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Tuesday, January 8, 2008
Men, women and L-O-V-E
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
As much as I love to learn about the differences between men and women (because, honestly, I think we need all the help we can get in relationships!), my friend Eric recently made a statement I’d never thought of before.
He told me that while women fall in love—men kind of grow on them over time—men really have to choose to love someone. In other words, men basically know in the first few months of dating someone whether they’re in it for the long haul or not, because they make a conscious choice by committing to love their lady. Women, however, may find a man attractive initially, but need time to be won over by someone.
He referenced an ex-girlfriend of his who eventually broke up with him because she realized he’d never marry her, and she even told him so. At the time, he thought that was inaccurate, but later realized that even though she was a great woman, she was right. He probably never would have committed to her, and he subconsciously knew that early on in the relationship.
I think this is interesting because it’s true that sometimes women fall in love with men we weren’t interested in to begin with. It’s happened to me a couple times! I’m not sure what it is, but sometimes men just grow on us!
Women, how many times have you ended up dating someone you didn’t give a second glance to when you met him? Do you agree that (quality) men become even more attractive over time? What made you decide to take a chance on someone you weren’t initially into?
Men, tell it to us straight: Do you, generally speaking, know if you’re in it for the long haul early on in the relationship? Does anything really change for you after three months of dating a woman, or do you think you (at least subconsciously) have things figured out by then?
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