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January 2008
Like You’ll Never See Me Again
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I don’t wanna forget the present is a gift
And I don’t wanna take for granted the time you may have here with me
‘Cause Lord only knows another day is not really guaranteed
Alicia Keys - Like You’ll Never See Me Again
I was listening to the audio clip of Q100’s The Bert Show when Meredith Emerson’s boyfriend, Steven spoke so beautifully about her. I was touched listening to him share all the wonderful traits he wanted everyone to know about her.
Then seeing the wives of the murdered DeKalb Police officers say goodbye to their men, literally moved me to tears. I sincerely hoped that they had a chance to tell each other, “I love you” the last time they spoke.
Death has a way of bringing everything into perspective really fast. All the silly dating games, misunderstandings, and stupid gender power struggles must feel like complete wasted energy and time in retrospect.
I haven’t personally dated someone who died, but I know plenty of people who have. I know a woman whose fiance was killed only weeks before the wedding date. Of course, she took it extremely hard. In fact, soon after, she got a tattoo with his name/image. What happens when she decides to date again? It seemed like a drastic move to me. How can she ever really move on?
Have any of you ever dated someone who lost a boyfriend/girlfriend? Did it change your dating approach with them? Did you think that they would compare you to the loved one they lost?
Have you ever lost someone you dated? How long were you together? How did you cope? Was there something specific that brought you comfort? How did/do you deal with the fear of losing someone else?
The heartbreak from a breakup is difficult enough to get over, but how can you even begin to heal a heart broken by the death of the love of your life?
Many thanks to our Mr. 2 for this topic idea
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Dating strangers
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
So I went to see the film 27 Dresses, the uber sappy chick flick that was predictable but entertaining. One of the characters goes through great lengths to impress a man by basically lying about every single detail about herself. When she found out that he loved nature, she became NATURE GIRL. When she found out he was a vegetarian, she told him that she was too!!! Well…whenever he was around.
Can I just tell you that I laughed incredibly hard watching her?! Not because it was outrageously funny, though. I actually recognized my old self!. I was THAT girl. The must land the “keeper” guy by any means necessary type. Oh, I mastered the chameleon dating. If he had a type, I became that type, completely hiding my authentic self. I was going to be that trophy girlfriend and I was going to do it with a smile. It’s funny NOW, but at the time, it was exhausting. Who can keep up the pretense?
Needless to say, it never works. It doesn’t take long to find out that the person you are dating is a stranger. Very unnerving and frustrating. It takes a lot of courage to be who you really are when you are dating someone. You just have to keep in mind that it is more gratifying to be yourself, flaws and all. Let the person see all sides of your personality and character…uh over a period of time, that is!
Have you ever dated someone who molded themselves into the person they thought you wanted? How did you know?
Do you think single people have difficulty being their authentic selves?
Whenever a guy asks me what I am looking for in a man, I have a stock answer ready. I’m not looking, he’s going to find me.
I won’t give any guy a blueprint of my ideal man so he can work to become him. Besides, the guy of my dreams is probably in Tibet somewhere, why bother dealing in fantasy?
Do single people still ask each other that loaded question: what are you looking for? If so why? If you have been asked this question before, how do you respond?
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Smart, Sexy, and Single
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I met Daniel while we were waiting to see a performance by Chrisette Michelle last month. We were talking about music, science, technology, and politics before the concert started. Daniel jokingly said he was surprised a pretty girl like me (flattery works, man) could be so smart. I’m sure he was being facetious, but I have wondered if guys really thought that truly smart and sexy women exist. Don’t guys meet smart, sexy, single women all the time in Atlanta?
I have heard guys say that beautiful women have never had to really be smart because they have guys chasing them all the time. Of course, it would frustrate me to no end to hear that, because I know that beautiful women get dismissed as unintelligent all the time with this kind of logic.
What do you guys think? Can a really smart woman be sexy or does her sex appeal cancel out her intelligence? Is it possible for a sexy woman to be taken seriously?
Guys when you meet a sexy woman (mega hottie), is it hard to see her as smart? Is it hard to see a extremely smart girl as sexy?
Ladies, do you ever feel that you walk a fine line in projecting the right image of smart, sexy, and single? How do you think you are perceived? If you could choose between having great looks or having extreme intelligence, which would you pick?
Single people have a bad habit of lumping each other into one or two types, why do you think we do this? Aren’t their hot guys who aren’t players? Aren’t their beautiful women who don’t have major hang ups?
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Like father like son?
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Lila and Paul have been dating for about seven months. She met some of his family members over the holidays, including Paul’s father. Lila described him as the textbook “confirmed bachelor.”
You know the type, right? Oh it’s the way sexier, male version of being a spinster. Instead of owning 12 cats, the man has scores of women to keep him company; none that he plans to marry. I know, stereotypes abound, but bear with me.
According to Lila, Paul never witnessed his parents in a healthy relationship. As he was growing up, his father met and dated a lot of women. He enjoyed the freedom of being single, and has yet to really settle down. Although he has a “steady” girlfriend, he avoids any real commitment with her. (This lady could possibly be totally fine with this, mind you)
Lila is just worried that Paul’s ideas about marriage and commitment were impacted by his parent’s failed marriage. She doesn’t know how to bring the subject up. She thinks that Paul could be planning on following his father’s footsteps. Should she address this or wait until things become more serious?
Do you think our parent’s ideas about love and relationships get “hard-wired”, so to speak, into us? Do women take on their mother’s attitude/perception about men? Do men adopt their father’s attitude/perception about women?
Where did you get your first ideas about relationships? What is your earliest memory of romantic love? What models of love and commitment did you have growing up?
If you were raised in a single parent home, do you think you will have more challenges with commitment because you didn’t see it in your household growing up?
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On the cheap
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
My friend Erik was recently lamenting on how expensive it’s getting to date. Appetizer, dinner, dessert, two movie tickets. (Don’t think Erik is the norm. He’s a little over the top sometimes.) But it all starts to add up, even after just one date! Not to mention taking someone out every weekend.
But it can be expensive for women, as well, I informed him. If I like I guy enough to go out with him, I’m probably getting my hair and nails done, not to mention a new dress and sometimes new shoes if I can afford it. Not only can women spend a lot of money on the front end of a date, but lots of us will chip in on things throughout the date—like parking or the tip at a restaurant—if the man is picking up the main tab.
We all know that a home-cooked meal can be one of the most romantic dates out there. But what other routes do you take to save your wallet and have a great time?
Is the zoo only for kids? Is Six Flags (if you have a serious coupon or season passes) only for teens? When was the last time you went on a picnic? Fed the ducks at a park?
What cheap (but fun!) dates have you planned for someone? What was an entertaining but inexpensive date you’ve recently been on?
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To be or not to be…married
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
We’ve all read the newest research on singles in this generation; while our parents and grandparents might have been looking for marriage, it’s not necessarily what single adults are after these days.
Some of us are simply looking for long-term commitment, and a few of us are even happy just playing the field for the rest of our lives.
Our question today is, what are you looking to ultimately find on the dating scene? Marriage? A long-term commitment? Or just to have fun? (Don’t be scared or ashamed to admit to your blog family what’s up. If you want marriage one day, just say it. If you don’t, let us know.) What’s on your mind as you’re navigating the singles arena?
A century ago, the general population was more marriage-minded, so one could conclude that a gathering of singles on the dating scene might have had a collective objective. Does this mix of objectives in singles circles today complicate things? Do you meet many people who have the same goals as you do?
Have you ever met someone you were interested in dating only to find out that they weren’t marriage-minded? (And we’re not talking about someone who’s just “commitment-phobic.” If you fall into this category it means you truly don’t ever want to be married, even if your soul mate comes along.) Or how about someone who was incredibly marriage-minded when you weren’t?
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Change of heart
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I once read somewhere that you should never try to change a man or expect him to change. I think this advice was not to explain the inability for a man to grow or mature, but rather a warning to women who are quick to try to take something they feel “has potential” and turn it into something “perfect.”
This statement makes so much sense to me, because I really think that what you see in the beginning of a relationship is what you get in the end. So if you’re not happy with the way someone—male or female—is in the first few months you know them, you won’t be happy with them later. You can either choose to get over their little quirks or not.
While I think this is pretty solid advice, and it has kept me from being that “woman on a mission” that you occasionally encounter on the dating scene, sometimes men and women can spark each other to change—but usually it’s accidental, unintentional, and simply a reciprocation of love for someone. It’s not because your boo put a guilt trip on you.
Have you ever changed for someone you loved? Was it a small change, like picking up a hobby they enjoyed, or a complete paradigm shift, like quitting drugs or binge-drinking?
Has anyone you’ve ever dated changed for the better because of you? Did you purposefully inspire the change or was it something your partner did on his or her own? What advice would you give to those who are trying to encourage their significant others through a difficult metamorphosis?
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Drive me crazy
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Many singles have strong feelings about long distance relationships — they do work, they don’t work, or they can work with the right person.
But what about dating in the metro Atlanta area, where dating within the city can still feel like you’re dating long distance? Everyone knows that the few miles between, say, south of the city and outside the north end of the perimeter can turn into more than an hour of driving time depending on when you’re picking someone up. You might as well be dating someone long distance! You can make it to Alabama in an hour, depending on where you’re driving from!
Do you have an opinion on dating ITP or OTP, depending on where you live? If you’re not sure about someone you’re seeing, can their location in town tip the scales against them (i.e. living too far from you may make you realize you’re not into them enough to be driving that far)?
If you do date people across town, what do you do to help bridge the gap? Do you try to pick meeting places halfway between the two of you? Ladies, do you try to meet your date at the restaurant or lounge so you can both save time and gas money? How do you schedule around rush hour and problem traffic times?
What’s the farthest (or longest) you’ve ever driven to pick up someone who technically lived in the metro Atlanta area?
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She’s in the zone
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
When a lady is close friends with a guy, she may start finding herself attracted to him in that way. You know, that way that makes her all flushed and excited when she is around him.
He doesn’t realize it because some men are oblivious to a woman’s subtle hints. Unless she walks out wearing nothing but a pair of pearls, all that time spent together could be strictly platonic as far as he is concerned. Is it possible for a woman to get out of the friend zone?
We hear men complaining about the friend zone all the time, but it’s rare to hear women admit they are in the friend zone. Is it possible that women are less likely to end up in the friend zone because we prefer the men to pursue us?
Guys, have you ever been friends with a woman who developed a crush on you? Did you recognize the signs right away or did she have to come out and tell you? If you had a friend - girl that has feelings for you, would you want her to tell you or do you think it’s best if she kept it to herself?
Ladies, are you in the friend zone with a guy you are really close to? Have you considered telling him how you feel? What do you think he would say?
Has anyone found a surefire way to maneuver away from the friend zone?
Happy Friday!
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Cry like a man?
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
If you are a football fan, you probably heard about NFL player Terrell Owen’s display of emotions. I was watching the footage of him and I kind of marveled a bit. Men like TO rarely show emotion publicly in this particular manner, so it was …well, fascinating to watch.
I was wondering, men, how do you do it? How do you handle being a guy who has to live up to the masculine image? There seems to be such scrutiny on how you act, dress, talk, walk, etc. It’s like guys walk a fine line between being tough yet not too aggressive. You also have to be sensitive, but not too whiny.
Is it really so awful for a man to publicly show his emotions? What is wrong with a man expressing how he feels? Isn’t that part of being a living and feeling human? When men experience frustration, anger, or disappointment, how do you cope with it? Do men today feel the need to assert their manliness?
Ladies, how do you feel about a man crying in your presence? What if you are the one responsible for making him cry, how would you handle it? Would you consider that to be courageous or weak, or both? If he cried frequently, like during a movie or when his favorite sports team loss, would that make you feel uneasy? Does it make a man more attractive when he cries?
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Intentions Detective
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if single people stated their intentions upfront? Imagine what would happen if a woman told a guy: You are very attractive, you seem like you would be a kind husband and wonderful father. I intend to woo you with my looks, wit and charm, and make you want to have a relationship with me! We will marry in 2.5 years and I intend to make our lives blissful!
On second thought, that would probably creep a guy out.
A lot of frustration in dating can come from that uncertainty that lingers way too long. You enjoy each other’s company and things are going great, but you don’t know if the other person is being fully honest. We have all experienced the vagueness, the double talk, the jedi mind tricks before. It’s not always fun. I have come to realize that time has a way of revealing everything I need to know, but some of us have a tough time waiting before we get caught up. I just wonder if there is a way to detect what a man’s intentions are? Is there a way that I could avoid wasting good lipstick on a guy who has no intentions of taking me seriously?
Recently, my friend Dyoung said that most men immediately categorize women into the “would sleep with” “would not sleep with” or [edit.note:] “want to sleep with” category. After that is determined, I suppose that all those stimulating conversations, witty comebacks, and flattery are all used to woo a woman. Do you think it’s up to the woman to pace the courting process from there? If a guy’s intentions are determined early on, what does the woman do/say to change his plan of action, or should she?
How do you detect a person’s intentions? Through their actions, words, a combination of both? What has worked for you to weed out the BS artists?
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You do the math!
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Just when I think I have men figured out, I get that dating reality check: You think you know, but you have no idea! I was talking to “AJ” and the subject of talents came up. You know, what we were good at, what things we could compete each other in, etc.
Somehow AJ makes a reference to his bedroom talents. Yes, exactly! Ok, did I mention this man is 32 years old? A little too old to brag on that type of thing, no? As if that wasn’t bad enough, he not so subtly told me his magic number, and boy was it high. Way too high for me. I felt bad when he became defensive. He thought I was judging him, and to be honest, I couldn’t help it. How could I not? If it were me, with an astronomical magic number, wouldn’t he raise his eyebrow?
Why did he feel the need to tell me this information? We are not dating seriously, and I got the impression that he thought it would impress me. It did not. It turned me off and, frankly, scared me. Now, he is calling and wants to know why he hasn’t heard from me. I’ve been stalling because (aside from the 87 skeletons in his closet) I was really liking the guy. Is it possible he inflated his number? On second thought, does it even matter? My opinion of him is somewhat altered now, on many levels.
Guys, have you ever voluntarily shared the number of partners you have had with someone you are casually dating? Do you think it is a good idea to discuss it with your “friends with benefits” arrangements?
Ladies, have you ever dumped a guy because you thought that he was a little out of your sexual league? Do you think you could handle being with a guy who has had way more experience than you? Has a guy ever given you his magic number? Did you share yours with him? How did he react?
Do you think it is unfair to judge a person’s magic number?
Let’s keep the discussion as clean as possible, and please watch your language, everyone!
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Express yourself!
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Have you ever been on a date with someone and, much to your chagrin, they get the wrong idea about you based on something you said?
For instance, a guy can say something to express his manliness and it doesn’t go over well. A woman could possibly turn a guy off when she mentions anything about wanting/needing a good provider. Neither person is necessarily revealing any huge character flaw. They are just expressing themselves in an effort to reveal more about themselves.
On the other hand, maybe small things people say can add up to one big whopping pain in the butt person you really don’t want to date. How do you tell the difference?
Are you finding it harder to express ourself in a way that won’t run off a potential mate? Do you find yourself carefully choosing what you say as not to project the wrong image or send the wrong message?
In your own relationships and/or dating experiences, do you ever find it difficult to express yourself to your partner? How do you handle it?
We have all heard that communication is very important, but what happens when the manner in which a person communicates with you is a huge turn-off? Does this mean you aren’t compatible with the person at all?
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Roses are red, democrats are blue…
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I’ve always heard to keep away from politics and religion in polite conversation, although I think that mantra may be dying out now. Besides, with presidential primaries beginning, elections loom in the air and anyone who has any type of news diet will be in on the buzz.
So how soon do you introduce political topics into your dating life? According to a 2008 AOL/Zogby relationships poll, “…while more than half of respondents (51%) would date someone with opposing political beliefs, those in their 20s (60%) are most likely to leave politics at home while out on a date.”
Obviously, you don’t want to ram your political views down someone’s throat on a first date, but if it’s important in your life, you do want to have those types of discussions eventually with someone you’re seeing.
If you’re interested in politics, how soon do you want to know if the person you’re dating sees things your way? Would you be willing to date someone who was strongly conservative if you’re a staunch liberal? Or vice versa?
What about when things get more serious? Can politics interfere with a potential long-term relationship? Is it possible to ignore issues like the environment, abortion and war if you really care about someone?
Do the people you know seem to match the statistics quoted in this study? Are people in your age range more likely to disregard politics when looking for a mate? Or does it come up in casual conversation? Have you ever stopped seeing someone because their political views were so different from yours?
If politics aren’t important to you, would you rather be with someone who’s in the neutral zone like you, or does it matter?
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Healthy hearts
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Although I didn’t make any hard and fast resolutions this year, I do have a concept sort of looming in the back of my mind that I want to make good on: I want my relationships to be healthier.
And this article made me happy that there’s actually a scientific correlation between women in happy marriages and their stress levels.
Now granted, this study is actually about married couples, but certainly the same principles apply to committed relationships or maybe even casually dating!
For me, healthier dating means not standing for any crap anymore. I’m willing to be flexible, compromise, and even listen to someone else’s side of the story. But I’m not going to wait around for a man who can’t make up his mind. I simply have too much life to live!
Last week we talked about dating resolutions, but what would healthier dating mean for you? Whether you’re just dating or in a full-fledged relationship, what could you do to improve your dating emotional health, thus improving your physical health?
Do you communicate well with people you’re seeing? Are you too clingy? Too standoffish? Do you take enough chances, or are you too risky in love? Do you demand too much from people or too little? Are you too choosy about who you date? Not choosy enough?
What’s ultimately going to make you healthier when it comes to dating? It it something you can accomplish immediately or something that’s going to take time to develop?
Gentlemen, the study shows that although the difference between an unhappy marriage and a happy marriage doesn’t affect men’s stress levels as much, married men do tend to live longer. Based on your personal experience, what have you done or experienced in a relationship that made you feel healthy? Have you ever had a stress-free relationship, in which a woman made things very easy for you?
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Never saw it coming
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
This week I’m sad for my little sister. Do you remember Jorge, her very serious boyfriend of almost two years? Anyway, he ended it with her on new year’s eve, at a party at her apartment.
He had been acting moody for about a week or so. She finally asked him why he was being such a party pooper when everyone was having an amazing time, thinking his grandmother had died or something and he just hadn’t told her.
Instead he said, “I didn’t want to do it like this.” And then came the conversation in which he told her he felt like things had changed between them.
Breakups can often be difficult, but what’s really giving my sister a hard time is that she was completely shocked. Everything seemed to be going so well. He’d met our parents, spent some holidays with us, she’d flown out to see his parents—everything was in motion for a proposal to happen soon, or so she thought.
There were absolutely no indications that he felt lukewarm about the relationship or had any intentions besides spending the rest of his life with her (as they had discussed). Just BAM! We’re breaking up.
Has anyone ever broken up with you out of nowhere? With no warning signs? Have you ever been in a relationship that seemed to be going along swimmingly until the other party informed you that no, it’s not?
Have you ever been in a relationship you genuinely thought was headed toward marriage that ended (to what seemed to you) abruptly? Was it harder to wrap your mind around losing someone you truly thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with? Do you think it takes longer to recover from a breakup you didn’t see coming?
Have you ever been on the other end, breaking up with someone who thought things were going great? Did you do anything to lessen the shock for them, or did you just let them have it?
And lastly, if you have any recovery ideas for my little sis (and anyone else recovering from heartbreak), post ‘em! They can be tried and true, eating-ice-cream-by-the-gallon ideas or they can be quirky and funny methods you’ve perfected over the years.
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Men, women and L-O-V-E
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
As much as I love to learn about the differences between men and women (because, honestly, I think we need all the help we can get in relationships!), my friend Eric recently made a statement I’d never thought of before.
He told me that while women fall in love—men kind of grow on them over time—men really have to choose to love someone. In other words, men basically know in the first few months of dating someone whether they’re in it for the long haul or not, because they make a conscious choice by committing to love their lady. Women, however, may find a man attractive initially, but need time to be won over by someone.
He referenced an ex-girlfriend of his who eventually broke up with him because she realized he’d never marry her, and she even told him so. At the time, he thought that was inaccurate, but later realized that even though she was a great woman, she was right. He probably never would have committed to her, and he subconsciously knew that early on in the relationship.
I think this is interesting because it’s true that sometimes women fall in love with men we weren’t interested in to begin with. It’s happened to me a couple times! I’m not sure what it is, but sometimes men just grow on us!
Women, how many times have you ended up dating someone you didn’t give a second glance to when you met him? Do you agree that (quality) men become even more attractive over time? What made you decide to take a chance on someone you weren’t initially into?
Men, tell it to us straight: Do you, generally speaking, know if you’re in it for the long haul early on in the relationship? Does anything really change for you after three months of dating a woman, or do you think you (at least subconsciously) have things figured out by then?
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Livin’ la vida local
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
My most recent date was with a man who took me to (insert chain Italian restaurant here). We had a great time, I was full when I left, and all was well.
But I couldn’t help but think afterward, he took me to chainrestaurant? Now don’t get me wrong—men, I did not subtract any points for this. We had a nice evening.
But I thought, we live in the middle of Atlanta! We have so many original restaurants, and even Atlanta-only chains! Why wouldn’t you take advantage of them? You can eat at chainrestaurant any day, in any state! And some local spots are even less expensive than the chain we went to.
I realize I’m a foodie, so I probably eat out at more restaurants than many people, but I thought, don’t you want to make a great impression, especially in the first month or so of dating someone?
When you go on dates, do you capitalize on all the city has to offer? Do you choose (or encourage your date to choose) local hangouts over chain restaurants?
What’s your favorite local spot to take a first date? Any places with great atmosphere that are bound to make your date smile? Has anyone ever taken you somewhere on a first date that you were really impressed with or had never been to before? Are there any places in Atlanta you would warn people not to go to on a first date?
Where’s the romantic restaurant you take that special someone who you’ve started seeing exclusively? Are there places that can balance ambience and food without draining your (or your date’s) wallet?
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Do you know what you’re looking for?
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Conditions are ideal for a romantic night. If you haven’t found anyone to cuddle with for the chilly nights, have you stopped to think about why? I think single people who want to have relationships/marry should have at least some idea about who it is they are seeking.
I’m somewhat of a planner, so there is a part of me that is actively trying to define what traits I really admire in a man. I want to be able to spot him and know that he is a good candidate! Hopefully, these admirable traits will exist in a kind, intelligent, handsome package - a girl can only hope, right?
Do you have a pretty good idea what you are seeking in a romantic interest? Are you hoping to meet The One? Are you hoping to meet The One Who Makes You Pancakes?
Do you think it is important to know what you want before you decide to pursue a relationship or dates?
If you are more flexible and open to anyone that strikes your fancy, do you find that this works best for you to meet people?
Do you know what you are looking for? If so, what do you do when you find it? Are you ready for them?
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Lose my religion?
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
When it comes to dating and religion, I only have one rule: I don’t date (nor plan to marry) ministers. Of course, I only have this rule because I am a former PK - pastor’s kid!
Although, I feel that I had the best childhood ever (thanks Mom and Dad!), I can recall the challenges, too: I moved around a lot, I was in church practically every single day of the week (ok, that technically is a good thing), and I really think that my mom earned her angel’s wings by being a pastor’s wife. I am not pastor’s wife material, I am barely wife material! For these reasons (excuses?), I have convinced myself that any guy who aspires to be a preacher is off limits.
My parents always said that religion is something you can not ignore in dating, it’s important! What role does religion/spirituality play in dating for you?
If you are dating someone new, do you bring up religion early in the getting to know you stage? Do you invite them to go to church with you?
Do you think it is important to start a relationship with someone that has similar beliefs about religion, spirituality, etc?
Have you ever dated/married someone with a different religious background and converted?
Do you have any rules when it comes to dating and religion?
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