Misadventures in Atlanta

By Hotlanta

January 4, 2008 8:19 AM | Link to this

Money,sex or sex, money.

By Dan

January 4, 2008 8:23 AM | Link to this

Morning,

Personally, I’m the kind that doesn’t know until I see it. Never thought I’d like a woman that did…[this, that, the other]. But in seeing it done, having it done for/to me, I now like it (and no I’m not talking about anything sexual).

Each woman brings to the table the sum of her experience and training, some were better trained than others and that shows immediately. But I like to let time tell what qualities, traits, and habits a woman has that I like and go from there.

But bad breath is a deal breaker…

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 8:32 AM | Link to this

Good Morning….

Dan Sounds to me you are just winging it…wow …interesting.

So it is true…Men don’t know how to pick mates

By sharon

January 4, 2008 8:32 AM | Link to this

I look for a man who is finacially fit (not necessarily rich), has a strong sense of family, confident, compassionate and a great listener.

By Gwinnett county Mom

January 4, 2008 8:41 AM | Link to this

RESPONSIBILITY!!!! and a man that knows his way around a kitchen. Nothing sexier than a man who can cook, and loves to cook, and loves to try new things.

But most of all - is he responsible, and does he take care of his family and/or business?

I will never date a man who makes less money than I do. As a single parent, I do not want another person to take care of. It’s my turn to be taken care of!!!!!!

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 4, 2008 8:46 AM | Link to this

buenos mi amogos!

I’m pretty much open to meeting a new; but here goes. I want a petite nice woman that has an easy going personality, honest w/ a fatty. Preferably brown skin(and thats still open). She doesn’t have to cook for me as long as she can place a good order LoL, however Sunday dinner is pretty important to me. I make dam good pancakes so breakfast is covered. Everything else can fill itself in. I do not think that’s too much to ask…

By Jen

January 4, 2008 8:48 AM | Link to this

Kindness, strength of character, selflessness, a sense of humor, and goals…

Most of that gooshy, feel-good, touchy-feely stuff like making pancakes…worthless whenever one or both of you are in a crisis…

By Dan

January 4, 2008 8:49 AM | Link to this

You’re right Blow Me.

Most guys will tell you (if honest) they don’t know how they ended up in the relationship they’re in.

For us it’s, we kicking it, we sexing it, then….oh snap! “I think I’m in a relationship, she’s using words like ‘we’ and ‘us’, and I buying gifts for random days that mean nothing to me.” “Dammit.”

I’ve had that exact conversation with the homies. At that point if you like the babe, it plays out. If not, then you run for the hills (like we do).

But no, Blow Me, guy rarely (if ever) choose to be in a relationship, we’re trapped into them by time and puddy.

By iwantabigbootybrazillian

January 4, 2008 8:54 AM | Link to this

^^^read above…nuff said.

By Beautiful

January 4, 2008 8:55 AM | Link to this

great topic WiseDiva!

i have an idea of what i want in a man/husband, but will i restrict myself to that, NO. i only date guys who i would want to marry, otherwise i’m wasting his and my time. it is best for me to be more flexible when looking. i would hate to pass anyone by just because he didn’t FIT the profile. right now i’m not ready, but hoping to have someone to kiss by midnite on 12/31/08. (i’m committed to being a law student right now. was an insurance agent for 15 years, boring).

i want to change my answer to yesterday topic. i thought about it last night before i closed my eyes. since i’m not a holy roller, it would be a blessing to meet someone who is. i wouldn’t want it shoved down my throat, but i would love the feeling of possibly getting closer to God.

By Lady J

January 4, 2008 8:55 AM | Link to this

Morning, good topic…I’ll be back…

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 8:58 AM | Link to this

Dan Interesting…very..But thanks for your honesty. So basically you fall into a relationship. How are you TRAPPED that’s you choice? You want to be there so the word trap should have not be a choice word, in this scernario.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 4, 2008 9:01 AM | Link to this

Bundas! its all about the cu~lo amigo! LoL

By Scooter

January 4, 2008 9:01 AM | Link to this

Christian, since of humor, serious at the right times, loves recreational sex, nice personality, small breasts, round butt and red hair, love BBQ, NASCAR, can handle crowds, but for the most part likes being “just the two of us”, compassonate, passonate yet not domeninaring, not afraid to try new things, likes to play cards or board games, movies and popcorn.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 4, 2008 9:04 AM | Link to this

Morning All!!

BRB to post in a few, got to get some work out of the way first

By The Truth

January 4, 2008 9:05 AM | Link to this

Good morning blogsville.

On topic I’m with Dan every woman brings her own package and you have to let her gifts unfold. It isn’t hard, just let it come to you. One thing thats mandatory is our spirits must match up. Its tiring swimming upstream all the time.

Blow men do the opposite of women. We start with what we don’t like and work our way back. Ex: A dude will meet a woman thats loud and quickly downgrade her to a knockoff or take a pass. (Assuming he doesn’t likethat trait) A woman will meet a guy she likes thats loud and overlook the loudness because she likes him and thinks she can change him later.

We simply determine whats acceptable and act accordingly.

Gwinnett have you ever thought that a cat making more money than you doesn’t want to pour it into your child? Thats a 2 way street. And, btw, if you live with/marry a guy his money WILL go towards your child so he has 2 people to take care of, why can’t you?

Old hard cinnamon rolls and dried up oatmeal for ev1. Oh yeah, yesterdays coffee is still available. Enjoy.

By Dan

January 4, 2008 9:08 AM | Link to this

When I used the word trapped…. I meant that’s generally the description of the feeling that guys have.

It’s like that McGriddle commercial where the guy wakes up after 10 years to find out he’s married. Change the years to months and generally that’s how we feel.

You just look around one day and she’s….there. You think about it, and she’s been there for a while. And like I said if everythings all good, it rolls on.

But let me give you a scenario: ever been dating a guy for a while and suddenly he comes up missing for a couple of days (no answering the phone, no calling, he not even home when you ride by)….he woke up, realized the gravity of the situatio, and was out.

It’s no harm meant to the individual woman per se, but he might not have been ready for it (reality check: [with you]).

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 9:13 AM | Link to this

He has to bring something to table.

Godfearing Loyalty Wise/Level headed Can Communicate Unselfish Laid Back No kids..(no more than 1) He has to know what truly being a man is. A man in every sense of the word. Responsible Ambition Team Player Good Sense of humor Financial sound…(great budgeter) 7 or better schlong lol Treats his mother like a queen

• I am not asking for anything I am not willing to give. This guy would get rewarded greatly DAILY…a relationship (more so of a marriage though) to me is like a business. 2 entities under one conglomerate. Both of us on in it together. A shared effort. He does his part and I’ll do mine.

He cuts the grass

I’ll fix dinner.

He kills a bug…(eww I hate bugs)

I’ll rub his head.

He runs the household.

I’ll back him up and support him.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 4, 2008 9:15 AM | Link to this

Jen- Most of that gooshy, feel-good, touchy-feely stuff like making pancakes…worthless whenever one or both of you are in a crisis… Sounds to me like you could not cook to save your life, and by the way those pancakes would sit nicely in your stomach if you had to run from a sweaty toothless would-be attacker for say 2-3 miles.

Dan -Most guys will tell you (if honest) they don’t know how they ended up in the relationship they’re in. Please don’t speak for us all homie cuz you aint really putting it together well. We all know that we want, a woman who is attractive to us and “just my type”. Just because I wanted to bang out the day I met her does not mean that I’m not open to go further with it, but the fact that I approached her tells me that if she is a complete package then here we go… perhaps.

By T-Mango

January 4, 2008 9:18 AM | Link to this

For me, I have to start with some of the basics: He has integrity, has a vision for his life, has a personal relationship with God, he can be faithful to one woman, demonstrates that his word is his bond(tells the truth/does what he says he will do), he’s physically & mentally healthy, he’s respectful, believes in giving back to the community…

Then, we get to some of the other things that some of the other bloggers have mentioned. My .02.

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

The TRUTH You are so right…But is that necessarily a bad thing? I mean that LOUD chick could have actually been wifey to you. They may have been her only flaw. You just cancelled her out without any forth investigation. But on the flip side that is a good thing….Cause it can eliminate alot of miscellaneous B.S.

DAN Wow…so you never ONCE felt you want to be in any relationship you are in? Yes I have dealt with that stupid inmature scenario. It’s dumb and immature if you ask me. Don’t be or feel trapped. If those words have to leave your mouth you need to get the HELL ON! Yall men kill me with being “forced” into a relationship. But at the same time you don’t want to see her with no one else. Or if she decide to give the puddy away…you get 38 hot..Come on now! I am not buying it!

By binford

January 4, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

Gwinnett - your turn to be taken care of? For what? Getting knocked up and not staying with the sperm donor and now hunting a new one? Most guys who make more than you, wouldn’t want you for that very reason. Your business model is antiquated and suited for 1950. There’s a Delorean around the corner…

On Topic I have defined what I want and the things I need. I’ve even found many women who fit the bill. They just happen to be in a relationship or married. So I bide my time until I find one who happens to be single.

By Dan

January 4, 2008 9:27 AM | Link to this

My fault 900

I was speaking for the guys I know (as I said earlier) but I guess I should intimate that in every post so that the point is clear.

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 9:28 AM | Link to this

Good morning. When I find a mate, he must be responsible and have the motivation to learn and experience new things. We both can support the household. He must be of sound mind (LOL). He must respect me in order for me to respect him. He must make me laugh because I sure as heck will keep him laughing. First and foremost, we must start out as great friends. All else will fall into place. Although I love to cook, it would be nice to see him at the stove fixing me dinner once in a while.

And, as BlowMe so eloquently stated “He kills a bug…(eww I hate bugs).”

By Disgruntled Atlanta Sports Fan

January 4, 2008 9:30 AM | Link to this

Ladies: So often what you are looking for is right in front of you but you fail to see it for reasons known only to you. Perhaps he is not good looking enough for you, or is a little heavy, or shy, or doesn’t make the kind of money YOU THINK you deserve. These guys, and there are ALOT of us, are loyal, hard-working, dependable, faithful options that are often overlooked for the flashy guys with no substance. Oh well, you reap what you sow.

BTW, my wife took the time to know me and I wound up with a knock-out that is everything I ever wanted in a mate. And I am ten years older than she, heavy and definately not that physically attractive. But then again, she likes the way I have placed her on a pedastal. We also share the household chores 50/50 and we both work full-time jobs.

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 9:31 AM | Link to this

T-Mango Yeah it’s word is bond. Definitely..you have quite a few good ones there as well too

By Dan

January 4, 2008 9:32 AM | Link to this

900

There’s a difference between “type” and “want”.

The type is what you physically go for, for the jumpoff, the date, the whatever.

The want is the combined qualities that the woman possesses. Can she cook, will she clean, will she volunteer more than sex in a relationship?

That’s my point, I’ve found what I wanted in my type. Lost her, looking for another of the same type(physically) with the same wants (qualities).

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 9:35 AM | Link to this

BTW, I also want a man that can wear shoes and not always sneakers…LOL

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs I can agree with you as well…GREAT FRIENDS!!

By Cane

January 4, 2008 9:38 AM | Link to this

Big Butt…Decent face!

Big Butt and Pretty face is a beauty queen.

By joe

January 4, 2008 9:43 AM | Link to this

Let’s start with a woman who can bring SOMETHING/ANYTHING to the table besides the ability to hold down a job and a ravenous appetite for eating dinners out. Oh, and these don’t count: shopping, nonstop talking on the cell, and burying your brain in People magazine. Haven’t met too many others lately, but I’m still holding out hope!

By The Truth

January 4, 2008 9:44 AM | Link to this

WTF just happened? Did Binford just go straight off on Gwinnett or what? AS Cuba gooding said in Jerry Maguire “I like that about you”. LMAO I gotta agree 100% with you on this Binny. Its the entitlement thing kicking in again.

Dan I’m with 900 on this one. You were way off base dude. 10 minute timeout for you. I think we base our relationships more on the fact we can exist with a chick, therefore you wake up a year later and she’s there. Women have needs that must be met as a part ofthe process. We just want to enjoy life, if thats with a chick so be it.

Blow in my example the cat who didn’t like the loud chick probably loves peace and quiet. You ain’t getting that from her so you’ll always have a a noisey home. Bounce early and you don’t have to deal with it. There’s a chick out there with most things you want,and she has a personality thats smooth as silk. Patience.

Sexy I had 2 requests(recipe) for my mac and cheese over the holidays. It was a smash hit. LOL You’d of been proud.

By Gwinnett county Mom

January 4, 2008 9:44 AM | Link to this

Binford Why is it always the woman’s fault the man left? Oh yea, I guess I couldn’t keep him huh? Well I didn’t want him anymore. Maybe I grew up and he didn’t. Typical man response, what a chauvinstict thing to say. Men always think it’s the woman’s fault they stray……Maybe I just chose the wrong man to spend the rest of my life with. Anyway I kicked his cheating butt to the curb!!!!

And hell yea I want to be taken care of, what woman doesn’t? I deserve it. And with your attitude, you will never find a woman! Good luck.

By pisces07

January 4, 2008 9:45 AM | Link to this

Morning All: I have any idea of what I want, we all should have an idea. If I get 80%, I’m cool.

P.S Thought she was Beautiful….

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 9:45 AM | Link to this

SEXY Leggs Again…I like to see him dressed up that’s another turn off…slacks, suit….omgosh..You just don’t know. Hey I like to see you in yours Jordansz and Ones to ..But the hard bottoms are definitely sexy..

By Dan

January 4, 2008 9:46 AM | Link to this

Blow Me

You’re misconstruing what I’m saying. You’re right to run is immature, the mature thing is to have “the conversation”. But a lot times, that is harder than running, so that’s what we choose to do.

I’m not saying I abslove myself of the action (I don’t), at the same time I’ve been with women that will just start referring to me as “[her] man” without me knowing it. “Really? When we’d make that decision?”

Now truthfully, tell me you’ve never done that (if not in his presence, in your mind or to the homegirls without informing him), and I’ll stand corrected.

By Deelin

January 4, 2008 9:47 AM | Link to this

Women (Black women) want thugs. Bottom line. They can say this, they can say that. But women wanting thugs is the answer. There are so many men out there trying to be thuggish who are really not, all because women feel that being with a thug is the in thing.

Thanks women for adding fuel to the thug culture.

By Atlanta Pearl Girl

January 4, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this

Gee….let me get my list out here ::::crinkling paper::::::::

Intelligence Integrity Established Interesting Interested in other things besides his own world (moi’) Chemistry between the two of us…Looks are pretty secondary.

Remember the saying “Would you rather make love to a man who looks like Danny Devito but makes love like Antonio Bandaras, or would you rather make love to a man who looks like Antonio Bandaras and makes love like Danny DeVito.” You get the picture.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 4, 2008 9:48 AM | Link to this

loyal, hard-working, dependable, faithful options that are often overlooked for the flashy guys with no substance.- I see this a MAJOR issue in women ATL sports, men do the same too but mostly its more casual then trying make sumtin out of nothin. That D-boy/ music producer always gets sent upstate for a 3-9yr bid right when the baby drops.

Dan- now I do not make a habit out of pointing to the typings of Blow but she is gettin at you with good points on her latest. I want my type its that simple with me and over time I’m sure that I’ll NEED her cuz she suits me as I do her. I dont see what you’re getting at. “My type” is the complete package however that is hard to judge from across the room so the phys gets play 1st ya dig? But yes I do see your point, I jus thought you left out a few things.

Blow- if you take what Dan said then add my .02 I think you’ll get a clear understanding of the man mental.

By Wow

January 4, 2008 9:50 AM | Link to this

Where do I start! I agree with Dan, I don’t think men think at all! So of course they fall into relationships because they don’t use there brain! And that would explain why the fall into a relationship with a BBF (big booty freak) with four kids and SIX baby’s daddies because they are unsure wow father two of them! I think everyone needs to me more conscious of who they encounter dating wise because if you’re in it long enough it WILL turn into more then just a roll in the hay! I personally have made that same mistake myself….I met a gut who was absolutely gorgeous and could put me to sleep (if you know what I mean)! I “woke up” as Dan stated and it was five years later! He didn’t have what I call “growth potential” he was a thug with a pipe! DONT get me wrong I have nothing against thugs but sometimes enough is enough!

The point of this entry is to say I don’t think there is a way to plan for a good mate…..I think you must be aware of what are TRUE traits that you want them to encompass…..NOT “brown skin and fatties” and I don’t say that because I don’t have some of those traits because I do…..but if I hear another guy walk pass me saying “hey red” I will just scream! Get to know me or better yet try getting to know your self! Then maybe you’ll know what’s good for you when you see it!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 4, 2008 9:53 AM | Link to this

Well I see the fireworks are about to start flying so let me chime in now! LOL

T-Mango I agree with your post 100%. Being family oriented, open minded, compromising, hard-working, likes music and selflessness are also qualities I look for. And the family oriented trait is not b/c I have a child but mainly b/c I have a big family and we always get together!

By pisces08

January 4, 2008 9:53 AM | Link to this

…oops

By Ga. Man

January 4, 2008 9:56 AM | Link to this

“Good Morning” all…..

need coffee, late start this morning…

dang Truth…dis ish is nasty…need a fresh coffee

By Staceye

January 4, 2008 9:58 AM | Link to this

GOOD MORNING AND HAPPY NEW YEAR GUYS!!!

I am finally back..how was everyone’s holidays? Ok..somebody give me thw quick rundown of what I missed from 12/21/07! LOL I know…that is a lot to ask!

On topic No commment for now!

By Jen

January 4, 2008 9:59 AM | Link to this

900K aka Mr 2008 I have been married for > 10 years and happily so. I am a super-fabulous cook, just ask my husband. However, I know that’s not what he VALUES in me as his spouse. Just like how he has kept in shape, which is nice, but not what I value in him.

We both value the same thing —> Kindness, strength of character, selflessness, a sense of humor, and goals…

If something really bad happened like we lost our child his figure and my cooking wouldn’t keep us together through that crisis. But those other qualities would.

But you know, I didn’t know these things were important when I was LOOKING for a husband. I only realized them during marriage.

By binford

January 4, 2008 10:00 AM | Link to this

Gwinnett Hey, guess what? Guys wouldn’t mind being taken care of too. What makes you think you are entitled to it or deserve more than any man or woman on the planet? Your sense of entitlement is an embodiment of what’s wrong with this country. All should strive to pave their own way in this world.

Your ex could have been the biggest bum ever and it still doesn’t justify you not having the drive to make your own way.

What if a guy you meet works for a charity and makes very little money? If you wouldn’t date or marry him, obviously the problem lies with the person you see in the mirror.

I’ve found plenty of good women; the responsible, non-mooching independent folks tend to sniff each other out.

By Beautiful

January 4, 2008 10:01 AM | Link to this

Women (Black women) want thugs.

me = yes and no. but is willing to date my first nerd, heavy set, etc. guy.

;)

By Raqi

January 4, 2008 10:05 AM | Link to this

Happy New Year to everyone.

I think it’s the desires beyond the obvious that keep the human mind in search of the perfect. The better. The remarkable. Without a doubt every woman desires a man that is financially stable, pleasing to the eye and can take her to cloud nine. I have yet to meet a woman that says she wants a guy that is broke, unsightly and lame. However we short ourselves when we fall over into the ridiculous as to say he can only work for a Fortune 500 company and stand 6’5” tall.

The one thing I had always wished for was a man that gets me because I have been told by many that I am a hard nut to crack. Most don’t get where I am coming from and therefore is oblivious of how to take the journey with me to where I am trying to go.

The one that gets me got me. Oddly enough he is not the one who I thought it would be but he is who he is. I wouldn’t go so far as to say he is the only man that exists that understands me, but I have no reason to look any further. I have been got.

When you take a step beyond the obvious and a step back from the tedious you just may find what you desire somewhere there in the middle.

By JJ

January 4, 2008 10:07 AM | Link to this

I’ll take any man that will take on an already made family. As a single parent, it’s very difficult to find a man who is willing to take on another man’s child. “Baggage” I believe it is called.

I’m not picky, and would be grateful for a decent, honest, hard working, responsible MAN. Thugs need not apply.

However, the other problem I run into is most men cannot accept my independance. I have been on my own, with a child, for 16 years now. I do my own yard work, car maintenance, home repairs (with the help of several male friends and family members), etc. I don’t NEED a man, but I would like the company of a nice gentleman. Even if we just saw each other on the weekends.

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 10:07 AM | Link to this

900 What do you mean you don’t point to the typings of me? What’s that suppose to mean?!??1?

And you and Dan are confusing as hell…let me scroll back up and read again.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 4, 2008 10:09 AM | Link to this

Wow - I am not even going to respond to you, you just made 3 lefts and four rights in your post …Get your Mind Right! Dan get her!

Binford- did you get a copy of Truth’s thugged out handbook? Sound like you been frying chicken wings listening to 2pac in the same beater and timbs for the last 3 days LoL. I do have to cosign on that post to…

Gwinnett - Bin never said it was your fault or who left who, the fact is you’re not together and now the new man has to look out for 2 on christmas.

By DreamsMaterialize

January 4, 2008 10:10 AM | Link to this

Having a list of want and needs is just our way of filtering so that we’re left with a pool of eligible (for you) dating material. The goal of filtering is to maximize the good dating material, while minimizing the bad dating material. If you develop a list of WANTS and filter based on that, then you’re siphoning off lots of goods because your wants can change over time with growth/maturity/experience. I think it’s better to filter based on DON’T WANTS. That way, you still filter out the bads but leave some flexibility to meet goods that might not have originally been your radar.

By angel007

January 4, 2008 10:11 AM | Link to this

Good Morning! Nice topic WD

I think that everyone has made some very valid points on what they look for in the ideal mate…by no means am I knocking anyone that names specifics in looks or personalities. So I’d like to ask a question.

How many people have dated someone knowing that they did not possess the qualities that you’re looking for in a mate? If you’re currently dating someone without the qualities that you’re looking for, why?

By Cemeeli

January 4, 2008 10:12 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone!

@ 900K - Pancakes?! I thought you were a pecan waffle expert?…

@ Truth…i’d be craving some of that REAL good mac n’cheese instead of that steal @ breakfast you’re offering the group today….WT???

Wow…from the looks of it, me looking for a personal chef in a mate…:-) there’s a personalized apron for him at my place….

By Staceye

January 4, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

Deelin I don’t do Thug-life sweetie! Not my thing! I would want a guy I can actually take out in public! Now, I would not want a punk/pushover/wuss…he must have a spine. But no way in hell would he be disrespectful, speak improper English, be unemployed, nor walk around with his pants hanging off his azz looking a hot mess!

By Dan

January 4, 2008 10:13 AM | Link to this

Binford: Right on!

Wow: Exactly, that’s how women get caught too, that fie fie fireman hose, will get you everytime.

Generally speaking to the guy that was talking about his (good for you!), I can understand where you come from with that, and for as much as men are catigated for being “shallow” women are moreso.

A woman will see what the “thug” could be, but won’t look twice at what Calvin (in this instance every man trying) is trying to be. And the same time, they want Joe that already has it to then share.

Somewhere in the middle ladies, lies happyness.

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 10:14 AM | Link to this

Truth, I’m cheesing all the way over here. Keep up the excellent work in honing your culinary skills. What are you ready to try now?

Deelin a lot of black women do not want a thug. I want a MAN who knows himself, is reliable, is time conscious, likes to play Bid Whist (not a requirement..LOL), among other things!

By Cemeeli

January 4, 2008 10:22 AM | Link to this

What up MO you gotta multitask so you can blog chica.

Hi Stac welcome back, where you been anyway…Puerto?

By limegpuppy

January 4, 2008 10:26 AM | Link to this

Hey all!

JJit really bugs me out to hear any woman independent or not yell she don’t need a man. Not attacking you personally but yet you want the company of the man…wth.

There are plenty of men equipped to handle a woman who is quote “INDEPENDENT”. I truly believe that all women consider themselves independent SO or not. Women with this motto please get some counseling because there are some serious faults that need to be realized, and then worked on.

By Rell in 08

January 4, 2008 10:28 AM | Link to this

@deelin, dude are you one of those “nice guys that finish last”….your old post smells of desperation…fix that homie..all that whinning about what black women want it off base…problem is they dont want your weak dyck arse…MAN UP DUDE and stop being envious of a “thug” and whatever “jumpoff” he is sporting around town…come on player…it never gets that late in the day to lower my standards to attract the attentions of a dayum hood rat…remember in the words of sam jackson “just because you pour syrup on shlit dont make it pancakes”

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 4, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

Cee -yeah I got the waffles for ya too, btw I’m a BEAST on the grill. I dont do aprons tho bay thats all you.

Blow - see thats what I mean I try to throw you an assist and you think I’m throwin darts. you said: I have dealt with that stupid inmature scenario. It’s dumb and immature if you ask me. Don’t be or feel trapped. If those words have to leave your mouth you need to get the HELL ON! Yall men kill me with being “forced” into a relationship. -ouch!!! I pointed to this; letting Dan know what he said originally could be viewed just like this so its not ALL of us just a few knuckleheads young boys.

What up Staceye!

By Wow

January 4, 2008 10:34 AM | Link to this

900K aka Mr 2008- Dan understood exactly want I was saying men don’t think and woman make mistakes! I made a mistake being with That D-boy/ music producer that always gets sent upstate for a 3-9yr bid right when the baby drops for five years I was young! I didn’t ONLY like him because of his thug appeal he came to the table being loving and kind originally! Like Dan said I looked past a few things! Men don’t even try to get what’s right for them they just go for what appeals to them physically! A blow up Doll! It is not a mistake because they do it over and over again! Then when they RUN into someone half way decent they have given up and labeled ALL women as crazy as hell!

By Astroguy

January 4, 2008 10:37 AM | Link to this

I would like to find a woman works in the hard sciences field. Physics or astronomy would be great. Preferably a slim geeky type. I make an excellent living (over 6 figures) but would not have a problem with a woman who makes more than me. Also she would have to be an atheist. I could never respect someone who believes in a god or is unable to rationalize or reason for themselves. Everything else is flexible and can be worked out together.

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 10:41 AM | Link to this

JJ You do need a man…It’s part of the plan. If you don’t need a man, stop asking for one. You do those things because right now you have no choice. You do what you have to do. I am very INDEPENDENT as well. But I am the first to say I need a man. But I can maintain inbetween those times. I know how to fall back when a REAL man is around.

By Happy

January 4, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

Once you put away your list of “wants” in a husband/wife, and go on with your life, Mr./Ms. Right will magically appear.

What you all want, doesn’t exist. It only exists in your head. There is no one that perfectly matches your “wants”.

Don’t worry about it, and it will happen one day. There is nothing you can do about it, it’s fate. You may have to kiss a few frogs on the way, but if you are patient, love will come to you, in the MOST unexpected way.

By DBB

January 4, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

she HAS to be

smart (No airheads) good sense of humor a freak!!! politically aware a backbone likes to relax at home not want kids!!!!!!!!!!! non religious not crazy or tempermental

would be nice to have

decent paying job Bi AND a swinger ;) filthy rich parents a bubble butt and good sized rack

By Staceye

January 4, 2008 10:45 AM | Link to this

Hey Cemeeli Thanks! No mama…I went home to NY!

JJ from one independent woman to another….I feel you. You do NOT need a man. But you want one. Some fail to recognize the difference. A man would be an accessory..not a necessiy! Kep doing your thing mami.

**Hey Rell, 900, Truth, Dan, Binford, Sexyleggs, Mo, Slim, Foots, QC and all the other regulars I may have forgotten.

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 10:46 AM | Link to this

WOW stand up in givin her an applause……CO-SIGN %100 SO DAMN TRUE WOW…I’d like to see 900 Come back from this one. Eventhough D-Boys are not my thing anymore..too old for that.

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 10:50 AM | Link to this

We all want someone that will complement us. To have a partner you can turn to and talk about anything and everything is priceless. To be able to laugh and cry together is a beautiful thing. What’s on the outside may count for 10%. The beauty that’s inside is what’s important. Most times, that inner beauty outshines the outer beauty. A pretty woman or a handsoome man can be the devil in disguise. Inner beauty is where we should start!!!

By G-Money

January 4, 2008 10:53 AM | Link to this

A pair of 34Cs and a tight one, who wants it at least once a day.

And, uh, well, that’s about it. I’m good.

By Got that?

January 4, 2008 10:56 AM | Link to this

It’s really simple. You will attract what you are. The qualities, both good and bad, your temperament, your likes or dislikes that you bring to the table will draw that same to you. Maybe you won’t see it at first, but give it time and you’ll see. That’s why people don’t know how they ended up in relationships. They don’t know for sure what they are bringing to the table. They’re attracting on default, not working through their own issues and finding their own happiness first, then finding someone to share that happiness with.

By Cemeeli

January 4, 2008 10:57 AM | Link to this

900K a.k.a. Grill Master Hello!?! …all i have is a lil Hibachi…you’ll have to bring the grill…i kinda got rid of my traditional.

• here’s and idea; maybe in the sring (cpl mnths to go) we should have a meet-n-greet grill/picnic somewhere)*

By Rell in 08

January 4, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

sup staceye….see you playette..i pop my collar to you in the new year

By JJ

January 4, 2008 10:58 AM | Link to this

Blow There is a huge difference between NEEDING a man, and WANTING a man. I don’t NEED a man as I am quite self-sufficient and not needy, but I would like to have a companion. Do you understand that concept?

Stayce thank you, you understand.

By Dan

January 4, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

I heard a joke last night on XM going home. I think it went like this:

“Dating is like a sharing box of choclates, there a bunch that nobody wants. Then when you find the one you could eat, someone has already stuck their finger in it.”

That’s how I feel about a woman that dated a thug (including me). Thugs have tendencies and bring out stuff in woman that she carries for a while. She’d have to be in “thug-love remission” for a good lil while for I could fluck with her.

@WD: could you get them to do something about the home page…I’m tired of having go through all those screens to get here. The web editor is cramping my addiction.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 4, 2008 10:59 AM | Link to this

Staceye Welcome back chica!!! Good to read ya again! LOL

Cemeeli you know how it is when you have been off a couple of days. You come back and folk act like they dont know how to do ish anymore…can you help with this, I am sooo glad you are back, Do you mind assisting so-n-so. Lazy azz folk! But TGIF!!! :-)

900K aka Mr 2008 You a beast on the Grill?? Okay and where can I find you? LOL And I’ll take a waffle please!

By limegpuppy

January 4, 2008 11:01 AM | Link to this

**A pair of 34Cs and a tight one, who wants it at least once a day.

And, uh, well, that’s about it. I’m good.**

Now see that’s the type of ish that gets me. What if she look like Charlie Murphy, then what nukka.

LMAO - People heads be full of hot air.

By The Truth

January 4, 2008 11:02 AM | Link to this

For the fellas. You don’t have to be a thug. You do have to have some nuts tho. In dog training we say you have to be 1/6 tougher than the dog you own. The same applies to a woman. If your soft as medicated cottballs and she’s balls to the wall get down on all fours and enjoy what you have coming.

Question for the fellas: (This post will be blacked out for all the ladies) What would you do if your wife came home the next morning after partying all night and not letting you know where she was? I have a solution but someone told me I was way off base. I ask for your input.

Welcome back Staceye.

Sexy I still need to up my side dish game so school me on a nice potatoe dish or something for more variety.

I need the 3 f’s.

Feed me.

Fugg me.

And let me rest my fuggin head. LMAO

By MELO

January 4, 2008 11:06 AM | Link to this

But bad breath is a deal breaker It can be fixed.

By Cemeeli

January 4, 2008 11:08 AM | Link to this

Okay MO - Grill Master 900, and myself gonna have to hook sumthin up

Who else is down?

By Cheryl

January 4, 2008 11:12 AM | Link to this

What a prize The Truth is. What r u waiting 4, girls?

This is why U cant have a blog: trolls torpedo any discussion. It’s also why you have to kiss alot of frogs to find a prince.

Just go out there and hope it falls into place. Meeting someone in the act of being themselves is the key. Volunteer. Shop. Walk into a firehouse and ask what’s hot? (Wear nine inch heels when you try that one, girls, after all, they’ve got ladders).

wink

By limegpuppy

January 4, 2008 11:12 AM | Link to this

Got that

Very well stated. I enjoy these types of blog topics as you watch everyone unveil the list. Yet they all are looking. As you stated some people don’t realize the vibes they put out, and thats why most are still stuck looking for people who fit the list. Draw a line beside your list, a place your characteristics on paper. Then seek some folk out and just ask them to name a few things they like about you, flaws included to. If they name whats on ya list carry on looking for the one. If you only see a few traits the maybe you need to go back to the drawing bored and start fresh with a new list.

By Dan

January 4, 2008 11:12 AM | Link to this

Truth

That would never happen. Walk in the house after an all nighter?(said with the Clay Davis Sheeeeeeiit).

Might find the locks changed (even to your own crib). No way I don’t get a phone call, a text or something.

Please, she’d most likely come home and find me gone.

By Tazzee

January 4, 2008 11:13 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

This is a good topic. I’ll be the first to admit that I don’t know what I want (outside the basics: Christian, financially secure, etc) but I’ll know it when I see/experience it.

One day a friend and I sat down and listed all the qualities we liked in our past mates and the things we didn’t like - a pros and cons list. I don’t look at that as my list of likes because I’m sure as time goes on, I’ll add to it - but right now I use that as a basis.

With the two most recent guys I’ve gone out with one guy has a few traits on the cons list and a few on the pros list, while the other guy has all but one trait on the pros list and none on the cons list. The thing is, I didn’t even think about that list until recently and sure enough, I’m still seeing the guy with all the pros. So I’m not going around with a check list - I just spend some time with a guy and make a decision from there.

Hey Raqi welcome back, you’ve been missed.

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 11:20 AM | Link to this

JJ I understand what you are claiming to say. TO me a MAN is needed and NOT a boy. I need a real one in every sense of the word. Same as true for a man. He needs a woman. Would you die without? No…. Could you live a complete happy life without? No….

Melo I was thinking that too….Give her some listerine and a tongue scraper!! lol

By blackshepherd

January 4, 2008 11:22 AM | Link to this

Ask Liza Minelli. She will hook you up with on of her she/men. heh heh. I hear David Guest is single again. I am sure one of you wealthy gals would make a good mate for him/her.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 4, 2008 11:26 AM | Link to this

Wow -on your 1st post you started off just bashing all men saying Men don’t think meaning we’re ALL stupid, mindless, retards that ONLY think w/ our tools which to me is very offensive. However you then gave reason for your thoughts saying everyone needs to be accountable for who they date now Im good with you. And then?? you come out with I made the same mistake!?!?!?? WTF Why is it that ALL MEN are SCUM to you, but YOU WOMEN only make mistakes??? this is where you went wrong w/ me You compare yourself tryin to build a future with Dboy fresh to dudes runin round out here just tryin to jump off for the night casual sex is a 2way street. 1st the two are completely different 2nd you’re still way off cuz I’m nothin like that and could intro you to many guys that are diff from your brainless Zombie men you talk about.

Listen I come from hustle, you see while Everyone around me was pushin crack I was hustlin (paper routes, shovelin snow, cuttin grass, McD’s, workin @ Bank is H.s, Sittin in the office now….) and to this day still are. If you have to make bread by the .oz then you get in and get out. Its a weak mind that thinks the dope game is his #1 and only hustle out there and runs around knockin up as many cute young ladies as they can. It’s even Weaker for a woman to think they can build a real future with this person then have a kid by them. NO her age does not exclude her from being a dumb b@*h, if she spends 6mo-5yrs with homie and he still on the corner then SHE is lost along with HIM. not that this was your story Im just saying… Your 2nd post was cool w/ me tho but that 1st one should be erased.

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 11:27 AM | Link to this

The Truth Exactly….we dont’ want THUGS..I don’t. But you need to have some BALLS and Major SWAG about yourself. I can not be able to run over you. It will not work. I am a boss hog anyway so you BETTER be able to rumble with me!

Dan-Interesting. This proves the point I was trying to make 9:27 am..

The quickest way to pull a Bytch out of man is tamper with his puddy. Men go nutzo..changing locks, crying, ….That’s a blow to the Ego

By Cemeeli

January 4, 2008 11:29 AM | Link to this

Yea MO you gotta train yourself to know that when you return it’s gonna be 100+ emails/quest. to answer and the other team members didn’t speak WORK while you where out…:-0…sad.

Where is Someone else not 2CPTG and Demi?

By melo

January 4, 2008 11:33 AM | Link to this

I’ll take any man that will take on an already made family JJ,there arent many USHER types within the black community.Persuade one of ur mechanics to be on your booty call team.

By brown_sugar_vixen

January 4, 2008 11:33 AM | Link to this

I think that the question posed is a good one, but where people go wrong is trying to put physical descriptions as an addendum in addition to the list of pros/cons their ideal SO should possess.

Some of these good looking men/women, are only skin deep. Would you pass someone up because they don’t meet pyhsical yet has everything that you’re lookin for as a SO?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 4, 2008 11:38 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli I am not gonna let these people get to me today…WOO-SAH!! And the spring cookout is a cool idea.

By Dan

January 4, 2008 11:39 AM | Link to this

Blow Me

You got me messed up. Dig it, jealousy is not my thang. If she passing it around the town is too small for me not to hear about it. After that, of course I’m out. Who wants to try and tame the neighborhoodrat?

Crying, over a woman….once in life. Never that…oh, no I won’t do that…

As far as the ego goes, if dude catch me slippin and get, her got her, and can keep her. I’m usually at the homegirl by that time anyway.

900 you said a mouthful then: “Can’t feed the baby on that dope money.”

By A Fool's Dream

January 4, 2008 11:41 AM | Link to this

A warm, nurturing, emotionally available woman that I can connect to on an emotional level. Someone who accepts me as I am, and whom I can accept as she is. Someone who is affectionate and loves to be touched, and loves to touch me. Someone whom I can look into her eyes and see a warm loving soul - that loves me. Someone that does not connect happiness with materialism, and is willing to take the “road less traveled” in order to find peace, comfort, satisfaction, and community for a lifetime. Someone who is honest and can be intimate - not just sexually, but emotionally. There are no women like that out there. A man cannot look for a woman like that, he has to just find one. They are too rare. I have been single for 2 decades because I will not settle for less. Maybe I will die alone, but it will be better than the company of a shallow self centered woman. Dogs make better companions than that type of woman. And you can trust a dog.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 4, 2008 11:42 AM | Link to this

Cee - I got you! not pork on my grill tho sorry folks. Lol you and Mo just bring the sides (no sto-bought!) Jen said she is an excellent cook so she can whip sumtin up too.

Blow -of course you would co-sign WOW, w/out even givin me any props. I see how it is. You got clean up duty @ the cookout!

By angel007

January 4, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

900

I’m with you on dat last post. Women kill me try to say they made a mistake, or the I was young excuse. I know that immaturity plays a big role in peoples decision making. It’s still no valid reason other than pure laziness or an scapegoat answer. Why do women believe that they can change a man in time, or if they have his baby that will turn him into a man. Roger that’s negative. I really wish that people would be more accountable for their actions. Opposed to using the same ole tired azz list of excuses.

By melo

January 4, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

Truth,answer to ur qs,if no kidnaping report has been made by her to the police and u can vouch for that, she waz getting flucked and u should have seen tell tell signs already unless u lame.Start getting rid of her coz men are sampling her and she aint urs alone any more!! That kind of shyt does not happen in a husband/wife home.Even homies like me, who sometimes go networking on Fridays after work sometimes never stop calling home to let her know i’ll be late.

By Cemeeli

January 4, 2008 11:45 AM | Link to this

…Blow …dude is changing locks AND crying…lOl…now see…I need for him not to cry will doing handy work..that visual.

Brownsugar Would you pass someone up because they don’t meet physical yet has everything that you’re lookin for as a SO? NO, I have lived and learn this is not what’s up.

By DreamsMaterialize

January 4, 2008 11:46 AM | Link to this

Truth She would know from the start of our relationship that a move like that is UNACCEPTABLE. So, if she did it, already knowing where I stand on it, then for me it would immediately point to guilt. I would handle it differently than most though. I would act like nothing unusual had happened, wouldn’t question it or anything because my mind would already be made up about the direction of our relationship. OVER, ROLLOUT.

By lazy les

January 4, 2008 11:51 AM | Link to this

HELLO all, I look for the LOVER who always says YES!

By Dan

January 4, 2008 11:52 AM | Link to this

I’m in on a cookout, but I only bring the cooler (loaded) and music. Everything else….

Oh, and make it on a Saturday and I’m there.

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 11:53 AM | Link to this

Would you pass someone up because they don’t meet pyhsical yet has everything that you’re lookin for as a SO?….I wouldn’t!

Truth Potato Amandine

Level: Easy Serves: 6 Time 2 hs 30 Min

4 large Russet potatoes 1 oz butter, melted Salt and white pepper 3 to 4 grates of nutmeg 5 eggs 1 1/2 cups sliced almonds 1/2 cup flour

Recipe Directions: Bake the potatoes: Preheat oven to 450ºF. Wash and brush the potatoes, thoroughly. Fork and wrap each whole potato in aluminum foil, and place in a baking dish. Place in the oven and bake for 1 hour or until potatoes are fully cooked. When cooked, cut potatoes in half, remove the pulp and pass it through a vegetable mill, one at the time. You must pass the potatoes through the mill while they are still hot. Using a wooden spoon, incorporate melted butter and 2 egg yolks to the potato pulp and Season it with salt, pepper and nutmeg to taste. Shape the pulp in even golf ball sizes. Refrigerate for 15 minutes.

Crust the almonds potatoes: Organize 3 bowls: one with flour, one with 3 eggs beaten in omelet fashion and one with the almonds. Roll each ball in flour, remove the excess with your hands. Then using forks toss them into the beaten egg bowl, let the excess of egg run off and then roll them in the almond slices, with your hands.Reserve on a clean tray in cooler until needed.

Before serving: Preheat your deep fryer to 350ºF. Deep-fry almonds potatoes until golden brown being careful not to overload the basket; Deep fry in small batches as it will take only a couple minutes for each one. Serve hot with your favorite roast!

Note: Do not season potato balls on the top, the seasoning should be inside not outside.

By Cemeeli

January 4, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

Grill Master 900 are you serious…I’m all about the sides…Asian Slaw and Baked Beans are one of my best dishes concerning sides @ cookouts.

MO Imma need some of that Woooooo-saaaah today when i get on this highway i HAVE to travel/road trip today (auw fewie!!).

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 4, 2008 11:54 AM | Link to this

Truth - If my lady or any lady is in a committed relationship then she need not be in the club when the lights on. Nothin but trouble is out @ 4am. So if that happens I’m going to say sumtin once then if it keeps up Im out!

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 11:55 AM | Link to this

Dan, Dan Dan You are the main one falling for a HOODRAT. You have no expectations but BUTT…AND Time. Dan get it together and stop quoting OUTKAST. You better come with you facts when you are dealing with BLOW!

900K As for you..Puhlease….CDUB aka blow WILL not be apart of the clean up committee! I think not. I’ll be on the “Keepin it REAL and gone off that Patron” committee. I’ll be the party loosener. lol!

By brown_sugar_vixen

January 4, 2008 11:56 AM | Link to this

Fools Dream

There are women out there like that. I know because I am one. I came from a family that raised nothing but women like the one you described above.

Lots of women try to put a value on themselves, based on what they think the puddy, and time are worth. But when I’m posed with that same question my answer remains the same. I’m priceless what I have to offer can’t be bought, isn’t offered in stores, and is very rare for those on an expedition to find me!

By The Truth

January 4, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

Blow thats a trick for weak dudes. Nowadays any dude out there thinking he owns some azz is stuck on stupid. This isnt about ego anymore. Its about reality.We live in a free will society. Enjoy the azz as long as you can and be prepared to lose it. Be like “Heat” and never have something in your life you can’t walk away from in 15 seconds. Any man thats puddy dependent is headed for a meltdown.

Dan I said the same thing. Her shyt would have been waiting for her at the curb. No discussion needed, no closure wanted. Its a wrap. I was told I was wrong. Like we’re going to sit up and discuss how shytty you’re gonna treat me. LOL

LMAO @ DBB.

By melo

January 4, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

At this late in the game 4 sme of u, u may have to settle for somebody who has already established themselves.Otherwise the most logical thing to do when looking for a mate is to loook for somebody with potential.The reason why some of u wont find any is because u setting such high standards for ur mate but not for urself.Example: u want somebody responsible but u already have 1 or 2 kids with 3 baby daddies.U want somebody finacially secure, but u urself are still hustling to make it.A lot of ur standards/criteria etc for a man or woman are so lofty. Look for somebody at least on ur standard but somebody u can grow together with, financially,spiritually etc so that together u can be a whole.Potential is the key. Now how do yu tell? When u date and go to events etc with ur potential, thru convo u can tell where somebody’s head is and then if u have good analysis skills, u wil strike gold.HAPPY HUNTING PLAYAS AND PLAYETES.

By melo

January 4, 2008 11:58 AM | Link to this

Truth,answer to ur qs,if no kidnaping report has been made by her to the police and u can vouch for that, she waz getting flucked and u should have seen tell tell signs already unless u lame.Start getting rid of her coz men are sampling her and she aint urs alone any more!! That kind of shyt does not happen in a husband/wife home.Even homies like me, who sometimes go networking on Fridays after work sometimes never stop calling home to let her know i’ll be late.

By Mikel

January 4, 2008 12:06 PM | Link to this

Definitely ,Mentally Stable…

By Staceye

January 4, 2008 12:07 PM | Link to this

I tried dating someone who nice and everything but not what I want physically…and that did not work. If I am not attracted to you…it’s not going to work. It will be all good when we hang out but as soon as you kiss me..I will become sick to the stomach! No puddy diving for you homie!

By Mikel

January 4, 2008 12:11 PM | Link to this

Definitely.Mentally Stable..

By brown_sugar_vixen

January 4, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

Any person that’s in a relationship and don’t bring dat azz home needs to be dismissed. It’s purely disrespectful to yourself and your SO.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 4, 2008 12:12 PM | Link to this

900k Can I bring some desserts? I think Cemeeli* got the sides on lock! And I think **Truth has the mac-n-cheese! LOL And good lookin on no pork

Cemeeli here ya go chica….Mo passes some Woo-Sah to Cemeeli! LOL Now that trip wont seem so bad!! :-)

By Wow

January 4, 2008 12:14 PM | Link to this

By 900K aka Mr 2008- 1st of all when I met him he was NOT on the corner! He took that path later on! Which explains why it WAS a five year relationship….. 2nd I DID NOT say that ALL men are as YOU put it stupid mindless retards……but a hit dog will holler! 3rd I said what makes ME different is I made a mistake once! NOT over and over again! I gave myself as an example only to show that there is a way to get out of a repetitive cycle! 4th I was making a comment to DAN because he stated that men FALL into relationships (For us it’s, we kicking it, we sexing it, then….oh snap! “I think I’m in a relationship, she’s using words like ‘we’ and ‘us’, and I buying gifts for random days that mean nothing to me.” “Dammit.”) TO ME this means that they DON’T think….And I explained that that is how ONE gets with the wrong person! 5th You didn’t get offended when he said he FELL into a relationship which is the SAME thing! I think your issue was when I quoted you and said that men need to look for more then as YOU put it “I want a petite woman w/ a fatty. Preferably brown skin(and thats still open).” And as for your comment about me making a future with the dope boy “build a future with Dboy fresh to dudes runin round out here just tryin to jump off for the night casual sex is a 2way street. 1st the two are completely differen”….if that was the case I would have several kids by him right now! I am 26 with no kids. And why do you find it necessary to defend a grown MAN that is STILL in his mid 30`s running around looking for A@$?

By Hotlanta

January 4, 2008 12:16 PM | Link to this

Dream we don’t mind you looking into our eyes sometimes. But if we catch you staring a little too long you scare us away because we think you might be a psycho or something. Why is the question always asking women why are we single and they act if something is wrong with that but no one is asking the men why are they single. It takes two. I agree to why if me and my 747 breakup people say that I can’t keep a man and he could have been knocoking my eyes out. But no one says anything about a man who can’t keep a woman. They say he haven’t found Ms. Right yet so that is why he is with Ms. Right Now. So Sad.

By Mikel

January 4, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

I forgot,No saliva exchange here.Staceye.100% with you..

By The Truth

January 4, 2008 12:17 PM | Link to this

Sexy I got that. I’m going to try it. Maybe tonight if I can make it to a store. I’ll let you know.

Fools Dream there was alot in there but let me pick one point and respond. Maybe the ladies have slim pickins but we don’t. Every combination of woman you could want is out there. You just have to allow her to find you. The woman you desire is probably living next door to you lonely as hell. Also, ALL women are emotionally open if you have the right key, even Staceye. Are you still recovering from a painful situation? (This is the new Truth* being more diplomatic.) LOL

I think its pretty unanimous that most dudes would give her the boot. Can you believe a dude told me I was wrong? WTF???

900 you’d give her one more chance than me buts its all good.

By Dan

January 4, 2008 12:18 PM | Link to this

Tevin Campbell

“What do you think you’re gone to find”….

Pandora.Awesome.

By Cemeeli

January 4, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

Grill Master you know you can’t “assign” ppl to the clean up committee, of course there’s another way…tell you later.

By binford

January 4, 2008 12:19 PM | Link to this

Staceye

I co-sign your post!

But as Ron White says: you can fix ugly, but you can’t fix stupid! :P

There just isn’t enough money sometimes to fix ugly.

By Hotlanta

January 4, 2008 12:20 PM | Link to this

WOW. All I gotta say is wow. The last sentence is off the hook and soooo correct. Chile they are still trying to find come in their 50’s and they think that is cool. I am like get the (blank) away from me. Yall got those little blue pills and yall have lost yall minds.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 4, 2008 12:21 PM | Link to this

angel007- Thanks for the big up! I’m wit you 100%.

Blow - Im havin a hard time picturing you as the life of the party … now the drunk cousin fightin at the cookout thats you. LoL

By Cemeeli

January 4, 2008 12:24 PM | Link to this

Thanks MO i’ll take a double dose of that Woo.

Uhm…Sexyleggs you can not post a recipe and not know that ‘we’ (picnic committee) are gonna ask you to bring somethin…

By Wow

January 4, 2008 12:33 PM | Link to this

900K aka Mr 2008 I DIDN’T say ANYTHING about being young and that’s why I made my mistake! “It’s even Weaker for a woman to think they can build a real future with this person then have a kid by them. NO her age does not exclude her from being a dumb b@*h, if she spends 6mo-5yrs with homie and he still on the corner then SHE is lost along with HIM.”

Lol you need to knock the dust off you glasses! So you read better!

Another thing I am SICK of guys claiming to have ALL of these good friends “could intro you to many guys that are diff from your brainless Zombie men you talk about.” If it is so many GREAT men out there then why is it so many say the SAME thing?

By The Truth

January 4, 2008 12:33 PM | Link to this

Hotlanta men dont define their lives by being married or not. Most women do. Thats why that standard can be applied to women and not men.

Ok, we’re gonna have to upgrade Binfords membership to “junior mafia”. Is this the new and improved 2008 edition Binford? LOL

Hey, if we’re grilling I have the Big Green Egg. If you don’t know ask someone. I promise I can make a steak that will make your knees bucles. LOL I made a hen that looked so good I hated to cut it. HMMMMMMM

Melo that 1158 is some real hard hitting reality based info. They don’t want to read that. Remember, this is a dating blog. LOL

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 12:33 PM | Link to this

900k Nah…I’m a lover not a fighter when I’m gone off that PATRON. But that’s a completely different story.

The Truth You packing up like that..Maybe she drunk too much and wanted to spend a night to get home save. And her phone died…You never know what the situation is. QUestion: Do you come home after 4am, without calling?

By Ladylike

January 4, 2008 12:39 PM | Link to this

I can honestly say that I no longer want a thug. I want someone whose a Christian (not perfect), gentle, polite, respectful (of others and himself). A man whose chanllenging and not afraid to challenge me, gotta love a man who tell you the truth and not mince words.

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 12:39 PM | Link to this

LOL @Cemeeli. I was waiting for the official invite from someone. If it didn’t come soon you best believe I was going to crash!

By Cemeeli

January 4, 2008 12:45 PM | Link to this

…and… Truth looks like you invited yourself and the Egg to be on the Grill committee…Thanks.

i see Blow and 900 are already gonna be an interesting conversation piece at the cookout….lol.

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 12:46 PM | Link to this

STACEYE Yeah that $hit don’t work. You have to be attractive to me, just to get my attention. Girl you should have brought us back some Bk bred, yankee wearing, timb sportin, straight teeth smiling. cute dimples…Let me stop! I love me a Brooklyn Bred dude…those accents!

By Dan

January 4, 2008 12:47 PM | Link to this

@Wow

Give a few of those guys a try, date drinks @ Club Applebees, whatever. You never know until you get out there and try….

@Sexy

You can come anywhere I go! Consider that an open invitation.

@Staceye You ain’t trying to Q? I know you “too cute” to cook…but you could still show up.

By Wow

January 4, 2008 12:48 PM | Link to this

ALL….. And the real topic should be “Dating in the A how it will never work” lol lol lmao!!!!!!

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 12:49 PM | Link to this

*LADIES QUESTION

So is it safe to say, THAT we all wanted THUGS @ some point in our lives??? I keep seeing and hearing women admit to this?

By JJ

January 4, 2008 12:50 PM | Link to this

melo Don’t take this wrong, but I’m not looking for a black man. Been there, done that, got the divorce, and look where I am today, single with his child. Haven’t heard a word from him in well over 10 years, nor have I received one dime of child support.

And I don’t do booty calls either. My stuff isn’t given away!!!

By Lady J

January 4, 2008 1:00 PM | Link to this

Hey Got that?, and I truly was thinking the samething as I could not put it in writing what I wanted…Always wondering why I end up with folk like my dad that I am truly like and hate it sometimes but that is true…We attract what we are…Great Post!

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 4, 2008 1:01 PM | Link to this

Wow as I stated to you not that its your story, never said it was you and Trust me I did not assume it was. Maybe I went on-&-on wit da hustle thing just telling my story. If I came off like I was callin you out your name then I am sorry! But I still dont get you…

“women don’t think”- Now if I say this how could I come back and say “I didn’t mean ALL women”? well thats what you just did. 3lefts and 4right turns, please stay on course. Also how do you take one line from my statement and say all I’m looking for is brown-skin-fatty girls? I touched on it a few times today it is a complete package Im lookin for just like dam near every person on here. Not to mention the phys qualities of “my type” would be less than the truth seeing thats what gets a mans attention 1st (women too don’t front!). Does she have to fit that to a T? No, I’m just drawn to that. when a female walks into the room that fits the m.o. I will notice her immediately. And you’re STILL wrong cuz I took offense to Dan on his 1st& 2nd post even tho I knew where he was coming from. And I completely knew where you were coming from on your 1st post until you expected to get a pass for “making mistakes” after you dogged MEN all-out. You made the mistake once how do you know those MEN just do the same over and over???

And why do you find it necessary to defend a grown MAN that is STILL in his mid 30`s running around looking for A@$? - once again this is called casual sex and its a two way street. He’ll find a chic 30-35yrs old and they can fool around 2gether why judge?

By Texmex

January 4, 2008 1:04 PM | Link to this

I look for a woman that can suck the chrome off a trailer hitch…..

By Wow

January 4, 2008 1:06 PM | Link to this

DAN…. You are right I should give “THEM” a try but it is hard to get with the lame in the corner with his dirty glasses on…..lol Why is it so hard to find a median…..

BLOW…. I am with you I love those boys up top from the bk….

By Hotlanta

January 4, 2008 1:10 PM | Link to this

Texmex you are looking for the vacumn cleaner section at Best Buy.

By Cemeeli

January 4, 2008 1:13 PM | Link to this

JJ you’re giving up on black men because of ONE ingnorant pligga? I only responded to your post b/c this hit close to home. Not that i EVER thought about giving up on my black men. But I understand your vibe and your issue with your child’s father that’s “out to lunch”…

By SlimOne

January 4, 2008 1:16 PM | Link to this

Truth or Men Period

So in regards to your question about a chick coming in hella late w/o a call…..Do you feel men have the right to do the same thing but expect her to shuck it up as, well he was just hanging out with the boys????

By Wow

January 4, 2008 1:17 PM | Link to this

900 Apology some what accepted! As for your other comment…..Fool around? Come on…..No I am grown! NO fooling around! How long can men just have SEX with ANYONE? ool around? Come on…..No i am grwon! NO fooling around!

By Beautiful

January 4, 2008 1:20 PM | Link to this

Blow now that i’m older (39), i prefer not to be with a thug. it was ok back in my 20s and early 30s. i would love to date a professional like an attorney. we would work well together, and the conversation would be amazing.

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 1:20 PM | Link to this

Thank you Dan.

BlowMe, I never wanted a thug. As Truth stated I’ve always wanted a man w/nuts and as you stated a man w/an easy swagger. We attract what we are. I have a good heart and a great soul. I hope to attract some one who has a lot of empathy for others and likes to volunteer to help others out.

By Dan

January 4, 2008 1:21 PM | Link to this

Wow

How about this?

At work I wear glasses, kinda like Clark Kent (and they’re tinted to keep people from looking too deep into the brother).

After work, you couldn’t tell me from the average cat on the corner…it’s called diversity/ transition/ the chamelon effect. There are happy mediums…you have to give it a try.

And speaking as a black man….if you don’t want me, don’t want you either! Kick rocks!

By Wow

January 4, 2008 1:21 PM | Link to this

lmfao @ texmex

By Wow

January 4, 2008 1:22 PM | Link to this

lmfao @ texmex and hotlanta

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 1:22 PM | Link to this

SLIMEONE I already hit him with that question and he has yet to answer it!! lol!

By Mextex

January 4, 2008 1:24 PM | Link to this

… or a golf ball through a garden hose.

By Dan

January 4, 2008 1:25 PM | Link to this

@Slim

That’s just it. We will call. I need you to be half awake when I hit the door for the late night!

Becuase regardless of what I do, being out that late, rest assured I’m coming home to handle my BI.

By melo

January 4, 2008 1:28 PM | Link to this

And I don’t do booty calls either. My stuff isn’t given away!!! Sweetie, u been giving away that stuff for the past 16 years, or maybe u that strong u have not indulged all that long? What kind of companionship are u loking for then,a friend,a man to call urs, what exactly? U say u have several male friends who help u out..that would be a start if i were u, to find the man u want. More often that not, the people u call friends have the same qualities u want in a man.Consider the possibility of exploring a deeper relaship with the one u fancy the most and whose qualities,capabilities and tolerance 4 ur situation would make it possible 4 u to be together. Truth said something to the fact that the man that would be ideal for our situation is right there in our midst and around us, but we are blind to that sometimes because we are looking for something that seems fresh!!

By C tha 1

January 4, 2008 1:31 PM | Link to this

I know there are some cats on the blog that enjoy some quality gansta rap. If you haven’t heard it already check out the new Ice Cube … I don’t know how old it is (I think its new), but he’s taking it back to Amerikkka’s Most Wanted.

http://smartenupnas.com/2008/01/02/ice-cube-gangsta-rap-made-me-do-it/#more-2829

By Cemeeli

January 4, 2008 1:41 PM | Link to this

*i’m not sure how Dan and Sexyleggs are already sitting at a picnic table having convo, slapping slaw and bake bean stories and hadn’t either of them said what they are bringing!?!….Lol.

…remember Cemeeli is on it…

And yea Stac gotta bring some cute diva fruit salad or sumthin’…no one gets by. :)

By SlimOne

January 4, 2008 1:52 PM | Link to this

Dan That would be the RESPECTful thing to do. However, I’ve been on that shiddy end of the stick where homeboy stayed out all night, didn’t answer the phone, didn’t make a courtesy call, and didn’t resurface until well into the next AFTERNOON.

I must say that was the longest night ever. Thinking all kind of bad things happened. Some men…ahem…’cuse me, boys rather, have this thing about “I don’t want to answer to NObody”

To me its not a matter of playing warden and inmate but just as a courtesy ‘SPECIALLY if you all live together.

By Skegee!

January 4, 2008 1:53 PM | Link to this

I want a man that can vote!

By Dan

January 4, 2008 1:53 PM | Link to this

Uhhh…

My post got lost, so I’ll repeat.

I bring the coolers (one empty, one stocked) other than that….

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 1:56 PM | Link to this

IF we do this lets keep it simply with the Q..I don’t trust yallz cookin..yet. Sight unseen. lol! I’ll bring the Patron

By pisces08

January 4, 2008 1:59 PM | Link to this

Beautiful. Have you checked your e-mail?

By melo

January 4, 2008 2:00 PM | Link to this

SLIMmarried men and married women dont have that right to go out and spend the night out willy nilly without telling their mates or without any acountanbility,but there are somethings single women will never understand unless they are in a marriage relationship:married men get away with stuff that a married woman would not!!That is the way of the world and if u dont accept that,stay single!! I can decide to be out of my home and shake up with a w******* 4 one night or two and my woman will take me back even tho she may be mad.I would not tolerate it whatso ever if that were reversed!AND all single people here will not understand that either. Its a man’s world,JAMES BROWN sang, and its still the same in many respects. If u dont respect that fact and put faith in the hope that ur man will be faithful, kind and generous and bring back the bacon and put everything in GOD hands,u will be looking for the perfect man forever, and u wont find one. On the flip side,a HOME IS NOT A HOME WITHOUT A WOMAN, and that is the power u women have.Recognize that.GOD created us differently!Focus not on the man, but the home u create and hopefully u will find the man who fits the bill.But be realistic to the fact that ur man may do some things out of the norm. U will have to suck it up and be the moral leader sometimes to make a good home.There is an african saying that goes(literal translation)”whats covering the home is the skies” meaning a lot goes on in homes(married) that the outsiders dont know, even tho all of u outsiders may see a perfect home.

By SlimOneismytypeofwomen

January 4, 2008 2:03 PM | Link to this

I would not trip if my women stayed out all night!. I stay out all night

yea i am the official member of the slim one fan club….i like the slimmies!!!!

By Cemeeli

January 4, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

@Dan…two coolers one stocked & one empty cooler??? …there you go agian with that ‘fish on Friday’…

By The Truth

January 4, 2008 2:05 PM | Link to this

Slim and Blow i think my last post got eaten. I wouldn’t be out at that time without my wife with me or knowing what I’m doing. Thats disrespectful. The main point is if something did happen you can at least call. If i’m not worth a phone call let someone else deal with you.

WARNING if The Truth gets on the green egg some of you ladies are going to feel a sensation in your nether regions thats gonna remind you of a happy ending. You’ll be sending me private messages trying to get another piece of my meat. LOL

By Beautiful

January 4, 2008 2:06 PM | Link to this

has anyone been sent home from a club by your SO? we went together, but came home at different times. had to get to the babysitter’s and he told me to go ahead. that’s the first time i knew in my heart that he was a cheater. he came home wanting some. i pretended to be in a deep sleep. i was so hurt. he tried to superman dat o, but failed. the next morning he was acting nervous like he knew i knew. and that’s when i knew.

By Cemeeli

January 4, 2008 2:10 PM | Link to this

Blow if you’re like me when attending events like cookout/picnics of course you use your judgement on what not to eat. Just as with any event w/food.

We’re not getting complicated unless you tryin to cater?

By Dan

January 4, 2008 2:11 PM | Link to this

Slim

I used to pull that move every other Saturday back in the day with my girl. But she always knew kinda where I was (accessory laws being what they are), but oh yeah, believe after the shift was over I’m on THE way with a phone call.

That way you can gargle and do whatever you need to do to prepare for what was coming!

Please believe that call was made, without even thinking about answering to anyone.

General Statement BTW can we stop blaming the girls and boys in our pasts? And realize that Men and Women don’t do those kinds of thing?

By Beautiful

January 4, 2008 2:12 PM | Link to this

pisces08 everyday. did you send me somethin’?

By Lady J

January 4, 2008 2:12 PM | Link to this

Melo your post reminds me of my childhood and what was passed on…So this cycle is never broken for the sake of husband and having a fmaily unit (norm looking on the outside and corrupt behind the doors)…I feel what you are saying but hate it an it is nothing man or woman can do really…I am talking about those who are staying married and taking their mates back and so on…It just make finding a compatible mate a little tougher…

By Cemeeli

January 4, 2008 2:13 PM | Link to this

…okay gang i’m out of here…

Have a fabulous weekend people!

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 2:19 PM | Link to this

Truth What the hell is a GREEN EGG?!?!?? What’s that about?

By pisces08

January 4, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

Beautiful. Yup!

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 2:20 PM | Link to this

Very true that one a man does and gets away usually is not applied to the woman. I agree with this: U will have to suck it up and be the moral leader sometimes to make a good home.

About 2 years after moving in the house, my ex decided to stay out all night. No call, no nothing. I called hospitals, the few friends he had at that time, his job, and then police. Police wouldn’t assist because not a full 24 hours occurred. His job was concerned. Only to find out later that afternoon when his sorry a$$ strolled in that he was out sniffing, drinking and simply messing up. As some men think stupidly, he said “I’m already in trouble might as well have fun before coming home to trouble.” I was hotter than hot. He moved out of our bedroom for about a month (at his own urging). The beginning of our communication breakdown!

By The Truth

January 4, 2008 2:22 PM | Link to this

Dan gotta disagree with you once again. Its not boys or girls but people will do whatever they think they can get away with. Its nature. We train people how to treat us.

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 2:24 PM | Link to this

Dan, isn’t the empty cooler so those bring more beer and wine and be placed there????

By The Truth

January 4, 2008 2:25 PM | Link to this

Blow go to greenegg.com. The best grill out there.

By JJ

January 4, 2008 2:25 PM | Link to this

Melo I guess that’s the problem, I don’t know what I want. I want a companion to go to dinner with, to spend time with, and I get jealous of my friends who have that. But then I see my friends in relationships and some of them are miserable and want out, and I think Man I’m glad that’s not me.

Then again at the holidays, they have to go here and there and visit his mom, his sister, etc. And I think Man I’m glad all I have to do is go to my mother’s and not all over town.

And I did put off dating when my daughter was young because her father walked, and I had to raise her and be there for her, and I didn’t want to parade a bunch of men in front of her, so I put that on hold. Now here I am, and I just don’t have a clue…….I honestly don’t even know what it would be like to have a man in my life…..kind of scares me at times.

I’m alone, but not lonely. I have plenty to keep me busy, but sometimes I feel like I am missing out on something. I always told myself when the kid got a bit older I would start dating, and now I don’t know where to go to meet people. I have two dogs so I am out in the parks on the weekends, etc. So I just figure, if it’s going to happen it will and I don’t want to rush things……

Does that make sense? This is a very confused woman!!!!

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 2:27 PM | Link to this

WOW @BlowMe. A green egg is the best grill ever made (well to some).

By NICK

January 4, 2008 2:30 PM | Link to this

A girl that can make a six figure income, that can spoil me, that can cook, is HOT with HOT bi-sexual girlfriends, agrees with everything I say, doesn’t complain, gossip, or lie, is intelligent and is a “dirty little w*******” in bed….

By melo

January 4, 2008 2:31 PM | Link to this

I am talking about those who are staying married and taking their mates back and so on…It just make finding a compatible mate a little tougher Lady J,u are looking on the bad side and only in one dimension.A marriage is work, there are flows on both sides and what u see when a couple goes out together is the public side of marriage.Its a life long commitmentFOR BETTER FOR WORSE.Yu who profess in the bible would know that better than i do.Unfortunately,most just want the sweet side.Wont happen like that in real lyfe.

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 2:32 PM | Link to this

Sexxleggs I am down..when and where…Count blow me in!! lol!

That’s also pitiful as well S.LEGGS. MEN!

By Dan

January 4, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

@Sexy

Exactly!

@Truth

When we’re younger (@least younger minded) we don’t know what to expect of ourselves, let alone how someone is supposed to treat us….at least for me.

I would suppose that it’s that 1st person that takes it too far, that let’s us know where the line is to be drawn.

Think, “When I was a child…” and you’ll see where I’m coming from with it.

By Jazzyone

January 4, 2008 2:33 PM | Link to this

The Green egg is a Meat smoker…

By Lady J

January 4, 2008 2:34 PM | Link to this

JJ, I feel you and I have a great support system being a single mom and it is still tough…

By kimmie

January 4, 2008 2:36 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs - So in your case, the man still did not really “get away with” anything because it eventually caused the demise of your marriage and family home. Yes, society has always given men a pass on some things and that’s why a lot of women used to stay in unhappy marriages because of those passes. That’s a horribly disrespectful way to treat your SO and a bad example to set if you have kids. Melo - She might take you back, but really nobody wins in situations like that. If there was ever any love and respect between the 2 of you, it would be irretreivably broken after a stunt like that and your relationship will never be the same.

By Wow

January 4, 2008 2:37 PM | Link to this

How old is everyone and are yall married?

By JJ

January 4, 2008 2:39 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs Have you ever done a turkey on your big green egg? Takes like 2 hours and it’s the best smoked turkey I have EVER had.

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 2:39 PM | Link to this

Tank you 8EXLEGGS …That was the wrong site TRUTH…it’s the BIGGREENEGG.COM…I saw it..it’s cute…Lil eggy weggy. It’s cute. But seeing a man grill is sexy Truth…and so manly.

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 2:42 PM | Link to this

JJ, I definitely can identify. I can’t parade men in front of my child. I spend so much time alone and all nights alone that I wonder how to even start dating again. I’m outgoing and meeting men isn’t a problem. The problem is the “dating” part and the sharing. I still don’t think I’m ready. The best part is not to push anything and let things happen.

By Lady J

January 4, 2008 2:45 PM | Link to this

I know melo for better of worse but when one party has given there all for the better or worse and at the end sacrificed all for nothing meaning a failed marriage bc both parties are estranged under the same roof then what…Example, my parents 25 yrs of for better and worse and at the end mama left bc she was tired…I saw and respected the good but the bad took over…

All I am asking is this cycle never broken for sake of a normal family unit…Is this the message we send our children…

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 2:45 PM | Link to this

It takes gas to heat up….I dont’ know…I like the ole fashion…Gas barrel grills….them are the best…all that electric and gas takes the taste out. But I’ll try it in the old BIG GREEN EGGY! How much are they?

By melo

January 4, 2008 2:47 PM | Link to this

I don’t know what I want. I want a companion to go to dinner with, to spend time with, and I get jealous of my friends who have that How old are u, what do u like doing etc.DO those things u would want to do on the regular without worrying about a man.U will meet the man in ur natural environment, be it at a football match,park,grocery shop,starbucks etc.If u have’man’ on ur mind, that wil mess up ur system.FOCUS on yu not what ur friends have nor even their relashps.Cultivate ur own man relationships anmd when u meet somebody, dont assume its going to pan out, just consider them to be another acquaintance.BUT be open to meeting anybody, although u have to be on ur guard, not letting anybody in ur circle until u know them.THE rest will take care of itself.Good LUCK.

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 2:48 PM | Link to this

JJ, other than a fried turker, a big green egg turkey IS THE BEST!

You know this double standard BS is the pits. It really gets in my crawl when it rears its ugly head. I lived in a house of dbl standards for too many years. Believe you when I say I am so very glad and thankful that I found myself again. Nothing like it. Last Thanksgiving was my first Thanksgiving alone and I blessed the food and said this outloud “I am very thankful for my family and friends. Most importantly, I’m thankful for bringing ME back to ME!

By Saida

January 4, 2008 2:52 PM | Link to this

So the man I’ve been dating for a year and a half now (lets call him Trent) just found out that his last serious girlfriend has a four and a half year old son. She (lets call her Kim) thinks that Trent might be the father. Trent and Kim broke up about 5 years ago (after being on and off again), so the timeframe of Kim’s conception matches up with when she and Trent were together. But because everything has a twist, Kim has admitted to having relations with another man very soon after having sex with Trent for the last time.

The other man signed the birth certificate, is somewhat active in the child’s life, and the little boy has that man’s last name. However, the other man never took a paternity test, and since he and Kim recently broke up, he is protesting the paternity.

Trent swears that this is the first he’s heard of the child, since he has had no contact with Kim.

Trent is taking a paternity test next week, and I am so nervous. If he has a child, I don’t know what I’m going to do. I don’t like kids, and I don’t want children (which Trent knows), so this is kind of a dealbreaker. Plus, I don’t like the drama at all. Thoughts?

By The Truth

January 4, 2008 2:53 PM | Link to this

Blow me I wear my corona apron that has the penis that pops out when you lift up the flap(yeah the one from mexico lol) when I grill.

What I like to do is coat my meat with molassas so the spices and rubs cook right into the meat. That or doing beer can chicken or hens.

Like I said, if I can get my side dish game up I’m gonna be on and poppin. LOL and I clean my own kithcen when I get finished.

By melo

January 4, 2008 2:55 PM | Link to this

Kimmie,after a stunt like that and your relationship will never be the same. There are many things that challenge married couples,not just infidelity on the part of the man.U can never anticipate nor solve those challenges unless u are in a marriage.AND all challenges are potential deal breakers sometimes,but most married couples stick it out and stay together.If anybody lies to u and says they dont have challenges, take it for what it is:a lie.Thet truth of ht matter is, unless those couples tell u, u will never hear of their issues untill and unless the marrieage is falling apart.

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 3:00 PM | Link to this

SAIDA Too Deep and Wayyyyyy to much info! Keep it breezy it’s friday! lol!

By melo

January 4, 2008 3:01 PM | Link to this

Fr the record, im not condoning a patern of consistent cheating/transgression by man or woman.All im saying is be prepared to face challenges head on(on both sides) and fixing them for the good of ur mariage.But each side has their own tolerance levels and only u(couple) can decide that.

By The Truth

January 4, 2008 3:02 PM | Link to this

Blow they use a special charcoal and no gas. They cook meat so evenly that the juces are still there when your done, kinda like a good woman. LOL It creates meats with a taste all their own. A large one is 750 bucks butthey just came out with an even larger one that a thousand. They last a lifetime tho.

Wow 44 and happily divorced. LOL

By JJ

January 4, 2008 3:03 PM | Link to this

Melo Thanks, great advice, and that’s generally what I am doing.

When it happens, it will happen. I’m a happy person and I do enjoy life. I don’t want to miss anything!!!

By Lady J

January 4, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

@Saida, stick to your guns…Only you know what you will and will not tolerate and if you truly don’t want to deal with and if he is the father keep it moving…if it is not continuue to enjoy Trent or has this cause a little tension with the two of you?

By Lady J

January 4, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

@Saida, stick to your guns…Only you know what you will and will not tolerate and if you truly don’t want to deal with and if he is the father keep it moving…if it is not continuue to enjoy Trent or has this cause a little tension with the two of you?

By Staceye

January 4, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

Truth You got jokes? LOL

Binford LMAO…you just made me thinj of Fred Sanford carcking on Ester! You can’t fix ugly!

Blow Me LOL…you want me to bring you a BK dude next time girl? I’m so used to my NY men it’s like nothing to me…but once I got here…I started to miss them! Sniff sniff

Dan you picking on me too? LOL I cook..sometimes! I did not have to for 2 weeks while I was home with the parents. Now I was shell-shocked when I had to make my own dinner last night.

Now when is this Q happening? I wanna come…but I will bring wine or chocolate cake.

Dan are you a coporate thug? You know…you look thuggish nor act it…but you got the swagga and if someone steps to you the weong way…you let the thug out then out him back in when the beat is done? LOL

JJ You had a good for nothing man period. He should not be defined by his race. There deadbeat dads in every race! Trust me! But I do leave my options open to any race when I do date.

Cemeeli et tu mama? I can make more that a fruit salad.

WOW I am as single as they come.

By collipark's finest

January 4, 2008 3:04 PM | Link to this

It boggles my mind that a 25 year old women has never been on a date, kissed, or had any dealings with a man on an intimate level. She’s a pretty girl, hella educated. She’s a little to old to be acting this way. What do you guys think it is??? She’s just about given up on ever finding love. I actually think she’s still holding out for a Que she had a crush on one about 5 years ago!

By statedright

January 4, 2008 3:07 PM | Link to this

1st, Is anyone working today? ha ha Mr 2o, Don’t try and speak for other men, and I don’t start with what I do NOT want in a lady. Sorry you, Dan, are way off.

I cut to the chase and look for the must have’s. They don’t have it, I don’t waste their time or mine dating them.

Sexy, Blow, Wise, Tmango, agree with all you wrote. I have seen various qualities listed which included Christian. Christian is a loosely used term today. I don’t believe either sex could have strong qualities if they did not have real values and a sense of morals. Key words from the opposite sex alone should not make another swoon.

QUESTION FOR ALL We know we all are not virgins at this date and time.

However, how many of you would become friends, date,… and hold off sex with that person until marriage to them? That includes not having sex on the side with any other person during that time.

There are allot of superficial qualities I see listed where at the end of the day if married to a person based on those qualities the marriage could not withstand making a decision on what wine to have with the dinner. You would be divorced.

Who am / Where am I coming from?

First I have values and morals as a measure to live by. foundation of strength

From there:

I expect the MOST out of myself first.

I give 110% of what I seek in the lady, period. Yes including foundation first.

Me, rich, no. I do work fort500 job. Dress Casual not suit and tie. Yes, snickers when not working. GQ looks? no. I don’t sweat it though.

Dont get confused as I am confident not cocky.

Have direction. No time for games or drama. Not rigid, I love life and enjoy every second of it. Your mood is your choice and not controlled by others/situations unless you give permission. Life is as simple or complicated as you want to make it. As for accepting other kids. I accepted my Xwife son and raised him from age 1 to now 18. Could I date or even get married to someone that has kids?

Sure no problem, if you were the right person and met all criteria to be that person.

I have two girls 7 and 10. Very much a family man FIRST. Then I realize the healthy balance needed for my time.

By SlimOne

January 4, 2008 3:08 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs I’m already in trouble might as well have fun before coming home to trouble.” that’s exactly what exman said. Figured if he was gonna have to hear it, might as well make a whole day of it. Then gave the old, well i drank too much and slept on my homeboys couch lie.

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 3:10 PM | Link to this

Saida, for now you have to show Trent that you’re in his corner, especially if you believe he hasn’t had any outside contact w/Kim before learning about the child. You’re no more nervous than Trent. Although you’ve made it clear that you don’t want or like children, Trent may not feel the same. If the test proves he’s the father, your relationship is over (at your request I’m sure), and hopefully that’s all you should be nervous about. You can’t fault the man for something he knew nothing about. All the drama can be minimalized with open communication and trust by you her and him (if you should decide to stay).

By The Truth

January 4, 2008 3:11 PM | Link to this

Saida sounds like you have one foot out of the door anyway. Take the next step.

Joke time:

A husband walks into Victoria ‘s Secret to purchase a sheer negligee for his wife. He is shown several possibilities that range from $250 to $500 in price, the more sheer, the higher the price. Naturally, he opts for the most sheer item, pays the $500 and takes it home.

He presents it to his wife and asks her to go upstairs, put it on, and model it for him.

Upstairs, the wife thinks, “I have an idea. It’s so sheer that it might as well be nothing I won’t put it on, but I’ll do the modeling naked, return it tomorrow, and keep the $500 refund for myself.”

So she appears naked on the balcony and strikes a pose.

The husband says, “Good Grief! You’d think for $500, they’d at least iron it!”

He never heard the shot.

Funeral on Thursday at Noon.

By Lady J

January 4, 2008 3:12 PM | Link to this

got you melo and that is my point…give it your all and know your tolerance level but keep in mind children are watching and adults have to be responsible for all actions and not just refering to cheating…that is not the only terrible act in a relationship…So many other negative and positive factors that all must encounter and deal with…

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 3:13 PM | Link to this

TruthCorona apron…too cute. Just don’t burn up the meat! lol!

StaceyeYeah Ny men are so much better..Not to mention they look better, talk better and they seem to want to take things a bit serious then the southern so called gentle men

Truth You’re older….Yeah good question WOW 27 and Single….

By Dan

January 4, 2008 3:13 PM | Link to this

Staceye

Think of it as two sides of a coin. At work I’m heads up until someone does/says something to make me flip it. But once it’s flipped, they realize it soon enough and tighten up. (Folks be trying me becuase I’m young and they try, often, to discount my experience. Yet we doing the same job.)

Around the hood, it’s pretty much the same thing. The thug is always there (never sit with my back to a door) but I’ve cooled it out a bit. Specially now that I’m making a lil gwap, no need to get too p** too often.

By kimmie

January 4, 2008 3:16 PM | Link to this

melo - Thet truth of ht matter is, unless those couples tell u, u will never hear of their issues untill and unless the marrieage is falling apart. You are right about that. One of my best friends joined the Air Force and moved away and got married. I used to ask her how was everything & she would alway act like everything was just peachy! After a particularly peachy conversation we had, she calls me a week later to tell me they were getting a divorce 2 weeks after thier last child together was born. Come to find out he was screwing everything in a skirt(he was a cop) & one of the women he messed with’s husband came to their house. He told her to tell her husband to stay away from his wife. He was also being verbally and mentally abusive to my friend. But you see, everything was supposed to be JUST PEACHY! Now I don’t expect any married person to air their dirty laundry. But, she has since remarried and had 3 more kids. The last time I talked everything was JUST PEACHY again! But that’s THEIR BUSINESS! I understand a lot of couples stick it out because I’ve known plenty that have. I’m just saying, just because they stick it out doesn’t mean everybody lives happily ever after. The sweetness is gone once you inject the poison of disrespect. I know this from experience.

By Dan

January 4, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

Wait, wait.

(And I’m not trying to start anything). But PaDukey get on the blog telling me I’m wrong in one breath….then advertising in the other?

Wow.

Seriously?

I’m saying, playboy, DTM. Way TM!!!!

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 3:18 PM | Link to this

SlimOne, most men say that dumb shyt! Point blank it is DISRESPECTFUL to not call home. No excuses accepted!

By Shroud

January 4, 2008 3:19 PM | Link to this

Dang, I’m glad I don’t have these problems with dating like you folks do. There is no better Salvation then being on ones own and living by ones own rules. I don’t hate women, but I found my life is much more blissful and productive without the distraction of the opposite sex. I watch people in relationships and see just how agonizing and stressfull their lives are trying to please one another. One thing that has helped me understand relationships is that, still, in some places around the world Marriage/Relationships are considered a punishment and I know why.

By Wow

January 4, 2008 3:22 PM | Link to this

Staceye….. PLEASE BRING ME THREE BK DUDES BACK TO THE A…… Better yet never mind i will just move!!!

By SeanJohnson3000

January 4, 2008 3:22 PM | Link to this

@ C tha 1…feeling that Cube track…Video is tight but will probably be banned

@ Sexleggs…cant do nuthing but laugh at your post about your ex staying out all nite…sounds like a grown azz man succumbing to peer preasure….let some female(s) turn him out and miss his curfew.

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 3:23 PM | Link to this

That was funny Truth

Ut oh, WOW, Truth likes them young.

By Beautiful

January 4, 2008 3:24 PM | Link to this

Saida my thoughts … … if Trent is the father, leave and don’t look back. since you don’t like kids, it’s a wrap. cause once that baby starts cryin’ and on top of that the baby momma drama … … .

it’s sad cause newborns smell so good. that’s what i miss.

By db_isback

January 4, 2008 3:26 PM | Link to this

@ Collipark…….some ppl are just late bloomers. Just be happy she aint as loose as half the broads in ATL

By Wow

January 4, 2008 3:29 PM | Link to this

slim….I am so glad you like slim ones hopefully the ones that like them stacked up and thick dont act like this……lol lmao

By melo

January 4, 2008 3:29 PM | Link to this

Been chilling at home since NEW Years Eve.The markets are down againg today, like they have been for the past few days. Worried 4 my portofolio until i see, CNN business and somebody saysMarkets strong and solid and im thinking let me read that, maybe its some top Invetment banking analyst/economist,turns out its George Bush Sucks!!

By Saida

January 4, 2008 3:32 PM | Link to this

We are in the middle of planning are destination wedding. I hate the fact that he is going to be a father. I mean I want kids but later on, I shouldn’t have said that I disliked them.

If he’s the father I will be put on the back burner. I just can’t see myself accepting the child, it would be awkward in the least. Life is a bish.

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 3:33 PM | Link to this

The sweetness is gone once you inject the poison of disrespect. I know this from experience. No truer words have been posted here today!

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 3:33 PM | Link to this

Sexx Leggs You think 27 is still young? I feel like my youth is escaping me!!! lol!

By JJ

January 4, 2008 3:34 PM | Link to this

Here’s a funny I received in an e-mail:

A couple has a dog that snores. Annoyed because she can’t sleep, the wife goes to the vet to see if he can help. The vet tells the woman to tie a ribbon around the dog’s testicles, and he will stop snoring.

Yeah right!’ she says. A few minutes after going to bed, the dog begins snoring, as usual.

The wife tosses and turns, unable to sleep. Muttering to herself, she goes to the closet and grabs a piece of red ribbon and ties it carefully around the dog’s testicles. Sure enough, the dog stops snoring! The woman is amazed!

Later that night, her husband returns home drunk from being out drinking with his buddies. He climbs into bed, falls asleep and begins snoring loudly. The woman thinks maybe the ribbon might work on him. So, she goes to the closet again, grabs a piece of blue ribbon and ties it around her husband’s testicles. Amazingly, it also works on him! The woman sleeps soundly.

The husband wakes from his drunken stupor and stumbles into the bathroom. As he stands in front of the toilet, he glances in the mirror and sees a blue ribbon attached to his privates. He is very confused, and as he walks back into the bedroom, he sees the red ribbon attached to his dog’s testicles.

He shakes his head and looks at the dog and whispers, ‘I don’t know where we were …. or what we did … but, by God .. We took first and second place!!!’

By Dan

January 4, 2008 3:35 PM | Link to this

Saida…

If this was before y’all got together, it shouldn’t be a problem.

If it turns out he is the Pappy (sorry, had to), your only recourse is to watch and make sure he takes care of his seed. If not be out, predicter of things to come.

Otherwise, it’s part of the life he led before y’all met, to penalize him for it is petty and unfair.

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 4, 2008 3:38 PM | Link to this

I leave out for lunch and Truth is tryin to take my spot on the Grill?? All I need is the ole $40 square charcoal grill and I can cook all day! You might have to pay me though…No? ok then just supply the meats.

Wow -32yrs on the planet, single for now…

You dont need to fool around girl, just let others do what they do. No I don’t fool around much anymore doesn’t feel the same, but when in rome…. LoL

Stated No I aint tryin to wait. Thats on her, so if have to then I gotta respect that but I’ll be lookin else where after a while.

By Staceye

January 4, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

Saida ouch girl! That is a crazy soap opera type dramatic mess. You must firsdt determine do you really love that Trent? If so, how much? If that is indeed his child..if he is a stand up type of guy…then there goes some of his pay check and his time that will not be with you. Not to mention this girl sounds like she is unstable so she may decide she wants to make Trent’s life hell, therefore you will be a part of that equation. Are you willing to deal with it? As for not liking kids, you are entitled to your feelings so do not let anyone make you feel bad for that. I myself do not like to date men with kids and people harp me about it..but I do nto let that bother me. They are entitled to their opinion. But do weigh your options if the kid is his before just jumping ship. This kid was aournd before you and Trent had no idea of him…so he can’t be faulted.

Truth LMAO! that was funny man!

Shroud I feel ya! I don;t hate men..I just don’t get involved wiht them! LOL

WOW you sure you ready to live in the concrete jungle? LOL

Beautiful LMAO…you are wrong..but so right!

By Wow

January 4, 2008 3:43 PM | Link to this

ok BLOW i feel like my clock is tick tick ticking at 26

By The Truth

January 4, 2008 3:45 PM | Link to this

Wow * Shroud*. All I can say is wow. Next time take us out before dropping the wammy on us. LOL I know what you mean. It is a certain amount of bliss living by your own rules. I contend tho there is at least one woman out there where you could still have bliss while enjoying her.

Speaking of Wow. LOL J/k

Whats up SJ? Happy new year to ya.

Melo my market has been in a RECESSION for quite a while now. I’m hoping for a turnaround this year tho. I cant take another year like 2007. It was a back breaker. LOL

By Beautiful

January 4, 2008 3:48 PM | Link to this

Otherwise, it’s part of the life he led before y’all met, to penalize him for it is petty and unfair.

very well stated.

By SeanJohnson3000

January 4, 2008 3:49 PM | Link to this

@ Blow…where are u from?

By Kara

January 4, 2008 3:52 PM | Link to this

half the women in Atlanta are loose, wow really? Do you know this because you slept with half the women in Atlanta? which would you make you equally smutty.

or do the women get loose all magically with no help? Please, elaborate!

By Wow

January 4, 2008 3:55 PM | Link to this

Staceye Yes nothing sounds better then playing Jane the jungle with my Tarzan….lol I am out! The A is bombed out and depleted!

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 3:58 PM | Link to this

900k Thats what I am talkin bout…Just the ole square red & black grill..Forget the EGGY!

WOW Yeah it is ticking…My is ticking faster…you have a few extra mths..but it’s time to touchdown.

STACEYE That concrete Jungle…is where the BOSSES are!! One way ticket to LGA!! LOL!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

January 4, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

I wasnt going to respond to you Gerome Sapp but I am a fellow Hamptonian. What gives? You say you dont know what you are about, how about starting with what you want to be about. If you arent the club dude then find something else that interests you. And I am sorry you had such horrible club experiences but it may have been the club you went to that was so horrible. Dont write them all off. Nobody can tell you how to do you, you have to figure that out on your own.

By db_isback

January 4, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

kara….it was merely a joke. But from what is displayed one could gather that assumption. It’s a cesspool

By Wow

January 4, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

LMFAO @ Gerome Sapp my bday wish is for a chick with strong jaws and low self esteem MY WISH WAS ALMOST JUST LIKE THAT my bday wish is for a DUDE with strong jaws and low self esteem

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

Saida, damn girl! You shouldn’t automatically think or believe you’re be placed on the back burner. You are in quite a predictament. You guys need to have more heart to heart conversations on this topic, if you don’t and you go ahead w/this wedding, the two of you are DOOMED!

Wow, everything is relative. I’m 49 and yes 27 is young!

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 4:01 PM | Link to this

SJ3000 Atlanta….born and raised. A true G.R.I.T.S and A peach! lol! But some of us southern bells love those up top YANKEES!

By brown_sugar_vixen

January 4, 2008 4:03 PM | Link to this

Melo

Funny joke, but the herpes that’s to much. Poor Vick and his victim. Too bad they both gotta live with that ish for life…. Reminder wrap it up ppl!

By Staceye

January 4, 2008 4:04 PM | Link to this

Have a great weekend guys!

By The Truth

January 4, 2008 4:09 PM | Link to this

Ok, now a song for the ladies. And for Shroud. LOL

Never

I used to be the kinda brotha That thought i would neva slow down I used to swear that i don’t even care what happens but baby right now (i see that) You changed my mind (i mean that) And it took sometime But now i understand I can be a better man I never had a chance to meet a lover quite like you You revealed another part of me girl your love is tried and true

(never) Will i break your heart (never) Will we ever part (never) Cant be believe i used to say it I used to say (never) Will i love this way (never) Give my heart away Never would this player hang his jersey up and leave the game Never would have thought in a million years i would be here That’s why i say (never) Would i know the truth (never) Would i know that you would come into my life and make everything new Never would have thought i would take your hand girl swear

I will never never never never never say never again Again again

Ba-ba baby baby baby Ba-ba baby baby baby Ba-ba baby baby baby baby baby

There aint no question that i love ya I know we’ve had our ups and downs But through the tears i know there is no where i’d rather be now (i see that) You’re my shining star (i mean that) That you got my heart And now i’ll hold your hand Cause you made me a stronger man I wish that i could place the whole world in front of you But a man is just a man so baby here’s my vow to you baby

(never) Will i break your heart (never) Will we ever part (never) Cant be believe i used to say it I used to say (never) Will i love this way (never) Give my heart away Never would this player hang his jersey up and leave the game Never would have thought in a million years i would be here That’s why i say (never) Would i know the truth (never) Would i know that you would come into my life and make everything new Never would have thought i would take your hand girl i swear

I will never never never never never say never

From the day you came along I song a brand new song (and i know that they can clearly see) That you’re a special part of me Before i had no clue I was lost til’ i found you baby (and i’m gonna make the whole world understand) I’m proud to be your (man) And i vow to stay (forever) I can’t believe i used to say Never Will i love this way Give my heart away Never would this player hang his jersey up and leave the game Never No no no never No n-n no no no I would never never never never never never never never nev Say never again

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 4:12 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs I would have never would have guess you were 49!! You sound to be younger than that…maybe 38..Yeah I would like to get a nice census on the age bracket on this blog..

By SeanJohnson3000

January 4, 2008 4:18 PM | Link to this

@ Truth..happy new year bruh..hope the market heats up for u…

@ Blow…most southern cats would be offended…but up top females feel the same way about us….we get em “open” when they come down south…put azz on em..

@ Romey Rome Sap…dude in the A you can find one with high self esteem and strong jaws..some of them enjoy giving..tis the season bruh..no fun in hunting wounded prey

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 4:25 PM | Link to this

As Truth has said, I’m very rare…LOL. I am a very youthful 49 year old woman. I enjoy life and was blessed with some damn good genes from both parents. My daughter keeps me youthful as well. I try to stay well versed in the goings on of the world today. I try to stay 2 steps ahead a 13 year old.

I think I’m the “senior blogger.”

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 4, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

Blow- Cool I got you plus since I got that NY state of mine I grill in THis weather too…LoL

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 4:26 PM | Link to this

SJ3000What’s to be offended by? Cause I like up top cats too? You southern heevans are spoil and don’t appreciate a Good girl. You all like sluts…..just look @ your 4:18 post. That’s the $hit I am talkin about!!

By SeanJohnson3000

January 4, 2008 4:46 PM | Link to this

@ Blow…StaceyeYeah Ny men are so much better..Not to mention they look better, talk better and they seem to want to take things a bit serious then the southern so called gentle men…that was a very flaw generalizing statement in the disquise of an opinion..dont u agree?

regarding my 4:18 post…based on your name sake…BlowMe….u sound like u like to give and receive…lol

By 900K aka Mr 2008

January 4, 2008 4:53 PM | Link to this

Ladies I do not want to fight w/ you anymore in 2008! Wow, Blow, Staceye & all others I will try to see your side more clearly just try not to dogg us Men out so muck K?

Have a good weekend every one! Hasta luego Amigos!

By Tazzee

January 4, 2008 4:56 PM | Link to this

Have a great weekend folks and as always,

GO… oh wait, nevermind, LOL!!!

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 4:56 PM | Link to this

SJ3000 My name is not meant for a sexual condentation…But obviously we see what kind of flithy mind I am dealing with.Try to think with more than you schlong, thats the problem. You are right…SJ3000 eventhough I hate to give this apologize….I see you have been offended. I can see why. I do apologize…maybe you are that cute, lovable, adorable the “lost” southern men they speak of.

You can find good men anywhere…but it’s harder to find them here in the SOUTH. The southern Gentlemen is an old wise tale.

By SexyLeggs

January 4, 2008 5:00 PM | Link to this

Have a safe and restful weekend….tell someone yu love them!

By Wow

January 4, 2008 5:00 PM | Link to this

900k your good with me…..i guess…take care and strap up when your chasing that fatty…lol lmao….peace everyone…have a good weekend!

By Blow Me BEAUTIFULLY a.k.a BLOW ME!

January 4, 2008 5:01 PM | Link to this

Have a great weekend everyone! WOW, STACEYE, 900K, SJ3000 SJ3K…I’ll finish the battle with you next week!

By For Real

January 4, 2008 5:03 PM | Link to this

3Stacks They just don’t like the level of competition here in the “A”. In the “A” “Good Girls” are dime a dozen but if the go to any other state then they would be the bomb so they wouldn’t have to compete. I dont take it personal beside, if they are looking for up north dude all they have to do is open their eyes bc half of NY is living here in the “A”. Hmmm do you think they are talking about the up north dudes that lives in the “A” too?