Misadventures in Atlanta

By Beautiful

January 15, 2008 8:23 AM | Link to this

Let’s keep the discussion as clean as possible, and please watch your language, everyone!

i gotta see this! lmao.

By Beautiful

January 15, 2008 8:28 AM | Link to this

Pisces08 u got mail!

By ImAPeach404

January 15, 2008 8:36 AM | Link to this

Eh… This type of information wouldn’t have bothered me. The title of this particular blog is You Do The Math - so lets!

You said ole boy was 32, right? And he’s been with 87 women (hopefully they were all women). Ok, lets say buddy started when he was 16. So, he’s been getting down for about 16 years, divide that by the number of women he’s been with and that = 5 women a year. Break it down even further and thats about 1 woman every 2 1/2 months….

Now does it sound so bad????

Not to me.

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 8:43 AM | Link to this

Good Luck on that Beautiful LMAO! It’s going to get dirty in here today.

Yes I would stop dealing with someone if they were very WHORISH…Being freaky is one thing….But if you are too freaked out and on the point of scary and nasty…I will past. Most guys will not and do not devulge that type of information at all.

Really it’s none of my business. I can not change or judge you off of your past. Cause hell I don’t want you to judge me off of mines!! Only thing that matters is the future. And no I do not share my magic number…It’s none of his business..

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 8:52 AM | Link to this

Exactly Imapeach It doesn’t. I find it strange that she stop talking to him..afterwards. WD The other men you dated did they divulge the MAGIC #? What if in you’re past relationships the number was the same? And more importantly how can you REALLY judge someone off of their past?Before they met you?!??? If we were to judge one another strictly off your past we would ALL be screwed! (No pun intended) lmao!

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 8:57 AM | Link to this

WD On second thoughts….scrolling back up. He put his own foot in his mouth. He should have been mature enough to know not to do that….As long as he has clean papers…I don’t think it should matter. At first I thought you meant his “”member size”” now…that is definitely not a turn off if that’s a high number!! lmao!!

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 9:02 AM | Link to this

Ladies, have you ever dumped a guy because you thought that he was a little out of your sexual league?

Yes! Years ago, as a college junior, I dated an aspiring preacher who bragged to me his magic number was 120 at 30. I ended the date right then and there. (Years later he was thrown off the pulpit for sleeping with women in the congregation *gas face *)

Do you think you could handle being with a guy who has had way more experience than you?

Yes and no. It depends on if they have a cavalier attitude about sex. If they racked up such a high number because sex “doesn’t mean anything” then we won’t have much in common.

Did you share yours with him? How did he react?

I’ll share my magic number with a guy I’m dating if he asks, because I’m not ashamed of my number and think it’s pretty low for being 30.

By ImAPeach404

January 15, 2008 9:02 AM | Link to this

Blow Me I don’t share mine either. If a guy asks I just say “Don’t ask questions you don’t really want to know the answer to” and then I change the subject.

On another note - What if you met a dude who was 32 and said he’d only been with 2 women. He’d probably get the gas-face then because i’m sitting here thinking of all the stuff I’d have to teach him and ad 31, I’m not trying to teach someone older than me anything. And not saying he actually is inexperienced because he has only been with 2 women, but thats what my first thought would be.

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 9:09 AM | Link to this

Peach - I’d much rather be with a guy who’s only been with 2 women than 200.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 15, 2008 9:12 AM | Link to this

Morn I’ve stopped countin long ago, partly due to the fact that I don’t think its high enough! LoL I never want to know her number though, whatever it is will be TOO High!!!

She says: 2

2?? 2!!!!???!! it must have been they way you was raised!!!

By DreamsMaterialize

January 15, 2008 9:15 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone

I agree that you shouldn’t judge a person by their past, but the truth is that past experiences can have lasting effects that impact future partners.

Since we’re on the topic of math, let’s dig a little deeper. The guy has had 87 partners. Let’s be on the very conservative side and say that each of the 87 women has had * 10 partners. That amounts to 870 partners total, assuming that they weren’t sleeping with the same people (which may not be a safe assumption). Now if at any time those women didn’t use protection with their 10 partners, then WD’s guy friend is directly linked to the 870 partners that his women have been with. The number seems alot higher now.

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 9:16 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed Guys don’t want to know the number even if you are 30…2 is too much for a man. He doesn’t want to think you have even had sex. He wants to pysch his mind to think he is the ONLY one. I think alot of men truly dont’ want to know the answer to this…and more importantly they don’t want it to be ASKED!

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 9:19 AM | Link to this

Good Morning 900k I was just speakin on the same thing. Funny you just said it! lmao! Gosh I know men so well! lol!

By Go Rell

January 15, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this

I will say this my number is would disqual me in a minute…it is well into the triple digits and climbing…lol. But what does the number of sexual partners say for a man with no kids or history of disease..versus the chick with mulitply baby daddies and a history of giving sex for love

By ImAPeach404

January 15, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this

Amazon be it 2 or 200, it only takes 1 person to give you something you can never get it rid of…

By pisces08

January 15, 2008 9:21 AM | Link to this

Morning All, ARed and Beautiful specifically. Interesting topic, the history is important, maybe not the specific number. I dunno, I have to marinate on that…..

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 9:25 AM | Link to this

Blow Me - Not every guy is an immature neaderthal. Grown folks can handle grown discussions. So if he asks, then I’m going to give him the number. I can’t trip off his hang ups.

If you’re bold enough to ask, you’ll get an answer. As stated before, I have nothing to be ashamed of.

But you’re right, as in most guys don’t ask, because they don’t want the spotlight on them either. But there have been a couple who did ask, I told, him and all was good with the world.

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

DreamsMaterialize That’s very true. But it’s reality. Unless you plan on having sex with ONLY 1 person for the rest of your life. And in today’s times that’s highly unlikely. Those are now the parameters we are dealing with. And we all know men are the MAIN ones who can not be with 1 woman for the rest of their lives. Women have a better chance at it, we have more self control when it comes to sex. JMO

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 15, 2008 9:26 AM | Link to this

What up Blow! yeah I do everything in my power to make sure this Never comes up in convo. I truly do not want to know, avoid this info at all cost is my word to the wise out there.

By Raqi

January 15, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

But why don’t we look at it like this…I guy that has 5 different women every year (a different woman every other month) means that he has NO relationship skills. He doesn’t have what it takes to keep a woman. The possibilities could be these women bore easy because he has nothing to offer. Or his sexual splendor is not all he deems it to be because these women are not sticking around to long afterwards. Or even if it is partly stellar it takes more than that to keep a woman who has half a brain. Like I said he has nothing in terms of a relationship to offer.

Now for someone that is looking to be in a relationship this guy doesn’t look to promising. As you all like to put it, “What does he bring to the table?” From where I am reading nothing. As the saying goes who wants someone that no one else wants.

Then again he could just be a man-ho.

By Wise Diva

January 15, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

Imapeach, that’s not the age he first became active. He is one of those former shy guy geeks, who just developed his manly swagger later than a lot of guys.

For the record, I agree, it is unfair to judge someone based solely on their past. This is why I think you really should let people get to know you a lot better before full disclosure kicks in.

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

Peach - Duh @ your 9:21.

Morning to you too, pisces08

By melo

January 15, 2008 9:33 AM | Link to this

I have never shared that info with somebody im dating.If i did, it would mean i dont take the woman seriously, but as a knock off.I see myself discussing that with “a friend with benefits’ because the nature of the relationship would not be serious, other that sexual favors.In a serious dating relationship some things are better handled in a sublte and sensitive manner and the most responsible and sensitive way, in my view is to go get tested, together.How many partners each has floored or rode has no effect on the quality of ur relationship together unless the other party has a major disease.Not quite…well, listen to me, at least to some extent, thats how i got my good moves that wify likes!(practicing on a boat load of females) Good morning yaall. This week my name changes to Melo-paulk.I am accepting sxcual favors from blog females in lieu of tithes.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 15, 2008 9:34 AM | Link to this

Morning Everbody!!

Interesting topic I agree with BlowMe, I cannot judge a person off their past. I personally dont want to know the number of partners you’ve had, I dont feel its any of my business. But I do agree that guys cannot handle knowing that kind of information. They like to think they are your one and only, even though they know they probably arent. They just dont want it confirmed.

By Willie Dynamite

January 15, 2008 9:36 AM | Link to this

Morning All,

This is going to be some interesting banter today.

I can’t speak for all the men only myself. I will not discuss my magic#. I will not ask for her magic#. The only # I’m interested in is 0 as in diseases. Other than that we good. I don’t want a hohoho and neither do I want a virgin. As you get older most men don’t want the responsibility of being someones first (I may be wrong).I just want to know that you know what you are doing.

By Raqi

January 15, 2008 9:40 AM | Link to this

Why do people still believe that one must have a slue of partners in order to acquire worthy experience? Experimenting provides experience and you can get that with just one person.

By Alvin

January 15, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this

AR I bet my number are lower than yours…I am at 10 LOL

900 LOL, I don’t think you want to date a pastor’s daughter…Hold Up!!! Wise, ain’t you one?

Where you at??!! number wise

Imma kept it real…I want my girl to have at lease have 20 - 30 partner in her past. That way she isn’t too surpise at some of the crazy positions I am placing her legs.

Alvin and future SO bout to get freaky

Alvin: Alright bay, I want you to put one leg behind your head and keep the other leg straight.

SO: WTH are you talking about??!!

Alvin: It’s called the North-South Position, now just do what I say. You’ll be all right!!

SO is now punching Alvin, East-West style

By BINFORD2K8

January 15, 2008 9:41 AM | Link to this

Mornin folks

I’ve had a few women in recent times ask me how many people I have been with, and my answer is always the same: NONE! AND IT AIN’T NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS

What I have done prior is no one’s business, and frankly, I’ve never seen it do ANY good. I don’t want to know how many people a girl I am dating has been with.

If someone I was with was concerned in a health way, we can BOTH go to the clinic and get tested at the same time. That way we know at the same point, all is well.

Those who have to brag about money and sexual prowess usually have neither.

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 9:44 AM | Link to this

Okay who else saw the Dallas/T.O. press conference? Whoa!

Good morning people!

Breakfast today: Ginseng, honey, yogurt and blueberry smoothies. maybe these will calm the wild spirits that might come out today!

…number# ???

By ImAPeach404

January 15, 2008 9:47 AM | Link to this

Raqi Yes, you could look at it like that, but there are 100 other things that you could take into account - most young people, especially guys, spend their earlier years playing the field and being foolish so… knock off 10 of those years. So now buddy is 26 and possibly ready for a relationship. We all know that doesn’t come easily so you dibble and dabble here and there until you find someone that you connect with.

It could be anything really - he may just pick the wrong women, he may move a lot with his job and not be able to maintain a long relationship, he may be shy, his mother may have been absent in his life and he doesn’t know how to really deal with women, he have been working on his masters and PhD all this time and decided not to devote himself to a relationship until he was finished, he may, he may, he may…. it could be any number of reasons. That’s why you get to know people for who they are and not who they were.

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

lmao@ Alvin gettin punched east/west style!!! lmaooooooooooo

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 9:53 AM | Link to this

Hmmm Alvin, I might take that bet. The problem is there is no way to prove that you or I are telling the truth. Which is why asking is played. Unless you hook em to a polygraph, you don’t know if they are telling the REAL number, if they count drunken weekends during spring break, if they count oral. LOL

By ImAPeach404

January 15, 2008 9:54 AM | Link to this

Wise, so he must have gone buckwild when he got older (or when he moved to Atlanta!).

Amazon Duh? Well, you stated that like there was something grand about only being with 2 people.

Anyway - I’m off to a workplace baby shower but I’ll be back. I have a lot to say on this topic here!

By melo

January 15, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

Why do people still believe that one must have a slue of partners in order to acquire worthy experience? Because some like me, got our experience that way.But ur approach works too and maybe the most moral one.But u know, as human beings, we like to get high with sin sometimes.And I aint mad at nobody for that!

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

BINFORD2K8 = Grown folks I co-sign…here have a refill on your Blueberry Heaven smoothie sweetie!

900K how about the practice was funny…the coaches were wo’ out! Usually they come correct they weren’t ready for the 8&9yo lastnight! It was a good one even still. LOl

By Go Rell

January 15, 2008 10:00 AM | Link to this

That’s why you get to know people for who they are and not who they were.

WORD!!!!

By Teresa

January 15, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

I would not mention my number of conquest, just creates unnecessary drama

By abc

January 15, 2008 10:02 AM | Link to this

Any guy who would talk about his supposed bedroom skills to a woman of interest is a total chump. What a loser! I would discount almost anything he’d have to say after that as BS, especially anything on that topic. Move his name into the ‘ditched’ column.

The intent behind the touch makes all the difference in how it affects you, no matter the supposed techniques employed. Forget about ‘technique’, that’s just plain stupid.

I don’t volunteer the ‘magic number’. I’m not that proud of it being rather high. What matters to me most is that she’s with me now, and I hope she feels the same. She hasn’t asked me for the number, and I haven’t asked her; it doesn’t matter.

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 10:04 AM | Link to this

Peach - No I did NOT state it like it was something grand about the number 2. It’s text on a screen, darling. I can’t determine how you will read into something. I simply stated my preference like you stated yours. The only difference is that I didn’t read any extra into your statement like you did into mine.

By SexyLeggs

January 15, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

Good morning, everyone!

I would not tell my number because the past is the past and it’s not his business. If I was sick, I would say something, but since I’m not = NOPE! He knows I’m not a virgin. I would want to be with an experienced man, yet I wouldn’t want to be w/someone that has a cavalier attitude and is constantly referring to his conquests. Nope!

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 15, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

Cee -practice was a lil off for us too, but I had to be tuff on em. Pushups for all airballs, doubles, travels… a few hated me afterward cuz I could tell it was one of those off-days. Other coaches didn’t show up, I had 4 playes missin… oh well

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

DasV/Sexyleggs when you come in here, please check in at the door? Cee has a different smoothie flavor for you.

By DasV

January 15, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

good morning good people

BinFord and for everyone else talking about going to get tested: QUESTION - are you celibate for 3mos before going to get tested, which is the incubation period for HIV showing up?? i mean, you could go today together but if she had sex with someone 3wks before meeting you, you two will not be a the ‘same point’.

By Staceye

January 15, 2008 10:15 AM | Link to this

Any guy boasting of he um…bedroom skills is less that juvenile. Talk is cheap….action pays the bills…so just do it. But I see no need to even go that route if you have never doen anything remotely resembling a bedroom romp!

Peach you are our resident mathmatician! But stop giving guys so much ammo to use in their sad little defense! LOL

Blow Me I agree with you….don’t ask mine and I won’t ask yours. Not that mine is a lot…but to keep the playing field even, that is the best bet!

ARED Good God…you met the Anti-Christ! LOL How dare he brag about bedding half the population and claims he wants to be a preacher…that is an oxymoron! I am glad you dumped him. He has his own wing in hell!

Dreams ummm..ewwww! But so true and so real!

By Willie Dynamite

January 15, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

Raqi I disagree with your 9:27. Not saying you are wrong because that’s your opinion. Most men in their younger days didn’t look for relationships only relations. The point that them being sexually active did not mean that they were incapable of having/keeping a relationship. it only meant that they were out for fun nothing more nothing less. To me it’s not that deep. A lot of men and women will tell you that until they actually figured it out (mid-late 20’s) that they were just out for fun. Also, Men usually take the brunt of this #’s game. For the most part if you are Male society says it’s ok to play the field. However if you are Female then you are automatically a hohoho. Men know this is BS, we can tell when you do the up and under that you’ve been around the block a few times and we don’t mind at all.

By Alvin

January 15, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli you so late, TO has been crying since Sunday, LOL

Men Lets keep it real. We really do not care how many men she’s been with…But let that puddy look like jello pudding…We’re leaving her a$$ right then and there!!

No questions asks

Raqi Naw, not all women are the same. Just because I was about to beat the last girl to sleep, doesn’t mean it will work with the next woman. Only experience can teach you that:

There I was moaning’n’goaning, sweating’n’huffing, and turning this way’n’that…

Sista girl looked at me and said,”Igga, WTF are you doing!! Get yo a$$ up off me!!!”

Me looking dumb founded replied,”But that’s how them white girls liked it!!”

Sista girl (now putting on clothes), ‘that doesn’t give you the right to hurt me!!’

LOL, I was so young’n’dumb

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 10:16 AM | Link to this

Yeah I think it’s fair to say..Everyone agrees!

Don’t ask and Don’t tell

By Raqi

January 15, 2008 10:17 AM | Link to this

melo My statement has nothing to do with morals. I am just saying that experimenting with the one you are with can also bring about great experiences. You hear a lot of people say a person who has had many partners has much better experience. But that is not all together true. That person will have more sexual experiences but not necessarily quality experience.

By DasV

January 15, 2008 10:18 AM | Link to this

CEEli kate checkin in

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

900K …there is alot of that clumsy at this age. It’s undeveloped and it also gets the coach a lil frustrated…it will all come together….our practice was the most part one-hand lay ups. My mouth was…:-0!

By Go Rell

January 15, 2008 10:19 AM | Link to this

You know when ask i will tell her….i like to be upfront, let the lady know who she is dealing with..i never ask because women LIE….trust that…i am sure some of the women i have smutted out in the past/present are not telling there SO about our tryst….i run into them often and it is just hey long time no see…this is my SO/finance/boyfriend..etc…

and on the flip side it goes both ways i could be that guy…so i dont ask the women

By 41 and you wouldn't believe

January 15, 2008 10:23 AM | Link to this

Well, I have to agree with Raqi. I’m 41 and can count on one hand how many partners. I’m not too bad either if I must say so myself. Mind you, I spent the vast majority of my young years with my daughter’s father who was quite skilled. It seems class was in session EVERYDAY! I was taught and exposed to a lot. I’ve been in many tight situations throughout the years but literally giving it up? Uh uh…just the way I was raised. I’ve always felt like, although we as women have brains and skills and class and attitude and good conversation and great rapport, I truly only have one possession that no other man can get from another woman (and no disrespect because this rings true for all women) and that’s me…literally, which is what would be shared with what’s considered a significant other. I’ve done a lot of dating, mostly short-lived cause most brothas ain’t hanging around if you ain’t getting down like we do in this day and age but guess what? Because you bought dinner or lunch or we hung out abit does not constitute you to be a significant other so. I need substance and quality. I need umcomplicated and being on the same page (most of the time). I need an easy flow. The other thing, I cannot give up the goods without emotions. Just like I’m not going to waste the goods, I don’t waste emotions either so, they go hand in hand. When a brotha is deemed worthy one one, he naturally gets the other. And for truly smooth brothas a good woman is no more complicated than a simpleton. But yes, you can have few partners and be quite skilled. Make each session your best session. Quality over quantity any day.

By SexyLeggs

January 15, 2008 10:29 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli, I’m checking in.

Off-topic, but related to dating One of my suitors called last night to tell me he’s throwing in the towel. He said I was too distant and wouldn’t take the time to give him time to be around me. I laughed and said “this is coming from a man that couldn’t understand why I wouldn’t continue a visit with him in his bedroom.” That’s rich! Told him to enjoy life. I chuckled when I hung up the phone. Dang, I’m not even dating. My work is cut out for me (LOL).

By kinderbabe

January 15, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

good morning all. hope all is well in your world.:)

as far as the numbers game goes, i had a hilarious incident re: this about 6 years ago. i was dating a guy who wanted to have this convo w/me about how many people i’ve been with. like some have previously posted, i responded w/none of your business. well i thought after some playful arguing, the topic would get dropped. well, this igga wound up storming out of my house w/a super ‘tude b/c i wouldn’t tell him the amount of partners i’d had….lol. i can still see him storming out like a brat now…lmao. i thought that was so uncalled for. i agree w/whoever said that it’s best to know people for who they are vs. who they were.

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 10:30 AM | Link to this

Welcome 41, good post.

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 10:32 AM | Link to this

Kate/Shug ..order up!…here you go;* green tea, vanilla frozen yogurt, vanilla, protein, turbinado, and strawberries.* special made Tango Smoothie…we gonna need this one today.

By Oh yeah??!?

January 15, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

41 and you wouldn’t believe I wonder how many women he was with to learn all those tricks. Maybe you were with more PPL then you know. IF he had such a beastly sexually appetite…ain’t no tellin how he was gettin down behind your back! lmao! But OH YEAH!?!?

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 10:35 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs - I have mixed feelings about your situation. Mostly I say GOOD FOR YOU! You sure told him. But part of me thinks that if you don’t start preparing yourself now, the right one for you could get shot down before he gets a foot in the door. This guy was a “suitor” for a reason, might there be some truth to you not really giving him a fair shot? That bedroom story was a mess, but maybe he was trying to get some type of reaction out of you…

By Str8

January 15, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

lol.. a guy can’t win for having 2 or having 200… veddy funny! where do u draw the line?

personally, I wouldn’t volunteer that information neither would I ask her for her magic (why is it magic again) number!

But on a different note… if ur date asked you for ur magic number. should you give an honest answer, lie or skirt around it? coz pple do ask questions when they can’t handle the answers…

By Raqi

January 15, 2008 10:36 AM | Link to this

WillieDyn *”A lot of men and women will tell you that until they actually figured it out (mid-late 20’s) that they were just out for fun.”

Exactly. Before the age of…27…most don’t know what they want. I would say by that age most…not all…will began to seek out some type of relationship, therefore eliminating some of the 5 per year hits. If you are bowing out after two months of every encounter then there is something to be said. That’s if you are looking.

But you know we live in a world of differences. Whats good and fine for some is not for others.

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

Shug…suga…Mr. Meet me in the Bedroom just made room for Gray! Count it all Joy!

By Alvin

January 15, 2008 10:39 AM | Link to this

Grabbing rusty Spear

SexyLeggs you are my next conquest!!

Awwww…Ish, spear broke LOL

AR True that, only God knowS, lol

DasV well…She get’s point for getting tested, HEHEHEHEHEHE…hahaha

Staceye braggin is sooooo pointless in real life..thanks goodness for AJC’s Blog..No one believes you anyway.

By BINFORD2K8

January 15, 2008 10:43 AM | Link to this

DasV Your raise a good point. I wouldn’t mind waiting a couple of months to insure that when we are tested there will be an accurate result.

With sex, there many possible scenarios and a multitude of complications. That’s the risk one takes when they engage in that activity. What people should do is put the odds overwhelmingly in their favor.

By melo

January 15, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

melo My statement has nothing to do with morals Understand,that was just my own read.

By Go Rell

January 15, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

@sexyleggs…you did not lose a suitor, you lost a GIRLFRIEND….LMAO…that was very female of him to do that…if he has that much time on his hands he needs a hobby….smdh…..he did you a favor….that dont make them like they use to…..simps!!!!!…hate em…

By Raqi

January 15, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

You are right Alvin. There is no man out there that can hit it just right with every woman, no matter how much experience he has had.

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

Str8 - A guy can win with 2 or 200, they just have to have the right woman for either situation.

For me, the line is drawn at attitude towards sex. As stated before, it’s not necessarily the number that concerns me, it’s how you feel about the act. If it’s “just sex” that tells me I could be hearing that same line when I’m drawing up the divorce papers. LOL

By BigWords

January 15, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

2CPTG You lurking today?

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

Gray …up and under???….Sophia is lost. If explicit just say X.

James…i feel like your not appreciating your role. Shug can not be your conquest!

Mrs. Millie prepare your hip!

By Wow

January 15, 2008 10:51 AM | Link to this

It really doesnt matter because are people really going to tell the truth?

By Alvin

January 15, 2008 10:52 AM | Link to this

That person will have more sexual experiences but not necessarily quality experience.

WELL SAID MA!!! now firing gun in church like Ice Cube in First Sunday

SexyLeggs You cool, he was just trying to make you feel sorry and try to make it work. Just delete dude out of your mind.

Lame cats sho make my life easy

By Jay

January 15, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

The numbers game. Who keeps count anyway. I think people want to be looked at, as being the man. The more the better. As I have stated before, our past is just that. WHen you start to hold that against people, you’re looking for a way out. WHen the number is low, they want to know whats wrong with you. If it’s high, you’re a garden tool. go figure.

By DasV

January 15, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

oh my god! blog history has been made a blog brutha has agreed to wait for the puddy. yall write this down somewhere and keep it close…. you know we gonna cycle back to the reason for a 3mo rule (i dont cosign any other reason for such a rule then this)

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

DasV to answer 10:15: I believe that. Wow, but i didn’t even think of it like that.

@BigWords i got a feeling & i could be wrong….2C may come in w/his “random thoughts” today.

By Raqi

January 15, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

Binford Sex is very complicated emotionally. Easy to get into but sometimes hard to get out of. I didn’t understand when I was younger and my mom would say “Yyou don’t know what you are doing. You don’t know what you are getting into”. Ha. All I knew was I liked the way it felt. I had no idea of the emotional connections and bonds that would be formed from engaging in the act nor the confusion that I would feel as a result of a relationship.

By 41 and you wouldn't believe

January 15, 2008 11:03 AM | Link to this

@ OH YEAH…ignorance is bliss, a direct hit to your dumb post. I was speaking on MY experience and my experience alone. Naturally, he had to have been with various others to acquire such great skills. Whether prior or during the relationship is of no matter as I’m speaking on PAST EXPERIENCE and accountable for my actions. You’re probably right though about getting down behind my back because during youth most men (sorry brothas) do that. It’s apart of youth, experience and growing up. However I was a woman so much so, that whatever he did, if he did it, WAS NEVER FOUND OUT ABOUT. As I’m a sista of substance, trust honey, he knew if he was stepped out he had to be skilled enough to keep it under wraps. Just like I stated about a smooth brotha know it ain’t that hard getting with a good woman, that same good woman will be intuitive and smart without having to play Dick Tracey. Not that I knew everything but at some point it will come to you and without having to break a sweat. And since school is in session, I believe that’s half the battle on a faithful man. If he’s a dog, he’s a dog. If he can appreciate a good woman, he’ll cut back on the extras. Lastly, my daughter’s father knew the jewel he had then and knows the jewel I still am today because after all this time, I still can’t turn for him begging. Hope you learned something.

By Demi

January 15, 2008 11:05 AM | Link to this

Rell Dude you tripin, don’t be hating on them simps…they help us real cats out

Didn’t you see our pics up in Grown Men magazine all the time, LOL

Miss Eye is it feeding time yet..she going to kill me..now making sucking sound, LOL

By DreamsMaterialize

January 15, 2008 11:07 AM | Link to this

i never ask because women LIE…trust that…

Yeah I’ve seen this too. Like Chris Rock said, they don’t count the time they “f*cked Bobby Brown after the concert”. LOL

By BigWords

January 15, 2008 11:09 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli I hope so. ;)

By Alvin

January 15, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

DasV (while trying hard not to agree) Binford doesn’t count, LOL

Just messing with ya bruh!

41 Dayum…Gangsta headnod to you sista

By 41 and you wouldn't believe

January 15, 2008 11:14 AM | Link to this

@ OH YEAH. Before your next ignorant statement. I’ve been cheated on as well as the average woman. That’s a part of dating and life aw well. Tolerating versus not is what separate you from the rest. That’s how I know you don’t have to play Dick Tracey for that kind of his kind to be revealed. One more lesson: A good woman is never glutton for punishment. You cheat, it’s a wrap. But that’s not today’s post so I digress. Can’t stand for someone to infiltrate negativity unneccessarily.

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 11:16 AM | Link to this

Dreams …B Brown…eeewww!

By SexyLeggs

January 15, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

ARed, you’re right in regard to I have to prepare myself for the dating scene. Sorry, but he wasn’t trying to get to know me. After I left his house, the 2-3 converations we’ve had on the phone revolved around his skills in the bedroom and how much of a freak he was. Well, I just didn’t want him to freak me. I wasn’t feeling him that way. No harm no foul!

Alvin, you are a hot mess!

GoRell, he never even asked me out on a date, but I was to converse in his bedroom. I didn’t lose a damn thang!

By For Real (# Slayed: 3000 + 1 - 3000 = 1 WTF)

January 15, 2008 11:18 AM | Link to this

What up blog fam!!!

I’m with my dawg Alvin 100%

And sex is only complicated for women

For Real now trying to figure out how he can stick it into both holes and play with the CT.

By Staceye

January 15, 2008 11:21 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs is this the dude that you spoke of last week? Girl he is trying the old guilt trip…laugh at his pathetic butt and keep it moving!

Demi climb on up boo! LOL

By DasV

January 15, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

LOLROTF@alvin yous a hot mess!

By BINFORD2K8

January 15, 2008 11:23 AM | Link to this

Raqi

I would think I am a bit more sensitive male then most (until Truth knocked it out of me anyway), but even when a man whole-ly loves a woman - sex is STILL not as emotional for him. It is the inherent disparity between the two genders, most likely because a woman knows in her hard-wiring that she may get pregnant - therefore, the risk is much higher. And men just do not think in those terms - we are driven to spread the seed.

By JustMe

January 15, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Errrrybody

I’ma 404 I think like you do on that # of Partners/Years gettin busy/12 months!

As far as Magic numbers go……… BLOG ALERT/BLOG ALERT

MEET ME AT THE TRAP IT’S GOING DOWN THIS fRIDAY NIGHT!!!

It’s my sister’s B-day and her freinds want to Trap it up……. so meet me there or beat me there ;-)

disclaimer I doubt that my magic # will increase as a result of my trappin

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 15, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

For Real You are STOOPID!!!! LOL For Real now trying to figure out how he can stick it into both holes and play with the CT I almost spit water all over my computer!

By Alvin

January 15, 2008 11:30 AM | Link to this

not trying to sound like a hater but…

Dreams don’t forget flav…can you believe all them (insert disgrading term here) from the show said that never F/K or even kiss that dude.

Them lying (insert disgrading term here)!!!

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

Binford So you don’t think men EVER get emotional after sex??

I think men develop emotions once they have repeatedly have had sex with a consent partner.

SEX is an emotional act. I don’t know how and why the effect it’s gettin drowned out these days!

By SexyLeggs

January 15, 2008 11:35 AM | Link to this

Yeah Staceye, same dude. At my age, I’d like to think I can recognize “game” when it comes my way. No, not at all times, but the obvious Hell Yeah!

I went out Saturday and this dude stepped to me correctly w/out any sexual jokes, or smart a$$ innuendos.

By Wise Diva

January 15, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

Just because women (or men) connect physical intimacy with emotion, doesn’t necessarily mean they complicate it.

By Go Rell

January 15, 2008 11:40 AM | Link to this

did someone say Trap….lol…

By mqew (vacation begins at noon)

January 15, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

Mornin’ good people.

Is it lunchtime yet? Sista is hungry.
On topic - in all of our 12yrs, my SO has ever asked me some shyt like that. Never have and never will. WTH he care! If you’re kismet then.. who gives a flying phucc.

Ceemeli - girl you know if Bobby did a reality show today Flava flav style, wome would come out the woodworks.

By Willie Dynamite

January 15, 2008 11:43 AM | Link to this

Similac X (use ya imagination)

Shug I hereby forbid you to discuss that Lame Azz dude again. For a small fee you can refer him to the nearest RN for some Game, except me. I am allergic to his kind, I break out in hives when I’m around Simps.

By Raqi

January 15, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

So Binford exactly what is it that bond you men (pointing directly at you) emotionally to a woman?

By Got that?

January 15, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

Blow Me, please stand corrected. Sex is a purely physical act to which emotions are added by the individuals.

By BINFORD2K8

January 15, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

Blow Me

My statement was saying most men don’t get AS emotional as women or driven by emotion nearly as much in regards to sex. I didn’t say men were void of emotion and intelligence and were just humping machines (though I have a sneaking suspicion I may know a few).

Wise Emotion DOES complicate it an overwhelming majority of the time from the women side, IMO.

By SexyLeggs

January 15, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

WillieD, baby don’t worry about me discussing him anymore. I’ve invested absolutely nothing while trying to talk around his sexcapades. You’re allergic to his kind, so am I!

Another off-topic related to dating. I was driving home last night and this real nice slow jam came on. A phrase stuck in my mind: “…don’t want to take the time to reshape the mess another man made.” WOW. Do a lot of guys feel like this? Like Erica Bydau says, girl you have too much baggage and you better get rid of it (not those words but same meaning) before moving on to the next man.

By melo

January 15, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

Does it not take emotions to get aroused? Are u talking about long lasting emotions? Some women have temporary emotions too.Think prostitutes and those in “friends with benefits” contracts.

By Go Rell

January 15, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

“…don’t want to take the time to reshape the mess another man made.”

true!!!!!!!

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs - Which person, male or female, wants to clean up a mess someone else made. I don’t think anyone wants to volunteer to handle someone else’s baggage if they had a chance for that person to come to the table baggage free.

By Wise Diva

January 15, 2008 12:02 PM | Link to this

I don’t disagree, I just don’t think by definition emotion (in and of itself) means complicated, in terms of physical intimacy, that’s all. The expectations, behavior, communication all contribute to different complications, so to me, the emotion is not always the root cause of the complications that comes with sex.

By 2CPTG©

January 15, 2008 12:03 PM | Link to this

sup, Big Words, and Cemeelie….no random thoughts at the moment…..just chillin.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 15, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this

We really do not care how many men she’s been with… Alvin, dogg you may need to raise the bar a tad bit homie. They don’t always look like a straight ho3 but when you get clear understanding of who they really are and you stay around then you’re settin yaself up! you sound like homeboy : man, she aint LOOK sick!!?!

By Wow

January 15, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

TO ALL: I want to know where in the “sex for dummies” hand book does it state that sex is ONLY physical. If that is the case where did the term intimacy come from? You cane not separate the two unless you are a blow up doll…..and why would you want to have emotionless SEX! That sounds like a nightmare! COME ON!

By For Real (# Slayed: 3000 + 1 - 3000 = 1 WTF)

January 15, 2008 12:08 PM | Link to this

Blow You being irrational again.

I think men develop emotions once they have repeatedly have had sex with a consent partner.

We can put your theory to test. I have exactly 36 second I spare tonight.

Raqi I know you asked Binford but sex isn’t it. Men only bond to women emotionally if their he determines that their actions warrant such. After all you have had sex with another dude.

Wise Come on now, you just dismissed a guy bc you complicate the physical intimacy that hasn’t even happend yet. Now, is that rational?

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 12:09 PM | Link to this

Shug/Gray I’m with Erica…‘leave that ole bag at the check’. But also some of the men have just as much in thier “rolling bags” if not more!

Stac i know you about to put James down but make sure to strap him to the fannypack.

mqew Did i her vacation @ noon?

By SexyLeggs

January 15, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

ARed, I thought the phrase was interesting because most have baggage. To not want to know someone better because of the mess another left behind seems that a lot of good people will be ignored. I understand the degree of the mess can make some stay and some walk. I know there are people out there that will help another clean up their baggage. Shyt, how many times have you heard both sexes say “I thought I could change him/her?” I thought I could clean them up. Whatever it is, just wanted to determine what the percentage might be for those that will simply walk away from another they’re attracted to.

By Alvin

January 15, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

Blow Me some bomb a$$ puddy, good home cooking, great convo outside of the bedroom will hook you after a while…but

…Raqi it depends on the woman. I’ve seen some of the greatest Players of All Players, get hook onto a woman and can’t let go. No matter how hard they fight the feelings. And they can’t even explain why.

Out of the blue you hear:

Alvin, I’ve got myself a good woman and I don’t want anyone else to have her…What do you think of the ring I brought?

Alvin pass the F/K out at the thought of another homie jumping on the Just Married Bus

By Wow

January 15, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

@Alvin….. lmao what wrong with your bud getting married?

By Wise Diva

January 15, 2008 12:26 PM | Link to this

@ For Real, I think that is reaching a bit. It’s like a personal preference. I wouldn’t say I am irrational. I just didn’t care for the way he brought it up, at the time he brought it up. I am not saying he is a horrible no good man, I just don’t know if we are compatible. When you first meet someone, you can only go by what they reveal to you, so for me, it didn’t go over well.

By SeanJohnson3000

January 15, 2008 12:28 PM | Link to this

Sup Blog…experience is the best teacher…be it with one/the same partner for every day for years or with different partners…as long as you are disease free..your past is none of my business…only your health..

@ JustMe…do you swing or not?

By mqew

January 15, 2008 12:29 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli - my bad. I forgot to take the extra off. I wish, cause now it would be a vacation with the boy in daycare. Don’t get me wrong, love my child, but he is currently mommies little monster.

Binford - are you saying that you have emotionless sex? I don’t want to put words in your mouth, but thas what it sounds like.

By #1 Swinger - Mika

January 15, 2008 12:34 PM | Link to this

SJ 3000

DO YOU SWING?

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 12:37 PM | Link to this

Alvin

I’ve seen some of the greatest Players of All Players, get hook onto a woman and can’t let go. No matter how hard they fight the feelings. And they can’t even explain why.

You make it sound like a disadvantage/detrimental? You didn’t loss a homie b/c of this I hope! I hope you gained another friend = his folks!

He said: quote “I’ve got myself a good woman and I don’t want anyone else to have her…What do you think of the ring I brought?”

^5’s or daps come after that stmnt i hope.

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 12:39 PM | Link to this

For Real I meant CONSTANT…misspelling…Yeah I know I need to slow down. And STOP it with you “irrational” statements…..it’s stupid! You cant do nothing for me or any other woman lasting only 36 seconds.

Alvin Yes those things will get you hook…but if you take away good puddy you WOULD NOT be. So your answer is yes.

Also women just don’t get emotional just off of the fact of just SEX. It’s other things involved that heighten our feelings. Cause trust…If the sex is blah…you won’t be leaving her with the googley eyes. Me personally, I haven’t had good daydreaming sex in a while. That after high sex…..where you gazing for the next day.

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 12:42 PM | Link to this

mqew your baby sweetie almost 1yo rgt?

By mqew

January 15, 2008 12:51 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli - yes the baby, sweetie, MONSTER maam

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 12:58 PM | Link to this

…speaking of “his folks”….

I’ve found that in some cases, the SO ‘folks’ become your folks. Does this help/hurt the relationship?

Guys How many of you - When does your homie’s girl become “cool”(as some dudes put it) enough to stop thinking in a way that she is the enemy w/you? OR do men usually leave your pootnah’s lady out of the equation (for lack of a better word)?

By Alvin

January 15, 2008 12:59 PM | Link to this

900K you forget I am a former swinger. That’s why I wouldn’t worry too much about her past. The way I act today, you would never in your life guess some of the crazy I’ve done.

Now if I was still out doing those crazy thing, it’ll manifest it self after a while. A dog with a dog mind set can only be a dog. Same goes for a woman.

So why worry about her being a loose with her puddy. I don’t care how smart she is about her cheating ways. The patterns will show up after a while, LOL

Dude, my character has change so much. I can’t get a H0e worth shyt!!! All I am meeting is quality women…So you know I am droughty, LOL

Don’t y’all worry, I am not going to go postal up in this I am posting as Alvin right? B-ish!!! I have a cutie who has caught my attention…I do look forward to spending time with her. And if she is able to over look my age…She will get all of me, a sore puddy and more.

I need to plan a lunch date with her tomorrow or Friday

By SexyCool

January 15, 2008 1:03 PM | Link to this

i lost my virginity but…i’ve still got the box it came in…

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 1:08 PM | Link to this

Alvin Do you mean a good sore puddy? or a bad sorry puddy…? lol! You can take that either way!! lmao!

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 1:10 PM | Link to this

SexyCool…w/you and your box…Lol!

…hadn’t read you in a while…

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 1:11 PM | Link to this

I feel the need to spit some stats again, since many folks keep saying the past doesn’t matter as long as you are disease free. I really don’t think folks are talking about this stuff beforehand. Folks keep saying leave my past in the past, but how many of these cutting relationships do you really have “the talk” with before getting busy.

There is this commercial that keeps playing on 102.5 stating that 50% of blacks have genital herpes yet 90% don’t know it. Doesn’t sound like everyone is disease free as they think they are!

(And the “everything” STD test doesn’t test for HIV or herpes)

By Alvin

January 15, 2008 1:12 PM | Link to this

Blow Me LOL, for a young cat, yeah. Being a little more mature, things before the bedroom scene will hook me…The sex is just a cherry on top LOL

Oh, Good Head will F/K a Igga up, time to time HAHAHA

Alvin: Dayum she’s ugly!

One of my homes: But she blows lika mugg…

Cemeeli Look woman, I am in denial…Now turn around so I can see how much our ‘asset’ grew.

Alvin is now being DDT’ed into the floor

Heeey JustMe…Demi miss you LOL

By SeanJohnson3000

January 15, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

@ Mika….nah i dont swing….just experienced and openminded..i asked justme that for clarity..i know we have some swingers on the blog…active and former and i am sure they could enlightened some of us about the lifestyle..pros and cons…and since todays topics is about sxual experience and experiences..who better to ask than someone with it….would u like to share?

By Alvin

January 15, 2008 1:18 PM | Link to this

Blow Me LOL, Funnie…I let her tell it, by the glow on her face Smile.

SexyCool can I see?? LOL

By SexyLeggs

January 15, 2008 1:19 PM | Link to this

You still have the box (LOL).

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 1:22 PM | Link to this

…okay Alvin i’ll accept your denial status this time! But when you come out of Egypt you make sure you answer my question 12:58p.

By JustMe

January 15, 2008 1:23 PM | Link to this

SJ 3K No I don’t but I will hang out with them. I’m not in to random guy $ex. It would take a major voodoo spell for me to let a random guy ride the JustMeCoaster.

By Rell - Swingin for the fences

January 15, 2008 1:24 PM | Link to this

Pros- lets see…lol, what do you think….new new for all parties involved

cons - emotions, compability, attraction, fake folks,degrees of swing(hard/soft)

Its cool when you find like minded couples that can come together and have fun

By SexyCool

January 15, 2008 1:26 PM | Link to this

as to my magic number…in the words of mark mcgwire…”i am not here to talk about the past…i am here to be positive about this subject…”

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 1:27 PM | Link to this

Alvin question: How old are you?

By JustMe

January 15, 2008 1:35 PM | Link to this

Demi Hey Sweetie Heeey JustMe…Demi miss you LOL Meet me at the TRAP it’s going down!

By JustMe

January 15, 2008 1:40 PM | Link to this

To hwom it may concern

cons - emotions, compability, attraction, fake folks,degrees of swing(hard/soft)

This is why I do not swing. I do have emotions when it comes to $ex. If I think enough of you to give my $ex to you, I must have some feelings for you.

I might just be one of the fake folks Rell is referring to. I have no intentions of $exing. Petting possibly…… $exing, no way!

Please explain (soft/hard) swinging.

By DreamsMaterialize

January 15, 2008 1:49 PM | Link to this

ARed Your 1:11PM is exactly why there is a HUGE difference between whether you’ve had 2 partners or 200 partners. Sure we all know it only takes one to contract a disease, but it’s about probability of risk. That probability increases with the number of partners. So, the person with 200 partners is 100 times more likely to have a disease than a person with 2 partners

SexyCool Mark Mcgwire’s past ruined his chances of being inducted into the Hall of Fame. The past DOES matter when its effects can be felt in the future. All that said, I still don’t really want to know her number. lol

By For Real (# Slayed: 3000 + 1 - 3000 = 1 WTF)

January 15, 2008 1:51 PM | Link to this

Wise You can cage it as “a personal preference” if you like but irrational means devoid of logic. You based your opinion of ole boy off your feelings and we know no one feels the same way from moment to moment. Which is why one should never make decisions based on the way you feel + woman = irrational behavior. Beside, the topic was talent.

Blow See if you wasn’t irrational you would have asked how many strokes would you get in 36 seconds.

For Real now putting on his special aerodynamic condom to prevent flesh burn.

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 1:52 PM | Link to this

Hmmm…so that might be a good weeder question…”have you been or would you be down for swinging?”

The answer may reveal a lot about his attitude towards sex…

By SexyCool

January 15, 2008 1:57 PM | Link to this

dreams…i respectfully disagree with you concerning mark…it is the way that mcgwire handled himself that has ruined his chances…much like what clemens is doing now…

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 1:57 PM | Link to this

Dreams - Very good point. Many folks out there are having big fun in the bedroom, but are playing russian roulette with their bodies.

One of my weeder questions is if someone has ever had a cold sore before. That’s herpes! And you can spread it to the fun areas if you aren’t careful.

By JustMe

January 15, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

Peace out y’all I’m gone for the day…….. catch up tomorrow.

By Rell - Swingin for the fences

January 15, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

well let me say full on swap is one way…or like you with the petting and only oral maybe is soft…your not fake if you dont swing..i am referring to those that has a mate that takes one for the team..or the men using the women to get in only for his mate never do anything but he is running thru everyone…@justme…believe it or not alot of “us” are like you…saying i am swinger and actually acting on it is view as cool….but an actual swap or just having an orgy is out of the question for some swingers…confused…me too…lol but “we” dont swing like YT…just from the lil experiences i have had…it is alot of convo and led up versus the wanton sex acts that you may think goes on….and if you see that…that means those couples have history with one another..so to ared and anyone else IT IS NOT WHAT YOU THINK IT IS REALLY…

ared…and what would a swingin attitude say about you sexually?

By Jazzyone

January 15, 2008 2:06 PM | Link to this

Great one more thing to question him about..sigh

*Are u gay/BI Have yoou ever been with a man or desire to be with one

Are you married/divorced/single/shacking Have you been tested Do you hate your mother Do you know your father Any sister or brothers have you ever hit a woman Are you employed Are all 6 of those kids in that picture yours

Do you live in your car/with parents Do you swing/have you ever Do you give give head/pull hair Do you use protection*

Man I tell ya…

By BINFORD2K8

January 15, 2008 2:06 PM | Link to this

Raqi

“So Binford exactly what is it that bond you men (pointing directly at you) emotionally to a woman?”

1. - It is rude to point!

2. - For me I would say it takes time and shared experience. I need to warm up to someone before I truly open up to a SO …and that takes time. When you see a woman who you thought was what you wanted turn in to a woman who IS what you want, that’s when you are there. It’s part attraction, part acceptance, and part mojo!

For some that may be a flick of a switch, for me, it’s a long period of “like” that crossfades in to something more. I think physical intimacy reinforces and strengthens that. That something more could be a spot before love or love itself. I’m not sure.

By Alvin

January 15, 2008 2:09 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli I don’t play that game, if she’s cool with him. She’s cool with me. Now, if the woman is shady or isn’t treating good…I just forget her name, belike: He’s with whats her name.

JustMe I’ll think about it.

Blow I have a year on you.

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 2:14 PM | Link to this

Way off-topic but I need an honest opinion so this blog is probably a good place to start.

Victoria’s Secret just released their summer bikinis. I usually get one from them every year. But I need to know if y’all think this is ugly or not. It’s a little funkadelic, but I’m feeling it for some reason. LOL Bikini pic

By Rell - Swingin for the fences

January 15, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

@ared…i will only answer if you model it for me!!!!

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

…Lol @ Jazzy’s mo’ questions to ask…real ? nontheless…Are all 6 of those kids in that picture yours? & Do you live in your car/with parents?…Ha.

Alvin good to know you don’t atomatically dismiss.

By Wise Diva

January 15, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

alright, For Real, so basically if you don’t agree then it’s automatically irrational? LOL. It’s my opinion, I’m entitled to have one, especially when I am considering a romantic interest.

and For real, when you debate or argue a point, you could get a lot more credibility by actually proving your point instead of attempting to invalidate another person with that rational/irrational angle. What makes your opinion more rational? Back it up with something besides your gender.

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 2:26 PM | Link to this

Well Rell - One thing it says is that monogomay is not sacred since swinging is all about sharing.

By SeanJohnson3000

January 15, 2008 2:30 PM | Link to this

@ Rell…thanks for the info…its levels of swinging..full and soft..and with JustMe going to the trap just to look and being a voyeour..is something a lot of folks want to do…one pro you didnt mention is as a couple it can cut down on cheating and they have the opportunity to be very honest about attractions and urges.

By Rell - Swingin for the fences

January 15, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

monogomay = sex?…..ok counslor i am lost now….swinging is not about sharing it is about SEX..if you are swapping then it is sharing..but swinging is sex with others…does not mean you swap spouses..think more orgy less/wife swap…again it is not what you think…

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 2:35 PM | Link to this

WISE DIVA Funny you mention this!! I was just speaking to him on the EXACT same thing…..lmao….Rell get it together!!

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

…venting now…

DasV …Got a new intern that started cple days ago. She’s cool/wrk is good…but either it’s me “aged” or everytime i look at sis i’m thinking yea, she JUST stopped wearing her pre-walkers. Want to invite her out for lunch but reluctant b/c i’on know if there’s a spot that has applesauce. I know…!

By mqew

January 15, 2008 2:38 PM | Link to this

ARed That is too cute! You have to rock that. The only thing I would say is if you have a light complexion, that might not work. Her skin tone was perfect for that suit.

By DreamsMaterialize

January 15, 2008 2:41 PM | Link to this

SexyCool No, I think we actually agree. The percpeption of guilt by others kept him out of the Hall of Fame, and the way he handled himself fueled that perception. And it’s true, Clemens is doing the same thing. You see now they’re going after music artists and actors too?

ARed Are you teasing with the bikini pic? ;-) You know it’s not how the bikini looks, but how you look in it. You give the bikini life, not the other way around.

By Royal Chic

January 15, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

Afternoon greetings….

Who would seriously be proud of having multiple partners (male or femaile)? The number of partners you have has nothing to do with the quality of your experience(s)….as always I prefer quality over quantity…..

Revealing the ‘magic number’ is just poor taste….

Waving at Wise and Str8

By Rell - Swingin for the fences

January 15, 2008 2:43 PM | Link to this

@blow me….????…get it together?

@SJ3K…your right…that is one BIG ADVANTAGE..the sexual honesty..something alot of our blogettes struggle with….nothing like being who you are..flaws in all..

By melo

January 15, 2008 2:46 PM | Link to this

…”have you been or would you be down for swinging?”ARED, i will simply shrug my shoulders and say”nah”, because i just wanna bang!Ur weeder qs dont do much to a man who wants to f***. U wanna use a condom, that can be slipped out too with good technique,wneh im realy angling to cue my pen so i reach ur sweet spot. The only thing close to good assuarance is getting tested. About the bikini question,”do u look like that lady in the pic or anywhere close”U can send me a pic if u like and i will give u a good body evaliuation.

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 2:48 PM | Link to this

Rell - If you are having an orgy, you aren’t having sex with one person at a time. Hence the monogomy bit. If I’m monogomy minded, I’m not trying to have sex with different people in the same month…let alone the same session! So if I guy I meet is into swinging and orgies, he’s not going to be my type of guy. Not knocking folks who are into that sort of thing, but he and I won’t be a good fit.

Thanks mqew. My complexion is probably not too far off from the model’s. That’s why I think it would look good on someone with my coloring. Bold colors tend to look great on darker skin.

By SexyLeggs

January 15, 2008 2:49 PM | Link to this

Nice suit ARed, you’d wear it well, espcially w/your complexion.

By pisces08

January 15, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

@ARed. You can rock that. Your skin tone is perfect.

By SexyCool

January 15, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

dreams…yeah, i saw that…they better get off my girl, mary j…

By melo

January 15, 2008 2:50 PM | Link to this

And the “everything” STD test doesn’t test for HIV or herpes Asking is no sure prooof way of knowing either,so what gives.

As for swinging, i wish they would allow onlookers to come clothed, like they do at the strip club.

By Raqi

January 15, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

I spent an afternoon at lunch with one of my good friends while she tried with everything she’s got not to talk about a matter she is going through with her S/O. She sat there with tears in her eyes just shaking her head every few minutes saying “he is just being unreasonable”.

Some would wonder if its actually her emotions that is making her feel he is being unreasonable or is dude just being unreasonable.

By For Real (# Slayed: 3000 + 1 - 3000 = 1 WTF)

January 15, 2008 2:54 PM | Link to this

Wise

For Real now standing in Sho-Nuff position waiting on PK’s response.

By DasV

January 15, 2008 2:54 PM | Link to this

CEEMEE LOL. gurl, aint nuttin to do but school her.

rell and sj3k you gonna make me go on a blog boycott i cannot believe that ‘swinging’ isnt considered cheating. why? because the one or both persons are made aware and consent to their partner bedding someone else. so what commitment do the first two really have to one another?? and after all the discussion about being safe and the risk you take even having sex, we are going to add to the conundrum an untold number of ppl and their magic # multiplying exponentially the risk of disease?? but its all good if emotion is in the equation?? how much of bond is expected if the sole reason i decide to get randy with you is my attraction to you physically and my urge?? and this is considered the sexual honesty that us bloggettes struggle with??! please we bloggettes struggle viciously with stupidity.

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

melo - The only thing closest to assurance is getting tested AND to take time to get to know the person before you bump uglies. I’m going to remain an optimist and know that all dudes are really not as trife as your examples.

By SlimOne

January 15, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

SJ3k & Rell I’m not a swinger but have heard many different things about it. Seems like there are a lot less men willing to share their women as the women are to allow the man to try out new tastes all the time. What’s up with that?!! There is still that stigma with regard to women not being allowed to be totally unjudged by some of her fantasies. Regular dudes can’t handle it.

By SexyLeggs

January 15, 2008 2:56 PM | Link to this

Rell, I don’t struggle w/sexual honesty…I’m p** right now, I’m horny as mutha f…, have to remember to get batteries for my gizmo and I want to be kissed. Won’t get any of these things, but it’s all good because it’s real! How’s that!

By Staceye

January 15, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

Jazzy you have disclaimers and run-down questions when you meet dudes these days. Then pull that shovel out of your shoe and do some digging ‘cause he is hiding something! LOL

Ared I like the bikini. It’s very colorful.

By Rell - Swingin for the fences

January 15, 2008 2:57 PM | Link to this

@ared…i am with melo are you anywhere close to the model in the pic..she is banging

on the swinging it is hard to explain unless you see for yourself…it is not what i expected AT ALL..but i feel you….but here is a question you never know what your partner is into…especially if they started in a relationship on a lie..but i digress

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

SJ3000Ya know….I thought you were cool. But now I see your nothing but a scum bag too! **Blow is now muggin @ your comment 2:30pm

By DreamsMaterialize

January 15, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

SexyCool I know. They’re taking this thing and running with it. Guess they feel like they’re on a roll so they might as well take down everyone they can while they got the momentum.

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 3:02 PM | Link to this

melo - “what gives” is that I don’t really buy all these folks talking about “as long as you’re disease free.” My point is that I hope folks are asking others to “show me the recipts!” But how can you when you’ve made it clear that even talking about certain issues is off limits?

SexyLeggs and pisces08 - Thanks for the direct feedback. LOL.

As for Dreams and melo - No I don’t look like the lady in the pic. Similar body type, I guess, but her chest is bigger than mine and my hips/arse is bigger than hers. LOL

By Teresa

January 15, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

Meet and greet a Club Trapeze

By SexyCool

January 15, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

raqi…it sounds like your girl’s man is on some ish that she is too embarassed to share…because when/if/when they get past this…she will know that you will remember long after she has forgiven and forgotten…

By melo

January 15, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

Some would wonder if its actually her emotions that is making her feel he is being unreasonable or is dude just being unreasonable Both.Obviously the mfugga knows how the puddy tastes..u can tell by the emotions the woman has.But he is not putting too much stock in the fact that he has her dna on his dyck.Thats the unreasonable part far as she concerned. I hope i help out ur friend and plz tell her, thats the long and short of it.

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 3:06 PM | Link to this

Rell - That model is about 100x prettier than me, so don’t get your hopes up. If I looked like that I wouldn’t be on here blogging with you fine folks. LOL

But I’ll trust you on the swinging stuff and know that I learned something new today.

By Rell - Swingin for the fences

January 15, 2008 3:07 PM | Link to this

Ya know i am going to hit you with something else….it actually draws you closer…but lets switch gears

because again you cant explain something that goes against the grain…and your right DASV…you guys dont struggle..bad choice of words on my part…i will say this from my experience of dating and all…no one and i mean no one trully are what they say they are and it always something you will find out about your mate that will make you question your choice from the beginning…and with that…what do you think of the third season of conning coming our way in feb - Flavor of Love 3…AND the lip chap chick is coming back

By Wise Diva

January 15, 2008 3:10 PM | Link to this

For real, you have a recurring theme: women can not be rational or logic because we have a uterus. I don’t agree so I urged you to prove your point beyond statements like that, it’s like you are saying I am male, my way makes sense erego, I am “logic”. I mean, really?

You wrote: “You based your opinion of ole boy off your feelings and we know no one feels the same way from moment to moment” Ok just the facts please: I based my opinion on information that he revealed to me - in a manner that was “bragging” and in an attempt to impress me - that scared me because I wondered if this is all he is about, what’s between his legs. My personal preference is not to share those details with someone I just met. I would have liked to know he had other talents that have more meaning in the early stages of dating, bedroom talent ain’t enough to keep a chick like me interested.

By DreamsMaterialize

January 15, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this

ARed I have no doubt that you could rock that bikini. You know guys won’t be looking at the bikini anyway. lol

By Beautiful

January 15, 2008 3:13 PM | Link to this

pisces08 you have something handy to model for the ladies??? lol. feel free to post a pic.

By Rell - Swingin for the fences

January 15, 2008 3:14 PM | Link to this

@slim

Seems like there are a lot less men willing to share their women as the women are to allow the man to try out new tastes all the time.

^^you hit the nail on the end..you got it

Plus i agree with your whole post…i am not a REGULAR DUDE..i handle it and well trust me..rell does not judge

By pisces08

January 15, 2008 3:14 PM | Link to this

@ARed. Why you fron’in. You and the model are almost the same. Except she(the model) has no hips. :-)

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 3:15 PM | Link to this

Rell - You don’t trust anyone, do you?

By For Real (# Slayed: 3000 + 1 - 3000 = 1 WTF)

January 15, 2008 3:16 PM | Link to this

DasV and the commitment talk….

DasV: Hey Cotton Daddy, I want to tell you that I am ready to commit to you.

Dude: Really!?!?! ummm, Well Summer Bunny I’m ready to com (cough, cough) com (cough, cough, cough possibly chocking) I’m ready to commit to you as well.

DasV: Oh Dantavious Lamont Thomas, you have made me the happiest woman in the world. I will hold no secrets from you no matter what it is and I want you to know that you can tell me anything I will always be there for you. Do you have something you want to tell me.

Dude: Dayummm!! (This is a trick question don’t say it, don’t say it) Yea, I like swinging and that dark skin chick with the white pokey dot swimsuit has been staring at my all day. I’m going to get her. Oh do you want some too?

DasV pass the f/k out

By melo

January 15, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

but her chest is bigger than mine and my hips/arse is bigger than hers. LOL the arse being bigger part kinda makes my estimates a little off.I like big arse myself but with bikini, that may be a different story.Why dont u just drop me a lne tomorrow, after u get ur pic.My bro may actually want to holla at u. As for u knowing a bro for a little while before sexing and all..u know some of these diseases take time to surface.Syphillis and hiv are the worst and herpes is so latent.So a bro may look meek, churchish and gentlemanly now, but 10 years back was a real w*******.Good relationships are really due ti divine intervention,luck and a little bit of due diligence.But luck and God are the only true constants playing a big part. Its rough out there coz the new gems are reall ybeing manufactured in labs etc and spread in swinger places,booty clubs,LA and San fransisco wild hse parties to innocent and unsuspecting pple.

By Raqi

January 15, 2008 3:19 PM | Link to this

LOL SexyLegs. Every time my friend Lacy says that she is just fine having her “gizmo” I ask her “does it kiss you just right in that spot behind your ear to get you in the mood?”

By Rell - Swingin for the fences

January 15, 2008 3:22 PM | Link to this

@pisces….she does not want to fuel the fanasty of the men on the blog…lol…thats why, so she has to dumb it down to blend…lol…she does not want dudes hitting her constantly like hit me up/let me date you/your pretty etc etc…lol

she is a funny one..

By pisces08

January 15, 2008 3:23 PM | Link to this

@Beautiful. You’ve been absent on here.? No way, not me. In person only. :-)

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 3:25 PM | Link to this

Dreams - The question wasn’t could I rock it…I look great in a bikini! The question was if it was cute. I guess I should have expected the guys to not focus on that part. LOL. My bad.

pisces08, If that model and I were walking side by side, we would not be mistaken as sisters. We don’t look alike in the face, but we do have similar shapes. I think the night you met me I was a victim of the push up bra. Hope that doesn’t disappoint ya. LOL!!!

I am kind of thinking my arse is too big for that bikini now tho…(just because I like some coverage back there)

By Rell - Swingin for the fences

January 15, 2008 3:26 PM | Link to this

@ared…do i trust folks..yes i do..i trust alot of folks..where are you going with this line of questioning counslor

By SexyLeggs

January 15, 2008 3:27 PM | Link to this

Good point Raqi, I am never fine w/just my gizmo or “mary and her five fingers.” However, it is what it is and I recognize it. Too funny, does it kiss you just right in that spot behind your ear to get you in the mood..phooey!

By DasV

January 15, 2008 3:28 PM | Link to this

rell say it aint so, say it aint so?? there is going to be a third season?? i thought him the the white amazon sailed off into the sunset…..

ForReal LOLROTF@ your skit. cute

but no. im not going to fall out cause my man is attracted to other ppl. that should be discussed openly. but he will be laid out if he’s looked long enough to desire her, or if he cant handle being stared at.

trust. that kindof character wouldnt even tempt the me.

By SeanJohnson3000

January 15, 2008 3:30 PM | Link to this

@ Slim…i feel your post…i dont swing either but you here of a lot of men wanting to bring another female in the equation but dont allow their women to experience another man…thats part of me asking just me that…i feel u are are swingers u are swingers…not half azz

@ Blow…this blog is about opinions and you dont have to agree with them all…but you dont have to pout about someone elses..go check out the great debaters…..how many times have u come on the blog and said how many “inches” you want….we are all adults..this is like cinemax..adults situations, profanity, and nudity..

By Beautiful

January 15, 2008 3:31 PM | Link to this

pisces08 you said it, not me. lol. imma hold you to that.

happy birthday mlk jr.!

By melo

January 15, 2008 3:31 PM | Link to this

pisces08 you have something handy to model for the ladies??? for the ladies, i dint know she rolling with beautiful like that.

By pisces08

January 15, 2008 3:32 PM | Link to this

@ Rell. oops, my bad, uh, er… she’s ugly.

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 3:32 PM | Link to this

For Real thanks for the skit Pa! Lol!

By For Real (# Slayed: 3000 + 1 - 3000 = 1 WTF)

January 15, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

Raqi It’s sad but based on what you wrote, I think her man has decided to move on without her. His unreasonable behavior is that she cannot understand why he doesn’t want to be her anymore.

Wise You are putting words in my mouth and making up statements that I did not write. You can’t debate me and then create a strawman and say we are one in the same. Stick to what I write and not what you think I wrote.

Now,

By Couldn't Hold Back

January 15, 2008 3:36 PM | Link to this

You mean to tell me that you’re a grown @ss woman and you can’t even buy a bikini without input? Let me guess, you’re one of those chicks that runs every dude she meets past that clueless AGNM (Ain’t Got No Man) Committee of girlfriends she has?

And these ‘weeders’ - any guy with some real business about himself would look at you like you are absolutely crazy.

By #1 Swinger - Mika

January 15, 2008 3:37 PM | Link to this

SJ 3000 sure i’ll share them with YOU

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 3:38 PM | Link to this

Rell - I made the trust comment only because you said this: it always something you will find out about your mate that will make you question your choice from the beginning. I personally don’t feel that way at all, so I just wondered if you had a hard time trusting folks. I stand corrected then.

Also, I don’t have to “dumb it down” to blend. I know that my reality is probably not as vivid as you men and your FANTASIES. I just don’t need to show a picture on here to contribute..that’s all. You’re forced to pay attention to my words this way.

By Chevy

January 15, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

The 2nd person I slept with confessed to having slept with “lots of women” (i didn’t ask for the number). After hearing that, I was scared to go near his nether regions again.

By pisces08

January 15, 2008 3:39 PM | Link to this

@ARed. I’ll keep it real bland for the Blog, but my eyes didn’t deceive me. I think I was accurate in my description! Push-up or no push-up.

By Cemeeli

January 15, 2008 3:41 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs the last 2 days have been a something for you huh?

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

AmazonRed…pretty or ugly? How bout PRETTY UGLY???

LOL…it doesn’t matter…

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 3:47 PM | Link to this

LOL @ pisces08 - Well I can’t argue with what your eyes saw then. LOL

By melo

January 15, 2008 3:49 PM | Link to this

ARed,aprt from her breasts, i dont like that pic.Her pelvis looks fragile.Her thighs going dwn are just strght,no curvature. I think wel just do oral and call it a nite….well,i may consider her for summer.

By Wise Diva

January 15, 2008 3:51 PM | Link to this

LOL @ For Real!! Man you, know what, I don’t think you have/had a point since your first comment to me. You are hilarious. Fact and emotion about me does not come from YOU, dude. Are you “for real”? LOL. Let’s just say, there is no big mystery or confusion on my end. Whatever I think and decide, is working for me. I’m good,k pumpkin?

By SeanJohnson3000

January 15, 2008 3:54 PM | Link to this

@Mika…do i know u?

By limegpuppy

January 15, 2008 3:54 PM | Link to this

limeg now slipping in the back door.

Wise I can understand how ya feel about this potenital suitor being a turn off, by revealing to much info at the wrong time.

I’ve experienced similar situations such as yours, the only thing different is in the way that I handled it. While I didn’t cut them off completely, they were dropped low on the totum pole. Not that I was passing judgement, they just didn’t appeal to me as much from that point.

While I don’t wear a halo above my head, I’d like to know that my SO’s numbers aren’t flying in the skies alongside Delta. If a guy asks me then he’ll know. I can’t be tryin to rollback numbers thinking that gonna make me look good. Either he’ll like me or not. I love to keep it real so, if asked you will know, and yes I keeps proof of having a clean bill of health during my dormant and peak seasons.

By Bruce Leroy Green aka Da Master

January 15, 2008 3:54 PM | Link to this

@WD I don’t think was smart to mention his magic number unless asked about it. From the information given, it does not appear that you asked for this bit of information. Its just not a smart thing to say at a time that AA women are being infected with HIV/AIDs at an alarming rate. (From your posts, it appears that you are an AA.)

As far was being irrational, I don’t necessarily think that it is totally wrong because everyone has a time that they act irrationally. Being emotionally doesn’t help things though.

For those interested, NBC nightly news is doing a week long study of the difference between male and female. Last night’s piece was interesting to say the least. It was a piece about how men and women store things into memory differently. Men strip the emotion from it and store it on the opposite side of the brain than emotion. Whereas women tend to store it with emotion. You can check it out on the MSNBC website.

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 3:57 PM | Link to this

melo - You are the worst. LOL

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 3:57 PM | Link to this

SJ3000 I actually liked you…don’t push it. I have never told any of you want “inches” as you say would satisfy me..Where are you gettin that from? OR Is it? You are just saying ANYTHING?????

By Raqi

January 15, 2008 3:59 PM | Link to this

For sure, sexycool. For sure.

4Real Why do you automatically assume he dumped her? That is not the case. As of today they are still together. If anything she may end up dumping him. I have been friends with her long enough to know that when she cries like that she is subject to abruptly cut all ties without a fair warning.

By SeanJohnson3000

January 15, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

@ Blow….“At first I thought you meant his “”member size”” now…that is definitely not a turn off if that’s a high number!! lmao!! “…thats just from today…its okay…we all have our preferences…

By limegpuppy

January 15, 2008 4:07 PM | Link to this

@ Ared - The swimsuite is cute. I say you get it and maybe purchase a larger bottom if you need room. VS usually have some great pieces. I like to order from them myself.

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 4:16 PM | Link to this

SJ3000 Please. SJ…Please…Just a joke..Lighten up…My comment was basicially pointing to the fact of you saying…That SWINGING cuts down you cheating on your mate. That’s why I keep throwing you these salty looks..Wow I see you remember and keep in mind the things I say…..That’s cute! lol!

By #1 Swinger - Mika

January 15, 2008 4:38 PM | Link to this

SJ 3000 No you don’t know me but you can get to know me if you like; i’ll come back tomorrow and have some information for YOU

By Demi

January 15, 2008 4:39 PM | Link to this

ARed while I pretty drunk at Bells I don’t remember seeing a tall Drag, LOL

Slim those are weak dude who feels that way…

Demi and future SO

SO Demi, how you ever swinged before?

Sweating like Mike Tyson talking a driving test

Demi Yes, I’ve been swinging on the swing set since I was little.

Demi’s face is now catching SO’s swinging purse

By Staceye

January 15, 2008 4:41 PM | Link to this

That swinging cuts down the cheating on your mate, is crap! If you want to continue to have new puddy and new ding-a-ling..you should NOT be in a realtionship NOR get married…PERIOD! Now THAT cuts down on cheating…in fact, there would be no cheating if people would adhere to that!

By Rell - Swingin for the fences

January 15, 2008 4:44 PM | Link to this

@ared

You’re forced to pay attention to my words this way

you have cracks in your armor lady..you need to tighten up…that comment speaks volumes

By SexyLeggs

January 15, 2008 4:45 PM | Link to this

Good night everyone!

By Blow Me

January 15, 2008 4:55 PM | Link to this

Staceye Would you PLEASE stop speaking the TRUTH!!! It’s not respect nor can some of them can not handle the truth…But you know I co-sign 100%!!

By AmazonRed

January 15, 2008 4:59 PM | Link to this

Rell - Please. The comment speaks nothing more than the fact that the way someone looks (whether hot or not) should not get in the way of their comments.

If it speaks volumes TO YOU, it’s ON YOU.

Folks need to stop OVERTHINKING things.