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Tuesday, February 26, 2008
Date with a mirror
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Have you ever met and dated someone who reminded you a lot of yourself? Was it a great experience or a creepy one? My inner narcissist would love to go out with someone as witty and clever and lovely as moi.
Then again, I can be overly critical, moody, and fiercely stubborn at times. Would I want all those things in a boyfriend? Probably not! I love the lyrics to one of my favorite India.Arie songs, entitled, The Truth: If I am a reflection of him, then I must be fly.
My mother always told me that the people who come into our lives are a reflection of who we are. Do you think we attract the crazy and unstable because that’s who we really are at the time? Honestly, that would explain a boatload of messed up boyfriends I have had!
So I have learned that we tend to attract people who have similar levels of emotional intelligence, and development. It can be a blessing or a curse. When it’s a blessing, it’s like going on a date with a mirror. You love what you see!
Do you think it’s better to be with someone who is more like you (i.e., same outlook on life, similar past experiences, same personality) or less like you? Would you want to be with someone you knew as well as you knew yourself - inside and out?
Ladies, do you think it would be good to date a male version of yourself? Guys, what about you, could you date a female version of yourself?
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