Misadventures in Atlanta

By Bit-O-Honey

May 5, 2008 8:31 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers, I’m baaaack!! I’m lurkin this morning (Great topic WD). I have to get through a million emails. Geez, the repercussions of a wonderful vacay!

By I am Legend

May 5, 2008 8:50 AM | Link to this

Have you ever met a woman that completely threw your approach/game off? How did you handle it?

Nope!!..my approach varies depending on mood or setting….I dont have fear..i will approach…does not matter..i have my ego in check like that…rejection is a part of life..i dont have any illusion about that…and i know everyone is not cut for legend

By kinderbabe

May 5, 2008 8:51 AM | Link to this

good morning!

Yes, I have had anxiety about approaching a guy before. I’m very iffy when it comes to that…sometimes i’m o.k. w/it, sometimes not. I try to watch movements first before I approach to see if it’s a good idea. I don’t think that I let “the one” get away by not approaching though.

I did meet a very special man in my life that way. Turns out we were moving in the same circle for almost 10 years! Funny it took us so long to meet. We wound up meeting b/c I saw him standing away from the crowd at our mutual friends’party. Glad I didn’t have anxiety then! lol

By 2CPTG©

May 5, 2008 8:59 AM | Link to this

Never anxiety, but caution, yes; And of course, it gets easier with experience. You become a veteran at it, and you learn to spot certain characteristics, and mannerisms, which dictate your method of approach.

By pisces 08

May 5, 2008 9:03 AM | Link to this

Good morning All. Guys deal with this all the time. For me, it gets better with age, experience. I have my ego/confidence in check(I think). If I don’t approach it’s because I don’t have time for the games.

@Ared. Checked out the page, Nice!

By QC

May 5, 2008 9:13 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers, have a great day!

By The Truth

May 5, 2008 9:18 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone.

Great topic WD.

I think everyone’s experienced that moment when you see someone so desirable it makes you catch your breath. I do think it gets easier as you get older but sometimes that excitement is the thrill. The best approach is just not to try and get so witty. Just say hi or something of that nature and go from there. MY .02

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

May 5, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this

Morning All!! Hope everyone had a great weekend!

Kinderbabe I am co-signing your post. Most times I dont have a problem approaching a guy but I do read body language or just be observant first.

Wassup I am Legend

By BriteEyez

May 5, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

Good Morning all

Ladies, what compels you to approach a man?

Of course, physical attraction but also his body language. I look for a man that appears confident and mature.

I am very comfortable with myself and confident in who I am so if I feel drawn to a man I will not wait for him to approach.

Unfortunately, I have found that there can sometimes be a negative side to that. On a few occasions I have directed that attention and approach to the wrong kind of man and was completely misread.

By FED UP WITH CORP WORLD

May 5, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

I work around TOOOO MANY RODENTS!!!!!!! A NOSEY RODENT, A UGLY RODENT, A SQUICKY VOICE RODENT, A RODENT W*******, A BCH A* RODENT, A KNOW IT ALL RODENT, A PLAIN DUMB RODENT!!!!!!!

By abc

May 5, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

It’s true that men are far more accustomed to making an approach. I would suggest simply making yourself apparent, make sure he notices you, if he doesn’t approach he’s likely not interested.

If you feel you must make the approach yourself, then be just that: yourself. No witty rejoinders and one-liners, just a normal conversation. Conversation starters can be anything handy — ‘course, if you’re just walking down the street and notice a hottie, and don’t have any topics at hand, your mind draws a blank, then go home and take a cold shower and re-evaluate what motivates your interest!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 9:35 AM | Link to this

Morning, all. :-)

I’m kinda shy by nature, so the whole “anxiety” thing (for lack of a better word) is always there to a certain extent, but mostly in the form of not wanting to be summarily rejected by the other person. LOL!

I’m not even gonna try and front - I don’t like rejection, so I’m fairly methodical when it comes to initiating conversation (or contact in general) with someone. In situations like what Diva described, my mindset is more along the lines of that song by Jesse Johnson called “Can You Help Me?”

Girl you know I’d love to know your name

But I don’t have line

Approaching you with talk, baby, oh, so tastelessly how

How could I waste your time?

So, yeah, there have been times when I’ve had a chance to talk to a particular woman and didn’t.

By Raqi

May 5, 2008 9:36 AM | Link to this

Anxiety aka Butterflies…that potential New Boo Foo.

IMO in can work for you and against you.

By kinderbabe

May 5, 2008 9:40 AM | Link to this

hey mo:) how are you? body language does say a lot. i look for signs of super arrogance and if i see them, i steer clear…lol. just like some women, there is a type of man that looks like he’s waiting for someone to step to him.

By Teresa

May 5, 2008 9:40 AM | Link to this

Morting

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

May 5, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this

kinderbabe How are you? You are so right about that arrogance thing! That is why I observe for a sec as opposed to just jumping as soon as I see him!

By I am Legend

May 5, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

@darrell..i remember back in the day when i was younger the anxiety was there because i was extra skinny and my head is big…folks use to call me mr microphone….so that was my biggest hangup that she would not like me bases on what she saw..so what i did was hit the gym and let my underdevelop body catch up with the rest of me…by 20 my body was right..head still big but body matched to some extent….so the girls started rolling in….i also discovered another rule of attraction…MEN ar more so judge on there earning/security potential versus looks….and women are judged on beauty alone…

By SexyLeggs

May 5, 2008 9:51 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone! I don’t have any anxiety woes. I’m very confident in myself, and if someone catches my eye to point that I want to direct my attention to him I WILL!!!

Summer track officially started this weekend….woo hoo and bah humbug all at the same time (LOL)!

By BriteEyez

May 5, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

body language does say a lot. i look for signs of super arrogance and if i see them, i steer clear

Kinderbabe you’re right about that!

It amazes me how, “Hello, my name is BriteEyez, what’s yours?” Can translate into, “I want to screw you.”

I’m like wtf?? Dude, I just asked you your name!!

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 9:56 AM | Link to this

Good Morning!

I’d watch a persons demeanor or manner and then maybe/maybenot approach them. I most times end up being the ‘lil sis’ with a high spirit.

kinderbabe i understand the “super arrogance” person i’ve mosttimes been able to break or bond with those types. Maybe it’s the boldness of me letting arrogant know that it unbecoming and to please shut that down. Be it that i recently told a arrogant person that just b/c they are abv level @ xyz does not give them the right to belittle abc. i dunno where i get that spirit of bold for the unapproachable.

Did everyone have a good w/e?

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 10:08 AM | Link to this

Legend

I was once like that, too, man - skinny as a rail. LOL! I’ve been hitting the gym regularly for the past few years and am now at about 220 pounds at 5’10”, but it was strictly a health thing; wasn’t trying to attrack chicks.

As for the “security/earnings potential”, good point. I wish more women were inclined to see that as being a more important component than the physical. I’M NOT SAYING THE PHYSICAL IS NOT IMPORTANT, but there are women who still see the physical aspect as being above all else. As for me, I may not be tall enough or handsome enough for some women but, thank the Lord, I’ve done alright in the “security/earnings potential” area.

By anonymousella

May 5, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

I have noticed that we have all this eye candy on the dating scene

really? no seriously. really? where is this eye candy? i rarely see it when i’m out and about. i need some suggestions. eye candy gives me hope…LOL.

Have you ever experienced approach anxiety?

yep. which is why i don’t do the approaching. i suppose it helps that i hardly ever see folks that i want to approach and i also hardly ever see folks that i want to approach me.

Is there someone you had the chance to ask out, but decided not to? What held you back? If you could do a “do over”, what do you think you would do differently?

there’s this one dude at my office who i wouldn’t mind um “getting friendly” with.

i refuse to ask him though. despite his effing rockstar sexiness that turns every woman who comes within 10 feet of him into a giggly groupie, it would be a bad idea. we work together. he’s got a kid.

funny thing is, i think he was trying to say he wanted more, but i missed the signal at the time. then 10 min later, i was like “wait. was he asking me out on a date?” (i’m clueless like that.)

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

anonymousella “funny thing is, i think he was trying to say he wanted more, but i missed the signal at the time.”

Signals suck, don’t they? LOL! If a woman is interested in me, I’d much rather she just tell me straight out than expect me to pick on her little “signals”. Hell, even use flash cards if you have to. LOL! I’ve said this on the blog before, but my communication style pretty much black and white. The fewer “signals” you use, the more I’ll understand what you want and the less confusion there’ll be between us.

By Raqi

May 5, 2008 10:29 AM | Link to this

Darrell you are correct. Anxiety stems partly from a fear of being rejected. We all have had it and still do at some time or the other. IMO it is a common human emotion. If we would take away the word rejection and replace with something more accurate such as just not being that person’s preference or “cup of tea” the whole meet and greet process would go over much smoother.

By Binford2K8

May 5, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

How do the guys do it? Beer, beer and more beer! Enough so we’re relaxed, but not enough to be incoherent ;p

Darrell, I was always underweight growing up but now I am “normal” though maybe a tad on the slender side. Sounds like you seriously bulked up man!

For the guys…. How many times have you either mustered up the nerve or noticed a girl, and just as you were making your way you see them saying their goodbyes? That one always sucks!

By AmazonRed

May 5, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this

Greetings all from California. Hope you all had a great weekend.

It’s true that men are far more accustomed to making an approach. I would suggest simply making yourself apparent, make sure he notices you, if he doesn’t approach he’s likely not interested.

I’m with abc on this. I still don’t approach men. Throws off the natural order of things. However, I do work on making it apparent. Sometimes you only have a moment to verify your interest with eye contact or a smile. Sometimes you just get gun shy. You just have to kick yourself and say you’ll do better next time, I guess! But I’m with the group that says it does get easier as you get older.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

Raqi “We all have had it and still do at some time or the other.”

Exactly. I only wish more of us were willing to admit it about ourselves. As for the whole “meet and greet” process, I’d like to see one of those get-togethers that was based on a person’s faults as opposed to what they felt were their attributes. In other words, a gathering of real people with real shortcomings and real issues. That way, you could cut through all that superficial BS right from the get-go.

Too many people today are looking for perfection, which is really at the root of our being anxious during these kinds of encounters - the perception that the other person expects perfection and that we simply don’t measure up to their expectation.

By dyoung (aka "the champ")

May 5, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

You learn to deal with approach anxiety because rejection is nowhere near as bad as regret. I’d rather approach and get rejected than beat myself up later on for not saying a thing.

By SexyLeggs

May 5, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this

…Sometimes you only have a moment to verify your interest with eye contact or a smile. EXACTLY. This is what I mean when I say if I’m interested I’ll let it be known. It doesn’t always have to be verbal. Body language speaks volumes.

…Throws off the natural order of things. I disagree. It’s okay for a woman to approach a man…this isn’t the 1950s. JMO!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 5, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

Buenos dias mi gente…Feliz Cinco de Mayo!!!Margaritas para cada uno!!

Fed Up d*mn…tell us how you really feel! LOL You need the margaritas boo!

anonymousella In response to the lack of Eye Candy…I feel ya girl! Here, do what I do…put on your beer googles (meaning drink until he’s cute)! LOL Then if that doesn’t work, close one eye and squint the other…and that will create the optical illusion of cuteness! LMAO

On topic: I have always been very bold about what I want. So if I see a guy I’d just talk to him. Now I admit my first approach is that of a joke. It may be something we both see that just ain’t right (ie: a chick with nappy black hair and a silky straight blond weave, or the 300 lb chick in stripes wearing 4 inch stillettos looking like they are screaming and are on the verge of breaking). Or if he smells and/or looks good..I will let him know. No biggie! What’s to be afriad of?

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

dyoung “I’d rather approach and get rejected than beat myself up later on for not saying a thing.”

I never beat myself up over something that never transpires. If I don’t step to her in the first place, what is there to beat myself up about other than my own imagination over various “what if” scenarios. If anything, I’m more inclined to be upset over the rejection itself, because I’m thinking it was due to something I did (or didn’t do) or said (or didn’t say).

By AmazonRed

May 5, 2008 11:00 AM | Link to this

I disagree. It’s okay for a woman to approach a man…this isn’t the 1950s. JMO!

SexyLeggs - You are right, it isn’t the 1950s. But I look at society and the way it is now and a lot of the mess of it can go back to folks not doing things the way it was intended to go.

I believe men approach the women they are interested in. Men are simple!

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

Stac comedic chivalry/politeness “as is” does break the anxiety factor.

if he smells and/or looks good..I will let him know. No biggie! What’s to be afriad of?

Well there is public denunciation. And then one would have to be a different type to handle that embarrassment.

By The Fly Guy (www.flyguychronicles.com)

May 5, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

Nice Post,

For most women, I believe that anxiety on some level will always be there when approaching a guy … society sets it up that way.

As far as men go, the older and more “professional” you become, I really believe that your success plays a critical role in your level of confidence when approaching women.

By DreamsMaterialize

May 5, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this

Morning New gig got me busy as h^ll, so just stopped in to wish everyone a great day.

By The Fly Guy (www.flyguychronicles.com)

May 5, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

Nice Post,

For most women, I believe that anxiety on some level will always be there when approaching a guy … society sets it up that way.

As far as men go, the older and more “professional” you become, I really believe that your success plays a critical role in your level of confidence when approaching women.

By SexyLeggs

May 5, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

I understand your concept ARed of the mess we’re in is because because people did things outside the “natural order” of things. Yet, somethings need to be done outside the natural order. Men should always approach the woman they’re interested in, but it’s ok for women to do it sometimes. Take Santoria Lynn for example. Every so often we can and should take a spin at it. That’s all I’m saying. To do so on a continium is not natural!

By abc

May 5, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

The thing with women approaching men is that they typically don’t have much restraint, and their obvious nerves add to it. It comes across as throwing themselves at a man, most often as getting a good running start and then throwing themselves at him. It doesn’t make a very good impression, you’re likely to not get much more than taken advantage of. Better to let the man make the approach, if he’s interested.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

FG “As far as men go…I really believe that your success plays a critical role in your level of confidence when approaching women.”

I agree with you on that, but what can we (men) do to ensure that they (women) don’t see that “confidence” as arrogance? I mean, the last thing I want is for a woman to perceive me as using the car I drive or the kind of house of I have or my job as reasons why she should give me her time and attention.

By AmazonRed

May 5, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs - So where do we draw the line at what needs to be done outside the “natural order?” And who makes that decision? Why balk at women proposing if you aren’t going to balk at women stepping to men? Like always, do what works for you, but me approaching men doesn’t work for me.

I’m an old fashioned gal and am attracted to old fashioned type guys. There is a segment of men that don’t want women approaching them. And that’s the type of guy I’m into. And I don’t feel like I’m missing out on a thing.

By BriteEyez

May 5, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

I think that whether or not you experience anxiety when you approach someone depends upon your mindset at that time.

Going into it with the thought that, at the very least you can have an enjoyable conversation with someone different and new. You could also come away with a new aquaintance that could become a good friend.

Nobody likes rejection but it is a reality of life. I just think if your mind is right, you can significantly lower the likelihood of being rejected

Even if I don’t come away with a love connection there is always the possibility of gaining something positive. JMO

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

First off, get into the right mindset. When it comes down to it, he’s just a guy, and you’re just a girl/woman no other factors should get in the way of that. Trying to get time speak alone with him or a date; Separating a guy from his friends/social set can be a bit complex for women. Start off and see if you can catch his eye, and smile. If he smiles back, it may be an invitation to come talk to him. You wlk/sashay over, smile and say hi. Don’t go overboard be it a friendly lady. Regardless of what type of guy he is, he’s still just a man. Nothing is infallible but YOU wanted to do it, so why not?

just talking

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 5, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli I have never experienced that but if I did I woudl probably make a joke on that as well! LOL

By SexyLeggs

May 5, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

So where do we draw the line at what needs to be done outside the “natural order?” And who makes that decision? This I don’t know. I’m not balking at anything. I think to each their own and whatever makes them feel comfortable. We all gave ^5s a few weeks back in approaching a man. It’s all good as far as I’m concerned!

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

um…Cemeeli…@ 11:34…imma refresh my page agian.

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

Stac Cinco de Mayo has sumthin’ wierd going on in here.

anyway…um yea, I’m sure you haven’t mamma. You seem like cool person. I can sometimes be looking sideways at a person for any said reason and so with that, NO i won’t approach or think twice. i’m speaking on types…shy, arrogant, giddy, silly, gator mouth, potty mouth…etc.

By I am Legend

May 5, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

@darrell

I mean, the last thing I want is for a woman to perceive me as using the car I drive or the kind of house of I have or my job as reasons why she should give me her time and attention.

dont talk about it….if she ask you can mention i have a nice job that enjoy…on house…i purchased a nice home that i could afford..in a growing community ….on the car…you can say…you mean my gas suck on four wheels…i need to trade it in for a ford focus and call it a day…lol…all light witty stuff to now show you hung up on what you have or where you going…besides i am sure the women you have chosen will not be matching you in success or life trappings

By Raqi

May 5, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

Darrell and FlyGuy …your success

Would you to be referring to the type of job a man has or just someone that enjoy and is good at whatever it is he does?

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

Amazon “There is a segment of men that don’t want women approaching them.”

Well, I, for one, am not in that segment. LOL! I gots no problem with a woman approaching me. None whatsoever. Like I said before, at least that will eliminate any ambiguity or confusion because, in the end, that’s what it’s all about - being on the same page - whatever page that might be.

By AmazonRed

May 5, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

I think to each their own and whatever makes them feel comfortable

No actually you said “we can and should take a spin at it” and this isn’t the “1950s.” What makes some of us feel comfortable is letting the guys come to us. Heck, leaves more for the go getters out there to get those men!

By For Real

May 5, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!

I always hear from women that were intrested in me and are now a friend that I appear to be unapproachable or intimidating or both bc of the way I a look and body lang. I ask what look and what body lang and they cannot give me answer. Then one of my friends told me the reason she didn’t approach nor make any signals is that she couldn’t read me.

My point, signals, confidence, or body lang is only a small part of the process. If you like what you see go for it.

For Real now unbuttonning his shirt down to the third button while winking at Wise and playing with his chest hair.

By AmazonRed

May 5, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this

Well, I, for one, am not in that segment. LOL! I gots no problem with a woman approaching me. None whatsoever.

Pimpin Darrell - This does not come as a surprise to me in the least.

By The Fly Guy (www.flyguychronicles.com)

May 5, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

@ Darrell “what can we (men) do to ensure that they (women) don’t see that “confidence” as arrogance?”

The way you avoid coming off arrogant is by not talking about your success. Some men use their possessions or accomplishments as conversation pieces. Wrong move. Trust me, a woman will be able to detect if you’re about something simply by the energy that you give off…so keep those kinds of words to a minimum. By diverting the attention away from yourself, you will avoid being viewed as arrogant.

By QC

May 5, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY to all the Blog Mothers…i know i’m early…but it’s all good!

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

Trust me, a woman will be able to detect if you’re about something simply by the energy that you give off…

FlyGuy stick around. It’s just that simple.

By SexyLeggs

May 5, 2008 12:10 PM | Link to this

ARed when I said I think to each their own and whatever makes them feel comfortable I wasn’t referring to my previous post. I was referring to life itself.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 12:10 PM | Link to this

Raqi “Would you to be referring to the type of job a man has or just someone that enjoy and is good at whatever it is he does?”

I’d say the latter, because that’s how I define “success” (being good at - and content in - what you do). However, as a man, I still think we have to walk a fine line because women (for the most part) want a man who is “successful”, correct? Meaning, he posesses a demonstrated ability to provide for them. However, it is the type of job which oftentimes serves as that proof, which presents a dichotomy in some ways, does it not?

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

QC thank you AND thank you. btw - i am free spirit lol @ dictionary for women.

By Gina

May 5, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

I mean, the last thing I want is for a woman to perceive me as using the car I drive or the kind of house of I have or my job as reasons why she should give me her time and attention. - is THIS coming from the same guy who posted a picture of himself on this blog standing next to his car?

By QC

May 5, 2008 12:13 PM | Link to this

Darrell is not an arrogant Man, he’s never come off to be that way in person or on this blog

By QC

May 5, 2008 12:15 PM | Link to this

You’re welcome Cee-me-me i’m the same way :)

By AmazonRed

May 5, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

is THIS coming from the same guy who posted a picture of himself on this blog standing next to his car?

LOL. Pimpin Darrell did that? When? Are u sure?

Funny.

By Satoria Lynn

May 5, 2008 12:23 PM | Link to this

Good Monday to you,

Hey Sexyleggs, Mamalongleggs!

I say we have another APPROACH ASSIGNEMENT for this week and report back Friday. Approaching is very scary to me. When I did it awhile back, the butterflies in my stomach were doing their job.

melo Your momma so skinny, she can hoola hoop a dayum cheerio!

By Lurker

May 5, 2008 12:26 PM | Link to this

@ Gina - what did was that picture posted? I’d like to go back and look, solely out of curiosity.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this

“THIS coming from the same guy who posted a picture of himself on this blog standing next to his car?”

See what I mean? LOL! So now I can’t even take a picture standing next to my own car! smh! LOL!!! So, Gina, I guess you wouldn’t want to ride in either, would you? If I meeting you somewhere for a date (hypothetically speaking) would you prefer that I leave my car at home and take MARTA? Maybe that would exemplify a more humble or modest attitude on my part?

The only problem with that is that MARTA does run anywhere near where I live. But, I guess that’s arrogant of me, too, isn’t it, that I don’t live in the city? I guess you take that as my having “forgotten where I came from”, don’t you? Or, to take it one step further, perhaps I should decline my salary from now on and just work for my employer as a “volunteer”. That would be most benevolent of me, wouldn’t it?

GOOD GRIEF! LOL!!!!

By Chuck Lurker

May 5, 2008 12:30 PM | Link to this

Is the name calling necessary? When a young lady does this, it makes her very UNattractive!!!

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 12:33 PM | Link to this

For Real - is taco meat the new commodity this season? I saw it live and wondered. why?

By Dino

May 5, 2008 12:34 PM | Link to this

What’s wrong with posting a picture of yourself next to your car? I’ve taken several pictures of me next to my car and they’re on my web page. Sounds like y’all dranking some Hater Aid with extra sugar. If that Man is doing well in life, that’s good for him let it be. I’m also a successful person

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 5, 2008 12:35 PM | Link to this

Darrell Oh that was you standing by the pink convertible Cabriolet with the bumper sticker that said, Honk if you’re horny!”? LOL

By AmazonRed

May 5, 2008 12:39 PM | Link to this

What’s wrong with posting a picture of yourself next to your car?

Nothing wrong per se. I just don’t get the appeal of taking such pics, personally. Maybe it’s because I’m not into cars.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 12:42 PM | Link to this

Lurker

Allow me to put this all in CONTEXT, okay? LOL!

The whole picture posting thing was the day we were talking about was someone on here referred to as the “Broke Diaries” (or something to that effect.) It was one of the best days on this blog, I think, because were all reminiscing and posting about the times we struggled, either as children or college students or as young adults trying to make it. (That was the day SexyLeggs posted about how she used to each sugar sandwiches.) :-)

Anyway (and I think either Rell or Truth can back me up on this) Amazon made a comment about how “broke” we all were and in response to that, I made a tongue-in-cheek “before and after” post which included a TWO links: one was to a picture of a MARTA bus and the other was to a picture of me standing next to my car. The purpose was all in fun as if to say, “Nah, I ain’t broke.”

The picture is from my “FalconsLife” page on the Atlanta Falcons Web site. ALL members of the Atlanta Falcons Message Boards have a FalconsLife page, so it’s not like I just posted that picture just for this blog! That’s all it was. Just a tongue-in-cheek thing. I can’t beleive somebody is reaching waaayyyy back there to bring it up. SMH! LOL!!!

By Dino

May 5, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

Well just say you’re not into cars Amazon Red don’t hate on the guy, there’s name calling & blog bashing on here as it is. Staceye i’m sure Darrell is laughing at your post, not only is it not funny - but down right stupid!

By Lurker

May 5, 2008 12:49 PM | Link to this

What’s wrong with posting a picture of yourself next to your car?

I would usually agree that there is nothing wrong with that but, to see that picture it’s clear what was being showcased… hell, you can’t even see him LOL!!

By QC

May 5, 2008 12:49 PM | Link to this

This is all so funny…you broke it down Darrell just let it go, lol

By AmazonRed

May 5, 2008 12:51 PM | Link to this

Dino - HUH? I didn’t even know he posted a pic of himself next to a car until today. So how is that hating? Just because I’m not into it? Because I went LOL at the notion?

Lawd, lighten up folks.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 12:55 PM | Link to this

Dino

I think my point is being proven without my having to say a word. Women want a man who’s “successful”, but then, when there’s some evidence of that success, they want to label you as arrogant.

Dude can’t win for losin’. smh

By SexyLeggs

May 5, 2008 12:57 PM | Link to this

Santoria Lynn popped in here busting chops (LOL).

ARed, not necessarily that you’re not into cars…probably because this is definitely a “guy” thing.

Ok, I think I can get off-topic now.

I met a guy at the party I went to 2 weeks ago and we exchange numbers. I’ve been speaking w/him just about every other day. He’s a trucker. He seems to be interested in me. Well, he done went and F…..things up!

He called me Saturday afternoon to tell me his grandfather had passed and that he was very close to him. He was hurting! We spoke for a little while longer. Well, don’tcha know this knucklehead (yes, now he’s a knucklehead) called me at 2:46 AM Sunday morning because he wanted wanted to hug me before he left and just needed someone to talk to. Said he didn’t want to come in he could talk to me from my driveway. WTF is going on. I gave him some choice words. He doesn’t even know me well enough to be calling me at that time of morning. Yes, he was a little tipsy, but he knew what he was doing. **Fellows, why do some set themselves up for failure like that? What a bonehead move!

By Raqi

May 5, 2008 12:58 PM | Link to this

Darrell I am not talking about what a woman sees interpret or benefits from being with that man. I am solely talking about a man’s confidence level based on his level of success.

Does his successful achievements give him that confidence? Or is it only when and if that success carries high financial status that gives him confidence?

Is it that same co-cki-ness that we women also possess that merely grants us bragging rights confidence? Or is it that I have material possessions to offer confidence?

Or do men even consider it as success if riches are not attached?

What is this success confidence that you speak of?

By Angie

May 5, 2008 12:59 PM | Link to this

bigd i see you have admirers. lol. it amazes me how we hate on each other. we should be lifting our fellow blogger up and supporting what we have accomplished. all the name calling, etc. is disgusting and uncalled for. we’re suppose to be grown folks, RIGHT!!!

By SexyLeggs

May 5, 2008 12:59 PM | Link to this

BTW, that was my weekend non-dating event!

Darrell, you are funny. I remember the before and after pics.

By Dino

May 5, 2008 1:00 PM | Link to this

Amazon Red you started this ish so you lighten up dear. I’m done with it you Women on here don’t know who or what the hell you want and you seem to be the “most confused woman on here Amazon Red Light so oops you are the “weakest link” GOOD BYE!

By AmazonRed

May 5, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

Pimpin Darrell - Do you really think posting a pic of you standing next to a nice car, a depreciating asset at that, lets anyone know you are actually successful?

Not to say that you are not, but there are plenty of folks out there with nice cars living in their mothers basement.

But I forget sometimes we live in a society of materalism. sigh

By mytwocents

May 5, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

Hope we’re all having a beautiful day…

We really over-complicate things sometimes. I’m with you, Brite Eyez. If @ the end of the nite you’ve had fun and got to converse with at least one great smelling gentleman, its another reason to smile. FlyGuy that energy does speak volumes. Even when you can’t quite read a person it’s in the air. Darrell My guess is that these days more ladies are concerned that a man can provide for HIMself beyond all else.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 1:03 PM | Link to this

QC

Gina is right. I now see the error of my ways. The next time I’m down near Greenbriar Mall, I’m gonna take a picture of me standing next to a MARTA bus stop. After all, I used to ride the bus. That should count for something, right?

Sheesh!

By AmazonRed

May 5, 2008 1:04 PM | Link to this

Dino - I think gotten me confused with Gina. Please see her 12:12. My post was in response to hers.

So I guess you’re the “oops.” Thanks for playing. :-)

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 1:08 PM | Link to this

Darrell you’re not trying to win so how would you lose? Your sister posted accurately @ 12:49.

mytwocents now you wanna re-post? j/k…how was your w/e? Rosy!

By Hunh?

May 5, 2008 1:08 PM | Link to this

Sexy how does he know where you live?

By QC

May 5, 2008 1:09 PM | Link to this

Amen Angie it’s too funny to me…i’m very proud of my brother and his success!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 1:11 PM | Link to this

Raqi “Does his successful achievements give him that confidence? Or is it only when and if that success carries high financial status that gives him confidence?”

Men are generally wired to drive for success. “Success” being defined as setting a goal and achieving it. Period. It is the confidence gained through achieving a targeted goal that gives a man confidence, regardless if there is a financial benefit attached to it.

By Lurker

May 5, 2008 1:15 PM | Link to this

@Darrell 12:42 Okay.

More than one Lurker posting

By Dino

May 5, 2008 1:15 PM | Link to this

Nope i’m not getting you two confused, this game is over like i said earlier. I’m going to enjoy reading this blog today and will continue to ignore you & your comments.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 1:15 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli

Figure of speech.

By The Truth

May 5, 2008 1:18 PM | Link to this

Ok, sorry folks but everyone needs to vacate their offices and get outside, right now. It is beautiful out there. For those that get fired I have 3 spare bedrooms for the ladies and a cold, dark azz basement for the guys. Btw, there will be no utilities fellas. LOL

Has a fight started in here? Folks EVERYONE uses what they have to get what they want. A busty chick uses that, nice legs likewise. A cat with a nice car or home or fashion sense or good hair uses that. The real secret is to use that as bait and draw someone into a much deeper person. That’s when you hit them with that mindpower, inner strength, or whatever the “hook gonna be”. A dude that flashes his ride and that’s his greatest achievement is no worse than a female that offers you azz because she has nothing else to offer.

Ared where are you in Cali? You on vacation or work?

Staceye I thought that was funny. Some folks are to serious this morning.

Similac that 1134 was it. We’re all just men/women. Get over yourself and meet someone new. It’s not that deep.

Dino you’ve been posting here for about 10 minutes. Not enough time to kick someone out. However, after 3pm you are free to start booting folks as you like. LOL

By AmazonRed

May 5, 2008 1:20 PM | Link to this

will continue to ignore you & your comments

Thank goodness.

By SexyCool

May 5, 2008 1:22 PM | Link to this

typically never have approach anxiety…unless i’m having an offday…i.e. bad hair day…dressed way down…things like that…

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 1:22 PM | Link to this

TwoCents “My guess is that these days more ladies are concerned that a man can provide for HIMself beyond all else.”

Point taken. ^5!

By Angie

May 5, 2008 1:29 PM | Link to this

Is there someone you had the chance to ask out, but decided not to?

my first friday in GA, we went to dave and busters. coming into the parking lot, i saw a handsome guy. when we all finally hit the club, i spotted him and froze. damnit! went home pyssed cause i knew i blew it.

Ladies, what compels you to approach a man?

knowing that this is probably the only chance i’ll get. no do-overs.

What signals do you send to let him know to approach you?

a nice smile.

it was either truth or 2c who has encouraged me to start appoarching. this is the reason i’m here, on this blog. to get a man’s side of things. what they like, don’t like. get all the secrets. lol.

By AmazonRed

May 5, 2008 1:30 PM | Link to this

Truth - Right now I’m in L.A, bloggin from my parents basement. LOL! Headed to San Diego in a few for a work trip. So I will answer your charge to get the heck out of here (and get an In-N-Out burger lol)

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 1:30 PM | Link to this

If go out i don’t wanna come back in…job is essential right now

Truth i got my book excited. Have i read a single page? No. Sypnosis is as far as i got. And why does this paperback seem so flimsy…You didn’t tell me about the AUDIO version…i had it in hand and was like $14. vs. $29…hmmm.

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 1:34 PM | Link to this

ism - #131

Why is it that the more you spend on dinner, the hungrier you are when you leave the restaurant?

By SexyLeggs

May 5, 2008 1:40 PM | Link to this

Hunh?, he doesn’t. He wanted me to give him directions and would talk to me outside. Yeah right. Like I’m opening my door that early in the morning for someone I DON’T KNOW!.

By mamalongleggs

May 5, 2008 1:41 PM | Link to this

Good afternoon Everyone, I don’t suffer from approach anxiety, if I see a man and I like his style I don’t have a problem letting it be known whether it be with a simple compliment.

Hey Satoria LOL at yo mamma jokes for Melo

I agree with you Ared on your 1:01 post, to take a picture with your car spells low self esteem to me, JMO

By Blow Me a.k.a Rookie Cookie

May 5, 2008 1:41 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon ALL

Yeah I am old school. Ole boy is gonna have to approach me. I will give smiles and eye contact…That is obvious enough to me. I like my guys to be AGGRESSIVE…if you can’t follow that first step then that let’s me know. Plus I am SHY can you believe it?!?!? Yup Blow is SHY…Plus I have an ego too. lol

ARED Cosign your 1:01…and your 10:10am

By The Truth

May 5, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

Similac I’m starting to think audio also. This is a long book and the beginning is real “airy”. I’m going to make it through though one way or another. LOL

Ared tell moms and pops I said hi. Pop the top on that rental and let the wind blow through your hair. It’s so nice in the Atl. I love weather like this.

By Raqi

May 5, 2008 1:45 PM | Link to this

”…a female that offers you azz because she has nothing else to offer.”

That comment made me think back to the topic that dyoung presented via WiseDiva about Emotional Cheating, I think was the name of it.

During the discussion he said that all of the interaction and communication leading up to getting the arse means absolutely nothing if the arse don’t get got.

(Disclaimer: a tongue-in-cheek question) So the value and/or importance of the “everything else” a woman has to offer is based on the end result of the arse?

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 1:56 PM | Link to this

Truth i’m reading another 400pg novel and i can’t even think on it right now. If i’m correct, you read “A Pilot’s Wife” too, what’s your review.

2)“mindpower, inner strength” should be a given off the rip. To use your taco meat as bait is unbecoming. Please go wash and try again.

By mytwocents

May 5, 2008 2:07 PM | Link to this

Hi Cee. In the City, so extended weekend is lovely, thanks… you get into anything exciting?

By IslandGirl

May 5, 2008 2:11 PM | Link to this

Good day Blog Fam

Angie What signals do you send to let him know to approach you What works for me is eye contact and a smile.

Truth I’m about to walk off my job, so you better get my room ready.

I’ve experienced approach anxiety in the past. I think being shy was the main reason.

By The Truth

May 5, 2008 2:12 PM | Link to this

Similac I never read a pilot’s wife. Sorry, no review. On the taco meat thing. A cat can’t send you his inner strength and have you receive it the way he’s sending it. He’s got to use the taco meat to at least catch your eye. (The Truth now giving For Real a comb and brush to detangle that shyt)

Ared you’re right about the natural order of things but there’s nothing like a woman with a pleasant personality and nice conversation taking an opportunity to start a conversation.

By I am Legend

May 5, 2008 2:18 PM | Link to this

@Darrell…again dude nothing wrong with your success..big up..but if you not comfortable with it…niether will she….if you comfortable with all your trappings no need to comment on it..when you role up in your nice ride and she matchs it with your mouth piece then there should be no question..if there are then tread lightly…

@dino….umm dude i am the only knee grow on here that give ared a hard time..feel me…thats my boo…get your own….lol..

@truth…yep today is a good day..one of those days where you get some of that georgia dome in the ride..feel me…..on that note darrell your mission for today is to get some georgia dome in your nice ride…lol

By Lurker

May 5, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

@Truth 1:18 - I beg to differ (somewhat) on your post. Most dudes that need to bait and draw, really not much more left than that. If more than bait is going on, why not truism upfront?

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

my…my…my i only went shopping…agian, tennis clinic/meet, i went to movies to see Ironman (great movie), child’s baseball game, park and dinner. I came home yesturday and made addtn’l dinner.

By mytwocents

May 5, 2008 2:27 PM | Link to this

Hi Cee. In the City, so extended weekend is lovely, thanks… you get into anything exciting?

By Angie

May 5, 2008 2:28 PM | Link to this

IG that’s what i meant. lol. thanks for clearing that up.

wanna make something clear. when i browse myspace pages, as soon as i see money signs, cars, t** and azz everywhere, i jet. i know you can feel that staceye. bigd’s pic doesn’t fit in this category. he’s way better than that.

also, approaching (category) can also mean (1) making the first call, (2) asking him for the 2nd date, (3) performing any action a man usually makes.

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

Truth that TM “eye catch” is not cute. But if i can approach/joke w/him about it and he is cool with it. Then yea, i guess it was bait. wow Lol.

By The Truth

May 5, 2008 2:32 PM | Link to this

Lurker a dude that walks up to a chick and grabs her hand to start talking to her reducs his chances of success severely. If he makes eye contact, flashes taco meat, or does or has something to generate interest he has a much better chance of success. Then it’s up to his charachter to keep the convo going. Agree or not?

By I am Legend

May 5, 2008 2:32 PM | Link to this

@ared….can you bring me back some carna asada and chips from alalbertos

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 5, 2008 2:34 PM | Link to this

Dino you can kiss my unfunny azz! LOL I do not care what you think of my lil” joke on Darrell. He knows I mean nothing by it. Obviously you got a brick up yours and need to pull it out!

Thank you Truthie! smooches

Darrell I am proud of you bruh! Do you..if you want to show off what your hard earned money paid for…go for it! I never saw the picture. As for me, it doesn’t matter to me what a guy drives…unless he is about to give it to me and put it in my name, why should be excited? I just hope the guy is not one of the very many people getting expensive cars and living in crapholes…or their parents crib. I know that is not you D..so that is why I say I am proud of you! You seem to be a responsible man.

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

May 5, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

I have come to the conclusion that alot of you cats are haters..

Darrell is probably the most level headed cat on here.. I dont agree with every thing he says but he is who he is..

Alot of you guys flip from wanna be players/pimps one day to Keith Sweat cats the next Beggin and all..

Darrell Keep doing you man, who cares what a dude with his ish wrong gotta say..

By Angie

May 5, 2008 2:52 PM | Link to this

rell every time i post, i forget to ask you for your e-mail addr. i closed my GA page and want to add you to my CA page. would you like to be my homie again? lol.

hi QC!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 2:52 PM | Link to this

Legend

Per your 2:18, when I initially purchased the car I felt some guilt over it for a few days. Not guilt in the traditional sense, but in the sense that I felt totally unworthy of it. Not sure if you can relate, but if you’ve ever had one of those instances where the Lord just blessed you so good to where you’re speechless because you KNOW you didn’t deserve His blessing you like that, then you know what I’m talking about.

That’s how it was (and is) for me. It was very humbling. Still is. So, yeah, it took me a while to get comfortable with it. In fact, I hope I never get to the point to where I’m “comfortable” with what God has done for me. Never.

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

May 5, 2008 2:58 PM | Link to this

as far as anxiety goes we all get it when were about to meet someone new.. Its natural.. Its how you get over it is what determines who you are.. If you succumb to the fear then you lose but if you man up and say it then its a win.. It doesnt even matter if she shoots you down and gives you the nogga please eye.. Just say nice to meet you and keep it moving.. Everything is done on the approach so keep it smooth and casual.. No pressure no worries..

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 2:59 PM | Link to this

Black Mamba

Thanks for that 2:34. I appreciate it. ;-)

By IslandGirl

May 5, 2008 2:59 PM | Link to this

Darrell ^5 that was from the heart.

By For Real

May 5, 2008 2:59 PM | Link to this

Dayummm I come back from CINCO DE… ummm I mean lunch and all hellz break loose. Let see if I can catch up.

By Blow Me a.k.a Rookie Cookie

May 5, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

* What are we talking about? Let’s bold the changed topic!!*

GEEZ!

By QC - leaving @ 4pm

May 5, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

Hey Angie

By Lurker

May 5, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

Truth - A dude that walks up to a chick and grabs her hand making physical contact will more than likely kill any chance. Agreed. Eye contact, flashes tm or has a swagger, something to generate interest yields a higher success rate. Agreed. That’s your physical person though. You, who you are physically right? Eye contact, that’s you, taco meat that’s you right? Bait and draw to some degree and can be misleading because you’re right it’s not your character but what caught your eye. Your character lies below the surface of all that. Bait and draw with anything material is a disqualifier. Has absolutely nothing to do with character nor anyting you can build from. But that’s just my opinion.

By BriteEyez

May 5, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

Darrell

I know your 2:52 post was not directed at me but I just had to respond because that’s how I feel every moment of the day! GOD is so very good and completely worthy of praise!!!

I got your point, but speaking for myself, I know that I am undeserving of even every breath I take, opening my eyes this morning, shoot, I could go on and on…

I would say being blessed with a fancy car should be near the bottom of the list of things to NOT feel deserving of as far as God’s blessings are concerned. JMO

By Blow Me a.k.a Rookie Cookie

May 5, 2008 3:07 PM | Link to this

ATTENTION ALL

WHO GOT THE CABLE HOOK UP?

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 3:09 PM | Link to this

Brite “I would say being blessed with a fancy car should be near the bottom of the list of things to NOT feel deserving of as far as God’s blessings are concerned”

Trust me, it IS at the bottom. I only referenced that one thing in the context of today’s conversation. Make sense?

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 3:14 PM | Link to this

Oh, and one more thing, Brite, remember - it wasn’t me who brought up this whole car thing in the first place. Nevertheless, it gave me an opportunity to give the glory to Whom it truly belongs, so I’m good with that. :-)

By BriteEyez

May 5, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

Darrell Yes, it makes sense. Like I said, I got your point. I just try to never miss the opportunity to give God some praise!

Does that make sense?

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

May 5, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

Most guys buy the things we buy 1 because we want it and 2 to get at these chicks.. I call clothes, cars, money accessories because all of it compliments the man.. And yes here it goes again.. Its not the cars, clothes or the money.. Its the DUDE..

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 3:20 PM | Link to this

Brite “I just try to never miss the opportunity to give God some praise!”

See my 3:14. LOL!

By SexyLeggs

May 5, 2008 3:20 PM | Link to this

I totally understand you Darrell. Great post.

Hey BriteEyez!

ForReal, as usual, excellent recap!

By I am Legend

May 5, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

@darrell

let you in on a lil secret…..god blessings dont happen to me

Lord just blessed you so good to where you’re speechless because you KNOW you didn’t deserve His blessing you like that, then you know what I’m talking about.

^^^now what he has done is take everything away!!!!!!!

By Angie

May 5, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

Dayummm Dino you got balls talking to 2E’s like that bruh. Ummm I would mark them L & R just in case tho

lmao.

4real i received 2 responses back already, but thx! even though alvin still didn’t answer my question correctly. lol.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 3:25 PM | Link to this

Legend ”^^^now what he has done is take everything away”

Believe it or not, that’s happened to me, too, bruh. If you only knew.

By QC - leaving @ 4pm

May 5, 2008 3:26 PM | Link to this

Blow I got a cable hookup guy but he’s on his honey moon and won’t be back for 2 weeks…let me check with my girl Vet @ cc, brb

By Lurker

May 5, 2008 3:29 PM | Link to this

@For Real - Sorry I’m a bit slow but help me out here. Who/what’s Bonita Battrell?

By BriteEyez

May 5, 2008 3:31 PM | Link to this

Darrell When you know him his praise should be continuously in your mouth!! I think we understand each other on that point.

Hey SexyLeggs!!

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 5, 2008 3:36 PM | Link to this

For Real Your wrap ups always crack me up dude! LMAO!

My Sista Blow me You are crazy girl! LMAO Who got the cable hook up? LOL

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 3:37 PM | Link to this

Brite

That’s true, but I’d probably get a blog citation (or banned altogether) for the amount of stuff I’d end up typing on here. LOL!

By Alvin

May 5, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

Darrell more brothers need to talk about positive successes…all you hear about is what my dope has paid for

You know what sucks, many people never see your struggles…only your successes…I be like: Dude I use to live in a homeless shelter and worked at Winn-Dixie…I know you can do it!! LOL

My former broke a**

By The Truth

May 5, 2008 3:41 PM | Link to this

Lurker lets just say we’re close enough to say where both right. I’m just thinking if you had never saw me and I walked up a grabbed your hand and started talking you’d be at least surprised. However, if you spied my taco meat and you was into that the convo would be much easier.

Ok, who did Staceye cut? LMAO

By Angie

May 5, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

introduce yourself with your name and an opening line to break the ice

what’s your best opening line when you approach? i have a couple but want y’all to go first. lol. i don’t want to be the only one on here with corny azz lines. lol.

By Blow Me a.k.a Rookie Cookie

May 5, 2008 3:48 PM | Link to this

QC How much does he charge? I am serious….

Staceye Girl GAS is damn near $4 dollas a gallon. I got to cut cost somewhere…that’s the first place. As long as I got- MTV, BET, BRAVO, E CHANNEL, Oxygen…..I am good! lmao!

By 2CPTG©

May 5, 2008 3:48 PM | Link to this

Anybody got the hook-up on a Bail-Bonds man?

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 3:50 PM | Link to this

Alvin “many people never see your struggles…only your successes…”

Excellent point, man, and you know what? My kids were with me over the weekend and before I dropped them back off with their mom yesterday, I took a little time to take them through where I grew up. I’m talking about the Dixie Hills projects, the MLK/Ashby Street area, the dead-end street I lived on as a child, where I went to high school (Washington) - I’m talkin’ “da hood”, bruh. I showed them everything, just so they’d know that dad ain’t always rolled like this.

But, you’re right, man. People presume that just because you got it “like that” now, that that’s how you’ve always had it. I can’t speak for ya’ll, but as for me, nothing could be farther from the truth.

By the way, Iron Man is BANANAS! Ya’ll need to check it out if you haven’t already.

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 3:54 PM | Link to this

Bait and draw with anything material is a disqualifier. Has absolutely nothing to do with character nor anyting you can build from.

Lurker that’s exactly how ‘one’ would lose. But yea, jmo.

DK… clothes, cars, money, accessories because all of it compliments the man. and so for women, the same.

By Lurker

May 5, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

Truth - Agreed

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 3:56 PM | Link to this

2C are you being facetious?

By Staceye AKA Black Mamba

May 5, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

Darrell you did the right thing by your kids..showing them that you can come from the hood and still make a legal success of yourself.

By 2CPTG©

May 5, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

“2C are you being facetious?”

Naw, wire me bout $500….

By Alvin

May 5, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

Darrell Bump Iron Man…

Terrance Howard as War Machine in ‘10!!!!

F/K WIT

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

May 5, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

Thanks, Stacey. I appreciate it. While on the “tour”, I took them by a church where I used to cut grass near Morris Brown college and by the West End Mall, which is where I used to go when I got paid from my summer job working with my dad.

Hmmm…I wonder if Gina would deem it arrogant of me that I don’t shop at the West End Mall anymore? LOL!

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

May 5, 2008 4:06 PM | Link to this

2Can What county Dekalb or Fulton?

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 4:09 PM | Link to this

…wire me bout $500….

2C this is “bait”..if i’ve never seen it before. Cause if i wire you 500 then your the qualifier…

By Satoria Lynn

May 5, 2008 4:10 PM | Link to this

My opening line: boxers or briefs?

By For Real

May 5, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

2C I don’t have $500 but I can throw 500 pennies at your window.

Darrell/Alvin Iron Man was on point. What did you think about Sam at the end of the movie?

QC If you are still there have a friend that needs a job. HR/Acct background. Send me something if you got for_real730@yahoo.com

By BigWords

May 5, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

2CPTG

Ask if you can have a conjugal visit around 4:30. Blackchick won’t mind. That’ll give Cee time to get you want you need. muah.

By 2CPTG©

May 5, 2008 4:21 PM | Link to this

Fulton…..

By Cable Guy

May 5, 2008 4:25 PM | Link to this

Somebody gon need a bail-bond to get them out of the pokey for openly admitting to utilizing legal cable

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

Lol @ BigWords lurking and pop in with the conjugal. Blackgirl will be in to settle that. Impertinently

By SexyLeggs

May 5, 2008 4:34 PM | Link to this

ForReal, you got mail.

By Blow Me a.k.a Rookie Cookie

May 5, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

Cable GuY Kiss A$$…Do you or Don’t you have the CABLE HOOK up? Gas prices are at all time high and I have to cut my expenses…that is the first thing!

By Alvin

May 5, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

Satoria Lynn Let’s say…Nick Fury (Sam) is nothing to mess with…S.H.I.E.L.D is funded on tax payers dollars, LOL

By Lady Justice

May 5, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

and the only way you know to do that is stealing cable service? that is not cutting expenses that is stealing.

By Satoria Lynn

May 5, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

Alvin

Huh?

By Cemeeli

May 5, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

mytwocents word for the day. Heart

for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. (Matthew 12:34).

By mytwocents

May 5, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli Whoopsie I’m doin multis today and that’s b4 fire water. You’s a slacker tho-only 15 activities in 2 days! You in ALTA? Sposed to sign up. Real Hush! But if you wear the sombrero…

By SexyLeggs

May 5, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

Goodnight everyone!

Continue to strive for the betterment of self. Only way to laugh at those “broke diaries!”

Stay mindful of those around you and where your feet/car take you.

By Alvin

May 5, 2008 4:55 PM | Link to this

Satoria Lynn I thought you were speaking on Samuel L. Jackson…Nick Fury is the character he will be playing in the next marvel movie: Justice League.

By Angie

May 5, 2008 4:55 PM | Link to this

Lady Justice

and the only way you know to do that is stealing cable service? that is not cutting expenses that is stealing.

and the gas companies are doing what again?????? thank you!

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By Wise Diva

May 5, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

um yeah, ya’ll excuse me, it’s been a very Manic Monday. mmm, Margaritas

Happy Cinco De Mayo!!

By Jehovah

May 5, 2008 5:04 PM | Link to this

so you robbing peter to pay paul?

By Angie

May 5, 2008 5:05 PM | Link to this

i agree she shouldn’t be serious about stealing cable, but these gas prices are making some ppl (watch the news as i) do evil things. a mother prego with twin girls was shot in the stomach in a drive thru CVS over a couple of hundred dollars! yes, they died. girl, go ahead and steal you some cable. i ain’t mad at cha.

By Angie

May 5, 2008 5:10 PM | Link to this

i wish we could continue this over on the CHATTER BLOG. two wrongs don’t make a right, but times are hard now.

By The Truth

May 5, 2008 5:15 PM | Link to this

Just rob paul.

By Unknown

May 6, 2008 8:14 AM | Link to this

Wake Up!