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Tuesday, April 8, 2008
Mr. Quid Pro Quo
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
A reader sent me an email asking for feedback about a guy she has met recently. “Anna” says that she met a guy a couple of weeks ago. They have had their first date already, which went really well. She thought they had great chemistry, good conversation, and she was definitely interested in a second date.
This past weekend, he sent her a text message that said he had a great time, he would love to go out again, but this time, he was going to let her take HIM out. He said that he believed in what he calls the I Pay, You Pay approach to dating. He told her that this was his way of weeding out the women that use men for free meals and entertainment.
She said it bothered her that he would set this type of dynamic up so early on. She felt slightly offended, but she wondered if she was being too harsh. Should she go out on a second date with Mr. Quid Pro Quo (that’s Latin for “something for something”) or tell him no thanks? Keep in mind, before the text message, she really liked what she saw so far.
Guys, do you really worry about single women using you just to get a meal at a nice restaurant or some other event? If you are asking a girl to take YOU out for date number 2, does this mean you aren’t all that into her?
Ladies, how would you react if a guy took the I Pay, You Pay approach after the first date? Would it bother you?
The only problem I had with this Quid Pro Quo boy is the fact that he assumed she wanted a second date with him. Also, I have to wonder why he is resorting to such a blatant approach to “weeding” women out. Doesn’t he carefully select women who he would like to invest time and effort into in the first place? If he thought she needed weeding out, couldn’t he just give it a little time and observe her for awhile? What are your thoughts?
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