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Thursday, March 6, 2008
Countering the stereotype
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
There is a young man in my circle of friends who just wants to get married. Badly. He’s using a tactic in which he approaches a woman and expresses interest in dating her—very seriously, as in, to see if the two of them could be married soon. No dating around: immediate exclusivity for the purpose of seeing if a long-term partnership would work.
So he’s a little serious. This, in itself, is not the worst thing I’ve ever heard. But he’s already approached multiple women I know, all of them so drastically different that it makes me realize there are some issues here! How many women in one year could you possibly want to marry?
Now, if I heard this somewhere else, I would assume this guy is looking for sex and is offering exclusivity up front in order to seal the deal. But this guy has chosen to wait until marriage to have sex, so that’s not part of the equation here!
One of my friends originally felt very flattered by his offer, as if he had singled her out among many women. But when she found out he was just going from woman to woman once the first one said no, she was no longer flattered but kind of appalled!
Sometimes we stereotype women as the ones who want to be in a committed relationship or married (and many of us do!), but in all honesty, some men want to be in a relationship just as badly as we do!
Women, do you know men who seem overeager to be in a relationship? How do you think the stereotype about what women will do to be in a relationship has been exaggerated? Have you run into men who assume that you’re dying to date them simply because you’re female and you must want to find a mate?
Men, do you know guys who will jump at the chance to be in any relationship? What has caused them to lower their standards so as to date almost any woman? Do you know men who have professed love multiple times in one year? From the male perspective, what do you think causes this “overeagerness”?
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