Misadventures in Atlanta

By Beautiful

February 28, 2008 8:09 AM | Link to this

*Singing

It’s been too long, baby Since you’ve been gone from me And I miss your touch Cause no one could ever, no Love me the way you do, oh no, no, no*

Good morning you guys!

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 28, 2008 8:15 AM | Link to this

Since when did being just plain ol’ “p** off” become known as “Irritable Male Syndrome”? LOL!

By Beautiful

February 28, 2008 8:20 AM | Link to this

men have periods just like we do but just don’t want to admit it. lol.

By SexyCool

February 28, 2008 8:25 AM | Link to this

oh…there’s a name for that? who knew?

support for wise and mad luv to The Fam!!!

By Lady J

February 28, 2008 8:32 AM | Link to this

and when one mix weed and henny with it on a regular it is beyond dangerous with madd attitude…lol

By Lady J

February 28, 2008 8:34 AM | Link to this

and when one mix weed and henny with it on a regular it is beyond dangerous with madd attitude…lol

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 28, 2008 8:34 AM | Link to this

Beautiful *”men have periods just like we do…”

Well…I wouldn’t exactly put it that way, but I get your point. LOL!

By Lady J

February 28, 2008 8:36 AM | Link to this

and when one mix weed and henny with it on a regular it is beyond dangerous with madd attitude…lol

By Lady J

February 28, 2008 8:45 AM | Link to this

lady j disease…funny…it is weird how it doesn’t occur @ home but anyway your help Diva was appreciated…lol

By Beautiful

February 28, 2008 8:45 AM | Link to this

BigD smooches to you on this chilly morning. ;)

i have to admit that when it’s my time of the month, it’s best to leave me alone/give me space. i’m very irritable. just because men don’t ya know, you guys still technically have that time of the month where you get grumpy. stop denying it. lol.

By Lady J

February 28, 2008 8:47 AM | Link to this

lady j disease…funny…it is weird how it doesn’t occur @ home but anyway your help Diva was appreciated…lol

By G

February 28, 2008 8:48 AM | Link to this

Just setting up the date is stressful. 1. Plan the event 2. Pay for the event 3. Get a haircut 4. Get pressed or new clothes 5. Get gas 6. Get directions (if it’s 1st date) 7. Clean car (if needed) 8. Plan dinner before event 9. Be on time to pick her up 10. Pay for and show up with flowers 11. Pay for parking 11. Pay for dinner and tip 12. Get to event on time 13. Pay for parking. 14. Pray that you both enjoy time at the event 15. Drinks or hot tea (optional) 16. Take her home 17. Stay awake so you make it home yourself.

The only mood I’m in when I get home is tired. All the woman has to do is show up and decide to give the man the thumbs up or down. After going through a lot to make sure the woman has a good time, it’s added stress when all she wants is friendship. But she still wants to use you for a “play-date” when needed.

By Lady J

February 28, 2008 8:49 AM | Link to this

lady j disease…funny…it is weird how it doesn’t occur @ home but anyway your help Diva was appreciated…lol

By G

February 28, 2008 8:50 AM | Link to this

Just setting up the date is stressful. 1. Plan the event 2. Pay for the event 3. Get a haircut 4. Get pressed or new clothes 5. Get gas 6. Get directions (if it’s 1st date) 7. Clean car (if needed) 8. Plan dinner before event 9. Be on time to pick her up 10. Pay for and show up with flowers 11. Pay for parking 11. Pay for dinner and tip 12. Get to event on time 13. Pay for parking. 14. Pray that you both enjoy time at the event 15. Drinks or hot tea (optional) 16. Take her home 17. Stay awake so you make it home yourself.

The only mood I’m in when I get home is tired. All the woman has to do is show up and decide to give the man the thumbs up or down. After going through a lot to make sure the woman has a good time, it’s added stress when all she wants is friendship. But she still wants to use you for a “play-date” when needed.

By C tha 1

February 28, 2008 8:54 AM | Link to this

I think I can chime in on this early today because we’re talking about dudes dealing with their stress … or as Darrell put it “being just plain ol’ p** off”. The term “Irritable Male Syndrome” suggests that men have an excuse to let their emotions get the best of them…and I’ve seen some brothas who do act like they have a true period.

Nevertheless, there is a difference between venting, being p** off, b***’ all the time, and having true anger problems. We all have problems, but in my opinion if you take pills for your problems then you’re crazy … and some ladies date men who should be taking pills for their anger problems.

I admitt that I get p** off from things that affect me and mine … normally this involves my money, family, close friends. And yes my SO can p** me off too… because I let her get close to me. But I normally deal with it by venting to somebody who has nothing to do with the situation first, working out, or prayer then I can approach the situation with a clear mind. B***’ all the time is just plain feminine and doesn’t solve the problem.

As far as a dude letting his “hormones” get the best of him … dude MAN UP!

By Beautiful

February 28, 2008 8:55 AM | Link to this

G you have been meeting the wrong females. we really don’t need you to do all that. well, not me anyways.

By Miss Va-JayJay

February 28, 2008 8:58 AM | Link to this

Everyone who blogs on here today has had the DrJekly/Mr/MsHyde syndrome

You may admit it; but you have & so have I

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 28, 2008 9:00 AM | Link to this

G “But she still wants to use you for a “play-date” when needed.”

So…is that the antithesis to “cut buddy”? LOL!

By SexyLeggs

February 28, 2008 9:01 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. All I can say, is if I’m in an irritable mood (which isn’t often), I would cancel the date. No sense in inflicting the sour taste in my mouth on to someone else.

By Blue_Kolla

February 28, 2008 9:07 AM | Link to this

LOL @ G Just setting up the date is stressful. Where do I sign?!

On Topic: Depending on where I am in the whole thought process depends on my interactions with lady friend. If the action just popped off she might say a nice word or crack a joke and all would be well.

If I’m at the point of strategizing, then I’m probably deep in thought and might not want to talk at that moment. Give me a minute or two and I’ll be alright. Don’t take it personal that I’m not receptive (at this very minute) to that new ‘do that you just got. I will tune back into you shortly.

Tip for those Shackin’/Married: Don’t blast people with 20 questions as soon as they walk in the door. Allow 5-10 minutes of transition/wind-down time for a person to embrace the security of being home.

By Demi

February 28, 2008 9:07 AM | Link to this

men have periods just like we do but just don�t want to admit it.

Hellllllllll, Yeah!!! My whole attitude change…Put a gun in my hand and I may shoot a few folks.

By Miss Va-JayJay

February 28, 2008 9:07 AM | Link to this

That should’ve read: You may NOT admit it have & so have I

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 28, 2008 9:08 AM | Link to this

Beautiful

Smooches received and right back at’cha! ;-) Good thing you caught me on a good day because, according to that article WD linked to, April is gonna be H-E-L-L around here. LOL!!!

By Demi

February 28, 2008 9:15 AM | Link to this

Wise I am being way to gentlemen like and we’re having way too much fun, most likely I am in a foul a$$ mood.

By SexyLeggs

February 28, 2008 9:15 AM | Link to this

..Hellllllllll, Yeah!!! Let my soldiers miss firing in some puddy. That goes for all you men! But, Demi, you’re a nut for saying that (LOL).

By blackfoote

February 28, 2008 9:16 AM | Link to this

Gotta agree with G it is a lot of stress just approach some women.

By DreamsMaterialize

February 28, 2008 9:18 AM | Link to this

Morning

WAKE UUUUUP! (watched School Daze last night) lol

I’ve never cancelled a date, especially wouldn’t do it because I wasn’t feeling well emotionally. I would go on with the date as planned, and she would never know anything was bothering me. It’s just self-control as far as I’m concerned.

Now I have dated the Jekyl/Hyde type. I went on a few dates with a manic depressive, but I didn’t know until about the 3rd or 4th date…not a good night. lol

By blackfoote

February 28, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this

Gotta agree with G it is a lot of stress just approach some women.

By G

February 28, 2008 9:24 AM | Link to this

This is Atlanta……”cut-buddy” goes both ways. That cancels out.

Moreso ontopic: I don’t recall being in a bad mood prior to going on a date. If I was, it wouldn’t be fair to put it off on her. Hopefully, we both have a good time. At the very least, I hope that “I” have a good time if my day has not been going well.

On the flip side: I have gone on dates when the woman was in a bad mood. I would hope that she was looking forward to the date to lift her spirits. That’s a deal-breaker if she brings stress of the job to the dinner table.

By Rell

February 28, 2008 9:25 AM | Link to this

@G…try this homie

1)Tell her to meet you at x spot

2) Keep the event in the 20-25 dollar range (coffe, drinks,..etc)

3) Pay for parking in advance….thats if you want to be extra with it..if not just pay for you

4) enjoy yourself. Entertain the women or move the night to a different spot

5) Go home

All the other things you should do as a man anyway…keep yourself groomed…keep your car clean..and your cloths pressed…it should not be an event for any date first or second….You should have established the context of the relationship before the date or if not during the date…YOU LEAD….if you have to do alot of persusion or peacocking to get her attention,…..then you barking up the wrong tree…..if she is not showing interest back or seems remotly interested..THERE IS NO DATING..let the next magic man do is tricks to impress her..A NEVER BE A SECOND OPTION FOR ANY WOMEN..if you not the first options then she is not worthy of your time and resources…feel me

By Raqi

February 28, 2008 9:25 AM | Link to this

YES, YES, YES!!!!!

I married the IMS chairman. OMG there were days he would come over to the house and sit in the den and say nothing. I would make dinner and he would not eat. I would be thinking why did he even bother to come here? We would go out and he would be Mr. Anti-social. He would invite me over to his place and be a terrible host. One day I just left and he called and asked why did I leave? Dude what reason did I have to stay? His being was there but emotionally and mentally he was obviously in a different place.

Nothing would move him. Not food, not sex, not even watching his favorite sports teams. Talk about wanting to dig my claws into someone’s flesh and tear out a chunk.

He is still like that now but it doesn’t bother me as much. Being that we live together I am not having to entertain him or be entertained by him. I am at home. There is always something I can be doing. I just go about my business like he ain’t even there. Yeah sometimes I try to get him to snap out of it. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t.

The biggest heartrending matter I had to endure and come to terms with was when he would accept my offer of conciliation and then go right back into that funky mood. The first time that happened I could have cried. One time I told him (before we were married) he was a heartless arsehole and I took his stuff and threw it outside into the garage.

Yall read me talking about how great he is and don’t get me wrong he is a wonderful man but lawd…

Now The Nature Guy, I think he was a lunatic.

By Demi

February 28, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs don’t worry I’ve learn to control myself since then…i’ve learned, just because you have a SO, it doesn’t mean you will have access to puddy when you want it.

Now tell that Bish no and see how quick she’ll rape yo a$$ while you’re sleep!!

By Kym

February 28, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Because I am moody myself at times I am sensitive when my SO is moody. I will ask a few times if I can help(want to talk, vent, etc.) and if I am getting the cold shoulder rather than get my feelings hurt I will say-“Talk to you when you are in a better frame of mind.” and leave it there. Now the ball is in his court.

When I am moody(depending on the mood) I may need to cry, vent or retreat into my shell and stay there awhile.

By Miss Va-JayJay

February 28, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

A lot of women bring stress on dates & into relationships because they think they’re all that and their not!

By pisces08

February 28, 2008 9:33 AM | Link to this

Morning All. Never experienced IMS(although some may disagree). Feelin gangsterish this morning, met Snoop last night. I was wondering, “how did she survive….” (I won’t spoil it). Anyway, tried to flirt, but she wasn’t feelin it(wonder why), I mentioned Blue Flame, threw up my gang signs(MAB) Misadv Atl Blog, and kept it movin….

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 28, 2008 9:36 AM | Link to this

G “That’s a deal-breaker if she brings stress of the job to the dinner table.”

I agree. You comment also brings to mind how oftentimes it seems a woman will think that the entirety of the date centers around her (as opposed to both of us). Why is that? It’s almost as if she’s doing me a favor by going out with me, even after I’ve gone through the trouble of applying most, if not all, of the 17 points you posted earlier.

To me, for a woman to have such an attitude as to bring the stresses of her job (or anything else) to the dinner table is the height of selfishness. She would do better to cancel the date altogether, because at least that would convey to me that she’s not thinking only of herself. Sometimes it’s just better to be safe than sorry, you know? We can always reschedule the date.

By Rell

February 28, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

@BLACKFOOTE..hard to approach women why, they not from another planet..you should be very confident in your manhood to approach ANY women…i dont recall a no thank or no killing anyone….she might have done you a favor by turning you around and sending you on your way..remember not every women is going to be cut for you…..pay attention women give you vibes everyday…while you stargazing on the one not checking for you…..i bet there are five women thinking i wish he would come over here and talk to me….i learned that lesson the hard way…trust me on that

By Jazzyone

February 28, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

When I get home I need time to unwind and chill out for a moment and can respect that a man needs that as well no worries here.

Im one that when im in a bad mood I need space and prefer not to chop it up and rehash it with my dude, we can talk about it at some point but bombarding each other is not my thing. I prefer also to keep my shyty attitude to myself when I have one cause that can cause an unecessary arguement etc…

Im the type that needs space when in a relationship I have my own hobbies etc that I can do alone or with someone else if he wants to my last man last year called me GG called i would just call him and say Im GG which meant Im getting gone talk with ya later and Im out doing what I do from visiting a museum or gallery, shopping or scoping out properties to invest in…he likes that cause he could do him no preasure and we connect later or talk whatevs..

SOme men are capable of bringing me out of a funk and I can returnt he gesture but sometimes you just have to back off and let it ride then come together…

By Binford2K8

February 28, 2008 9:39 AM | Link to this

Luckily, Binford is steady and smooth …much like a good Toto tune.

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this

Morning blog.

I’m from California so I’m all about this peace and harmony vibe with people I surround myself with. If you have the weight of the world on your shoulders we aren’t gonna work. Don’t be bringing that negative energy into my space! LOL

By DasV

February 28, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this

good morning good ppl

men have ‘periods’ too, some men need pills to control their tendencies and there are men who still buy flowers for a first date. wow.

it’s just self-control as far as I’m concerned….. wit you on that dreamyONE. that is the case for women too… we have to know ourselves well enough and put our own foot up our own butts when needed…. not just allow what hormonal changes are going on to rule the day.

ROTFLOL@ rell given G dating advice.

waaaaay off topic on the way into work, i saw a grown woman suckin her thumb! im in a pilot now (my tl was totalled in wreck) so i am not used to looking ova and into someone else’s car (i used to turn away cause that seemed so private) anywhoo, today i glance ova and i see this and then my mind said nah, that aint… and then i looked again cause i was literally in shock!

does anyone on the blog still suck they thumb… im not judging… i just want to know why? i never did.

By Demi

February 28, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this

I mentioned Blue Flame, threw up my gang signs(MAB) Misadv Atl Blog, and kept it movin….

LOL…were a gang now??!!

Then again Wise’n’Bella have gotten gangta on us’n’shyt…And then had the nerve to try and throwing in some pink colors

By Jazzyone

February 28, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

Let me just say tho thi is reality and sometimes in a relationship I can throw shade and so can he but as long as you can work thru it its all good it happens but its all about how you handle a bad attitude, feeling janky whatevs..communication is key tho, tell the other to fall back when you want to not rehash it or look at the body language and realize walk it out or lets talk really very simple…

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 28, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

And a “good morning” to you, too, Binford. LOL! Speaking of “smooth Toto tunes”, check out ‘99’ from the ‘Hydra’ CD. Nice.

By Rell

February 28, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

@Darrell

Why is that? It�s almost as if she�s doing me a favor by going out with me

because you come in on that nice guy s*…Nothing wrong with being nice, but you have to temper that stuff…it also means that you have not qualified yourself to the women, she still searching for why should i be interested in darrell..You have to be bold with your approach….there should be no doubt in her mind you are the right choice..

By Cemeeli

February 28, 2008 9:47 AM | Link to this

Hey in here.

Isn’t it irritating when you text someone that you will call them (in a min or ltr) and they say okay, then when you DO Call them they don’t answer?

That is truly IS = Irritable Syndrome

By melo

February 28, 2008 9:47 AM | Link to this

Raqi i used to be like ur man a very long time ago in my twenties.With me, i think it had to do with the resentment of my(our family) church thati harbored, growing up.It made me be an arseehle and it took me time to kinda shake it off.I still have traces of it..the need to associate with thse in my league and not really inviting to strangers. On topic:If u male or female, there is no need to endure an asshle in dating game.Let the person get rid of their demons before they venture dating.Pple get moody, i do too, but if u are on an off day, have the decency to cancel the date.Nobody has to endure that smtimes immature date. And G, dating aint that hard as u potray.U must suffer from serious inferiority/complex for u to be so sweating when u going on a simple date.

By abc

February 28, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

‘Blank Blank Syndrome’ or ‘fill-in-the-blank-itis’ is simply re-codification of terminology. For instance, you could just as easily call ‘Irritable Male Syndrome’ ‘Azzholeitis’. Surely, everyone gets irritable. Surely, everyone can vent and get it out of their system, and get over it, should they so choose. If they’re too self-absorbed, they might be bad company. The one who needs to decide if they warrant attention isn’t them — it’s you!

Should I accomodate ‘Irritable Woman Syndrome’ or should I suggest that solitude might remedy her malaise and take my leave, at least until the next meeting? Chicks have the same choices.

By Bre'

February 28, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

BK 9:07 post. That’s so very true. If I’m home before him, I let him do his thing when he first walks in the door. I figure when he is ready to holla at me he will seek me out. I used to be at the door as soon has as his key hit the lock. Learned the hard way, unless I’m in my B-day suit let him wind down.

Topic I do believe men very much have IMS….it bothers me non. Maybe because I grew up around some very very moody men and women. I learned as a very young child how to judge moods when to be seen and heard and when not to be. Mr. Man he is a extremely moody person, I just let him be. Most of the time I have enough crap to do to keep me busy. One thing he has learned you still talk to me on some type of level even if it kills him.

I’m not a moody person at all, I’m pretty much the same unless I’m ticked off to another level. Thank heavens that is rare but when it does happen, its best all stay out of my way. One time I went over a year without being mad I guess I was in harmony.

By Demi

February 28, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

I’m from California so I’m all about this peace and harmony vibe with people I surround myself with.

Ared you’re over the wearing some 60’s clothes no shoes and a big aZZ peace medallion, huh?…girl please, just pass that Cali green

By Demi

February 28, 2008 9:55 AM | Link to this

Bre’ good morning…

And how are you feeling DasV

By SeanJohnson3000

February 28, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog…being that i am a gemini….i will admit that i have Dr Jeckle Mr Hyde type personalities..but i have gotten a whole lot better in controlling moods swings or at least showing them to females i date…reason being i dont think its fair to show a side or ill mood towards someone u care about for no reason…so if i need “me” time…i get ghost briefly…as WD stated…there are some times that a guy just want the lady he is involved with around..not to talk or anything so her physical presence or scent can make our day…

By DasV

February 28, 2008 9:59 AM | Link to this

DasV Demi i witnessed a grown woman suckin her thumb this morning… how you think im doing ROTFLOL. it was a disturbing sight to witness. im still a bit edgy, but my breathing is getting back to normal. LOL

how u??

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 28, 2008 10:00 AM | Link to this

Rell “Why is that? It’s almost as if she’s doing me a favor by going out with me”

I think you’re misunderstanding the context of what I said. I was speaking in general of the preconceived attitude women sometimes have about a man (i.e. arrogant, condescending) in that they see it as doing him a “favor” by “letting” him go out with her (as if it’s a privilege for him to even be seen with her.) It’s about the midnset of the woman, not whether or not the man is playig “nice guy”. It is in that context that I was responding to G’s earlier post.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

February 28, 2008 10:00 AM | Link to this

Morning Errbody!! Hope ya’ll are doing well on this frigid thursday.

On topic: I believe people get into moods period. No need to make it into anything but that. We all have bad days and things that might make us a lil edgy. Its called life and experiences. None of us can avoid them. Now granted some have had worse experiences than others but do we have to have a scientific name for everything?!

By 6'1 & luvinit (aka Don' it All)

February 28, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Blog Fam (sounding much like Robin Williams in good morning vietnam) Men have periods too, I can second and third that motion. This topic is funny because when me and “Black” got back 2gether I mentioned that 2 him and he said, everybody says that. I was well Duh, it must be so true. I steer totally clear because I am a big girl and walking around on egg shells is something that I don’t do very well. But I can see it a mile away. I run for cover.

By Demi

February 28, 2008 10:03 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli dude gets a pass…maybe he forgot.

Demi is in a, “WE MEN CAN DO NO WRONG MOOD” today…ask Rell for details

By Beautiful

February 28, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

*Singing

And there’s no way I could ever - Find someone real as you - Keep it true like you do - And I don’t wanna lose your love, oh - Over being hurt before - Being afraid before, no*

By Blue_Kolla

February 28, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

DasV on the way into work, i saw a grown woman suckin her thumb!

Was this broad sittin’ in a Navigator?

By Rell

February 28, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

@darrell…i got your context…but what is say still applies..maybe not you..since your date book is busting at the seems…again most men do not qualify themselves early on to women as a leader or someone worthy of her time..you just like the other 50 busters who took her out for dinner….that is my point…establish yourself early as someone worthy of her time and yours….but yeah i see you missed my intent….i am not directing the post directly at you player…geez…we need to cover bi thcassness in a post…because i see the s* is bigger than i thought….i am mad that weeks wrote a book to tell his side of the story..he lost when she went public with there lil parking lot flair up….that means he was not a leader….because he was fully aware of why she was upset but need nothing to change it…so he writes a book…..straight female move!!!

By Demi

February 28, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

DasV you wanted to follow her behind to work and slap the shyt outta her a$$ for ruining your morning, huh…here have some of this Cali green A.red is sharing

And I in a shyt starting mood today…watch

Demi is now walking over and love tapping Lady J and Mo on the behind

Lady J and Mo are now doing the A-Town stomp on Demi’s head

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 28, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

Ahh, bootiful, u sound Beautiful.

By abc

February 28, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

Raqi, your description sounds like bi-polar, or depression, or something like that.

By blackfoote

February 28, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

RELL…..absolutley brother she would be doing me a big favor by turning me around to someone more worthy. Would,nt be upset one little bit.

By DreamsMaterialize

February 28, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

Darrell They do that because they “know” they can get away with it. There are no repercussions for them. Usually, no one has ever even checked ‘em on it. When you do, they’ll either cut that sh^t out or find another cat who lets them continue to do that. Either way, it’s a win-win.

By Dan

February 28, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this

Women in relationships always say “men have periods”.

And it’s true….

funny how it’s right after his woman’s “time”

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 28, 2008 10:21 AM | Link to this

Abc, God knows I think “Black” is bipolar. I tell him that all the time. Sometimes I want to slip a dayuum mood stabilizer in his smoothie.

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 28, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

No she was sitting in a BMW, Blue Kolla. It was me. When I am p**, I always stick my thumb in my mouth. But I have tint so I think no one seen me.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 28, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

Rell “establish yourself early as someone worthy of her time and yours’”

One would think that would have already been established, right? Otherwise she wouldn’t agree to go out to begin with. That is, unless she’s someone who’s so full of herself that she’s doing it only as a favor to you, which some women do. This is the point I’ve been trying to make. Not all women who agree to out with you do so because they’ve deemed you to be “worthy” of their time. Some of them are just like G said: “…she still wants to use you for a “play-date” when needed…”

By QC

February 28, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers…Darrell, have a great day!

Hey Demi, BK

Welcome to the blog Blackfoote

By The Truth

February 28, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

Rell that 925 is the gospel.

Where’s the pressure? Instead of pressure maybe a different mindset is necessary. Instead of saying I’ve gotta do this and that just say me and ol girl are gonna go do blank and see whats up. I don’t process it as pressure.

Personally, sometime I like being in my cave. At those times I don’t care if the car doesn’t have gas or if you need someone to talk to. I just want be left alone. My ex always took that personally and wanted to talk even more. It would p** me off to no end becuase I explained to her what was going on. Finally I would just say something to her real mean and she’d go away. Beacuse we’re married doesn’t mean I have to be available 24/7 to talk with you.

By Beautiful

February 28, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this

hey 6’1! Keyshia Cole is the bomb diggity. her cd’s always hit close to home.

*Singing

And taking me away from you - Will be no damnn good for me - I need you in my life - No one could compare to you*

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 28, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

6’1 “But I have tint so I think no one seen me.”

LOL!!!!

By M.

February 28, 2008 10:33 AM | Link to this

@Melo

@Wise

Great topic. I definitely agree with you both. I am dealing with a similar situation where I feel like she is always taking her problems from work, life, etc. out on me. I try to be there from a supportative standpoint. She said I am just so sensitive. As someone said, no one wants to be around someone who is moody especially when we aren’t married and just dating. This is all optional…I honestly think she likes to argue and the drama. She said that she likes a good debate every once in a while. I think that is traces from her ex…I guess they argued a lot but I don’t have the time…

By Bre'

February 28, 2008 10:33 AM | Link to this

Waving at Demi I hope all is well.

By M.

February 28, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

@Melo

@Wise

Great topic. I definitely agree with you both. I am dealing with a similar situation where I feel like she is always taking her problems from work, life, etc. out on me. I try to be there from a supportative standpoint. She said I am just so sensitive. As someone said, no one wants to be around someone who is moody especially when we aren’t married and just dating. This is all optional…I honestly think she likes to argue and the drama. She said that she likes a good debate every once in a while. I think that is traces from her ex…I guess they argued a lot but I don’t have the time…

By M.

February 28, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

@Melo

@Wise

Great topic. I definitely agree with you both. I am dealing with a similar situation where I feel like she is always taking her problems from work, life, etc. out on me. I try to be there from a supportative standpoint. She said I am just so sensitive. As someone said, no one wants to be around someone who is moody especially when we aren’t married and just dating. This is all optional…I honestly think she likes to argue and the drama. She said that she likes a good debate every once in a while. I think that is traces from her ex…I guess they argued a lot but I don’t have the time…

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 28, 2008 10:35 AM | Link to this

Bootiful, I am jamming to Monica’s After the Storm

By Demi

February 28, 2008 10:35 AM | Link to this

QC hey bay!!

hey 6’1! Keyshia Cole is the bomb diggity. her cd’s always hit close to home.

From one woman with issues to another.

Demi’s body will be found later, loaded with lead

‘how long with dey morn mein’

By Raqi

February 28, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

abc his brother assures me that he has been this way his entire life.

The funny thing is when we first started dating I didn’t see that side of him. I think the more familiar we became in our relationship the more comfortable he was in allowing me to see him in that state. It’s kinda like when he was sure I wasn’t going any where…

But now I don’t sweat it most of the time. Sometimes I totally ignore him when I think he is in one of his moods then he wonders why I am not speaking to him. Hell I am just giving him his space. I told him once to wear a black t-shirt to let me know when he is in his gloom. LOL

Where I really get him is when he will be in his “moods” all day long and then he wants my attention at night. Oh no buddy you just ran upon an iceberg. burrr

By DasV

February 28, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

BluK white volvo.

Demi i really did. LOL

thePasta being married does not mean that he is available to me 24/7 for “discussions” was unfortunately something i had to learn while married. i was surprised to realize that i had assumed that very notion. it was so silly when i actually gave it some thought.

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 28, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

I see tourettes is contagious @ M. lol

By Demi

February 28, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this

Bre’ things are going very well today..I am even doing some work around here.

Sounding all cute’n’shyt

Someone needs to give me a star for being a good boy today, LOL

By Beautiful

February 28, 2008 10:40 AM | Link to this

demi that was mean! im not speaking to you anymore 2day!!!

By abc

February 28, 2008 10:43 AM | Link to this

Well girls, if you care about them and for your own sake too, do what you can to get them in for a psychological evaluation. People with depression are suffering, and project that suffering onto you. Do all parties a favor and take some action.

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

Mr. G - You sound like a great date. Thanks for putting in time and effort like a lady deserves.

Don’t get discouraged, a gem will come along and recognize a good thing.

By Pussycat

February 28, 2008 10:48 AM | Link to this

SJ3Kat least showing them to females i date…reason being i dont think its fair to show a side or ill mood towards someone u care about for no reason

Isn’t it better though to show one’s true self? Is there a difference in being DrJMrH and just moody?

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

still playing catch up I’m with Dreams and G. If you’re in a “mood” don’t cancel a date. We’re grown people and you should be able to control your emotions without taking your stress out on other people.

I’d personally be really irked if someone made plans with me, and I set aside the time, to have them call and cancel just because they’re in a funk. That’s some “bytch assness” as Diddy says! LOL. Life will always give you reasons to be upset, you gotta learn to shake it off.

By The Truth

February 28, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

Das what made things worse was we lived in a 1 bedroom apt. There was the bedroom and the family/dining room. We literally lived on top of each other. The only place you could go to get away was the bathroom. LOL

If I ever live with a chick again she’ll have a room she can go to that I will never enter unless I smell a rotting body. I’ll have one too. when I’m in there I’m not your guy I’m the Truth and don’t want to be bothered. The sign on the front door will say so. LOL

And someone said yesterday that Mary J’s album was crap. I must agree. Give me your addie and I’ll send you mine too. LOL

By Demi

February 28, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

Beautiful LOL, like I am the one to talk about other people issues..truth having issues means you are struggling to overcome LOL

Oh well talk tomorrow..smile

By Rell

February 28, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

@darrell..you missing my point…but i will agree to disagree with you on this one

@truth..i feel you….and that is real…pressure with women..thats not pressure, thats you being scared of the word no or things not working out..SO WHAT..plan better next time..improve yourself in areas you KNOW that you are weak in…learn to eat better….know what the inside of a gym looks like..etc…it is not that hard folks….

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

Rell - Why are you always encouraging brothas to step DOWN their game?

G, please don’t listen to him. Keep doing your thang man!

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 28, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

I feel u totally raqi. I have to deal with the same thing and I definitely think it is deeper than just being irritable. It was the exact same thing. I didn’t see none of this in the beginning because I would have definitely headed for the hills. I heard that Risperdol with do the trick. LOL

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

Demi - I’m not sharing, I’m slangin this good janga so have your money ready! LOL

By Binford2K8

February 28, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

As the saying goes: Slow and steady wins the race

One of the things I key on with women is if they stay on an even keel. The future ex-Mrs.Binford will not be moody or have an excess of drama as there’s just not a place for it in my world.

If something has me down, I have productive outlets to deal with that so people I know (family, friends, a SO) never have to see it.

By DasV

February 28, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

thePasta LOL. it was me pullin the ‘i gotta go’ to get away move in our relationship. needless to say he was cool wit me ‘hiding’ out in the restroom AND it was always so clean.

that was me yesterday talkin bout MJB cd. i was soooo disappointed. she is rambling on every song, did you find so? i like that peace joint tho (16).

By Cemeeli

February 28, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

Hey Demi that could be true because i called from my office/desk and i’ve never called from there. So your right he should apologize…cause your right yall do no wrong. Lol! smart azz

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!

February 28, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

demi i mean damn! a sista knows she has issues. i spread them across this blog everyday. but i don’t want it thrown in my face. ya feel me.

Rell co-sign your 9:25.

*Singing

Baby, I know what you’ve been through - So I’m here to relieve you - Remind you, Renew you, Rebuild you - Boy I’ll do*

By Rell

February 28, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

@ared….you talking to me….ya know the blog as given me a RO on responding to your post…..K.I.M

then i changed my mind

In your eyes how does what i posted a step down…ummm the whole getting prep is a bit disturbing to me…i keeps my barber on speed dial and my homie keeps me edged up inbetween appts…ummmm my dry cleaning knows me by my first name..and i keeps an iron humming…i can press the hell out of anything…my car stays clean…and with the expansion of the city sometimes it may not be practical to go pick her up…what is wrong with meeting at a location..what is wrong with with paying for your parking and letting the host/hostest know to look out for you and usher you to my table..how is it a step down to not spend out on the first date…..explain to me how is all that a step down…or do you just need some attention from me…..silly blanka

By Bre'

February 28, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

I bought Erika Badu’s, CD last night. I hope its good. Yeah I was not feeling Mary J’s new CD.

Truth I totally agree if you can afford to have a decent size house each grown person should have there own Vent Room.

Demi You go boy.

By pisces08

February 28, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this

@Rell. Maybe you should post with disclaimer. It worked for ARed… Just a thought.

By The Truth

February 28, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this

Ared your off base on this one. If a cat has raised you above himself just to spend time with you you don’t want him. He won’t be leading your home. Also, over time there’s only one way his opinion of you can go, down. This is a dude thats dating from the bottom, someone with little life experience.

If, for example, we went out, I wouldn’t think I have a list of things to do. My thought process would be me and blank are going to see this show. There is no pressure for me. I was going to shower anyway so what’s so hard about that? People usually cower from the unknown.

G don’t get all worked up over a chick because in the end she’s just a woman. Thats not good or bad its just a fact. Also, if you raise her above you in the beginning she’s not going to want swap positions. Like her and be interested yes, mentally raise her above you no. My .02

By Raqi

February 28, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

61 for me it’s not something that makes me want to run for the hills. Once I realized that this is a part of who he is, I was okay. I mean yeah it is aggravating at times but he is a pleasure to be around the other 95% of the time. I don’t think it is depression or anything like that. His mood don’t be sad or distressed. He just don’t want to be bothered at times. Kinda like “shoo fly don’t bother me”.

Hey I am a piece of work…so we are even. LOL

Heck that works to my advantage on occassions.

By Demi

February 28, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

Raqi naw, that type mood cames from a deeper issue..Thanks for being strong enough to handle that

I know because I have a very ugly side of me that came from being alone for a long period of time..when you’re deaf folk aint caint talk to youo r even wants to be bothered with you, LOL

No I am not stay it anything major as mines, but I know that behavor started some where, over something..I could be wrong as hell, LOL.

By Staceye

February 28, 2008 11:12 AM | Link to this

**Wow..there is a specific time to be grumpy??? I am just grumpy! LOL Especially when I am asleep and somebody wakes me. I have had it out with a guy for trying to wake me for morning sex! That will get you slapped! LOL If I awake already..then so be it..let’s get a lil morning quickie on the kitchen counter and keep it moving! But to wake me out of my rare deep slumber..I am just like a cranky baby…except violent! LOL

G if a guy takes me to dinner and pays..I offer to at least pay the tip. (wink wink)But we women have to get ready (hair, nails, make up, etc) and we have to workout before the date..to fight off the dude that thinks because he takes you out that he has the right to become Mr. Grubby hands! Beware of mace sucka! LOL

Miss Va-JayJay Everyone who blogs on here today has had the DrJekly/Mr/MsHyde syndrome I like to call that Bipolar Syndrome! LOL

Demi Now tell that Bish no and see how quick she’ll rape yo a$$ while you’re sleep you a fool for that one! LOL

Binford you taking a Toto shot at Darrell!?! LOL

Das I always thought thumb sucking was gross even as a child. You would be walking around with ashy rusty looking finger that reeked of spit! EWWWW!!! Not to mention you get bucked teeth!

abc Azzholeitis* that is classic dude! LOL I have called it azzholerosis! I also co-sign your 10:15. I have experienced what Raqi speaks of in her husband. In fact I was in the same frame of mind. It’s hard to feel that way and you can’t seem to come out of it.

SJ Oh Lawd…a Gemini….RUN!!!! Do not pass go…do not collect $200. You go directly to jail! Ya’ll Gemini men are pure LOCO man! LOL

By SeanJohnson3000

February 28, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

@ Pzzycat…hard to explain my personality…wish i could..could be the gemini in me…

@ Rell…if you have a son…are you going to teach/tell him the same thing about women like you do on the blog?…another question..would u do the same if u had a daughter?

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!

February 28, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

Staceye Oh Lawd…a Gemini….RUN!!!! Do not pass go…do not collect $200. You go directly to jail! Ya’ll Gemini men are pure LOCO man! LOL

lmfao. so true.

By Rell

February 28, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

@fish man….worked for ared?

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 28, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

Raqi, I am saying that if he was acting this way in the beginning I would have run for the hill but I know that this just is “Black” so I am use to it and know how to react to it. I to am indeed a piece of work so I guess in the end we balance it out. We are like a comfortable pair shoes, so it is like the things that I was do dayum irritating in the beginning, I know that it is just him. He says that I know him so well that sometimes it scares him. He knows me well to and that familiarity is very comforting.

By Raqi

February 28, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

You know Demi it may be because he is an SOB. And I say that seriously. His mother was a first class bytch. That could be why he reacted the way he did when she died. Maybe he felt guilty for being relieved to finally get rid of that constant thorn in his butt. Maybe he was angry with himself and took it out on me. hmmmmm

By Binford2K8

February 28, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

I would not take (another) Toto shot at any of my fellow brethren.

By The Truth

February 28, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

Rell your posts are on point today so no need to reduce it to personal comments. “silly blanka” Where all just passing around thoughts and yours hold much weight in some folks eyes.

Bre I told a chick about that room one time and she was like “my man won’t have a room I can’t go in”. I was like, thanks for that info. We’re still human and sometimes we need a place to process our thoughts.

Binford gotta cosign your 1057. While we all have highs and lows slow and steady should be the word of the day. I’m not living my life on an emotional roller coaster.

By Rell

February 28, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

@SJ..yes i will tell my son the same thing to make sure he is bold with his interaction..too not be afraid to show emotions…step to a female…if you get hit hit back…etc..what are you getting at

if i had a daughter i will teach her that she is more than the sum of her parts…etc etc….again what point are you trying to make

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 28, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

Staceye, but I looked so cute with my braces that corrected those buck teeth. I thought that all girls did it because in my building all the girls sucked their thumbs. It wasn’t until I moved to georgia that people made me feel bad about sucking my thumb but being that I was already six feet in seventh grade, I guess I did look a little out of place walking around with my thumb in my mouth and twirling the end of my pony tail around my forefinger.

By Dan

February 28, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

I went on a date and thought about bringing flowers (based on something that was said here, actually) but decided against it.

My date and I talked about it, and to her mind, bringing flowers or a first date was not only corny, but a lil scary. To her mind, she said she’d be worried that the guy was too into it.

I agreed thaf flowers was something you bring to your girl (after you’ve been dating for a while). That first date bringing flowers is more gesture than sentiment (actual excerpts of the convo..I might like her vocabulary. It’s sexy!)

By Dan

February 28, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

I went on a date and thought about bringing flowers (based on something that was said here, actually) but decided against it.

My date and I talked about it, and to her mind, bringing flowers or a first date was not only corny, but a lil scary. To her mind, she said she’d be worried that the guy was too into it.

I agreed thaf flowers was something you bring to your girl (after you’ve been dating for a while). That first date bringing flowers is more gesture than sentiment (actual excerpts of the convo..I might like her vocabulary. It’s sexy!)

By Dan

February 28, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

I went on a date and thought about bringing flowers (based on something that was said here, actually) but decided against it.

My date and I talked about it, and to her mind, bringing flowers or a first date was not only corny, but a lil scary. To her mind, she said she’d be worried that the guy was too into it.

I agreed thaf flowers was something you bring to your girl (after you’ve been dating for a while). That first date bringing flowers is more gesture than sentiment (actual excerpts of the convo..I might like her vocabulary. It’s sexy!)

By Tazzee

February 28, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!!!

IMS I love it! Please believe that will be added to my vocabulary.

I can be moody (I’m a gemini too) and when I’m in one of my moods I choose to be by myself. I’ve canceled events with friends when I’m in one of my ‘I don’t feel like socializing’ moods and because they’ve witnessed me in my moods, they don’t mind. I have canceled dates before, but only with someone I’ve dated for a while. If it’s a new prospect then I just grin and bear it.

As far as a guy I’m dating, I fully understand the concept of wanting to be around someone while in a mood. So I don’t mind at all. Like Kym, I’ll try to help bring him out and if that doesn’t work, then I’ll just sit there and be in his presence. I don’t need to be entertained - I’ll turn on the tv, read a book or something like that.

I will admit that me being in one of my ‘needy’ moods and my man being in an ‘I don’t want to be bothered mood’ does not mix at all.

By pisces08

February 28, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

@Rell. ystdy…

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 28, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this

Dayuum Dan got tourettes too!

By Demi

February 28, 2008 11:31 AM | Link to this

Beautiful you and 6’1, are not allowed to bring up Keisha Cole at the same time, deal…Now come over here and receive your first non-church like hug of the year, LOL

Ms.Eye I can imagine you waking me up outta my sleep after you come back from one of those sausage shows saying: ‘It’s time to get to work’ LOL…And coming out of those mood is hard at times

Bre’ you really know how to ego stoke your man when he needs it, while laughing at his a$$ at the same time, LOL.

By Rell

February 28, 2008 11:31 AM | Link to this

@dan..thats my point…a women wants to meet you not your rep…

@truth…you know what your right….that was very female of me….let me apologize to the blog and ARED..thats if she accepts..but yea you are right about that..no need for immature name calling….there is no excuse for it and i am mimbarressed right now!!

By Binford2K8

February 28, 2008 11:33 AM | Link to this

Beautiful - YeaI’mSensitiveSoWhat!

I’m a Gemini and we get badmouthed a lot (and maybe some for good reason).

I promis you I am certifiably NON-Loco and women would be so lucky to pass go or collect $200 from me!

I own Park Place and Boardwalk …RECOGNIZE!

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!

February 28, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

Dan i agree on the flowers.

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

Rell - My responding to you does not mean I plan to incite a riot with you. If you want to hold a grudge so be it. You are already starting the day giving attitude and calling names…It’s really not necessary.

Anywhoo…you asked what is wrong with you way, I’m asking what is wrong with his? I’m not saying he should feel pressure on the date, I’m saying that he should put his best foot forward.

By Rell

February 28, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

@fishman….ystdy…are you talking about your lunch date?…how was it?

By Staceye

February 28, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

6’1 glad you got that fixed girl. Being that tall and having bucked teeth would have made you a bullseye for jokes man! LOL

By DreamsMaterialize

February 28, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

Dan you don’t want to show up with the wedding bouquet, but the single stem flower is a winner…an asian lilly maybe. It clearly distinguishes you from the cat who puts no thought into the date, as well as from the guy who’s “too into it”.

By Demi

February 28, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

Raqi cool, I knew it started some where. Just glad you can handle that…even them heartless sistas hated that mood of mines LOL

Bre’ that’s the ugly side of me.

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this

Truth - You know you and I are never gonna agree when you go on your “she’s just a woman” rants. I don’t think he should work himself up into a heart attack over a date, but I do think that all of his prep work should go down for a date. Just take the “pressure” part out of it. It doesn’t mean he’s putting the lady above himself.

By Kayla

February 28, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

M I just broke up with a guy your girl would definitely like. He is exactly what she is asking for from you.

Tazzee I could repeat your 1126 word for word but I won’t. The blog is having enough repeat entries today. LOL

I have a question: If you are not in a good mood (p** off, mad at the world, etc.) and you *don’t want your SO to talk to you, why come around? I mean, if you care about them, why purposely p** them off or hurt their feelings because you’re in a fd up mood?* I know that some men aren’t in touch with their emotions but if everyone around you knows your p** off..I can’t see how you wouldn’t know it.

By SeanJohnson3000

February 28, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

@ Rell…just asked… i have a lot of the same views on women/dating..and the approach about it. when you are a nice guy and you interact with women in general and they see that side of you…they are shocked that u see things in that light..they see what some men call simps as sweet..but when you break it down to them you are the minority…i can remember some of them saying i would have a girl as payback…calm down playboy no need to be on edge.

By Rell

February 28, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

@ared..the thing that is wrong with his way that he starts out sticking the women on high and he does not know her like that..she has does nothing to deserve that position yet..and the same goes for him..so instead of the focus being on learing about the women he feels he has to impress her…that does not work period…plus if he says meet me somewhere majority of the time it will be a place he is comfortable..so this gives the female a peek into his taste and places he likes to unwind…etc etc…so all that prepping is not sticking his best foot foward..because you start how you end..plus as a man you should always be on point PERIOD…and i already apologize for the immature behavior..no tude here love

By 6'1 & luvinit (aka Don' it All)

February 28, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

Trust me Staceye it all came together for the good.

By Question for you LOLers

February 28, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

When you people on this blog write “lol”, do you really laugh out loud?

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

still playing catch up Rell, I just read your apology and I accept.

By Bre'

February 28, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

Truth Thank heavens his will not be a room, its going to be a whole little house about 500 yards from the main house and guest house. I told him he can put all his music stuff and whatever else he wants out there. I was very clear my home will be full of harmony and positve energy. He can go sit out there with all that other stuff. I’m not moody he is, so that’s the middle ground.

I was close to saying something about separate bedrooms. But I held my breath on that one. LOL.

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

Okay…so now bringing flowers on dates is taboo? Ugh. Take me back to a better time.

This reminds me of that Sex and the City episode where Carrie thought all the Russian’s romantic gestures were “icky.”

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!

February 28, 2008 11:50 AM | Link to this

demi you want the booty in or out. lol.

Tazzee i’m needy too. very. fellas does a needy chick turn you off? sometimes i like to practically sit under you while we’re on the couch kickin’ it or lie under you.

By SexyLeggs

February 28, 2008 11:50 AM | Link to this

Rell, I’m curious. Why acknowledge what Truth said about name calling being immature, but you never acknowledged ARed when she said the same thing? Is because the two of kept name calling back and forth. JCurious!

Demi, you’re a beast!

By Raqi

February 28, 2008 11:50 AM | Link to this

LOL Bre. His own little house. That’s pretty good.

By Demi

February 28, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

Rell those are some of the same values I will teach li’Demi as well…I love the why li’demi carries himself at age 3, LOL

Dudes with daughters beware

By Tazzee

February 28, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

Flowers on the first date is a nice ‘gesture’ - I wouldn’t think a guy was too into me or anything like that, I would just think that he’s trying to court me.

But I have to agree with the fellas in that a man shouldn’t start at the top when dating a female. I remember having this conversation with a blog brother a while back. If you take a woman to Nava on the first date and it doesn’t work out - you’re complaining that you wasted your money. I personally think it should start light and as she wins your heart then the dates/gifts, whatever should reflect that.

Question - there are times that I actually laugh out loud, others where I chuckle to myself and then other times when I add so that folks know that I’m joking in one of my ‘dry humor’ posts.

By The Truth

February 28, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this

Ared she is just a woman. Then again, I’m just a man. Not superman, not spiderman. Just a man. So why should I do for you what I’m obviously not doing for myself? I think this is more a question of self worth than dating.

Or, to put it another way, if you go get a new dress to go out with me will you do that everytime we get together or stop when you feel you have me? I never have to stop things because I don’t start it. Lets go out, break bread or whatever and see what we’re made of. My .02

Rell don’t get me wrong. Sometimes good ol name calling is necessary. LMAO I’m just saying that this is more a discussion of viewpoints than a blog war. Like I said, your posts are on point.

By Staceye

February 28, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

Binford I own Park Place and Boardwalk so would I get a pass if I landed on your property? LOL

Demi you are so nasty! LOL

an asian lilly maybe. It clearly distinguishes you from the cat who puts no thought into the date, as well as from the guy who’s “too into it Hey Dreams (wink wink)! LOL

Question um yes I do LOL…ok it’s just a lil’ snicker…but still audible to myself!

By Rell

February 28, 2008 11:59 AM | Link to this

@sexyleggs….i already said sorry….and your right i should have never called her out

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 12:01 PM | Link to this

Rell - Let me just start by saying that I’m not disagreeing with your post, per se. I just chuckle to myself when you speaking on what happens in dating and then add PERIOD. Man, you don’t know what does and doesn’t not work for everyone, you know what works for you! I just wonder why you feel the need to tell people where things like which restaurants they can take dates and what they need to do on em. Man, different chicks will need different results!

And I just hate the fact that so many of you guys feel she needs to “earn” her position. Good grief, let’s let down the walls and point system and just treat people like you’d want to be treated.

By Tazzee

February 28, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

Bre I read an article about more houses being built with 2 master bedrooms. I know I can’t STAND snoring and I have yet to meet a man that does not snore. Separate bedrooms would definitely keep harmony in the household if I got married.

Oh and I’m a light sleeper, so making sure I fall asleep first wouldn’t work for me.

Beautiful I’m not needy - but I do get in needy moods. Which is a direct contrast to my normal state. Normally I’m begging for my space.

By 6'1 & luvinit (aka Don' it All)

February 28, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

Question, yes I do laugh out loud. There are a lot of times when I literally would like to roll on the floor. You guys really make a drab day sunny. Beautiful, I am like that too but I don’t really considerate it to be needy. I like to cuddle. I am affectionate. I am sensitive, but I wouldn’t consider myself needy. I am about to call “Black” and ask him. I will get back to you on that in 5 minutes.

By Rell

February 28, 2008 12:04 PM | Link to this

@truth…thats my point..you said it better than me….but that is my point

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this

So why should I do for you what I’m obviously not doing for myself?

Truth - I’ve never condoned that. But if you keep high expectations for yourself, it’s not wrong to want the same thing from the folks who you’re persuing.

And I’m still not with the whole “I’m just a man, she’s just a woman.” I know you extend that to all woman (even moms) so you’re consistant, but I just have a higher view of the human race in general. You just make it sound like folks are nothing even if you don’t mean it that way.

By The Truth

February 28, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

Bre hold your britches woman. Your going to far with the separate bedroom thang. Lets calm down and rethink this thing. LMAO

Tazzee Co-sign and am actually jacking this part of your post and posting it as if I wrote it. LOL

Question - there are times that I actually laugh out loud, others where I chuckle to myself and then other times when I add so that folks know that I’m joking in one of my ‘dry humor’ posts

By Bre'

February 28, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

I haven’t gotten flowers on a first date since like high school or college. Now I’ve gotten flowers delievered at home or the office the day after a date. I think that is thoughtful.

Demi Your a nut…

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!

February 28, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

Question for you LOLers yes! lol. my co-workers look at me like im crazy.

*Singing

Whatever it takes just - To reshape what, what she messed up - Cause real love needs real love - And I’m here love, cause I need you*

By Demi

February 28, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

LOL@Beautiful…that was cute.

SexyLeggs you and the ladies have trained me well, LOL

Kayla since becoming the father of Li’Demi, I had to learn how to control my moods better. He is very sensitive to my feelings and I am to his feelings…I am sure his mom had thoughts of killing our moody shelves quite a few times HA HA HA

By Rell

February 28, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

@ared…i feel the need to share that is all…i learned the hard way getting to this point….trust me i am the poster child for messing up and messing up in relationships….and yea it works for me and others that i know..and everyone is happy..no pressure..but i see you still want that fanasty..so i am not going to kill it for you..lol

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 28, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

Beautiful “fellas does a needy chick turn you off?”

Not me. A “needy” woman is a huge turn-on (as long as it doesn’t morph into her being possessive or smothering.) If she can factor in the realization that I also need time to just be “me”, then she can have all of me she wants.

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 12:18 PM | Link to this

Rell - I’m just gonna leave your 12:12 alone. We’ll agree to disagree.

But just know for me it’s not about that “fantasy.”

Thanks for sharing your experiences, just know that your testimony is never gonna be “one size fits all” for everyone.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 28, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

What it Do

I can go thru my phases from time to time. This is when I usually drove my x’s crazy… cause I just become withdrawn. No dates, no phone calls, sit in my bat-cave for a few days. I refuse to be out sulkin or arguing with a chic so thats the main reason, also discussing my feelings is the last thing Im trying to do. Females I’ve dealt with in past have never been much help when it comes to me going thru it so I keep to myself and overcome whatever then Im back on track after being MIA for a while.

Staceye - What up Ma! question popped up from reading your post: Have you ever had a real good orgazim from a Man? no, disrespect intended

Rell - Stop wildin on folks man! LoL there are other views and sides of stories homie, let them dudes get it off they chest. Also maybe stress/ pressure is not the best choice of words but I know exactly where young G is commin from cuz all women are not the same in my eyes so if I see Great potential with one I will feel some type of way about the outcome goin good and that does not mean I will go ALL out, I just want it to go well. I go about it the same way you talk about in your posts, but we all know things dont always go according to plan.

By SlimOne

February 28, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

Storms in stripping out of her clothes like The Incredible Hulk…morphing from Ms Jekyll into..Grrrrrr…something I haven’t thought of a name for yet LOL

By The Truth

February 28, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

Ared I’m not saying their nothing. I’m saying if you have high standards and I don’t comb my hair you should know that right away instead of me acting like I do and then stopping. I am what I am. I can convince you I’m something else but in the end this is what it is. I don’t think less of people, I just try to accept them for what they actually are vs what they’re trying to project.

Let me ask you a question. How many guys do you know that bring roses or fresh flowers to their own home? Apparently its not important enough for his personal life so how long do you think he’s going to do it for you. Now me, on the other hand, I have oatmeal and raisins and honey for breakfast 6 times a week. I promise if you come over you can get some of my oatmeal on a regular. Get my drift?

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this

Dreams, pisces - Thank you for remaining my favorite male bloggers.

Darrell - I’m liking your style today too.

By Blue_Kolla

February 28, 2008 12:23 PM | Link to this

Red And I just hate the fact that so many of you guys feel she needs to “earn” her position. Good grief, let’s let down the walls and point system and just treat people like you’d want to be treated.

You snapped my neck on that one! Are you serious? So I guess you’re just handing over the Keys to Amazonia to any old Tom, Dyck, or Blue that walks up treating you nice? I don’t even think so. SMH But I’m with you on point #2 though. But that alone ain’t hardly gon’ put’chu in the winner’s circle.

Now I’m with you all day on point #2;

By Rell

February 28, 2008 12:29 PM | Link to this

@900K, your right and ared..i see where you going my advise is not the end all to be all….yea i need to shut my trap while i am ahead…so since fish not popping up..how was lunch

By Staceye

February 28, 2008 12:30 PM | Link to this

Bre I am sooooowith you! I have said that to people and they looked at me as if I had 3 heards! I like my space when I sleep and I will smack fire out of you if you snore and keep me up all night! Ok I won’t smack fire…but I will push you out of the bed and when you awake and ask why..I will simply let you know…well since I can’t sleep…neither can you! LOL I’m a mean girl, what can I say?

900 yes I have….but I can count on one hand! Heck it won;t even take the whole hand! LOL

By SexyLeggs

February 28, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

Off-topic - You guys take care. I have to work on the 10-K before filing w/the SEC. This document takes so much concentration can’t let you guys distract me. I may or may not be BAACCKK!!!!

By Please answer Rell's ?

February 28, 2008 12:38 PM | Link to this

so since fish not popping up..how was lunch

By Bre'

February 28, 2008 12:39 PM | Link to this

Truth I did not say it out loud. I’m not nuts at all…You guys will be reading the headline on Yahoo, “Man chokes girlfriend after she mentions separate bedrooms”.

Tazee I’m a light sleeper for the most part. I’ve never dated a man long term that snored. One of guys off the rotation might have, but I did not stick around long enough to deal with that crap. I would drive from Marietta back to Decatur before I deal with snoring.

Ok now Darrell sounding good over there. I can get mushy and needy around that time of the month only. Then sometimes if we around a group of ppl I don’t know too well I’m sure to outsiders it looks like I’m stuck on his back. Yeap all that independent crap out the window…..

By Blue_Kolla

February 28, 2008 12:40 PM | Link to this

Rell/Truth I don’t know if G was putting the chick on a plateau higher than his, but I can feel him on his post.

And just to put some more weight on his post, looks to me that he’s describing an evening out with his woman, not some new chick in the scope.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 28, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs Best wishes on pulling together that 10-K. Anything that has to be filed with the SEC can’t be all gravy, so I don’t envy you. :-)

By Cemeeli

February 28, 2008 12:42 PM | Link to this

i witnessed a grown woman suckin her thumb this morning…

DasV No you didn’t!

…and from yesturday you and Blue where reminiscing, i was all on it.

…make him wash his own sheets now… hmmm…

Demi i was only venting to someone in my 10:49 earlier. Not on any mood waves. ;-)

Beautiful if you could come and sing at my office it would be much better than my neighbor ranting to her team right now. sigh

Bre enjoy your flowers. That’s so nice. When i see deliveries here @ work i make it my biz to tell the ladies to really enjoy them and the thought, cause it ain’t happening for everybody. i don’t mind the fact that i get my own…been doing it so long.

Tazzee - Pop Secret ;0).

…my salad must have froze before i got back in the bldg for lunch. Ain’t no way this lettuce is THAT crunchy…

By Dan

February 28, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

@ARed

It not about earning a position (and yes I know I’m late into the game) but think of it this way..

Of the guys you’ve dated in the past 6 months, how many of them could you have stayed with? Would he have garnered more of your proported sexual prowess in a certain amount of time?

Of course he would! That’s what the sentiment is, not that she actively has to do anything, but the time we spend together and the opening of your character to another person takes time. So no man/woman wants to invest that kind of capital into a unknown loss.

By Blue_Kolla

February 28, 2008 12:49 PM | Link to this

Truth I have oatmeal and raisins and honey for breakfast 6 times a week. I promise if you come over you can get some of my oatmeal on a regular.

said like ya boi off the Bud commercial… Dude :/ (Butta? Suga?)

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 28, 2008 12:51 PM | Link to this

Bre’ “I’m sure to outsiders it looks like I’m stuck on his back.”

But as your man (for the sake odf discussion) that’s what I’m there for - to be that person you need (and want) to lean on during those times. Simple as that. My role is to be what you need when you need it, even if it’s during that “time of the month.”

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 28, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

Staceye - One hand huh? Yeah that needs to be upgraded. Do you mean just that few guys or that few good nights?

Rell -..i bet there are five women thinking i wish he would come over here and talk to me -yeah I’ve heard this one most of my life, pops always said to “like to ones that like you”. However this has always been my achilles heel cause Im very selective and focused so when I spot the one I want to talk to thats all I want for right now, the rest…oh well

What up Das, Beautiful, Cee-Cee! ; ARed- I will from now on practice Cali Zen when it comes to you.

By The Truth

February 28, 2008 12:56 PM | Link to this

Bk my experiences have been differnet. Even my ex-wife, which was love at first sight, was a calm and smooth transition. I walked up and told her how it was going to go down and it did. I left out the part about me being a cheating b******* tho. LOL My last gf was the same way. I walked by her at Piedmont park and we talked and it was a rap. I guess its just pov.

Another thing. If its stress have the chick participate in the process. Lets say your going to a play and ordering tickets online. You 2 can pick out seats together and plan where your going to park and eat. That way she’s involved too and if it doesn’t work out y’all did it together. My .02

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!

February 28, 2008 12:59 PM | Link to this

900 can i serenade you today?

By melo

February 28, 2008 12:59 PM | Link to this

Have you ever had a real good orgazim from a Man i wld like to know too Staceye if u dnt mind. Oh i saw ur reply..do u mind a therapy session with ur boy? I always sent flowers after a date if i waz into girl..or even before a date.So ladies, dnt lose heart coz here is one guy who disagrees with sme of the men. Beautiful a needy chic like u is always apreciated as long as ur pudsy rocks as well.But if its so so, then ur boy might become moody more frequently than warranted just to sent u on other errants.

By Jazzyone

February 28, 2008 12:59 PM | Link to this

See this is when Longtime Lurker would come in handy comes not all chicks deserve the same type of treatment…and some garner from the rip great treatment. Should a man be viewed as weak nope he will get much respect becasue hes coming at me like he should a grown a* woman that hes trying to court. have I received flowers on the first date yep and after the first yep did I think he was a sucka nope.

A man needs to step at me like a man, not with game not with hate not with a chip on his shoulder as a man that is interested and he will get the same respect. based on the last few days I can see why so many people are single and will be for a long time there is way too much rhetoric about dumbing down, trying hard not to be yourself. Be the best you U can be and the next person will know how to treat you.

This shyt is not that dayum difficult gee wiz…LMAOFF and yeah Im really lauging to whomever said that…

By webmd.com

February 28, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

Irritable male syndrome (IMS) can be defined as a state of hypersensitivity, frustration, anxiety, and anger that occurs in males and is associated with biochemical changes, hormonal fluctuations, stress, and loss of male identity.

By Demi

February 28, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

Cee your cool, you know I can’t even musher the will power to get mad at you ladies…now putting on Page’s custom Meanmuggin mask @ all the ladies LOL

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 28, 2008 1:14 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon All

Hey Everyone!!

Hey SJ3000….Hey Babeee!! lol!

Yeah..I hate bycth a* men…That is annoying.. There can only be one person who gets moody once a month. And that’s me!!

By Raqi

February 28, 2008 1:15 PM | Link to this

Lunchtime observation: I spotted what will become my 74 pair of shoes today. This woman had on a killer pair Cole Haans. The only problem is they are a bit pricy. It would sure be nice if one of my friends loved me enough to get them for my b-day which is only 35 days away.

By Awwwwwwww...Dayum

February 28, 2008 1:16 PM | Link to this

Awwwwwwww…Dayum, webmd.com!!! You ain’t have to go all ‘.com’ on us!!!

By G

February 28, 2008 1:18 PM | Link to this

I’m back. WOW! I see the board is hot today. LOL! Was it something I said?

Anyway, let me make one thing clear. There are no inferiority / complex issues going on with me at this time or in the foreseeable future. A man is only a “play-date” if he allows himself to be one. I was merely stating an experience that was once rather common with me in the past. Thanks for the free advice folks, but I graduated from Hard-Knocks Dating University (HDU) some time ago. I earned a Bachelor Degree in WTF and a minor in “Next”. My “charge-it-to-the-game” card is full. I’ve invested in “meet me half way property” and the return looks good. LOL!

Nowadays, I’m a bit more discriminate in terms of accessing chemistry between me and the woman before escalating the ante. I can access a great deal on the initial meeting and simple phone conversation. If things are positive, we progress. It’s simple. If the vibes are shaky or non-existent up front, I don’t wait around to see if the “suspended piano” will fall on my head.

Funny……….Sometimes our worst experiences are our best teachers. No stress or worries.

By SeanJohnson3000

February 28, 2008 1:21 PM | Link to this

@ BK & Truth…here is my take on it….i look at it like this..in the Jungle of Love and Dating..you have Lions, Tigers, Monkeys, Ducks and Squirrels…now me being a Lion i eat at the top of the food chain based on approach, confidence and persona and take down ratio…but i certainly wouldnt expect a monkey or a duck to use the same tactics i use in hunting…because it just wouldnt work…doenst mean that the monkeys, ducks and squirrels wont get nuts….they just have use different methods to catch prey..

By Demi

February 28, 2008 1:22 PM | Link to this

Be the best you U can be and the next person will know how to treat you.

That is so true…cuts down on BSie people coming into your life.

By The Truth

February 28, 2008 1:23 PM | Link to this

Jazzy now you bring up a good point. First, I’m not trying to court a chick anymore. I’m on a information expedition to find out if what I thought I saw was what is actually there. After that we go into dating mode or whatever it is. I’m not a “real man” if i drop a bunch of loot on a chick and then find out she’s a fruit loop. From a womans point of view its great because she got to eat and have fun on another mans dime. For the cat he just lost that dime. (Not you personally but in general terms)

I think also there has been a market shift and some folks haven’t got the email. Women, as much as i love them, are no longer the prize. True, you’ll be the prize for the one but across the board you’ve forfeited that power. A good dude is the prize in this new world.

Not looking to start a personal blog war but looking for comments/views from the masses.

GO!!!

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 1:23 PM | Link to this

Kolla - Yup, sure am serious. It’s not about breaking stuff off because cuz he’s been nice to me. Everyone can be nice, but in a dating relationship, I’m going to keep it at the level I expect.

Truth - It doesnt’ matter if he doesn’t bring fresh flowers into his home. It’s about doing nice things for other people and if they like it, maybe incorporating it into a routine. I don’t fix myself a hot plate every night, but it doesn’t mean he’s not gonna get one when he’s over my spot. The selflessness has to start sometime.

Dan - In my world, he does actively have to do something. That speaks to character to me as well. If he’s down to make gestures, he otherwise wouldn’t would tell me something more about him.

I mean, it’s flowers, not a diamond.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 28, 2008 1:23 PM | Link to this

Raqi “It would sure be nice if one of my friends loved me enough to get them for my b-day which is only 35 days away.”

So, what did your husband say when you told him this? LOL!

By DreamsMaterialize

February 28, 2008 1:24 PM | Link to this

Staceye que pasa mami? I see you.

ARed Thanks. Have to be a man of distinction.

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 1:32 PM | Link to this

*eating my Fatburger and doing my happy dance *

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!

February 28, 2008 1:34 PM | Link to this

Truth co-sign your 1:23. and i owe you a spankin’ for yesterday.

By Rell

February 28, 2008 1:35 PM | Link to this

@G cosign….again it would be cool to see how all would act outside of this forum….like darrell stated earlier intent gets lost..so folks read you wrong….

@900..yea always go after what you want..but sometimes the one you will get was checking for you the whole time

@jazzy…i feel you….men need to throw all the experience out the window and start over..we need you ladies to teach us how to ONLY cater to your needs and flow of the relationship..leaning on your own experience(wisdom)as a man is for suckers!!…smh

By SeanJohnson3000

February 28, 2008 1:37 PM | Link to this

@ Blown…whatcha got for me?

By Dan

February 28, 2008 1:37 PM | Link to this

While not a blog… a few of my friends and I communicate via email on an almost daily basis. We in fields from medicine, law, politics, sales, finance, insurance, etc…

And the common thread in some of the emails discuss the very topic Truth brought up. These guys are the cream of the crop in their industries, they/we are in position to be the next industry leaders, and yes, we feel like we are the prize.

It does not demean the value of any woman (and several of those guys are married) but it does mean that women in general have to step the game up.

In conversation, we rarely discuss the sentimentality of relationship and comment more on the practicality. Even the ones that are just getting married comment on it hard how his woman did this, that and the other.

So ladies, I hate to tell you but the tide has turned. Young professional black males are no longer the hunters, we are the hunted, and you should get the right ammo (cooking, cleaning, the sex, etc, etc).

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 28, 2008 1:38 PM | Link to this

Beautiful -that would be a good look, I’ve never had a woman sing to me without me asking her to.

By Jazzyone

February 28, 2008 1:40 PM | Link to this

Truth it’s all good I appreciate your feedback. I feel ur post and thats what you are supposed to do I do the same when in the dating world a good man and woman are prizes as you said in this world I truly believe that. Courting in my world doesn’t always mean dropping a ton of loot actually that type of behavior turns me off and throws red flags for me. Been there done that and got all the fuggin T-shirts.

Thats not what I expect from a man..just come at me as You and I’ll give you Me and if we are a match then hey its All guhd..so Im feeling your post.I courts my man also trust that. Its give and take in my world.

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!

February 28, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

Dan if they (females) didn’t know, they know now. co-sign.

By DasV

February 28, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

back from a long lunch

why errrybody stuttering today?? LOL (*yea i am really laughin out loud)

CeeCEE yea… bluK and i was going ova some things we’ve discussed in the past…. i had once asked about a boy coming to that age when he begins to ‘mature’ and the best advice i got was from Mr.BK who said to start now and teach him how to wash his own sheets so when he needs his sheets washed he is not embarrassed and out-o-wack coming to ask me to do it. good advice

nine huuuuuuunnndred wassup. was that you yesterday i dont spoon-feed adults …… if so, classic

By Demi

February 28, 2008 1:43 PM | Link to this

To be honest, with good convo skills you can find out what are some of the things she liked and hit her from that angle…Yep, gifts under $5.00 has gotten my foot in the door quicker than a $40.00 outting. LOL

Rell/Truth/SJ I am getting out of my simpish ways and man’in up, LOL

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 1:46 PM | Link to this

and you should get the right ammo (cooking, cleaning, the sex, etc, etc).

If this isn’t the biggest DUH heard around the world. No woman should have stopped doing that.

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 28, 2008 1:47 PM | Link to this

SJ3000 Oh nothing…..It’s BLOW not BLOWN…stop changing my name around.

By Cemeeli

February 28, 2008 1:48 PM | Link to this

Demi preciate the love.

Hey 900K. Oh it’s like that Rick James?

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 28, 2008 1:48 PM | Link to this

…but sometimes the one you will get was checking for you the whole time -and thats when the 4th July fire works takes place!

By Raqi

February 28, 2008 1:53 PM | Link to this

Darrell I don’t want him to buy them. I have a brochure for the Westin Palace Hotel in Madrid that I am going to place on his nightstand. You know that’s usually how we drop hints…conveniently leaving brochures, flyers, pages from catalogs just lying around in plain site. LOL It’s my 40th b-day. Don’t I deserve it? Hell I gave him a good birthday last year and valentine’s day this year.

His mother had just died last year right before my birthday so I got pretty much nothing but IMS. Well we did spend the weekend on our friends’ boat, but that don’t count.

By Dan

February 28, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this

You’d think ARed, that no woman would lose those skills, but:

A show of hands from the blog male about the number of “just doing me” females you’ve run into.

My overall point is, that its about mutuality these days. Jazzy, if you about courting your man, good thing. But for those of you that harbour any illusions that those skills are no longer needed or you’re cute enough to not need them….

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!

February 28, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this

900

Singing

I wanna be the one who you believe – In your heart is sent from, sent from heaven – And there’s a piece of me that leaves when your gone – Because your sent, sent from heaven.

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!

February 28, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this

900

Singing

I wanna be the one who you believe – In your heart is sent from, sent from heaven – And there’s a piece of me that leaves when your gone – Because your sent, sent from heaven.

By Bre'

February 28, 2008 1:57 PM | Link to this

Dan I hate to and I mean really hate to….say you have a tidbit of a point. My boys are coming up playing major leagues and they can really have the pick of the liter. Now being somewhat on the inside of there business I know a good bit of info of what they bring to the table. And if I was not there girl, one of them would have to be my hubby. I hear the stories of chicks that come close but never get the deal on the table done. I’m like WOW..how dumb can she be…..but that’s as far as I’m coming to co-signing before getting kicked in the forehead by some of the females.

By Dan

February 28, 2008 1:58 PM | Link to this

Did I just hear Raqi say that her husband’s mother died and it was IMS?

Really?

Could it have been grief?

That was kinda insensitive.

By mytwocents

February 28, 2008 1:59 PM | Link to this

Demi Please drink more jungle juice. Your silliness is contagious today.

Surprised how willing you gents are to serve the ‘needy’. I’m not that girl, but who knew!?! Melo I luv how u make allowances for neediness based on quality of @zz. Hope this pesky new HNIC role won’t cheat of us of these theories hahahaa

Truth A good dude is the prize in this new world. Really, seems like in Atlanta, all you gotta be IS a dude! Don’t also be employed and let’s get crazy – exhibit a few ‘real man’ qualities too… it’s over. You ARE a prized possession even by those who don’t yet have you. Ever notice shady looks bein thrown btwn chicks in public for no apparent reason? This is why. Hate that there’s like an automatic suspicion in the air since y’all are in short supply. Not sure if men pick up on this but probably not the ones here cuz it sounds like lotta y’all feel under appreciated.

By Cemeeli

February 28, 2008 2:01 PM | Link to this

DasV got it!… i took that one with me during traffic yesturday. figured that sort of but not quite. But still stuck on the chic suckin her thumb WTH?! i’m done…

Demi go head bruh with chu’ man’in up. ;-)

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 28, 2008 2:01 PM | Link to this

Back from an entirely too long lunch. I love the beginning of a relationship because it seems as if it is rainbows and “BUTTERFLIES”.

By Simp

February 28, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this

Beaut….. why so sensitive? would you like a box of chocholates? ARed, you know i would have purchase a fattburger for you….smh

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 28, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

Beautiful -Thanks girl… you got me bout to pull out that new cologne and come ova!

DasV -yeah that was mem just had to put it out there. We fast-food americans dont like to read between the lines as we used to. if that makes sense

Cee - #uck yo couch!?? If I forgot any nice thing you’ve done I truly apologize. Here have some strawberries

By Rell

February 28, 2008 2:06 PM | Link to this

@dan….cosign

@demi…..i feel you dude….converstation rule the nation…so yeah when you run out of things to say you losing

By melo

February 28, 2008 2:07 PM | Link to this

and you should get the right ammo (cooking, cleaning, the sex, etc, etc)…If this isn�t the biggest DUH…No woman should have stopped doing that.. thts so sweet ared(u just looking 4 the right man to cook 4,rght?), i think men on the blog are just intimidated by ur intelligence & height!! We need to find sme place to ship demi coz he’s a spoiler…f u demi lol (i just texed my wfe ur message ‘n tld her i can replce u easy if u dnt give up that azz

By mqew

February 28, 2008 2:07 PM | Link to this

Lunch time observations
-Rusan’s buffet is discussing unless you get there at 11:05. people and there long hair swinging uggghhhh -Trader Joe’s rock! Their wine is great!

Ok sooooo, what I miss?

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 28, 2008 2:08 PM | Link to this

6’1 “I love the beginning of a relationship because it seems as if it is rainbows and “BUTTERFLIES”.”

Hey, Beautiful, how ‘bout belting out a few bars of Lovin’ You by Minnie Ripperton for ya girl 6’1. You know the words…”Lovin’ you is easy cuz you’re beautiful…doot ‘n doo-doo dee dooo….OOOOOHHHHHHHH!!!!”

Dag! My ears! LOL!

By Raqi

February 28, 2008 2:10 PM | Link to this

Dan that was joke as it relates to today’s topic. You know ha, ha. sigh

Also as I stated earlier his IMS issues could very well be because he is a SOB. That’s my opinion as of today.

By DasV

February 28, 2008 2:11 PM | Link to this

CEECEE i was stuck on that same thing for a minute too…… i immediately knew there was some emotional problem there… you know, issues…. but men dont think that way apparently. i mentioned it to a guy friend and he immediately said something crass.

so now i am trippin on that. smh

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!

February 28, 2008 2:11 PM | Link to this

Simp because i am. have a prob w/that?

By Cemeeli

February 28, 2008 2:11 PM | Link to this

900K if i read correctly…thanks. I think.

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!

February 28, 2008 2:15 PM | Link to this

BigD lmao. only for you 6’1. ;)

By Simp

February 28, 2008 2:17 PM | Link to this

WOW!!!!!!! i think it’s about time you let 6’1 break you off some or find a jump off

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 28, 2008 2:18 PM | Link to this

Not the beginning, but we just started over so I am patiently waiting for “Black” to start displaying his symptoms. Cemeeli, “Leave me alone, I’m only human” I only do it when I am mad.

By melo

February 28, 2008 2:21 PM | Link to this

mytwocents,Surprised how willing you gents are to serve the ‘needy’, look at it this way, its hard engh having to be on the beck and call of smeone who is just demanding and nagging and rubbing u.But if she got a freaky spontaneous trait, u can be sitting on the couch on a lazy saturday and she reaching in ur pants, and getting dwn to mouthy demonstrate hw much i mean to her, giving me the plzures while iam on nintendo or madden or just flicking on the channels, well then it wnt be me complaining, i can tell u that.U got bring up ur game 4 u to distract me with ur neediness.Then it becmes a win win, u get my attn, i got urs.And men love flattery! When we dne, i’ll go outside holla at my neighbor while stretching myself* hw u mr johnson, hwz wify and kids..while u nw busy fixing the afternnon eats in the kitchen*

By Staceye

February 28, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

900 Do you mean just that few guys or that few good nights the answer to that is a few good nights!

Melo So now you’re a therapist? LOL

6’1 * love the beginning of a relationship because it seems as if it is rainbows and “BUTTERFLIES”* nah girl that’s just gas! LMAO!!!!

By Bre'

February 28, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

Mqew There is a Trader Joes in NYC down in Union Square -14th Street. One day I’m going to go there…I just hate going below 42nd Street. I have to get over that.

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!

February 28, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

Simp you gettin’ mad/IMS? what, you want to hit this? just say it!!!

By The Truth

February 28, 2008 2:23 PM | Link to this

I’m glad that didn’t disintegrate into a blog war. I’m glad your guys talk like mine do Dan. It’s like this chick wants the world based on the fact a bunch of cats in high wanted to knock her off. Can’t cook, clean, and usually if thats the case they can’t fugg becuase their head is fugged up. This is a jungle out here and if you don’t have skills you get scraps. Its plenty of pretty girls sitting at home wondering whats going on? LOL

Jazzy I’m glad you took that the way I planned. Thats my thing, let me see who YOU are and we’ll mutually decide to go forward ot go home. I’m cool either way.

G cosign. “Funny……….Sometimes our worst experiences are our best teachers. No stress or worries.”

Beautiful you know I don’t take spankings but I can compromise. You can tell me what’s on your mind while I put you over my knee.

Ared once again, don’t take this wrong but at your age your looking for the sizzle. I want the meat and potatoes. I was at that point too at one time so I can’t be mad. I do know human nature and it goes like this. People do what brings them the most pleasure.

Fellas, get some nails and wood to build Dan a podium. Tell it…

By Simp

February 28, 2008 2:28 PM | Link to this

Beaut… we both know you’re not ready. I’ll watch you and 6’1 bump. Sing to me and who knows what might happen.

By Beautiful - YeaI'mSensitiveSoWhat!

February 28, 2008 2:32 PM | Link to this

Simp we’ll see who’s ready. wink, wink. lol.

By Andie

February 28, 2008 2:32 PM | Link to this

for those of you that harbour any illusions that those skills are no longer needed or you’re cute enough to not need them (said the one who has illusions of GRANDEUR?)

Some of these men are not always a prize, and if you get him, he could come with a big price.

By mqew

February 28, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

Bre You have to try it. I have been called a wine snob and the $2.50 wine is goooood.

By Demi

February 28, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

Rell lack of conversation is a big issue I have with these dudes…I be like dang, you don’t have to be mr.talkytalky, but there is no excuse to be known as the wallet man.

LMAO@melo…I am innocent, DUDE dont you see my halo I brought at good will’s!!

mytwocents My mood was foul yesterday, just tying to be positive.

Slim where you go? Are you still green?

By The Truth

February 28, 2008 2:34 PM | Link to this

My.02 that doesn’t let a dude off the hook. When I say good dude I’m talkling about a cat that works, takes care of his responsibilities… Even for us over the long haul you have to have skills AND the ability to keep growing.

NY FANS coughlin just signed a new 21 million dollar contract. Weren’t they just thinking about firing that dude before the playoffs started? Dam its good to be a winner. LOL

By 6'1 & Luvinit (AKA don' it all)

February 28, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

Simp why you have to say it so nasty. Dayuuum!

By melo

February 28, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

Melo So now you’re a therapist? i wl just assume that role if u let me hit it!! As i get in and out, we be cmunicating and me asking u* am i hitting it right..shld i go this way or that way..hw u like it babe..hw u like it* U are free to enjoy and holla but i wnt get no credits or plzures from that since its all kinda like research and ur development.I will then provide a detailed manual for ur next man that he will need to read before u 2 get into it. (the contents of this publication cannot be reproduced,copied or adapted for a movie wthout the explicit cosent of melo productions..this is adapted for ms staceye’s bedroom& plzure only)

By DasV

February 28, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

nine huuuuuundred i gotch u.

@thePasta and Dan two brothers that think they are if not gift for the world, at the least a gift for some fortunate young lady….. outside of your jobs, what do you all come to the table with?? the things mentioned as ‘ammunition’ for us females was home stuff (cooking, cleaning, givin up the *cough, cough, etc)

darlings. i dont care how much time you spend with your kids… i dont care if your children are at home with you 24/7…. lemme tell you somethin’: a single moms does more, with more skill, efficiency of time on a better budget and in a more creative way than you ever will. its cause we are the nurturers of life. we think outside the box already. and we handle whateva comes our way and dont even think to pass it someone elses way to do.

i suspect you handling just what you have to… please single moms do that and all the other to a fault. it has killed many of us

you two just getting to where you’ve harnessed the ability to think outside the box and make it look good. and now you sitting back looking at your spoils thinking you’ve done something please.

nikkas, move ova… yous in my way. talkin ‘bout yous at the top of your game…. but you just speakin on one area…. how bout twice that or what i got three times that?? each of my kids is a fledging company i ova-see…. and then theres the home-front AND i hv a successful career. and as any hustler will tell you there is always bizness on the side, thats under my hand as well…..i keeps my nine lock-n-loaded

SMH

By Simp

February 28, 2008 2:40 PM | Link to this

what is a wallet man? Beaut… you are so beautiful to meeeee. can you seeeee. you’re everything i hoped for… and everything i need. you are so beautiful tooooo me.

By SexyLeggs

February 28, 2008 2:40 PM | Link to this

Had to come up for some air. Wanted to thank each and every one of you that replied. It greatly helps me in my planning.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 28, 2008 2:44 PM | Link to this

Truth

Yeah, I just saw on ESPNews where the Giants gave Coughlin that extension. The Raiders just signed one of their DTs (can’t recall his name) to a $50M extension; supposedly the largest contract ever for a DT. (Ladies: “DT” = Defensive Tackle)

Speaking of the NFL, I got my Falcons season ticket renewal invoice in the mail yesterday and how ‘bout this. They’ve reduced the ticket prices for upper-sideline seats from $490 each to $250 but only for the last 13 rows in each section. There are 26 rows in my section (345) and I’m currently on row 13, which means if I want to stay in those same seats I’ll have to pay the full $490 while the dude sitting in the very next row behind me gets to pay $250!!!

Ain’t that some ish?!

I ain’t never mean-mugged on this blog before, but I’m sho’nuff mean-muggin’ now.

By Tazzee

February 28, 2008 2:44 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli you are just wrong. I still love you though.

By Simp

February 28, 2008 2:45 PM | Link to this

6’1. thats our problem. we want everything sugar-coated. i’m sorry. do your thing. lick her up and down.

By SlimOne

February 28, 2008 2:46 PM | Link to this

Demi I’m here lurking when I can….My co-pilot at work has been out since last Friday which means more shyt for SLIM to do! ARGGGHHH! And other muthaphucka’s here act like they can answer a simple azz question when folks from my account calls, KNOWING dayum well I’m busy…but insist on forwarding the call to ME!

WHEW! So i think i might be turning a little red now….

Slim now taking her bottle of aquafina and pouring it down her turtle neck

By Willie Dynamite

February 28, 2008 2:51 PM | Link to this

Rell That 11:31 was big of you Mayne. I’ll have to get ya a brew for that. G Thats a good comeback there playa. At first read I was bout to go all Rell on you. Glad you clarified that. We really need some kind on council out here to help the young cats out so they don’t have as many mis-steps as we did.

Truth Its plenty of pretty girls sitting at home wondering whats going on All Ima say is Cats and Quilts homie Cats and Quilts.

By Staceye

February 28, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

Melo You are a hot mess man! LMAO

Simp oh gosh man..tell us what’s really on your mind dude! LOL

By 6'1 & luvinit (aka Don' it All)

February 28, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

Bootiful, no comment, Come on girl handle my light weight. This might just be therapeutic, sic em.

By Raqi

February 28, 2008 2:56 PM | Link to this

And yeah he had IMS or something at that time. Yelling and screaming at me as if I wronged him. I didn’t do a damn thing but try to comfort him. I put my f*** life on hold for him and he couldn’t find 5 kind words to say to me??? Not five words??? There is only so much sympathy, empathy and consolation that one person can give. I gave all I had. Yes he was some crazy s** that week. And guess what I stayed. Loving him, comforting him, honoring him and keeping him, in sickness and in health forsaking all others as long as we both shall live…I am there. So yeah what I say at times may seem unkind but he got me. Right there by his side.

And furthermore that woman made my life a living hell. She had two of the greatest sons that any woman could ever wish for and she still remained a steadfast bytch. They catered to that woman like you would not believe. Instead of her warming up to the women that her sons chose to marry she made her sons’ lives most miserable by always putting us down and finding fault. Yeah I am damn glad she is gone. And if he never speaks it out loud I know he is also.

Man that felt good. Didn’t know all of that was lingering in me.

Now that I got that off my chest your $225.00 check is in the mail. Send a copy of your bill to my accountant, Dr. Dan, M.D. :-)

By Cemeeli

February 28, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

Tazzee may i say “Kettle Corn” does a busy day wonders. Love you too Ms. Won’t Be Single For Long…yea i said it.

By Dan

February 28, 2008 2:58 PM | Link to this

Aaahhh, DasV

The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step….

I never said that I was at my Apex, quite literally, I have more climbing to do. The thing is that as far success, you lose it when you get complacent.

Kudos on making your kids the most improtant thing in your life. Really.

But my success and pride in it, has nothing to do with you and your journey.

To answer your question with me you get:

A man that cooks, cleans, sews, washes, has a love of fine art, music (classical and contemporary), and love of history and historical context, the ability to laugh at himself (and to make someone else laugh too), someone who…

I’ll stop there, but good luck with your “mini corps” and to you.

By Simp

February 28, 2008 2:58 PM | Link to this

hey Slim, aint nothing like a wet turtle neck sweater. you look perky today. get your work on. let me wring that sweater out……LOL

By melo

February 28, 2008 2:59 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs do u have sme instigator theme for the occsion..u knw like a red or sme so if sme pple want to start sme side ish,they just get the clue?

By 6'1 & luvinit (aka Don' it All)

February 28, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

Lmao at Raqi, looking behind my chair, still got a lot to work on.

By Demi

February 28, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

DasV you don’t count…single moms thinks differently from single women without kids any how

Slim Dayum, I will have your bath water ready when you get home, LOL.

By SexyLeggs

February 28, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

Ok, waiting on round 2 of changes. No theme Melo. You’re funny!

Raqi, you go and stand by your man..that was a beautiful read. I knew exactly what you meant when you first posted how he held everything in until he got home (where he was safe). You put your armor on and weathered the storm!

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 3:42 PM | Link to this

melo - Now I was not one of those women who was on the “men are intimidated by me.” I was saying I understood that argument.

But yeah, my mom has kept her man for 31 years, the tools are there. My problem is that I’m going to drop you EARLY in the process for seemingly minor infractions (in the process of dropping a dude from the team rit (right) now). BUT if you can show me basic common sense and manners (and you’d be surprised how many don’t), you make it to the next round.

Truth - You’ve really got me wrong. Yes, I do want a little romance but I haven’t gotten a flower from a dude since 2001. So really, it’s not a requirement. But don’t be afraid to step out that comfort zone just because you might “take a loss” on the gesture. For instance, I had just met a real cool dude and a couple days later I was up to Hartford for business. He told me he’d never been to Hartford and wondered if it was a nice city. So on the way back I picked him up a photo book in the airport. I’ve never been one to buy a guy any type of gift, I think it sends the wrong message. But I stepped out of my comfort zone because I wasn’t about to worry about what he might “think.”

By Raqi

February 28, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

And for all of you ego fanatic “what does a woman bring to the table” male folks, outside of filling his belly, cleaning his house, washing his dirty damn drawers, catering to his constant demands, sexing him and still contributing to the household finances…right there (look up) is what Raqi brings to the table.

Now I am going to get me a cup of water. (Dang it must be time for my period)

By DasV

February 28, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

blog ate previous post obviously

DAN ROTFLOL@Aaahhh, DasV

i was just venting… i see you playin ‘Doctor’ today, so bill me. i just got annoyed that you and thePasta heads swelled with single moms do daily with no accolades or titles, like ‘gift’.

thanks for patiently reading my post.

and having takin the first step in a journey of 1000 miles, you know that luck has nothing to do with it but i appreciate the sentiment

By SlimOne

February 28, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

Demi Awww, you’re too sweet. I think that water cooled me down a little bit. I can breathe again.

Slim’s co-workers now wondering why she’s walking around with no bottoms on & only one sock.

By Wise Diva

February 28, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

I am not sure what’s happening to the comments, bear with us, guys. Thank you.

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

back tracking a bit

Truth said: I think also there has been a market shift and some folks haven’t got the email. Women, as much as i love them, are no longer the prize. True, you’ll be the prize for the one but across the board you’ve forfeited that power. A good dude is the prize in this new world.

First of all, black women know this already as we’ve always had to fight over the cream of the crop of black brothas since grade school. However, so what. Those successful black men may be in demand, but too many of them are getting caught up with the easy lay and no one wants to settle down with that long term.

Dan speaks of all the groupies who sneak into rooms trying to get paid. If you’re gonna want to settle for anything, those broads will give you the basics. If you want companionship, you’re gonna search for the girl who will be down with for you when you’re on top, or in the gutter, so we’ll always be the prize. What is comes down to is when you’re gonna stop thinking you’re God’s gift to women and to the job you’re supposed to.

By Staceye

February 28, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

Raqi Woosa mami! LOL I take it you weren’t very fond of your mom-in-law! (Pure understatement know) PLease tell me that you were not dancing around and singing, ding dong the withc is dead! Ding dong the witch is dead! Ding dong the wicked witch is dead!!!! LOL

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 28, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

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Staceye - what I tried to type a while ago is that aint cool. You deserve better than that, not to get Ralph Tresvant on you but you need a dude thats willing to put in the work to break his back in order to break yours. I am not a niave bro myself so I know that for some women to reach the top the need the whole pkg from a Man in order to crakk that yoke!

By Kym

February 28, 2008 4:07 PM | Link to this

Okay guess my dedication got lost. For all the blog guys..

Future Baby Mama-Prince

I’ve heard it said my love was look-a-like But could it be that I was lookin’ 4 U? They were cool but somethin’ wasn’t right They had me fooled 4 a minute and then I saw the truth

None of them got what it takes, 2 b a future baby mama Gotta bend in the wind but don’t break, 2 keep yo man Show me one of them and i’ll make her mine with no more drama Future baby mama…….

I’ve heard it said that I won’t treat U right But they ain’t sure cuz I don’t know nothin’ about U U’re 2 secure 2 eva wanna fuss and fight Tha’s Y yo man neva eva got a reason 2 doubt U

None of them got what it takes, 2 b a future baby mama Gotta bend in the wind but don’t break, 2 keep yo man Show me one of them and i’ll make her mine with no more drama Future baby mama…….

Yeah I know U might b fine, but I’ve seen it all b 4, Cinderella was a waste of time, then oops she’s out the door 2 build a house together, the thing that matters more, Is under the floor, a strong foundation that lasts forever more.

Prince talks.. I’m make U happy baby..happier than happy its self. U know what if Uever need a hand call me I’ll help. Cause I got U..anywhere U wanna go..Paris, London, Africa, San Lucas Mexico..see I know what U want..what ever good woman wants..a man so in love with U..he cant help but to flaunt U… deep down I know what U want..U want your girlfriends to hate U. Cause they cant get your man.

None of them got what it takes, 2 b a future baby mama Gotta bend in the wind but don’t break, 2 keep yo man Show me one of them and i’ll make her mine with no more drama Future baby mama…….

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 28, 2008 4:08 PM | Link to this

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Staceye - what I tried to type a while ago is that aint cool. You deserve better than that, not to get Ralph Tresvant on you but you need a dude thats willing to put in the work to break his back in order to break yours. I am not a niave bro myself so I know that for some women to reach the top the need the whole pkg from a Man in order to crakk that yoke!

By Poppa Grande

February 28, 2008 4:10 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon, I know that I late so I will just one thing on the topic. I didn’t read all the post either. We are all human (male and female) and life affects us all. There will be good days and bad days and some are just better and handling what life life throws at them. It kinda like some alcohol drinkers can handle their drinks and some can’t)

Off Topic: How ‘bout Coughlin? I am not a Giants fan but hey he is now paid. On top of that the Giants may get Deangelo Hall from the Falcons for a first rounder and maybe more. They would have some good corners if it pans out. It seems that Washington is in the running for D. Hall as well.

By mytwocents

February 28, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this

Then mission accomplished, Demi. 8-)

I fully support the ability to turn a potential negative into a positive. And since that trait is not reserved for the needy, Melo, I hope if she pounces on you (need & nag free) you’ll give her a bonus & YOU”LL COOK the meal when you come back in from strutting ya lil satisfied stuff out to the mailbox.

I got you, Truth. Just saying that it’s pretty clear which way the wind blows in these parts which tends to foster an unspoken competition. In the unlikely event that a lady missed the billboard spellin it out, some dudes will give a not so subtle reminder. And they don’t even have to be bringing whatever you might be bringin to the table to feel comfortable doin it!

By melo

February 28, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

BUT if you can show me basic common sense and manners (and you’d be surprised how many don’t iam just wndering why that is so tho…is it really bad out there or u just not ready for long term cmitment….which is also understandble, if u ask me.

By pisces08

February 28, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

I’ve never been to Portugal…?

By Blue_Kolla

February 28, 2008 4:21 PM | Link to this

Raqi Lunchtime observation: I spotted what will become my 74 pair of shoes today.

Sorry Slim but that don’t qualify as a Lunchtime Observation. LO’s have to be wild or extaordinary, like:

(1)the dude in the park that’s got the pigeon’s landing on his wrist and feeding ‘em

(2)the old dude on a cane ‘cause his leg is busted up, but jammin’ his azz off ‘cause he’s got a walkman kickin’

(3)slim with the thigh highs where one is only half-thigh high (she had some pretty a* legs though).

Seeumzayin?

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

melo - It’s really not that bad out there. I’m a special case, I know this. I’ve been ready for commitment since been 25. But how many dudes at 25 can say they are really ready to settle down for the rest of their lives in their 20s? So that’s the kind of men I attract. They’re loving the single life right now and I personally do not blame them at all.

Only one of my exes has gotten married since me and he told me that he did it as a business decision (but also because she looks the other way when he cheats).

By The Truth

February 28, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

Ared noone is saying their gods gift but where not the piece of shyt that we’re made out to be either. All this “men ain’t shyt” and then when you get somewhere in life and you look back and say that useless trick had the nerve to try and knock me. And while you may be a ride or die chick most women don’t have the gear in them. Their there for the good times and unfortunately you don’t find that out till you hit the rocks.

My thing is everyone says these cats aren’t manning up and all but thats not a part of my reality. I have and always will handle mine, my current market situation excluded. Still we can sit down and talk about world or local events, travel, business, cooking, sports, or anything else you want to speak of and you’ll never see me cower down. I’m not your no good bum dude and I won’t let anyone say otherwise. Now, you want some oatmeal? LOL

Raqi I do those things too. Now what?

By Staceye

February 28, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this

900 you so nasty! LOL

By Blue_Kolla

February 28, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

.02 bringin to the table

I’ll be glad when that line plays out. Just like that “step up to the plate” ish. Dang.

By SlimOne

February 28, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

BlueK Ohhhh, now I seewausayin.

You wrong for putting me in mismatched thigh-highs though. LMAO!

By Dan

February 28, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

@ARed

If you’ll read Truth post, he said (and I tacitly agreed) that “the one” is the prize. But, as I posted earlier, you ain’t just born “the one”, that’s a title and designation thats given by the SO that feels you (male/female) deserve it.

As far as being God’s gift to women, I’m not. I’m His gift to the world!

And as such I carry my temperment, honesty, integrity and intellect with me at all times. They are on display and available to anyone in need.

In anyway one would call it, I’m blessed.

By Dan

February 28, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

@ARed

If you’ll read Truth post, he said (and I tacitly agreed) that “the one” is the prize. But, as I posted earlier, you ain’t just born “the one”, that’s a title and designation thats given by the SO that feels you (male/female) deserve it.

As far as being God’s gift to women, I’m not. I’m His gift to the world!

And as such I carry my temperment, honesty, integrity and intellect with me at all times. They are on display and available to anyone in need.

In anyway one would call it, I’m blessed.

By Dan

February 28, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

@ARed

If you’ll read Truth post, he said (and I tacitly agreed) that “the one” is the prize. But, as I posted earlier, you ain’t just born “the one”, that’s a title and designation thats given by the SO that feels you (male/female) deserve it.

As far as being God’s gift to women, I’m not. I’m His gift to the world!

And as such I carry my temperment, honesty, integrity and intellect with me at all times. They are on display and available to anyone in need.

In anyway one would call it, I’m blessed.

By melo

February 28, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

mytwocents good, i really like ur delivery and ur mindset.A bro can do a quick barbecue ev nww and then and a sunny satdy aint a bad day to fire my grill and i’ll just let her go upstrs, take a shwer and clean up or better yet, she can nap since she kinda not feeling it!!

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

Naw, Truth where are my flowers? Keep your stankin oatmeal. LOL

But I see your point and on here, it’s kinda like preaching to the choir. I don’t see the women talking about “men ain’t ish” and y’all are surrounded by “ride or die” women. At least by the way we post.

By Raqi

February 28, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

Not today Truthy. You gon get me into some serious hot water sparring with you. LOL

Last night when I went to bed the man moved over and then threw his arm over across me. For some crazy reason immediately I thought about the convo we had yesterday and chuckled out loud. When he asked What? I said “nothing”. But I laughed again. He was like “What ‘Raqi’? What did I do?” I can’t be doing this with you on the regular, man. It ain’t good for me. :-D

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 4:39 PM | Link to this

Dan - Okay. I feel that but put it this way: So y’all are the hunted now… So what? No woman worth her salt is gonna be scared of that. So if you’re gonna sit back and wait for her to come get you… keep waiting. Yeah, we’ll watch some seemingly less worthy females get hitched to these brothas. So what? I personally am not ruled by my biological clock so I’d rather be single forever than marry the wrong dude or lazy dude that makes me chase him.

You talk about you and your guy friends heading towards the top of their careers and then talk in the next breath about kicking back and let the ladies come to you. That’s silly. You took risks and conquered the world in your careers…now you wanna just coast in chooing the woman that will get half of your empire if the marriage goes south? Good luck with that. LOL

By Blue_Kolla

February 28, 2008 4:39 PM | Link to this

Red I don’t see the women talking about “men ain’t ish” and y’all are surrounded by “ride or die” women. At least by the way we post.

Hmmm… must be these glasses.

By QC

February 28, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

Good Night Bloggmen & Bloggetts

By melo

February 28, 2008 4:42 PM | Link to this

I’ve been ready for commitment since been 25 are u aggressive or passive, what spots do u enjoy going out to when its just u or u and ur girls?Whats ur delivery like..i mean do u come out swinging, laying dwn ur rules.. whast is it in ur opninon?I’m, thinking, at 25, dudes around 28 to 30 wld really be salivating at ur special sightings coz thse(not all) wld be more inclineded to want to settle and wify.And at 30 right nw, the 35 and over are waiting still.

By The Truth

February 28, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

Darrell I can’t find out who the Raiders signed today. I’ve tried espn.com but don’t see anything. Btw, if they call and say they need me I’m outta here. Rumors are flying the Raiders need me this year. (The Truth looking around to see who believes this shyt.)

ARed don’t sleep on my oatmeal. Yum Yum. LOL Alright, when I get my pennies up I’m going straight out the box and sending you some flowers. We have to keep that kinda stuff on the lo lo tho. LOL

By 6'1 & luvinit (aka Don' it All)

February 28, 2008 4:48 PM | Link to this

Good Nite u all, Smooches!!!!! Have a safe ride home, C U in da mernin!!!

By mytwocents

February 28, 2008 4:50 PM | Link to this

BK I know, honey. Some folk won’t hear you w/o the ole familiar phrases, tho. I have several nominations for ones we need to retire!

Melo Gracias! Good to know :)

By Staceye

February 28, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

Ared You took risks and conquered the world in your careers…now you wanna just coast in chooing the woman that will get half of your empire if the marriage goes south? Good luck with that ROTFLAMO!!! Now taht was on point! But how come these are the same dudes that say they like some tradtion like the man pursuing the woman..all in the same breath they say this! And they woman are confused! UGH!

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

melo - Getting dates ain’t the problem. Getting men to stop being lazy is. I know dudes out there know they are in demand, so they’ll do that whole “prove your worthiness” crap and think women will give chase (I guess most do, but I don’t). But to answer your question, I’m passive. I love sports bars and lounges. Those are my spot. I’ll roll with a few girls and many times by myself. I’d probably roll solo more if it were safer out there. I never step to dudes. The closest I’ll come is stay in your site line and make the occasional eye contact. If you take the bait, it’s all good. If you don’t I’ll assume you’re married or gay. LOL

Truth - Since we’re both ballin within budget right now, we can do a roll by the cemetary and pick up a nice bouquet. See, compromise. LOL

By Dan

February 28, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

Dig this:

1) Pre-nup

2) Just about everyman know a skeeze when he sees her.

3) To take chances on my education, the debt it brought, the hustle of getting, finding, and keeping good jos, all while climbing the socio-economic ladder rung by rung; is far less difficult than giving time and attention, and one’s heart to a person that would misuse that trust.

4) So yes, I’m waiting, paitently I might add on the woman that steps up. But those that are spotted coming wrong are immediately disqualified, and the rest have to, have to go through it with ya boy.

5) Did I mention prenup?…..

By Raqi

February 28, 2008 4:55 PM | Link to this

You men fool yourselves into thinking that you are God’s gift to the world, but what you fail to remember is WE (women) are God’s gift to you. (smile)

Good night.

By melo

February 28, 2008 4:56 PM | Link to this

Only one of my exes has gotten married it really bothers me that 1) u attract these types and 2) of all ur liasons, u only speak of urself as the worthy person, the others were not. (not in those words but thats whats infered by the wrds in my view)

By Dan

February 28, 2008 5:00 PM | Link to this

WE (women) are God’s gift to you…and all it took was a rib! (smile)

By Demi

February 28, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

y’all are surrounded by “ride or die” women. At least by the way we post.

I know 7 so far that are on here…

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

So yes, I’m waiting, paitently I might add on the woman that steps up.

I mean Dan, if that’s working for you, do you. I just don’t think that method will attract the type of women you think it will. But hey, it’s y’all world now right? So have at it.

A prenup might protect the assets (but she’s still gonna get something) but it won’t keep your heart from getting smashed or wanting to choke a bytch. But okay. LOL

By The Truth

February 28, 2008 5:04 PM | Link to this

*Ared “Since we’re both ballin within budget right now, we can do a roll by the cemetary and pick up a nice bouquet. See, compromise. LOL”

Now your my girl. LMAO

Have a good night e1.

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 5:07 PM | Link to this

melo - Does it bother you really? LOL. Hey I’ve dated a couple guys who were jerks. But mostly nice guys who weren’t “ready” whether that was in general or just weren’t feeling me…that’s their call. Doesn’t mean they aren’t worthy in general, just weren’t the one for me. What is the problem with that?

By AmazonRed

February 28, 2008 5:18 PM | Link to this

Let’s end on this note:

You men fool yourselves into thinking that you are God’s gift to the world, but what you fail to remember is WE (women) are God’s gift to you. (smile)

Good night. - Raqi