Misadventures in Atlanta

By GaMan

March 26, 2008 8:15 AM | Link to this

Good Morning

Today’s Menu:Burnt Toast,Oatmeal,Cap ‘n Crunch and Krispy Kremes water and OJ

For the record the GaMan that was stalking Tyra wasnt me

lolololol

By Turd Ferguson

March 26, 2008 8:15 AM | Link to this

Sexless dating, no thanks, I was already married once.

By I'm Playing The Cynic Today

March 26, 2008 8:16 AM | Link to this

The funny about what is going to happen today is, 99% of the men on here state nearly everyday that if the woman ain’t putting “it” (sex) out then he has no time to waste pursuing her. Now watch what happens today.

Just watch.

Oh yeah Good Morning. I am in early this morning.

By SlimOne

March 26, 2008 8:16 AM | Link to this

Morning We’ll see how this topic goes…check back in a few.

By unsure

March 26, 2008 8:21 AM | Link to this

@ANALYTICAL1 I just wanted to thank you for your response yesterday…it was good to know I wasnt completeing wrong in my thinking…he was really upset I didnt trust him & is scared Im going to put up this guard,…he’s right in his thinking…I really cant help it…

By Lady J

March 26, 2008 8:28 AM | Link to this

Morning All What an interesting topic….Be true to thy own self…We all know self…J

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 26, 2008 8:34 AM | Link to this

Well, well…..Mo reading today’s topic with eyebrow raised…this should be interesting. Should be quite a blog day today. I think I’ll lurk….

Hey Lady J

GAMan…I know you have been gone for a minute, but you have GOT to step up your breakfast game…

By Kym

March 26, 2008 8:37 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

I have gone as long as 2 years without sex so 30 days wouldn’t be hard. I am interested in seeing how the gentlemen respond today.

By Chief Wiggum

March 26, 2008 8:41 AM | Link to this

Ha! Laughing at Turd Ferguson on that one. I know where you come from, I was married once, too. I’m single, and don’t get it that often, but I am not going to go three years without. Let’s face it, I get tired of my hand all the time.

By Rell

March 26, 2008 8:41 AM | Link to this

sexless…….hell naw…..ooooooo hell naw….sex does not determine intimacy….at all..two different things….i once refrain from sex for a year and half….this was my find me period…i was a young reckless cat….i was spinning my wheels sticking it in every moist hole…so i chilled got back my chi and keep it moving..but i did not stop because of the women….i stopped for me, i did not feel right….maybe because i was such a late starter in the game of sex(19)….i did not fully understand what i was doing….i mean most of my sex knowledge came from porn..lol…so yeah like any good nerd i stopped and got my read…but again hell naw i could not go 30 days with out…not by choice anyway..lol

By Lady J

March 26, 2008 8:44 AM | Link to this

Hey Mo!! I will hit you up in a few…

By BeautifulBlogVestFastened

March 26, 2008 8:49 AM | Link to this

I wondered if single people could try a 30 day dating challenge to abstain

Piece of cake. Been saving this gold for my new booty since July. I believe men will have a tougher time abstaining, because it’s tough for me.

How do you think your dating could change

We’ll see. Haven’t got to that point yet. Wish me luck!

Good morning. wink, wink

By Simp

March 26, 2008 8:51 AM | Link to this

I think no sex for thirty days is a great idea. I’ve met women and if you dont try to have sex with them they wants to know whats wrong. Personally. I think when can abstain from sex, especially when you first meet. Give yourself time to build something. Sex will damage a relationship. I think no sex can strengten a relationship.

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st.

March 26, 2008 8:57 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

* Juicy sweet Oranges and grapes for all*

I think that is an excellent idea. I can easily go 6 mths without having sex. So 30 days is a walk in the park. Sometimes single ppl do need to refresh their minds and refocus their thought process.

Sex clouds one’s GOOD judgement. It’s funny cause I had this same convo with my homie a few weeks ago. Sex is physically. But it’s more than a physically act..It’s a emotional and spirtual connection. Once you take the latter two out, it spells disaster. I don’t care how you slice it. Casual Sex…is not the business. It carries and comes with so many problems and issues.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 26, 2008 8:57 AM | Link to this

Lady J alright chica

Rell wassup man!

Kym I agree with you, cant wait to see what most of the Men of Blogsville have to say.

By pisces 08

March 26, 2008 9:00 AM | Link to this

Morning All. It depends…. If it’s worth it. But, I’ve been there, done that. I have to cosign Rell, after all, I’m a Pisces

By Lady J

March 26, 2008 9:01 AM | Link to this

so you say bruh…

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 9:02 AM | Link to this

I can see waiting to have sex with someone new that you just met. There should be a getting to know you stage. I went years without sex because I choose not to have sex until a relationship had been established. With the two relationships between my first and my present, I waited a couple of months before having sex.

My first was a three year wait, but I was 16 when I met him. My present…that’s a whole different story.

I was actually presented with a “no sex, better connection” challenge since I have been married. Thought was absurd to say the least. All of that should be in the beginning stages of the union, not after you are already in it with your entire being.

By SlimOne

March 26, 2008 9:05 AM | Link to this

I definitely agree that it’ll be harder for men to abstain for 30 days than women…especially if the men are already sexually active with the chick they are currently dating.

My experience in the past has been, the more you do it with your SO, the more you want it…but to do the do every day for 30 days might be a little chaffing. lol! I wonder if that means actual penetration or all aspects of sex…like a hand deal here, O-ral one day, actual humping on every 3rd day or what….

By 2CPTG©

March 26, 2008 9:08 AM | Link to this

Morning….

sure, I can wait on the booty….but not too long….time is relative.

have a good’un…..

By Kym

March 26, 2008 9:08 AM | Link to this

You can have sex with someone without any emotional attachment. Actually I think of the whole idea of the joining of two people- as well two seperate things..There is sex,(that go for broke I am just here to get off thing) and love-making.

Love-Making is the whole connected on a emotional level feeling.

If you are just there for the go for broke feelings then you can do that with no emotional attachment to that person..while with love-making you have this feeling of emotional and spirtual satisfaction.

By Krystle

March 26, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

The question should be rephrased to “Ready to try it God’s way?”

By enb

March 26, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

Sex was created for marriage. Outside of marriage it just messes things up.

By TouchMyBody

March 26, 2008 9:13 AM | Link to this

GaMan Your breakfast is wack! LOL. Here, have a Strawberry Mango Soy Milk Breakfast Smoothie with a Citrus Hazelnut Breakfast Bars and some Honey-Apple Breakfast Pancakes.

BRB.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 9:15 AM | Link to this

Good morning all. This blog has already given me a chuckle. 30 days of no sex is nothing. 30 days of no sex should be a piece of cake for everyone. It’s amazing how many folks are ruled by their sexual organs.

In any case, I admire Lenny and any man who is willing to wait a significant amount of time for sex. I’m talking 6 months or more. In fact, I’m looking for a guy who’d be willing to wait until marriage. If you really put God first in your life, you should try to do things His way. Just my thoughts.

WiseDiva, have your guy friends who are tired of the casual thing give me a call. LOL

By 2CPTG©

March 26, 2008 9:15 AM | Link to this

Black Girl…..pay no attention to today’s topic….don’t let Diva mess up our good thang!!!

Keep that sexiassness comin’

By Binford2K8

March 26, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this

Krystle and enb I’d try “God’s Way” but God ain’t providing, so this Jedi does what this Jedi has to do. Sorry, I don’t make a good sheep. BAH.

I wouldn’t mind waiting to be intimate. How long would that be? I don’t know. But for sure a good while.

Humans have an innate sense to breed, but the higher cognitive should put the sexual need in it’s place, if only for so long. The nookie can not blind you!

On a separate note, Lenny’s a pretty good artist IMO. Though I don’t know about the whole holding out thing!

By BeautifulBlogVestFastened

March 26, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this

enb so, no sex until marriage. ok. after y’all get hitched and sex sucks, then what?!?

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 9:29 AM | Link to this

LOL @ all the “new” screen names posting today.

By Willie Dynamite

March 26, 2008 9:30 AM | Link to this

Morning All,

Off Topic- GaMan Since you back from your worldwide book tour why don’t you get back to handling MLB business. We need a contractor to come and install that pole in the lounge at headqtrs. Gonna be a good summer round here.

On Topic- Lets see, Abstaining No. Never found a good reson to do that. never had to find myself becuz I was never lost. Since I was a younger cat (mid 20’s) I was able to separate the mind/body concept. Since that point I always wanted to get the mind first anyway. S#x never was a problem so if i wanted to really get to know a chick I got to know her mentally. The s#z part was natural once you turned the mind on. Some of this is just more BS to get some people to justify their inadequacies (I said Some People). Ya boy Lenny may need to do that for whatever reason. Prolly been lost since Denise Huxtable turned him out.

By fionna

March 26, 2008 9:30 AM | Link to this

Finally, a spritual minded person has entered this blog. I agree 100% with you opinion to rephrase the question. As a woman of God, any man that wants to date me must be willing to walk the same spiritual path as I am and if he is not willing to do so he can hit the door. Sex is not what it is all cracked up to be and if a person cannot display self-control for that short period of time, it is time to get your carnal mind in check with the word of God. For more information please refer to the message that the Apostle Paul wrote in I Corinthians chapters 6-7. Be blessed!

By DasV

March 26, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

good morning good ppl

i am about to start my 3rd year hiatus from sex. it was hard …. really hard the first nine months…. but as time went on it became a matter of not watching certain TV material (some commericials have me running for the chocolate) or lingering too long on a nice brutha in the street, etc.

thats why a pole class wouldnt be my thing. no sense stirring the pot if it aint cookin’.

i have a friend that is cool wit me texting a booty call request… he knows to ignore me. sometimes you just want someone to know you wanting some….

i pride myself in the fact that whomeva i end up with gonna love the result of my newfound level of self-discipline, my kegels and exercise.

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

Kym you are correct. What so many don’t know is both are required even in a marriage. Love-making is for bonding and the sharing of yourselves and The Get-off for preventive maintenance and fun, fun, fun. But they both are de rigueur, as my grandmother would say.

Every tryst is not “romantic” if I could say. But there is a connection there because you are communicating. Whether thru heartfelt desire sex or thru wild, sweaty, falling on the floor sex. It is all de rigueur.

By Jamie

March 26, 2008 9:35 AM | Link to this

Anyone can have sex.I have chosen the sexless life for longer than Lenny - and I am still holding out for the real deal.

I refuse to lower my standards just because most men have no interest in a woman that doesn’t put out. OR they want sex without making any kind of commitment. I mean what does: I like you enough to have sex with you, but not enough to stop dating others really say? HEllo! It says they don’t like you very much!!!

And I honestly don’t feel like I have missed anything - cheap meaningless sex may be fun for a minute - but it is just sad afterward.

I am glad to hear there is a man that is discerning enough not to drop his drawers every chance he gets - Go Lenny!

By Foots

March 26, 2008 9:35 AM | Link to this

30 days if I’m dating someone I’m really into? I’d just have to control the amount of time we spent alone together if the chemistry was hot, plan dates outside the house or something.

I’ve had plenty of dry spells. Shoot, if I think back over the last three years, I actually average about 75% abstinent.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 9:35 AM | Link to this

I’d try “God’s Way” but God ain’t providing

Binford, I’ll give you a pass for this one because I know you aren’t Christian. But if you were, I’d be all over you for this! LOL

By Lady J

March 26, 2008 9:35 AM | Link to this

ARed I was thinking the same thing…It is a bit scary one has that much time in a day…lol

By fionna

March 26, 2008 9:35 AM | Link to this

Finally, a spritual minded person has entered this blog. I agree 100% with you opinion to rephrase the question. As a woman of God, any man that wants to date me must be willing to walk the same spiritual path as I am and if he is not willing to do so he can hit the door. Sex is not what it is all cracked up to be and if a person cannot display self-control for that short period of time, it is time to get your carnal mind in check with the word of God. For more information please refer to the message that the Apostle Paul wrote in I Corinthians chapters 6-7. Be blessed!

By The Truth

March 26, 2008 9:36 AM | Link to this

Ain’t this some bs. Fellas, never fall that kind of shyt. It’s simple math. Unless that chick is a virgin she’s given that azz to someone, most likely a cat that’s less than you, that’s why she’s at your doorstep. Now she’s trying to set you up for puddy restrictions down the road. Don’t do it.

Once again, assuming your handling your business you can’t take off of your job for 30 days and neither can she. Once you establish your position reinforce it at all costs. This is the equivalent of my dog growling at me. If I let that go the next thing is for them to bite me.

Lenny Kravitz is a part of this new age he/she group. Next he’ll be kissing Dennis Rodman.

It’s a fuggin shame that the same chicks that claim they want a man try to shirk their responsiblities before they even get one.

BTW, if you go for that don’t complain later when she says she’s taking a year off for “spiritual” reasons.

By fionna

March 26, 2008 9:39 AM | Link to this

Finally, a spritual minded person has entered this blog. I agree 100% with you opinion to rephrase the question. As a woman of God, any man that wants to date me must be willing to walk the same spiritual path as I am and if he is not willing to do so he can hit the door. Sex is not what it is all cracked up to be and if a person cannot display self-control for that short period of time, it is time to get your carnal mind in check with the word of God. For more information please refer to the message that the Apostle Paul wrote in I Corinthians chapters 6-7. Be blessed!

By 2CPTG©

March 26, 2008 9:40 AM | Link to this

Venus….that’s interesting that you mentioned that….your body’s telling you one thing, and your mind is telling you something else? And your mind is winning, eh?????

Still single, ain’t ya?

By DreamsMaterialize

March 26, 2008 9:42 AM | Link to this

Morning Ya’ll Lenny Kravitz has probably experienced every type of sexual encounter imaginable, with high frequency, for most of his career. I’m sure even the most exciting things to most got boring for him. I’m not sure I believe he’s gone three years though.

Anyway, I don’t think anyone on here, man or woman, would have a problem going 30 days without sex, IF they wanted to do it. I’m sure we’ve all endured much more challenging things in our lives.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 9:42 AM | Link to this

Okay…enter Truth and his henchmen!

Just curious, Truth, do you follow any particular religion?

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 9:42 AM | Link to this

Foots Yep. Stay out of those compromising situations and positions. You will find yourself hemmed up against a wall or in a corner and…Man how did that happen???

By SlimOne

March 26, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

BBVF Well that’s part of being married, you’re going to have the rest of yall lives together to learn how to please each other. I think part of the reason some folks get divorced so soon is because they did all learning stuff when they were dating the first 20 years. LOL! So by the time they’ve finally tied the knot, it gets boring real quick. I think thats why some folks rather not live together prior to getting married.

By Lady J

March 26, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

Truth I concur…

By Supe

March 26, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

Sexless dating? All that’s missing is the dress, the cake, the ring, and the preacher.

By Binford2K8

March 26, 2008 9:47 AM | Link to this

ARed Seriously though, this whole “God Provides” theory is crap. I know folks (both male and female) who are attractive people on the outside, but putrid human beings on the inside.

Guess what? It doesn’t matter how bad of people they are because no one goes off of that! They see that person as good breeding potential - that’s it. It gives the false impression of strength and no indication of the true being.

Which are my points because: a)”God” does not provide a mate b) Humans are more animal then most would admit c) For the weak, sex can represent all

By dremartin

March 26, 2008 9:47 AM | Link to this

Fact of the matter is women quite often use sex as a punishment on some occasions and rewards in others. We all break cardinal sins. Male or female. Protect ya self and get your groove on. You cant be a freak when its going good in your relationship and when its not or you been hurt because you made the wrong choice you all of a sudden cut off the supply. Your guy instinct will guide you. Most wont have sex with someone they just meet in the first thirty days anyway, so this is a very achievable task. Enjoy your life and all it has to offer just protect your treasures and have sex in the city. lol

By Wise Diva

March 26, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this

I wonder if people remove sex from their dating, would they discover they actually don’t have more to offer someone? It is so easy to fall into the sack, but when you actually strip away the physical layer (if only for a little while!), would you ever be concerned that the person would lose interest in you?

So…Is your sex game, the only thing keeping you in the dating game?

By Simp

March 26, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this

If sex is not what it’s cracked up to be. What needs to be controlled. People dont want to admit this. Sex is an agreement that I am interested in you. You make not enjoy it, but it say ok we can go out on a date and I dont mind coming out my pocket. Set terms before you engage in anything and have a understanding as to what you really want. Is it lunch time yet?

By SexyLeggs

March 26, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. Hello to the new bloggers (??). 30 days, got that on lockdown!!!

By Supe

March 26, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

Sexless dating? All that’s missing is the dress, the cake, the ring, and the preacher.

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st.

March 26, 2008 9:51 AM | Link to this

Truth Can you let up on your dog talk? This is way I call you barbaric….you are comparing how to train a dog to how to treat a human. How insane is that? Chill out with the dog analogies!!!

By LeftWingLoon

March 26, 2008 9:52 AM | Link to this

I think I’d prefer dateless sex.

By BriteEyez

March 26, 2008 9:52 AM | Link to this

Good Morning all!

Could you handle 30 days of sexless dating?

30 days is really no time at all. In my opinion, it almost doesn’t count as abstinence if you are just dating.

How do you think your dating could change?

I am still just sticking my toe in to test the waters right now so I have really not gotten into dating at this point, per se. However, I think I can say with confidence that because I am going into this with a relatively new, clean slate I will seek out and deal with only those that are of the same mindset regarding our dating purposes.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

Binford - We’re never going to agree on that, so we might as well not even go there. ;-)

Hey Jamie, you said you are waiting for the “real deal.” How long has it been that you have been abstaining? Just curious as to how long the holding period might be. LOL

By Simp

March 26, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

If sex is not what it’s cracked up to be. What needs to be controlled. People dont want to admit this. Sex is an agreement that I am interested in you. You make not enjoy it, but it say ok we can go out on a date and I dont mind coming out my pocket. Set terms before you engage in anything and have a understanding as to what you really want. Is it lunch time yet?

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st.

March 26, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

Wise Diva That is so true! What would be left? That’s how alot of guys end up with these crazy chicks and more than what they bargained for. And then they wonder why and what happened? You can not solve nothing laying down. lmao!

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 9:56 AM | Link to this

WiseDiva - LOL @ your questions! I’d be interested in the responses to that as well.

What is your stance on today’s topic?

By Kym

March 26, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

Slim A case can be made for just the opposite of what you said about marriages ending because couples have not explored all the things they wanted. In that article the other day about “gray divorces” they noted that alot of older couples are divorcing because they feel like they have missed something in life. We seem to forget in all our search for spirtual truth that while God may not change..we with our imperfect selves do change..and evolve. When one partner(A) starts changing and the other is keeping the status quo(missionary on Sunday from 8-8:15 followed by watching tv until the news goes off) The one changing is eventually going to express that need to try something different. If the partner(B) stuck on missionary is not willing to change or even try then partner(A) will either die unhappy or bail. We all know what happens if there is no communcation at all. That is where the sneaking, creeping and freaking goes on.

By fionna

March 26, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

Truth is the perfect example of the carnal mind. You can tell a tree by it’s fruits and the stupidity that “Truth” is displaying shows the caliber of women he deals with.

By Supe

March 26, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

Sexless dating? All that’s missing is the dress, the cake, the ring, and the preacher.

By 2CPTG©

March 26, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

Lady in Red…..that’s a good question, “when you actually strip away the physical layer (if only for a little while!), would you ever be concerned that the person would lose interest in you?” but guess who should answer that, y’all!!!

Aren’t y’all the ones always tombout, “when I let him get it”…..”it’s a gift”…..”it’s worth waiting for” and all that other stuff….Men gotta show what they have to offer upfront, y’all gals think y’all got the “gift”….so tell us, besides this alleged gift, what else you got? How do y’all make your “other traits” stand out more than your booty?

By Pussycat

March 26, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

@Truth - most days I agree with your generalizations, although sometimes you’re thickheaded but I get the gist of most of your posts. But for real, it’s not always a conspiracy for the woman to get the man to sway her way, for lack of a better term. Really, you should quiet down on the I am man, hear me roar. I don’t think (in most cases at least) any woman’s angle is to bamboozle a man into her boy toy and NEVER give it up and just have him as her pawn. Heck probably for the average woman, we enjoy sex just as much as men, if not more. It’s simply being stated most days on here from the woman that we can’t afford to just be wide open in giving out the goods. If we do, then we are those victims that you so general posts about in stating (as you always do) “some that posts have been used up and looking for a hero”….or something like that/of that nature. Yes, you said it in heated debates. Lighten up bruh, if you stand back and think about it, I believe men/women have the same common goals, just all looking for that really special someone that does it for you. It seems we (men vs women) just having extremely different views on how to get there.

By The Truth

March 26, 2008 10:00 AM | Link to this

Ared all religions have one thing in common. They were created by a man. A dude just like me. Personally I’d like to live my life according to my beliefs. I’ve done pretty well to this point.

A question for you. If god didn’t want me to have sex why did he give me such a high sex drive?

This is more than a sex issue. It’s a new way of trying to get out of our reponsibilities. We don’t cook, fugg, clean yet we want someone to find value in us. What do we do? Your value is determined by your actions. If your not doing shyt you have no value.

I’ve said many times if I do get married I will take care of my wife. Some of you remember that. I will give her what I can and she will do the same. I won’t deny you and you don’t deny me. When you break that bond it’s time to renegotiate this deal.

These UNDERSTANDING cats are the same ones getting married and then ol girl pulls the old puddy in the closet trick. That’s not an option with me. They eventually have to find azz outside because they ALLOWED that chick in her mind to think she could hold out. You run that game on some other dude. I’m like a nuclear bomb, I’ll blow this whole thing to hell before I go for that.

By SlimOne

March 26, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

Dreams I agree with you with regards to Lenny. He is probably at the point in his life where he wants something a little more fulfilling due to the fact of placing his ‘slong’ in every hole possible in as many holes at one time as possible. Plus we don’t know if he had some sort of scare or life altering experience that made him say, I need to stop, reflect, and revise my life. Folks do have those moments in life. For some folks it takes losing a loved one, getting some STD, getting in an accident etc…so we can automatically assume he’ll be also dressed in a wedding gown at the alter with Rodman.

BTW, I’d sure hate to see Rodman at the age of 70 looking a even more hot mess! blech!

As far as dating, I enjoy the flirting, attentiveness, and build up of attraction that goes along pre-sex….cuz sad to say, sometimes once the pipe is laid, all that came before starts to dwindle. I’ve dated someone that we chose not to do the do for a long time…it made things more exciting for both of us.

By Supe

March 26, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

And a mother in law! Don’t forget the mother in law.

By BeautifulBlogVestFastened

March 26, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

SlimOne a couple should of course decide what’s best for them and their marriage. and if not having sex before jumping the broom is good for them, great. but this chick wants to take a test run before she buys. sex is important to me, and i will bet a years paycheck it’s even more important to him. also, i don’t mind living apart while engaged.

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

That’s why you have to get to know each other upfront IMO. Spend time together. Peep as much of the good and bad habits as possible before giving your all. But you have to spend the time together. An adequate amount of time.

By M.

March 26, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

I think waiting is probably the best policy. Especially living in Atlanta, there is alot of extra stuff that comes along with this. Though I am single, what about the married people who are in a situation in which they are just “married” (paying the bills, living, working, being parents.)? Isnt the physical aspects of the marriage one of the perks to being married? Or is the main perk the combining of 2 incomes, dealing with in-laws that you dispise? FYI I am not nor have ever been married so I am just asking.

By dremartin

March 26, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

Fact of the matter is women quite often use sex as a punishment on some occasions and rewards in others. We all break cardinal sins. Male or female. Protect ya self and get your groove on. You cant be a freak when its going good in your relationship and when its not or you been hurt because you made the wrong choice you all of a sudden cut off the supply. Your guy instinct will guide you. Most wont have sex with someone they just meet in the first thirty days anyway, so this is a very achievable task. Enjoy your life and all it has to offer just protect your treasures and have sex in the city. lol

By Wise Diva

March 26, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

@DreamsMaterialize - the fact that he has already done so much sexually, actually makes it harder to go with out, don’t you think?

The challenge to the married folks to have sex for 30 consecutive days is the very same reason unmarried folks should abstain. Married folks would deepen their bond, and that could strengthen their commitment. Excuse me for going all scientific geeky, but ya’ll know that during an orgasm, the hormone oxytocin (same hormone that cements the mother and child bond) is released by the hypothalamus during an orgasm, so the more sex a woman has, the deeper the bond gets with her partner. Now when you are going the “casual” route, a lot of women confuse that feeling/emotion with love. So to women, especially, things are a lot more clear when we are able to focus on the guy’s character. When you are looking for something meaningful with a guy, this is very important. (Now, if you just want a maintenance man, that’s something totally different.)

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

Alright! The ladies are bringing it today.

fionna, lol @ your 9:58 to Truth.

Pussycat, you’d better tell em. LOL

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st.

March 26, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

PUSSYCAT CO0SIGNED 9:58AM

By Rell

March 26, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

@fionna….you read like a control freak…my walk and your walk will not be the same…thats why we have testimony as a way to re-affirm our faith..get the f*** out of her with that….you be the first one getting your suga walls bust down

I AM A HENCHMAN….LOL, LOVES IT..AND I COSIGN TRUTH

on another note can we leave religion out of this….we all sin daily, so lets stash the holy water and bible verses today..smh

By DreamsMaterialize

March 26, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

Premarital sex as a sin is linked only to the word fornication in the Bible. Fornication comes from the greek word porneia, which means prostitution and/or incest. It never meant “premarital sex”. Christians have redefined the translation to mean “sex before marriage”.

By Patrick

March 26, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

As a single attractive gay man in Atlanta I can tell you I would rather wait and find a man I have a connection with outside the bedroom. It is really hard to find a gay man with the old fashioned values that I have. I belive in quiet first dates, holding hands and sharing a bananna split at the Dairy Queen verses a quick romp. Intimacy and love are far more important to me than an orgasm. I guess it’s that good old Georgia boy coming out in me. Maybe one day I’ll find a man that feels the same!

By Me-Me

March 26, 2008 10:08 AM | Link to this

I don’t have a problem abstaining from SEX, i’ve been doing it for the past 5 years

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 10:09 AM | Link to this

Truth - I certainly don’t believe sex is an excuse for one to get out of their responsibilities. I can not have sex until I’m married and that has NOTHING to do with trying to shirk my responsibilities as a wife.

Following God’s plan is not easy. And sometimes we’re tested and we’re ALWAYS tempted. Maybe he gave you a high sex drive because he wanted to see how you’d handle it. I mean, you ARE discriminating about who you sleep with. What prevents you from sticking everything that moves since your sex drive is ‘so high?’

By Soap Opera

March 26, 2008 10:09 AM | Link to this

Stay tuned for As the Stomach Turns.

By fionna

March 26, 2008 10:10 AM | Link to this

Truth is the perfect example of the carnal mind. You can tell a tree by it’s fruits and the stupidity that “Truth” is displaying shows the caliber of women he deals with.

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st.

March 26, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

Truth it’s past 10:00 it’s time for you to take your medicine. I am so scared of you. You openly admit you are ticking time bomb….crazy loon.

But you did have some facts in your post. But go back to your old saying..

If a man plays he’s part it forces everyone else to do theirs.

But you do need pray. I’ll pray for you.

By abc

March 26, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

I think it’s all about attitude, and most people’s attitudes about sex are pretty screwed up.

To most, sex is some tantric-like domination/submission thing, almost completely centered on acts with genitalia, very goal oriented in terms of the point being to achieve O. Could it not be the natural extension of a heartfelt embrace, a passionate kiss, indeed, do not those things encompass what the acts are? Is a loving touch in the giving of a body massage not as sensual as banging heads on headboards, or does the dance require that every single time?

Now I’ll admit that personally, I’m a little on the wild side sexually, but I never lose track of what it’s all for, which is to express and relate love, and encourage the same.

Having sex with casual dates is just plain being a slut, sex outside of serious relationships is for kids, at best. I’ve been married and gone without for periods far exceeding a mere 30 days, so anyone saying that’s too long for them to handle is laughable, to me.

By Me-Me

March 26, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

^5 Fionna i totally agree!

By DasV

March 26, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

theTRUTH no one called into question your manhood when you tole us that you were abstaining from dating till the economy pans out…. so dont be calling our womanhood into question when we tell you that we trynna up our game and level of self-control. come’on bruh! you killin me. restraint is not a bad thing and it aint us shurking our job…. shhhhyttt. done tole ya’ll im ready to go to work.

TouCan wha you sayin?? yea. im still single… but it aint cause theres still a war going on ‘tween my mind and body. theyve merged and on the same page…. just sometimes my body gets envious at what all im feeding my mind… it wanna be fed too.

and as soon as i can identify a willing and worthy king… ready and im wit it!

By pisces 08

March 26, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

@ARed. You got mail.

By Wise Diva

March 26, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

Ok, let’s elevate the discussion past the name calling and cussing. PLEASE. We don’t all agree, that’s normal, but geez, communication breaks down greatly, and since this is a blog, that is the point..to express your opinion, respectfully.

Work with me people.

By I HATE ATTENTION WHOR3S

March 26, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this

@ Patrick…..old fashioned values?

Yeah right dude.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

Having sex with casual dates is just plain being a slut, sex outside of serious relationships is for kids, at best. I’ve been married and gone without for periods far exceeding a mere 30 days, so anyone saying that’s too long for them to handle is laughable, to me.

Dayuumm abc, I know that comment could ruffle a few feathers!

Learning more about “you.” Didn’t know you’d been married before.

By GaMan

March 26, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

GaMan now contracts ForReal to install not One but Three poles

he also calls the pool man to clean the pool…..orders a new stock for the BlogBar

Ladies the Bar will be open after lunch….but feel free to try out our Poles all you want

heheheheheheh

By Supe

March 26, 2008 10:21 AM | Link to this

What’s the saying about marriage? It’s like a three ring circus.
1. Engagement Ring 2. Wedding Ring 3. Suffe Ring

And polygamy..having one wife too many. Same thing as monogamy.

By Kym

March 26, 2008 10:21 AM | Link to this

Wisey I will answer your question.. Yes, I think I have alot more to offer than just T&A. I have a listening ear when need. Compassionate, Caring and the patience of Job given the right person and circumstances. (Life is what happens when you make other plans.) I have the insight to listen and learn what makes my SO tick.(I have been told to get out of his head on more than one occassion) I also had to learn that balance act of letting a man be a man even when I want to pet him up and make it better or strangling him because he is wrong(this means holding my peace and counting to 3. Actually I am was thinking about that old song No Pain-No Gain..one line sticks with me..”I was earning my man while I was learning my man.” For me when I move pass that point of inital attraction and actually know that I want to develop more with this guy then I am willing to learn him so I can earn him.

By SWMarietta

March 26, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

My record is 8.5 years (that was my twenties). Only on a six month stretch right now so life is good! I won’t start getting worried for another year or two.

I’m obviously the wrong guy to comment on this.

By The Truth

March 26, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

Here we have the same chicks screaming daily for a dude they could count on thru thick and thin, a dude they know will do his job, but saying it would be nice if he was ok with her not doing the same thing.

Here’s a fact: Most of you chicks will never get married and after reading some of these posts rightly so. Next you’ll be crying about how you want kids and then get mad when you have to change their diapers. Ooops, to late.

There’s nothing like good old performance.

Ladies, who would be UNDERSTANDING if their man came home and said he didn’t want to run his household for a few years? By a show of hands. Anyone? I didn’t think so.

Your just a bunch of lazy azzed chicks that have spent too much time in your own minds thinking someone will love you “just because your you”. They will, if you back that up with some performance.

Fionna luckily I haven’t had to put up with tired azzed chicks like you so I’m still fresh. And like Binford said, we’re all closer to animals than we think. And yes, I’m carnal as hell. LOL

This is a fact, if you come fuggin with me your gonna perform. The moment you stop this ride is over. Let some other dude pay for puddy he can’t even get.

By BriteEyez

March 26, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

WiseDiva You make a good point. If your purpose is indeed a LTR leading possibly to marriage it will definitely be important to discover what you each have to offer outside of the bedroom. Passion and lust in a relationship are not always in play, during those periods you have to have something else to sustain you.

Again, its all relative to your dating purpose.

By Binford2K8

March 26, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

Wise Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars, and the fun (especially on this blog) will never end because of that.

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

The only way a woman can “control” the situation in withholding sex is when you (men) are parishioners of the kitty. If you stop acting like your existence will cease to be if you don’t get it, there will nothing to control you.

By GTPete

March 26, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

My wife of 2 years and I both waited until we got married and it was the best decision we ever made. Yeah - both of us were virgins. It wasn’t easy, but our marriage is better because of it.

By GTPete

March 26, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

My wife of 2 years and I both waited until we got married and it was the best decision we ever made. Yeah - both of us were virgins. It wasn’t easy, but our marriage is better because of it.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

Patrick - Good luck to you. You have a read uphill battle with that one!

By DasV

March 26, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

dreamsMaterialize and materializing definitions too take a look at this… your def is off: http://www.studylight.org/lex/grk/view.cgi?number=4202

By SlimOne

March 26, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

Kym There can be an opposite case made in any situation. However, does having sex with multiple partners have to equate with the feeling of ‘missing out on something’? What I mean is there is more to exploring life than just fugging multiple partners. The feeling of missing out can be due to lack of travelling, lack of meeting & exploring different cultures, lack of ever flying in an airplane.lol So even though I can see your point, sex is not the End all or cure all. As far as having a person only being open to missionary…to me that is more of that individual personality and lack of being open-minded. I’d like to say i’m a person who is willing to try almost anything at least once. Personally, I know i could never be with a guy that was closed-minded..the guy that will only order chicken fingers or a hamburger at a new restaurant..a guy who does not like to travel etc.

2CPTG© Just playing devils advocate…on the topic of us female acting like our puddy is the gift…do you not think men contribute to this notion…because…in general…men drive nice fancy cars…to attract women…to ultimately get the azz.

Men dress nice (for the most part) smell good…to attract women….to ultimately get the azz.

Men take women out…wine and dine (some of yall)…to please the women…enough for her to want to give up the azz.

Men try to make their place comfy…so a women can relax more easily…offer her alcoholic beverages…to relax her EVEN more…so she’ll hopefully give you some azz…(lol)

See where I’m going with this?

So its sort of like squirrels doing all it can to the shell of the nut to get the prize on the inside. (remember…i’m not the enemy…I just play one on tv) lol

BBVF I agree with you…Personally, I’m in for the test drive..but to some they rather wait and spend their lives exploring each other. For a chick that waits until marriage, the guy has to understand she is not necessarily going to want to go full blown with all the 3-some, dildo, extra stuff. If she feels comfortable in due time she’ll open up.

By Binford2K8

March 26, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

Wise Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars, and the fun (especially on this blog) will never end because of that.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

Truth - Calm down. You’re talking about a woman not doing her job IN a marriage. We’re talking about abstaining from sex from sex until they are in a RELATIONSHIP. And for some, UNTIL they are married. If a woman is not handling her job before or during a marriage she’s WRONG. But her “job” is to be your sex slave until you wife her. Come on now.

As for your stance that some of us will never get married. We probably won’t. Some of you fellas WILL get married get trapped in marriage h*ll. Just how it works sometimes.

I’d rather be single holding true to my personal and religious beliefs then to try it “your” way and never be fulfilled.

By Binford2K8

March 26, 2008 10:33 AM | Link to this

Wise Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars, and the fun (especially on this blog) will never end because of that.

By mamalongleggs

March 26, 2008 10:33 AM | Link to this

Sup people, 30 days is not a long time to hold off of having sex while dating especially with a new potential, now if yall been dating for some time and done do the do then cutting things off is a recipe for disaster unless it is agreed between the two. Now a year is a long time, that is for me. I recently dated a guy for 7 months and we did the do, shall I say that I was VERY disappointed. He set the mood for months only to not to come thru with a BANG, BANG BANG as he put it. LOL I can’t say I’ll wait that long for the next guy, I’ll just have to play it by ear and see.

I’ve done the abstaning from sex before and I was miserable, I thought about sex more when I was in hiatus than I did when I was having it! go figure!! anyway I discovered that I enjoyed sex much more than I admitted and when I do met my man as in we are in sic in all aspects, sex will play a huge role in our relationship. JMO

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

It seems like there are two different things being stated on here.

Abstaining and not actively dating is one thing. No sweat. But commonly dating and choosing to wait is totally different. Takes much self-control.

By Miss Manners

March 26, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

As the saying goes “stand for something or you will fall for anything”, TI spoke on Easter about young people abstaining from sex. Having sex for the sake of having sex sort of reveals a person character and standards. What would you prefer to do (1) purchase some diamond rings and give them away or (2)give yourself away sexual without any commitments?

By DreamsMaterialize

March 26, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

Wise Diva Let’s say your favorite food is filet mignon and caviar. Suppose you got to a point in your life where you could afford the best filet mignon and caviar that any restaurant could offer. It was so good you started eating it every day, FOR 20 YEARS. I bet long before those 20 years came to an end you could easily put down the filet and caviar for an extended period of time, because it just wouldn’t have the same appeal anymore.

By Miss Manners

March 26, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

As the saying goes “stand for something or you will fall for anything”, TI spoke on Easter about young people abstaining from sex. Having sex for the sake of having sex sort of reveals a person character and standards. What would you prefer to do (1) purchase some diamond rings and give them away or (2)give yourself away sexual without any commitments?

By BeautifulBlogVestFastened

March 26, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

Slimone a blogger on here once said:

Preserve your essence and dole it out like its gold. Remember, if its not gold to you its not to me either.

ladies, take note!

By SexyLeggs

March 26, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

Wasn’t the Trojan War fought over puddy (JK).

By DasV

March 26, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

i’on know who said that they puddy was ‘gift’… but it aint. its the bow-wrap. SMH

I am the gift… ‘tween my legs is a bonus…. just like your bank account is a bonus. i am not after that money… like you not after the azz…. we after compassion, acceptance, appreciation… love. bonus is you able to buy that 2nd home in JA and bonus is my ability to make you weep with happiness in the bedroom.

By Lady J

March 26, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

It does raqi and not that I am giving it up to every tom dick and harry I am just not at truly self controling that act in hopes of that LTR I truly want but hey I guess it will come when I am finished truely playing…Tricks are for kids and I jsut got use to truely being single and happy and dating…

By Staceye

March 26, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this

Binford Humans have an innate sense to breed not all! I for one do not!

BeautifulBlogVestFastened I agree..I will not wait until after marriage to test the waters. I mean if a guy lacks the skills to please me…that is workabe because he can be taught. No if he lacks the tools (size) then he is up shyt’s creek with no paddle because a Vienna wiener can not do the job of a Polish Kielbasa sausage! LOL

Truth Unless that chick is a virgin she’s given that azz to someone that is so UNTRUE! Did it ever occur to you that females aren’t ruled by their sex organs and urges as men are? I could care less if I have sex or if I don’t. I personally get turned off when a guy tries to get me have sex. I begin to dislike him and not want to be around him..especially in private places! Hence the reason I do not go to guys’ cribs nor do I allow them in mine!

Jaime I refuse to lower my standards just because most men have no interest in a woman that doesn’t put out. OR they want sex without making any kind of commitment. I mean what does: I like you enough to have sex with you, but not enough to stop dating others really say? HEllo! It says they don’t like you very much* good GOD I co-sign! I think dealing with this type of behavior so much is why I am no longer on the sex bandwagon! I can go 30 days infinity!

Wise Diva I co-sign your 9:48. Without the sex….they would be sitting around twiddling their thumbs. You ever meet those guys who say, “im not a phone person”..well it’s because they have nothign to talk about..but everytime they see you it results in sex? It’s because that is all he is interested in.He has no desire to get to know your likes/dislikes, things that make you laugh/cry, childhood stories/mightmares, nor your future goals and plans…why…it’s because he does not plan to be a part of them. Now..he just wants a warm body and puddy to hit until the next hot chick comes along and the cycle continues. Then when he is old and sick he thinks woman is supposed to love him and take care of his old sickly dried up azz! HA!

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this

MissManners - TI spoke on abstaining from sex with all his b******* children in the audience? LOL. What was his point exactly? “Do what I say and not as I do?”

By Lady J

March 26, 2008 10:43 AM | Link to this

I meant to ask and I will get my vest ready does that make me a trick or treat…lol…OK Fire!

By mamalongleggs

March 26, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

Raqi I agreed totally with your 10:34

By Binford2K8

March 26, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

Wise Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars, and the fun (especially on this blog) will never end because of that.

By fionna

March 26, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

To “Truth”, You are right, you haven’t dealt with a Woman like me because you wouldn’t even get the pleasure of a conversation with me. You are a man with No dignity. I am not dying to be married, God has fulfilled my life to point that being “Mrs somebody” is not my life’s mission. It is very possible to live a fruitful life without a husband and children. A final word, you or anyone elses nasty comments on here don’t offend me because Christ endured greater hardships than anyone else on this earth, so a mortal being like you don’t move me. May God bless you Truth.

By 2CPTG©

March 26, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

Slim…..I see exactly where you’re going…..and you’re exactly right, some dudes have reliquished that power to y’all!!! Say what you want, but that’s all it is, in a nutshell….the relinquishing of power! and it’s a double edged sword because we both need each other…..

By BriteEyez

March 26, 2008 10:48 AM | Link to this

abc ^ 5, your 10:11 post was on point!

By Wise Diva

March 26, 2008 10:48 AM | Link to this

and I really wish ya’ll would stop making single life out to be a damn death sentence. I mean, for one unmarried does not mean alone, and it definitely does not mean you are miserable. So, can we SINGLE PEOPLE stop with the “you are single, aren’t you?” or that, you will NEVER marry…as if that is ANY kind of indictment on who we are as people. I don’t buy that, sorry. If anything, you make yourself out to be the miserable one with those statements, I think that is called projecting.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

LMAO! I wonder if Truth is about to melt like the wicked witch of the west after fionna’s last post.

I still got your back, sister!

By BeautifulBlogVestFastened

March 26, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

Staceye what’s up chica? it’s wonderful to have an amazing chemistry with the person you’re dating or living with. chemistry also has to do with love making. i believe it helps the relationship in every aspect. when i think of him, i want to feel that warmness for him in my heart and in my … … . .

By Black Girl

March 26, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

Morning 2CPTG. kiss

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

Okay here’s the test to find out if the man you are with or pining to be with is in it only for the sex.

Count the number of times that he has spent with you when nature put a halt on the activities. (Illness, Aunt Flow, etc, etc, etc,)

If he suddenly has some where else to be then…

Like Staceye said, if he “aint a phone person” but only a face to face, then…

By Jason

March 26, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

If only Kravitz would abstain from making music…

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

WiseDiva - Amen to your 10:48. That “single for life” sentence doesn’t work anymore in 2008.

By Kym

March 26, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

Rell I agree with you on the leave religion out..but I will make this one statement and let it go. Some of the women folks(not just here but those I come into contact daily) seem to be trying manufacturer a blessing from God regarding a man. I mean the talk I read here is what I hear sometimes in older and younger women. I want a man and I want God to send me the right man. They fall at the altar, throw ashes, make promises to God they will not keep.(we all do) and then go about wagging their fingers at everyone because they are living their lives, discovering their purpose, while they are still “waiting on God” and this blessing that will be Mr. Right. I believe in God just like many of you but I do know one thing about God that is rarely ever expressed in all this ash flying and oil throwing. God has never, ever, ever sent me what I wanted. I have always been provided with what I needed. That means the person you need in life to walk with you on this journey could be in front of some of you and because you are so caught up in whateva this magical “blessing man should be.” He might just come wrapped up in a totally different package than you imagine. Heck I am willing to bet some women have sent him right back unopened and marked undeliverable because he didnt match up with what you manufactured. So while you are getting in touch with your spirtual side you might want to tap into reality and look around.

By Light

March 26, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

For those who has ears 1 Corinthians 7

But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

By SlimOne

March 26, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

2C it’s a double edged sword because we both need each other….. I couldn’t agree with you more. That’s why i can’t get on the “I don’t need a man” bandwagon. That really means that you’ve convinced yourself of that. (<—ladies don’t shoot me)

FYI: the best lovemaking I ever experienced didn’t require any physical contact I feel like if you can get on that mental playing field with someone, adding the physical aspect will only make the connection that much better. But in our drive-by, I want it all now society, we don’t maintain the patience to get to that point. We fluck first and figure out if we like you later…

By Staceye

March 26, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

ARED TI spoke on abstaining from sex with all his b* children in the audience? LOL. What was his point exactly? “Do what I say and not as I do?”* Girl isn’t that the truth! LOL That’s like Amy Winehouse telling people not to use drugs!

By DreamsMaterialize

March 26, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

DasV The link you provided is a Christian website, further proving my point that Christians have redefined the word. Here’s the main problem with the definition: the site says that porneia=illicit sexual intercourse, which, according to them, includes fornication. The translation of a word CANNOT itself be a word that comes from the original word being translated. That’s like saying the definition of running is to run. I think the site you referrenced (and Christians in general) is actually guilty of materializing definitions, NOT ME.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

It would suck to abstain til marriage only to find out your spouse was bad in bed. But if you are a person of faith, you realize that everything should fall into place.

I’ve never had truly wack sex, so I don’t know why I’d start after finally finding “the one,” but if it happens, you’d deal. Many folks couldn’t most relationship hurdles in the first place.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

It would suck to abstain til marriage only to find out your spouse was bad in bed. But if you are a person of faith, you realize that everything should fall into place.

I’ve never had truly wack sex, so I don’t know why I’d start after finally finding “the one,” but if it happens, I’d deal. Many folks couldn’t handle most relationship hurdles in the first place.

By mamalongleggs

March 26, 2008 11:00 AM | Link to this

Amazon girl you are too funny

fionna you don’t have anything to prove, keep your faith and don’t let anybody knock it or rock it.

By Wise Diva

March 26, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

The Truth, is it time for you to step away from the keyboard and relax a little bit?

By Hiawatha Smalls

March 26, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

Staceye I am not a phone person, and it has nothing to do with what you stated. For me, I like to see body language and facial expressions. In combination with the words, it can tell so much more. It can tell you when a person is lying. For example, I once dated a female that would cross her legs and wiggle her left foot everytime that she was lying. I wouldn’t have learned that over the telephone!!

Also, I am a true believer in the saying that the eyes are the window to the soul. I have no problem looking a women in eyes. If she has a problem looking at me, she could have self-esteem problems. If I’m willing to deal with it, then I proceed. My time is just as important as your time.

By fionna

March 26, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this

Truth, The same Jesus you just denounced will be the same Jesus to that you call on during that great day called Atonement. Read the Story of Saul whose name later became Paul. You can start out in the Book of Acts (New Testament of the the Holy Bible) or do you know what the new testament is? Anyway, refer to Paul’s ride to Damascus and see what came of him later. You still have the potential to do great things as Paul did when he allowed Christ to take over his life. By the way, your ignorance and barely GED level conversation does not “Enlighten” me either. May God Bless You!

By Light

March 26, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

For those who have ears 1 Corinthians 7:9

But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

By Binford2K8

March 26, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

Oh the religious rhetoric! For the fanatics, the purple kool-aid stand is to the left.

This “God has a plan for me” phrase is merely to lend justification to why things may or may not go your way. I’m sure if one has yellow buck teeth or open sores on your skin that it is all in God’s plan. Or if everyone in your family is cross-eyed, I’m sure that’d be God’s plan as well and NOT a genetic trait.

I’m sure an omnipotent power really has concern and devises a comprehensive plan for every person on the planet(and I’ve witnessed some interesting plans) - but wait, that would be against free will. Hrrrrrrrmmmmmm

We may have a creator, but it’s akin to us having an ant farm. Nothing more.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

Truth - I guess you’re avoiding my question on purpose….

As for those of us, like me, who have had sex before and decided to abstain…so what? Why does your past sins mean you have to continue to behave that way in the future. I’m sure there are things you did in the past that you don’t do anymore.

Once you know better, you should do better.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 11:12 AM | Link to this

Binford - The religious rhetoric has just as much place as your anti-religious rhetoric.

This topic has hit the front page of the AJC and will most certainly draw attention to those who are abstaining. Many folks do it for religious reasons so you might as well get over it for today.

By Please

March 26, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

fionna Please Move On.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

Nevermind, it’s off the front page of AJC now. LOL

By SlimOne

March 26, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

Ared It would suck to abstain til marriage only to find out your spouse was bad in bed If you didn’t have sex until you were married, you wouldn’t know if it was ‘bad’ or not…cause you wouldn’t have anything to compare it too. I mean if we all told the story of our first time, would the story ever live up to what we IMAGINED it to be??? dang, that’s a good azz question I, can tell you my first time was TAKEN from me…so there goes my magical first time story.

By DasV

March 26, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

dayum wha yall got against god? j/k.. but not really.

dreamsMaterialize the word is only found in the bible, so you gotta go by a bible writers/readers definition. the word isnt found in other secular manuscripts from that era. but anywhoo… must we define it? no definition is needed to know that sex with an animal is just wrong…. i guess evolution is a real theory… cause we have ‘evolved’ into a society that has so desensitived our natural ‘right from wrong’ that at this point anything goes. excuse me while i throw up

theTruth its been said already but i will repeat it…. inside a marriage, i know longer ‘own’ my body. but before the i do’s and the ring and the committment, my body is mine to do as i please. and it pleases me to take a sabbatical from sex.

but your line of thought is making more sense to me… you arguing marriage and dating as if they are the same and the same rules apply… nah. potna that is the reason for the ceremony…. it is evidence of a change in the relationship… where new rules apply.

the self-imposed rule i currently have myself under right now is going to help when i take up the rules that come with marrying myself unto my king.

By 2CPTG©

March 26, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this

Fionna…..ain’t trynna get in yo business, but Saul/Paul didn’t choose his path either!!!! If I ain’t mistaken, didn’t that Light he saw, say, “I’mma show him what it’s like to suffer for my name sake” And didn’t he tell Ananias that Saul was a “chosen vessel unto me”……Wasn’t Saul’s mission on that ride to Damascus to slay those whom professed Christ?

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this

Why does religous talk make so many folks uncomfortable? Especially if you claim to believe in God or at least be “spiritual.”

By Tha Baddest Bizitch

March 26, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

I don’t believe that casual sex makes you a slut, nor sex outside of marriage. I am one of the few females that can seperate emotions from a sexual fling. Why is there such a double standard w/men and women?? Men can go around poking anything that moves and they are just “sowing their wild oats” but when women become sexual beings its wrong and they are sluts! I could go 30 days or 3 years, but I choose not to. One day I will meet the man that I can spend the rest of my life with, but until then I’m going to have as much meaningless sex as possible… LIFE IS TOO SHORT! JUST DO IT….

By Tha Baddest Bizitch

March 26, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

I don’t believe that casual sex makes you a slut, nor sex outside of marriage. I am one of the few females that can seperate emotions from a sexual fling. Why is there such a double standard w/men and women?? Men can go around poking anything that moves and they are just “sowing their wild oats” but when women become sexual beings its wrong and they are sluts! I could go 30 days or 3 years, but I choose not to. One day I will meet the man that I can spend the rest of my life with, but until then I’m going to have as much meaningless sex as possible… LIFE IS TOO SHORT! JUST DO IT….

By As The Stomach Turns

March 26, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

AS THE STOMACH TURNS

Melinda: did you marry the momma yet? Remy: nope i told you that was not going to happen Remy: dont have any plans to do so Melinda: i dont get you men. ya suck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Remy: why do I we have to suck? Melinda: cause y’all do Remy: ok why? Melinda: always waitin until something better come along Melinda: you gonna be 80 and alone and ya know what you gonna deserve it Remy: thats not the case with me but why would I marry someone just because they had my child, the important thing is the child. I really dont think men are different anywhere else we are pretty much the same across the board Remy: naw I think thats not going to happen, why are you so bitter Melinda: she was good enuf to fvck Remy: so were you, but am I marrying you? Melinda: im bitter because y’all suck Melinda: you dont know when a diamond is standing right in front of ya dumb azzes!!!!!!! Remy: we both new what we were doing, an I am very open to communication with people they know what they are getting in to with me Remy: Wow, maybe to us it’s not a diamnd !!!! Melinda: whatever. you need to stop looking around and look right in front of you Remy: and plus a diamond is not for everyone, esecially when it’s not your diamond to begin with Melinda: all diamond has flaws Remy: I mean you are really bitter then you will run back home as if the men are different Melinda: i’m gonna leave yall with ya issues. cause im done Melinda: lol Remy: Someone will recognize that you are their diamond, but you cant expect all men to recognize your shine Remy: Sounds like melinda is the one with the issues, because out of all the men that you have dated, it seem like there was a flaw in them, but you are the only common factor in all those events Remy: So now who is responsible for that?/ Melinda: i’m responsible. Melinda: for letting men take advantage Remy: ok so how are we the dumb asses? Melinda: that’s why i’m not dating. a waste of time Remy: no one well I can say i didnt take advantage of you. I think that you just wanted what you wanted in the time that you wanted it Melinda: yes u did. Remy: Please explain Melinda: you took advantage of my time, like NOW Remy: reallly please explain how I took advantage of you Melinda: are we together no Melinda: so you wasting my time, like your doing now Remy: I took advantage of your friendship that i wanted to continue but you said you didnt want to be my friend as all Remy: at all, sorry Melinda: i dont want friends, i have enuf Remy: Do you well how do relationships start off? Melinda: give me a break Melinda: IM someone else with that bs Remy: you just dont jump in a relationship and even when we first started I wanted to spend more an more time with you, but you was stuck on some dude that was in another situation, and you done that twice Remy: so who really was having their time wasted me or you Melinda: i dont want to read it, take it somewhere else Remy: read what Remy: so if you are btter and upset you should be that way towards you, for being so impatient and actting like you were spoiled Melinda: take it that way. dont want to read it Remy: what are you talking about? Melinda: your messages. take it somewhere else. Remy: What are you going to say to your kids when they start dating and they come across someone that is not understanding Remy: I see that the truth hurts Melinda: to keep it moving Melinda: good nite Remy: So whats is it that you dont understand about the guys that you have dated or I should say me, because I dnt know what happened with those situation Melinda: no need to chat with each other anymore. im not interested in dating or any man. i’ll be blocking your IM’s Remy: Now tell me who is actting like tha a* now Remy: A grown woman afraid to face her own faults, blame everyone else for her let downs, then has the nerve to be bitter Remy: Well I hope that you find all that you are looking for at home in the form of a man, a woman or another pet, but dont be mad when all that s** blow up in your face too, because you cant walk around saying everyone aint s**, you might want to start with yourself Remy: And by the way you cant block im you can just ignore them sweetie

By Tha Baddest Bizitch

March 26, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

I don’t believe that casual sex makes you a slut, nor sex outside of marriage. I am one of the few females that can seperate emotions from a sexual fling. Why is there such a double standard w/men and women?? Men can go around poking anything that moves and they are just “sowing their wild oats” but when women become sexual beings its wrong and they are sluts! I could go 30 days or 3 years, but I choose not to. One day I will meet the man that I can spend the rest of my life with, but until then I’m going to have as much meaningless sex as possible… LIFE IS TOO SHORT! JUST DO IT….

By Rell

March 26, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

@KYM..thats my point..you said it better than me

@fionia..when you starting your church…???

By Staceye

March 26, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

Wise Diva I agree…people think being single is some sort of Ebola virus! I personally am happy being single. I don;t have to share anything with anybody…my place can look they way I want it. I have no one breathing down my neck about what time I come in or where I’ve been (except my parents because they worry about me being here all by myself..and my girls here because if they call and I do not answer they will show up at my crib thinking I croaked from an asthma attack). But people see marriage and kids as some ultimate goal to acheive. Well maybe every woman does not want that..maybe she wants more than that! Just because I am dying to trade in my B.S for a M.R.S and let my years of education go down the drain simply because of a new last name and a baby does not mean soemthing is wrong!

Truth women get dressed up, smell nice, wear lipstick and make-up, push up bras and fake breasts, in hopes that some dude with something going on in life will scoop her up that may very well be for some women…but I get fly for me! As long as I like what I see inthe mirror…I could care less what some dude thinks. No am I not waiting for a dude to scoop me up. I’m scooped up by ME! I love me! God loves me and so my parents! I do not need validation by a man!

Light But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn if I am not mistaken..isn’t that another sin…LYING! Get married just so you can have sex and not fornicate..but the vow is to love, and if you do not love the person…you are lying! Sin is sin…so neither is better than the other!

ARED I’ve never had truly wack sex girlllll…it would p*ss you off! You would find yourself saying you could have had a V8! LOL

Hiawatha Smalls I too like to look at people when I speak..but I can speak to a person via phone just as I can speak to a person in the flesh. Now if there are certain things I want to watch for body language on..then I would simply wait untilI see them. But if a dude is always touching on you when he sees you and still has nothing to say that does not pertain to getting busy…oh yeah…he is a coochie-chaser!

By fionna

March 26, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

Please, If you are not mature enough to read this truthful message, why don’t you move on?

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st.

March 26, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

ARED 10:32 was so on point!! lmao! So real. love it!

As for your stance that some of us will never get married. We probably won’t. Some of you fellas WILL get married get trapped in marriage hll.*

So real!!!

By Wise Diva

March 26, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

@As the stomach turns..What the DEUCE!? Do you come with a translator?

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this

but until then I’m going to have as much meaningless sex as possible… LIFE IS TOO SHORT! JUST DO IT

LOL. Yeah AIDS will make that life short too.

By Binford2K8

March 26, 2008 11:33 AM | Link to this

ARed I do my best to respect all religions. However, when philosophy/religion is thrown in my face, I throw back. Seems as though there has always been a one way communication with a lot of religions - their way!

I’m for personal responsibility and realizing that hey, people of all creeds end up doing a lot of the same stuff (amazing how that works). Just that the “righteous” tend to always want to justify things through their religion.

The human condition amazingly isn’t exclusive to one group - it’s all of us.

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

It seems like every so often this ominous cloud loiters over the blog for weeks at a time.

I’m finna call Johnny Storm and invite him lunch. I need some fresh air.

By DasV

March 26, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

not trynna get up in anyones business but we dont have a choice as to what the holy spirit leads us to do, after we’ve made the choice to allow the holy spirit to lead us.

By Please

March 26, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

fionna Move On Doesn’t Mean Leave, It Means Stop Trying To Convince Truth To Be The Man We Want Him To Be.

By Tha Baddest Bizitch

March 26, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

“Aids is what tha white man created to keep the black man down!” haha… No, its called BIRTH CONTROL! Thats why we have contraceptives… I may be a “slut” but i’m not a complete idiot.

By Hiawatha Smalls

March 26, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

Staceye You said nothing about touching, you only mentioned talking.

After I’ve made up my mind that I have an interest in a relationship then I am more willing to talk on the phone. However, the initial meetings tend to be public for the benefit of the both of us. I don’t know enough about a new female to show her where I live or work.

For example, I had one date that we went to movies and afterwards we sat in her car and talked all night. I mean all night,and no touching at all. Regal’s Hollywood 24 (up I-85) turned off their neon-lights and we kept talking. We actually talked until the sun came up around 7:30. So it doesn’t always have to be about touching.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this

Binford - Seems to me you’re just as guilty of behaving the same way as these “righteous” folks. No one is throwing this stuff in YOUR face in particular. You’re chosing to read and respond.

I think we can figure out who the holy rollers are today. Why don’t you bypass their posts since they won’t fall in line with what you personally believe. They won’t change their ways just like you won’t change yours. No need to waste your energy.

Just my opinion tho. LOL

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

I may be a “slut” but i’m not a complete idiot.

LOL. Okay.

By Willie Dynamite

March 26, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

Wow it got deep real fast.

2C I been waiting on you to go there. I knew it was coming. Have at it cuz i know you are well equipped.

ForReal When you finish with them poles we need you to swing thru and lighten this place up a lil.

By Cemeeli

March 26, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

Hey in here!

Blog fam I found this quote reading a sports magazine and really thought its a good approach to LIFE.

Only when you have a true feel for the ball <—-(LIFE) can you truly make it do what you want.

…enjoy your day…God is good!

By Light

March 26, 2008 11:44 AM | Link to this

Staceye

if I am not mistaken..isn’t that another sin…LYING! Get married just so you can have sex and not fornicate..but the vow is to love, and if you do not love the person…you are lying! Sin is sin…so neither is better than the other!

Paul said if they can not contain which mean if u can not contain your fleshly feelings. is it hard for you to contain yourself sexually around someone you are not attracted to or dont love. How is this a lie?

By The Truth

March 26, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

Ared what queston are you referring to?

Here’s a question for you. Would you date a guy that said “I want a woman and can’t wait to get married but I’m not going to spend money on her”? The thought is ridiculous. Well for a woman to say the same thing is quite stupid.

I must be missing something here. Am I talking to a room full of virgin nuns or what? Next week you’ll be talking about how you met some guy and fugged him silly. This is a joke.

Das it’s ok for you to take a sabbatical. But you should tell guys you meet up front that you “ain’t fuggin”. If he still wants to go out with you it’s his cash. Any chick that i’ve dealt with knows what I want up front. It’s their choice to make.

The flip side and the only way I know to get down is you meet a chick and if every ounce of that chicks being doesn’t scream to want to please me this is a bust. Any money or time I spend is wasted.

Y’all have to ability to live in fairyland but I don’t. For me it’s real simple. Either you’re doing something or not. There is no gray area.

Badass you shouldn’t feel bad at all. Most of these angels in here fug more than you do. They just don’t count them because it didn’t work out.

Fionna put down your bible and read up on Emperor Constantine, the ruler of the same roman empire that hung jesus christ. He eventually chose christianity because it was the only religion that would forgive him for the dirty deeds he committed. If not for him we wouldn’t even be talking about jesus christ. Also, take a moment and read how our introduction to christianity came at the hands of our oppressors. The europeans in africa and slave owners in america. You didn’t choose christianity, it was forced on you. Why we have so much allegiance to a religion that’s not our own is amazing to me. Hell, they don’t don’t even follow it.

By DasV

March 26, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

Hiawatha Smalls dang. what movie did ya’ll see?? LOL

By Tha Baddest Bizitch

March 26, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed You will probably be single for the rest of your life… Too bad your going to let it all go to waste.

By Kym

March 26, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

Sometimes people are saying it is the spirit that is leading them when really it is not. If the spirit is leading you and guiding you to someone dont you think God would let them know you are coming? We have free-will for a reason. To walk this life’s journey and make mistakes.. Heck one of my favorite little quotes (man I love a quote) about mistakes is It Could be that the Purpose of your Life Is Only to Serve as a Warning to Others. from the Demotivators website

By GaMan

March 26, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

GaMan pulls out his C.H.I.P.S outfit…then pulls the Highway Patrol Mo-pad out of the Garage

he puts on the Leather gloves and puts a Fist in the air For his boy Musing

He then cranks up the siren and pulls As The Stomach over and gives this blogger 10 tickets

WTH was all of that

GaMan now passes out from writing those tickets in Tight Police Pants

By For Real

March 26, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

You can’t call on God’s word and then judge those you are not qualified to judge. If you want to spread God’s word judge you not. Remember Jesus did not hang around those that knew the word of God. He spent his days with those that did not. He also did not judge those people because only God can judge.

Only in the USA is sex such a big topic. Other countries around world has put sex in its proper place. In the USA sex is the 400lb Gorilla seating in the corner because of society and man’s attempt at moral judgement.

Woman your body isn’t gold or any other metal that man has given value to. God is so unconcern about your body that it doesn’t come with you to heaven. So to tie so much of your worth to something that means asbsolutely nothing to God doesn’t make sense. Remember Sex is like the devil, it has no power unless you give it power.

On the bible thing, the bible is a guide to help you live your life. You cannot follow the bible verbatim (i) because it is incomplete; (ii) We were created for change, nothing stays the same and God knows that.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

Truth - My question was how does abstaining from sex before entering a relationship equate to not performing your wifely duties once you’re married?

BadBizitch - If I’m single for the rest of my life, so be it. I have a fabulous life as a single person now, so what’s the problem now?

My goal is to get to that afterlife anyway. So I’m going to do my best to accomplish that.

By 2CPTG©

March 26, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this

“we dont have a choice as to what the holy spirit leads us to do, after we’ve made the choice to allow the holy spirit to lead us.”

hunh???? So when did Saul decide he wanted to be a spokesman for Christ…..oh, AFTER blindness came upon him…when did he choose to go blind?

By Cemeeli

March 26, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this

Raqi when i read the post i thought about the same thing. What is so neg about the blog lately? not really trying to figure it out, but it’s there.

anyway…we are blessed and chosen people…embrace.

By DasV

March 26, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

theTRUTH i believe in doing the dang thang too! and my blog time should vouch for that.

and therese only been one in my sights that ive had to share the fact that i am not interested in having sex. and that was just so he could help me with my resolve.

so i agree with you… i dont think anyone should be misled or bamboozled. they right is to know upfront where i stand. and then its on them…. to decide if they willing to work wit my ‘circumstances’.

i would hope a MAN would keep things in perspective. it could be that i am HIV positive, that a ‘circumstance’ too.

By Hiawatha Smalls

March 26, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

Das V The movie was “Pride”. The swimming movie with Terence Howard and Bernie Mac.

It was a pretty good movie, I think that I passed by it on Showtime last night.

BTW, we drove separate vehicles. Her car was just closer to the theater. So, it wasn’t even a case of her driving me around. I drove myself.

But being there in person and seeing her expressions (she can’t hide anything on her face) let me know that she was truly interested. When we parted I gave her a hug (no kiss) and got into my ride and went home.

We talked about everything that night from Disney world to funerals. I can hold my own in a conversation; however, I guess I know that I done the Chris Rock stock conversations “Yeah..(let her talk)…You don’t say….(let her talk)…I told you that biztch was crazy…(let her talk)” Meanwhile, I’ve put the phone down in between repsonses and done other things. So, phone talk isn’t all that special in my book. It doesn’t show that you are really listening.

By Tha Baddest Bizitch

March 26, 2008 12:04 PM | Link to this

I think that if your a frigid b*** before marriage… then you’ll probably be one after!

By GaMan

March 26, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

GaMan wakes up and starts hanging missing person’s pics around blogsville

Randyt…Musing…Hotsauce…

Gorill O…LL…SexyOne

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

So if you’re a slut before marriage will you probably be one after? Just curious. LOL

By BigWords

March 26, 2008 12:09 PM | Link to this

What is so neg about the blog lately?

People feel as if their way is the right way to live life. And so the neg flows.

By mytwocents

March 26, 2008 12:10 PM | Link to this

Rell had a great suggestion: we all sin daily, so lets stash the holy water and bible verses today. All this excess abstinence and fornicating is making some of y’all act like a bunch of heathens! Kym, you’re onto something, too.

See, Staceye, guys like Hiawatha do have something to say. They just speak body language better than English. And don’t be alarmed at the touchy feely stuff it means he also knows sign language. =)

WillieD/SlimO The mind – body seduction IS the hotness!!! But if somebody hasn’t really experienced how the physical feeling lingers longer b/c it’s merged w/ the mental energy, they’ll probably have to get curious enough or confident enough to test the theory before they really get it. When you’re in sync, you’ll find 3 days or 30+ days of mental titillation primes you for greater pleasure than a month of empty play dates while dude quietly conducts count down. Moral of the story ~ One chick’s 3 is another chick’s 30. It’s what’s behind the wait that matters.

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st.

March 26, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

Truth You are crazy…It’s confirmed….Why are you so overly aggressive?

By DasV

March 26, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

his blindness wasnt his choice, it was a wakeup call. like when you in a bad car accident and your life flashes before your eyes. you have freewill to walk away crediting your excellent driving skills, or IAMs ‘good lookin out’. if its IAM you credit then evidence would be in the form of more frequent prayers and regular attendance at service.

pauls made evident his acquiesce to the holy spirit guiding his life when he got baptized… after having fasted and meditated for 3 days.

By BeautifulBlogVestFastened

March 26, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

i picked the wrong day to blog. today ain’t Sunday. j/k i’ll come back to visit at another time. see ya!

By Tha Baddest Bizitch

March 26, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

haha! Good one… I dont consider myself a slut, but I do have a high sex drive—which I’m sure whomever I marry will thoroughly enjoy!

By DreamsMaterialize

March 26, 2008 12:15 PM | Link to this

DasV The word “porneia” does NOT only appear in the Bible, and “fornication” is not the only english word derived from it. The way the greeks used the word is the way it should be translated, not how the english would prefer that it be translated.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 26, 2008 12:15 PM | Link to this

Well dayum!! Ya’ll have busted the gates to Blogsville wide open today!! I guess the change in temperature has something to do with that. All this pollen is making for some interesting Blog interactions.

I’ll just post up in the corner and let ya’ll have at it. I said it would be a blog war and I’ll be dayumed if this aint one! :0)

By DasV

March 26, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

Hiawatha Smalls thats nice.

i know you new to the blog and maybe i shouldve posted the rule for this… but uh i wasnt really asking to engage in dialogue ova what movie yall saw, and how yall cars were parked, and the details of what was for you a very moving discussion. i was just making a joke.

By Staceye

March 26, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

Light Paul said if they can not contain which mean if u can not contain your fleshly feelings. is it hard for you to contain yourself sexually around someone you are not attracted to or dont love. How is this a lie? As I mentioned…when you get married…do you NOT tow a vow to love this person. But in reality you are only marrying them for the sake of getting to have sex without fornication. You really do not love them. So you just told a lie. You are living a lie. Just as a gay man marrying a woman just because the bible speaks against homosexuality is a lie. You are living a lie. They may love that woman as a friend but never in the way a husband should love his wife. So sexing her at night while a nother dude is in his head is a mental/emotional lie!

Hiawatha I have had conversations like that with guys. I love that. I love when I can spend hours talking to a guy and no akward silence followed by crickets moments come up. But some guys do not care to talk…that is why I just stay by myself.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

mytwocents - It’s a given we all sin daily. So does that mean we should just keep on sinning without trying to better ourselves.

The topic is “no sex and ths city” folks who chose to go that route often do if for religious reasons. The topic will slant that way.

If religion is applicable to how one lives their life, it will reflect in certain topics. Every day I go w/out premarital sex is one less sin I add to the daily log sheet. LOL. Doesn’t have to work for anyone else, but it works for me.

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st.

March 26, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this

Tha baddest Not if those walls are all beat out and every tom, dick and balls ranned up in ya! You can’t turn a slore into a house wife.

By Me-Me

March 26, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this

Where is Demi/Alvin to give out a Blog Citatation to As the Stomach Turns

By DasV

March 26, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

oDREAMYone aight. where can i find the definition you provided earlier in a secular reference?

By GaMan

March 26, 2008 12:26 PM | Link to this

GaMan throws a couple of stink bombs into the blog to get everyone to stop fighting over puddies and dycks and who can and cant have them…..lol

shizzzt these thing stink really bad it got in my mouth….lol

By The Truth

March 26, 2008 12:26 PM | Link to this

Baddest now you hit on something. 1204 These chicks have unresolved emotional issues that prevent them from participating in a romantic relationship. Their simply trying to lay their out before they go in. They know they can’t get in tho if they don’t have sex.

Question: Which woman is a bigger sinner?

1) A woman that sleeps with 20 men over a few years.

2) A woman that sleeps with 20 men in one night.

I’d love to know the answer to this question.

Das what religion do you follow? I here you say iam alot. I thought god was synonomous with “I don’t know”.

Ared I’m not concerned about an afterlife or some pearly gates, especially at 10% of my income. I’m concerned that I enjoy everyday of my life. Some puddy every now and then helps my cause. LOL My mom and sis passed and neither came back to tell me about some afterlife. Their just gone.

By Hiawatha Smalls

March 26, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this

0.02 LMAO-Oddly enough I am a signer and sign during church service. I guess that you know me. lol

I am not saying that I cannot talk on the phone. I am just saying that I want to know you enough to want invest phone time (which can be more time consuming).

I am psychologist so mere words don’t do enough for me. There has to be a context or foundation in which to put those words. I get the full picture from non verbal communication.

By Willie Dynamite

March 26, 2008 12:29 PM | Link to this

Words co-sign that 12:09. It is what it is. Been going on since the beginning of time and its gonna continue straight ahead until somebody up there turns the lights out on this small planet.

.02 thats a lil more than the average can comprehend. Cant see past the mirror to focus on the reflection.

By TouchMyBody

March 26, 2008 12:30 PM | Link to this

MeMe I thought the soap opera was funny as h3ll! He’ll be back. LOL. Fool.

By Wise Diva

March 26, 2008 12:31 PM | Link to this

These chicks have unresolved emotional issues that prevent them from participating in a romantic relationship

Hello Pot? This is Kettle.

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st.

March 26, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

SEANJOHSON You got those RICKY ROSS tickets for tonight. I would not mind going to see him and checking out Dreamz! I like Rick Ross swag……it’s sexy.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 12:34 PM | Link to this

Truth - They are equal sinners. But one of them might have more issues upstairs.

I also am concerned that I enjoy my everyday life. Abstinance helps to give me that piece of mind and enjoyment as well. You should be praising the chicks who tell you upfront they abstain. You know right off to cross them off of your list. Saves you time. LOL So why are your post coming off so angrily?

And you STILL have not answered my question. LOL

By The Melo

March 26, 2008 12:39 PM | Link to this

Lenny Kravitz is a part of this new age he/she group. Next he�ll be kissing Dennis Rodman Truth i may not see ur response today, but i was thinking exact same thing.Whats the point of sexless dating when u can have the option to meet a great chic(in and out) that can still give u sex.If u planning a long term relship with a lady, sex must be on ur diet becoz, like Truth says( and me knowing from experience) u set the tone of ur relationship during the dating phase.If she restricts sex, its a wrap..when u get married, ur sex days will be far in between.Guys, dont do it!! If the chic wont give me sex within a reasonable time(say a month to 2), no matter hw good she is outwardly, im out.Coz unless she is a virgin, she just playing mind games with an adult and i got no time for that. If u playing the Godly card, find urself the Godly man in church, stop coming to da club and rubbing when Rkelly is playing and then turning around to say u christian, u wont s3x.That wont fly and its hypocritical.

By Tha Baddest Bizitch

March 26, 2008 12:40 PM | Link to this

Again.. here we go with the generalizations again! I havent had sex in over a month.. but I’m a “slut” because I enjoy casual sex once in a while… And did I mention that I’m having sex with the same person?? My stuff is not “beat out”… its tight and just right! I havent had kids yet and I do keagle… So BLOW ME!

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 12:45 PM | Link to this

If u playing the Godly card, find urself the Godly man in church

melo - Good advice. :-)

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st.

March 26, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

Truth Now we are finally getting somewhere with you. You have been hurt and you act it out with your outraged post. The closest two ppl have left you life so you build this HUGE hateful wall up to guard your heart and feelings. Truth Honestly my brother, you are hurting yourself. The true character in you is not as krupted as you seem to portray.

Stop being so cold when there is the creamy soft sweet filling inside of you. You are just scared of being taken advantage of and not being respected. So you come off so harsh to protect who you really are. Truth your cover is blown buddy. Come out from under the sheets.

BLOG HUG for you. BLOW is now hugging the Truth, she is now praying his rank stink will not stain her clothes…..I just got them out of the cleaners!! lmao!

By Hiawatha Smalls

March 26, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

Das Venus Thanx, but I am not new. I have been here before. Actually I remember characters such as Musing Lee, Jake and even a moderator named Laney, who went back to school. I don’t know a lot of the new folks here. I see that The Truth is still here.

I posted that other stuff on my on volition.

By SlimOne

March 26, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

Truth

QUESTION: Would you rather sleep with:

1) A chick that slept with 20 guys of a few years?

2) A woman that slept with 20 guys in one night?

I’d love to see the answer to that question. lol GLM (gotta luv me)

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 12:49 PM | Link to this

Bizitch - No one is attacking you girly. You refered to yourself as a “slut.” And we know you weren’t serious.

You made the point about “frigid” people and the same point can be made about “slutty” people. It wasn’t direct attack type of post.

By SexyCanI

March 26, 2008 12:50 PM | Link to this

Bad You have to state all of the details in your story upfront or these bloggers will rip you apart. One of their hobbies is throwing stones. Good luck.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

SlimOne - You are crazy! LOL!

By The Melo

March 26, 2008 12:53 PM | Link to this

As a single attractive gay man in Atlanta I can tell you the blog has evolved, hasnt it,since i have been slow on it for a minute.I didnt know we now have Sophia segment!!

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st.

March 26, 2008 12:53 PM | Link to this

stop coming to da club and rubbing on my thick dyck when Rkelly

funny…..lol…

Baddest I could careless what you poo pie is hittin like. That should be his concern. If your poo see is so good…why aren’t you in a relationship? Seems like you want to be if you consistently banging the same person. Oh, nevermind you are just lost Sweetie and want to remain that way. Close your legs! Because you are worth respecting….PUDDY never kepted a man. Like WD take away the fact that you are a self proclaim nympho….what else do you have to offer?

By Light

March 26, 2008 12:55 PM | Link to this

Staceye But in reality you are only marrying them for the sake of getting to have sex without fornication.

Paul does not say marry every one you are sexually attracted to he said

“But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn”.

Its up to the person to choose within the scope of God will, if a person is not worth marrying, are they worth the part of you thats does not die?

By TouchMyBody

March 26, 2008 12:57 PM | Link to this

melo Your GAY!!!!!!!

By Wise Diva

March 26, 2008 12:59 PM | Link to this

The melo, don’t start buddy.

and as for your girl in the club comment, seriously? When has that EVER happened? LOL..yeah, I am being facetious, but I can see the point you were making, just thought it a bit silly using that analogy.

By TouchMyBody

March 26, 2008 1:00 PM | Link to this

^5 Blow

By SexyLeggs

March 26, 2008 1:00 PM | Link to this

These chicks have unresolved emotional issues that prevent them from participating in a romantic relationship. Not true for all women in the world nor on this blog. Some of us are not participating because we haven’t ment “the” man on the same page we’re on. Didn’t you say you weren’t dating due to $$. You want to come correct when you step to a woman, well we woman are on here waiting for the same thing.

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st.

March 26, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

ARED YOU KNOW you wrong for that!! BIZITCH YOU ARE A FOOL…LMAO!

SLIM ONE LMAOOOOOOOOOO!! Girl you already know the answer to that question……You are fun knee!

By The Melo

March 26, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

TouchMyBody Patrick is gay..as for me, i just wanna touch ur body and tickle ur little thangs….

By Tha Baddest Bizitch

March 26, 2008 1:03 PM | Link to this

I get respect but not with my “poo poo pie” or whatever you want to call it. My whole point in the beginning is that I dont see anything wrong with women “getting some” too.. I’m young and about to graduate from college… Im not ready to be tied down and barefoot pregnant! I have a lot to offer… I’m intelligent, beautiful and heading in the right direction with my life. So what if I enjoy sex… I dont see why its such a big deal!

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 1:04 PM | Link to this

Yeah, melo, there are plenty of women who will give it up. So why do people seem to have SUCH a problem with a person who decides to abstain?

Lenny ain’t giving it up right now. Doesn’t that leave more women for you? LOL

By mamalongleggs

March 26, 2008 1:04 PM | Link to this

Slimeone 20 guys in one night or 20 guys in a few years is still 20 guys. How many women honestly tell a guy how many sexual partners she’s had? We know darn good and well Bob will not date Sussy if she had 20 partners, anything over 2 depending on the age is still too high. JMO

By DasV

March 26, 2008 1:04 PM | Link to this

Hihawatha Smalls oh. then you proly fam. was your ole blog moniker?? hit me up at bbq_sunflwr@yahoo.com.

By Wise Diva

March 26, 2008 1:08 PM | Link to this

one of their hobbies is throwing stones. SexycanI..ain’t that the truth? ..and what is killing me is the self-righteous attitude that I see so much on here, I mean, really..we ALL have different perspectives to share, but we spend so much wasted energy trying to change another person’s perspective altogether. It’s so interesting. I swear we are a thesis study/social experiment, just waiting to be dissected, LOL.

By BigWords

March 26, 2008 1:08 PM | Link to this

Didn’t you say you weren’t dating due to $$

That is a lame a$$ excuse to not date!!! Truth is that true? You steppin’ to the wrong ladies. Me, I’ll take you broke.

By SexyLeggs

March 26, 2008 1:19 PM | Link to this

BigWords, not that he’s broke. The housing market is in a serious slump and when he takes a woman out, he doesn’t necessarily want to be worried about his budget. Am I right Truth?

By Lena

March 26, 2008 1:20 PM | Link to this

Sometimes sex, really is just that - SEX. It’s not the beginning of a grand love affair, it’s not an indicator of greater things to come, and it’s not a great idea to base a relationship solely off how good a guys strokes are.

By For Real

March 26, 2008 1:22 PM | Link to this

For Real now making three forehead stamps: (i) Abstaining; (ii) Fugging; and (iii) Fugging-Abstaining.

By SlimOne

March 26, 2008 1:22 PM | Link to this

MammoryGlands..Um…I thought I was posing that question to Truth BUT since we’re chatting now…let’s see how should i respond. LMAO wait let me finish laughing at myself first………..LOL………LOL——-LOL…ok…wait…ha ha ha ha…Okay now I’m done.

How many women honestly tell a guy how many sexual partners she’s had? I guess we could do a survey and see what we come up with. So MamaLongHead How many dudes have gotten between your long legs? To be honest, I think if men weren’t so judgemental of women and REALLY wanted to know the answer to that question, a lot more chicks would divulge that answer. Personally, the older you get, the less of a PartnerTalley hold you can put on a person. You cannot realistically expect a chick who is 40 to have had only 2 partners. My main concern would be with how safe she’s been whether it was 1 dude or 1000 dudes.

Now there would be a bigger issue if i met a dude or woman that had slept with 20 ppl in one night. That would be a huge burning red flag to what they thought about themselves, and would speak more for their character. IMO

I mean really what would be the point to screw 20 diff folks in a 24hr period?

By ThirdWheel

March 26, 2008 1:24 PM | Link to this

Hey Everyone!! I have gone 6 years without sex. It can be done!!

By BigWords

March 26, 2008 1:26 PM | Link to this

SexyL I understand, but it’s all about supporting your man. I won’t support a man that has a in-between-jobs job for the last 5 years, but I’ll support a phine as wine, successful, smart single man who just unfortuately hit a rock.

By mytwocents

March 26, 2008 1:29 PM | Link to this

ARed Interesting that you’re abstinent, yet you have clients steadily tryna get appointments. Disproves some of the previously stated theories on hampered marketability. Of those who I know to have abstained due to religiosity – they were waaay out there and now they wanna bring it back, cleanse their soul and at least theoretically restore their body to pre-knocked off states. It’s an attempt to lessen the guilt of a sin committed moreso than a resolve to prevent the sexual sin from occurring in the first place… But wait, why am I going into this lengthy explanation? I don’t care who does what. I supported what Rell said cuz I went to church on SUNDAY and enjoyed the sermon THEN. I come in here for foolishness! Hey Cee, what’s up???

HIA Hilarious-Luv it! I know you got the mind kc@f down then. But can you turn it off and stop tryna break her down to the very last compound? Cuz it’s a little disconcerting when you can tell somebody’s doing that. Maybe scares ‘em off.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 1:29 PM | Link to this

Wow ThirdWheel. Kudos to you. Why have you gone so long? If you’re waiting for the right “one” has it been frustrating that it hasn’t happened for 6 years?

By ThirdWheel

March 26, 2008 1:31 PM | Link to this

Hey Everyone! I have gone without sex for six years! It can be done….

By SlimOne

March 26, 2008 1:31 PM | Link to this

3rdWheelie Were you….IN…car=> cerated??

Btw, i am delirious

By SexyLeggs

March 26, 2008 1:32 PM | Link to this

How can you “support your man” when you’ve only had one date. Don’t even know if he’s your man yet. Yet, I get what you’re saying.

By ThirdWheel

March 26, 2008 1:32 PM | Link to this

Hey Everyone! I have gone without sex for six years! It can be done….

By BigWords

March 26, 2008 1:33 PM | Link to this

a couple should of course decide what’s best for them and their marriage. and if not having sex before jumping the broom is good for them, great.

Can I add that there’s no teaching chemistry. You can’t learn this stuff!

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 1:33 PM | Link to this

stop coming to da club and rubbing when Rkelly is playing and then turning around…

The melo on an extremely serious note, my sister represented a 16yr that was tried for raping the girl who was suppose to be his girlfriend. He didn’t deny “having sex” with her, but the problem was he was said to have forced her. But my sis said that he “lost control” due to her constant teasing. That’s why kids shouldn’t be messing with this stuff. But uh, the boy stated that when they were out and about, the girl was very feely touchy. Hanging on him, sitting in his lap, making out with him. (My sis he is a very nice looking kid). But when they would be alone behind closed doors, she would deny him the affection after a certain point. This went on for a couple of months. In his testimony he said that they were out with some friends, she was showing him love, friends scattered, he was at the point of no return, his young life is now ruined.

By mamalongleggs

March 26, 2008 1:35 PM | Link to this

SlimeoneNo shame in my game. last I’ve counted I’ve had 9 partners that includes my first, 2 marriages, and 2 I thought was my man, 1 was a one night stand, 2 was a long termed relationship (lasted over 2 years) and 1 well let’s say was a dare(college days)

By For Real

March 26, 2008 1:36 PM | Link to this

For Real now wondering is it wrong for trying to have sex with 20 woman in one day.

By SexyLeggs

March 26, 2008 1:37 PM | Link to this

…Were you….IN…car=> cerated. I’m hollering over here.

By For Real

March 26, 2008 1:41 PM | Link to this

I have been having sex since I was 12 years old. See it can be done!

By Rell

March 26, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

@Badbench….gurl i will be your huckleberry….lol….i see you standing on yours….i cosign with you…..holla atcha boy

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 1:44 PM | Link to this

mytwocents - For clarification, I have not be abstinent for a significant period of time. I abstain in between relationships, but the guy knew that he was gonna get some eventually. It’s a diffent mentality now.

In dating, sex doesn’t happen early so the subject doesn’t necessarily come up until we start getting to that point.

However, I have a date tonight with a guy who knows I’m holding out. He also takes a similar stance.

By ThirdWheel

March 26, 2008 1:46 PM | Link to this

Amazon It gets frustrating sometimes but I try not to think about it. I keep myself busy with friends, school and work. I haven’t been on a date in six years either. I am just really picky and afraid of being stalked, shot at or mudered by a boyfriend who can’t take no for an answer. Sometimes it’s safer to be sexless… no disease, no whoops I’m pregant….

By For Real

March 26, 2008 1:47 PM | Link to this

if you relate 2yrs to prison time then yes that’s long term relationship ain’t that right 3rd Wheel?

By The Truth

March 26, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

Ok, what did I miss?

Blow you got me lmao over here. This has nothing with hurt or missing loved ones. They both died the exact time they were supposed to go. Get over yourself softy. Quit trying to make everyone as soft as you. LOL

Slim they’ve both experienced the same thing. The only difference is time. In that sense I’ve been with both and theirs not much difference.

Words this isn’t about dating but I don’t want to spend money I may need in the coming months. LOL I’d be looking at you swallowing food thinking “there goes Decembers mortgage”. LOL Really, dating is secondary to current market conditions. There will ALWAYS be women out there for me. I got to get back on the dollar grapevine.

By Rell

March 26, 2008 1:52 PM | Link to this

@raqi…i wonder where SHE learned those lil attention getting ways…and i wonder who told HIM that when a lil split tail is giving you signs she wants you to go in…..both of there moral compass where not set correctly…because when he had to make a choice he had no reference point to draw from….i blame the parents in this situation….dayum

By 2CPTG©

March 26, 2008 1:52 PM | Link to this

what if you sexless and it ain’t by choice….what if ain’t nobody trynna holla at yo azz?????

I know what somma y’all look like, so all this pontificating about abstinence is working, and all that…..be real with ya self, if you could give that shyt away, you would! And No, I ain’t callin no names, either!

By SlimOne

March 26, 2008 1:53 PM | Link to this

MamaEggs I really didn’t mean for you tell your number but of course it’s easy to say it anonymously on a blog where no one knows who u are. Hayo….Wait, anyone who knows me, please close your ears….okay…Hellz I ain’t got no shame in mine either. My number is 5,688,901,002 and counting….and guess what…I was in relationships with all of them. LMAO!!!!!!!! Well that was in my former life that is…this life it’s been…..

Beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep

This is a test by the emergency broadcast system. Had this been a real emergency the sounder would’ve been followed by further instructions…Again, this is only a test.

By The Melo

March 26, 2008 1:57 PM | Link to this

Raqi yeah,the mixed messages..stick to ur lane, dont try crossing paths with us ungodly se3x maniacs!!

* have not be abstinent for a significant period of time…. I have a date tonight with a guy who knows I’m holding out* Ared exactly what Truth and me were alluding to, u give s3x to some but not others.Which sucker is this u meeting who dont mind u whoring others in the past but not him?(im only koking girl but u get my point-kinda stabbing ur back softly)

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 26, 2008 1:57 PM | Link to this

The significance of “chemistry” is overrated, in my opinion. I don’t mean that as a slight to anyone who feels otherwise, but all too often people rely on having an “experience” with someone as opposed to discovering the deeper qualities of the individual over time.

Just ecause there are no “fireworks” or “butterflies” during the initial encounter with a person, doesn’t mean there never will be. The notion that comets must shoot across the heavens when your eyes meet is a misguided, and often regretful, assumption people often make. Chemistry won’t be what gets you through the most difficult situations in a relationship, nor will it be a factor in your ultimately being happy with that person. What should matter more than whether or not someone makes your eyelashes flutter at 180 flaps-a-minute, is the character of the person, because that is what will ultimately determine how content and happy you will be.

Some of the most successful relationships around today are those where there was no “chemistry” initially.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

Dayuum…ThirdWheel, that doesn’t sound like you’re picky. It’s sounds like you’ve given up!

By BigWords

March 26, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this

2 Baby that’s not nice, but I get what ya saying.

By mamalongleggs

March 26, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this

3rd I feel you on being picky but do you feel that you’re taking it to the extreme with the stalking, murder or being shot at? Is it that bad? Have you suffered a traumatic experience that has left you with these feelings?

By SlimOne

March 26, 2008 2:04 PM | Link to this

For Real OMG!! You’re only adding to my madness…(your post to 3rd) LMAO. I need to step outside and get some fresh air. There ain’t nothing like some fresh air out in the free world. Ain’t that right 3rdWheel?

By mamalongleggs

March 26, 2008 2:07 PM | Link to this

@Slimeone whateva LOL We know we don’t give out our real numbers.
Gone on witcha jovial self

By Wise Diva

March 26, 2008 2:08 PM | Link to this

cracking up @ Slimone! Oh how I love you to pieces for making me laugh some days, you do wonders for my ab muscles. ha ha!

Darrell, that’s an awesome topic idea. I personally am a fan of wanting to rip the clothes off my man, but I certainly think his character should be what seals the deal.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 2:10 PM | Link to this

Melo - I’ve had premarital sex and the past and made the decision not to have it anymore. If he wants to get caught up that I’ve had sex before, that’s on him. He’s free to go. He’s not the type of guy I’m after anyway.

By For Real

March 26, 2008 2:14 PM | Link to this

Ared let me see if I understand you. You had sex with last guy you were with but now you holding out on this guy bc you are end between having sex with another guy that you have not met nor seen.

said while For Real is cleaning the pole.

By 2CPTG©

March 26, 2008 2:15 PM | Link to this

naw, fa real, Big Words….I mean anybody can come on here tombout, oh yeah girl I ain’t giving up the goods til I find my prince…..yada, yada, yada…..but knowin damn well, she cain’t buy a man!!! How many folks can be honest with themselves and know they may fall short in the looks/size/etc dept, and dudes ain’t beating down their door, for said inhibitions? But it looks good to say, I’m abstinent, when it should be, I cain’t get none!

By BigWords

March 26, 2008 2:16 PM | Link to this

Who’s all for chemistry, raise your keyboards? Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By The Truth

March 26, 2008 2:18 PM | Link to this

2C you got me lmao over here. Don’t go so hard on em.

Meloif you met a chick and she was like “I’m waiting till I get married” that would be one thing. I say if you want to be someone’s wife act like it. If you want to date do that but quit trying to straddle the fence.

Have all the religous fanatics left yet? LOL

Wise I liked you better when you just put up the topic and bounced.

Sexy 100% correct.

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 2:19 PM | Link to this

You better be careful; There may come a day; You’re talking to a good friend; Next thing you’re rolling in the hay.

By Wise Diva

March 26, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

oh please, the most a woman has to do is yell out her window and say “I’m horny!” and go duck for all the dry, undersexed dizzle that falls her way (blame melo for my silly analogy!)

Some of ya’ll aren’t that blasted selective, let’s just keep it funky.

By BigWords

March 26, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

He’s not the type of guy I’m after anyway.

You youngsters kill me. Does he know this?

By The Melo

March 26, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

He’s free to go. He’s not the type of guy I’m after anyway. meanwhile this guy is sweating all day, thinking he has a serious date.The more u open ur mouth, the mouth its confusing for a guy and the more we guys want to s3x the moment we lay eyes on u girls..u’all confusing and play calculus, trigonometry and chess on guys.Ur a typical example why Truth and my argument makes sense.No sex,no play..i aint wasting my damn time on u sisters if u wanna go dating, spend my money on a nice restaurant and yetHe’s free to go. He’s not the type of guy I’m after anyway Raqi plz school these young ones.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

For Real - Huh? I’m not holding out for “this guy” I’m holding out until I get married. Let me put it to you this way.

I’m abstaining from sex until marriage because that’s how I was raised, I do believe premarital wrong, and I believe it’s the way God wants it to be. It’s a choice I’m making for me because I feel it’s best for me. No guy or bad relationship has influenced this decision. It’s something I should have stuck with from the beginning. But I know better now, so I’ll do better.

Fear was holding me back before, it doesn’t anymore.

That’s really all there is to it.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 26, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

Diva “I personally am a fan of wanting to rip the clothes off my man, but I certainly think his character should be what seals the deal.”

And I wouldn’t stop you either (LOL!), but the point I’m trying to make is all that snap, crackle and pop people are so caught up in is subject to the state of our emotions, and we all know how quickly those can fluctuate from day to day - and even moment to moment. Forgive me, but I’d rather not be in a position where I’m at the mercy of whether or not you’re (generally speaking) feeling all “tingly” at a given moment. I’m looking for something much deeper than that. If a woman makes her decision to not be with me solely or primarily on the basis that she really wasn’t “feeling” me, then it’s her loss as far as I’m concerned.

As far as a topic idea goes, I say run with it. I’d definitely be interested in to see where people come down on the chemistry vs. character debate. ;-)

By Wise Diva

March 26, 2008 2:24 PM | Link to this

ohhh Truth, nice try..but you don’t want it with me, trust.

By SlimOne

March 26, 2008 2:27 PM | Link to this

Truth How many times is considered too many to do it with yourself in one day?? Inquiring minds would like to know (said while pointing at For Real)

Wise Laughter is good for the soul. Riiiiipppp Now here is your invoice. I’m on Net 15 so I’ll expect payment in the form of cash or a 799” flat screen tv within 15 days of the invoice date. Thank you come again.

By 2CPTG©

March 26, 2008 2:27 PM | Link to this

“Some of ya’ll aren’t that blasted selective, let’s just keep it funky.”

ok…..in the spirit of keepin it funky, then……all y’all know somebody like that…that’s why ya hate to hang with ‘em, cause you know dudes ain’t gon be stuttin them, and all they gon do is hate, so you leave ‘em be…..yeah, you’ll hang with ‘em for innocent fun, but get the notion some eye candy gon be there, and you leaving her azz at right at home……

tell me I’m lyin!!!!

By ThirdWheel

March 26, 2008 2:27 PM | Link to this

Forreal You are right… LOL Amazon I guess you can say I have given up in a way… but I look at my other friends and how unhappy they are with their S.O. and I think why would I want to do that to myself??? Sex can come and go. Once you stop doing it you forget about it anyway. Mamalonglegs I have not been traumatized but I have watch the news and seen enough Lifetimes Movies to be on guard. I am not trying to get a crazy fool. It’s not safe to date anymore. Now back in my parent’s days yeah but now you never know who you are dating. If they are married and got a crazy baby mama at home. I just don’t have time to deal with that foolish mess. I am true Pisces so I am fine with hanging with myself if need be.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

melo - What is confusing about I’m not having sex before marriage. The guy knows this AND HE IS TAKING A SIMILAR STANCE. I’m not going to waste any guys time that requires puddy. If you need it, go find it out there. There’s plenyt of it!

Selective reading at it’s finest.

By Rell

March 26, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

ok ok ok…..ladies do you know this man…not literally but this is the mentality that is out there

taken from http://thehappygoluckybachelor.blogspot.com/

When it comes to relationships I am the Great Saboteur.

I know how to screw it up royaly.

Over the weekend a homeboy of mine pointed this out to me by way of women associates.

He noticed that the women that I called good friends were what you would call marriage material.

Educated, intelligent, kind hearted, universally attractive, centered and ordereed in their lives.

These are the that I kick it with, hang out, absolutely no fooling with.

He than pointed out that the women I chased around, were ussually unmotivated, zero ambition, scandalous, chaotic, out right trouble.

To be honest I already knew this but I did not realize that their was a pattern.

Every women I take seriously is a walking disaster.

My friend says I am suffering from a hero complex, (more popularly known as Captain Save a Ho), that I am trying to be a hero to these women so I only seek out the ones in need, knowing damn well you cant help those who will not help themselves.

He maybe right but I hate to think I am that naive, what I think is that I am choosing these women because they are easy to walk away from.

You see with a woman who has her act together you have to put in 100% effort, no half stepping.

I know I am not willing to do that because that means a very serious relationship that I want no part of.

I do not consider my self twisted for it just not ready for it.

Am I?

By Foot2Azz

March 26, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

The problem with women who elect to be celibate is that tend to be very touchy feely … that’s a broad statement, but I’ve found it to be true in my experience. Men are physical creatures therefore we don’t respond well to the mix signals of I’m abstaining from sex, but I’m a very affectionate type of woman. Actually its down right confusing and I try to avoid them at all cost.

Nothing wrong with being abstinate, but here are my rules:

I could go on forever about this, but if you’re having a personal moment to where you need to legitmately stop fuggin … by all means get your mind right. But in the meantime understand when you’re dealing with a dude who sees things a little different you gotta adhere to a different set of rules.

By GaMan

March 26, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

OOOOOOOOOOOOOo ooooohhhhhhh GaMan getting his popcorn ready for the HeavyWeight Title fight between Truth(I getz the azzzz or i bounce) and Wise(dont make me beat you over the head with my granny purse dive)

dang where is Foots at anyway…she normally does the popcorn

By mytwocents

March 26, 2008 2:34 PM | Link to this

My thinking doesn’t technically allow that to qualify as ‘abstinence’, ARed. If it’s not really on purpose, then that’s just being btwn the ex and the next. Is a thief who’s stolen before not STILL a thief — up til and after the moment of his next heist?  Same with fornicators. Pulling that Bible out, then selectively pulling verses and quotes outta it helps folk justify their own rhetoric and self serving absolution. And who are we to take that away from each other, huh? But you know, tomato – to-mah-to, girl.

Okay, I wandered into this Bible Study class by mistake. Leaving now. Pray for me, tho…

By Tazzee

March 26, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

Afternoon folks!

Personally I prefer abstinence, helps keep the mind clear. At least for me because I can’t separate the act from my emotions. I’m sure that when I get married, there will be times when we will just screw - but I can’t let a man inside me physically if he’s not already inside my heart…that’s just me.

I have to agree with 2can in that abstinence was REAL easy when I wasn’t dating anyone. Abstinence and dating is VERY difficult.

Character and chemistry. Chemistry will get me to pay attention to determine your character. The character is what keeps me. There have been guys with strong character where there was no chemistry. Perhaps I’ll go that route when I’m 50 - you know the, if we’re both not married by 50, let’s marry each other type of deal. But I know that if I fool myself into being with character/no chemistry - I’ll be looking for chemistry. But character/no chemistry is more of a possibility than chemistry/no character.

By The Melo

March 26, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

forgive me for selective reading but im just wondering why u fixing a date with somebody u not after anyway? Is he the one hooking u up? I guess not, because u said he knows u abstaining, so u just stringing him along just to while up time.And u thing that aint confusing to a guy who is serious???? smh

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this

Foot2Azz - Great post.

I used to be a tease, I had to stop all that stuff long ago. The guy often won. LOL!

By For Real

March 26, 2008 2:39 PM | Link to this

Raqi Next thing you’re rolling in the hay.

You are so right with that statement. That happen to me and my platonic friend 2E’s.

One time at band camp me and my platonic friend were playing buck nekked games that platonic friends play, when all of a sudden my platonic wang slid into my platonic friend’s platonic fortress of solitude. After an hour we separated the two and laughed like platonic friends do.

By GaMan

March 26, 2008 2:39 PM | Link to this

Ding Ding Truth comes out swinging hard and fast…..Body blow..body blow…left hook left hook

Wise is startled, but she gets her leggs back now she comes out swing and nails Truth with the Granny purse…Truth is against the ropes…his leggs are gone(what the hellz Wise got in her bag

Down goes Truth…down goes Truth..1…2….3….4 just as Truth appears to get up Wise stomps on his(Ouch) and he goes down again!! 5..6…..7.8.9.10

Truth is out and the referee Slim didnt call Wise on that Low blow

lolololololol

By abc

March 26, 2008 2:41 PM | Link to this

Soooo, Foot2Azz, basically what you’re saying is that if she’s breathing you’re going to try her.

Sa-lutt! Sluts know no gender, neighborhood, religion, age, national origin, nothin’.

Where’s the pride, man? Where’s the respect for other people? I guess you don’t care you’re just banging someone else’s future wife, just as all the other dogs are banging yours?

By Wise Diva

March 26, 2008 2:41 PM | Link to this

well, Foot2azz, your comment makes a tremendous amount of sense to me, thank you for weighing in.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

mytwocents - I’m abstaining now, until marraige.

melo - What are you talking about now? I have a date with a guy I’m interested in. He is interested in me. He knows I’m abstaining and he is as well…

Why is comprehension so difficult for you today?

By M.

March 26, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

@Wise

I hope my idea didnt cause all this controversy..

I agree with wise. Singleness isn’t a death sentence..

@SlimOne

Were you at Chris Rock when the comedian opened up and said “a woman said since you are 46 and single, you are in a mid-life chrisis…

He replied.. Im 46, single, no kids, a millionaire, new house, new car…it seems like a Mid-Life Christmas to me!!! LOLOLOL

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 26, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

GaMan Your 2:39 was funny, but I kinda picture Truth and Diva going at it in sort of a choreographed West Side Story kind of way, ya know, where they take turns hitting those on-the-spot dance moves that are supposed to intimidate each other, while hurling rhyming insults at back and forth.

snap…snap…snap…snap…

LOL!

By Staceye

March 26, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

Truth *Question: Which woman is a bigger sinner?

1) A woman that sleeps with 20 men over a few years.

2) A woman that sleeps with 20 men in one night.*

The answer is they are equal as far as sin..however the one who sleeps with 20 men in one night is just one nasty skanky trick! That goes for if a man slept with 20 women in one nigth as well!

Wisa Diva Hello Pot? This is Kettle. you stole my saying…I’d like my props please! LOL

Light But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn” again..you keep repeating the same thing….so its better to lie than fornicate? I think the sins of lying and fornication are equal. I do not believe there are levels of sin. It is just that…SIN! So why make myself miserable marrying somebody just so I can have sinless sex?

Foot2Azz so basically you are saying as long as I breathe and I am female…a man is going to try me? UGH! I’m so DONE!!!!!!!

By For Real

March 26, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

well, Foot2azz, your comment makes a tremendous amount of sense to me,

For Real now backing off Wise’s booty. Wait…… okay now For Real is backing off Wise’s booty. Wait……… okay for real this time For Real is backing off Wise’s booty.

By SlimOne

March 26, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

M. Yeah I saw him…and the bit about the men that be bussin through condoms need to get their wangs checked for sharp edges…cuz he’s strapped up since he been doing it and neva once busted through a condom…..Matter of fact I sang the star-spangled banner before the show started. Did you get there in time to check me out???

By The Truth

March 26, 2008 2:54 PM | Link to this

Slim that number is for you to determine. If you sleep with one and it tears you up thats one 2 many. If you can do 30 and remain tight then have at it. I’ve never had sex and then felt some kind of way about it. As long as she’s not pregnant or has a disease it’s all good. You sound guilty like you’ve had a 4 bagger or 2. LOL

Ared so are you saying when I move in I can’t just put the head in? Your my girl and all but you know your bullshyting, right? A woman, an odometer and a drunk are alike in one sense. Just because they stop doesn’t mean their reset to zero. Next we’ll have re-born virgin prostitutes. Are you saying your abstaining until you get married? If that’s true it’s easier to just say your never having sex again.

By Kym

March 26, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

ThirdWheel You are absent from living. Sorry but do you plan to become a spinster I mean it is cool if you are but you could run into a crazy person in your office, or on the street or anywhere. I am not buying that I am scared to date because it will fail. There is something underlining all of that you are not admitting. But here is a quote for you…

Risk- If you never try anything new you will miss out on all of life’s great disappointments.

By For Real

March 26, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

Ared I think you just misspoke like Hillary did. You wrote:“He’s not the type of guy I’m after anyway.”

Now you are saying you are interested in him.

For Real now helping Ared with her pole uniform.

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 2:58 PM | Link to this

ForReal you making jokes, but don’t let it getcha

I pretty much refrain from speaking on matters I am have no knowledge of or am not in to. But that right there sonny I am well familiar with. LOL

Who would have thunk???

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 26, 2008 2:59 PM | Link to this

M Your comment that “singleness isn’t a death sentence” reminded me of a book I taught from last year in my single-parents class at church. It’s called The Rich Single Life by Andrew Farmer. It’s written from a Christian perspective, so it may not be for everyone, but I highly recommend it nonetheless.

By Tazzee

March 26, 2008 2:59 PM | Link to this

Foot2Azz Do I know you? LOL

I am very touchy feely and I don’t take offense at a guy trying me. I usually win.

By M.

March 26, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

@SlimOne

Really? No, we had to find some parking in Midtown and missed it.

He was telling the truth. He said he probably can stick his entire leg thru one. Funny!

By Lady J

March 26, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

Discombobulated to say the least…I am still standing on this at the end of the day grown folk do as they please be it right or wrong what they want to do or not…We all know with choices made good and not so good consequences follows and as adults we deal accordingly…So to each their own and in the meantime enjoy life!

By mamalongleggs

March 26, 2008 3:02 PM | Link to this

@Slimeone whateva LOL We know we don’t give out our real numbers.
Gone on witcha jovial self

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 3:02 PM | Link to this

melo - I wasn’t talking about my DATE. I was talking about that guy who can’t accept the fact I want to abstain til marriage. If he can’t respect my decision to wait then HE’S NOT THE TYPE OF GUY I’M AFTER ANYWAY.

Truth - There are plenty of guys that can abstain until marriage. And that’s my current quest. I don’t have to prove it to you, you’re not the type of guy I’d go for. And it actually makes this easier because you eliminate the riff raff that’s only out for the puddy anyway.

By The Melo

March 26, 2008 3:02 PM | Link to this

He’s not the type of guy I’m after anyway….forgive my selective non-comprehension…now u interested in him again.

By Lady J

March 26, 2008 3:02 PM | Link to this

Discombobulated to say the least…I am still standing on this at the end of the day grown folk do as they please be it right or wrong what they want to do or not…We all know with choices made good and not so good consequences follows and as adults we deal accordingly…So to each their own and in the meantime enjoy life!

By BigWords

March 26, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

There have been guys with strong character where there was no chemistry. Perhaps I’ll go that route when I’m 50

co-sign.

By For Real

March 26, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

Where’s the pride, man? Where’s the respect for other people? I guess you don’t care you’re just banging someone else’s future wife, just as all the other dogs are banging yours?

This comment has given For Real a deviated septum from laughing so hard.

By M.

March 26, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

@Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

Thanks, Ill check that out.

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

If you want to measure “carnal sins” as far as the bible is concerned, the one that has sex with 20 over a few years, the one that sexes 20 in one night AND the one that sexes the same individual 20 times outside of marriage are all under the same measure of sin.

By Lady J

March 26, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

Discombobulated to say the least…I am still standing on this at the end of the day grown folk do as they please be it right or wrong what they want to do or not…We all know with choices made good and not so good consequences follows and as adults we deal accordingly…So to each their own and in the meantime enjoy life!

By Foot2Azz

March 26, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

Abc the fact that I’ll try a woman who is abstinate shouldn’t suggest I’m a slut incapable of controling myself. In the event of rejection I am simply rejected. I have evolved to the point of processing the word no.

However, I will take note of that and adjust how I deal with said abstinate lady. Probably, I’ll reduce all contact with her. Is that cold? Perhaps. But my line of thinking says that I respect her by respecting the words No, STOP, & Don’t! Fine. Just respect my position. Even if we have a good time I would be reluctant to persue someone to where I’ll eventually play myself if she remains steadfast.

By Tazzee

March 26, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

SlimOne I was at the Friday night show…I don’t recall anyone singing before the show, but then again we got in right after they rang the bell.

By Staceye

March 26, 2008 3:08 PM | Link to this

For Real LMAO..shut up!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 26, 2008 3:08 PM | Link to this

“Perhaps I’ll go that route when I’m 50”

Assuming you even make it to 50.

By SlimOne

March 26, 2008 3:08 PM | Link to this

Truth My question was: How many times is considered too many to do it with Yourself in one day?? LOL!…a 4-bagger??? I neva heard of that…Does that mean letting more than one bag boy bag up my groceries at Kroger??? If so, I think i can only recall a 2-bagger. lol

Question If you never planned on getting married. Do we call pre-marital sex…neva-marital sex, single-sex, or dating-sex?

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 3:09 PM | Link to this

Lady J - Amen to your 3:02. I meant to say hello to you earlier now that you weren’t studdering LOL

By For Real

March 26, 2008 3:10 PM | Link to this

Raqi You want to be my platonic friend too? I like dealing with people that know what they talking about. Oh and don’t worry, that band camp situation was an accident between two platonic friends.

By Tazzee

March 26, 2008 3:15 PM | Link to this

Darrell you are right. To me a lack of chemistry is like dead-dating…so what I mean by that is, I might settle down with someone with whom I have no chemistry when all I’m really looking for is someone to hang out with for the rest of my life.

By For Real

March 26, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

Slim Was that you for real? Dayummm I didn’t know you could sing like that girl but what impressed me the most is the way you were able to play the spoons and sing at the same time.

Dayummm You Good Girl. Slim got talent!

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

I am under the strong belief of if a man finds a woman to be even remotely attractive, the thought to try her will come to mind. Even if he does not act on it, he has, is or will consider it. But that’s just my opinion.

By BigWords

March 26, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

Slimone Why we gotta place a name on it? If you love someone, it’s only nature to be with them. No?

By The Truth

March 26, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

Ared since your holding out for a greater good what is it you want? Have you ever thought a dude could want the physical as much if not more than you want the mental? Anywho, we could go on forever but lets agree to let you do you and I’ll do me. BTW, is it going to be cool for me to put just the head in? I’ll pray with you after.

Slim LOL I misread that one. Whatever the number I’m guity as hell.

Where is Thunder Dan?

By IslandGirl

March 26, 2008 3:19 PM | Link to this

Hello Everybody

Truth You’ve got mail.

Slim I like that question you asked Truth- not sure if he answered you…

GAman lol

IG waving to the blog ladies

By SexyLeggs

March 26, 2008 3:20 PM | Link to this

Curious, what show are you guys talking about where the Star Bangled Banner is sung?

By Cemeeli

March 26, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

mytwocents lol @ I come in here for foolishness. Hey up! Speaking of…Today is my lil shorty’s birthday and the embarassement today for him, was on me of course.

2C…I look like jamaican beef steak! why you tryin’ to be funny?

Tazzee Hi. You’ve been MIA. What’s the next trip/vac?

By I Know, I Know!!

March 26, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

Rell That was from Darrell’s Blog, right!! LOL

By Kym

March 26, 2008 3:22 PM | Link to this

Why is it not 5:00 yet? This day is dragging on.

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

Nah ForReal I’m peachy in that department. I got all of those types of friends I need. Less than one arm length or phone call away on any given day. LOL

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 3:26 PM | Link to this

Truth - I’m looking for a dude on the same page. I don’t care if he wants the physical more than the mental. That clearly means we’re not compatable. There is no shortage of females that can provide him that physical he needs. More power to him.

What I want is to live MY LIFE the way I see fit. I’m always gonna do me. Duh!

By Foot2Azz

March 26, 2008 3:27 PM | Link to this

Ok, from reading my own post I guess I implied that I would try an abstinate woman on a first date. Simply put, no I wouldn’t. Damn I got home training. But I also have animal instinct accompanied by a discerning intellect. Do I misread nonverbal signals … all the time. Do women send mixed messages? All the time. But, fellas how many times have you simply kissed a woman who was cellibate and it ended up going just a little bit further. I mean winners try even if they fail. Losers just quit altogether.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 26, 2008 3:28 PM | Link to this

Tazzee I think chemistry has it’s place but, speaking only for myself, I’m not going to place all my eggs in that one basket, so to speak. Personally, I’m not willing to risk missing out not only on the kind of relationship I want, but also the kind of relationship I need, simply because I didn’t feel like bustin’ a cartwheel the first time we met.

I believe that sometimes things are simply ordained to occur and I need to be sensitive to that as it relates to that certain someone whom God allows to cross my path (and I hers.) I can’t be so naive as to think that only when the bells and whistles are going off on the inside that then - and only then - is it right for me to move forward.

God doesn’t always speak His will to us with lightning bolts. He sometimes whispers, too.

By 2CPTG©

March 26, 2008 3:28 PM | Link to this

“I look like jamaican beef steak! why you tryin’ to be funny?”

If that is indeed the truth, and you’re honest with yourself about it, don’t spin it tombout you’re abstinent…..be real, say don’t nobody want my shyt!

By For Real

March 26, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this

Raqi I would normally agree with you but that is just not the case with my platonic friend.

For Real now waving at his platonic friend while watching her change clothes thru high powered binoculars.

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

March 26, 2008 3:33 PM | Link to this

Women become celibate after they have accumulated so many miles they feel guilty about giving away the nappy for all those years. Now they want to calm down and be celibate. Or the last dude they dated had them so far out there and strung out she’s convinced she wont give it to anyone else for fear of being a fool again.

By IslandGirl

March 26, 2008 3:33 PM | Link to this

I’m a little late catching up on the posts, but did I read the Baddest Bizitch calling herself a slut?

Wow, i’ve seen and heard it all- calling yourself a dog and slut in one sentence.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 3:34 PM | Link to this

Foot2Azz - I took your post to mean that abstinant women should not be a tease. shrug

By Cemeeli

March 26, 2008 3:34 PM | Link to this

@ Kym…say that again! …waiting on 5.

By SlimOne

March 26, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

For Real I appreciate the Big Ups on my Spoon playing skills. I’m 3rd generation Play-Spoons-With-My-Fingertoes player. You betta recognize.

SexyLegs The Chris Rock Show on Friday & Saturday night this past weekend at the Fox.

BigWords I can’t respond right now cuz i’m laughing too hard……You gotta lighten up! My question wasn’t meant to be taken seriously…By the way, have you heard my rendition of I Believe I Can Fly…played with my spoons?

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 3:38 PM | Link to this

So Darrell that was God whispering to me (”that man is hawt”) on that warm rainy April afternoon as I said listening to the rain beat against the concrete patio floor. LOL I am just kidding but however speaking from my experience.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 3:38 PM | Link to this

Ooooh @ IslandGirl. LOL

By Lori

March 26, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

Deep down, i think every man worries that so far the sex has just been the means to trap him into the relationship. They fear that once you’ve got him where you want him, you’ll start withholding sex as punishment, or worse, pull the sexual rug out from under him completely. With sexless dating, men could at least relax a little bit and enjoy the woman.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 26, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

Slim Was that you I saw the other night on the RFD Network playing the spoons and doing the ham bone on Big Jim’s Polka Show?

By BigWords

March 26, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

Waitin’ on 2 to bring me the light.

By For Real

March 26, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

Darrell All jokes aside, you seem to me that you don’t know what you want in a woman. Thus, you are spread wide eagle hoping that she will run into or fall into your lap. I don’t know where you are in education of God but the first thing God gives you is confidence. You just write like you have that confidence.

Destiny is no matter of chance. It is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved. -William Jennings Bryan

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

You know Filthy DK actually I called myself turning to celibacy after I got fed up with dealing with major bullshyt. I just said fluck it…I mean don’t fluck…I…sigh…you know what I mean.

By The Truth

March 26, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

Kym and Similac both of your bosses know your blogging and wanted me to tell you you gotta stay late tonight. You’ll be home by 9. LOL

Foot2azz “I mean winners try even if they fail.” Losers just quit altogether.” Preach. Ain’t nothing wrong with a little no.

IG you got mail. And I answered her question in my 318.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 26, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

Raqi “So Darrell that was God whispering to me (”that man is hawt”)”

Nah, that was straight up Satan right there! LOL!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 26, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

Slim Was that you I saw the other night on the RFD Network playing the spoons and doing the ham bone on Big Jim’s Polka Show?

By SexyCanI

March 26, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this

Raqi I hear you loud and clear. Looking into my mans eyes for the first time, a sista couldn’t breath.

By IslandGirl

March 26, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this

Lori that is a great hypothesis, but there are too many horny women out there that would not (or be willing to) remain abstinent or withhold sex.

By DasV

March 26, 2008 3:49 PM | Link to this

BOOOYYAAAH! forReal and Melo she not addressing the ‘misspoke’ thing. and for a moment i thought the peanut gallery had gone silent…. with refutable proof that she aint wrapped tight, not wit what counts.

ok good ppl there are basically four types of ppl on the blog: theres 1) not dating, or having sex 2) dating, but not having sex 3) dating and having sex 4) not dating, but having sex Oh! and then theres TouCans call on ppl who want to have sex and/or date, but who too dayum ugly to get the other 4 types to give them some play. whew yall have been a mess too day. all i want to do is have a nice flirt session with some phine negro….. (which creates another type of individual i guess). whose wit me?? for proof im not batting on team 5, i will email a pic. LOL

By QC

March 26, 2008 3:49 PM | Link to this

What’s up Ga.Man

Darrell, did you get my message?

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 3:53 PM | Link to this

WiseDiva from reading some of these comments I have a topic suggestion.

Lionel Richie said: “…Tell me how to win your heart, For I haven’t got a clue…”

You know we probably covered this already. But if not, folks should listen to what the person is telling them they want and stop trying to force them into their world. However, we must all understand Men and Women are different and always will be. Take your 7 out 10 and make it do what it needs to.

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 3:53 PM | Link to this

WiseDiva from reading some of these comments I have a topic suggestion.

Lionel Richie said: “…Tell me how to win your heart, For I haven’t got a clue…”

You know we probably covered this already. But if not, folks should listen to what the person is telling them they want and stop trying to force them into their world. However, we must all understand Men and Women are different and always will be. Take your 7 out 10 and make it do what it needs to.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 26, 2008 3:56 PM | Link to this

For Real “but the first thing God gives you is confidence”

Not sure where you got that from, but you couldn’t be more wrong. I don’t want to get all theological here, but the first thing God gives you is an identity - in Him - and any confidence we have should, ideally, be realized in that identity, not in and of ourselves.

“All jokes aside, you seem to me that you don’t know what you want in a woman.”

How you draw this conclusion from any of my posts is beyond me, man. I guess now I’m supposed to make like Tweety Bird when he encountered the Puttytat and say “I tawt I knew what I wanted in a woman. I do! I do know what I want in a woman!” I got nothing to prove on here, bruh. I was just engaging in some intelligent conversation around the whole chemistry vs. character thing, that’s all.

By Cemeeli

March 26, 2008 3:57 PM | Link to this

2C…i’m glad you posed the statement…reeeaaalll easy there cowboy.

…okay…okay, i might not look exactly like beef steak, maybe more like a beef patty.

Spin it

…not everyone eats/wants beef.

I agree with “be real” bout it.

By Foot2Azz

March 26, 2008 3:57 PM | Link to this

ARed abstinate women and teasers are all synomous in my book … they are just women who don’t want sex … for the moment. The reasons they don’t want it is arbitrary. Eventually, most women will feed that particular urge. I just don’t want to feel manipulated because she holds the trump card.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 3:57 PM | Link to this

DumbV - There you go talking out the side of your neck AGAIN. I addessed it in my 3:02. Melo thought I was talking about my date. I clarified I was talking about any man who couldn’t accept an abstinant woman.

Do you ever get tired of putting your foot in your mouth? Goodness.

By For Real

March 26, 2008 4:00 PM | Link to this

DasV deposit your picturegraph at For_Real730@yahoo.com

By TouchMyBody

March 26, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

Tell me how to win your heart, For I haven’t got a clue

In other words, I don’t read minds.

By Kym

March 26, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

I firmly believe there is someone for everyone in this world. No matter how you look..you just have to make that connection.

wonders how many people are going to email their pics to 2C to prove they don’t look like death warmed over

By Waffle House

March 26, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

I have bad gas!!! I just let a wet one rip! LYSOL call!

By Cemeeli

March 26, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

your bosses know your blogging and wanted me to tell you you gotta stay late tonight. You’ll be home by 9.

Truth Forget that!… i’m taking shorty to Hawks game tonight. Wont be me in here at 9.

Cee going to the office closet to pull out her double…smells like beef in here… lol…

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

Oh SexyCanl I could breathe fine at first glance into his eyes. It was what he did to me over the following hour that took my breath away.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

I just don’t want to feel manipulated because she holds the trump card

Foot2Azz - I don’t doubt that some women might use it as a manipulation tool. That’s why it’s not wise to have sex with a man, then take that aspect away.

However, if she tells you that from jump, what’s the problem? Either you’re on board or you are not. If not, move on.

By For Real

March 26, 2008 4:08 PM | Link to this

Darrell but the first thing God gives you is an identity - in Him which is why I said the first thing He gives you is confidence. So not wrong, just said differently.

How you draw this conclusion from any of my posts is beyond me, man.

From your many post. You seem to be on a quest to understand and figure out. This is where I see that you appear not to have confidence. The confidence that was given to you also comes along with peace of mind so you don’t have to understand nor figure out.

I got nothing to prove on here, bruh.

I feel you on that bc you see how stupid I am on here but I just thought I would drop a bug.

By Attention W*******

March 26, 2008 4:10 PM | Link to this

Ared you ain’t neva lie!! She keeps her damn foot in her mouth or one of the MLB’s eryday!!

By Wise Diva

March 26, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this

I like that topic idea, Raqi, and you know most of the topics we cover have been done before, but some discussions don’t always fully flesh out, so it is good to re-visit with a different angle, and new perspectives. so, Thank you.

By Tazzee

March 26, 2008 4:12 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli I’m staying put for the next two weeks. And since I don’t count my many trips to ATL as vacations, I guess my next vacation won’t be until…hm, when I got to NYC to see Cat on a Hot Tin Roof (tentatively end of May) - then I’m planning to go back in August to see India.Arie in For Colored Girls….

Darrell I’m not trying to convince you to wait on the chemistry, I’m just telling you that it is important to me - and many other women. I’m sure there’s a woman out there that isn’t that concerned with chemistry and you’ll meet her if you’re patient. It’s kind of like being patient to find a man that can deal with my abstinence.

Foot2Azz It’s not that we don’t ‘want’ sex, we just choose to wait on it.

By FATBURGER GAS A.K.A. WAFFLE HOUSE

March 26, 2008 4:12 PM | Link to this

This is for all you work POOPERS!!

OOPS…I let a another wet, stinky one rip

HOW TO POOP AT WORK

As much as we try to convince ourselves otherwise, the WORK POOP is

inevitable. For those who hate pooping at work, the following is a

survival guide for taking a dump at the office.

CROP DUSTING: When farting, you walk really fast around the office so the smell is not in your area and everyone else gets a whiff but doesn’t know where it came from. Be careful when you do this. Do not stop until the full fart has been expelled. Walk an extra 30 feet to make sure the smell has left your pants.

FLY BY: The act of scouting out a bathroom before pooping. Walk in and check for other poopers. If there are others in the bathroom, leave and come back again. Be careful not to become a FREQUENT FLYER. People may become suspicious if they catch you constantly going into the bathroom.

ESCAPEE: A fart! that slips out while taking a leak at the urinal or forcing a poop in a stall. This is usually accompanied by a sudden wave of embarrassment. If you release an escapee, do not acknowledge it. Pretend it did not happen. If you are standing next to the farter in the urinal, pretend you did not hear it. No one likes an escapee. It is uncomfortable for all involved. Making a joke or laughing makes both parties feel uneasy.

JAILBREAK: When forcing a poop, several farts slip out at a machine gun pace. This is usually a side effect of diarrhea or a hangover. If this should happen, do not panic. Remain in the stall until everyone has left the bathroom to spare everyone the awkwardness of what just occurred.

COURTESY FLUSH: The act of flushing the toilet the instant the poop hits the water. This reduces the amount of air time the poop has to stink up the bathroom. This can help you avoid being caught doing the WALK OF SHAME.

WALK OF SHAME: Walking from the stall, to the sink, to the door after you have just stunk up the bathroom. This can be a very uncomfortable moment if someone walks in and busts you. As with farts, it is best to pretend that the smell does not exist. Can be minimized with the use of the COURTESY FLUSH.

OUT OF THE CLOSET POOPER: A colleague who poops at work and is damn proud of it. You will often see an Out Of The Closet Pooper enter the bathroom with a newspaper or magazine under their arm. Always look around the office for the Out Of The Closet Pooper before entering the bathroom.

SAFE HAVENS: Seldom used bathrooms somewhere in the
building where you can least expect visitors. Try floors that are predominantly of the opposite sex. This will reduce the odds of a same-sex pooper entering your bathroom.

TURD BURGLAR: Someone who does not realize that you are in the stall and tries to force the door open. This is one of the most shocking and vulnerable moments that can occur when taking a poop at work. If this occurs, remain in the stall until the Turd Burglar leaves. This way you will avoid all uncomfortable eye contact.

CAMO-COUGH: A phony cough that alerts all new entrants into the bathroom that you are in a stall. This can be used to cover-up a WATERMELON, or to alert potential Turd Burglars. Very effective when used in conjunction with an ASTAIRE.

ASTAIRE: A subtle toe-tap that is used to alert potential Turd Burglars that you are occupying a stall. This will remove all doubt that the stall is occupied. If you hear an Astaire, leave the bathroom immediately so the pooper can poop in peace.

WATERMELON: A poop that creates a loud splash when hitting the toilet water. This is also an embarrassing incident. If you feel a Watermelon coming on, create a diversion. See CAMO-COUGH.

HAVANA OMELET: A case of diarrhea that creates a series of loud splashes in the toilet water. Often accompanied by an Escapee. Try using a Camo-Cough with an Astaire.

UNCLE TED: A bathroom user who seems to linger around forever. Could spend extended lengths of time in front of the mirror or sitting on the pot.

An Uncle Ted makes it difficult to relax while on the crapper, as

you should always wait to poop when the bathroom is empty. This

benefits you as well as the other bathroom attendees

Thoughts to ponder while at work. Have a great day!!!

OH NO MUD BUTT!!

By The Melo

March 26, 2008 4:13 PM | Link to this

Is Tchmybody gone 4 the day?

By mytwocents

March 26, 2008 4:13 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli How dare you suggest that each of us are not the EXACT flavor the opposite sex (same for Patrick ;) savors?!?!

Movin’ On…how old is he now? You coulda laid low today to lull him into a false sense of security, then BAM act a fool again tomorra =)

By BigWords

March 26, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

also comes along with peace of mind so you don’t have to understand nor figure out.

Well said.

By Cemeeli

March 26, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

hahahaha….omgoodness…rotf…

ohhh…Deaf warmed over…DANG!

By 2CPTG©

March 26, 2008 4:16 PM | Link to this

Big Words….kinda light you need? that one which, “the darkness comprehends not,” or, that one which, you “gimme the light, and pass the dro”…..

By The Melo

March 26, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

Attention W** * if u want a lesbian thang with ared talk to her direct.Like u, she dont like penis pain.

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

But ForReal confidence does not automatically give you the know how. You have to delve into the matter to understand, become acquainted and then in touch with the one pursued.

By Tazzee

March 26, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

Raqi I think when Diva had that similar topic, 2can proclaimed that we couldn’t tell a man how to win our hearts - only a man that had won a woman’s heart could tell. Or something like that.

But I guess the spin on it could be - are you giving me what I want or what you want me to want?

Kinda like when LadyDark talked about how her guy would always buy her jewelry and she didn’t like jewelry…LadyDark if you’re lurking, HEY!!!!

By Teresa

March 26, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

I am a colabo girl, I am a out of the closet, courtesy flushing crop duster!

By SexyLeggs

March 26, 2008 4:21 PM | Link to this

Melo, what the MLBs said about you the other days is so true. You have me laughing over here at you sniffing….

By DasV

March 26, 2008 4:21 PM | Link to this

ared hm. thats funny. cause MELO posted at 302 too… so i guess you realized your fo-paw too late and had already hit ‘post’……. and as usual wasnt nobody talkin to you! i am so sick of your narcissitic azz . you lack the intelligence to disengage…and you such a confused wench who likes to engage in pointless, meaningless convoluated discussions in your endless quest for drama. cut it out! …..your drama is why you have so many rules and conditions and stipulations for the most basic of life dealings…. you contradict yourself on almost a daily basis with what you said yesterday, 2 days ago or last week/last month. because your personal truth to this point has obviously remain elusive and you have not the tools to discover it you do what most inept ppl do… you argue. go sit yo azz down till someone says something to you AND THIS AINT IT!

By I HATE ATTENTION WHOR3S

March 26, 2008 4:21 PM | Link to this

@ Attention Whor3….Why did you bite my name?

By TouchMyBody

March 26, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

Somebody rang. I’m right here.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

melo - Excuse me? (your 4:17)

By Lady J

March 26, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

Thanks ARed as I think some1 got the drift earlier…lol…Ok on my piece now…that work pc is off the chain…Every have a great day and will be back bright and early for Thursday Topic! Peace

By GaMan

March 26, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

My head and my stomach is hurting reading the break down of how to fart and take a dump….

Lololol ouch just hit my fingers on the keyboard laughing again

By Genius

March 26, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

You mean FAUX PAS

By Cemeeli

March 26, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

mytwocents girl we are the same simple flava. K.

Oh, DANG!…you need to start ‘kicking’ me sooner so i wont waste a good moment of embrassement for shorty! Mayne, you on top of iiiit!!!

King of Big Feet is 9 years old today. Waiting til tomorrow would be good maybe i’ll just wear his baseball cleats (sa shame he’s only 3rd grd and i can wear his shoes) to school tomorrow with my power suit and sit in front of the classroom and sang an Old Negro Hymms for the class room and say Happy Birthday Dr. King at the end of each song…

…what’s so funny is the teacher plays into my segments….laughing, neck turning red and all.

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 4:30 PM | Link to this

No DumbV, you weren’t talking TO me, but being the simple broad you are, you thought you could talk ABOUT me and think I was stuck on stupid like you.

For your information, his 3:02 was saying the SAME thing about selective reading as his 2:36. I didn’t feel the need to reiterate the same point again.

I’m sick of you as well. You are a bitter, classless broad. You’ve gone without sex for years probably involuntarily.

Unlike you, I don’t have drama in my life. I’m not a washed up bitter divorcee like you. You know you’ve made some stupid choices in your life and you want to project your unhappiness on everyone else.

Get a life and a clue. Don’t talk TO ME or ABOUT me and you don’t have to worry about me addressing you and your pathetic existance of a life.

By 2CPTG©

March 26, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

looka Tazz, rakin me ova the coals……

muah!….as I blow you a puffy, white clouded, kiss!

By FATBURGER GAS A.K.A. WAFFLE HOUSE

March 26, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

* WHEW!! My butt sounds like a locomotive coming through a georgia tunnel. Something did not agree with me. Fat Burgers has given me the worst GAS ever. My poops smell like something ran up in me and died!*

Does anyone have any remedies? I have got to stop farting to keep my job!! They are going to tote me up out of her in a minute. lol!!

No more FATBURGER AND MILKSHAKES for me.

By For Real

March 26, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

Raqi Now, I am not talking about confidence in yourself. I am talking about confidence in HIM. If you posses confidence in HIM you don’t have to concern yourself with what you don’t know bc you have the peach of mine to know for a fact that you will gain the knowledge and know how to overcome anything this little world has to throw at you.

For Real now rubbing Raqi’s neck firm but gentle like.

By The Melo

March 26, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

sexxy what they say..u mean about Truth saying i sniff 4 pudsy? U got it..dont u hear these ladies say they havnt had it in years,sme of them.Brother wants to put Dyck to work.

By SexyLeggs

March 26, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

TouchMeBody, should have remained quiet. Melo simply likes your moniker (LOL)!

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Genius. “Fo-paw” WTF??? LOL

By 2CPTG©

March 26, 2008 4:39 PM | Link to this

A Red, I know we argued yestaday, but I’ll be damned if this ain’t what I said earlier: “You are a bitter, classless broad. You’ve gone without sex for years probably involuntarily.”

that’s exactly what I’m tombout….chics ain’t bein’ pursued, so they call it abstinence…..

ok, you can go back to not likin’ me, again…….

By SexyLeggs

March 26, 2008 4:40 PM | Link to this

Yeah Melo, that’s what I’m talking about. Would you be like this off the blog?

By mytwocents

March 26, 2008 4:40 PM | Link to this

Cee - my homegirl just won us some tix in the office raffle! Whatcha wearin to the game? I’ll look for you to sumthin crazeee to get on the jumbo screen…

By Raqi

March 26, 2008 4:41 PM | Link to this

Yes WiseD let’s revisit that in the near future. I have a feeling some will find out they don’t have a clue to what the opposite wants, some will learn they know not what they want themselves, some will find that “hey I didn’t know I could get with that or do without this”, and some will just not get it at all.

Tazzee now that you mention it I remember that day I think.

Yall be good. Gotta go. I promised to cook lasagna tonight…sigh. What was I thinking????

By IslandGirl

March 26, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

Real what you are describing is called “having faith” my friend.

By Tazzee

March 26, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

2can LOL - that day was funny to me. smooches!

By 2CPTG©

March 26, 2008 4:48 PM | Link to this

and Tazz, if yeen married by the time I get saved……I got sum’in fo yo azz!!!! Dizzle, all day, eryday!!! Brangin’ up old stuff……

By DasV

March 26, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

Ared i will talk about what dayum well please, even if that includes yo silly self…. and i do all time… tho you dont be catchin it. LOL

genius and TouCan of course i know its faux pas silly clowns…. i usually stick wit ebonics or go all the way propa, i didnt in that post…. so, aight. call me on it.

and no. i am not inconsistent in my affections. plus you dont actually believe that… its just whats up for you today. ……

By Cemeeli

March 26, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

Yay!

mytwocents well i’m wearing jeans of course…and will probably do a yellow t shirt. The best/slight way to tell if it’s me is look for a dark skin girl neck length hair and i’ll wear my son’s Hawks visor/cap. He of course will be with me and i’m knowing he’s probably gonna wear the red jacket with jeans he is light brown skin tone…deep dimple.

Yea i’m embarassing him at the game tonight.

By SexyLeggs

March 26, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

Good night everyone!

At a cocktail party, one woman said to another, ‘Aren’t you wearing your wedding ring on the wrong finger?’ ‘Yes, I am. I married the wrong man.’

STAY ALERT! People are stuid!

By SexyLeggs

March 26, 2008 4:55 PM | Link to this

Good night everyone!

At a cocktail party, one woman said to another, ‘Aren’t you wearing your wedding ring on the wrong finger?’ ‘Yes, I am. I married the wrong man.’

STAY ALERT! People are stuid!

By For Real

March 26, 2008 4:55 PM | Link to this

For Real slowly easing close to IG’s ear where his lip are just grazing her ear and says to her I like to party all the time party all the time but in a sexy voice tho.

Same thang girl miss poo.

By Wise Diva

March 26, 2008 4:56 PM | Link to this

attention wh*re, you are campaigning for a ban, no lie, ease the hell up. LOL, geez

Just ONE day, I would like to have a day where we are all pleasant to each other. I know it would probably take a lot of liquor, a couple of lithium-laced ice cream treats for some of you, but dammit, that day will come. LOL

sigh

Have a wonderful evening.

By FATBURGER GAS A.K.A. WAFFLE HOUSE

March 26, 2008 4:56 PM | Link to this

* I can not stop the wet farts…any help?*

By 2CPTG©

March 26, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

ok…..what I got to do with yo, “fo-paw”…..if you’re calling me a genius, though, thanks…..

By Tazzee

March 26, 2008 5:00 PM | Link to this

2can ok, now you got me rolling over here. But it’s a deal - I know I’d have some chemistry with you…

By GaMan

March 26, 2008 5:00 PM | Link to this

Peace out…and remember all problems can be taken to GOD he can fix them…and you can take that to the Bank

GaMan Out

By GaMan

March 26, 2008 5:00 PM | Link to this

Peace out…and remember all problems can be taken to GOD he can fix them…and you can take that to the Bank

GaMan Out

By mytwocents

March 26, 2008 5:04 PM | Link to this

Okay… I’ll look for Hawks paraphernelia, should be easy. I’m wearing Knicks colors. So what, they ain’t playin lolol

By I HATE ATTENTION WHOR3S

March 26, 2008 5:14 PM | Link to this

@ WISE DIVA Which Attention Whor3?

By AmazonRed

March 26, 2008 5:18 PM | Link to this

No DumbV, your simple behind is quite predictable. I catch your snide side remarks and chose to not stoop to your petty level most days.

Just proves you’re a no-life having loser worried about the wrong things and people in life.

2C - I don’t dislike you man. I just rather you call out names. LOL.

Have a good one folks!

By BigWords

March 27, 2008 8:04 AM | Link to this

BBL this morning! LOL. What’s up ev1?

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