Misadventures in Atlanta

By What

April 7, 2008 8:44 AM | Link to this

He’s a chef and has lots of nice clothes and a nice car? Does he also live in his parent’s basement?

By QC

April 7, 2008 8:45 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers

By SexyLeggs

April 7, 2008 8:49 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone.

I wouldn’t want to date a “player.” The term itselfs leans toward having multiple partners, cheesy lines (sometimes) and a whole lot of cockiness. I would like a down to earth man who’s looking to be w/one woman.

By Kym

April 7, 2008 9:00 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

What do you think a player is? I think this is something someone made up to selling a album or some make believe state of mind or something. In other words I don’t believe in players.

I use to believe in this whole he is just a player..thing until I stepped back and looked at dating for what it really was DATING. I think with all the dating rules and other trappings of the dating game. The “game” has gotten misrepresentd. When you(we) meet guy A or gal B you(we) look, speak, and make a decision to date. Fine got it. You(we) for some reason assume that because they have met you they know no other people. WRONG..when you meet someone you should always assume they are seeing other people..and you should also assume that unless they tell you I want to see you and only you..even after 15 dates they are seeing other people. But somewhere we have confused one date or 10 dates with commitment. One of friends says this..”Just because we exchange phone numbers doesnt mean we are committed.” and it is true. Just because said guy or gal dates more than one person at a time doesnt make him/her a player it means they are dating and keeping their options opening until they find the right one or no one at all.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

April 7, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

Morning, all. :-)

From an experiential standpoint, I don’t have much to add on this topic. However, I will say that regardless of whether the “player” is male or female, at the root of the problem (and it is a problem) is their inability (or outright unwillingness) to say “no”.

As I see it, it’s simply a matter of disciplining one’s self and having respect for the other person. I mean, just how much ego-stroking and social approval does a person need? For example, if my BlackBerry is blowing up with phone calls, text messages and e-mails - especially during the time that I’m “supposed” to be out on a date with someone - then I’ve got some serious self-esteem issues. I mean, exactly what is it that a person who exhibits these “playeristic” behaviors is trying to prove to where the “one-at-a-time” approach no longer suffices for them?

I’ve just never understood that.

By abc

April 7, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

“The clothes, the car…”?! Mod you down a point, WD. Superficial much?

If you want to get to know a man, get to know the man. Hm.

I’ve no interest in player chicks, and men that play like that get less respect from other men like me. It’s wrong to take advantage of someone else for your own pleasure, period.

By DasV

April 7, 2008 9:23 AM | Link to this

good morning good ppl

there is a thin line betw the swagga and the ‘simpleton’…. i say simpleton because thats really all that a playa amounts to.

he is the guy that has mastered the first, say 4 plays in the game. he cant think beyond position A to H - 8,7,6. he absolutely cannot go any futher on the board. too often the opponent is so impressed with the opening moves that she fails to wait and see if he can actually finish the game, much less win.

make ‘em play to the middle of the board, thats my motto. lemme see what his moves are once his jewelry pawn, car pawn, house pawn, job pawn are lost to my horsemen and bishops. thats how i know what im dealin wit. and if it still works out that he aint the one, at least it was a good game.

By Raqi

April 7, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

IMO a player is someone who doesn’t state their true intentions upfront. Some one who offers up just enough to keep you hanging on but never following through. A person that says what you want to hear solely for their personal gain.

By The Truth

April 7, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this

Wow, we’re real righteous for this early on a monday morning. I think we all need to remember that nobodies out working hard for our respect, they’re working to gain pleasure in whatever way thet can.

For every player there’s someone willing to be played and that’s why this is a perfect world we live in. Is the player any more dishonorable than the the chick/guy that needs someone so bad they’ll overlook the obvious signs?

Also, some are assuming that being monogamous is a “higher” state. That’s not necessarily true as only 3% of all mammals are monogamous. Maybe a player just understands the stats and is better at applying them.

Instead of criminalizing players lets stand up and give them a round of applause for filling an obvious need in the market. LOL

By M.

April 7, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

I think the best way to spot them and to save yourself the heartache is to watch out for someone who is very general in the beginning. They dont have to give you their life story, but if they just give general answers like well Im just dating here and there, etc. That is a dead giveaway. Atlanta women have serious dating rotations just as the guys do also.

By Player (Rell)

April 7, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this

Standing ovation for you Kym…that is a good post

@abc…..superficial….ummm we see the outside first player….

@dasv…are we talking about chess or the dating game…lol

By 6'1 & Luvin it (Don Dada)=Playin both sides

April 7, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

Good Mornting people. I had a good weekend so I am serving you all breakfast! Salmon, cheese grits, eggs, chicken & gravy, rice, wheat toast, various juices, oatmeal, fresh fruit (pineapples & strawberries included) and Pepsi’s for everyone! Have at it!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

April 7, 2008 9:59 AM | Link to this

Truth “That’s not necessarily true as only 3% of all mammals are monogamous.”

The only problem with that is that human beings are the only mammals with a conscience. We can choose to ignore it, sure, but it’s still there nonetheless.

By Mo (aka Moeisha)

April 7, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

Morning All!!!

I have had my pepsi already so I’m good

Kym ^^^^^5 on that post! You spoke it!

LMAO @ WHAT

Hey Rell, hows it going mayne?

BRB…getting some work done first

By DasV

April 7, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

Truth you are a hot mess!! and i heard congrats was in order for you and Blow, or did i get wrong??

Rell LOL. you know me…. *you aint forgot, have you? chess = life = chess

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

Greetings everyone from Tampa. Hoping I can get to the beach today.

While I agree with Kym’s point, I think there is a difference between dating and being a player. I do think folks need to actually “date” more. But I also think people need to be honest in what they are looking for.

I think playas date just to date, keep the rotation going. I think it’s one thing to date in hopes of finding the right person, there is another in wanting all of the benefits of dating, while avoiding all responsibilites.

By abc

April 7, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

Sure we see the outside first. Everyone has heard “Don’t judge a book by its cover”. Everyone knows there are dogs that will try and play you. If Truth has a valid point, it’s that to fall for a liar means you lacked discernment, putting at least part of the onus upon yourself.

I’ve lacked such discernment in the past, and with some things I still struggle with it. It doesn’t make those kinds of people any less dishonorable, more trustworthy, deserving of any more respect. I just can’t respect a player.

By IslandGirl

April 7, 2008 10:07 AM | Link to this

Morning everyone. Hope you guys had a great weekend…nix the much needed rain.

Being the “player” vs “dating”:

Dating is what it is. For some folks there are no rules in dating. It really comes down to self respect and respect for others. I went through a phase in my life where I just wanted to date, and not be in a relationship. Some may look at this as being a player- I disagree because I was always straight forward with my intentions. However, I think the concept of being a player parallels with cheating (playing the field). Some folks are gullible. I think you have to know what you want, and stick to it. Don’t lower your standards even if you run into a so-called player.

PLUG: Players can be reformed.

Truth Hello handsome. I was looking for you this weekend….where you at?

By DasV

April 7, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

Raqi selfishness is really the heart of the matter. Darrell mentioned self esteem. that could be it. there are a lot more ‘needy’ ppl then there seemed to be back in the day….. seems with all our technology advances…. advances in general….. we are worse off then those twenty years ago. today if i tole a doctor my thoughts he’d give me a pill….. 20 years ago he’d have tole me to settle down with a good man and keep a garden.

By DreamsMaterialize

April 7, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

Morning Ya’ll Dating a player is a lot like dating someone with a fake leg: Am I the only one picturing that scene from I’m Gonna Get You Sucka? “Don’t make me hop after you…”

On-topic: Everyone is a player in the game of life, as I’m sure DasV would attest to. Everyone has a personal angle, and in dating we’re just trying to find people whose angle complements/supplements our own.

By pisces 08

April 7, 2008 10:18 AM | Link to this

Good morning All… Being a playa has played out. Dating is dating, no need to bed everyone you meet, but options in this city comes with the territory. Everyone is general in the beginning, they send their (rep), but as things progress there should be a purpose as to where this is going.

By Player (Rell)

April 7, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

@MO….whats up lady..how is it on your side

@ladydas….i have not forgotten…it was just extremely funny to me…lol..

a player is being a man about yours….see you ladies confuse a con man/liar/simp/coward with being a player. A player will tell you from day one this will not be a love connection. A player will tell you that you not the only one. A player will not be quick to sleep with you, because he knows that the most important thing he can give you is his seed. A player will make you bring more to the table than your looks and body. And most of all a player is a busy man..so idle chatter and courting may not always be in the plans..or a player maybe a lil unconvential when it comes to dating…thats a player…and i have only meet a few true to the game players since i touchdown here in atlanta….most dudes are playing dress up and repeating s** they see in film or print…

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

A player will tell you from day one this will not be a love connection.

Yeah, I definitely don’t date those.

By abc

April 7, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

No offense Rell, but that’s a little nauseating. Just exactly what kind of chick is that supposed to attract, and why would you want to attract her? Kind of disgusting, man.

By SexyCool

April 7, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

rell…i will respectfully disagree with your definition of a player…

the attributes you described are those of an honest individual…albeit a selfish, and seemingly uncaring one…but honest nonetheless…

a player is an individual…male or female…that preys on the affections of those partner(s) who may be emotionally invested in them to whatever level and through the use of deceipt and dishonesty seek to gain some advantage over their partner(s) whether that advantage be real or imagined…

By DasV

April 7, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

A player will not make you bring more to the table than your looks and body.

LOL…. thats me making an editorial correction to your post, Rell

dreamyONE you right. we all work our angles best we can…. and im searching for someone who is up to finishing the game. and who has mastered more than the first four jumpoff moves. riddle me this: why everyone having such a hard time finding they one… there aint that many angles??!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

April 7, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

Rell “A player will make you bring more to the table than your looks and body.”

That might be true, but it doesn’t apply only to players. I’m no player, but I still demand that a woman bring more to the table than her outer appearance, because the last thing I need is a “Naomi Campbell” on my hands (supermodel looks, but a Satanic attitude.)

By The Truth

April 7, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this

Also, lets not overlook the fact that we may actually create a player. Someone could be looking to date 1 on 1, until they meet us, and then they opt to stay on the market. LMAO

If you never want to be played do this. Look at a persons natural temperment. They can’t hide that no matter how smooth they are. After you determine their temperment you know the one thing they’ll always be true to. If he/she is “out there” go forward knowing thats what they’ll always do. They may alter themselves temporarily to accomplish something but they’ll always go back to what it is they are.

I have a friend that would be termed a “ho”. I’ve known her for about 7 years and every once in awhile she’ll say we should date. I know this chick for what she is and act accordingly. She sleeps with more men than most guys sleep with women. My point is why would I think this chick is going to do anything other than what she’s doing right now? She’s not. Her natural temperment is to have random sex, usually for money. If I got with her and she needed money what do you think she’d do? Your right. LMAO

IG hi beautiful. I hope you changed your mind about poochy.

Darrell a conscience is something that kicks in “after” you’ve done the bad deed. LOL

By Raqi

April 7, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this

IMO there is nothing wrong with dating as many people as you heart desire. But when you don’t let that be known then you are a player. When you are stringing people along you are a player. When you say one thing but know you mean something totally different you are a player. A player is one who is out to get it all for them not caring about the feelings or heart of the unsuspecting.

By DasV

April 7, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this

be honest darrell naomi aint even that pretty……

By Player (Rell)

April 7, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

@sexycool..that reads like a con man..but yeah i see where you going with it

@abc..nauseating..SO your saying that i should waste the womens time by not letting her know that i am not looking right now for something long term…then your saying that every women that i meet i should bed..then you are also saying that i give all i can to a women and dont expect her to give me anything other than some sex..is that what you are countering with..come on dude

a player will a attract the female on her business, secure with herself and not looking just to lay up with the first hard one that says hi…

@ared…so you dont like an honest person….you like to waste your time on b****** artist?….disclaimer..this return post was in no way meant to inflame you or cause an ongoing dept between you and i…sign..Rell

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

Rell - Interesting name change today. Do you still consider yourself a “player?”

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 10:48 AM | Link to this

Rell - Of course I like an honest person. But why would I EVER date a guy who tells me upfront that there is no chance for a love connection?

That’s not what I’M looking for, so why even go down that road?

By Candy

April 7, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

Truth You said a mouthful than ^5!!!!

Also, lets not overlook the fact that we may actually create a player. Someone could be looking to date 1 on 1, until they meet us, and then they opt to stay on the market. LMAO

By Candy

April 7, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

Truth You said a mouthful than ^5!!!!

Also, lets not overlook the fact that we may actually create a player. Someone could be looking to date 1 on 1, until they meet us, and then they opt to stay on the market. LMAO

By Staceye

April 7, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

Top of the dreary morning to ya….

6’1 I’ll take a Pepsi….

On Topic I have met my share of players. UGH! So now I will choose to be the Player and not the Played! I also have a verbal application when a guy approaches me…

-Do you have a job? If not…do not complete this application.

-What do you do as a financial means of suuporting yourself? street pharmacists and sexual entertainment managers may stop here.

-With whom do you reside..or who resides with you? Roommate does not include: wife, girlfriend, baby mama, girl you screw occasionally that thinks she’s your girl with the “understanding”!

-Are you single? That includes: wife, girlfriend, baby mama, girl you screw occasionally that thinks she’s your girl with the “understanding”!

-Are you straight? *That includes: never giving or receiving sexual pleasure from another man. For example, if you allow a guy to go down on you…YOU ARE GAY! Please do not continue..step back at least 200 ft. and get yourself to the nearest ship because you are drifting down that river called De Nile (denial)!

-Do you have any kids? That includes any on the way, any pending DNA and any that you do not see an/or support financially!

-Do you have a car? That does not include the ones you rent fron time to time, the one you borrow from your boy/brother/cousin/mama/etc., or your company car which can be taken away should you lose that job. Also if you are without a vehicle because you are saving for the S500 Benz on your $25K salary…keep it moving!

Now ladies, if he passed the initial physical test and them passes this test..he is worth talking to! Proceed to find out his goals and his beliefs on things that are important to you.

By Binford2K8

April 7, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

IslandGirl I hope your “players can be reformed” comment was not woman-speak for “I can fix him!”

By SexyLeggs

April 7, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

A player will tell you from day one this will not be a love connection. No, he won’t. A true player is a liar. I say this because if (s)he is honest in their true intentions, the score card would be 0! He’s out on the prey to get what is wanted. Deceit is the route most taken.

By Raqi

April 7, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

A player is someone who will sometimes have others funding their game. Like a woman that has one unsuspecting dud paying her rent, the other paying the car, another clothing her back all the while each one of them thinking he is the “one”.

Men more than less are the same. They have a flock of females all thinking she is the one and they are helping him fund his game for the next chick. Picking up one lady in the other lady’s vehicle. Wining and dining on another female’s dollar.

Most players get it all given to them. The only true work they have to do is keeping up the game and not getting caught.

Now there probably are women and men out there that are okay with this life style. What some will do just to be a part of a duo. Or trio, and on and on.

By DreamsMaterialize

April 7, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

DasV Nope, only 360 degrees, and all those 360 can be created from various transformations of 45 degrees. Guess it’s all the transformations clouding people’s path to the “right” one for them.

By Bit-O-Honey

April 7, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

Morning folks, I had a similar conversation with a dear friend regarding the dating game. Let’s face it people, dating is a game of sorts. A person who participates in any game is considered a player, there you have it, the definition of a player.

Everyone’s tactics for narrowing down the search for their best suitable mate varies. I personally don’t limit myself to one person, which is why I truly date. It’s like speed dating without the speed. However, I am responsible enough to tell my suitors that I am not currently dating exclusively and if they can’t get with it then I respect their decision to search elsewhere. Variety is the spice of life people, let’s have more spicy experiences..Holla!

By abc

April 7, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

No, Rell, in that kind of scenario I’d expect an honorable man to present himself as a platonic acquaintance, and stick to it. Get to know them, be a friend. That is obviously not what a “player” is.

By IslandGirl

April 7, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

Ared

• But why would I EVER date a guy who tells me upfront that there is no chance for a love connection?*

You know the sad thing is, there are a lot of people who still opt to date you after being told this. I met some really nice guys that wanted a relationship, while I was in the phase of “not wanting to be in a relationship”. There is some psychology in the fact that some fokls like to pursue the unattainable.

By Player (Rell)

April 7, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

@ared…i see your point…you should not waste your time..but my point is he told you…most guys will play the game to get some then tell you it will not work…and that is not mackish at all

name change…..lets see do i still think i am a player…in lifestyle choice yes i do….

By LorDemi the Game Master

April 7, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

I need professional help…DasV, I need to learn some game fast. LOL

You know it’s funny, I get more out of a woman just being honest, instead of playing game.

and ladies be honest, some of y’all love and have most respect for them player dudes…I know, use to be one.

By SexyCool

April 7, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

um…staceye…you left out inquiries about prison records, STD status, family history of mental illness, hit-a-bytch tendencies and requests for DNA samples…

(i kid, i kid)…

By For Real

April 7, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!1

Kym I agree 100%

Questions

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

April 7, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this

Das Looks notwithstanding, the principle still applies. The woman is paid millions of dollars for her physical attributes, but her attitude is another matter altogether. I can’t even imagine being her man and wondering from one day to the next when all hell is going to break loose again (and probably over some simple ish, too.)

Truth LOL! Well, I, for one, am very serious about my reputation and even if things don’t work out between me and her, it still matters to me that she’ll never be able to say that I lied to her or decieved her in any way. Whatever else didn’t go well between us, I want to be able to distinguish myself in that I took her heart seriously and didn’t include her as part of some ridiculous “rotation” with other women.

By IslandGirl

April 7, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this

Binford No, that is the worst thing a person can try to do…fix someone. I think a person that is a chaser or player (today’s label) can grow up. Some of the so called players are the lonelist people around. Trust me I dated one.

By Staceye

April 7, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

SexyCool hit-a-bytch tendencies LMAO! Girl you are right on that one! But I do ask the other questions that you mentioned after they past the initial testing.

For Real I thought being SINGLE meant a non-committed person that is true..however people tend to use that too easily. Like, if a person is not married but in a relationship they will say they are single because they are not married. I do not appreciate the creeps like that.

By Raqi

April 7, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

My brother was once a player. The boy makes a six figure salary a year but always had some woman buying him something. Always treating him to a fancy restaurant. A vacation. He talked one woman into paying for a trip that he took another woman on. Women cleaning his house just so he can invite another woman over. Taking a woman out in the $1000 outfit purchased by another woman.

He says he is reformed but he still has women here in Atlanta that he call on if I tell him I need some info. I’ll call to ask him something and he says “Hold on let me call my girl XYZ and she will take care of it.

The apartment where my son lives is managed by one of his old girlfriends. Easy as pie to get in.

Now those are my opinions on what makes a player.

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

Island Girl - Good point about pursing the unattainable. Just seems like an unneccesary headache for me. The bigger dilemma is when you get 6 months into ‘dating’ and the guy tells you he doesn’t see a future with you…now you have feelings tho. That sucks!

Rell - He gets a slow clap for his honesty. But there are guys who do want a relationship and will tell you up front, and there are guys who date you and then tell you it won’t go any further. Honesty should be a given…period.

What does that mean you’re a player by “lifestyle choice?” I’m still confused.

By Blow Me a.k.a ROOKIE COOKIE

April 7, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this

* Good Morning All*

I see it’s a very slow motion Mondays! Yeah no one has time to play the game of dating like it’s chess..I take that back… Really it is a chess game…When dating each move should be stragtically thought out. Whether or not if that is the right move you need to make for yourself. You can’t get caught up on what someone says….At this age I need alot of ACTION. Talk with no action…equals a bonafide BULL$HITTER! Blow hates gettin bull$hitted…I usually like to do the bull$hitting. lmao!!

Truth What’s good stink pot? I see you are on your usual…..

Instead of criminalizing players lets stand up and give them a round of applause for filling an obvious need in the market. LOL

Please….save this crap. It’s too early in the day for stench of your garbage to heat up and boil over into the blog. Please give us all a much need break this week. PLEASE! Go cuddle up with you poodles and read um a book. lmao!! Truth you are softer then my granny’s biscuits on a Hot Summer sunday morning!!

By For Real

April 7, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

ARed But why would I EVER date a guy who tells me upfront that there is no chance for a love connection?

What’s the difference when you tell a dude that you are not sexing?

Sexyleggs No, he won’t. A true player is a liar. I say this because if (s)he is honest in their true intentions, the score card would be 0! He’s out on the prey to get what is wanted. Deceit is the route most taken. You fall for liars and all people lie but that goes back to my women like to be lied to theory. Oh and if someone can prey on another person’s emotion then that person should look at themselves and the issues that they have bc they are overt and unsolved.

Raqi That’s not a player! That is a male/female ho. Sex for money is prostitution period. Again, where is the other person’s responsibility for their actions?

By LorDemi the Game Master

April 7, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

Darrell I feel you there. You can dang near call me me anything, but call me a lair and you likely to meet my ugly side.

Note: in my former life I just straight ask for the puddy after date one and bounce if told no

Darrell I feel you there. You can dang near call me anything, but call me a lair and you likely to meet my ugly side.

Note: in my former life I just straight ask for the puddy after date one and bounce if told no

I was so lame, LOL

For Real can you do a skit of my asking for puddy? I need to beg sexylegg or Ms.Eye

By abc

April 7, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

If dating is a chess game, then no offensive move should be made that allows for defensive weakness, allowing the opponent egress; personal gain is the only motivation for playing; you win or lose depending on who’s piece gets taken. The other person is an opponent. That doesn’t describe dating, to me. I like a good game of chess, though.

By DreamsMaterialize

April 7, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

Demi You know it’s funny, I get more out of a woman just being honest, instead of playing game Just being yourself and running no game is what I call the No-game Game. lol

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

What’s the difference when you tell a dude that you are not sexing?

For Real - Who said there was a difference? If that’s something he’s not cool with, he’s free to move on.

By Staceye

April 7, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

Raqi your brother had beetr be careful…he could be hurt or worse by a woman he mistreats.

By Angie aka B

April 7, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this

good morning y’all! what’s up wise?

when you meet someone you should always assume they are seeing other people

yes, you would be a fool not to. the guys i have dated stated this up front and i appreciated that (dating others). i don’t think these fellas are players. they waste no time telling the women they date that they are not looking for marriage or commitment (but in the distant future). they just want to meet new ppl and have fun for awhile. it is the woman’s fault for not hearing this and assuming she should now be the only one. this is where trying to change a man comes into play! stop it!

i can spot a player by listening to the first line he spits to me. if it sounds wack as h3ll, then the man behind that line is wack as h3ll.

staceye no wisdom teeth getting pulled today. the birth control pills i’m on gave me high blood pressure. damn! anyhoo … … … .

By For Real

April 7, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this

2E’s Like, if a person is not married but in a relationship they will say they are single because they are not married.

But according to the laws of this country and many other ones, isn’t that person single? A relationship is not marriage. They even spelled differently. Kind of like our Platonic Relationship. Now, get up off my lap. I have to go wipe something off.

For Real now slapping the ish out of SexyCool but he didn’t mean it and this is the first time For Real has ever slapped the ish out of a lady with his right hand.

By Player (Rell)

April 7, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

@ared..i am sure you are confused…lol..meaning that i still think that way if i were to be single again…i would be honest and carry myself that way….i will go back to what i know….thats what i mean…and of course we swing so when choosing couples or an extra that screening process goes into effect as well…..

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

For Real - I agree with you…he’s either a jiggalo or a pimp. LOL

By Staceye

April 7, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

Angie did you just start those pills?

For Real It’s ok to say you are “not married” but to say single implies not commitment to anyone. But if you made a verbal committment to your girlfriend/boyfriend to be only with eachother…why be a snake? BE REAL!

By DasV

April 7, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

dreamyONE 360 / 45 = 8….. but alright. i do be seeing your point. no matta wha we do or at wha degree we jump into the game …. we all just goin in circles. sad

LorDemi seems the blog bruthas are the experts in this field…. but you been there, done that before. maybe its like riding a bike…… LOL

darrell i hear ya! the inside will make the outside ugly.

By LorDemi the Game Master

April 7, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

For Real If a woman is paying a dude to sleep with her…she is a ho and he is a player…simple as that, LOL.

Dude is a respectable player in my book, LOL

Where is Du?

By IslandGirl

April 7, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

Sexy I missed your earlier post: A true player is a liar. I say this because if (s)he is honest in their true intentions, the score card would be 0! He’s out on the prey to get what is wanted. Deceit is the route most taken.

* What is deceptive about a person telling you straight out they are not wanting to be in a relationship with you or anyone else at that time in their life?*

When some men and women get caught up in a person that represents (the ideal boyfriend or girlfriend) what they are looking for (their type)- all sense of good judgment goes out the window.

If someone tells you they are just dating, and not looking for a relationship- you can either accept this and move on, or date the person with the knowledge that you’re not the only person in the picture. It is that simple.

Now the guys and gals that keep unsuspecting victims at bay by playing with their heartstrings, allowing them to think love is in the air, and a commitment exists are liars, cheaters, and players.

By Player (Rell)

April 7, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

@angie….i cosing your post..good one

By For Real

April 7, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

Demi on the prowl at an abortion clinic………

Demi: Hello how are you?

Chick: WTF??? Do you not realize where you are?

Demi: So, ummmm you give me some or what?

Chick now beating Demi’s head with a bag full of super duper absorbent pads.

By kimmie

April 7, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

For Real - You asked What do women hear when a man says “I do want to get married but I am dating right now?” I don’t know about other women, but I hear I want to get married ONE DAY, but right now I’m just out there having fun, going out with different people, not in anything committed. I have usually heard this when I first met someone. I don’t see the statement as a bad thing, I’ve said it myself. I don’t take that particular statement and make any assumptions, it is what it is. We are just meeting each other. It does say to me that he is open to being in a committed relationship but maybe has not met that person and is therefore out & about, meeting and dating. Sounds upfront & honest to me.

By Raqi

April 7, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

ForReal who said anything about sex. I don’t know, but really doubt if a player sexes every victim. I know my bro says that he didn’t. His charm, HA, just made these women want to do things for him and some still do. That is the thing. He had some that he sexed and some that he didn’t. My friend Lacy is called on (sex???) every time he comes to town and she says she has never bought him anything other than a drink and a meal.

And yeah I have told him many times that he is ho.

By Angie aka B

April 7, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

staceye i’m on my 3rd month.

you are not considered single if you’re in a committed relationship!

Now the guys and gals that keep unsuspecting victims at bay by playing with their heartstrings, allowing them to think love is in the air, and a commitment exists are liars, cheaters, and players.

^5.

By For Real

April 7, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

ARed Cool but the next time don’t preface your responds to the sex issue as such: “If a dude can’t respect my choice”

2E’s Only married people are committed to each other. Single means un-committed even if he/she stated that you where in a committed relationship. Besides, no term is ever stated in those kind of relationship. Unlike our Platonic Relationship which is forever. Oh and I will be over tonight to help you undress and scratch your back.

By The Truth

April 7, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

For Real some just can’t see that not everyone wants those golden chains called matrimony. They think their reality is the only one.

Blow aka Mayor McCheesy good morning. I could of swore I took out the trash this morning.

Here’s the numbers: In your life you will know about 3-5 people that will truely love you for who you are. The rest, while seeming to have good intentions, could really give a flying fugg about you. They may care to the degree that you fill a temporary need such as friendship, phone buddy, but if you died tonight most would be bad mouthing you tomorow morning. With that knowledge you falling for the thousands of people that could care less is nobodies fault but your own. If that person took advantage of you it’s because you let them. This is just more of that victim mentality that permeates our society. Take responsibilty for your good and bad decisions.

DasV Life itself is a chess game. 99.9% of the time somebodies gotta win and someones gotta lose. Your all working at jobs that someone else lost, dating people that someone else lost, loving someone that someone else cared for and lost. You don’t have “that” much conscience to care about the person who came in 2nd, you only care when it’s you.

By LorDemi the Game Master

April 7, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

DreamsMaterialize/DasV I will admit, i am too lazy to play any games. Women are getting crazy, there is no tell what you will catch, and Gas is too freakin high to be driving all over Atlanta for a$$ day in day out…now if gas was still $1.19…

Ssssssssssshhhhid!!

Bump Atlanta, I’ll tell miss new york I’ll see her at 9pm and miss boston in a hour or two, LOL…

DasV is now choking Demi back to reality

By Raqi

April 7, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

LOL Staceye I think that is why he is now reformed.

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

meaning that i still think that way if i were to be single again…i would be honest and carry myself that way….i will go back to what i know….thats what i mean

Rell - Hmmm…I guess. It’s just those days have been over for you for a while now. I just wonder why you keep posting from that mindstate then where you are in 2008. But hey, I guess you can live your single days on here vicariously if you want to. Just find it a little odd, is all.

By For Real

April 7, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

kimmie you cool with me but why do some women hear that and then 30 days later act confused when you repeat what you said?

For Real now squeezing by kimmie while accidently brushing up against her booty in a hallway that is 30’ wide.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

April 7, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

IslandGirl “If someone tells you they are just dating, and not looking for a relationship…”

Well, speaking only for myself, those are words a woman I’m dating will never hear me say. I’m not dating anyone right now, but when I do date, it’s only one woman at a time and with the express goal of meeting someone I can marry.

By IslandGirl

April 7, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

Truth The love/hate relationship you have with Blow makes my day! lol

Raqi your brother reminds me of my brother….too funny.

Out to lunch

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

Cool but the next time don’t preface your responds to the sex issue as such: “If a dude can’t respect my choice”

For Real - Um, “next time” I can “preface” it any damn way I want to…just like he has the right to say “that bytch wasn’t trying to give it up” if he wants to.

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

Truth - By the way kudos to your post on “natuaral temperment.” I think that’s why I’m wary of those guys who are always bragging on their dizznick. LOL

By Staceye

April 7, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

For Real you are a mess! LOL

By DasV

April 7, 2008 12:00 PM | Link to this

so truth i agree. life is a chess game. endless moves in life for sole purpose of better positioning or cause some cat got us on the defensive, and we unwilling to ‘grow’.

i dont really buy into the whole ‘losing’ thing though…. im reminded an ole reggae tune i pray to jah, but him didnt listen, cause he was watching ova meh and my eyes just couldnt see….. what was lost by my ex- was my winning moment. and i dont think that in the game of life someone has to lose…. if played well, it should be a win-win situation.

we have misconceptions that its suppose to be all peachy-keen … but it aint eva gonna be that. there are serious ebbs and flows to this thing and my pet-peeve is everyones seemingly inability to put in the work. (again sad)

By Player (Rell)

April 7, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

@ared…mindstate…umm this is a dating blog so i am speaking from that part of me….now if you wanna know anything marriage related you can ask or if the topic is about marriage i can post on it…i am not living thru anyone..dont you know the new single man is married(joking)…lol…and my days of meeting folks is not over i meet folks all the time….i speak to women all the time…i am married not dead and i know how to respectfully decline advances….for some reason you have a bad POV of me…like i am out for new poo see or something?

By kimmie

April 7, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

For Real - There will always be people, male & female, who are not rooted in reality. They hear what they want to hear. Or, they think that after the 30 days have passed, he/she’s mind has changed. They may even think “I’ll make him/her fall in love with me”! I got played like that ONE TIME when I was younger. Now I take a man at his WORD. I’ve actually had to remind a few of what THEY originally said when they wonder why I seem to be holding back. I have a friend now I constantly remind of this when she calls crying about this dude she likes. He told her up front he didn’t want anything serious, but she has selective memory! She thought sex would bring him around. It usually never does, no matter how good it is. If a person does not want a relationship and has told you, BELIEVE IT!!

For Real, if you don’t watch that accidental bumping, I WILL go to HR (wink, wink)

By Blow Me a.k.a ROOKIE Cookie

April 7, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

IG The constant dyck ryding you do for Stink pot Truth makes my day everytime. lmao!

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 12:09 PM | Link to this

like i am out for new poo see or something?

Rell - You keep saying this, not me. I don’t ask “subtle” questions. I ask direct ones. If I don’t state it explicitly, no need for you to read between the lines.

But as always, do you bro.

By LucyLue

April 7, 2008 12:09 PM | Link to this

hello

By Angie aka B

April 7, 2008 12:13 PM | Link to this

IG ummm. nrr’mind. smdh.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

April 7, 2008 12:15 PM | Link to this

Morning, LucyLue. :-)

By The Truth

April 7, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

For Real the next time you brush up against my blog wife Kimmie me and you are gonna have words. So what if she’s seeing someone else, has slept with guys for money, is generally a player, and only wants me for material things. She’s my wife and I wub her.

IG i’m trying to find a collar big enough for Blow’sneck so I can begin training with her. I just worry about those sharp azzed teeth.

Ared you get real froggy sometimes. When i move in i’m going to put you on my 3x weekly massage program to relax that tension. However, if your wearing those white cotton undies i’m going to throwup all over your back. Just giving you a warning.

Staceye are we still friends this week? ( The Truth now peeping around a corner to see if it’s safe) If so come and give me big azz hug. (Yes, I know she’s gonna slap me)

Darrell you stump me. I’m a mean piece of shyt dude and I had an ex ask me to marry her last week. If I spit the kind of game you do I’d have 3000 applicants. The MLB is going to have to do a serious game review on you. Somewhere between your intentions and your delivery your program is experiencing a huge diconnect. We may need to put you in a pit with Blow to toughen you up. Naw, that’s inhumane. She’s a beast, really.

By SexyLeggs

April 7, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

Ok ForReal, but I’m sticking to what I posted. Yes, we all lie. When a person tells a lie and attempts to assuage anothers feelings simply to get one’s clothes around the ankles is deceit.

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

Well, I, for one, am very serious about my reputation and even if things don’t work out between me and her, it still matters to me that she’ll never be able to say that I lied to her or decieved her in any way. Whatever else didn’t go well between us, I want to be able to distinguish myself in that I took her heart seriously and didn’t include her as part of some ridiculous “rotation” with other women.

Darrell - ^5 for this post. And I find it just as “honest” as the guy who states there could never be a love connection.

Different strokes for different folks.

By LorDemi the Game Master

April 7, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

DasV Your wu style is dangerous:

The game of chess, is like a swordfight You must think first, before you move Toad style is immensely strong, and immune to nearly any weapon When it’s properly used, it’s almost invincible:

Raw I’ma give it to ya, with no trivia Raw like cocaine straight from Bolivia My hip-hop will rock and shock the nation like the Emancipation Proclamation Weak MC’s approach with slang that’s dead you might as well run into the wall and bang your head I’m pushin’ force, my force your doubtin’ I’m makin’ devils cower to the Caucus Mountains…

My peoples are you with me where you at? In the front, in the back killa-bees on attack my peoples are you with me where you at? Smokin meth hittin caps on the block with the gats

Here I go, deep type flow Jacque Cousteau could never get this low..I’m cherry bombin shyts… BOOM Just warmin up a little bit, vroom vroom Rappinin is what’s happenin Keep the pockets stacked and then, hands clappin and At the party when I move my body Gotta get up, and be-eeeee somebody! Grab the microphone put strength to the bone DUH-DUH-DUH…enter the Wu-Tang zone Sure enough when I rock that stuff Guff puff?? I’m gonna catch your bluff tuff rough, kickin rhymes like Jim Kelly or Alex Haley im a Mi-..Beetle Bailey rhymes comin raw style, hardcore N!ggaz be comin to the hip-hop store Comin to buy gro-cery from me Tryin to be a hip-hop MC The law, in order to enter the Wu-Tang You must bring the Ol’ Dirty B******* type slang Represent the GZA, Abbott, RZA, Shaquan, Inspectah Deck Dirty Hoe gettin low wit his flow Introducin, the Ghost..face.. Killah!! No one could get illa

By Staceye

April 7, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

Stop grabbin’ my azz Truth!!! LOL

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 12:23 PM | Link to this

Truth - I “read” froggy, but all it is sass. I’m sassy. LOL. In person, the wink and the smile let you know I’m having fun with every moment of it. ;-)

By kimmie

April 7, 2008 12:25 PM | Link to this

Truth - I can do a lot of things, but a bigamist I won’t do!! Even if you & Leggs divorce is final!!!LOL Talk about a PLAYER!!LOL

By Staceye

April 7, 2008 12:31 PM | Link to this

Demi that is my song. I rememeber dancing with a hip-hop/Reggae dance group to this song in a talent in school. That is when Staten Island thought the were hot shyt! Uptown and Brooklyn had to put them back in their place by letting them know we still do not want to count them even though they are the 5th burrough! LOL

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

April 7, 2008 12:37 PM | Link to this

Truth “If I spit the kind of game you do I’d have 3000 applicants.”

No, you wouldn’t. You’d be lucky even to have three, simply because of all the other “stuff” a lot of (not all) women are looking for.

Trust me, man. I’m learning even now that it’s not enough for a man to simply “spit the right game” (as you put it), they’re also looking for an “experience” along with that, because it’s the presence of chill bumps and butterflies that oftentimes serve as confirmation to them that a certain man might be “the one” for them.

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 12:42 PM | Link to this

If a person does not want a relationship and has told you, BELIEVE IT!!!

Amen kimmie and bravo to your 12:05.

By LorDemi the Game Master

April 7, 2008 12:49 PM | Link to this

Darrell dayum you lost me with that last post, HUH?

Ms.Eye They’re all some broken home negros, LOL

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

LorDemi - I think he’s saying most women find him to be a bore.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

April 7, 2008 12:58 PM | Link to this

Demi

My bad. I’m multi-tasking between the blog and conference calls. LOL! I’ll try and re-type it.

By LorDemi the Game Master

April 7, 2008 1:04 PM | Link to this

AmazonRed I thought so, i know I am slow…but Darrell, I felt the wording was wrong.

By kimmie

April 7, 2008 1:06 PM | Link to this

AmRed - What’s shakin?! It’s kinda crazy up in here today, only 3 of my staff of 10 is present! 5 were scheduled off, but 2 called in sick! We’re holding it down, but I told them to do what they can and don’t worry about it. We are business-casual and are only supposed to wear jeans on Friday, but today I said to heck with it! My boss ended up telling us we could wear jeans all week!

By 6'1 & Luvin it (Don Dada)=Playin both sides

April 7, 2008 1:12 PM | Link to this

Hello good people. I ate too much for breakfast, but those salmon sure hit the spot. Now I will elaborate on my whole take on the “playa” concept. I feel as if a person is using the others weakness to gain by lying and manipulation that is a playa. But if you are truthful and upfront and a person knows what is going on they cannot say that they have been played. Honesty is always my best policy. Men tend to accept a girl easily. In fact they are proud to say My girl, got a girl friend.

By Player (Rell)

April 7, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

darrell…the experience…did someone tell you that…i mean chill bumps and butterflies….what is that suppose to mean

here is the thing..your frame is not strong dude..you coming in with you cards all on the table….true you can state your intentions up front….and go from there…you dont have to go overboard with it….it turns some women off….you have know you audience and if the women you seek is looking for and experience then give her one…dust off your acting chops and play..nothing wrong with that….hell all women want a super hero a man larger than life…being average or ordinary for some women is straight boring..and you reading like you boring dude

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

kimmie - Glad you still have time to blog! Don’t let em work you too hard so you can’t blog today. LOL You seem like a nice boss lady.

I’m trying to get out of here and go to the beach, but my boss called from a number I didn’t recognize and gave me a shyt load of work to do. Crap. LOL. I think I’ll try to knock it out early tomorrow.

By abc

April 7, 2008 1:22 PM | Link to this

Let ‘em think you’re boring. Put all your cards on the table. It’s not a popularity contest, the winner isn’t the one with the most ho’s — the winner is the one that finds the one, and that one won’t be bored by who and what you really are.

How’d you like it if that one didn’t get you because you ran game instead of being the real you?

Pizzin in the wind, in the long run.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

April 7, 2008 1:26 PM | Link to this

Demi

In my original response to Truth, my point was that, contrary to what he said, he’d be fortunate to have even three “applicants” because as much as much as he might “spit the right game” (as he put it), there are still too many women out there who determine if a man is the “right” one for them based on whether or not they “experience” chill bumps and butterflies as opposed to considering the actual substance of the man himself. This goes back to the point I made earlier about Naomi Campbell. Same thing. It’s about what matters most to you, not who’s “boring” or not.

Hope that makes better sense this time.

By kimmie

April 7, 2008 1:30 PM | Link to this

AmRed - I really don’t have time to blog, but I bust my butt all the time up in here, so I deserve a break er now & then!LOL Three of my staff will be back tomorrow & some have the nerve to complain that they don’t have enought to do! But yeah, we do have fun most days, even with a lot of work.

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 1:30 PM | Link to this

abc - I agree with your 1:22. Great post.

By 6'1 & Luvin it (Don Dada)=Playin both sides

April 7, 2008 1:36 PM | Link to this

Thanks Darrell for that clarification. I thought it was spring break but I see that the short bus pulled up on you this morning. Get off the Bus!!!!!!! I rode it on friday!

By For Real

April 7, 2008 1:36 PM | Link to this

Truth My bag bruh. I didn’t mean grind… i mean rub…umm bump up against your lady *kimmie. I’ll go back the way I came.

Feeling guilty, For Real now squeezing back by kimmie 1 inch every 30 seconds.

Sexyleggs Why don’t you put the blame where it lies? No one can do anything to you unless you let them. Again, if someone can play on your emotion or lie to you and you pull your skirt up then that’s your fault.

For Real now slapping Ared on the azz for a good shot.

Six-one Ummm here is a peppermint first, they the soft kind when are we going to go hunting. I’ll bring my Busa. Well maybe I’ll bring six I don’t want to leave you.

By Player (Rell)

April 7, 2008 1:37 PM | Link to this

@abc…problem is he not picking the boring chicks…you have to get it how live…..if he going for women outside of his nature then he needs to adjust some things…..

By 6'1 & Luvin it (Don Dada)=Playin both sides

April 7, 2008 1:40 PM | Link to this

For real, For Real Did you ride yesterday? I had a goodtime, I was on the east side (Glenwood)!

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

For Real now slapping Ared on the azz for a good shot

AmazonRed now purring at* For Real

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

April 7, 2008 1:43 PM | Link to this

abc That 1:22 was a damn good post, man. ^5!

By LorDemi the Game Master

April 7, 2008 1:45 PM | Link to this

abc/darrell Y’all two must be looking for friends only, LOL>

Now now, yes i do understand were you’re both coming from.

By SexyLeggs

April 7, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

ForReal, I’m not posting on my emotions. I’m posting a small part of life. The question wasn’t geared toward me specifically. It’s merely an observation from what I’ve seen done to others. Don’t forget ForReal, I’m not dating so my emotions are very much in tact. But, for the record let’s keep it real. Every one is playing someone at some time all the time! When I’m ready, I’ll be ready. I’m merely testing the waters right now. Nothing personal over here.

By For Real

April 7, 2008 1:55 PM | Link to this

Chick: So tell me something about yourself.

Dude: Well where should I start (taking a deep breath) I have a library card at 4 different libraries, I like to cross lace my dress shoes but I do standard lace with my bball shoes, I don’t like the winsor knot, I own 14 pair of black socks, my office ceiling has 87 holes in each tile, I use murray instead of duke, for fun I like to hang upside down and calculate the interest I’m earning on my 401k, my gas tank holds exactly 12.08 gals of gas, I can crack my toes, I like Heniz better than Hunts, Iztar was the greatest movie ever made, it take 1.2 seconds for whiteout to dry, it takes 142 strokes to brush my teeth, it takes me 1 yrs and 8 months to use a whole 4 pack of tissue paper, I like sock puppets…..

Chick now stabbing herself in the eye with an Oyster fork.

By The Truth

April 7, 2008 1:59 PM | Link to this

Staceye “Stop grabbin’ my azz Truth!!! LOL” I’m sorry, the men in my family are all afflicted with this “loose hands” disease. It’s terrible but we’re working on a cure.

Darrell it’s hard to make a chick tingle if you’re on the bottom or even on the same level. Women tingle for men they want, they want men they respect, they respect men with a backbone. The short story is she’ll tingle if you have a backbone. LOL The next time you see a woman you’re interested in look her in the eye and tell her she’s going to be yours. The key is you gotta believe it in your heart or she’s gonna know your soft as ramen noodles, cooked. Even if she doesn’t like you she’ll always respect you. After a few dudes fugg her over she’ll call you because she’ll remember that respect. Try it and tell me how hard she slaps you, I mean how it works it. LOL

For Real go ahead and grind on Kimmie. Me and her are through. Can you believe that chick would leave me because of someting as trivial as another wife? Times have surely changed.

Can you be celibate if you receive oral sex from a woman? I won’t grab her head or anything. If so I’m going to be celibate.

By Wise Diva

April 7, 2008 1:59 PM | Link to this

Hey guys! @what - I call him chef because he has gone to culinary school, but dude has an MBA and is a top exec at a company now.

abc..can we go over how I am superficial again (not totally denying it)…but, I think I missed something..and I didn’t know I was accumulating points with you? how FUN! What number am I on now though :(

By Jazzyone

April 7, 2008 2:01 PM | Link to this

Seriouly I don’t want to know everything about a person on the first date. If a guy did come at me and tell me on the first date that there is a love connection those are red flags in my world. How in the world would he know that when we don’t even know each other. I date many but don’t consider myself a player I am open and honest about it to all of them. I date many from time to time because that one hasn’t come into my life yet.

Player is someone in my opinion who is dishonest in his dating techniques and practices.

By For Real

April 7, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this

Six-One I rode for a short time yesterday. I had the need for speed yesterday so I timed myself to see how fast I could get to AL. You know we work close to each other and we have some company ties.

Sexyleggs I know you were not speaking personally and I was not responding you directly. Now, come give me a hug.

For Real and Sexyleggs zippers are now stuck together. Too bad Sexylegg’s skirt zips up in the back or we could play it off.

By Blow Me a.k.a ROOKIE Cookie

April 7, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this

Ared I must say you were on the fence with me…But I have truly learned to understand and like you better…..The things you say are ON point….80% of the time. I have got to give you your props. You name is on the Blow’s much love list…

Here take a look

Notice how it’s nothing but strong women on there…lol! We have to band together to fight the forces of EVIL and Stink pot Truth’s racid croded breath!!

By Player (Rell)

April 7, 2008 2:04 PM | Link to this

@for reall…thanks for the laugh dude..that is the funniest i have read all day…cracking toes and sock puppets….lol

By 6'1 & Luvin it (Don Dada)=Playin both sides

April 7, 2008 2:13 PM | Link to this

LLamf at for real’s 1:55.

By The Truth

April 7, 2008 2:15 PM | Link to this

Jazzy “Player is someone in my opinion who is dishonest in his dating techniques and practices.” Not true. A player gets you to lie to yourself. There’s a big difference between a player and a liar.

Blow I apologize for calling you a troll. I meant to say you have a few troll like features. The overly large adams apple, the long stringy hair, those shark like teeth, those black finger and toe nails that curl backwards and that smell of indian sweat lodge are a bit much. Other than that and your black gums, facial hair, unibrow and long arms with that short body you’re a sweet troll, I mean chick. BTW, Rell and 900 are dudes, unless you know something we don’t. LOL

Has anyone heard that Johnny Gill and Eddie Murphy have been dating for a long time?

By AmazonRed

April 7, 2008 2:15 PM | Link to this

Thanks Blow. I am abrasive as heck. I know this about myself, but I’m not intentionally hurtful. If you can get past the tone of the words, you might be able to see I make a little bit of sense. LOL

Y’all take it easy today.

By kimmie

April 7, 2008 2:18 PM | Link to this

Truth - Don’t get ya draws in a bunch!!LOL!!!!!!!!!!

By SexyLeggs

April 7, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

My arms are wide open ForReal, you can walk right into them. WHAT, how the hell did you walk into the wall????

Ok, I thought you were posting to me personally. It’s all good now!

BlowMe, you are definitely on my list as well.

By LorDemi the Game Master

April 7, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

Can you be celibate if you receive oral sex from a woman? I won’t grab her head or anything

Truth, naw!! I believe celibate is refraining from any sexual action that will stimulate an orgasm or close to it, LOL

Dude, did you hear how fast those vibrators clicked off??

And each woman is different…*Wise D. will marry Truth or L.L. and Ared is draggin Darrell to the Vegas.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

April 7, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

Rell “…and you reading like you boring dude…”

What?! You say that as if there was some award or something for “Most Exciting Blogger of the Day”. LOL! Look, you’re usually cool with me, man, but you got me SMH big time on this one. However you’re reading me today is how I read every day on this blog, and if that comes across as boring, then so be it. Sorry (not really) if I don’t keep you on the edge of your seat with how many clubs I hit or how many chicks I got with over the weekend, but I’d be more than happy to share with you how much fun my kids and I have had the past two weekends prior to them going away for Spring Break this week. How’s that?

You see, I have absolutely nothing to prove to a bunch of people I don’t even know - and who don’t know me - so I’m not concerned with who perceives me as being “this” or “that”. I’ve been the real me since my first post on this blog - used my real name and everything from day one. But, I guess that was boring, too, right? Not coming up with some really catchy blog name?

LOL! smdh

By For Real

April 7, 2008 2:32 PM | Link to this

Blow How did you get 8 people in your 5?**

By abc

April 7, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

Diva, mod up and down, that’s just a saying that comes from blog world, similar to the way AJC vents can be scored up or down a point. I’m not keeping score. I’m sure you’re okay, and will be just fine, with or without my feedback!

I wouldn’t think many would tell their life story and espouse upon their main goal of marriage or anything like that on a first date, Jazzy. I mean, I’ve had a few first dates like that, we didn’t have 2nd ones. Mostly for other reasons, though.

By The Truth

April 7, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this

Blow you’re on my list too. LOL

By The Melo

April 7, 2008 2:51 PM | Link to this

The bigger dilemma is when you get 6 months into ‘dating’ and the guy tells you he doesn’t see a future with you No problem here ared, coz 6 mths is not even that long, if u only dating.The problem here is, in 6 months, he has already hit without commiting to u and without u commiting to each other.So whats the point in him commiting if he can get it when he wants it.Its ur problem, the woman for letting him and leading with ur puddsy. Ladies do that all the time and thats why u end up labelling a brother a player. If u play by the rules, date, date and date somemore and if u feeling each other, express or pop the QS or suggest* i feel like dating u exclusively* and if he says cool but multiple dates, u are within ur rights to call him a player.Otherwise brothers will continue enjoying ur salad if u use ur pudsy as carrot and stick becoz u so desperate for smething. I would too. DasV,Foots,Sexxy,Cem,Truth,Staceye,Tazz and whle gang, whats up guys!!

By Blow Me a.k.a ROOKIE Cookie

April 7, 2008 2:52 PM | Link to this

For Real I did not say my top 5….I just said list not top 5…..Don’t you get on my $hit list now! Although Truth has that from 1 through 10….LMAO!

By Angie aka B

April 7, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

what did i miss?

ared why even go that route when stating your point.

abc ^5. bringing up marriage on the first date is not a good idea. lots of laughs and fun should be the only thing on the agenda.

darrell i’m shocked you let that get to you.

rell have you met a boring chick before? did you keep her around or introduced her to new things?

By Jazzyone

April 7, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

I said what a player is in my opinion Truth. I’ve been dating long enough to know when I encounter a player a liar and the like. Another deffinition does nothing for me abc Everyone has a style in the way that they date. Ive encountered most of them. Come across liars, cheats, undercover gay, copies of credit reports aids tests, family protraits, Im in love on the first date types and all that bullshyt and the like. I mash out and peel out on them.

Based on the responses to my OPINION I now remember why I don’t frequent the blog as often. Have a great day. :-)

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

April 7, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this

angie It’s Monday. LOL!

By Alvin

April 7, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

Something I wonder, are you folk even enjoying the dating world…

If me and said woman aint clickin, I bounce and keep it moving…I haven’t been on a boring date in the hot minute.

By IslandGirl

April 7, 2008 3:27 PM | Link to this

Melo ^5 on your post. That is so true. As women we can set the tone of the relationship. Once you engage in sex going in, then what else will the guy expect from you. We had this same discussion at church over the weekend. Women have to realize men are physical (women are often emotional). I don’t care how many guys on this board disagree with me on this: when a guy meets a woman he is attracted to his sexual instincts prowess will kick in. He is figuring out when and where it will happen. Most guys know based on their interactions with a woman how quickly they can get her in bed, or even if it is likely.

Blow do me a favor and keep that crazy s** between you and Truth…ok chica. ..dyck riding…. wow

By Blow Me a.k.a ROOKIE Cookie

April 7, 2008 3:32 PM | Link to this

IG Do me a favor and keep my name outcha mouth. Well it’s true you do be dyck ryding Stink Pot Truth everyday. Even he can not deny that and nor can anyone else. Take your role and bow gracefully!! It is what it is….You ryde Truth DAILY!!!

By Raqi

April 7, 2008 3:36 PM | Link to this

FYI If any of you should find yourself visiting/vacationing in the south Florida region, stay at The Atlantic Resort & Spa. It will be worth every penny. Well at least that’s is my opinion.

By IslandGirl

April 7, 2008 3:37 PM | Link to this

Alvin how are you doing, sweetheart?

Can you be so lonely that you would seek the company of someone that is boring? Why? Look if a guy cannot offer me some intellectual conversation (at the very least)- then don’t even expect a second date.

By Alvin

April 7, 2008 3:42 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl ummmm…like, why am I reading your post with a thick accent?

By Raqi

April 7, 2008 3:42 PM | Link to this

What is considered boring to one may be fine for another. We all don’t like the same things in life. Different strokes for different folks.

By DasV

April 7, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

is anyone else’s blog viewing changing up on them??

wassup the MELO?? hows the new j.o.b?

By Staceye

April 7, 2008 3:47 PM | Link to this

*Melo I agree…I made that mistake before. I had sex with a guy I was really feeling and we adted…basically doing everything that a comitted relationship would be..except the title. I fet I was being used..then that saying of whty buy the cow if you can get the milk for free plagued me and I realized he and I would never be in the relationship I wanted form him. So I must say that I have learned a lesson that if I choose to go the relationship route again I will not bring sex into it until a committment is made. If he can’t do that that he can go straight to hell because I will not be used again. Basically I could have done without the sex…i did it because he liked it. He even mentioned it so I thought I was going about it the right way. But hey…you live and you learn. Now if I was to get busy with someone….there are no loving feeling involved. It’s sex and friendship. I think my heart is blocked behind a titanuim wall now. The thought of a relationship repulses me. I am starting to wonder if I even still like sex! LOL

By SexyLeggs

April 7, 2008 3:47 PM | Link to this

I’m taking my daughter to visit the Chattanooga aquarium (something she wants to do) and to Oceannaire’s for a nice dinner this week (something I want to do). Most times I’m glad I only have one…these little boogers are expensive!!!

By IslandGirl

April 7, 2008 3:54 PM | Link to this

Blow ok, I will play your game, but only for today since I realize you forgot to take your meds.

I wish I was riding his dyck so I can tell you how sweet it is. It seems to me that you have a problem with that. You know what, I’ll be happy to allow you to try out when I’m not around.

On second thought I wouldn’t do that to Truth since he is allergic to Trolls. Girl, go take your meds and come back tomorrow with a better attitude…

By The Melo

April 7, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

c’mon sexxy, u too young to give up on childbearing.U need to pop one more to give young sexxy company..keep it fresh dwn there. Hey Dasv..hit me up…..

By Cemeeli

April 7, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this

What’s poppin’?

I don’t have anything to add to the topic.

Just pecking in on you guys. Headed out to vacation shop …waving…

QC, Mo, Demi, Wise, IslandGirl, Stac, Sexyleggs, IslandG, Raqi, 2C, Blue, Melo, Darrell, abc, that dude **For Real and the whole gang.

DasV where have you been?

By The Truth

April 7, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

Blow your response to IG wasn’t even cool. SMDH

IG some folks don’t have any home training. I apologize for her.

Sexy if you get some extra time stop by Lake Allatoona. It’s right off the highway but if you’re a water lover it’s nice. Also, there’s an outlet between here and there so take extra money. And I won’t be mad if you buy me a gift.

Melo what’s up? I hope the new job is working out. We need you back in blogsville to tell it to us straight.

By DasV

April 7, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

CeeCee wassup, chica?? been lurkin…. reading whats on the minds of the newbies to the blog. how u been??

the melo will do!

By SexyLeggs

April 7, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this

Melo, you must not remember who you’re posting with (LOL)..too young to give up childbearing…that’s rich!

Oh No, an outlet in between! Another math test for her. She was going shopping for spring/summer clothes. It will either be here or there but won’t do both. Thanks for the heads up on Lake Allatoona. I am directionally challenged and have heard about it but no idea where it is. Hell, I hope I can find Tennessee (LOL).

By Alvin

April 7, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

Raqi Dang near any spot 700miles south of here is the junk!!

IG did you go out friday? And leave them young girls along, LOL

Staceye you are forever senting dudes straight to hell, YOU AINT GOD, LOL

CeeCee hey…

By Blow Me a.k.a ROOKIE Cookie

April 7, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

The Truth a.k.a. Stink Pot Puhleeze….Hey I am just telling you the truth. So what now you want me to tell you I’m white?? No way….The thing is….Truth….sometimes the truth hurts. I mean really what’s the big deal. The truth does not get sugar coated not even for you Truth!!

I.G. Step ya game up! For you to be on the coat tail of Truth I would have thought your comebacks would be a bit more witty…instead of so bogus. Stop being so THRISTY and maybe…just maybe I might cut you some slack. It disgust me to see you kissing up to truth everyday with you thirsty post you post …Sorry I can’t take it! IG I know you can do better than that..Come a bit more harder. More thought to it! THRISTY is not a good look for ya Ma…you can do better!

By IslandGirl

April 7, 2008 4:25 PM | Link to this

Alvin I went to M3 with a girlfriend. She wanted to check it out since I told her I enjoyed it the last time I attended. The dj that played was very good. We had a good time overall. How was your weekend?

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

April 7, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

A player is someone who knows he can replace the old with someone new or two.. He keeps his emotions under wraps and shows no weaknesses.. A player deals in respect and all transgressions are handled immediately.. He also has all the ingredients of a player “Fine vines, Nice cars and a boat load of Money” that he stirs together and tells the women to come and get it (The MACK).. He also has his I’s dotted and his T’s crossed and has a mouthpiece that spews melodies to the opposite sex. He also doesnt worry about other dudes because they are of not on his level he only acknowledges other players (sizing up the comp)with a quick glance and suckas get looked thru. A player is also someone who knows everything is done on the approach and even though he has all the ingredients its not about the car, the money, the clothes it always about the dude.. A player is so many things and a blog entry could never tell it all..

By Staceye

April 7, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

**Shut up Alvin! LOL

By IslandGirl

April 7, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

Blow I am so tickled by your envy. It really is fun knowing that you have a problem with my posts. I know I should not stoop to your level, but hell this is fun!

I’ll do you a favor and give you a viewing party. Come by Truth’s house tonight and I will dedicate every stroke he gives me to your honor. lol

Alvin I know- I should not play with kids, but there is a kid in all of us. lol

By The Melo

April 7, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

http://www.wannadocity.com/ check out the above link..my workmate send it to me today and says its a great place to visit for kids..they can dream about all they wanna do in lyfe.

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

April 7, 2008 4:40 PM | Link to this

Women dont set the tone of the relationship.. Not when its 20 to 1..

By The Melo

April 7, 2008 4:44 PM | Link to this

Island i thoght m3 waz supposed to be cozier/milder than what i witnessded on friday..the bumb and gring..i ended up not going in coz it sounded like a regular club, not what frank says on radio.Maybe it was just my impression.Hw is it tho?

By SexyLeggs

April 7, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

Good night everyone!

The trouble with self-made men is that they tend to worship their creator.

Stay forever watchful of your surroundings!

One more day and I’m on vacation!

By Alvin

April 7, 2008 4:48 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl I was painting like I was getting payed, li’Demi help me out as well by making messes, LOL. I am working on room #2 tonight, pray for me.

Bump painting, I am going to workout

By DasV

April 7, 2008 4:49 PM | Link to this

ROTFLOL @ DK comin up in here settin mattas straight!

By IslandGirl

April 7, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

Melo we had dinner at the restaurant upstairs- then stayed and listen to the music for a little while. I enjoyed the dj. I think it is changing into a club. When I attended a few weeks ago, there was not a cover charge. You know it only takes a little time before the scene turns into a club. I don’t have any plans on going back.

By Blow Me a.k.a ROOKIE Cookie

April 7, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl Yuck!!! Pee—UU!! I see I will stop fueling you nastiness and talks of having bestiality..It’s disgusting and immoral and also it is illegal!! lmao!

Truth a.k.a. Stink Pot Never crack jokes when I am not here….I will hear about. You McMayor McCheesy is wack as hell! Loser!