Misadventures in Atlanta

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 24, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

I guess everyone is at home still rinsing off vaseline from yesterday…

MORNING ALL!!! LOL

By SexyLeggs

January 24, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

Good morning, everyone. That’s funny Mo.

I simply want to date w/o the prospect of getting married.

By Lady J

January 24, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

Morning MO and All!!!

By Beautiful

January 24, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

this blog is like my cup of coffee in the morning. can we have this thing up on time? if i have to be at work on time, then it’s only fair that this blog be on time!!!!

By Lady J

January 24, 2008 10:18 AM | Link to this

sorry Mo and not MO…you know my typing is like ole dude…lol…off da chain!

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

January 24, 2008 10:25 AM | Link to this

Morning, everyone. :-)

On-topic: Though I’d like to be married again someday, I’m not so locked into that idea that I’d rule out dating someone who doesn’t want to be.

Off-topic: I’ve posted my February newsletter to my Web site for those of you who may be interested in reading it: February

Have a good one! :-)

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

Good Morning

Here you go Bell… …i’ have never liked being on punishmment.…Cemeeli passing Bell a single flower… Huh? I’on know why is all greasy? Let me see that…

Sexyleggs glad to see you back in this piece. Hope all is well with you and yours…

LadyJ is there any brunch?

900K when you get in here pls holla.

MO

By m'karyl

January 24, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

Well, it does not look like today’s topic is generating much discussion-mmmm.

By Itchy

January 24, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

Morn all

By melo

January 24, 2008 10:35 AM | Link to this

WAKE UP PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By Lady J

January 24, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

yeah cee cee you know me what are you serving??? I will tip…lol…:)

By Dr. Kym aka Relationship Expert

January 24, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

Good Morning,

What are you looking to ultimately find on the dating scene?

Not looking to get married Happily in love and not looking to put any labels on it right now.

By Beautiful

January 24, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this

one day i do want to be married and hope to God that i won’t give up on wanting the ball and chain around my ankle.

By AmazonRed

January 24, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

Bella - I’d like to speak to your surpervisor. LOL

By AmazonRed

January 24, 2008 10:44 AM | Link to this

Bella - I’d like to speak to your supervisor. LOL

By m'karyl

January 24, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

I realized some while ago that I am not the marriage minded kind for so many different reasons. I would not mind a relationship that did not need to have the long term committment option in place but that is not as easy to find as one might think…

By AmazonRed

January 24, 2008 10:49 AM | Link to this

I’d love to be married one day and have a family. However, my life’s happiness is not contengent on that happening. I have a great life as a single woman and if I have to live the rest of my days as one, I’d be extremely blessed.

That being said, I’m intent on only marrying the RIGHT one for me. If he never comes along, then I won’t be married. Since this seems to be a seemingly impossible task, I’m prepared to be single for a lifetime, however, I’ll always keep an eye out for him, if he exists.

If someone I dated said that marriage wasn’t an option, we’d have to settle as friends.

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

Mo sorry chica…i don’t think i need to re-heat my leftover bkfst from yesturday. Buti will make some fresh be-easy-salmon croquettes for those that need to take a couple…

LadyJ…you gotta help in the kitchen girl. Here…go put those waters, and spritzers on ice…I’m not sure what WilleD drinks anymore but he’ll be auight.

Hi Darrell nice to read ya…I will most definitly check out your newsletter …

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 24, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

Buenos Mi Amigos!

Marriage doesn’t have a good success rate these days. Do I believe in it? Would I like to be one day involved in one? Yes, however I’m not sure if I have alot of faith that I will find that girl to lay it down with for the rest of our lives.

Cemeeli -hey lady! Whats the word?

By SexyLeggs

January 24, 2008 10:54 AM | Link to this

Thanks Cemeeli, had a hard day yesterday and we all gathered last night for fellowshipping, laughter, grubbing, drinking. No tears, no tears! Looked at a lot of pics. She’s in a good place and so are we.

ARed, go easy on the supervisor, but yes, please speak with (s)he (LOL).

By Teresa

January 24, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

What if someone is marriage material but has some “issues” to work out. Would you work through it with them. Do you think its better to buikd wealth together or have your own seperate wealth then try to come together…

By Teresa

January 24, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

I want to be married, its funny, I have been out of a relationship for three years now, and I am a tad, mmm afraid to step out, the dating scene is awful, filled with pretentious people, vain people that don’t have a sense of self…It’s like will he ever find me or will he be distracted by another with an even bigger azz, cute face, but no depth.

By ImAPeach404

January 24, 2008 11:24 AM | Link to this

You know, at 8:11am when I first tried to comment, I really had something insightful, meaningful, and prolific to say about this topic, but now I’m just mad!!!!

WTH??? I went to 7 other blogs and they were all up and working! On time!! With comments!!! Can someone please explain that to me???

Now… I don’t have anything to say. I just came to complain. I wish everyone a lovely day… wooo-saaaah.

By DreamsMaterialize

January 24, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone Whew, client meetings and presentation preparation this morning. Looks like I didn’t miss much though.

Got out of a long-term about 6 months ago, so marriage isn’t really on my mind right now. I’m more focused on career and building momentum for my personal ventures. So, as far dating goes, I just want someone compatible to spend time with.

By Daily Lurker

January 24, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this

I’m not ashamed to admit that I do not want to grow old alone. At this stage I’m dating with intentions of marriage. If we are not on the same page than we’ll be friends and move on.

By Rell

January 24, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this

or will he be distracted by another with an even bigger azz, cute face, but no depth.

Just know he will and dont worry about it….just be the best you

for me…I AM ALWAYS DISTRACTED by another azz, hair , and cute face…lol

By Blog Editor

January 24, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this

You wanted to speak with me Amazon Red?

Let me say this, none of you are required to post! so if you don’t like the topic, or the occasional technical difficulties, then don’t post. simple as that.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 24, 2008 11:31 AM | Link to this

Mo now going to the back to get the vaseline…”I guess we will need this stuff today after all!”

This thing is still slow this am….

By SexyLeggs

January 24, 2008 11:36 AM | Link to this

Blog Editor, if no one is required to post, why have a blog expecting comments? JC!

By mytwocents

January 24, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

Good Day All. I echo ARed’s sentiments with one caveat. While I luv being everyone’s ‘auntie,’ I also want to be someone’s mommy one day and I’m not willing to sacrifice that. (Not sure if you’ve already accomplished that.) A side note- Interesting that in my early 20s guys would ask whether or not I have kids and now entering the 30s they ask how many. And when I say none it’s almost a sense of why, what’s wrong with you…

So a serious committed relationship would suffice especially cuz I won’t have someone marry me as a default (a misguided sense of what he owes me versus passionate desire to be w/ me, etc.) Super Pet Peeve alert! How many times have you ladies met THAT guy - the one who’s married but he’s really not sure why, so he’s out on the prowl.

By Beautiful

January 24, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

Blog Editor are you serious? without us there’s no you!!!

By Alvin

January 24, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

Blog Editor you must be black…Igga alway F/K’n ISH up!!

By Tazzee

January 24, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

Morning folks!!! Like I said before - I kinda like when the blog is late. I don’t have to catch up as much when I come to comment.

SexyLeggs I’m glad you had a good evening.

On topic - I want to get married one day. But like AmazonRed said, I want to marry the right person. If that doesn’t happen then I’m fine too. I know a lot of folks on here talk about just having fun dating - and I do that when it’s a man that is marriage potential. But if he’s not marriage minded, then no need for us to date in my opinion. Most of the guys I meet are marriage minded though so that hasn’t been a problem for me.

My current sweetie is marriage minded and right now, that’s all that matters.

By AmazonRed

January 24, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

2 cents - I don’t have any kids. For me, I have no desire to be an intentional single mother. I believe a kid deserves two involved parents.

So yeah, without marriage, there will be no babies. (God willing) I think I’d enjoy parenthood, but I’d rather have a life partner than be a mom (if I had to chose one over the other).

By One

January 24, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

Honestly, I can take it or leave it!!! In the words of Mary J…………..“I wouldn’t change my life, my life’s just fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, fine, wooo!!!”

All women don’t want the headache, and hells, I’m already raising the child, paying all the bills, taking all the responsibility and making all the sacrifices! So why would I want someone else (a grown child at that) to come into my world causing me to have to work/sacrifice/compromise/give more?! I’m good………

By Sunshine

January 24, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

Are you guys seriously replying to this “blog editor”? Do you really think the real editor of this blog would insult his/her bloggers? Someone is jacking with yall and you fell for it!

By Blog Editor

January 24, 2008 11:47 AM | Link to this

I’m not going to go back and forth with you all, but comments are not a requirement! And yes, I would still exist without you!

By Sunshine

January 24, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

Are you guys seriously replying to this “blog editor”? Do you really think the real editor of this blog would insult his/her bloggers? Someone is jacking with yall and you fell for it!

By Page1908

January 24, 2008 11:48 AM | Link to this

LOL @ ARed calling Bella’s supervisor.

Mo let’s not hope you need the vaseline again today! lol

ARed, I didn’t see your comment in time yesterday before the end of the day, but that dude Jabbar is a bugaboo…lol. I knew his name was something like that! I remember he used to always have hella boogers in his nose like a little preschooler does and he had really big eyes, so I can see how me may think he looks like Chris Tucker. The eyes are the only similarity. Small world!

By SexyLeggs

January 24, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this

Where are my posts going??????????

I’ll try again, this being my 4th time.

I want some croquettes. Do you have any home fries to go with them. Yummy!

900k, I understand your sentiment.

m’karyl, Although they say never say never on anything, I’ll have to say I highly doubt I’ll get married again (LOL).

By Tazzee

January 24, 2008 11:49 AM | Link to this

Teresa I learned a few years back that there will ALWAYS be someone ‘er’ - and when I say that there will always be a woman cut’er’, thinn’er’, bigg’er’, with long’er’ hair, with short’er’ hair - you name it. Like Rell said, I just have to be the best me I can be and rest in the fact that my man is content with me. Of course he’s going to look, may even get distracted and lose his train of thought but my mind will be satisfied with me.

By Teresa

January 24, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this

@Rell…Thanks

By Blog Editor

January 24, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this

Sunshine, where do you see an insult? I merely stated you all’s complaints are ridiculous at times. If you don’t believe I am whom I proclaim to be, so be it, I have absolutely nothing to prove, just informing you all that your comments do not go unnoticed.

By The Truth

January 24, 2008 11:57 AM | Link to this

This is funny as hell.

LMAO @ Peach and ARed.

On topic: I found what i’m looking for, peace and quiet. If I can share that with a woman cool but if not I’m still in a good place. If I could mix Sexy/Beautiful/DasV/Foots into one woman I’d be in heaven. LOL

By Rell

January 24, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

Super Pet Peeve alert! How many times have you ladies met THAT guy - the one who’s married but he’s really not

Well lets see….the fear for anyman is to become irrevalent…so he may test the waters to see if he still has it…ya know by a certain time wifey as settled in and trying to cut certain behavior that they both enjoyed — ya know we’s married now so we have to do what married folks do…..i.e. front or live up to an image…So the man gets BORED…really and he starts to look at his SO the same way…the easy way to not change or to resist stepping up is to do what is familiar..since he is not that far removed from being single..so he goes back to things that make him feel like a man…i.e. variety of women, hanging out..etc etc…all the things he did with his girl before she became his wife/lover/best friend…and that is just the start

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 24, 2008 12:04 PM | Link to this

Page1908 I wont need it but somebody might try to nut up in here so I’m leaving it out! LOL

Hey DreamsMaterialize & Truth

By SexyLeggs

January 24, 2008 12:04 PM | Link to this

Sunshine, you have got to be kidding. We know this isn’t the real editor of this newspaper! Most here are not that gullible!

By SexyLeggs

January 24, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

Thanks Truth.

By Beautiful

January 24, 2008 12:09 PM | Link to this

Blog Editor whatever! just be more professional with yo shyt. that’s all i’m sayin’. yes, i know this person isn’t the real editor. just wanted to add my .02 and release.

Marriage doesn’t have a good success rate these days. when a problem arises, do not run to the court house and file for divorce. problems are only temporary. the only reason why a person should file for divorce is when their spouse cheats.

By Page1908

January 24, 2008 12:10 PM | Link to this

Mo lmaoooooooooo @ somebody might try to nut up…..lol ctfu

By Jazzyone

January 24, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

I wouldn’t mind getting married one day and havne’t had chidren cause i don’t want them lil bastids trying to raise them alone and if i spit em out it will be with my Husband..just the way i gets down..

And if the blog isn’t open why don’t ya just do some work..whats the big deal about it openning late..who really cares?? seriously i don’t get ya sometimes…

By BINFORD2K8

January 24, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

I am one for commitment and see myself marrying in the future *(my mom saying “you better never shack up” still echoes in my head).

One of the biggest fears of marriage for me is potentially having my assets split and taken for me. I’ve seen it happen a bunch around me and at this point in my life, I don’t think I could get married without a pre-nup.

I think this is a problem that is growing due to folks getting married later and later. Anyone agree or disagree?

By AmazonRed

January 24, 2008 12:18 PM | Link to this

If the blog says it will be open from 8 to 5 it should be open from 8 to 5. No, we aren’t curing cancer in here, but just like other jobs, when you are expected to be working at a certain time, it should.

PS: Sunshine, no one actually thought we were talking to real AJC blog editor. ;-)

By Beautiful

January 24, 2008 12:18 PM | Link to this

thanks Truthbaby!

By BLOW ME IS OFFICIALLY BLOWED & THROWED

January 24, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

Teresa Co-Signing 11:22am

Rell The relationship takes a different level once you are married. If I man feels that way. He needs NOT to get MARRIED. I guess marriage is for the for real and not the play-play fakes. I think that’s the problem.

By mytwocents

January 24, 2008 12:22 PM | Link to this

Rell But it sounds like you’re starting w/ the premise of a cat who entered in to the marriage with the “right” intentions and maybe they’re not putting in the work. I’m talking about the cat who’s unapologetic about the fact that he only proposed b/c he felt he owed it to her b/c he does her dirty but she presses on or she got pregnant when they were just freakin off or all my boys were gettin married or some other reasoning that on its own just doesn’t seem TO ME to be the substance of a strong marriage. Not that I’m excusing playa for just seein if he can still pull. He gets a slap on the wrist.

By Blog Editor

January 24, 2008 12:23 PM | Link to this

Beautiful, if I were to post your IP address and the location in which it’s coming from, would that prove anything? If I posted who used fake monikers, and the various ones they’ve used, would that prove who I am?

But I digress. However, thanks for the ratings, though. You all keep us amongst the top blogs in the country.

By m'karyl

January 24, 2008 12:31 PM | Link to this

BINFORD2K8

I support pre-nups. Granted, I may not have any assets worth protecting of my own but I believe that any individual should be able to legally protect whatever possessions, assets, etc. that he/she accummulated prior to the marriage. If I met someone who was interested in a marriage committment and he had assets before the fact, then I would most definitely insist on a pre-nup to protect his interest. I believe in honesty and fairness, maybe it is corny but I am more concerned with the person not their property.

By Jazzyone

January 24, 2008 12:32 PM | Link to this

They are a newspaper they can do or alter the rules anytime they want do you not understand that???

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 24, 2008 12:33 PM | Link to this

I dont think we can keep enough vaseline in this place as of late!

What’s up *Page1908

By m'karyl

January 24, 2008 12:34 PM | Link to this

Blog Editor

It is all groovy friend. It just seems like some folks are accustomed to blogging in the church each day and they probably were a bit upset by the inconveniences and all. We can roll to the next day and be fine…

By SexyLeggs

January 24, 2008 12:38 PM | Link to this

*Blog Editor *, I dare you! Post mine.

By Got that?

January 24, 2008 12:39 PM | Link to this

Teresa, if you worry about him looking at something else, that’s a self-confidence issue. There’s always going to be someone more insert word here. So, you have to do what you did to attract his or her attention to keep his or her attention. Once you get him or her, you can’t stop being what attracted him or her. Otherwise, the relationship is little more than two people living together. At some point, human nature will take over.

By Beautiful

January 24, 2008 12:41 PM | Link to this

m’karyl ^5. i’ll sign a pre-nup with no prob. bring it on!

hi cali!

By Blog Editor

January 24, 2008 12:42 PM | Link to this

Thank You, M’karyl, and Jazzyone.

By Dr. Kym aka Relationship Expert

January 24, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

Why is there such hype because the blog started late? I am with Jazzy on this one.. I do work for a living from 8-5. The ajc runs a newspaper…this blog is just one element of it.

By Lady J

January 24, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

Hey Got that?!

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 12:49 PM | Link to this

Hi M’ with your ‘it’s groovy’ LOL…Tell me…is there anything near you that’s tie dyed, paisley or organicly grown/made?

By m'karyl

January 24, 2008 12:51 PM | Link to this

Beautiful

Yep, no doubt. I can not get hung up on material possessions and such. Life is so precious and way too short, so if I am blessed to encounter someone special and worthy enough to want to spend the rest of my life with him, then I would not want material matters to get in the way or to potentially create misunderstandings, etc.

By BLOW ME IS OFFICIALLY BLOWED & THROWED

January 24, 2008 12:54 PM | Link to this

BLOG EDITOR

If this is really you B.E. shut down the whole blog. I want to see if what you are saying is true. Shut it down for 10 MINS bring it back up.

Don’t get mad at us for gettin mad at you..for not doing YOUR job. I know how they get down at the AJC…. the arent’ equipped to handle any hi tech ip address look up. I know… I use to work at that joint. You better hope the don’t get rid of you when the re interview you for your present position and decide to give you the boot. They are cuttin cost at the joint and underpaying…..!! lmao!

By Got that?

January 24, 2008 12:56 PM | Link to this

Hey Lady J!

By m'karyl

January 24, 2008 12:57 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli

LMAO!!! is there anything near you that’s tie dyed, paisley or organicly grown/made? I love to tie-dye, am crazy about paisley and eat/smoke organically grown every day-ha! ha!

Ciao folks!!!

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 24, 2008 12:59 PM | Link to this

Greetings…( Sorry for the long read, but for the ladies, it is a good read )

Interesting that this topic would come up today,as I had a very interesting discussion yesterday,with a very well respected divorce attorney friend of mine and he shared alot of the points below and I agree!

In a nut shell, he stated that marriage is the worst contract that you can enter “IF” you marry someone with less than you do! When I say less, I am referring to two things education and finances. This happens over 75 percent of the time in marriage.

Let’s look at why this is true…

The annual marriage rate fell 50% from 1970-2004, why is this???

I think I have an answer, from a male perspective. More males are finding that it is easier and more affordable to not be married, based on past statistics and the fact that most men cannot find all of things they want in “one” woman.

My friend stated that ninety percent of high-achieving men want a woman who is as or more intelligent than they are, moreover, three-quarters of men generally state that a career and education make women more desirable, while a lot of men feel they think smart women make better mothers.(True statement)

Here are the facts

The chances men will commit are slightly less when they are thirty-one or thirty-two than when they were between twenty-eight and thirty, but they’re still in a high-commitment phase.(True statement)

Once men reach thirty-three or thirty-four, the chances they’ll commit start to diminish, but only slightly. Until men reach thirty-seven, they remain very good prospects.(I agree about 80 percent)

After age thirty-eight, the chances they will ever marry drops dramatically..(I agree)

The chances that a man will marry for the first time diminish even more once he reaches forty-two or forty-three. At this point, many men become confirmed bachelors..(I agree)

Once men reach age forty-seven to fifty without marrying, the chances they will marry do not disappear, but they drop dramatically..(I agree)

If a woman in her forties or older who has never been married is dating a man who has never been married,the chance of him marrying is still good. But at that time in her life,most eligible men are either widowed or divorced, and their chances of marrying again are substantially higher than those of men of the same age who have never married. In other words, if a woman meets two men in their late forties, one who has been married and the other a lifelong bachelor, she should choose the one who has been married before. Although the first man may on the surface appear more cautious,he’s far more likely to marry than the second.(I agree)

Many single women say divorced men are often bitter and defensive, so they don’t date them. That’s usually a mistake..(I agree)

Statistical Truths About the Marrying Kind

Most men will not even consider marriage before they reach the age of commitment. For 80 percent of high school graduates, the minimum age of commitment is twenty-three, whereas for 80 percent of college graduates, it’s twenty-six.

The high-commitment period for most college-educated men is from ages twenty-eight to thirty-three.

For men who go to graduate school-doctors, lawyers, and the like-the high-commitment period runs from thirty to thirty-six.

After age thirty-seven or thirty-eight, the chance that a man will commit diminishes. After forty-three, it diminishes even more.

Most men think sowing their wild oats is a rite of passage and will not even contemplate marriage until they have been working and living as independent adults for several years.

Men are most likely to marry after they become uncomfortable with the singles scene.

Men have biological clocks. They want to be young enough to teach their sons to fish and play ball, and to do the male-bonding thing.

Men who look at marriage as a financial arrangement in which women have the most to gain are not likely to marry-nor are they good prospects. Run…fast.

Men whose parents divorced when they were young are often gun-shy about marrying.

Men often marry women whose backgrounds- religion, politics, values, socioeconomic status- match theirs.

Men who have their own places and have lived as independent, self-supporting adults are more likely to marry.

Men whose friends and siblings are married are more likely to marry.

If a man over the age of forty has been married before, he is more likely to marry than a forty-year-old man who has never been married.

By Blog Editor

January 24, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

I don’t handle the opening, or closing of the blog. “Editor” google the responsibilities of an editor! As far as IP tracing, I/we don’t have to trace, it shows up with your post!

I’m not here to argue with you all, I’m just stating what’s going on behind the scenes in reference to your complaints. As far as your “dares”, again, I have nothing to prove. Like I said, you all keep us amongst the top blogs in the country.

By BLOW ME IS OFFICIALLY BLOWED & THROWED

January 24, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

Dr. Kym Some of us on here are joking…I see you take ppl opinions and thoughts wayyyyyyyyyyy to serious. As if it puts money in your pockets or make or break who you are. You either need one or two things….

Chill out! Relax a bit….I think alot of us use this as ENJOYMENT ..RELAXATION…from the mundane work week. Or h3ll at least I do! I come here to kick talk a lil ish….RELAX chick! Plus all those other sites they keepin tabs on! lmao!

By Beautiful

January 24, 2008 1:04 PM | Link to this

BLOW lmfao.

By Dr. Kym aka Relationship Expert

January 24, 2008 1:07 PM | Link to this

Lurker

Many single women say divorced men are often bitter and defensive, so they don’t date them. That’s usually a mistake..(I agree)

I agree with that statement as well.

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 1:09 PM | Link to this

Well M’ as i say….That’s allright.

By m'karyl

January 24, 2008 1:12 PM | Link to this

Hey y’all let the Blog Editor ish chill on solid ice…she-it happens all day long and that’s the way it is…cool on out!!!

Blow

LMFAO at your 1:02-sho’ you right!!!

By GROWN WOMAN OR GIRL?

January 24, 2008 1:14 PM | Link to this

Girls VS Grown Women

Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans. Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits in.

Girls want to control the man in their life. Grown women know that if he’s truly hers, he doesn’t need controlling.

Girls check you for not calling them. Grown women are too busy accepting other calls.

Girls are afraid to be alone. Grown women revel in it

Girls ignore the good guys. Grown women ignore the bad.

Girls make you come home. Grown women make you want to come home.

Girls worry about not being pretty , hair or good enough for their man. Grown women know that they are pretty , care less, and good enough for any man.

Girls try to monopolize all their man’s time (i.e., don’t want him hanging with his friends). Grown women realize that a lil’ bit of space makes the ‘together time’ even more special-and goes to kick it with her own friends.

Girls think a guy crying is weak. Grown women offer their shoulder and a tissue.

Girls want to be spoiled and ‘tell’ their man so. Grown women ‘show’ him and make him comfortable enough to reciprocate without fear of losing his ‘manhood’.

Girls get hurt by one man and make all men pay for it. Grown women know that that was just one man.

Girls fall in love and chase aimlessly after the object of their affection, ignoring all ‘signs’. Grown women know that sometimes the one you love, don’t always love you back-and move on bitterness.

Girls will read this and get an attitude. Grown women will read this and pass it on to other Grown women and care less about the girls.

By m'karyl

January 24, 2008 1:16 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli

Girl, this fine mature (lol) is way into her 60’s/70’s era of living. I still love my fishnets, go-go boots and mod minis. And oh yeah, my Jackson 5 inspired fringe vest-lol!!! Can you dig it!!1

By Lady J

January 24, 2008 1:17 PM | Link to this

With time I do hope to remarry…Within the next 10 yrs or more…I will be in my late 30s and early 40s…lil lady will be 18 plus…I don’t want any more kids so that would be a great time to remarry…Until then I am loving sheer friendships and out of it maybe a long term commitment…I am at the point of enjoying being single and doing things I always wanted to do and being a mommie without a man besides her dad in her face…So if a LTR comes so be if not I will still fly high but J does want to remarry in time if not I am sure I still will be living life to the fulliest!

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 24, 2008 1:17 PM | Link to this

Dr. Kym agreed with me today,for the first time! I guess the Democrat’s and the Republican’s can co-mingle and get along!

By AmazonRed

January 24, 2008 1:18 PM | Link to this

Kym - The “hype” is that it’s becoming a habit. The AJC does run a newspaper and this is one function of it. If they advertise 8 a.m. opening, they should deliever on it.

By Dr. Kym aka Relationship Expert

January 24, 2008 1:18 PM | Link to this

Blow First off I only said I agree with Jazzy and asked why everyone is hyped up. Second I find it funny that if a person is not “cooning” around daily with some of you they are consider uptight.

But I like to think that it is because I was raised that there is a time and a place forever thing and that “monkeyshine” time has long since passed for me in a public forum. I chat when the mood strikes(football season), comment on the topic if relevant and K.I.M.- But I thank you for the shout out..love to know that I am on your mind.

By JustMe

January 24, 2008 1:19 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon Y’all

I think Marrige can be a beautiful thing between the right people. JustMe personally, does want to get married one day, but I know that he would have to be a very special man indeed.

LL I agree with most of the information in that long azz post you pasted :-)

By SexyLeggs

January 24, 2008 1:24 PM | Link to this

LL intersting information. However, you just tapped out your savings and your 401K with that long post (LOL).

By Lady J

January 24, 2008 1:25 PM | Link to this

Yeah LL good post…It is true stuff…

By Dr. Kym aka Relationship Expert

January 24, 2008 1:28 PM | Link to this

Lurker Yeah I know hell has frozen over. Seriously, I have had some recent experiences with some of the things you listed there and learned to listen more to what Men say as oppose to hearing what I thought or wanted to hear. So that piece of your long* post caught my eye.

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 24, 2008 1:30 PM | Link to this

@SexyLeggs & JustMe Sometimes the best wisdom and advice is more than 3 lines! What you do with the amount of content is up to you!

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 1:31 PM | Link to this

M’ we can hang. I have on fish net right now today! But can’t find a good pair of Go-Go Boots in the ‘A’…y cuz in Philly is looking out for me. See, told ya i need to schedule the shopping road trip…

BTW - You are a groovy chic. Jackson 5 fringe vest!…LOL

By Rell

January 24, 2008 1:31 PM | Link to this

@KYM…you need to get over yourself lady…last couple of days you have been

SMELLING YOUR OWN P**

By DasV

January 24, 2008 1:32 PM | Link to this

good afternoon good ppl and how are you B.E I see you up in this joint to up the post count. nice to have you. you say you can provide IPs, that include VIPs??

nine-huuuunnnndred hit me up at bbq_sunflwr@yahoo

Truth including me in your list of what would make for a good woman made me smile. thanks.

LongL congratulations! LOL

By Dr. Kym aka Relationship Expert

January 24, 2008 1:34 PM | Link to this

Amazon This blog has been around for what 4-5 years now..bloggers have come and gone. I guess my attitude is that it is a free blog, you are using your employer’s network to access the site-unless you are self employed- so there is no cost to you other than productivity. So why the hype? It seems pointless to complain.

By Tazzee

January 24, 2008 1:36 PM | Link to this

LOL - that was a long ‘a-double snakes’ post LL but I actually read it and it makes sense. Especially the part about men having biological clocks. With that said - I’m glad I don’t get caught up in statistics.

By BLOW ME IS OFFICIALLY BLOWED & THROWED

January 24, 2008 1:37 PM | Link to this

Yeah Kym You are nagging the $hit out of me that’s the only way you stay on my mind.Plus I see you are MAD thirsty for attention. We are on here to relax…and “coon” around as you like to say.If we want to get serious and continue to be a tight A$$ we would get back to work. Either smoke a blunt or go get laid. But either way just let the “COONERY” continue. lol!

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 1:37 PM | Link to this

Lol @ Justme

I agree with most of the information in that long azz post you pasted.

Hey chica…

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 24, 2008 1:37 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli -this is the second time that I am shouting you out! Whats really good?

Blow -Sticky icky huh? you my girl Blow!!! (old school style)

longtime; WomanGirl - man those are some long azz, jacked the 1st 4 chapters of somebody book posts! You need to consolidate, you takin up precious space!

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 24, 2008 1:37 PM | Link to this

@Dr Kim and the remainder of the female peanut gallery..This statement is probably the best comment I have ever heard on this blog,by a woman, esp.a professional woman, listen up..

I have had some recent experiences with some of the things you listed there and learned to listen more to what Men say as oppose to hearing what I thought or wanted to hear.

Sometimes, when you listen instead of speaking, you learn more and have better experiences!

By BLOW ME IS OFFICIALLY BLOWED & THROWED

January 24, 2008 1:40 PM | Link to this

lmao @ RELL…….SMELLING YOUR OWN POO-SEE?!?!?

By AmazonRed

January 24, 2008 1:40 PM | Link to this

Kym - If it’s pointless to complain, why are y’all complaining about what others chose to complain about?

*cheese *

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 1:40 PM | Link to this

DasV good afternoon.

By SexyLeggs

January 24, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

LL, are you being snide? Everyone else jokes about the fines for long posts. Just a joke. I’m smart enough to know wisdom/advice can come in more than 3 lines. Thank you!

By Dr. Kym aka Relationship Expert

January 24, 2008 1:42 PM | Link to this

Rell Who’s extra sensitive now?

By The Truth

January 24, 2008 1:43 PM | Link to this

Das you know your the ride or die chick. LOL Every dude needs one like you.

LL good post and for the most part 100% on.

Ok, here’s a thought, tell me what you think:

Modern day marriage is unnecessary UNLESS you plan on having/raising kids.

I open it up for discussion. Go!!!

By Dr. Kym aka Relationship Expert

January 24, 2008 1:46 PM | Link to this

LL Shhhh dont give me any props today the natives are restless. Better to let me be the “huckleberry” today.

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 1:49 PM | Link to this

this is the second time that I am shouting you out! Whats really good?

900K

Sorry bay…i went for my gymtime @ lunch…trying to burn off some frustration. What’s up??? Oh…i think you owe me a ballad…? got anything for ole Cee?

By AmazonRed

January 24, 2008 1:50 PM | Link to this

Truth - It’s also necessary in case you want to fornicate without eternal damnation. LOL

By melo

January 24, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

Men who look at marriage as a financial arrangement in which women have the most to gain are not likely to marry-nor are they good prospects. Run…fast. yeah right.U think we have headlights on the forehead?

By DasV

January 24, 2008 1:52 PM | Link to this

theTRUTH come’on now. are we gonna throw out errrrythang the good book say. most ppl start to realize that they need to pull they mess together and start living right and the first step to settle down and elect to be in a committed relationship. procreation is a second thought, not the first. jm2c oh and you know how i do! lock-n-load, bahbey

whats up CEE… the blog making up lost time and things rapidly gettin hot… LOL

By Dr. Kym aka Relationship Expert

January 24, 2008 1:53 PM | Link to this

Amazon There is a difference between asking why the hype and complaining about the hype.-I I asked why the hype. You explained-I countered your explaination-that is debate not complaining.

By Rell

January 24, 2008 1:58 PM | Link to this

@kym….i am not tender lady…or sensitive…you just walking around on that holier than thou s h it and it is boring and tired….feel me…i mean you real liberal with the slick a zz comments and snide remarks….its just lame…so yea you smelling your o wn pi s s….

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 24, 2008 1:59 PM | Link to this

@Tazzee Thanks, many women have to realize that just because they cute and have a job and a few tangible items,that does not make a man want to go long term with them! Dudes in most cases will just rent instead of buying, AFTERALL this is Atlanta and pretty women with benefits are a dime a dozen!

Most cat’s handle a woman, based on what she brings to the table! Average chicks get average treatment. Above average chicks get above average treatment, but in either case, that does not make that man want to marry either one of them!

A Wifey has to(a)have the potential to be a starting / franchise player (b) be a good investment(c)add value to his bottom line(d)be a standout player,that can take a blow or two and remain commited to the team or be a rookie, that is trainable!

The sad reality is that a large percentage of women will never get proposed to or married and it will be mostly because they will not compromise, listen or willing to become a team / franchise player.

Remember this, Women control when and if dating will take place, Men control when or if marriage will take place!

By JustMe

January 24, 2008 1:59 PM | Link to this

Hey Cee Wassup wicha? I’m chillin watchin’ Kym doge blog bullets again -! I’ma bout to strp up my blog vest so I can keep a front row seat. Got any popcorn? I got Pepsi!

By AmazonRed

January 24, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

Kym - Blah, blah, blah. Semantics. If you’re asking what all the hype is for, we’re just asking why the board opened late. Complaining was your word, not mine. But I see not much difference from what one group is doing over another. But whatever makes you feel better.

By Beautiful

January 24, 2008 2:01 PM | Link to this

Modern day marriage is unnecessary UNLESS you plan on having/raising kids. wow, then that means no marriage for me if it’s true. :( the reasons why i want a hubby is to share a bed with, share a bath with, go to Paris with, cook dinner for, hold hands with, grow old with, and just love.

if y’all tired of my mushy posts, sorry, it just feel out of me.

By DreamsMaterialize

January 24, 2008 2:02 PM | Link to this

Mo How’s it going today? You still supplying vaseline? With oil prices where they are, vaseline for the blog must be costing you fortune.

By BLOW ME IS OFFICIALLY BLOWED & THROWED

January 24, 2008 2:04 PM | Link to this

Kym What type of relationship expert are you? Let me guess…on being a damn loner? Cause no one wants to be with a boring a$$ prick…who keeps her panties…wedged in her a$$! lmao!!! No one can enjoyably be around you I see.

By The Truth

January 24, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

Ared if there is eternal damnation I’m there based on past actions alone. Its to late for me. LOL Save yourself.

Das is a relationship any less committed if your not married? I mean, what does the paper give you that daily actions don’t? And please don’t say security.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 24, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

Das -afternoon to ya, its in there BTW.

Cemeeli- Practice went alot better last night so maybe we get 3-n-a-row!
Well I got this old school tune in my head lately: “Perfect Match” - School Daze soundtrack. I always wanted it to be the perfect match… Sorry dont have the words for ya. I do need to download this song ASAP, serious baby making muzic!

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

Lol @ Just me…sitting in this HOT room with a bullet proof vest and asking folk for popcorn….here have some carmel poppy chica…no thkx on the soda…

By Teresa

January 24, 2008 2:07 PM | Link to this

COONERY…Daggg

By Rell

January 24, 2008 2:10 PM | Link to this

@LL…..STAND ON IT PLAYER….COSIGN….all that is 100 per cent CO RRECT!!!!!….ladies there you have it…..the muther funkin truth!!!!!…in print

By Dr. Kym aka Relationship Expert

January 24, 2008 2:10 PM | Link to this

Rell really? What did I say implied I was holier than thou? I asked a question-got a bunch of jabber for answer about I was uptight and I responded to the jabber. So please highlight the holier than thou side.

By AmazonRed

January 24, 2008 2:12 PM | Link to this

Truth - I’m tryin’ man…I’m tryin. It’s hard swimming upstream tho! LOL

By itchy

January 24, 2008 2:12 PM | Link to this

I think i will buy a block of crack with my rebate check

By BigWords

January 24, 2008 2:12 PM | Link to this

2CPTG where you @?

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 2:14 PM | Link to this

Hey Dreams you know Mo got the “hook up” with the FEDEX guy…he knows where the wholesale warehouse sells it for dirt cheap….here lace your face too cause fist just flying from er’where today…we got popcorn too…

By BLOW ME IS OFFICIALLY BLOWED & THROWED

January 24, 2008 2:14 PM | Link to this

Damn LL

Remember this, Women control when and if dating will take place, Men control when or if marriage will take place.

This is cold blooded. But it has some truth to it.

I also want to comment on ALOT of unprepared women are married and is/or not bring a DAMN thing to the table.

Men want to feel need and dependent on. If you can make him feel like you need him…things can flow your way.

So that’s why alot of women cutie, working with a few tangible items will not get wifed in!! Because she is too much of an independent woman and men are intimidated by that. They don’t want a chick that’s MORE than them….or can do better then them. That’s a knock to the EGO! I have seen this scenario so many times…they want dependent freaks who can’t bring too much to the table ..but a good time and a dependent mindset. So what you are saying sounds good but really, is it the truth???

By The Truth

January 24, 2008 2:16 PM | Link to this

**The sad reality is that a large percentage of women will never get proposed to or married and it will be mostly because they will not compromise, listen or willing to become a team / franchise player.

Remember this, Women control when and if dating will take place, Men control when or if marriage will take place!**

LL if your gonna start with the truth in this spot your gonna have to leave. Most of these folks have no intention of ever dealing with reality. LOL

Beautiful you get a pass on all your posts because we know you have a soft loving heart. Go ahead and get mushy if thats what you need hun. LOL But, which of those things would not be possilble if you just lived together vs getting married?

By Dr. Kym aka Relationship Expert

January 24, 2008 2:18 PM | Link to this

Well Blow Me you will have to go back in the previous post to find out why my name changed from Kym to Dr. Kym. As for lonely, far from it.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 24, 2008 2:19 PM | Link to this

DreamsMaterialize what’s up Mr Morehouse! Nah I wasnt supplying the Blog with vaseline! I used my connections to get us a sponsor and they donated the vaseline to us. If they only knew that what they donated was obviously not enough!! :0) But I wont request anymore, it will just have to get ugly up in here the old fashioned way: band-aids and alcohol only!

Plus I am just gonna sit back and have some popcorn with Cemeeli, WillieD and Page1908. Have a shot with me today?

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

900K we practice tomorrow night…ugh…i really need my friday night to chillax…but it’s cool.

*…”Perfect Match”, is old school (School Daze)??? …I can’t quit remember that tune. I’ll look it up tonight when i get to the crib.

By Rell

January 24, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

@blow

they want dependent freaks who can’t bring too much to the table ..but a good time and a dependent mindset

TRUE TRUE TRUE….and this is the problem..the men are not raising there standards so why should the avg chick……I AGREE LADY

By DasV

January 24, 2008 2:24 PM | Link to this

where did the Blog Editor go?? i asked a question

theTRUTHandnothingbuttheTRUTH would you agree to a sale with just a handshake? signing an legal and binding agreement before witnesses makes for a better argument that there is a committed relationship, then two ppl shacking up together, with just private committment haveing been made.

By Beautiful

January 24, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this

But, which of those things would not be possilble if you just lived together vs getting married? i did the living in sin thingy and loved it. the only thing that was missing was the title wifey. there’s no difference between the two.

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 24, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

@BLOWED & THROWED Dude, it is sad that many women don’t know that this thing called dating is like a stare down in the OK Coral!

In order to get what you want, you have give and most women are scared to give, because they had been got a few times.

It is not that mans fault that you got - got, it’s your fault, because you did not know how to play the game!

In dating, you have potentials and you have prospects, never get the two twisted!

A potential is regarded as a long-term investment and prospect is just that, as the Greeks refer to as a Got dayumn G.D.I. ( Got Dayumn Individual )

You a GDI until you make it through the process to become a full fledged member of my organization!

So, in closing, when that man has something to say, you should take every opportunity to listen! If you dismiss his thoughts as rhetoric, then he will eventually dismiss you as rhetoric, mostly by his actions.

By Tazzee

January 24, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

LL I usually agree with most of your comments - its just the premise that women are the only ones that get something out of marriage - that’s the one I have to dispute. This is from a personal standpoint because I realize that I may not be in the majority but I know that I’m a good investment and can add to any one’s bottom line. I’m definitely a franchise player…so my man and I will definitely be a championship team. So the man that marries me will come out ahead.

With that said - there are a lot of men that couldn’t even be the water boy let alone try to run a team trynna get married. So there are a lot of women that aren’t married simply because they don’t see the benefit in it. It takes a franchise player AND a solid captain to make a successful team. And it takes a lot of scouting and try outs before those two people come together.

headed to a doctor’s appt. And y’all leave Kym alone. If folks can defend melo’s bipolar posts, I can definitely get in Kym’s corner. said as I exit stage left…

By itchy

January 24, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

I really think something is wrong with me, this is the second day in a row in which my behind is itchy…

By mytwocents

January 24, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

BlowMe Why is your 2:04 so ridiculous? LUV IT!!! So much so that I’ma play that #. DrK I’m a pretty objective bystander so I’m just wondering (hoping)r u just tryna stir it up to break the monotony or could u possibly be serious w/ these… I don’t know… rampages?

LL U tryna spit like u in the cipher and to some extent, I agree. But as I mentioned earlier, the proposal’s motivation needs to be examined. But having been told by a male frined that “the prob w/ me and my girls” is basically what BlowMe said, I wonder how much of that is justification for your self esteem & confusion on why she doesn’t treat u like an ATM. I really think when a woman is not what is stereotypically expected -esp in ATL- lotta y’all just don’t know what the h@ll to do an don’t wanna waste the brain power to figure out how to handle her. Your thoughts?

By Lady J

January 24, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this

To me ther is Beautiful a difference and for some odd reason things change and you are no longer shacking and seems like the expectations and responsibilties are greater…I shacked too and married him but I will NEVER shack again…It did not work for me…

By melo

January 24, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this

proposed to or married and it will be mostly because they will not compromise, listen or willing to become a team / franchise player

LL,u are a really nice and polite guy..but tell them them harsh truth without mincing ur words.U on target, tho.I would say this* some women are really good just to sho-off to ur boyz so they know ‘u hitting that’..to take to the Thrashers game,movies and etecetera.They are’nt good enough for the upgrade.Unfortunately, u cant tell tham that,they just have to figure it out.Meanwhile they prance around telling themselevs’i dont need a man to be happy.’ Its a feel good situation and its a WIN-WIN for everybody. Please stop the fighting and b*** around today.Im too busy today to intercede so Ared,BlowMe and Kym, i luv u all and thats the most importantt thing! Hey Beautiful

By JustMe

January 24, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this

Cee I know its HOT up in HURRRR today!, but this blog vest keeps the lead out!

I stopped coming in the blog for a good while because of this same mess…. battle of the bloggers day in and day out. It’s funny for a day or so, but then it just gets boring…. no one is ever wrong and no one ever wins…….

B’d & T’d Good question. So what you are saying sounds good but really, is it the truth???

I have no plans to dumb it down to a dependant level for the sake of getting married. I bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, etc, etc. but dude has got to know, understand, and appreciate that I can and will handle my business. Now if he wants to connect on a deeper level, I have no problem letting him take the first strides, I got his back like there is no tomorrow, but don’t dayum me for Gettin Up, Gettin Out and Gettin Something! cause when the going gets tough, you’ll want to have somebody in your corner that can keep the ship afloat, not sink with you!

By AmazonRed

January 24, 2008 2:45 PM | Link to this

Truth - Leave me out of it. I fight with no one. :-D

By The Truth

January 24, 2008 2:47 PM | Link to this

Beautiful wifey is no longer the status it once was. You remember when being a wife and mother was a status. You NEVER cussed around someones “mom” and always gave them ultimate respect, even if we had just come back from wuppin someones azz(and I’m talking about being a teen). Moms never saw that. Now wifey is the cause of the mess and everyones trying stay as far away from her as possible. Times have changed but I guess dreams dont.

Das in my business I’ve had rock solid deals based on a word and crap deals that were put on paper. Same thing happens in relationships.However, you and I must project a unified front so no more mini blog splats. We can talk in the privacy of my office. BTW, you sure smell good. LOL

By QueDogTeaching

January 24, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

What up blog Said while trying to figure out if more women would be better off if they saw more images of women being happy in the home. I think more women would make finding a meaningful relationship a priority.

And before the Tall Soro, and the Dominican New Yorker get angry, I am just putting thoughts out there. I know you don’t have to have a man to validate you, and you are independent, and you’ve got it going on, and all you need is you and your bullet, and you pay your own bills. But at the end of the day………………..

By Dr. Kym aka Relationship Expert

January 24, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

mytwocents I have never changed my name or come in here under some false ID. I speak my piece, count to three and I am done. I dont see a rampage at all. I asked a question, got a answer, countered the answer, done. So where do you see a rampage?

By Beautiful

January 24, 2008 2:52 PM | Link to this

melo did you feel that? here it is again, muah.

By 2CPTG©

January 24, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

BigWords….on the sidelines, chillin….thinkin’ to myself bout how our damn gov’t gon’ try to entice us, and the economy with a sorry azz rebate; Get to the root of the problem, I say….

By Beautiful

January 24, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

I know you don’t have to have a man to validate you, and you are independent, and you’ve got it going on, and all you need is you and your bullet, and you pay your own bills. But at the end of the day………………

co-sign.

By melo

January 24, 2008 2:56 PM | Link to this

If folks can defend melo’s bipolar posts due to my lack of english language comprehension skills, dont knw what that means. And my name is in there in smalls and unhighlighted so i could miss that(real sleek).Thnx to my hawk eyed and real azz sniffing and bit2chy eyes, i got that.

By Teresa

January 24, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

Do most men in their 30s and 40s use viagra OR are they gettin it up the old fashion way

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 24, 2008 2:58 PM | Link to this

OK, look Im on my knees. Lets get married -Are you happy now Gina dam!!!

Saw this Martin the other day. Thats how a real brotha pops the question.

Alright girl, we can get married Dam!

By AmazonRed

January 24, 2008 2:58 PM | Link to this

QDT - Why would I get angry? I think you’ve gotten me confused with another poster. I’m not one of those “Independent at all costs” type woman.

By Staceye

January 24, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

I see this thing is finally up and working….

Binford my grammy gave me the NO SHACKING UP speech too. I agree with it. I also agree with the pre-nup…that way you won’t have a Eddie Murphy, “Raw” moment…”I want half Eddie…”! LOL

Sexyleggs glad to know you are doing ok.

Blow Me I am rolling at your 1:02 & your 1:37 posts girl! LOL Oh Lord I just read 2:04….Oh I can breathe! INHALER PLEASE!

Rell you are off the chain buddy! LOL

Just Me did you say you have Pepsi? I friggin’ luv ya! LOL

By Willie Dynamite

January 24, 2008 3:02 PM | Link to this

Good afternoon,

Good to see things are uh-normal round here. Anybody care for a drink?

On Topic—LL I’m feeling you today mayne. What’s amazing is all the Chronically single ladies telling what its gonna take to get married. The sad part is that deep down a few of them have convinced themselves that its ok if they don’t. Knowing dayum well they don’t wanna be the 60yr old mean lady with the cats.

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 24, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

@Tazzee’s 2:36 Long sigh…

Folks, esp.ladies, this is a part of the problem! If you read her post, the key problem with what she said was..So the man that marries me will come out ahead.

How can you read that mans mind and determine that you add value to his bottom line? That is THAT mans call if you add value to his bottom line!

Folks, esp. men, I am sure you will agree that many women feel that they add value to your bottom line, but in order for that dude to want to marry you, you have to add more than value to his bottom line, you have be the franchise player and he determies that!

To back my point,does the NE Pats quarterback Tom Brady add value to his team or is he the franchise?

Why is one player worth 15 million and another player worth 1 million a year? Both are good players and can carry the team, but what makes one worth more than the other?

Why do people pay more for one house or car vs. another? Both get you from point A to B!

In closing, you can get into the NFL, but that does not mean you are going to get playing time or start!

To coach / management determines if you are a franchise player, not the player!

By melo

January 24, 2008 3:07 PM | Link to this

Tazzee,but I know that I’m a good investment and can add to any one’s bottom line. i know she is not around to defend her posts, but unfortunately, most proffsnal women look at themselves solely in those terms(as quoted) and thats where they lose the plot.The moment u start playing dwn ur proffsnal credentials and tout(thru action) ur other behavorial and character credentials, thats when u realize men will want to invest in u for marriage’s sake.And ladies, if u hear a guy telling all and sundry about what they have accomplished(academicaly) blabla bla at little prompting,dont waste time on them coz he is either gay or lying or both and even if that is not true, he is not a strong captain of a ship(home) u would want to be in anyway.

By The Truth

January 24, 2008 3:08 PM | Link to this

Ared did I miss something?

.02 your statement “I really think when a woman is not what is stereotypically expected -esp in ATL- lotta y’all just don’t know what the h@ll to do an don’t wanna waste the brain power to figure out how to handle her. Your thoughts?” has more to do with a cat that just doesn’t see any value in you than it does him not wanting to make an effort. Not you personally of course but a guy/girl in that situation. Now, fortunately or unfortunately, we all have choices and sometimes the choice may be to pass based on something as trivial as eyelash length. So its not that dudes are dumb rocks but they just aren’t motivated by the package their presented with. To say that chicks are all incredibly intelligent creatures with a balance of love/charm blah blah blah and dudes cant up their game to reach them is foolish. Most cats think I can play ball and hang out and knock off one or two and life is good. There is no “deeper meaning in life”.

By Got that?

January 24, 2008 3:10 PM | Link to this

To me, the difference between living together and getting married is the same as the difference between renting a car and buying a car. Sure, on the surface, things appear similar, but when you get down to it when you own the car you treat it a lot differently. Besides, it’s a lot easier to get out of a rental than it is to find someone who wants to buy your used car.

By Lady J

January 24, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this

Good evening folks!! Be easy! Peace!

By Alvin

January 24, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this

blow/Rell I agree as well…and Single Mom, who’s doing well A real man will add to your life, not take away…when you spot that dude, run!!

By mytwocents

January 24, 2008 3:14 PM | Link to this

DrK I see it in the carefully worded repsonses like the one you provided me. But I’m not tryna get sucked into the dramatics. I was truly curious so thx for my answer. QDT For some of us, those things are not all we need to get by, just all we have at the moment.

By "Longtime Lurker"

January 24, 2008 3:17 PM | Link to this

@Willie D LOL..on the 60yr old mean lady with the cats..HILARIOUS!! I can see that visual in my head!

On the last line of my 3:04 To should have been The, sorry bout that!

Wille D, your comment made me think about something….you ever notice that them chicks you tried to holla at when they were 30 and they looked down on you, because you were not ballin are them same chicks that try to holla at you, when they kickin 40 in the azz and you got yo ish together and they have made a full circle in the dating arena..amazing!

By JustMe

January 24, 2008 3:19 PM | Link to this

Staceye Here is an ice cold can of Pepsi with a straw! Cheers!

By Alvin

January 24, 2008 3:22 PM | Link to this

and KyM I can see you over laughting at this ISH their throw at ya, LOL

By Staceye

January 24, 2008 3:22 PM | Link to this

Que am I that Dominican NY’er you speak of? LOL

900 I am not accepting your propsal! LOL

By AmazonRed

January 24, 2008 3:23 PM | Link to this

Got that? - Good analogy. LOL!

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

900K NO…HEEEECKKK NO!

A real brotha will know what kind of real women (if applicable-lol) and the what kind of proposal he should give. Not that drive thru of a pop Martin did…

By The Truth

January 24, 2008 3:27 PM | Link to this

Got that your right and for most women, truth be told, after the wedding the hubby starts getting treated worse. So he can shack and keep her motivated or marry her and watch her fall apart. This brings up the old “fuggin for a ring” syndrome? The exact same chick that mean mugs you over getting married is gonna do it because aftr marriage she has to many responsibilities and is overwhelmed.

By Page1908

January 24, 2008 3:33 PM | Link to this

LOL @ QDT

Lurker That was a nice post, thanks. You are being sweet again now…lol Keep it up!

By Lady Dark with Dimples

January 24, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

Hello Everyone!!

On topic Definitely marriage-minded…always have been…always will be!

Someone said that a man wants a dependent freak as opposed to a professional, independent woman. That would be a boy and not a man. A man made in God’s image knows that the independent woman is not independent from the love,affection, and support of her mate. She’s independent from the need to have him pay her bills.

On another topic, marriage should mean more commitment than a long-term relationship. You just entered into a legal contract and you put alot more at risk. That’s why some are so afraid of it.

I agree that there are many women that won’t get married, but it’s not solely due to the fact that they won’t listen. It will be because it wasn’t their chosen path in life. Also, because of the disparity in qualified marriage-minded men out there.

By Bella

January 24, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

Hey, guys!

Sorry I haven’t been in today! Thanks for not feeding the troll too much today. The only people who are responsible for editing this blog (Wise and myself) have blog names that show up in red.

Have a great Thursday, everyone!

By JustMe

January 24, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

Alvin Don’t think of it as taking away……. if 2 people have been together for sometime, both taking care of business, one could fall off track in the blink of an eye through no fault of their own i.e. car wreck, slip and fall, terminal disease, etc etc., it’s in those times that it should be apppreciated that he/she chose a mate who could keep things in order while he/she was recooperating from whateva!

By Page1908

January 24, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

Got That can you pls hit me on email so I can pass on some info. Thanks.

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

900K here’s one…

A proposal at a Maze and Frankie concert.

…most everyone in there in white or close to it attire at the park chillin’ on the lawn, catered food, great menu, WONDERFUL music, atmosphere great (spring in GA). Enjoy the band then your SO is MIA for several minutes but returns just in time for the famous “Happy Feelin’” ballad while everyone standing and singing along…Mr. MIA returns and pulls you down to the blanket with ring in hand and pops the question…

…that’s only Part One…

BRB

By QueDogTeaching

January 24, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

AR Not really saying angry. I just remember the girls playing house when I was young, and there was a man, a woman, and a child. That is all, no other variation. There was no little girl coming home to an empty house. She was playing like she was cooking, and waiting for her husband to get home. I am just wondering when did it become the standard to speak so independently.

Yes I was talking to you Staceye Not saying anything bad just wondering when did the statement “I don’t need” become envouge.

I know that know one needs a mate to survive. But I also remember even in high school and college guys and girls saying the phrase “when I get married.”

Just asking this simple question: What is wrong with everyone being in a marriage, through the great, the good, the not so great, the bad, the very bad, and then staying with that person to get back to the great?

and for the pessimistic posters please no extremes. No butt whippings, outside children and things of that nature

By Alvin

January 24, 2008 3:48 PM | Link to this

L.L. Yep, thats why I chose 35 - 40 as my dating range, less fuss and drama.

By Got that?

January 24, 2008 3:53 PM | Link to this

Page1908, what is your email address?

By Alvin

January 24, 2008 3:54 PM | Link to this

JustMe Iiiiissshed, most men and women don’t want that in a mate…thanks goodness for the few that does

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 24, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

Alright Staceye… We can go pick out a ring and put it on layaway tmrw. I’m ready to stop runnin the streets and I’ll let you have the Rest of my babies. yeah, you know you mean everything to me an all that soft weak stuff. Pack ya bags we goin to Vegas tmrw and I’ll marry you… jus stop makin a big deal about it DAM! R U Happy now Stacye??!!? LoL

Cee first half of the story sounds good but I know better…

By Page1908

January 24, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

GotThat I am at pageantgirl_1908 at yahoo dot com. Thanks.

By Staceye

January 24, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

Que I have 0 patience…thatsi why I feel I do not want to marry nor have a kid. I love my space, by bed and if I do not want to talk to anybody…I do not have too. Not to mention I like to come and go as I please and I do not want anybody questioning me. Not to mention I do not like to share…don’t eat my doughnut popems and not expect a fight! LOL Not to mention I will not be cleaning up after a grown azz man. I am a neat freak and I hate to see things out of place.

By DasV

January 24, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this

nine huuuuunnnndred you’ve got mail

By Willie Dynamite

January 24, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

LL Thats the truth bruh. I must admit that I’ve taken advantage of a few and mutted them out just for GP. Reminds me of that Devin tha Dude song.

In my experiences a lot of women are looking for that WOW moment. They are looking for the fairy tale, swept off their feet, happily ever after bullshyt. Not saying you should settle but at least be realistic. Women may be the ones choosing but dudes don’t have to always accept. A woman that can’t keep a Man can’t grasp a man choosing not to be with her. She can’t see that with all these brother doing her wrong it might be something in her thats causing it. But no Men are all pigs and yada,yada, yada. Next thing you know Cats and Quilts.

By **Demi**

January 24, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

I am trying to get my name to post bold BLACK

Bella what is the secret to y’all redness?

By JustMe

January 24, 2008 4:06 PM | Link to this

Have a good Thursday Evening!

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 4:06 PM | Link to this

@900K …you know better…

Darling what do you mean?

By **Demi**

January 24, 2008 4:07 PM | Link to this

900K you doing it up like brit’n’feg huh?

Funny!!

By Got that?

January 24, 2008 4:08 PM | Link to this

Page1908, you’ve got mail!

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 4:09 PM | Link to this

N-E-Way 900K there’s always the better of the best. I believe you will surprise yourself whne the ONE comes along. Trust…

By SexyLeggs

January 24, 2008 4:13 PM | Link to this

Now, Demi, don’t you think it would be foolish for Bella to reveal that?

Staceye, I thought that at some point you wanted a good, respectful, loving man in your life, among other qualifying attributes once you came to grips with your pain. But, your post reads as though you don’t ever want one. You don’t mind growing old alone. Did I read you wrong, or are you willing to change as you get older?

By Staceye

January 24, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

900 you are a hot mess man! LMAO!

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 24, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

Cee I know better, just means that the 1st part of your story all goes well but I have a feelin that it may turn sour… oh and thanks for the optimizm, the way I live my life now is all about preperation so the when she comes along we can take on the world!

Demi -No bold for us civilian bloggers LoL.. brit’n’feg??? sounds funny tho

Anyone else notice that Blow comes out early bombin as usaual then dissapears when Staceye comes around… HMmmmm Sumtin strange a gwon

By Got that?

January 24, 2008 4:21 PM | Link to this

Alright, who is being too shy(aka chicken) to ask for my email address, but put someone else up for the job?

By T-Mango

January 24, 2008 4:24 PM | Link to this

What is wrong with everyone being in a marriage, through the great, the good, the not so great, the bad, the very bad, and then staying with that person to get back to the great?

Well…I think we live in an age where many people want the quick & easy fix…are always looking for something better…are too willing to point the finger at others shortcomings instead of looking at their own shortcomings & fixing those. Moreover, I think some individuals get too caught up in fighting for power in an effort to establish who’s the head and who’s the tail…

In order to get to the level that you’re talking about (in your question) it requires time. It requires investing in a person and supporting them in their growth. It requires being vulnerable with another person. Takes risk….patience, kindness, understanding, respect, care and love. For many folks out there, that is simply too much WORK.

By DreamsMaterialize

January 24, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

Mo Better be watch out for that FedEx man. Just make sure he doesn’t want something for that “donation”. And as always, I’ll have a drink with you. You might as well just keep an extra glass with my name on it at all times. So, is it tequilla again today?

By **Demi**

January 24, 2008 4:34 PM | Link to this

900K I cant remember britney’s first husband for nothing…

Sexy you can’t knock a Demi for trying.

By Rell

January 24, 2008 4:36 PM | Link to this

@ARED…you have mail

By The Truth

January 24, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

900 Blow blogs between breakfast and lunch shift at McD’s. She’s shift leader at the MLK branch.

By Staceye

January 24, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

sexyleggs at one in life, I thought I wanted to be married. But I am starting to think I am set in my ways, even though I am young. Maybe it’s being the only child that has me liking the Hermit thing! Was I was was with someone…I always wanted to go home at night instead of staying, or wanted them to go home if we were at my crib. And its not that I did not love or care for them…I just wanted to be alone. So I am not sure what will happen in the future. If there is a good guy out there that GOd intends for me to be with..then who am I to tell him no. But he might have to come down from Heaven and tell me this plan because I do not trust my own judgment when it comes to choosing someone to love. Hence the reason I mentioned last week now that that I have lost that emotional connection and may enter a friends with bebfits type set up..you know we are cool friends…free to see whomever. But get down and dirty from time to time! But..it’s just a thought for now.

900 just as Janet and Michael had to prove on an award show…we are not the same person! LOL That is my sista from another mista in Blogsville because we think and speak alike. LOL

By Devil's Advocate

January 24, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

DasV, do you flirt with EVERY guy on the blog?

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

900K …I have a feelin that it may turn sour…

Did i detect an “IF”? *as in living ur life ‘if this’, ‘if that’ happens?…

“Preperation”, definitly because this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with so…

Love is ALWAYS stronger than pride…

By melo

January 24, 2008 4:40 PM | Link to this

Bella what is the secret to y’all redness? *Demi, im hollering over here,im picturing a short man trying hard to climb a tree.so funny!!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 24, 2008 4:40 PM | Link to this

DreamsMaterialize Yeah I had to already tell Mr FedEx to “gwine on” as my aunt would say!! Trying to push up on me for doing his job. I could’ve called Brown (UPS) for all that without the hassle! lol

The drink of choice is on you and I will keep your glass next to mine, since you look out for the lil people! :0)

By SexyLeggs

January 24, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

Staceye, I feel what you’re saying, and there’s nothing wrong with liking one’s own space. The big picture encompasses more than just giving up your space. Companionship should never be underestimated. I don’t believe in the B.U.D.D.Y craze going on right now. As usual, do you until you’re comfortable and trusting of another!

By Tazzee

January 24, 2008 4:48 PM | Link to this

melo I’M BACK!!! - Dude, you were the one that attributed my post to the professional side. I’ve never thought my career or how much money I make is my biggest asset. But my career and how much money I make does make it so I won’t bring any financial baggage into the relationship.

LL umm, I never said I determine my value to the team - notice I said the man that marries me - by that time he will know my value. Don’t miss out on the bigger point of my post that not all women are sitting around waiting to marry just ANYBODY..there are men out there trying to get married that can barely take care of themselves. And there are a lot of women out here that aren’t looking for a man as a means to come up. While my tangible assets aren’t my greatest asset - in a divorce I’ve got as much to lose as much as any man. That’s the point I’m trying to make.

By DreamsMaterialize

January 24, 2008 4:49 PM | Link to this

Staceye I feel you on liking to have things in your house EXACTLY the way you want them. I like coming home and knowing everything will always be just the way I left them. I like having company when I want it, and having them gone when I want. I like my own space, and I don’t want anyone disturbing that, except when I want them to. lol And I’m not an only child, but I just like order and being able to control things.

By Alvin

January 24, 2008 4:49 PM | Link to this

Love is ALWAYS stronger than pride…

Funny, I think that when li’Demi is with me.

Staceye you standard are very high, are all the men you’ve dated the problem?

You don’t pick or date lame dudes

So, what the give? the no feelingness

I am one of the most evilest person I know, but I am not that bad.

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

2C i just got the memo on the Goverment’s attempt to revive the economy with thier economic stimulus package.

House Rep. Nancy Pelosi (who is this chic?) said Congress would act on the agreement. $600-$1200 in rebates.

let me print this and read all the fine print….

link: [http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20080124/apongoco/economystimulus;_ylt=AsQmIEn0trsDFGqDu0oPEOCs0NUE]

By Alvin

January 24, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

DreamsMaterialize aka Control Freak LOL

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 24, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

Cee -Did i detect an “IF”? *as in living ur life ‘if this’, ‘if that’ happens?… ??? Recently you’ve confused me with statements like the one above its wierd only cuz I Always know where you’re commin from. I try not to live life thinkin of the “if”s I want to just stay prepared for the great oppty’s in life, perhaps that includes a PYT named CEE well then I’ve been ready for that!

Demi - Oh gotcha KFed, one of the most luck chumps in history of loser came up big w/ that one. Add that to the fact that she’s on suicide watch= P.A.I.D!

Staceye - Mike & Janet, man you took it back! I dont even remember that one… they still got the same voice tho LoL

Truth - funny shyt right there mane! But prepare for the get-back…She gon spit in your sunday LoL

Be Easy! still got some time on the clock…

By melo

January 24, 2008 4:54 PM | Link to this

matchmaker auntie: (in hyper-ventilated voice and smiling)thankgod they are talking

By For Real

January 24, 2008 4:55 PM | Link to this

Wise If you lurking, do see what I mean by irrational behavior. How can one not look for marriage but will not date a dude that is not marriage minded? The sad part about it, they really believe what they are saying. Oh and ladies you do know that Fine doesn’t mean Happy.

well said T-Mango well said

By SexyLeggs

January 24, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

Good night everyone! Walk hand-in-hand w/a loved one this evening (even if it’s to the kitchen).

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

Alvin… i have a feeling that there more broken and cold heart in here than i thought.

I wont pretend…i was broken and it HELPED me with pride and forgiveness. …because of that I think, no, I know now i will fall even harder. Pride and grudge are not my heart’s default anymore.

By BLOW ME IS OFFICIALLY BLOWED & THROWED

January 24, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

* Truth* I will get you tomorrow!!

You are so right too 900k

Have a great evening everyone! Be safe catch u tomorrow

By Cemeeli

January 24, 2008 5:03 PM | Link to this

900K …sorry to confuse I see where it was weird. But yeah i understand where you stand. Cool. and those opputunities will come.

…we have to continue…good no-topic today!

By DreamsMaterialize

January 24, 2008 5:06 PM | Link to this

Mo If you leave it up to me, it’ll be tequilla every time. Double shot please. Now come sit down by me and relax.

Alvin I don’t know if I’m that bad, but I do like sht my way. Sht who doesn’t? lol

By Blow not For Real

January 24, 2008 5:09 PM | Link to this

Blow working the register and trying to blog….

Blow: Thank you for choosing McDonald’s my name is Blow can I take your order?

Dayummm I ment f/k you Truth

Customer: Mmmmmm did you just drop the fries?

Blow: Fug… umm i mean yes maam we did. Would like to try our new Mac Rib sandwich? Yes it’s back!