Misadventures in Atlanta

By Dan

March 4, 2008 8:26 AM | Link to this

Talked to one last night.

You get those phone calls and you talk, akwardly, knowing nothing will come of it. Waiting…hoping not to hear…changing the subject.

But yeah, those conversations can be kinda fun.

In other news: The male specie has decided (after the vote last night) that if we are to have no contact with our children per the mother’s order…there will be no child support request made. “If you want to have the child, against the man’s wishes; then you are to bear the complete responsibility for your decision.” —- When chickenheads come home to roost

By BeautifulDoesn'tMeanPretty

March 4, 2008 8:32 AM | Link to this

sometimes i think im not over him. but i really think i’m just lonely and miss the close/snuggle feel of a man next to me in the kitchen, bed, bath, car, couch, etc.

By QC

March 4, 2008 8:40 AM | Link to this

Morning…often i find myself just drifting off into never, never land thinking about him With a whole lot of “what if’s on the brain” oh well..it’s his loss, life goes on…have a great day!

By kimmie

March 4, 2008 8:43 AM | Link to this

I have mixed feelings about the calls from exes. On one hand, it is sort of an ego boost - you think “Aha, he is seeing what he lost!”. But, hopefully you realize that you broke up for a reason and unless the person or situation that broke you up has drastically changed, things will not be any different. I think I called a guy I broke up with in college once. Since then I absolutely NEVER call an ex. I used to accept the ex call, now I don’t even do that. Just let the phone ring. No “be friends” stuff either, just setting yourself up for more heartache, especially if you are not quite over the person. No matter how tempted you are to talk to the person, it’s really best to just make a clean break.

By pisces08

March 4, 2008 8:51 AM | Link to this

Morning All. Yes, I guess, it was more physical than emotional. I think I was having “withdrawals” from “good p….”. Anyway, yes.

By Rell

March 4, 2008 8:52 AM | Link to this

RELL DOES NOT DO THE EX DRAMA…WHEN IT IS OVER ITS OVER…NO GOING BACK…

By BeautifulDoesn'tMeanPretty

March 4, 2008 8:56 AM | Link to this

last week, this guy i meet on myspace back in december called me. for v-day i bought myself a new phone so i didn’t take the time to put in all my numbers. i don’t answer any guys call if i used to date him. anyways, a call came thru and it was Walt. i put the phone under the pillow and said damn really softly. lol. that was the worst conversation i’ve had in a very long time. we stopped dating for a reason. but like kimmie said, it feels good to know your thought of. also, ex’s always come back, always. they wanna know if the puddy is still available just for old time sake. not!

By Simp

March 4, 2008 9:01 AM | Link to this

Good morning to all. Fore head kisses to all the ladies. There’s always a song, her scent. The song you use to dance to. We know its over. Its hard getting her out of your mind. A phone call is made. You have a respectable conversation. The window of HOPE is there. You make plans to see each other again. BANG. Now I know why we are not together. Let it go and move on.

By Been there

March 4, 2008 9:06 AM | Link to this

Ironically, I got a late-night call from someone that I told a few months ago it was over.

He called - I didn’t answer. He texted - I didn’t even acknowledge it.

We’re still friends but that’s it. I’ve been extremely clear. Apparently he’s not hearing it. I inadvertently mentioned I had been on a date a few days ago. I think that was what was behind the call.

I admit that I wish things were different but they aren’t. He had two years to get his act straight. I’m moving on - it hasn’t been easy but the hook-up suggestions are making me even rethink if we can continue to be friends. I told him point blank that I couldn’t handle that sort of relationship considering our past and my feelings for him. Him making these suggestions feels like he’s rubbing my face in it - discounting my feelings for his own potential pleasure.

By Foot2Azz

March 4, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

I agree with Rell. Don’t do the EX thing, you gotta learn how to be strong enough to push forward and not chase after someone who doesn’t want you.

By DasV

March 4, 2008 9:11 AM | Link to this

good morning good ppl

ON TOPIC ive had a hard time moving on…. mostly cause i fail to put my foot down and stop the phone calls ‘just to chat’…. the connection is never completely broken if you’re having constant, un-necessary conversation. its hard when its your ex-husband and there are children involved. but there were some conversations that we just shouldnt’ve (<—- is that a word??) been having….

OFF TOPIC

DAN you confuse me. explain your ‘vote’ from last night… and how you stumbled up on that. but first explain where you get that women have children against men’s wishes (aside from gold-diggers and the like) and then dont want a man to be in the child’s life??

please dont say you came to this conclusion after what we discussed yesterday… cause that would be straight ludicrous.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 4, 2008 9:14 AM | Link to this

Morning All!

Rell you and I are kindred spirits on this one! DOES NOT DO THE EX DRAMA…WHEN IT IS OVER ITS OVER…NO GOING BACK… I am co-signing and ^5-ing all over that one! Once I say or my significant says its over you dont have to worry about Mo trying to contact you from that moment on. Its over, so why bother!

Off topic: am I the only person that feels like rainy days should qualify as automatic off days for snuggling?

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

March 4, 2008 9:17 AM | Link to this

Good murning! How’s everyone? I can really relate to this topic. This is how I went back to “Black”. But I got some juicy stuff to talk about today but I will at least wait until after ten before I change the topic. LOL

By BriteEyez

March 4, 2008 9:17 AM | Link to this

This topic really strikes a chord with me. It was last June that I ended a tumultuous 7 year on and off relationship. Everytime it went from off to back on it progressed to another level. During the final on period we became engaged and were in pre-marital counseling and all that. Thankfully we ended for good before taking that final step to getting married. The one thing I say was that I learned alot!! I go back and forth with being angry with myself for allowing something I knew in my heart was not right to continue for so long but then I realize that it took this long for me to truly get it. I think that depending upon where you are in life it might take some time to really get the lesson that the situation is suppose to teach you and until then you will be tempted to go back.

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 9:20 AM | Link to this

Morning all. I’m with kimmie.

Well, I think the break up thing is takes a bigger emotional toll on the women, so I simply refuse to call an ex once we’ve established “it’s over.” This means absolutely no calling. No just checking in to see how he’s doing, no “come and get your stuff”. That what trash cans are for.

It’s easier to find closure once YOU’VE determined that it’s over. You don’t need him to verify it for you. You don’t need a late night phone call or booty call to get you confused.

That’s not to say that I’ve never taken a call from an ex. But first of all, it has to be a significant amount of time to pass before I’ll pick up the phone. Like 6 months. Then you have to realize that they just don’t want to burn a bridge and want to see if their puddy account is good. That’s why I don’t have ex sex. And after a few dinners they realize they ain’t gettin any and slither back to where they came from. And then that bridge is successsfully burned.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 4, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this

Morning, all. :-)

Bella “…going out, having fun, and generally putting herself back on the market since her New Year’s Eve breakup…”

Seems to me that this wasn’t a “relapse” at all. As I see it, your sister was simply responding in the by-the-book manner she “thought” was right, only to find out she was only delaying the inevitable post-breakup letdown. Instead of setting aside her pride and allowing herself time to deal with the reality of the relationship coming to an end, she put herself back out there too soon, thinking that engaging in the aforementioned “activities” would get her back to where she needed to be emotionally, only to find out she jumped the gun.

In my opinion, what your sister needs to understand is that when relationships end, she has nothing to prove to anyone as it relates to showing them that she can “take a punch” and get right back up. It’s okay to grieve a love lost and take the necessary time to regain your senses. She should allow herself to do that first, regardless of what anyone else thinks.

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

March 4, 2008 9:24 AM | Link to this

I agree Mo, I would much prefer to be at home “Laid up” than at HD setting up new stores. Dayuumit Man!

By Rell

March 4, 2008 9:29 AM | Link to this

@mo…yeah i will lay low on the topic until changes….there is a reason you broke up in the first place…and that same thing will come back…not everyone is meant for life…so i just move…you can always look behind but you cant see forward…FEAR controls some people..does not control me….singlehood is a golden time…again like i tell all my single friends..you have the chance to decide how your life is going to be…you can choose happyness…you dont have to think of anyone but you…

and mo..yea rainy days should be days off….i could use a lazy day..so i feel you on that

By Jazzyone

March 4, 2008 9:32 AM | Link to this

Dan if you don’t want to have kids then don’t participate in the act or wrap it up really very seimple..you have sex then thats the price you pay even if she wants to keep it and you don’t. Thats what being a mature responsible adult is.

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

March 4, 2008 9:33 AM | Link to this

Rell, I got some good stuff today but I am going to wait until at least ten b4 I change topic.

By 2CPTG©

March 4, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

Morning…..

I guess I’m the only one that’s ever done a re-take! Me and this gal dated in college, broke up over the summer, and when the fall term rolled back around, I wanted to get back with her; Hell, I had left my main thang in FL, so I needed a constant in Charleston; She wanted to get back together as well, but didn’t want to admit to it…she was a smart chic, always telling me she was smarter than me, so we played Jeopardy, and I “won” her back; then beat the brakes offa her azz!

By Cemeeli

March 4, 2008 9:36 AM | Link to this

Morning Everyone!

Mo Yes rainy days should be atomatic qualify as days off fo’ Popsecret and snugglin’.

Gots my vote!

Hey DasV.

By Raqi

March 4, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this

Although it took 6 months for me to relapse, it landed me back in between the sheets (no sheets really involved) with that deceiver. And yes it was the constant coming over “to see his son”, HA!!, the talking at me, the touching me (just merely on the hand, arm, neck…nothing openly seductive), the promises (lies), the whispers against my ear. Yeah it was all weighing me down. Every time I even thought of allowing that man to touch me again I would tell myself, “I am not going to do it. He is not going to get to me. I am NOT going to do it.” One day I found myself sitting in the tub saying “I was not supposed to do that. How did I let that happen?” LOL

sigh

When you see a Dumb Chick slap her with Brick!!! (smack)

After that incident I talked to my mom, not that I wanted to (however I needed to), she just kind of forced it out of me. She told me you can’t keep doing that ‘Raqi’. You have to stand your ground no matter how much you want it, you can’t do that. (HA easy for her to say). She assured me that he will be back and for sure he came back, again. And again. And again. When he saw that I was not going to budge for him he stopped coming around for a while. Once my son got old enough for him to come take him to visit, it started again. Him coming over to visit his son but talking at me. Him coming over in the evenings when he knew the boy would be asleep. But I wasn’t hearing it. Eventually I started dating some one else (the nature guy). But every now and then he would test his luck just to see.

Did I ever tell you all about the time he tried to snatch me out of the door? Hurt my freakin’ arm. Arsehole.

By melo

March 4, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this

smebody is caling the v as we speak and saying they are melo.Just to let u knw, it aint ur boy, the original..in case u wondering!!

hey good merning everybody!! I see u tackling the come-back for pudsy topic..wll chime in later. hey Das,sexxy and staceye and all my secret lovers out there…raqi tell ur man i got a spare sackful of testestorone tubes, in case he needs to pump it up a notch!!And i used one of ur valued tips last nite after she had fallen asleep…she ended up riding that thick and erect pole afterall!!!

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 9:37 AM | Link to this

Dan - Please don’t rehash that discussion from yesterday. It was going nowhere.

GC - Your 8:40 summed things up quite succinctly!

Mo - A snuggle holiday would sure be nice. Mmmm.

By kimmie

March 4, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

Darrell - Cosign your post. I learned that lesson the hard way, that you really have to give yourself time to grieve a loss, and it is a loss if that person was a major part of your life for any length of time. I listened to my friends once and jumped back on the party/club scene after a breakup. I went to this club and all these tired dudes were all up on me & the women looking crazy, fighting over the same 2 dudes everybody in the ATL wants. I felt like I could’nt breathe, started crying and my girls took me home. Since then, I give myself time to chill, either be by myself or with family & good friends and just take it easy before trying to date again. Don’t have to prove anything to anyone. And the ex calling back to activate the puddy account is an insult!

By Jazzyone

March 4, 2008 9:39 AM | Link to this

As for ex’s tend to move on and not go backwards have missed the relationship but no so much the person. I tend to end things on a positive note and no hate or shade is thrown, simple for me. I do still have feelings for my ex but I have realized that they are more of a brother sister feeling I miss the companionship of a relationship not so much him. I am not dating one person and out of respect for him and myself we don’t talk as much to ex’s. But friendly non the less.

By The Truth

March 4, 2008 9:40 AM | Link to this

Talking to exes isn’t bad at all. I’m ususally thru with a chick before we’ve had that convo so its no big thing. Give them time and when they call back and need some dyck you can bone without all the forever talk. Its actually better. Let some other cat listen to that “where is this going” convo. Plus they remain great clients. LOL

Ladies, he’s not calling because he’s seen the light and now knows what wonderful person you are. He’s horny since he’s been there it’s instinctual to go there first. As soon as he hung up with you he was calling someone else. LOL

Dan I proposed something even better. If a chick isn’t in a marraige with both parties consenting then the chick isn’t entitled to any support. That loud clapping sound you now hear is these womens legs closing forcefully.

Raqi I didn’t see you come back to my last post. Nothing to say huh? LMAO

By Rell

March 4, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this

@6’1…JUST SPILL IT PPPPPPORKY…LOL….blogvilles is waiting..lol

@peanut..whadda ya know..we agree on something ….a blog first

By Elijah Mohammed not Dreams

March 4, 2008 9:42 AM | Link to this

Dan chickenheads come home to roost LOL Young Malcolm, I thought I forbid you to speak ill of them. You still don’t understand…I…must…plant…my seed…in…fertile…ground! You are hereby prohibited from speaking publicly on behalf of The Nation.

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 9:44 AM | Link to this

Now Raqi, it has to be really hard when kiddies are involved. You can’t totally cut off contact with your ex! I don’t know how I’d handle such a situation. It’s gotta be a real sticky one!

By Jazzyone

March 4, 2008 9:44 AM | Link to this

I meant to say I am dating one person these days and the ex’s are put on notice.

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

What up Blog…

If we just kicked it, then naah I don’t need to call you on the dating tip. But if I’m having an issue and that’s your forte, then yeah I’ll call you. I’m not cutting my network strings just b/c the “You & I” didn’t work out. Had 2 long-term gf’s since I’ve been here and we’re still good friends.

DasV shouldnt’ve ===> shouldn’t’ve - compound contraction

By 6'1 & luvinit (aka Don' it All)

March 4, 2008 9:51 AM | Link to this

Rell, I don’t like the nickname you gave me. Change it IMMEDIATELY!!!!!!!!!!!!

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 9:52 AM | Link to this

Truth - We know why you guys call! We ain’t having it. To be honest, that’s the ego boost on my end knowing that when he calls, he ain’t never getting this puddy again. LOL

By Raqi

March 4, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

Truthy maybe because I went home. Ya think?

By Dan

March 4, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

Okay, I won’t rehash it.

I won’t.

But on a later date, when I have more time me and DasV (me and you) we gone have it out! (Here I was thinking you were one of the one’s that “got it”)

In the interim…

By SexyCool

March 4, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

i call the back and forth at the end of a relationship ENDSHIP…it’s not a good place to be in…my personal motto is…let’s just CALL it friends…we really don’t have to BE friends…and keep it moving…

By Staceye

March 4, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

Kimmie I co-sign your 8:43! If it’s over…let it be over! Backstepping will only lead to more hurt! Obviously you broke up for a reason…some people can’t let go and then they wonder why things can’t get right! UGH! That on agian off again crap is for the weak ones who can’t let go of someone who is toxic! MAKE UP YOUR MIND…ARE YOU TOGTHER OR NOT?!? Even as a child I never like merry go arounds because they they took yu nowhere and all you got out of the ride was a sick stomach! Such as life…

It’s too early and dreary for this….LOL! I just want to go back home and climb into bed.

ARED I co-sign your 9:20!

I proposed something even better. If a chick isn’t in a marraige with both parties consenting then the chick isn’t entitled to any support. That loud clapping sound you now hear is these womens legs closing forcefully I got an even better law…If a man makes a baby and he doesn’t take care of it he should be castarted…that sound you hear ladies is men actually keeping their diznick in their pants by zipping them back up!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 4, 2008 10:00 AM | Link to this

Kimmie Thanks for sharing that 9:38. :-)

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

Staceye - It’s too early all your exclaimation points and all caps. LOL. But yeah, I’m with you. Listening to my single friends who are over 40, they spent a lot of their “prime” dating years in on again, off again relationships. That’s why it’s just best to cut the cord.

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

I’ve come to the conclusion that most on this here blog never really liked the actual person that they were dealing with. Do you despise that person to the point that it pains you to even speak? Dayum.

By SexyLeggs

March 4, 2008 10:07 AM | Link to this

Raqi, one reason I’m glad my ex doesn’t have a car and can’t come pick up his daughter. I don’t have to worry about how my panties wound up around my ankles, but I don’t want to be bothered w/the techniques he would use to get them there (LOL).

Mo, today is a Blockbuster/LifetimeMovie, snuggle day.

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

Kolla - The truth of the matter is that many of our dating relationships dont’ start out as friendships. For me, it’s not about ill feelings towards the ex, it’s about we broke up, we weren’t that good of friends or you wouldn’t have disrespected our relationship the way you did. So there really isn’t much to say after the break up.

People come in your life for a reason, sometimes, once you learn your lesson, you need to move on. There is no need to be “friends” right away after a break up. I think both sides need time with no contact to let any romantic and hurt feelings to subside.

By Rell

March 4, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

@blue….i said i dont go back..we still speak….but all that ex love..and lets rekindle..negative…..i dont despise i just move ont…i cant give you anymore of my time or space..thats what i mean when i say i dont go back….we can still speak..but no more hookups….NO SEX….

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs - Why doesn’t your ex have a car? How old is he? Damn.

I know…he doesn’t have a car because he puts all his car money towards child support…right?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 4, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

BK Your post was funny as h3ll! Do you despise that person to the point that it pains you to even speak? Now you know that depends on the circumstances of the breakup for some.

By DasV

March 4, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

CEEcee wassup sista-gurl? waving

Melo blog hug (you checked yo mail today yet?)

BlueKOLLA you got me hollerin ova here at your help with my ‘compound contration’…. cant stop laughin. you stoopid

DAN alright, blog bruh. cause the opinion is not to rehash… we gone leave for a minute, but soon, k?? cause i thought yous smarta than that too. smilin

TouCan most times its a trust issue that breaks me up wit whoeva… so i cant see the whole ‘re-take’ thing happening. there are no ‘do overs’ when it comes to loyalty.

By Simp

March 4, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

Sexy, It sounds like you still have a weak spot for him. Hell I have a car. Show me the leggs.

By Raqi

March 4, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

AmazonR Yeah it was hard at times. It was the “stickiness” that I was trying to avoid. Especially those times when I “needed” him, really, really bad. There were days when I would be standing there talking to him and thinking “Lord if this man comes within a foot of me I am going burst into flames”. But I had to be strong. It got a lot easier once the sexual bond between us started to diminish. Once the babe got older I would just leave them to themselves and go find something to do in another room. And like I said earlier once I started getting that male attention from someone else all was well.

By Hotlanta

March 4, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

Ladies,please invest in Bellsouth Complete Choice Package and press *60 to block his number. PLEASE Don’t keep ex around as friends trying to sound all cute saying “we are still friends” because you will be a part of the ex-girlfriend club.He w ill never be alone. Don’t be like my girlfriend trying yo stay friends with her ex and the family while the ex has moved on a got a WIFE. The best way to get over a man is to get under another one. When I break up with a man I wave bye-bye like he is leaving on a cruise ship. Ship Ahoy, ship ahoy.

By Staceye

March 4, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs I am ROTFLMAO at your 10:07!!!

By Sugar

March 4, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this

Hi Everyone.

I believe everyone deserves a second chance. When a person decides to call it quits, sometimes they realize after awhile that the decision they made was a mistake. Or they realize that the person (new) who took their attention away from you really isn’t all that. When they realize who is better for them and come back, don’t tell them i told you so. Except their apologies and make it work.

By The Truth

March 4, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this

Ared its a numbers and time game. If you did them right when you were together they always come back. Just give them time to deal with it. I knocked off my ex wife for 5 years after she had remarried. I remember her asking me to hold her one day. I said “thats for your husband, we don’t get down like that”. LOL Also, because I’m somewhat business savvy I get a few business related questions and calls. It keeps the convo open till she gets over herself and gets horny.

BK that goes back to my statement that we’re all just selfish b******* masquerading as nice people. It really is warfare out there. We only care as much as we have an interest and expected outcome.

Staceye before I started blogging I felt and have said many times that a cat should always take care of his seed. I’m now officially retracting that statemant. For some cats the best thing they could do is walk away from you and never speak your name again. Alot of you are trainwrecks looking for a wall to hit and nobody should be burdened with having you in their life. I can honestly see why a dude would walk away from you and the child.

By SexyLeggs

March 4, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

Hello Melo.

BK, I don’t despise my ex, but I definitely do not like the person he is. I still go out of my way for him to be part of his daugther’s life. I have no intentions of getting back w/him, and in some cases the phrase “never say never” aptly applies. Although I have moved on and he hasn’t is of no concern to me. A received another letter from him last week. I decided to do something different. Instead of accepting the letter I simply handed it back to him. The door has closed!

By Jazzyone

March 4, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this

The best way to get over a man is not to get with another one..you are carrying baggage after a relationship I tend to take some time to breathe and get my perspective back as one not a part of something….then you can be open to a healthy start with another without sizing him up to the one you are trying to get with next or throwing his issues or your issues with the past relationship into the next one.. JMO.

By Rell

March 4, 2008 10:23 AM | Link to this

@peanut…cosign your post

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

March 4, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

Okay everyone it is officially after ten so here I go. Late last nite I receive a call from one of my friends lets call her “Sugar”. Okay sugar had texted her on again boyfriend and told him that she was going to erase his number from her phone because she hadn’t talk to him in an entire day. She said five minutes later she received a called from a girl “Kat” who is also involved with “Dave”. Now he is constantly between the both of them. He is either with one or the other. Sugar let him know when she got back with him that she really didn’t want him to leave “Kat” because when he is with the both of them “Kat” experiences all the bad and “Sugar experiences all the good. She basically says that she likes being the other woman. She spoke on the phone with “Kat” for over a hour. “Kat” cried and everything saying that she wanted to leave him and “Sugar” pleaded with her to stay. So they ended the conversation open because “Sugar” told me that she think that “Dave” walked in the room. A hour passed and “Kat” texted “Sugar” and told her that she might as well pack her stuff and move in because he told her that he is never going to leave “Sugar” alone.

By Beautiful

March 4, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

will the real Truth please stand up? i miss him.

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

its a numbers and time game. If you did them right when you were together they always come back.

Truth, I’m nodding my head taking it all in. All of my exes have come back, but none of em came back trying to really make it work. I think they were hoping for friendship…with benefits. Can’t do it.

If one of em came at me genuine…maybe. But now that time has passed, I don’t see how a marriage would have worked, with any of em. They’d have to convince me otherwise, and the lazy men of today aren’t up for that type of work.

By 2CPTG©

March 4, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

DasV, it was college; so the rules didn’t apply then. Loyalty, and honesty didn’t enter my vocabulary til my late 20’s, early 30’s…

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 4, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this

6’1 Um, to your 10:24… WHAT THE…?! How freakin’ twisted are they (“Sugar” and “Kat”)?! ROFL!!!

By Rell

March 4, 2008 10:29 AM | Link to this

@6’1….You need to take that and expand that more..that is some good drama for a lifetime movie….ummmm no advice needed for that ..that is a classic case of co-dependcy, low self esteem, unrealistic expectations…etc etc etc….come on…sh it like this still goes on…with ADULTS…..smdh

By SexyLeggs

March 4, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

Simp, you’re reading me wrong. No weak spot for my ex.

ARed, the car I co-signed for him he left it a body shop years ago and never went to get it back because he didn’t want to pay the repair bill. He hasn’t had a car now for the past 4 years. No, he doesn’t have a car NOT because his $$ go to child support. The little I get is a disgrace! He doesn’t have a car because he doesn’t know how to manage $$, don’t care to go out and get more $$, but more importantly don’t want to stop doing the destructive things he’s been doing for so long!

By Staceye

March 4, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

Good one Hotlanta!!

Sugar I believe everyone deserves a second chance a second chance to F’ you over…..ok! LOL I believe if you have the ability to do something to me once…you can do it again! That silike an abusive husband…if he hits you once, he can do it again! There starts the pattern of beatdowns and apologies…one time turns into 10 and then you look back a few years and realize he kicked your azz for years! And it all started when you gave him that “second chance”!

Alot of you are trainwrecks looking for a wall to hit and nobody should be burdened with having you in their life. I can honestly see why a dude would walk away from you and the child I will not comment because that statement is ignorant in itself! LMAO And we wonder why the world is so messed up today! SMH!

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs - I really hate talking bad about “Lil Leggs” daddy…but can I ask you what attracted you to this loser in the first place? Egads woman! LOL

So if you tell us some of the good stuff, maybe I can understand why such a kick azz woman like you ended up with a guy like him. LOL

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 4, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs “He doesn’t have a car because he doesn’t know how to manage $$, don’t care to go out and get more $$, but more importantly don’t want to stop doing the destructive things he’s been doing for so long!”

And yet, this is the same guy you’re worried might still be able to get your panties “down around your ankles?”

By Julie

March 4, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this

Oh man. Sugar and Kat have some serious self esteem issues!!

By Cemeeli

March 4, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this

Jerry Springer MVP’s, Kat, Sugar and Dave…and we wonder why folks snap…smh.

By The Truth

March 4, 2008 10:42 AM | Link to this

Ared it’s not about getting back together. It’s about our time together having passed and a new chapter opens. Its filled with possibilities. Now the bs of forever is gone we can probably have a good time and maybe even be good friends based on who we really are vs what we wanted from each other. Who knows?

Beautiful the real Truth has been reading these posts the last few days and realized how fugged up it can get out here. Some in here are shot the fug out. I think this is what happens when folks keep jumping from one bad situation to another. It’s sad. Everyone take a moment to heal. LOL

6’1 you need new friends. Wow Did someone say co-dependency?

By Dan

March 4, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

@Darrell:

The contradiction in that statement can be found in Eddie Murphy’s Raw (1984):

During the routine that starts with “oooohhooohh”.

By Sugar

March 4, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

If there is a child involved, it’s hard to not love or be attracted to that person. Having a child with a man, there is a forever bond.

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

6’1 - Many of us can’t respond to this because it’s out of our relm of comprehension. Tell em good luck tho. LOL

Truth - I have yet to reach that level with an ex. But I’m glad you have! It just hasn’t worked for me yet. Probably cuz I believe everyone is not meant to be in your life forever. But you did give me some food for thought!

By SexyLeggs

March 4, 2008 10:48 AM | Link to this

6’1, how twisted is that. What’s wrong w/Kat? Sugar’s pleading w/Kat to stay says she doesn’t want him full-time and is only having fun biding her time until something better comes along. Are these people under 25?? Kat needs a shot of “self-esteem” injected into her brain! When a man tells another woman that he’s not going to stop seeing the other woman and you accept that YOU ARE A BONA FIDE FOOL. As has always been stated here, a man can only do to you what you allow him to do. WOW.

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 10:48 AM | Link to this

Rell ..that is a classic case of co-dependcy, low self esteem, unrealistic expectations…etc etc etc….come on…sh it like this still goes on…with ADULTS…..smdh

Come on dude, this ain’t nothing but a gang of folks sport fuggin’* (<=== thanks Jazzy LOL). Don’t surprise me a lick. This is definitely the wildest town that I’ve ever been in.

Staceye You need to hook up with Bennie. Both of yoll got some mad hate in yoll’s heads.

Red …but can I ask you what attracted you to this loser in the first place?

People change… sometimes for the worse. But I’m with Darrell, this dude still has the ability to get dem draws?! But they say that e’ry chick has that one dude with that special magic. They just can’t break away.

By The Truth

March 4, 2008 10:48 AM | Link to this

Darrell don’t try to figure it out. LOL

Staceye actually that statement was pointed at you. However, if I say it directly to you everyone thinks I’m jumping on you because your emotionally “stunted”.

Ared you say lazy men of today? Have you been reading these chicks posts the last few days? They’re looking for a sponsor to fund their fantasies because they can’t do it themselves. Really there’s more honor in prostitution. LOL

By julie

March 4, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

Sugar and Kat have some serious self esteem issues. NO MAN is that good!!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 4, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

Sugar You are correct (to a degree.) Yes, where children are involved there is a “bond” between the two, but the type of bond is not always of an amorous nature. Trust me. I may still “love” my former wife from the standpoint of being concerned about her overall well-being, but whenever I see her (when I pick up my kids for visitation) my heart doesn’t go pitter-patter. It’s strictly cordial.

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

Have you been reading these chicks posts the last few days?

Truth Not really. LOL.

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

Truth Now the bs of forever is gone we can probably have a good time and maybe even be good friends based on who we really are vs what we wanted from each other.

Good one.

By DasV

March 4, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

OK … who was it that said that this was sixONEs personal blog yesterday?? LOL and SMH

TouCan wow. didnt take you for a ‘late’ bloomer.

theTRUTH dont mean to get in yo conversation… but are you saying that you’d go for some ‘sloppy seconds’?? if so, im with beautiful … will the real Truth stand up

By kindeya

March 4, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

In my situation, I think its both; I have not moved on yet and I really miss the person. I really do not have a reason why I have not let go because it is not like the dude is calling me every-now-and then giving me false hope. Maybe I really just need a fine brotha to come in my life and help persuade me to move on

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

One other thing Truth - I’m not going to “jump” on you for your post to Staceye, you are entitled to your opinion, but I do think you could have said it in a way that made it go down easier (and if I can figure out how to do that myself, I’ll let you know! LOL).

I can see why she may not touch that one.

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

March 4, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

STACEYE You are a damn fool girl!! lmao! Silly self!

Even as a child I never like merry go arounds because they they took yu nowhere and all you got out of the ride was a sick stomach! Such as life…

Truth Why are you attacking Staceye like that? She has not said anyting to you. I stick to my original thought about you. You are RETARDED. I can see you now collecting a check for being 730 AND bloggin during the day. Yup…Pyschotic Nutt on our hands. I do think you are bipolar though. You are TOO back and forth…one day you are as SWEET as pie. The next day you are the world’s 1# DIABOLICIAL HATER! Make up you’re mind you crazy azz loon!!! And oh yeah I dont’ want to hear from you’re PEANUT GALLERY either.

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

LMAO @ Truth The Broad Killa Dayum slim.

By kimmie

March 4, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

Ared Cosign you 10:27. None of mine ever came back correct either.

Sugar I’m with Staceye, why does ANYONE deserve a 2nd chance to mess over you & make your life miserable? Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me!

By SexyLeggs

March 4, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

ARed, when I met him I too wasn’t in the best of places mentally. I had lost my job and my house. I had moved into an apartment and didn’t know anyone. Worked w/his cousin and when he came to visit from NY I escorted him around the ATL. We had a lot of fun together and seemed to want the same things in life. He moved here, found a job and I thought was working toward building a life. A year of dating I got pregnant. We talked about everything and our future. He asked me to marry him and I said yes because I loved him and both our feet seemed to have been on the same path to bettering our lives. Lo and behold I soon realized I was his “muse” to being the mother of his child while he thumped his chest like King Kong bellowing I’m the man and I’ll do what I want. As I’ve stated, I lost myself during these years and concentrated on being a mother and making sure the family survived. Was it my sole responsibility NO. But that what it ended up being until I got the nerve, the belief back in myself that I deserved more. When I got back to being “ME” that’s when I turned back into the “kick a$$” woman you know today.

Darrell, perhaps I worded that wrong. What I meant by that was a lot of women say “how did that happen”. I’m glad he hasn’t crossed over my threshold since moving out becuase I don’t have the stomach to go through the “sweet nothings” that will come out of his mouth in an attempt to get my panties around my ankle. No it won’t happen, but don’t want to turn back into that “beotch” I know I can be. I like where I am, I love who I am, and I just don’t want to be around. Truthfully, I don’t want my daughter to know just how much I don’t like her father. She doesn’t need to know this.

By Sugar

March 4, 2008 11:00 AM | Link to this

Darrell, that’s what I meant. I guess you can say that there are two kinds of love. Love meaning care for, not butterflies in stomach type of love.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 4, 2008 11:00 AM | Link to this

Truth Not trying to figure it out, but it does bring to mind that saying that “nice guys finish last”. I’m over here like, “Dayum! Maybe if I stopped paying my bills and let my FICO score take a dive, I might just meet somebody!” LOL!

By kindeya

March 4, 2008 11:00 AM | Link to this

In my situation, I think its both; I have not moved on yet and I really miss the person. I really do not have a reason why I have not let go because it is not like the dude is calling me every-now-and then giving me false hope. Maybe I really just need a fine brotha to come in my life and help persuade me to move on

By The Truth

March 4, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

Sugar Your posts have me lmao.

Simp “Hell I have a car. Show me the leggs.” Man, you get the award for most laughs with the fewest words. Your shyt has me rolling over here.

Ared maybe I need to stop too. LOL

By Teresa

March 4, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

once an ex, neva the next

By Dan

March 4, 2008 11:03 AM | Link to this

@Kinda

Naw, you may need to get comfortable being by yourself for a minute. But I guess these days cats are playing Captain Save ‘Em, so you never know.

I think I here his theme song in the distance…

Truth, Bruh, good point. Once the “relationship” is over, an autopsy usually reveals that both parties have differing motivations in thier actions.

I’ve said, “now [once] the pressure is off to be together, why can’t we just be.” Assuming we were friendly in the first place.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 4, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs Okay, I got you. I appreciate that clarification. Didn’t want you to feel like I was “piling on”, but I was a lil’ puzzled. ;-)

Sugar Yep. We’re on the same page now. ;-)

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

Red …but I do think you could have said it in a way that made it go down easier.

I don’t think that spoon-feedin’ is one of your boy’s strong suits.

By Staceye

March 4, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

Staceye actually that statement was pointed at you. However, if I say it directly to you everyone thinks I’m jumping on you because your emotionally “stunted Wow..this coming from the mentally stunted! HMMM! It’s easy for you to attack me…but you’re no prize! I am far from a trainwreck…and those who actually know me…know that is true! I am just a focused individual who refuses to let “love” or a man stand in the way of the vision I have for myself. But I guess if it makes your day to insult someone..by all means…attack away! Glad to know I could help! It appears YOU are the one with the problem because everyday you come on this blog and attack me with no end and I actually find it to be quite amusing insert laugh here….*

I have no children and do nor plan on having them because I would never want to procreate with a man who could possibly have your bipolar, anger management needing traits! I would never want to have to apologize to my child for scraping the bottom of the barrell for a father for her/him!

Back to our regularly scheduled program…..

Sexyleggs I agree that girl needs to take Self-Esteem 101!

By Dan

March 4, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

My point is,

If I like the person enough to want to just hang around with her, why does it matter that we once saw each other nekked?

So what? If I like you as a person, it doesn’t mean that I want the draws again, I think you’re cool and want to spend time with you platonically.

Where I get offended is the assertion that I want the puddy again. For one, take me at my word. For two, why would I want the puddy I (may have) given up in the first place. For three, the nerve you express thinking that I’m interested only in your sex.

Really? By that time Dan is insultied by the insinuation, and moved to erase the silly trick from his mind.

By Jazzyone

March 4, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

LMAOFF at looking for a sponsor..

Im looking for a partner..forget a sponsor we can sponsor each other and make things happen..LOL..

SEXYCOOL Don’t make me TOS you overboard..report….LOL!

By Beautiful

March 4, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this

BigD good morning. lovin’ your comments 2day.

By Simp

March 4, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

Truth I sit back and read the posts. I must admit, You guys have helped me out in some situations. You’re very informative. I just show me silly side as my appreciation for all the memebers of the blog.

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

EUREKA! 6’1 story is like that Eric Jerome Dickey novel “Between Lovers” and that mess was crazy stupid too.

SexyLeggs - Thanks for sharing your story. Looks like in the end it all worked out for you.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 4, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

Beautiful Morning to ya. ;-)

By pisces08

March 4, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

@Rell. ^5 9:29 post.

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

March 4, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

I know right, whenever “Sugar” says things about “Kat” I instantly think low self esteem.

By Staceye

March 4, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this

Ah…my sista Blow me…gotta love ya girl!

Sexyleggs Much respect mami!

By Beautiful

March 4, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

Where I get offended is the assertion that I want the puddy again.

then stop callin’ us after the kids are in the bed = booty call. call me and see how i’m doing on your lunch hour, etc. this is not directed totally at you cause i like your posts, just tryin’ to make a point.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 4, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

6’1 “…whenever “Sugar” says things about “Kat” I instantly think low self esteem.”

Agreed. I think “Sugar” is a little low-calorie on the self-esteem.

By SexyLeggs

March 4, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

Darrell, it’s cool. I understand why you asked and I can understand how I may come across like “WTF!” The person I am today is who I’ve always been. Somewhere along the stress of life I put myself on the back burner and took on the role of making sure my family survived. My daughter deserves ALL I can do and give her. He didn’t feel the same way. It took me many years to leave, but I always knew I was leaving. Because I was strong “back in the day” it helped me to find myself again and return to the beautiful black woman I know Iam. No BS. It helped. Some people wake up and some people stay in the mire of bs they dug around themselves. I had to climb out because I’ve always believed I was better than the mess I put myself in.

Please, do not stop paying your bills and do now lower your FICO for some stank puddy, becuase that’s what you’ll get (LOL). You won’t be attracting quality women by doing that. But you already know this (wink wink).

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

I’ve said, “now [once] the pressure is off to be together, why can’t we just be.” Assuming we were friendly in the first place.

Dan, I’ll bite and I’m speaking ONLY for myself. I don’t date anyone that I don’t see a future with. Yes, I do know that everyone you date will not be the one you marry, but why spend time and mix bodily fluids with just anyone?

So when the relationship fails, essentially what’s being said is “you’re not good enough to spend my life with.” That’s some rejection for your azz and not easily reconciled. Thinking of my past break ups, we were friendly, but the end didn’t happen that way. You realize the person you cared for/loved really hurt you.

So like I said before, maybe after months of separation, you can get to that “friendly place.” But for me, often times I see a guy I put my all into who basically looked at me and said, “you ain’t the one.” I have enough friends.

So I’d rather spend my energy in pursuit of the one who will never let me go.

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

…now watching the 3 on 1 melee with Truth in the middle. Dude’s outnumbered but he’s proving to be quite agile. oh ish! Got his azz that time…

Cee How ‘bout a bag of that popcorn… with butter, thanks.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 4, 2008 11:33 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs “But you already know this (wink wink).”

Um, yeah, I do. LOL!

By Dan

March 4, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

@ARed

But that’s what I’m saying, you don’t have to have romantic love with every man you know, do you?

And me personally, I’m not talking about dating. What I’m talking about is the difference in romantic and platonic love. I can be friends with a good person, regardless of how/where we started.

By Beautiful

March 4, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

Sexy i’m finding out that our past/present journeys are very similar. co-sign.

By Hotlanta

March 4, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

We all have baggage. Some of us have a totebag while some of us are carrying a whole 4-piece luggage set. None of us are baggage free. I don’t need to wait 6 months to a year to breath again, espcially when I know the relationship ain’t working for my benefit. I already know my worth and that I am a nice person, etc, etc. My inner voice tells me to move on. I had to curse out one of my ex-girlfriends because she got p** at me because me and this guy broke up one week and I had a date the next week. She was talking bout I need time to mourn. I told her I was mourning while I was with him. Getting over someone is not a one size fits all in Chapter 1. We are all different. Some of us tend to stay stuck on STUPID thinking about an ex, especially a no good ex. While some of us can have the capacity to get out and not think about our ex anymore because it it not about THEM anymore it is about YOU.

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

Red But for me, often times I see a guy I put my all into who basically looked at me and said, “you ain’t the one.”

You were hurt but did he do it? I mean should he have said, “Yeah I’m all in. Let’s get married, blah blah” And then down the line, after 20 years of misery, said, “Fugg it, I’m gone.” Would that be right? I see this same scenario playing out e’ry day.

By SexyLeggs

March 4, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this

…then stop callin’ us after the kids are in the bed = booty call. call me and see how i’m doing on your lunch hour, etc. I am clapping over here. I don’t know how many times I have voiced this, thought it, and simply shook my head when the number came across my caller id w/o even answering the phone. It’s so simple. If you don’t want me to feel like it’s a “booty call”, then call me at reasonable hours. ^5 Beautiful

By The Truth

March 4, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

Blow why is everytime you blow in it reeks of that landfill over in south dekalb? I have figured out why you call everyone bi-polar. It’s an illness a you’re very familiar with. I’m going back thru the last months blogs looking for one thing you’ve ever said that made sense.

Can’t find one.

DasV as tacky as it sounds everyone is sloppy seconds today. Point me to the virgin. Worse than that is emotionally some are not so fresh and so clean clean. The same chicks that come in here professing loyalty do so reserving the right to fugg the next Mr. Right if and when she meets him. This is what adults do. Its not good or bad it just is. Some sit on the sideline for a minute but you gotta get back in the game. It’s life.

Ared “So when the relationship fails, essentially what’s being said is “you’re not good enough to spend my life with.”” I think your processing the info wrong. Basically you are unacceptable to eveyone on the face of the earth but one person. You can’t take everyting personally or it clogs you up like government cheese. Read ” The Four Agremments” and it will shed light on not taking anything personally. It’s never personal. People filter their life thru their shades is all. Someone could, for instance, love you to death but not be at a point where they need those types of binds. They could be contemplating moving back home for instance. It’s not personal. It never is.

Staceye I’ll tell you what. Don’t repond to my posts and I won’t tell you what I think of you. Is that a deal? And remember, it’s not personal. LOL

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

Hotlanta I had to curse out one of my ex-girlfriends because she got p* at me because me and this guy broke up one week and I had a date the next week. She was talking bout I need time to mourn.*

Other than the probability of this girlfriend not having a decent dude in her own corner, can anybody tell me why women do this? You ain’t gon’ EVA hear a dude tell his boy no ish like that.

By 6'1 & luvinit (aka Don' it All)

March 4, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

I agree with all the comments here posted about the “sugar & kat” scenario. I told “sugar” because she was saying that she is cool with it.

By kimmie

March 4, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

Ared - Again cosign.

Dan - Dan, the type of situation you speak of almost never happens. When an ex calls me, I don’t automatically assume it’s for sex unless it’s 2am. And really, I believe most of my exes liked me as a person, but they did not treat me like it when we dated, hence the breakup. So why would I want to assume now they just want to “hang out”? Too many tender feelings! Things really get complicated when either one of you starts dating someone. Think your girl is going to be “cool” with you “hanging out” with your ex, yeah the one you saw “naked”? Or, would you be that “understanding” if your girl called you up & said she was just going to be hanging out “platonically” with her ex? How often would you be accepting of this? Once a week, once a month? Get real, man, the scenario you painted depends on too many factors working out perfectly. Life is messy!

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

Dan - Are we talking about two different things then? This is a dating blog. And we’re talking about dating. You’re confusing me as to your point then if you aren’t talking about dating.

But yeah, if I’m dating you, I have romantic feelings for you. Isn’t that how it’s supposed to go?

Kolla - No he shouldn’t have said that. Which is why we break up and move on.

By The Truth

March 4, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

Hotlanta gotta co-sign that 1136. I do my grieving while processing the end of the situation. Usually when its over its more a relief than anything else.

By 2CPTG©

March 4, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this

my desk is 12 minutes from my front door….I think I’mma get laid for lunch!

Black girl, call me….

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

March 4, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

TRUTH Things would not sound right to you…Because you are a RETARD. You are not all there. But it’s okay though..

By 2CPTG©

March 4, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

Neva mind, Black Girl….you takin’ too long….

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

It’s not personal. It never is.

Truth, that’s not necessarily true. If the point is you don’t want to be with a person, why mistreat someone or cheat on them. That makes it personal.

But fine, if it’s not personal, realize it’s the same when I say I don’t think we can be friends. And lets be real, most men really aren’t trying to be your friend, they just say that so they don’t come off like a bad guy.

kimmie - Amen on your 11:46! Dating on here is definitely like an alternate universe sometimes. One day, the men will talk about how they dogged a chick out…and then the next they’re gonna say their worthy of their friendship. Not buying it.

By 2CPTG©

March 4, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

since Black Girl playin, maybe I can get Venus, the goddess of love, to swoop down and holla at me for lunch….whatcha say freaky Adina???

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 12:00 PM | Link to this

…at the moment it’s 2 on 1; that last one should at least be good for the standin’ 8.

Red No he shouldn’t have said that. Which is why we break up and move on.

That’s real interesting… You put your all into this dude, ready to jump into the wifey position, but if you ain’t it for him, then he no longer exists to you. Sounds like a user disguise to me.

By Raqi

March 4, 2008 12:01 PM | Link to this

I think I’mma get laid for lunch! LOL

By Venus

March 4, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

How you want it Poppy?

By Blog Police Not Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

Blow Things would not sound right to you…Because you are a RETARD. You are not all there. But it’s okay though..

Tap dancin’ on the sideline ain’t’cha?

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this

You put your all into this dude, ready to jump into the wifey position, but if you ain’t it for him, then he no longer exists to you.

Kolla - I wasn’t saying that at all.

By Wow

March 4, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

Good afternoon all… WHAT UP BLOW

By 2CPTG©

March 4, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

Raqi….me and you gon’ have a grown folks discussion….dontcha hate it when you’re at work, and outta nowhere you get horny……you be tryin your damndest to line something up……like now!

By DasV

March 4, 2008 12:09 PM | Link to this

suitin up

By Beautiful

March 4, 2008 12:09 PM | Link to this

if we can put a man on the moon, i really think Verizon can learn how to block a damn phone call on my cell!!! venting.

By The Truth

March 4, 2008 12:09 PM | Link to this

Ared nobodies ever cheated on you because of something you did. They did that for personal satisfaction. You could have been laying it down like Judge Dreadd but the other person has to decide thats what he needs and nothing else. Hell, you could of reminded him of a chick that cheated on him and he’s trying to protect himself. Who knows?

On the being friends afterwards part thats your call. For me its a sign there’s no more amorous feelings there. I’m thru with it. I did date one chick that just brought out bad things in me and I chose not to be friends aftrwards, but that was to keep from taking a charge. Other than that life goes on.

Ask the cats that have cheated which ones did it to hurt their partner.

By DasV

March 4, 2008 12:13 PM | Link to this

ROTFLOL@ if we can put a man on the moon, i really think Verizon can learn how to block a damn phone call on my cell!!! venting.

By 2CPTG©

March 4, 2008 12:15 PM | Link to this

Venus….I just need a quick release…you know one of them sessions where you don’t get all the way naked, you just slide the panties to the side, or step outta one leg……..hur’ up!!!

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 12:15 PM | Link to this

Truth - I wasn’t talking about me. A person may not be cheating to hurt their partner, but folks have done it because they felt their relationship was lacking in a way. If that’s the case, I still see that as being personal.

By 6'1 & luvinit (aka Don' it All)

March 4, 2008 12:18 PM | Link to this

2C, I think I am experiencing one of those moments right now!!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 4, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

Off-topic

Ya’ll need to read this. STUPID!!! :-/

By Venus

March 4, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

Poppy, better yet can I taste you? Don’t want the girls in the office getting jealous after they catch the scent.

By DasV

March 4, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

ROTFLOL@ TouCan uh, huh. grown folk discussion fo real! LOL

before i swoop and handle that for ya…. answer me this: why you wave at me after black gurl??! (stickin to the ‘blog sistas have issues’ protocol)do you like me? do you wanna know my goals in life?? LOL

you know if it were just me and i wasnt representin and out on this forum, you’d be nappin by now!

By Cemeeli

March 4, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

2C What’s the subject again? Jeopardy…

Blue bruh i got my hair done lastnight, guess what it looks like now?

due to Ga. weather i’m outta a lil fluff!

By Staceye

March 4, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this

Darrell I read about that young guy getting gunned down! That si just soooo sad! His mom is over in Iraq risking her life…never thinking her football playing, good grades getting son could be killed in his own neighborhood because he was NOT a gang member!! That is where the youth is going…Gangs! They try to force you into a gang if you do not want to be stupid like them. All these gang members..where were their parents before all this behavior started? Again…another reason not to have kids…this world is going to hell in a store brand ziplock bag! I wouldn’t dare subject another person to it…

By SexyLeggs

March 4, 2008 12:31 PM | Link to this

…hur’ up!!! That was funny!

By UT96

March 4, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

I tend to take a “scorched earth” approach when it comes to break-ups. Once it’s over, it’s over: no communication.period.Move on to the next one. My Reasoning: if the relationship was so great there wouldn’t have been a break up to begin with.

Cavaeat: I don’t know if that approach works when are children involved, strictly looking at it from a single guy’s point of view.

By Raqi

March 4, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

LOL 2Can. Yep. Those are usually the days when he is busy and I have left myself open to hear “See I tried to get at you this morning but you weren’t feeling me.”

Yes, yes, I do know. But sometimes that makes for an explosive si-chee-a-tion the moment he steps thru the door in the evening. The thought of me wanting him lingering in his mind all day long…

Don’t get me started. (DISCLAIMER: LOL)

By Hotlanta

March 4, 2008 12:34 PM | Link to this

I have accused of acting like a man because I ain’t walking aorund with a napkin crying all ova the place once it is over. I have spent my last days and nights laying in the bed crying/listening to Smokey and Marvin talking about AWWWWWWWWWWW Baby come back I love you and his behind is with someone else. Please stop the madness I act like a human being that know when it is ova and knows when and how to move on. NEXT!!!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

March 4, 2008 12:35 PM | Link to this

UT96 “scorched earth”

LOL!!!

By UT96

March 4, 2008 12:36 PM | Link to this

I tend to take a “scorched earth” approach when it comes to break-ups. Once it’s over, it’s over: no communication.period.Move on to the next one. My Reasoning: if the relationship was so great there wouldn’t have been a break up to begin with.

Cavaeat: I don’t know if that approach works when are children involved, strictly looking at it from a single guy’s point of view.

By FCM

March 4, 2008 12:40 PM | Link to this

I was on the every other quarter plan…you know date 3 break up 3 then date 3….yes with the same guy……..The last time he came sniffing around I told him I was not his Booty Call…he could hit the curb or change the pattern……

6 months later we are much better than we ever were.

By Beautiful

March 4, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

Staceye that’s why my boys have cell phones. they hate when i call to check in. keeping them busy is key. signing them up for stuff and supporting whatever they do. yes, it takes a lot of my time, but gotta do it. and of course hugs and kisses. my 8 yr old cannot go to sleep without mom’s kiss.

By Blog Police Not Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

Cee bruh i got my hair done lastnight, guess what it looks like now?

Tha’s aight slim. I’m gon’ give you a pass just on the strength that you got it done on a Monday, as opposed to Thursday/Friday/Saturday, just in time for the weekend. But ummm… keep that scrungee thing and ball cap handy for the pony tail/snatchback. :)

Lady Question: If you’re 5’5/5’6 and dude is 6’2+ and he’s holding the umbrella, do you still get wet?

Staceye They try to force you into a gang if you do not want to be stupid like them. All these gang members..where were their parents before all this behavior started?

Gangs fill the void left by absentee fathers. Some dudes are trifling, some are run off by trifling broads, some never even know they have a kid, etc… Whateva the reason, the kid usually ain’t forced; they seek admittance.

By Staceye

March 4, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

Blue there are instances where they ask are you in a gang..and if you say no, they try to force you to join theirs or threathen to kill you and/or your family. But you are right…I totally agree alot of fatherless homes are where gangs members come from. There is usually and OG running the gang and the kid who seeks a father figure for some strange reason looks to that fool as a role model and whammo…you got another idiot out here gang banging like a d@mn fool. If he would have put that same effort into something positve like school he could get his dumb azz out of the hood via a better life instead of the prison or cemetery! I give much respect to guys who do the Big Brother program. Hoepfully that is one less kid to be a part of the Future Criminals of America!

Beautiful I feel ya mami…but sad to say the way things are today…even that is not enough to protect your babies from these azzholes with no regards for human life!

By Cemeeli

March 4, 2008 12:55 PM | Link to this

Blue snatchback??? Lol…i am not snatchin’ my ‘new do’ back!…not til tomorrow…:). Monday is way better as opposed to closer to the w/e. (Cee doesn’t care for the 2-3 convos going on over her head). Tip: Dominician stylist are bomb!

If you’re 5’5/5’6 and dude is 6’2+ and he’s holding the umbrella, do you still get wet? …random thoughts today eh Blue?

I wouldn’t think so if it’s a pretty large umbrella.

By Flavorrrr Flavvvvvvv

March 4, 2008 12:56 PM | Link to this

Flav needs to apologize to Hotlanta for being so rude. Many American’s have fever blisters (which is Type 1 herpes. (most people have it in their body and don’t know because they don’t get outbreaks.) Fever Blisters are NOT Type 2 Genital herpes. So, read up your facts and get a little educated before you make judgements and say rude things to other people. Flav…get your facts straight.

In case you didn’t know. Fever blisters and canker sores are two of the most common disorders of the mouth, causing discomfort and annoyance to millions of Americans. Both cause small sores to develop in or around the mouth, and often are confused with each other.

Fever blisters are caused by a contagious virus called herpes simplex. There are two types of herpes simplex virus. Type 1 usually causes oral herpes, or fever blisters. Type 2 usually causes genital herpes. Although both type 1 and type 2 viruses can infect oral tissues, more than 95 percent of recurrent fever blister outbreaks are caused by the type 1 virus.

Most people infected with the type 1 herpes simplex virus became infected before they were 10 years old. The virus usually invades the moist membrane cells of the lips, throat or mouth. In most people, the initial infection causes no symptoms. About 15 percent of patients, however, develop many fluid-filled blisters inside and outside the mouth 3 to 5 days after they are infected with the virus. These may be accompanied by fever, swollen neck glands and general aches. The blisters tend to merge and then collapse. Often a yellowish crust forms over the sores, which usually heal without scarring within 2 weeks.

The herpes virus, however, stays in the body. Once a person is infected with oral herpes, the virus remains in a nerve located near the cheekbone. It may stay permanently inactive in this site, or it may occasionally travel down the nerve to the skin surface, causing a recurrence of fever blisters. Recurring blisters usually erupt at the outside edge of the lip or the edge of the nostril, but can also occur on the chin, cheeks, or inside the mouth.

The symptoms of recurrent fever blister attacks usually are less severe than those experienced by some people after an initial infection. Recurrences appear to be less frequent after age 35. Many people who have recurring fever blisters feel itching, tingling or burning in the lip 1 to 3 days before the blister appears.

By Beautiful

March 4, 2008 1:04 PM | Link to this

Staceye yes, i think about that sometimes, but not all the time. death is a part of life and i know that one day or tomorrow my kids will be gone or vise versa. my oldest loves to hang out after games and dances with his pants hangin’ low. no sir!!! not while im freakin’ breathing over here. pull them up before i beat yo a$$! awwww mom. awww mom h3ll. lol.

By Dan

March 4, 2008 1:07 PM | Link to this

@ARed

Yes, this is a dating site. But what I talking about is one way to process the end of a dating relationship.

Why didn’t it work? Maybe I couldn’t see myself being with this person romantically, but that doesn’t mean she’s not wonderful. I like her as a person, just not romantically.

And therein lies my argument, even after we were romantically involved, those feeling for you never go away, they turn into something else. But in an effort to remain (in my mind) a good person, I don’t want you to think that there is something wrong with you. I just didn’t respond on an intimate and lasting level with you.

Does that make sense?

By SexyLeggs

March 4, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

Staceye, it was the same when I was growing up. One big difference is if someone didn’t want to join a gang, you weren’t shot. You got your behind kicked and left short of death. Back then fists were used not so many guns. A few of my friends joined gangs (very prevalent in the Bronx) and that’s when we stopped being friends. I was asked only once to join, but my boniness once again was on my side (LOL).

By Jazzyone

March 4, 2008 1:16 PM | Link to this

Some people are not exposed to any other environment other that their own and it helps to take children outside of their community and let them experience something else.

Many, many gangs members are2nd, 3rd and 4th generation members because that’s all they know and they see their environments as war zones. Many of those people feel like they have to fight till the death for what little they have or what they are lacking to become part of something or get the love they desire from gang members and that’s the only family they know. Freedom Writers was a perfect example of how a child’s life can be changed if taken out of their environments. It’s not as black and white as many people think. Read the book “Monster” or rent the movie and you will see a small window into what we all think is reprehensible to us but sensible to them.

Some of our communities spawn a viscious cycle of depression, poverty, destruction and the like. meanwhile life goes on and the world turns as most look throgh a small window into the world of others that they will never understand and can only sit back and throw judgement on.

It is unfortunate that lives are lost. These issues didn’t just pop up yesterday and they won’t end tomorrow.

By Beautiful

March 4, 2008 1:18 PM | Link to this

Dan has this technique of yours ever worked, being friends after the relationship ended? you have to remember who you are dealing with, females. we are sensitive creatures. if i asked the same question to the both of you, i will bet a years paycheck that your answers will be different/black and white/nite and day.

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 1:21 PM | Link to this

Flavor Flav - What do we owe this public health lesson to, today?

Dan - Of course it makes sense, it just hardly ever plays out that way in reality. Like I told Truth, all of y’all just say you want to be friends, to end up not looking like a bad guy. But your stance is commendable, I guess.

By YOU ARE WRONG FLAVOR FLAV

March 4, 2008 1:22 PM | Link to this

Flavor Flavv Cold sores are a form of herpes. It’s one in the same. Its just on your mouth instead of your privates. Also if you use your mouth for ORALLY satifisation purpose that cold sore will NOW be herpes on a private now. So it’s the same thing.

By Raqi

March 4, 2008 1:25 PM | Link to this

you just slide the panties to the side, or step outta one leg

LOL 2CPTG those quick awkward moments are the hottest.

By Dan

March 4, 2008 1:25 PM | Link to this

Then Beautiful…

Give me my Money!

Yeah, I’m friends with my -ex’s. We had reasoned discussions about where my head was during our relationship, stating that what they wanted from me, I couldn’t give.

Two are married (and I was invited to the weddings), one took the BabyMama route, the other I guess we cool but I haven’t seen her for a while.

That’s what I mean about mutuality, the measured and mutual concern for the future well being of someone else.

Now, I’d like those payments in cash, and you have to make it rain on yourself, while I scoop it up!

Go, Beauty it’s your Birfday! Go, Beauty it’s your Birfday!

By Hotlanta

March 4, 2008 1:25 PM | Link to this

Dan my dear. You can have romantic feelings for someone without getting involved with them sexually. It what is in your heart and not what is in between your legs. People always get it confused. The feelings once it is over can go north or they can go south. When the feelings go south sometimes that can be very destructive. It how we handle our feelings once it is over. You know ehy we stay into relationships longer than we should because we spend tooooooo much time to analyze the siutaion when it is right in front of us and we don’t want to face the music IT IS OVA!!!!!

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 1:27 PM | Link to this

Staceye There is usually and OG running the gang and the kid who seeks a father figure for some strange reason looks to that fool as a role model and whammo…

That’s b/c in his world, that OG represents the Top Dog in the hierarchy of survival/reproduction (animal instincts at work here). Which is why single moms, although you’ve done a helluva job up ‘til now, but at least by 13, if there’s no man in the home, you need to ship that youngin’ off to his pops, if at all possible. A female can not control a males musth.

By Simp

March 4, 2008 1:27 PM | Link to this

Sexy I have a gang that I would like for you to be a part of. First, place your leggs out the nearest window.

By Beautiful

March 4, 2008 1:35 PM | Link to this

Jay i c u lurkin’. lol.

By Cee

March 4, 2008 1:35 PM | Link to this

QUESTION: what is up if you go out with a guy…(meet up at the mall and go for dinner)… when we see each other we talk and trip out @ work, but he doesn’t call. what does that mean? I already know the answer but i feel i need to see it in writing because i was really feeling him.

By Jazzyone

March 4, 2008 1:40 PM | Link to this

Cee Hes not that into you.

By Rell

March 4, 2008 1:41 PM | Link to this

http://youtube.com/watch?v=JOPp-Y0AupE

good docu on black panther party that spawned modern day gangs..deep stuff

By Simp

March 4, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

Hello Beaut. You miss me. I miss you too.

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 1:43 PM | Link to this

Beautiful my oldest loves to hang out after games and dances with his pants hangin’ low. no sir!!! not while im freakin’ breathing over here. pull them up before i beat yo a$$! awwww mom. awww mom h3ll.

You’ve just run 23.6 miles of the marathon. The last and most important mile was bashin’ his azz for lippin’ back.

Cee what is up if you go out with a guy…(meet up at the mall and go for dinner)… when we see each other we talk and trip out @ work, but he doesn’t call.

Ummm… his phone is cut off??

By SexyLeggs

March 4, 2008 1:44 PM | Link to this

Simp, you’re crazy.

Speaking of gangs. Before asking to be in one, I ran from one. Don’t know if it was fright or athleticism that had me moving at the speed of light, but I was hauling a$$. I joined the track team the next day. Had to do something with my time besides studying and going to the library. The apple doesn’t fall too far froom the tree. Lil leggs gets it from (as a matter of fact, she’s running the exact races I ran in h.s.).

By 900K aka Mr 2008

March 4, 2008 1:45 PM | Link to this

What up!

always forwad Im movin…Never backwards Ex to the next for me.

Not goin back to the top readin so whats new? Staceye, Blow, Das, Truth what ya fightin bout 2day?

Cee - how u? If he doesnt call then the interest is not there, dont get mad tho cause it dont mean you aint fly he just may have a different type he goes after and doesnt want to waste your time and lead you on.

By Rell

March 4, 2008 1:45 PM | Link to this

life after death

http://youtube.com/watch?v=ra3tgt8s0Y0

By Beautiful

March 4, 2008 1:46 PM | Link to this

Cee doesn’t that just suck! you like a guy but he doesn’t like you. but trust me, he’s in the same situation. he likes a gal, but she doesn’t like him. dang.

By kimmie

March 4, 2008 1:47 PM | Link to this

Hotlanta - I agree, when it’s ova, it’s ova. Dan - What you are saying is very nice, and if it worked for you, cool. I have a hard time believing everything worked out in a neat little package like you present it on here. At the very least, some time probably passed before you came to such an enlightened understanding with each ex. And I’m sure you did not “hang out” with the ones that are married while they were dating their future husbands. And call me immature, but if you broke up with me, then came at me with the nice-guy routine about how you don’t feel all romantic & erthang about me, but I am still wonderful, I’d probably get mad all over again!LOL I might wonder, well why in the h—- does a nice guy like him not want me if I’m supposed to be so wonderful?! Naw, it’s just better if we make a clean break. If I see you on the street, I’ll say hi, I wish you the best, but let’s move on.

By Raqi

March 4, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

As anyone ever felt like they have a cyber stalker. Ya know like someone has studied your life (comments) and when reading them it’s just too familiar to be a coincidence.

By Cemeeli

March 4, 2008 1:53 PM | Link to this

Which is why single moms, although you’ve done a helluva job up ‘til now, but at least by 13, if there’s no man in the home, you need to ship that youngin’ off to his pops, if possible.

Possible, but my lil dude is not going anywhere.

So…yea i guess you just “spoke” the man into Lil Cee’s rearing at the house.

By Simp

March 4, 2008 1:55 PM | Link to this

Beaut. Take out to dinner and break him off. I will like you back then.

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 1:57 PM | Link to this

kimmie - You are my kindred spirit today. I’m with you on your 1:47 100%

I actually dealt with this this weekend. I was dating a guy not too long ago that I felt was perfect for me. An extenuating circumstance presented itsself early in the process and he decided that he couldn’t deal with it at the time. He told me he’d never connected with someone like he did with me, so he really wanted to be friends. Yeah right. We hung out once and it was cool. He sent me a text recently to say that he has a new girlfriend and that we probably shouldn’t speak again. So much for friends. But he did sent me a text message a couple weeks ago wanting some azz. Typical!

By Cemeeli

March 4, 2008 1:58 PM | Link to this

900K hey guy stay focused, K?…writing style :-) …BTW how did the tournament go?

By Beautiful

March 4, 2008 1:59 PM | Link to this

Raqi speak of the devil. 1:55. lol.

By Dan

March 4, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

Well, Kimmie, that’s you.

I try to deal with reasonable people capable of dealing in their emotions. And no, it wasn’t “we break up Monday and I call you Tuesday”. There were weeks in between contact.

But I’ll call, to see how you are, and instead of the conversation leading to “what happened” that’s how I begin: ” I think you’re an awesome woman, with an intelligence the likes of which I haven’t seen….but I can’t be what you wanted me to be for you. I’m just not that dude right now. But I enjoy talking to you, and would like ot continue doing so….”

I don’t date strangers, I date friends, whether they were strangers when we met or before we got down, if we dating, we’re friends first.

So maybe that’s why it works. But they move on, I’m happy for them, and I do too. Get fie,fie Christmas and Birthday cards and the whole nine.

Speaking of, Beautiful, wheere’s my monee!!!

By Cee

March 4, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this

Sorry….i think i took someone’s screen name. my bad.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

March 4, 2008 2:04 PM | Link to this

Cee -we have game 1 tonight then When we win semi’s is Thursday. What you talkin bout stay focused… writing style???

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 2:06 PM | Link to this

Cee So…yea i guess you just “spoke” the man into Lil Cee’s rearing at the house.

I don’t know how you meant that, but see where I said, “if possible”.

Something else… somewhere between 14 and 17, more like 15 & 16, EVERY young male is gonna challenge the authority that his parents/caregivers have over him. Believe me, EVERY dude that I’ve ever known that had a pops in the crib, had a story about getting or dayum near gettin’ knocked the fugg out by daddio as a teen.

For those without pops, they usually end up running the crib and doing as they please b/c when the explosion comes moms will either cower physically, or get her feelings hurt and further spoil and damage the kid through relaxed rules/standards and gifting items of material worth.

By kimmie

March 4, 2008 2:06 PM | Link to this

Ared/Dan - See what I mean, with Ared’s 1:57?!!! And Dan, you get insulted if ex assumes you want the azz, but too many of your brothers are out for just that! Sounds like he was a nice guy, but just had to try get some just the same. Yes, Ared, very typical!

By Beautiful

March 4, 2008 2:09 PM | Link to this

Dan i’ll get back to you on that. placing an order now for my stripper pole. can’t make it rain without a pole.

btw, loving the date friends thingy.

By Cee

March 4, 2008 2:09 PM | Link to this

@blu kolla…..LOL. I got it.

By Dan

March 4, 2008 2:11 PM | Link to this

@Kimmie

Typical: n, meaning average, commonplace among: individuals, groups, area.

So you’re saying that you’ve met, dated, and broken up with enough men to represent a statistical sample indicative of the male specie?

If so, you statement to ARed is valid. If not, nothing is typical, just common to your relationships. In the latter case, it might not be the guys. It may be you.

QED— Thus it is proved

By melo

March 4, 2008 2:12 PM | Link to this

But he did sent me a text message a couple weeks ago wanting some azz. for such an important request,i wld rather make it face to face!!

U’all off da mather fckling chain today, sorry i cant be in long….this thang is winding dwn!!

By Cemeeli

March 4, 2008 2:14 PM | Link to this

Cee hi, my name is Cemeeli and blog fam respond to you and I as Cee the same…you don’t have to change moniky just hope the fam find a new way to say. Cee, C, CeeCee…small stuff.

900K -stay focused… writing style??? There is another Cee ^^^. Then WHEN you all win keep it up! …i got 3 calling post today about a dang baseball practice…thinking does he have a WINDOW?! i just got a new do.

By Jazzyone

March 4, 2008 2:15 PM | Link to this

No problem we split up take his little as witcha and catch that dayum dog on the way out as well…no worries here…I would prefer that becasue we don’t need anymore momas boys running round..a little boy needs more than a mother he needs a male influence in his life period end of story…there is not a woman alive that can teach a little boy how to be a man.

Otherwise he grows up simpin’ and whinnin instead of pimpin and grindin’…and I mean this in the nicest way possible.

By Rell

March 4, 2008 2:16 PM | Link to this

DAYUM…LEAST WE KNOW NOW THAT PEANUT AS THAT RED SNAPPER….NOW I REALLY WANNA SEE WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE…..SUP PEANUT

By The Truth

March 4, 2008 2:16 PM | Link to this

BK there are 5 and 10 year old kids running mums. Alot of chicks just can’t get with giving that life questioning azz wuppin that little dude needs. They don’t have to worry tho, the world is gonna turn his azz inside out.

By Raqi

March 4, 2008 2:17 PM | Link to this

Just because it’s raining and I am ready to go home:

For the month of April I have been invited to two birthday parties, one wedding, a baby shower, a piano recital and a lingerie party. All of those events are going to cost me money except the recital. sigh

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

Red An extenuating circumstance presented itsself early in the process and he decided that he couldn’t deal with it at the time. He told me he’d never connected with someone like he did with me, so he really wanted to be friends. Yeah right. We hung out once and it was cool. He sent me a text recently to say that he has a new girlfriend and that we probably shouldn’t speak again. So much for friends. But he did sent me a text message a couple weeks ago wanting some azz.

I gotta call bull ish on you for this one, dayum. Extenuating circumstances? So what was it that he couldn’t deal with, you had a herpes breakout? needed to borrow some cash? Recently, yoll hung out once but then he’s got a new girl and you can’t call. And then he ask for the draws just 2 weeks ago. He must’ve already hit to just come out with the draws requisition. You funny as hayo; I give ya dat!!

By Cemeeli

March 4, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

Blue I agree to a certain extent …EVERY young male is gonna challenge the authority that his parents/caregivers have over him. But it you recall - EVERY male child did not have a daddio that knock him out and turned out just fine.

moms will either cower physically, or get her feelings hurt and further spoil and damage the kid… b/c i can’t say HELLZ NO softly imma go first. agree to disagree.

By Jazzyone

March 4, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

A woman trying to teach a little boy how to be a young man and grow into a grown man will break his spirit before she makes him a man…

By Call_her_on_it

March 4, 2008 2:24 PM | Link to this

She is quite entertaining isn’t she Blue?!

By Rell

March 4, 2008 2:25 PM | Link to this

@jazzy

Otherwise he grows up simpin’ and whinnin instead of pimpin and grindin’…and I mean this in the nicest way possible.

if i would have said this someone(peanut) would have her thong up her arse…but i cosign it…

By The Truth

March 4, 2008 2:28 PM | Link to this

Fellas, step away from the mike and let Jazzy talk to em. Now this is the gospel. LOL

By 900K aka Mr 2008

March 4, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

Bizzarro Cee - welome to the bunch, dont sweat the non calls. He probably aint ready for you…

Cemeeli -baseball huh? thats a good look… I just joined the softball team @ work it starts next week. New do? Natural or Yakkie???

Rell aka All CAPS -I see you gettin at em! You skip lunch today?

By Rell

March 4, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

@blue…man i was not going to comment on it…the thing was he was creeping and got a fresh green chick…so he left his babies on the face and then came with the girlfriend game….thats all it was….i mean its weak…but thats the A for you…PAAC men missing up the game…so yea peanut he had a lady from hello…he got ghost when the lady got on his trail….classic mother/child relationship he is in..but i digress…but we know you got that snapper now!!!!!

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 2:32 PM | Link to this

Jazzy No problem we split up take his little as witcha and catch that dayum dog on the way out as well…

well since you wanna be like that… you dayum right! Gimme my minutha finuckin sineed! And I’ll take Rocky too; you can keep that ponk azz cat. I ain’t neva liked no nikka named Elvis N E WAY!

By Raqi

March 4, 2008 2:34 PM | Link to this

Jazzy that is the one area where I am having to really learn to deal with. All of their life I have tried to do what was best for my sons in hopes of them growing to be good men. And now that Mason is in the house, I get blocked (privately) on a lot of things because he says I should do things differently when it comes to them. He is always saying ‘You can’t do them like that’, ‘You need to let them this, that and the other’, ‘They are men let them make those mistakes’. I understand that he is a man and he knows better than I do but a mother’s love can’t be extinguished.

By 2CPTG©

March 4, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

Thanks for lunch, Shawty; we’lll have to do it again sometime!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

March 4, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this

BK EVERY young male is gonna challenge the authority that his parents/caregivers have over him. Me and my ex already had this discussion and he (ex) wants to go the Boyz n the Hood route as well, which I have no problem with. I know women do it everyday, raise a son without the father. However, my son is fortunate that his father is very active in his life and when that time comes I will hand him over. I wont like it, but I would rather we get him than a judge

By Cemeeli

March 4, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this

…”general advice” is not for every mother/son resolution. Are we assuming b/c the male figure is not at the crib or the child doesn’t live w/daddy then it’s down hill for little boy to grow to be a real man?

Blue I hear you and may need more convincing on passin’ the child. But of course the closer he gets to that age it’ll be clearer…and lots of prayer.

There is no way a woman can teach a little boy to me a man.

By melo

March 4, 2008 2:39 PM | Link to this

He must’ve already hit to just come out with the draws requisition BK u spoil the fun for all of us, dont u?!!! why dnt u just sit back and let the sistas hndle their testimonies….just offer sme consoling wrds here & there if need be…

By Raqi

March 4, 2008 2:39 PM | Link to this

2CPTG Who did you go to lunch with? Inquiring minds want to know. LOL

By Alvin

March 4, 2008 2:40 PM | Link to this

A woman trying to teach a little boy how to be a young man and grow into a grown man will break his spirit before she makes him a man…

Jazzy you are wrong for posting with common sense.

Yeah, I am friend with most of my exs. Do I try to hit…nope.

By kimmie

March 4, 2008 2:40 PM | Link to this

Dan - I have a Webster’s, thank you! And I’m not criticizing you or how you roll. You are obviously “not” typical if you are able to make things work so smoothly at the end of a relationship. In fact, if what you say is true, that makes you exceptional in MY book. When I say typical, I mean typical of the guys women usually complain about when they post on this blog. Yes, in “my” little statistical sample of men I have dated, we are not at each other’s throat, but we are not all chummy either when we break up. Much like any other male or female that share their experiences on the blog. I believe in the good in most people and I believe most don’t set out to intentionally hurt others. A lot of people have a hard time even breaking up with a person because they don’t want to hurt their feelings, especially if they still believe that other person is a good person. I believe what Ared said, a lot of guys (and women, for that matter) like to throw out that they want to be friends to not come off as bad. Somehow, the “friend” offer lessens the blow. You said you don’t go back & try to get the azz - it’s been MY observation just living life this long that quite a few men do! Your behavior is exemplary, some others, not so. It’s hurtful to have a man say kind things to you, like you mentioned in your 2:00 post and then in the next breathe, ask for some azz. It’s a slap in the face! If there are kids involved, I think you owe them to try to salvage some type of friendship. Why do some people have such a hard time with the concept of one not wanting to remain friends with an ex if there are no kids? What’s wrong with just wanting to keep it moving? I have exes right now that if they needed anything, I care enough about them as a person to help them. Others I never want to lay eyes or ears on again - sorry, it’s not pretty but it is what it is.

By Ol'Skool Lurkin

March 4, 2008 2:45 PM | Link to this

Dan- Dude, seems like you don’t know how to move on. After we’ve done the duty and it didn’t work, time goes by. I get someone new and you get someone new. Be friends for what? No, I don’t hate you or anyone else.

Outside of relatives, most people serve a purpose in your life if you admit it. As your new girlfriend, I would have a problem with all of your so-called “friends” that you used to f*******. Are you are playing mind games with the new chick or just can’t get another girlfriend?

By Ol'Skool Lurkin

March 4, 2008 2:45 PM | Link to this

Dan- Dude, seems like you don’t know how to move on. After we’ve done the duty and it didn’t work, time goes by. I get someone new and you get someone new. Be friends for what? No, I don’t hate you or anyone else.

Outside of relatives, most people serve a purpose in your life if you admit it. As your new girlfriend, I would have a problem with all of your so-called “friends” that you used to f*******. Are you are playing mind games with the new chick or just can’t get another girlfriend?

By Cee

March 4, 2008 2:45 PM | Link to this

raqi as a young woman out here dating young men that have been raised by single mothers…please listen to advice from the males in your life (only if it’s good advice…though)

By Cemeeli

March 4, 2008 2:45 PM | Link to this

900K Lol at you teasing my mop. It’s my mop dude. Softball w/the co-workers is funny! …for real…

By Staceye

March 4, 2008 2:47 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs I was asked only once to join, but my boniness once again was on my side LMAO!

How did Lil’ Leggs do at her track meet this past Saturday? I know that you went…

By HOUSTON DUDE a/k/a Catlady

March 4, 2008 2:48 PM | Link to this

I knew you were taking THROAT BABIES…..You were the same one saying dudes know not to come at you with the out of pocket stuff. But yeah you the MAIN one get treated like a GRADE A JUMPOFF!! CRAZY SLORE!!

By Alvin

March 4, 2008 2:48 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli being rise by a single mother, she was suck once I hit 14…but I was bless to have a positive uncle in my life who taught me how to man up!! In other areas of my life..Thanks God for him.

My street uncles taught me how to be a h0e and dress sharp…Thanks God for them as well.

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

Raqi He is always saying ‘You can’t do them like that’, ‘You need to let them this, that and the other’, ‘They are men let them make those mistakes’. I understand that he is a man and he knows better than I do but a mother’s love can’t be extinguished.

Naah slim, more like wanting to be the one that takes the pic at the finish line. Instead of handing off the baton, so that dude (Mason) can bring it on home, you don’t want to give up the stick. What’chu gon’ end up doin’ is dropping the stick and disqualifying the team. Let that man handle those young men. Trust me, there’s room in the Winner’s Circle for all to shine.

By Raqi

March 4, 2008 2:52 PM | Link to this

kimmie A friend of mines says that she was never able to be friends with the ones she loved after a breakup. It is too hard. And from experience I know that it is easier for the ones you loved to get back in if you keep fueling the fire.

By Jazzyone

March 4, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

Im just now reading your post Blue_K laughing my a* off..well take Rocky and baybay kid den..shawteh..ROTF!!!

Raqi I gothca its good that he has a male influence but what can come out of your mouth to him or the way you do things as mom can break his spirit and I realize thats not your intent.. having your husband around to do what hes doing will shape him and mold him into being a man…a son will always love his moms and will kill for her..no worries you are blessed

By Dan

March 4, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

Uh, Lurkin

I keep girlfriends, but I can also keep female friends. It’s not about “moving on” but be an adult, if it didn’t work out, why can’t you be friends. Dig it, it’s not like we talk everyday but, when we do talk, there is genuine concern.

But maybe you want to check yourself dude if you go from being in love to not being concerned about the person if you see them. Might be something wrong in your character.

By 6'1 & luvinit (aka Don' it All)

March 4, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

lmao at 900k (Bizzarro Cee)

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

Dan - Typical on a whole. I’ve got friends, who’ve got friends. Girls talk and we know that there is some “typical” male behavior out there. It might be statistically accurate, but not everything is meant to be broken down to the .00001 power.

Blue_Kolla - We hung out once after we decided to be “just friends.” The last time we hung out was in December. It’s March now. But the text message for azz was just a couple weeks ago, but now he has a girl. Hope it’s clear to you now.

By Raqi

March 4, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

Blue that’s what I said. It is hard to let that part of they parenting go when all I have ever wanted for them is the best. I accept the fact that he can teach them as a man. But he will never have the love for them that I do. My love for them allows me to let him handle it.

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

Mo I wont like it, but I would rather we get him than a judge.

Now, that’s real mother’s love.

Cee But of course the closer he gets to that age it’ll be clearer…

Not trying to convince you, just givin it to you straight. But honestly I’ve met a lot of women with your same attitude, but change it up when shorty hits around 13. That’s when they realize, and some who have the option, become grateful for their kid(s) father. Life is a progression.

Cee II raqi as a young woman out here dating young men that have been raised by single mothers…please listen to advice from the males in your life

Now who better to testify, than the front-line customer of your handy work?

By kimmie

March 4, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

Raqi - Yes, you get what I’m saying. Trying to tell a friend of mine that now, keeps letting ex come around & taking calls. Then, feelings are hurt, cause he treats her like a jumpoff!

By 6'1 & luvinit (aka Don' it All)

March 4, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

Raqi ^5 on your 2:52. Kimmie I am living proof

By DreamsMaterialize

March 4, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

I don’t think anyone is saying that it’s downhill just because a father isn’t in the home. I think more than a few cats on this blog (including me) have admitted to being raised by a single mom. The key to raising a boy to be a man is STAYING ON THAT A*! That’s just something a father is more proficient at. We don’t coddle, we don’t appease, we don’t let up. You’re gonna handle your biz or bust your a^s trying. He has to know that no matter how valid or real his obstacles are, no one is going to acknowledge those as reasons for failure. At the end of the day, people want results, not reasons.

By melo

March 4, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

It’s hurtful to have a man…. the next breathe, ask for some azz cmon kimmie why u putting so much value in the azz that he has hit already anyway?? If he does u a lil favor,its simple, invite him hme for drinks and a lil azz or sleep over.Its not that serious..untill u have smeone permanent to fill that void….we need luv in this world,not too much complexity!!

By SexyLeggs

March 4, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

Staceye, she did a great job. Had more competition this time from McNair (3rd place) and Stephenson (2nd) place. Her school came in first. Overall she came in 2nd in all her races. Her form is fabulous and right out the gait she’s zooming.

I’m co-signing you BK. Raqi, let Mason do what he knows best. Your love will still shine through and the boys will respect you for partially turing over the reigns to a more qualified constituent!

By Cemeeli

March 4, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

Alvin being raised by a single mother, she was stuck once I hit 14.

14??? lil dude is 8 and i’m already knowing he’s gonna need a new handle in 2y. I don’t/wont step in when the men in my family take him for a ride.

By Cee

March 4, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this

raqi don’t get me wrong there are alot of good men that come from single parent homes, but there are alot of men who have been handicapped by this. They grow up with their mother hoovering over them and sometimes even making excuses for their behavior calling it “a mothers love” When they are men and are expected to be productive citizens and providing fathers they fall short. They are looking for the same hoovering from the world that they got at home.

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this

Melo u spoil the fun for all of us, dont u?!!! why dnt u just sit back and let the sistas hndle their testimonies…

Dude, check this… I’ve seen slugs, quarters on strings, straws in slots, magnets and all types of other bull ish used to get a game goin’, but when a slim comes up with a $3 bill, I gotta call security.

By kimmie

March 4, 2008 3:12 PM | Link to this

Dreams - You sound just like my hair stylist. He has a son, and he don’t take no shyt off him, but he is growing up to be a fine young man. His wife is there, but he tells me all the time there are things only a father can show him. My boyfriend is the same with his son.

By Cee

March 4, 2008 3:13 PM | Link to this

raqi don’t get me wrong there are alot of good men that come from single parent homes, but there are alot of men who have been handicapped by this. They grow up with their mother babyin over them and sometimes even making excuses for their behavior calling it “a mothers love” When they are men and are expected to be productive citizens and providing fathers they fall short. They are looking for the same treatment from the world, the work place, their wife/girlfriend that they got at home.

By Ol'Skool Lurkin

March 4, 2008 3:15 PM | Link to this

Dan- I can have a civil conversation with an old love, but I’m not going out of my way to call them and stuff unless there’s a death in the family or something.

The energy that you put into maintaining old relationships would probably be more beneficial towards the current girlfriend! If I were that “concerned” about the old love I would have stayed with her to make it work!

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 3:16 PM | Link to this

Kolla - How are you getting a $3 bill? What part is confusing to you?

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

Dreams/Cee I I don’t think anyone is saying that it’s downhill just because a father isn’t in the home.

Thanks man.

Raqi My love for them allows me to let him handle it.

looking at’chu sideways like the security dude at the airport looking at your license for the 5th time.

Aight…

By Cemeeli

March 4, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

Blue yea it’s all straight. I got it. Now from this mother/son relationship which is cast iron…& to pass him will take a lot more thought b/c of me and my family’s investment into his life. That’s why i diverged the “doesn’t have to leave mama’s to be a real man” stmnt earlier. …no attitude wit it… Not all alone in this thing & not the chief teaching or tryin’ to teach him to be a man.

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

March 4, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

I am so thankful that I have brothers when it comes to rearing my son. He fears them like no other. He straightens up with just a telephone call. He is not really scared of his dad. He got in trouble one day at school and I called his dad. When I put him on the phone he was rolling his eyes and everything. When I got the phone back, he was mumbling under his breath he ain’t no real daddy. I was like dayuum. I told his dad that and it hurt his feelings, but he didn’t change. All he is a CS check. He has even went as far as saying you don’t need my money you make two times more than me. You just being a mean vindictive bytch.

By kimmie

March 4, 2008 3:19 PM | Link to this

melo - You cute!!! But if I don’t put some value on it, no one else will:)!!!

By The Truth

March 4, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

Dreams gotta co-sign that one. I was raised by a single mom but with strong male influences. Even moms was tougher than a rattlesnake tho. I go back to my elem school and meet a woman that was there when I graduted. We talked and all she could talk about is when moms slapped the principle for paddling me. Then she took me home and wupped my azz. That was before that kinda thing was called assault. Also, back then any of the men that was in the loop would wupp that azz good. I remember a cat straight putting the nials to me. I’m like, man I’m 10 years old. Those were the days.

I also give alot of credit to some young cats that took me under their wing when I went in the army at 17. They layed alot out for me including credit, finances, life skillz. These cats upped my skill level significantly. I stay in touch with a few and enjoy swapping stories about what happened. I didn’t even know what credit was. It’s tough growing up poor. LOL

By Beautiful

March 4, 2008 3:26 PM | Link to this

6’1 just brush it off. fathers are selfish (some) when it comes to CS. do me a favor. the next time you talk to his father, tell him that you don’t want his money and you’ll drop off lil man this weekend full-time, you want the visitation and paying CS. no man (some) wants the responsibility. trust me on this, i tried it!!!

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 3:26 PM | Link to this

kimmie - You better tell em. LOL (3:19)

By Beautiful

March 4, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this

6’1 and watch him as he wiggles his way out of it saying he got styt to do, etc.

By Rell

March 4, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this

@peanut…basically it means you fake

By Raqi

March 4, 2008 3:31 PM | Link to this

Blue I don’t care what you say. Really I don’t. You can look at me side ways or any other way you choose. Mason hasn’t always been an immediate part of our lives. I had to do it by myself for a long time. In all my trying I made a mistakes. But I tried. I did all and still do all I know to do as a mother that wants the best for her kids. If I had never married Mase I would still be trying to do the best that I can alone.

I appreciate what he does. And like I said because I love my boys I step back and let a man teach them.

By Dan

March 4, 2008 3:34 PM | Link to this

@Lurkin

I’m not just calling them. They call me too, married or not. It’s the concern you show for someone you’ve cared about.

At least that how it is for me and my -ex’s.

But every subsequent girlfriend gets my undivided attention. There is no crossover in that arena.

But some things, to a man, you well know can’t be worked out.

By Dan

March 4, 2008 3:34 PM | Link to this

@Lurkin

I’m not just calling them. They call me too, married or not. It’s the concern you show for someone you’ve cared about.

At least that how it is for me and my -ex’s.

But every subsequent girlfriend gets my undivided attention. There is no crossover in that arena.

But some things, to a man, you well know can’t be worked out.

By Alvin

March 4, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli because some of y’all single mothers forget that…loose the ‘tude…it’s all the same. Positive male role model goes a long way, no matter the child’s age.*

I do a lot of volunteer work also, you would be surprise at how some women try to hold onto the sons.

And yo A$$ don’t count, you’re doing a Helluva job as is.

Now come over here and give me a non-church like hug with full grind effect.

By Cemeeli

March 4, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

Dreams/Blue I hope you saw were i was speaking back to the “general advice” commented. Not to what you have posted in regards to that saying ‘boy not going downhill w/o man at the crib.’

Cee’s boy know, I do not let off his @ when he want to go left with it.

…he feels like he want to have an attitude b/c i work him over….okay i got chu’ soon as the men in my fam look at me and i nod ‘he going for a ride’. then we appreciate mom dukes more…

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 3:36 PM | Link to this

As your new girlfriend, I would have a problem with all of your so-called “friends” that you used to f*.

Ladies, this is a good point. Would you have a problem if most of your man’s “homegirls” are girls he dated and had relations with?

By Staceye

March 4, 2008 3:36 PM | Link to this

Kimmie I don’t blame you mami…I refuse to give the EX sex! I’d do a stranger first! Obviously we broke up for a reason and I don’t want any of your “lovin”! Familiarity has too much value!

Dreams I agree with you about a man raising a boy…but ony if he is a good man himself. Some fathers aren’t worth the skin they are in…so the child is better off with the mom and if she has male relatives she can get them to intervene.

Cee * co-sign your 3:13. Its what I said in another post in the past! Women coddle the boys too much and give them Baby Boy syndrome! There is NO WAY a grown azz man will be living in my crib. If he is in school he will also have a part time job and I will make him pay soome bills. As a high school student he would have a part time gig and out of each check pay $25. It’s not much but it shows that this life is not free. Technically if I am not hurting, the $25 would be going a secret account so when he goes off to college he gets it back.

Melo that is why the act of making love has been watered down to straight f#cking! Nobody values the act of 2 people being intimate!

6’1 What your baby daddy fails to realize is..that you make good money, true. But you did not make the boy by yourself..so besides already taking all the rearing responsibities…he expects you to take the financial ones too! Yet another dude who should have been forced into a vasectomy! LOL

By Demi

March 4, 2008 3:38 PM | Link to this

melo - You cute!!! But if I don’t put some value on it, no one else will:)!!!

Now heading over to craigslist to check the street value of pdussy these days.

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

March 4, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

Thanks for the advice Bootiful ( I thought u dind’t luv me n.e. more)

By Beautiful

March 4, 2008 3:41 PM | Link to this

Dan are you dating now? if yes, what does she got to say about all of this? is she ok with you getting calls from ex’s? or do you hide the call. for example, Angie will be listed under the name plumber in your phonebook.

By Raqi

March 4, 2008 3:41 PM | Link to this

But it ain’t easy.

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

I’m not just calling them. They call me too, married or not. It’s the concern you show for someone you’ve cared about.

Well, Dan, just to let you know that I’m not totally heartless after a break up, I will be sending one of my exes a card in a few weeks. It’s the one year anniversary of his dad’s death and I’ll let him know that I feel for his loss. Still doesn’t mean I need to talk to him tho. LOL

I refuse to give the EX sex! I’d do a stranger first!

Staceye - I’m with you on that. You gotta keep that mentality to avoid falling into the rabbit hole again (or onto the diznick). LOL

By Beautiful

March 4, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this

ARed i was just asked this question last week. and i told him that i wouldn’t have a problem with it and i would expect him to have friends that are females.

By melo

March 4, 2008 3:47 PM | Link to this

They call me too, married or not. It’s the concern you show for someone you’ve cared about. dude, u sounding like a real player.u tell me u have a boatful of exes, sme married and others still single, but all crying on ur lap?!! So u hit them and spit them, is that right? Otherwise why wld they still be calling u if they arent hurt and still trying to get with u?

By Staceye

March 4, 2008 3:48 PM | Link to this

Ared Would you have a problem if most of your man’s “homegirls” are girls he dated and had relations with I am actually very cool with a guy I dated we actually were friends before we dated and realized we argued like cats and dogs while dating so we went back to being friends. We have nothing romantic going on. We talk from time to time and I help him out on business ventures because I have knowledge of computer programs and accounting. But his girlfriend asked him hade we dated and said no. I asked why he didn’t tell her..her said that she would trip if we remained friends! So I don’t know how to really say yes or know to your question. As a friend I say it’s nothign worng with it..but if I were the girl I am not sure how I’d feel. I am not insecure…but trust is something I am familiar with!

By Cemeeli

March 4, 2008 3:49 PM | Link to this

…while walking over to give my boi Alvin a huge…

Staceye gotta put you down first!

Some fathers aren’t worth the skin they are in…so the child is better off with the mom and if she has male relatives she can get them to intervene.

Which is why it worked out better for a lot of single parent households. …all i’m sayin’…

If i gotta go get n ask for bootcamp/halfway house CO myself, lil Cee is not heading down whe www.lilsimpinwimp.com!

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 3:49 PM | Link to this

Beautiful - Female friends are one thing. Female friends he used to boink are quite another. LOL.

By Dan

March 4, 2008 3:53 PM | Link to this

I’m kinda dating. But in the questionnare question “how’s your relationship with your -ex’s?” Response “Fine, I just spoke to her.”

So they always know.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

March 4, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli - your mop is good w/ me!

6’1” -what up to ya! keep it goin with the young man… I know its hard but he needs to know that although poppa is sorry he got great uncle’s on his side so look to them for role models instead of some off-brand street dudes. take pride in the people that are in your life instead of thinkin about those who are not

By Staceye

March 4, 2008 3:56 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli no doubt mami! Some people think just having a man around that is a kid’s father is key..no he actually has to be worthy of immulation for that boy. If a sorry father figure raises a biy and lead by example…what do you think his son will become. Now there are some instance where the boy has strong mind of his own and uses his sorry pops as a “What I don’t want to be when I grow up” manual. They then do everything the total opposite of their father! Which in case, the sorry pops actually helped. But how often do you see that?

By Doc Demi

March 4, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

Staceye I am down with men having force vasectomy, but to be fair, some women needs to have there ovaries knocked out…be like:

Doc Demi: Young lady, is that child #4?

Ms.knockupstaya: Yes.

Doc Demi: And do you know the father of La..Lamaqita? F/K type of name is this?

Ms.Knockupstaya: Yes…ummm, no…Not really. I just met him.

Doc Demi: Oooooookay. Now dropping pant Sound like I am going to have to beat them ovaries out…Sorry, No Child Left Behind Act. said while using the good buddy smile This won’t hurt a bit!

Ms.Knockupstaya, pass the F/K out at the sight of Doc Demi’s ovaries removers.

By SexyLeggs

March 4, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

I know why they still call you Dan. He’s merely a friend W/O benefits. Is wisdom and outlook on things still intrigue them and they prefer to talk w/someone w/some sense. Am I even close Dan?

My exs still call just to say hello. Some call in attempt to hit it, and those are knocked down immediately. Yet, there are some friends who call just to say hello. I have one guy who calls and tells me about his women exploits and we laugh together. Sometimes I even tell him what he’s doing wrong.

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

But his girlfriend asked him hade we dated and said no.

See Staceye, that’s why we gotta keep on leaving those exes alone. He straight lied on her arse.

The one friend I have that’s an ex pulled that same type of foolishness too. However, he and his girl had a strange relationship. She let him do his thing while they were dating/engaged so that when they married it was all out of his system. Goodness.

By melo

March 4, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

to straight f* Nobody values the act of 2 people being intimate! no staceye sme of these relationships are defined from the very begining…either as friend/jumpoff or long term girl/wify potential. We all define and redefine them as we go on.If u break up and u still tolerating guy, he will sure cme back for pudsy nothing more but at the same time be free to look for the one he really wants as long term potential.So u know, man dont pluck pudsy from ur pivit unless u willing to let him sample.U girls have all the power!! We are as hoeish as u want us to be!! We cater to ur needs(said in my beyonce-like voice)

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

March 4, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

OMG Demi!!!

By Beautiful

March 4, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

6’1 u know i gotchu gurl.

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 4:10 PM | Link to this

6’1 he was mumbling under his breath he ain’t no real daddy.

Simply no respect for the man that he wants and who’s supposed to be his hero, but ain’t showing up for showtime. Kids ain’t dumb.

Raqi No need to get salty there slick.

Rell @peanut…basically it means you fake

Red What he said. ^^^

By Cemeeli

March 4, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this

Staceye just for that 3:56 insight and again w/your stance with men…it might be that God’s gonna bless you with a son…:-). haha…watch it girlie. You’d be fine…gotta be thick skinned too.

By Dan

March 4, 2008 4:13 PM | Link to this

Yeah, Leggs.

I mean there is a line (we don’t consult on current relationships) but yeah, work problems, family issues, etc. we discuss.

Just a sympathetic ear that understands the backstory without explanation.

By Beautiful

March 4, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

ARed i took it as regular female friends and friends he screwed. i’m not feeling threatened anymore. that’s an area that i personally grew stronger in. not fighting over a man no more. if i ever feel him going another direction, that’s cool with me.

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 4:16 PM | Link to this

Kolla - How is that being fake? Enlighten me please.

By Raqi

March 4, 2008 4:16 PM | Link to this

Now I will say IMO there should be a time limit on an ex still trying to get in. If yeeeaaars have passed and that same old ex is still trying to creep in the window…somebody got some serious issues and need to get a life.

By Raqi

March 4, 2008 4:21 PM | Link to this

2Can you didn’t answer my question. I know you heard me but that’s cool. LOL

Good night.

By Rell

March 4, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

@peanut….you dont want us to REALLY answer that question….we dont want to bust down your reality box…..but ya arse is fake and you have no one fooled…

By melo

March 4, 2008 4:25 PM | Link to this

She let him do his thing while they were dating/engaged so that when they married it was all out of his system hohoho,she has an aunt who advised her of this bullcrap?!! Man can never get s3x outa system…it can be suppressed a lil,not eradicated from man!Get that females.

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this

See Red See Staceye, that’s why we gotta keep on leaving those exes alone.

What is the we in that sentence about?

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 4:30 PM | Link to this

melo - That’s HIS version of the story. They were long distance for part of their engagement so I guess she figured she’d be in denial while he was away.

I did talk to him a few weeks ago on a work matter. I asked if he was “being good” and he said that so far he was, so maybe he’s the one leopard who was able to change his spots. LOL

By Staceye

March 4, 2008 4:30 PM | Link to this

Doc Demi I totally agree! All the unmarrieds with 5 kids with 5 baby dadies and waiting onmy tax dollars every month should be forced to have her tubes tied! I’m tired of paying for her brats! LOL

Ared that’s my boy though! We no longer have those feelings for each other! I have met her twice..se is very cool and I would never want to do something to hurt her like that. he’s a good dude…we didn’t work because our views on relationships clashed. But we are great friends.

Cemeeli it might be that God’s gonna bless you with a son no God No! LOL I do not want kids…but if I did I want a girl.

By SexyLeggs

March 4, 2008 4:30 PM | Link to this

Who the heck is peanut? When did somebody’s name change?

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 4:30 PM | Link to this

Fahgitit Red…

By melo

March 4, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

good nite sweeties and homies!

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 4:34 PM | Link to this

Kolla - You gonna answer my question?

You can see my 9:20 post to see where the “we” was about.

By YOU BIG DUMMY!! YOU!

March 4, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

ARED What so funny about you…You are crazy! Why do you and would you keep answering to PEANUT!! That’s why he keeps calling you that. You dumb enough to answer! lmao!!

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

Staceye - If he’s such a good dude why is he lying to his girl?

I will tell my friend he’s the shadiest guy I know. Cuz he hasn’t done right by his lady at all…but she got that ring so shrug.

By 2CPTG©

March 4, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

Raqi…….hunh?

By Rell

March 4, 2008 4:40 PM | Link to this

@sexyleggs…peanut is my name for that NUT ared…..she is my niece peanut from here on out…..i love me some peanut

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 4:43 PM | Link to this

Dummy - I’m not answering to peanut, where did you get that from? I only answer when addressed and my blog name is AmazonRed.

By DreamsMaterialize

March 4, 2008 4:43 PM | Link to this

Staceye I would never subscribe to the “any ol pops is better than no pops” philosophy. I had a strong uncle and a real deal grandfather to step up for me initially, and later my step pops (who I call pops) put in work on my path to manhood. Just saying that a strong male father-figure is priceless.

By SexyLeggs

March 4, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

So she has the ring. There’s no prize if he’s a cad! There’s no prize if he will continue to lie to her and not do right by her. Is having the ring more important than having the respect and trust of another? Did I miss something AGAIN?

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

March 4, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

Good nite everyone, be safe out there because the devil is beating his wife azz and the roads r slippery. C. U. N. Da mernin!!!!! I have to stay until 6 or later, got too much work.

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

Rell - Ohhh…that peanut stuff was supposed to be to me? I see you’re being a drama king again. If you want my attention, you gotta call me by AmazonRed or ARed.

It’s cool though. Since you’re the poster child for “bytchazzness” that’s YOUR name from here on out!

Lawd, these silly azz dudes on here. Too funny.

By Staceye

March 4, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

Ared because she would trip and he and I couldn’t be friends out of her fear of something happening. I told him to tell her..but he knows her better than I do.

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 4:48 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs - Girl, I shake my darn head. He says he’s been faithful since the vows, so maybe they know something we don’t. LOL!

By Cemeeli

March 4, 2008 4:48 PM | Link to this

…Cee havin’ tarry and prayer service with the mothers board about sis Staceye at the special “I Hate Knuckle Heads” Easter service…

Praying Women: Lord bet it if you may Staceye a son!

Sista Staceye: callin’ out like somebody’s grandma…nooo Lawd nawww be it not for your beloved daughter for man child…

Oh, yea.. i saw that —> but if I did I want a girl. …puttin that down in the blog archives…

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

because she would trip and he and I couldn’t be friends out of her fear of something happening.

Well, Staceye, if y’all gotta do all that, is it really worth it? I mean, she has a right to full disclosure. She ASKED. If she couldn’t handle it he needs a girl that’s more secure or she needs to not ask such questions. But I don’t think she deserves to be lied to. Especially about something like that.

By Blue_Kolla

March 4, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

…watchin’ TV and thinkin’, “some’a dese muhfuggas on this blog need to get Capt’n D’d.” LOL

Cee I Keep up the good work slim. ;)

By 2CPTG©

March 4, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs………

By Cemeeli

March 4, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

Blue thanks for giving me more of what i need to know…always all ears.

I ain’t say it was easy…i’m tied now and hadn’t even got the real deal.

By pisces08

March 4, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

I’m out. Ared, check the box.

By SexyLeggs

March 4, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

Good night everyone.

I don’t know what to say. Today’s topic was all over the page.

Get some rest and stay ALERT.

By Staceye

March 4, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli LMAO…you are wrong for that one!

ARED it’s not my problem! LOL I know that I we are doing anything.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

March 4, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

Be Easy!

By Poppa Grande

March 4, 2008 5:06 PM | Link to this

AR That’s issue between Staceye’s friend and his girl. Staceye should not worry about it if he doesn’t.

I call it the “worry about your own front porch” principle. This is someone else’s front porch. If it is bad. It is no one else’s business.

After all, In the immortal words of Wise Dive” There is a bytch named Karma and she knows his address!! So if it is that bad to his relationship it will not last anyway.

By AmazonRed

March 4, 2008 5:11 PM | Link to this

Pappa Grande - I agree. I just wouldn’t boast about how “good” a man he was tho. I mean, I’m sure he’s a good guy, but he’s still being stupid for lying to his girl!