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Wednesday, December 19, 2007
It was a compliment!
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
When your guy friends find out that you write about dating, they start griping, ahem, I mean telling you all about their issues with women on the dating scene. I am charged with the mission to get their gripes out to single women everywhere!
It’s quite fine by me because I always want to get their perspective on dating and what it’s like for them. I try to remember what they tell me so that when a guy approaches me, I can be mindful of how to react.
One reoccurring male gripe is that some women don’t always accept their compliments graciously. Apparently, women often interpret a man’s compliment as game playing or pulling a slick move.
I urged my guy friends to check their tone and delivery. Sometimes, that really is the case. Some men can come off as that creepy, suggestive dude who is clueless about what women like. Further, it helps a lot when your eyes don’t drop to our breasts mid-sentence!
Maybe it all comes down to charm and charisma, though. Is it possible that a guy can deliver his compliment so effectively, that the target won’t realize that they are being tagged as prey?
Ladies, how do you receive compliments from men? Does it depend on the social setting, timing, and/or looks of the man? Do you ever compliment men that you meet or spot on the dating scene? How do they receive it?
Guys, do you find that women have a hard time accepting your compliments? How do you recover from this? Do you make efforts to avoid being stereotyped as a player? Have you actually strayed away from giving compliments to women anymore? How do you like to be complimented?
I think it is important to know the difference between a sincere compliment and a backhanded one. How do you distinguish between the two?
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