Misadventures in Atlanta

By Beautiful

January 15, 2008 8:23 AM | Link to this

Let’s keep the discussion as clean as possible, and please watch your language, everyone!

i gotta see this! lmao.

By Beautiful

January 15, 2008 8:28 AM | Link to this

Pisces08 u got mail!

By ImAPeach404

January 15, 2008 8:36 AM | Link to this

Eh… This type of information wouldn’t have bothered me. The title of this particular blog is You Do The Math - so lets!

You said ole boy was 32, right? And he’s been with 87 women (hopefully they were all women). Ok, lets say buddy started when he was 16. So, he’s been getting down for about 16 years, divide that by the number of women he’s been with and that = 5 women a year. Break it down even further and thats about 1 woman every 2 1/2 months….

Now does it sound so bad????

Not to me.

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 8:43 AM | Link to this

Good Luck on that Beautiful LMAO! It’s going to get dirty in here today.

Yes I would stop dealing with someone if they were very WHORISH…Being freaky is one thing….But if you are too freaked out and on the point of scary and nasty…I will past. Most guys will not and do not devulge that type of information at all.

Really it’s none of my business. I can not change or judge you off of your past. Cause hell I don’t want you to judge me off of mines!! Only thing that matters is the future. And no I do not share my magic number…It’s none of his business..

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 8:52 AM | Link to this

Exactly Imapeach It doesn’t. I find it strange that she stop talking to him..afterwards. WD The other men you dated did they divulge the MAGIC #? What if in you’re past relationships the number was the same? And more importantly how can you REALLY judge someone off of their past?Before they met you?!??? If we were to judge one another strictly off your past we would ALL be screwed! (No pun intended) lmao!

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 8:57 AM | Link to this

WD On second thoughts….scrolling back up. He put his own foot in his mouth. He should have been mature enough to know not to do that….As long as he has clean papers…I don’t think it should matter. At first I thought you meant his “”member size”” now…that is definitely not a turn off if that’s a high number!! lmao!!

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 9:02 AM | Link to this

Ladies, have you ever dumped a guy because you thought that he was a little out of your sexual league?

Yes! Years ago, as a college junior, I dated an aspiring preacher who bragged to me his magic number was 120 at 30. I ended the date right then and there. (Years later he was thrown off the pulpit for sleeping with women in the congregation *gas face *)

Do you think you could handle being with a guy who has had way more experience than you?

Yes and no. It depends on if they have a cavalier attitude about sex. If they racked up such a high number because sex “doesn’t mean anything” then we won’t have much in common.

Did you share yours with him? How did he react?

I’ll share my magic number with a guy I’m dating if he asks, because I’m not ashamed of my number and think it’s pretty low for being 30.

By ImAPeach404

January 15, 2008 9:02 AM | Link to this

Blow Me I don’t share mine either. If a guy asks I just say “Don’t ask questions you don’t really want to know the answer to” and then I change the subject.

On another note - What if you met a dude who was 32 and said he’d only been with 2 women. He’d probably get the gas-face then because i’m sitting here thinking of all the stuff I’d have to teach him and ad 31, I’m not trying to teach someone older than me anything. And not saying he actually is inexperienced because he has only been with 2 women, but thats what my first thought would be.

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

Peach - I’d much rather be with a guy who’s only been with 2 women than 200.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 15, 2008 9:12 AM | Link to this

Morn I’ve stopped countin long ago, partly due to the fact that I don’t think its high enough! LoL I never want to know her number though, whatever it is will be TOO High!!!

She says: 2

2?? 2!!!!???!! it must have been they way you was raised!!!

By DreamsMaterialize

January 15, 2008 9:15 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone

I agree that you shouldn’t judge a person by their past, but the truth is that past experiences can have lasting effects that impact future partners.

Since we’re on the topic of math, let’s dig a little deeper. The guy has had 87 partners. Let’s be on the very conservative side and say that each of the 87 women has had * 10 partners. That amounts to 870 partners total, assuming that they weren’t sleeping with the same people (which may not be a safe assumption). Now if at any time those women didn’t use protection with their 10 partners, then WD’s guy friend is directly linked to the 870 partners that his women have been with. The number seems alot higher now.

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 9:16 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed Guys don’t want to know the number even if you are 30…2 is too much for a man. He doesn’t want to think you have even had sex. He wants to pysch his mind to think he is the ONLY one. I think alot of men truly dont’ want to know the answer to this…and more importantly they don’t want it to be ASKED!

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 9:19 AM | Link to this

Good Morning 900k I was just speakin on the same thing. Funny you just said it! lmao! Gosh I know men so well! lol!

By Go Rell

January 15, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this

I will say this my number is would disqual me in a minute…it is well into the triple digits and climbing…lol. But what does the number of sexual partners say for a man with no kids or history of disease..versus the chick with mulitply baby daddies and a history of giving sex for love

By ImAPeach404

January 15, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this

Amazon be it 2 or 200, it only takes 1 person to give you something you can never get it rid of…

By pisces08

January 15, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this

Morning All, ARed and Beautiful specifically. Interesting topic, the history is important, maybe not the specific number. I dunno, I have to marinate on that…..

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 9:25 AM | Link to this

Blow Me - Not every guy is an immature neaderthal. Grown folks can handle grown discussions. So if he asks, then I’m going to give him the number. I can’t trip off his hang ups.

If you’re bold enough to ask, you’ll get an answer. As stated before, I have nothing to be ashamed of.

But you’re right, as in most guys don’t ask, because they don’t want the spotlight on them either. But there have been a couple who did ask, I told, him and all was good with the world.

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

DreamsMaterialize That’s very true. But it’s reality. Unless you plan on having sex with ONLY 1 person for the rest of your life. And in today’s times that’s highly unlikely. Those are now the parameters we are dealing with. And we all know men are the MAIN ones who can not be with 1 woman for the rest of their lives. Women have a better chance at it, we have more self control when it comes to sex. JMO

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 15, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

What up Blow! yeah I do everything in my power to make sure this Never comes up in convo. I truly do not want to know, avoid this info at all cost is my word to the wise out there.

By Raqi

January 15, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

But why don’t we look at it like this…I guy that has 5 different women every year (a different woman every other month) means that he has NO relationship skills. He doesn’t have what it takes to keep a woman. The possibilities could be these women bore easy because he has nothing to offer. Or his sexual splendor is not all he deems it to be because these women are not sticking around to long afterwards. Or even if it is partly stellar it takes more than that to keep a woman who has half a brain. Like I said he has nothing in terms of a relationship to offer.

Now for someone that is looking to be in a relationship this guy doesn’t look to promising. As you all like to put it, “What does he bring to the table?” From where I am reading nothing. As the saying goes who wants someone that no one else wants.

Then again he could just be a man-ho.

By Wise Diva

January 15, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

Imapeach, that’s not the age he first became active. He is one of those former shy guy geeks, who just developed his manly swagger later than a lot of guys.

For the record, I agree, it is unfair to judge someone based solely on their past. This is why I think you really should let people get to know you a lot better before full disclosure kicks in.

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

Peach - Duh @ your 9:21.

Morning to you too, pisces08

By melo

January 15, 2008 9:33 AM | Link to this

I have never shared that info with somebody im dating.If i did, it would mean i dont take the woman seriously, but as a knock off.I see myself discussing that with “a friend with benefits’ because the nature of the relationship would not be serious, other that sexual favors.In a serious dating relationship some things are better handled in a sublte and sensitive manner and the most responsible and sensitive way, in my view is to go get tested, together.How many partners each has floored or rode has no effect on the quality of ur relationship together unless the other party has a major disease.Not quite…well, listen to me, at least to some extent, thats how i got my good moves that wify likes!(practicing on a boat load of females) Good morning yaall. This week my name changes to Melo-paulk.I am accepting sxcual favors from blog females in lieu of tithes.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 15, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

Morning Everbody!!

Interesting topic I agree with BlowMe, I cannot judge a person off their past. I personally dont want to know the number of partners you’ve had, I dont feel its any of my business. But I do agree that guys cannot handle knowing that kind of information. They like to think they are your one and only, even though they know they probably arent. They just dont want it confirmed.

By Willie Dynamite

January 15, 2008 9:36 AM | Link to this

Morning All,

This is going to be some interesting banter today.

I can’t speak for all the men only myself. I will not discuss my magic#. I will not ask for her magic#. The only # I’m interested in is 0 as in diseases. Other than that we good. I don’t want a hohoho and neither do I want a virgin. As you get older most men don’t want the responsibility of being someones first (I may be wrong).I just want to know that you know what you are doing.

By Raqi

January 15, 2008 9:40 AM | Link to this

Why do people still believe that one must have a slue of partners in order to acquire worthy experience? Experimenting provides experience and you can get that with just one person.

By Alvin

January 15, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this

AR I bet my number are lower than yours…I am at 10 LOL

900 LOL, I don’t think you want to date a pastor’s daughter…Hold Up!!! Wise, ain’t you one?

Where you at??!! number wise

Imma kept it real…I want my girl to have at lease have 20 - 30 partner in her past. That way she isn’t too surpise at some of the crazy positions I am placing her legs.

Alvin and future SO bout to get freaky

Alvin: Alright bay, I want you to put one leg behind your head and keep the other leg straight.

SO: WTH are you talking about??!!

Alvin: It’s called the North-South Position, now just do what I say. You’ll be all right!!

SO is now punching Alvin, East-West style

By BINFORD2K8

January 15, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this

Mornin folks

I’ve had a few women in recent times ask me how many people I have been with, and my answer is always the same: NONE! AND IT AIN’T NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS

What I have done prior is no one’s business, and frankly, I’ve never seen it do ANY good. I don’t want to know how many people a girl I am dating has been with.

If someone I was with was concerned in a health way, we can BOTH go to the clinic and get tested at the same time. That way we know at the same point, all is well.

Those who have to brag about money and sexual prowess usually have neither.

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 9:44 AM | Link to this

Okay who else saw the Dallas/T.O. press conference? Whoa!

Good morning people!

Breakfast today: Ginseng, honey, yogurt and blueberry smoothies. maybe these will calm the wild spirits that might come out today!

…number# ???

By ImAPeach404

January 15, 2008 9:47 AM | Link to this

Raqi Yes, you could look at it like that, but there are 100 other things that you could take into account - most young people, especially guys, spend their earlier years playing the field and being foolish so… knock off 10 of those years. So now buddy is 26 and possibly ready for a relationship. We all know that doesn’t come easily so you dibble and dabble here and there until you find someone that you connect with.

It could be anything really - he may just pick the wrong women, he may move a lot with his job and not be able to maintain a long relationship, he may be shy, his mother may have been absent in his life and he doesn’t know how to really deal with women, he have been working on his masters and PhD all this time and decided not to devote himself to a relationship until he was finished, he may, he may, he may…. it could be any number of reasons. That’s why you get to know people for who they are and not who they were.

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

lmao@ Alvin gettin punched east/west style!!! lmaooooooooooo

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 9:53 AM | Link to this

Hmmm Alvin, I might take that bet. The problem is there is no way to prove that you or I are telling the truth. Which is why asking is played. Unless you hook em to a polygraph, you don’t know if they are telling the REAL number, if they count drunken weekends during spring break, if they count oral. LOL

By ImAPeach404

January 15, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

Wise, so he must have gone buckwild when he got older (or when he moved to Atlanta!).

Amazon Duh? Well, you stated that like there was something grand about only being with 2 people.

Anyway - I’m off to a workplace baby shower but I’ll be back. I have a lot to say on this topic here!

By melo

January 15, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

Why do people still believe that one must have a slue of partners in order to acquire worthy experience? Because some like me, got our experience that way.But ur approach works too and maybe the most moral one.But u know, as human beings, we like to get high with sin sometimes.And I aint mad at nobody for that!

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

BINFORD2K8 = Grown folks I co-sign…here have a refill on your Blueberry Heaven smoothie sweetie!

900K how about the practice was funny…the coaches were wo’ out! Usually they come correct they weren’t ready for the 8&9yo lastnight! It was a good one even still. LOl

By Go Rell

January 15, 2008 10:00 AM | Link to this

That’s why you get to know people for who they are and not who they were.

WORD!!!!

By Teresa

January 15, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

I would not mention my number of conquest, just creates unnecessary drama

By abc

January 15, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

Any guy who would talk about his supposed bedroom skills to a woman of interest is a total chump. What a loser! I would discount almost anything he’d have to say after that as BS, especially anything on that topic. Move his name into the ‘ditched’ column.

The intent behind the touch makes all the difference in how it affects you, no matter the supposed techniques employed. Forget about ‘technique’, that’s just plain stupid.

I don’t volunteer the ‘magic number’. I’m not that proud of it being rather high. What matters to me most is that she’s with me now, and I hope she feels the same. She hasn’t asked me for the number, and I haven’t asked her; it doesn’t matter.

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

Peach - No I did NOT state it like it was something grand about the number 2. It’s text on a screen, darling. I can’t determine how you will read into something. I simply stated my preference like you stated yours. The only difference is that I didn’t read any extra into your statement like you did into mine.

By SexyLeggs

January 15, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

Good morning, everyone!

I would not tell my number because the past is the past and it’s not his business. If I was sick, I would say something, but since I’m not = NOPE! He knows I’m not a virgin. I would want to be with an experienced man, yet I wouldn’t want to be w/someone that has a cavalier attitude and is constantly referring to his conquests. Nope!

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 15, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

Cee -practice was a lil off for us too, but I had to be tuff on em. Pushups for all airballs, doubles, travels… a few hated me afterward cuz I could tell it was one of those off-days. Other coaches didn’t show up, I had 4 playes missin… oh well

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

DasV/Sexyleggs when you come in here, please check in at the door? Cee has a different smoothie flavor for you.

By DasV

January 15, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

good morning good people

BinFord and for everyone else talking about going to get tested: QUESTION - are you celibate for 3mos before going to get tested, which is the incubation period for HIV showing up?? i mean, you could go today together but if she had sex with someone 3wks before meeting you, you two will not be a the ‘same point’.

By Staceye

January 15, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

Any guy boasting of he um…bedroom skills is less that juvenile. Talk is cheap….action pays the bills…so just do it. But I see no need to even go that route if you have never doen anything remotely resembling a bedroom romp!

Peach you are our resident mathmatician! But stop giving guys so much ammo to use in their sad little defense! LOL

Blow Me I agree with you….don’t ask mine and I won’t ask yours. Not that mine is a lot…but to keep the playing field even, that is the best bet!

ARED Good God…you met the Anti-Christ! LOL How dare he brag about bedding half the population and claims he wants to be a preacher…that is an oxymoron! I am glad you dumped him. He has his own wing in hell!

Dreams ummm..ewwww! But so true and so real!

By Willie Dynamite

January 15, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

Raqi I disagree with your 9:27. Not saying you are wrong because that’s your opinion. Most men in their younger days didn’t look for relationships only relations. The point that them being sexually active did not mean that they were incapable of having/keeping a relationship. it only meant that they were out for fun nothing more nothing less. To me it’s not that deep. A lot of men and women will tell you that until they actually figured it out (mid-late 20’s) that they were just out for fun. Also, Men usually take the brunt of this #’s game. For the most part if you are Male society says it’s ok to play the field. However if you are Female then you are automatically a hohoho. Men know this is BS, we can tell when you do the up and under that you’ve been around the block a few times and we don’t mind at all.

By Alvin

January 15, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli you so late, TO has been crying since Sunday, LOL

Men Lets keep it real. We really do not care how many men she’s been with…But let that puddy look like jello pudding…We’re leaving her a$$ right then and there!!

No questions asks

Raqi Naw, not all women are the same. Just because I was about to beat the last girl to sleep, doesn’t mean it will work with the next woman. Only experience can teach you that:

There I was moaning’n’goaning, sweating’n’huffing, and turning this way’n’that…

Sista girl looked at me and said,”Igga, WTF are you doing!! Get yo a$$ up off me!!!”

Me looking dumb founded replied,”But that’s how them white girls liked it!!”

Sista girl (now putting on clothes), ‘that doesn’t give you the right to hurt me!!’

LOL, I was so young’n’dumb

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

Yeah I think it’s fair to say..Everyone agrees!

Don’t ask and Don’t tell

By Raqi

January 15, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this

melo My statement has nothing to do with morals. I am just saying that experimenting with the one you are with can also bring about great experiences. You hear a lot of people say a person who has had many partners has much better experience. But that is not all together true. That person will have more sexual experiences but not necessarily quality experience.

By DasV

January 15, 2008 10:18 AM | Link to this

CEEli kate checkin in

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

900K …there is alot of that clumsy at this age. It’s undeveloped and it also gets the coach a lil frustrated…it will all come together….our practice was the most part one-hand lay ups. My mouth was…:-0!

By Go Rell

January 15, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

You know when ask i will tell her….i like to be upfront, let the lady know who she is dealing with..i never ask because women LIE….trust that…i am sure some of the women i have smutted out in the past/present are not telling there SO about our tryst….i run into them often and it is just hey long time no see…this is my SO/finance/boyfriend..etc…

and on the flip side it goes both ways i could be that guy…so i dont ask the women

By 41 and you wouldn't believe

January 15, 2008 10:23 AM | Link to this

Well, I have to agree with Raqi. I’m 41 and can count on one hand how many partners. I’m not too bad either if I must say so myself. Mind you, I spent the vast majority of my young years with my daughter’s father who was quite skilled. It seems class was in session EVERYDAY! I was taught and exposed to a lot. I’ve been in many tight situations throughout the years but literally giving it up? Uh uh…just the way I was raised. I’ve always felt like, although we as women have brains and skills and class and attitude and good conversation and great rapport, I truly only have one possession that no other man can get from another woman (and no disrespect because this rings true for all women) and that’s me…literally, which is what would be shared with what’s considered a significant other. I’ve done a lot of dating, mostly short-lived cause most brothas ain’t hanging around if you ain’t getting down like we do in this day and age but guess what? Because you bought dinner or lunch or we hung out abit does not constitute you to be a significant other so. I need substance and quality. I need umcomplicated and being on the same page (most of the time). I need an easy flow. The other thing, I cannot give up the goods without emotions. Just like I’m not going to waste the goods, I don’t waste emotions either so, they go hand in hand. When a brotha is deemed worthy one one, he naturally gets the other. And for truly smooth brothas a good woman is no more complicated than a simpleton. But yes, you can have few partners and be quite skilled. Make each session your best session. Quality over quantity any day.

By SexyLeggs

January 15, 2008 10:29 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli, I’m checking in.

Off-topic, but related to dating One of my suitors called last night to tell me he’s throwing in the towel. He said I was too distant and wouldn’t take the time to give him time to be around me. I laughed and said “this is coming from a man that couldn’t understand why I wouldn’t continue a visit with him in his bedroom.” That’s rich! Told him to enjoy life. I chuckled when I hung up the phone. Dang, I’m not even dating. My work is cut out for me (LOL).

By kinderbabe

January 15, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

good morning all. hope all is well in your world.:)

as far as the numbers game goes, i had a hilarious incident re: this about 6 years ago. i was dating a guy who wanted to have this convo w/me about how many people i’ve been with. like some have previously posted, i responded w/none of your business. well i thought after some playful arguing, the topic would get dropped. well, this igga wound up storming out of my house w/a super ‘tude b/c i wouldn’t tell him the amount of partners i’d had….lol. i can still see him storming out like a brat now…lmao. i thought that was so uncalled for. i agree w/whoever said that it’s best to know people for who they are vs. who they were.

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

Welcome 41, good post.

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

Kate/Shug ..order up!…here you go;* green tea, vanilla frozen yogurt, vanilla, protein, turbinado, and strawberries.* special made Tango Smoothie…we gonna need this one today.

By Oh yeah??!?

January 15, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

41 and you wouldn’t believe I wonder how many women he was with to learn all those tricks. Maybe you were with more PPL then you know. IF he had such a beastly sexually appetite…ain’t no tellin how he was gettin down behind your back! lmao! But OH YEAH!?!?

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 10:35 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs - I have mixed feelings about your situation. Mostly I say GOOD FOR YOU! You sure told him. But part of me thinks that if you don’t start preparing yourself now, the right one for you could get shot down before he gets a foot in the door. This guy was a “suitor” for a reason, might there be some truth to you not really giving him a fair shot? That bedroom story was a mess, but maybe he was trying to get some type of reaction out of you…

By Str8

January 15, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

lol.. a guy can’t win for having 2 or having 200… veddy funny! where do u draw the line?

personally, I wouldn’t volunteer that information neither would I ask her for her magic (why is it magic again) number!

But on a different note… if ur date asked you for ur magic number. should you give an honest answer, lie or skirt around it? coz pple do ask questions when they can’t handle the answers…

By Raqi

January 15, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

WillieDyn *”A lot of men and women will tell you that until they actually figured it out (mid-late 20’s) that they were just out for fun.”

Exactly. Before the age of…27…most don’t know what they want. I would say by that age most…not all…will began to seek out some type of relationship, therefore eliminating some of the 5 per year hits. If you are bowing out after two months of every encounter then there is something to be said. That’s if you are looking.

But you know we live in a world of differences. Whats good and fine for some is not for others.

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

Shug…suga…Mr. Meet me in the Bedroom just made room for Gray! Count it all Joy!

By Alvin

January 15, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

Grabbing rusty Spear

SexyLeggs you are my next conquest!!

Awwww…Ish, spear broke LOL

AR True that, only God knowS, lol

DasV well…She get’s point for getting tested, HEHEHEHEHEHE…hahaha

Staceye braggin is sooooo pointless in real life..thanks goodness for AJC’s Blog..No one believes you anyway.

By BINFORD2K8

January 15, 2008 10:43 AM | Link to this

DasV Your raise a good point. I wouldn’t mind waiting a couple of months to insure that when we are tested there will be an accurate result.

With sex, there many possible scenarios and a multitude of complications. That’s the risk one takes when they engage in that activity. What people should do is put the odds overwhelmingly in their favor.

By melo

January 15, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

melo My statement has nothing to do with morals Understand,that was just my own read.

By Go Rell

January 15, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

@sexyleggs…you did not lose a suitor, you lost a GIRLFRIEND….LMAO…that was very female of him to do that…if he has that much time on his hands he needs a hobby….smdh…..he did you a favor….that dont make them like they use to…..simps!!!!!…hate em…

By Raqi

January 15, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

You are right Alvin. There is no man out there that can hit it just right with every woman, no matter how much experience he has had.

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

Str8 - A guy can win with 2 or 200, they just have to have the right woman for either situation.

For me, the line is drawn at attitude towards sex. As stated before, it’s not necessarily the number that concerns me, it’s how you feel about the act. If it’s “just sex” that tells me I could be hearing that same line when I’m drawing up the divorce papers. LOL

By BigWords

January 15, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

2CPTG You lurking today?

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

Gray …up and under???….Sophia is lost. If explicit just say X.

James…i feel like your not appreciating your role. Shug can not be your conquest!

Mrs. Millie prepare your hip!

By Wow

January 15, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

It really doesnt matter because are people really going to tell the truth?

By Alvin

January 15, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

That person will have more sexual experiences but not necessarily quality experience.

WELL SAID MA!!! now firing gun in church like Ice Cube in First Sunday

SexyLeggs You cool, he was just trying to make you feel sorry and try to make it work. Just delete dude out of your mind.

Lame cats sho make my life easy

By Jay

January 15, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

The numbers game. Who keeps count anyway. I think people want to be looked at, as being the man. The more the better. As I have stated before, our past is just that. WHen you start to hold that against people, you’re looking for a way out. WHen the number is low, they want to know whats wrong with you. If it’s high, you’re a garden tool. go figure.

By DasV

January 15, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

oh my god! blog history has been made a blog brutha has agreed to wait for the puddy. yall write this down somewhere and keep it close…. you know we gonna cycle back to the reason for a 3mo rule (i dont cosign any other reason for such a rule then this)

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

DasV to answer 10:15: I believe that. Wow, but i didn’t even think of it like that.

@BigWords i got a feeling & i could be wrong….2C may come in w/his “random thoughts” today.

By Raqi

January 15, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

Binford Sex is very complicated emotionally. Easy to get into but sometimes hard to get out of. I didn’t understand when I was younger and my mom would say “Yyou don’t know what you are doing. You don’t know what you are getting into”. Ha. All I knew was I liked the way it felt. I had no idea of the emotional connections and bonds that would be formed from engaging in the act nor the confusion that I would feel as a result of a relationship.

By 41 and you wouldn't believe

January 15, 2008 11:03 AM | Link to this

@ OH YEAH…ignorance is bliss, a direct hit to your dumb post. I was speaking on MY experience and my experience alone. Naturally, he had to have been with various others to acquire such great skills. Whether prior or during the relationship is of no matter as I’m speaking on PAST EXPERIENCE and accountable for my actions. You’re probably right though about getting down behind my back because during youth most men (sorry brothas) do that. It’s apart of youth, experience and growing up. However I was a woman so much so, that whatever he did, if he did it, WAS NEVER FOUND OUT ABOUT. As I’m a sista of substance, trust honey, he knew if he was stepped out he had to be skilled enough to keep it under wraps. Just like I stated about a smooth brotha know it ain’t that hard getting with a good woman, that same good woman will be intuitive and smart without having to play Dick Tracey. Not that I knew everything but at some point it will come to you and without having to break a sweat. And since school is in session, I believe that’s half the battle on a faithful man. If he’s a dog, he’s a dog. If he can appreciate a good woman, he’ll cut back on the extras. Lastly, my daughter’s father knew the jewel he had then and knows the jewel I still am today because after all this time, I still can’t turn for him begging. Hope you learned something.

By Demi

January 15, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Rell Dude you tripin, don’t be hating on them simps…they help us real cats out

Didn’t you see our pics up in Grown Men magazine all the time, LOL

Miss Eye is it feeding time yet..she going to kill me..now making sucking sound, LOL

By DreamsMaterialize

January 15, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this

i never ask because women LIE…trust that…

Yeah I’ve seen this too. Like Chris Rock said, they don’t count the time they “f*cked Bobby Brown after the concert”. LOL

By BigWords

January 15, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli I hope so. ;)

By Alvin

January 15, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

DasV (while trying hard not to agree) Binford doesn’t count, LOL

Just messing with ya bruh!

41 Dayum…Gangsta headnod to you sista

By 41 and you wouldn't believe

January 15, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

@ OH YEAH. Before your next ignorant statement. I’ve been cheated on as well as the average woman. That’s a part of dating and life aw well. Tolerating versus not is what separate you from the rest. That’s how I know you don’t have to play Dick Tracey for that kind of his kind to be revealed. One more lesson: A good woman is never glutton for punishment. You cheat, it’s a wrap. But that’s not today’s post so I digress. Can’t stand for someone to infiltrate negativity unneccessarily.

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

Dreams …B Brown…eeewww!

By SexyLeggs

January 15, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

ARed, you’re right in regard to I have to prepare myself for the dating scene. Sorry, but he wasn’t trying to get to know me. After I left his house, the 2-3 converations we’ve had on the phone revolved around his skills in the bedroom and how much of a freak he was. Well, I just didn’t want him to freak me. I wasn’t feeling him that way. No harm no foul!

Alvin, you are a hot mess!

GoRell, he never even asked me out on a date, but I was to converse in his bedroom. I didn’t lose a damn thang!

By For Real (# Slayed: 3000 + 1 - 3000 = 1 WTF)

January 15, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

What up blog fam!!!

I’m with my dawg Alvin 100%

And sex is only complicated for women

For Real now trying to figure out how he can stick it into both holes and play with the CT.

By Staceye

January 15, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs is this the dude that you spoke of last week? Girl he is trying the old guilt trip…laugh at his pathetic butt and keep it moving!

Demi climb on up boo! LOL

By DasV

January 15, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

LOLROTF@alvin yous a hot mess!

By BINFORD2K8

January 15, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

Raqi

I would think I am a bit more sensitive male then most (until Truth knocked it out of me anyway), but even when a man whole-ly loves a woman - sex is STILL not as emotional for him. It is the inherent disparity between the two genders, most likely because a woman knows in her hard-wiring that she may get pregnant - therefore, the risk is much higher. And men just do not think in those terms - we are driven to spread the seed.

By JustMe

January 15, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Errrrybody

I’ma 404 I think like you do on that # of Partners/Years gettin busy/12 months!

As far as Magic numbers go……… BLOG ALERT/BLOG ALERT

MEET ME AT THE TRAP IT’S GOING DOWN THIS fRIDAY NIGHT!!!

It’s my sister’s B-day and her freinds want to Trap it up……. so meet me there or beat me there ;-)

disclaimer I doubt that my magic # will increase as a result of my trappin

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 15, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

For Real You are STOOPID!!!! LOL For Real now trying to figure out how he can stick it into both holes and play with the CT I almost spit water all over my computer!

By Alvin

January 15, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

not trying to sound like a hater but…

Dreams don’t forget flav…can you believe all them (insert disgrading term here) from the show said that never F/K or even kiss that dude.

Them lying (insert disgrading term here)!!!

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

Binford So you don’t think men EVER get emotional after sex??

I think men develop emotions once they have repeatedly have had sex with a consent partner.

SEX is an emotional act. I don’t know how and why the effect it’s gettin drowned out these days!

By SexyLeggs

January 15, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

Yeah Staceye, same dude. At my age, I’d like to think I can recognize “game” when it comes my way. No, not at all times, but the obvious Hell Yeah!

I went out Saturday and this dude stepped to me correctly w/out any sexual jokes, or smart a$$ innuendos.

By Wise Diva

January 15, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

Just because women (or men) connect physical intimacy with emotion, doesn’t necessarily mean they complicate it.

By Go Rell

January 15, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

did someone say Trap….lol…

By mqew (vacation begins at noon)

January 15, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

Mornin’ good people.

Is it lunchtime yet? Sista is hungry.
On topic - in all of our 12yrs, my SO has ever asked me some shyt like that. Never have and never will. WTH he care! If you’re kismet then.. who gives a flying phucc.

Ceemeli - girl you know if Bobby did a reality show today Flava flav style, wome would come out the woodworks.

By Willie Dynamite

January 15, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

Similac X (use ya imagination)

Shug I hereby forbid you to discuss that Lame Azz dude again. For a small fee you can refer him to the nearest RN for some Game, except me. I am allergic to his kind, I break out in hives when I’m around Simps.

By Raqi

January 15, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

So Binford exactly what is it that bond you men (pointing directly at you) emotionally to a woman?

By Got that?

January 15, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

Blow Me, please stand corrected. Sex is a purely physical act to which emotions are added by the individuals.

By BINFORD2K8

January 15, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

Blow Me

My statement was saying most men don’t get AS emotional as women or driven by emotion nearly as much in regards to sex. I didn’t say men were void of emotion and intelligence and were just humping machines (though I have a sneaking suspicion I may know a few).

Wise Emotion DOES complicate it an overwhelming majority of the time from the women side, IMO.

By SexyLeggs

January 15, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

WillieD, baby don’t worry about me discussing him anymore. I’ve invested absolutely nothing while trying to talk around his sexcapades. You’re allergic to his kind, so am I!

Another off-topic related to dating. I was driving home last night and this real nice slow jam came on. A phrase stuck in my mind: “…don’t want to take the time to reshape the mess another man made.” WOW. Do a lot of guys feel like this? Like Erica Bydau says, girl you have too much baggage and you better get rid of it (not those words but same meaning) before moving on to the next man.

By melo

January 15, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

Does it not take emotions to get aroused? Are u talking about long lasting emotions? Some women have temporary emotions too.Think prostitutes and those in “friends with benefits” contracts.

By Go Rell

January 15, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

“…don’t want to take the time to reshape the mess another man made.”

true!!!!!!!

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs - Which person, male or female, wants to clean up a mess someone else made. I don’t think anyone wants to volunteer to handle someone else’s baggage if they had a chance for that person to come to the table baggage free.

By Wise Diva

January 15, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

I don’t disagree, I just don’t think by definition emotion (in and of itself) means complicated, in terms of physical intimacy, that’s all. The expectations, behavior, communication all contribute to different complications, so to me, the emotion is not always the root cause of the complications that comes with sex.

By 2CPTG©

January 15, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

sup, Big Words, and Cemeelie….no random thoughts at the moment…..just chillin.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 15, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this

We really do not care how many men she’s been with… Alvin, dogg you may need to raise the bar a tad bit homie. They don’t always look like a straight ho3 but when you get clear understanding of who they really are and you stay around then you’re settin yaself up! you sound like homeboy : man, she aint LOOK sick!!?!

By Wow

January 15, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

TO ALL: I want to know where in the “sex for dummies” hand book does it state that sex is ONLY physical. If that is the case where did the term intimacy come from? You cane not separate the two unless you are a blow up doll…..and why would you want to have emotionless SEX! That sounds like a nightmare! COME ON!

By For Real (# Slayed: 3000 + 1 - 3000 = 1 WTF)

January 15, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

Blow You being irrational again.

I think men develop emotions once they have repeatedly have had sex with a consent partner.

We can put your theory to test. I have exactly 36 second I spare tonight.

Raqi I know you asked Binford but sex isn’t it. Men only bond to women emotionally if their he determines that their actions warrant such. After all you have had sex with another dude.

Wise Come on now, you just dismissed a guy bc you complicate the physical intimacy that hasn’t even happend yet. Now, is that rational?

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 12:09 PM | Link to this

Shug/Gray I’m with Erica…‘leave that ole bag at the check’. But also some of the men have just as much in thier “rolling bags” if not more!

Stac i know you about to put James down but make sure to strap him to the fannypack.

mqew Did i her vacation @ noon?

By SexyLeggs

January 15, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

ARed, I thought the phrase was interesting because most have baggage. To not want to know someone