Misadventures in Atlanta

By Jazzyone

March 7, 2008 8:25 AM | Link to this

One of the most imfamous couples to date for me is Ozzie Davis and Ruby Dee. It was sad to see the passing of Ozzie a few short years ago. Thats the couple that lasted through the test of time for me.

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 8:39 AM | Link to this

i would have to say that my dad and step-mom had the marriage which defines till death due us part. he married her when she was in her early twenties. soon after she was diagnosed with Lupus. she died when she was about 35ish. it was tough for him. but for him to stay with her like that was awesome!

i have to vent

Dan will there be a second date with Brite? cause you know she asked BigD to join her for lunch!

By rrticulate1

March 7, 2008 8:41 AM | Link to this

I agree with the first post, and I’d add Paul Newman and Georgia native Joanne Woodward to the list.

By Demi

March 7, 2008 8:48 AM | Link to this

Shiddddddd, I casting my lot for:

Musing Raqi Du

May each of their marriages defy time and negative images of black marriages

And Will better treat my ex wife Jada correct!!!

or I’ll go George Jefferson on his a$$

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 8:55 AM | Link to this

demi did you know that jada and will are swingers?

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 8:55 AM | Link to this

Morning, all. :-)

I read that article yesterday and the thing that jumped out to me is the contrast in attitudes between this couple and most of us who date.

It’s quite comical how some of us will label as a “sacrifice” the little “gives” and “takes” we’re asked to make in relationships. It’s as if the slightest little adjustment we’re asked to make on behalf of our mate generates the same feelings within us as if we were in the dentist’s chair getting a root canal done. The real beauty of what this couple is doing is not simply that they’re making these sacrifices for one another, but that they’re doing so volitionally, without regard to their own individual needs. That’s the one thing that stood out to me.

By Hotlanta

March 7, 2008 9:00 AM | Link to this

I don’t have a favorite couple. To me sometimes that is just a personna. Remember when everyone call Brad/Jen America’s favorite couple. On the front of every magazine smiling and going on to the public. They probably got home and cursed each other out. Then they got divorced everyone was like I thought they were so happy. Just because a couple is together doesn’t quote/unquote make them successful. People stay together for different reasons besides love. Remember when Juanita/Meeks was the quote/unquote Christian couple trying to set an example that everyone to follow. If Jada/Will was to get a divorce folks would go crazy as if it was them getting a divorce because they have label them the “IT” couple. Being labeled the “IT” couple is sometimes the kiss of death. People are spending so much time trying to out couple everyone else instead of just plain ole loving each other.

By BriteEyez

March 7, 2008 9:01 AM | Link to this

I would have to say that my grandparents are the epitome of enduring love. They have been married for 62 years and they love is still so evident you I watch how sweet and tender they are with each other. It always gives me hope that True, everlasting love is a possibility.

Beautiful I think you are spending wwwaaayyyy too much time being concerned about what Dan and I are going to do. From Darrell’s response I have surmised that he is more impressed with your non-approach so don’t worry, your crush is safe.

By QC

March 7, 2008 9:01 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers

Demi…you are a mess, if you go out flying through downtown stop by to see i’ll buy you lunch..

Morning Brother…hey Miss Beautiful

By Sybil

March 7, 2008 9:03 AM | Link to this

Beaut* - How do you know that they are swingers? Is this gossip that you are repeating? or Is this something you have personal knowledge of?

By pisces 08

March 7, 2008 9:06 AM | Link to this

Morning All. According to an article in the AJC, there are prostitutes charging $5500.00 an hour. I’m wondering what they do….

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 7, 2008 9:08 AM | Link to this

Morning All and Happy Friday!

My parents & my ex in-laws are my models/heroes. My parents have been married since my mom was 19yrs old! Pulling in after them, my grandparents, Ossie & Ruby Dee, Will & Jada, Samuel & Latanya Jackson, Tom Hanks & his wife and Bill & Camille Cosby.

Hey Demi

By SexyCool

March 7, 2008 9:10 AM | Link to this

mo…i will add denzel and paulette to your list…

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 9:13 AM | Link to this

There is no “America’s Favorite Couple”. I do agree that there are couples who seem to have it together, such as Denzel and his Wife and Will and Jada. I used to think Babyface and Tracey Edmonds were a nice couple, but look what happened to them…lol.

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 9:13 AM | Link to this

Brite let me just state this! Dan and BigD shouldn’t be dragged into this blog hook-up game you’re playin’. they deserve better than that.

Sybil will’s ex-wife lives just down the street from them and when he feels like hittin’ it he’ll sleep over. jada doesn’t mind a bit.

By Jazzyone

March 7, 2008 9:13 AM | Link to this

Parents have been married for over 40 years so they come in second after Ossie and Ruby Dee…I should be flogged for spelling their names incorrectly LOL…

By pisces 08

March 7, 2008 9:14 AM | Link to this

…On topic, my parents were my “blueprint” 40 plus years.

By Binford2K8

March 7, 2008 9:14 AM | Link to this

Once I was asked by my SO at the time if she got really ill or lost limbs would I stick by her. I stumbled my words because I had never thought about it and she got upset.

As I’ve gotten older, my thought is that if you jump in the foxhole with someone that you fight to the death with them. But part of me doesn’t know how I’d react to something truly life-altering. I doubt I’m alone in my doubt.

What say you?

p.s. anything going on this weekend?

By Simp

March 7, 2008 9:17 AM | Link to this

Hey Mo. I like your list. But I would take Bill out. It’s good it’s still stands by him. Hank and Billye are my favorites.

By Sybil

March 7, 2008 9:18 AM | Link to this

Again - my question is how do YOU know that since you state is so confidently as fact?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 7, 2008 9:19 AM | Link to this

Hey Page1908 You know I never really got a good vibe from Babyface & his wife, same with Eddie & his ex-wife. Something about them didnt seem right. You just never know what is going on with folks though. Just like some people didnt know that at one time Ossie & Ruby Dee had an open marriage. I would have never thunk it!!

By QC

March 7, 2008 9:19 AM | Link to this

Hey Page

By pisces 08

March 7, 2008 9:19 AM | Link to this

…On topic, my parents were my “blueprint” 40 plus years.

By pisces 08

March 7, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this

…On topic, my parents were my “blueprint” 40 plus years.

By Coach Blue_Kolla

March 7, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this

*Good Morning Blog…

My favorite couple is my moms and pops. They got together when she was 17 and he died when she was 62. …miss ya daddio :(

Fish I’m wondering what they do…

They don’t do jack, but charge high prices and only fugg those who’ll pay it. It’s called being exclusive.

You want to get rich, raise your prices and get a few big named big shots to sign on… then watch as e’rybod else sells the farm to get one of what you’re sellin’.

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 9:23 AM | Link to this

Mo Yes, that is true. That is what I say there is no america’s favorite couple. These, as someone mentioned earlier, should be people we know personally, like our families and friends. My parents have also been married for a long time, along with several aunts, uncles, etc. Those are my favorite couples.

Open marriages are more common that we’d all like to think.

Blog Question How many of you have been married more than once? How many of you have more than one baby mama/daddy?

By BriteEyez

March 7, 2008 9:24 AM | Link to this

Beautiful “blog hook-up” is your interpretation. When you assume you know other people’s intentions you make an a* out of yourself. Not that an explanation is necessary or actually even any of your business I will say my intention is to meet new people and form new friendships so, no games here. Hope that clears it up for YOU. If not, too bad because I’m done with that!!

By Simp

March 7, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

I have a question. Do you think we are a reflection of our parents? My mom has never been married. I am 40 plus and never been married. There have been stories about Will and Jada. Slbil she just repeating what she heard. It’s friday lighten up for crying out loud. Open marriage. Dayum I didnt know that.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

Binford

Per your 9:14, the fact that you will have decided to “get in the foxhole” with her at all (when/if that time comes) is the most important thing, I think. The particulars of how you’d “deal” with it once you’re actually in the foxhole is secondary. Kind of like that “I don’t know how we’ll get through it, but we will somehow” attitude, ya know?

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

Page “Blog Question How many of you have been married more than once? How many of you have more than one baby mama/daddy?”

• Married only once* with only **one baby mama (and no plans for no “future” baby mama, either.) LOL!

By Jakki

March 7, 2008 9:32 AM | Link to this

Lots of people use a illness or sickness as an excuse to divorce. I say stay married til one of you dies and then you are my hero!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By melo

March 7, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

Sybil good questions,i hate gossip, period! happy friday blogers and blogettes!! Hey Das Observation:put some attractive women in an room, sprinkle in a few elible men,the wmen start fighting for territory when they see themselves being passed over..see:..Dan and BigD shouldn’t be dragged into this blog hook-up game you’re playin’. they deserve better than that. watch this space!!

By melo

March 7, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

Sybil good questions,i hate gossip, period! happy friday blogers and blogettes!! Hey Das Observation:put some attractive women in a room, sprinkle in a few elible men,the wmen start fighting for territory when they see themselves being passed over..see:..Dan and BigD shouldn’t be dragged into this blog hook-up game you’re playin’. they deserve better than that. watch this space!!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 7, 2008 9:35 AM | Link to this

Simp Do you think we are a reflection of our parents? I have often wondered that same thing. I tend to think yes just b/c I see so much of both of my parents in me. At the same time, I dont know everything about my parents relationship so I can only go on what I have taken in as their child, knowing that I am still on the outside lookin in

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 9:35 AM | Link to this

Hey QC!

Darrell thanks. I think someone asked are we a reflection of our parents, and perhaps we are. It’s just sad when people judge single parents, when they themselves have illegitimate kids, too.

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday everyone. I’m ready to get my social butterfly on. I just hope the weather clears up.

Ahh…Ossie and Ruby. He was a known philander and which contributed to her alcoholism. But yes, “they stiillll together.” I guess true love means dealing with each others demons, but also looking the other way.

I don’t have a favorite couple. There are couples I admire for their tenacity, and commitment, but you never know what’s going on behind those doors.

Beautiful - Don’t turn into the new Rell. It was just lunch. Why are you so curious?

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

Simp

To a certain extent, I think we are a reflection of our parents, but that reflection is comprised both of positive and negative attributes, I think.

For example, in my case I would count as a positive “parental reflection” what I took on from my late father regarding his work ethic. However, on the other hand, I made a conscious decision not to take on other behaviors of his, such as smoking and drinking (both of which he ceased to do later on in life.)

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this

Page “It’s just sad when people judge single parents, when they themselves have illegitimate kids, too.”

Cosign. ^5! ;-)

By Jazzyone

March 7, 2008 9:42 AM | Link to this

Its also interesting how others judge marriages when they aren’t married themselves. The question was marriages that stood the test of time thru all odds not the inner workings of them.

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

Morning Gang!

Who do you think is America’s favorite couple? MoBettaDreams

By Simp

March 7, 2008 9:45 AM | Link to this

Page Why place that stigma on the kids. I call the parents illegitimate. Mo ^5

By Binford2K8

March 7, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

Marriage and kids - makes me shudder to even imagine a day. If there is a Baby Binford, all of you on e the Blog better be right with God. ;p

I’m not kidding!

By The Truth

March 7, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this

It’s 9:30 and a blog skirmish already. LMAO

I can’t say I’d stay with a chick thru thick and thin because if she stopped fugging me I’d be out like last weeks trash. I say lets take it one day at a time.

On america’s favorite couple, gotta be my neighbors. They’ve been together 40+ and make it look cool. They’re from another time and place tho.

On staying thru tough times, death of children/close, ones, illness is another cause of divorce. To much pressure on folks.

Beautiful is it Darrell. Step to ol boy. You two would be a good match. Ahh shucks, romance in blogsville.

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this

Simp It’s not a stigma. It’s just reality.

By Coach Blue_Kolla

March 7, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

Mo I am still on the outside lookin in.

You said a mouthful. That’s with every relationship.

By Jazzyone

March 7, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

AMRED you had to step up in here with Rells name coming out your fingers that leads me to believe you dig him…seriously..don’t you ever get enough???

By 6'1 & luvinit (aka Don' it All)

March 7, 2008 9:53 AM | Link to this

Morning all!!!!!!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

Truth ” can’t say I’d stay with a chick thru thick and thin because if she stopped fugging me I’d be out like last weeks trash.”

ROFLLMAO!!! Now wiping mouthful of water off laptop monitor.

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

Darrell - Great posts.

Jazzyone - I think you really dig me. Do you get enough of keeping my name in YOUR posts?

By Hotlanta

March 7, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

Mo, Bill & Camille. Didn’t he cheat on her with several women and they are stillllll together. Samuel also cheated on his wife. I remember in Essence how she said how she has to hold her tongue when he came home. Pahge 108 you are right Ozzie and Ruby did have an open marriage. The Mayor of Detroit should be at the top of your list also. Whoever did that hair knowing she was gonna be on national television should have been run outta town. Darrell don’t worry about folks judging single parents because looking at the show Super Nanny with mom/pops at home and can’t control their rugrats puts that case to mute.

By BriteEyez

March 7, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

“Blog Question How many of you have been married more than once? How many of you have more than one baby mama/daddy?”

Page Married only once (10 years)* with only child, with ny ex husband (a terrific 14 year old girl!) LOL!

By DasV

March 7, 2008 9:56 AM | Link to this

good morning good ppl

heeeyyyyy, Melo! how u dis wet morning??!

ON TOPIC: i enjoyed reading the article… it highlights the just how unselfish you have to be to maintain a relationship. i love the movie ‘50 first dates’…. it was clever and clearly shouted the my belief: you decide to love someone and care for them and its on a ‘no matter what’ basis….thats true loving. porgy and bess would have be in my list somewhere… wish art truly was an imitation of life.

By BriteEyez

March 7, 2008 9:56 AM | Link to this

“Blog Question How many of you have been married more than once? How many of you have more than one baby mama/daddy?”

Page Married only once (10 years)* with only one child, with ny ex husband (a terrific 14 year old girl!) LOL!

By BriteEyez

March 7, 2008 9:56 AM | Link to this

“Blog Question How many of you have been married more than once? How many of you have more than one baby mama/daddy?”

Page Married only once (10 years)* with only one child, with my ex husband (a terrific 14 year old girl!)

By SexyLeggs

March 7, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

Ozzie Daivs/Ruby Dee, Paul Newman/Joanne Woodard, Ronald Regan/Nancy Regan, The Wrights (co-workers of mine 39 yrs).

I definitely agree w/you Darrell, but that they’re doing so volitionally, without regard to their own individual needs. This is so endearing and one of the keystones to a lasting marriage.

By Rell

March 7, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

Just so you know, what works in some marriages does not work in others. There is something to be said for being honest with your mate…and having an open marriage takes that.

In 1948, Davis married actress Ruby Dee; in their joint autobiography With Ossie and Ruby, they later described their decision to have an open marriage.[2] They were well-known as civil rights activists, and were close personal friends of Malcolm X, Jesse Jackson, Martin Luther King Jr. and other icons of the era. Davis and Dee’s deep involvement in the movement is characterized by how instrumental they were in organizing the 1963 civil rights March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom, even to the point of serving as emcee. Davis, alongside Ahmed Osman, delivered the eulogy at the funeral of Malcolm X; he re-read part of this eulogy at the end of Spike Lee’s film Malcolm X. He also delivered the eulogy for Martin Luther King, Jr.

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

ARed LOLOL ctfu

Truth lol mean mugging

Binford lol @ Baby Binford…that’s soooo cute!

By DreamsMaterialize

March 7, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

Morning

My grandparents set the example for me.

Mo Wassup wit you this morning? Don’t hurt ‘em at work. lol

BTW I really don’t like the term “illegitimate children”. The phrase is historicallly outdated, and the connotation is negative. The CREATOR bestows legitimacy on all children, and no legal or socio-economic precedents can do otherwise. There are NO illegitimate children.

By 6'1 & luvinit (aka Don' it All)

March 7, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

I think when you have an open marriage it will last longer, no secrets.

By Rell

March 7, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

ajc is slow..the growth in there choice

http://marriage.about.com/od/quotes/a/ossierubyopen.htm

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs the Reagan’s are a great example!

By melo

March 7, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

I call the parents illegitimate. Mo ^5 I think whats illegitimate is the relationship, not the kids that are the by-product. Both my grandparents were my role models.They were both married for more that 60 years, at an era when they really married young.They endured the test of time. I grew up with my maternal grannies( may ur soul rest in peace grandpa)and their teachings are with me everyday.We are a reflection of our upbringing and the environment we were exposed to and the value systems our folks followed.So yeah, if ur folks were not married, they probably trashed married couples or those kind of relationships when u were young and u kind carry that by osmosis, without thinking much about it. Off to a lame duck meeting…for me at least!!

By Jazzyone

March 7, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

AMRED you would like to think that but Im noticing how you talk about how you can’t digest someones actions and start a post off like that yesterday and what do you do come up in here with his name coming out your fingers..its drama and I think Rell let it die yesterday and you come in and start the focus on you and that AGAIN today..like Tazz said yesterday I tend to think you like that attention… Then you say Rells attention was way off key and concerning to you he kept your name out his mouth and fingers yesterday and here you come doing what you despise so much….your behavior is questionable…

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 10:07 AM | Link to this

Dreams Do you like the phrase “out of wedlock” better?

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 10:08 AM | Link to this

Dreams

I really don’t like the term “illegitimate children”. The phrase is historicallly outdated, and the connotation is negative.

Amen.

Mo whassss up?

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 10:08 AM | Link to this

Simp - I hope I’m a reflection of my parents. I like the way they’ve navigated lifes ups and downs. Even during the times they can’t stand each other, they remember their vows and the bigger picture. Their 31st anniversary is next month.

Page - Never married, no rugrats.

That reminds me. For all of you folks that have been to the “marriage buffet” no 2nd helping (marriage) for you until the singles go thru the line! LOL

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 7, 2008 10:08 AM | Link to this

Hotlanta yeah Bill cheated on Camille and Samuel was a junkie and cheater. And yes they are still together, but isnt that the topic, couples that have endured thru it all? Also what may be the straw to beak the camels back for some may not be as big an issue with someone else. Some women can forgive (overlook) a husband’s infidelity while another woman may have his ish on the curb before he can blink. We can all say what should have happened with celebrity couples but they made the decisions based on what they know goes on in their homes, not what the media gives us.

By The Truth

March 7, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

Melo Observation:put some attractive women in an room, sprinkle in a few elible men,the wmen start fighting for territory when they see themselves being passed over..see:..Dan and BigD shouldn’t be dragged into this blog hook-up game you’re playin’. they deserve better than that. watch this space!!

Thank you

By Staceye

March 7, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

Binford I co-sign your 9:46. I told my friends and family if I get married or even worse…have a kid…theh Hell has finally gotten a snow day! I have the attention span of a 2 year old (adult ADHD) so I get bored easily.

**These old couples that we look up too I have come to realize it was not love that kept them together…it was fear of change and starting over, separation anxiety, do not believe in divorce, or the mindset of who would want me now anyway. So I can not say just because a couple has been married for 50+ years that it is love. I have seen it where the man would slut himself around town (leaving b******* in his path)then he got older and got sick and the woman not stayed with him..but cared for him. No way in hell would I allow a man to do that to me…if I stayed it would be to torture his azz for humilating me and forsaking the vows he took mainly, Keep unto each other”! As a girl you are brainwashed into thinking that love is the top of all whne you look at grandparents and other long term couples. But when you get the mega dose of reality…you come to know you have been had…hoodwinked…bamboozled…snowed and verbally screwed!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs “This is so endearing and one of the keystones to a lasting marriage.”

I agree, and for me it is the keystone to a lasting relationship/marriage.

I’m reminded of a topic from last week’s WiseDiva blog about “Dating with a Mirror” and reading the article Bella posted today caused me to reflect back on that whole “mirror” concept. In looking at how many times I - and some of us - “say” how we’re willing to give ourselves “wholeheartedly” to someone, however, there’s usually a “but” somewhere to follow. Yeah, we “talk” a good game, but more often than not, we don’t really mean it. It just “feels good” for us to say stuff like that as if a mantra we’ve taken from the book of “10 Things You’re Supposed to Say to Your Mate”.

But that’s is not the case with this couple, though. They, along with many others mentioned on here today, understand the relationship principle of “putting the other person and their needs first”. Sure, it’s often easier said than done, but it can be done. This couple has proven it.

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

Jazzyone - I don’t care what you think. I don’t care what you’ve concluded about my behavior. The sooner you accept that, the easier your time here will be. So keep it moving or ignore me all together. Your choice! I won’t be changing one iota of myself because you wanted to comment. Get a clue.

But, I hope you feel better getting your useless rant off of your chest.

By Raqi

March 7, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

Morning.

The couple that I admire the most is my friend Doc and her husband. They have been married for 17 years. Within that 17 years they separated for one year after the first five. They came to terms with their mistakes, reunited and have been going strong for the past 12 years. I really admire their interaction with each other. You would think they were 20 year old newly weds, but they are in fact 44 and 47 year olds making it last. I have known Doc for five years and I can say their relationship is consistent. No matter what environment or situation I see them in, they are we they are. She gives me good advice and don’t spare her tongue telling me the mistakes that she has made. She also shares with me the good of her relationship and how she (they) keep it strong. I would vote for her.

My mom and dad had a good relationship. Married 42 years. My mom gave really good advice but being their child I could only see within their bonds to a certain extent. Only what she allowed us to see and allowed us to hear.

We are working to have an admirable relationship. One that family and friends can look on and say “They prevailed. Gracefully.”

As far as celebrity marriages go…no one knows the whole story. About like on here, I tell what I want to tell and that I don’t I keep to myself. However I do hope that some of the things I do reveal (the interactions of dealing with obstacles) can shed a little light in somebody’s world. :-)

P.S. IMO a good relationship is one where shyt happens and we overcome.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 7, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

Hey Dreams, now you know its friday so my patience with the co-workers is slim to none! I dont play dat on fridays, you liable to get cut messin with me today!! LOL

Hey Cemeeli, can a sista get a now-n-later? Pineapple please, I know you got some hidden somewhere. :0)

By Rell

March 7, 2008 10:18 AM | Link to this

@mo…..i agree…..

folks dont know they just assume based on there belief system. To assume that someones husband/wife is bad is based on what they believe a husband/wife should act like….so i agree with your post

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

However I do hope that some of the things I do reveal (the interactions of dealing with obstacles) can shed a little light in somebody’s world. :-)

Raqi - They do and I thank you. Though I respect my parents and grandparents marriages, they are from a different time with different challenges than today! So I always like to hear insight from younger marrieds navigating thru the marriage waters of today.

By Simp

March 7, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

Staceye I agree with you about staying together for fear of change. Look how long it took Juanita Jordan to divorce. Back in the days, couples turned their heads and pretended not to see whats going on. Today, divorces is like McDonalds 24/7.

By melo

March 7, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this

P.S. IMO a good relationship is one where shyt happens and we overcome. yes..yes..yes!

By Jazzyone

March 7, 2008 10:21 AM | Link to this

AMRED Just an observation and the feeling is mutual but if you call someone else out remember the finger is pointing back at you when you high jack a public forum with your tirade and drama grow up already young lady. Change from a blog gosh I hope not…This is a blog so you get responses…Have a nice day though LOL..

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 10:22 AM | Link to this

ARed LOLOL girl, that’s hilarious!

Cee where is my Ring Pop? Are you going to Cozy Cone this weekend?

By The Truth

March 7, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

Married once, no kids.

We’re all speculating on what causes a good marriage but noone has a clue. Ozzie with some other chick would of bounced on day 2. There’s no manual to this thing so the best you can do is wing it. Hell, even the experts are getting divorced. LOL

Today you have an opportunity to interact with your mate. Based on your actions you may have an opportunity tomorrow. Make the wrong decision and you have no tomorrow. Thats the joy of life, it’s like rollinig the dice. The same folks that say they want a longterm relationship would bolt if they were “forced” to be with their loved one forever. Y’all have been reading to many romance novels.

It’s a crap shoot out here, always has been and always will be.

By Got that?

March 7, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

AMRED, listen for the pop…

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

Jazzyone - Again, comment on what you’d like. Doesn’t mean it’s gonna make a ripple in the stream. Grow up yourself and stop worrying about me. News flash, hijacks are unsuccessful if no one pays attention or comments! But yeah, since you wanna focus on me, at least your picked a good subject. ;-)

Be easy.

Page1908 - You keep me giggling!

By Staceye

March 7, 2008 10:29 AM | Link to this

**I think open marriage is DISGUSTING! Why get married if you still want to do your own thing…oh let me guess…companionship!?! Get a pet! That is how AIDS is killing married woman & men…because you think when you get married then its no holds barred, no condoms…but now you as a married person has to still take HIV tests because your SO is out there schlong-slinging or diznick dipping is just the worse. Again..we all know condoms do NOT prevent everything so when you are out there getting it in with that cutie..you risk your life and that of your SO and could leave your children to be orphans all because you were not woman/man enough to control your carnal urges! Is it worth it?

By SexyLeggs

March 7, 2008 10:29 AM | Link to this

The phrases, or rather mindset out of wedlock, illegitimate, b******* child also guided me to getting married. I am so old school that the stigma from the 40’s and 50’s still rest in my mind, and I didn’t want my child to be catergorized as such. I realize this type of thinking is outdated This is the 21st century, but I was looking at yesteryear and the belief that everyone should bear the same last name. The marriage would have worked if we were both on the same page. When thinking about taking my maiden name back I too went back to the thinking of yesteryear that the child have the same last name as its parents. I almost got stuck in this thinking but soon realized there are a lot of children that do not have the same last name of both parents. Taking my name back was also taking my independence back (after a lot of talking with my daughter).

Sorry, back to regularly scheduled programming.

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

Truth what are your/the positive reasons to marry?

By Rell

March 7, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

@Truth

There’s no manual to this thing so the best you can do is wing it.

you said it all right there….

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 7, 2008 10:35 AM | Link to this

Page1908 you know my stats, married once, one beautiful lil mo.

Rell the things one learns once you grow up! LOL Marriage is one of those things that really no one can tell you about outside of surface stuff. I often said I wish someone would have given me the real deal at all those dayum bridal showers instead of:

communicate

dont go to bed mad

be patient

compromise

How about telling me that some days I will wake up and want to roll his azz down the stairs? LOL Or how about telling me that I will have those moments where I really have to ask myself is this something I can deal with (forgive and move forward) or is this a deal breaker? Some folks dont believe that sometimes what you think you can handle, you find that you cant and vice versa. and no, you dont know it all before you get married. So when I look at these celebrities I always think “that was their relationship and nobody knows what went on but them”.

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 10:35 AM | Link to this

Staceye LOL girl, don’t get your Spanx all in a bunch today…lol.

ARed Girl……you are so bananas!

Beautiful LOL…lawd, who told Aretha she could rock that strapless dress at the Grammy’s? LOLOL

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 10:35 AM | Link to this

Mo don’t cut ‘em. You just keep on bloggin’…it’s helps.

Page…here you go, rappleberry blinkin’ Ring Pop. Funny you asked about Cozy Cone my pregnant co-worker “cut work” <—this means = had a lunch already then leave again) yesturday she went to get us a ice-cream.

By Rell

March 7, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

Not to get off topic…but this morning the hood finally arrived out in stn mtn….i mean a dayum drive by in a residential nieghborhood…now you have to wonder if three street over your nieghbors are behaving…automatic fire travels far….

americas fav couple

SUPERMAN AND LOUIS LANE…how long have those too been going at it

@beautiful…the positives change or go away as time goes on…..same thing that you feel in love with year one…maybe the thing that gets on your nerves year 10…so it depends..for men anyway…cant speak on it from a females POV

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this

Page the mirror. lol. my co-worker said lil momma looks a hot mess. i think she looked cute.

By Rell

March 7, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

@Mo….i was told..marriage will be the first time you SERIOUSLY considering killing someone…and that was told to me by someone married and an elder in the church..how is that for truth..

By Simp

March 7, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

To the people that are divorce. What do you think you could have done different that would have changed the outcome of your marriages?

By DreamsMaterialize

March 7, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

Mo don’t let the co-workers get at you on a friday. Matter of fact, just let me know if you want me to handle it. lol

Page1908 I definitely prefer “out of wedlock”. Illigitimacy ,as it refers to children, stems from the European notion that a child born to unmarried parents did not have a LEGITIMATE legal claim to the estate of the father.

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

Beautiful LOL girl, I was like WTF! I know if she can get her girls in there, I know I can get mine into something strapless, too…lol

Mo LOL lil Mo is soooooooooo adorable! I will babysit one day…lol

Cee LOL I am craving some Cozy Cone right now for real. She should have brought me some, too…lol

By The Truth

March 7, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

Beautiful since you asked. I think to have children. Really thats the only long term excuse to be together. Maybe for business reasons. Whoever marries for love only is rolling the dice, and will likely get burned.

Look at Hugh Hefner, never realy settles down but keeps it flowing. I’ve never seen that dude without a smile on his face.

Lets start a “term marriage” program. You can do 3, 5, or 7 years. Then if all is cool you can re-enlist for another tour of duty. If not you get an honorable discharge and you’re free to bolt. What say you?

Simp not a dam thing. That thing went down the way it was supposed to. Whatever I had to go thru to get to this moment right here is worth it. Had we stayed together I’m sure I wouldn’t of been able to have the great experiences I did.

By Willie Dynamite

March 7, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

Morning All,

Mo That 10:35 is the closest we’ll get to any manual. That right there summed up everything. Marriage is hands down the hardest thing I’ve EVER done. Wouldn’t trade it in fo nothing tho.

Similac Is the Bar opening up early today? I thought I smelled popcone!!Lmao already

Rell aka Lester Hayes I’ve heard many folks say that. The Old cats that I consider mentors always told me that.

By Staceye

March 7, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

Page they are twisted all up in there girl! LOL

Hi Beautiful…how are ya? Sexyleggs..what’s up? Where the heck is Slim? Mo where’s my pepsi? Cemeeli…go ahead girl you hitting the gym today?

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

Page if she think she look good, then that type of situation will continue to happen. smh. my co-worker also hated on Beyonce’s dress on how it shows to much a$$. why do women hate on attractive females?

By BriteEyez

March 7, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

Simp

“To the people that are divorce. What do you think you could have done different that would have changed the outcome of your marriages?”

For myself, there are lots Of things that I know I could have done differently but I can’t say that I believe any of that would have changed the eventual outcome. There was tremendous growth and self awareness that I gained from my marriage and I feel that it was all very instrimental to me becoming the person I am today, and I LOVE who I am at this point in my life. I was 22 years old when I got married and I had very limited knowledge about the world or life. I had just finished college and I wanted to be married so I got married. In retrospect, I know that my marriage was something that my ex husband and I put together, not God. But for those of us that believe in God we know that he uses all things for our good and a tremendous amount of good came out of my marriage( most significantly, my wonderful daughter) but I know that it was not meant to last forever. However, I am a huge fan of institution of marriage and would like to very much get married again.

By SexyLeggs

March 7, 2008 11:00 AM | Link to this

What would I have done differently??? I would have taken the pants off in the marriage and made (ask) him to wear them! Meaning put him in charge of providing for the survival of the family, not just me!

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

Beautiful LOL Beyonce’ is attractive, I am just tired of seeing her with that blonde wig/weave on all the time.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

Beautiful “dress…shows to much a$$”

That statement right there is an oxymoron to any man. A dress can never show too much a$$. LOL!!!

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

hey Staceye! just a little irritated this morn. thanks for letting me borrow your ear.

Truth i’m half with you on that. what do you think about shacking up? people look down on that and i don’t know why. well, i have an idea.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 7, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Staceye now you know I always got a pepsi for ya girl! And its friday!! Here have one!! Mo tosses Staceye a pepsi

WillieD now I would definitely do marriage again. But I wish someone would have given me the advice you and Rell heard. I kept asking for it straight no chaser but kept gettin the fairytale stuff.

Dreams they wont get me today but if I need you for backup I know where to find ya! ;0)

Page1908 thanks for the compliments on lil mo! :0) I may have to take you up on that babysittin! He likes basketball too so you guys would be fine!! lol

Simp What do you think you could have done different that would have changed the outcome of your marriages? I dont think anything could have changed the outcome. We just werent supposed to be (IMHO). Our season ended. Now I learned alot and know somethings to do differently but I cant say those changes would have saved my marriage.

By Staceye

March 7, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Beautiful why do women hate on attractive females? I ask the same question! If I see a womam who looks nice I will give her the due props..not tear her down because she takes time to actuallycare what she looks like.

Your hatin’ azz co-worker..what does she look like?

By Blow Me aka. Bomb 1st

March 7, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All

Wow…This is quite interesting. I see quite a few ppl on the blog naming CELEBRITY couples who have only been married under 15 yrs…WOW! This is striking…NO real life examples of a strong and long successful relationships??? That could be part of the problem here.

Well I come from a family where “til death do us apart” so I have quite a few. Parents, grandparents….Trying to make it last is the hardest part most usually say.

Simp I do feel like alot of the things we do are a reflection of our parents. That is if you parts had a running role in your life. But even still you can inherit a few traits without even being around.

PAGE never been married..and no KIDS.

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

BigD trust me when i say that if i had a dress like that in my closet, i’m rockin’ it!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 7, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this

BriteEyez In retrospect, I know that my marriage was something that my ex husband and I put together, not God. I AM ^5 ALL OVER THAT!!! That is exactly how I felt about my marriage! Glad to see someone that felt the same way…….

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this

Staceye, Mo, LadyJ, Beautiful, Truth mail call folks…lol

QC Girl, that was a hot mess! lol

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 11:12 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs “I would have taken the pants off in the marriage and made (ask) him to wear them! Meaning put him in charge of providing for the survival of the family, not just me!”

With all due respect, that wouldn’t have worked. In a marriage you can’t “put” someone in charge; they have to want to be in tha position. Leadership is leadership regardless if it’s in a marriage or in the workplace. If being a leader is not not already an innate trait within the man, it will never be. This is exactly why so many women (like yourself) who want their man to “wear the pants” are forced to wear them themselves - the absence of that innate character trait called leadership.

By Raqi

March 7, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

Page This is my second marriage, but the first was until death parted us. And my sons do have different fathers with my present husband not being either.

By Jay

March 7, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

Beautiful!!! Good morning. What’s wrong today? Whatever happen to TGIF? Hold your head up sweetie, it’s going to be fine.

By Staceye

March 7, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

Mo you know folks in GA will string us up with all this talk of Pepsi! LOL

Beautiful remember what I said to ya mami….

Blow Me…where ya been sis?

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

Page/Mo auw you got to meet lil Mo? Cool beans.

Dreams mine was born ‘out of wedlock’ (engaged, not married) but he is very much legitimate. Father was more upset that we we’re not married and his mother was living w/us at the time of concieve.

WillieD bar open til 12. What chu having?

Staceye only for 30 today. It’s Friday = forget it. I tried P90X yesturday….i’m sore agian!

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

Staceye Mo is cute. i get on her all the time about hatin’. we have a new co-worker who started on monday who hates on her (dirty looks, etc). Mo was complaining about it to me just a little bit ago. i just smh.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 7, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

Staceye Girl let them have their cokes, more pepsi for us to consume!! :0)

By Dan

March 7, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

My ideal couple are my aunt’s and uncles.

But I’m out for the day.

Y’all be easy. Those that want me know how to reach me.

By SexyLeggs

March 7, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

Exactly Darreell, that’s also why I said asked him to. No doubt I shouldn’t have had to ask, but I did. When it was the two of us things were great. Once the baby came along and I noticed the “leadership” wasn’t there, I had no choice but to assume the role! Sink or swim. I swam for all 3 of us. You are absolutely right! I’m a better person for all that I went through.

By The Truth

March 7, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

Beautiful if what most people are looking for is companionship then shacking would solve that problem. i’m all for it. Then you could evict em within 30 days. LOL

By Demi

March 7, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

demi did you know that jada and will are swingers?

B no I did not…now trying to plot my way into their circle, LOL

QC sorry, my clothes are soak, too dangerous to fly…LOl

Mo it is ugly ova here, phones are ringing like no tomorrow, LOL

Page I was married to Ms.Keys week, does mental marriages count?

Melo naw bruh, why are you typing in english with no misspelled words?…Now it’s hard to understand the hell you are saying, LMAO

SexyLeggs I am in a mood to buy love…er, lunch…LOL Anyway care to join me at strokes?

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

thanks J! you gonna comment on the topic 2day? did you get my e-mail?

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

Page now that’s just nasty!!! lmao.

By SexyLeggs

March 7, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

You shouldn’t be drinking Pepsi or Coke…drink some water (LOL). Hell, remember that Fanta Orange I so desperately wanted a few months back. I broke down yesterday and went to the vending machine and gulped that bad boy down. YUMMY! (LOL)

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this

Mean muggin at Staceye and Mo….uummmm where’s my Pepsi?!

Demi No, that doesn’t count…lol

Raqi Do you plan on having any kids with your current husband?

By Raqi

March 7, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

Mo (Communicate, dont go to bed mad, be patient, compromise)

I agree that marriage is a forever learning process. Here is a post from my personal spot that I did last night.

Too Smart for Your Own Good (Copied and pasted from my spot)

While at my friend’s Doc house last Sunday, Mase, myself, Doc and Dr. Doc were sitting at the table after dinner making small talk. She and I talking amongst ourselves and the men doing the same. Doc was telling me about an article she recently read in the Redbook Magazine. The article was ‘8 Kinds of Sex Every Couple Should Try’. She said it talked about not only kinds of sex, (i.e. ‘wild and crazy’) but it talked about reason to have sex (i.e. ‘feel better/consolation sex’ and ‘make-up sex’). She and I talked not realizing Mason was listening to us.

On the way home Mason made the statement “We don’t have make up sex any more. Why is that?” Hmmmm, he is right, we don’t. And the reason for that could very well be…no I am positive the reason for that is in an effort to engage in a more mature relationship we practiced making a concerted effort for sex to not be the only resolve for conflict. We have proudly mastered that. But have we out smarted ourselves? The answer is definitely Yes.

The reason for us taking on the “no sex resolve” frame of mind is because after a while you go thru the motion so many times it becomes forced or faux. “Oops we had a disagreement, let’s jump in the sack.” However the issue still remains. And when it remains it always resurface. Wanting to get away from that we agreed to solve our issues outside of the bedroom. However over time we totally eliminated that “reuniting act of bonding”. That’s not good. We totally did not realize it had gotten to that until the subject was presented to us (rather me, he was eavesdropping).

As she said the article stated that (re)bonding process is very important to a relationship. And no couple should ever get away from it. I guess you could say it is a process that should take place. 1. Put the matter on the table. 2. Work it out. 3. Reunite.

On that table would probably be a fun place to start. ;-)

That goes to show it is a forever learning promise. Don’t out smart yourself. Make-up sex is back in play. Let me see what I can pick a fight about tonight. LOL

(I know that was long but hey…)

By SexyLeggs

March 7, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

Demi, it takes too long to get food at Strokers!

By SexyLeggs

March 7, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

Demi, it takes too long to get food at Strokers!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 7, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs leave us alone!! LOL We didnt bother you about your Fanta Orange (plus I got some of those too, so NOW)! :0)

Page1908 You know I have enough Pepsi to share…Mo now tossin Page1908 a pepsi

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

Speaking of soda fennin…I have an aunt that stash/hide Pepsi’s in here bedroom while I was growing up. For she did this for fear of ever running out. When i go visit her now i ask her if she still does that, and all these years she still says yes. Yall Pepsi fans are funny to me.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

Raqi “Make-up sex is back in play. Let me see what I can pick a fight about tonight.”

LOL! Good one. :-)

By Jay

March 7, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

Beautiful, I got your email. You cant run. Live life and love yourself.

By mytwotatas

March 7, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

IMO a good relationship is one where shyt happens and we overcome. In theory… but let’s recognize that while sometimes shiii happens (illness/ job loss), many times we’re shiii starters (abuse/infidelity.) So if you stirring shii up on a regular, how many times should a mate be expected or force him/herself to endure? My mind & heart will have to battle it out when the time comes cuz I think a sincere committed relationship (which weathers a few storms) of undefined length will be better for my sanity and self love than a marriage till infinity (littered with fckd up behavior.) *Unless he’ll agree to revisit the marriage contract every 5 yrs — we can either say “Hey, we’re getting good at this!” or “What the #ell were we thinkin???” as we chuckle over cocktails…

Random delayed response to the hookers, they’re just opportunists. But I’m concerned about the jack@zz who’d pay w/ that kinda mark up.

Have a Happy Friday Everybody!

By DreamsMaterialize

March 7, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

Mo/Staceye Always been a Pepsi man myself, but Mo you’re a native ATLien…talk about going against the grain. lol

Truth LOL @ term marriages. could work.

By 6'1 & luvinit (aka Don' it All)

March 7, 2008 11:50 AM | Link to this

I am so addicted to Pepsi it is pathetic.

By Staceye

March 7, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs I drink so much watre…I may have a Pepsi once ever few months. As far as Fanta..I like grape!

Raqi after a while you go thru the motion so many times it becomes forced or faux I agree..I think that is why couples lust after other people so much. Sex becomes a thing to do just cause… think to deprive yourslef of it sometimes and you will enjoy it so much more when you do it.

Dreams where you from papi?

By Demi

March 7, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs how about I go early and place the order, it should be ready in a few then.

That’s was because that Bish was trippin!!

By Raqi

March 7, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

Page We will not try to get pregnant. However here is the situation. I am on birth control (IUD, 99% effective, 5yrs no worry), no use of condoms. When it’s time to insert new implant, I go one week without anything. Therefore we are aware that we are at risk of getting pregnant at least one week every 5 years and 1% chance every time we have sex. Do you get what I am saying?

By SexyLeggs

March 7, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

I like the term marriages as well!

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

March 7, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this

Truth^5

There’s no manual to this thing so the best you can do is wing it. Hell, even the experts are getting divorced.

By BriteEyez

March 7, 2008 12:00 PM | Link to this

I am also an Atlanta native who LOVES Pepsi. I don’t drink soda often but when I do I want a Pepsi. I think it may be partially due to Atlanta being the home of CoKe so I grew up surrounded and saturated in Coke but it’s also the taste. Pepsi just plain and simply taste better!

By Raqi

March 7, 2008 12:01 PM | Link to this

Staceye I was actually referring to the “having sex after argument = don’t go to bed angry” frame of mind when I stated that it becomes forced. I am always for having sex “just because”. Don’t need a reason, just the opportunity. LOL

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

Staceye “As far as Fanta..I like grape!”

Nah. Apple Fanta is the real deal. Serve it ice cold and over some crushed ice. The best.

By The Truth

March 7, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

Tatas I caught that remark yesterday about taking the name back. Sorry but that’s not happening. You’ll forever be my tatas. LOL

I recently converted to pepsi too. Coke is getting to stong and only goes good with crown royal.

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

Raqi Yes, I see what you mean. I have never known anyone who used the IUD before, but it sounds like its working for both of you. And yes, there is always a chance, but then again, that chance is going to be there no matter what, you know.

Cee LOL. My mom used to know a lady who was hooked on Cokes. Her teeth became rotted out really bad. I love my smile waaayyy to much to let soda or anything mess my grill up like that. I think a great smile, or lack thereof, shows a lot about a person, you know. Did you see that email showing Diddy’s rotten teeth? gross

By Coach Blue_Kolla

March 7, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

Cee ‘Chu doin’ up in here? Thought you were off?

QC ;)

Truth Look at Hugh Hefner, never realy settles down but keeps it flowing. I’ve never seen that dude without a smile on his face.

Devil’s don’t frown when the cameras are rollin’.

LMAO @ WillieD/Rell Rell aka Lester Hayes

Boxin’ beats sluggin’ anyday.

Darrell In a marriage you can’t “put” someone in charge; they have to want to be in tha position. Leadership is leadership regardless if it’s in a marriage or in the workplace. If being a leader is not not already an innate trait within the man, it will never be.

Sorry bruh, but that cakes gon’ fall - you “chose” the wrong flour. While I’m a 15%er, I have no desire to lead and be responsible for grown peeps - ain’t even wit’ it. That’s b/c when my chair spins at 4:50, I ain’t thinkin’ ‘bout this office until 6 AM when my clock goes off, and I say, “Dayum I don’t feel like going to work today.” My home life is a totally different program. I choose to be responsible and accountable as the Captain of the S.S. Blue.

By KeepNItReal

March 7, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

There is no such thing as a perfect marriage. No one knows but the two who are married what it really takes to be together. One may be making more sacrifices then they really care to. One may be being manipulated into thinking there is no one better or that being alone is just horrible. I am a divorcee and what I could have done differently is picked a better partner in the first place. Compatibility is key - on finances, family, sprirituality, roles. You can’t go into it thinking that eventually you will get on the same page. In my case that never happened and I was not willing to compromise myself.

By Michelle

March 7, 2008 12:18 PM | Link to this

THEY ARE JAMMING ON V-103….OMG…GOGOGOGOGOGOGOGOGOGO

By Rell

March 7, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

Coke is getting to stong and only goes good with crown royal.

crown royal = devil whiskey….lol…that is the anti drink for me…i have not had a drop of that stuff since 99

By Staceye

March 7, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

BriteEyez Pepsi just plain and simply taste better there ya have it folks! Pepsi is better! LOL Coke tastes like muddy water! My friends and I did a blind taste test of all the flavors of Coke and all the flavors of Pepsi..blindfolded and pepsi was preferred 5 out 6 people.

Raqi my bad! LOL Blond moments are coming too often man!

By Successful Marriage

March 7, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

How to have a successful marriage:

1 - keep your temper down.Never use harsh words, physical abuse definitely no no.If you are really angry, just keep quiet.

2 - good sex life is vital.Never force your partner.Sex should happen automatically.

3 - always appreciate even a small thing your spouse does,even a cup of coffee,women really love it.

4 - surprise her with gifts however small on important occasions.

5 - listen always ,whether you take the idea or not.

6 - even if your wife doesnt work give her financial independence.Dont make her ask you for small amounts of money.

7 - make sure she really wants to marry before you go ahead with your marriage.I am talking about arranged marriages

8 - take short vacations whenever you get time and dont be stingy when it comes to holidaying.

Most important of all ,make her feel wanted all the time. No comments like you look jaded or uninteresting and encourage her to dress nicely.

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

BK Have you been married before?

By Coach Blue_Kolla

March 7, 2008 12:23 PM | Link to this

Oh, and Staceye from here on out, anytime a dude comes to chat you up and asks your name, make sure that you tell him Staceye, with two E’s. That way e’ry dude reading this blog will know to get the fugg on! LOL For real doh…

By QC

March 7, 2008 12:26 PM | Link to this

Hey BK have a great weekend baby…smooches ;)

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

March 7, 2008 12:31 PM | Link to this

So a successful marriage suggests that a man make sure the woman is happy.. Thats my biggest problem with marriage.. What about the dude? Is he supposed to be happy or just live for his wife’s happiness?

Let me tell you marriage is a drag for men… Marriage is a bad scene. You go in it losing and when you get out you are mos def losing. So why bother.. Support the wildlife stay single.

I say keep ya’ll for entertainment purposes only.. Money lasts longer than love and I intend to keep my money right..

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 12:31 PM | Link to this

QC hey gurl!

BK stop! lol.

By Hotlanta

March 7, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

I agree Stacye about how some men have sex with everything that has a middle hole including a donut. They get old and sick and the wife takes care of him when he plays out. Oh yeah they call cheating on them a mistake. I could never figure that one out yet. Yeah he made a mistake alright when he made those hotel rservations, took her to dinner and pulled down his draws. Women have been bambozzled about this love thing. Women are programmed to grown up, get married have kids and die in that order. Smoky made a song “You Better Shop Around”. If a woman made that song she will be called a slut. I was looking at a show on Lady O one day and this married woman acted like she wanted out because she was saying no one tells you the real deal about marriage, the screaming kids none of that. Cinderella is a myth. A lot of women are still caught up in the Princess Di saga and going through their own mess at home.

By Staceye

March 7, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

Oh you got jokes Blue??? LOL

By Coach Blue_Kolla

March 7, 2008 12:36 PM | Link to this

Page Your boy Blue has his Big D paperwork, complete with the Gold Seal safe and secure in the file cabinet.

…man I’ve been buying that fireproof safe for two years now. Probably need to go’ead and handle that.

By The Truth

March 7, 2008 12:36 PM | Link to this

Successful Marraige thats only from a womans point of view, as clearly stated. Those points only apply to a previously broke chick. A whole woman realizes that in the end you’re only agreeing to share your existence with someone else. The woman you write about needs medication, not marriage.

Rell crown is smooth and you don’t have a hangover the next day. If that’s devil whiskey I’m rolling with ol boy.

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 12:36 PM | Link to this

filthy i seen that too. no wonder y’all cheat.

By Raqi

March 7, 2008 12:39 PM | Link to this

Yes Darrell I will pick a fight.

Let’s see, we are going to dinner tonight at his friend Walter’s house. I hate that guy. I will at first refuse to go. However go anyway and pout all the way there. Have very little to say while there. The Man will get p** and we will argue on the way home. Get home, I will apologize for my actions and then…Voila.

For those who don’t get it…LOL.

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 12:42 PM | Link to this

Hotlanta LOL at dudes having sx with anything with a middle hole in it, including a donut….lmao. Staceye did you say that!?

BK lol oh ok. Have you been married more than once?

Rell How long have you been married?

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

March 7, 2008 12:42 PM | Link to this

The only way I’ll ever get married again is if they change the laws and allow you to have more than one wife…

By Raqi

March 7, 2008 12:45 PM | Link to this

When you enter into matrimony with a false sense of reality you are doomed.

Two different personalities coming together as one always create friction. Be prepared.

By Staceye

March 7, 2008 12:45 PM | Link to this

Hotlanta I gotta co-sign you now mami! Good one. Marriage is no picnic for women but still yet people look at you as if you have 2 heads for saying you are dying to be a wife and mother! Maybe this woman does not see that a priority. Maybe she wnats more out of life than screaming kids and an irritating husband.

Raqi I see ya mami…making a reason to have angry sex! LOL

By Coach Blue_Kolla

March 7, 2008 12:45 PM | Link to this

Beautiful BK stop! lol.

I ain’t ticklin’ you. LOL

Staceye Oh you got jokes Blue??? LOL

As Mr. Reeves would say, “I’m as serious as butt cancer, and that’s some serious sh!t.”

I mean for real… You’re probably cool to hang out with, maybe even catch a game of scrabble, but for a relationship? HAYO No! You say it yourself all the time on here. I’m just saying that if I ran into you, I’d want to know if it was you to save myself some hassle down the road. Seeumzayin’?

By mytwotatas

March 7, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

Truth I just read your 10:51! Was gonna say great minds think alike UNTIL I saw that you denounced Coke AND refused to relinquish my tatas all in one post!!! Now raising my brow ;)

By melo

March 7, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

how some men have sex with everything that has a middle hole including a donut. sme of u want to dwell all day and all nite on these bad,some men and not the other , plentiful good men all around you, like u know who!! Let me tell you marriage is a drag for men it must have benn for u and those u know..u can only speak of what u know, that aint the whole truth… Marriage invoolves having a complete mental makeover..u got be in it, not in it for the money or for selfish reasons..ur reasons must be selfless.You got believe in it, if u dont, tough. Its interesting, hearing single and ignorant, never- been-married folks tell yu everything bad about marriage.

By The Truth

March 7, 2008 12:47 PM | Link to this

We’re being cheated folks. I’m blogging on another topic and they have a whole different system over there. That one posts automatically with no inbetween time. Plus they can put an avatar on their posts. Check it out on pets 101, are you the problem.

THis is BULLSHYT ajc. Lets up the game a little.

By SeanJohnson3000

March 7, 2008 12:47 PM | Link to this

@ page wassup with the questions u already know the answers to

By melo

March 7, 2008 12:53 PM | Link to this

When you enter into matrimony with a false sense of reality you are doomed say it girl!! U need to tutor some of these young and marriage minded ladies being misled by the angry divorcees.

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 12:54 PM | Link to this

Raqi it’s your fault that i’m posting this again:

“We enter intimate relationships blindly, often effortlessly, swept up with passion and an idealized perception of our partner. Most of us are totally unprepared for what lies ahead and ignorant of what’s required to last the course. The affair shocks us into reality. Fortunately, it also invites us to try again.”

By Hotlanta

March 7, 2008 12:56 PM | Link to this

Somebody tells me why is it when a person says I have been married for a number of years or I am engaged everybody are always saying congratulations, their eyes light up, they clap because they are happy for the person. But the minute someone says I have never been married it is so much silence you feel like you are in a funeral home. They don’t say congratulations even just for being alive. You hear harp music like you are going to the firing squad. It is not fair.

By Hotlanta

March 7, 2008 1:00 PM | Link to this

Somebody tells me why is it when a person says I have been married for a number of years or I am engaged everybody are always saying congratulations, their eyes light up, they clap because they are happy for the person. But the minute someone says I have never been married it is so much silence you feel like you are in a funeral home. They don’t say congratulations even just for being alive. You hear harp music like you are going to the firing squad. It is not fair.

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

March 7, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

Melo you dont know me and I have been married before.. I dont expect you to understand because like most women you live in a fantasy world thinking some youre the best thing that ever happened to some unsuspecting Sapp. When in all honesty your probably the worst and he would have never married you if you hadnt put the guilt trip on him about I’m going to leave you if you dont marry me.. Thats the main reason most men get married under threat and duress..

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 1:04 PM | Link to this

SJ- Dude, how would I know the answers? That is why I asked. What does it matter to you anyway? I am trying to get a better perspective on marriage from people who are currently or have been previously married. I see you didn’t answer my question from earlier, so ummmm seriously.

By The Truth

March 7, 2008 1:05 PM | Link to this

filthy melo is a dude. LMAO

By Willie Dynamite

March 7, 2008 1:12 PM | Link to this

Hotlanta Are you pouting??lol Talking bout Fair. Like I tell my kids ‘the fair is a place that sells cotton candy and dem sausages’.

Congratulations on being single.

By SlimOne

March 7, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

Truth THis is BULLSHYT ajc. Lets up the game a little

Do i feel a blog sit-in coming.

Bella/Wise Posts daily topic. In walks Truth

By Truth 8:00am I ain’t got shyt to say bout the blog! Fugg da muthaphuggin topic. Ain’t dis bout a bish! We being bamboozled, runamuck, put asunder!….LOL!

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 1:14 PM | Link to this

filthy just for you babe, i’m gonna pop him the question when he asks me to marry him. “are you currently under threat and duress as you kneel before me smelling good like you always do, wearing my favorite jacket (the one where you dragged my butt out of the salon and to the mall to see) and just looking handsome as ever as your family and friends surround us?*.

if he asks a women to marry him and that’s not what he wants, then he deserves to be miserable for doing something that stupid.

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

March 7, 2008 1:15 PM | Link to this

Truth Dude need to quit acting like a lady.. Sounds like a girl to me..

I apologize if I come across as a marriage hater.. I’m just not an advocate of it.. I dont think its natural to like or love someone for the rest of your life.. I consider marriage as settling.. NO shackles for these feet or ball and chain for that matter.

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 1:17 PM | Link to this

Blue…I’m not off today bruh. I wish.

Staceye…My friends and I did a blind taste test of all the flavors of Coke and all the flavors of Pepsi..blindfolded and pepsi was preferred 5 out 6 people.

You all were bored huh?

By SeanJohnson3000

March 7, 2008 1:22 PM | Link to this

@ page watch ya tone don’t mess around and get ya head bussed to the white meat.

By kimmie

March 7, 2008 1:24 PM | Link to this

Afternoon & Happy Friday Blog

Truth - How are you today? I’m walking on eggshells now since I upset you with my other man I really thought we had one of those open marriage thangs!LOL!

On topic - Favorite couple would have to start with my parents. They were 35 years plus before Moms died. My grandparents were 50+ till Granddaddy passed. Not to say they had perfect marriages, but they were truly there for each thru the good and the bad. Truth, I was reading one of your earlier posts about folks breaking up when there is an illness or death, etc. I think back in the day & for some couples of today, that would not be a question- breaking up when a person was at their lowest. Those that don’t pay attention to the till death do you part portion of the wedding vows need to definitely pay attention! You never know what life may bring. My mother died in my father’s arms. I could not have imagined him leaving her when she became ill. That’s true love. Yeah, I know people handle things differently and some might not be able to handle it. Its easy to stick around when everything is going good. You really want someone to be there through the long haul. That’s why marriage is so serious - at least it should be - and you should choose wisely. The strength of your union is tested at tough times. Can your union stand up to the test?

One thing my mom did warn me about was not letting a man come home to die. What she meant by that? She pointed out many examples of people we knew, relatives & friends, where the man screwed around and acted a fool during the best years of he & wifey’s life. Unfaithful, drunk, high, you name it, but they don’t get a divorce, stay together. Then when he gets old & sick, he comes home to die! Best years, when they both were young & cute & healthy & rich, gone! Now he needs somebody to take care of him, change his Depends & feed his butt! Yes, you don’t know what was going on in their house, but to the outside looking in, this is what happened.

By DreamsMaterialize

March 7, 2008 1:25 PM | Link to this

Staceye from Boston mami. They tried to fake us out with “The New Coke” in the 80’s, but it didn’t work.

For all the Fanta lovers, ya’ll need to get up on the Faygo Pop. Any Faygo lovers in the spot?

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 1:28 PM | Link to this

SeanJ3000 Lol…not bussin’ to the white meat? …rotfl…

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 1:29 PM | Link to this

SJ- Ummmmmm yeah whateva man.

Dreams LOL they tried to fake you out…say it ain’t so!

By The Truth

March 7, 2008 1:30 PM | Link to this

Filthy some cats get a bad taste in their mouth over it. Some make it work. The thing is if it gets bad we played a part in it too. I’m not a big supported of it either but I try not to say “never”. How long have you been divorced? Seems like you still have blood in your mouth. I agree with you on spending your life trying to make some chick happy is bs.

Blogsville lets link arms chanting BULLSHYT BULLSHYT in front of AJC hq’s.

Similac lmao @ “You all were bored huh?”

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

March 7, 2008 1:31 PM | Link to this

BEAUTY He doesnt know what he’s in for.. Joking.. Just keep the lines of communication open and know that it isnt always about you.. Never use the “But youre my husband” line and ya’ll will be alright.. Do what you did to get him to keep him.. Its actually really simple but resntment and miscommunication can kill a marriage.. Oh and once you say I do you dont have anymore of your own funds they are for the advance of the marital estate.. The rest of the marriage help booklet can be purchased for 59.95

By melo

March 7, 2008 1:32 PM | Link to this

I apologize if I come across as a marriage hater.. I’m just not an advocate of it. there u go!! it sure shows on ur forehead!! Nothing wrong with that,except that, ur presciption is the wrong one 4 ladies on this blog who may be looking for marriage bliss(or smethin’ at least pretty close)

By Bussabussssssss

March 7, 2008 1:34 PM | Link to this

SJ careful toger man dat chicks hairline is in da middle of her head so make sure you know where to hit her at slim. why she be hate on other folks she f* up herself. Bald headed sucka.

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 1:35 PM | Link to this

Dreams boi stop w/ Faygo Peach flavor is bomb! Had one on the road traveling from N.Carolina lst w/e. That sucka was good.

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 1:37 PM | Link to this

filthy u funny @ that $59.95, lol. and like i told Staceye, one day you’ll look up and there he/she is. you watch.

By DreamsMaterialize

March 7, 2008 1:44 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli Yeah when I lived in Detroit, you could find Faygo everywhere. 2 liter for 89 cents, and a 20 ounce for 49 cents. A dollar could get you chips and a soda. lol

By Raqi

March 7, 2008 1:44 PM | Link to this

…thinking some youre the best thing that ever happened to some unsuspecting Sapp.

You know DK I was talking to my oldest son last week and telling him that a woman will make an ignorant sap like him think that that canal between her legs is lined with diamonds and paved with gold and he got to have it. I told that boy to stop being stuck on stupid. He has been there and the only thing that dropped out was baby. No diamonds and no golden nuggets. That woman that he is stuck on has his nose so wide open you can drive a bus up in there.

I told him straight out. Get another girlfriend. I don’t want him to be a wh-ore and mess over women but don’t let no one woman make you think you have got to have her. I told him take care of your kid, but you can do without her. Trust me. LOL at her making him believe that what she has is the entrance into heaven. HA

By The Truth

March 7, 2008 1:48 PM | Link to this

Kimmie* I’m finding out everyday our thang is open big time. LOL Thats a nice family story but I still gotta give you a ticket for that long azz story. Please pay the 99 dollars before you leave work today. I know you have it. 2 cats? WTF???

By SlimOne

March 7, 2008 1:50 PM | Link to this

Bussabussssssss So what you saying is, someone already beat SJ to the punch?…*Busted it to the white meat so bad the hair don’t grow no mo’

In voice of Flavor Flav Wooooowwww! lol

By Hotlanta

March 7, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

Thanks Willie my brother. I loved it when you came to bail me outta jail with that Reynolds Wrap,radioactive Batman cape suit on. Melo why single folks gotta be ignorant when it comes to marriage. Some of us are smart enough not to marry just anythang for the sake of being marriage.

By Raqi

March 7, 2008 1:52 PM | Link to this

He probably believes that kidney stone that he passed was a diamond he got from her. LOL

By Hotlanta

March 7, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this

Thanks Willie my brother. I loved it when you came to bail me outta jail with that Reynolds Wrap,radioactive Batman cape suit on. Melo why single folks gotta be ignorant when it comes to marriage. Some of us are smart enough not to marry just anythang for the sake of being marriage.

By kimmie

March 7, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this

Truth - You’re getting cheaper by the minute, Truth! Da—, I went through with your Indecent Proposal plan & got you a cool million! Now, I don’t even get a pass on a long post!!LOL

By SeanJohnson3000

March 7, 2008 1:55 PM | Link to this

@ bussabuss bruh I aint no russell resthaven but don’t put page out there like that she cute but she do got that george washington dollar bill haircut going on

By IslandGirl

March 7, 2008 1:56 PM | Link to this

Everybody have a great weekend

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

March 7, 2008 1:58 PM | Link to this

Truth Its been a minute for me. I was really bad before.. I’m just fickle and dont like anyone for too long. I couldnt be married unless she is a specimen from another planet because sometimes I think i’m other worldly in my thought process. Hey even my friends know sometimes i have to disappear for a few months to be alone.. They know I’ll resurface between here and there..

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 2:01 PM | Link to this

LOL SJ- Everyone knows I have a big forhead anyway..lol. as for being bald headed, that is really wayyy off.

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

Dreams

Whatever lil town i was in outside of Charleston S.C. @ Gulf gas station had Faygo soda for .59 and i grab that along w/some Sea Salt kettle fried salt n’ vinegar chips….along with my CDs bumpin’ i was good for a minute.

By melo

March 7, 2008 2:07 PM | Link to this

Jazzy i knw, like i said, it aint for evrybody and u got believe in it to want it.Im against the rantings of the wounded,those still smelling blood, going about castigating the institution and sounding off as if the demise of theirs means any other henceforth will follow similar tragedy.It misguides the aspirant,young, gullible and ignorant single ones who need good direction.

By melo

March 7, 2008 2:14 PM | Link to this

only way I’ll ever get married again is if they change the laws and allow you to have more than one wife rantings of a cheated husb,i missed that sorry.Now i understand where u cming from dude.U married a playa

By Raqi

March 7, 2008 2:16 PM | Link to this

Just thinking out loud

We are driving to Blue Ridge Mountains in the morning. This will be the first year without The Man’s mother. His brother won’t be going either. His 4yr old is ill and they also have a new baby. He doesn’t want to leave his wife to care for both babies alone. So it will just be Pops, the man and myself. This is going to be a very secluded weekend. Pops love the outdoors. He usually spends the entire day trekking thru the trails of nature. I hope it be cool enough to burn some logs in the fireplace. I’ll probably take a project to work on or a book or two.

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 2:17 PM | Link to this

Truth which blog is it? On the ajc? I thought all of the blogs had the same posting capabilities.

By Demi

March 7, 2008 2:17 PM | Link to this

said while straight bustin folks upside the with a bottle of pepsi

Like why is DCP still has a warrant out for my arrest…I payed that tkt off waaaaaay back in ‘03

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 2:18 PM | Link to this

melo …why so much love 4 ole melo!? dunno so don’t ask…Lol…

It misguides the aspirant,young, gullible and ignorant single ones who need good direction.

thank you.

By Old Blog Question

March 7, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

Is there anyone out there who is totally and permanently incapable of commitment, or can everyone do it with the right factors in place?

This should wake you bloggers up!

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

That statement right there is an oxymoron to any man. A dress can never show too much a$$. LOL!!!

Darrell, I hope you give that advice to YOUR daughter! LOL!

Ah…the coke vs. Pepsi debate. I was a DIE HARD and I mean DIE HARD Pepsi fan when I moved to Atlanta. I was dating a coke drinker (we each had one a day). I started buying coke for him when he was at the house. Eventually, the coke won over. We have a fountain at the job, and so I’m doomed. They keep the crack in the coke. Boo.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 7, 2008 2:25 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli Sea Salt kettle fried salt n’ vinegar chips grab me a bag next time!!! Please!!! LOL

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 2:27 PM | Link to this

Truth, Page - Yeah, the pet blog and the job blog are special! Maybe they have a sponsor.

The MOMania blog just got a makeover and now she’s featured on the front page of ajc everyday (homes, travel, momania, etc).

We can even get our blog opened on time. What a gyp. LOL

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

March 7, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

Melo Cute but we know who wears the pants at your home, Cupcake..

I cant even let you put that on my ex she is and was a decent Babe.. Very Loyal and trust worthy.. I’m the A$$, cant you tell.

Oh and learn more words because using the word ranting in every post kinda cheapens the effect..

By IslandGirl

March 7, 2008 2:32 PM | Link to this

@Old Blog Question…some of my friends think I’m incapable of commitment. At times I think it is difficult for me to really allow someone the time to get to know me, so I’m not sure. Hopefully when I meet to right person I will be able to appreciate him.

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

ARed Oh, ok, I didn’t know. I wonder why the other blogs are different in that way and what made them decide for certain blogs to have different features that others don’t have.

By pisces 08

March 7, 2008 2:34 PM | Link to this

I have a question regarding “Blog etiquette”. Now, Brite Eyez says (to Beautiful), don’t ask about lunch, it’s no big deal. But, what if another Blog Bruh wants to take Brite eyez to lunch. Is the previous lunch,fair game to discuss. Or, should the Blog Bruh handle his own biz. And, the “old Rell” was entertaining. Just a thought…..

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 2:34 PM | Link to this

Off topic question: Does anyone know where you can buy that raw shea butter here in Atlanta? I usually see them sold at street fairs and festivals, like Sweet Auburn. Usually some African lady is has a huge shea nut. Now I am out and want to replenish my supply, but don’t know where to find any.

By DreamsMaterialize

March 7, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

Mo ok it’s late in the day…what are we drinking?

ARed Right now you’re like the prodigal son, but we know you’ll come back to the daddy of soft drinks. lol

By Staceye

March 7, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this

Blue I am not anti relationship…I am anti-BS! I just will not deal with the crap that soe men dish out. I will be alone first!

Hotlanta d*mn…are we related too? We think the same. Oh could it be you, Blow Me and I share some DNA? LOL

Some of us are smart enough not to marry just anythang for the sake of being married Oh how I co-sign! A tear now drops because someone else understand me…

Cemeeli You all were bored huh no we’re all dorks and love to do stuff other would never think of! Every yera since I have moved when I go home for Christmas we have a slumber party like when were teens (complete with the music, prank calling guys, junkfood such as Coco Rico soda, etc) just to remind us that although we are women to never let your inner girl die! She was the best you before the trials of adulthood kicked in!

Dreams UGH..you are a Red Sox? Boooo…booooo! LOL It’s not your fault. I still luv ya! LMAO

Beautiful i told Staceye, one day you’ll look up and there he/she is. you watch NOOOOOOOO…as I do my Matrix back bend to avoid such man! LOL

Raqi you must have fireplace sex while in the cabin…also do it outside on the deck…somebody may or may not see you..but that is the fun…the risk of getting caught! LOL

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this

OBQ

Good question, but intrinsic within the question also lies the problem, I think, which is that most people who “say” they want to commit are waiting for all the right factors to be in place - either as it relates to themselves or their prospective mate. Either they’ve got more work to do on themselves or they’re waiting for a better “prospect” to come along.

I guess I can understand both stances to a certain extent, but when you live in such a state of “lockdown” to where you’re not flexible at all, one way or the other, I think you risk letting opportunities pass you by. Just my .02.

By SexyLeggs

March 7, 2008 2:39 PM | Link to this

As someone said a few weeks back, this is a blog posted mainly by people of the same skin color (LOL = boo hoo).

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 2:40 PM | Link to this

Mo lol those salt n’ vinegar held me down for a minute. But, girl I’on know why I love stoping at the lil novelty/nostalgic stores in those lil small towns and buy stuff, but i do it all the time. I’ll even turn around to go back to a spot after passing it. The lil stuff i get from the spots make great gifts too.

By Raqi

March 7, 2008 2:40 PM | Link to this

Question IMO There are a lot of people in this world that think they are ready and capable of committing to a relationship, but soon find out it is more than they bargained for. The giving of yourself, your time is more than most imagine.

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

I’m not sure about blog etiquette but I do wanna say “BriteEyez you’d better work bytch!” Coming in here making a splash. Go head sister. ;-)

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

Amazon “Darrell, I hope you give that advice to YOUR daughter!”

I think you might have missed the “LOL!” I appended to the end of my comment. I was being facetious, dear. Take it easy. :-)

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 2:45 PM | Link to this

ARed just recently bought some 100% Shea Butter from my local TJMaxx (always a hit/or miss) for like 4 bucks. Now the WestEnd brothers that sell incense got you all day on the Shea Butter stick and Black Soap. The SB sticks are also in your local Beauty Supply stores - if that’s all you need.

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 2:46 PM | Link to this

Dreams - I know I’m gonna come back to my Pepsi one day. It’s just hard being a Pepsi lover in the land of Coke. One day I’m gonna switch the Coke syrup in the fountain with Pepsi and see if there is an uprising.

By SexyLeggs

March 7, 2008 2:46 PM | Link to this

America’s favorite couple…Popeye and Olive Oil!!

By Staceye

March 7, 2008 2:46 PM | Link to this

Old Blog Question good one…I think a little while back I could…but now I am not so sure. Nothing but death is a gurantee in life…love and everything else is a crap shoot! I suck at craps! LOL

THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK I’m the A$$, cant you tell hell yeah…it’s obvious! LOL But really…what happened dude?

By melo

March 7, 2008 2:47 PM | Link to this

If u start from this premise VILLIANOUS DK ,Let me tell you marriage is a drag for men… Marriage is a bad scene. You go in it losing and when you get out you are mos def losing then * we know who wears the pants at your home* becomes reality…..see i dont have to learn any more words coz urs are just as good!! When u have more brawn than brains, any strokkers chic can get u upside down…anytime.Next time u enter the blog start by pleading the fifth!!

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

Uh…Darrell I guess you missed my “LOL” because I was being facetious as well. :-/

By mqew

March 7, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

What it do ppl

Alot of great comments from the married/divorced. Personally, my grandparents were the blueprint for me.

My SO said to me, about us, if someone told us how hard it was going to be and OMG was it we would have never done it. He said it after we were back on “track”. Marriage is difficult, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. PERIOD!

What’s funny is, by the tone for some of the single people on here it seems as if someone told them exactly how hard marriage was going to be so they opted out LOL!

DK Dude…. neva mind :)

By kimmie

March 7, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

Darrell - Good point! when you live in such a state of “lockdown” to where you’re not flexible at all, one way or the other, I think you risk letting opportunities pass you by. Just my .02. And it is very frustrating trying to be in a relationship with someone like that! A person waiting for everything to be just right. And yes, in my case anyway, I feel they were waiting on something they thought was better to come along. Not saying you should settle, but time waits for no one. May let a golden opportunity pass you by!

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

March 7, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

If you want good marriage advice seriously.. Check RAQI out. She gives unbiased excellent work it out marital talk.. Marriage aint easy but it can work for those that want it to.. I tried and it didnt work and thats not saying its bad but for me its not a natural thing.. I am the epitome of a commitment phobe. There I said it.. I’m a commitment phobe..

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

ARed You could try Trader Joe’s (do they have that out here?) or a local health food store like Henry’s, Wild Oats, Sprouts or something like that. I’m not sure what the chain health food store is called out here, though, but some kind of health food store or vitamin store would be my guess.

By DreamsMaterialize

March 7, 2008 2:52 PM | Link to this

Staceye Yeah I’m from the Bean. No love for the Sox though, or any other hometowm team really. Can you believe I was a Laker’s fan in the 80’s? During the 80’s, a Lakers fan in Boston was unheard of. But, how could you not like Magic, Kareem, Worthy, AC Green…All Stars.

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

Staceye* i’m telling you gurl you’d be my pick to help host a slumber party for my shower. After the massages we’d be just right for that entertainment. I help host a Sister’s Day Slumber party for my mom and her 6 sisters every year the come to the A. The last one was cute and they are 50+…

By SexyLeggs

March 7, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

ARed, you can buy that butter at the incense store in the Kroger off Memorial Drive.

By mqew

March 7, 2008 2:54 PM | Link to this

Ared Scent’s & Suds at Ansley mall

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 2:54 PM | Link to this

Duh, Amazon, my LOL! should have made your LOL! unnecessary to begin with. LOL!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 7, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

ARed what side of town are you on? I know of a couple of places for Shea Butter but not trying to have you all over ATL.

Dreams Okay I just had Mexican for lunch so tequila please!!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 2:56 PM | Link to this

Kimmie “Not saying you should settle, but time waits for no one. May let a golden opportunity pass you by!”

EXACTLY! ^5! ;-)

By IslandGirl

March 7, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

*Dru Hill announced their reunion on a Baltimore radio station today, then broke out in a fight after one of the members (Woody) said he is not coming back..talk about surprises…go to this website: http://www.freddyo.com *

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 2:58 PM | Link to this

Thanks everyone for the suggestions and quick responses. Appreciate ya!

Page1908 - Atlanta got it’s first Trader Joe’s last year. I was so excited. I think there are 3 in the metro area.

By Staceye

March 7, 2008 2:58 PM | Link to this

CLUTCH THE PEARLS YA’LL…THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK ADMITTED HE IS A COMMITA-PHOBE!!!

Dreams I feel ya…as a NY’er I was never big on the Knicks either!

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

OBQ i will commit in a hot second, BUT i’m not jumpin’ first. in other words, i will not be the one to say the L word first, etc.

i just bought a pepsi. this first sip is dedicated to the true pepsi fans!

By 2CPTG©

March 7, 2008 3:02 PM | Link to this

sup folks…..

‘sup Black Girl!!!

By mqew

March 7, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

Staceye You, chica, are fun e!

No one serving libations yet?

Hey Ceemee

Is it time to go yet?

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

Unnecessary? My bad then, Darrell next time I’ll remember you don’t do witty banter back and forth.

Oh and LOL.

Mo - I’m on the westside, either north or south. But typically I’m okay with roaming anywhere inside the perimeter.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 3:07 PM | Link to this

Beautiful “i will not be the one to say the L word first,”

Why not?

By 6'1 & luvinit (aka Don' it All)

March 7, 2008 3:07 PM | Link to this

Ared u can get the raw shea butter in the old national discount mall.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 3:09 PM | Link to this

Amazon “…next time I’ll remember you don’t do witty banter back and forth.”

That’s fine. As long as it averts these kinds of senseless misunderstandings, I’m good with that.

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

March 7, 2008 3:14 PM | Link to this

Melo say it girl!! Those were your words.. You come off as one of these DL cats that make a good girlfriend instead of a husband.. I get it youre still mad because I thought you were a girl earlier so you figure you can get me back.. Just like a girl.. Go argue with your wife I dont have those problems.. Cupcake stop pandring to the peanut gallery

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 3:14 PM | Link to this

Mqew Hey chica…Is it time to go yet? not yet mami. I can’t wait b/c we have a date tonight. lil look-lik-me and the team for dinner. I told hime we’re gonna get dress and act as if it’s a real date….yea we’re silly. How’s that lil Mq?

DK I agree Raqi along with a few other has some great seed of knowledge for marital info.

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 3:16 PM | Link to this

Darrell - Sure, as long as you realize that I understand “LOL” means you’re joking around.

I mean it was kind of obvious, but maybe you enlightened some lurker you were being facetious in case they were confused.

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

ARed Ok, cool. I will definitely check out Trader Joe’s. You can also check out Whole Foods, if they have one out here.

6’1Is the old national discount mall like a swap meet?

By melo

March 7, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

Is the previous lunch,fair game to discuss dont ask for answers u cant handle, that wld be my advice coz Brite may come with some painful truth, but still want to move forward with u.What do u say? Brite gets my prize tho for getting what she wants..she is right there with Jazzy and other females who arent scared to claim theirs.(aint i right Jazzy?)The silent blog chicslookin’at Brite with sq faces.

By The Truth

March 7, 2008 3:23 PM | Link to this

Filthy I didn’t go thru it like you but I didn’t like the way the court system handled a bruh. That was some shyt. Most dudes wake up whne they get to that stage.

I hear alot of folks talking about being married but is being single that bad? I mean it is pretty cool to me. I enjoy my life and if a chick couldn’t enhance my household its a wrap.

Ared I’m a new convert to pepsi (last 2 weeks) so I’m emailing you a 6 pack to get you back on this side. You know we ride together. LOL

Off topic: I just had some jerk chicken from a new jamacian spot near me and its nice. Washing it down with a beef patty. Hmmmmmmmmmmm

By melo

March 7, 2008 3:23 PM | Link to this

pandring to the peanut gallery its all good angry strong MAN(if that helps stroke ur ego).We all knw who is wounded tho.

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

BigD this is hard for me to answer because i don’t want to come off as playin’ games. but i fall very easily/quickly. so knowing where i belong, where i want to be and who i’m feelin’ is good enough for me. he may not feel that way yet. it may take him months to feel what i do. so for me the say it, i might get the Woooooooow and not hear it back.

if im seeing you, sexing you, feeding you, ridin’ with you, watchin’ football with you, on the phone with you till 2am, email, texting, calling you, etc. then i do luv you.

By mqew

March 7, 2008 3:25 PM | Link to this

Ceemee thas so cute!! Mason is walkin now like a lil frankenstein with his arms out in front of him for balance and almost stomping/walking. Too cute!

Neva really heard a dude call another dude “cupcake” even trying to be facetious…

Oh I see Heeyyyy MO What’s going on. Uuummm …. yeah?….. so ummm can I get a Martini?

By SexyLeggs

March 7, 2008 3:25 PM | Link to this

Pisces08, you were curious at the pros charging $5,500. Here’s the article from the NYDailyNews.

The feds yanked back the covers Thursday on an international prostitution ring that charged well-to-do clients up to $5,500 an hour.

Four alleged members of the ring were arrested early Thursday on charges of violating federal prostitution laws. Two of the suspects were accused of laundering more than $1million in client payments through the Emperors Club VIP Web site.

Agents from the Internal Revenue Service found more than $600,000 in cash in the Cliffside Park, N.J., home of 62-year-old accused ringleader Mark Brener, Manhattan federal prosecutors said.

The club used a rating system of diamonds for each of the models whose lingerie-clad bodies were advertised on the Web site, by first name only.

A three-diamond model went for $1,000, and a seven-diamond prostitute fetched $3,100. Icon Club members won access to the most highly prized prostitutes for $5,500 an hour, prosecutors say.

Ring members recruited women across the globe, in New York, Miami, London and France.

Brener and his alleged accomplice, Cecil (Katie) Suwal, 23, hid cash and credit card payments in phony bank accounts with names like QAT International and QAT Consulting, prosecutors said.

The feds intercepted thousands of telephone calls, text messages and e-mails, seized four bank accounts and raided three locations, including one in Brooklyn.

“My client denies the charges,” said Suwal attorney Daniel Parker. “We’re going to conduct a thorough investigation of the charges. At the end of the day, we think she’ll be completely vindicated.”

By Staceye

March 7, 2008 3:27 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli Girl if you need my help holla at me. I am a Wedding planner on the side and I also plan baby & bridal showers & parties of any themes.

Island Girl I heard it on the radio and I was rollin’! LOL

By Demi

March 7, 2008 3:31 PM | Link to this

Ared u can get the raw shea butter in the old national discount mall.

Trying to ole girl kill in the hood huh?

Dayum that’s evil!

By Staceye

March 7, 2008 3:34 PM | Link to this

**I ain’t mad at the high priced hookers…get paid lovely for the very thing chicks give away for free! LOL But like a stripper…they gets my props because I could never do either!

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 3:34 PM | Link to this

mqew…Yea girl i got a date with a male that wooed me 8+ years ago.

Your lil frankestien gonna beat you walkin’ pretty soon.

I just had some jerk chicken from a new jamacian spot near me and its nice. Washing it down with a beef patty. Hmmmmmmmmmmm

^^^…after my own heart…wow…

By Demi

March 7, 2008 3:36 PM | Link to this

I am a Wedding planner on the side and I also plan baby & bridal showers & parties of any themes.

Ms.Eye, that is amazing!! You help plan event you don’t like, LOL baby&bridal showers

By Coach Blue_Kolla

March 7, 2008 3:36 PM | Link to this

Staceye You dropped the following two comments (in the same post)…

I am not anti relationship…I am anti-BS! I just will not deal with the crap that soe men dish out. I will be alone first!

i told Staceye, one day you’ll look up and there he/she is. you watch NOOOOOOOO…as I do my Matrix back bend to avoid such man! LOL

So which one you gon’ go wit’? Unless the missing premise here, is that all men are BS?

Cee I’on know why I love stoping at the lil novelty/nostalgic stores in those lil small towns and buy stuff,

Probably got something to do with you being less than 50 years old.

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 3:36 PM | Link to this

pisces - You worry me with your posts of brazil girls and prostitutes. I bet you have this dark freaky deek side don’t ya? LOL

Demi - You don’t think I can hang in the hood? LOL watching my back

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 3:37 PM | Link to this

You work so hard to feed your family one way, you forget to feed them the other way—with spiritual nourishment. Everybody needs that.” James Brown, 1986

dang. this makes me think about my boys.

By The Truth

March 7, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

Melo and Filthy I’m stepping in to broker a peace agreement for you 2. Filthy Melo’s no cupcake and most likey his message was taken out of context. Ol boy is pretty tight, if not a bit crazy. You 2 each break a piece of this hard azz bread off and let that symbolize world peace. ( The Truth now standing with his hands raised to the heavens screaming WORLD PEACE)

6’1 old nappy ain’t the spot to send folks nowadays. It’s rough over there. If you go wear your blogvest.

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 3:40 PM | Link to this

Staceye - You do it all!

Truth - I’m down to knock back some cold Pepsi’s with you. I convert easy because I like both Coke or Pepsi. Most people only like one or the other. I just like cola.

Mmm…cola… LOL

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

March 7, 2008 3:40 PM | Link to this

Truth I actually didnt really go thru it.. I just enjoy being single more than I did being married.. Yeah the courts are brutal to dudes and thats my only gripe.. I just get tired of most women thinking a dude has to make them happy in order to be happy.. That just kinda set me off because no one takes into consideration what dudes go thru to marry these chicks.. I thought I was helping the Bros out because no one else really stands up for us. Theyre to busy trying to internet pimp and catch a chick offline saying whatever these babes want to hear instead of laying the truth on their eyes and earholes…

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 3:42 PM | Link to this

Staceye…

Girl if you need my help holla at me. I am a Wedding planner on the side and I also plan baby & bridal showers & parties of any themes.

I knew it! Bet we could put it down on a luau/caribbean themed shower?

By Staceye

March 7, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this

Demi I like the celebration of it so my aim is to make it fabulous. I am the girl who’d want the wedding for the pictures, and all the glitz and glam of the day..but not want the husband. LOL

What’s funny is: when I write my music I love to write about meeting the guy and what it takes to get to the point of being in love…and then the fall out after its over. But never has the thought of being love interested me enough to write about it. It’s too sappy! LOL

Blue I am not against a relationship…I just do not see it for myself!

Unless the missing premise here, is that all men are BS? *Wink wink!

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 3:47 PM | Link to this

BigD love is a verb!

By mqew

March 7, 2008 3:47 PM | Link to this

Truth Need all info on new bomb azz Jamaican restaurants. Spill it pleeze.

Late lunchtime observations bnr Okay so yeah, if you walk in Outback and yo azz can’t fit in yo clothes, females may take an extra look SMH… Also, you should be at Lettuce Souprise you or just get the salad there, but no you want the whole rack of ribs off the dinner menu so yea again fe’s may look at chu sidewayz

By Coach Blue_Kolla

March 7, 2008 3:49 PM | Link to this

LOL @ DK Theyre to busy trying to internet pimp and catch a chick offline saying whatever these babes want to hear instead of laying the truth on their eyes and earholes…

By 2CPTG©

March 7, 2008 3:49 PM | Link to this

“Theyre to busy trying to internet pimp and catch a chick offline”

some’n wrong with that? shiiiid, this “innanet” is a pimp’s paradise! c’mon now DK…you remember them days when email addys were visible….

By melo

March 7, 2008 3:50 PM | Link to this

Beautiful..if im seeing you, sexing you, feeding you* wldn’t u enjoy the sexxing part even better if u add those three little words in there whilst still at it?!!

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 3:50 PM | Link to this

mqew lmao.

By Staceye

March 7, 2008 3:51 PM | Link to this

Ared You do it all I try to be well-rounded girl. Gotta always have more than one iron in the fire…you know?

Cemeeli Bet we could put it down on a luau/caribbean themed shower I’ve done it before…so yes it’s doable and quite fun I might add!

By Demi

March 7, 2008 3:52 PM | Link to this

AmazonRed I’m sure you have folks in south central and oakland…to me hood is hood…But country hood is worst..Dang near every dude sounds like T.I. or female sound like them crime mob h0es.

You may end up shooting one by mistake, be like:

You want some gum!!?? Sounded like you said gun…May baad!

LOL

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 3:52 PM | Link to this

Beautiful “if im seeing you, sexing you, feeding you, ridin’ with you, watchin’ football with you, on the phone with you till 2am, email, texting, calling you, etc. then i do luv you.”

Okay, I follow you. Hence, the “love is a verb” comment, right? ;-)

By Coach Blue_Kolla

March 7, 2008 3:54 PM | Link to this

Staceye I am not against a relationship…I just do not see it for myself!

That’s cool… just don’t leave out the part about the 2 E’s.

By QueDogTeaching

March 7, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

What up Blog Said while coming in way to late to even try and speed blog. Almost 300 posts Also said while wondering what Slim is doing this weekend while singing “buy you a drank” by T-Pain.

Also, while putting on Gold Boots and Purple cape with Camouflage pants and no shirt to Bust Busssabuss. Off of first impressions Page seems to be the type of person that would give you the shirt off of her back. She is way to nice, so if she disssed you, there is no need to try to dog her on the blog. You went way to feminine side with that one. Unless you are a female ????

On-Topic My Father and my Step Mom (Momma) Have been married for 32 years. I have a great example of what my favorite couple is. Through the thick and the thin, and with 3 kids when she met him. Now if I had just seen him during the dating process

I am from the Home of Coca Cola, nothing else matters. Well maybe Sweet Tea.

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 3:56 PM | Link to this

Well Demi if you couldn’t tell I’m a bougie broad, so I don’t do hood if I can help it!

Staceye - With your modeling and event planning stuff, do you have a 9-5? Or do you work by flexible schedule? Just curious.

By Demi

March 7, 2008 3:57 PM | Link to this

I am the girl who’d want the wedding for the pictures, and all the glitz and glam of the day..but not want the husband.

Why not marry a midget (not Demi) with money and have them to keep the camera above your thighs, LOL

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this

Blue

Probably got something to do with you being less than 50 years old.

Yea, mom dukes tell me; You are an old gurl in a young gals body.

By Rell

March 7, 2008 4:00 PM | Link to this

@DK

* I just get tired of most women thinking a dude has to make them happy in order to be happy.. That just kinda set me off because no one takes into consideration what dudes go thru to marry these chicks.*

I WILL RIDE WITH YOU ON THAT…..That was a hot jewel there

By mqew

March 7, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

How is it going to snow when I don’t have to work? What type of shyt is that?

By Demi

March 7, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

AmazonRed LOL more like bougie faking…Try a bit harder next year

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

melo that is the worst time to say it!!! say it while washing the dishes or passing me by in the hallway.

BigD so you agree with what i said? kinda.

By The Truth

March 7, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

Filthy here’s the formula for dissemninating info in this spot. 95% joky joky/5% jewels. If you keep it in those parameters you’ll be fine. Even the fellas gotta realize that these chicks are trying to get their lives on just like we are. Different goals and journeys but its theirs and their sticking to it. Now if you want to do a black bag op and off your ex I’m down but I thought you said she was a good woman. My point is it was a lesson learned but don’t hate the teacher. Raise up over that and enjoy your singleness. I am. LOL Life is to short to carry those scars around.

MQEW its on Walt Stephens in stockbridge and the food is good. It’s my first time but i’ll be going back. Plus, and check this out, it’s very close to my s/d. LOL They gave me so much chicken I have to unbutton my pants.

Pisces on your earlier post. Ol boy threw out an open invitation for lunch and brite took him up on it. She’s not obligated to “not” see someone else. Personally when she said “he’s cool” that was the last nail in that coffin. LOL Life moves on after lunch is over. My .02

By Staceye

March 7, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

Leave me alone Blue!!! LOL

ARED I have a 9-5 as well…no sleep for the weary. I no longer model…so that just freed up more time for singing, acting and dancing.

Demi Why not marry a midget (not Demi) with money and have them to keep the camera above your thighs ROTFLMAO! You nut!

Have a Great Weekend guys…I’m out!

By Coach Blue_Kolla

March 7, 2008 4:07 PM | Link to this

Cee Yea, mom dukes tell me; You are an old gurl in a young gals body.

Not exactly what I was gettin’ at… Most old folks that I know ain’t hardly tryin’ to stop in NO lil azz town if they can help it. Brings back too many memories.

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 4:08 PM | Link to this

Staceye did you know that America’s Next Top Model is in ATL now for auditions?

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 4:09 PM | Link to this

Raise up over that and enjoy your singleness. I am. LOL Life is to short to carry those scars around.

Truth - Amen brother!

LOL @ you saying “he’s cool” is the kiss of death. Did Darrell ever take her up on her lunch offer. I liked how Brite just asked straight up and politely. I really like how she did it that way.

By mqew

March 7, 2008 4:09 PM | Link to this

I wonder if it’s going to be too cold to go out tonight? Naaaa no such thing except if you live in chicago

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 4:10 PM | Link to this

Demi country hood??? yous a silly one! You want some gum!!?? Sounded like you said gun…May baad!

QDT Hey guy. I am from the Home of Coca Cola, nothing else matters. Well maybe Sweet Tea.

…exp. that sweet tea that’s been brewed by the sunlight in a jar…slammin’.

Blue ^^^ my point.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 4:13 PM | Link to this

Beautiful “BigD so you agree with what i said? kinda.”

I don’t think it’s so much an ‘agree’ or ‘disagree’ thing as much as it is I understand your reasoning, and it makes perfect sense to me.

Not sure how much weight this will carry with you, but I would respectfully caution you against assuming that the guy will take longer than you to get to that “I love you” place. This is a misnomer that would be obvious to every woman if more men were willing to fess up about it. I’m a lot like you in that the “signs” that tell me I’m getting to a point of being in love with someone is wen I find myself wanting to “do” things both with her and for her. In other words, I’ll “verb-alize” (by actions) my commitment to her long before I utter the words “I love you”. So, I’m 100 percent with you when you say “love is a verb”.

By melo

March 7, 2008 4:14 PM | Link to this

melo that is the worst time to say it!!! *.. *Beautiful but what i waz intimating is does’nt the act itself melt u enough to get the courage to say it..u luv him afterall so whats the hold up for?

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

ARed LOL @ you being bougie….girl, I think I saw you on Bet’s Baldwin Hills, but definitely not at the Slauson Swap Meet…lol

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

Beautiful - The Top Model auditions in ATL passed. They have pictures in the AJC. The cut off age is like 27 anyway.

By THE FILTHY VILLIANOUS DK

March 7, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

Truth The funny part is I have been blogging longer than most of you here.. There are only a few that go back further than me.. So I understand the Blog nuances.. I dont hate my EX she’s the mother of my Son.. I take care of them very well because they shouldnt want just because I’m not there.. We are best of friends now.. I’m just not the marrying type. Point blank, no in between. Man I just bought a 911, sitting in butler tire putting new wheels on chatting on my I-Phone what I got to be mad about..

By The Truth

March 7, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

MQEW lmao @ “How is it going to snow when I don’t have to work? What type of shyt is that?”

During the blizzard of 93 I was working at the Pen and got stuck. 32 hours with some funky azz prisoners. Now that was some bs.

If you work at AT&T as a manager don’t read the front page of ajc. Its getting cutthroat. LOL

Darrell dudes do fall slower than women. If you need me to I’ll make up some bs study that proves my point. LOL

By Demi

March 7, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli they just do shyt differently here, I no longer have any patience with these cats.

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 4:21 PM | Link to this

Page1908 - LOL @ the Baldwin Hills reference. My parents actually do live there. But I didn’t grow up there. Not really bougie, but fall closer into those lines than ghetto fab or any of that stuff. LOL!

By mqew

March 7, 2008 4:22 PM | Link to this

Truth Ahhh. See thas how you no you got some good chicken. I bet that chic at Outback did the same thing *unbuttoned her pants after the ribs.* I’on no about Stockbridge. Where the he11 is that? I guess I’ll stick wit high azz Cool Runnins

I’m out yall have a good w/e.

By Coach Blue_Kolla

March 7, 2008 4:22 PM | Link to this

Cee *…exp. that sweet tea that’s been brewed by the sunlight in a jar…slammin’.

Aight… I likes some tea myself. Does Sun tea sit on the shelf next to the jars of boiled eggs and ginger snaps? LOL

By Demi

March 7, 2008 4:22 PM | Link to this

DK which model 911?

By mytwotatas

March 7, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

Darrell That quote reminded me - I checked out your site yesterday & enjoyed it. Quite enlightening =)

Why not marry a midget (not Demi) with money and have them to keep the camera above your thighs, hahahhahaaaa Luv it!

By WhyYouComplaining

March 7, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

FILTHY DK Yeah I remember when you were posting way back when and even then you were talking the same bitter BS you talking today. Grow much lately?

By Demi

March 7, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

Island Cafe All day, piece(peace)!!!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

Truth “Darrell dudes do fall slower than women. If you need me to I’ll make up some bs study that proves my point. LOL”

LOL!!!! I’m not saying they don’t take longer (generally speaking), but the fact is that, if anything, guys will take longer (intentionally or not) to SAY those words, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re not already IN love with the person. It’s a shell game we play. Guys know that as long as they don’t SAY it, then it’ll be perceived as them not FEELING it yet (hence Beautiful’s comment that it could take “months” for a guy to feel what she might already be feeling.) It might take him months to say it, but in his HEART dude was “there” a long time ago.

By Beautiful

March 7, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

ARed r u sure? those chicks looked old. all that damn make-up probably making them look that way.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

tatas Thanks for visiting my site (and for the kind words, too.) I appreciate it. ;-)

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

March 7, 2008 4:30 PM | Link to this

The discount mall is like canal street except it iall under one roof. I had some great jamaican food for lunch too. The spot is right next to Babes on FIB.

By pisces 08

March 7, 2008 4:33 PM | Link to this

@Truth. LOL!

By melo

March 7, 2008 4:35 PM | Link to this

Man I just bought a 911, sitting in butler tire putting new wheels on chatting on my I-Phone wow..smh

By The Truth

March 7, 2008 4:36 PM | Link to this

Filthy roll oon then dude. LOL You dropping 19’s or 20’s? Which model? Sounds like you got it under wraps but it’s better when the interior is on point with the exterior. Speaking of Butler, slap the next employee that walks by you. Those cats charged me 600 bux to mount some tires with air pressure sensors. I got a drive by planned for those dudes. LOL

Darrell a chick can fall the first time you open the door for her or whatever her button is. Even my ex, which was love at first sight, took awhile before my feelings nd that feeling were in alignment. Let me know if I need to type up some mess to support my theory.

By Poppa Grande

March 7, 2008 4:39 PM | Link to this

Truth Walt Stephens Road?? You must be near Lake Spivey. That’s where the folks with a little green live. I grew up near there & when I say near it isn’t near enough to say that I am from Lake Spivey. LOL. A rapper named Kilo used to live there. Until he went a little bit crazy.

My grandma cleaned houses at Lake Spivey. I remember when the Olympic Park (beach volleyball was there) was just called Indian Lake and had a few water slides like a cheap version of White Water.

As far as the marriage thing goes, I’ve been married for 8 years. I basically live by the golden rule…”Treat others the way that you want to be treated.” Sounds elementary. However, I think that people make things way too complicated. As I stated on here before, I may not be in love with my wife everyday, but I do love her everyday. Being married and going through life together definitely has given me a respect for New Edition’s Song “Can you stand the rain”. There are rainy days and sunny days. In eight years, you can go through alot of things. It takes both to make it work.

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 4:40 PM | Link to this

Beautiful - Yeah. My sister made it up a couple rounds twice, and now she’s too old to apply. I don’t think she had enough baggage or screws loose to make it to the finals. She looks like Eva to me, so I don’t know why she didn’t make the cut other than the lack of a sob story.

I agree the girls in the pics looked old and a lot of em looked a bit worn out. LOL! I hope it was an easy casting process. It doesn’t take but a second to say “NEXT!” LOL

By Coach Blue_Kolla

March 7, 2008 4:41 PM | Link to this

courage noun - mental or moral strength to venture, persevere, and withstand danger, fear, or difficulty

LOL @ WhyYouComplaining Here I am thinkin’ that mutha f******* were grown. Can’t even stand up to a dude that you can’t even see. SMH

By Kara

March 7, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

Infamous DK I would like to offer you a nice piping hot bowl of STFU stew. There are men in the world who have the capacity to love something more than a stack of money. That does not make them less of a man. You don’t get to sit on a high horse because you decide not to love anyone other than yourself and your cash. Grow up, dude.

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 4:43 PM | Link to this

That reminds me…speaking of cars, Truth, what do you drive? You mentioned the other day that you get only 13 miles to the gallon! I want to scold you for making such a socially irresponsible choice in vehiles. You’re from Cali man, you need to be a friend of the EARF! (laughing because I know that Cali is the king of folks who drive Hummers who do not need to.)

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 7, 2008 4:43 PM | Link to this

Truth “Let me know if I need to type up some mess to support my theory.”

LOL!!!

By Page1908

March 7, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

ARed LOL. My grandparents have lived in Baldwin Hills for probably 35 years!

BK LOL @ ginger snaps…lol

By The Truth

March 7, 2008 4:47 PM | Link to this

Poppa yep, you got it. I live in your old hood. LOL I live right off of blackhall and walt stephens. That olympic park is still there but I’m on the Henry county side. I hear TI had bought something in there too.

By Bystander Blue_Kolla

March 7, 2008 4:51 PM | Link to this

Hold it ladies and gentlemen… there’s another combatant pushing through the crowd… she says she’s from the old days…

Kara Infamous DK I would like to offer you a nice piping hot bowl of STFU stew….

Dayummmmmm….

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

Blog Observation:

I see Blue can’t stand a mickey fickey <—thanks Ared that posts under alias blog moniker.

Poppa ur post is on time & w/my favorittttest song.

…stars will come…this we know for sure…this we know for sure…tell me babe, can you stand the rain…aaaiinn

I’m good now…just made me sing n grin. thx

By Blue_Kolla

March 7, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

@ DK Aye, why they wait ‘til all late on Friday to come at’chu? LOL It ain’t like e’rybody don’t know where e’rybody stands. We the same muhfuggas in here e’ryday. That’s why I don’t get it.

Peace…

By Poppa Grande

March 7, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

Truth Yeah, that is the residence that the house arrest was ordered.

When I was a kid, the Henry side was nothing but trees and cows. Now, it is something else. Clayton had all of the fancy houses.

By melo

March 7, 2008 4:55 PM | Link to this

Be easy folks,nice weekend friends and girlfriends!!

By The Truth

March 7, 2008 4:57 PM | Link to this

Ared I drive a truck, which is even worse. I haven’t been scolded in a minute so I’ll just drop my head and act like I feel bad but as soon as we finish blogging i’m going to fire that joker up. LOL Because i have a lead foot sometimes I get 12 miles a gallon. I may need that room afterall. LOL

By AmazonRed

March 7, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

Page1908 - We’re neighbors! LOL

Have a fantastic weekend everyone.

By Kara

March 7, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

Oh please, nobody cares if that dude EVER marries again, but to spin it as if men that don’t agree with him and his jacked up views, are castrated or something, that is straight up BS

and Blue Kolla, you don’t have to GET anything since I wasn’t addressing you this time.

By mytwotatas

March 7, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

Kara I swear I thought you were bout to offer some affection. Now taking deep breath from laughing so hard

Thanks for the jokes. Have a Lovely weekend all you crazies!

By Cemeeli

March 7, 2008 5:02 PM | Link to this

Blog patrons please spring forward come this Saturday b4 going to bed.

I’d hate to see yall at the church 1 hour too early before Deacon Walker open the church doors Sunday morning.

Be easy!