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DEL.ICIO.USPacing yourself
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
My friend Laura is the Speedy Gonzales of romance — she falls in love, or “in like” very, very quickly. She is selective about who she dates, but by golly, she can tell within a New York minute of meeting someone whether she’s interested.
I, however, am more like the tortoise in Aesop’s Fable — slowly but steadily wading through my feelings until I figure out how I really feel about someone. Once I’ve realized I’m interested, I’m an incredibly passionate being, but I don’t throw that passion out there from the get-go.
Do you fall “in like” very quickly? If so, is your assessment of people usually accurate? Do you ever experience consequences from bestowing your feelings so readily upon people?
Or are you slower to determine your heart? Have you ever experienced downsides to taking so long to decide whether you’re into someone? Has anyone ever decided they’re not going to wait around for you to figure yourself out?
TGIF, everyone!
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By Lady J
March 21, 2008 8:04 AM | Link to this
Morning Good People!!! Happy Good Friday
By Lady J
March 21, 2008 8:07 AM | Link to this
I love hard and play even harder…Dating has just taught me to take it slow enjoy the act and keep moving if it doesn’t work for me…
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 8:09 AM | Link to this
Morning All We finally made it to Friday!
SexyCan Um..hun…where’s breakfast?
By QC - leving @ noon
March 21, 2008 8:16 AM | Link to this
HAPPY GOOD FRIDAY, HAPPY EASTER
Have a great day/weekend all!
Smooches BK
By LilZ
March 21, 2008 8:25 AM | Link to this
Good morning everyone!
I think for me I do tend to fall “in like” pretty quickly… this has burned me the last few times it’s happened. I don’t know if there’s something wrong with me (I don’t think there is, I think I’m awesome, haha!) or if I just don’t pick the right guys. I’m trying to do one of two things now: (1) Be prepared for the worst or (2) Slow myself down. It seems to be easier to prepare for the worst!
Anyone out there want to date a cute redhead with a good job and her own house? I promise I’ll wait at least a week before I start talking babies. ;) j/k!!!
By LilZ
March 21, 2008 8:27 AM | Link to this
Good morning everyone!
I think for me I do tend to fall “in like” pretty quickly… this has burned me the last few times it’s happened. I don’t know if there’s something wrong with me (I don’t think there is, I think I’m awesome, haha!) or if I just don’t pick the right guys. I’m trying to do one of two things now: (1) Be prepared for the worst or (2) Slow myself down. It seems to be easier to prepare for the worst!
Anyone out there want to date a cute redhead with a good job and her own house? I promise I’ll wait at least a week before I start talking babies. ;) j/k!!!
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 8:31 AM | Link to this
Hey in here!
Where’s the new girl with breakfast?
said while looking around the room…a chic surely does not wanna cook on her day off
I have a tendency to move slower in a relationship than most ppl, i think. But if i am feeling someone that person would definitly know. I’m not at all gonna hold feelings inside. Not anymore.
Dugan’s recaps please!
By SexyCanI
March 21, 2008 8:33 AM | Link to this
You bloggers really want breakfast huh? LOL. I looked in my kitchen and all I have is pizza bagels with some left over cream cheese. The orange juice is half gone, but have at it. MeMe said I’m going to get talked about bringing in a half azz breakfast, but that’s all I got.
BTW, I was curious back in high school. Someone asked me that question yesterday. Couldn’t respond, massa was behind me. BRB.
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 8:35 AM | Link to this
LilZ LOL, sup!!
Hey QC and Lady J
Demi is currently upset with single moms with sorry baby daddies…For single moms WITH fathers in their kids live, BIG up to y’all.
Now putting on Page’s $2.00 mean muggin mask.
By Lady J
March 21, 2008 8:38 AM | Link to this
CeeCee what goes on @ Dugans stays there…LMAO…Join next time…
By 6'1 & luvin it
March 21, 2008 8:39 AM | Link to this
Goodt mernting everybody (while sounding like Madea) Have at it. Yes, I cooked breakfast **Salmon patties, fried talipia, chicken wings & gravy, grits, oatmeat, tropical fruits (please save me pineapples for the party 2nite) cheese eggs, toast, bacon and sausage, orange juice, water, and two liter pepsi’s for everyone.
By Lady J
March 21, 2008 8:41 AM | Link to this
Hey Alvin
By LilZ
March 21, 2008 8:41 AM | Link to this
Sorry for posting that twice, y’all. Oops.
Alvin Hey hey! How you??
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 8:44 AM | Link to this
auuuuwwww hellzs….SexyCan dry pizza bagels and cream cheese…?
It’s Friday and the blog residents are gonna be hungry beast when they get in here.
What us gon’ do?
LadyJ/Slim yall come help Cee with this cooler of bf stuff help SexyCan out a little bit.
@ MeMe (who is that anyway) - next time help your gurl out we gotta be right on that breakfast. it’s the most important meal of the day.
By 6'1 & luvin it
March 21, 2008 8:45 AM | Link to this
Girl with the foodstamps just walked in with the waffles, So everybody thank the foodstamp girl for this great spread we got here and Sexycanl you going to have to give me some if I am already taking up your slack so early in the dayuum game.
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 8:48 AM | Link to this
LadyJ no recaps…okay…Daaaaag! got the Vegas thang going on.
Alivn - sumthin on your mind bruh? release…
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 8:55 AM | Link to this
Slim sneaks and takes all the fresh fruit from 6’1“‘s breakfast, then proceeds to throw them in a cooler of Grain Alcohol for some Hunch Punch MUAH HA ha ha ha (evil laugh)
On-Topic I can’t say that I fall “In Like” with folks fast. I may be highly attracted to someone at first but that has nothing to do with me liking them as a person. I tend to observe someone on each meeting and create a mental profile of that person…which sort of sounds like internet dial up if you were to put my thoughts on speaker phone. lol
I guess that’s part of the reason why I’ve never had a one-night stand.
Men close your ears Off-topic Okay for those ladies that have already been through “The Change” does it affect how sentimental you tend to get a lot of times? I ask because as I mentioned the other day, my mom has started to have hot flashes and she was texting me yesterday all this sentimental stuff. It had me worried at first because I thought something was wrong. First she started off sending me and my sis a text saying, “I hope yall aren’t having unprotected sex especially since you 2 don’t have a significant other. I was listening to the radio and the stories were horrible. So many of our young people have aids, std’s & having babies thinking its cool. I’m glad I talk to my children and we can talk about anything. luv you”
So me being a nut…i said “Mom don’t worry, all we do is Oral. LMAO”
Then it goes from that to “For some reason I feel you should be writing books, on a serious tip. I wish that I can find all your poems…God has a plan for you..maybe you should join one of those book clubs”.
????? So Please tell me if this is a result of “The Change” or what…i think i’m freaking out a lil bit.
By Lady J
March 21, 2008 8:58 AM | Link to this
Naw CeeCee it no that major but just not bringing it to the blog the recaps that is…lol
By Lady J
March 21, 2008 9:01 AM | Link to this
Slim you sooo crazy you made me remember a Que pinic @ college back in the day with that grain alcohol and it being purple…lol
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 9:04 AM | Link to this
Blog Men you can open your ears now….sorry for long post
Slim now taking alcohol soaked fruit and placing back on breakfast table along with some various cereals, chick-fil-a biscuits, Hardee’s Fried Chicken, Checkers French Fries, Dunkin Doughnuts Muffins, Krispy Kreme Doughnuts, El Ranchero Chips-n-Salsa, Pappadeaux’s Fried Alligator and Shrimp Creole, Burger King French Toast sticks w/syrup, Krystal’s Scramblers and some Mrs. Winner’s Sweet Tea & cinnamon rolls.
By BigWords
March 21, 2008 9:04 AM | Link to this
If the chemistry is there on the first date, I’m likely to give up my feelings and the panties on the first night. I’ve only did this a couple of times in my life and have been lucky. I do fall too fast. Usually he doesn’t know it until alittle later though. Like Cemeeli, I’m starting to let them know as soon as I do. If he thinks he getting into a scary situation, then I feel he should bounce. But yea, at the end of the first date, I’m like picturing him at the alter already. lol.
By 6'1 & luvin it
March 21, 2008 9:05 AM | Link to this
SlimGoodie Girl that hunch punch has gotten me into a lot of trouble, mind you I just had some for the first time like 3 years ago. I loved it.
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 9:06 AM | Link to this
LadyJ it’s cool …i’m just messin’.
Mo when you get in here…please leave pink slacks duded at OSS. I was crakin’ up about that yesturday day. ROTF…ooohhh…oh!
By IslandGirl
March 21, 2008 9:07 AM | Link to this
Morning All Happy Friday!
Sexycanl I’ll take what you got with exception to the OJ…my stomach can’t take the acid.
Sup Alvin, Slim, 6’1, Lady C, Cee, QC, Mo, SexyLeggs, Ared, and all the ladies, and the MLB
Have any of you checked out M3 (meet, mingle, whatever) at 102 courtland st? I’m curious about the after work happy hour.
On Topic…I must confess I will “like” a person quickly, but with my lens on. If I like you, it’s just that I like. I will take it slow getting into a relationship. I am very selective to my own detriment.
By The Melo
March 21, 2008 9:08 AM | Link to this
Happy Good Friday! Liz, ur got ur own home….i see us really enjoyinh each other there this summer… Cemeeli..u arent moving that fast with me…why!! Slim ur mom just being jealous since it gets dry when its that time.
By The Truth
March 21, 2008 9:10 AM | Link to this
99% of the time paint dries faster than I fall I love. My ex and 2 other chicks being the exception. Really their not either, I think looking back is was just a physical thing.
By Lady J
March 21, 2008 9:12 AM | Link to this
Now that is the Friday brunch I was searching for!!!! Get Slim LMAO!
By Miss
March 21, 2008 9:14 AM | Link to this
I tend to fall quickly…..sometimes. Right now i am in a delimma with two guys. I like them both, have a good time with them both….but now it is decision time and i don’t know what to do.
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 9:14 AM | Link to this
6’1 My step-dad at the time made me some for my 21st birthday. MAN! That was the best hunch punch i’ve ever had and let’s just say very Effective. Can you imagine me sitting out in the back yard with my friends and family playing a drinking game, using eating the fruit as the punishment for messing up? LOL Those were the days.
By QC - leaving @ noon
March 21, 2008 9:15 AM | Link to this
Hey Demi, Island G, CeeMeeMee
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 9:16 AM | Link to this
Slim are we really suppose to eat these dang hard, rubbery Gator bites you woomed up from Pappabuaex’s. didn’t you know you can’t reheat gator.
Let’s see, what match with cereal on this table…hmph…
By BigWords
March 21, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this
The Truth I believe you men fall fast, but can hide it very well. Melo stop talking about Slimone’s momma!
By 6'1 & luvin it
March 21, 2008 9:23 AM | Link to this
To a certain degree, I am like Laura. I sit back in the cut and watch before I pounce. But I do fall fast. I think all Aquarians do. I do fall hard. But when it comes to like I think I like them all let my best friend tell it. Whenever I meet a new person I will be like “I really like them” She then replies “What happened to so and so from last week? You really, really liked them too?
By SexyLeggs
March 21, 2008 9:23 AM | Link to this
Good morning
SexyCanl, you’re fired!!!
Thank you 6’1. You’re funny. You already marking your territory w/SexyCanl. Don’t scare the girl away.
I know it’s early, but I’ll take the Pappadeaux’s Fried Alligator and Shrimp Creole. YUMMY!
Alvin, what’s wrong honey?
SlimOne, “the change” has you body and mind doing and saying some crazy stuff. Some women, like myself, have a more heightened awareness and is more sensitive to a touch, a word. I too was listening to Michael Baisden yesterday and these teenagers are clueless. I too talk a lot w/my daughter and she hates it. You’re mother is simply expressing a thought she had and didn’t want to miss the opportunity to tell you. She’ll be alright.
Oh, the topic…I fall “in like” slowly. It takes time to get to know a person.
By GaMan
March 21, 2008 9:23 AM | Link to this
GaMan walks in grabs a plate and starts to eat …hhhmmm hhhmmm
Ohhhh yeah Good Morning Said with a mouth full of food and some falling out while speaking
By Blue_Kolla
March 21, 2008 9:24 AM | Link to this
HAPPY EASTER BLOG…
looks like Ladies Day in here…*
Queen C Back atcha ;)
Cee I Hey I thought about you yesterday as me and the shorty were sitting at a light. I look over at him, then through the window and there’s a lady sitting in a truck with a scarf on. I dismiss it as she’s probably a Muslim, because it was tied down around her chin. So I face back to the front to check the light status when I hear my kid say, “She’s having a bad hair day.” I was crackin’ up!
By DreamsMaterialize
March 21, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this
Hey Ya’ll TGIF man. Takes me a while to get into someone like that. Doesn’t take me long to know if I enjoy a woman’s company though. I can tell that right away.
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this
Melo ur mom just being jealous since it gets dry when its that time Nah, I really don’t think that’s the case. My Pops ain’t shy about telling us They ain’t old yet…plus I’ve….throwing up slightly in my mouth….Heard them….D..d.dd.ddoin it. Ewwwww!
IG Wut up chica. I think it’s Mix, meet, mingle or something like that. I haven’t been or heard anybody that’s actually gone.
Cee Why you hatin on my breakfast..just cuz YOU didn’t think of it first. I’ll have you know I had those Gator bites flown in this morning DIRECTLY from Atlanta Beach….what?…ain’t no gators at ATL Beach?….then wut da h3ll is it if it ain’t gator?….
Slim now scratching out Gator on menu and re-writing Fried Mystery Meat
By Dee - Rell
March 21, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this
If the chemistry is there on the first date, I’m likely to give up my feelings and the panties on the first night.
thats what i am talking about!!!!
@IG…my inside sources say it is off the chain…and the speed dating is off the chain…check it out
By SexyLeggs
March 21, 2008 9:28 AM | Link to this
Cemeeli, where are my games. I know I’m doing the tummy toilet paper thingy. I need 3 more.
By Lady J
March 21, 2008 9:28 AM | Link to this
Hey IG typing your name makes me want to plan a getaway (romantic) with somebody son…
By Miss
March 21, 2008 9:29 AM | Link to this
Question: Two Guys? Guy # 1 would make the perfect husband. Good character, works hard, treats me well, ready for commitment. We have the same religious background, I care deeply for him. Guy # 2, just recently meet him, very nice, have a good time together, I am so drawn to him. We have different religious backgrounds which in the long haul I think will get in the way. Why am I feeling Guy # 2 so much and questioning Guy # 1 which is my sure thing?.
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 9:29 AM | Link to this
LilZ I am doing very well, I just thought your post was funny. There is no need to rush jack, have fun and travel. Our mates has a way of finding us, once the timing is right…
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
March 21, 2008 9:29 AM | Link to this
Well I for one am glad its finally Friday!!! LOL
Cemeeli you are fool!! I will try to leave pink slacks/red members only jacket wherever he is!!!
Hey Lady J! Had a great time at Dugan’s, must do it again!
Hey IG, 6’1, Alvin, SlimOne, Truth, Melo and everyone that will join us!
TGIF!!
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 9:30 AM | Link to this
Hey QC and IslandGirl
melo i don’t move fast.
By 2CPTG©
March 21, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this
Mornin y’all
like most fellas, takes me a minute to get there, but when you get me, you’ve got me….
and ladies, tell y’all pledgee, she s’posed to hook the fellas up too!!! If ya ask me, she ain’t applyin’ herself!!!
By SexyLeggs
March 21, 2008 9:33 AM | Link to this
ARed may pop in here. She’s speaks very highly of M3. Speed dating is fun, so she says.
Fried mystery meat…girl, you know I don’t do processed food. If I get sick I will need your BlueCross/BlueShield card!
By BigWords
March 21, 2008 9:33 AM | Link to this
DeeRell back at chu. ;)
By AmazonRed
March 21, 2008 9:35 AM | Link to this
Happy Good Friday everyone! SlimOne, you are CRAZY! I am rolling at what you told your mom. But uh…pass me some of that “spirited fruit” drank.
Island Girl - Good morning to you too! I went to M3 a couple weeks ago. It was one of the BEST times I’ve had in Atlanta. Great spot. I even tried the speed dating and had great success. LOL. I would have stayed all night if my friend was not hating so hard. She was ready to go (the fish weren’t biting for her) and would NOT stop nagging me until we left. :-/
By Lady J
March 21, 2008 9:36 AM | Link to this
Hey Mo!! Thanks again honey!
By AmazonRed
March 21, 2008 9:39 AM | Link to this
SexyLeggs - You always have my back! LOL. Thanks girly. I think when you post my name, the bat signal goes off, cuz here I am! LOL
But I’m going to try to pull myself AWAY from the computer. I’ve got an off day today and I need to see what kind of chocolate is out there in Chocolate City! I’ve got my spoon. LOL
By Foots
March 21, 2008 9:39 AM | Link to this
Good morning!
SexyLeggs What about “Guess the Baby Food” game? I did that one at a party I hosted last year. I had 8 different single flavors with the labels off, numbered, gave them sheets of paper and they had to guess the correct flavor. Whoever got the most right, won a prize. Everyone was completely grossed out, cause baby food is nasty. I also put some pastel Skittles in a sippy cup, and everyone had to guess how many were in there (closest one got a prize). Then we played “Change Tickle Me Elmo’s Diaper”. I had two of them, and you know how they like to roll over and stand up. It was funny watching folks race to change the diaper on a doll that interactive.
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this
Blue… see that right there i would have been tryin to hold it together if i was rollin with yall. lol @ you thinking old gurl was Muslim and shorty saying naaaw she having a bad hair day.
Slim slow down shawty! Dang a sis will eat da dang Gator bites…fried mystery meat…whatever. You gotta calm down. Here eat some mo hunch fruit.
dis chic is not gonna work my nerves today b4 i hit the salon…i’ll have enough of that later
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this
IslandGirl Hey!!..It sounds cool, but I am not drive TO traffic for that mess, LOL.
BigWords yeah we do…not all puddy is good
6’1 you’re an aquarian, huh? Yes y’all do tend to fall in love quicker than most and love hard too…y’all are some of my best lovers,LOL
sexy/CeeCee how about this chick got p!ss at because I did not want to deal with her and her baby daddy drama…And no I did not sleep with her…you would have thought I had, the way she was acting.
GaMan Sup Bruh!!!
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this
Miss (Please apply blog vest now) Sounds like you already know the answer to your question. I diagnose you as “Trying to trade the bird in your hand in for what’s behind door #2”. Right now the second dude is new, exciting, etc…so you are drawn to that…if you’re not looking for the husband type then you need to let him go so one of our many single WLBers and scoop him up. If you’re looking for the white picket fence life, then let Mr. Lust alone so BigWords can have at him.
Blue At first I thought you were talking about me….But i got this dome done last night so now I’m Skrrrait.
Anybody Going to see Chris Rock tonight at the Fox??
By DreamsMaterialize
March 21, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this
Mo I will try to leave pink slacks/red members only jacket wherever he is!!! Sounds like it rough out there. lol
By IslandGirl
March 21, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this
LadyJ…lol..with sombody’s son…thats how Stella got her groove back. lol
Slim…thanks for the early laugh. I need it since I have a boring meeting to go to that will last the rest of the afternoon.
Rell…I might have to go check out M3 later. If anyone here plans to go…holla at IG.
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 9:44 AM | Link to this
Hey IG typing your name makes me want to plan a getaway (romantic) with somebody son…
Ewwwwwwww…Lady J!!
you sound like a man rapist
By honey
March 21, 2008 9:45 AM | Link to this
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By AmazonRed
March 21, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this
As for the topic, um…this is actually tough for me to answer. I’m selective like Bella’s friend. I think I concentrate too hard on initial chemistry and if I don’t fall “in like” with you after the first couple convos, it’s curtains.
I’m trying to change this because first feelings aren’t always the best ones. My high school sweetheart was someone I grew to love and we had a passionate romance. But I was 18 then.
I’m 30 now and I’ve found I’ve been giving these guys I don’t have that initial “like” for a chance and ususally I’m kicking myself a few weeks later when they are annoying me to no end.
I’ve met a lot of cool guys in 2008, but as Melo pointed out to me, I’ve been reluctant to pull that trigger.
If you get past the difficult screening process though, you pretty much get the keys to the kingdom. I don’t mind putting all my cards on the table, opening my heart and mind, etc. But you just have to prove you’re worthy.
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this
Miss good questions, I stay go with guy#2, you will just cheat on guy #1.
By Foots
March 21, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this
On topic Yes, I know very quickly whether a particular man is someone I’d like to spend more time with. The more our conversation flows, the more attracted I get. I fall in like once I believe that we’re compatible and we’ve made a connection. I don’t hold back on my feelings, but I don’t really express them verbally either in the beginning. I make sure I really feel what I think I’m feeling before I open my mouth, because emotions lie sometimes.
I know some folks who can be with somebody for a year and not know how they feel. That ain’t me. Since I’m looking for more long-term, I look for “long-term characteristics”. If I’m still up in the air about a dude after a few months, he doesn’t have them.
By SexyLeggs
March 21, 2008 9:47 AM | Link to this
Thank you Foots. I wish I had Tickle Me Elmo cuz that sounds like fun. I will do the skittle game. The baby food is gross, but sounds like it could be fun. I’m taking all suggestions.
By Honey
March 21, 2008 9:47 AM | Link to this
Tabernacle Baptist Church located: 475 Boulevard SE are having a 7am service, followed by Free Breakfast, then their regular 11am service; with excellent preaching & singing. Feel free to join us, we are a place of Love & Acceptance.
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this
Mo like why do I think you’re sexy? LOL
Mo is now slap Alvin back to reality
By Lady J
March 21, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this
IG I can even do younger but somebody’s older son…lol…:)
By Miss
March 21, 2008 9:49 AM | Link to this
slimone i think you may be on to something. I never really looked at it like that. thx. and yes i am looking for the “white picket fence”
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 9:51 AM | Link to this
Cee Gurl, you knows I lubb you…(Hunch punch now kicking in)…here have some of this pineapplesssss hehehehehe Ssshhhh don’t tell nerbody…hehehehe I put…licka in it….Did I tell yous I lubbb you guh?
ARed Where is the M3 at again?
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
March 21, 2008 9:53 AM | Link to this
Hey DreamsMaterialize..Mo waving and blowing a kiss..they’ve been working you pretty hard out ther huh? :0) And yes, old dude was funny, he was at OSS thinking he was the finest brutha in there!!
SexyLeggs baby shower games, you could do the one where you melt different chocolate candies in diapers and everyone has to guess what type of candy it is (the melted candy looks like baby poop). You could also do the one where eveyone gets a bottle with juice/soda in it and the first one to empty it wins. They played those at my baby shower.
By Foots
March 21, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this
Slim I’m going to see Chris Rock tomorrow night. I can’t wait!
Miss You said you cared deeply for Guy #1, but just recently met Guy #2. My assumption is that you were caring deeply for #1 before you met #2. So if you were, what were you looking for that made you give #2 your number to begin with, why were you even out there looking?
Something is missing for you with Guy #1, you need to find out what that is before you get any more deeply involved. If it’s something that is REALLY important to you and your value system, see if you can get it with him. If it’s something shallow, like “he should be more exciting”, I agree with Slim, let him go. I can name at least 10 women right now that will take him.
By DasV
March 21, 2008 9:56 AM | Link to this
good morning good ppl
i like a nikka from the first…. quick and easy, down and dirty if the evening takes us there. loving him tho…. that takes some convincing…. cause theres no going back on that.
during the time that im ‘in like’, let ‘em say something out the way or make a foolish move… im out! period. but if ive decided to love this person, not on a romantic level, just cause i see him as a kindred soul…. then i am not so quick to be out. my loyalty streak runs too deep …. not gonna allow some nonsense to break up my affinity.
thats my first issue with men in general… takes them too long to make up they mind what they feel for ya. lovin me like family cant be separated from lovin me romantically.
i prefer being your fam… ‘fore im your girl. can we at least get to that point?? then we move to my second issue
By Black Girl
March 21, 2008 9:56 AM | Link to this
Greetings to that sexy thang 2CPTG. Hey you.
By Black Girl
March 21, 2008 9:56 AM | Link to this
Greetings to that sexy thang 2CPTG. Hey you.
By GaMan
March 21, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this
Nothing much Alvin just chillin’ today …brother gotta stop working sooo hard
Whats going on Truth,Mo,Foots,Blue,IslandGirl,Slim,AmazonRed,Rell,Raqi,Musing,RandyT,LadyJ(lololol)and anyone else
By Lady J
March 21, 2008 9:59 AM | Link to this
Alvin stop it bc you know it is someone you want to vacate with and just be away…lol
By AmazonRed
March 21, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this
Miss - I guess I’m in the minority. I say Guy #1 or neither of them. If either of you is not willing to convert, major problems will come in, especially when the kids come.
Not only that, how do you reconsile the fact that you essentially your mate will not head to the same afterlife that you will?
After money, religion is another top reason for divorce.
By Miss
March 21, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this
alvin why do you say i will cheat on # 1 if I decide on him? Have you been in a situation where you cheated? I would like to think that I am the kind of person who makes a commitment and stick with it…but we never know our what our true actions are until we are at the crossroads and opportunity is knocking.
By 2CPTG©
March 21, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this
Thank you Honey…..cause with this new Easter Suit, I’mma hit up a few churches…..prolly end it with the service at the dome, sponsored by New Birf, since the judge said he gon’ let TI go to church this weekend…I’mma go pray with the brother.
By BigWords
March 21, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this
Miss Hook me up! I guarantee you. As soon as you let him go … … … . you know the rest homegirl. Grow up and tell the brotha #1 what you need!!!
By AmazonRed
March 21, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this
SlimOne - It’s at Uptown Restaurant and Lounge on 102 Courtland street. I’d recommend getting there no later than 6:30 to try speed dating. It’s really fun and they’ll do a few rounds.
But it’s also starting to take off. When I left around 9:30 there was a line starting to form already.
By IslandGirl
March 21, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this
Hey GaMan…nothing wrong with hardwork, but balance it out with some hard play. Hope you’re doing well.
Alvin..I’ll give you a ride to M3, just be ready to jump on the scooter I’m riding…by the way, you might be able to fit in the tootsie basket on the front of the scooter. lol
By Black Girl
March 21, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this
Sexyleggs imma try to forward them one more time. K chica.
ARed enjoy your travels girlie. did you get by that place? H-M
Hey Foots long time no blog.
Slim wubb you too nikkette. After i go get my mop fixed you should meet me and my flks at Hooters this eve. how did they come up w/Hooters??this must be a trick text
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this
Foots I’ll be checking him out tonight. Mysteriously fell into some tickets so this should be fun.
I agree with your post to Miss. She has to realize that no one guy is going to have ALL of what it is she wants. Sad to say but it appears the guys that are more husband-bound, tend to lack a little in that Lust/Excitement area that might’ve drawn her to guy #2. But seems like she might be left desiring more after the lust wears off..but who knows since it’s still so new.
By Raqi
March 21, 2008 10:08 AM | Link to this
SexyL Yall talking about what kids are getting into these days. On my way out the door this morning I found my son didn’t have school today. I was going to make him come with me but after a multitude of “maaaaa noooooo”s and “raqi the boy is 13”s I gave in and let him stay home. All I can think about now is all the trouble my oldest got into. I laid down the rules before I left but kids will be kids.
He came close to getting the wind knocked out of me. I told him no one is to come over and do not open the door for any reason except to get out if the house is on fire. That smartazz knucklehead says “so I should let princess pee on your floor?” I came this >< close. This. >< Close.
Johnny Storm saved his behind.
On topic: In the latter part of my dating it took me a very long time to warm up to anyone.
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 10:09 AM | Link to this
am i in trouble.
By BigWords
March 21, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this
2CPTG That’s some bullshyt right there! TI got busted, and sentenced to home. Now he crying about wanting special priv. That’s messed up yo. He ain’t no better than the next thug.
Anyways, I’m a size 4/5. Can I have my sundress in pink and yellow. Thanks baby!
By DasV
March 21, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this
BlueK laughin at your lil mayne
MIss i gotta cosign Foots post to you. Seems you not real sure what you want in man…. be it Guy1 or Guy2 or whomeva else walks your way. take some time for yourself is my advice. hope you hit on your truth.
but we never know our what our true actions are until we are at the crossroads and opportunity is knocking - - that statement right there is a fallacy. our motives should be well defined waaaay before we in situation where they come into play…. otherwise you just gon’ react.
By AmazonRed
March 21, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this
Black Girl - Thanks for the well wishes. I did go by H&M in NYC and was disappointed because they were renovating it and large sections were blocked off. Small selection.
But if I can pull myself away from this darn computer there is one here in DC within walking distance of my hotel.
By Miss
March 21, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this
foots Thanks. advice taken. well, i work with #2 and it just kinda flowed in the way we started hanging out.
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this
Miss go back and read Foot 955 post…the only thing you will do for #1 is cheat on him…Save that brother heartaches and let him go.
By Raqi
March 21, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this
Miss “Why?” is a question only you can answer. Do you feel that you would like to explore other options before settling with the first guy?
By Blue_Kolla
March 21, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this
JoeJa Mayne What up slim?! Aye, send me that link for that publishing house again. Thanks.
…(exhales) I think I’m gon’ take an early long azz lunch today. Might even knock down a Strong Island too.
By Dee - Rell
March 21, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this
Ya know i told someone yesterday….the relationship does not start until you have sex…ladies what do you think
By 2CPTG©
March 21, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this
size 4/5!!!
Hellz yeah!…..I loves ‘em petite!
By The Truth
March 21, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this
Why is it that every bank of america treasurer overseas wants me to help them transfer $20,000,0000 into my account? I never new yahoo could bring me so much riches. I am one lucky sob.
Ared don’t ever pop out like that without giving notice. I needed you yesterday.
The Truth now sneaks in to retrieve Cani’s vest and manual for that sorry azzed breakfast. Then after reading she’s curious returns them and replaces the vest with a nice pink one.
What’s up Gaman? Glad to hear all is going well for ya. Oh yeah, those DOGS got toasted yesterday. LOL
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
March 21, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this
Alvin thanks suga!!! LOL
Hey GAMan glad you could pop in today!
On topic: I think I fall in like quickly just b/c I consider myself to be easy going and able to get along with anyone. Now as far as the heart goes, not nearly as quickly.
By DasV
March 21, 2008 10:21 AM | Link to this
ROTFLOL @ I came this >< close. This. >< Close.
RAQI you my gurl wit that one, cause i know exactly wha you talkin bout! you callin him every hour on the hour, right?? want me to call too?? LOL
CEEcee* you reading this…. cant we relate?!
By SexyLeggs
March 21, 2008 10:21 AM | Link to this
Raqi, I can understand your this >< close. This. >< Close. through clenched teeth. Too funny. What’s hard is letting them grow up and trying to keep them as a kid. Personally, I don’t like the age of 13, they’re too dang flippant. I popped mine in the back (a little too hard) the other night for some dumba$$ response that came out of her mouth while her back was to me. What I wanted to do was jump up and jump on her. Still, your son is a quick thinker (LOL).
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this
Mo/Dreams
Am i in trouble…b/c i watch you two kiss. Mo i told you vicariously.
so!
By AmazonRed
March 21, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this
Aw..Truth, did you miss me? LOL. I’m never too far away as long as I have an internet connection. I wonder if you can check this blog via Treo or Blackberry. That would give me something else to do while traveling.
What did you need?
By DreamsMaterialize
March 21, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this
Mo Don’t be hittin me with the long distance kiss. come over here and get that forehead kiss. And yes, they are working the SH^T outta me. Massa gotta lotta cottin fo ta git pikkt.
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this
Miss How old are you?…I see you failed to inform us that #2 works with you…You do know you’re drugding on thin ice if you mess with him right? Ever heard don’t shyt wear you sleep, or shyt wear you eat, or shyt wear you shyt?…..Dayum this hunch punch got me buzzed!
Ared So is there a good “mix” of nationalities in there?
By IslandGirl
March 21, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this
Rell….men may think that way. Sex deepens a woman’s emotional attachment to a guy.
For me the relationship begins once it is mutually established that we are in an relationship. For me it has to be acknowledged. Folks play too much games. I’m not assuming we are in a relationship because of the sex….noooooooo.
Some folks may take this to a spiritual level…for each its own, but I can separate sex from my emotions (for a little while).
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this
Dayum yooooooooou!!!
IslandGirl I am over laughing so hard, i can even mount a comeback, LOL!!!
Now lacing Island’s lipstick with jerk sauce
By DasV
March 21, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this
is it just me? i coulda sworn its either 3/4 or 5/6… aint neva seen no 4/5 ‘fore?????
By Blue_Kolla
March 21, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this
2 since the judge said he gon’ let TI go to church this weekend…I’mma go pray with the brother.
All’a yoll betta send up a couple for the Pasta as well, ‘cause once them tax documents surface he gon’ be sittin’ right next to TI, talking’ ‘bout, “Lookie here Saint, The Lord is looking for you to pass over that cornbread offering.”
Words That’s some bullshyt right there! TI got busted, and sentenced to home. Now he crying about wanting special priv.
Don’t hate on TI. He’s using his assets to lighten his load. I’d do the same dayum thing. And so would you; otherwise you’d return your tax refund with a note saying that you don’t want it b/c you want to be treated the same as those that ain’t getting refunds b/c they don’t have kids & houses.
By Miss
March 21, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this
amazonred i think you are right even though some feelings have developed for # 2 I need to look at the reality of the situation. #2 is not even asking for anything…we are just kicking it and the fact that I want a family and a man of God to lead my household # 1 is my choice…the only lingering question is why did i get myself in the situation to develop feelings for another….ugh.
By Foots
March 21, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this
DasV our motives should be well defined waaaay before we in situation where they come into play…. otherwise you just gon’ react.
I wanted to say something like that, but you put it into words so much better than I could have. ^5
Slim Do you happen to have any more mysterious tickets laying around? I think that it’s sold out and I have a friend who is looking for some. I hope he’s still as funny as he used to be. His old stuff had me ROTF!
But seems like she might be left desiring more after the lust wears off..
You’re right, folks have to create that excitement with who they are with. If that person is a good person, you click, you have similar goals, you can work with them, and you’re attracted to them, shoot, buy a pole, get a disco ball and set it off. Then you can have love AND lust.
Hey Black Girl and GAman!
By Raqi
March 21, 2008 10:29 AM | Link to this
Rell so you are saying that the couples that choose to wait to have sex until married really don’t have a relationship?? Despite the fact they have been together let’s say…2 years???
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this
Wish the ladies would come over to my spot and we do a hair party. I don’t wanna go any where.
DasV? Gurl, i feel like eating and watching movies allday.
And gas is up to 3.20 around my area. ….tyrin ta save…tryin ta save…that dang binford gas
By AmazonRed
March 21, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this
SlimOne - Are you a United Nations lover? LOL. No there is not a good mix of nationalities. It’s a whole bunch of uppity black folks. LOL. But there is a cross mix of siddity to blue collar. Like when I did the speed dating, I met the guy who owned the plane as well as a guy who owned to restaurants at the airport. There was also the truck driver and they guy with TWO gold teeth that I couldn’t figure out WHAT HE did gas face. Maybe he said “computer school” LOL!!!
By IslandGirl
March 21, 2008 10:35 AM | Link to this
Alvin….lol!!! I actually like jerk sauce…here’s a kiss…muah.
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this
DAsv is it just me? i coulda sworn its either 3/4 or 5/6… aint neva seen no 4/5 ‘fore? LMAO!!!!!!
Foots Unfortunately, i don’t. Things like this are like lightning…rarely strikes in the same place twice.
By Dee - Rell
March 21, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this
@Raqi….yea i know you have a hard on for me….lol
Thats what i am saying…no you dont have a relationship..you still in that building rapport mode or comfort….sex like Island girl said deepens the bond…hell you not legally married in the eyes of the church until you have sex…so again no you dont have a “relationship” until the sex takes place…so instead of trying to set me up for a pointless debate..why not give your point like Island girl did….PLUS….it was something i read and still chewing on so i am looking for a female POV on this issue..DAYUM I WISH YOU BAMAS would grow some skin or something…can we not share with it always turning into men versue women debate….
@island….thank you for your POV
@LADY VENUS….i was thinking the same thing……i have never purchased a 4/5 anything for my ladies..lol
By BigWords
March 21, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this
DasV My bad girlie. I haven’t bought a dress in a long time. Not familiar with the sizes, but I think he can figure it out.
2CPTG Ummmmm. Can mommy get a purse and alittle something for my feet from Bakers too. hehehehehe. smooches
By 6'1 & luvin it
March 21, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this
Yeah Truthy U know we need SexyCanl 2 nite so that is why I supplied breakfast. Is is going to warm up today. Shyt I rode my bike to work. If you seen a STOOPID AZZ, whizzing in and out of traffic on 285 this morning that would be me. I was cold as muthaphucker too. But I look so cute coming into the building with my skinny jeans leather jacket and helmet in my hand with my book bag on. Too dayuum cute. Freezing but cute as hayo!
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this
DasV lol… that’s those irregular size. You’ve seen ‘em, right?
Alvin are you gonna really put jerk sauce on IslandGirls lipstick. lol…wow.
By DasV
March 21, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this
Foots nah. you broke it down like how she needed it broke…. and she look like she on her way to ‘over-standing’… cause look what she sayin —-> …the only lingering question is why did i get myself in the situation to develop feelings for another….ugh.
MISS inna ‘nother minute imma snap my fingers at your revelation.
By Foots
March 21, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this
SexyLeggs Personally, I don’t like the age of 13, they’re too dang flippant. I popped mine in the back (a little too hard) the other night for some dumba$$ response that came out of her mouth while her back was to me. What I wanted to do was jump up and jump on her.
Girl! My mama did jump on me one time for something that came out of my mouth that was ill-advised. That little devil on my shoulder thought it was a good idea to say it, but he was nowhere to be found while i was laying on the floor trying to recover my temporarily lost vision, cause she knocked me the f/k out. I didn’t even know that your vision could white out like that!! I was just about 13 or 14 too.
Rell ….the relationship does not start until you have sex…
It depends on where your focus is. Some men can’t commit without the sex. That man is more focused on sex. Some men want to feel a deeper connection with a special woman and will commit to her without having slept with her, knowing that when they eventually do have sex, it will be making love. That man is more focused on forming a relationship. Guess which man that the good women would choose?
By Staceye
March 21, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this
Welcome Lilz
SexyCanI you can keep that breakfast girl…I’ll drink a protein shake! LOL
Slim it’s like dat girl. My mami started talking even more crazy once she started going through the change. She call me and was, “girl be careful out here. These men are pitching disease all around and you need to drop the mitt and run..do not catch! needless to say I was shocked at that! LOL
Hey GA Man!!!
I need to see what kind of chocolate is out there in Chocolate City! I’ve got my spoon Chocolate…did somebody say chocolate? I love chcolate. I think it was my first word!
Cemeeli I will wear gator but thou shalt not eat it! LOL
Miss we are always drawn to something that will give up drama. The other guy is a no-brainer. But the one who is so different intrigues you because he is just the opposite of you! Been there…done that..bought the t-shirt! I think if you got with guy 1…you be longing for guy 2…feeling like you missed out. But when the fit hits the shan you will wish you went with guy 1. So think it through and d what’s going to suit your needs in the long run!
ARED which H&M did you go to, 34st or 125st?
**On topic: I think I do have a tendency to fall in like quickly. That has landed me in bad spots.
By SexyLeggs
March 21, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this
Truth, where did you read SCan1 is curious?
Too funny DasV, but right on point = 3/4 or 5/6.
By For Real
March 21, 2008 10:43 AM | Link to this
What up Blog Fam!!
For Real is now peeing on the breakfast.
Miss You sound like one of the I, MY, and ME chicks that’s so hell bent on pleasing yourself that you don’t know what you want. It doesn’t matter bc Guy #3 will be so much better than Guy #2 bc Guy #3 is actually Guy #1 who left your waffling azz.
For Real now pizzing on Miss ankle.
Slim/Foots I’m going to see Chris Rock on Sat. One of Chris’s funniest line Shouldn’t have been f/king around with that white gurl
For Real now peeing on Raqi’s ankle bc violence is not the answer.
By 2CPTG©
March 21, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this
Big Words, see, you was ‘bout to have me lookin like a damn fool!
Do those dresses come in one size fits all?
By AmazonRed
March 21, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this
Miss - Glad I could help. I think Foots had a valid point (as usual). You need to find what is missing with #1. Is it butterflies or passion?
I’ve spoken on here about my friend who married her guy #1. There was something missing for her, and she cheated on her hubby once she found someone who brought that “missing link” to the table. So just be mindful of what you think you might need but don’t have from guy #1 right now.
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this
Dee-Rell GOT DAYUM I WISH YOU BAMAS would grow some skin or something Um..buddy…me from Bama…Sooooo whatchutryintosay?
By Miss
March 21, 2008 10:48 AM | Link to this
slimone you are so right. i need to chill on #2 because things could get very complicated and we work together. I like peace.
I am 29 by the way for whoever asked.
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this
BigWords…speaking of…
2C i see you tried to stab at a sis yesturday bout the fleamarket sundress and all….dat’s allright nik. When Staceye get in here she’ll let me know what’s up with the sundress shopping trip.
Truth what happened to the offer? all game.
By IslandGirl
March 21, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this
I’m out to my meeting. You guys have a great weekend.
By The Truth
March 21, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this
Sexy* check her 833.
Bigwords “If the chemistry is there on the first date, I’m likely to give up my feelings and the panties on the first night.” Let’s go out on a date tonight. Btw, keep the feelings.
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this
Cemeeli that was the best i could come up with, LOl
IG no thanks, kissing after eating hot stuff is a big turn on for me doing the winter, LOL
By AmazonRed
March 21, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this
Staceye - I like chocolate men more than I like actual chocolate. But melt that actual chocolate down and pour it on the chocolate man and we have a winner! LOL
I went to the H&M on 34th street.
By Bre'
March 21, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this
way off topic I am blogging from a bus, NYC to DC. A ride for a recession price of 40 bucks.(not the stinky chinatown one) Nonetheless, WOW….I can ride down 95 and chill on the net. To the youngsters this is probably nothing bt to be a old school head like me I’m in WOW.
Now I will go back and read the comments, just wanted to share my amazement. My mind can’t even imagine what type of technology will be around when(if) I have kids.
By Dee - Rell
March 21, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this
@FOOTS…so being a “good women” gives you an automatic good judge of character or sound judgement?…..i was under the impress we has humans have some of the same emotions when it comes to sex and bonding…society rules say that you should wait…but waiting never guaranteed anything…..again i dont 100 percent follow this…..but thanks again for your informed post….but to answer your question…i think a “good woman” would go after the man that will wait and “make love” to her
and if a man waits does that mean he is focused on a relationship?
By DasV
March 21, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this
CEEcee ROTFLOL@ irregular sizes
…. and sista-gurl i know what you sayin… i wanna take a nap so bad my head hurtin. i really would like to take a dip in a pool… treat my muscles to some theraputic exercise and then relax with a cup of Slims hunch punch. LOL
sexyLeggs gurl they a mess at 13! and cleva…. i truly believe that mens dumb down after 18… cause my 13yr old be sayin some stuff tht have me speechless…. and you know that is NOT me … that dont neva happen when im conversing with mens (tho i be wanting it to… they just aint cleva) LOL!
DAAAANNNNNGGGGG* *Rell tell us how you *really feel bout bamas having no skin. LOL
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this
I am sorry, some black women should not walk around wearing sun dresses…Me head is hurting from all the dayum double takes
By DasV
March 21, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this
you had a lot of p** to go around, ForREAL… you just getting up?? LOLROTF
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this
Wut up Gaman
Stace I’m soo not mentally prepared to know my mom is growing up. She was young when she had me so I guess that has had an effect on our close relationship. I’ve always been the one with the young MILF…so if shes growing up, that only means I’m getting older.
Slim takes SexyCans 27 page WLB questionaire, rolls it up, and smacks ForReal nose with it for peeing on the breakfast. After Slim wipes off excess pizz…Slim opens buffet back up to all late Bloggers
By SexyLeggs
March 21, 2008 11:03 AM | Link to this
SexyCan1, you never did give us your age.
Foots that was a funny story. I see it coming, if she doesn’t change her evil ways. She’s a good kid, but when these young girls “start smelling themselves”, they tend to forget who the hell they’re talking to. Not in my house and not on my watch. I’ll make sure DEFACS won’t be called, but I’m about to put my foot in her a* the next time. She knows I’m boss, but I sense her calculating how much “tension” there is before the spring snaps back and hit her in the fact.
ForReal, don’t pee. If you don’t want to get violent, pop a few bra straps (that still hurts). Peeing is just degrading.
By AmazonRed
March 21, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this
Bre - LOL @ you blogging on a bus. You’re hi-tech with it. I’m in DC right now too. Are you coming for business or pleasure?
By SexyCanI
March 21, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this
Bloggers is busy this morning. Do you work? Really? LOL. Massa just went on break. MeMe texted me and told me yall hatin’ on my breakfast. LOL.
I fall in love quickly. Always have. It’s no problem for me to tell my man what’s going on in my heart. I want him to know, so that if it’s too much for him he can go another direction.
Yall didn’t like my breakfast? Next time tell me what you want. Picky. LOL. Cemeeli my pizza bagels are good. Let me hook it up for you next time. 6’1 & luvin it, The Truth please don’t take me back to high school. I might be the one to turn youuuuuu out. LOL. SexyLeggs I’ll do better. I didn’t know you wanted me to go shopping. Massa didn’t pay me until dis morning. Alligator for breakfast!!! Boy I tell ya. The Truth thanks for the blog vest. Pinks my fav color.
By Dee - Rell
March 21, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this
@alvin…..i love a women in a sundress…that a gift right there homie…all day
By SexyLeggs
March 21, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this
Thanks Truth, we got another one in the fold (LOL). Surprised I missed that!
By Raqi
March 21, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this
Yes sex deepens the bond, but it is still only a part of what it takes to have a relationship. From experience I am very familiar with all the avenues that are approached in being with someone. As for me, I don’t think I could be in a relationship without sex being a part of it, but I also don’t think sex makes the relationship.
By Kym
March 21, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this
Good Morning All,
I may like you but I have to be overwhelmed by something about you before I love you. So while I may fall in like fast can’t say I fall in love fast. Thin-Thin-Thin line.
On the 2nd Topic.
Rell I agree with Island Girl. I dont feel sex starts the relationship. Some women link emotionally through sex(you are sharing your essence yada-yada-got it) but until someone actually confirms that there is a relationship(wait let me back up a bit) There are many different types of relationships. Sexually, Emotional, Friendships etc. But until the two people involved agree to label the relationship as a committment to each other. Then sex is just the physical act. Even if one party is emotionally attached to that act.
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 11:12 AM | Link to this
DasV you had a lot of p* to go around, ForREAL… you just getting up?? LOLROTF* You’re on a roll today. I think some coffee came outta my nose on that one.
Alvin
I am sorry, some black women should not walk around wearing sun dresses…Me head is hurting from all the dayum double takes
Did I hear you were hanging out at the Running of the Bride this morning checking out all the ladies in their undies & bikinis?
By The Truth
March 21, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this
Similac if your talking about the dresses i’m still game. I don’t know how many of US will be able to fit in the changing room tho.
Bre this technology is nice. Glad your having fun. Is your air card as fast as your other connection? I’ve been thinking about getting one myself.
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this
Blue/Demi
Me and lil Cee both getting hair fixed today. Dude just asked me if he could get some artwork in his head. He’s had a mohawk fade b4 which he earned for weeks to get it. I’ don’t know about this. I hope dude’s not wanting a hot mess put in his head. hmph.
Is it a phase? Artwork cuts?
I love the simple big boy box fades or simple low cut on lil boys.
By 6'1 & luvin it
March 21, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this
Ahh Shyt Truthy Looks like we might have struck gold with SexyCanl Smiling like a cheshire cat licking her lips *Everyone be nice to SexyCanl Kay!
By Raqi
March 21, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this
WOW Rell did my answer come off like that. I thought we were going to have a good mature discussion. But I guess not…shugging. Sorry.
By Bre'
March 21, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this
Ared Mr.Man lives in VA, just coming in for what I hope will be lots of pleasure.
OnTopic Its takes me a long time to connect emotionally. I’m just wired in a weird way. But I have a GF that every next dude is her husband and she is in love. I just don’t get it. But to each its own.
Hey Alvin I hope all is well…stay out of trouble Mr.
By For Real
March 21, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this
DasV Yeap!
For Real now pizzin on DasV right rear tire.
OUCH!! Slim
For Real now peeing in Slim office plant.
By Dee - Rell
March 21, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this
@slim….i have no problem with women from bama..most i have meet…..have been the truth….quality women..also women from tennesse for some reason…..straight up sweethearts..and i dont have a problem with one..that has nice hair, a slim frame and a killer smile (wink)
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this
DasV you had a lot of p* to go around, ForREAL… you just getting up?? LOLROTF* You’re on a roll today. I think some coffee came outta my nose on that one.
Alvin
I am sorry, some black women should not walk around wearing sun dresses…Me head is hurting from all the dayum double takes
Did I hear you were hanging out at the Running of the Bride this morning checking out all the ladies in their undies & bikinis?
By Foots
March 21, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this
Rell so being a “good women” gives you an automatic good judge of character or sound judgement?…..
I didn’t say that. There are plenty of good women who are bad judges of character. But I think that if most women had a choice and was looking for something real, she would choose to go for a man who didn’t have to know how good her azz was to know if he wanted her.
and if a man waits does that mean he is focused on a relationship?
If you’re talking about just waiting, no. Of course, a dude can wait two years to get the azz, and leave right after if sex is all he’s looking for from the jump, and he was more than likely getting it from somewhere in the meantime. That’s a dude that’s focused on the sex.
A man who is relationship-minded and says to himself “I’m tired of all these games and I’m ready to find a special woman”, finds that special woman, and decides that she’s it for him, it could be two weeks, two months, or two years, it won’t just be “sex” for him when it happens. It will be something real and meaningful.
By Miss
March 21, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this
forreal thanks for breaking it down for me, but don’t break my spirit. point taken.
By SexyLeggs
March 21, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this
Bre, I too marvel at technology. This blog will make that bus ride go by a lot quicker.
Here’s a funny story (at least to me). Went to buy a bottle of wine after work and this elderly man (68)was playing his numbers. He leaned toward me and said “you’re a very pretty woman.” I thanked him and smile. He left the store and got in his truck. I paid for my item and went to my car. He was parked by me and said “I just couldn’t leave without getting your number. I’d like to take care of you.” Again, I smiled and told him I was being taken care of, but thanks for the interest. He then said perhaps I’ll run into here again. I said maybe. He waved bye and said “ta ta.” I got in my car smiling saying to myself, hell I want a man but I don’t want a 68 year old that says “ta ta”. LOL!
By For Real
March 21, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this
For Real now wipping pee off of SexyCans while preparing her for tonight’s Lick Fest.
By The Truth
March 21, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this
Sexycani “Pinks my fav color.” Apparently LMAO
Sundresses are sexy as hell. Specially the ones that tie off to the side with one strap and all you can do is imagine pulling that strap before diving into some nice wet…
By AmazonRed
March 21, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this
Bre - Have fun with your Mr. Man. My girls and I are going out for martinis but since you’re tied up (hoping literally ;-)) have fun!
My friend was also in NYC and dating a guy in MD. She lives with him now! You guys probably rode the same bus down to DC a few times. LOL
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this
Sexyleggs lol @ you tryin to keep it together about lil leggs. Blessings can sometimes make us react accordingly. Whew!
Truth let do this…we’ll all fit in the dressing room. Imma go first.
Slim that bride-basement thing was today? thinking…i never got that
By Staceye
March 21, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this
2C Cemeeli and I are ready for our sundresses?
ARED You should have went up to Harlem to H&M. I love men of all colors….I can put chocolate on all!
By SexyCanI
March 21, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this
Blogging is work. How much we get paid here and when is payday? LOL. For Real you ain’t got to pee on my food man! Dang. LOL. Slimone that’s nasty. But they’ll never know. I’m 48
BRB. Massa comin!
By For Real
March 21, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this
Foots A man who is relationship-minded and says to himself “I’m tired of all these games and I’m ready to find a special woman”
At first I laughed at the “relationship-minded”, then I thought your statement was an oxymoron but then I thought of Dan, then I laughed again and peed on myself.
Slim cleanup on isle #1!
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this
Did I just call SexyCani…Sexycans?????
For Real Get out from under my desk…I didn’t type that…I coudn’t have typed that….Did* I?
Slim now peeing on herself for obviously looking at Sexycans cans.
By 2CPTG©
March 21, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this
Truth…..shop around on the air card, folks! I’ve had mine for some time now, and it’s merely a step up from dial-up speed…granted you can access the web anywhere you can get cell phone reception, they still haven’t added the technology to give you broadband like speed…..but it’s functional…
By GaMan
March 21, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this
Roflmao at ForReal glad i ate early….hahahah
Truth they hung in there…i always pull for the underdogs at tourney time
My Gators didnt make it this year so SEC is my best shot
Sorry Foots
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 11:31 AM | Link to this
Bre’ now you know your boy is an angel…removing hat with horns and replacing with blog halo for added effect
SlimOne nah, most of the ladies standing in line weren’t all that attractive.
By DasV
March 21, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this
sexyLeggs LOL@ a 68yr old saying ‘ta, ta’…. but, uh, how you know was sixty-eight…. he coulda been 52 and just done aged bad cause he lived most his life somewhere wit a lot of sun where the ppl dem say ‘ta,ta’ when they leave?? LOLROTF
yea SLIM i think my boost was spiked.
wheres the dayum Pool!? any Blogsville resident remember how to get to it??
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this
2CPTG© most carriers are banking on the new 4G technology to can that.
Truth/Rell yeah…’specially since most ladies don’t wear undies, while wearing a sundress…or did they take them off before coming to myhouse??
Who knows.
By Dee - Rell
March 21, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this
@Raqi…i read you wrong….SORRY….thats why i sometimes hate technology..stuff gets lost….again sorry for reading you wrong….i think that i am about to go jack nicklaus if i dont have some “REALL” fun soon….lol
By Staceye
March 21, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this
Bre don’t hurt him girl! LOL Nah scratch dat…PUT IT ON ‘EM GIRL!!!! Wait… are youon the Peter Pan to Maryland like Lil’ Kim was? LOL
Foots But I think that if most women had a choice and was looking for something real, she would choose to go for a man who didn’t have to know how good her azz was to know if he wanted her that is how I really feel girl. I am col wiht a guy until he starts getting grabby hands on me. It becomes a turn off. It makes me think that is all he wants and I no longer see him as a potential mate. I go into defense mood…forcefield goes up and he is on the outside looking in! Nothing is more of a turn on than a man who does NOT make a move on me.
Sexyleggs he was trying to show you he still got it! LOL
**It’s good Friday..why are we at work? The market is closed so I am still trying to figure out what to do with myself!
By Staceye
March 21, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this
Bre don’t hurt him girl! LOL Nah scratch dat…PUT IT ON ‘EM GIRL!!!! Wait… are youon the Peter Pan to Maryland like Lil’ Kim was? LOL
Foots But I think that if most women had a choice and was looking for something real, she would choose to go for a man who didn’t have to know how good her azz was to know if he wanted her that is how I really feel girl. I am col wiht a guy until he starts getting grabby hands on me. It becomes a turn off. It makes me think that is all he wants and I no longer see him as a potential mate. I go into defense mood…forcefield goes up and he is on the outside looking in! Nothing is more of a turn on than a man who does NOT make a move on me.
Sexyleggs he was trying to show you he still got it! LOL
It’s good Friday..why are we at work? The market is closed so I am still trying to figure out what to do with myself!
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this
Truth neva mind dude…you on a whole nother plato ‘bout the sundress sponsorship…i read that!
…i own several tie off to the side. Dang!
Miss ForReal just has a different way of getting a point across. He cool…i’on think he was trying to break your spirit.
It just gets cwazi in here sumtimes.
Staceye don’t you wish we could take it to H&M now? 2C would you wanna sponsor a trip for your girls?
By GaMan
March 21, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this
DasV the pool is or was on top of the MLB headquarters…i dont even know if it has been cleaned since last years party
You know Truth and ForReal threw the last party so if you wanna go up there you can
By AmazonRed
March 21, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this
SexyLeggs - I’on know girl, he could have a pocket full of Viagra!
By the way, I’m noticing that the personal stories you share that don’t include you daughter do include WINE. You’re a wino girl! j/k
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this
sexyLeggs don’t tell me dude hit the ‘dreamgirl’ wave, while saying that mess, lol
By QC - leaving @ noon
March 21, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this
Hello For Real & 2cptg i did’nt get a chance to speak to y’all yesterday……..
HOLLA
By 2CPTG©
March 21, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this
48, and listening to Brittany??? no wonder breakfast was jacked up!!!
and who da hell is MeMe…..how she gon’ be talkin bout us, and she’en never came to fellowship with us?? gal, is you lyin’?
By AmazonRed
March 21, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this
GA Man - I was at the Duke vs. Belmont game. Belmont kept up til the final second and 75% of the crowd was going for em. That would have been a great underdog story, especially since Duke got knocked out of the first round last year.
How bout this…I missed the Georgia vs. Xavier game because I was blogging! Terrible. LOL
By Honey
March 21, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this
New Birth service will be at their church; not the Dome
By SexyLeggs
March 21, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this
He told me he was 68. I kept thinking “men never stop macking.” Then I thought of how some fellow blogger said men can have babies until death. Just look at Tony Randall. Anyway, he was sweet. I have to find my footing. Pulling 28 year olds to 68 year olds. Oui Vey!
By Foots
March 21, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this
For Real At first I laughed at the “relationship-minded”, then I thought your statement was an oxymoron
Nah, man. You’re just not there yet, maybe you never WILL get there, and that’s cool. After all, there are a lot of old men in the club. But there are plenty of Adams out there looking for their Eves. I’ve had more than a couple of them say to me that they had “been there, done that” and were ready for a relationship with somebody real. Men who are thinking like that will tell you up front, because they want to know if you’re on the same page and have the same mindset before they waste their time falling for you and you still wanna play.
As they always say (and nope, I have no idea who “they” are), a man first decides he wants a wife, then he goes looking for one. In other words, he is relationship-minded, then goes looking for a relationship.
By 2CPTG©
March 21, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this
Alvin, I’m bankin on that shyt too!!! talk about pet peeves…..a slow azz computer! now that gets under my skin….I’m spoiled on speed!
Cee…you tombout, “my girls”….y’all choosin? If so, let’s get it, then!
By QueDogTeaching
March 21, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this
What up Blog Said while blogging all early.
On-topic I fall in “like” real quick, but that is where it ends. I plateau real fast. I will like you with all of my ……..thoughts. But it takes time, situations, and circumstances for me to develop love for you. I can honestly say I have loved the situation, (funny, drinking buddy, could talk, argued hard, made up harder, would make love, then turn around 20 min later and fyck). But I never loved her at all. So like is very easy, first night. But love take proving.
Pubic service announcement Just because you sleep with someone does not mean that person likes you. and I spelled it right, more to come
By Staceye
March 21, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this
Cemeeli 2C would you wanna sponsor a trip for your girls? I am always up for a trip home! My parents and my girls keep trying to get me to move back!
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this
DasV it’s like 50 degrees outside and you want to do the pool! Wheren’t you flu-like couple weeks ago? …un-hu…Don’t be a fast @.
I’m getting a sweater with my sundress.
By 6'1 & luvin it
March 21, 2008 11:50 AM | Link to this
2c u think me-me is Bootiful I miss bootiful. Dang 48, I sure hope u shaved, saying all this while throwing up in my own dayuum mouf
By Dee - Rell
March 21, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this
@foots..i see your point. But most men are not relationship driven..that is a learned trait thru conditioning…because even in a relationship we are attract and aroused by women…a man will wait for any number of reason but one of them wont be because he loves the women or thinks she is good…..most men wait for there own reason or save our most important assest we can give a women and that is our “SEED”…
@STACEYE..you get turned off because the man did not take the time to develop a comfort level with you thru is interest….again that is fools mate….fools mate is a chess move….and sometimes it works sometimes it does not..when it does nto work you leave yourself exposed..but i feel where you are coming from
@alvin..no panties…sends my mind into overdrive…but i will pause there…lol
@foots….and alpha male does not play games with women but a beta will..because that is the only way for him to gain control thru game playing..a real alpha male will give you the play upfront and daily…again know the difference….and most alpha males are not relationship driven but will work a relationship into there lives if it adds to it….i think the first problem to solve or the info we must pass to the ladies is the difference between and alpha and beta male
By Foots
March 21, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this
GAman Yeah, I’m feeling really bad about the Dawgs. Basketball isn’t really my thing, but people that went to UGA are legally required to cheer for their school’s teams, whether they want to or not. So I’m bound by law to feel a brief sense of disappointment…..Foots would like to take this opportunity for a moment of silence on behalf of her fallen Dawgs….okay, now that that’s over, football season needs to hurry the hellz up! LOL!
By SexyLeggs
March 21, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this
ARed, you’re a mess. I keep wine at the house.
MeMe is fellowshipping w/us right now under a different moniker. MeMe is the name SexyCan1 gave her.
Truth, you saying her favorite color is apparently pink was very funny!
By For Real
March 21, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this
Okay maybe it’s just me but to read Honey making chuch annoucements is funny as hellz.
By GaMan
March 21, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this
AmazonRed i know i was pulling for them to pull it off myself…your right that would have been a Great Story Duke losing in the first round again…
i thought the Dogs were going to pull it off, i was pulling for them also since my Gators are not there
GaMan tears up but remembers that we won the last two titles
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this
2C see…why we gotta do all that!? you’ didn’t do all that to sis. whateva…you still my boi. u and your outbursts. lol
N-E-Way like Stac said we ready for our dresses.
By 6'1 & luvin it
March 21, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this
lmao @ 4real
By GaMan
March 21, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this
Foots I feel you on football season… Another Season of Tebow
running and passing i cant wait, but our Freshman are a year older now…and we have another great class coming in
By Staceye
March 21, 2008 11:59 AM | Link to this
Rell You are right! I feel that if I want to go there with you..you will know it. I don’t even like to go to a guy’s crib nor invite him to mine because for some reason they think that is free reign to touch all on me! Hell NO..it’s not!
Sexyleggs have you tried that wine I brought to your crib?
By Binford2K8
March 21, 2008 11:59 AM | Link to this
Raqi Not sure what Binford gas exactly is - please do tell ;p
On Topic: I am definitely slow as molasses in the relationship realm. Even if I get a good vibe, I really try to take it slow. I’m trying to really be friends and create a base above that of attraction. Sometimes that is to my detriment, but I always felt that was the way to go. That way when it goes deeper I’m totally on board and genuine about the whole deal.
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 12:00 PM | Link to this
For Real watch this…
Honey…QC is that you?
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 12:01 PM | Link to this
Sexyleggs mail.
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 12:04 PM | Link to this
Rell I am begining to think most women are turned off by a guy being up front and honest.
By DasV
March 21, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this
repost….blog ate the last one
CEEcee its a indoor pool and heated, if i remember correctly… but GAman sayin it aint been cleaned since last year…. that aint cool
By Miss
March 21, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this
Thanks guys for the advice. It has put alot of things in perspective for me.
By For Real
March 21, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this
Foots I noticed you didn’t say anything about me peeing on myself but I’m sorry you are talking about maybe .001% of men. Men don’t go looking for a wife. Maybe back in the day but not now. Marriage is something men walk into like Musing. It is almost like happenstance. We don’t plan for it nor look for it. It just shows up and we are like well okay, I guess it’s time to settle. That’s why I said it’s an oxymoron. Oh and the old man in the club comment doesn’t scare men but it scares the ish out of women bc men can always pull Sexyleggs.
By Foots
March 21, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this
Rell I think you’re missing my point. I’m not talking about the general population of men being relationship-minded. If we truly listen to some of y’all, most men are dogs who are controlled not by their brains but by the prospect of which azz they can tap next. No, I’m talking about a MAN who is tired of random azz, knows that it could be more, is ready for the next stage of his life and wants to find somebody to share that with. Having that mindset is not gained through “conditioning”, it’s gained through experience and getting tired of playa life.
If you’re talking about “conditioning”, you’re talking more about a man who says “well, she put up with me for five years, might as well marry her” or “we got three kids together, might as well marry her” or “well, I’m 35, time to find somebody”. That’s conditioning. What I’m talking about is a conscious choice that a man makes when he wants more, not one that is imposed upon him and he just goes along with it.
And please know, that in a relationship, women also are attracted to and aroused by other men. We all, men and women, make choices on how we respond to that based on our commitment level to our mate.
By SexyLeggs
March 21, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this
Staceye, did you bring the bottle of Reisling? or was it Blue Nunn??
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this
6’1’….lolrotf…oh my goodness. that shaving was TMI…it’s crazy in here.
By QueDogTeaching
March 21, 2008 12:09 PM | Link to this
Raqi I am under the firm belief that you are not in a relationship until after you have slept with someone. Until then you are just friends. Because you have not shared anything different than her girlfriends or guy friends. Just my thoughts.
Foots Yes a man could be tired of games, but he will continue to hit until he finds that one. He will be more selective, and will have more conversations, and will not want to just hit it and quit it, But he will continue to hit other women.
Staceye So if I find you physically attractive it is a turn off? If I know that up front, I will keep it plutonic until I get in good, hit and still leave. All I am saying is don’t let the smooth taste fool ya. It sounds like you have set rules, and for men we have no rules. That’s all.
By 2CPTG©
March 21, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this
ok, Auntie, if you say so….but now I’m thinkin YOU’RE Me-Me! lemme see, she’s 48, you’re 49….she said Me-Me was a lurker, but you said Me-Me is amongst us….like they say on them cop shows…..that’s info only the perpetrator would know!
By 2CPTG©
March 21, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this
Cee, what outburst? I just asked was y’all choosin…..
By SexyCanI
March 21, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this
2CPTG I meant Brandy. Ooops! MeMe is my gf. She joins in sometimes, but I think she uses fake names. Slimone should I leave this blog alone? Yall trying real hard to take me back. I haven’t thought about kissing p&##y in a long time. Ooops again. Can I say that here? LOL. 61 I’m not 48! I’m 38. I was typing too dang fast. I heard Massa’s footsteps. I want a sundress too. I feel so dang sexy in one. Going to lunch. BRB.
By Dee - Rell
March 21, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this
@foots..i did not miss your point…i see where you going with it..but like FORREAL said alot of it is happenstance….most men dont get tired….the tired men HAVE RUN OUT OF OPTIONS..that is when they decide…most men are conditioned…but i see you holding on that image of a man that does not exist…even the mightest of men can fall..so while you think he is honorable in his approach…remember he is still a man
By 2CPTG©
March 21, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this
SexyCan, or whatever your name is, the more you post, the shadier yo shyt soundin’…..
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
March 21, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this
QDT I am under the firm belief that you are not in a relationship until after you have slept with someone. Until then you are just friends. Because you have not shared anything different than her girlfriends or guy friends. Just my thoughts I have heard this before. Why do you think that? Just wanting a lil more info on that one.
Also you got any purple passion you can sneak a sistah a cup of? I can see the natives are getting restless and I’m gon need more than a shot today.
Alvin women can take an upfront, honest man. Its more of us out here than you think. Its finding a man that can take the same that is the problem
By DasV
March 21, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this
Foots i like the word ‘conditioning’…. and ForReal is sayin in his 1205 post that that is exactly how it happens for every man.
that is my second issue with the men on this blog and in general… they neva own up to anything. everythng just ‘happens’ … they dont own that their mindset or lack of thereof created the situation they in.
By Staceye
March 21, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this
Sexyleggs You know..I forgot whic one because they both are in my wine rack! LOL
By Foots
March 21, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this
Rell And yeah, I know that a lot of men marry because they fell into it. Is that how you want it to happen for you, or do you want to make your own decisions about your future based on what YOU want and choose the type of woman YOU desire, not just be stuck with the woman who desired YOU and broke you down?
By For Real
March 21, 2008 12:25 PM | Link to this
2E’s Your platonic friend For Real is exempted from your coming over rule right? Oh and are we still down for Saturday night? You promised to help me work on my role as WWF wrestler. Remember I’m wrestler #2 and you are Booker. Oh and I will bring the Ding, Ding.
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 12:27 PM | Link to this
SexyCani No need to cover up the twins..oops I meant to say, no reason to leave the blog. I luvs my vitamin D…so no worries here..but..um…you got a lil jelly on your left itty. Lemme get that for ya. said while drooling
For Real Stop diggin in your booty and Get this lady some Black Cake..PRonto!
Foots Too bad you won’t be at tonights show…I’m singing the Star-Spangled Banner. lol
By BigWords
March 21, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this
Alvin I’ll take a honest man in a heart beat. Knowing his intentions when we first meet will save me some heartache when I learn that all he wants is the panties.
By kinderbabe
March 21, 2008 12:29 PM | Link to this
thanks foots for restoring my faith that common sense has not escaped every one on the planet…lol. good posts today.:)
By Deadpool
March 21, 2008 12:30 PM | Link to this
In all seriousness we being people in general fall in like(or in-lust) with-in the first 10 seconds of initial contact, thats why we(men)ask(normally) for dates and why you(women) accept at that point you are in like. Now the problem in my opinion occurs when in like turns to in bed, a lot of women are conditioned to believe that to have sex you have to be “in love” and thus have a hard time differentiating between an amazing sexual experience and “in love”. Remember I said most. :) As more women get out of that way of thinking in-like+orgasm wont equal false positives on in-love and in turn would mean less regretful women. And a lot of you ladies are assuming that the feeling of love for comes from being sexual, but its the same between the sexes. Something to think about “If you need to realize your in love, just maybe youre not” thats my 2 cents
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 12:31 PM | Link to this
2C …what outburts? blasts, call outs, stabs…them there. I’ve been crakin’ up at you today. I feel like Mo…imma laugh myself into asthma-attack today…whew.
And why do the dresses have to come in ‘one size fit all’?
wow
By Kym
March 21, 2008 12:31 PM | Link to this
QDT If you believe you are not in a relationship until you slept with someone. Then this whole thing of teams and flings are what? Based on the post here..Men and Women are just having sex for the sake of the physical act. So could you explain why those acts of physical gratification dont lead to relationships?
By 2CPTG©
March 21, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this
“that is my second issue with the men on this blog….they neva own up to anything. everythng just ‘happens’ … they dont own that their mindset or lack of thereof created the situation they in.”
like you told Truth yesterday….that is about the dumbest shyt I’ve heard yet!!! Do you have an intimate knowledge of the men on this blog? Or, are you referring to monikers? How do you know where fiction ends, and reality begins? Which blog dude can you honestly say has deflected his responsibilities?
thought so.
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 12:33 PM | Link to this
Mo Some women and Most men can can take the up front and honestly. it’s just that…Most women and Some men, live too much in La La land.
By For Real
March 21, 2008 12:37 PM | Link to this
For Real walks into DasV office sipping on a Big Gulp from QT.
DasV You are missing my point. I am not saying men don’t own up. Men just don’t go looking for marriage bc we can get it anytime we want to. Happens = At that moment in time men are in a position to make a choice.
to marry or not
to fugg her or not (but next time tho)
Understand what I am saying? Oh and choose your words carefully in your response. I am hold a Big Gulp.
For Real now in his Cowboy stance tapping his zipper.
By Staceye
March 21, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this
Que there is nothing wrong with find me attractive. You can vocalize that. But while I trying to get to know you and you think that includes sex…that is a turn off. That shows me all you want is sex!
For Real You so crazy!
By Deadpool
March 21, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this
In all seriousness we being people in general fall in like(or in-lust) with-in the first 10 seconds of initial contact, thats why we(men)ask(normally) for dates and why you(women) accept at that point you are in like. Now the problem in my opinion occurs when in like turns to in bed, a lot of women are conditioned to believe that to have sex you have to be “in love” and thus have a hard time differentiating between an amazing sexual experience and “in love”. Remember I said most. :) As more women get out of that way of thinking in-like+orgasm wont equal false positives on in-love and in turn would mean less regretful women. And a lot of you ladies are assuming that the feeling of love for comes from being sexual, but its the same between the sexes. Something to think about “If you need to realize your in love, just maybe youre not” thats my 2 cents
By DasV
March 21, 2008 12:42 PM | Link to this
DEADPOOL ROTFLOL@ differentiating between an amazing sexual experience and “in love”.
our presumption, and this is me telling you you wrong, is that we females dont fall in love before the sexual act…… and note i did not add amazing … cause seriously you all tend to overrate your ability to actually bring it.
By BigWords
March 21, 2008 12:43 PM | Link to this
At that moment in time men are in a position to make a choice.to marry or not, to fugg her or not (but next time tho)
Not from where I stand For Real. If I’m ready, I’m asking kidd! With ring in hand and err’thang. Life’s too short to wait on a proposal.
By Foots
March 21, 2008 12:43 PM | Link to this
Alvin Give us an example of what kind of honesty you’re talking about. I think a lot of people are fine with honesty, it lets them make their own decisions about what they want to do. That way they have no one to blame but themselves if things don’t go like they’d like for them to. They may not like what is being said, but that’s where the decision making process comes in: If it ain’t what you wit, then split. If you wit it, git it!
kinderbabe LOL!! It’s about to get hot in here today. I’m bout to go make me some popcorn to eat when I get back from lunch.
By Raqi
March 21, 2008 12:47 PM | Link to this
Binford gas Huh???
I forgive you Rell. muah LOL
QueD But saying that is like saying the relationship is based on sex. Sex is just a part. What about the people who have various sex partners? They declare not being in a relationship with neither. So how can sex mean sealing the deal to make a friendship a relationship in some areas, but in others sex is just sex? Like already stated sex deepens the bond, but does not the relationship make.
By GaMan
March 21, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this
Staceye You done lost your mind…lolol
GaMan grabs Big Gulp from ForReal and pour it over Staceye’s head
Guys look at the physical and the thought just pops in his head, if he looked at you and didnt think about it…he might not be interested
here is a Ticket for saying this Que there is nothing wrong with find me attractive. You can vocalize that. But while I trying to get to know you and you think that includes sex…that is a turn off. That shows me all you want is sex!
Riiiiiiiiip
By Cemeeli
March 21, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this
Is there counsel soon for that dude ForReal?
On the cowboy stance note imma get otta here and hit these salons up. barber/dominicans. Next time Staceye you’re doing my hair!
Yall be easy and enjoy your weekend.
Happy Easter!
By DasV
March 21, 2008 12:55 PM | Link to this
2CPTG i did add ‘men in general’.
ForReal i aint scared of you or yo big gulp, but I am of 2CPTG so imma choose my words wisely… donning blog vest
on this blog, from the blog bruthas, there is a lot of accusations and vent sessions about women flippin the script and pulling the wool ova they eyes…. i am wit you bruhs almost errrryday. i know you all not stupid, naive, gullible, etc. you all choose to go along wit the woman cause of her beauty or her money…. you aint lookin at her realness, so she dont have to have any. and when things come up short, ya’ll real quick to point the finger, not just admit that it was your one-eye gotchu in your ‘dicKament’.
By Blue_Kolla
March 21, 2008 12:59 PM | Link to this
6’1 Shyt I rode my bike to work. If you seen a STOOPID AZZ, whizzing in and out of traffic on 285 this morning that would be me.
Naah slim, not stupid; fun as hayo.
Slim me from Bama… Where @?
Cee He’s had a mohawk fade b4 which he earned for weeks to get it.
I’m thinking, “We might have to work that when school gets out.
Staceye I am col wiht a guy until he starts getting grabby hands on me. It becomes a turn off. It makes me think that is all he wants and I no longer see him as a potential mate.
That’s a knucklehead w/ no mind control. The fastest and best way to get it, is to act like it don’t exist. 90% of the time, it’ll quickly be presented on a platter w/ all the trimmings. The bonus here is that this method also takes the Power Of The Poo See away from the female, b/c now she knows up front that that’s not a motivating factor in your thought process. …well she’ll at least think it.
Fellas take notes… ^^^
By Deadpool
March 21, 2008 1:04 PM | Link to this
“You all” Thats funny but your opinion.I never implied women fell in love first. Reread my post. Which would explain why I said in-like+orgasm= false positives on in-love. As far as bringing it goes you can only speak on your experiences and I hope your not expecting me to apologize for others shall we say handicaps. Heres a suggestion though if youre not getting what you want out of these romps maybe if you took control and gave orders you would’ve added amazing to your post, but as a side note i just read your post.
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 1:09 PM | Link to this
Kolla Me from Skegee…as in TUSkegee. What about you?
By DasV
March 21, 2008 1:15 PM | Link to this
DeadPool no you implied that we fall in love because of the amazing (ok, ill add it) experience we have with you in bed. nah, sah. that is the case only wit a youngsta.
sex is the bow wrap on the gift of our relationship…. it does not the relationship make or complete. its a bonus….. (and you right [i will own it] my experience doesnt immediately warrant an ‘amazing’ stamp)
By Binford2K8
March 21, 2008 1:24 PM | Link to this
Sorry Raqi, it was Cemeeli and I still have no clue what Binford Gas means.
By Deadpool
March 21, 2008 1:33 PM | Link to this
When the topic of how much sex plays into the health of a relationship I’ll elaborate but since its off topic I’ll leave that one alone. What I was saying was the in-like+amazing= perception of in-love(false positives)
By The Truth
March 21, 2008 1:36 PM | Link to this
Das men own up to plenty. They just don’t walk up and down the street thinking that every chick is gonna be their wife and have 8 children with them. Dudes just live and what happens happens. Women spend alot more time thinking about what could happen or might happen. We gonna have to get you back on your meds, you comin with some wild shyt lately.
2C thanks for that info. Not quite as glamorous at those speeds.
Sexypink which is it, 48 or 38?
By 2CPTG©
March 21, 2008 1:40 PM | Link to this
“The fastest and best way to get it, is to act like it don’t exist. 90% of the time, it’ll quickly be presented on a platter w/ all the trimmings. The bonus here is that this method also takes the Power Of The Poo See away from the female, b/c now she knows up front that that’s not a motivating factor in your thought process. …”
OK!!! I’on know why these gals seem to think “it’s a bonus” to have sex with them!! And then, coming from someone who’s scripturally inclined, she oughta know, coochie was put here for dyck, not the other way around; The bonus is, or would be, if yours is the only coochie he’s getting!
By Binford2K8
March 21, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this
DasV
Sex DOES make a relationship complete because if you follow the logic out, a couple becomes a family.
Sex should not in any way be a pillar of the relationship, but an important part? YOU BET! Why else then is getting no sex from your spouse a legitimate reason for divorce?
By DasV
March 21, 2008 1:47 PM | Link to this
ROTFLOL @ We gonna have to get you back on your meds, you comin with some wild shyt lately you wrong for that one, bruh.
DeadPOOL i will own that when you liking someone and then you have great sex, it pushes the pendulum toward ‘love’ (in this case a false positive) if you will own that that is the case for you men too…. when you meet a chick that is cool to hang out with, converse with AND she brings it in the bedroom…. tell me that dont have you feeling ‘lovestruck’?!
theTRUTH i agree we do tend to over-analyze a thing…. but that doesnt excuse you all from not giving it any thought. yall suppose to be the leader in the camp… we stomping the yard and makin tracks cause yall waiting on something to happen… we trynna help it along (which throws everything off).
By SexyCanI
March 21, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this
I would like to comment again about the topic:
I called my boyfriend while at lunch and asked him how soon he thought I fell for him. He said within the first hour he knew he could get everything from me. I was like ok, but true. As I’m listening to him rant about his project at work, I was thinking that I wish I was born a man. I don’t think it’s safe or healthy for a woman to give in so quickly. If we were made this way intentionally, then I apologize for the blasphemy. Women need to really think about holding back more and just be patient and study the subject. There’s a time for this and the first night isn’t the time.
As for when a relationship starts, it starts when we meet. When two people start to involve the other in their daily lives then there’s something going on. There doesn’t have to be sex, kissing or touching involved. Even if the guy doesn’t plan on going to far in a relationship with her, it’s still a relationship.
The Truth I’m 38. I’m trying to proof read, but it’s hard because of the little time I have. If I don’t talk with you again, have fun tonight! LOL. I see someone doesn’t like me. Oh well, can’t win them all. I was warned. Be Back Later Gator. LOL.
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 1:52 PM | Link to this
Can’t we all jus get along. All this back and forth is just too much for a Happy Freaky Friday. We had a chilli cook-off at work today and frankly Rrrrrripppppp Ewww smell like kidney beans.
And if all we doing is oral…does that mean we are in r’ship too? rrrrriipppppp Ewww, that one smell like the turkey chilli.
By Raqi
March 21, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this
2Can as much as I want to slap you upside the head for that statement I cannot disagree.
Everyday God witnessed man walking around the garden being not exactly sure what that mass of flesh was hanging between his legs and out of curiosity constantly pulling on it. So God said, let me give that nut somewhere to put that thing.
By DasV
March 21, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this
i neva meant to imply that the poosie was the end all, be all. it is the crescendo of the relationship… its not the whole score. wha bluK speakin to is a youngsta that hasnt established her personal truth beyond what she can do in bed…. a woman knows that with a MAN thats the easy part…. be available, willing and able, all the time…. its engaging his other senses that requires due diligence.
Binford i hear ya> but, uh, ….. the only legitimate reason for a divorce is infidelity.
By Dee - Rell
March 21, 2008 1:57 PM | Link to this
@2C…..hot dayum..you just drop an A bomb on it…
By Deadpool
March 21, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this
Analyzing is the problem when it comes to love. Love in its trueist form cant be analyzed because it isnt logical. My main point was if you have to think to tell if its love or not it’s not at the time doesnt mean it wont ever be. A really bad example:let start by saying the love for a man/woman could never compaire to the love of your children unless you gave birth to the Mendez boys and survived. On a lesser level Love for your partner should come as naturally, there should be no thinking involved. but thats my opinion
By Raqi
March 21, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this
DasV its engaging his other senses that requires due diligence.
Yep, yep!!
By Blue_Kolla
March 21, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this
2 I’on know why these gals seem to think “it’s a bonus” to have sex with them!!And then, coming from someone who’s scripturally inclined, she oughta know, coochie was put here for dyck, not the other way around;
2 Reasons:
Dudes getting starting jobs but don’t know how to play the position.
Women misunderstanding and misusing their ill-gotten power.
Real power is when you have the ability to conquer, but don’t.
By DasV
March 21, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this
2CPTG … and you know i dayum well know my place in the scheme of things. but when yall not making leadership moves, not just in a relationship but on all fronts, … sheesh in a friendship, then a sista bound to get frustrated.
By Deadpool
March 21, 2008 2:13 PM | Link to this
Bold:DasV Whats your place?
By The Truth
March 21, 2008 2:16 PM | Link to this
Sexycani don’t worry about folks not liking you here. On a given day they don’t like anyone.
Das there are other good reasons for a divorce besides infidelity. How about she’s getting on my fuggin nerves, she’s acting like her menses last the whole month, or I just realized I don’t like her azz. I could deal with the infidelity better than the others. She may cheat once or twice a week bt she’s fuggin up everyday of my life.
By Dee - Rell
March 21, 2008 2:17 PM | Link to this
@lady venus….i cosign your post…i have been spitting that from day one….leadership…..if you not doing that…then you going to get roll’d up
By 6'1 & luvin it
March 21, 2008 2:17 PM | Link to this
Just got back from lunch. It is too pretty outside. I can’t wait to leave and tour the town on my bike. I looked too cute. (Opps, I already mentioned that) I met a cute guy while I was at the gas station. He paid for my gas. It don’t cost much to put gas in this. Shyt I need him to fill up the Beamer. Of course I got his number Of course I knew as soon as he stepped out of his truck that yep he would be getting sum I really like him Let me call my best friend and tell her about this one.
By 2CPTG©
March 21, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this
“and you know i dayum well know my place in the scheme of things. but when yall not making leadership moves, not just in a relationship but on all fronts, … sheesh in a friendship, then a sista bound to get frustrated.”
first off, how da hell do I know, yeen neva had my last name, so I’on know what you know ‘bout playin’ your role….second, why does all that sound like a personal issue? You tombout on all fronts????? Negro, if you ain’t got my last name, it ain’t my job to make sure yo bills paid, you doin this, that, or the other! Only when you say, I Do, and “leave your mother and father, and cleave unto me,” is it my job to lead!!
By Binford2K8
March 21, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this
DasV
Maybe adultery is the only grounds for which you would divorce in a moral sense - but legally there are many grounds and withholding/not participating in sex does fall in to one or more of those grounds (I’d have to look it up to see which one(s)).
And to be blunt, 99% wouldn’t sign up for the sh!t they take from a woman if they knew going in her legs would be closed a short time in the marriage regardless of how they got along otherwise. That is the plain truth of the matter.
By QueDogTeaching
March 21, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this
Kym & Raqi If I am claiming to date you, what separates us from just being good friends. It is likened to already living with a woman, already having kids, and sharing everything equally. It all means nothing until you go stand at a church, or even at the court house and say I do.
Until then she is just your old lady. Until we have a bond, not usually shared with anyone else we are just friends. That is why the question comes up all the time, “can a man and a woman be friends after they have slept together” Because at that point you are more than friends. Just my thoughts.
Staceye What shows me that you are deserving of being more than just a sex object is the way that you carry yourself. If you carry yourself like a sex-pot I am going to want to put my stick in your moist soil. But if we have a connection, it doesn’t matter when we have sex, the connection will be there. But also you have said that you don’t like it when a guy complements you in a certain way, or on certain body parts. That is what I am talking about the rules you have in place, you are setting yourself up to be played that way. A man will wait 2 years if he has options. And the way that you talk you leave all options open.
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this
…but when yall not making leadership moves, not just in a relationship but on all fronts, … sheesh in a friendship, then a sista bound to get frustrated.
DasV girl stop…85% - 90% of y’all ladies know when a dude is sorry…I just don’t know why in ‘08 women are still falling for sh1t that played out in ‘79.
By Raqi
March 21, 2008 2:28 PM | Link to this
A woman’s place is to be a helpmeet to the man (husband). Helpmeet = partner, supporter. But what is there to partner with or support if the “man” ain’t doing a darn thing himself?
One of my ex s-i-l was married to one the sorriest dudes that ever walked the face of this earth. And he was always chanting what the bible says. Dude, you must first be doing something to give your wife something to support you in. Not her doing all the work.
By For Real
March 21, 2008 2:28 PM | Link to this
DasV but when yall not making leadership moves, not just in a relationship but on all fronts
I am going to say this and then I got to go pee.
STOP CHOOSING MEN WHO ARE NOT READY TO LEAD!!!! IF YOU (THAT’S YOU) STOP CHOOSING MEN (IN YOUR LIFE) WHO ARE NOT READY TO LEAD THEN YOUR FRUSTRATION WOULD CEASE!!. TALK ABOUT NOT OWNING UP AND THEN YOU HAVE THE NERVE TO MEN AS IF WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE MEN YOU KEEP CHOOSING TO BE IN YOUR LIFE!
For Real now doing his I got to pee dance down the hallway to bathfroom.
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 2:30 PM | Link to this
Deadpool in the comic books, Deadpool is a smooth killer and ladies slayer…Glad to know you only kill with words.
By DasV
March 21, 2008 2:34 PM | Link to this
DEADpool analyzing is a problem when you loving someone, but you should weigh your reasons for loving them before you decide to. and my position in the scheme of things to be your partner… to follow your lead and match your pace…. to support, motivate, nuturer… a complement.
2CPTG i was speaking in general terms… about men/women in general, … and i will not now make this a personal thing. and, excuse, me… i was under the impression that alpha males (which every blog brutha claims to be) led all the time, not just in one area. my badd
theTRUTH im not gonna talk religon wit you… imma let you and binFORD hold that opinion about divorcing for other reasons ‘sides infidelity.
By Lady J
March 21, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this
he sounds so familiar doesn’t he…
By melo
March 21, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this
Howz ur afternoon averybody? SexCanI another rule of the blog that the WLB did not tell u: u dont openly talk about ur SO,boyfriend etc unless u married…..we occassionaly share pleaseantaries, exchange dizznick/puddsy and share and show that amongst blog fam so u dont want to talk about somebody not in this circle.We dont want to catch ish from non-family members..okay!! Plz reserve ur puddsy for fam…Truth will be the 1st to test ur stuff, followed by me, then Rell. We also just need to see if ur head game is supergrade, u know the Karim Superhead/Pamela Andson type
By Raqi
March 21, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this
It all means nothing until you go stand at a church, or even at the court house and say I do.
QueD you changing up now. Originally you said sex made it a relationship. Now you saying it’s the “I do”. The debate began at “it’s not a relationship until you have sex”. But I begged to differ because a relationship entails more than sex. Commitment is the key. Commitment binds all. Whether we have relations or not when we agree to be committed, that’s a relationship.
Now on this other thing you brought up…Folks that are not married have sex. So are those folks that are exclusively having sex not in a relationship because they have not said “I do”. If sex makes it a relationship.
By SexyLeggs
March 21, 2008 2:39 PM | Link to this
2C no, MeMe and I are two different bloggers. However, your rationale is correct in the criminal sense.
SlimOne…you got a lil jelly on your left itty. Lemme get that for ya. said while drooling I believe you’re my counterego. I think a lot of women are very sexy and attractive, but I just look, and move on to stare at MAN.
By DasV
March 21, 2008 2:42 PM | Link to this
RAQI thank you! for saying that…but what is there to partner with or support if the man aint doing a darn thing himself? and gurl, im catching it from all sides…. thanks for jumping in the trenches wit me. LOL
By 2CPTG©
March 21, 2008 2:44 PM | Link to this
an Alpha male is a leader!!! But if you’re not within his circle, pack, or whatever, then what responsibility does he have to you? And that pertains to men and women in general. Hell, you can sit back and spot a leader, whether he’s single or not; But he’s not obligated to lead you, til you join his pack!!!!
By Lady J
March 21, 2008 2:45 PM | Link to this
preach it raqi…
By Raqi
March 21, 2008 2:45 PM | Link to this
LOL!!!!!
By Deadpool
March 21, 2008 2:48 PM | Link to this
Alvin I wouldnt be so sure. HAha thats funny decide to? I’ve never knowing decided to love anyone, but hey believe what you want.
By Lady J
March 21, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this
Slim why didn’t you have a Easter Egg Hunt for us??? LOL
By 2CPTG©
March 21, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this
you know, I’mma gon’ put it out there….I got mad respect for ho’s; and I mean real ho’s - the ones with pimps! They do their choosin based off that pimps’ leadership abilities…they put their all into that dude (money, notwithstanding) and allow him to lead! They jump ship when dude starts slippin….only to do what, find another pimp to lead them….
somma y’all squares ain’t gon get this, cause it ain’t meant for you; But if you can set aside the terminology, and get with the idealology, then it’ll all make sense to you!
By BigWords
March 21, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this
I feel better now. I just read about black woman in the A getting butt shots to make the butt be on swoll. lol. I have to admit, I’m a tiny bit jealous when I hear men talkin’ about them. Making me self conscious and shyt. haha.
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 2:59 PM | Link to this
SexyL You know I just be playin around. I can’t recall the last time some itties were in my mouth…oops did I just think out loud. LOL! No really…I like men..only deal with men..unless of course I’m in a skrip club with some guy friends, which I haven’t been in a long time.
Slim now recruiting folks for her new movie…”Sex Madness…reminicent of Reefer Madness”
Let’s go back to the old days where O’s were the cure for
depression
arthritis
and so much more
By DasV
March 21, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this
Alvin and ForREAL hmmmm. might be on to something… could it be my choice of man?? say it aint so! LOL seriously, imma give that some thought, cause i am truly exasperated at the nonsense i keep dealin wit. (btw forreal thank you for not peeing in my cube)
2CPTG you on to something too. put it all together = my choice in man aint the man choosing me. so imma move the hayo on and go back to the drawing board to assess my other options. theres just so few packs to choose from cause most of yall aint doin shyt…. ok, thats just me venting
By Lady J
March 21, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this
Ok good folks have a great weekend! Be Easy! Peace!
By Raqi
March 21, 2008 3:07 PM | Link to this
2Can your statement is very blunt but also true. I fully get what you are saying.
By QueDogTeaching
March 21, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this
Raqi You read the post wrong. I am still saying that you are not in a relationship until you have sex, I used the living together Vs. saying I do as an example.
Let me slow it down:
#1 You are just friends, meaning nothing else, until you go to the next level (sex). Sharing that special bond that you share with no other friend means more. Hence the saying “sex changes things.” Also the saying “Can a man and a woman be (just friends) after they have had sex”
O.K., now to the example that was used to explain the above point.
2 Just like if you are living with some one, already have kids, and sharing bills and everything. To be honest it means nothing until you go to the church on a Saturday, or to the court house and stand in the judges chambers.So now do you see what I am saying. In order to call it something different, you have to do something different.
Still just my thoughts.
By Raqi
March 21, 2008 3:12 PM | Link to this
SexyL on your loneliness issue, try dancing. Just dance until your legs give out. I was dancing in my room last night, not because I was lonely but because Johnny Storm was singing for me, and by the time we called it a wrap I couldn’t do nothing but go to sleep. I was giddily (word??) tired. Try that. Put on some music and dance until you are happy and sleepy.
By The Truth
March 21, 2008 3:14 PM | Link to this
2C bruh if you keep this up i’m settin up a pulpit for ya. Things is they don’t really hear you. It’s going over their head.
By Dee - Rell
March 21, 2008 3:14 PM | Link to this
@2…………DAYUMMMMMMMMM THATS MY DAWG….THAT MY DAWG…IF ANYONE GOT A PROBLEM JUST LET ME KNOW…..and on that note…todays lesson ends….hot dayum…you said a mouthful with that one
By SexyLeggs
March 21, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this
SlimOne, I’ve never had t** in my mouth. But remembered what you said about admiring a feminine woman. That’s about it. I know you’re joking around. I loves me some dyck too! I’m about to make one of you blog men my man (purely for sex and nothing more). No commitment, no attachments. Just pure RELIEF. You Game??
By unsigned
March 21, 2008 3:20 PM | Link to this
2 we get it and at the sametime we’ll accept the cheating and stay at home like a good wife and babysitt your rugrats, wash your nasty drawls, cook your dinner and give up the pudsy after you come home and wash the skank off your dic k. no problem sailor!!! LMAO. fool.
By BigWords
March 21, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this
SexyLeggs I said something similar like that to Truth and he said I hurt his feelings. I don’t know what these guys want. I guess us asking bluntly is what got him.
By DasV
March 21, 2008 3:26 PM | Link to this
using 2CPTGs terminology cause i dig the ideology….
dasVenus stands wit sign on corner that reads: HO. willwork for good PIMP w/Plan. skillset: analytical mind, organized, reasonable, great communicator, excellent listener, sense of humor, beauty w/alot of sexy, soft lips, softer body, clean and i can burn. if you have a positon in your pack that fits my qualifications, please contact me asap @ jah-dawta or swoop me up right now….. im ready to go to work!
By AmazonRed - Please take my debit card AWAY from me!!!
March 21, 2008 3:28 PM | Link to this
Is that how you want it to happen for you, or do you want to make your own decisions about your future based on what YOU want and choose the type of woman YOU desire, not just be stuck with the woman who desired YOU and broke you down?
I heart Foots!
back to catching up
By The Truth
March 21, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this
Words I volunteer to be your sex puppet. I don’t have a problem with that at all. how many sundresses do you own anyway. LOL
By Blue_Kolla
March 21, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this
2 somma y’all squares ain’t gon get this, cause it ain’t meant for you; But if you can set aside the terminology, and get with the idealology, then it’ll all make sense to you!
Sorry dawg, but they don’t teach application science and analytical thinking in school, so you’re right some just ain’t gon’ get it.
I like how you laid that out real nice and neat.
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 3:36 PM | Link to this
SexLeggs I hope its me.
now praying in tongues
Deadpool you loss me…I was speaking only of your screen name.
DasV yep…
By Raqi
March 21, 2008 3:38 PM | Link to this
Seriously there are a lot of men out there that aren’t amounting to much of anything, but they want the women to come fully equipped. The problem is, just like the men say about the women, these dudes don’t realize their shyt ain’t shyt at all. Just like little young dudes thinking just because they can get it up and get it in, they are flicking. But those of us that know better…
Every guy has a rooster, but that don’t mean he can perform. Just like every man has “plan” but can he execute it. If he can’t it ain’t shyt.
Are we still talking about this? I had to take a call.
By BigWords
March 21, 2008 3:40 PM | Link to this
My creator 2CPTG is buying me my first sundress with purse and hills to match. Oh and I’ll take a 3/4, thanks. So Truth, you promise no feelings will develop? Cause I don’t want to see no tears once my prince shows up on his white horse.
By DasV
March 21, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this
dasVenus modifying sign in light of the truth that RAQI just dropped LOL
“HO. will work for good PIMP w/Plan AND IN A POSITION TO EXECUTE IT…. etc, etc.”
By Dee - Rell
March 21, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this
I loves me some dyck too! I’m about to make one of you blog men my man (purely for sex and nothing more). No commitment, no attachments. Just pure RELIEF. You Game??
HOT DAYUM IT IS SPRING….UMMMM SOUNDS LIKE A CHALLENGE TO ME…..I WONDER WHO IS GOING TO BITE ON THIS HERE…CAUSE SEXYLEGGS…..WELL LETS JUST SAY SHE WOULD SATISFY THAT HAWT MATURE FETISH IF YOU HAVE ONE…..LOL
By 2CPTG©
March 21, 2008 3:48 PM | Link to this
Unsigned…..fool, I may be, but coward, I’m not!
btw, when the tone gets serious, how ‘bout YOU get serious; meaning come correct, with the spelling, grammar, and the whole nine! But I’m a fool…..Ok.
By SexyLeggs
March 21, 2008 3:51 PM | Link to this
You just it right out there Alvin. Ok, your bid is in!
…Seriously there are a lot of men out there that aren’t amounting to much of anything, but they want the women to come fully equipped. The problem is, just like the men say about the women, these dudes don’t realize their shyt ain’t shyt at all ^5 ^5 ^5!!
By 6'1 & luvin it
March 21, 2008 3:51 PM | Link to this
2C All I got to say my brother is chuuurch
By 6'1 & luvin it
March 21, 2008 3:52 PM | Link to this
2C All I got to say my brother is chuuurch
By unsigned
March 21, 2008 3:53 PM | Link to this
nikka pleeeeese. you miss spell all day long. gtfoh!!! we ain’t in english class mugga fugga.
By Blue_Kolla
March 21, 2008 3:53 PM | Link to this
Words I feel better now. I just read about black woman in the A getting butt shots to make the butt be on swoll.
Just this week I was talkin’ to my potna about all these chicks walkin’ around with these huge round bubble azzes. I thought that they got ‘em from all that pole work at the strip joints. He said it’s hereditary. Now you throwi’ in the steroids. LOL
By 6'1 & luvin it
March 21, 2008 3:54 PM | Link to this
2C All I got to say my brother is chuuurch
By Foots
March 21, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this
Que Just my thoughts… You are in a relationship when you the two of agree to be in a relationship. All it takes is a conversation to move it to the next level from friends to a couple. The same way that to move a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship to an engagement requires the “Will you marry me?” conversation. The same way that moving the engagement to a state of marriage requires a conversation you have with each other, God and the officiating minister.
You may personally have the same feelings for all women you have not slept with, but I know that I don’t feel that way. I am capable of having strong, romantic feelings for a man whose diznik I have not tested, and I can separate those feelings from the fondness I feel for my male friends. If that’s not radical enough, I am very good friends with a few exes that I have slept with, but I don’t feel anything BUT fondness for them now, no romantic or sexual feelings at all. I’m not normal, am I? LOL!
By Foots
March 21, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this
Blue I’m nowhere near as blessed as the bubble booty women, but I must admit, pole classes do prop that thang up a bit. Spring/Summer 2008 better watch out for Foots!! LOL!!
By DasV
March 21, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this
oooooooooh. sumbody fenda get kilt. LOLROTF
By AmazonRed - Please take my debit card AWAY from me!!!
March 21, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this
Alright, all caught up. Ain’t much going on in here. Have a great weekend everyone!
By 6'1 & luvin it
March 21, 2008 4:00 PM | Link to this
Words where you read about the a* shots at. I wonder they have t** shots. I don’t want an implants, just want a little bit more up top to help balance me out.
By Foots
March 21, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this
Amazon Be safe this weekend. We should plan to be at Open Pole at the same time sometime soon.
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this
I am tired of women walking around with skinny legs and a huge behind…that sh1t ain’t cool.
Next, women be complaining about dudes walking around with 10in+ but stands 4 feet.
Folks need to leaves surgery along!!!
By Blue_Kolla
March 21, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this
2 ‘bout YOU get serious; meaning come correct, with the spelling, grammar, and the whole nine! But I’m a fool…..Ok.
Ain’t that beautiful, to be able to push a button and debunk a fallacy with correct grammar and diction… ‘specially when they thought you incapable of such a feat?!
By DasV
March 21, 2008 4:06 PM | Link to this
Ain’t much going on in here TRANSLATION: aint no one talkin to me
By BigWords
March 21, 2008 4:07 PM | Link to this
Blue_Kolla These women were meeting fake doctors in hotel rooms and paying I think $900 for 9 shots in the azz. Now it’s 5 to 10 years later and the victims say it feels like there’s rocks/hard lumps in their azz. I do feel sorry for them. These women are important business women and strippers at popular joints.
By 2CPTG©
March 21, 2008 4:10 PM | Link to this
don’t ya just love cowards….
what, scared to post under your normal moniker? Why? we’re invisible….yo azz must be one who got gorilla pimped and left high and dry, which is why it struck such a cord in yo spineless azz! Trick, you cain’t do nothin’ but put money in my pockets, so gripe with somebody who gives a fvck!
By QueDogTeaching
March 21, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this
Foots Can a man ask you to marry him without a ring? No he cannot! He has to take another step to prove it is different, with an outward showing of love by putting a ring on your finger.
And can that said man then stop and say that he has proven himself to be with you for the rest of his life? No. He now has to take you to a church, or a court house.
I will give you that you may be able to have strong romantic feelings about someone, but you have to admit that it is not on the same level until after you have gave up the puddy.
By AmazonRed
March 21, 2008 4:13 PM | Link to this
Foots - Thank you. Have a great weekend too. The open pole sounds like a plan. Go easy on me though, superstar!
By Blue_Kolla
March 21, 2008 4:14 PM | Link to this
6’1 where you read about the a shots at. I wonder they have t* shots. I don’t want an implants, just want a little bit more up top to help balance me out.
Don’t do it! The human body doesn’t do well with foreign material. Just work with what’chu got. You’d think grown folks would get that one by now. Hell you gettin’ chicks and d!cks, so you’re open to 100% of the pool while most of us have to work with 50%.
By Blue_Kolla
March 21, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this
2/Unsigned Yoll pick this up next Tuesday. It’s too late on a Friday.
By DreamsMaterialize
March 21, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this
Speaking of shots, did anybody see that Baisden After Dark where he had the plastic surgen on there who said that they have a shot called the G-Shot that swells up a chick’s g-spot for like for mounths so she can have easy O’s?
By God Is Head of the House
March 21, 2008 4:22 PM | Link to this
Men as the Head of the Household Doesn’t Mean Relegating Women to Second-Class Citizenship
I believe that men should be the head of the household and that God should be at the head of the house.
When men talk of being the head of the household, they are referring to filling the role of protector of the home and community, a respecter of womanhood and provider of a proper model of manhood in the neighborhood.
The idea of men at the head of the household is no longer threatening because they now understand that men have a vital role to play in the rearing of children.
She understands that when her man assumes that role, he is committing himself wholeheartedly to their marriage and to her as companion, wife and lover. It means that he will provide the example of a strong and loving man to their children by being loving and supportive to them. He will provide the example of a faithful man by being faithful with her. He will provide the example of a hard-working man by being hard-working with her.
By kimmie
March 21, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this
Raqi ^5 your 3:38. That’s the big pink blog elephant that’s avoided on this blog.LOL All we ever hear about is how most women come up short & their stuff is dried up. I wish us ladies would defend each other more on here instead of cosigning a lot of this mess these dudes spout out on here, if only for the fun of it, offer some challenge more. Heck, sometimes I’ll vent about a past bad experience I’ve had with a dude and the men all jump to defend a dude they don’t even know! Sometimes I want to offer them up the dudes phone number, if they’re so interested in coming to his defense, so maybe they can get together!LOL
Foots Glad to see you back! Sorry about our DAWGS, but hey, didn’t expect them to get that far, so it was a nice ride while it lasted!
By 2CPTG©
March 21, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this
nah, Blue, I gave that person too much attention already; But you know how it works, they don’t get the attention they crave on a daily, or don’t have the mental capacity to add to the discussion, so they’ll create a fake moniker to do just what that person did; Hell, if you don’t agree with something, you just don’t agree; I don’t agree with a lot of shyt said on here, but I’m not going to change my moniker to say it….
By Foots
March 21, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this
Que A ring is an outward sign of an engagement. People can be engaged without a ring (disclaimer——> men don’t try this at home), It is the intention to marry that makes an engagement valid, not a ring. That’s a material thing.
You can be anywhere to get married, a church, a court house, or a beach. People get married skydiving. But notice I already included “the officiating minister” in my previous post, because that conversation with him(and the paper you sign) and the paper you sign makes it legal. Marriage does not create your commitment, as that SHOULD have been already there before the wedding day. Marriage creates the legality of the union you already share.
you have to admit that it is not on the same level until after you have gave up the puddy.
That gives credence to the point made earlier, that sex deepens the bond you share. And it better. If I have feelings for you, sleep with you, and like you LESS, then we have a huge problem. LOL!
By DasV
March 21, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this
god is head of household is that YOU darrell????
By 6'1 & luvin it
March 21, 2008 4:30 PM | Link to this
Blue I just did a spit take. I do have it good dont I bruh. Big Words I am one of those people you would think had shots because I am so small on the top. But I am happy that azz and hips are in.
By Alvin
March 21, 2008 4:33 PM | Link to this
DasV don’t be calling on the mighty name of Darrell…Now that dude is going to post a hella long post, LOL
By SexyLeggs
March 21, 2008 4:33 PM | Link to this
Have a Happy Easter everyone!
Rembmer: LIFE is SHORT..break the rules, forgive quickly, KISS slowly, LOVE truly, laugh uncontrollably, & Never REGRET anything that made you SMILE.
Stay aware and ALERT!
By 6'1 & luvin it
March 21, 2008 4:36 PM | Link to this
DasV it sure sound like him doesn’t it?
By QueDogTeaching
March 21, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this
Foots That gives credence to the point made earlier, that sex deepens the bond you share. And it better. If I have feelings for you, sleep with you, and like you LESS, then we have a huge problem. LOL!
There you go. Friendship is just that friendship, You almost have to have that sexual contact to go to the relationship level. Holla at me.
By SlimOne(aka Above da Waist)
March 21, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this
Dreams Actually i have heard of it. The first time i found out about was watching that plastic surgery show Dr. 90210 They had this chick on there to get the shot..and they showed her in the stirrups and everything getting it. It last only about 3 months…That’s a lil too evasive for me. Next thing you know you’ll be growing another puddy inside the one we already have.
I wonder what the side effects are.
By Blue_Kolla
March 21, 2008 4:40 PM | Link to this
2 I don’t agree with a lot of shyt said on here, but I’m not going to change my moniker to say it…
You know my stance on that fake mask sh!t.
man this day is draggin… (exhales)
By DasV
March 21, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this
bluK im witchu on that…this day is drrrraaaaagggggiiiinnnnngggg.
sigh
…and i just found out that i have to change my direction, uproot my position and look to play on anotha’s team too??! shyyyt. im ready to go dance!
By Foots
March 21, 2008 4:50 PM | Link to this
Que You almost have to have that sexual contact to go to the relationship level.
Nope, YOU have to have that sexual contact to go to the relationship level. I don’t. That’s cool.
By DreamsMaterialize
March 21, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this
SlimOne I don’t even wanna know what the side effects are. The puddy inside the puddy was already too much of a visual for me. Sh^t makes me think of Aliens, you know how they have the little mouth that shoots outta the big mouth to bite that a^s. lol
By 6'1 & luvin it
March 21, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this
Goodt nite everyone have a safe and happy holiday weekend, Don’t do nothng I wouldn’t do. Dat really don’t mean anyting to somebody that has done it all but it just sounds like sound advice. Smooches, Toodles
By Foots
March 21, 2008 5:03 PM | Link to this
Love y’all! Good night, and have a good Easter weekend!
By The Truth
March 21, 2008 5:05 PM | Link to this
Ladies, don’t alter your bodies. Thats crazy.
Have a great weekend
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