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Slow to launch

I’ve had some relationships that were, well, slow to start. One man I dated a few years ago had taken me out on one of the best first dates I’ve ever had, only to wait until five months later to ask me out a second time! Later during our relationship I asked him what took so long between date one and date two! He said he wasn’t really sure, just that he was “figuring things out” during that time.

Currently, I’m dating a guy that I see potential with and love getting to know, but this holiday season is proving a difficult time to do it! We’re both so incredibly busy and involved that we’re finding it hard to carve out time for each other this month! We’re both legitimately swamped with holiday parties, traveling home to see families and other activities we’re involved with this season. It seems as though we won’t really be able to start anything until the new year!

Have you ever had relationships that were slow getting out of the starting blocks? Is it because you’re someone who takes your time or because of other circumstances? Did it give you more time to reflect on how things were going early on in the relationship?

Are there seasons of your life (holidays, work-related, other) that make it hard to begin a relationship? Have you ever had a relationship not work out simply because it was too difficult to get a hold of the other person?

Happy Monday, everyone!

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By Another chic topic

December 10, 2007 8:17 AM | Link to this

Second verse same as the first!

By Blow Me

December 10, 2007 8:23 AM | Link to this

Yes unfortunately it is…..Guys are too unsure. And on the same token it’s takes me a while to launch as well. I am done dealing with these “unstable” creatures…MEN

By Blow Me

December 10, 2007 8:36 AM | Link to this

good morning all

By SeanJohnson3000

December 10, 2007 8:44 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog..funny topic because men are always blamed for dragging their feet and not making up their mind…yet females always say in the beginning they want to take things “slow”..especially when it involves things getting physical. Being hella busy..i have been accused of this a few times and have been told..”you make time” for people you want to see..But its not that simple…since u have so many factors involved..careers..kids…personal goals..Then you have situations where you are getting baggage out of your life so that u dont bring that into a new frienship..so taking thing slow isnt always bad…With the average female going for their “masters”…they should understand how busy adults can juggling our lives and trying to date.

By binford

December 10, 2007 8:48 AM | Link to this

There’s a fine line between being busy and putting things ahead of a potential SO. At first, one wouldn’t want to show they were too anxious because they’re not sure - and that makes sense. And the “I’m not too available” thing is important at first and then wanes in time.

But perhaps if one is “too busy” all the time, they need to do without or re-prioritize.

By Beautiful

December 10, 2007 8:48 AM | Link to this

off topic i’m expecting those who went to bellbottoms to report in today on the gathering. lol. who gave up their screen name? who got drunk? lol. who is sexy as hell? we want to know all the good stuff. lol.

By Rell

December 10, 2007 8:52 AM | Link to this

dayum i missed a chance to meet folks….yea how was bellbottoms..who did the most simpin..who was a sucker for love type dude on first meet..yea give it up

By Dan

December 10, 2007 8:56 AM | Link to this

I can honestly say this has been one of the hardest time to try to start something.

With the traveling I do I meet a lot of good looking women that are easy to talk to, fun spirited, and intelligent. The only thing is, like ‘Pac, I only got a couple nights in town. And while I can’t ask you to stop your world for me as mine keeps spinning with the number of things I have to do, it just strikes me as ironic.

Here when I have the least time to pursue anything is when I meet the one’s I would spend my time pursuing.

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

December 10, 2007 8:58 AM | Link to this

Go Pats…GO PATS

hahahahaha….lololol

yup we rule…..

oh yeah, good morning

By another moron comment

December 10, 2007 8:58 AM | Link to this

@another chic topic. I think you meant chick - unless you consider the topic stylish. Please feel free to read the other manly blogs on AJC.

By Blow Me

December 10, 2007 9:00 AM | Link to this

3000 Yeah because you guys normally are draggin your feet. You guys are the ones “unstable”. Not only that you do make TIME for things you want to do. I am quite sure when you homies call to go get BEER on sunday to watch football..at the bar. I bet your bottom dollar you make time for that. So yeah, you are not too busy for things you want to do.

By Beautiful

December 10, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

Rell missed u.

my .02 on the topic is that it’s all bs. you make time to see the person if you’re feelin’ them. my friend Mo who met the myspace guy is a busy person also. but she fits him in almost err’day. if you don’t have the time, make the time.

By 900K

December 10, 2007 9:05 AM | Link to this

Good Morning ALL!

Much Respect to Mayweather!!- that fight was huge. I can’t believe they BOOed the nat’l anthem!!?? would never happen in NYC MSG

GO BILLS!!!

Not much on this topic, I cosign SJ3 I’ve been asked to take things slow by women since I was 14yrs old…? If you guys both have holiday parties to attend then why not pick at least 1-2 that you can go together?

By Bronco

December 10, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this

God really has a sense of humor..he made man and woman entirely different and then told them to live together.

By m'karyl

December 10, 2007 9:08 AM | Link to this

Ummmm, I thnk that a lot of it depends on the pre-existing circumstances that are present in each person’s life at the time when they meet each other. There are so many tangible and intangible circumstanes that may or may not be known to the other. And I have found that as we grow older these situations become more prevalent and intransient.

So sometimes, the slow start may be a better thing if it means the person has taken all other things into consideration and then proceeds forward in pursuing the relationship; which is a far better process than just immediately jumping in and finding that things just are not going to pan-out well. But I would be doubtful as to whether or not there was in real interest if there was very little contact and some sort of validation as to why things were moving slowly.

By ImAPeach404

December 10, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

Mornin’ all

Speaking of being too busy… I can’t remember who had the birthday last week and they were supposed to have a dinner date that night but the guy said it would be after 9….

What ever happened with that???

By m"karyl

December 10, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this

@Dan

It is funny how things seem to always happen that way-it is as if the rhythym by which ourlives are moving is not in sync with the desire of our hearts. Sometimes I feel as if I am in the Dr. Hook song “…I was in the right place, but it must have been the wrong time…”

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 10, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this

Is it just me or is anyone else thinking that Blow Me and Staceye might be one and the same?

(things that me ya go “Hmmmm….?”)

By Rell

December 10, 2007 9:20 AM | Link to this

@bootifull…you missed me..lady you know how to find me…feel me..get at me..

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2007 9:21 AM | Link to this

Well, now I know why I don’t tend to meet folks over the holidays, it really is an impossible time to get everyone’s schedules worked out if you are a busy person.

I think the key is communication. Dating during the holidays is a committment onto itsself. The cool thing is that if you are really feeling someone, you are going to let them know that you are committed to getting to know them better.

I’m making the hard push for after New Years, since I’m pretty much gone the 2nd half of December. However, I’ve made this fact known to dates and they are cool with it. It’s also known that it does take time to free up the schedule, so that’s what the focus is going into 2008. The attention I give to my work and social life should find room for my dating life. It’s just as important.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, SEXY LEGGS!. I’ll post again in a minute for the group because I did go to Bell Bottoms!

By SexyLeggs

December 10, 2007 9:21 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone.

Happy B-day NY2GA.

I had an absolute BLAST at Bell Bottoms. I only met one person from the blog = Alvin. He’s a very nice man, too damn young for me, but very nice. DasV, he said some very lovely things about you. He said you were gorgeous.

Don’t know if anyone was lurking, but I danced my little booty off. I even danced in cage. Alvin joined me there and we rocked that cage off Salt-N-Pepa’s Push It.

If there were any lurkers, let me know.

Sorry you weren’t able to make it ARed.

By Blow Me

December 10, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this

900k Yeah we are telling you to take it SLOW when you are tryin to get PHYSICAL too soon. There needs to be something established before we lay down. Think with the bigger head. You are moving too fast on the wrong things! Physical is fun…but not without the bond.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

December 10, 2007 9:23 AM | Link to this

Morning All!! thank goodness I have a short week!

I have no comment on this topic so I’ll lurk for a while. For me I am taking things slow for many reasons, the main one being my child. I have got to be more than comfortable before someone sees lil mo.

Happy Monday All! Oh and I would like to hear from all those that went to *SexyLeggs party at BellBottoms!

By Shamrock

December 10, 2007 9:24 AM | Link to this

If a man wants to make time for you, he will. Plain and simple. If not…NEXT!!

By Blow Me

December 10, 2007 9:24 AM | Link to this

Darrell Sorry we are not…But they do say great minds think alike! lmao!!

By Beautiful

December 10, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

But I would be doubtful as to whether or not there was in real interest if there was very little contact and some sort of validation as to why things were moving slowly.

my point exactly! i feel they are definitly waitin’ on something better to come along. if a guy gives you an excuse about how he can’t see you, red flag.

By BLAT

December 10, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog!!!

It’s a Cowboy’s World…. Go Romo!!

On Topic: It really isn’t that complicated folks. It doesn’t matter how busy a person is; I have two jobs and a very active calendar myself, but I firmly believe you “make” time for those who matter.

My last attempt at starting something serious has fizzled in large part due to this. Old Girl is just about everything dee Blatino wants in a package, but simply isn’t making time. So the bottom line is she just isn’t that interested, is how I’m seeing it.

If a person truly is and still doesn’t make the time, that’s a mistake in my opinion. I was taught by an OG to “pay attention to who’s paying attention to you”. In other words, the hailzz if I’m gonna sit around and wait for you to start making me a Priority(Yes, I’m pimpin for GA. Man’s book!!).

If I meet you and I like you and you’re all that, I’m gonna take steps to make room for you in my life. If I don’t see the same coming from you, then I’m wasting my time and must move on. Point Blank.

The WLB’s may want to think about this the next time they ask themselves why bruthas like me spend our time with Jump Off’s. Could it be they make time for a man when YOU don’t???

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 10, 2007 9:27 AM | Link to this

Beautiful I was the only one that showed…sexy as hell is Ms.Leggs…I enjoyed watching her walk’n’drop it like it hot 3 or 4 times and then get up and dance around my a$$…She is one of the few ladies that can out dance me…all in her now famous red pumps.

404 the was A.red.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2007 9:27 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs, were you drunk? I was there and I introduced myself to you. HA HA HA! I was that tall chick in the black! You met SEVERAL folks from the blog as I introduced you to another!

Too funny!

By SexyLeggs

December 10, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this

Rell, you asked who fell in love at first sight…dem-e-god loves me…LOL. No really, we had a great time.

Doubt if Blow Me and Staceye are the same. Their writing styles are very different.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

Peach, I’m the one with the birthday last week and the one with the late date. We didn’t end up going out that night. I wasn’t up to it after I talked to him again. We just rescheduled the date for Friday and it was nice.

By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth

December 10, 2007 9:32 AM | Link to this

Good morning blog.

On topic: Did the Pats spank that azz or what?????? The Raiders in a move that could only be termed a stroke of genius, threw this weeks game looking for the #1 draft pick. Go Raiders.

Wait, that wasn’t the topic. If your feeling someone you’ll make time, period. SJ, cmon man, you know she isn’t the one.

Blow Me you going lawn munching now? LOL

Peach I think that was Ared.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 10, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this

@Blow Me

Yeah, that is what they say, isn’t it? The thing is though, the term “great minds” is open to interpretation. LOL!

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this

Well, sorry I wasn’t able to meet more of you. I asked SexyLeggs if there were more folks from the blog there and she said “no.” I guess she was too busy partying to pay attention! Nothing wrong with that!

By Blow Me

December 10, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

Exactly SexyLeggs I am glad you enjoyed yourself this weekend.

By Truth

December 10, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this

little off the subject, but had to put it somewhere:

SHAME ON YOU AJC…….WHY DO YOU CONTINUE TO HAVE BLOGS ABOUT JUANITA BYNUM AND BISHOP WEEKS? THEY CAN’T SNEEZE WITHOUT YOU TALKING ABOUT IT!!

NOW WE HAVE THIS PASTOR FROM ALPHARETTA ACCUSED OF THE SAME THING….WHERE’S THE BLOG ABOUT HIM AJC?????? I WONDER WHY HE’S NOT BLOG WORTHY??????I’M SOOO GLAD YOU UNJUST PEOPLE HAVE TO STAND BEFORE GOD FOR YOUR ACTIONS!

By SexyLeggs

December 10, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this

ARed, no, I didn’t get drunk (but I was feeling good). I’m sorry, I remember you now..man o man. When I woke up Sunday and realized I still had the clothes that struck me more than anything. Too funny!

By 900K

December 10, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this

Blow -what a name… you sound like you woke up on the wrong side of the cell this morn-Lol. This topic and your statement sounds like “Hurry up and wait!” to me. I think with my brain; well one side of it anyway. I’m not Trying to do anything too soon, we talked and I listen to many women say they like to take it slow so we may not see each other as say a young lady that Does show my lil-BIG head some attention early on. Especially like when you put a name like yours to good use!

By pisces07

December 10, 2007 9:39 AM | Link to this

Good morning

Very nice to meet you ARed, and Sexy Leggs.

By 2CPTG©

December 10, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

Morning…..hats off to Floyd Mayweather…..For Real, I went back Friday to see if you put your wager on paper, but you didn’t so, oh well……

By TRUTH

December 10, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this

little off the subject, but had to put it somewhere:

SHAME ON YOU AJC…….WHY DO YOU CONTINUE TO HAVE BLOGS ABOUT JUANITA BYNUM AND BISHOP WEEKS? THEY CAN’T SNEEZE WITHOUT YOU TALKING ABOUT IT!!

NOW WE HAVE THIS PASTOR FROM ALPHARETTA ACCUSED OF THE SAME THING….WHERE’S THE BLOG ABOUT HIM AJC?????? I WONDER WHY HE’S NOT BLOG WORTHY??????I’M SOOO GLAD YOU UNJUST PEOPLE HAVE TO STAND BEFORE GOD FOR YOUR ACTIONS!

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this

Good morning! What’s up everybody!

What’s this i hear…Mayweather…got at it!…I missed it, at the company’s Christmas party Sat. night….but i heard about it after talking to my friend who had a fight party…actually a Fish Bowl Party (never even heard of that one)

Sexyleggs n Demi…hahaha did you two really pick up where we left of Friday? that’s something else!!!!

… Hi Darrell….

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs - You were wearing a cowboy hat, right?

It was nice meeting you too, pisces07.

Now I can see why this blog is conceited, there are some good looking bloggers on here! ;-)

By pisces07

December 10, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this

ARed… I hugged Sexy before I left, and she didn’t remember! lol

By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth

December 10, 2007 9:47 AM | Link to this

Truth pick another name. LOL

By Blow Me

December 10, 2007 9:47 AM | Link to this

The Truth Nope that’s not for me….strictally….well you know the rest. Lawning munching NEVER! Truth I am gonna to go easy on you…

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this

What is up with this dude ‘bout the Raiders???

By SexyLeggs

December 10, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

Pisces07, sorry to post that I only met Alvin. You see, after I left Bell Bottoms a few friends came back to my house and we partied a little more. So, guess I did in fact suffer a slight “Alzeheimer’s” moment…it’s all coming back to me now!!!

By DasV

December 10, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

sexyLeggs glad you had a good time… did you really meet a bunch of ppl from the blog and didnt know it?? that is funNY

demiGod had some pretty wonderful things to say about you too!

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

pisces, it makes sense now. I thought SexyLeggs was a little standoffish, and I couldn’t figure out why! It all makes sense to me now. I guess we aren’t memorable people! ;-)

By DasV

December 10, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this

Truth *are we going incognito today?? i tole you, i took care of that letter from the senate requesting our financials. and push come to shove, we can go out like bruthas and refuse until we’re subpoena’ed. (you could always have an affair with one of our parishoners and AJC will pick it up, being that you black and all, and then the senate wont have no reason to come after you)

By ΗΜΙΘΕΟΣ (someoneliedandsaidmyblacka$$speakGreek)

December 10, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this

I forgot to add, I was catch off guard by MsLeggs mocha complexion with a mean’n’sassy hair cut…a nice set of dancers legs and slim waist…let me stop before my mind wonders HEHEHEHEHEH

Over all I had a great time dancing with her homegirls as well…some very cool folks.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 10, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this

Morning, Cemeeli. I don’t even need to ask if you had a nice weekend, do I? ;-)

By ImAPeach404

December 10, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

Lol @ Sexy not remembering anyone else being there.

Thanks deme and Truth

Glad you had a good time ARed.

OT: I’d like to request a moment of blog silence at 10:00am for Michael Vick… po thang. I hope they go easy on him sniff, sniff.

By Rell

December 10, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

SO demi…is sexy leggs and ooo souper coolers(ARED) as advertised…meaning are they fine and sexy as stated so many times b4 on this thing here

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

Good reading you M’

Sexyleggs gurl you rocked it like that…cowgirl hat and all huh?

By SexyLeggs

December 10, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

ARed, no I didn’t have a cowboy hat on. LOL. You tell me what I had on? Too funny!

By m'karyl

December 10, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

@cemeeli

Hey chick!!!

@SexyLeggs

sounds like the party at bellbottoms was rocking. i am glad that you had a good time, nothing like shaking your groove thing…

By SexyLeggs

December 10, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this

ARed, sorry if I came across as standoffish, I was having a blast. Did you really think I had a cowboy hat on, perhaps you met the wrong person at first.

Yes, *Cemeeli, I picked up where we left off on the blog Friday. I sure did!

By Blow Me

December 10, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

900K Wow….you gonna do it…Just like that?!? …This early..today…wow. So in essence….you can and will make time for jump offs that (excuse me no pun intended)…that blows you earlier on…Interesting.

By Beautiful

December 10, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

děm’ē-gŏd’ i hate that i missed meeting u guys. there’s another one coming up this weekend and i’m going to try and make it.

By Bella

December 10, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

Good morning, everyone!

@Dan I had a friend who was in a similar situation as you, except he traveled M-F to Philly, and then was home on the weekends. It made it difficult for him to start dating in either place, because once he got home he was so dang tired from flying!

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

Beloved Darrell NO!!! Please…my weekend did not end until after the birthday dinner last night with friends….yea…i had and eventful one.

ΗΜΙΘΕΟΣ(someoneliedandsaidmyblacka$$speakGreek) What?you going Greek (not really)on us now? That moniker…fuuunnnnyyyy!

By DasV

December 10, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this

laughing and rolling in the floor at ARED chattin up some female that WAS NOT sexyLeggs

By Aurora

December 10, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

The holidays are the worst time to begin a new relationship. Just added pressure. Wait till the new year. Enjoy family and friends now, and wait for the relationship for the new year. New Year, New Relationship…..

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2007 10:08 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs, I wasn’t telling you what you had on, it was a question. It seems like pisces and I met the wrong person. That’s why I thought the evening was so odd.

So do you remember meeting me or not?

By ImAPeach404

December 10, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli Fish Bowl Parties are the best - especially if you have a bunch of people with radically different ideas about everything. Big fun! I’m having an Fish Bowl / After Christmas Christmas Party on December 30th.

Did you have fun?

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

Peach404 moment of silence i missed that one…as you can see it past 10am…but i hope Vick does not get slammed.

Sexyleggs in your posts at this 10 o’clock hour you still sound like you have more partying in you…is there any truth to this chica?

…don’t start nothing…alright?

By Teresa

December 10, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

Lets do another meet and greet at Bellbottoms

By Aurora

December 10, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

The holidays are the worst time to begin a new relationship. Just added pressure. Wait till the new year. Enjoy family and friends now, and wait for the relationship for the new year. New Year, New Relationship…..

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this

Okay, so mystery solved. I met the wrong person and in turn, introduced pisces07 to the wrong person. But at least pisces was able to recognize me due to my description on the blog.

There was some cougar out there in a cowboy hat and a black shimmery top that was getting her grove ON! I know she had a good time. LOL

By SexyLeggs

December 10, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this

ARed, no, I know you wasn’t telling me what I had on. I’m asking YOU to tell me what I had on. I think you met the wrong person. I just emailed a friend of mine who remembers the lady with cowboy hat on, but it wasn’t me. Beside’s demigod, for those who ARed introduced me to, what was I wearing…I’m cracking up over here!

By Staceye

December 10, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this

Top of the morning to ya! Ummmm Lady J….what happened to your Packers? Oh yeah that’s right, that got a Patriots SMACKDOWN!

SJ I find it funny that guys wanna take it slow to commit but got track shoes and a condom in hand to get teh booty on the first date? HMMM…how azz backwards is that? the worst that can happen in a commitment is it ends..but the worst with getting busy is a disease or a kid with a person you barely know. Lets see…how does that make sense to you guys again???? It make me laugh when a guy says he wants to get to know you…meanwhile he is trying to slip your clothes off. Ummmm hellooooo…how are you getting to know me when the only words being spoken are, “ooh, ahh, how you like it, etc.”? Come on bruh! So when a female says she is waiting to be in a commited relationship to have sex…you are looking at her like she said, “yo mama”! Then you go running off to the next booty that passes you by!

Bronco I totally agree! I think its a cruel joke! LOL

*Darrell sorry bruh….though I love the name Blow Me…cause it’s classic for a chick. But did not come up with such a clever smart azz moniker! I can;t take credit for it! I know I’ve got like 4 personalities…but you only get Staceye on the blog!

Sexyleggs how come I did not know of this Bell bottoms meeting? I heard there’s a cage there to dance in…I would have come…although I am injured, I could have made it work! So you were gettin’ it in huh? I feel ya! Go SAG!!!!

Happy B-DAY SEXYLEGGS!!!!!!

By SexyLeggs

December 10, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this

ARed, I remember the tall woman in the black dress, but girl you have me questioning my memory skills. Because you guys said you met me, I thought perhaps my memory skills were completely off due to the drinks. Like I said, I wasn’t drunk, but a lot of people drinking say that.

Cemeeli, what do you mean don’t start nothing. I’m good. I have a lot of partying left in me.

By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth

December 10, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

Das I’m feeling alot of heat these days. Stay close and and keep some bail money on hand. ( This is not a good time to be a preacher, lol)

Blow Me thanks for the free pass. Its always funny to hear women say their giving up on men. I never give up on women. The best I can do is exclusively knock-offs. LOL

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this

Peach404 I got and earfull about Fish Bowl Partying from my friends…the conocensus was nay and ya.

I thought it was and interesting concept… The different ideas coming out of the “bowl” to this forum was what i thought was cool a such soriee’…hmmm. Yes i had a great time at the High.. some of my coworkers were already “covered” by the time i arrived. LOL

By SexyLeggs

December 10, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

Ok, for those of you at Bell Bottoms with THE WRONG b-day girl, I had on red pumps, beige silk 4-tiered mini skirt and a red top. ARed, girl you had me there. ARed, were you the lady with the money clipped to her chest?

Did any of you see the hoochie in the red dress doing the nasty on the dance floor? I had to pull her on the side and talk to her because she was degrading herself. Crawling on the floor, hiking her legs up, falling a time. Man o man!

By pisces07

December 10, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

….Anyway, a good time was had talking to you ARed. Very nice curves to go with that frame!

By DasV

December 10, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

2!!

By Got that?

December 10, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this

Life is what you make of it. If you say relationships are hard to maintain during the holidays, it will occur that way. If you say otherwise, it will occur that way. What you spend the most time thinking about will manifest in reality. So, if you have a lot of bad thoughts, doubts, or concerns relating to dating around the holidays or just in dating period, that’s what is going to show up for you.

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this

Yeah SexyLeggs, we didn’t meet. I didn’t have on a black dress. I had on a black top, jeans and heels. I was the tallest woman there. It’s all good, maybe next time! Glad you had a blast!

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 10, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

@Staceye

Thanks for that clarification. I was just taken a bit off guard by the glaring similarities between your and Blow’s “tone” as it relates to men, that’s all. No biggie. :-) By the way, are you ever gonna e-mail me or are you afraid I might actually “crack the code”. LOL!

By Blow Me

December 10, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this

Yes….I totally agree STACEYE I’m loving your post so on point.. I have been there with the track shoes and condom in hand…lol!! It’s unfortunate it’s all too familiar..Yeah taking it slow to get to know you is out of the question! They like to SPEED DATE THE BOOTY ^5 and a “okay girl”

By binford

December 10, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this

I must have missed that whole meeting up thing. Man, now I feel left out.

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs you on it…cause a real Birthday Girl celebrates her blessing the entire quater!…Yes 3 months!

Lol…Dasv - yous a fool…I was rolling at Ared ‘sitting a supping’ with some chick wearing a cowgirl hat that was not Sexyleggs.

By 900K

December 10, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

Blow - Seriously I do not consider women Jump-offs just because we get phys early on. Time will ALWAYS tell when it comes to this. Fellas no that you will hear women say things about not doing this often or got out of a dead relationship, its been a long time… blah. However by taking the time I will find out if these were true statements or not, then she gets the label if she doesn’t live up to her words.

And to you bj question if you don’t know by now, this can be one of your strongest weapons when it comes to getting a man to do WHATEVER you want him to do(within his power of course). When you choose to unleash it is up to you.

By Blow Me

December 10, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

Truth I never said I will give up….that’s not the case. Quitters never win! What do you mean “free pass”?

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

pisces, are you saying I fit the Texas Amazon description a little bit? I’m I becoming a brickhouse? LOL. Thanks for the compliment. It was great talking to you too. I haven’t forgotten to do what I said I was going to do.

SexyLeggs, no money was clipped to me. Wish it was. Thanks again for the invite. I had a good time, considering! I was gone by about 11:30 tho. Fatburger closes at midnight! LOL

By ΗΜΙΘΕΟΣ (someoneliedandsaidmyblacka$$speakGreek)

December 10, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed yes I did see you there, both you where partying with the other birthday girl…I ask the DJ to find sxy for me.

you look dayum good!!!!…yo tall a$$

By SexyLeggs

December 10, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this

Staceye thought you knew about the party at Bell Bottoms. I knew your foot was mending so I didn’t think you would make it.

ARed, when you introduced yourself to the other woman, did you say anything about the clothes or were you being politically correct? That should have been your first clue. I would have immediately taken you to the car to get them before leaving the club. More than likely would not have remembered. Do you remember seeing me with the outfit I described I was wearing?

By Blow Me

December 10, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

* Darrell* what’s this tone you are speaking of? What maybe the truth? lol…..Cause surely that’s what it is!

By ΗΜΙΘΕΟΣ (someoneliedandsaidmyblacka$$speakGreek)

December 10, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

You were wearing a cowboy hat

No that girl was a di-ke!! LOL, I know who youre talking about, LOL

By m'karyl

December 10, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

Did any of you see the hoochie in the red dress doing the nasty on the dance floor? I had to pull her on the side and talk to her because she was degrading herself. Crawling on the floor, hiking her legs up, falling a time.

Sure you right, sister. That is sad, really sad…and where were the ppl who she may have come with…no one to let her know that she was not being cool? Sexy and slut are not the same thing…

By SexyLeggs

December 10, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

Melo/Dan* of Jay*. One of you said it would be an injustice for me to wear pants and not show one of my great assets, so I wore a skirt and you guys didn’t even show. It was a nice night.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 10, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

@Blow

I don’t know…maybe it’s just me, but I found it interesting how you came off blasting men in your 8:23 post only to follow that up at 8:36 with a pleasant “good morning all”. LOL!

By Blow Me

December 10, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

900k Again WOW….FUN-KNEE! Answer me this? On the same token Men want to take their sweet time..when it’s time to commit! Take this same process into dating and having relationship. But you want to take your time tryin to see if she is worthy….That’s the same thing I am tryin to do when guys want to “Speed date the booty”! lol!

By Sxzscorpia

December 10, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

I think men in Atlanta have waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too many options-so many times while u are trying to get to know him, he’s actually got 5 other folks he’s dealing with at the time and truly doesn’t have the TIME for u…..dating here sucks.

By Jay

December 10, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

Vick just got 23 months

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

Demi, did you really see me or are you pulling my leg? I did dance for a bit, but I don’t think pisces danced at all. I asked the lady at the door to find Sexy for me. She said she could be anywhere. So I started going to groups with balloons and such and asking who the birthday girl was. The faux Sexy was like the 3rd chick I approached. LOL

Sexy, I didn’t say anything about the clothes. The woman was having so much fun (even grinding on other chicks) that I didn’t expect her to stop partying to give me charity! LOL. I asked her point blank if she was SexyLeggs and she was like “yeah girl, come on and dance with me!” Maybe she was looking for some carpet! Tee hee!

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 10, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

OFF TOPIC Michael Vick sentenced to 23 months in prison.

By ImAPeach404

December 10, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

23 months for Vick… d@mn, d@mn, d@mn!

I’m done for the day…

By Blow Me

December 10, 2007 10:55 AM | Link to this

Darrell Pretty classic huh….Hey what can I say..I’m southerner..Good mornings are in order. It’s not blasting on ALL men..Just the bad ones!

By ΗΜΙΘΕΟΣ (someoneliedandsaidmyblacka$$speakGreek)

December 10, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

Rell on A.Red, I did not meet her, but there was only only tall girl with low heel dress in black looking for someone…and if I am right, she is fine.

Sexyleggs looks DAYUM GOOD FOR HER AGE…the way she dance and move…not many young girl can keep up…and her spirit seem to draw people to her…and love the way she walks…so smooth’n’sexy, LOL (sorry bay, I enjoy walking behind ya…Thinking to myself: That is a black woman for real fo reel!! LOL

ΗΜΙΘΕΟΣ is now being beaten over the head with Ms.Leggs prize RED PUMPs

In all they’re some lookers.

Oh, I left that place steaming…I should have came naked…my sweatly a$$.

By DreamsMaterialize

December 10, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

Good Morning.

I agree that people make time to for the people they want to spend time with. So, if someone isn’t making time for me in the beginning, I assume that they’re making time for someone else. I know if I have several date options, I have to prioritize and decide who I want to spend my time with. So, the ones who aren’t getting my time would be right to assume that I’m making time for someone else. The game is brutal and lovely all at the same time.

By melo

December 10, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

Happy birthday SexxyL!!! I could’nt come coz my wife bribed me.

By Cemeeli

December 10, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

23 months huh? …Bless him…

By Rell

December 10, 2007 11:02 AM | Link to this

I CALL BULL ISH ON THAT VICK SENTENCE…HE SHOULD HAVE ONLY GOTTEN A YEAR….

By Lady J

December 10, 2007 11:02 AM | Link to this

GO FALCONS, GO STEELERS!!! Vick will return Damn the Patriots* LOL!!! bye Staceye

By Beautiful

December 10, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this

Vick u did wrong now do your time. you’ll probably only do a year or so. when you get out, do you. you know that there will be opportunities waitin’. there is nothing wrong with living right. take care of your mom, get married and settle down. you’ll find out that that is the way to go and living right isn’t so bad.

By Staceye

December 10, 2007 11:05 AM | Link to this

Darrell So I am DaVinci now? LOL

Blow Me “Speed date the Booty”…now that’s classic! LOL

Sexyleggs I would have come had I known about it. I woud have been the chick with the ace bandage in her knee boots so no one could see…still getting her dance on!

Sxzscorpia though I can’t pronounce your name…but I agree about the options.

Vick got 23 months….can you say SET UP??? The lady who killed her husband got 7 months and he killed some dogs and he loses his career, money and 2 years of his life. That is some ole BS! Since when do we value human life less than that of animals?

By Jay

December 10, 2007 11:05 AM | Link to this

404 He was in court in prison gear. Sad day for the Vicks. Will our young blacks learn anything from this? Its said he lied about killing of dogs and he smoked weed the day before he was tested.

By Poppa Grande

December 10, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

Good Morning all

On Topic: People do make time for what is important to them. However, sometimes, there are special circumstances. I work in the legal field and did when I met my wife. In the beginning it was slow and tough to make time for each other. It helped that she also works in the legal field. So she understood. I guess if its meant to be things will work out. Forcing things might lead to problems down the road.

Off topic..I posted last week that I thought that Mr. Vick would get 18-24 months. I’ve worked with Judge Hudson before and he is tough. I told 404 Peach that he would not play again at least to 2010. He was the money behind the operation and if no money, then it would have been tough to have the operation. As a result, he is get the worst sentence. Two years is what he got. He has basically taken one month off already which leads to 23 months.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 10, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

Blow

I don’t know if I’d call it “classic”. If anything, I’m wondering if a guy would ever be able to know what to expect from you one from one moment to the next. LOL!

By AmazonRed

December 10, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

Whoops Rell, I said Demi, when I meant to say you. Dang, you saw me looking for someone and you just watched. :-( We could have met finally.

Sexy, you seem real nice. I’m sorry I met that d**e instead. LOL!

pisces, sorry I led you to the wrong person! Well, at least you got the pleasure of my company! LOL

By m'karyl

December 10, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

Well, now that his sentence has been determined by the justice system, I truly hope that ppl will get back to the real concerns of their own lives.The amount of anger, hostility, etc. that some ppl have expressed was unreal and unnecessary. Granted what he did conveyed not only an inhumane consciousness as well as being illegal; but h3ll he could have done something far more heinous and egregious than dog-fighting. And while all of these hostile critics get on with the everyday lives, Mike’s life has been irrevocably, and possibly irreparably, changed. I hope that his redemption and goodness are restored in God’s faith and within in himself and that he find a higher calling to mainifest.

By Rell

December 10, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

@demi, thanks for the info…so a red is not just blowing smoke..or sexy…good look

By pisces07

December 10, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

ARed. No prob. I had fun, actually hit the floor after you made your exit.

By SexyLeggs

December 10, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

Melo, I thoroughly understand**. Yes, I do.

ΗΜΙΘΕΟΣ (someoneliedandsaidmyblacka$$speakGreek), your check is in the mail. Thank you for all the kind words. I had this husband and wife both buy me a drink just because they wanted to compliment me on my age, my ability to sway, dip and drop it on a continous basis. I had them cracking up.

Cemeeli/Foots, they asked if I took dance classes and I told them yes.

By 900K

December 10, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

Again WOW….FUN-KNEE -What did I say?!? Was I speaking in lies? Truth is the only point I was going after. I don’t see whats wrong with either point that you make. If I need to make sure she’s the “right one” then why would that be an issue. I am not the lets live 2gether for 1-6yrs, but lets slow down on walking the isle type. All I am saying is I don’t think little of a woman for gettin phys w/ me sooner than SHE expected. If she wants to wait then that’s cool also, I just don’t see why she would expect to get a majority of my time. I know you want to find an easy target to Hate Blow but you should hate the game.

By DasV

December 10, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

stacye …since him be black.

and you shouldve known before this… there was a whole operation in place for dis-placed animals who survived katrina, but the ppl dem still sufferin

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 10, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

@ DaVinci You still haven’t answered my question. You skerred? :-)

By abc

December 10, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

I don’t have any comment on the topic.

I think Vick’s sentence is fair. It’s less than half of what the max could be due to his plea