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Wednesday, January 16, 2008
Intentions Detective
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if single people stated their intentions upfront? Imagine what would happen if a woman told a guy: You are very attractive, you seem like you would be a kind husband and wonderful father. I intend to woo you with my looks, wit and charm, and make you want to have a relationship with me! We will marry in 2.5 years and I intend to make our lives blissful!
On second thought, that would probably creep a guy out.
A lot of frustration in dating can come from that uncertainty that lingers way too long. You enjoy each other’s company and things are going great, but you don’t know if the other person is being fully honest. We have all experienced the vagueness, the double talk, the jedi mind tricks before. It’s not always fun. I have come to realize that time has a way of revealing everything I need to know, but some of us have a tough time waiting before we get caught up. I just wonder if there is a way to detect what a man’s intentions are? Is there a way that I could avoid wasting good lipstick on a guy who has no intentions of taking me seriously?
Recently, my friend Dyoung said that most men immediately categorize women into the “would sleep with” “would not sleep with” or [edit.note:] “want to sleep with” category. After that is determined, I suppose that all those stimulating conversations, witty comebacks, and flattery are all used to woo a woman. Do you think it’s up to the woman to pace the courting process from there? If a guy’s intentions are determined early on, what does the woman do/say to change his plan of action, or should she?
How do you detect a person’s intentions? Through their actions, words, a combination of both? What has worked for you to weed out the BS artists?
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