell I think what all the blog men are saying is….disappear for a while. They need a ‘simpin’ break. (their word not mind)…and I’m sure they’ll miss you. Right fellas? (Slim now hearing crickets from the MLB)

By Simp

June 10, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

Sexy, how old are you if you dont mind me asking?

By AmazonRed

June 10, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this

SexyCool your 12:14 summed things up quite nicely. LOL

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

June 10, 2008 12:23 PM | Link to this

**6’1” Good for you mami.

Rell barry manilow collection and care bear bedsheets I happen to like his song Copacabana and I still rock the care bears t-shirt…in public! So I would not be mad at Darrell! LOL

Textless/Sexyleggs girl the cubs smell your cougar milk and they come running! LOL

6’1 pepsi’s and mojitos for all the ladies girl you trying to make me love you! LOL

Darrell I appreciate openess. I hate to have to assume and when I ask question..some dude will get his under-roos in a bunch! If you just be real and open..I have no questions about the man I am with. That si the problem…men are not open which leave the door oen for all kinds of pondering on my end….if I have to ponder I will think the worst. An open man is security in my book. The more open he is with me…I will be the smae way for him. If I have to play the can you keep a secret game with a man…I leave him in the sandbox along with the rest of the little boys!

For Real women is bc women love to have secrets and they love to dig and discover your secrets Not true hon….I get my nails done to look pretty…i refuse to dig and mess them up! LOL Put your cards on the table. I hate surprises and being blindsided.

Bre My girls and my mom called me today telling me how hot it is in the NY…not too much of a difference from ATL. But I will be home July 4th. I guess my hair will stay in a bun all summer…I hate wearing my hair down and have it stick to my back. EWWW!

By Jazzyone

June 10, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

I don’t have time for games. I prefer a man be WHO he is not who he thinks i want to see him be. Don’t come at me with game. There is nothing wrong with being sensitive to your woman, and being able too have her back also and put it down when necessary.

Everyone is not out for game or have the need to be hit over the head and drug to a lair…my man got me becasue he is well rounded in sensitivity, knowing how communicate EFFECTVIELY with me. he shows me respect and i do the same. Neither of us has time to play games or have the need to we both realize neither of us are children we know what we want and went after each other…he made no secret of him wanting to be in a committed relationship with me and i did the same. he thinks the world of me and vice versa.. We are coming together cause we want to be together and respect each other…

Be honest, be you and show me the real you. i don’t have the time or the energy to be trying to figure some dude out or trying to get at his inner core like hes fort knox…

There is a reason whey some are single and can’t buy a date. Those that are in unhappy relationships and just got plain drama on the heart and brain.

Darrell ain’t nothing wrong with were you stand bruh..let em call you what they want to ..but I bet you can guess whos happy and whos not..LMOAFF…SMFH and CTFU all at the same time.

By Dan

June 10, 2008 12:26 PM | Link to this

Darrell: be sensitive, but do so with someone that’s worth your effort and appreciative of the gift you offer.

But, in these skreets, that “you pay beyotch” line wouldn’t work, the alternative seperate cars and when the check comes…..leave…..

By Simp

June 10, 2008 12:27 PM | Link to this

SexyCool, You’re not upset are you? We all have to love ourselves first and that type of madness would not happen.

By Ice from QuickTrip

June 10, 2008 12:27 PM | Link to this

Everyone has their own plan or way when it comes to dating. This topic has played out for the today, he does’nt seem like the type to date an inmate and neither do you 2CPTG. I’ve read your comments and you’re always on top of things and seem to be very well put together if i must say so myself. Lighten up people it’s just a blog.

By Dan

June 10, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this

@sexycool (and anyone else of that opinion):

Do you think the reason that you run into extra regular dudes is that you choose them? Or is it that those are the only type of men that you attract? Either way says more about you ladies that it does about the myriad of men…

By Ice from QuickTrip

June 10, 2008 12:39 PM | Link to this

I don’t have a problem with “regular dudes” as long as they have a JOB.

Ok, what is a BUST IT BABY I hear that song all day, what is he talking about?

By SexyCool

June 10, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

Simp - quite the contrary…i am most definitely in love…with myself and my man…

side note - i would hope that you are not trying to bate me…however, i really can’t tell…i’m not familiar with your blog personality/habits/beliefs…since your posts are one of the many that i skip over one a regular basis…

and on yet another note…could it be that you are one of those extra regular dudes of which i speak? my grandma used to say…a hit dog will holla…

laughing…now…all of the above was said in jest…not trying to start today’s blog war…just keeping it light and keeping it moving…

By AmazonRed

June 10, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

When Flavor Flav can get scores of women chasing after his tail, that’s the kind of stuff we’re talking about.

Not personally my cup of tea, but you can see how it might muddle up the dating jean pool overall and make it all the more difficult.

By 2CPTG©

June 10, 2008 12:43 PM | Link to this

Ice, I feel ya, but when a man constantly talks about the failures of dating, you think to yourself, damn, dude…..you sound like a bright brother, and got all the trappings of success, so what’s the problem? Why can’t you meet a quality female?

That’s all I’m saying….

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

June 10, 2008 12:44 PM | Link to this

Jazzy Girl I CO-SIGN your 12:24. That guessing game crap is why dating is so messed up. Each person is guessing what they think the other person’s intentions instead of both being upfront and real. No…they want to play Scooby Doo and solve the mystery! Sorry…My name is not Velma nor Daphne…and I do not own a Mystery Van! Just tell me who the culprit is so I can move on! No time for, “Who Done It’s”! I like game when it comes to board games and party games…but not where my love life is concerned…I am a grown azz woman and I would hope a grown azz man would not play games..but for some they are still riding a tricycle instead of driving the big boys car.

By Foots

June 10, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

Jazzyone Your 12:24 is exactly what I was thinking. You put it down with that one.

Dan Do you think the reason that you run into extra regular dudes is that you choose them?

There are not that many extraordinary people out there. Hence the “extra”. If you’re running numbers, any person, male or female, is more likely to run into regular dudes or ladies than they are to run into an outstanding prospect. We don’t control who approaches us, but we do control who we end up with.

But to SexyCool’s point, the issue is with men (or women, for that matter) thinking that they are all that and a bag of chips when they are just a piece of that and some soggy tater tots.

It’s harder for women though, if they are just average, because there are more women to choose from in the dating pool. Men can get away with a little more, or with having a little less, because of the perceived shortage of available men with some dayum sense.

By AmazonRed

June 10, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

Blah…dating GENE pool. I’m done. LOL

By Atl Lady

June 10, 2008 12:49 PM | Link to this

Truth I appreciate you. It’ll be later today. I’m getting ready to go into yet another meeting. Today is only Tuesday and I really wish it was Friday.

By Ice from QuickTrip

June 10, 2008 12:51 PM | Link to this

That’s true 2CPTG i do understand, so you tell me what is a BUST IT BABY cause i know you know.

By Dan

June 10, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

@Foots

Sexy’s point was not in relation to the “dating pool”, hers as I read it was a quite hypocritial attack of men that she feels “isn’t on her level”.

But the whole dating pool myth stops now….we need to stop worrying about dating like that, it doesn’t mean anything until it does…

But regular people is “all of us”. Ain’t nobody on here doing more that $1 million a year, so get over yourselves….

By SexyLeggs

June 10, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

Simp, I’m 49 and will be 50 in December.

Staceye, cougar milk had me hollering…good one!

Darrell, because of who you are and your strong beliefs, believe you me an “evenly yoked woman will be walking down your path soon!”

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 12:54 PM | Link to this

why does it seem so somber in here?

Darrell you are a conservative in the banking industry…making a decision is not new to you.

i think you have made or prayed about a decision based on logic, heart and what the spirit convinces.

You have impressed many on the blog to the point of being more transparent and getting to know you. I’m sure lady has “gotten” it = her wall is thin. Tip: Just as you have to present, explain and decide in meetings for work, i’m sure you’re able to make “executive decisions” about a potential.

i’m single and that’s all i can say…i’ve read Raqi, Poppa, Willie, & others waaaay better

…lunch was; honey carrots, chicken, snap peas and salad.<—that had no adverse effect on me.

By Simp

June 10, 2008 12:55 PM | Link to this

SexyCool, I would never try to bate you. You can call me a regular guy all you want, but the thing is I do know who I am, so words dont hurt. Not if a regular guy broke your heart, just move on. Time heal all wounds. I come here just to have a little fun. When you meet people, it’s like a mirror. Regular guy meet regular girl.

By Foots

June 10, 2008 12:59 PM | Link to this

2CPTG I feel ya, but when a man constantly talks about the failures of dating, you think to yourself, damn, dude…..you sound like a bright brother, and got all the trappings of success, so what’s the problem? Why can’t you meet a quality female?

Now that is a really good question. For a woman to say that she has a problem meeting stable, quality guys would be understandable. But a man?

The only thing that I can think of is that when you are looking for something SPECIFIC, your pool narrows down significantly. Like if you’re looking for a car, versus, a blue car with gray interior, heated seats, side curtain airbags, V8, etc. If you are looking for a “good woman”, there are plenty of those. But if you’re looking for a “good woman that fits you”, your ratio just went down from 8-1 to about 2-1, if that. I have talked to many men who say that once they stopped dating just to date, where the women are plentiful, and started looking for something specific in the women they chose to date, they couldn’t find what they were looking for.

Maybe he has the idea of the woman he is looking for in his head already and not many women fit that. (And I’m talking about dating for marriage.) Nothing wrong with that, because it’s a good idea to have in mind what you are looking for in a mate. But at the same time, you have to be flexible enough to have some unknowns thrown in your picture, so that you won’t narrow your choices down too much.

Dan How do you know what her level is?

Actually, being extraordinary has nothing to do with how much money you make.

By Ice from QuickTrip

June 10, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

I’m glad it’s “somber” in here makes it more pleasant to read & blog. I’m going to Quiznos for a salad i heard they have good one’s so i’ll see.

By Kym aka Enchantress Divine

June 10, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

Ice I consulted my liason to all things ghetto..and apparently a Bust it Baby is something a woman cries out when she is going to have a huge O..(I swear between this and superman slang for sex gets more stupid by the generations)

By 2CPTG©

June 10, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

Ice, the Song, Bust it Baby, ain’t really the true meaning….Plies introduced that term in his early underground CD’s, and it’s just a another term for ya jump off! She ain’t nuttin but somebody you can call to fall through, and, “bust it!”

By Raqi

June 10, 2008 1:04 PM | Link to this

2CPTG from reading Darrell it seems that he has the wrong notion about certain women. He shuns the girly girl types. The ultra feminine. For some reason he reads as if he thinks there is less to a woman that takes pride in her appearance. If he is anything like he reads on here he seems to be pretty intelligent and could probably pull some fiyah into his realm. Only if he would lose that she can’t be girly mindset.

That’s just how I perceive him on here.

By 2CPTG©

June 10, 2008 1:09 PM | Link to this

Foots, we all have our idea of our “ideal” person; But what are the odds of you getting that “ideal” person? So, for a brother who constatly proclaims that he looks at the inner qualities of a female, and is undeterred by other material things, you would think he woulda found somebody he could vibe with…hell, all them fine azz chicks that work in Banking Institutions and you cain’t find nannn????………I have to say, nah niqqa, some’n else wrong with you, that you ain’t telling us about!

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

Ice somber: sad, dark, gloomy or even gravelike = pleasant.

When i read your Lighten up people it’s just a blog. i didnt’ gather gloom.

Cee = observant

By Page1908

June 10, 2008 1:15 PM | Link to this

LOL @ 2’s 1:09. OMG!

By Foots

June 10, 2008 1:16 PM | Link to this

2CPTG See, I was trying to help a brotha out! LOL!!

You have a point. The odds are very low of getting your ideal person, if your ideals have you painted into a box with details that don’t really matter in the long run.

I don’t know… Maybe the ladies have peeped out the fact that he won’t let them drive his car unless she has the very best intentions at heart. LOL!

By AmazonRed

June 10, 2008 1:17 PM | Link to this

I’m sure the Republican thing narrows down the dating pool in the black community significantly. Even if you arent a Democrat, you don’t have to be Republican.

Most black Republican’s I can think of married white women. LOL

By 2CPTG©

June 10, 2008 1:18 PM | Link to this

Darrell, can I get in yo business on a personal level real quick? Do you get laid regularly? Reason I ask, because even if a dude ain’t seriously dating, but he bustin on a regular, he would even find some compatibility with one of his partners…..that, if push came to shove, he could say, “I still got my bust it baby on deck!”

By PornStar* in da Building (**6'1**)

June 10, 2008 1:18 PM | Link to this

SHE MY BUST IT BABY
1. Your girlfriend or boyfriend Boy 1: its that your girl? Boy 2: yup she my bust it baby

By SexyLeggs

June 10, 2008 1:20 PM | Link to this

Dan, Dan, Dan, I beg to differ. I wasn’t being hypocritical. I think it’s a freaking compliment that the young bucks are coming after me. WTH are you talking about. Yes, I’m older, but I’m active. The older dudes coming at me at entirely too settled. All I was saying is I need some action/attention/activities more than sitting at home watching National Geographic. You feel me???

By Bre'

June 10, 2008 1:24 PM | Link to this

Sidebar Is there something in the water, 7 out of 10 couples(married/dating/engaged) is having some type of issue? And that includes me, what is it about summertime that makes it seem like a higher rate of discord is topping the charts?

By Page1908

June 10, 2008 1:24 PM | Link to this

LOL OMG 2! ctfu

By Foots

June 10, 2008 1:25 PM | Link to this

6’1 I certainly hope these young ladies aren’t letting dudes refer to them like that. I’m with Kym, this is getting out of hand…

By mqew

June 10, 2008 1:26 PM | Link to this

Peepin in …

Waz up peeps!!! readin up a few lines Oh, thas whas up?

Ok, can we start talking about his car again He he he he ;-)

By Rell

June 10, 2008 1:26 PM | Link to this

LOL…wow….

foots are you serious…men know when it is time to jump into something more serious..they can find it all day if they looking to get married….but they holding out for one more good run that is all…check all the dating online sites and every profile by a women states she is looking for that brass ring….its not that hard….

By Kym aka Enchantress Divine

June 10, 2008 1:27 PM | Link to this

Amazon You would be surprised at the number of black republicans. Politics has very little to do with dating and frankly if someone is dating me can’t get pass a difference of opinion on a political issue..then we have problems already.

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 1:27 PM | Link to this

switch

2C guess i drunk the same blend as you today. water bottle is cloudy

someone just screwed up 8 of my reports and they are not here…so imma “Bus’ It” on a few

sigh…i’m not about to bus’ a grape -..doing it over.

By Jamoca

June 10, 2008 1:27 PM | Link to this

Hello everybody!!!….(justa’ lurkin’)

Sup Cee, Truth, MLL…

By AmazonRed

June 10, 2008 1:28 PM | Link to this

Bre - Is there trouble? What’s going on girl?

By Kym aka Enchantress Divine

June 10, 2008 1:31 PM | Link to this

Foots of course they are..I posted a link -at least I thought I did here.-anywhoo it was about the rape dance that is apparently all the new rage and that is exactly what they call it a rape dance..so bust baby sure why not.

By AmazonRed

June 10, 2008 1:33 PM | Link to this

Kym - I wouldn’t be surprised. But let’s not think for a moment that things like religion, money and POLITICS don’t weigh heavily on issues that you deal with in relationships. So it has a lot to do with relationships because it has a lot to do with your STANCE on many issues you care most about.

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 1:36 PM | Link to this

mqew = Wing mamma…you wrong.

Hey Jamo when i asked yesturday about Bankhead that was not a serious?…just being silly.

Page you’re just as “happy as a clam”…i wonder WHY!?!

By I post, but now I'm lurking

June 10, 2008 1:37 PM | Link to this

Hey Darrell.. Each time I’ve read you, I feel your honesty and desire for a woman. I feel your strong sense of who you are, your convictions, your faith. I too feel something so strong that other ppl dont understand. Its called VISION baby. Keep projecting and your lady will appear soon.

I’on know who said it earlier, but, you really can tell who here is happy and secure in their person and who is not.

I feel you brother and if my heart didnt already belong to another, I’d give it a go..

By Page1908

June 10, 2008 1:39 PM | Link to this

Cee I sure am. No reason not to be:)

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

June 10, 2008 1:41 PM | Link to this

Bust it Babe LOL

By mytwocents

June 10, 2008 1:43 PM | Link to this

Darrell, you off the couch yet? Consider: The absence of extensive explanation may allow for previously stated sentiments to permeate mental cavities of those decidedly opposed or without desire to understand your modus operandi. Brightside~ Your queen will not fall into this category and you do not seek a King.

Regular is often just right for many of us. But KNOW that it’s still regular. Some have an overinflated sense of self/status cuz for instance, they ain’t livin the most trife life possible. (I’m not in jail, on crack, on the corner.) Don’t most of the men here reject congratulating folks for some ish they should/should not already be doing?

80s babies and Baby Boomers -> Boldest of ‘em all. Where’s the happy medium?

Need some sweet tea…from the very bottom of the canister…

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 1:46 PM | Link to this

Voyager - know that Cee is ecstatic that you are…cool.

By mqew

June 10, 2008 1:49 PM | Link to this

CeeMee as usually… couldn’t help it.

was wondering about the Bust it Baby myself, i still dont’ have answers 2C indicated negative connotation, but ev1 else says just another bf or gf???

By mqew

June 10, 2008 1:49 PM | Link to this

CeeMee as usual… couldn’t help it.

was wondering about the Bust it Baby myself, i still dont’ have answers 2C indicated negative connotation, but ev1 else says just another bf or gf???

By Foots

June 10, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

Rell Yep, I’m serious. We agreed a while back that it’s important to have an idea of the type of person you want to spend the rest of your life with BEFORE you are in that relationship. Most of the guys you know that are in long-term relationships or marriages probably just said, “It’s time to settle down and ole girl is okay.” Not the same thing. I can’t think of one married male friend I have that put some thought into what they really wanted in a woman. They happened to marry the woman they were with when they decided that they wanted to be married.

Again, it’s like knowing what car you want before you go on the lot (dating for marriage)…as opposed to going on the lot knowing that you want a car and getting a car that will do for now (dating for dating).

Dating just to be dating is easy. Choosing your mate is most definitely hard. And if you believe in death til you part, it is one of the most important decisions of your adult life. So why don’t more men look for that brass ring, since deciding who to marry is that important? I know there will undoubtedly be issues down the road, as there are in all relationships, but wouldn’t issues be easier dealt with if you had them with somebody you REALLY wanted and chose, not just somebody that happened to be there when you decided to settle down?

By Jamoca

June 10, 2008 1:52 PM | Link to this

@ Cee:

Hey Ms.2 (lol)…at times I have been guilty of reading into things more than I should, however still getting to know some folks “writing styles” via posts to include ya’ self….

…now on a diff note, ‘bout ya’ comment cosignin’ w/ ya’man, Blue?…(which was a good laugh btw, but you meant dat’ ish, huh?..lol

By Raqi

June 10, 2008 1:53 PM | Link to this

I post if you feel that way about Darrell why hide it?

By AmazonRed

June 10, 2008 1:55 PM | Link to this

Ah Foots. Great post with your 1:51! I so agree, especially with the last paragraphy.

By Rell

June 10, 2008 1:56 PM | Link to this

FOOTS, men have a big fear of that soulmate turning into the chick that blew up and now has cankles….that alone leaves some men up at night…

By Blow Me a.k.a Rookie Cookie

June 10, 2008 1:57 PM | Link to this

Whoa Whoa Darrell slow down tiger…..Halt ya horses! Chill out bro. It’s not that serious…Oh yeah I thought Truth gave you a 30 word limit…Follow the rules. Stop being so overly sensitive..please! I am gonna need the cliff notes on that post. I do not have time to read it in it’s entirety. I am over here shopping for clothes….and reading the funnies!! Lmao!

Rell Slip is showing..lmao!! Funny guy!

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 1:59 PM | Link to this

mqew i’m thinking it has/is of neg connotation.

Now take this;

modus operandi

….noooow i was trying to restrain myself from asking but ‘um that wouldn’t be me.

now channeling Badu track #3 “Master Teacher”…

mytwocents please do me the honor -…Sing it, dog cough it, send it in a telegram or something, so Cee won’t have to decipher before i hit tank today.

By kimmie

June 10, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this

Darrell - You know by now this is a rough blog crowd and you have to have thick skin to say anything up in here. Seems like it’s just Pick on Darrell day:)! You blog like a decent guy and I’ve gone on your newletter website. Yes, you are deep and I don’t see you with just any airhead. You seem to need a woman who will challenge you. You have to get past the surface stuff, though, and like others have said, lighten up a bit, but by all means, do YOU. I’ve told you before, that special lady is definitely out there for you. But, you may have to step out of your comfort zone to find this lady. The person you want may not be wrapped in the package you expect. For example, like Raqi said, you don’t seem to go for the girly type because you think they might be superficial(and I could be wrong about this). Well if you looked at a profile of me on paper, you might expect me to look like the librarian with the bun and the thick glasses. Yes, I do wear glasses to drive, but I happen to be the girly type. I LOVE fashion and especially shoes. I don’t dress like the typical finance professional in the blue suit - I’m a little more high fashion, but still professional. I am well-read and a news junkie, but I love to cook, clown and my favorite show is Martin. Now my SO is deep, a lawyer and a bit of a nerd(which I’ve always LOVED). But when he’s not in his blue suit, he is in a muscle shirt which shows off his tatoos and he’s bald, which gives him a bit of an edge. I met him in the muscle shirt and I would have never gone for his look before because I would have prejudged him, and he would not have necessarily gone for me either. But we totally fit each other and are very happy! We looked beyond the surface and found exactly what we were looking for! But, it did take time to find each other. Anything worthy usually does. You read like a patient man, so that’s good!

By Kym aka Enchantress Divine

June 10, 2008 2:04 PM | Link to this

Foots Here are the lyrics to Bust it bay bay…(lawd) this is apparently what it means.

She got me speedin’ in the fast lane Pedal to the floor mayne, tryna get back to her love Best believe she got that good thang She my little hood thang, ask around they know us You’ll know that’s my… BUSTTTTTT ITTTT… bay bayy Everybody know that’s my.. BUSTTTT ITTTTT…. bay bayy Everybody know thats mine

If i wasn’t married to the streets, it’d be you Yo lips what make you so cute Love when you poke yo mouth out when you mad too Save your number in my phone under Lil Boo Like your sex but more love what cha do Turn me on how you stare at me when we through When you give it to me, i don’t wanna turn ya loose Scared to moan around you, alls i can say is “Ooh” My favorite panties of yours the ones that see-through One wit the pink trim on ‘em and they light blue Speakin’ for the goons, thank god for makin’ you BUST IT BABY is what i call you

I juss gave her a nick name, it’s wet-wet Cause when we finished she mess up all the bedsets She got sommin’ to relax me when i’m under stress Never told her, but to let her know it but she the best She like to spell her name wit her tongue on my chest If you had told me it was this good, i’da never guessed She full of surprises, i don’t know what she’ll do next But while she sleep i sneak and put hickies on her neck And when she go out, she shut down the whole set love to see her in heels wit the slit in her dress She like to do her own hair and get her own checks My BUST IT BABY i keep ‘er on deck

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By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

Jamo yes i trully rode off into sunset yesturday. I-20 around 7ish lastnight…don’t take it lightly.

Hey Ms.2 (lol)…at times I have been guilty of reading into things more than I should,

…yea, understand my style of writing…i am not about to “create” via a blog. waving

By i post

June 10, 2008 2:06 PM | Link to this

Raqi I’m not hiding it.. As stated, I am currently in a situation where my VISION for my man seems strange among those who know.

Here’s the situation I have a friend who I love and believe with all my heart is to be my beloved. We vibe, crack, and sang R&B songs but he is afraid to make a move with me, I’m assuming because of the seriousness being with me will undoubtedly present. I have since decided that until he’s ready, I’ma be as much of a friend I can. I love him and am comfortable waiting.. Because when you know what you know, nothibng else matters.

By 2CPTG©

June 10, 2008 2:09 PM | Link to this

*”@ Cee:

Hey Ms.2 (lol)…”*

did I miss something?

By Foots

June 10, 2008 2:10 PM | Link to this

Rell But that “I married her cause she was there” girl can do the same thing. Shoot, I don’t want the man I marry to blow up and have the beer gut either. Even if you choose somebody who feels that exercise and diet are important, that same person can have health problems later in life and blow up just the same.

Who knows about the future? So to mitigate some of the risk, choose the option with the majority of what you want up front. We do it in other many areas of our lives without even thinking about it.

By Jamoca

June 10, 2008 2:13 PM | Link to this

Cee, gurl….you’re a tripppp!!!

By AmazonRed

June 10, 2008 2:13 PM | Link to this

Ummm…I post you’ve had all these “feelings” about Darrell simply by reading his posts from day to day? Or have you met him personally?

First Angie, now this…

Blogging is a helluva drug…

Or folks really have gone a LONG time without a good connection in their dating life…wow.

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 2:14 PM | Link to this

2C

…see Jamo is saying our writing styles are some’n similar.

come on now…drink some more from you cloudy beverage.

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 2:18 PM | Link to this

Cee, gurl….you’re a tripppp!

Half mom’s SpitFire fiesty and half dade 1970’s cool cat in me..

Jamo you tried that drink yet? guava/pineapple. Hump you a tropical gal may have used mango or some’n.

By AmazonRed

June 10, 2008 2:18 PM | Link to this

Oh, I get it, the vision is for someone else. However, some of y’all must have that clairvoyant gift on here though, knowing so much about folks inner being just from posting. LOL

We should just keep it light on here. Easier said than done I know!

By i post

June 10, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

AGAIN While I personally think that Darrell is a great guy, my heart longs for another..

I have never met Darrell but I can see and more importantly read and understand/relate to other humans.

Perhaps, you should give it a whirl

By 2CPTG©

June 10, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

A Red…..I was thinkin’ that was Angie……

By Ice from QuickTrip

June 10, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

Kym that was very well said and it’s true; i can say i did learn how to do the “Souperman” dance it’s so silly; 2CPTG I figured it had something to do with “releasing of pleasure”. Why continue to talk about Darrell and he’s not here to defend himself or at least comment on what’s been said let it go peeps. He’s gone and so are his comments. What are the REAL DADDY’S on here doing for Father’s Day? My daughter is sending her Father on a HUNT AROUND ATLANTA FOR KHIA’s FAVORITE THINGS afterwards he’ll meet her at Red Lobster for Dinner, he has to bring back five of her favorite things - she’ll have some assorted flowers with a couple of gifts waiting for him. And she’s paying for their dinner with her own money she’s been saving since February. He’s gonna love it.

By i post

June 10, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

ARed please dont take my comments with offense because none was intended, okay?

By Jamoca

June 10, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

@ Cee:

…yes, I’m pretty vivid when it comes to the description(s) of men (in general)…not necessarily about someone in particular, but a combination of what I like (meaning “you never really know what you don’t like unless you’ve either been presented with and/or had it before)…

Jamoca know exactly what she likes…right down to the smallest grain…and I saw no other way to put it out there…

…now Blue on the other hand felt he had much in common with my description(s)…as I am sure some men in general would probably find some similarities in those “qualities” as well…

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

June 10, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ the definitions of Bust It Baby!! :0)

By MLL(mammalongleggs)

June 10, 2008 2:24 PM | Link to this

I’m thinking the same thing 2C

By Foots

June 10, 2008 2:27 PM | Link to this

Kym WOW!!! But it sounds like more than just a jump-off, it does sound like a girlfriend.

By mytwocents

June 10, 2008 2:28 PM | Link to this

Cee Depending on day… Analysis, Meditation, Hypothesis or *Joke, Rinse, Repeat tis how I operate. Yours kinda similar, this I know. Jamo failed to invite me to yo nuptials. Did she notify you?

Current Meditation: Is Blog truly fascinated anew with what Darrell has already said ad infinitum or at a loss without Angie formerly known as Beautiful to harrass? Must there always be a scapegoat?

Ad in…Just in case you wanted another ;)

By SeanJohnson3000

June 10, 2008 2:28 PM | Link to this

Sup Blog…just browsing through the post….why so many folks putting on capes to save Darrell? dude can/should be able handle to his own…being that he grew up in ATL and became successful..i am sure he can handle the fellas analyzing him like he does to folks on here….

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 2:32 PM | Link to this

Jamoca as my teenage cousins say; “It’s all gravy babe!” Trust your ablility to ‘describe’…is a gift in itself.

Mo I’m low…pineapple Now&Laters?…someone van-jacked the icecream truck.

By Ice from QuickTrip

June 10, 2008 2:32 PM | Link to this

2CPTG are you SINGLE

By SeanJohnson3000

June 10, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

and for the record….i am regular dude…and i bet 85 percent of yall would date me….and NEVER met anyone that wasnt a regular person in my life….yall funny…yall act like someone is gonna write a biography on some of yall

By Foots

June 10, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

Oh by the way, did anybody see me win the Hula Hoop contest at Play Date on Saturday?? LOL!!

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this

J failed to invite me to yo’ nuptials. Did she notify you?

i digress…she didn’t, hence the - WTH? from 2.

By Jamoca

June 10, 2008 2:40 PM | Link to this

@ 2Can:

“Ms. 2 is just an expression, my moms used to call me by that “name” when I called myself being “snazzy” or rather…”thinkin’ I’m grown”…lol

and Cee, notice that both you and 2Can read into that a little deeper than what was intended, …I see I’m not the only one “readin’ deep” at times…HA! (ain’t nobody said/implied that ya’ll (two) have similar writing styles…lol)

…speakin’ of “the drink”…pretty dayum good, there (even with the hint of “old azz” (LMAO!!!)…so you know I had to had a lil’ mo coconut and rum!…LOL!…I suddenly have a taste for the Haagen Dazs Pineapple & Coconut Ice Cream…it’s def hot enough, plus my girls will enjoy it!

….why is today just lingering on?…(come on wit’ da come on)

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

June 10, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

*Kimmie8 You and I sound somewhat alike as far as appearance and what we like in a guy. I am in the banking industry as well..I don’t do blue/black monkey suits. I am high fashion all the way. A Black version of Carrie (SATC). But just because we are not rocking the nun bun and bifocals does not mean we are not deep, intellectual females who care about news & politics on one had and cartoons and ANTM on the other. That just makes us versatile in life. We can watch History channel now and Lifetime later. Nothing wrong with it! To the girlie girls….

Kym I read the lyrics to that song…no wonder I hate it so much! Can you believe some “tricks” inspire to be one..even to go so far to call themselves that? Before I knew what it meant I did not like the term.

Um, can you give more info on the rape dance? I heard a little about it.

By kimmie

June 10, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

Foots - Congrats on the hula hoop win, I LOVE to hula hoop! It’s great exercise, I have one in my garage I need to pull out. I didn’t go to Play Date, but I’ve been before and had a great time. How was it?

By Page1908

June 10, 2008 2:45 PM | Link to this

Foots! I was there! Were you the girl with the light blue shirt, or the girl with the red shirt and jeans? I think there was another girl, too. Man, that was sooo funny!

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 2:46 PM | Link to this

April what Jamo? whoooosh… ‘bout to take it there.

I see I’m not the only one “readin’ deep” at times…HA! (ain’t nobody said/implied that ya’ll (two) have similar writing styles…lol)

If that ain’t familiar! smart @zz.

Now channeling dejavu.

By Jamoca

June 10, 2008 2:51 PM | Link to this

@ Cee:

“…April what Jamo? whoooosh… ‘bout to take it there…”

I’m game. So whatchu’ wanna know my DOB?

By Kym aka Enchantress Divine

June 10, 2008 2:58 PM | Link to this

Staceye I thought I posted that story here but it was on another blog. This happen in Memphis, Tenn the video was posted on YouTube but was taken down..the news station still has it on their site though.

Rape Dance-Memphis

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 2:58 PM | Link to this

yea aye Moca…

13th or 15th?

By Raqi

June 10, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

I post but why cheat yourself waiting for something that may never transpire? Here you have Darrell whom you have stated you are feeling just reading his comments. He has stated that he is looking. Sorta like online dating…maybe???

By kimmie

June 10, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

Staceye - LOL!! I’m with you, girl! I actually only have 1 blue suit and have not worn it yet after having it a little over a year. Even it has an edge to it and before I rock it, I have to have just the right shoes! Yes, Carrie all the way! My mom was a girly-girl and wanted me to be one so bad, but back in the day I was a tomboy and did not care about clothes! So now, when I run into people that have not seen me in awhile, they are surprised. Even my close family can’t seem to get used to it, even though the transformation started many, many years ago!

By AmazonRed

June 10, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

I Post - No offense taken. Again, you don’t know me. I don’t care what folks can “understand” about me just from what I contribute to this board.

In short, it ain’t that deep. LOL (so you should probably just post under your USUAL name, sheesh)

2C - ;-)

By Jamoca

June 10, 2008 3:07 PM | Link to this

13th…posted this sometime last week when you mentioned ‘bout ya’ little one mean-muggin’the “no goods” offa momma…(she has good memory)…still wondering where you are going with “all my demographics”…ish is shakin’ up in this piece real quick I see…lol (today, can’t be my turn)

By mqew

June 10, 2008 3:08 PM | Link to this

Just had another good phone interview

Sooooo…. we still talking about Darrell?

No? I’M REDD TO GO!

MY .02 As long as the scapegoat funny ;-)

By SexyCool

June 10, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this

last comment about extra-regularity…i never said that there was anything wrong with being an average person…h#ll…i only rate myself as just above average…

all i’m pointing out is that the dating landscape in atlanta is skewed…and that because of the level of competition amongst some women…some very average guys are receiving way above average attention…and they have bought into their own press as truth…when it’s really just a fallacy…

By Jamoca

June 10, 2008 3:13 PM | Link to this

@ Blue:

I sense you lurkin’ mayne…(so quiet I can hear a dayum rat p**’ on cotton…lol)

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

ish is shakin’ up in this piece real quick I see…lol (today, can’t be my turn)

come on now Jamo. you ne scapegoat…Sign here __

…speaking of remember’n…and since i’m observant i’m already knowing who Ms. 2 Hot To Trot was just wasn’t gonna take that peg. icecream

By AmazonRed

June 10, 2008 3:20 PM | Link to this

kimmie - I loved reading your post about you and your fella! I do wish we’d focus more on the positive on here. Best of luck to you both!!!

By The Truth

June 10, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

First of all everyone is just average. Period. The only thing that makes someone above average is the fact that someone likes them. Average guys and average girls everywhere. If you think they’re above average going in you’ll think they’re below average going out. They average average.

Foots it’s not till death do you part. You wouldn’t even stay with a cat that cheated on you. That’s fairytale stuff. But since I wuv you I’m not busting you out on the blog. BTW, do you have some pics of you gyrating with that hula hoop? If so would you mind if I photoshopped it and stripped you down? Just wondering.

By mytwocents

June 10, 2008 3:23 PM | Link to this

Jamo Regardless of original intent, may I steal euphemism? Will walk up and ask to share “writing styles” with him. Heart will skip a beat when he says WTF!

mqew Happy for you tho a tad bit jelly - mine are a bit slow comin. What field are you in? Obviously I just want new material. Can only watch so many re-runs.

By mqew

June 10, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

Kimmie agree wit Ared that sounds refreshing!

What about you this w/e Ared any MIA or were you out of town?

By Rell

June 10, 2008 3:25 PM | Link to this

kym…the rap dance also mirrors pasa pasa as well..you can check that on youtube…..smh

By Blue Kolla

June 10, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this

SexyCool …some very average guys are receiving way above average attention…and they have bought into their own press as truth…when it’s really just a fallacy…

Au Contraire! I’m a reg’la brova, but just ‘cause you got a pretty face and some fat t!tties don’t mean that I’m sellin’ the farm to fugg wit’chu. Yo P’dussy ain’t no better than nobody else’s.

So let’s keep it real. If that’s all you got is a fat azz and thick lips, you ain’t even reg’la in my book. That sh!t go both ways slim.

By kimmie

June 10, 2008 3:32 PM | Link to this

AmRed - Thanks, girl, I’m truly blessed and having a blast. His kids are great too, and hilarious! His little boy has horrible handwriting and I told him and his dad that he’ll probably become a doctor, cause my dad and every dr. I I’ve known write terrible. This past weekend, I was helping him with some homework (their in year-round school) and it was so bad I could not read it and suggested he write it over. He politely reminded me it was okay because he was going to be a doctor anyway:)! But yes, it’s great, not perfect, but no games or bs, great respect for each other and lots of fun! And I am totally with you, I wish we would focus more on the positive up in here. I take it all with a grain of salt, but sometimes I can’t even lurk because the negativity just wrecks the spirit! A difference of opinion is wonderful and needed to make things interesting, but things sometimes get downright ugly!

By SexyCool

June 10, 2008 3:33 PM | Link to this

y’all are missing the point…HOWEVER, unlike billary…i know when to concede…

LONG LIVE EXTRA-REGULARITY!!!

By AmazonRed

June 10, 2008 3:34 PM | Link to this

Hello mqew. Thanks for asking. I actuall flew into Dallas Saturday morning. I’m still in Dallas actually. I went to a bachelorette party though. I can definitely say my bachelorette party WILL NOT include male strippers. Nothing is hot about seeing random sweaty dizzle to me!

My MIA happens to do with the man of the hour and the topic today. We reconnected after 6 months of me cutting off all contact cold turkey. Now things are good. I wonder if I’m like that house example Bella speaks of above! LOL

By mqew

June 10, 2008 3:38 PM | Link to this

My .02 I work with grants.

now u no a lot of reruns are still funny

By Jamoca

June 10, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

@ Cee:

…”come on now Jamo. you ne scapegoat…Sign here __…”

…Like Grandmama Jett say: ” Shhheeeiiittt…Like heyal…” LOL!!!

“…speaking of remember’n…and since i’m observant i’m already knowing who Ms. 2 Hot To Trot was just wasn’t gonna take that peg. icecream…”

You do know, I was ref to you as “The Infamous Ms.2”…hmmm, well who am I, curious to know if and how you know this…I told ya’…A.S.S may be my initials in the future, but being one (at times)is just my nature, I’m sure you get plenty of opptys to witness this …LOL!!!

(Mytwo, you will be promptly recvng the invite shortly on behalf of the happy pair, as I apologize for the delay…)

But Cee…for real…LOL!!! What da’ heyal you talkin’ bout?…smh

By SeanJohnson3000

June 10, 2008 3:40 PM | Link to this

@ Sxycool… it goes both ways…and not to confuse looks or so called status with being regular…i just view myself as regular peeps and look at and treat others the same..but the way women view men has so many intangibles these days that it clouds judgment on how to choose….i just found your post funny… but.put me in the regular catergory with a extra mean pipe game…

By SexyLeggs

June 10, 2008 3:40 PM | Link to this

ForReal, any b-day plans this week/weekend???

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 3:41 PM | Link to this

Lioness your ‘style’ is quant all in itself. Didn’t you know?

By QC

June 10, 2008 3:42 PM | Link to this

Hey BK you finally came out to play..hope your day is going well cause it’s almost over..I agree with your 3:30 comment that goes both ways for Men also..Just cause a brotha might have the Dream Wang Wang don’t make him no betta than the dude who works at Publix…or AT&T..

Hey Page you been checking your email lately…Kym that video was a hott mess

By Blue Kolla

June 10, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

…that’s exactly what I fuggin’ thought. SMH

By Kym aka Enchantress Divine

June 10, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

Rell it is not the rap dance..it is the rape dance..that is what the kids call it. Not sure what pasa pase is..but I will look it up either way..are you saying this is ok for young kids 13-18 to be doing?

By Tazzee

June 10, 2008 3:49 PM | Link to this

Afternoon Folks!

On the issue of regular dudes - I guess it’s all a matter of supply and demand. If demand is high and supply is low - that which might seem extra-regular becomes extra-ordinary.

By Jamoca

June 10, 2008 3:50 PM | Link to this

Sup, Blue…

By Page1908

June 10, 2008 3:51 PM | Link to this

Hey QC! How are you? Girl, I have been behind on my emails this past week or so. My friend came to visit me this week and she just left this morning. I’ll be in Phoenix in 2 weeks, so I am just running all around:) Sometimes the pics on your emails don’t show up. I think you guys down at Fulton County must have some kind of block or something lol.

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 3:51 PM | Link to this

See what i’m saying mytwo and Jamo a lil spice is alright!

…well Moca you just ate the bate. Muah…luv ya.

mytitata May i have my tea now?

sup Blue see you making your own show.

By BennyB

June 10, 2008 3:53 PM | Link to this

Darrell- Welcome to Introduction to modern woman 101 summer session

When you are interacting with a woman, remember that you are dealing with a woman who been reading Cinderella with hope that it will come true, you are dealing with a woman who read many romances novels every year, you are dealing with a woman who watches most soaps on HBO, love desperate house wives and cherish sex in the city (even on blog). Man, you are dealing with a brain washed woman, a woman with a mind loaded of information about how romantic love should be, a woman who expect to feel some very specific way when she think she is in love. Modern women have some twisted minds, the only way to get to their heart is through their minds, and the only way to get to their mind is called mind-games parkway, that’s only way you can find tools to stimulate their trill yearning brains.

Man, you do not “Get” how attraction works for women but remember that for them attraction is not a choice (it’s already pre-programmed in their minds). When one fall for you, even if you are a 4’ 7” tall, fat like a wet burger and broke like a monk, there‘s nothing a woman can do when she think that she is attracted to you except begging, crying and open her arms and her legs at your commands. This is probably the only skill where Logic and Reason does not apply; to succeed, you’ll need a plan, discipline, consistency and a strong faith in yourself.

Time for a Quiz ……..

By Foots

June 10, 2008 3:54 PM | Link to this

Page I was the other girl. The girl in the blue had her hula hoop bumped, so I won by default I guess. Imari was crawling on the floor while we were up. I actually didn’t win anything but a glass of Hennessy, which I don’t drink. LOL! Maybe I’ll get in free next time.

Kimmie It was a lot of fun. I’ll definitely go back.

Truth it’s not till death do you part.

Isn’t that part of the vows that you said?

They took a bunch of pictures, but for some reason, all of mine were taken from behind. Go figure…

By Jamoca

June 10, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

@ Mytwo:

“…Jamo Regardless of original intent, may I steal euphemism? Will walk up and ask to share “writing styles” with him. Heart will skip a beat when he says WTF!…”

…hmmmm, that’s not a bad idea right there..

By mqew

June 10, 2008 3:56 PM | Link to this

Ared I can definitely say my bachelorette party WILL NOT include male strippers. Nothing is hot about seeing random sweaty dizzle to me!

^^^^Awwww com on, you didn’t have no fun? Not even a lil? It’s all for show really. I think just to say you had a skripper at your “B” party. Either male/female cause at that point, the couple s/b focused on ea other.

I remember 9 yrs ago at my friends ‘b’ party gettin in trouble. Dude was not good and I was just tryin to participate ya no, to pep up the crowd when he had a banana… Well SO came to pick me up and i wasn’t ready to go so i was like, here look at these pics…. DUHHHH me and a banana = not cool = my azz not goin out wit them that nite, had to take it to the crib

But i digress…

We reconnected after 6 months

sounds like patience was your friend…

By 2CPTG©

June 10, 2008 3:56 PM | Link to this

why do you ask if I’m single, Ice?

By SexyCool

June 10, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

seanj…finally…you see what i was saying…

and the way tazzee put it was spot on…

By Foots

June 10, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this

Tazzee On the issue of regular dudes - I guess it’s all a matter of supply and demand. If demand is high and supply is low - that which might seem extra-regular becomes extra-ordinary.

I think that’s all that SexyCool was saying really. With the “low supply” of available dudes, somebody just doing the minimum gets more and more attractive to the opposite sex. If supply was high, that same dude wouldn’t have gotten any play.

If the supply of women in Atlanta were to drop, instead of these guys on here talking about all these dimepieces around them (Dan), they’d be content with five pence and call it a day.

By Ice from QuickTrip

June 10, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

Just curious i hope you did’nt mind me asking. It’s something about you it’s your blog swagger it’s a turn on to me. You let nothing get you upset; at least i’ve never read you comment while being upset.

By Blue Kolla

June 10, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

What’s up **QC, Jamo, Cee, & other blog females

QC ..I agree with your 3:30 comment that goes both ways for Men also..Just cause a brotha might have the Dream Wang Wang don’t make him no betta than the dude who works at Publix…or AT&T..

Oh. :/ But, that wasn’t my point. I was talkin’ ‘bout broads that might have a nice face and tight body, but they don’t even know how to treat a dude… and then the cat ain’t no good. <=== That’s what I’m talkin’ ‘bout.

Gimme a reg’la broad that’s gon’ come in, treat me like Pharoah, AND have the total-control monkey hand install, with the bomb azz dycksuck skills. Some of these so-called top-shelf broads really ain’t top-shelf ya know?

By pisces 08

June 10, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

Afternoon All…. Nice pic Foots

By Page1908

June 10, 2008 4:06 PM | Link to this

Foots did you have on a brown shirt I think? I noticed the girl with the brown shirt because she was with this dude I had gone out with a while ago. Or were you the one girl who was kinda tall with a sorta light complexion? I think there were like 4 girls? I remember Imari crawling all around on the floor, that was so funny. I was standing up at the top near the bar. In any case, it was fun, but it seemed like it was so HOT in there! lol

By Jamoca

June 10, 2008 4:08 PM | Link to this

@ Cee:

“……well Moca you just ate the bate. Muah…luv ya.”

Hey… whoaaaa…. heyyyyy nah, ain’t eatin’ no bait (not bate)…lol…(Jamoca, now wiping her face, lookin’ at Cee sideways)…LOL!

By Kym aka Enchantress Divine

June 10, 2008 4:08 PM | Link to this

For all this regular-unregular controversy I have to ask What exactly is un-regular or above average. What makes someone above the average? I mean if you are talking looks..I know some people who are quite attractive outside but have funky insides that radiate like the sun and overshadow everything else. So tell me what exactly makes a person above the average? What are these qualifiers? I would think they would vary from person to person.

By 2CPTG©

June 10, 2008 4:10 PM | Link to this

Ice, actually I have gotten upset, and into a few blog squabbles, but nothing to totally consume me, nah mean……this is just who I am…..’ol extra-regla 2!

By IslandGirl

June 10, 2008 4:13 PM | Link to this

Good day Folks

Hope everyone is doing well and able to keep cool….it is too hot in the ATL!

BennyB I was with you until I got to there‘s nothing a woman can do when she think that she is attracted to you except begging, crying and open her arms and her legs at your commands ….aka “being whipped”.

Truth How you doing handsome?

Kym I heard a little about the rape dance, but never got around to looking it up on utube. That is a crying shame. What those kids are doing is disrespectful.

By CARE BEAR

June 10, 2008 4:14 PM | Link to this

Darrell When are you gonna give me those bed sheets?

By SexyCool

June 10, 2008 4:16 PM | Link to this

kym…that’s the other point…i never said it was about looks…

oh wait…i conceded…going back to sit in my corner…

By mytwocents

June 10, 2008 4:16 PM | Link to this

mqew Need to stop procrastinating on taking those courses. Would clearly work in my favor.

Cemeeli Can you work with the syrupy sugar left in the cup?

By The Truth

June 10, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

Foots I said it in my vows but I lied. I also promised to be faithful but I lied about that too. LOL I’ll settle for a back shot. Can you at least touch your toes?

Cool you done went and opened a hornets nest. LOL

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

…well, well Jamo

Cee sittin in cona’ eating some Pineapple and coconut…you should know imma a fan…

you know correction is only ONE of ya’lls…sorry that’s - you alls traits.

By Foots

June 10, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

Page Yep, that was me in the brown spaghetti strap shirt. Small dating world, huh? LOL!

pisces Thanks. But my back looks like the Incredible Hulk. I need to back away from the weights or pole or both.

2CPTG From the blog and other’s opinion of you, you seem to have done things over and above most men your age. Even I don’t agree with everything you say, your viewpoints command respect, your thinking is on another level and your intelligence is above average. Don’t sell yourself short, dude. If you’re regular, then some of these dudes around here are straight bottom of the barrel. Real talk.

By Kym aka Enchantress Divine

June 10, 2008 4:22 PM | Link to this

Rell just checking. Apparently parents were just as surprised at school officals.

By ladylurker

June 10, 2008 4:22 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl - How could you be “with” Benny on any of that degrading post?

By QC

June 10, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

BK i know exactly what you were saying, i just threw that in there..i agree with your recent post, once again it goes the same way for Men…don’t compare me with NOBODY YOU’VE BEEN WITH..CAUSE QC GONE TREAT YOU RIGHT/DO YOU RIGHT I don’t see nothing wrong with that either..we had this convo at lunch on what to do & what not to do for your Man/Friend Fuggitdatshyt..i’mma do what i do especially if we’re both interested in each other…please…i believe in 1st impressions are the BEST Ok, i’mma go run my report and get out of here…have a nice, cool evening all.

By Kym aka Enchantress Divine

June 10, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

SexyCool Okay so what is it about? Sorry if you can just clarify for me what makes a person above average, or extra-regular(god that sounds like coffee) then maybe that will give the qualifers for what makes a person just average or just regular.

By Tazzee

June 10, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

Kym regular is in the eye of the beholder, LOL.

By Foots

June 10, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

Truth I wuv you most of the time and I think you’re quite extraordinary too. If it wasn’t for the woman beating, cheating, and not God-fearing thing, we’d make a wonderful blog couple. LMAO!

By Ice from QuickTrip

June 10, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

2 I can tell you’re a regular G, i like that.

By IslandGirl

June 10, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this

ladylurker….read it again…some women spend too much time reading romance novels, and hoping for fairytale wishes….don’t you think that is a bit too elementary? The dating world is vicious and some women need to take their heads out of the clouds…like I said I was with him until he stepped onto talking trash.

By For Real

June 10, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

Sexylegg I did my bday thing last week in PR but I may get into some more trouble. I think I got two more sick day left.

Who gets to decide what is normal or regular? This goes back to chicks and their value to someone else.

Why does it seem like some of the women folk defending Darrell sound like they are defending their fat child? Go on baby eat that cookie it just baby fat. Darrell is a grown azz man that has worked and earned everything he got.

Kym are you saying this is ok for young kids 13-18 to be doing? That’s the wrong question, you should ask *does those kids that are doing that dance parents think it is okay? Mines, your or anyone else opinon doesn’t matter.

Foots Who said there is a low supply of avalible dudes? We have to be careful about repeating stats theat we hear about men. I’ve been doing some research on the actual numbers and what is stated on a regular basis doesn’t add up to the actual number.

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

Kym excuse me Enchantress <—-looks good on ya. Can i be regular for a moment. i did not report back to you about Do you wanna ride? b/c the gals did not stop talking about Clinton’s Hear Me speech long enough. When they finally asked why was i not saying much…i simply actetd a fool and said: Yall giving Clinton so much energy when/if i read this the hubbies are gonna think i cuase all that extra heat and not Clint. …sooo…i’m taking it w/us to Braselton for the other discussion.

By pisces 08

June 10, 2008 4:30 PM | Link to this

@Foots Nah… looks good. What makes a person above avg?

By SeanJohnson3000

June 10, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

Blog females….Stop being h@es for dudes with money….stop being h@es for nice cars…stop being h@es for meals at nice spots..stop being h@es for ball players…stop being h@es for rappers, producers and dudes at the door…stop being h@es to get ya bills paid…and gas money…stop being h@es for motorcycle cats…stop being h@es cause it in to be a h@e….because when you turn 30 plus…and you the old h@e on the set and all the young h@es are finer and fresher and you are all h@ed out….and you meet a regular dude…..he is still gonna treat you like a h@e…..

@ Foots….you know i actually thought about that…all dudes would do is get married and lock his piece down…but on the flip side of sxc post…and this is coming from a regular dude that has been with females rated from 5-10…men equate inner beauty, ability to add to our happiness and other wife factors when we choose to be with yall….why 90 percent of yall walking around like ya pu$y platinum…imma grown a$ man…you gotta have more going for you than looks and azz…lets build a legacy together..

By Kym aka Enchantress Divine

June 10, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

Tazzee That is pretty much my thinking. But it seems people have these different qualifers for people so I just wanted clarification.

I mean if a guy with two master degrees..driving a BMW and living in a downtown condo is considered above average.. well ok. But I would also think a man working at Publix 40 hours a week..volunteering with the homeless..and coaching his son’s little league team is above average as well. While someone else would view them both as just regular gents.

By Kara

June 10, 2008 4:33 PM | Link to this

Benny, when you learn to keep your wallet open and your mouth shut, you would probably get laid more and be less of a douchebag.

By For Real

June 10, 2008 4:34 PM | Link to this

Foots If it wasn’t for the woman beating, cheating, and not God-fearing thing, we’d make a wonderful blog couple. That was funny azz hellz. But that’s only 3 things Foots, you can’t work with my boi?

By Ice from QuickTrip

June 10, 2008 4:36 PM | Link to this

Why would you call the blog females hoe’s Sean These women are grown and will do what they want.

By Kym aka Enchantress Divine

June 10, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

Cee Thank you for the support. Actually I have a bunch more on my blog. I dont normally share my poems(outside of friends and relations) because really I dont consider myself a poet I write when the mood hits

You know how Cancers are

By Page1908

June 10, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

Foots OMG yes, that is a small dating world. wow

By SexyLeggs

June 10, 2008 4:39 PM | Link to this

Glad to say none of SJ3000 list of what’s a hoe applies to me…that’s why I’ve been doing me and just me! Now, I’m flying like an eagle!

Sorry ForReal, thought your b-day was coming up this Friday. Brain fart….

By Foots

June 10, 2008 4:40 PM | Link to this

For Real Who said there is a low supply of avalible dudes? We have to be careful about repeating stats theat we hear about men. I’ve been doing some research on the actual numbers and what is stated on a regular basis doesn’t add up to the actual number

That’s why I say that when you are looking for something specific, numbers don’t matter. The men always blow up the ratio here. I don’t buy into it. I’ve always been able to find good guys in this camp.

This goes back to chicks and their value to someone else.

EXACTLY! It goes both ways. You talk about this concept more than anyone. Value (quality, extraordinary attributes) is in the eye of the beholder. For some men, I might be elevated because I’ve been to college. For some others, I might be lowered because I don’t have a pHd.

pisces You know how the old folks used to say “__ is a dime a dozen”? That means it is regular, you can get that anywhere. What you want to look for is something special, something out of the ordinary. Only you can decide what that is.

Blog guys What is the difference between a woman you just kick it with and a woman you’d like to wife?

By For Real

June 10, 2008 4:40 PM | Link to this

3Stacks Ummm lets delete h@es for motorcycle cats.

By ladylurker

June 10, 2008 4:40 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl - I agree, to base the real world on romance novels and tv sitcoms is very elementary, but I’ve been lurking on this blog awhile, and don’t recall them referencing romance novels or tv in conjunction with their own love life. Yet nobody seems to say anything to this dude when he makes these sweeping generalizations about women like he does. Let one of the blog women say something like that about men and watch that woman get crucified!

By Jamoca

June 10, 2008 4:41 PM | Link to this

@ Blue:

“…Gimme a reg’la broad that’s gon’ come in, treat me like Pharoah, AND have the total-control monkey hand install, with the bomb azz dycksuck skills.”

sounds like you’re on the scout for a modern day concubine/cortisan type of woman, whose mastered the art of using her body very well, or per your post, her dome (w/o mental) …now narrowing that down to her “jawbone” and whose only mission is to please (your wife only would have a pretty face, a firm backside and big breast like a casava melon - in my best Simmie impersonation)….dang, Blue…(lol)

IMO, when I think of a man with above average qualities, I tend to think of certain qualities which are hard to come by (esp today) when searching for a mate of substance…and depending on what the issue is, he has the “battle scars” to prove it…and enough dignity within himself to appreciate the journey he had to take in order to acheive it, without being bitter or “self proclaiming”.

…he just simply understands that life does not consist in being dealt good cards, but by how well we play the cards we hold in which we’re dealt. This example to me goes across the board for both male/female…often I find that many folk want the victory of a battle fought well, without the battle scars to show for them…depending on how its dealt with, any struggle worth fighting (I believe)was designed to build character and humility…now these (for example)are rare and hard to come by…esp when seeking a (quality) mate.

By The Melo

June 10, 2008 4:41 PM | Link to this

because when you turn 30 plus…and you the old h@e on the set and all the young h@es are finer and fresher and you are all h@ed out….and you meet a regular dude…..he is still gonna treat you like a h@e….. There…!!!

By The Truth

June 10, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

Foots If it wasn’t for the woman beating, cheating, and not God-fearing thing, we’d make a wonderful blog couple. LMAO! I’ll admit we have a FEW small issues but the love and respect are there so we’ll leave it right there. I still reserve the right to claim you as my blog gf if you’ve been absent for a week or two. Fair enough?

Btw, it’s not woman beating, it’s actively defending myself. You make it sound like I’m Ikeing chicks out. Not the case.

By 2CPTG©

June 10, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

“From the blog and other’s opinion of you, you seem to have done things over and above most men your age. Even I don’t agree with everything you say, your viewpoints command respect, your thinking is on another level and your intelligence is above average. Don’t sell yourself short, dude. If you’re regular, then some of these dudes around here are straight bottom of the barrel. Real talk.”

Foots, since we’re talking real here, lil mama, I have done alot of things most folks my age can’t even fathom…and that’s not to say it arrogantly, but I have been blessed tremendously….the gift of gab, intelligence….I take it all in stride….but thank you….

By Blue Kolla

June 10, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

SeanJ Blog females….Stop being h@es for dudes with money….stop being h@es for nice cars…stop being h@es for meals at nice spots..stop being h@es for ball players…stop being h@es for rappers, producers and dudes at the door…stop being h@es to get ya bills paid…and gas money…stop being h@es for motorcycle cats…stop being h@es cause it in to be a h@e….because when you turn 30 plus…and you the old h@e on the set and all the young h@es are finer and fresher and you are all h@ed out….and you meet a regular dude…..he is still gonna treat you like a h@e…..

Good Lawd!! That was some real sh!t right there!! Bella, you can close the gate on that one. ^^^

By Cemeeli

June 10, 2008 4:44 PM | Link to this

Lol @ Kara…ain’t NOTHING like this blog…

Yall be eazy.

By Foots

June 10, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

Sean you gotta have more going for you than looks and azz…lets build a legacy together..

You’re right. That’s why every now and then on the blog, the guys ask the ladies what they are bringing to the table. Y’all don’t want somebody coming with something that’s a dime a dozen, right? Bring something else that can add to the big picture. There’s nothing wrong with men or women wanting their mate to bring something additional and special to their lives.

That gets away from SexyCool’s point, which was really about supply and demand.

By Foots

June 10, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

ladylurker Yet nobody seems to say anything to this dude when he makes these sweeping generalizations about women like he does

That’s because many have learned to ignore the hellz out of his posts.

For Real I probably could come up with some more… But that’s my boy though!! LOL!

By AmazonRed

June 10, 2008 4:49 PM | Link to this

mqew - I DID have fun. I can have fun almost anywhere. However, I was just not “into” it. I think I even took a quick catnap. LOL

Fun times were had! Just not my thing.

By Atl Lady

June 10, 2008 4:49 PM | Link to this

I feel where SJ3000 is coming from. There are a lot of women that do that on the regular and as a female I’m tired of seeing it too. In my opinion, it’s not how much money a man has it’s his attitude about the money he has. Is he the type to share or is everything about how much it costs? I knew a guy who wanted his women to spend a lot of money on him, but he acted like he was doing them a favor by taking them to Chic-fil-a. Crazy!!!

By IslandGirl

June 10, 2008 4:50 PM | Link to this

Ladyluker I agree. What is shared here is all opinions, nothing more, nothing less. You take the good with the bad. I won’t blow a blood vessel over anything said on the blog. Some folks can freely express themselves virtually becuase they can’t muster the courage to do so everyday.

By Blue Kolla

June 10, 2008 4:50 PM | Link to this

For Real 3Stacks Ummm lets delete h@es for motorcycle cats.

I was thinking that too, but… he is right about h@es and bikes. LOL

Jamo I ain’t even gon’ come back because it’s time for me to roll out, and you’ve read me before. You know better.

…chair is spinnin’ as I head for the door.

By SlimOne

June 10, 2008 4:51 PM | Link to this

QT I don’t think SJ3K was calling blog females h-o’s…just the ones that apply.

I must say I’m with him on this one…REAL TALK.

LOL@ Blue…close the gates.lol

By 2CPTG©

June 10, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

“What is the difference between a woman you just kick it with and a woman you’d like to wife?”

too easy…..Tolerance….one, you can deal with for a limited amount of time, while the other, you supposedly can put up with for a lifetime….good coochie, and no conversation only lasts til you bust….while wifey got it all…..

By AmazonRed

June 10, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

It’s always fun to read the comments from the dudes who still deal with the hoodrat set. LOL

By Jamoca

June 10, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

LMAO!!! LOL!!! @ “…Why does it seem like some of the women folk defending Darrell sound like they are defending their fat child? Go on baby eat that cookie it just baby fat….”

…once again, your @$$ is silly!!!

@ Cee:

I know you didn’t just swipe me for my Pineapple & Coconut HD ice cream….wth!!!…I’ll be expecting to be reimbursed at the orig price, nope…don’t even try using that ole’ raggedy @$$ Kroger card…(let’s what’s it going for down here?)…that’ll be $4.29, please?…cash.

By The Truth

June 10, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

SJ lmao ^5

kara I thought you was pregnant and missed your monthly posting. Then thought about it and realized nobodies stupid enough to lay you. You were just late. Welcome back.

By CARE BEAR

June 10, 2008 4:57 PM | Link to this

SJ3000 Come and give Care Bear a hug..Stop callin our beautiful black women h@es…That is not nice. We have to respect on another. And stop using the phrase. “females”! It’s women

By Foots

June 10, 2008 4:57 PM | Link to this

Truth I still reserve the right to claim you as my blog gf if you’ve been absent for a week or two. Yep that’s fair. I was absent yesterday because my beautiful little 8-year old dog passed away. Sweetest, cutest dog in the whole world. :-( I miss him already. I know you’re a dog lover so you can understand my sadness.

By For Real

June 10, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs My bday is on Saturday but I got a deal I couldn’t resist last week. Oh and here is a can of the air freshner with the indian on it for that fart you just let go.

By The Melo

June 10, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

missed your monthly posting…nobodies stupid enough to lay you at least she cld strip for yu Truth

By demi

June 10, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

I lost my pda cell phone again…sexylegg hit me up at www.demigod33@yahoo.com

By SexyLeggs

June 10, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

Good night everyone!

Here’s a description of “love”

Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.

Peace Out!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

June 10, 2008 5:00 PM | Link to this

For Real You trying to be like me…spending your b-day in PR? LOL Where did you stay? Did you hit up the rainforest (El Yunque)?

SJ I have a rebuttal for your h0es speech..but it will have to wait until tomorrow!

Ta-ta guys!

By For Real

June 10, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

BK They not h@es, they motorcycle aficionados. See there is a difference.

By IslandGirl

June 10, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

carebear ^5…now that is a sensible post…peace.

By The Melo

June 10, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

Blog guys What is the difference between a woman you just kick it with and a woman you’d like to wife? WL get to u tmrw,Foots

By 2CPTG©

June 10, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

“It’s always fun to read the comments from the dudes who still deal with the hoodrat set. LOL”

I guess a hit dog will holla, cuase dammit, I’m hollarin’, and loud too!!!!!!

By Foots

June 10, 2008 5:02 PM | Link to this

2CPTG That’s what I thought. It’s okay for dudes to look for extraordinary too. I’m sure the woman you choose will be just that.

Amazon It’s always fun to read the comments from the dudes who still deal with the hoodrat set. LOL

LMAO!!!

By Blow Me a.k.a Rookie Cookie

June 10, 2008 5:02 PM | Link to this

ARED It’s always fun to read the comments from the dudes who still deal with the hoodrat set. LOL OMGOSh…..Ared You are such a damn fool.

Truth Don’t 5 ^ that b******! Stand for something!

By Jamoca

June 10, 2008 5:03 PM | Link to this

@ For Real:

LMAO!!! @ your 4:58!!!LOL!!!…the air freshner with the indian on it….smh…

Night ya’ll.

By The Truth

June 10, 2008 5:04 PM | Link to this

Foots I lost 2 dogs last year. It hurts. Igave them the best I could and thats whts important. I’m sure you did too. You’re a sweetheart.

By Blow Me a.k.a Rookie Cookie

June 10, 2008 5:05 PM | Link to this

It’s amazing that you guys love to continously pull down and dog out blk women…This is ridiculious! So damn disrespectful!

By Simp

June 11, 2008 8:39 AM | Link to this

Looks like Bella is at it again.

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

June 11, 2008 8:55 AM | Link to this

Ooooooookay….so no new topic huh?

Hey Simp you called it right