Misadventures in Atlanta

By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 8:22 AM | Link to this

Good morning!

ohhh…am i first?…

What kind of dating advice do you think single guys need? Don’t tell me that your ex was a capital “B”, on the first date! …PLEASE!

By pisces08

February 13, 2008 8:36 AM | Link to this

Morning All. Ok, I’m open, lets hear it. I can use the advice. I admit it (today only).

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 13, 2008 8:41 AM | Link to this

Oh, snap! This oughta be good. LOL! (Morning, Cemeeli.) ;-)

By Page1908

February 13, 2008 8:42 AM | Link to this

Good Morning! Ok, this is a good topic, so let me think about it. LOL

Hey Cee are you going to the CIAA event this year? Do you know about it?

By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 8:43 AM | Link to this

…aside from superficials….

Where does he meet them? wher he lets expect…she maybe at the car wash washing her car 7am on a Saturday morning…@ the neighborhood Target in the electronics isle picking up a CD’…

What appeals to her? her = me. Well if you are genuine, funny and can carry a decent simple conversation, well that helps.

What would make him stand out from the other suitors? If he’s easy going AND serious enough to know how to balance life. That scent!

By Demi

February 13, 2008 8:45 AM | Link to this

Mayyyne…like why do I feel a male bashing coming on?

Demi is now calling “Tank” (of Matrix 1) to load weapons program

By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 8:49 AM | Link to this

What Cee meant to say was:

Where does he meet them? where he least expects…she maybe at the car wash, washing her car 7am on a Saturday morning…

This was for entertaining purposes only….I’m not grammar correcting myself agian!

Hey Page and Mr. Darrell

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 13, 2008 8:49 AM | Link to this

Demi “Demi is now calling “Tank” (of Matrix 1) to load weapons program”

Speaking of The Matrix, I hope you’ve been practicing dodging bullets in slow-motion. LOL!

By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 8:50 AM | Link to this

What Cee meant to say was:

Where does he meet them? where he least expects…she maybe at the car wash, washing her car 7am on a Saturday morning…

This was for entertaining purposes only….I’m not grammar correcting myself agian!

Hey Page and Mr. Darrell

By m

February 13, 2008 8:54 AM | Link to this

Focus! - instead of using this as a chat room, how about answering the question?

By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 8:57 AM | Link to this

*blog ate my last post to you Page.

Yes Cee knows about the CIAA and i hadn’t thought to make it out to the tournaments. What about you?

By Page1908

February 13, 2008 8:59 AM | Link to this

Because I travel quite a bit for work and pleasure, I always meet dudes at the airport. I love the airport. I also meet dudes when I least expect to.

One key piece of advice that I would like to offer to men is this: Don’t think that just because a woman expresses interest in you that you are the only one. Guys tend to think that if they are not interested in the woman that she will automatically pursue him, which in some cases, maybe, but not all. If I go out on a date with someone and we don’t talk much after that, for whatever reason, most likely the feeling is mutual. I can think of several of them in the last few months who don’t have much to offer, therefore it’s no concern if I don’t hear from them either way.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

February 13, 2008 8:59 AM | Link to this

Morning Err’body!!

Did somebody mention something about the CIAA tournament?? I love going to the tournament, but havent been in about 2yrs. Parents & siblings all alumns of CIAA schools.

Cemeeli I see you got it jumpin already girl! LOL

Page1908 hey chica!

I will comment later, need a moment to really wake up! :0)

By Kym

February 13, 2008 8:59 AM | Link to this

Ladies, do you think you can give a single guy a little insight on dating a quality woman?

I would drop the word quality and say a woman because what is quality for some is trash to others. Main advice be yourself not who you think she wants to meet, not your representative, just being you is really enough. If it works for her great..if not then oh well.

Where does he meet them? Everywhere…

What appeals to her? Cant answer that because what appeals to me may not appeal to others..how a dude looks has never been my thing..accept for height..but then I have dated “the height challenged before” but what appeals to me is conversation, and attitude, you can say alot about yourself without saying anything at all. What would make him stand out from the other suitors? Again cant speak for anyone else…but if the guy is geniune it will show through.

By QC

February 13, 2008 9:05 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers….Demi you may need to pull out your supersonic bullet proof double sided vest

By IMHO

February 13, 2008 9:10 AM | Link to this

Don’ts:

don’t talk down to me.

don’t “front” and brag about yourself.

don’t badmouth others.

don’t get drunk.

don’t get offended if I don’t pretend to agree with you on everything.

Do’s:

Ask my opinion on…anything.

compliment me on…anything.

find out which interests we have in common and talk about those instead of droning on and on about which college team is gonna make it to the Final Four.

Be honest at the end of the date. If you didn’t have a good time, or don’t think you want to go out again, say so. I promise nobody will get offended if you say something like “I think you’re great but I don’t think we have that spark. Thanks for going out with me though.”

By Page1908

February 13, 2008 9:10 AM | Link to this

Cee Girl, you should go this year! I am not an Alumni of any CIAA schools, but a friend on mine is, who lives in Charlotte, so I am flying up there on the 29th to go and I’ll be there all weekend. Or course the parties and Step Show will be off the chain. According to my friend, there’s gonna be tons of people all over the place. He’s a former basketball player and at 6’6 and with my height, I am sure we’ll blend right in…lol. Some of my sorors are going and another friend who is a Nupe is gonna go with his GF and meet us there. It will be like a “couples” kinda thing for us, so it should be awesome.

Mo Hey chica! The CIAA is gonna be fun for sure! But, you know we are gonna be off the chain this weekend at 300 Atlanta and Barnacles. My friend sent me my new Shaq Jersey since he was just traded to my Suns, so hopefully I will get it on time. If not, I’ll have to rock my Nash stuff instead, lol.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 13, 2008 9:10 AM | Link to this

Demi You better brush up on dodging bullets in slow motion. LOL!

By Jay

February 13, 2008 9:16 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli Is that too much caffine?

By court_fanatic

February 13, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this

Respect her, admire her, compliment her, enjoy her uniqueness and appreciate her for who she is. And above all - never take her for granted. Appreciate the small tokens of affection and love.

By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 9:22 AM | Link to this

Page Okay so i see imma live vicariously through you too! Gurl, you travel like i did before i had my son (not that i regret). I so appreciate hearing your travels…ENJOY! I’ll catch up with you real soon ;-).

…i have family in the Charlotte/Winston, area…i could finagle a trip…hmmm. No hotel cost…

Hey Mo!

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 13, 2008 9:24 AM | Link to this

Mornin All - I see a lot of Nice comments made by the ladies this morn, but it aint the whole truth just yet. I’ll sit back for a min on this one…

By Demi

February 13, 2008 9:25 AM | Link to this

Darrell I aint dodging shyt, Imma make like Neo and stop the bullets

Demi now holds his hand out like Neo

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 9:25 AM | Link to this

Good morning all.

Well, the best piece of dating advice I have for the fellas is: DON’T BE LAZY! Yes, we know that the dating world works in your favor, and that you are the commodity due to the ratio of men to women. However, step up be a man and stop letting this fact make you lazy. Do your job, so she will have no excuse not to do hers.

There is plenty more, but that is the biggest problem I see out there.

By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

Jay i’on know who brewed the Starbucks Christmas Blend this morning…(does coffee grinds stale?)i guess…LOL!

By tweety

February 13, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

Good Morning..OFF TOPIC-have anyone ever used a Tongue vibrator-does it work I mean does the guy like it…would like to know before i get it…Thanks

By Page1908

February 13, 2008 9:29 AM | Link to this

Cee Girl, I am just used to it. All these different time zones are sure to catch up with me sooner or later. I was just in NYC at the end of Jan for work, then the next weekend in Phoenix for Superbowl, so I am about due again, lol.

By DreamsMaterialize

February 13, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

Hey everyone.
she maybe at the car wash washing her car 7am on a Saturday morning…@ the neighborhood Target in the electronics isle picking up a CD’…

To all the ladies on the blog…how receptive are you to guys who approach you randomly in a public place?

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 13, 2008 9:33 AM | Link to this

Dayum, Tweety! Come on in. Don’t mind us. LOL!

By Jay

February 13, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli It seems you’re feeling real good today. I hope all goes well.

By Page1908

February 13, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

Dreams I am very receptive to this way, in fact I prefer it. It is less threatening in my opinion and allows for a more natural conversation. The other day I met a dude at the Health Food store when I was buying my apple cider vinegar.

By Jay

February 13, 2008 9:42 AM | Link to this

Dreams That’s the real question. From my experience, When you apporch these women in these places. They look at you and think why are you bringing all this game. We also understand, just because a woman is out, she dont want to be approched.

By Raqi

February 13, 2008 9:45 AM | Link to this

If you want to meet a mature poised woman you must be a mature self-confident man.

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

Dreams - It really depends on how he approaches and what he looks like. Might sound shallow, but it’s the truth.

By QC

February 13, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this

Demi, use your vest…not your hands you’re gonna need them to feed your sweetie her chocolate strawberries on V-day

By SexyCool

February 13, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this

what makes coach stand out to me is his sense of style (his grooming and dress are impeccable), his individuality (he is not a follower), his authoratative manner (he is a leader and a take charge kind of guy), his sense of humor (he keeps me laughing), his boldness (he’s not afraid to take risks), his intellect (he majored in political science and is a history buff), his sexiness…

i also appreciate that he pays attention to me…he looks into my eyes when he is talking to me and when he is listening…he is chivalrous…he is protective of me…

and i could go on…obviously…

my advice to single men dating…find someone with whom you have something IN COMMON, that you like talking to and that you can laugh with…

oh…and quit trying so hard to be Mack of the Month…just be yourself…

By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

Dreams

How receptive are you to guys who approach you randomly in a public place?

I’m the same Cee at work, church, salon, school, at the house around the family…ya-da. The place where a guy approachs will not make a diff from the next…mostly i think i am approachable. Yet don’t get it twisted to think i can be overly nice/pushover, b/c i did have a hell of an example on to handle ignorant men/women.

By SlimOne

February 13, 2008 9:53 AM | Link to this

Times changed

Guys have now switched roles from being the chaser to sitting back chilling while the women chase. This gives them the opportunity to pick-n-choose. Its like we would rather play it their way than to not play at all. When we give in, they win. If we walk, they really don’t care b/c another one will easily take our place and do what we wouldn’t do. As women, we have set ourselves up and now we are paying for it.

By 2CPTG©

February 13, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

Good Morning…..

Now I gotta vent! Ya know, gettin kinda ticked here with all these female centered topics!!! How can you ask ladies to give Men advice? Why not ask a dude whose in a successful relationship to give his compadres advice, not a female….Not saying they can’t, but they’re not men!!! They don’t think like us, nor act like us, so what qualifies them to give us advice? You don’t see men giving ladies advice on female products, do ya???

come on moderators, balance this thing out!

By SayWhat

February 13, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

Don’t make going for the drawers a priority. And remember, if you have to beg, she doesn’t want to give it to you. And most important of all, NO/STOP MEANS NO/STOP!! Not heading the warning can get you a bullet (and I mean the Smith & Wesson kind).

Happy dating!

By Blue_Kolla

February 13, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

What up blog…

900 I see a lot of Nice comments made by the ladies this morn, but it aint the whole truth just yet. I’ll sit back for a min on this one…

Me too.

By The Truth

February 13, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

By the time a dude hits the market most of the work is already done. He’s a product of his upbringing.

If I had a son I’d tell him to be a sniper and not a shotgun blast. Pick your targets carefully and shoot some strong rounds down range. Don’t be a shotgun blast wasting your assets and exposing yourself to every sorry chick out there. They’ll drain your resources and give you a negative perception of women as a whole.

Also, I’d show him that pain is part of life and winners experience more pain than losers, they just process it better. Once a cat settles up with pain he can’t be stopped.

I’d also expose him to everything possible. Music, libraries, fighting (martial arts, boxing), cooking, ironing, birth, death, everything I could get him near. EVERYTHING, you never know when you’ll need a skill or experience. Charachter is simply being able to deal with just about anything life throws at you.

Most important is never, ever, date from the bottom. Its easier to lose a chick and move on than stay under her terms. NEVER FOLLOW HER PLAN IN LIFE. If you don’t have a plan sit your azz down and develope one, alone. Then hit the track again.

I’d send him out to the world and women would be a by product of him being himself.

My .02

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By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

Thanks…Jay

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

2CPTG - There will probably be a reciprical topic in the coming days. Be patient.

Also, why wouldn’t you accept advice from women if the topic is dating women? Wouldn’t we know what we’d want and what we are looking for out of a guy?

By Page1908

February 13, 2008 9:59 AM | Link to this

LOL 2 Ok, that’s true, but from what I’ve seen on the blog, there are very few men on here who are in successful relationships. What I usually see is men talking about cheating on their women, disrespecting women, and bragging about how bomb they are when they have a woman. Most of the dudes on here talk about how great, handsome, whatever they are, but I doubt their blog persona is true in person, who knows. You are right, I would like to hear more from men in successful relationships.

By Raqi

February 13, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

DreamMat When I was single, if you found me out and about at 7am in the morning doing anything, I did not want to be approached. Keeping those hours are usually for those who want to avoid the crowds and all the hustle and bustle. If she looks preoccupied in what she is doing, you may not get too much of a response out of her. But that’s just me.

One thing you have to remember is doing chores (shopping, washing the car) is a time crunch for a lot of women. We are usually trying to get in and get out. The last thing we want is to be hassled by someone who we may assume is just trying to “get in and get out” of us.

If a woman is at the car wash with the possibility of picking up someone, you will know it. It will be that obvious.

By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

2C…i’d like to hear…balance.

By Tazzee

February 13, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

Kym the former Dr. made a lot of good points.

My advice comes from a woman that dates to marry. If a guy has the same goal it really doesn’t take a lot. No pick-up lines are needed, but honesty is a must. I suggest that a guy that is looking for a LTR stay out of shadeville - you know, only giving out the cell number, being purposefully secretive about certain things…all that. While some guys may think they are operating on a ‘need to know’ basis, most women view those tactics as being shady and that the man has something to hide. That is what leads to us overanalyzing stuff. But if a man starts out with an attitude of full disclosure, he starts out with a level of trust from the lady he is courting.

Now there may be some women that have a lot of baggage and are naturally suspicious, so you this doesn’t apply to all. But the woman that’s in a good place in her life and ready to start forming a life with a man will be receptive to a man that’s an open book.

Happy Hump Day folks!

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 13, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

What up CEE! I see you droppin a few gems on here today.

ARed mornin… I feel you on the lazy thing, but I gotta take up for the lost few. Cause if you’ve delt w/ a few females that did not step up and show appreciation for you openin doors, givin compliments, tryin to give a dam about what they have to say then some of these habits may fade. You’d be surprised to find how many women out there are not too receptive to the “nice” attentive man. I tend to think it has more to do with how women receive this type of treatment vs. men just being lazy. great example for fellas, go head and open doors for every young chic you can this week. You’ll be amazed @ how many do Not say thanx

Mack of the Month -naw Im going for the Ray Charles lifetime acheivement award.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 13, 2008 10:07 AM | Link to this

I have no “game”. I’m just me.

By melo

February 13, 2008 10:07 AM | Link to this

NEVER FOLLOW HER PLAN IN LIFE. If you don’t have a plan sit your azz down and develope one, alone u nailed it Truth!! 2CPTG© exactly. That truth is the real advice for a man who wants to be a leader of his household.Strong man.

By 2CPTG©

February 13, 2008 10:08 AM | Link to this

A Red, you said, “There will probably be a reciprical topic in the coming days. Be patient.”

you’re a smart young lady…what’s the operative word in your sentence? ……..probably!!!!

I’m just sayin’, day in and day out….ladies this, and ladies that….soror, I didn’t say the brother in a successful ‘lationship had to come from the blog; It just kills me how skewed this thing is….

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 10:08 AM | Link to this

900k - No taking up for your gender today. There are always going to be unappreciative women, that’s not the topic today! And it’s also not the point. Do your job and if she doesn’t do hers, it’s not on you!

But yeah, I’ve read on here time and time again how women arent’ into the nice, receptive guys, but many guys aren’t trying to be that way either, because they take it as a sign of weakness.

By Dan

February 13, 2008 10:08 AM | Link to this

the wise diva thinks it is hilarious that dating advice from men and women are contradictory. The reality however is if you get 5 women in a room you will get 5 different and often contradictory opionions, 5 men in a room and you may have 1 with a different take. This is why we have to wing it, which is fine, makes it more exciting

By Tazzee

February 13, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

2can I understand your vent, but while we don’t think alike I think it would be great for men to see how certain things you guys do get filtered by us. And we are all different so just because a man was successful getting his wife doesn’t mean it’s going to work on the next woman. Like Kym said, we can only speak from our experiences.

Furthermore, I don’t think a lot of men are really giving advice to one another because I’ve met quite a few ‘decent’ dudes that needed some guidance. They knew and fraternized with guys in successful relationships but something wasn’t getting passed on…

How many of you guys out there have asked for advice from some of your friends in successful relationships?

Truth well said sir.

dangit, I got a lot of work to do today!

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

2CPTG - That’s because men are doodyheads. LOL. No one wants to read guy geared topics. LOL!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

February 13, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

DreamsMaterialize I agree with Page1908 on your question as to when to approach me, notice I said me. I actually prefer to be approached in Target, Starbucks, Waffle House etc. I prefer the places where you can actually talk to me. Now if I look like I am in a hurry then I probably dont want to be approached but otherwise I am open. Just dont be fooled by the stone face, have to wear that from time to time! LOL

By Blue_Kolla

February 13, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this

@ Truth Co-sign that 9:57

By does it matter

February 13, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this

Let’s set aside the superficial: his looks and money (if only for a day) and concentrate on the good stuff - a man’s real A game, his character.

Women looking at character, not that has become a freaking joke today. Women don’t want character they want a CHARACTER. If you looked for more character than the Characters of the world, then maybe there wouldn’t be much to try and change later in life. You do realise that guys act this way because they crave the attention, the same way as that “tramp” on the dance floor that is half naked. Those that don’t need to be the center of attention eventually become the center of attention as we get older due to their character. Those characters acts get old and then you want to start changing them. People think that men have a distorted view due to Models and Stars are mistaken, it has become the other way. Your all looking for the Brad Pitts or Will Smiths, guess what there are only 1 of each of them. So if you really want to find happiness start looking at that guy that treats People respectfully, not just women, but everyone. Then you will see a guy with character and he will be someone that you can count on, someone that is willing to be the person you need him to be. I think its quite telling that no one, not a single person mentioned character until I posted. That should tell you all you need to know as to why we have so many divorces and good people that are still single. Keep rewarding those guys for being a Character and they will never change, then you children will end up the same way because it worked for Daddy and Mommy, even though they don’t live together anymore. Get real…

By Raqi

February 13, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this

But 2CPTG I have seen her post topics that you send to her. Lets give her credit for that.

And you are correct we don’t think like men just like men don’t think like women. That’s why you need a woman to tip you on how a woman thinks.

By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this

Hey there 900K i’m just keeping it Cee…‘gems’ Thanks…guess that’s a compliment.

Tazzee I had Pop Secret for dinner lastnight. We talked about popcorn enough yesturday so i wanted/made me a bowl.

By 2CPTG©

February 13, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this

Tazz….I feel what all of you ladies are saying….HOWEVER….ya still ain’t a man! y’all want us to be what y’all want us to be, not whats within us to be whomever we shall be…(if you can follow that)….

we’re always talking about the de-masculinization of society - hell, it goes on right here, be it subliminally or not, it’s happens every day right before our damn eyes!

answer this for me Tazz, cna a broke dude tell you how to get money?

By Raqi

February 13, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

LOL I said that, but I get most of my sound advice from my friend Doc and not her husband of 17yrs Dr. Doc.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 13, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

Most of the dudes on here talk about how great, handsome, whatever they are, but I doubt their blog persona is true in person, who knows. -this is all me FYI… no hidin behind some fake made up life. But I feel you, just remember that its more like “many people on here” not just the men.

ARed - I got you… I still continue to be me no matter what. But I gotta say I have been known to get on some shyt after dealin w/ a few bubble heads. but many guys aren’t trying to be that way either, because they take it as a sign of weakness.- speakin of weakness you got them 4” heels on 2day???

The reality however is if you get 5 women in a room you will get 5 different and often contradictory opionions -well said, women are so much alike and completely different at the same time. I blame it on the mood swings…

By Page1908

February 13, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

Frat and 900 Ok, points well taken.

By Tazzee

February 13, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

2can no, a broke dude can’t tell me how to get money. But the person that didn’t give me the job can tell me better what I could have done to get the job than someone else that’s employed at a totally different company.

And most of the women are saying ‘be yourself’ - yes some are adding what we’d like once you get in the relationship, but as it pertains to meeting and getting a chance for the relationship - be yourself. And if being yourself meshes with me being myself then cool - if it doesn’t, then move on to being yourself with the next woman. No one is asking anyone to change the core of their being.

Most of the ‘game’ men spit is a result of them being hurt that first time (this is coming from the men on this blog) or something else external. We’re saying get rid of all that baggage - if you think you’re ready to settle down - and come with an open book. At least that’s what Tazzee is saying.

Cemeeli You are so wrong. What kind was it - Homestyle, Kettle Corn, Butter, Low-fat? Give me the deets so I can live vicariously through you, LOL.

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

900k - I’ve got on whatever you want me to have on today. ;-)

By SexyCool

February 13, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this

i’m a tazzee fan today…

By The Truth

February 13, 2008 10:43 AM | Link to this

Raqi “That’s why you need a woman to tip you on how a woman thinks.” Nothing could be further form the truth. It doesn’t matter how you think, ol boy should roll the way he rolls, period. Your thoughts/emotions will change by tomorrow moring. Any athlete knows that once you start playing your opponents game you’ve lost. Same in dating.

Someone in here said awhile back that people start changing and one day realize they don’t know who they are anymore, or something to that affect. A cat with a strong mind won’t fall victim to that. He’ll say “this is the program I run and you can either ride or bolt but its not changing, dam what you think.”

Also, you can be nice and strong too. Being a man doesn’t mean walking around with a club, but it does mean that we can get straight barbaric if need be. You gotta have the whole tool chest to make it in this day.

Ared a gem from a woman. ” Do your job, so she will have no excuse not to do hers.” Thats the key, when a cat does his job he forces e1 around him to do theirs. Its a beautiful thing. If a cat does his job right and it doesn’t work out her girlfrinds will get in line to do the job. LOL

By melo

February 13, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

2CPTG If a guy wanted to meet, date, and have a relationship with women, what “man laws” do think would help him?….i think tho, that this part of WD qs is addressing men.So chip in with ur man laws as she puts it.

By For Real

February 13, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!

Part 1

There are definitely single men out there that are utterly clueless about dating women - normal and mature women. He may pretend to know it all, but it becomes clear that he has a lot to learn.

Okay, first if any man claims to know anything about women they are lying. No two women are the same thus it is impossible, Impossible, IMPOSSIBLE to know women because women do not have baseline. How can women expect a man to know them when women themselves don’t know. So Wise I would change that one sentence to read “every man is clueless”. Oh and can you please tell me what women doesn’t believe that she is “normal and mature”? As a matter of fact can I get a definition of “normal and mature” from the ladies?

By 2CPTG©

February 13, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

Raqi, it ain’t so much the topics, cause that ain’t gon’ change, but the delivery of the topics…..

I guess that whole, “advice for a single guy” just threw me…..If I’mma take some advice, it’s gon’ be from somebody that’s achieved what I’m seeking;

By mytwocents

February 13, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this

Since you asked, here are some 2Cent Tips:

Please stop leading with your car’s make & model, your salary or how much you paid for that watch… It’ll either A.) Turn a real chick off or B.) Impress a silly chick whom you’ll be telling your boys was a money trick by the next weekend AND C.) Expose you as someone who has to buy the good stuff. Give YOURSELF more credit than that, and certainly aim to secure a woman with more depth than that. You’re worth it!

If you can’t make it afterall, CALL. If you have to postpone for 30 mins, 1hr, 2days CALL. DO NOT expect to call an hour or days later and find that she’s been sitting there with baited breath still ready to share her collective goodies with you! (Mind, Body, Soul depending on how far y’all are in the mixx. Yes, life happens even when we have pre-set plans ~ Respect our time as much as you respect your own.

Give yourself a lil cheat sheet – many of us do. When you obtain the #, put a memorable characteristic in your Cell/PDA. ie First Name: Jackie Last Name: Red Stilettos!, First Name: Simone Last Name: Publix Deli, First Name: Sally Last Name: Fat AZZ whateva… NEVER call & ask a lady to ‘remind you where you met her/ what she looks like, etc.’ That is SUPER Ridiculous and yes, insulting. Rack your memory first and then call her cute behind.

Don’t ASSUME the ladies aren’t into Sports. Maybe she’d like to go to the game with you & y’all can trash talk each other.

2C What’s confusing you? If a guy in a successful relationship gave his advice then it would only reflect how he got his sweetie. If single gals give their advice it may help someone else snag a sweetie of their own. Successful guy’s gal is already gone…XOXO

By the truth

February 13, 2008 10:48 AM | Link to this

I have been married for just over a year. My advice for single guys is to not act like a little boy and grow up. Treat women with respect. Do not date someone just to have someone to date. Be honest and up front and NEVER LIE. Trust me on this one. Also, I would not advise moving in together. That is trouble you do not want. If you think that moving in together will “help” you know whether or not to marry that person then you should not get married in the first place. TRUST ME ON THIS ONE!

By Blue_Kolla

February 13, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

Truth is hittin’ on all cylinders today. Dude, I couldn’t’ve said it any better myself.

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

Truth - Thanks for the shout out. And you are so right about other women getting in line to do the job if his woman won’t.

I had a very successful co-worker who took care of home very well. The wife didn’t have to work. Yet, he’d come home, no hot plate, house not clean. He got rid of her and found him a real trophy wife. His ex is still mad an bitter. Of course, she’s living nice off the alimony tho.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 13, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

does it matter…gotta ^5 your post at 10:17.

My experience has been that, generally speaking, there seems to be more of an emphasis by women today on the socio-economic status of the man than on the shape of his character. As example of that is the substance of the majority of discourse that happens on this very blog. There’s no shortage of talk about the “what” and “how much” of the man, but not nearly as much in terms of the “who”.

Now, before ya’ll go ballistic, I’m not applying that mindset to every woman here. After all, I did emphaize that I was speaking in “general” terms. Nevertheless, it strikes me as odd that the internal qualities of a man seem to take a back seat these days to whatever physical and material attributes he brings to the table and whether or not those attributes meet what I call the “oatmeal test” (recommended daily allowance) of a particular woman.

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

LOL @ little “the truth”. Big “The Truth” is gonna get ya. LOL

By Tazzee

February 13, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

2can and another thing…no one is trying to tell a man how got be a man.

Now mind you - I’m taking Wise Diva’s questions literal. It appears that the following questions:

*What kind of dating advice do you think single guys need? What are common mistakes do men make in dating?

If a guy wanted to meet, date, and have a relationship with women, what “man laws” do think would help him?*

are posed to the general blog population. The following questions are posed to the ladies:

Ladies, do you think you can give a single guy a little insight on dating a quality woman? Where does he meet them? What appeals to her? What would make him stand out from the other suitors?

So it appears that the ladies-only questions relate to how to get us, but anyone in a successful relationship should comment on how to keep us.

By DreamsMaterialize

February 13, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

I see there are conflicting views about approaching women in public places. This just confirms my view that if you see someone you like, then take a shot. From the blog it seems the chances are about 50/50 that she’ll be receptive.

900 No doubt the gentlemen’s approach doesn’t get appreciated. I see it all the time. It’s as if the women feel you are obliged to do those things, but that they aren’t obliged to be appreciative. Not asking you to strip on the spot cuz I opened the door for you, but “thanks” or even a nod of acknowledgement would be nice. I guess it’s just how they was raised. lol

By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

Tazzee it was um…let me see here (oh regular big pop)…i may need to make anouther batch. Looks like we LIVE today…LOL

By QC

February 13, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

^5 Tazzee

Hey Page

Demi, if you’re flying around today please wear your “navy blue rain resistant cap”

By Willie Dynamite

February 13, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

Morning All, Contrary to popular belief i think Women as a whole CAN give better advice to Men. Men don’t usually believe this or listen to whats being handed out. The problem is as someone stated above is that Women tend to be scatterbrained and offer many different examples. Women are very unique and complex creatures whereas Men are simple by nature.

By 2CPTG©

February 13, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

Tazz, I wish you could hear me saying this, cause apparently my point is getting lost - look at the line of questioning.

“Ladies, do you think you can give a single guy a little insight on dating a quality woman? Where does he meet them? What appeals to her? What would make him stand out from the other suitors?”

and as you just said, “the ladies-only questions relate to how to get us,”

That’s like saying, “dude, if you want me, then this is what you gotta do”!

Nah!

How about, young lady, this is what the deal is, you’re either with it, or you’re not, ‘cause this is me!

By Blue_Kolla

February 13, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

.02 When you obtain the #, put a memorable characteristic in your Cell/PDA. ie First Name: Jackie Last Name: Red Stilettos!, First Name: Simone Last Name: Publix Deli, First Name: Sally Last Name: Fat AZZ whateva… NEVER call & ask a lady to ‘remind you where you met her/ what she looks like, etc.’

hahaha True that.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 13, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

Mornin’ QC. ;-)

By Got that?

February 13, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

By the time people reach adulthood, whatever values were instilled in them or not while growing up will not change no matter the advice given. It’s way too late. The time to start teaching how to be in relationship is when they are young and their minds can be molded. All kids need to be taught respect, for themselves and others. They must be taught how to deal with others as another human who has the same rights as themselves. They must be taught values that will guide them the rest of their life.

Sorry, Wise Diva, this topic is another way women try to change men. The problem is no one can change anyone other than themselves, and that itself takes a lot of work. You want dating to get better, train the next generation to be better people. And, be the change you want to see in the world.

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 11:10 AM | Link to this

Dreams - You just proved that men read/see what they want and not what actually is. Where did you get it was 50/50 that she’d be receptive? From what I see, ALL the women said they would be, only noting that she could be having a bad day (a given) and it matter how you approach (also a given). So who was not receptive?

By 2CPTG©

February 13, 2008 11:11 AM | Link to this

and, no, I’m not in a sour mood today, shoot, I like Diva’s topics……..

By mytwocents

February 13, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

P.S. By “good stuff” y’all know I don’t mean quality brands, I meant booty.

Dreams I find it delightful to meet men in ‘regular’ places - less posturing. Unless he’s super tactical, he didn’t come to Target & fill his cart just to prey on women. Now me in the Home Depot wandering around w/ one item in my hand, I’m pleading the 5th. lololol Truth Good lesson for both sexes ~ BE SELECTIVE and have your own blueprint. 2C If this isn’t flipped in the next coupla days, hijack the topic by Friday. Sometimes ya gotta start a revolution… 900 You’re right. I’m surprised by how many gentlemen are surprised when I say Thank You! Sorry, I know some of us are trife. :(

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 13, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

Cee - oh yeah Gems are a great thing. How about you write sumtin for the ladies to take head to when being approached out in public when homie is not a scrub. I’ve approached women in the past only to have the lil girl in em come out and give me the gas face… whatever. But the crazy thing is 10-15min later they keep staring at me as if to say “Oh, I didn’t even realize it was you…” BTW, I’ve actually had a few women come out and say this to me

Blue what up homie! I know you got somethin to throw out there…

Dreamz -Yeah after I go thru that 3-4 times in a mo. or so the nice guy leaves for 6mo. and the jerk shows up LoL

ARed - you know what? you always know just what to say. I wonder if you act the same… if so then you got some dude walkin real tall round town.

By For Real

February 13, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

Truth You on point today bruh.

Wise Do you see all of the different comments today. How can a dude be expected to know when to apply these suggestions to a specific lady? Some say it’s okay to approach in the morning. Some say it isn’t. It impossible!

ARed However, step up be a man and stop letting this fact make you lazy. Do your job, so she will have no excuse not to do hers

I dont’ believe it is matter of men being lazy. I believe men have become more selective due to number of choices that’s available to them. If I am dating and looking for a SO then that means I will have to audition a few lady first. Thus I can’t court all of them in a manner that will exhaust my resources.

Oh and why does a man have to be a man first before a women does her job. That sounds like an excuse for the women not to be a women.

By Blue_Kolla

February 13, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

Darrell Now, before ya’ll go ballistic, I’m not applying that mindset to every woman here. After all, I did emphaize that I was speaking in “general” terms. <=== Nice Disclaimer

2 How about, young lady, this is what the deal is, you’re either with it, or you’re not, ‘cause this is me!

That’s where I’m at.

By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

Darrell you show your CHARACTER. And i agree with your Part 1 @ 10:51.

Imma still go ballistic on that “oatmeal test” WTH?…

By QC

February 13, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

Hello Brother Darrell

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

900k - That was a nice thing to say. Thank you. My weeding out process is rigourous, so I lose a lot of them that way. But once he gets inside, he does seem to walk around with his chest puffed out a bit. My momma treated my daddy very well (and he her), so I think I picked up a few “feel good” tricks over the years. LOL!

By BennyB

February 13, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

2CPTG, you got a good point on your 9:54, women will only tell you what they want and that is not what men need to know. Men need to know what women respond to; trust me women don’t have a clue. If men want to know what women respond to, they need to seek advice from other successful men. If they want to become domesticated, they need to seek women advices. The mistake men make is trying to learn how to get women to respond to them instead of learning how to be successful not only with women but with life in general. Men need to learn about the most important individual in their life: the self. They need to learn to love themselves, to appreciate their life and to have a commitment to self. When you know the man inside you, love him and commit to him, it is easier not only to love and commit to someone else but also to spot damaged souls and avoid them. If a man knows and loves the creature inside him, he only needs one dating advice…..NONE

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

For Real - Oh and why does a man have to be a man first before a women does her job. That sounds like an excuse for the women not to be a women.

Brotha, if you don’t know the answer to that, then there is not much hope for you. Wow! Are you serious with that question?

By Raqi

February 13, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

You are wrong Falsey. That’s the problem you view women as the opponent. Dating and mating should not be a challenge or rivalry. It is not a challenge but in fact a merger. Before the merger of two like companies a period of wooing takes place. You get the other’s attention. You show why you would be good together. You do what appeal to their sense. You give them what they like. Not what you think they should have.

There is more I have to say but I am leaving for a lunch date in a few…

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 13, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

Blue Thanks, man. You know the deal. Somebody’ll read what I said, but they won’t comprehend it. Next thing you know they’re “assuming the position” as they commence to “get me told”. LOL!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

February 13, 2008 11:28 AM | Link to this

On the topic of when to approach women (or me specifically) I find open places easier b/c of how comfortable I am bound to be. Example, if you approach me and I am washing my car then I am truly kickin it! Hair in a ponytail, sweats or shorts on w/a wife beater, au natural and sneakers. To me that is better than the guy that will approach me when I am all ‘dolled up’. Plus generally you can see a lil about the person: if buying cds at Target you can see what music I’m into, if I am washing my car you see the car I drive or whatever. But I also like to see guys this way. I stated before I love to see guys in sleeveless t-shirts, sweats and sneakers like he is on his way to the gym or just got off the couch for a quick store run. (Of course it helps if he has a haircut and nice smile.) Does that make sense? Simple I guess is the best way to put it.

By kimmie

February 13, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

Dreams - You are correct in that it has a lot to do with how one is raised whether or not they will be appreciative and polite. Same applies with men. I watched how my brothers were raised and how other guys I grew up around were raised. My brothers were taught to always open a door for the ladies, whether she thanked him or not. Of course, I was taught to always say thank you. The GOOD MEN I know today still do it and so what if she does not appreciate it? The next one will. Where are you guys hanging out where the MAJORITY of the women can’t even say thank you? A true show of character in a man, IMHO, never allows the bad behavior of a few to change how he behaves. If he was raised to treat a lady like a lady and she’s not appreciative, then maybe she’s not the one. Or, maybe she could benefit from seeing how a real man treats a lady, because she’s never been exposed and therefore, does not know how to respond.

A pet peeve I have, 2C, is that it seems a lot of guys come with this this is me, take it or leave it type of attitude as an excuse for crappy behavior. Anytime a man said that to me, it was never associated with something positive about the man, always negative. For example, I’ve never heard a guy say “Hey I’m a gentleman, take it or leave it”! Simple example, but I think you can get my point. Believe me, I’m not trying to change anybody, so come with the real you, and if it does not jibe with the real me, we can both keep it moving!

By For Real

February 13, 2008 11:32 AM | Link to this

Page I see women moreso on the Blog doing what you stated at 9:59. Hellz look at how Wise even stated here questions. “Quality, Normal, Mature”

And like I have said a thousand times here: You don’t get to decide what I believe is Quality, Normal, nor Mature just because you believe you are.

BK I’m gulity of that… Hellz women always talking about they want dudes to be honest.

By The Truth

February 13, 2008 11:33 AM | Link to this

Fellas, if you’ll notice the womens responses are geared more toward how they feel vs the overall direction the thing is heading. Thats how it should be. You create the vision and she’ll (if she’s the right one)fill in the blanks. Don’t get bogged down with the color of the babies walls, you just paint them or have them painted em which ever color she wants. You should have already figured out how to buy the paint and feed the baby and the wife, assuming those things are a part of your master plan of course. (This is just a crude example so don’t trip)

The beauty of that formula is everything you want comes from it. Peace of mind, sex, food, fun, a woman that will control her emotions because she knows there’s a greater puprpose. What we’re seeing is women who have no incentive to temper their thoughts and therefore their actions and words. Give them that incentive.

Little Truth thanks for not posting some stuff I’d spend an hour trying to separate myself from. LOL

A good dude is always married to a chick named bytch. Everywhere she goes people say “thats one lucky bytch”. LOL

For Real you bring up a good point about no man knowing women because we don’t. Thats why knowing yourself and having your vision right is so important. If you don’t know yourself and she’s changing dam near daily then who’s running this ship?

By Willie Dynamite

February 13, 2008 11:33 AM | Link to this

2C How about, young lady, this is what the deal is, you’re either with it, or you’re not, ‘cause this is me Thats sound advice right there. Smooth out the edges a lil bit and thats a real gem. The fellas that need to hear that don’t have to confidence or swagger to pull that off like you. Most importantly the key is for them to understand that they have to be themselves.

Truth (the real Truth) Great info today mayne. keep it up.

Men nowadays need to recognize that its a differnt playing field. Don’t get it twisted Women still do the choosing but Men are in a position to have right of first refusal. Do you homie by getting your shyt together and being the MAN that you suppose to be. When thats in order then you won’t have to jump through the hoops that some of these chicks are putting up to qualify you. 2C How about, young lady, this is what the deal is, you’re either with it, or you’re not, ‘cause this is me Thats sound advice right there. Smooth out the edges a lil bit and thats a real gem. The fellas that need to hear that don’t have to confidence or swagger to pull that off like you. Most importantly the key is for them to understand that they have to be themselves.

Truth (the real Truth) Great info today mayne. keep it up.

Men nowadays need to recognize that its a differnt playing field. Don’t get it twisted Women still do the choosing but Men are in a position to have right of first refusal. Do you homie by getting your shyt together and being the MAN that you suppose to be. When thats in order then you won’t have to jump through the hoops that some of these chicks are putting up to qualify you.

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

kimmie - Great post.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 13, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

BenB- The mistake men make is trying to learn how to get women to respond to them instead of learning how to be successful - Thats a hell of a quote. I tell my younger bro’s all the time “Women are attracted to success!” It doesn’t always mean money, its the drive they see in us. The fact that a man can excell and be good/ great at sum or many things drive women crazy. Being accomplished is key…

ARed - few good tricks huh? Do share…

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 13, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli I liken the “oatmeal test” to a person choosing a box of cereal.

On the outside of each box is information on the FDA’s “recommended daily allowance” and how that daily allowance might benefit you health-wise. However, the outside of the box has absolutely nothnig to do with how the cereal on the inside of the box will actually taste, because if it doesn’t taste good, I seriously doubt you’ll think it’s beneficial to you.

My point is that you can’t really determine whether or not you’ll like a certain cereal based solely on what the outside of the box says. You also have to consider the contents on the inside.

By Tazzee

February 13, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

2can and BK

“How about, young lady, this is what the deal is, you’re either with it, or you’re not, ‘cause this is me!” -

If that is where you are, then apparently you don’t need advice…perhaps you can give some. And umm, not speaking for all the women on here but that is exactly what I said in my advice - be who you are and don’t be shady with it.

But I do have to agree with BennyB (11:20) and that goes for both genders. The only problem is, a lot of folks are trying to get to know others before they know self.

By For Real

February 13, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

ARed Yes I am so answer the question. *Why would a women need a man to be man before she can be women?

By mytwocents

February 13, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

Real The way you seem frustrated (11:16) that you’ll have to feel the vibe and make the call vs. a static approach every time is what gives the impression that some of y’all are just a tad bit lazy…

By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

900K How about you write sumtin for the ladies to take head to when being approached out in public when homie is not a scrub. I can only share with you how Cee would entertain. What i’ve found in a non-scrub (you say) is that he must be of some hometrained dude as Dreams mention. If it’s babygirl or shawty approach…i’ll nicely let him know; You know that’s not cool. But if guy is nice and polite why would i give off the “i’m too good” off the rip. That itself can/can’t speak traits about her persona. Unfortunatly there are women that harbor this attitude and nice men take the “the heck with ‘em” mindset.

…we all should do self-checks & evaluate our character traits and building all the time.

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

For Real - I’d like to see you take a stab at answering that question first, actually. You don’t see any reason for a man to do his job despite what women are doing?

By Beautiful

February 13, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this

2C you’re too smart for your own good!

By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 11:50 AM | Link to this

Darrell Laymen’s Terms i got your point…just why oatmeal and not a car? …here have some pop corn with me……just messin.

By Staceye

February 13, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

Hey guys….

To all the ladies on the blog…how receptive are you to guys who approach you randomly in a public place? Dreams I am open to it..but when I am at the gym…leave me the heck alone. I am on a mission. Or learn to read body language. You can tell if a woman does not want to be bothered. If she looks like she is ready to cut you and is walking through a mall..chances are she is on a therapeutic shopping trip after something or somebody has p!ssed her off. Keep it moving dude!

Say What are we related? LOL We think alike. Some fools actually think saying no means you are playing hard to get. Last time I checked, NO means the same thing in alot of languages.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 13, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli The car analogy just didn’t work. Couldn’t figure out how to equate love to MPGs. ;-)

By DreamsMaterialize

February 13, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

Mo No doubt, the natural element is best, at least in my opinion.

ARed An individual’s perspective influences how they interpret what they read/see, so EVERYONE (not just men) reads/sees what they want as opposed to what actually is. I wasn’t saying that I tallied all the women’s responses and separated them into receptive/non-receptive categories. lol I was saying that all of the women who responded said that they would be receptive, with the exception of bad days, method of approach, looks… So, those expections are the times when they will NOT be receptive. I could technically argue that receptive/non-receptive is EXACTLY 50/50.

By The Truth

February 13, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this

Dayumm BennyB hell of a post. If cats would quit chasing and chase success azz is a by product of success. If your woman doesn’t fugg you make more cash. Become a better person. Show her another world. We, and I hate to say it like this, as aa men focus on some puddy when there’s a whole world out there to explore. Go get the world and women will come to you.

I’ve worked with a cat who was walking around with his chest poked out and when him and his girl went to buy a home he bytched up like Liberace. I was like wtf????? I pulled ol boy to the side and explained to him the importance of a home to a woman, which is much different than it is for a man, and how she WANTS him to be out front and make this thing happen.I also explained how he was gonna loose many man points for getting moist at this time. (They had fnancing in place, the only hold up was ol boys nerves, 1st home) I told ol boy say yes or no but don’t bytch out in front of everyone. True story. They got the home and I got my commission. LOL Stay focused.

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 12:00 PM | Link to this

Dreams - Dreams, no you didn’t say that all women would be receptive. You said that there were conflicting views (true) and so you arrived at 50/50.

The thing is the answer is 100, naturally with some disclaimers thrown in.

Big difference from 50 to 100.

By Page1908

February 13, 2008 12:01 PM | Link to this

Truth LOL at dude got moist.

For Real point well taken.

By abc

February 13, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

Just be yourself. Someone will value you for who and what you actually are. That’d go for men and women alike. There aren’t any other worthwhile tips and tricks. Getting wrapped up in things like that make you psycho.

By Blue_Kolla

February 13, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

@900 What up champ! The brothers are laying it down, as usual IMO.

Mayne I’m just sitting here reading and surfing. I personally don’t have time for all’at extra about doing this an doing that. I just come at a female real respectable-like, without all the trimmings about how good they look and blah blah… If they’re not receptive, I get on down the line. I keeps it simple and save all of that meticulous problem-solving energy for real-life issues.

Yoll be cool, Blue out.

By DreamsMaterialize

February 13, 2008 12:13 PM | Link to this

kimmie No doubt that a real man will not diminish his behavior based on the diminished behavior of another. I’m always a gentleman, and a woman’s level of appreciation for that doesn’t change my behavior. As for your question Where are you guys hanging out where the MAJORITY of the women can’t even say thank you? I see this everyday on my way to work, from educated women with professional jobs. You can find this behavior anywhere in any socio-economic class.

By Staceye

February 13, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

Hey ladies try this….

The next time you meet a dude and go out on a date with him…then if you happen to invite him in and he becomes Mr. Grabby Hands and tries to get the goods…in mid-grope, Say, “Wow, I gotta call my friends and let them know I have a man now”. Granted this will stop his grope seesion and garner a strange and confused look. Then he will ask why you said that and/or call you crazy and say that he does not know you like that and you just met and had one date and now you are talking crazy. You should then laugh and say…”well what I find crazy is that as you said you just met me and we do not know each other like that but yet and still you want to be all up inside me…do you even know my last name, my favorite color, am I or are any of my family members fresh out of the looney bin? Do we have any genitic diseases that could be passed down to kids. Why do I speak of kids…well simply because nothing short of abstinence is 100% that we will not make a baby. So just in case this should occur, would you be ok with the baby being raised Baptist..oh that’s right you did not take the time to get to know my religious affiliation! But being all up my womanland would help you get to know me a heck of a lot better right???!!!” By then ladies this guy is either embarassed…thinks you’re nuts…ready to run faster than he would at the mention of child support or just shocked. That should end the grope session and get him out of your crib and thank God, you life. LMAO! I did this one time and I swear i wish I had it on video tape! Gosh I must be nuts to think of something like that!

By kimmie

February 13, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

900 & BennyB - You are right, I know success and confidence are very attractive in both sexes! It affects how people carry themselves in a very positive way, though of course you have those that overdo it! I also don’t mean success as having Oprah or Denzel success neccesarily. I mean being great at what you do and proud of it, whether it means being a great teacher, plumber, father, mother, etc. I’ve found that when I focused on developing myself into a great family member, careerwoman, friend, I attracted great guys that are just as successful and positive. The guys I knew that lacked confidence and self-assurance were the main ones always paranoid about someone trying to “change” them. Obviously, they felt within themselves something needed to be changed! They really didn’t believe in themselves and that they were good enough just as they were.

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this

Staceye - You are nuts but that was funny as hell. LOL

By DreamsMaterialize

February 13, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

ARed If disclaimers are thrown in, then it is not 100%. There is EXACTLY a 50/50 chance that a woman will be receptive/non-receptive. Not 100%, not 75%, only 50%, no deviation.

By SexyCool

February 13, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

staceye…in mid-grope, Say, “Wow, I gotta call my friends and let them know I have a man now…

laughing my @$$ off…

By kimmie

February 13, 2008 12:31 PM | Link to this

Dreams - Gotcha. Unfortunately, “educated & professional” does not always equal “hometraining, politeness, good manners”. You can’t buy class.

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 12:34 PM | Link to this

Dreams - We’ll have to agree to disagree then. Your question was if we’d be receptive and we’d all say we were. You’re bogged down on the fat, cut down to the meat and the answer to your question was that we were ALL receptive. 100%. Period.

But hey if you see otherwise, so be it.

By Demi at age 25 (not your current Demi)

February 13, 2008 12:43 PM | Link to this

Dreams* you gotta switch it up time to time bruh!! Most educated women are use to guys opening door and being polite to them…

Now treat that same women like a h0e and watch how she responds

Yes SOME women loves for a guy to be polite and all that shyt, but MOST do not.

Issssh, treat a hood rat like a queen and you will be praying she leaves you the hell alone…be like:

Bish, go home!!! LOL

By Beautiful

February 13, 2008 12:44 PM | Link to this

The best pick up line is “Hello”.

so true! you’ll get far sayin’ this one little itty bitty word. :)

By 2CPTG©

February 13, 2008 12:44 PM | Link to this

Beautiful, ummm, thanks, I guess….

By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 12:45 PM | Link to this

…define success;

Webster said

Success; an achievement of intention, attainment of fame, wealth or power.

Define Character:

Character: distinctive qualities, positive qualities that make somebody interesting; a reputation…

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 13, 2008 12:51 PM | Link to this

Beautiful “The best pick up line is “Hello”. so true! you’ll get far sayin’ this one little itty bitty word. :)”

So, what you’re sayin’ is I need to drop the “Yo, shawty!” approach?

By Game Over

February 13, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

Fellaz: It’s All Over

The Game as we know it is about to be turned on its ear! It’s all over. Get ready for the big Going Out Of Business sale. What’s on sale, you ask? YOU! You’re going out of business! Systematically, male leverage in the dating game has been eroding, or perhaps has been purposely erodED.

Back in the day, it was easy to pull chicks, because they couldn’t do anything on their own. I mean, they were always intelligent enough to, they just weren’t allowed to.

According to the Women’s Rights Movement in the U.S. Timeline of Key Events in the A…, before August 26, 1920, women didn’t even have the right to vote. There was a bunch of other stuff women were dissuaded from, like having jobs, having their own money, owning land, starting a business…. Add that to the brainwashing girls receive to this very day when they receive baby dolls and toy ovens for Christmas to prepare them for their role as child-bearer, child-raiser, cook, maid, etc and it was a veritable buyer’s market. Oh… don’t forget the Scarlet Letter treatment women still receive to this day if they express themselves sexually and ‘get around’ in the same way that guys do. So… Basically, what you had was a bunch of chicks, sitting around with nothing to do, no money, probably no cars (? horses and buggies? hahaha) hoping that their lives would eventually BEGIN when some guy wanted to marry them.

Meanwhile, The Fellaz were living large because they were completely unrestricted in getting money, houses, land, voting, playing the field, etc. All you had to do was be better than the next man who comes a-knocking on a lady’s door as a suitor, and you were guaranteed to bag the chick. Of course, people like Fonzie had multiple chicks, either in parallel or serial, but that’s a different topic. :D

So anyway, in the 1920s, women got the vote. No big deal. However, around the 1940s, World War II kicked off, and all The Fellaz were sent to fight (read: die). In order to maintain American industry, there was no choice except to replace the guys with the chicks that had previously been sitting around at home. THIS was a big deal, :D because all of a sudden, “Sistahs were doin’ it for them-SELVES!!!”… Ya HEARD? Now, there’s no more sitting at home waiting for you to show up with your money and car, because she has HER money and HER car! :O No waiting for you to take her to Paris or Disney World, because she’s going to go if she wants to, AND hang out with her co-working female friends to boot! hahaha ROAD-TRIIIIP!!! :D

Guys’ leverage down the drain.

Fortunately, not all chicks took advantage of this opportunity to be prosperous. There were still a bunch of lazy chicks left over that wanted to get by on their looks and become “kept women”. There was also the mainstream media who recognized the problem of women doing EXACTLY what they wanted, when they wanted, and did their damnedest to keep images of how women are ‘supposed’ to act all over the newspapers, film reels and televisions.

At some point in the 1960s, “Women’s Lib” popped up to combat myriad injustices towards American females. This movement has done a lot of good for women, however, some chicks got completely carried away with it! :D

In 1968, Valerie Solanas wrote the SCUM Manifesto. Quoting from the wikipedia entry: “Sex is not part of a relationship: on the contrary, it is a solitary experience, non-creative, a gross waste of time. The female can easily — far more easily than she may think — condition away her sex drive, leaving her completely cool and cerebral and free to pursue truly worthy relationships and activities; but the male, who seems to dig women sexually and who seeks out constantly to arouse them, stimulates the highly sexed female to frenzies of lust, throwing her into a sex bag from which few women ever escape.” [Side Note: Now you see how it’s come to the point in 2008 when bookstore technique is a perfectly valid gameplan. Act like you’ve evolved as she has instead of “digging her sexually” and “constantly trying to arouse her”, and you’re “In like Flynn”!

So, SCUM Manifesto advocated taking guys out of the loop, entirely. This brings us to February, 2008 and this article discussing British scientists trying to figure out how…

What this means is that the last stronghold of The Fellaz is going down the tubes, and YOU are about to be OUT. OF. BUSINESS!

Once they figure this out, women will not need you for AN-NYTHING!

Nothing.

This is partially what the movie “Fight Club” was about. Women do not need you to provide:

companionship from girlfriends protection from cops money from her job shelter from her house food her local grocery store sex = Häagen-Dazs

The only thing she needs YOU for is your strong genes, if they figure out how to extract that from the bone marrow of some chick that has those same features…

It’s A Wrap!

By pisces08

February 13, 2008 12:52 PM | Link to this

^5 @ BennyB.

By does it matter

February 13, 2008 12:53 PM | Link to this

Darrell I agree there are quite a few that go on the socio-economic status, however those are not the ones I am looking for or even talking about.

My experience comes from friends(girls, and they all do come to me) coming to me complaining that their husbands do this and doesn’t do that and she can’t stand it. Most of these guys are in their late 20’s early 30’s and still like to get hammered, make a fool of themselves, fight, etc… This is what brought them to the attention of their respective women. Now that they are married and have families and careers, they don’t want them acting like that anymore. OK, let’s put in terms women should understand. If men are like dogs and you reward them for being idiots, then you want to take away their “treats” to get them to change, they will not, they will find another woman that will reward them for the same moronic behavior. Or they will just be an a$$ to you until you give up trying to change them. Is that what you want? Try paying more attention to the size of his heart, the way he treats others, not just you. This is a sign of what you are in store for in the future. If he treats people he doesn’t know like they don’t matter, then just wait, it will come. Start looking for the comfortable guy just hanging out,those who don’t need to act up, or flash money just to get some attention and maybe just maybe you will realize that those are the ones that have good jobs, good relationships with their families, knows how to have a good time, and doesn’t have enemies. Why because he knows what it means to have character and how to be respectful to everyone not just you while he is trying to fool you. They have to act this way, they have to find another way to entice you because they don’t have much substance to them. So quit crying to your friends about your SO, because you made the bed now lie in it and reap what you have sowed. Or leave the losers. I am tired of hearing it, especially from women who deserve so much more…

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 1:00 PM | Link to this

Lawd…if I wanted to read pages of commentary…I’d do some work!

Word Economy people! Learn it, live it, love it. LOL

By Beautiful

February 13, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

Game Over citation for $255 for your long azz post. pay up bruh!

BigD saying hello tells me that you not playin’ no games. simple. it would reel me in.

By Darrell (www.blackthen.com)

February 13, 2008 1:05 PM | Link to this

Beautiful “saying hello tells me that you not playin’ no games. simple. it would reel me in.”

Hello.

By Beautiful

February 13, 2008 1:05 PM | Link to this

hug and kiss on the cheek to pisces08.

By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 1:08 PM | Link to this

does it matter… Try paying more attention to the size of his heart, the way he treats others, not just you. You’re walking hard with the CHARACTER thing. Whew…yea, that was staturated just right for me.

…off to lunch…

By Jay

February 13, 2008 1:09 PM | Link to this

Beutiful Hello!!!!! How are you today?

By pisces08

February 13, 2008 1:10 PM | Link to this

@Beautiful. Back at cha….

By does it matter

February 13, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

DreamsM ^5 on your 12:13 and a definite co-sign. A real Gentleman is always a Gentleman, no matter what kind of day they are having. Just because I have a bad day or week, doesn’t mean I stop opening doors for old women, young women, children, men, being a gentleman doesn’t reflect how you treat women, it reflects how you treat everyone…

By Jay

February 13, 2008 1:17 PM | Link to this

Beutiful Hello!!!!! How are you today?

By pisces08

February 13, 2008 1:17 PM | Link to this

@Beautiful. Or should I say “Hello”

By Jay

February 13, 2008 1:17 PM | Link to this

Beautiful Hello!!!!! How are you today?

By For Real

February 13, 2008 1:17 PM | Link to this

ARed You don’t see any reason for a man to do his job despite what women are doing?

That’s the same question I just asked you which you didn’t answer again. (paraphrasing) your post said if a man step up and be a man, then women will not have an excuse to do their job. Now my question again in your terms; Why do you see a reason not to do your job despite what men are doing?

By Beautiful

February 13, 2008 1:20 PM | Link to this

awww. thanks guys! if i were dating, i would take you up on that. ;)

By For Real

February 13, 2008 1:25 PM | Link to this

Kimmie * I attracted great guys that are just as successful and positive. The guys I knew that lacked confidence and self-assurance were the main ones always paranoid about someone trying to “change” them. Obviously, they felt within themselves something needed to be changed! They really didn’t believe in themselves and that they were good enough just as they were.*

I understand your point but be careful when you are judging what success, confidence, and self-assuredness is to another person. Their definition will almost always differ from your definition. It’s better to say those guys didn’t meet your standards instead of saying what they lacked.

By does it matter

February 13, 2008 1:26 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli

Yes I am, I really think that is a calling for me is to help others realize that we have enough Characters in the world right now, what we need is more character. The problem is until we begin to recognize this, we will continue to breed Characters. Don’t get me wrong there is nothing wrong with being a character, but being one and having it are 2 different things and we need to get back to having more of it.

Prime exampe: Started Cleaning the basement on Monday night, and low and be hold I have a broken window. I looked at it and immediately knew it was a golf ball(I don’t live on a course). Then I stepped to the back yard and what do I find, not one, but 3 golf balls. Did anyone leave a note, nope. I wasn’t mad about the window, I was mad that whomever did this doesn’t have enough respect for others to come and explain.

By Raqi

February 13, 2008 1:27 PM | Link to this

Dang where do I start?

By For Real

February 13, 2008 1:27 PM | Link to this

Slim can you print that 12:52 post and read it to me for my bedtime story?

By DreamsMaterialize

February 13, 2008 1:30 PM | Link to this

ARed Actually, the words from my post were “the chances are about 50/50 that she’ll be receptive.” That’s absolutely, undoubtedly, exactly true. Now if you’re arguing that every woman will be receptive to SOME guy at SOME point in their lives, then 100% is a no brainer. But at the moment of approach…50%. Period. NOW we can agree to disagree. ;-)

By Tiff

February 13, 2008 1:31 PM | Link to this

Hey All..my .02

*Where does he meet them? * Anywhere and everywhere if his approach is right…and no..hey shawty and psssttt is not it!

*What appeals to her? * The look in his eyes as he approaches/speaks to her. Is he giving the “I think she is beautiful I want to get to know her” look or the “dang she has a fat azz I can’t wait to hit that” look. BIG Difference.

What would make him stand out from the other suitors?

A simple act of kindess can go a long way. One thing I have noticed through discussions with people (men and women) in successful relationships is the importance of being kind to one another.

By mytwocents

February 13, 2008 1:31 PM | Link to this

25yoDemi HUSH! Polite ~ Yes Punk ~ NO Darrell The w&&d fueled, Yak enhanced “Hey Mii’Lady” has somehow also lost it’s charm.

By Cup Cake

February 13, 2008 1:32 PM | Link to this

SOMEBODY NEED TO GIVE GAME OVER AZZ A CITITATION

By The Truth

February 13, 2008 1:37 PM | Link to this

Game Over Good men will only get more valuable over time. However if your inclined to believe what you wrote feel free to drop off.

What you posted is an excuse to stop performing or be less than you were destined to be. I remember when they were talking about papreless offices too. Don’t believe the hype you wrote. LOL

Hello is a helluva opening line. LOL

Ok , since blogs ville is slowing down a little i’d like to pass on two product endorsements, in case you need them:

Dyson vacuum. If you don’t know go find out. If a woman had suction like this and could cook like Sexy it would be a wrap. Pricey but worth every penny. Nothing on the market compares. No bags or filters to replace either. $350-500

Logitech Remote Controls for those that have a ton of remotes laying around get a Harmony remote. You download your equipments codes form the internet (easy) and answer a few questions and the remote is programmed to do what you tell it. For instance you can hit 1 button to play videos, watch tv, or play music. Set up takes 10 minutes. The best part is it controls your cable box too without losing ANY functions. Adding additional equipment is easy too. One remote can handle up to 15 pieces of equipment. $150-350.00

Ok, commercial over, back to your regularly scheduled blogging.

By Beautiful

February 13, 2008 1:39 PM | Link to this

TruthBaby i watched that millionaire match maker show and love it. y’all could learn a thing or two from my girl. lmao. she’s good and speaks the The Truth!. lol.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 13, 2008 1:39 PM | Link to this

A bay-bay… Yo Ma!!! Mami you looking Right in dem jeans… -*Beautiful you hear me callin you girl???

Blue - I see you over there mackin aka MR. Keep it simple Stupid

Staceye -Granted this will stop his grope seesion and garner a strange and confused look. This will not do much at all, you can think what you want as long as he gets what he wants. Also please stop hatin on the bro’s for wantin to caress that pretty brown round…

By For Real

February 13, 2008 1:44 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli Success and Character are subjective. Not even Webster can define it.

2E’s If she looks like she is ready to cut you and is walking through a mall..chances are she is on a therapeutic shopping trip after something or somebody has p!ssed her off. Keep it moving dude!

What’s a man to do if you look that all the time? Try to hollar and if you don’t cut him then it’s all good?

By Beautiful

February 13, 2008 1:44 PM | Link to this

hey stinky poo! how’s it hangin?

By kimmie

February 13, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

For Real - Thanks for your point. I do recognize that others everyone has a different definition of success & self-assurance. A lot of people judge it by how much money a person has or other material trappings. I, like I always try to do, was simply state MY experience with guys I FELT were short in the self-assurance/confidence department. I am uncomfortable using the words “meet my standards”, because I feel it’s a little snobbish and inevitably people jump to the conclusion I’m talking about wealth/materialism. Maybe those guys I came across judged themselves differently and were perfectly okay with themselves, but that’s not what they projected in their dealings with ME! Especially when a person feels they have to put ME down to build themselves UP! I equate that as a lack of self-assurance, but someone else might have taken it differently. But it was MY experience to judge it as I saw fit!

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 1:55 PM | Link to this

For Real - I didn’t answer your question because I asked you to answer first. We can go back and forth all day. I’m not the one who’d ask why I shouldn’t do my job.

By You want them to do WHAT!??!?

February 13, 2008 1:56 PM | Link to this

Oh please…The last thing ANYONE needs to do is ask these bird brain chicks on how the GAME goes. They are clueless and crazy! Half of them are tryin to learn how to pi$$ standing up! They need lessons on the game instead of giving them!!

By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

For Real…Success and Character are subjective. Not even Webster can define it.

Cee relating to what i read posted today…come on i don’t patronize.

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 13, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

Does it Matter They did not tell you because…They did not want to pay or be responsible. H3ll today ppl are crazy…they will fill ya body with hollow tips..You come talking that “I’m sorry abotu your window” mess. That’s why they didn’t bother you.

ON topic: The game is meant to be sold and not told. The end!

By For Real

February 13, 2008 2:04 PM | Link to this

Kimmie Cool but if you roll your eyes at me again it’s on and keep your neck still too.

Truth I see you pulled out the Sear Sucker Suit and bad toupee to make a sales pitch. Oh and on ole boy that was scared to buy, ole girl didn’t want to make any decision but she did however reserve the right to bytch and moan if and when anything went wrong. That’s what he was scared of.

Beautiful I’m from the souph and we don’t say Hello we say Heyyyyy. Will that do?

By SeanJohnson3000

February 13, 2008 2:11 PM | Link to this

Sup Blog …happy valentines day to the ladies…since its a leap year…this year the females are suppose to give the men gifts and plan a romantic evening…any of yall got anything planned nice for us? its suppose to be head and steak day tomorrow….

By QC

February 13, 2008 2:16 PM | Link to this

zzzzzzz

Where is Demi?

By Raqi

February 13, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

You are correct SeanJohn. My friends and I talked about this being leap year on Saturday. We are doing the Valentine romancing this year. I was sort of surprised no one else brought it up on here. I figured I would not since most say they are not looking forward to the day.

By BINFORD2K

February 13, 2008 2:24 PM | Link to this

Instead of all the jewelry ads and things suggesting what “we can do for her” for V-Day, the beef industry should promote “Steak and a BJ Day” as something women should do for the men in their lives on this all-important holiday. Ladies, SHOW HIM you care!

…Now that’s what most guys think and don’t say - but I do. That honesty never goes over so well ;p

By The Truth

February 13, 2008 2:24 PM | Link to this

Beautiful that chick got on my nerves. I couldn’t deal with her. Now her business skills are top notch but she’s trying to make something thats not there. $10,000 for a hook up from a chick with out a man. HUH

For Real how the fugg did you know what I am wearing? You got a cam in here or what? Oh yeah, its not a toupee but a hairpiece. LMAO Ol boy straight tightened up right in front of us. He was shaken.

One more idea for you married cats. Take ol girl to scuba diving classes. Then once a year you can go to the islands and take a dive. One of my friends did that with his girl. Something different. Price: Around $800.00

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 13, 2008 2:25 PM | Link to this

lmao @ SeanJohnson Head and Steak!! Funny!

By Cemeeli

February 13, 2008 2:27 PM | Link to this

QC hey there gurl.

Demi is probably out looking for Valentines….LOL!

By Staceye

February 13, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

900 I beg to differ..he never called me again! I accomplished what I set out to do! LOL

For Real He can keep it moving. It means I am not interested. I even designed a t-shiirt that says, “Not ineterested…duh did I stutter!?!” LOL

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

I’d be down with Steak and BJ day, but don’t have anyone on the list that’s worthy. Guess I’ll have to wait til the next leap year.

I don’t see how the concept is too far fetched. If you’re in a relationship this should be happening with some sort of regularity. LOL

By DreamsMaterialize

February 13, 2008 2:29 PM | Link to this

Binford and SJ Looks like great minds think alike man. I’ll campaign for that. Think we can have a landslide victory this Super Thursday? lol I’m going door to door tonight to get the word out.

By BINFORD2K

February 13, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

dang sean, you beat me to the punch!

By Tazzee

February 13, 2008 2:34 PM | Link to this

SeanJohnson we discussed our Valentine’s Day plans last week.

By For Real

February 13, 2008 2:34 PM | Link to this

3Stacks That would give a whole new meaning to Every Kiss begin with _

Binford I must say I have noticed the change bruh. Respect!

By For Real

February 13, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

2E’s I’m sorry I didn’t realize you writing on your tee-shirt cause i was staring at your breast.

For Real notices that 2E’s is a little cold.

By Staceye

February 13, 2008 2:42 PM | Link to this

I don’t eat steak..but if I had a man…the bj is a given after a candlelit, champagne sipping, chocolate covered strawberry dipping, hot bath and and oil massage. What a way to put him to sleep!

By Raqi

February 13, 2008 2:42 PM | Link to this

Tazzee I missed that. Where was I? It must have been the day I was off. Oh well.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 13, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

Staceye- I can see that. I am just tryin to figure out if its really that bad for yall females w/ dudes just reachin and grabbin. Honestly I just find it hard to believe that a grown man would just put his hands all over you with out warning when you’re clearly not feelin him like that (yet). I’m not talkin about just you, but I hear this from many chics and it seems that they get bent out of shape cuz homie just gave em a test rub, or sensed that he wanted to grab that thing. Big deal thats what he wants to do, cant wait to do… but that does not mean he lacks respect for you.

don’t see how the concept is too far fetched. If you’re in a relationship this should be happening with some sort of regularity -ok ARed enough, my heart cant take too much of this. What you need to do is stop playin wit my emotions.

By The Truth

February 13, 2008 2:44 PM | Link to this

the temp is dropping thru the floor folks. It was 50 this morning but 30 now and chilly. If any of you ladies wanna come over and have some hot chocolate and caramel man, bring it on by. LOL

Why is congress holding a hearing on steroids while the country is in a recession? Isn’t something wrong with that? When will they hold a hearing for Bush lying to america about wepaons of mass distruction?

Let it be written, let it be law. BJ and steak day it is.

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

Come on now 900k. With all the desperate women in Atlanta, you dudes can’t tell me that a bj is hard to come by. I’m not buying it!

Even Staceye is feeling me and she doesn’t date. But if she did, she’d knows her “duties.” LOL

By pisces08

February 13, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

@ ARed. Help me with the Leap year thing. Women ask men out on the 29th? or the entire year? or what?

By SlimOne

February 13, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

Guys Are you all trying to tell me that getting a bj is few and far between? Are you all not getting MP (mouthpiece) from your boo’s on a regular?

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 13, 2008 2:51 PM | Link to this

I don’t eat steak..but if I had a man…the bj is a given after a candlelit, champagne sipping, chocolate covered strawberry dipping, hot bath and and oil massage. What a way to put him to sleep! STACEYE - I am speechless… words cannot describe the way I feel about you right now. SMH snap out of it 900 she’s tryin to set you up

By Staceye

February 13, 2008 2:51 PM | Link to this

900 it is outright disrespectful! What makes him think he has the right to touch me? If I want to be touched I have a mouth and know how to speak. He as a grown man should know how to practice self control! Put it like this…say your mom/sister goes out on a date with a guy…and just because he wanted to touch her, is it ok? I put it like that because men usually change their tune about things when its a family member. You want those women treated with respect so why should the ones you are not related to be treated differently?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

February 13, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

Okay I am over here LMBAO at BJ & Steak Day!!! I agree with Ared though, if you are my man certain things are a given.

Hey SJ3000!! Nice way to pair up food & s3x!

Truth I’ll take you up on the hot cocoa and caramel!! LOL! :) It is cold as h3ll outside

By Bella

February 13, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

@ 900K

I’m way ahead of you on your 11:14 post. It’s already done! But you’ll have to wait until next week! And stop stealing my ideas!

on topic: I suppose I run into some men who have trouble reading my body language. For example, if you ask me for my number, and I hesitate to give it to you with a frown on my face, it means I don’t want to give it to you. Or if I’m not smiling at you for the duration of our convo, I’m not interested.

dating advice for ladies: stop lying. If a man asks you for your number, and you don’t want to give it out, don’t! It drives me nuts when women do this.

By Demi

February 13, 2008 2:54 PM | Link to this

QC it is cold as hellz outside, I will not be flying no where tomorrow, I will not be wearing any red/black tights nothing…Due to all of these storms, we’re hella busy today…I wanted to tell one customer (who was caught in a ice storm), if she get the power company to restored her power, then she will have her T1 back in service!!

By melo

February 13, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

the bj is a given after a candlelit, champagne sipping, chocolate covered strawberry dipping, hot bath and and oil massage. good luver u are indeed!!

By SeanJohnson3000

February 13, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

@ Staceye…i dont eat steak either…prefer salmon…So tell me…i know u work out and eat healthy and all….do you drink protein shakes??

@ Tazzee…i know we discussed briefly..but since todays topic is about the females “enlightening” single brothers..i just wanna see if the females on the blog are capable of knowing what it takes to keep her man satisfied and happy when its time to reward him for doing right by her

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

Truth - I’m dreading these lower temps. I just got my gas bill and it was $134! Made me run down and turn the pilot light off in my fireplace. I have never had a bill that high. Geez!

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 13, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

Whoa!! Sj3000 You really pushed it with that! WOWZERS!

By Raqi

February 13, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

A man would have to have crawled from under a rock like this morning to be out there putting his unsolicited hands on a woman. With the sexual harassment lawsuits being so easy these days one would have to be a fool. Hard to believe. But that’s JMO.

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 13, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

Why is everyone actin like gettin BLOWED is a treat?? I am with **Ared and Staceye on this one. This should be done regulary. It should be happening enough to where you dont’ have to complain about it. That is IF! If you are staying on top of your job!

By DreamsMaterialize

February 13, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

Staceye If I want to be touched I have a mouth and know how to speak. He as a grown man should know how to practice self control! Now, I don’t have a problem with a woman putting her hands on me, but does that statement hold when the woman is doing all the touching. Trust, women get real touchy feely when they’re in the mood. What if a cat said to you, “Hey hey hey, you really shouldn’t be touching me unless I ask you to.”? Would you respect that, or would you think something was wrong with him?

By SeanJohnson3000

February 13, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this

@ Slim..its not about not getting enought mouth piece…its about ….for once…a female taking the lead and not being selfish when it comes to being happy in a relationship…as men ..its a lot of pressure on us to out do the last year and be creative when it comes to KEEPING yall happy….and being we are simple creatures..all it takes for us its a good meal and a tonsil massage and we skr8…

@ Blow…i always push it…for my name sake..and for your name sake as well..

By Meeka

February 13, 2008 3:12 PM | Link to this

I don’t eat steak at all, i prefer chicken, salmon, veggie lasgna, nice salad, etc - I don’t have a sweetie for Valentines Day :( but if i did i’d let him plan our date and it would be my treat

By mytwocents

February 13, 2008 3:15 PM | Link to this

For Real What’s a man to do if you look that all the time? If she sometimes looks like this, maybe your speaking would brighten her day. If she looks like this all the time, what is attractive enough about her to want to pursue? The chicks I know like this always have a man. How? Maybe it’s just the physical, if so, then… And she did however reserve the right to bytch and moan if and when anything went wrong. Again, I’m confused how this chick w/a bad attitude almost always has a man. So like in the above, if he’s willing to make the trade off for her physical then he deserves it.

And those who feel the need to campaign for the Vday BJ – Maybe she’d be inspired to make every day a “holiday” if ya toned some of the macho/game bs down some. And if you are already genuine, kind & sweet to her and she doesn’t see the need to treat, I ask for the last time (this week) ~ How come this chick ALWAYS has a man??? hahahahaa

By Staceye

February 13, 2008 3:16 PM | Link to this

900 why would I set you up? LOL

Melo Thank you love! wink wink

SJ if you are talking about the shakes that only aman can make…NO! LOL

Dreams it’s his body..and I respect whether he wants to be touched or not. It’s all about personal space and being respectful.

By SeanJohnson3000

February 13, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

@ Blow…true its a given..especially if you are in my camp…but very few females are OFFICIAL wit it…u gotta love what u do ..to be good at it……if its 1/2 dont even bother…if i’m gonna be drinking all this pineapple juice and eating these fresh veggies…u better be drinking protein shakes….my milk does ya body good….complextion too..lol

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 13, 2008 3:20 PM | Link to this

Bella -well hello 2 u! Wow, its cool to have an official moderator speak to me on here… it may be a 1st. Without threatenin to kick me outta here

ARed -now you should know me well enough to see I dont blow smoke. With that said, Yes it can be difficult at times. See I have this good luck/ bad luck thing going on, I’ll meet a nice girl just my type that just dont get down like that. Now this is cause for immediate termination (well after maybe 2mo’s of layin it down) This is not always but the last 2 chic I dated for over a year ea, I always had to ask only to hear “what you gon do for me!” and that got tired. I did have a fling a while back w/ this one chic who blessed me on the first night after I knocked it out the park. Then after 3-4 episodes I was like “yo do your thing..” she hit me wit the “Oh, I dont really get down like that… musta been drunk”

Basicaly they all do it, but most will hold it back as much as possible and front like it aint no every day thing i.e. dont get used to this shyt 900!

And who the h3ll want some passed over desperite azz chic? ok, I know most men will jump on that but thats just for late night jump-offs

By BINFORD2K

February 13, 2008 3:21 PM | Link to this

ARed Quality is more important than quantity. Just cause you can get it, doesn’t mean you want it.

By Staceye

February 13, 2008 3:22 PM | Link to this

SJ my milk does ya body good….complextion too I’m lactose intolerate..oh and my skin is already clear! LOL

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 3:23 PM | Link to this

pisces - I really couldn’t tell you on the 29th thing. I guess women are supposed to do the asking, but I’d never heard of such a thing. But even my traditional arse, who never asks guys out, would be game to do it one day out of every 4 years. LOL

If anyone does know more, please share. I’ll participate. Hee hee.

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 13, 2008 3:33 PM | Link to this

u better be drinking protein shakesSJ3000 I threw up in my mouth a lil. That is nasty!

By DreamsMaterialize

February 13, 2008 3:34 PM | Link to this

Staceye I’m sure you won’t ever have to worry about a guy saying that to you…well I can only speak for myself.

mytwocents Maybe she’d be inspired to make every day a “holiday” if ya toned some of the macho/game bs down some. Do you make EVERY day a holiday for your man? Truth is most women aren’t doing it EVERY day, or even EVERY time. lol

By BINFORD2K

February 13, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

mytwocents A woman never has to be alone if she doesn’t want too. Men are puersuers and if the woman allows herself to be pursued, she will be. Sadly, it seems it was set up this way.

Secondly, the “macho” attitude you sense is a push back to the years of emasculation the country has endured. Why does it seems it always is what the woman wants first? Or that we have to give to get (anything, not just the nookie). That’s crap! One commercial on the radio is pushing a gift saying it was worth the reward the guy would get - what sh!t.

Woman want equal everything, except with dating - then they want it “old-fashioned”. You can’t have it both ways ladies.

Welcome to the revolution!

By Foot2Azz

February 13, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

Tell em bout it SJ3K! ^5 on the 3:18 post

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 3:42 PM | Link to this

SJ3000 - As Chris Rock said, “don’t say some ish that will get you kicked out of bed!” You nasty. Who cares if you’re eating your pineapples. That’s not rationale enough to justify what you’re asking. LOL

By The Truth

February 13, 2008 3:42 PM | Link to this

Ared 2 words for you, BUDGET BILLING. I hate those roller coaster bills so I do budget billing.

Once again, if ol girl ain’t offerring every body part on the menu she’s not feeling you. When a chick gives you her heart everything is in the package.

The Truth now throwing a blanket in the dryer and putting on his bucking undies while waiting for Mo.

By Raqi

February 13, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

The leap year thing is really not that serious nor that traditional. It had been noted that Leap Year was the time when a woman could propose marriage to a man, properly. You know back in the days certain things were not proper for a woman.

Since a woman can propose marriage in that year, some have taken it to be that a woman can initiate anything when it comes to a relationship in that year. Not really a true tradition though. Just more of a “do for fun” type of thing.

By IslandGirl

February 13, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

Hey everyone,

@SJ…you’re a bad, bad, bad dude. Protein shakes, steak and head…so I guess the way to your heart is through your belly…and a nut….lol

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this

900k - Neither of those women sounded like your GIRLFRIEND. We’ll do it without the title, but the beast will not be unleashed unless you are willing to make that commitment. I don’t blame those sistas at all for holding back. Sorry!

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 13, 2008 3:52 PM | Link to this

The leap year thing is really not that serious nor that traditional. It had been noted that Leap Year was the time when a woman could propose marriage to a man, properly. -Nothing is ever considered serious or becomes tradition when it comes to women treatin men well, if even for 1/ 4yrs!

By DreamsMaterialize

February 13, 2008 3:53 PM | Link to this

ARed Traditionally, Feb. 29 in the leap year was the one day that women were allowed to propose marriage. The concept of women initiating romance has been extended to VDay. Now gon’ and participate. ;-)

By pisces08

February 13, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

@Raqi. Thanks

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 3:57 PM | Link to this

Thanks Dreams (and Raqi). I guess I should participate this Valentine’s Day. I’d been wanting to show of my exotic dancing routine from my stripper class. Might as well bite the bullet and put on a show for one lucky guy!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

February 13, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

The Truth now throwing a blanket in the dryer and putting on his bucking undies while waiting for Mo. Not the bucking undies!! LMAO!!! :0)

By BennyB

February 13, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this

Bella, If a man asks you for digits and you don’t want to, hesitating make the situation more awkward, why don’t you plain and simple tell him that “it is not a good idea”. If he insists, then he does not get it and you should tell him that to: “I don’t think you get it”. BTY, who says men should learn body language?

“If I’m not smiling at you for the duration of our convo, I’m not interested”. I learned ffrom women here that if a woman is not smiling got nothing to do with a man, she’s just having a bad day. Now, you are telling me that when a woman is not smiling got all to do with a man? Damn women……constancy? Is that applied only to men? So, a man should ask for number and look for body languages to guess the answer? Ok maybe only if the answer is a No. You don’t want to make guys feel rejected because you don’t want to be treated the same way but guys who go for digits get a NO at least 50 times a year. If you did not know MEN DON’T READ BODY LANGUAGE, should I repeat again so you get it: ok, men do not read, speak or understand body language……..

By mytwocents

February 13, 2008 4:05 PM | Link to this

Dreams I do apologize. I said “every” when I meant a random “regular” day. With that bein said calm down! She ain’t gotta walk around w/ lock jaw to show she luv u! And if I were in a relationship, sure Wednesday would be a day to celebrate…sumthin.

Binford Yes, but the sacrifice of bein in a F*ed up couple just so ur not alone isn’t worth it for me, cuz I value myself. I was moreso reflecting on the men who deal w/ the negative sour puss who mouths off & feels uhmm ‘performing’ is a chore. To my chagrin, she often has a man waiting at home. It floors me.

SJ Your comments are a throw back to sumthin being discussed one of the first couple of days when I wandered in here a few weeks ago re level of engagement when it comes to the whole act. So you have those broads who ask why is he drinkin’ pineapple juice & eatin fruit like he’s in the jungle, those who are like yeah, my baby’s on his juices & berries too, we’re gonna have some fun 2nite and then those who jus won’t give a ** cuz they ain’t tryna find out if it’s as bad as they think or if it’ll give them an clearer skin or not, no matter how much it may please you. Use your spidey senses, gentleman!

By DreamsMaterialize

February 13, 2008 4:07 PM | Link to this

ARed Might as well bite the bullet and put on a show for one lucky guy! Now, that’s the spirit! Now just tell me where the show is…time to make it rain. ;-)

By Staceye

February 13, 2008 4:10 PM | Link to this

benny men don’t know body language…they don’t understand no either! I do not know how many times I have said no and then some dude keeps on preesing me..then if get mean, then he wants to get upset! What’s with that?

By Raqi

February 13, 2008 4:10 PM | Link to this

Well 900K you must be dealing with the wrong women or you haven’t given any of them a reason to treat you well. And if you only idea of being treated well centers around fel-latio then I am sad for you. I don’t need a day to tell me to treat my man well in any kind of way.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 13, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this

ARed - I stated that there were 2 diff girls that I dated for over 1yr each. What else could they be but my GF? Yes it was exclusive with both, and it was not going on at the same time. After me being lucky in the past with havin my chix “rock to mic” on the regular i bumbed into them, back-2-back!!! whatever tho, life lesson learned from dat…

By IslandGirl

February 13, 2008 4:17 PM | Link to this

Staceye…I agree with you. Some men do not understand no. ie, while at the gas station this morning a fella and I had a conversation about living in atlanta. He eventually asked me if I was single and if he can have my number. I told him I have a man. While pulling away from the pump- he says, ” I still want your number just in case things don’t work out with your man”…now aint that some ish..

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 13, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

Truth Once again, if ol girl ain’t offerring every body part on the menu she’s not feeling you. When a chick gives you her heart everything is in the package

This is not true. There is one part I will not offer…the back door! Is off limits…So that is incorrect.

By LateLurker

February 13, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

I didn’t read all the way through the comments. If I am repeating, then please feel free to ignore. If I take the time to read all the comments, because I am home so late, I don’t have time to actually post.

If in your past you have dated crazy women, and that is your norm, step outside your box. It might be a little uncomfy to begin with, but you will usually find a better quality woman if you can deal with you being uncomfortable. If the last crazy girl you were set up with was a blind date thanks to a friend, they really weren’t a friend, and you don’t need to do anymore blind dates set up by them.

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

900k - My bad. So they were your gfs. I’ve dated guys for more than a year without the title. I figured you would have been more clear on that had they been gfs. But obviously they were.

Looks like you got some duds then. LOL

By DreamsMaterialize

February 13, 2008 4:19 PM | Link to this

mytwocents lol nah she doesn’t have to have locked jaw. But if I’m thorough, she gots to be thorough too. ;-)

By LateLurker

February 13, 2008 4:22 PM | Link to this

I didn’t read all the way through the comments. If I am repeating, then please feel free to ignore. If I take the time to read all the comments, because I am home so late, I don’t have time to actually post.

If in your past you have dated crazy women, and that is your norm, step outside your box. It might be a little uncomfy to begin with, but you will usually find a better quality woman if you can deal with you being uncomfortable. If the last crazy girl you were set up with was a blind date thanks to a friend, they really weren’t a friend, and you don’t need to do anymore blind dates set up by them.

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 4:22 PM | Link to this

Island Girl - You should have given that number for back up purposes! LOL.

Heck, it doesn’t always work out. LOL

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 13, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

ARED You are serious about 4:22….How do you ever give something a chance..if in the back of your mind it WILL NOT work?!?!

By The Truth

February 13, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

You know whats real cool? On a day like today you and your girl are in bed watching tv and napping and it doesn’t matter if your bumping or not. She’s just cool to be with.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 13, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

And if you only idea of being treated well centers around fel-latio then I am sad for you. I don’t need a day to tell me to treat my man well in any kind of way. -Raqi good for you if you puttin it down for ya man. But if you look closely at the words I wrote you’ll see that I easily spent 2+years of my life with ladies who rarely “blessed” cause they were uncomfortable. once I realized they were not frontin about it I went with the flow and they treated me the best they could most of the time. However in reading your post you do come accrossed as a Dry Mouth!

By IslandGirl

February 13, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this

Amazon….I had to pass on that one…back in the day we use to say, “There’s nothing wrong with having a spire tire”. IG retired her player cards a long time now.

By AmazonRed

February 13, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

Blow Me - Huh? Where’d you get that conclusion from?

By Raqi

February 13, 2008 4:30 PM | Link to this

You all talking about men not knowing when no means no. I can tell you all of two very serious cases where to different young men are messed up for a long time for that very thing. We need to have a serious conversation on here one day about that.

By Beautiful

February 13, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

p08 i believe it’s the whole year.

truthbaby she has a man. i seen about 4 episodes yesterday.

4real hey is good too.

steak and bj, he should get that on a regular!!!

By Staceye

February 13, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

Island Girl I have been there. Guys if a woman says she has a man..leave it. To ask for her number anyway not only shows your lack of respect for relationships (including yours if you were to have one with her)but it makes you look desperate. Keep it moving! D@mn! LOL

Ared half the time that woman may not have a man…but you would think telling a dude you got a man would make his azz go away! Island probably wasn’t interested anyway! LOL

By Beautiful

February 13, 2008 4:33 PM | Link to this

You know whats real cool? On a day like today you and your girl are in bed watching tv and napping and it doesn’t matter if your bumping or not. She’s just cool to be with.

memories.

By Demi

February 13, 2008 4:40 PM | Link to this

Issssshid…If you’re taking care of a woman on all front (handling yo biz like a man), 9 times outta 10 she’ll wake you a$$ up with an early morning blow blow…well, at lease the ladies I’ve dated in the past have.

By For Real

February 13, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

2Pennies The reason why those types of women have men is because they change on their dudes. They wasn’t always like that but as soon as they get a title they stop defending it.

Bella and the rest of the you should be able to read the body language of a complete stranger

OPEN YOUR MOUTH AND SAY WHAT YOU MEAN!

2E’s So it’s okay for women to lie instead of telling the truth. Oh and please spare me the “yall can’t handle the truth bit” Base on your logic a man can tell you he is not married because he wants to get to know you.

Blow Why is 3Stacks notion nasty but an earmuffintectomy is clean? Oh and here hold this tub of KY for me.

Raqi Good for you. Think of the money yall will save for not celebrating VDay.

Benny B Come on man, you know good and well that Consistency is not a word in a woman’s vocab. I mean how else do example 37 pair of black shoes.

By The Truth

February 13, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

Some chicks come on here like their all irressistable and shyt. Its not like they’re tellin it. Ol boy said this is a wrap so let me get what i can and bounce. I’ve had as much as as the next guy and I’ve never kicked it like that. Its mutual or we dont get down. I say bulllllshyt.

By Demi

February 13, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

Oh dayz like this: sitting in front of the fire place bundled up, sharing a tall glass of hot choco, while staring into the flames….with Prince or any old skool R&B playing softly in the back ground of course!!

By BennyB

February 13, 2008 4:55 PM | Link to this

Staceye, if no does not work then stop using it? use something like “it’s not a good idea” if they insist tell them that “they don’t get it”, if they insist tell them that “you are looking for a man who get it”, if they insist they are officially annoying, then it is time to play defense. Many cool guys like to keep extra convo after you turn them down just to appear polite even if it is awkward to most female. Just because they keep talking to you for an extra minute does not translate that they are insisting, they want to diffuse the situation gently and you don’t recognize it. Ask for a number and keep moving just because she does not give it up is failing to recognize the value of a human being. Staceye, you are more than a number, why you think that just because you turn down a man he should drop you like a used napkins? Is that how you drop men? Like used napkins?

By Beautiful

February 13, 2008 4:57 PM | Link to this

demi if she loves her man, no prob. you can really sike yourself out and enjoy it even more than him!

By Blow Me a.k.a Bomb 1st

February 13, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

For Real What does earmuffintectomy ??? What the heck is that?

By 900K aka Mr 2008

February 13, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

Guys if a woman says she has a man..leave it. To ask for her number anyway not only shows your lack of respect for relationships - good point Staceye, but here sthe problem from my POV. I havent met a fine, intelligent chic who did NOT have a man in the last 3-5yrs!!! So Imma go hard… hey its been workin for me. Dimes dont just walk around single…are you happy? I mean you gotta at least give me that one.

Hasta Luego!

By DreamsMaterialize

February 13, 2008 5:02 PM | Link to this

Blow

ear-muffin-tectomy=wearin your thighs like ear muffs

By Beautiful

February 13, 2008 5:02 PM | Link to this

where’s sexyleggs to finish out the day?

By melo

February 14, 2008 8:24 AM | Link to this

HAPPY VALENTINE MY LOVELISHOUS LADIES

By QC

February 14, 2008 8:28 AM | Link to this

HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY TO ALL THE SEXY BLOG MEN….SMOOCHES!