Misadventures in Atlanta

By Lad y J

December 7, 2007 8:11 AM | Link to this

Morning Good People!!! Happy Friday!!!

Cute Topic!!

By SlimOne

December 7, 2007 8:17 AM | Link to this

Good Morning ALL

Wise I heard that show on Q100 also. He had a good point though about how women have to always overanalyze things. Anyway, if i think I may have feelings of I Love You, i tend to wait it out just to ensure it’s not just overwhelming feelings of lust that i’m feeling. Also, I tend to get a feel for how the guy is before i go blurting that out.

I recall my ex trying to tell me he loved me. He just kept trying to tell me how he felt and he said I guess the best way to describe it is the L word but I don’t know how you feel about that. It was so cute because I was feeling the same way. Just so glad he said it first.

By Luvs Friday

December 7, 2007 8:22 AM | Link to this

Good Morning! This topic should generate some good conversation.

By ImAPeach404

December 7, 2007 8:23 AM | Link to this

What are your thoughts on the L word?

I think people have a tendency to use the word too soon and without thought.

Do you say it right away when you feel it?

Nope. I wait until it’s said to me first.

Should you say it back if someone says it to you first?

Only, only, only if the feeling is mutual. Love is too serious of a word just to say it to make the other person not feel uncomfortable. The last relationship I was in, the guy told me first and I didn’t say it back. It was a little awkward - luckily we were on the phone and he couldn’t see the look of horror on my face - but I just said something like “Wow! Awwww…” I had no idea what to say, lol.

Are you headed for a break up if the feelings aren’t mutual?

No way! Love is something that comes with time. If your time patterns aren’t in sync at the beginning, I don’t think it spells doom for the relationship.

By Beautiful

December 7, 2007 8:30 AM | Link to this

luckily we were on the phone and he couldn’t see the look of horror on my face lmao.

Du i’m missing your stories. love to read them.

By Lad y J

December 7, 2007 8:37 AM | Link to this

All I can say is don’t lead a person on…Mean it, show it, and believe it…Since dating in my world it does not exists…However with dating it made me respect the institution of love and marriage! It is a serious matter!:)

By SeanJohnson3000

December 7, 2007 8:42 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog…There are two words that are very powerful to me …Love and Hate.and i rarely use those two words…I have only told 4 females I love them and to this day I still love them..its undying..I perfer to show you I love you waaay before I tell you I love…and i expect the same…I told my brother the other day…love is a verb and people actions indicate their love for you….not just saying it…Love is serious and powerful so if you dont mean it…dont say…not only will you be playing with someones feelings and emotions…its a chance you will be playing with your own life…folks are crazy these days..

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 8:47 AM | Link to this

Morning all! I’m looking forward to my firm’s holiday party at Ray’s on the River this weekend!

I’ve said the “L” word first once in my life, to the guy I recently broke it off with. I told him in August how I felt and I dumped him in October. While I wasn’t expecting him to say it right back, he told me the same over text message the next day *gas face *. I’m glad I told him, because I became much more aware of his feelings, or lack thereof, for me. And it was easier for me to walk away.

Though I’m glad I said it first for once in my life. I probably wouldn’t do it again. Women do make that decision off emotions oftentimes. If a guy says it first with no prompting, I think he’s more apt to mean it.

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 8:48 AM | Link to this

Test

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 8:53 AM | Link to this

@AmazonRed…Enjoy Ray’s!

By Dan

December 7, 2007 8:55 AM | Link to this

Mornin’

Uh, this is a hard subject.

I’ve been in situations where I was told I love you and I’m like: “Really, Like you too.” But in an effort to assuage feelings, I would try to pretend I didn’t hear (football injuries are great!).

But I never told a woman that I loved her if I didn’t mean it. For all the talk of “game” and all the talk of “keeping it real”, for me to say that “I love you” and not mean it is a violation.

The only time I told a woman that I loved her and it wasn’t returned was in the 4th grade when she told me I was too black (pre-New Jack days).

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 8:55 AM | Link to this

@SJ3K…Isn’t that the truth…Play that lying I Love You mess!!! Talking about Thin Line crazy!!! LOL I love that movie!!! LOL

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

December 7, 2007 8:56 AM | Link to this

TGIF!! Hello everybody and happy friday!!

SJ3000 I agree with your post 110%! Your actions should coincide with your words. I dont believe in throwing the L word around all willy nilly and I believe you should be sincere when saying it. I dont think you should say it if you dont mean it. Also I wouldnt say it when I first felt it, like SlimOne I would make sure its legit first and then let my feelings be known.

By ImAPeach404

December 7, 2007 8:59 AM | Link to this

I perfer to show you I love you waaay before I tell you I love…and i expect the same…

SJ There is a book about the 5 languages of love. It basically says that even though you may feel like you’re expressing love to your mate, they may not feel loved b/c they have a different love language than you.

i.e. If you’re dating someone and you’re showing them that you love them by giving them lots/all of your time, if thats not her “love language” then she will never feel loved in the relationship. In order for her to feel loved, she needs affection. So while you guys see each other every day of the week and weekend, you’re always out on dates, and totally involved in each others lives, she still feels unloved because you do not hold her hand, caress her back, give her hugs, rub her feet, kiss her passionately, play with her hair, etc…

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

Thanks Lady J, I’m super excited about it. I’ve been having a craving for lobster lately.

I wonder how this topic will go today. After yesterdays topic, it’s clear many of y’all aren’t even in like with the opposite sex, let alone close enough to someone to declare they are ‘in love.’

By ImAPeach404

December 7, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

Red Do you really feel that by him not saying it back it made you much more aware of his feelings? I know there is always more to the story…

By 900K

December 7, 2007 9:06 AM | Link to this

Good Morning! No games with me on this one. Only said it to one girl, I came out wit it 1st no regrets. I definitely waited until it jumped out of me.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 7, 2007 9:06 AM | Link to this

@Sean3000

^5 on your 8:42 post. You actually stated what I was going to say in that “love is a verb.”

I see a lot of people equating love primarily to “feelings”, and although our emotions are a significant component in determining if we “love” someone, it is our actions toward them and, likewise, theirs toward us which serve as evidence that love is not only present, but that it is genuine.

A concrete sign for me that I might be falling in love with someone is that I have a gradually increasing desire to serve her in some way; to do things for her and ask if there is anything I can do to help her in certain ways that are important to her. That’s when I know it’s gone from simply feelings to wanting to commit.

By SexyLeggs

December 7, 2007 9:09 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone! Hmm, who should say the word first? I know woman want to hear it first, but is it really that important who says it first. Either way, it may or may not be said back. Because someone said it first, reciprocation is not warranted if the other party doesn’t feel the same. To say it w/o meaning it just because it was said to you is CRUEL!

ARed, enjoy Rays, but I hope you come party w/me as well.

I AM GOING TO HAVE A BLAST TOMORROW!

By Dan

December 7, 2007 9:09 AM | Link to this

In true fashion, here we go again…

So let me get the process straight, we first have to qualify for the right to take you out, then we have to treat you to place you’ve heard of (just never went on your on dime). On top of that, we have to be part gay homeboy (listening to the minuta/ foolishness of your day) part man(holding you while trying not to…).

After that we have to express our emotions first, in an effort to make sure you’re not embarrassed. And FINALLY, all this leads to the alter, the ‘burbs, and kids……

Sound about right?

I think Eddie had right all those years ago.said while making flight arriangements to Africa for the bush babe

By QC

December 7, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers…ahhhhh the all mighty “L word”

Have a great day bloggers!

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 9:11 AM | Link to this

Peach, I do really feel that way. Why would I say something I don’t mean?

By opportunist

December 7, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this

Hey, SeanJohnson3000 I LOVE YOU!

By DreamsMaterialize

December 7, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this

I don’t use the L word often, but I can think of a time when I wish I would have said it and didn’t, and I can think of a time when I said it and wished I didn’t. lol I like to think I’ve grown alot since then, and at 31, if I feel it I’ll just say it, whatever the consequences.

On the flip side of the Q100 topic, I’ve had women tell me they love me when I didn’t think they really did. It wasn’t a question of their sincerity, just that I think they loved the idea of love more than they were in love.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 7, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this

@Peach

I co-sign your 8:59 response to Sean3000.

A lot of you already know that I’m a HUGE proponent of Dr. Gary Chapman’s books on The Five Love Languages. I teach a single-parents class at my church and have conducted several classes based on Dr. Chapman’s books. (You can find links to them on my Web site.) ;-)

For those of you who’ve never read any of Dr. Chapman’s books, all I have to say is that understanding a person’s love language is absolutely CRUCIAL to maintaining a solid, substantive and meaningful relationship, regardless of whether the context of the relationship is dating, parental, workplace, friendship or otherwise.

Understanding how to consistently speak your mate’s love langugage is the key to keeping their “love tank” full, and as you do that, they will be motivated to reciprocate in kind.

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs, the party doesn’t go all night. What time does your guest list close?

Dan, where in the world did you come up with such an asinine process?

By 900K

December 7, 2007 9:20 AM | Link to this

Dan you’re one funny guy… Mr. F@#K you Man!

By kimmie

December 7, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this

ARed - ^5 on your 9:03 post. Sometimes I wonder if these dudes even like women at all. Why do they even bother if everything we do and everything we say and everyway we think and everything we expect is WRONG! Case in point - Dan’s 9:09 post! Man, if you’re PART GAY, or gay in any way, don’t blame it on us!LOL That’s all on you!!!

By ImAPeach404

December 7, 2007 9:23 AM | Link to this

Red Calm down, nobody said you were saying anything you didn’t mean. You said that you weren’t expecting him to say it back but at the same time it made you more aware of the lack of his feelings. Sooooo… if you weren’t expecting it anyway, why would it make you more aware?

By Dan

December 7, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this

@ARed

That’s that process culled from my time in this forum.

I mean isn’t that what ladies here say they want? Those are precisely the sentiments I’ve heard here.

If I’m wrong, I can accept critisim, tell me where……Challenge

By Jazzyone

December 7, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this

Morning ya! Well I have said it first in the past and didn’t think anything of being the first to say it if I felt it I divulged it to him.

I wasn’t concerned if the words weren’t returned but I had to express myself. Life is way to short to hold back on what I feel and not conveying those feelings. When in love I am completely vulnerable so that I can feel it totally in my being.

So dropping the L-word for me isn’t a bomb its a restful place in my heart that he is welcome to join me in..a place of comfort, support, admiration, love, peace and Rapture baybeh!

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

Good merning blog!

I”m gonna get my Friday on! * birthday party tonight @ D&B* I’m gonna get my party on! Christmas Party tomorrow @ the High I’m gonna get my dancing on! i’m doing that right now. where’s Demi I’m gonna get my groove on ALL weekend long. Hay…hay…haaaaay…hay hay haaay….

….and i’m going to get my tree and put it up before the party tonight. whooo…!!!

By CoCo

December 7, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this

Dan, I am with ARed. Where did you get this process from? Are you a love hater? lol

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

@DreamsMaterialize…Wonder why in dating the idea of love and being in love and saying it so quick comes to the tip of the tongue so quick?

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 7, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

@ Amazon

“Why would I say something I don’t mean?”

Pardon me for hijacking your 9:11 response to Peach, but I couldn’t resist. :-)

I find it quite ironic that the very question you raise, which, rightly so, is in defense of your own character and intestinal fortitude, is okay for you as a woman to ask of a man, but is NEVER right for a man to pose to a woman.

In other words, it seems that women, by mere virtue of the fact that they are female, are presumed to be more honest and sincere in their sentiments than men. If a man says “I love you” his sincerity is automatically questioned. Whereas, if a woman says those same three words, she should unquestioningly be taken at face value.

Why is that?

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 9:32 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli *Have a blast and enjoy your weekend chica J

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this

Peach, I am calm. Anytime you say you love someone, if you EXPECT them to say it just because you did, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Did I expect him to say it back? No. Did I hope he would? Sure.

Clearly, I became more aware when he didn’t say it back and the actions he displayed after I said it. Bottom line, he wasn’t into me like I was into him. Therefore I moved on.

By chink

December 7, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this

Love oh Love….

I am never afraid to tell someone I love them …but 8 times out 10 the male always says it first. But then again this could be related to a deeper issue.

My current beau asked me if I loved him …he is one of those need affirmation people. And I did but wasn’t really sure where the relationship was going.

I don’t believe that if you love someone you have to be with them. The feeling alone is good enough for me.

(Deeper Issue) Growing up love was not a word used alot (probably not at all) in my household…so really I felt very uncomfortable saying I love you to anyone for the first time it was foreign to me. Sad but oh so True. So I had a lot of likes and crushes …and those crushes were deep lol.

Anyway these days I say I love you (to family friends lovers) and it feels good and its real …and one thing about love it changes you for the better…

I read alot of post about actions of love but me personally I needed just the word.

By ImAPeach404

December 7, 2007 9:35 AM | Link to this

I’ve had women tell me they love me when I didn’t think they really did

Dreams that sucks. I feel the same way about the last person that said it to me. He said “I love you. I have a lot of love for you”. Thats two different things in my book. Plus, he said it too soon for me to believe he was sincere.

By Foots

December 7, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

Good morning! It’s Friday!!

It’s funny because I was thinking about this on the way to work this morning, remembering how shocked I was when my ex told me he loved me for the first time over the phone. I too was happy that it wasn’t in person, because I had a weird look on my face, kinda like the look you would have if somebody stepped on your big toe, another person pooted near the vicinity of your face, and somebody else told you that your pad was stuck to the back your pants at the same time….

Well anyway, all he heard was static and crickets. I didn’t tell him right away because I had to evaluate my own feelings. It was too early to know whether what I felt was real or just the early blush of the relationship. He did press for an answer, but I couldn’t help him out with that one.

I’ve been in situations where I know that what I felt was real, but I didn’t say tell the man how I felt about him. He knew me well enough to know how I felt anyway, and I knew him well enough to know that he didn’t feel that way. So there was no reason to put it out there, other than to make both of us uncomfortable.

By SeanJohnson3000

December 7, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this

@ Peach04/Darrel…i havent read that book ..i may have to check it out..But i understand your points…thats why i try to show you naturally i love you and communicate to see how you like love expressed…and by doing that you have to really get to know them and dig in their past and even their upbringing..and example of that is what (Staceye) said about her father…But the flip side of what u have mention in that book…i actually know two females..that have been in very abusive relationships…and they really dont feel a man loves them..unless he beats them…Did that book deal with any cases like that?

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this

Hi Darrell

@ Peach404 & Darrell The 5 languages of LOVE…whew! there is a personal thought of a 6th.

BRB

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 7, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this

A wonderful lady friend of mine told me this: Always let your actions speak louder than your words.

Too bad treating a woman with disrespect yelds better results than treating her with respect.

I am learning to be patience when it come to the word love…It’s not a word that should be rush. The end results will either make you feel like you’re on top of the world, or leave you feel like ish…be like,”I can’t believe I wasted my time with that (enter degrading term here)!!!”

GOOD MORNING TO ALL

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this

Dan - just about all of it was wrong. Which lady said you had to treat us to a meal we haven’t gone to on our dime. Why is telling you about our day GAY (one of the dumbest things I’ve ever read on this blog). And why is whatever happened in our day foolish?

Darrell, I have no clue what you are talking about guy. Sorry. I don’t think a man’s sincerety is automatically questioned. Why kind of jacked up women are you dealing with?

By Kara

December 7, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

Dan would prefer a woman have no standards, happy that a man is even entertaining the idea of spending time with her, and then he doesn’t have to actually speak to her, because that’s for gay best friends.

it’s shocking that you are still single, really.

it is quite obvious that you are trying to deflect away from the “hard” topic about saying I love you, because you just threw that random a*, BS post out to rile women up and have yet another debate about how women are stupid and men are better off without them until they are too horny or want to have kids

is that about right?

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this

One other thing Dan…If after all this time on this forum, you come up with that as what the ladies on here want…you cleary are only reading and seeing what you want to see and not really paying attention.

By ImAPeach404

December 7, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this

Darrell, someone told me about the book a few weeks back so I purchased it based on the principal alone. I haven’t started reading yet b/c I’m in the middle of another book, but I cannot wait to jump in. I’ll keep you updated.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 7, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this

@ Amazon

I think you might be taking the tone of my comment a bit out of context. The question I’m posing was not a critique of or attack on you personally. It’s just that the question you originally raised got me to thinking of a much broader question about why men (in general) don’t get the same benefit of the doubt that women do.

It was just a question and it had nothing at all to do with “jacked-up” women.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 7, 2007 9:46 AM | Link to this

@ Cemeeli

Morning! How are you? Looks like you’re feeling pretty good today. LOL! :-D

Did you finish the 5LL book yet? Can I have it back now? :-)

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

December 7, 2007 9:46 AM | Link to this

Good Morning…..the Mighty, mighty L word

Never, never, ever, ever tell a woman this unless you mean it….feel It in your bones…unless You feel like telling yo Mama about her….unless You can overlook any fault

Because Love means having the Ability to overlook…not Over Analyze and criticize

GaMan steps away from the stage drops the mic…and Walks off

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 9:47 AM | Link to this

Interesting conclusion Kara!

LOL @ kimmie’s 9:22.

By L

December 7, 2007 9:47 AM | Link to this

@demi Too bad treating a woman with disrespect yelds better results than treating her with respect.

that kind of woman is unstable woman, and men love those types, so yes, and better results? Depends on what you consider better results, getting booty from a crazy chick?

By dyrtysouth

December 7, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this

Most guys have said I Love You to a female to ‘cut’ (although it mostly happened in high school. Do women still fall for that today?) but as we get older, we (men) tend to not say it as freely….

I don’t think you can love someone after one or two dates anyway….

By JustMe

December 7, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

Good FRIDAY Morning Blog

What has been your experience with saying I love you to the person that you are dating?

Funny this topic came up today because I had been thinking along these lines for the past week or so….

My guy and I have hinted around the L-word so much it’s funny (or not)! We’ve both said things like I Love me some JustMe/JustHim, we admitted to be falling in Love with each other, and yet we have never looked each other in the eyes and said ILY. I think both of us are in a similar place where hearing ILY is a lot less important than being shown ILY through our actions and deeds.

People can make their moths say anything, but your actions speak volumes!

Maybe I’ll give him an ILY for Christmas :-)

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

Darrell, I know you weren’t talking to me, or attacking me, because I don’t feel that way. I know it was a broader question and I feel only JACKED UP women would ever AUTOMATICALLY (your words) question a man’s sincerity.

The only type of women that don’t give men the “benefit of the doubt” are women like Staceye, who is very open about the fact that she doesn’t trust men. And if I recall, YOU were the one who wanted to get to know more about that. See where the road leads…?

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 7, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

@ Peach

I’m glad to see you’re going to read it. To-date, I’ve given that book away to 18 people I know and every last one of them has thanked me for it. You can thank me later, too. ;-)

By ImAPeach404

December 7, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

Has anyone ever realized they loved someone after they were gone and it’s too late to say it?

waves at Foots!

By abc

December 7, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

Romantic love is not a tangible thing. A person doesn’t possess specific attributes that inspire it, it’s either there or it isn’t. Romantic love can evolve and mature into being more, that is to say, encompass more aspects than romantic love alone, and those take into account particular aspects of a person. Maybe they’re even more important — but you won’t get there without romantic love being in the mix first.

By kinderbabe

December 7, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this

interesting, interesting. i think that the people who have the easiest time expressing love are those who understand that this emotion is not exculsive to romance. showing love of self, humanity, nature, etc. expresses love on daily basis. making every love exprerience into a harlequin romance novel misses the point. i’m like stevie, “love’s in need of love today”….maybe i’m just a flower child 4 decades late…lol

By Dan

December 7, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

Let me begin by saying this. I got on this blog for the same reasons I have female “friends”. It’s a truly honest attempt to understand women. How you think, why you think the way you do, etc. I ask questions and make statements like I did today because I want to know. Honestly, I just want to understand the impetus behind some of your actions as a sexual specie.

@ARed

I’m sure you’ve heard dumber things than that. In my experience women like to emote, get this off their chest and quite often understand their feeling through conversations with others. Guys on the other hand, have no such vice. If I’m confused about something I forget it and let me next reaction to that person/thing dictate my emotional level of concern.

Only, gay (not actually gay) guys will sit and listen to the banality that some of y’all go into. And please tell me you don’t know one woman that will drone on and on about nothing.

@ Kara

I’m single by choice. Let me state that here FOR THE LAST TIME. My motives need not be questioned as they have already been explained ad nasuem.

Now, to your remark, I’m not trying to deflect anything, my comment was in relation to 404’s comment anout “I don’t say I love you first”.

That’s complete bull.. I’ve said it before, ego is killing the game. You are not too good to go out on a limb and tell someone you may be in love with them. Likewise neither am I.

I don’t get why relationships have to be a battle for control (giving, getting, taking, having,). That not a relationship I want.

Shout out to anyone that can say “I love you” with out feeling shame or expecting anything in return. It’s a good thing to be honest about your feelings.

QED Thusly, I’m single

By Foots

December 7, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

Darrell If a man says “I love you” his sincerity is automatically questioned. Whereas, if a woman says those same three words, she should unquestioningly be taken at face value.

Why do you say this? For me, if it seemed too early for him to say I love you, it was more of a “How can you love me when you know nothing about me?” type of question. I’m sure it would be like that for you if someone told you she loved you and it had been a week since you laid eyes on each other. Or would you not question the sincerity of that?

I think it would also be suspect if it was said in the heat of the moment. Before the present days of just walking up to a woman you don’t know and telling her that you want go have sex with her right now, some men used to at least say I love you to get his lady of interest to bed and of course, it wasn’t sincere. Just a means to an end, often called “selling dreams”. As I understand it from Rell, a man who does this is now called a SIMP.

Historical references aside, I’d never make a blanket statement like you did, I take things on a case-by-case basis with the men in my life. I would hope that you give women the benefit of the doubt in the same way and not generalize the whole lot.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 7, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

@ Sean3000

In response to your 9:27, yes, the original book, “The Five Love Languages: How to Communicate Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate”, does touch on the topic of ‘abusive’ relationships. Subsequent books deal with the love languages of children, teenagers and singles. There’s also a “Men’s Edition” of the book.

I’ll be teaching a class in early ‘08 based on his latest book “The Five Languages of Apology: Experiencing Healing in All Your Relationships”. I’ll keep you guys posted once the class has been scheduled.

By binford

December 7, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

Throwing on flame-resistant suit (ah, fits good!)

On Topic: I’m always on the conservative end of using the “L-word”. I’d have to be sure the feeling is mutual, and I’d have to plan that she may not be ready to utter those same words I say to her. I do recall a girl with a way premature “I Love-you-lation” and that did send me packing because it was way too early and I wasn’t sure about her from the get-go.

Off-topic AR, if you need company to Ray’s - I’d be more than happy to accompany you. We can hit my party as well? Whattya say?

By ImAPeach404

December 7, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

Most guys have said I Love You to a female to ‘cut’… Do women still fall for that today?

dyrtysouth I don’t know if women still fall for it, but I know guys still try it.

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

……Darrell has put me on blast…..

Sexyleggs sis, you see what happens when you give a nice compliment to someone? Now how should i handle this? Lol.

I am feeling great, Christmassy, loved, liberal, blessed and i just got and invite from someone that is treating for lunch at PF Changs (sp)…hay hay…haaayyyy.

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

Peach…when I first moved to Atlanta there was a guy I was seeing. I knew I loved him maybe 6 months into it. I never told him because I wanted him to say it first. He never did, we ended up breaking up, and he never knows how I truly felt. I’m okay with that tho! LOL

By CP

December 7, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this

I was the first one to say “I love you” in my current relationship. That first time was actually an accident, maybe Freidian or something like that. We were together (biblically) and I was just breathing and all of a sudden I heard myself say it out loud! I’d never done that before and I guess it was just an in-the-moment-thing. He didn’t say anything back but just looked at me and then held me a long time.

We’ve been together several years now (baby on the way next year) and he tells me he loves me too now. All I have to say is that I don’t think our relationship played out any differently than it would have without me saying the “L word.” The feelings & committment were there anyway.

By Foots

December 7, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

Hey Peach! I don’t believe that I have romantically. Although there are some people that wished they would have told me…you know how you get those phone calls a few months later and they seem to be just bursting with things to tell you depending on your reaction to their call. I do wish I would have told some family members that passed away that I loved them one more time. I know they knew, but I didn’t even know how much I did until I didn’t have them anymore.

Kinderbabe Got it!! Looking forward to it!

By me 2(formally purple lace)

December 7, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this

Most people don’t even know what love is more less know how to accept it when someone tells them. That’s why some people question when they’re told. All those self help books on Love is designed to mess a person’s mind up because it’s based solely on another person’s POV. Some people express love by actions while others express it by words and actions.

By Trula

December 7, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this

isn’t it possible that its not about ego and more about fear? Some people just aren’t quick to be vulnerable to another human being. The fact that you attribute it to ego, so quickly may be you projecting your own issues.

By Beautiful

December 7, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this

what works for Beautiful is showing her that you love her. to hear i love you would be nice, especially whispered in my ear and not while we’re doin’ the nasty, BUT action is definitely better (cooking me something to eat topless with a apron on). yummy

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 7, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

@ Amazon

“The only type of women that don’t give men the “benefit of the doubt” are women like Staceye, who is very open about the fact that she doesn’t trust men. And if I recall, YOU were the one who wanted to get to know more about that. See where the road leads…?”

Honesty, no, I don’t “see where the road leads.” But speaking roads, I see that my efforts to have a sensible dialogue with you is leading to a dead-end, so I’ll just drop it.

By the way, I only reached out to Staceye because I’d never come across a woman who seemed to despise and revile men the way she apparently does. That one jaw-dropping comment she posted yesterday was commented on by a few people in this blog, not just me.

By pisces07

December 7, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

G’mornin…. What time are we clubbin’ on Sat??

By BLAT

December 7, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

Darrell, Cosigning your 930 and 944 posts. Both very MLB in their own way. Many, though not all, women tend to question men’s motive for anything they do - (read: Staceye).

Demi,

Too bad treating a woman with disrespect yelds better results than treating her with respect. so true, bruh. So true.

On topic, I’ve said it to only 4 women in my life as well, and it was only after I was sure. Two actually said it to me first.

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

Dan, I have heard dumber things, which is why I said your comment was ONE of the dumbest. I still feel that way.

Lastly, there will always be PEOPLE, be it men or women, that will talk about things you won’t care about. If the lady you are seeing wants to tell you about her day, I don’t think it makes it banal unless you attract women who aren’t about anything.

By DreamsMaterialize

December 7, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

Lady J I think it’s just a consequence of the fact that almost everything in our culture is somehow romanticized. There seems to be a romantic/sexual spin on everything, and it permeates our lives. So I guess sometimes we try, consciously or otherwise, to mimic that pseudo-romanticism in our own lives, no matter how unrealistic.

ImAPeach404 It’s all good. Sometimes a person thinks they love someone, but they really don’t. I think this happens more often when we’re young since we’re not really sure what true romantic love really feels like. At that age it’s easy to blur the line between lust and love. If that same thing happened now, then I would just think the woman was immature.

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

Hey binford!

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

Peach404 Most guys have said I Love You to a female to ‘cut’… Do women still fall for that today?

…all i can say is HOT MESS!

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

binford, come on then guy. Where is your company’s party at? It better be good. LOL

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

Me too Foots!!!:)

By SexyLeggs

December 7, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

ARed, to get in free you must arrive before 10. After that time, I don’t know how much it costs to get in.

SJ3000 stated his two most powerful words. Mine are love and promise. These are two of the most powerful words to me. Your actions speak volumes of the words you decided to utter to me. Break these two words and you’ve altered my vision of you going forward!

By Confused

December 7, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

I’m confused. I live in Decatur and I thought the “L-word” stood for Lesbian!

By Magenta

December 7, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

I’ve been married twice and oddly enough, I don’t even remember how the “L” word first came up.

The only specific instance was a boyfriend from senior year of high school. His favorite little head game (among many) was to look down at me fondly and say “I love you.” When I replied, “Really?” he said “No, but when I actually do mean it, won’t that feel good?”

I never got a chance to find out because we split long before graduation day…

A pox on 18-year-old “men.”

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

Thanks for that great POV DreamsMaterialize…

By kinderbabe

December 7, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

foots got your response.:) i think we’ll have a good time.

By DreamsMaterialize

December 7, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this

Dan LOL at “QED”. Don’t hear that very much in regular convo.

By JustMe

December 7, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

Wow sparks are flying early this morning……

Someone (I forgot who) said something along the lines of having feelings of Love for more people than your SO. I have friends that I have known for 30+ years, and you better believe everytime we say goodbye, there is an ILY that follows! I tell my son, my neice and nephews, my parents etc, and I think that does have a way of keeping the heart and soul open to giving/receiving Love.

By me 2(formally purple lace)

December 7, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this

It’s say it together LOVE not the L-word. If you can’t say it how can you accept it or know when it’s real? If a man says I L-word you to me, I would question him too. LOL

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this

Thanks SexyLeggs, I might have to show up at Bell Bottoms at 9:30, get in free, get my hand stamped and come back around 11: 30. LOL!!!

By ImAPeach404

December 7, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this

When one says romantic love, what exactly does that mean? Love outside of friends & family?

i think that the people who have the easiest time expressing love are those who understand that this emotion is not exculsive to romance.

hmmmmm… interesting! Nicely put kinder. I’ve recently realized that I have no problem showing love through actions but I have a horrible time actually saying it in a relationship.

Red, so if you ran into buddy again today, would you tell him how you felt about him back then? I believe Foots touched on catching up with someone months later and they confess their past feelings… thats happened to me and I was totally dumbfounded, lol.

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

Darell, didn’t know you were sensitive. I think the dialogue was quite sensible, but hey nice talking to you then. Ta ta.

By lovelyliz

December 7, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this

I long ago gave up any hang ups I had about that L-word. I understand that for some people, it’s a deal breaker, but I observed & been involved in enough case where those words proven to be meaningless. Just ask my sister whose ex-husband was not the most faithful type. On the day the divorce was final, he told her he loved her and asked her if this was what she really wanted. less than 2 weeks later he moved in with a girlfriend.

I love you is a verb. The words themselves are meaningless if there is no action behind them.

If S.O. says them and you are scared, just look at how the relationship is going. If it was fine before and going well after, don’t worry.

By Divan

December 7, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

The feelings of love should come from your heart and is unconditional, and if that’s how you feel, you should feel comfortable sharing it without any expectation that you’ll hear it back. There is never a guarantee that you will hear it back because an individual can’t control someone else’s actions. I’ve told someone I loved them because I felt it in every fiber of my being and it felt good. It didn’t matter if they said it back because I wanted to express myself not get a response.

By SexyLeggs

December 7, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

Pieces07, I plan on being there between 9:30-9:45. As Pink would say, Let’s Get This Party Started!!!!

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

December 7, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

MLB ALert MLB Alert MLB Alert

If you have my email…hit me up…

manswellp@yahoo.com

Secret Mission ssshhhhhhhh

GS-13 Style

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

Peach, I absolutely would not tell him. That ship has sailed. I don’t look behind me, I move forward. He was in my life for a reason, and now he’s out for a reason. I’ve grown and moved on since then.

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 7, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this

L you did notice I did said I learn to be patience right? To be honest, they weren’t crazy chicks by a long shot…I was young and very immature then any how.

Knowing how difficult it is for a woman to love a person such as myself, I don’t worry about whither she love me and what not. As long as the mutual respect for each other is there…let’s ride this B-ish called life until the wheels fall off…Who cares about our destination. The journey is where it’s at!!

I just hope we make it in one piece LOL

And Hey Cemeeli

By Itsime

December 7, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

@ Darrell

I tell people all the time that I love them in the lord. some people grasp it and some people give me a strange look. I guess they aren’t used to anyone expressing agape love. Anyhoo i can relate to your post. I am on the Gary Chapman band wagon also.

By Itsime

December 7, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

@ Darrell

I tell people all the time that I love them in the lord. some people grasp it and some people give me a strange look. I guess they aren’t used to anyone expressing agape love. Anyhoo i can relate to your post. I am on the Gary Chapman band wagon also.

By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth

December 7, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

Good morning blogsville.

Darrell I don’t give a dam about a womans love language. I do what I do and if that works cool. If not lets break off. It seems your trying to out smart a woman by figuring out what something means to her and doing that. The thing is I can do what I do alot longer than you can try to understand her. We have really got this shyt twisted out here. A friggin love language. Stand the fugg up and be what you are and attract women that are into that. Don’t mold yourself into what they need you to be. And you say you teach other people how to alter themselves so they can find someone that will find them acceptable? WOW

Question: If a womans love language suggested you buy her gifts or remember b’days and that wasn’t your strong suit would you try to change for her or go find a woman that spoke your same “love language?

Dan you have me rolling over here.

On topic: I’ve been in love 3 times (2 were at the same time). I’ve loved women for many reasons, or greatly appreciated what they bring to me, usually actions like SJ mentioned.

By Dan

December 7, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

Again

I make a comment, ask a question really of what are, to my assumption thus far, some intelligent, professional, educated, life-experiencing women.

And what do I get in return? Maybe it’s you. Maybe you’re projecting, maybe you don’t attract the right women, maybe baby…..

Well then, ladies, why not ask yourself that question? Maybe it’s me? Maybe I’m single (at whatever age) becuase of somethings I’ve done. Maybe I’m over 25 still saying “guys ain’t ish” becuase it’s me?

I have asked myself those questions, considered the answers, and started about a process to correct errors in myself (womanizing, lying, being dishonest, being an azzhole). And part of that journey led me here, to explore an area of thought I hadn’t considered, Maybe it’s the Town.

But as I travel and talk to women all over this country of ours, it’s not Atlanta, it’s men/women, sometimes it is me/you/whoever.

By binford

December 7, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

I know it’s at an midtown hotel - I’m thinking a Marriott. Gotta stop by the office or call to find out ;P I just know it is usually a good spread and the drinks don’t stop flowing!

I’d rather go to Ray’s! Food is sooooo good.

By JD

December 7, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

I love beanie weenies. I love and miss them so much. Please help me locate my beanie weenies. Somebody please help me.

By SeanJohnson3000

December 7, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

@ Blog Females…i see yall are having a lil outing…yall should go to strokers when yall leave atlantic station…just a suggestion..

By 900K

December 7, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

Honestly I never have a problem w/ a woman who tells me that she luv me cause thats when it gets good, damn good! And no, I don’t say it back(only to one) they don’t seem to mind and I don’t feel that it’s now time to leave even if it seems too soon. I feel obligated to stay and see what she’s ALL about. Y’know views on life, fam, world peace, the state of the ghetto…

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

Okay GaMan What’s this secret MLB mission? Since no one else will ask?

Hey Demi…pop lockin’ all the way to lunch lol.

Sup Super Truth, Dan and SJ300 I had a response to what you guys are saying to the women in essence to “love language” but it got ate in cyber world. Anyway…waving…HI!

Darn all this he say first or I say it first….if you feel it say it. Do you know how long you gonna live? Do you know how long that person you are feeling this way about is going to live. i mean really? All this RED tape. Dang it! Play a love song for them…then!!!!

By Singlemom

December 7, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

It’s hard for me to even say the “L” word. I agree with previous posters that women do tend to over analyse, but men tend to throw the word around. I won’t even tell someone that unless its been a long time, and I even had a hard time telling my ex-husband that I loved him. Not really sure I ever truely have known what it meant or felt like. I broke up with a guy after he told me on our 3rd date that he loved me. I wasn’t that much into him and didnt give any indication that I was, so where he got that he was in love with me was crazy. I tend to get creeped out because of my years of short lived relationships, I cant understand or see how someone could go spouting off the word so quickly.

Recently I was dating someone for several months and during an intimate moment he went on to say how much he was in love with me. I couldn’t say it back because I had been told that by so many people before who really didnt mean it. I even went as far as to question him, “What do you mean? Are you sure? Absolutely? Like in love with me…can’t live with out me??” (that was verbatim) and his response was “Yes! With out a doubt!” A week later, he got weird on me and faded out of the picture…so what’s up with that??

I cant just go throwing the word around, and I tend to get creeped out by guys who are quick to say it. I often wonder if I ever will know what it truely feels like to know it, feel it and say it. Im even more guarded now being a single mom. I dont want men coming in and out of my life and I dont want my child to see that I fall for everything that passes by.

By Singlemom

December 7, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

It’s hard for me to even say the “L” word. I agree with previous posters that women do tend to over analyse, but men tend to throw the word around. I won’t even tell someone that unless its been a long time, and I even had a hard time telling my ex-husband that I loved him. Not really sure I ever truely have known what it meant or felt like. I broke up with a guy after he told me on our 3rd date that he loved me. I wasn’t that much into him and didnt give any indication that I was, so where he got that he was in love with me was crazy. I tend to get creeped out because of my years of short lived relationships, I cant understand or see how someone could go spouting off the word so quickly.

Recently I was dating someone for several months and during an intimate moment he went on to say how much he was in love with me. I couldn’t say it back because I had been told that by so many people before who really didnt mean it. I even went as far as to question him, “What do you mean? Are you sure? Absolutely? Like in love with me…can’t live with out me??” (that was verbatim) and his response was “Yes! With out a doubt!” A week later, he got weird on me and faded out of the picture…so what’s up with that??

I cant just go throwing the word around, and I tend to get creeped out by guys who are quick to say it. I often wonder if I ever will know what it truely feels like to know it, feel it and say it. Im even more guarded now being a single mom. I dont want men coming in and out of my life and I dont want my child to see that I fall for everything that passes by.

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

For what SJ3K??? LOL

By WTF?

December 7, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

The underbelly of the L-world……….

APPLETON, Wis. — Darshana Patel said her boyfriend abused her to the point that she once leapt from a moving vehicle to escape him.

Last month, she filed a restraining order against him. He is now accused of slipping her a ground-up abortion pill to induce a miscarriage.

Court records detail allegations that Manishkumar M. Patel abused Darshana Patel physically and emotionally. Yet she stayed in the relationship for years, even though he is married to someone else.

Domestic abuse counselors say her Indian culture may have made it difficult for her to seek help. She had financial security — she is a doctor who bought him a house — but counselors say she may have felt trapped.

Darshana Patel and Manishkumar Patel, who are not related, have a 3-year-old son.

She suffered two miscarriages in less than a year. Shortly before the second one, the 39-year-old family physician became suspicious when she noticed powder on a cup containing a smoothie he had given her, according to a criminal complaint. Although she didn’t drink that beverage, she had eaten food her boyfriend prepared for her since she became pregnant.

While waiting for a laboratory kit to test the substance, she miscarried. The lab test later confirmed the presence of the abortion pill known as RU-486, the complaint said.

Manishkumar Patel, 34, of Appleton, was charged Nov. 29 with seven felonies, including attempted first-degree intentional homicide of an unborn child and two misdemeanor counts of violating a restraining order. The charges carry a maximum penalty of 99 1/2 years in prison and a $92,000 fine.

By SlimOne

December 7, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

Dan Did you ever get that email?

By ImAPeach404

December 7, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

Dang Truth! Nobody said you should alter who you are to please another person… basically whats being said is if you find yourself in a relationship and with a person that you care about, it is quite possible that the way you express love may not be the way she expresses love. Maybe you’ve never truly cared for or loved someone, but when you do, there is something inherent that makes you want to see the other person happy and make them feel loved by you. If you consistently tell your woman that you love her and there isn’t much reaction, then one day you set aside an entire day just for the two of you and you spend a lot of quality time together - at the end of the night she may let you know this was the best time she’s ever experienced with you and she truly enjoyed the time and really felt loved… you would probably be able to gather she she needs quality time instead of words.

You wouldn’t stop telling her you love her or simply change your ways, but if you cared for her, you might make an effort to spend more quality time with her so she feels loved just as you feel loved.

By Staceye

December 7, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

Good Day Bloggers

I used to say the “L” word to whomever I felt it for. I learned that was called wearing your heart on your sleeve. By doing that…I got stabbed in it. So now the only “L” word I feel and let be known is “LEERY”! I am leery of their intentions and motives. Now I just sit back and watch and see things that I could not see when I let “love” blow smoke up my azz and cloud my vision! I used to let my love be known for the simple fact of the reason Alicia’s song is so hot, “Like You’ll Never See Me Again”. I have always had that fear of the last time. My aunt just passed on Friday…2 days b4 my birthday and I had not seen or spoken to her in years. That bothers me…but not enough to make me go back to being an easy target.

ARED you think by you telling him you loved him made him feel trapped?

By 900K

December 7, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this

Okay lets get this straight after sever months he confessed luv for this girl and she said:

“What do you mean? Are you sure? Absolutely? Like in love with me…can’t live with out me??”

I think you need to step back and look at this from someone else’ shoesSinglemom because after a week goes by I think he HAS to forget all about yo azz…

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli…You so funny!!! LOL

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 7, 2007 11:05 AM | Link to this

@ Preacher

“Question: If a womans love language suggested you buy her gifts or remember b’days and that wasn’t your strong suit would you try to change for her or go find a woman that spoke your same “love language?”

If I’m convinced in my heart that this woman is ordained by God for me, then yes, I would try to change and by “change” I mean I would try to LEARN to speak the love language(s) that best speak love to her. Love isn’t always about convenience.

It would be easy for me to wait around for a woman who aligned to the love languages that I “natually” speak. But love sometimes means changing for the benefit of the something bigger than one’s self, namely, the relationship as a whole.

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

singlemom, it just goes to show you how different all of our experiences are. The last time a guy told me he loved me was back in 2004. The men I date definitely seem intimitated by the word and don’t use it all willy nilly!

I think some women are just more loveable. So enjoy that. I myself am a bit of a pistol. You definitely need to be careful about what you say to me!

By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth

December 7, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

Singlemom you have some issues. work those out, preferrably with a therapist and then try again. If you’d of asked me those stupid questions I’d of gotten weird on you and bounced too.

Before you can love someone else you must love you. I think what we are seeing is a bunch of folks that are unbalanced going into a situation hoping the situation will heal them. It won’t. It’ll only get worse.

Whats up Similac and Sexy and Dasv (when your late arriving azz shows up). I love you.

Dan when a chick calls you an azzhole its becuase she’s frustrated you didn’t do something she wanted. When she calls you a wimp its because you did do something she thought she wanted and found out she didn’t. She’s wondering why you weren’t an azzhole and let her know she didn’t want it. LOL

By ImAPeach404

December 7, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

Well then, ladies, why not ask yourself that question? Maybe it’s me? Maybe I’m single (at whatever age) becuase of somethings I’ve done. Maybe I’m over 25 still saying “guys ain’t ish” becuase it’s me?

Dan I do wonder why I’m still single at this age (31) and I do wonder if it is me but nobody ive ever dated has come back and been like “hey, you know, if you examined x,y,z about yourself, things might be different”. Personally, I think Im great and I just need to find someone else who thinks im great, lol. After i got out of my last relationship, I learned a lot about myself and there are a number of different things I’d do differently. I will say this, it is not difficult to date in Atlanta, but it is difficult to have a relationship in Atlanta.

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

SJ3K…I personally want to go see the Christmas movie with Queen in it beforehand…KB wanna catch it?

By Staceye

December 7, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

SJ you hanging out at Strokers on Saturday?

Sinlgemom he is either very emotionally attached….or disturbed. You can never tell. Some people fall hard and fast. I used to be like that. But that comes from early parental abandonment and looking for love in any form to fill that void. But eventually you get over it and stop looking to others humans to fill that and look to God to do so.

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

Lady J looking forward to girlsnight out. Today I have officially abopt to party my way all the way up to Chirstmas. I’m there.

By kinderbabe

December 7, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

peach thanks.:) it is a risk when you express love verbally. you’re not the only one who has difficulty w/that…lol.

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

Staceye, I’m not really sure. He probably did feel trapped. Or maybe he finally started to realize that he needed to be more accountable. We had dated for over a year and he couldn’t fall back on the keeping things casual behavior now that he knew that I didn’t just have casual feelings.

Either way, I’m not going to sit an analyze it too much. I feel that men are simple creatures and for the women they can’t live without, they do what they need to to lock it down. The reasons why we didn’t work don’t matter to me anymore.

I was free, I got back out there and I realized how much better it is for me now.

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 7, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

Singlemom you be giving out free samples…now getting in line which reads: “Singlemom” LOL

Don’t pay me no mind bay.

Cemeeli I ain’t got time to watch your behind all day…said while easing back in blog easy chair/w a hands full of ones

By SexyLeggs

December 7, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

Staceye, sorry to hear about your aunt. Keep those memories you have of her close to your heart. If you felt love for whomever you felt and said it, there’s nothing wrong w/that. However, if you said in the very beginning of the relationship that may have been a bit much. It’s never good to wear your heart on your sleeve because the only thing a man usually sees is “a needy woman.” Not saying that’s what you are, but that’s what a man sees. Girl, I can’t wait until the day some man gets a bull dozer and knock those damn bricks down. LOL…Much love!

By Too tough

December 7, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

ForReal coming in at about???

Personally, I think Im great and I just need to find someone else who thinks im great, lol.

NOW!!!

By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth

December 7, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

Peach suppose your love language is you love alot of time together and your mate loves to play golf, everyday. One of you is going to be unhappy. It doesn’t matter what you try to do. The unhappy party will then do things to make the happy person unhappy.

The flip side is the golf lover could meet a woman that doesn’t need that type of time together or better yet a woman that travels alot. Now thats heaven for that couple. A place couple A will never know.

You can make adjustments all you want but in the end your going to be Peach404. You’ll always be true to yourself.

Does anyone in blogsville have an extra bottle of crown? I want to knock off Vivica and I think I found her weak spot. LOL

By Dan

December 7, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

Oh yeah Slim I got it!

I’ma stop with the long posts, but let’s look at the logic here. Diva asks the question: What’s your thoughts on the L-Word. Should you say it first…

It was my logical response to think about all my relationships, whether I loved the woman or not. In accessing that, I saw flashback of some real booty things I’d done to women that professed to love me.

And then I here “I’m not saying it first, I questioned him, et al.”, and I got the feeling like…DAMN, really? We go round on this Earth some of us waiting on someone to love, others trying to get over the one we loved and all manner of other love-related ailments and now there are impediments that we are creating in the process ourselves.

It’s disheartening frankly, to hear. I mean a brother tries to get right, break the cycle and has more hurdles to climb….I’m tired. Tired of trying, tired of being denied in my efforts. Maybe the uninformed are right, maybe just doing for self is the way to go…….

By ImAPeach404

December 7, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

I was free, I got back out there and I realized how much better it is for me now.

This statement makes me wonder - how many people here truly enjoy being single??? I , personally, don’t care for it at all. I’d much rather be in a relationship.

By kinderbabe

December 7, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

GAman you just make sure that secret mission doesn’t include showing up at Strip next week…lol. otherwise, mission away….

By Staceye

December 7, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs a Bulldozer? LOL I’ve got titanium on the inside of my brick wall to keep it strong!

ARED I agree with you about a guy locking down what they can’t live without.

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli…You go girl*!!!!

By kinderbabe

December 7, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

ladyj that sounds cool. let’s look into when the movie starts. you’re talking about the one w/morris chestnut and the crew, right? if one starts around 5, that would be great.

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

….what’s that…Demi? You said…my drooooppp is not low enough? Okay watch this?

…bam…bam…bam,bam,bam…Lol.

You aint’ ready….

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

Dan - maybe you are focusing on the wrong comments. Yes, there are several ladies that said they questioned, but there are also several ladies talking about the complete opposite.

This blog is full of men that get caught up in the “I’m a man” bravado and foolishness. While I read their comments and get more insight to the male psyche, I automatically dismiss them as men I’d ever date seriously. I do focus on the men who fit the type of character that I hope I attract. Maybe you should shift your focus a little bit.

By Staceye

December 7, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

ImAPeach404 I’m just peachy with being single!

By kinderbabe

December 7, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this

peach i liked your comments about being 31 and single. i feel similarly. atlanta is a great place to date but it has been a little more difficult on the relationship front.

By Dan

December 7, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

Peach

Aren’t you the one that said she’d questioned a man’s expression of love?

Yet, you’re ready for a relationship???

WHAT????

By 900K

December 7, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

Red Staceye-a guy locking down what they can’t live without.

Do you vew this as a bad thing?

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

Peach, I love me. I love spending time with me, I love going out with me. So that’s going to transfer over if I’m single or not. I do like being single. Maybe too much which is why I had to get out there. I was too content with hanging with old dude and when I wasn’t with him, I was with myself. When I say I got back out there I mean I started reconnecting with life instead of Comcast. I was allowing myself to be complacent and I’m too young and fun for all that!

Now I have a good balance again. I’m having fun with the boys and being out on the town with the girls and myself. That’s all I meant.

By SeanJohnson3000

December 7, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

@ LadyJ…is that the movie with chestnut or the one with chris brown? ATL station has a nice theatre…just suggested something thats all..

@Stacye..hadnt planned on it…why? are you?

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this

KB…If it is confirm it and I am down…Just let me know…Thanks And yes that is the movie…J

By ImAPeach404

December 7, 2007 11:40 AM | Link to this

Truth the only way my man is going to be playing golf everyday is if thats his job! But seriously though, is he playing golf 2 hours everyday or 12 hours everyday… there is a difference.

The flip side is that anyone you date can find somebody at any time for any reason that they feel would be a better match for them.

And then I here “I’m not saying it first, I questioned him, et al.”

Dan everybody has a story. And, if you know my story you might find my reasons for not saying it first are valid. Maybe not. It all is disheartening and I know that it makes dating difficult. But - as far as dating and relationships are concerned - I am a product of my experiences, as are you.

By JD

December 7, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

Where are my beanie weenies? I’ll do anything to have them here with me. Somebody help me please. I am not sure I can go on living without those good beanie weenies. I LOVE my beanie weenies. Come back home.

By NICk

December 7, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

First off…THE BERT SHOW SUCKS!

Anyone who listens to that whiney PC crap is a LOSER!

But getting back to the “L bomb”.

Ladies, if he drops it, he’s trying to get into your pants or he’s just stringing you along because he’s banging someone else.

Fellas, if she drops the “L bomb”, get the hell out of Dodge! Once she has it in her mind that she loves you, it is ALL down hill.

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

900k, that’s a great thing! Am I speaking in chinese or something?

My point is if a guy is hedging on his feelings for you, that is my “red flag” to move on. It’s really not difficult, if he’s feeling you he’ll make moves to be with you. Ladies waste a lot of time trying to “get” a man to love them. All they end up doing is wasting time and potentially missing out on a guy who is right for them.

By Jazzyone

December 7, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this

Dan listen, to some women this thing called love and relationships is not difficult as some make it. Some of us have a healthy love for ourselves and others and realize that to love someone along the way in this thing called life isn’t a struggle you live and learn and you grow. Not all of us have the great wall built in front of our hearts or are the bag ladies.

Over analyzing and tearing up such simple views of things is the way it seems to go on this BLOG, the BLOG is not the real world and from the small handfull of people that post per day is surely does not represent women as a whole.

By Staceye

December 7, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli I am cracking up over here girl! LOL

900 No..that is a great thing. Saying if he loves her that much he won’t play games and just do what he has to do to make her his.

SJ You suggested going there…I thought that is where you’d be.

JD I do not know what Beanie weenies are.

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

SJ3K, the one with Morris…and yes Atlantic Station is nice….You know J is ready to hit the streets in a postive way…lil lady going out of town the 15th so why not start with movie and dinner with good people!!!

By ImAPeach404

December 7, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

I’m just peachy with being single!

Cute staceye, lol.

kinder thanks. After you date someone for a while and things don’t quite work out, getting back out there is kind of fun! But then… after a while… I’m just like sigh…. :(

Dan I’m not sure if I said I questioned it… maybe I did. What post are you referring to?

But, I can be ready for a relationship because to me it more about the “relationship” and not the “love”. I like having someone to talk to everyday, always having a standing date for the new movie or new restaurant, having someone to do sweet things for, someone to act silly with, someone to tell me about their day, someone to learn new things about, someone to tell me things i’ve never heard before. There are a number of different reason I like being in a relationship, but none of them are because I need someone to love me.

Does that make sense?

By ImAPeach404

December 7, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

When I say I got back out there I mean I started reconnecting with life instead of Comcast.

Lmaoo!!!!

If I’m not mistaken red, this guy that you stopped seeing in Oct - yall were dating for about a year, right? Freedom is so nice after you’ve been in something for a while :)

By melo

December 7, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

As somebody in luv, i will say that two dating people will most likely get to the luv stage at different times.It is not fair, in my view to ask the other party why they luv u, because when luv happens, u feel it but u cannot explain it.Even tho as pple, we try to rationalise about the type of man/woman we may want ideally, when u get a chance to be with someone, u may ultimately get to luv somebody, based on that interaction and it may not reconcile with ur criteria. I know for a fact that my wife said it before i did. But i gave myself time to get to the level that she was at, after being with her for some time.The dating game is not fair, it is brutal. It was probably cruel for me to string her along(emotionaly that is) but i had to experience it for myself before i could say the word. If somebody says it to u 1st, rather than fighting back ur puke visibly in front of them, be kind and suggest that hopefully u will get to the same level, in time.Other wise its a cruel thing to show that mug face to somebody u have been hanging around and sending quality time with, just becoz they said they luv u. My2.

By 900K

December 7, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

Red, Staceye -thats whats up.

By they way reading up on all the ladies on here talking about going to the movies, A++. For whatever reason the women I’ve been meeting lately 2+yrs don’t think going to the show is all that fun. Matter of fact the last chick i dated for 3mos said that “Movies are Lame…?!?” and she was a single mom 27yrs. I’ve hard lets go to the strip club from women in the past 3ys then lets go to the movies!

By Dan

December 7, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

@ARed and Jazzy

Preciate it

@404

I don’t disagree at all.

My point is whether here or in “real life” I keep hearing the same thing. ARed, my sister keeps telling me the same thang. But I’m attracted to what I’m attracted to.

By JustMe

December 7, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this

Jazzy Some of us have a healthy love for ourselves and others and realize that to love someone along the way in this thing called life isn’t a struggle you live and learn and you grow. Not all of us have the great wall built in front of our hearts or are the bag ladies. - Finally a voice of reason.

By SexyLeggs

December 7, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli, you have me cracking up over here w/your *bam, bam, bam, you ain’t ready. That was funny.

Staceye, damn, titanium. You are a mess!

ARed, I started to respond to 900K but then saw your response Am I speaking in chinese or something?* Funny as hell!

By Beautiful

December 7, 2007 12:04 PM | Link to this

nick how old are you? you postin’ like you 17 or something. that’s sad if you consider yourself a mature adult.

By Staceye

December 7, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this

So WLB You guys are going to the cinema at Atlantic Stattion tomorrow @ what time? Dinner where, before or after?

Hey is it just me….but I am dying to see Beowolf and Golden Compass. I’m such a geek. I was in long line waiting on Harry Potter and Star wars when they came out. UGH…I’m a geek! LOL

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 7, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

Peach404 a meanless use of the L-word…My son telling me he loves me after getting busted…

Li’demi: thinking 3 years old thoughts Imma paint my daddy’s wall with collard greens!! Even though he has told me not too

Me: thinking to myself: Oh no the li’M/FKer Didn’t!! But came out as: YOUR BEHIND IS MINES!!! now removing belt

Li’demi: now sitting there with a Oh ISH look on his face and thinking fast I Luv you Daddy!! now looking all cute’n’ish and trying to hug me with green hand

i am standing there, with the belt half way off and a stupid smile on my face

He says he loves me!!!

I forgot all about punishing him and made him help me clean his mess up.

Now I see how God feels about us

By Foots

December 7, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

Amazon Either way, I’m not going to sit an analyze it too much. I feel that men are simple creatures and for the women they can’t live without, they do what they need to to lock it down. The reasons why we didn’t work don’t matter to me anymore.

Well said!

Peach That makes sense to me. A large part of a relationship is companionship, plain and simple. Being single is fine, but we all would like that interaction with other people that we like and want to spend time with.

By melo

December 7, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this

I used to say the “L” word to whomever I felt it for Being a man and a LION, and also based on what u have said in the past, i can truly understand what those man did to u, taking advantage of ur naivete. The hurt u feel is real and may cause u to be extreme in ur attitudes towards man. I would see a doc, if i were u.

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this

Peach, you know freedom is great and it’s all my fault I didn’t exercise it. That guy I was dating was not my man, but out of respect for him I dated only him when I shouldnt have. I may have passed up a few potentials because I only wanted to date him!

But I’m still obessed with Comcast, DVR and On Demand! I have to cut myself off from that. LOL. Add to the fact that I enjoy watching sports, I could very possibly never leave the house.

900k, truth be told, going to the movies is not my first choice for a date. I think movies are overpriced for the quality you get and I think it’s a cheezy idea for a date choice. But that being said, I’ll still enjoy a movie from time to time. I’d usually rather do something else tho. I’m cool on the strip club tho. Won’t ever offer that as a choice.

Dan. There are conflicting views everyday on this blog. Again, if you keep “hearing” the same thing, what are you focusing on? But I’ll leave it alone. I think the point has been preached enough.

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

Staceye Next Sunday @ Strip @ 7 and the movie @ 5 hopefully…and of course join!!!! The more the Merrier!!! J

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

December 7, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

I am trying to play catch up after sitting in a boring azz meeting

Staceye I want to see Beowulf as well so dont feel bad!

For Real when you join us, to answer your question form yesterday: yes I did apologize to old boy for the ‘man up’ comment.

SJ The strip club is only fun for a guys-n-gals or me-n-my-man outing. Not trying to hang out there with the WLB.

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

whew next Friday can’t come fast enough…I think I am dreading end of course testing more so than the students….sighing…just wanted to vent…

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this

Is it for real Pitts play the Patriots Sun???? What a great game to anticipate!!!! Go Steelers!!! Staceye, get ready for a beat down!!! LOL

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 7, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli hold up

Now installing Foot’s Traveling Pole in darken cubicle

Come join me in the VIP room bay…

By kinderbabe

December 7, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

peach i feel you girl. i think it’s much better to be single than in a messed up relationship. on any given day though, i would much rather have a healthy, meaningful, significant relationship than be out in the rat race. it loses it’s shine after a while. besides, when you are happy and accomplished, it’s natural to want to share that w/the people you love and who are closest to you. i like the idea of being to share the things i enjoy about life w/someone else. you know?

By lovelyliz

December 7, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this

I would much rather be involved with a man who shows me the love without saying the words than to the guy would says the words but has nothing to show for it.

By JD

December 7, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

Beanie weenies, please come back. If I said or did something to hurt you, I am sorry. Forgive me. If any of you see my beanie weenies during your travels, tell ‘em JD loves ‘em and to go home to JD. I can’t go on living without my good ol’ beanie weenies. Life is difficult when you’ve had beanie weenie for years and suddenly you are without ‘em.

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

Excuse me Lady J, it’s GO PATS!!! I’m definitely geeked about this one. I’m going to have to get out of the house and watch it.

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 7, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

900K thanks to the hard work of brothers such as myself, women are much more comfortable hanging out with the fellas in strokes, babes, or blazes!!

By Foots

December 7, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

900k For whatever reason the women I’ve been meeting lately 2+yrs don’t think going to the show is all that fun.

I don’t particularly like going to the movies. I have to REALLY want to see something to go. For me, the older I’ve gotten, the less attractive it was to me. Maybe it’s that I have ADD or that I’d rather be out living life for those two hours instead of watching other people live theirs on a screen. But it’s hard for me to watch a movie at home too. I’ll find a reason to pause it and finish watching it later to go do something else…

And about you questioning whether locking it down is a bad thing…it’s a great thing. That’s been my experience: If a man wants you, he’ll let you know. You won’t have to ask. We all know that intuitively, but get kind of lost by the wayside when people come on here and tell stories about casual dating for a long time with no evidence of a real relationship. If folks use that excuse of wanting to know everything about you before you go on an official date (like LL saying that he went out with that woman for the first time after knowing her for a whole YEAR), you’ll never go out, because you’ll never know everything.

The point is, if a man wants that woman, he’s going to want to make her his, if for no other reason than he doesn’t want anyone else hanging around trying to catch her interest while he continues to get to know her.

By Staceye

December 7, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

* Demi* Now I see how God feels about us I like that.

Melo I am fine.

Lady J Sunday’s are my studio days…so I will not be in attendance.

Mo my sister in Pepsi…you too are an undercover geek? LOL

Truth be told..I have a thing for Geeks. If I had to choose between the thug or the Geek…Mr. Pocket Protector could get it! LOL

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this

Staceye/Sexyleggs ‘bout that bam…just a little get it started pre-party for Sexyleggs birthday celebration…

*while walking away reeeeaaaal slow from Demi…

LadyJ…GaMan(MLB mission) betnot (as my man 2C say it) be trying to crash our soriee’.

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

December 7, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this

The Pats will crush the Steelers

Trust me on this one……

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 7, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this

@ lovelyliz

“I would much rather be involved with a man who shows me the love without saying the words than to the guy would says the words but has nothing to show for it.”

Excellent post! :-D

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 12:38 PM | Link to this

Amen Staceye. I love geeks too. Or as my sister calls them “squares.” LOL. I would never chose a thug.

By Foots

December 7, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

MAN!!! I am DYING to go see my old high school football team play in the AAAA playoffs tonight at the Dome!!! This will be the ONLY time you’ll ever see me talking about “Go Gators!!” LOL! Let me see who I can call…

Foots happily represents the Ware County Gators, Class of 1995…

By Staceye

December 7, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this

Lady J I just laughed so hard at the fact you think the Steelers will beat the Pats Ihad to use my inhaler! LOL ARED let her know ‘bout them Pats!

Lovelyliz I cosign your 12:28!

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this

Demi …please be advise you’re liable for all self imposed injuries …

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 7, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this

@ Staceye

“Truth be told..I have a thing for Geeks. If I had to choose between the thug or the Geek…Mr. Pocket Protector could get it! LOL”

Hold up! I would think that your post from yesterday would supersede any interest or attraction you might have for guys who are “geeks”. Or, is it that you are somehow able set aside your disdain for the male gender when it comes to them?

That one specific comment you made yesterday left me thinking that you’re only one bad experience away from taking us (men) all out.

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli…You know we will be watched from a far!! Everyone get ready!!! LOL

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

AmazonRed & Staceye, just get your popcorn ready!!!! It will be a knock down fight for a Win for the STEELERS!!!

And then MNF should be great also no matter what!!! J going to the Dome to support the home team!!! GO FALCON!!!!

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 7, 2007 12:53 PM | Link to this

For whatever reason the women I’ve been meeting lately 2+yrs don’t think going to the show is all that fun.

Because dudes are now-a-days are lame and very unimaginative when comes to dating…I’ll take a rich chick to a hood spot in a minute.

Be like: girl if I say duck, duck…run,run…better take off like Flo Jo, this isn’t my normal crew, there is no telling how this place will jump off!!

I was so stupid.

By QC

December 7, 2007 12:54 PM | Link to this

Demi….did you pick up your 500 mph CRIMSON RED CAPE yet?

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 12:56 PM | Link to this

Demi i absolutley loved your lilDemi story! That made my day…auuuwww.

Now I see how God feels about us.

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this

Meant Falcons!!!

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 1:00 PM | Link to this

QC. Demi is in the middle of dancing with me…but i’on now he may need that cape. :-)

By SeanJohnson3000

December 7, 2007 1:03 PM | Link to this

@ Foots…are you from waycross?

By QC

December 7, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this

Is anyone else ready to go home as much as i am?

Darrell, you have any luck with your tickts?

By QC

December 7, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli is Demi doing the soldier boy?

UUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 7, 2007 1:19 PM | Link to this

Awwwwww…Daym, QC!!!

you wanna use me for a target practice, huh..I can see you in your office now, window open with a .50 cal sniper rifle Girl you know I LOVE you, LOL.

And Cemeeli naw boo, you gotta keep it hood! Now work that pole for ya boy LOL.

*Bam Bam What!! HEHEHEHEHEHEH

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 7, 2007 1:22 PM | Link to this

I wish I could get some soldiers out

Yeah I am ready to go home…

By QC

December 7, 2007 1:30 PM | Link to this

Demi I would never use you for target practice….now what gone do bout da Cape Man….

By 900K

December 7, 2007 1:38 PM | Link to this

Foots- Thanks for the insight! I asked cause I’m the lock down type myself. Its like how can we really get to know each other if we both juggling 3-4 others at the same time.

Red -I see your point, but what is overpriced about you not paying?

Deme -Because dudes are now-a-days are lame and very unimaginative when comes to dating… Sounds like a low blow homie. The thing is I can think of 100’s of diff things to do w/ her. However when American Gangster drops I want to see it, this is what I like to do. I’m not that into strip clubs, all I do when I go nowadays is count how many mortgage payments dudes like you just threw on the floor. Just cause you got it don’t mean that you should burn it. You see I refuse to be the stand around all night at Strokers dude and only buy 2-3 drinks and spend $50 after 4hrs. You could spend $600 dollars in the strip club in .5hrs and no one will notice. I could make $600 last a long time at a reg club and make sure ALL my friends have a good time. Or I could simply pay my car & ins ahead an xtra mo. I seen azz b4 it aint worth that much to me.

By Zestra

December 7, 2007 1:38 PM | Link to this

has anyone used Zestra before?

By BLAT

December 7, 2007 1:42 PM | Link to this

Demi, ain’t nothin like takin a high class chick to a hood spot… I do it all the time with my latina honeyz…. it’s fun to watch their little bit of guttah come out when they in a foreign environment and ain’t no one judgin…. some of the best nunu I ever had cuz they just started to feel like hellified freaks!!!

By BennyB

December 7, 2007 1:49 PM | Link to this

Amazon Do you know who you are? Have you ever took time to learn about yourself? You stated that this blog is full of men that get caught up in the “I’m a man” bravado and foolishness”. In reality, you sound like a woman full of expectations; let men be who ever they want to be. Do not be very uptight; loosen up a little. If you think that you gain knowledge of male psyche by reading comments, you are wasting your time because there is not such a thing as a general male psyche, all you can do is lean your own psyche and that is what you should focus on.

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 7, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this

QC watch me YUUUAA!!

*Demigod up in this (ooooohhh), watch me lean and watch me rock…

Then watch me crank that rocop…

All I can remember at this time

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this

900k, just cause I’m not paying doesn’t change the prinicple of the matter. This goes back to the point yesterday about having someone else spend money on thing you wouldn’t do for yourself.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 7, 2007 1:56 PM | Link to this

QC

Sorry, but I was in a meeting. Nope, haven’t had any luck yet, but if these Aints fans keep talkin’ smack, I’m gonna have to go down there Monday night and represent. Matter fact, that wouldn’t be a bad idea considering how I just got my new black jersey autographed by Alge on Tuesday. :-D

By Jewel

December 7, 2007 2:01 PM | Link to this

Good afternoon and Happy Friday Everyone!

Hmmmph. The L word…My SO said those three little words to me approximately four months into our relationship. It was during one of the rare moments when a man willingly shares his thoughts and feelings without any prodding from the woman. I silently gasped, thinking this is too soon. He did not say it expecting me to reciprocate…and I didn’t. I did bring it up a couple of days later and told him my first thought was it’s too soon and although I cared for him, I could not honestly say “I love you” at that time. Well, since that time, he has said, “Jewel, I appreciate you” or “I really appreciate you.” He pointed out a couple of weeks ago that after my initial response, he only says he “appreciates” me rather than saying he “loves” me. Are men quick to shy away from speaking that word if the woman doesn’t respond as he expects? Just a thought.

In my humble opinion, saying I love you should not lead to an automatic break up, unless the person uses the word as a bartering tool, or a weapon, basically anything other than its authentic meaning. Never speak the word if you are not ready to back it up with actions.

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 2:04 PM | Link to this

Hey anyone know when the Charlie Brown Christmas story airs on TV? My lil one is a faithful fan. Me too.

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 7, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this

900K that wasn’t a drop on you bruh…Just putting it out there as for why most women feel that way…And Dayum, I don’t even waste that much in a strip…Most of the ladies I chill with swings both ways, so I enjoy watching them have their fun…Thanks for your life story, LOL

Beside, you read lika “Imma fool wit-it” type of dude anyway, so you ain’t a lame, cool?

now passing $150 dollar bottle of Henny’n’purp your way

LOL

By binford

December 7, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

Binford changes in to his referee gear so he can officiate the fights!

Why can’t we all just get along???

By melo

December 7, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

BLAT, where do u meet the high class latina chicks,Buford Hwy flea mkt? I see they work hard, but havent met ur high class type, i guess coz of my circles.

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli it already aired and I love watching Charlie Brown…The Grinch with Jim Carey comes on Sat…

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this

Demi All dancing partners must be approved by QC. You can’t get anything extra than a sample…lol. She is in charge of all my schedules.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 7, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

@BennyB

Your 1:49 response to Amazon reminds me of the song “I’m Not Alone” by the group 10CC. I think that if a lot of people were honest with themselves, they’d admit to being able to relate to these words. I’m not calling anyone out, I’m just sayin’…

“I’m Not Alone” by 10CC

I’m not in love, so don’t forget it

It’s just a silly phase I’m going through

And just because I call you up

Don’t get me wrong, don’t think you’ve got it made

I’m not in love, no no, it’s because…

I like to see you, but then again, that doesn’t mean you mean that much to me

So if I call you, don’t make a fuss - don’t tell your friends about the two of us

I’m not in love, no no, it’s because…

I keep your picture upon the wall

It hides a nasty stain that’s lying there

So don’t you ask me to give it back

I know you know it doesn’t mean that much to me

I’m not in love, no no, it’s because…

Ooh, you’ll wait a long time for me Ooh, you’ll wait a long time Ooh, you’ll wait a long time for me Ooh, you’ll wait a long time

I’m not in love, so don’t forget it

It’s just a silly phase I’m going through

And just because I call you up

Don’t get me wrong, don’t think you’ve got it made

I’m not in love, I’m not in love

By Beautiful

December 7, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli u should rent ELF. very cute. we watch it every year.

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

….Nooooo… LadyJ my lil guy is going to be a bit sad. He loves it! Auw naw…well i guess i can buy it. CB should be around $10.

By Jewel

December 7, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this

Perusing the posts…Foots I agree with your 9:57 post. Don’t know where the conversation went after this. But, that was my reasoning when I felt my SO said he loved me too soon. We both had agreed that we were taking things one day at a time, so I was not ready for love to be a part of the equation. Guess I’m just that irresistible. LOL!

Where are some of the regular bloggers…2CPTG, Tazzee, SexyCool, Raqi, Rell, Melo, Dushawn??? Not dismissing those who are here. waving

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this

….Nooooo… LadyJ my lil guy is going to be a bit sad. He loves it! Auw naw…well i guess i can buy it. CB should be around $10.

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli , I watched the Thanksgiving Charlie Brown, election Charlie Brown, The Christmas Tree Chrlie Brown and the regular Christmas Charlie Brown!!! Those are Classics!!!

By Foots

December 7, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

SJ Yes, I am!! What chu know about Da’ Cross?!?! LOL!

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 7, 2007 2:35 PM | Link to this

Are men quick to shy away from speaking that word if the woman doesn’t respond as he expects?

Knowing how this world is, I wouldn’t tell her I love her again no time soon…mostly my actions will tell a woman how I feel about her anyway

As Du said, try kissing a man after sucking his duck…If he doesn’t move his head, yeah..dummy is in love with yo crazy a$$. LOL

By Staceye

December 7, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

Darrell Just because I do not want to be with a guy right now…I am still attracted to them physically.

Lady J you got a thing for losers? LOL Falcons???? Oh come on?!? LOL

Cemeeli you missed Charlie Brown last Tuesday girl. I too am a fan! I am ready for Rudolph, Frosty, The Grinch (cartoon & Jim carey) and Grandma Got Ran Over by a Reindeer. CLASSIC man! LOL

Darrell what you know about 10CC

By BLAT

December 7, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

Well,melo, then I guess you roll in the wrong circles. Let’s leave it at that. weak, dog. weak.

Then again, you’ve never shown me anything to indicate you’d know better than to front on and insult my latina women like that.

I won’t even lump you in with Binford and Darrell: they have class.

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 7, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli you are mean!!!

Now kid’n’play twisting off to lunch

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

@Staceye…Be Nice Chica!!!! LOL

GO FALCONS, STEELERS, & Miami!!!

BOO Fake Patriots!!

LOL

By binford

December 7, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

Will to Power did a good cove of 10cc’s I’m Not In Love

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this

That’s what i get for trying to wait to start Christmas this week. I should have know that with Christmas being so commercialized media does no wait. Plus i don’t do TV really. We surely will catch the others.

Thanks Beautiful, Stac, and LadyJ.

By SeanJohnson3000

December 7, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

@ Foots..u know i am from duval county…just a rock throw from waycross..i think yall waycross folks use to come there to shop and club..

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this

Rudolph already showed…

By Staceye

December 7, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

Lady J I amgoing to get you a sweater with a big “LL” on the front to stand for “LOSER LOVER”! LOL

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

December 7, 2007 2:51 PM | Link to this

@Staceye

“Darrell what you know about 10CC?”

All I know is that those are some amazing lyrics. Gonna have to add that one to the iPod. By the way, glad to know you’re still attracted to men, even though you might hate us all right now. (I’d still like to know why though.) You know how to reach me. ;-)

By For Real

December 7, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!!!

I went to PF Chang for lunch and one thing that kept catching my attention is the way people shared their food. Maybe it’s just me but I’m like how you gonna stick that fork in your mouth and touch the other food. Ewwwwwww!

Okay what the topic:

Awwww hellz the word that drives women insane. I have only said it to two women and one was my mom.

Truth I agree with you I’m not change who I am to fit someone else expectation. Compromise yes, change no. I like scratching the bottom of my feet when I take my socks off. (ain’t that right Slim)

Mo I’m proud of you. Come here and let me blow on your stomach.

GAman I got your message and I got the stink bombs.

Foots you got ADD huh, so I guess you don’t like staying in position too either huh. MLB add not ADD six more points to Foots total. Hey Foots you wouldn’t happen to be ambidextrous? For Real now crossing his fingers

A-Red I know I’m late but if the two of you were casual and you knew he wasn’t your man, shouldn’t you have already known what his feelings where before you said the word that drives women insane?

Telling someone that you love them is like an orgasm. It’s never too soon for the person having the orgasm er I mean saying I love you bc once it’s out it coming back.

2E’s You know good and well you ain’t into geeks. You just think they are safer.

**Oh and what if you are a geek and a thug or what if you are neither?

By Jewel

December 7, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli Laughing at your Charlie Brown post! I saw a commercial the other day that the REAL Christmas classics are now on DVD: Rudolph the Red Nose Reindeer, Frosty the Snowman, Santa Claus is Coming to Town, etc

mostly my actions will tell a woman how I feel about her anyway Hello Demi Yes, that is most men’s MO.

By Beautiful

December 7, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

děm’ē-gŏd’ no, that means he’s a freak! lol.

By melo

December 7, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

I won’t even lump you in with Binford and Darrell: they have class I know man, i need to upgrade me, u shld be my friend so i rub on some of that u got.

By Foots

December 7, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

SJ Yeah, we used to go shop there, since all we had was a strip mall. I got my White Raiders Starter jacket from Jax. LOL! One of my exes was from there, I think that’s the last time I went to Jax, when we visited his mother. AND we used to drive down to Callahan to eat at Cedar River. You know that place too?

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

LadyJ…imma need for you to stop it. I like Rudolph too.

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

BennyB - I do know who I am and I like who I am too!

By Tazzee

December 7, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this

Afternoon folks! Hey Jewel

On topic - I have to agree with SeanJ’s initial post. To me, love is a decision and as soon as I love someone, I have no problem telling them. Romantic or otherwise. Once I decide to love someone, it’s a wrap. I have exes that I still love - we don’t have a romantic relationship, but the love is still there.

I don’t wait on someone else to tell me they love me either - if I love you and feel the need to tell you, I’m going to say it. With that said, I can count on one hand how many men have heard that from me (men that I was romantically involved with) because love is very powerful and I’m not saying it until I know for sure.

If a guy told me he loved me and I had not reached that point with him yet, I would just explain it to him.

Have an awesome weekend folks and as always,

GO FALCONS!!!

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

For Real - I guess I should have! Oh well, live and learn.

By QueDogTeaching

December 7, 2007 3:06 PM | Link to this

What up Blog Said while speed blogging, and putting an amber alert for Page.

ARed Thanks for the info about last night. We had a blast. OK now where is the hot spot for tonight.

On topic I tried to only say I love you when I know that I mean it. But sometimes it was said out of the way I was feeling at the time. Which is hard to take back. I have found out the hard way that you can’t indian give love.

When a female tells me that she loves me and I don’t love her I simply reply, “I am glad that you feel that way about me” and then I hug her so that we will not make eye contact.

Que-Take: When anyone tells you they love you take it for what it is. Make sure when you tell someone you love them mean it. Love is hard and should not be taken lightly. When in love do like the old Nike and Reebok commercials. Love hard, Just Do it.

One last thing: People are only human, love them for their greatness as well as their shortcomings.

Du-Dog Where you at bruh?

By 900K

December 7, 2007 3:06 PM | Link to this

Deme nothin like a lil ghetto martini after lunch thanks.

Go Miami??!? WTF R U Sniffin on? Can you say 0-13 Lady J?

GO BILLS!

By For Real

December 7, 2007 3:06 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli My Christmas movies are:

Hey it must be from Italy it says Fra-gi-le

Hey lady your husband ain’t dead he’s hidding

By Foots

December 7, 2007 3:07 PM | Link to this

For Real I’m right-handed, but since the majority of my strength is on my left side, I can still do whatever needs to be done. That should be worth at least 4.3 points.

The only things I watch that I can sit still for are Grey’s Anatomy, ANTM, and The Closer (I don’t even breathe while The Closer is on).

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

December 7, 2007 3:07 PM | Link to this

For Real now you know I am ticklish so stop it!!! wink, wink It has been a while since I had a good song though, care to serenade me today?

Cemeeli I am upset that I missed the holiday cartoons as well! DAYUM!

By 2CPTG©

December 7, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

sup y’all……

hey Jewel, didn’t wanna add my .02 to the love discussion…..you can only say so much of the same thing without it being redundant ….with that said, I’m taking bets right now, the Brit gon’ knock the shyt outta Floyd this weekend; Some’n just tells me dude ain’t intimidated by Floyd, and if it’s anywhere close, the Brit gon’ win simply cause Floyd is an easy target to “love to hate”…..

By SeanJohnson3000

December 7, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

@ Foots…i use to go to the Cedar River seafood spot off of edgewood ave..not the one in callahan…my folks own some land there but i never really been there..being from WC…da hell u doing in ATL..lol…i guess u took the athens route..a neighbor of mine up here is lived in waycross…tells me about some old head hang out called the “legion” in wc

By Staceye

December 7, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this

Lady J I can’t belive I missed Rudolph! Sniff sniff!

For Real I do prefer Geeks…we have more in common!

Have a GREAT weekend all….I’m out!

By QC

December 7, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

Darrell i would go to the game if i were you….it’s gonna be a good one even if we do lose..

My all time favorite Christmas tv show to watch is Miracle on 34th Street oh how i love that movie i can watch it over, & over & over & over again….I’m signing off for the day bloggers, everyone have a great evening/weekend Be Blessed and remember when you’re sitting home or work and your day is going kind of slow…just log onto a great website that’s really great!

www.Blackthen.com HOLLA

By M'Karyl

December 7, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

Hey good peeps!!

It’s been a blast with this blog and all. Maybe I’ll drop back in again soon-daily schedule permitting and such! But in the short while, have happy holiday, a good and safe New Year… Ciao!

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 3:17 PM | Link to this

Demi I’m not mean… see ….don’t you i like Charlie Brown :-). I am a advocate of Joe Cool. Share it with lilDemi.

ForReal Which PF Changs location did you patron? Cobb or Alpha?

By Lady J

December 7, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

@900K…Not sniffing anything…The point is I will support anybody over the patriots and that is real talk!! LOL

Staceye, ok get your jokes on!!! LOL

Ok good folks have a great weekend!!

By For Real

December 7, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this

MLB add 4.3 points to Foots total and put a note in her file Watch out for the left hook

Mo You know how much I like how your breastest’s jiggle when you laugh but since we talking about love today here is one of my favorites:

Ooh, baby Darlin’, U’re the best, oh girl CHORUS: Until the end of time, I’ll be there 4 U U own my heart and mind, I truly adore U If God one day struck me blind, your beauty I’d still see Love’s 2 weak 2 define just what U mean 2 me From the first moment I saw U Ooh, I knew U were the one That night I had 2 call U I was rappin’ till the sun came up Tellin’ U just how fine U look In a word, U were sex All of my cool attitude U took My body was next U made love 2 me Like U were afraid Was U afraid of me? Was I the first? Was I your every fantasy? That’s why… CHORUS: Until the end of time, I’ll be there 4 U U own my heart and mind, I truly adore U If God one day struck me blind, your beauty I’d still see Love’s 2 weak 2 define just what U mean 2 me When we be makin’ love I only hear the sounds Heavenly angels crying above Tears of joy pourin’ down on us They know we need each other They know U are my fix (Cuz U know) I know that U know I ain’t cheatin’ baby (I ain’t cheatin’ on U, baby) They know this is serious I ain’t f***’ just 4 kicks No, this condition I got is crucial, crucial baby U could say that I’m a terminal case U could burn up my clothes (U could burn up my clothes) Smash up my ride (U could smash up..) Well, maybe not the ride But I got 2 have your face all up in the place (Do U think?) I’d like 2 think that I’m a man of exquisite taste (I’m a man of exquisite taste) A hundred percent Italian silk imported Egyptian lace Nothin’ baby, I said nothin’ baby could compare (Nothin’ could compare) 2 your lovely face (2 your lovely face) Do U know what I’m sayin’ 2 U this evening? (What U sayin’ about?) Tryin’ tryin’ 2 say (I hear what your sayin’) Just tryin’ 2 say that until Till the end of time, I’ll be there 4 U I’ll be there 4 U U own my heart, U own my mind (Truly adore U) I truly adore U (Darlin’) U don’t know what U mean 2 me, baby (Until the end of time, I’ll be there 4 U) Baby, baby (U own my heart and mind, I truly adore U) Till the end of time I’ll be there 4 U (Adore U) Can I talk 2 U, tell U what U mean 2 me? CHORUS: Until the end of time, I’ll be there 4 U U own my heart and mind, I truly adore U If God one day struck me blind, your beauty I’d still see Love’s 2 weak 2 define just what U mean 2 me Everytime U wander, I’ll be your eyes so U can see I wanna show U things that I show no other I wanna be more than, more than your mother More than your brother I wanna be like no, like no other If U need me, I’ll never leave I know that U know without U there is no me, there is no me Without U there is no sea, there is no shore Love is 2 weak 2 define how much I adore U child, U child The last words U hear, the last words U hear Until (Until the end of time {x7 in BG}) I’ll be there 4 U, baby Be with me darlin’ til the end of all time I’ll give U my heart, huh, I’ll give U my mind, huh I’ll give U my body yeah, I’ll give U my time 4 all time I am with U, U are with me U are with me, U are with me

By DasV

December 7, 2007 3:25 PM | Link to this

M’ imma miss you lady. as us southerns are known for sayin…”take care! and you come back real soon, ya hear?”

sexyLeggs not sure where you at, but wanted to say i read your last post from yesterday and i am wit you on what ‘good’ divorce can bring…. ‘adversity introduces a man to himself’

staceyE felt bad about out-n-out calling you ‘crazee’ … what i meant was that you are in a crazee place right now.

By 900K

December 7, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

My all time fav Christmas joint: Scrooged hands down Bill Murry did his ting.

But I gotta give credit when due: OH F-U-D-G-E! HA! I still think his pops was a snitch tho.

By For Real

December 7, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli Cobb

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this

Ah For Real, you were in my hood!

By BennyB

December 7, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this

Jewel, four months and you think that it is too soon. Too soon to you or him? You cannot control how someone else feels about you, you are not God. I did not know that there is such a thing as love (feelings) calendar ……

Staceye, I was reading yestarday’s comments and noticed that since I been on this blog, your heart is damaged. For very few people often after their greatest rejection comes greatest wisom and direction but you, you still living in the past. It’s big time to let go of the past.”First, discipline your thoughts to stop thinking about it. Quit talking about it. Quit reliving every negative experience”: that’s from Joel Osteen’s book. From what I read, you are not a loving individual at all. How do you think anyone will love you, unless his heart is as damaged as yours? Men who did you wrong gave you the greated gift to work on yourself and you still blind about it. You need to make positive changes to your life and no man, friends, TV, family,sport event or vacation will bring needed changes to you. The only one who can do it is YOU.

By QC

December 7, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this

@2cptg You think Floyd M is gonna lose for real? He’s one of my favorites, i’ve always put my bets on him, i have a “small one on him this time”

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

ForReal…you may have saw me? Same lunch spot 2day @ 11:30.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

December 7, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

For Real You bout to make me lose it in here!! LAWD HELP! Mo is steadily fanning herself Thanks for the song….kisses to you

On of my favorite Christmas movies is Imitation of Life…

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 3:42 PM | Link to this

Speaking of…Chirstmas….I’m so glad we finally got some black Christmas movies i don’t know how to act!

By Foots

December 7, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

SJ Yep, The American Legion was very close to my (old) house. It was definitely a place for the older crowd on most days. I did rent it out for my 16th birthday party though.

I knew I’d end up here after school. I had internships in ATL two summers in a row and after I graduated, I took the permanent job. Henceforth (and probably forever more) I am here. There are a TON of Waycross people up here. I most likely know your neighbor if he graduated HS in Ware County between 1990 and 1996.

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 7, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

900K Oh hell you didn’t just talk about My team dawg…Watch me beat yo team on Mad’08

now playing a speed game (2min qtrs on PS3

Ish!!!

bills: 58 Dolphins: 21…at the half

Lady J I tried!!! Boo hoo hoo

Cemeeli you are mean, you only dropitlikeitshot one time…QC, I demand a refund!!

My is son learning Japanesse…via Anime…Bump Mista Brown!!

By SexyLeggs

December 7, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli, I hope I can bring my BAM to the club tomorrow night.

Hello Truth (forgot to speak earlier when you shouted me out.)

DasV, glad you understood what I said. Shyt, ain’t nothing like it!

By 2CPTG©

December 7, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this

QC, I like Floyd, too….however, when bettin’ you play the odds, not your particualr favorites….take note now, both are undefeated, and Floyd’s toughest match, against Jose Louis Castillo, The Brit knocked out!! Either way, gon’ be a good one….

By For Real

December 7, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this

A-Red I work on that side of town right behind Cumberland Mall. Where are you located.

Cemeeli I was there I sat near the bar. I had on a tan cashmere sweater with jeans. Oh and I’m darkskin with a low hair cut. Where were you sitting and what did you have on?

By Foots

December 7, 2007 3:52 PM | Link to this

Mo I remember when my mother made my sister and I watch “Imitation of Life” for the first time. Now, no matter how many times I’ve seen it, I still go through every emotion in the book. It’s an amazing story about self-acceptance and loving who you are.

By JustMe

December 7, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this

2CPTG when is the fight day/time???

By 900K

December 7, 2007 3:59 PM | Link to this

Squish the Fish!!!- Madden 08? I have to admit my skills aren’t where they should be on that game I would only score like 17 and still beat you by 10! Demi is now replaying the Ricky Williams gets stepped on play over and over in his mind…

By SexyLeggs

December 7, 2007 4:04 PM | Link to this

dem-e-god, I’ll pick up where Cemeeli left off. Better yet, we will both tag team you on the dance floor…LOL

By ATLien of (StraightFromTheA.com)

December 7, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

Hey yall…. waving

Just dropped in to say hi. Haven’t been able to blog much this week cause I’ve been loaded down at work…

I miss you guys!!!

ATLien

StraightFromTheA.com

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 4:07 PM | Link to this

I have on olive green carpenter (women-type) kakis and a regular black long sleve shirt, w/kaki and dark brown boots. I have micro braids in my hair (i’m dark complexion.) We came as a party of 3 - myself, another Asian/black female (she has on all black 2day), and a tall dark complexion guy. We sat near the WALL, all wall, and near a loud group with a toddler child that was a bit vocal.

I work in the Cumberland Business District too (we moved out here August this year)!

By QC

December 7, 2007 4:07 PM | Link to this

Good point 2can ok i’m pulling out the bet

By AmazonRed

December 7, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this

For Real, I work in that hood too. About 1.5 miles from the mall, just outside of 285.

Alrighty, I’m outtie! Have a great weekend all. I definitely plan to keep celebrating my birthday!

By 2CPTG©

December 7, 2007 4:13 PM | Link to this

tomorrow night, JustMe…..PPV;

yeah, Imitation of Life is a tear jerker;

DasV, that was very profound what you said about adversity….

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 7, 2007 4:16 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs careful…my heroine JustMe maybe there, LOl

I’ll see ya tomorrow…Yeah I’ll be there.

900K Don’t ask me to play in real life…But in my head I can beat you 99-0 LOL…LAWD!!!

DasV you’re still calling her crazy…

Let’s see how this will develope

BLOG FIGHT!!!

DING, DING, DING!!!!

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

….ungh…ungh..ungh…

…Is it legal to be popin’ this hard?

Sexyleggs…you just gonna come over here (in heels) and make Demi and I look like the cast from “Little People, Big World” huh? You know Demi is only 5’2 1/2…Dang!!!

By JustMe

December 7, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

Cut from ESPN.com

LONDON — When Ricky Hatton steps into the ring to fight Floyd Mayweather in Las Vegas on Saturday, the vast majority of the fans cheering him on will be on the other side of the Atlantic and tuning in at 4 a.m.

That’s how big the WBC welterweight title fight is back home in Britain.

Hatton, unbeaten in 43 fights, has a huge following back home because of his toe-to-toe style and ferocious body shots. He scored a memorable victory over Kostya Tszyu to capture the IBF light-welterweight title in June 2005, when the Russian-born Australian didn’t come out for the final round.

Ok I had to find out for mydayumself…….

after reading the ESPN story, I’m scared for Mayweather - LOL

By JustMe

December 7, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

děm’ē-gŏd’

Here a Blog Hug ((_)) and a Blog Smooch MMMMMaaahhhh!

<<<<<@>>>>> <<<<<@>>>>>

I’m watching you!

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

2C keep me updated about the Wii still looking. You may know something i don’t.

By Buy You a Drink

December 7, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

I know I’m kinda late, but are some of the bloggers meeting up this weekend or something? I’d love to join in and meet some of these lovely ladies I enjoy reading from the sidelines.

If men are welcome, please let me know where the party is…first round is on me!

somethingnew92@yahoo.com

Sidleine wave to AmazonRed, WiseDiva, Bella, Beautiful, Kara, Dr. Kym, M’Karyl, Cemeeli and all the others who have slipped my mind at the moment.

By JustMe

December 7, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this

2CPTG Tx for the 411

Everybody have a safe and fun-filled weekend!

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 7, 2007 4:27 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli I alway lose my mind and turn into a little boy around chocolate women…Said with horns out and wicked grin

Don’t mind the gallon of milk..its for me to lic..er…drink.

By For Real

December 7, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this

2C Ole boy better change his style up or Mayweather will tag his azz all night. Mayweather is just too good. He is too smart and you just can’t hit him. He doesn’t make mistakes and his hands and footwork are too fast for ole boy. I’ll take your bet.

By ATLien of (StraightFromTheA.com)

December 7, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

I need to know where the party is too…

Y’all hit me up so I can see you face to face…LOL!!

atlien@straightfromthea.com

By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth

December 7, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

SJ and Foots I didn’t know you all were from down that way. I was stationed at Ft Stewart and went o school at Ga Southern. I also had a few friends from Alma. I don’t know you guys but y’all are kuntry. LOL

By DasV

December 7, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

děm’ē-gŏd’ stop trynna instigate some mess! find one of the chur-ch fans and come’on over here and fan me, as i have just fainted cause 2CPTG just complimented me….and you know how i feel about that man!

2cptg said demurely thanks,2. just something i heard said once in a lecture that i never forgot cause it rang so true, and…… mumbling, incoherent rambling due to embarrassment

By SexyLeggs

December 7, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli, not I didn’t know…LOL

Dem-e-god, I’m backing up!

By 2CPTG©

December 7, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this

“2C keep me updated about the Wii still looking. You may know something i don’t.’

what I look like, Lenny from Sanford and Son….shoot, I’m trynna find hustle man too! word is tho, some dude from ya local barbershop may have some for the low-low….

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 7, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

JustMe your blog love came right on time…THANKS

Cemeeli…that was cold, I’am 5’3 LOL

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

Whoa…whooo…Demi…do Demi!!! You just broke it down for me.

Great weekend guy!

By 2CPTG©

December 7, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this

For Real……I agree with erthang you said….what scares me, though, is buddy got stamina for days…reminds me of them old Rocky Movies, he’ll take a beating all night, and just keep coming…….and ummmm, what you wanna put on it?

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 4:40 PM | Link to this

it’s coo Sexyleggs i did change into my flats…so my 5’6 1/2 wont look so akward in heels with D. I’m handing the baton to you girl…watch him he’s slick!…Lol.

By děm'ē-gŏd'

December 7, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this

Placing the church big fan on the fool

DasV come stand on it right quick, it’ll cool you off..don’t mind my hand cam

SexyLeggs/C’me a bet, I’ll be the only dancing by the end of the night…think y’all ladies can hang?

Bellbottoms: 930pm 12/8

By Cemeeli

December 7, 2007 4:52 PM | Link to this

@2C …so you blast a sis like that. we in this together i thought. I’m looking out for it…

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

December 7, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

Go PATS…GO PATS

BEAT THE STEELERS

Ya’ll have a good weekend…and remember If you got problems Put GOD in them

He can fix anything…and you can take that to the Bank

By SexyLeggs

December 7, 2007 4:56 PM | Link to this

BuyUADrink, party’s @ Bell Bottoms, 225 Pharr Road, ask for SexyLeggs.

dem-e-god, I can hang!

By 2CPTG©

December 7, 2007 5:00 PM | Link to this

wasn’t trynna blast ya, Ceemeli…..

By SexyLeggs

December 7, 2007 5:00 PM | Link to this

Good night everyone. Have a safe and restful weekend!

Going to a bid whist party tonight!