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Wednesday, January 23, 2008
Change of heart
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I once read somewhere that you should never try to change a man or expect him to change. I think this advice was not to explain the inability for a man to grow or mature, but rather a warning to women who are quick to try to take something they feel “has potential” and turn it into something “perfect.”
This statement makes so much sense to me, because I really think that what you see in the beginning of a relationship is what you get in the end. So if you’re not happy with the way someone—male or female—is in the first few months you know them, you won’t be happy with them later. You can either choose to get over their little quirks or not.
While I think this is pretty solid advice, and it has kept me from being that “woman on a mission” that you occasionally encounter on the dating scene, sometimes men and women can spark each other to change—but usually it’s accidental, unintentional, and simply a reciprocation of love for someone. It’s not because your boo put a guilt trip on you.
Have you ever changed for someone you loved? Was it a small change, like picking up a hobby they enjoyed, or a complete paradigm shift, like quitting drugs or binge-drinking?
Has anyone you’ve ever dated changed for the better because of you? Did you purposefully inspire the change or was it something your partner did on his or her own? What advice would you give to those who are trying to encourage their significant others through a difficult metamorphosis?
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