Misadventures in Atlanta

By Beautiful

January 17, 2008 8:16 AM | Link to this

did y’all check out the pics that were sent into ajc by ppl playin’ in the snow? sooooo cute. i wish it would snow every week! what would make it better, is if i had a mate to ride out this storm with me. wink, wink.

By kinderbabe

January 17, 2008 8:29 AM | Link to this

good morning, all.:)

i don’t know how i’d feel if a man cried in my presence. it depends on the circumstances. i don’t know how i’d feel if he cried over a sporting event though…lol. i’d think that was a little bit much. if he were faced w/a loss, disappointment, etc., it wouldn’t be unusual to me if he cried. i would feel bad if i were the reason he cried though…like we broke up or something. i think that would make me uncomfortable.

By Tweety

January 17, 2008 8:40 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog…Question: Does it matter who says “I LOVE YOU” first in a boyfried/girlfriend type relationship..or should the guy say it first…..

By Tweety

January 17, 2008 8:40 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog…Question: Does it matter who says “I LOVE YOU” first in a boyfried/girlfriend type relationship..or should the guy say it first…..

By Beautiful

January 17, 2008 8:41 AM | Link to this

this is a hard one to comment on. a guy crying at the movies or when his team loses is a bit much. imma sit back and lurk today to see if the sensitive side comes out of the blogmen.

wii daddy, pisces08, melo, demi, dan, truth, rell, dushawn, poppa, binford, dreams, alvin let it flow!

By Beautiful

January 17, 2008 8:51 AM | Link to this

Tweety the guy should say the L word first. my .02.

By Voice of Reason

January 17, 2008 8:56 AM | Link to this

Tweety, let the guy say it first. Otherwise, with their often wimpy selves, they’ll feel like you’re trying to capture, confine or lasso them…and then he might run. Men are weird in that way. They can be so stupid, but in other ways, you need ‘em :-).

By pisces08

January 17, 2008 8:57 AM | Link to this

Morning All. The T.O. crying thing was a bit much. I can be sensitive and show emotion without losing my near Neanderthal(with a hint of southern gentleman charm) manliness. @Beautiful: What makes it better is a mate to ride out every storm….

By Rell

January 17, 2008 8:57 AM | Link to this

Cryin..lets see…i cried when i graduate from Parris Island Marine Corps boot camp..still have not experienc that again…ummm i cried when ricky got shot on boys n the hood…lol..i cried laughing when i went to the Kangs of Comedy…bernie mac had me gasping for air…i cried with T.O. when he caught the winning touchdown in the NFC Championship game..i cry when i see the special interest story on handicaps people that overcome..they inspire me..the kid last year who was autic(sp) who sank the three’s…yep crying..or the kid who played football and the coach of the other team let him score…crying again..dayum…i cried when i got my heart broken the first time…two days actually…just a lil peek behind the curtain

By Dawg75

January 17, 2008 9:01 AM | Link to this

I consider myself a manly man, I played football and workout, cookout, the typical male things. If I was playing a sport like football or any other, and I put a ton of work into it and emotion and we lost, then yes it is ok to cry. Now if you are just a fan, no, not ok to cry. My best friend passed away Monday, and I was really upset but fought back the tears, but I can tell you today I cried, and it felt good after I was done to let the emotion out, and I am sure when I am at the funeral I will cry as well. My wife does get on me though because I lack alot signs of emotions, but I think it is because I keep it in, which is probably worse.

By Jazzyone

January 17, 2008 9:04 AM | Link to this

What up ya! You know its all relative in my opinion. If a man sheds some tears hell let em flow doesn’t compromise his manhood in my opinion. On the flip side if hes crying, smacking that dayum gum and walking like a girl and when he gets me on the phone his first words are ggggggggiiiiiirrrrlllll wait till I tell you what happenned today honey..then its purring like a p*** cat then its a dayum p*** cat he can go cry for Evita cause he ain’t my type anyway hes looking for james not jazzy to dry them tears..um no….naw jazzy aint chasing the cat shes chasing the dog..bow wow ya!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 17, 2008 9:04 AM | Link to this

Morning Everybody!! While some of the pics of kids in the snow were so freakin cute, I still HATE snow! LOL I know that’s terrible but I have never been a fan.

On topic: I agree with you Kinderbabe (hey chica). I have no problem with a man expressing himself depending on the reason. Him crying over a sporting event would be a bit much for me, but I do think its only natural and human that at some point a man cry. Just MHO

By Mika

January 17, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

Morning, a Man crying in my presence is a turn on to me; it shows his honesty, integrity, & sensitive side; i love it and see nothing wrong with it

SJ 3000 hopefully you’ll join us today ;-)

By Dated a Crier Once

January 17, 2008 9:13 AM | Link to this

I was in a long 2 year relationship with a man who cried everytime we had a fight. We would start at it, and the next thing i knew he was bawling his eyes out. It drove me absolutely crazy. I don’t care if he cries over an emotional event, a sappy movie, something like that. But he used crying as a weapon against me. Has anyone else had this experience?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 17, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this

Morning Everybody!! While some of the pics of kids in the snow were so freakin cute, I still HATE snow! LOL I know that’s terrible but I have never been a fan.

On topic: I agree with you Kinderbabe (hey chica). I have no problem with a man expressing himself depending on the reason. Him crying over a sporting event would be a bit much for me, but I do think its only natural and human that at some point a man cry. Just MHO

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 9:22 AM | Link to this

I gotta give props to Rell and the other men that have posted thus far this morning. I really expected that chest puffing, “man up” post about being too good to cry on here. But so far I’m wrong this morning!

I don’t mind if a guy cries. But I did date one guy who cried everytime we had an argument. That was weird simply because we fought fair. I didn’t go for the jugular or anything.

My HS sweetheart cried at the end of Titanic. I did rib him a bit for that.

T.O. has wanted that ring for a minute. I can definitely see why he cried. This was supposed to be that year for the Cowboys. He’s going to come back a monster next season.

By 2CPTG©

January 17, 2008 9:30 AM | Link to this

Morning…..

I cry every time I watch Imitation of Life….

but, T.O.?? I’on know who’s tears looked faker, his or that Susan Smith chic….

By Jazzyone

January 17, 2008 9:32 AM | Link to this

Myself as a former athlete in regards to T.O. any man/woman that has the dedication, motivation and personal drive to play a professional sport for a living ( its not all roses) can become very passionate about it and would have to be if he/she wants to be recognised as the best at it or win titles and championships.

It would bring anyone to tears when you worked so hard all season to have the win in your grasp and the next min taken away can be very very emotional. I can understand T.O. and his behavior and don’t hate him for it. I look forward to seeing that fine specimen of a body next season…

By Jason

January 17, 2008 9:35 AM | Link to this

T.O. is probably a bad example of a manly man. Didn’t that little b** try to commit suicide by overdosing on pills? He’s a drama queen who happens to play a tough sport.

By DreamsMaterialize

January 17, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone In high school, I cried when I thought my parents were getting divorced (they actually stuck it out), I cried when my grandfather had a stroke and I thought he was going to die, and I cried when he was actually dying and had to say goodbye over the phone. Other than that, I can’t really remember crying as a grown man. I usually just suck it up.

By Rell

January 17, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this

movies lets see..cried at the end of imitation of life…remember the titan….closer…so close to my REAL LIFE it was scary…friday night lights….E.T……The learning tree..color purple….because before i went, my mother wanted me to pay attention to how the black man(mister) treated the women..it tied into some family stuff….but i digress….Forrest Gump..Glory….amistad…life..cried laughing!!!!!…..there were others that had me drop one..but that is all that comes to mind now

By Raqi

January 17, 2008 9:42 AM | Link to this

There are two things that caught my attention in this topic.

“A living and feeling human” and “Whiny”. You hit the nail on the head by stating that man are living and feeling human being. And with that come emotions and the mechanics to shed tears. If they were not meant to express themselves in that manner they would not have been created with the ability to do so. I don’t think it is at all less than masculine for a man to cry.

Now, why is he crying? That is what matters. That’s where I pick up “whiny”. No one likes a whiny little wuss. I can’t stand to even hear kids whine for no good reason. So to put up with an adult that does it is mos def out of the question.

By Wise Diva

January 17, 2008 9:44 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone!

@Jason, so who do you think would be a better example of a manly man?

By Beautiful

January 17, 2008 9:44 AM | Link to this

I cried when he was actually dying and had to say goodbye over the phone.

hug.

By tweety

January 17, 2008 9:45 AM | Link to this

Thanks for the comments…@Voice of reason-lol…

By tweety

January 17, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

Thanks for the comments…@Voice of reason-lol…

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 9:47 AM | Link to this

Good morning Gang!

Breakfast:grits, waffles, pancakes, bacon, sausage, fruit, muffins, home fries, fish, salmon croquetts, variety of coffee, juice and water. Have at it!…it’s wet and cold…

Are we talking about T.O. cry or a Sophia Cry? Cause thoose cries when your face/lips get’s ashy…i can be a shoulder in either situation. I only try and keep my own emotions in check if all that is going on .

…sorry i have been the culprit of a man cryiing…to my defense i did not realize THAT my impact until it was too late…hope that will not be a case agian.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 17, 2008 9:47 AM | Link to this

Morning All -tossin snowballs @ the blog fam… Me cry naw thats not a good look. As much as a lady says she doesn’t mind brah dont fall for it! Now I will admit when it comes to sports I am not a sore loser so boo-hoo’n after a loss aint gon happen, however when my team Finally wins the Super Bowl whoever is by myside will see me shed some serious tears! She will have to be alright with that cuz after all it will be tears of joy! Yeah thats right this is the only time I see myself crying (out of Joy) in public, not my wedding nor firstborne but when the Bills win the big one…

By SexyLeggs

January 17, 2008 9:51 AM | Link to this

Good morning. What a way to start the morning but with an argument w/your boss. I’m not backing down because I’m right.

Anyway, if man cries in my presence I would find it somewhat endearing depending upon the circumstances that made his eyes leak.

MO, I hate the snow. When I pulled into my driveway and my daughter got out of the car kids swarmed her with snowballs. It was hysterical.

By sharon

January 17, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

Dawg75 I’m sorry for the loss of your friend. I’m okay with men showing their sensitive side. I have no problem with a man dropping a tear or two, but I would be very uncomfortable if he boo-hooed, lips quivering, shoulders hunched over, doubled over, can’t speak kind of crying. I would be creeped out if he cried during a movie, our break up or a sporting event. Men should “man up”. Rell everything you said was funny.

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

I knew some guy wouldn’t let me down. Thanks 900k for your neanderthal response. LOL

By Rell

January 17, 2008 9:56 AM | Link to this

@900k….they had five tries already…lol…you can hang that pipe dream up homie…..lol

By The Truth

January 17, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

Did this thing eat my post?

Good morning snow bunnies.

Summary: T.O. is gay. He loves the limelight, always in trouble and has irratic behavior. I noticed those same traits in prison sissies. I’m not crying if the cat thats supposed to catch the grief isn’t.

I cry when I end one chapter and begin another, minus someone I’ve loved. (My divorce, my mom and sister passing.) The worst part is being helpless to fix the problem. I remember looking at my sister and just not being able to help her, that hurt more than anything.

WD men don’t live under anyone elses scrutiny. We’re free to do whatever we want without giving a dam. A dude that cares what someone else thinks a byatch. Actually being a man is pretty stress free unless he’s trying to accomodate other peoples wishes. The bottom line is we’re gonna do what we want and let the chips fall where they may.

By kinderbabe

January 17, 2008 9:57 AM | Link to this

hey mo how are you? i’m so looking forward to this long weekend.:) i plan on getting lots of rest. i’m gonna shoot you an e-mail so we can chat.

By melo

January 17, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

I cry only when a loved one dies.I have moments when i am touched by a painful story,or i see somebody going thru a tough time.But i do not necessarily shed a tear.Ever since i became a man(in my early 20s) i do not shed tears that easily. I guess its because i myself have endured and continue to endure, despite my obvious love for life.When nite time comes, that is the time i have a lot of my reflections.But never to the point of crying, but more to think strategy.Life is a journey and a struggle at that. Have a nice day.

By Jazzyone

January 17, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

Acutally a man that cannot show his emotions is one that turns me off. I think its a balance though what man wants to see a chick crying all the time, so what woman wants to see a man cry all the time.

A man that attracts me is one that goes with the flow and acknowledges how he feels deals with it and keeps it moving.

A man that holds his emotions at bay all the time is a ticking time bomb if he has no outlet and can be the one that can whip your a* if you run up on him the wrong way.

By DreamsMaterialize

January 17, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

Beautiful Thanks. Actually, got a lil misty-eyed writing that, but I’m good after the hug, real good. ;-)

By Raqi

January 17, 2008 10:06 AM | Link to this

My husband did not cry at his mother’s funeral but God knows I wish he would have. He cried later in the privacy of our home. And with that I caught hell. Had he cried at the funeral along with his father, brother and other relatives he would have likely released that sadness, anger or what ever it was in a much pleasant manner. But no he held it all in and I got the joyful honor of having that flood of emotions poured into my lap. I understood him crying. It is natural. But for a minute there I didn’t think I was going to be able to take it because it was such a rush of anger and sadness all at once.

By Terri

January 17, 2008 10:07 AM | Link to this

I have had a man cry in my presence, it was annoying because it happened so often, it’s like he would turn the water works on to invoke the sympathy in me. I also had another man that cried in front of me and it touched my hard because he was not the type to express weakness in front of me. That tear, touched my heart. Lastly I work with a man who is a straight BEOCH!!! He whines sooo freakin much it drives me nuts. He thought he got bit by a spider so his little damn finger swelled up, he walking round the office like a little biach showing everybody his wounded hand, begging the supervisor can he go to the hospital, so finally the next day, he went to the doctor and he comes back to work to tell everyone is was some sort of ingrown nail infection…what a BIACH!!!! I have never seen a man with those types of emotions, I call him run tell dat because he tells everything, he gets mad when people go on smoke breaks with other co workers and he does not even smoke…what a BIACHHH

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 10:10 AM | Link to this

At the end of the movie Stepmom, I cried a real river. I just imagined losing my mom and having to say goodbye at such a young age and I couldn’t deal. LOL. I still get misty eyed at the end of that movie.

Some of you guys have experienced real loss. I’m so sorry for each of them and I’m glad you came thru to the other side okay.

By Willie Dynamite

January 17, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

Morning All,

Lets see, Grown Man cry when I cut the cord on both of the kids. Funerals in the family. That’s about it. Oh yeah for some reason i get a lump in my throat when I hear a GREAT version of the Star Spangled Banner (think Whitney & Hendrix).

Now for sporting events I can see why Athletes cry after winning/Losing. Thats in the game.

By Alice Walker loves Tracy Chapman

January 17, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

We have taught our boys that crying is for sissies…I think it is absurd to teach a human to control what naturally occurs…To see anyone cry shows their vunerability and allows to speak about the situation without words.

To me, there’s a strength in crying, letting your guard down, and expressing your grief through tears. When I saw my best friend crying, I was suprised, not shocked in a negative way or anything. Actually, it showed me that something meant that much to him that he felt that loss and could show it.

…hope that made sense. i have a tendency to ramble…

also to add…if he crys at random b/c of his fav team losing or while watching “The Notebook” then I would think he is a loon forreal.

By Terri

January 17, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

a man was born with emotions I agree, but excessive crying no!

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 17, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

neanderthal response -naw babygirl…ARed- you gotta see it from my point of view. as a teen I sat throu 4 straight superbowl Losses (get it right Rell) without shedding a tear. So just the thought of seeing the so-called impossible happening in front of my eyes… man I’m smiling from ear to ear now just thinkin bout it.

Now when it comes to seeing my son for the first time or my lady saying “I Do” just bring out different emotions in me. I kind of see myself in awe of those situations and simply speechless. Every Man has cried watching a movie by himself, hell prob within the last year. BUT I haven’t cried watchin a movie in front of a girl or anybody else since I was 5yrs old. As for funerals I do not speak on that cuz I do not want to think of losing someone else close to me, its a given.

By SexyLeggs

January 17, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this

Raqi, thank goodness you were there for him.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 17, 2008 10:18 AM | Link to this

Morning Everybody!! While some of the pics of kids in the snow were so freakin cute, I still HATE snow! LOL I know that’s terrible but I have never been a fan.

On topic: I agree with you Kinderbabe (hey chica). I have no problem with a man expressing himself depending on the reason. Him crying over a sporting event would be a bit much for me, but I do think its only natural and human that at some point a man cry. Just MHO

By Winona Cargile Alexander

January 17, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

I made my ex cry by telling him I didn’t regret cheating on him.

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

900K…LOL…not that it’s like that guy…As much as a lady says she doesn’t mind brah dont fall for it!

Well the older i got i realize that i DO want a man that will show his emotions. It’s good for us both.

By melo

January 17, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this

I have never seen a man with those types of emotions Terri, thats not a man but a shim.Yu can tell,from ur description of shimeth.We got plenty of those around in Atl area and we are not descussing those today.

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this

Alice Walker - What did not make sense is that you said in the first paragraph that crying is for sissies then you go on to say that there is a strength in crying… so which one is it?

By Staceye

January 17, 2008 10:20 AM | Link to this

*Rell is that you? LOL Is that the real you? LOL Ok..sniff sniff…come put your head on my chest and take a kleenex boo boo. Wait..let me put Demi down. LOL

Dawg75 I am so sorry about your friend. I just lost a freind a weeks ago when I went home for the holidays to colon cancer. She did not know she had it and she leaves behind a son. People she was very young….please do not take for granted your health. The symptoms for that is not that noticeable. I think death effects people differently. I would not look at a man as weak if he cried. He is human too. No it does depend on the circumstances. The first time I ever saw my boy cry was when his daughter was born.

2C I love that movie…my mom and friends cry too…but I never cried. Oh man I am strange. I did not cry at my grandpa’s funeral….I actually sang at it. But strangely enough..I cried a week later.

Dreams wow…a phone goodbye. That had to have been hard.

900 I guess you won;t be crying in public! LOL Bills ain’t winning shyt!

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 10:23 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs was there Snowman a mean on to you this morning? You wanna to make him melt…holla at cha gurl! lol

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

Nevermind Alice Walker, I see now that you mean “we” as in society. LOL It makes sense to me now.

By Mahogany

January 17, 2008 10:24 AM | Link to this

I’ve seen several men cry in my life, for different reasons. I am far from one to look down on a man for crying for what I deem as a good reason. Lost, Love, Laughter, Money, etc. Seeing a man cry does something to me.

By melo

January 17, 2008 10:27 AM | Link to this

I made my ex cry by telling him I didn’t regret cheating on himUr puddy is that good to make a man cry? Thats was stone cold and insensitive on ur part but if it were me, i wld plot revenge rather than cry!Thats so weak..

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this

Sorry 900k, I still see that response as neanderthal! It seems that you have “convinced” yourself it’s not okay to cry in emotional situations. Why would you care what the ladies would think if she sees you crying?

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this

Truth Sorry to hear about your sister…sounds as if you two were close.

By The Truth

January 17, 2008 10:29 AM | Link to this

AREd I take great pleasure in knowing you’ll wind up with one of those sissies you think you want. Please, please call me the first time something traumatic happens and your gf hides under the bed or when you come home and your man is sporting your favorite panny/bra combo.

Alice Walker whats absurd is thinking men should handle situations the way you would. Remember, we were originally hunter/gatherers and crying wasn’t needed for that job. Can you see a guy running down a buffalo and then crying because he had to cut it. Not pretty but more important the people that depended on him would be in serious jeopardy. Fast forward to today and the scenario hasn’t changed. Every day women come on here saying there are no more good men and the reason is they can’t provide, aka killing the buffalo. Different day, same consequence. The unit suffers.

By Alice Walker loves Tracy Chapman

January 17, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

no, Amazon. I didn’t say that. Please reread, chile.

By Staceye

January 17, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

Truth I am sorry to hear about your mom and sister? That helpless feeling is the worst.

Raqi did you just hold him and let him know you were there for him and that it was ok to let it out? Men feel the need to try and be hard. I guess it is confusing…as a baby, a boy is babied and treated softly as a girl…but as he starts to get like 4, people start telling him to man up and not cry. So how does he obtain that balance of being masculine but still being human and not trying to be an android (no feelings). Do men get a botox shot for their feelings so no one can tell when they are hurt. I know things like death hurt men…but of course I am still having a hard time believing that they hurt romantically.

Winona that’s cold….but I love it! LOL

**Oh, I had a guy break into tears during sex..I mean not a silent tear stream…he actually cried! You guys…it freaked me out so bad. I thought I was hurting him orsomething. Needless to say that was mood killer and we soon became just friends after that..and he could not understand why!

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 10:31 AM | Link to this

Staceye now you have two on kangaroo pouch rotation? Hip and chest! LOL!

By Beautiful

January 17, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

every day women come on here saying there are no more good men and the reason is they can’t provide, aka killing the buffalo.

just wanna make it clear, not every woman.

By Str8

January 17, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

It’s emotionally healthy for a man to tear up every now and then… I do; during some really good action, tears flow freely. while watching some of the worlds tragedies, some touchy movies/stories, and tragic events.

But a man crying over some argument, sports loss… a man crying when he’s supposed to act (eg a rescue), a man crying when he’s supposed to be the rock of the family. there just situations a man has to mask his feelings and do or be there for others… those are the moments of courage. a man is not supposed to cry at time when his courage is called up… he is supposed to act!

talking of crying… what did ya’ll think of Hillary’s (fake) crying moment?

By 2CPTG©

January 17, 2008 10:38 AM | Link to this

I didn’t cry at my mom’s funeral…..and today is the two year anniversary of her passing….but alone, I balled like a baby….which I’ll prolly do later today when I visit her gravesite….

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

Truth - Huh? How did you come to that conclusion. I’ve said time and time again that I like nice guys who AREN’T sissies and doormat. Why do you keep thinking one comes with the other?

For your information, the last guy I dated lost his dad. His hero. And at the funeral his eyes watered but he didn’t “sissy up.” So again, what the heck are you talking about?

By Alice Walker loves Tracy Chapman

January 17, 2008 10:43 AM | Link to this

Truth I agree, but I was talking along the lines of losing someone or even tears of joy.

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

2CPTG - I’m so sorry about your mom’s passing. I hope you get thru the day okay.

By Beautiful

January 17, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this

2CPTG© wish i could be there for support.

By SeanJohnson3000

January 17, 2008 10:47 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog..gotta admit..i laughed for a whole day watching repeated clips of TO crying…lost all respect for dude..as far as a grown azz man crying….unless death or someone dying is in involved…are the only reasons a man should shed tears..i will say..the movies Antione Fisher and John Q was some sad shyt..but i didnt shed a tear…..for me saying…”thats phked up” and shaking my head is the equivilance of crying…

By Got that?

January 17, 2008 10:48 AM | Link to this

If you work your tirelessly, putting your heart, soul, and all the passion you can muster into something and it comes to an end, it’s alright to show emotion and cry. It’s called being human. The real question should be, “Are you man enough to cry?” There’s not a person on this planet who can’t be brought to tears when the gravity of the situation hits home.

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 10:48 AM | Link to this

2C Sorry too hear about your moms…

…i’m not sure i’d be sane if mom dukes passed anytime soon. whoa…i need Jesus now for just the thought!…

By DreamsMaterialize

January 17, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

Staceye Yeah it was tough. They said he wouldn’t last long enough for me to catch my flight. And it was right around halloween. So I’m standing in the middle of Party City with my son and daughter looking at costumes when I get the call like “say goodbye ‘cause he’s fading fast”.

By Jay

January 17, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

To see someone cry gets my eyes teary. Not sure what that means. TO use crying as a weapon is cheap. How many times do you allow that to work?

By Raqi

January 17, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs That was the one of the worst weeks of my life. But yeah “Thank Goodness” I was there. I guess.

Staceye Hell naw I didn’t hold him. I wasn’t going near him. I just stood there and looked at him. He was very very angry. He hadn’t spoken to me for almost a week and when he finally did it was during his sadness and rage release. He yelled then he cried, then yelled some more and cried some more. The first time I tried to say something to him oh my god he went off standing there towering over me yelling. After a few seconds I just took a couple of steps back and thought to myself “Nobody told me I was signing up for this”. Before it was all over we were yelling back and forth and then it was over. We went away together that following weekend.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 17, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

Ahh Staceye, I can always tell when you woke up on the wrong side of the womens prison. Why the hate? the empire state N.Y. has but one team the Bills!!! all the Giants have is New Jersey- this is why we are still hated by many. We will rise again!!!

Mahogany meet Rell, Rell wipe the snot outta your nose and say hi…

Red -with you the glass is always half full of shyt.LoL Not sure where I stated that I’ve convinced myself of anything… What emotional situations are you refering to? Wedding day? I see myself thinking of making babies with this woman, spending our lives 2gether and keeping a happy home. Watching my son come out of her? Well I see myself counting all the fingers and toes, making sure he’s breathing fine, wondering if her pu-pu will be the same after all of this and askin “Dr how long b4 he can get a job?” I seriously do not see myself holdin back or fighting any tears in these situations. If they come then I’ll be fine letting them loose, but at this age I think I should know Myself by now… don’t you?

By pisces08

January 17, 2008 10:55 AM | Link to this

Uh, I may be mistaken, but didn’t T.O. move to tears while responding to a question about his Quarterbacks “distaction”? Or, whether “Romo-back” adequately prepared?

By Rell

January 17, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

@staceye…yes that is the real me..i have invited you SEVERAL times to know me…that is on you..but yeah there is more to the picture than just the blog

By Raqi

January 17, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

2CPTG Why didn’t you cry? Was it by choice or was it that you couldn’t?

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

Got That? - Great post (10:48)

By 2CPTG©

January 17, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

speaking of death, Truth, read this to see how I took my mom’s death…some of y’all have read it before…but this is an excerpt of the autobio, taken from my blog….

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 11:00 AM | Link to this

Jay allowing/giving into your emotions can be healthy/therapudic.

By Winona Cargile Alexander

January 17, 2008 11:04 AM | Link to this

Been dealing with this married man now for a while now (the guy that I left my man for). He told me that he isnt leaving his wife any time soon. Even though he’s not happy. His reasons are that divorce cost too much. They live in a million dollar home, he owns his own business. He’s also in the military. She’s a doctor and my soror from the same chapter (shout out to Alpha Chapter, DST!!!)They have one daughter.

Everyday he tells me how much he loves and how he cares about me. Somehow I feel like he doesn’t. So I decided to Black mail him. I’m going to tape us having sex and send it to her practice.

What’s your thoughts? I really love this dude and can’t wait to bear his children

By For Real

January 17, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!!

Okay let me see:

Oh and TO is ummm…

For Real now twisting his hand back and forth.

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

900k - Just my opinion based on what you wrote. The fact that you even mentioned that crying “is not a good look” and that men “shouldn’t fall” for women who say they don’t mind criers shows that you feel it’s a sign of weakness. If you know yourself by now…GREAT! But I can still say that I think it’s a neanderthal mentality. No more, no less.

By Got that?

January 17, 2008 11:12 AM | Link to this

Winona, what you’re experiencing is called Karma. You are receiving back fully the mess you created when you cheated. Blackmailing him isn’t going to solve anything. It will probably make it an even worse situation. Why don’t you leave well enough alone?

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

Well Winona. I certainly think you give Delta a bad name, if indeed you are really a Delta and not some perp. Using a Founder’s name is even more tacky. But this is cyberspace, it’s silliness.

You don’t need our advice…karma probably has something good for ya. Good luck. LOL

By limegpuppy

January 17, 2008 11:15 AM | Link to this

Morning!

Cee - I’ll take some take some fruit and juice apple if a have it!

Nothing wrong with a man dispalying his emotions during funerals,or a tradegy that’s life changing..etc. Anything other than that I’ll be suspect of him.

By DreamsMaterialize

January 17, 2008 11:17 AM | Link to this

Ok enough about crying. Let’s talk about some creative ways to ride out these next few “cold” nights with someone.

By Beautiful

January 17, 2008 11:19 AM | Link to this

Winona Cargile Alexander you’re lucky it snowed yesterday. cause i’m not in the mood to deal with a homewrecker!!!!

off topic my son saved ten snowballs in the freezer. awwww. lol.

By Winona Cargile Alexander

January 17, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

ARed do you know what tact is?

By Shanell

January 17, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

Winona I went through this for two years. The ONLY thing that changed me was a black eye, swollen face and body, and “the wife” getting pregnant. Please LEARN from my mistake!!!

By SexyLeggs

January 17, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

2C, I’m crying reading this. Haven’t finished reading yet. The only thing I’m afraid of is death. I’ve only been to 2 funerals to date and have never stepped in a cemetary. No one in my family has passed (thank you Lord). I know my time is coming. I offer condolences to all of you who are hurting and missing a loved one. I’m fully crying now. Going to restroom!

By Jay

January 17, 2008 11:25 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli, True. If a person is crying just to get a favorable response from you is not right. It’s like they’re using your emotions against you.

By For Real

January 17, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

Raqi I’m glad you were there for him because I’m sure he has been there for you on numerous occassion of emotional display.

Question for the blog ladies:

Do women believe that emotions can be controlled and what is so wrong about controlling ones emotions?

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

lime Trust, if a mans cries around you concerning anything else he is either angry or hurt…huh,he best be -IMO.

By Lady J

January 17, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this

Hey Good People!!!!

Bringing back some memories…lol…It is fine for a man to cry and yes I caused some tears and karma came my way so don’t put out evil bc evil will come back in many ways and forms!

By SexyLeggs

January 17, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this

Whew! I’m emotional today. Anyway, “”DreamsMaterialize**, let’s strategize (LOL).

Raqi, I can only imagine how you moved around that week being perplexed over his tears and saddness in that he wouldn’t/couldn’t express it at the funeral.

WinonaCA, don’t you dare blackmail him. That will only come to bite you in the arse!

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

Winona - Do you know what a restraining order is?

By 900K aka Mr 2008 aka CavemanJoe

January 17, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

ARed- in response to your latest 1st of all “I’ll be that!”, 2ndly you’re hopeless.

Diva I was wondering, men, how do you do it? How do you handle being a guy who has to live up to the masculine image? There seems to be such scrutiny on how you act, dress, talk, walk, etc. It’s like guys walk a fine line between being tough yet not too aggressive. You also have to be sensitive, but not too whiny. -well its pretty easy unless you are dealing with a lady like the one above!

Cemeeli -Well the older i got i realize that i DO want a man that will show his emotions. It’s good for us both. -Thanks for trying to get me and not just stand back and throw darts. I do show plenty of emotion in my way. I can talk things out without shedding tears, it’s quite easy for me to have even the Most difficult/ complicated conversations. Just cuz I may not cry often does Not mean I have trouble expressing myself.

By Lady J

January 17, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

Ok, where is a fun fight party this weekend? J is ready to come out, I am suffering from cabin fever!

By Jewel

January 17, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

Good morning and Happy New Year Everyone!

I had an ex fight back tears as he expressed his frustration with his ex-wife hindering opportunities for him to spend time with his sons. At the time, I wanted to slap her. Why do black women in America use their sons as pawns against their exes?

I agree with most posts that it my response to a man crying in my presence depends on the circumstances. I believe it is a sign of strength to deal with one’s emotions appropriately. If one releases through tears, good. Better out than in and have those emotions expressed in an unhealthy manner. Also, it is best to release those emotions in a safe environment. Raqi, perhaps that is why your husband held back until he got home. Not the physical “home”, but rather you have made him feel secure.

Hello Cemeeli How about some Cream of Wheat instead of grits??? LOL! Cold, chilly mornings remind me of when my Grandmother would cook Cream of Wheat…

By DreamsMaterialize

January 17, 2008 11:34 AM | Link to this

Tact

with respect to interpersonal relationships, tact is a careful consideration of the feelings and values of another so as to create harmonious relationships with a reduced potential for conflict or offense.

Tact is a form of interpersonal diplomacy. Tact is the ability to induce change or communicate hurtful information without offending through the use of consideration, compassion, kindness, and reason.

Winona Cargile Alexander Your blackmail solution doesn’t quite fit the definition of tact.

By intelligentmale

January 17, 2008 11:37 AM | Link to this

Hello everyone this is intelligentmale from www.thealternativeman.com I love this topic. It’s a beautiful thing for a male to show his emotions. We are not gay when we do… as most of you suspect. We are human, it’s time you all realize we can be masculine and a man, and still cry. We have emotions and feelings too.

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this

900k - I’m not hopeless. You’re just saying that because you don’t agree with my opinion. Pick up that lip, buddy.

By DreamsMaterialize

January 17, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs Yeah I’m all for strategery (damnit Bush)…I meant strategizing. lol I always keep a shot of henny and a cold bud on deck just for you.

By DasV

January 17, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

Jesus cried when he learned his good friend Lazarus had fallen asleep in death… and he could resurrect him…. and did. no shame in a man crying, showing his emotions for what someone meant to them.

women are emotional creatures so a mickie D commercial with the adopted boy drawing a picture of his new family makes us cry…. most us cry at the drop of a dime… take TO, for example.

2CPTG© … …

By Staceye

January 17, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli you know a woman has to multi-task. Her work is never done. LOL

Dreams wow dude. How can you put on the happy face for the lil’ ones when you gotta say goodbye?

Raqi OOH wow…yeah that would have scared the shyt out of me.

900 Just the Giants Stadium is in NJ…they are called the NY Giants bruh! LOL Oh so you are from the part of NY that we don’t count huh? Anything outside of the 5 boroughs dude do not count. We barely claim Yonkers & Long Island! LOL

Winona Girl…stop! This is a situation where people can really get hurt. You will always come up with the short side of the stick. Meanwhile he gets in house booty plus yours! He spends all the holidays with his family. You will always be the outsider looking in while freezing in the cold. He has already told you he is NOT leaving her. Do you need a house to fall on you before you realize this a no-win situation for you? You will be old alone and saying, “one day will come around”. meanwhile your plumbing will have long stopped working and your body parts will be saggy…but you will still be holding on to that fantasy. Do yourself a favor….cut your ties and move on with this short lifetime we are all given. Not to mention if he can cheat on her with you…guess what…karma is a bytch and he will cheat on you with the next chick.

Beautiful your baby got ziplocked snowballs? LOL

By abc

January 17, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

I’m not a crier. People being so judgmental about it is enough reason to keep it to myself.

They say tears and laughter are the same release; people ‘laugh until they cry’. Women can bring a man to tears and then give him sheeot about it — that’s indicative of a heartless psycho beeyotch, IMHO. Every chick has ruined a perfectly good man at least once like that, he won’t be so trusting thereafter… then yall cry about a bunch of men that won’t be nice to you. It goes both ways, too, as recently stated on the blog: men aren’t that interested in repairing what another man messed up, any more than a woman is willing to deal with damage another woman inflicted.

TO is a butthead, anyway. Who cares about him crying for the camera.

By For Real

January 17, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli Where are going for lunch today?

By GEROME SAPP

January 17, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

This crying episode by TO was straight up bytchery. If the crying wasn’t bad enough, he was shedding tears for Romo, not for the team or the loss! It’s going to reignite all of the speculation and rumors about his sexuality and his “overdose”. The hostility (bordering on womanish jealousy) that he has exhibited toward Jessica Simpson is another piece of evidence for his trial

By Terri

January 17, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

@By DreamsMaterialize

Ok enough about crying. Let’s talk about some creative ways to ride out these next few “cold” nights with someone.

TRU DAT!!!!!!

By The Truth

January 17, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

*2C thats some cool stuff dude. Looks like you were one of the lucky ones for having her.Our moms died around the same time. For me, my nephew called to tell me moms didn’t have long, like any minute now. I called her and we talked for hours. I told her about everything I could remember about her. I told her how thankful I was to have amom like her and I apologized for leaving to go conquer the world. She’s on her death bed and that chick forgave me on the spot, said she new I had a spirit like that. We talked and hse finally said “I’m tired”. I took that to mean she was ready to go. I just sat on the floor and cried. I’m so glad we had that talk. I wouldn’t have peace with it to this day if we hadn’t.

My lasting memory of moms is her meeting us at the door on a rainy day with a towel and drying us off and putting us in pj’s to watch cartoons and she’d make us cocoa. My eyes still water thinking of her and what she was willing to do for us.

2C when you’ve dealt with a woman like we have its easy to see when a chick just doesn’t have it. Moms has saved me from much heartache by showing me what a real woman really is.

Winona what can be said for you that hasn’t been said by you?

Ared that was in repsonse to your neandrathal comment. Seems we have forgotten to appreciate the differences in others.

By Beautiful

January 17, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

Winona how you get them is how you lose them!

off topic tonight???

By Bre'

January 17, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

Greetings to all, its snowing in Atl, all is clear in NYC.

I don’t get a chance to read or respond so much any more. But I just wanted to drop in and say its not always men that hold back from crying. Until about a year or two ago I remember maybe crying 6 or so times over the course of my life thus far. I’m in my mid 30’s now. I’ve never been an emotional woman, never cried at funerals, weddings, births, the end of my favorite football movies. Even making it out of 9/11 did not bring me to cry. I have passion and deep love for many people and things, just not sure why it’s hard to bring it to the surface where tears are formed.

I don’t know maybe its a gene in my family. I come from tough love and and a tough up bringing. I was one of many boys, so when they were told them not to cry about things. I just figured maybe it was the same for me also. I haven’t given birth, walked down the isle, or a had a parent pass so there are still things to come.

Also when the Packers win in AZ that might just bring big tears of joy.

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

Truth - Cool beans. I take pleasure in the fact that you will be fulfilling a viagra prescription very soon.

My comment was not that I’ve “forgotten” to appreciate the difference in others. Just like we can call shenanigans on a blogger who states she wouldn’t date a guy who made less than 6 figures, I can do the same if you say crying “is not a good look.” If you aren’t a crier, you aren’t a crier. That’s not the point I took issue with.

By Staceye

January 17, 2008 12:00 PM | Link to this

Truth your memories are sweet man. At least you have those.

By Jay

January 17, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

Beautiful Tonight. Last nite was a waste of my fire wood. It’s going to be cold tonight, what’sup?….LOL

By SeanJohnson3000

January 17, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

@ Blog Females…although i think Wilnona post is made up…it shows how so many females can make poor decisions and believe empty promises when they think they have a chance at a mans money and he is laying pipe..just like the other days topic was about making your intentions known…dude never said he was leaving his wife and family…so why get mad…you are the one that got caught up.

By going bac to Cali, Cali

January 17, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

@tonight??? Maybe

By melo

January 17, 2008 12:05 PM | Link to this

Winona, u the one who cheated on the ex and told him,now u dealing with married dude and u want to introduce drama.Its certain u’ll meet ur fate before year is over.That ex wiill have his last laugh afterall!

By SexyLeggs

January 17, 2008 12:09 PM | Link to this

There was a point in my life when I didn’t do a lot of crying. I just didn’t and my friends would comment on it often. However, upon having a child I now cry at damn thing from commericals to Hallmark Sundy Movie Special. Can’t get through “A Tree Grows In Brooklyn” without crying!

By 900K aka Mr 2008 aka CavemanJoe

January 17, 2008 12:10 PM | Link to this

Staceye- you gon make me put my hands on.. dam girl you cold! I’m going to just back away from your heartless azz…LoL BTW callem what you want, but they aint paying rent in N.Y.!

abc -TO is a butthead, anyway. Who cares about him crying for the camera. Bingo! I dont say much bout homie, hats off to him on the field but outside of that he wants to be a star SO bad it makes me sick!

Jewel -Why do black women in America use their sons as pawns against their exes? Man this one here is big, one of the reasons why I do not have kids is the fear of the baby-mama from h3ll!

I came up with one of the dumbest theories years ago about women all wanting the same dam man. My sister, and every other female I know shot it down quickly, rightly so. Then I read statements from Winona & Whatuthink? and it jumps right back in my head! Some like myself have to work hard to get what we want out of life and other simply sit back and wait for good things to happen. I have had and will continue to have decent relationships with fine women and pat myself on the back for puttin in the hard work to get the quality that I deserve. No hating on homie, but it makes me ask how much work does a married man have to put in to have fun with a female like Winona & others on the side?

By Beautiful

January 17, 2008 12:10 PM | Link to this

Staceye what’s up gurl? it was our first time seeing snow! we were so excited. in california, you have to drive to the mountains to see it. my oldest couldn’t care less, but my pumpkin took my biggest tupperware bowl and filled it up and made his snowballs on the kitchen floor. lol. chewy, my dog, asked to go outside like every ten minutes. they loved it! i took pictures and everything. lol.

By Jewel

January 17, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

Winona You really do not want to know my thoughts…but, judging by the way you treated the husband you had, I will say this married man is treating you fairly.

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs - You sound like my mom. She’s a big sap now. I remember she cried when I made jiffy muffin mix at 12. Too funny!

By Jazzyone

January 17, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

Winonna actually let me just say that AMRED is one of the most ‘tactful’ people to grace this blog…

Jewel Using children as paws isn’t just reserved for the black community..SMH

Winonna How you got him is how you will lose him. You make the bed and lay in it.

By Wow

January 17, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

@ truth…..dont make me cry at work!

By melo

January 17, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

take pleasure in the fact that you will be fulfilling a viagra prescription very soon. thats classic!Its frustrating not being able to pack some heat and u have a nekkid tantalizing bytch waiting to devoured.

By Tazzee

January 17, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

Morning Folks!!!

I have no problem with a man crying and I have not qualifiers about the reason. If it affects a man enough to evoke tears, who am I to question that? But a whiny man will turn me off anytime so if he’s whiny, I’ll be gone before the crying even starts.

I didn’t really cry at my grandmother’s funeral - my family was looking at me to be strong. I sang at her funeral (still don’t know how I managed that) and shed a tear when they lowered her in the ground. On the drive back to ATL I was able to really cry when I was alone and didn’t have to comfort someone else. So I can understand why some men don’t cry in certain situations.

By 2CPTG©

January 17, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

Truth….“when you’ve dealt with a woman like we have its easy to see when a chick just doesn’t have it.” …..Ok!!!!

btw, I ain’t kill’t that nikka yet! But he pushin for it….

By Terri

January 17, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

Emotions can be controlled and we are supposed to have the under our control not vice verse

By Jewel

January 17, 2008 12:26 PM | Link to this

“Ya’ll” call this SNOW?!? LOL! Talk about crying…try driving in 10-12 inches with a shovel in your truck when, not if, you get stuck! LOL! Tell me again why bread and milk disappear from the grocery stores? My sweetie said there were at lease 30 people in Kroger last night.

By Staceye

January 17, 2008 12:26 PM | Link to this

900 LMAO! Boy you are crazy!

Beautiful Those will be some good pictures to have. I forgot your from from a warm climate. I am so used to snow. I was hoping for a snow day today. I mean so real snow so I could have a bonified snowball fight!

*Sexyleggs was that your intro to your burning skills in the kitchen?

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 12:27 PM | Link to this

Jazzyone - Thanks for the nice words. I’m not the most tactful person (Sagittarian trait, lol) but I can say I’m not a homewrecking, vengeful psycho bytch. LOL!!!

LOL @ melo. Tell me you’re not speaking from experience? :-P

By Terri

January 17, 2008 12:27 PM | Link to this

@By Beautiful

Winona how you get them is how you lose them!

TRUE!

By ME

January 17, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this

I cry everytime I experience the big “O.” I cried for a few days in the 3rd grade when Bethsheba said to me, “You’re ugly and your mother dresses you funny.”

Other than that, I don’t cry.

By Jewel

January 17, 2008 12:29 PM | Link to this

2CPTG There is no human love greater than the love of a Mother. My mother passed in 1988. I miss her everyday.

By 2CPTG©

January 17, 2008 12:33 PM | Link to this

Jewel, that’s the closest we’ll ever come to unconditional love…..cain’t nothin’ replace that…..

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 12:35 PM | Link to this

900K I’m glad you’d share you emotion about a given situation and in your way.

Staceye I know right, OUR work is never done. NEVER!

ForReal Maggiano’s (sp???) I had lasagna and some tuna steak. = it was my doing better treat! I’m back now…smacking my teeth.

I had my fit evaluation today and Missy put a star buy my body fat count. YAY!

By melo

January 17, 2008 12:40 PM | Link to this

ARED, I guess i will be taking viagra soon.I’m in ma new 30s and aint getting younger.But as males,sometimes, we can have a fine, nekkid woman open and ready and we be too eager to bang again(mental) before wang wang has taken enough physical break and stays soft.So every man with enough exp. may have experienced that moment.I have. Its frustrating coz u be feeling like u need that bytch to go to work and tell the story later thereafter that she got a beating!

By The Truth

January 17, 2008 12:43 PM | Link to this

Ared Viagra’s not in the future for me hun. I still wake up every morning looking for a moist spot. LOL

SJ I was thinking the same thing about Winona’s story being made up. Either she’s real young or has a dysfunctional background. Its a shame when a chick doesn’t know she’s just puddy.

Sexy I made a salad last night (I’m not a big salad eater but have been doing them more lately) with sausage, eggs, cheese and caesar vinaigrette with parmesan dressing. I dam near cried and got a woody at the same time. That salad was on. Try that dressing if you get a chance. Its by Kraft.

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 12:44 PM | Link to this

melo - In your 30s and thinking of viagra? Oy vey! *clutches pearls *

LOL @ the rest of your comment tho.

By Jewel

January 17, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

Jazzyone What does SMH stand for? Look at the struggles our young men have. Look at the scores of absentee fathers in our community. Look at what black men in America fight against on a daily basis. My point is best understood around the words “in America.” I firmly believe that every black son born in America needs his father. For any woman to withhold that right from him because of her issues with the father does not truly love her son. That’s my humble opinion. And, this is not today’s topic.

By Jazzyone

January 17, 2008 12:47 PM | Link to this

Oh AMRED you are deff tactful up on this blog..your responses to others are not filled with hater or drama even tho your message may be to fk off to someone, you say it in a manner in which one would respect the Fk U comment and not really know it..

Cause you know Imma say F* off and kick rocks and ya’s mammy….see no tact..LOL!!

By Beautiful

January 17, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

Jewel trust me when i say that i don’t want to experience that kind of snow. i just appreciate God giving me the opportunity to share it with my babies. we’re suppose to be leavin’ here in june and don’t know when we’ll have a chance to play in it again.

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 12:50 PM | Link to this

Truth - Great. I don’t date sissies and you don’t need viagra. Looks like we can put aside silly assumptions for the rest of the day. :-)

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 12:50 PM | Link to this

@ Jewel

Tell me again why bread and milk disappear from the grocery stores?

Gurl…this is an old time southern practice for years: from what someone in my moms hometwn shared. But the d it b/c the milk and bread will keep them from having to use the stove if the ice/snow storms make the electric power go out. They “stock up” so there will be cereal and sandwitches for the fam. Now there will also be *if you noticed a up sell of fire wood and batteries. But most northeners don’t notice those items missing at the stores…

Anyway all b/c the south is not equipped for ANY type of snow/ice storm! PERIOD!

I’m from the ole ‘A’ and lastnight as a matter of fact me and my lil guy got out in the sn-low b/c we both were craving some kettle korn popcorn and sorbet. My mom probably would have bet me if she new. …bless her heart….

By melo

January 17, 2008 1:00 PM | Link to this

melo - In your 30s and thinking of viagra? new 30s,girl.

By Blow Me

January 17, 2008 1:00 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon All!!

Hello WOW, THERESA, STACEYE, SEXYLEGGS, TRUTH, 900K, CEMEELI

@ Staceye You will always be the outsider looking in while freezing in the cold…LMAOOOOOOO! So true!

900KLMAO!! You’re funny!

THE TRUTHLMAO @ Please, please call me the first time something traumatic happens and your gf hides under the bed or when you come home and your man is sporting your favorite panny/bra combo.

Also…you post about sis/mama…kind of stung my heart…a bit..tears kind of welled up..sorry about your losses.

Terri LMAO!!!!!!! funknee

Yeah I feel MEN Should not unnecessary cry. My thoughts reflect Truth’s as well.

Death (close relative/friend), first born, wedding. I have once discussed this with friends a while back. I guess you can call me heartless. But if you are crying when you stomp your toe! That’s a bit much. When I think of a Man Strength comes to mind. And if you are getting bent out of shape or broken down all the time then…how strong are you? We should not be fighting over a box of KLEENEX! AGAIN that is a bit much!

Also if you Beeyatch A$$ is crying over a break up…You are weak! How can you cry of a woman you have no commitment to? Just one of many random girlfriends..Wife…yes I can understand that. But girlfriend?!??! That’s weak a* Hell! STAY IN YA LANE! I want a big burly dude….a real man. I don’t mind consoling him when he does cry of something significant. Not just because he can’t get no (as Rell says) Crabby Patty!! lol! or even if they ran out of his favorite beer. I do not want a punk!

Men it’s okay to cry….Only within reason…which should be very rare!!

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 1:02 PM | Link to this

Jazzyone - Thank you. I think that’s one of the nicest compliments I’ve been paid on this blog. :-)

By Jazzyone

January 17, 2008 1:04 PM | Link to this

Jewel smh means shaking my head…i don’t deny what you are saying but your orig post was why do BLACK WOMEN use their sons as Pawns and my response was as such many many many women do the same thing not only black women as you see it.

By Jewel

January 17, 2008 1:11 PM | Link to this

Oh, Truth Tell the truth…we know that was you in the Viva Viagra commercial! LOL! Or, are you a Cialis man? LOL!

Hmmmph. Not being able to perform can make a grown man cry…

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 1:12 PM | Link to this

Lol, okay Jewel i read my post again and was thinking…i sure can mess up a msg!…Like 2C said, that sometimes I posts like a text msg and you gotta decipher the sh$#. Anyway…yea! = blog.

By JaT

January 17, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

I can’t read all of what you all have written, but in what I have read, some of you all get it and some of you don’t. Yeah, TO’s crying may seem a little extreme, but keep in mind, this man tried to take his own life. This crying over as some of you say, another man may seem comical, I too laughed at first, but then I thought about it. This guy might be crying for himself. He obviously has some issues in his own life that he needs to deal with. That’s how I look at men and women who cry over what others deem trivial.

I’m female and hardly ever cried growing up. My brother died my sophomore year of college and ever since then I’ve been a bit more emotional than I think I would’ve ever been. Sometimes I find myself tearing up and don’t know why, other than I’m human. :-) Crying gives me time to reflect. (People don’t usually talk to you when you cry, cause they don’t know what to say..lol)

Think about these: 1. The soul would have no rainbow had the eyes no tears. 2. Tears are the safety valve of the heart when too much pressure is laid on it.

By SexyLeggs

January 17, 2008 1:17 PM | Link to this

ARed, OMGosh! My daughter made fried chicken for the 1st time 2 weeks ago and I cried. She even dipped in egg like I do sometimes. I was amazed and it was really, really good. Well seasoned. I’m so proud, she’s paying closer attention than I thought.

Staceye, believe it or not but my introduction to my great cooking skills now was Peace Cobbler from scratch. The friend who taught me said there wasn’t anything else she could show me since mine tastes better than her. I will never forget that compliment!

Truth, man you are crazy. I was hollering over almost cried and got a woody at the same time. Tongue in cheek, tongue in cheek! Anyway, glad you liked it.

Staceye, I called my mother last night to tell we had snow flakes and I was stuck in a traffic jam. She fell out laughing. Then asked if I was going to the store for the usual milk and bread. We both started laughing.

By Jewel

January 17, 2008 1:19 PM | Link to this

Oh. I usually type shaking my head. You learn something new everyday…

Cemeeli That’s okay. Me and my red pen isn’t so sharp today either. One of my posts should have read “30 people per lane in Kroger”. Or something like that.

By 900K aka Mr 2008 aka CavemanJoe

January 17, 2008 1:29 PM | Link to this

Blow what’s poppin!? come oon over to the cave and hang wit ya boy! But if you are crying when you stomp your toe!, damn cryin I get SOOO Mad whenever this happens! It aint good, I have punched a hole in the wall & even threw a chair clear across the room over this one. yeah Im nutz

Cemeeli - Sorbet??!!!? you think young MJ 23, sat around eatin Sorbet? he gotta sweet tooth? then he better make himself a syrrup samich!!!

By tweety

January 17, 2008 1:30 PM | Link to this

One more question: I know this varies but when as in how many weeks/months/etc. should it be before u say the “L” word…if u are really into the person & not some casual fling…

By Beautiful

January 17, 2008 1:40 PM | Link to this

tweety don’t do it! lol. let him say it first. it will be a long time coming before you hear it though.

By Blow Me

January 17, 2008 1:43 PM | Link to this

900K WOW…pent up stress huh..I do too! That’s the worst s** ever…And please don’t say anything either..I’ll get even madder. Just let the pain go down first…before any questions get asked! lol! I bet you got some ugly feet too 900k! lmao!! Put those bear claws up! lmaoo!!

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 1:43 PM | Link to this

900K WELL! no for real you right though…cause when i make smoothies at the house…boy be like mamma can you put some ice,cream and milk (not Soy) in mine. LOL!!!

When i tell you i wore out some suuurp’ sanmiches in my day! Booi…right in front of the T.V. during The Afterschool Program.

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 1:44 PM | Link to this

Aww SexyLeggs - Storys like the one about your rugrat and the chicken makes me look forward to having one of my own. Since I am truly my mother’s daughter, I guess I am destined to be a big pile of mush too! LOL

By Terri

January 17, 2008 1:48 PM | Link to this

Off subject…What’s sweet milk?

By KB

January 17, 2008 1:49 PM | Link to this

Winona You left your man for another who refuses to leave his wife and million dollar house/lifestyle. You are a complete fool. Do you really think you are worth him loosing 1/2 of EVERYTHING??????

The same thing happened to my sister in law. She got all hot and heavy with a co-worker, and they talked about leaving their spouses and being together. She got her divorce, but he didn’t. DUH!!!!! He told her he didn’t think she was serious. Stupid.

As Jay Leno says - “Is the waitress at Waffle House worth 1/2 of everything I own?”

By SeanJohnson3000

January 17, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

@ Truth…damn bruh…u made a omlette salad…lol

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 1:54 PM | Link to this

As Jay Leno says - “Is the waitress at Waffle House worth 1/2 of everything I own?”

HAA HAA HAA HAA HAA *gasping for air *. It seems so simple when you put it that way. LOL

By pisces08

January 17, 2008 1:58 PM | Link to this

@tweety. If you feel it, say it. Then share the results with the Blog. Say it Fri nite, then report back to us.

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 1:59 PM | Link to this

Terri in the south sweet milk is Carnation Milk or Eagle’s Milk.

By Beautiful

January 17, 2008 2:01 PM | Link to this

Is the waitress at Waffle House worth 1/2 of everything I own?

lol! chicks keep thinkin’ you’re worth it and you’ll keep getting yours in the end.

By Beautiful

January 17, 2008 2:09 PM | Link to this

pisces08 so are you saying that if a female said it to you first, you wouldn’t bolt!

By 900K aka Mr 2008 aka CavemanJoe

January 17, 2008 2:19 PM | Link to this

Blow -Whoa! My feet look amazing for a man who’s never been pedicured?!? (I just cut my toenails w/ sissors LoL) But you’re right on with the shut up when I’m in pain thing, I’ve often wondered when I stubbed my toe how I’d act if someone was right there laughin out loud when it happened… it could get ugly.

Cemeeli - Aint nothin wrong wit da homemade milk shake for the young’n as long he say “Sorbet” out loud!

By 900K aka Mr 2008 aka CavemanJoe

January 17, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this

Thats as long as he DONT say Sorbet out loud- sorry

By pisces08

January 17, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

@ Beautiful. It depends, if she said it while holding a Glock to my head, we obviously have had a communication breakdown. But outside somethin crazy like that, no, I wouldn’t bolt.

By DreamsMaterialize

January 17, 2008 2:41 PM | Link to this

Damn, am I the only one feeling that late-day -ITIS right now? lol

By Staceye

January 17, 2008 2:41 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs I went to the store to get some water (because I was out) and people were buying up the usual southern goods! I was laughing at them as I walked buy…and shaking my head in disbelief! (lol)

Blow me Where ya been my sista from another mista?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 17, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

Now that I can breathe a lil..

SexyLeggs never been a big fan of the snow or cold. I can deal with cold by itself but keep the frozen rain!

I dont remember who posted this but I have been told that I am like steel with showing emotions. I am very introverted (trying to get better) and not one for ever being overly emotional. Even when I gave birth it was like …wow. Not that I wasnt excited but my mind immediately started running to the responsibility that had just been placed upon me. While I know I do need to be more vocal with my feelings I dont plan on becoming overly emotional. The same way I dont want a man that cries about everything, I dont want to be a woman that cries abotu everything either!

KB As Jay Leno says - “Is the waitress at Waffle House worth 1/2 of everything I own? Dayum that ish is funny as hell!!! :0)

By Raqi

January 17, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

If I express myself and reveal my magic number will that cause you to suspect ill intentions and dump me leading me to bawl like a babe and then…….(to be determined)????????

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 2:45 PM | Link to this

pisces08 is a real nice guy. He wouldn’t bolt. Not over that. LOL

By tweety

January 17, 2008 2:54 PM | Link to this

@Beautiful-Im not telling him first…I wouldnt feel right….I just wanted feedback…its been a while since I said those words to a man I was involved with & really meant it…lol..

By Demi

January 17, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

I ain’t gonna front, the only movie that ever put tears in my eye was The Pursuit of Happiness…The first woman I’ve ever cried in front of was the cutie from last summer, hell we both had tear in our eyes as we shared our last moments together and said our good byes…I did shed a tear at my uncle funeral the year before…cried my first tears of joy 8 years back, got a new hearing aid, after 10 years without them…Li’Demi calling me Daddy for the first time put a tears in my eyes…

Demi is now man’in up:

Mutha F/Kers WHAT??!!

LOL

By tweety

January 17, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

@Beautiful-Im not telling him first…I wouldnt feel right….I just wanted feedback…its been a while since I said those words to a man I was involved with & really meant it…lol..

By The Truth

January 17, 2008 2:58 PM | Link to this

Did we find out if Winona was a hoax?

SJ dont talk about my creations. I’m proud of my salad/omelette. LOL

If anyone is into Charles Bibbs artwork let me know. I know a place in Gwinnett that seels them for a reasonable price.

By pisces08

January 17, 2008 2:59 PM | Link to this

@ARed. Ditto, on the Jazzyone compliment.

By lavonne

January 17, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

this is not on the subject, but i am trying to move to atlanta from kentucky a make 31,000 per year as a restaraunt manager i’m also a black female can anyone give me some advice on which areas are nice and which areas to stay away from ,ive heard that decatur is a very bad area i’m looking for something in atlanta. thanks lavonne

By Blow Me

January 17, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

Staceye Late start……today..But I am here now!

QUESTION ALL

Can you really have sex with someone continuously and not feel a bond?

Do you believe in Soul ties?

Do you think that women can COMPLETELY take the emotion out of Sex ?

And Lastly, Do you think that MEN get just as emotional?

By Beautiful

January 17, 2008 3:05 PM | Link to this

tweety the best thing to do, my .02, is to show him that you love him. giving him a massage, running him a hot bath with candles lit, cooking his favorite meal, watching the game with him and pretending like you’re having fun lol, detailing his car, running out to get his favorite starbucks coffee, helping him out with some of his errands would probably show him that you love, adore and care for him terribly.

By Chink

January 17, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

Afternoon..

Interesting tweety…

How many of us have uttered the words I love you and really truly didn’t mean it ….

not in the mean sense….but knowing this person is not really fitting you like a glove but you still love them but probably not in love with them….but you tell them you love them anyway.

Not really knowing how you truly feel…..

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 3:09 PM | Link to this

@Demi….auw i cried when Will… i meant Chris G. cried too! That movie was great!

& I know Lil Demi did not say that…LOL! Even though lil men can give you that what the h3ll u want look! :)

By pisces08

January 17, 2008 3:10 PM | Link to this

@Blow. Yes, yes, no, and no.

By Blow Me

January 17, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this

The first movie I cried in was…..

“Why did I get MARRIED”

When Jill Scott was in the bathroom talkin to her friends. I cried like a baby…I can relate to how she felt. Crying up thinking about it now!

By Hoodwinked

January 17, 2008 3:15 PM | Link to this

I have not had an orgasm since I was 21 through normal intercourse

By Hoodwinked

January 17, 2008 3:22 PM | Link to this

I am crying inside because I have not had an ogasm via interourse since 21. I only had one, and I am in my late 30s…..weep weep

By melo

January 17, 2008 3:23 PM | Link to this

from kentucky a make 31,000 per year as a restaraunt manager lavonne, is it that bad…i mean hw much do they pay such people over there in Kentucky or are those type of positions availbale for black females?

By Terri

January 17, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

The first movie I cried too was the original bridge to terabithia

By Beautiful

January 17, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this

Hoodwinked try oral. works every time!

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 3:31 PM | Link to this

Beautiful - Sometimes when you post that “love a man package,” I can’t determine if that stuff is done out of actual love or if you’re trying to buy his love. Girl, you really go that extra mile! :-)

By KB

January 17, 2008 3:32 PM | Link to this

My 16 year old cried at Pursuit of Happyness. I shed a few tears at that one myself. When the little boy lost his toy in the street, and when they couldn’t get into the shelter and had to sleep in the bathroom. That scene just killed me.

By Wise Diva

January 17, 2008 3:32 PM | Link to this

Hoodwinked, my condolences, and um TMI

First film I cried (ok sobbed uncontrollably)was during the movie Beaches.

By SexyLeggs

January 17, 2008 3:33 PM | Link to this

Staceye, I still laugh to this day. It’s just a comical site. If a blizzard came here like it does back home, I would be petrified for the people here. I do not miss walking and tripping in the snow.

Wiona, what are you going to do? Just hope you know that you will growing old by yourself w/no companionship. He already told you he wasn’t leaving his wife.

By SeanJohnson3000

January 17, 2008 3:33 PM | Link to this

@ Blow…depends on what u call ongoing or continuous…if we hook up 3 or 4 times…and it stops…i say no….but if we are having sex which is freguent and ongoing with or with about being in a relationship….i would say yes we have a bond..a sxual bond where feelings are there to and extent….but please dont get those feelings as being in love…mistake females make…men are more able to not associate sex with feelings…

some women can have male tendacies and fck men and leav em like men do women.. and as u know…some men cant handle good pssy and catch feeling and try to lock it down like they got papers on it…ownership..

By The Truth

January 17, 2008 3:34 PM | Link to this

Blow Me Can you really have sex with someone continuously and not feel a bond? Yes, men can. Think marriage. LOL

Do you believe in Soul ties? Yes

Do you think that women can COMPLETELY take the emotion out of Sex ? Hell no

And Lastly, Do you think that MEN get just as emotional? Hell no.

LMAO @ Hoodwinked. I hope thats a joke.

By Tazzee

January 17, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

I have to admit I am a crybaby. I wrote this a while back and it still holds true today.

Give me a good reason to cry and that’s all she wrote. Blow Me I lost it during that scene too because I knew that wasn’t her acting. When they were interviewed on Oprah they mentioned how she was going through her divorce at that time and how she was just expressing herself and Tyler let the camera’s just roll.

I cried at the end of I am Legend bawled at the end of The Great Debaters - I even lost it watching the Girlfriends episode when Maya finally confronted her feelings about losing her baby. I cry while watching The Biggest Loser…I could go on and on, but I am a major cryer. I guess that’s why I have no problem with men crying.

On TO with his sexy lips - I think one of the reason he got emotional was because he contributed to some of the criticism of that relationship earlier and was remorseful for his part in it. He said in his interview on NFLN that he paid for their trip to Mexico to apologize for that flack and so I think that lended to his crying. Of course, the loss had him emotional - he had those dark shades on when he stepped up to the podium, so I’m sure he was crying in the locker room - and that question prolly took him there.

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 3:37 PM | Link to this

Aw pisces, you’re such a sweetheart! Thanks for the compliment. :-)

By Hoodwinked

January 17, 2008 3:38 PM | Link to this

I tried oral, but i want to experience having one via intercourse…I have grown to loveeee oral

By JustMe

January 17, 2008 3:38 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon Everyone

I have very weak tear ducts. I cry at most movies. I even think I shed a tear during I Am Legend.

By Tazzee

January 17, 2008 3:41 PM | Link to this

the first ‘movie’ I recall crying about was a ‘Benji’ movie on tv. Benji had a girlfriend dog and the bad men were abusing her. Benji was running through the city to save her and was having flashbacks of the bad men throwing his girlfriend against a wall..or something like that. I was around 7 or 8 at the time and I just cried like a baby.

By melo

January 17, 2008 3:41 PM | Link to this

women can COMPLETELY take the emotion out of Sex? ladies of the nite,yes,normal women..no. men can be emotional or not,depends on why they doing it.If for juct emotional release,no emotion,just bang and spout..and move on. Hoodwinked I have not had an ogasm via interourse since 21. I only had one, coz nobody,who loves,u has banged u.When u meet somebody who does, they will take time to take u there.

By CRYBABY

January 17, 2008 3:41 PM | Link to this

I will cry when I get my first G-SPOT orgasm!! I’ll cry like a baby then!!

By Hoodwinked

January 17, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

I feel cheated…

By The Truth

January 17, 2008 3:44 PM | Link to this

WD Beaches was a good movie. I refuse to say anything more on grounds it would incriminate me. LOL

By JustMe

January 17, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs

I don’t know how they even called yesterday a storm.

A snow day in Detroit meant we got 8+ inches of snow. It’s icy most days during the winter there and we kept it moving just the same.

I told a co-worker how my T-Bird SC did a 360 on black ice on my way to work one morning in Detroit, she asked what I did. I laughed and told her I turned the steering wheel the opposite direction from the 360, downshifted to 2nd and whipped up in a parking lot, backed out and kept going……. She said she would have been calling Gabriel, Michael and every other Angel she could think of…… LOLOLOLOL

By Tazzee

January 17, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

tweety if I know I love someone, I’m telling them. No one I love is going to their grave not knowing I love them. Life is too short for the ‘I love you if you love me’ mentality - if you really love dude, then go on and tell him. Because if you really love him, whether he loves you back won’t matter.

By melo

January 17, 2008 3:46 PM | Link to this

Hoodwinked try oral. works every time u on him? Beautiful….??

By Beautiful

January 17, 2008 3:47 PM | Link to this

ARed when i love, i love hard. everything i do in life is for my family. i’m very selfless. if i walked into a mall, i will probably walk out with something for him and the boys instead of treating myself. keeping your mate happy is important. i truly believe that. when you love a man, you’ll find out that everything you do he’s involved somehow.

By SexyLeggs

January 17, 2008 3:48 PM | Link to this

Hoodwinked is baiting you guys!

By Wise Diva

January 17, 2008 3:48 PM | Link to this

Blow, I am going to thump you, those are great future topics for the blog, LOL

You guys can send me some ideas, a sister’s reserve is drying up: wise.diva@gmail.com

Let me know what you would like to see discussed in the next couple of weeks.

I will give full credit to your topic idea :)

By JustMe

January 17, 2008 3:50 PM | Link to this

Tazee T.O. also said that it bothered him so much because he has been criticized alot himself and he knows how it feels.

I thought his tears were real….. that was a loss no one really expected.

T>O. has also got the sexy arms…… I remember watching him in an Eagles gane and he was wearing a long sleeve green spandex shirt and I could see the curves of his muscles through that clingy-thingy……

By Jewel

January 17, 2008 3:52 PM | Link to this

I cried during The Lion King when Mufasa died…

By AmazonRed

January 17, 2008 3:52 PM | Link to this

WiseDiva - Good one. Beaches did it for me too. I guess I’m toast whenever a kid loses his mom. Y’all will need to admit me somewhere when it’s time for my mother to pass on. :-(

By tweety

January 17, 2008 3:54 PM | Link to this

@ Beautiful tweety the best thing to do, my .02, is to show him that you love him. giving him a massage,….I actually do some of those things now….This is new love for me & Im excited…

By tweety

January 17, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

@ Beautiful tweety the best thing to do, my .02, is to show him that you love him. giving him a massage,….I actually do some of those things now….This is new love for me & Im excited…

By Rell

January 17, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

Blow Me Can you really have sex with someone continuously and not feel a bond? Yes, men can. Think marriage. LOL

^^^^TRUE!!!!!

By Demi

January 17, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli actually he did on his own…he had just turned 2…shock the hell out of every one present…His mom was a bit p!ss

‘I can’t get that little igga to say Mommie for shyt’

And throw me and li’man out of her place.

Too funny

By Wise Diva

January 17, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

alright, you freaky people, enough of that naughty talk. Can it. Some of us are single for REAL! We are not trying to hear/read about O’s today!

By Tazzee

January 17, 2008 4:02 PM | Link to this

Beautiful Please don’t take offense to this, but have you ever considered that your most recent heart issues may be due to the fact that you don’t love yourself enough? Perhaps because you give so much love to others and not enough to yourself - you expect those you love to love you just as hard, when in reality if you loved yourself more - you would be fulfilled.

The bible says that we are to love our neighbors as we love ourselves. It took a while for me to fully comprehend that commandment - I really can’t love anyone else until I know how to properly love myself.

I don’t know your full story - but reading your posts over time, I felt compelled to share that with you.

By SexyLeggs

January 17, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

JustMe, that’s just it…you keep it going. Great story. My last snow storm back home was when I worked on Wall Street. The snow came up to my knees. Everything was covered except my eyes. You fall, get back up, your car skids, you exhale/inhale get it back on the road in the right dirction and keep it moving. Really, did we have any other choice but to keep it moving. It was a great lesson in survival skills.

My daughter comes in the living room last night saying her friends are texting her that school is closed tomorrow. Had to remind of the snow back home and these flakes that are falling. Nothing will stick. She pouted and went back upstairs.

Beaches is an excellent movie!

By Blow Me

January 17, 2008 4:06 PM | Link to this

Truth, Rell, SJ

You guys are all wrong! I think so..You guys play like you are not emotional but you guys are!

WD OOPS sorry! When I think of something I will email over first.

By Staceye

January 17, 2008 4:07 PM | Link to this

Blow Me Can you really have sex with someone continuously and not feel a bond I think I am at the point now.

Hoodwinked I know the feeling!

Just Me you so crazy! But I feel you!

Jewel you do realize it was a cartoon right? LOL

By Wise Diva

January 17, 2008 4:11 PM | Link to this

LOL @ The Truth, aww, were you watching alone? I was in the theater and I know people thought I was having a breakdown, LOL

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 4:12 PM | Link to this

Movies that make me tear up or cry:

By Demi

January 17, 2008 4:14 PM | Link to this

As u know…some men cant handle good pssy and catch feeling and try to lock it down like they got papers on it…ownership..

SJ dude, do you know how graceful I am for my second for dishing it out real good and then dropping me hard two weeks later, LOL

Unless there is some great bonding before hand, good pssy ain’t gonna keep me

Dayum, I’ve just answer my own question: Why I am I no longer in the mood to slay ransom women?

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 4:15 PM | Link to this

JustMe & Staceye Mufasa had me too…also “Finding Nemo”, only the first part i promise!…tearin’ up…but no one ever knew!

By Beautiful

January 17, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

Tazzee i drive my dream car, i bought myself a house, there’s nothing i’m wanting right now. i do love and take care of myself.

thanks for the concern.

By Wow

January 17, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

Didn’t we talk about this last week? Can one have sex with out the emotional part no not for long….. As far as my man crying…..Go ahead as long as you’re not wetting the pillow at night over me taking the last soda then we are good. I had a guy that was suppose to be the hardest dude on the block tear up (after about two years of dating) and to tell you the truth it was kind of a turn on to see him finally break just a little…..

By Wise Diva

January 17, 2008 4:20 PM | Link to this

it’s ok Blow, I was half-kidding, (do send me ideas if you want), but some of my ideas for entries come from the comments anyway, LOL. So thanks. :)

By Tazzee

January 17, 2008 4:22 PM | Link to this

having a break down in the theater… The first time I thought someone was doing that was when I saw Hotel Rwanda ;-)

By SeanJohnson3000

January 17, 2008 4:22 PM | Link to this

Just finished watching Episode 3 of the wire…How Chris and Snoop did Butchy..Omar’s blind partner was fcked up….Omar cried when he found out..

@Blow…dont try to make us emotional just because YOUR emotions are hot wired to your susan…

@Stacye…thought u was celibate….the bullet with the energizer bunny batteries must be a beast..

By Demi

January 17, 2008 4:23 PM | Link to this

JustMe Ish…3 or 4 years back, when it snowed and suck to the ground…Me and the crew were on 285 hitting some mean 360…the roads were close for the most part

Young and Dumb, LOL

By melo

January 17, 2008 4:25 PM | Link to this

Staceye,I think I am at the point now kinda confused,but then,she could be talking’bout sex with her rabbit.

By The Truth

January 17, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

WD I was watching with my ex wife and had fallen asleep and woke up when she started crying. I was like wtf???? So I restarted the movie and…I gotta go. I can’t talk about this. LOL

Blow Me it seems your not sold on mans ability to “not feel”. Just accept there’s a difference and watch where you place your heart.

If the ladies of blogsville were to sell puddy how much could they ask for, reasonably? LOL

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 4:27 PM | Link to this

Tazzee I ready your post and it has some good points. I mention this earlier but i do know crying IS very theraputic for us. let it out…

By Tazzee

January 17, 2008 4:28 PM | Link to this

SJ3000 everyone has not seen that episode yet…I don’t even know if what you posted was a spoiler because I stopped reading your post after you said you just finished watching it.

By Poppa Grande

January 17, 2008 4:29 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon all,

Showing emotion for a football game was a bit extreme IMHO. It wasn’t like it was the Super Bowl!!

I can count on one hand the number of times that I have publicly cried and they were all funerals. My My aunt and my grandparents.

As I grew up playing football, I must admit that I was conditioned against crying and showing a lot of emotion. Simple sayings like “Walk it off” or “Man Up” conditioned me to not show emotion in public like that.

On top of that, I’ve only seen my dad cry a couple of times as well. It just not something that I see as acceptable.

By IslandGirl

January 17, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

Hey blogsville….just peeping in to say hello.

On Topic….I respect a man that can express his feelings (crying) and not feel less of a man afterwards. I must admit the first time I had the experience it was humbling. Now whenever a brother starts spilling tears, I’m less moved ….depending on the circumstance….sorry. I hope everyone has a productive MLK Holiday.

IG

By The Truth

January 17, 2008 4:31 PM | Link to this

Beautiful from reading your posts I think you have self love and thats why your able to give to others. There are those who give because they have low self esteem but I don’t get that from you. just my .02 Tazz

Keep giving that love up booboo. LOL

By Blow Me

January 17, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

Sj3000 My love betty is not hot wired to my emotions. But intercourse is a emotional act…..so emotional you can create a life out of it. But yet and still you can not and will not get emotional of the person you are having sex with on a continous basis?!?! Come on now! Why are you troubling yourself to even have sex with her then???

By Demi

January 17, 2008 4:32 PM | Link to this

Can you really have sex with someone continuously and not feel a bond? Yes, but if we get alone well outside of the bedroom scene, no

Do you believe in Soul ties? Yes I do…

Do you think that women can COMPLETELY take the emotion out of Sex ? Yes, If the sex is bad or selling her body…and a porn actress.

Do you think that MEN get just as emotional? Yeah, but I am not gay.

By Wow

January 17, 2008 4:33 PM | Link to this

SeanJohnson3000- @Blow…don’t try to make us emotional just because YOUR emotions are hot wired to your susan…men kill me acting as if they have NO emotional attachment to the “susan” that they are falling in love with and laying in nightly! And to tell you the truth MOST men fall in love with “susan” way faster then women fall in love with ”jimmy”!

By Hoodwinked

January 17, 2008 4:33 PM | Link to this

do I need to do kegal exercises

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 17, 2008 4:36 PM | Link to this

SJ Dont tell anything else about The Wire!!! I need to have something to look forward to on Sunday evenings!! :0) I love that show…..

By Demi

January 17, 2008 4:36 PM | Link to this

I cried during The Lion King when Mufasa died…

But that is a cartoon…How in the hell do you cried over a cartoon?

When Bambi’s mom was killed, we were eating deer meat proudly and calling the meat Bambi.

I was a bad little OverTown kid, LOL

By melo

January 17, 2008 4:36 PM | Link to this

i will probably walk out with something for him and the boys instead of treating myself i know what u talking about and thats real.U luv good Beautiful..nothing wrong with u at all.

By DreamsMaterialize

January 17, 2008 4:37 PM | Link to this

Hey have any of you ever had a Storm Party? You know when you’re having one of those storms you KNOW will have you out of work/school the next day. Invite people over, drink, and party it up. Ahhhhh those were the best.

By pisces08

January 17, 2008 4:39 PM | Link to this

@Tazzee. From her posts, I think Beautiful has a plethora of love for herself which is probably why she can give so much. …my .02

By IslandGirl

January 17, 2008 4:41 PM | Link to this

Demi…I agree with you. Just like men, women can take the emotions out of sex. Although it is not natural for most women to do so.

By QC

January 17, 2008 4:44 PM | Link to this

HAVE A GREAT EVENING BLOGGERS

By The Truth

January 17, 2008 4:44 PM | Link to this

Hood you need a that puddy tightening surgery or marry Larry Holmes. LOL

Wow thats not true. Most men can get some bomb cooty and still think the chicks a troll. Most women fall in love before they ever hit the sack, or at least think they are.

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl…hello to you.

By Staceye

January 17, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

SJ I am..but about to step in to a stringless sex relationship. LOL

By Demi

January 17, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

But yet and still you can not and will not get emotional of the person you are having sex with on a continuous basis?!?! Come on now! Why are you troubling yourself to even have sex with her then???

Well…my soldiers needed relief.

That is a good excuse as any.

By Wise Diva

January 17, 2008 4:48 PM | Link to this

Demi, what are you talking about, I love animated films, LOL they come to life trying not to sound like a 7 yr old

seriously Hoodwinked, go find an expert to talk over your lady parts with, honey I don’t want to hear/read about that.

By Tazzee

January 17, 2008 4:48 PM | Link to this

I stand corrected…

Jewel (good to read you) there is nothing wrong with crying over an animated feature film (makes it sound better than saying a cartoon)

By SeanJohnson3000

January 17, 2008 4:49 PM | Link to this

@ Blow@WoW…listen carefully….depending on the level of frienship we have….ALL the emotions and feelings i have you….IS released when i climax…ALL over that tatoo on the small of your back ..unless we shared feelings and emotions before the sex act….so what i am saying is….we have to have a mental emotional bond first….and the sex act can only strenghten it…thats the difference in us spooning in the afterglow…and me cutting on espn to see who is winning the game.

By SexyLeggs

January 17, 2008 4:49 PM | Link to this

Truth, interesting question. I have always been amazed how they sell it for $20 or even $15 w/a bj going for $10. I may not have the prices right, but it’s way way cheap. That amazes me!

By Demi

January 17, 2008 4:51 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl hey sis…Long time no read.

Maybe it’s just me, but sex is a whole lot better when she and I emotions are on the same page.

By Blow Me

January 17, 2008 4:51 PM | Link to this

Truth I don’t think all women fall in love with guys….we have feelings for them..But don’t get the two confused.

Demi So true…If the sex is horrible..yeah the emotions will definitely be out of it!

By Cemeeli

January 17, 2008 4:51 PM | Link to this

Dreams…i’ve neverbeen to a Storm Party? But i have got caught at the wrong place at the wrong time and had to stay put, b/c of the bad ice on the roads. Turned out to be a good thing i was there….3days long…!

Does anyone know if Anthony Hamilton is making a new CD? ….im wearing out Southern Thing.

By Tazzee

January 17, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

DreamsMaterialize I remember having a Storm Party during one of ATL’s infamous ice storms. My best friend and I stayed in the same cul de sac and another friend stayed in our community. None of us were really into cooking, so it was fun gathering all the food from all our houses to make a decent meal. We had a ball - I think we sang karaoke for a good 3-4 hours straight.

By Wise Diva

January 17, 2008 4:52 PM | Link to this

did he just say all over that tatoo on your back? Sean, I am done with you for today, and yeah I know its almost 5, but still!! sigh LOL

By Demi

January 17, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

Truth/pisces08 I agree with the both of you on B…Just do your thang Ma

By Demi

January 17, 2008 4:57 PM | Link to this

Wise Diva I love me some Hentai to, I aint crying over the Dayum thing, LOL

I would never dream of you crying over cartoons, cute

By SexyLeggs

January 17, 2008 4:58 PM | Link to this

Staceye are your really? Answer this tomorrow.

Good night everyone! Give someone a kiss on the forehead this evening.

By Demi

January 17, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

Sexy Only crack heads sell that cheap!!

By Poppa Grande

January 17, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

Also, my parents taught me to not cry.

They would say “Stop that crying or I’ll give you something to cry about!!”

Imitation of Life is the only movie that has ever made me tear up. Mahaila Jackson’s song seems to touch me everytime.

Dreams The only storm party that I’ve very had is a hurricane party when I lived down in Miami. We went out to the beach during the eye of the storm. It was dumb, but we did it.

By Wow

January 17, 2008 5:03 PM | Link to this

SeanJohnson3000- listen carefully….depending on the level of frienship we have….ALL the emotions and feelings i have you….IS released when i climax…ALL over that tatoo on the small of your back 1st of all I wouldn’t have has sex with you if there wasn’t something deeper then just us being cool! So I don’t understand how one can have sex for years and not have feelings!

By SexyLeggs

January 17, 2008 5:03 PM | Link to this

I heard them talking about it on the radio the other day, but didn’t catch a release date

By Wise Diva

January 17, 2008 5:10 PM | Link to this

wow, really great comments today, and um, yall are a Ca-RAZY bunch, man, LOL

Good Night everyone