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DEL.ICIO.USHappy Holidating!
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
If you survived Thanksgiving and all those well-intentioned relatives asking about your dating life, congratulations! You cleared the first holiday without sinking into a funk about your lacking love life. Being single and dateless during the holidays doesn’t have to spell doom. For all of us who are single during the holidays, here are some tips on holidating:
Mingle: You know all those e-vites that are sitting in your inbox for holiday gatherings? Open them! Even if you don’t know who you want to take, just RSVP and go! The goal should not be to score phone numbers, though. Relax, be yourself, and laugh. When you aren’t focused on the numbers game, I think you are able to enjoy the people/experience more. Trust me. I’ve had the most fun at holiday parties without a date. I played the card games, sipped on yummy drinks, and grabbed random hot guys to stand under some mistletoe! (Yes, I have been known to carry my own. Don’t judge me.)
Venture out: It’s getting cold, the days are shorter, and the single people seem to disappear! This just means you need to be more creative and go where lots of people are gathered. Ice skating rinks, sporting events, bookstores, museums, or a cozy restaurant/cafe with comfy surroundings. Relaxed people are sexy. I bet you could strike up a conversation with interesting people who share similar interests.
What are other activities single people can do during the next few weeks? Lots of days off which means plenty of leisure time! What do you plan to do for fun during the holidays?
Do single people try to avoid meeting someone new because they don’t want to get caught up in that holiday trifecta: Christmas, New Years, Valentine’s Day?
Do you ever “relax” your dating standards just so you can get a snuggle buddy for the cold, winter nights? I have to admit that the thought of having a sweetie to curl up with in front of the fire is awfully tempting!
Is it wrong to do the “expiration” dating thing just for the holiday season? How does one even pull that off?
What are the perks for being single during the holidays?
Wise Diva is co-author of the popular Misadventures in Atlanta dating blog
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By Lady J
December 4, 2007 8:32 AM | Link to this
Good Morning Good People!!!
By AmazonRed
December 4, 2007 8:43 AM | Link to this
WiseDiva, you are my long lost sister. I use the word “snuggle bunny” too. The holidays just arent the same without one.
I had breakfast with a friend and she told me that a lot of folks break up during the holidays. I’ve experienced more break ups during the warm months when the days are longer and folks are showing more skin…seems like guys want to roam!
Anywhoo, just because I’m single doesn’t mean I have to be dateless. I do tend to hibernate during winter, but as I’m turning 30, I’m trying to live it up and enjoy life. So on the nights I don’t have a date, I call up girlfriends and we hit the town. I just did that Play Date thing on Saturday and had a blast!
By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"
December 4, 2007 8:45 AM | Link to this
Good Morning
By 2CPTG©
December 4, 2007 8:48 AM | Link to this
Good morning, I had to laugh at, “the perks of being single during the Holidays”…..The perks are, you aren’t obligated to do anything, for anyone.
Bah Humbug!
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
December 4, 2007 8:57 AM | Link to this
Hey all!! Believe it or not, I am actually looking forward to being single this holiday season. I have family and friends nearby so I really dont feel lonley per se. I am trying to get a life back after being coupled for the last 10 yrs. I plan to do a lot of the things that I used to enjoy but stopped doing (museums, concerts, plays, hanging at Borders for hours, LOL).
ARed I am like you, in the past I experienced more break-ups in warmer months.
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 8:58 AM | Link to this
@2…Why I feel a f**ky attitude coming on with me now that Dec. hit…I need to stop though bc I am truly ok and it is not the worst thing…But I refuse to force some s**t like I did last year for sake of having a date or man…So the events I will frequent this month will be alone with a smile on my face…Making a dentist appointment now for a cleaning and just try to be me and shine as stated…We will see…But I am ready to frequent events and be out!
By AmazonRed
December 4, 2007 9:01 AM | Link to this
LOL @ 2CPTG - good point!
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this
Mo why when I lived off Peachtree I hanged at Borders to but I was coupled as you stated and married so I should hit it again single and see what it is like…Wow I use to read a lot and just stopped here lately…lol
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 9:18 AM | Link to this
hello. i’m about to put my hair back in cornrolls and chill. lately i’ve noticed that i have a roving eye. there are some handsome guys in Krogers and at the movies. anyways, if i do happen to bump into my man while i’m out, i’m praying he’s a Taurus or Pisces. holla!
By Page1908
December 4, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this
This season is always kinda difficult for me, I guess because it is winter and there is so much going on. My birthday is on New Year’s Eve and it’s usually pretty depressing for a lot of reasons. It seems as though there are a lot of nice places to hang out at this season, since many folks are on the prowl for a snuggle bunny.
By 2CPTG©
December 4, 2007 9:21 AM | Link to this
why, Lady J, about the attitude coming about? Like Mo stated, shoot, revel in your activities, and live gal……also, like Mo stated, I’m an avid reader, and researcher, so I’ll be places like Borders, too….shoot, ya might see me, if so, come holla at me….
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 9:27 AM | Link to this
Me too Page my past with the failed marriage was during the holiddays and the ghost from christmas is working my nerves…I truly thought I was over it and fine but memories are flashing before me and it is not nice…Really ready for MLK Wkend to President’s Weekend…Those are my favorites…Vday doesn’t bother me but Dec can end…lol
By Alvin
December 4, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this
AA men need to stop being so selfish.
Or better yet, stop making excuses for our failure and plan for our success.
Y’all know I am a very sensitive cat, the only thing I see in the eyes of these young brothers 16-25, is hopelessness…If you don’t believe me, take a hoods tour like I once had…from NY to LA back down to Mia
Off Topic
Do you ever “relax” your dating standards just so you can get a snuggle buddy for the cold, winter nights?
Hellz no, either I have p-dussy on hand or I dont…I’ll just grab a few lesbian friends and chill at the shoe show on days you’ve mention…it ain’t that serious…IS IT??
By Jay
December 4, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this
Good morning everyone. I was at target in the trim a tree department. WHile shopping for lights and decor. I ran into a couple of women, I never knew shopping for a tree could get you a date. Not sure if she was looking for a snuggle bunny or not. That has me in the spirit and I look forward to being out. Good morning LadyJ, dont get down on yourself. Do something for you
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 9:35 AM | Link to this
@ I am surpress my alter ego Suzanne…LOL…I refuse to give her the glory this year!!! I cam to far…But when I am driving to and from work alone I just strat weeping listening to songs and hearing voices that I failed…I am my on worst enemy…Trust I know I am ok and lil lady reminds me that I have her and a wonderful life ahead of us but a divorce really hurts and and I just 2yrs old with hit…Patches are there but the pain still hurts! I am about to cry!!!
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this
Good morning everyone! I’m in a quandry as to what I’m going to do over the holidays. Don’t really like to go places alone, but I’m trying to wrap my mind around the fact that this is what I may have to do.
Off-topic, Bell Bottoms emailed me yesterday to announce that I won a b-day party there. Since my b-day is Sunday, I’ve opted to get my dance on this Saturday, 12/8. If any of you would like to join me, just ask for SexyLeggs at the door. (Yes, I told them I have a few friends who know me by that name…she started laughing.) If you arrive before 10:00 you’ll get in free as well as 2 comp. drinks. Come join me and celebrate my old behind…yeah right! I’m so far from being old…LOL
By Dan
December 4, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this
Like most holidays, I’m single.
This time it wasn’t some Machivellian I-don’t-want-to-buy-you-a-present move, I just haven’t had time to sit down for an extended period with a young lady for long enough to build something.
So it’ll just be me a the fam and much needed sleep!
Loo lo lo lo lo lolo…….
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this
Good point Alvin…That is me I create my own pity party of excuses and pout and just be negative but I am really not going to…My short term goal for this month is to get out be happy and enjoy life…I am going to the sporting events…hopefully dinner with new people and some xmas parties I was invited too…And no not looking for a lay but to enjoy folk and be ok!
Thanks Loving my stranger friends!
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this
And trust I do have the intelligence to know things would be much worst if we forced the marrie but I can hide how I am feeling…
Thanks Jay and I am! A nice hair do, a much need pedicure that I am going have to tip double for…lol…and teeath and nails done…loking for a black dress and a paint suit for the parties and some cute jeans for the hawks and falcons game…I will be ok! Love ya!
By SlimOne
December 4, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this
Morning
For the most part I’ve had an SO during the holidays. This will be my 2nd year celebrating the holidays in my singledom. I tend to go back and forth on being alone at this time of year. I’m usually enjoying the fam but every now and then I get a wind of SingleDuringTheHolidayBlues As far as hooking up with someone just for the sake of making it through the holidays really isn’t me. I’d rather hang out with someone I already know so that awkwardness about holiday expectations with someone new won’t be in the air.
By AmazonRed
December 4, 2007 9:45 AM | Link to this
Good look SexyLeggs, I was just reading up on Bell Bottoms and decided I wanted to go. I have a date on Saturday but I think I could campaign to make a stop through.
LadyJ, woo woo woo! Feel better. Just count your blessings that you were able to get out of a situation that wasn’t good for you and know that a bigger reward is coming your way!
By Demi
December 4, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this
Lady J Good for you…live it up bay!! Why not grab a few girls and hit up some house parties…just for the food and bounce, LOL
Being a single dude…I am trying to fill my frig up with leftovers, LOL
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this
whew as always excuse my typos…don’t teach typing..lol…I am ok though! Thanks and not seeking attention this is a difficult month for me but with time I will handle it much better…
By Tazzee
December 4, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this
Morning folks!
Like 2can said, it’s cool being single during the holidays because that’s one less person you have to buy a gift for, LOL. It’s been a while since I’ve been in a serious relationship during the holidays. I just enjoy hanging out with friends and family.
SexyLeggs I’ll be in town this weekend, I might have to come see you at BellBottoms if I can get a ride.
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this
Thanks Ared if J will only allow it to happen and not force it I know I will be shinning down the road but I am such a fast azz and truly need to chill and give being single a honest standing chance! I am going to though bc that bs from last yr is for the birds…
By M.
December 4, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this
Good topic wise. I think the place NOT to meet a date or potential is any form of office holiday party. Yahoo did a great article on yesterday on maneuvering office holiday parties (Not drinking to much, making a move on the hot girl from marketing, the boss finally getting the courage to let you know why you REALLY got that promotion last year LOL). I went to a tree trimming party and it was a ton of talent there. I think the best way is to just get out, step out of your comfort zone, leave your bitterness, expectations, and ego’s at home and just have a good time.
By AmazonRed
December 4, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this
I guess there is one benefit to having a birthday during the holiday season: extra attention. Makes it harder to get lonely when people are going out of their way to pay attention to you.
By M.
December 4, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this
Good topic wise. I think the place NOT to meet a date or potential is any form of office holiday party. Yahoo did a great article on yesterday on maneuvering office holiday parties (Not drinking to much, making a move on the hot girl from marketing, the boss finally getting the courage to let you know why you REALLY got that promotion last year LOL). I went to a tree trimming party and it was a ton of talent there. I think the best way is to just get out, step out of your comfort zone, leave your bitterness, expectations, and ego’s at home and just have a good time.
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
December 4, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this
Lady J this is the best time to really revel in your singleness. Trust me, I used to hear those voices that I failed as well. You didnt fail! You tried and at the end of the day it wasnt the best fit for you. You have a beautiful child that you got out of your marriage so focus on nothing but that. I feel like my life is starting over again! Sure nobody wants to get a divorce but it happens and that shouldnt stop you from living. Think about this: you have a chance to do many different things for the holidays now. Start new traditions for you and lil j, embark on some new hobbies or something! Dont allow holidays to be something that you dread. Its time for Lady J to comeback! :-)
Please excuse the long motivational post, but a fellow member of Blogsville was in distress
SexyLeggs might have to crash that party Chica!! Thanx!
2CPTG I love to read and I havent camped out in a while so Borders is definitely on my hit list!! see you there
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this
LadyJ, don’t cry and don’t let yourself succumb to the love songs on the radio. I’m sorry you’re hurting. The demise of most things can be heartbreaking. Please, please, don’t wallow. Life is too short. Since you know you throw your own pity parties, JUST STOP IT! I don’t understand why people do that. Life is too short. Be thankful for the point you’re at in life and mold it to fit the future you’re heading toward. You have a beautiful soul, LadyJ. Try to stay positive.
Tazzee, I truly hope you can make it.
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this
Good morning People!
Who brought in some HOT breakfast this morning?
Single for the Holiday’s heck yea me too… but the benifits: I get to go to ALL the holiday movies, parties, play my christmas CD’s at da house as loud as i want, wrap gifts (i need to get started before everyone’s gift is in tissue paper- last minute), and make eggnog concoctions, oh and open all my gifts too…ALL that with joy and i’m single. I AM okay with that.
BTW giving to UNICEF, Salvation Army, Armed Forces, the hungry, sick, senoirs and church keeps me too busy trying to even think about how single i am.
…I’m cool…. but snuggle buddy (as WD call it) I know you’re out there waiting on me to sit down somewhere so we can finally meet… here’s to you…Muah.
By 2CPTG©
December 4, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this
it ain’t being selfish having that non obligatory feeling…..cause let’s be real, when in a ‘lationship, other than a marriage, you’re always taking a chance when buying that other person a gift…you’re saying, what if this mess don’t work out, and I don’ spent loot on this person, or, one of y’all gon’ get short changed……
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 10:08 AM | Link to this
Thanks MO!!!!! Blog hug to you and can’t wait to personally meet you and give you another big hug fo=r having my back always!!! Thanks!!!
By pisces07
December 4, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this
Say what?? Someone call me? This is a great time of year to be out and about.
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this
Hey Cemeeli!!!
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this
Lady J
Making a dentist appointment now for a cleaning and just try to be me and shine as stated Smile, sparkle and glow and enjoy!!!
SexxyLeggs Bell Bottoms Grat place to get the groove on!! Have a good time!!!
I suppose that since I have never been married and that I have also spent so many holidays being single, there really isn’t much that I will do differently than the usual-find out where the cool cocktail spots are and party. The best area up that I have found so far is in Ghent-which somewhat reminds me of the VA-HI area. There are lots of great bars and restuarants. I have been to a few and have met some really great ppl. Hey what can I say “…I love the night life…I love to boogie…” Actually, I would like to grab a few of my buds here, go the beach, build a bonfire and chill-never have done that this time of year, might be a new grove on. I know this, whatever it is that I do, it will be a blast, a gas and the jink. Gotta be, I don’t know it any other way!!!!
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this
2C xmas should be about family and baby jesus/god. the gift part of it really does suck the big one. when giving a gift you shouldn’t really look for something in return. that’s not how it’s suppose to go. this is the reason why thanksgiving is my favorite. if we knew each other and i gave you a gift, i would feel terrible if you had the feeling that you should go out and buy me one. this situation happened to me last year. it was awful. that beautiful bottle of perfume is sitting in my closet now, because i hate looking at it. it was a obligated/guilty present.
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this
Hey ladyJ here’s to you & all my “hey girl” blog sisters. Elbow lock and shoulder love hug to all my blog brothers.
{{{{{{{huuuugggg}}}}}}}
What the hay! …it’s the HOLIDAYS…
Special made eggnog for everyone, have at it!
Hey MO.
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this
M’Karyl, thanks I will…I am smiling now, I wiped away my tears…LOL Thanks!
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this
pisces07 how u doin’? lol. i found out yesterday that i’m suppose to marry a pisces or a taurus.
By Demi
December 4, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this
2CPTG li’demi is a bad behind…why is his mom so quick to defend his bad behind and now she is texting me,”Why is blank, so good when he’s around you?”
Lady J Let’s go on a date…to the shooting range…I’ll show ya how to relax, we’ll write your ex’s name on the target papers..Alvin: I am not joking.
said with a wicked grin Tazz you need a ride bay? Don’t mind the horns..It’s the devil’s night out, LOL
By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth
December 4, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this
Good morning blogsville.
On topic: Dam dating. This is the time to go out and see friends, say thanks to someone that was there, hang out a little, have fun and enjoy wherever you are in life.
I went to a card party saturday and had a great time. Alot of NICE, attractive women having fun and playing games. That was much better than being with some chick guarding you like a pit bull. I had a ball.
This year I’m going to get a few gifts for a few women that have taken care of me, done things for me. My neighbor, my sister, another good friend, an old gf that always stays in touch and we did some business this year, book club members (they take good care of me). Man its great to be single in atlanta.
For us guys maintaining close friendships with women ALWAYS comes with benefits. Maybe not always sexual but a chick that cares for you will give you what she has. Good food, good fun, a soft voice amongst the madness. I’m not relaxing my dating standards, I’m putting them away alltogether to go back and say thanks to those that cared for me this year. Cause while The Truth loves some booty I also adore a woman that gives you something just because she wants you to have it (not sexual). Azz will always be there but a caring chick you never forget.
My .02.
By 2CPTG©
December 4, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this
Beautiful I wholeheartedly agree…..it shouldn’t be that way, but, unfortunately, it is…I too cherish Thanksgiving and my B-Day as the only legitimate holidays…all others have been too commercialized. And since I’m human and bleed red blood like all others, ummmmmm, yeah, I want a gift too, dammit!
That Wii would be nice!
By Demi
December 4, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this
found out yesterday that i’m suppose to marry a pisces or a taurus.
Beautiful what else did Jesus tell you?
Now signaling 2can to bring in the “white jacket”
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
December 4, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this
Hey Cemeeli!
Okay Lady J now that we have had a moment, what are your plans? I know me and lil mo are gonna put up the tree this weekend and figure out what to leave Santa and the reindeer to eat (gotta love the kids). I also need to make plans for my favorite holiday: New Years (happy birthday Kinderbabe)!! Anybody know of any places to go for New Years?
By kinderbabe
December 4, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this
hey everyone.:) hope your day is going well. i am enjoying the holiday season so far. i made up my mind before things got underway that nothing outside of me was going to define how i feel about this season. i’m going to be happy no matter what’s going on. turkey day was successful so now i’m looking forward to a great christmas, birthday and new year’s.
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this
WOW Thanks SexyLeggs!!! Your post means a lot to me!!! I do have much to be thankful for and to offer my daughter and myself and freinds I have and of course my family!!! Blog friends too!!! Wow that just empowered me!!! Thanks!!!
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this
Hey M’Karyl I want to be in Florida South Beach right now so bad I can taste it. I went down back a month ago and I am ready for another visit…can’t wait til February. Any beach would do right now.
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this
Lady J
XOOXOXOXOXOOXOXOOXOOXOXO!!! All is already well, good and fine. One of the most fantastic, wonderful and beautiful ppl that you will meet is yourself when you look in the mirror and smile!!! And stealing Streisand’s line say “Hey gorgeous” And besides, it is not about what you may think you are missing out on by not being with someone, h3ll to the naw-it is what they are missing out on by not being with you.
By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth
December 4, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this
The Truth now tears up the lvoe letter/marriage proposal he made out to Beautiful. (Bows head as tear runs down his cheek.) I’m a cancer.
Oh yes, I can’t deny my blog sisters. I must say you’ve opened my eyes and ears to the “other side”. I have a much better understanding of your struggles and that is attributable to the Gals of Blogsville.
I have placed a “special” order for all of you from the fat guy with the red suit. Your “gift” will arrive soon and hopefully wearing your favorite cologne. HO! HO! HO!
By AmazonRed
December 4, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this
Wow…the mood is getting a little depressing in here. Let’s pick it up a little and remember the topic today is HAPPY Holidating! LOL
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this
My brother 2C I’m looking at that Wii myself. Can’t buy it if they only get a stock of 3-5 per shipment. WTH it that!?!
So if you get it first you got to tell me how you like. When I take my son to Gamestop he hogs it and I don’t ever get touch it. Even though I’m bursting inside cause i wanna play on the thang too.
By Demi
December 4, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this
2 that wii will have you thinking you can golf…becareful dude
Azz will always be there but a caring chick you never forget.
I heard that!!!…said while firing submachine gun in air with lips cocked Rambo style
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this
Cemeeli I have never done the beach in the winter months. But I would love to give it a try. There seems to be just the right amount of cool crispness to the air right now. A good Irish wool cable-knit sweater, a down vest, some jeans, leggings and warm boots, a pair of fingerless wool gloves and a scarve. Some wine, s’mores and old jams on the box. Hey now!!!
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this
Demi good morning to you too. it was all in fun. duhhhh. i work with a guy who is a pisces and he is the biggest azz.
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this
Mo…Following you lead…I go home tomorrow and lil lady comes Thrusday so after my practice I will go get her…I have a tree and we will clean up the apt and put up the tree and a lil tradition I love during the Holidays is drinking cocoa…So that is what we will do…I will be listen ing to Luthers’s Christmas CD and allow her to be a child and enjoy the season and not tkae that away from her!!! Thanks MO!!!
Alvin seriously I need to not only for him but just to learn how to shoot and purchase a gun bc the home invasions are getting sick with it!!! LOL
MO, whe you find a place let me know and no not going to church this year and I do love the Lord!!!
By AmazonRed
December 4, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this
By the way SexyLeggs, I haven’t forgotten about your offer to donate those clothes to me. You might want to have them ready in the trunk of your car for Saturday. LOL
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this
AmazonRed
“Jingle bell, jingle bell ,jingle bell rock. Jingle bell swing and jingle bell hop!! Dancing and prancing on a one horse sleigh…now the jingle fun has begun…”What was the name of Staceye’s Puerto Rican cocktail-gotta make some of them for sho’
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this
Super Truth can that Santa bring me a new blender?
Demi I need for you to know that lil Demi is not b.a.d. Boy’s usually get the passive ear and postion with momma. But if she’s anything like me by the time he turns 8 THE LOOK works. That is if she has jacked him up by then (a clearer understanding comes).
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this
I am back *AmazonRed!!!! LOLLOL
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this
M’Karyl HAY NOW!!! Watch it….
By 2CPTG©
December 4, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this
Brother Demi…kinfolk, it’s some’n about lil boys and Daddy….I remember when my son was in pre-school, and he’d act an azz, the first thing his teacher would say is, “you want me to call your daddy?”…that was that sho ‘nuff akk right!
and yeah Cemeeli, the Wii is what’s hot this year….they only put out a few for their own economical reasons; ain’t like they ain’t got enough of ‘em….
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this
The Truth i’m a cancer too. here’s what it says about us: a relationship with a cancer can be rewarding, but two crybaby cancers together can get to be a bit much even for them. lol.
By ATLien (of StraightFromTheA.com)
December 4, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this
Good Morning Gang I got lost on AJC this morning…this blog is in two places!! was wondering where everyone was…LOL!
By pisces07
December 4, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this
Beautiful…. I must be the one! Doin fine, toilin away at my 9-5. And you?
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this
WHEW M’Karyl!!!! Don’t make me cry again!!! Yeah Self is truly who I run from and need to confront head on to be a better self…I sneak and peak fix a lil and transgress but This straight line is in progess bc I can’t live my life with these end results I have been getting!!! lil lady would bail out on me and I know I would lose it then!! OK!! I am getting it together!
By binford
December 4, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this
I’ve actually never met someone during this time of year. I wouldn’t be opposed to it, but really, no time of year makes me want to have a SO more than any other.
If the opportunity comes up I will certainly seize it - otherwise - I will enjoy this time of year and remember fortunate I am.
Besides, this year, I’m gonna make AR step out from behind the blog. :)
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this
lol @ 2C & Demi you to are on to something about the act right when Daddy’s around. But aint’ nothing like a momma that can look at ya and help you “remember” some stuff…LOL…
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this
The SADD club I sponsor is selling candy grams as a fundraiser and I wish I could personally give each of you a cute candy cane with a message but you can recieve it through cyberspace!!!! Toeach of you thanks for keeping me going and showing me life is a beautiful thing through the good, bad and ugly!!! I will survive and have and have came a long way!!! Thanks to all of you!!! J
By Demi
December 4, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this
M’Karyl sis, I am a miami boy…how about some christmas we’ve had pool parties…thats sad I know
Beautiful pisces…they tend to be free spirits, but are known for taking things a bit too far.
I was hoping to try out this white jacket too
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this
Lady J Done deal. You are there in the now with it-chirl and why you at it get some fierce boots and a killer mini and gets to stepping!!!! The Highlands or downtown Decatur are great places to hang out this time of year. The shops, restaurants/bars, etc. There is some fun to be had in the ATL, I left some, well a tad bit anyway-lol!! Go find it…
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this
pisces07 hi handsome. i’m good. lovin’ this blog cause it helps me get through the day. are you a daily lurker?
By AmazonRed
December 4, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this
binford, you may be in luck. I’m taking applications for snuggle bunnies! LOL. I have a brand new fireplace just for that sort of thing.
Act fast, there has been some interest in the position! LOL
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this
Demi
The holiday spirit jingle where ever you are the way it rocks!! Personally, I am from Up Top (IL) and very seldom did I miss not having the snow for Xmas when I lived in the ATL, besides being on MARTA that made it easy to wear 3” heeled boots, cocktail and not fall down-lol. Hey, you can always put fur trim on a bikini too!!!
By pisces07
December 4, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this
Yes, most days. I’ll drop my .02 when necessary. Thanks….
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this
@M’Karyl…I do want to go back to Watershed I think that is eat for brunch…That was different and some good food too….lol
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this
Has the eggnog started working?
Where is everyone?
I see AmazonRed & binford has cleared the room so they can snuggle.
By Demi
December 4, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this
Cemeeli trust me he’s a bad behind…he’s 3 years old and he knows who to try and who not to…I am teaching his mom how to be firmer with him now…to others he looks like an angel..Me, I see a reflection of myself with horns included
2CPTG© LOL, you’re right…From the sound of my voice he knows if I am please or displease with him.
I really see my value in his life and he in mines…regardless of how my family feels.*
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this
@Beautiful…do Leo please…thanks
By AmazonRed
December 4, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this
Can I just say my company is full of nut jobs! They are filming scenes for the Christmas party video and they are too dayum stupid right now! Thank goodness I wasn’t actually working!
By binford
December 4, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this
FRANTICALLY WAVING HIS HAND:
Choose me, CHOOSE MEEEEEEEE!
By Foots
December 4, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this
Lady J Sign onto IM…
By Jay
December 4, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this
Beautiful How much faith do you put into astrology? Will you run mr.rightnow away because he was born in june?
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this
Lady J True, there are some really great restaurants on the square too. And so many new places were opening up just before I moved. The Red Shoe is s new rest-owend by some AA’s. I love the Karma boutique, Two Stix , the Artist shop on Ponce (as well as the shop next to it). But Karma rocks b/c they sell a lot of items that you would find in more expensive stores (Neiman’s (sp?), Saks, etc) for a more reasonable retail price (it is owned by a couple from India-Jay and Raj). After a while, it is so much to do and so little time-lol
By kinderbabe
December 4, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this
thanks mo:) i’m all ready for my b-day. i’m celebrating a little differently this year. somebody sent me a plane ticket so i’ll be traveling…;)
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this
Foots I can’t at work but you know a sis can do email!!! LOL
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this
@ Demi - It is cool how you can see the reflection of yourself in your child sometimes. Then you know why your parents responded the way that they did when you did something.
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this
missj8@hotmail.com Foots…
By 2CPTG©
December 4, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this
Demi, trust, times like these, you and he both will appreciate later on….my son is 15 years old, and I’ve only spanked him 4 times in his entire young life! My daughter is 10, and she’s never gotten a spanking from me!!!
and not braggin’ but they’re both model lil citizens! All I have to do is threaten Jr, and he straightens up, whereas lil mama…..well, it takes a lil finessing.
By Demi
December 4, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this
Hey, you can always put fur trim on a bikini too!!!
Nah bay, I just forgot to shave around my bikini line this your, LOL
Ladies..don’t mind the a$$ hairs
By melo
December 4, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this
I see y’all one happy family in here!Booooring. And Truth is getting pillow soft nd getting sucked in, not recgnizing that Sexxy & Beautiful are feverishly looking at that bank account!! The Xmas gifts are on u buddy.
By AmazonRed
December 4, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this
*Looking at binford’s application * Impressive! Tell me, which kind of pillows do you like to snuggle with? Down feathers or foam? LOL
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this
ARed, thanks for the reminder. I’ll have the clothes in the trunk just in case you show up.
LadyJ, listen to Mary J’s new CD. Don’t know the name of the song, but I like what I see when I walk pass the mirror. Fine, fine, fine, fine…..something like that. Man, who would have thought you could butcher a song in cyberspace.
By Foots
December 4, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this
Beautiful Well, can I have the perfume? It’s a shame that it’s just sitting there with nobody smelling it…
SexyLeggs I may just roll through on Saturday. Do you have a limit to the number of people that can come?
Y’all, one of my FAVORITE songs is Let It Snow by Boyz II Men/Brian McKnight. I listen to it year round. I’m SO happy that it’s December, so folks won’t be looking at me all crazy like they do in April when I’m blasting it from the car.
M’Karyl It’s called Coquito. I copied the recipe, but I haven’t tried it yet. Here it is:
2 egg yolks, beaten 1 (12 fluid ounce) can evaporated milk 1 (14 ounce) can cream of coconut 1 (14 ounce) can sweetened condensed milk 1/2 cup white rum 1/2 cup water 1/4 teaspoon ground cloves 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon 1 teaspoon vanilla extract
DIRECTIONS In the top of a double boiler, combine egg yolks and evaporated milk. Stirring constantly, cook over lightly simmering water until mixture reaches a temperature of 160 degrees F (71 degrees C). The mixture should be thick enough to coat the back of a spoon. Transfer mixture to a blender, and add cream of coconut, sweetened condensed milk, rum, water, cloves, cinnamon, and vanilla. Blend for about 30 seconds. Pour into glass bottles, and chill overnight.
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this
lol melo my crazy uncle!!! LOL
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
December 4, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this
Lady J we’ll do on New Years! Me and lil mo might have to go the cocoa route as well! Didnt think about that!
Truth thanks for the Christmas gift! LOL
To all the residents of Blogsville: you guys have been a blessing, thanks for everything!
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this
It is cool how you can see the reflection of yourself in your child sometimes.
Tis is so true in many ways. My daughter never ceased to amaze me when I could see me or my mother 9at times her great-gran)in her behavior and attitudes. We all favor so quite often it was like watching a little mimic of ourselves-lol. And she grew up living with my folks in IL, so she really picked up some of my mom’s things. And all I vcould say when she misbehaved was, oh well she is my child and she did get it honest-lol. One of my favorites (her name is Erica) is when she would have something in the misbehaving range. If you asked her “Did you do that?” She would look at yu just a solemn and serious and say ” Oh no, I didn’t do that. Erica did that.-gotta love it!
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 11:53 AM | Link to this
@ Demi NO! @ - Ladies..don’t mind the a$$ hairs The vison of that for me, was TOO much.
By Foots
December 4, 2007 11:53 AM | Link to this
Okay, let me see if I can make that recipe decipherable. Hopefully, this works:
2 egg yolks, beaten
1 (12 fluid ounce) can evaporated milk
1 (14 ounce) can cream of coconut
1 (14 ounce) can sweetened condensed milk
1/2 cup white rum
1/2 cup water
1/4 teaspoon ground cloves
1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this
Foots
Cool. Thanks! I am definitely going to give this one a try.
By Demi
December 4, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this
KB hey big sis!!!
M’Karyl Marta give me an excuse to wear nice coats for no reasons at all…Another thing, folks dont realize there are alot of great places to go for cheap.
Who on here still enjoy driving around and looking at mad crazy light setups…Belike, I just know their bill is high for the month!! LOL
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this
@SexyLeggs, that was the 1 song this morning that did pump me up and every time I hear I get pump but then her Keisha and get bk in a slump…No pun bc I feel both of them and MAry was where she is but I feel you darling…Thanks!!! My Life CD says it all!!!
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this
Lady J cancer and leo? cancer dwells in the depths of despair, not believing leo could love the crab, constantly questioning the other’s devotion and putting a strain on the relationship. Fun-loving leo does not have time to be depressed or in despair.
By Foots
December 4, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this
What do you plan to do for fun during the holidays?
Oh, I would LOVE to go ride around Buckhead and see the Christmas lights. I’m due to put mine up this year. I didn’t want to, but since it’s my first Christmas in this house, I probably should do it.
I also love helping my sister and brother in law play Santa Claus on Christmas Eve. The last two Christmases, I was with someone, so we made it a fun couples thing after the kids went the sleep. If I’m alone this year, I’ll still look forward to that part, because I love putting things together. guess it’s the engineer in me…
I’m not about to find somebody to date just for the holiday season. I’m used to being single on the holidays, because even when I had someone, they usually were long-distance. It’s just somebody else to sit at the table when my family eats and one more person to buy a gift for, that’s all.
Lady J It gave me an error when I tried to send you something. I’ll try later…
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this
I feel you MO!!! LOL
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this
@M’Karyl…It is scary too bc lil j is going through those terrible twos and I do see me and her dad in her and Ishe got a spanking the other day and afterwards when I put her to bed I cried…Lord, but she was off the wall I guess just being a 2yr old but she pushed her limit…she has our ways and that is not all good and I want her to be so much better than me! Whew, that was Sunday!
By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth
December 4, 2007 12:04 PM | Link to this
Melo yep, they got me. I’m breakin down faster than kool aid in water. LOL
Demi that “Ladies..don’t mind the a$$ hairs” is some funny and nasty shyt. Stop before I throw up in my mouth.
Simi a blender? WTf
I come back to Binford poking Ared in the back while she’s trying to get her snuggle on. LMAO
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this
Jay no, but i can’t do another gemini. are you one? if i meet one and we start talking about the M word, i would demand that we include counceling in our lives.
By DasV
December 4, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this
good ppl good to (read) you
yesterday i had 3 meals and then some
i didnt have to sweat the peas that fell down the disposal or the cake crumbs
last night i slept in a bed all myself
i kicked the covers and leisurely stretched out
i dont have a husband but our divorce wasnt so extreme
when compared to a middle-of-the-night raid by a blood-thirsty regime
as many times as ive wished him dead, i fortunately have never seen him put to death
and the wrongs aginst me would never warrant it, i have to confess
i have a roof over my head and running water
i have freedom of speech and a right to pray to I AM, my father
i want a new ipod but it aint that serious
its me plus two and it may be just us….
but i am sooooo cool wit that
cause compared to the rest of the world we’s livin phat.
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this
Demi - Who on here still enjoy driving around and looking at mad crazy light setups? ME.
…starting my routine this Friday night… I’m trying to convince my son to go see Polar Express @ Stone Mountain this year. It’s supposed to be a simulation of being on the actual PE riding around the mountian and viewing lights.
By DasV
December 4, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this
LOL@Demi rolling through the streets laughin at ppls’ electricity bills
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this
Foots i pull it out and spray some on every blue moon after a bath. out of sight, out of mind works great for me.
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this
Foots, you are more than welcome. I can invite up to 200 ppl.
WiseDiva/Bella, come show your face as well.
Melo, are you going to make it this time?
The entire blog family is invited. I’d like to see how many of you will actually introduce yourselves to me. I going to get my dance on all night long!
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this
Demi Another thing, folks dont realize there are alot of great places to go for cheap.
That is so true. Even when I lived in B’Head, I knew all of the great places to go that weren’t that $$$$$. Mike & Angelo’s, Steamhouse, Rock Bottom, etc. And in the VA-HI there is Manuels, Righteous Room, Neighbor’s, Atkin’s ( a killer brunch menu). I like to eat ethnic foods (Vietnamese, Ehtiopian, Cuban, Dominican, Chinese) so there were always nice places to eat as well. In Dunwoody there is a Tex_Mes jink with great pitchers of Margaritas for $7-$8.
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this
@Demi…I leave hm at dark and come home at dark and the connor lot lady in moms community gots it decked out!!! Everything in the yard!!! now several house from last year who didn’t do lights are now decked out in the community…They are pretty but that is a lot of I work I am sure they enjoy and as MO said a tradition….
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this
LOL @ Super Truth yea guy it’s a high falootin’ one (Cusinart - i think) i saw it in Macy’s. I want it bad. BTW, I will use it.
Foots can you assemble funiture too? Come on ova. My son’s getting a new desk for his room. I already know the look on his face is going to be priceless :-).
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this
Lady J
My daughter came to spend the summer with me the year she turned two. And I learned so much from her about the developing and pre-existing temperaments in our children. Believe me, they are very much aware of what is up around them. I don’t know if many ppl would agree with me, but I am a firm believer in speaking to the child’s intelligence as a rule. I not only had good responses with my child this way, but always with other children as well. And yes, there are times when after that and the “Momma Look” don’t work, then they are truly telling you that they want some tough love disipline-be it the hairbrush, the hand, the switch or the extension cord-lol.
By Demi
December 4, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this
whereas lil mama…..well, it takes a lil finessing.
LOL, that’s the daughters for you…
Cemeeli/M’Karyl being I am not his biological father..it’s amazing how like minded and stubborn we are. You can look in his eyes and tell he’s digging in and is willing to stand his ground…no matter how wrong he knows he is, LOL
SexyLeggs My horns are out and there is a smile on my face…are you sure you want me to party with ya, LOL
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this
missj8@gmail.com lenawhittington@hotmail.com Foots
By Jay
December 4, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this
Beautiful, Yes I am. The M word dont apply to me. Whats this about you dont like to smell good. Are you from France?….LOL
By melo
December 4, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this
M’Karyl,the brunch menu at Prince of Wales on Piedmont, across the park is off da chain. Sexxy this time i wont promise until friday afternoon. Will let u know.
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 12:27 PM | Link to this
Sista Leggs my job’s chirstmas party is this Saturday night. I will be there …uhm… i gotta see these folks 6 instead of 5 days this week. DANG! I didn’t go last year and had to explain to many times why i just did not feel up to attending. Gonna get it together and go this year.
Hope you all have fun at Bell Bottoms pop loc’ for me too ;-). & HAPPY BIRTHDAY chica!
By Demi
December 4, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this
My son’s getting a new desk for his room. I already know the look on his face is going to be priceless :-).
He’s going to be like,”Awwwwwww…Dayum, my mom is dead serious about my education!!!
Heeeeeeey DasV!!!!
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this
DasV, I’m loving it…I kicked the covers and leisurely stretched out -
i have a roof over my head and running water
as many times as ive wished him dead, i fortunately have never seen him put to death -
i want a new ipod but it aint that serious -
cause compared to the rest of the world we’s livin phat…Most definitely, most definitely! Thank you!
Demi, I love riding around with my child looking at the lights saying the very same thing …I just know their bill is high for the month!
By melo
December 4, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this
My horns are out and there is a smile on my face…are you sure you want me to party with ya Demi, this looks like its gonna be a hell of a party.All these ladies on the blog are really fly and u know a lot of them are coming.And Sexxy is party gal. If u go to this party and, come next week, u moaning on the blog about ‘no good women in the A’, ur game is week. And u know bellbottoms is always teeming on a regular saturday nite. Tempting…..indeed!
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this
Jay sexually, however, passionate cancer maintains the attention of the distracted gemini, who loves to try new things in and out of the bedroom. over the long haul, this relationship goes nowhere.
exactly!!!
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this
Demi, bring those horns to the club and let me help you dance/melt them away!
Ok Melo.
Truth, do you think you’ll be able to show your face @Bell Bottoms? First and foremost, is this your type of place to hang out. I kinda doubt it, but naturally am not sure. Also, thanks for the Christmas gift through this blog.
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this
M’Karyl 12:17 I co-sign wit ya’. And a wooden spoon (never used one personally, but seen it before) to add to your list of tough love tools. But lately my son “has an understanding”…The Look is golden! He’s not unruly just have to use it to keep some of his flamboyant ways at bay. My son has a determination about himself that will shake me sometimes. He doesn’t take any prisoners when he is fixated to do something or get a point across. That has to be on of his strongest temperaments. Demi since you mention stubborn i’d say he has a lil of that too.
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this
Cemeeli
iz da’ dranks free??? If so, after a while you may not being seein’ shat!!! LOL
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this
Demi and you know this! Private sch. education aint cheap. Bless his heart.
DasV where have you been? Good to read ya.
By 2CPTG©
December 4, 2007 12:46 PM | Link to this
Sexy Leggs, can I come? although, “I can shoulder lean, but I’on know to dance, tho”!
By Demi
December 4, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this
M’Karyl yes yes, I know I am wrong for this, be I am know for speaking to li’demi like a teenager…Folks see as and be like dayum…they’re having a normal conversation, LOL
I feel it’s very important for parent to teach their child english first…Ebonic second…gotta keep it hood.
And Prince of Wales…is a mad house at time, LOL
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this
Cemeeli, the look is golden, especially when the index finger is raised along with the look…talking about results. When you FIRMLY shake that index finger with the look = RESULTS!
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this
Demi
Another observation that I made with my child and others is how they absorb so many of the traits from the ppl around them who are their primary caregivers, sans biological ties. So much of their world until about 5 yrs is based upon visual and emotional stimulation. The wonders of God do unfold in the beauty of a child…
By Jay
December 4, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this
Beautiful. SO what are you saying. I’m like a vigin. Never tried anything in or out of the bedroom. WHen the sex go bad, what will you have then?
By Jay
December 4, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this
Beautiful. SO what are you saying. I’m like a vigin. Never tried anything in or out of the bedroom. WHen the sex go bad, what will you have then?
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this
Jay i promise you that our sex life will never die, but gemini’s scare the hell out of me. sorry. i was with one for 8 yrs and damn … …
and you not wanting to talk about the M word scares me even more. i’m all about family/husband/kids. when i turn 100, i want to see you by my side.
By ms niq
December 4, 2007 1:00 PM | Link to this
Thanks for this article. I am in the beginning stages of realizing that my relationship is over. You know it’s denial at first…Well, I still don’t know if I agree with these things you call perks. I am more peeved. It’s still very humbling to know there are other single people out there like me. Thanks….
By DasV
December 4, 2007 1:00 PM | Link to this
sEXYLEGGs your welcome…. you know i do it for me though. just glad my blog family dont mind putting up with my release
CEE been lurkin hard… and laughin at the mess ppl be spewin.
DemiG heeeeyyyy back atcha.
theTRUTH im seriously considering resigning from my position… after reading yesterdays post i feel like am an enabler or something. LOL
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 1:02 PM | Link to this
Well sista Leggs my lil guy don’t even get the finger. It’s me and 100% The look.
Demi i must been doing my son an injustice from jump, because he doesn’t know any “ebonic/hood” and when i switch on him (cause a sista do get relaxed and say…NAW BOY… in a minute) he get to looking at ME sideways! My lil cousins (14-20yo) are like he speaks better than us. They don’t know how to come at him…so they’ll ask me…Cemeeli ask D to show us how to play sudoku n’ chess r something crasi. I’m like ya’ll he’s 8…WTH…!?! What am i asking him for you speak english right.
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this
2C, yes, you are welcomed as well.
By QueDogTeaching
December 4, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this
What up blog Said while blogging in early, and wondering what can I do to change Page’s fortune around the holidays.
On Topic For me the holidays are the perfect time to meet new people. There are so many parties and women actually have there guards down. I actually see women smiling in the grocery store around this time of year. So to meet someone and start a conversation, this is a great time of year. And I have blogged here before on the benefits of meeting women at house parties rather than the club. You get the true them, not their representative. Plus you get the truth on them, because they have been invited by someone who knows them. So do not stay in the house, go out with friends, get a little tipsy and meet someone. Ladies you still have to shave your legs, just in case you want to slip into something a little more comfortable. And please keep getting your toes done. I’m just saying
@Ared I have been trying to get to a play date for a while. How did you find out about it, and when is the next one?
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this
Demi
Now it ain’t wrong. I believe that if you talk to them like they have sense, then they learn to listen and articulate the same way. My family never spoke to my daughter with the “goo-goo, gaa-gaa” mess either, and when she began speaking at the age of two she could actually form good basic noun-verb patterns and sentences. Imagine that.
I feel it’s very important for parent to teach their child english first…Ebonic second…gotta keep it hood.
Good English speaking skills are essential and absolute. The hood lingo, dialect, slang-whatever you want to call it comes from the peeps hangin’ out. It is cool to be colored- we can speak the correct and proper English and several versions of our collective cultural and regional tongues. We just be like that…
By binford
December 4, 2007 1:10 PM | Link to this
Lady J How dare you say I’d be poking from behind! I don’t pull sneak attacks! :)
By pisces07
December 4, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this
Beautiful. Still lurking?
By Jay
December 4, 2007 1:15 PM | Link to this
Beautiful….OK. I will be by your side. Looking forward to 100 years of flying around the bedroom. What are you doing for the holidays anyways? When is your b-day?
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 1:20 PM | Link to this
pisces07 describe to me a perfect evening with a lady you are dating? be truthful. you may be put to the test. lol.
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 1:27 PM | Link to this
binford what in the world are you talking about????
Beautiful Can you do leo and leo. thanks for the other post.J
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 1:27 PM | Link to this
Cemeeli, I feel you on the ebonics thing. When my daughter was 3 a friend had stopped by. He looked at her and said a few things. He then said “you go girl” and off she went. He looked around asking where she went and I told him what he said and she took it literally. He told me to teach my child some slang. It was really funny.
By AmazonRed
December 4, 2007 1:29 PM | Link to this
Ah ha ha @ Truth and your 12:04. I felt that poke in my back. I thought it was just a candy cane! binford is a naughty boy!
QDT - I get a list serve of events all around the city once a week. Playdate does have a website tho: www.playdateatl.com. They do it once a month. I had so much fun and for the more seasoned bloggers my friend who is 44 had a blast too. They also sponsor some other fun things around the city too, paint by numbers and Cash Flow (had never heard of cash flow until Saturday, them folks were SERIOUS about it).
And by the way…it was the night of conference championships, but there was a few hundred folks that came out, played games and danced to some old classics and hot hits.
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 1:29 PM | Link to this
Jay awwww. my b-day is 6/22. for the holidays, i’m sending one of my babies to california for two weeks. i’m going to chill with my oldest and study.
By DasV
December 4, 2007 1:30 PM | Link to this
LOLROTF@quesayin givin the advice to stay up on shaving legs and pedicures…. mayne, that is one of the benefits of not being in something and it helps with sticking by the celibacy thing too! :)
By Jay
December 4, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this
Beautiful that sounds like a plan. Will your oldest keep you hid for the holidays. Pisces may want to get you out. Beautiful did you ever write in to Dear Abbey.
By Demi
December 4, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this
Cemeeli girl, you don’t want your son growing up too uptight, LOL. As of now, Li’man knows very little slang, but proper use of words. I don’t chop up my English around him. Ebonics can be learned later.
And there is no excuse for our kids to speak as bad as they do, I get that ‘you sound white’ all the time. It’s not that I am intelligent; I simply just practice words until over and over again until I could pronounce them correctly.
Hellz, I make all kids under the age of 18 use English around me…you should see the look on their moms face when they talk around me, LOL
M’Karyl (1249) I see that now, little dude force me to grow up and change A LOT of my ways. I had to calm this slick tongue down, LOL
SexyLegg I will let you know by friday…
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this
LadyJ, Juanita Bynum is on V103. Her ending comment made me think of you. In essence, when something negative affects the core of your life, the only way to excel and not let the negative actions of someone else spoil who you are is to SUCCEED! So, on that note, keep a smile on your face and a song in your heart = forging ahead!
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this
Lady J who’s going to balance the checkbook? to survive financially, they’ll have to hire someone. leos love a lavish lifestyle. each will try to outdo the other by buying expensive gifts. two leos together spell double trouble. sorry leos love the idea of being in love more than the actual relationship. sex is awesome. these two headstrong lions will have problems in the long term. sorry again.
By abc
December 4, 2007 1:41 PM | Link to this
Teaching your children ebonics is like a cracker teaching his kid to speak like a hick. You may think you’re able to ‘speak right’ (sic) but it sounds like it takes such extra effort when you do, you may as well utter the ghetto-speak and suffer the bad first impressions, not to mention the lack of idea conveyance. Get over the ebonics nonsense.
Ahem, not cracker, then… Caucasians of country persuasion.
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this
M’Karyl & Sexxyleggs Can’t ya’ll tell i have a very articulate youngin’. My post are always so grammar, language and spell corrected…LOl…whatever…!
When i speak here at work and to others, exspecially my son my dialect is clear and proper. It’s paramount!… ebonics come later.
Leggs That was funny! lol…You go girl!
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this
Jay no, why? i think abbey is kinda cheesy.
By Jay
December 4, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this
Beautiful if I didnt know any better. I would think you are a sex expert.
By pisces07
December 4, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this
Beautiful. Bell bottoms!? Just kidding..The perfect evening starts with a perfect morning of appreciation & compliments. The evening starts with dinner for two, a romantic setting (created by the Pisces romantic nature) as I’m sure you know, we are the most romantic of the astrological signs. (for examples please e-mail). A little dancing to spice up the night, then….
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 1:49 PM | Link to this
@Beautiful…Now you see why I am through with last years bs!!! But J was so hooked to the bedroom but over that too…LOL
SexyLeggs…Thanks for that…my Cheerleaders have a cheer S-U-C-C-E-E-D and now that is what I am chanting in my mind!!! Keep me in your thoughts and thanks for the WISE WISDOM!!!
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this
Foots…Mail call
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 1:56 PM | Link to this
Demi My son get’s that too, I know…i’m more “relaxed speaking” to him now that he’s older but the he will literally look at you sideways if… “the words that are coming out of your mouth”…are not right…lol. He understands ebonics only if 90% of what you are saying is proper english.
By Jay
December 4, 2007 1:56 PM | Link to this
Beautiful, It was actually a joke. But you have to be a member to some astrolgy for the blog committe.
By Demi
December 4, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this
Cemeeli remember with Ebonics, a slick tongue comes with it…go a head and purchase wii/w a tennis game. 1,2, backhand stroke, 3,4 backhand stroke, 5,6, backhand some more!! LOL
abc LOL, people of color will always have our own way of doing thing…your Caucasians of country persuasion…Can’t touch a corporate thug…not many white leaders can touch Obama, when it come to speaking their proper english.
By DreamsMaterialize
December 4, 2007 1:58 PM | Link to this
The holidays are a wonderful time of year, whether single or in a relationship. The holidays usually a good catalyst for some extra motivation to focus on appreciation and sharing. If you’re in a relationship, then show your appreciation for that person. If you’re single, then focus your energies on your family and close friends. Of course, you can always volunteer to help those whose fortune is less than yours. So appreciate what you have, focus on self-improvement, and share your joy with others. Your glow will be apparent at the many holiday gatherings or other places you might visit, and just maybe the person the you’ve been wanting to notice will.
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this
abc 8Ahem, not cracker, then… Caucasians of country persuasion.* ya’ said it right the first time-lol
Cemeeli
I haven’t the slightest uncertainty that my ability to articulate is unequivocally dug by dem’s peeps who be’s listen’ ta’ me. I cain hit wid’ da bestess of dem’, and continue to roll properly back into a pattern of speech comportments that be true-lol
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 2:00 PM | Link to this
M’Karyl & S’Leggs…Guess what my student just told me…Ms J, I have never seen you this happy like this year ever…So happy and nice…He met me 2yrs ago at my lowest point and I was wicked to say the least but like I keep saying J has came a long way and still climbing!!!
By Jay
December 4, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this
LadyJ… There is more to life than the bedroom. If you cant be with some without sex coming up every two minutes. Now thats a red flag. Like you’ve told, pick up a hobby and enjoy that time with lil J. This blog can be one hell of a support group.
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 2:04 PM | Link to this
DreamsMaterialize…Great Post!!!:)
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 2:06 PM | Link to this
abc …You may *think you’re able to ‘speak right’ (sic) but it sounds like it takes such extra effort when you do, you may as well utter the ghetto-speak and suffer the bad first impressions*…Speaking proper english comes naturally for me. Kudos to mom dukes, my family (some of them anyway) and the wonderful grade school literature teachers that corrected me along the way so that i would speak correct.
Some of my lily freinds speak more ebonics than i do.
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this
Jay my co-worker brought this book to work called black love signs by thelma balfour. you should check it out. you should seek a aries, leo, libra, aquarius. happy hunting!
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this
Jay I know Jay that is why I let it painfully go and you know this and i know this from speaking with you about it!!! Got is darling painful as it might has been!!!
By Dan
December 4, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this
Why did I think that the corporate thug was my title alone?
Shout Demi for making a brother feel like he’s not alone in the world!
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this
M’Karyl And then you …SWIIIITTTCHHH! lol.
By binford
December 4, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this
Lady J
I come back to Binford poking Ared in the back while she’s trying to get her snuggle on. LMAO
That’s what I was talking about.
By kinderbabe
December 4, 2007 2:13 PM | Link to this
hey demi how have you been?
By QueDogTeaching
December 4, 2007 2:13 PM | Link to this
Good looking out Soro. I want to go to at least one to say I have been there, done that. What is the site that sends you things every week. I am so out of the loop, when it comes to most of those things. Usually I am chilling or hitting a few spots, but it is usually because someone tells me where it is.
Off topic A while ago I used to hit the club circuit hard, it was Justins then the Conga on Monday, Tuesday was Bell Bottoms, Wednesday was 112 for comeday night, Thursday was Apache spoken word, hip hop, Friday the Buckhead club scene, or 559, or the lamp post, or a strip club, and Saturday was liquid or 112 or That three level club that was downtown cant remember the name, Sunday was Otto’s which became the club that Ray Lewis made famous can’t remember the name, or Dugans on ponce. What are the places to go now. I get that question all the time, when people come to town and I honestly can’t answer.
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 2:13 PM | Link to this
See LadyJ, you have to manifest a positive attitude inwardly as well as outwardly. Children know what they see!
By MzLadyDiamond
December 4, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this
AmazonRed… how was playdate? The last time I went was in Oct and the place was way too packed, are there still more people than games?
By pisces07
December 4, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this
Black Love Signs…. an excellent book!
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this
Lady J
Now, we be talkin’ sugah!! Gets ta’ steppin’ in dem’ fine go-go boots!!! Sister-there are so few valleys of despair that I have not traveled alone; and so many heights of desire that I dared, once upon a time, to not dream. But AL Jarreau said:
Could you believe in a dream When I tell you that it’s true? Would you believe precious friend of mine?
Could you believe when it seems You are glad with what you do It will give you the courage to carry The courage to carry your spirit up on high? Just to carry your spirit up on high
I saw people in trouble I heard the angels cry ‘Now don’t tamper with my children’ Made the Devil fly Spent the night with David He taught me what to say I was looking for a smooth stone When I heard him pray
Could you believe in a dream When I tell you that its true? Would you believe precious friend of mine? Would you believe when it seems You are glad with what you do It will give you the courage to carry your spirit Up on high?
Oh, I could sing of all kinds of reasons Reasons to lay your burden Softly down What kings and prophets did for freedom Precious dreams imprisoned Underground Well, I’ve got this song that I’ll sing And I’ll make the mountains ring Tell my mama That I’m homeward bound
Could you believe in a dream When I tell you that it’s true? Would you believe precious friend of mine?
Could you believe when it seems You are glad with what you do It will give you the courage to carry The courage to carry your spirit up on high Just to carry your spirit up on high
Joy to the World…Amen, amen,amen-hallelujah, amen, amen, amen!!
By DasV
December 4, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this
feelin cosign-y today
jay this blog can be one hell of a support group amen, bruh, amen.
dEMIg remember with Ebonics, a slick tongue comes with it… and depth of mind. do you know how hard it is to write in ebonics???
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this
meant got it!!! lol
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this
Jay she might be right under your nose. lol.
By Alvin
December 4, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this
This blog can be one hell of a support group.
Or Bush’s Administration Slogan school style: Character Assassination
Yeah, I am playing kung fu music in the background…
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 2:19 PM | Link to this
lol @ Mr. Corporate Thug Demi. What you know about that!?! I guess a sista would be ???
LadyJ a Teacher?
By Jay
December 4, 2007 2:19 PM | Link to this
Beautiful, I’m ok. I’m not hunting. When I seek someone, there zodiac sign is the lat thing I want to know.
By AmazonRed
December 4, 2007 2:20 PM | Link to this
binford - Truth made the poke comment, not LadyJ. That’s why she’s looking at you sideways. LOL.
MzLadyDiamond, Play Date was a blast. I had to wait to play, but there is a DJ and bar to keep you occupied. My game is Taboo, but I realized that a DJ makes that experience a little hard. I also found that you can talk to more people because you are playing games with them and not think they are just trying to mack!
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this
lol binford…got you potnah!
By For Real
December 4, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this
School yard….
Bully: Ah yo son step!
Cemeeli Youngin’: Do you mean river dancing?
Bully: What? You tryn to be funny get ta stepping fore I kick yo azz.
CY: Umm that would be trying, T.R.Y.I.N.G not tryn and the, T.H.E not ta and what is up with those dangling participles…
Bully is now beating the hellz out of CY.
Bully: Now, how you like that? I bet yo azz ain’t got no mouth now.
CY: Oh lord he used a double negative.
Bully is now pulling CY’s superman underoos up around his head.
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this
@Cemeeli…for almost 6 yrs…lol…Inclusion and 2 teachers in the class…and this is my outlit….lol…cheer coach and sadd sponsor…lol..exceptional ed…
By AmazonRed
December 4, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this
QDT, I subscribe to this list serve, ATL Lowdown. It’s on yahoo groups. I can’t remember the process to join, but it’s given me a social life. I don’t know many people, and this is a one stop shop on how to get plugged in.
Another plus about the list is that it has a listing of several clubs, art galleries, lounges, etc that are around the city. So even if nothing is happening that you like on any given weekend, you can hit up a spot that you may have not been to before.
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this
Thanks M’Karyl & S’Leggs!!!
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this
…and some mo’ stuff for LadyJ and ALL my peeps.
My absolute favorite mantra:
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same”.
By DasV
December 4, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this
smilin at M’K fillin in for for real and postin lyrics……
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this
QueDogTeaching Dude, like I know. I remember when I could party on P’Tree from 5 pts to B’Head, or roll Little 5 and the VA-HI. V’s, The Purple Parrot, Otto’s Good Old Days, Clarence Fosters’,Club 131, Sans Souci, the old 112 of Roswell, Chit Chats, Atlanta Knights, Lime Light, etc.-whew!. The List of places to go. But it seems that so much has changed or something. I mostly stuck to the bar scene the last 15 years or so that I lived in the ATL-that’s about the only thing that still is pretty good.
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this
pisces07 yes it is. we have been dissecting this book for two days. lol. i only believe about 50% though. like i said earlier, i work with a pisces man right now and there is no way. whoever makes my heart flutter … … .
By binford
December 4, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this
AR My eyes are going. As usual, you are right :)
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 2:34 PM | Link to this
you know I’ve been posted in the library in front of a computer on crtuches on light desk work…At the start of the yr I was easy on blogging but hey you know me…lol…
Thanks Cemeeli!!
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this
Cemeeli co-sign on that 2:29 PM And the church says: Amen!!!
By AmazonRed
December 4, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this
4Real, I am on the ground laughing at your schoolyard story.
By Demi
December 4, 2007 2:40 PM | Link to this
KB things are going great…How are them kids treating you?
A.Red Cash Flow is no joke…I read his books to my son before he goes to bed.
Dan over the next 20 years AA men will be making a comeback…our sons will leaded us to a new height, like never before.
QDT once I could tell you where all the hottest spots are…Now:
A saturday text convo with Li’man’s Mom:
Li’man’s Mom: Alvin, me and a few girlfriends are trying to hit the club tonite. What are some of the hot spots?
Me: I have no idea, but footlocker has a great sale on kid shoes and I am on my way to cop a few pairs for li’man now.
Li’man’s Mom: WTH!!?? I said clubs not shoes!!
Me: My baad, are you coming or not?
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this
LolForReal Stop it and leave my lil look-a-like alone!
Bully!?!
Cemeeli Youngin: Mom …Today after school I was ostracized by a terrorist ?
Cemeeli: Boy if you don’ get yo’ oster self back up to that school and terri-massacre that chile imma whup yo’…your feet ain’t that big for nuthin’.Lol
…naw for real ole bully must be a girl OR on hell of a big kid. I’m raising a big un’ (not really).
By DreamsMaterialize
December 4, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this
Lady J Thanks. Hope you’re doing well today.
QueDogTeaching Just had some good memories when you mentioned going to 559. lol If you weren’t trying to sweat, then it wasn’t the place for you.
By Page1908
December 4, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this
QDT I was gonna send you some information yesterday, so send me an email, so I can have your address. Mine is pageantgirl @ yahoo dot com.
By AmazonRed
December 4, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this
binford, if you never depart from that thought, we will have a long and lasting relationship. LOL
By DasV
December 4, 2007 2:46 PM | Link to this
CEE you better than me… i have never had a mantra that spoke for the world.
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this
Ya’ll did know i love yall? *laughing at all of the crasi’s!
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this
@M’Karyl…I was rolling like that a bit of last year and a while back but J been quit going like a chiken with its head cut off…I did get comfortable just being at home with nothing to doing…lol
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this
A friend of mine just sent me a txt msg. It said tht for Xmas she was buying me a pair of slippers and a dildo; that wya if I don’t like the slippers then I can go f**k myself-lol.
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this
I am DreamsMaterialize…This blog rescue me today as always!!!:) You continue to have a great one too!!! J
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this
Hey DasV you know…what the salt of it is right?
By kinderbabe
December 4, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this
demi they’re getting crazier by the second…lol. they are getting really excited about christmas. i have 11 days til break! can’t wait.:) you have any big plans for the holidays?
By Lady J
December 4, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this
Ok good people…J is getting ready for the 2nd part of my day!!! Also I have to audit reciept books tomorrow plus get this cast off!!! Looking forward to tomorrow!!! LOL
Again, MUCH THANKS TO ALL AND DIVA GREAT TOPIC CHICA!!!
Peace!
By Demi
December 4, 2007 2:56 PM | Link to this
Cemeeli what you call yourself time to time in your mind…A Bad Chick LOL
DasV typing Ebonics isn’t easy for me at all…I must spell out my words, LOL
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 2:56 PM | Link to this
Cemeelli, you said: *Ya’ll didknow i love yall? What, you don’t love us anymore????
By Page1908
December 4, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this
OOPs, QDT, I forgot to add the 1908 on my email address, so it is: pageantgirl_1908 at yahoo dot com.
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this
pisces07 a perfect evening with a man i’m dating is bowling or a game of pool, some thai food, and a romantic movie from blockbuster with a apple pie and vanilla ice cream. ;)
By DasV
December 4, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this
laughing out loud @ DEMI’S and CEMEELI’S convos. … crazyee funny!
By For Real
December 4, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this
Here is one of two songs that I need to hear in order to get into the Christmas Spirit.
Bells will be ringing The glad, glad news Oh, what a Christmas To have the blues My baby’s gone I have no friends To wish me greetings Once again
Choirs will be singing “Silent Night” Christmas carols By candlelight Please come home for Christmas Please come home for Christmas If not for Christmas Then by New Year’s Night
Friends and relations Send salutations Sure as the stars shine above It’s Christmas time, my dear The time of year To be, with the one you love
Then won’t you tell me You’ll never more roam Christmas and New Year’s Will find you home There’ll be no more sorrow No grief and pain Then I’ll be happy, happy Once again
No more sorrow No grief and pain But I’ll be happy Christmas Once again
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this
I hope these ergonomic chairs they purchase for our offices will fit my Shiatsu Back Massager that i’m getting for Christmas.
By Demi
December 4, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this
KB work, I am in no mood to see a few family members this christmas or new years, LOL
By AmazonRed
December 4, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this
Demi - this Cash Flow thing is intriguing to me. Imagine me walking into Play Date and me seeing two tables of folks, with paper, pencils and calculators scribbling FURIOUSLY. I mean, they looked like they were taking the SATs. It didn’t look like FUN at all…just a lot of work! I was like is the money real or something?! But someone told me the game is serious and that’s why they had to do a separate Cash Flow night just to satisfy demand. Damn!
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this
Sista Leggs help a sister out! I LOVE my blog fanly.
Page Does that 1908 come with a chico? Hey waving.
By DasV
December 4, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this
CEE yea, i think so. correct me if im wrong, still growin it reminds me of the poem recited in that basketball movie with samuel l. jackson where the student says our greatest fear is not of failing but of succeeding.
By Page1908
December 4, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this
LOL Cemeeli, girl no! waving
By pisces07
December 4, 2007 3:18 PM | Link to this
Beautiful… I challenge you to a game of pool. You choose the spot, I make the bet.
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 3:19 PM | Link to this
DasV close and I like that one too.
By DasV
December 4, 2007 3:19 PM | Link to this
sEXYLEGGs lemme ask you somethin: white boots with a blue jacket and skirt suit is kosher for the workplace?? and how about those boots with the furry stuff going down the sides and the laces have fur-balls, can you wear that to work???
the ppl here at the job have me confused.
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this
DasV, no offense, but I wouldn’t wear white boots. I wouldn’t wear boots w/furry stuff down the sides w/fur-balls laces. Visually, I see the boots as something I would wear say to a card party at a friends house or to a club. I just have a problem with white shoes and white boots.
You said you have a blue jacket on and a skirt suit. What color is the skirt suit?
By QC
December 4, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this
Hey everyone! can’t stay long i just wanted to speak…Darrell’s on a business trip and says hello….have a great evening bloggers…..
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this
pisces07 i have a problem. i don’t know how to play. wink, wink. lol.
By QueDogTeaching
December 4, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this
Das There is nothing worse than throwing a nice one some shorts to put on and she has ashy hairy legs. Please just one or the other.
M’Karyl I see you have been partying for some years. Did you say V’s , and the Sans Souci. You might be one of those Fine Matures.
4Real Honestly I don’t let the students in my class use improper language. Only Standard American English. But it is too funny when I slip and they correct me.
Demi Boy you wild.
Dreams Hope I didn’t grab your backside back then.
Page Got you. Can you check at home? Check later on tonight. I have a wrestling meet.
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this
DasV NO…not Charlotte Russe and Wild Pair specials at the office.!?!
By SlimOne
December 4, 2007 3:31 PM | Link to this
Pimp C was found dead in his hotel room this morning. No further details at this current time, he was 33
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 3:32 PM | Link to this
Let me back up for a moment DasV. If you’re comfortable w/what you’re wearing and you feel really good about how you look, then that’s all that’s matter. You’re in Corporate America so you definitely know what’s acceptable in terms of dress code. It does not matter what your co-workers think. If the head honchos haven’t called you into the office because of your attire on any given day…it’s all good!
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this
DasV Now,sugah, when I worked in some of those offices there, I saw ppl wearing things that I would not be seen escorting my trash to the curb in at night (in my invisible cape)-lol.
I was always suprised by what some ppl thought was appropriate for work; and then again some ppl have no real fashion sense either. What I always considered to be appropriate was “over-dressed”, but these comments came from ppl who wore “yard clothes” on business casual days or casual days
By Page1908
December 4, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this
QDT Yes, that is fine. Cool beans.
By DasV
December 4, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this
sEXYLEGGs not me! LOL ppl here at work. i was getting out the car this morning and i had to fall back into my seat cause i choked up and was laughin at one of our sisters who stepped out in a blue suit and some with boots… that i guess went with the cream blouse she was wearing. then i come inside and i am behind a sista with the furry boots on… she had on a black sweater and had tucked her cream pants into the boots.
LOLROTF
and dont lemme start with the hairstyles up in here :0
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this
QueDogTeaching You might be one of those Fine Matures
true dat chile. I partied in some ATL for a few years from ‘83-‘07. I hit the spots in each quadrant and rolled baby. I wore me a few pair go-go boots out-lol!!!
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 3:40 PM | Link to this
QueDogTeaching, when I first walked into Sans Souci I thought I walked into a barnyard full of bumpkins. Sorry, but I was straight from NY at that time. After a while, I realized the people were really cool and music was off da chain. I partied at all the spots back in the day.
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 3:42 PM | Link to this
i’m confused… so those lil dressy shorts are okay in Coporate World? NO! I thought i saw someone say shorts somewhere, lemme read agian.
By Beautiful
December 4, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this
SlimOne i dont know who he is. did he live a thug life? what group is he with?
By kimmie
December 4, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this
DasV - Were you asking about others in the office or yourself with the blue suit and snow boots? Is it a baby blue suit or navy? Just curious. Sounds a little teeny bopper, but hey, to each his own!
By DasV
December 4, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this
sexyLEGGS inna minute girl you not gonna no blog-fam of mines!! LOLROTF by now you’ve gotten my msg about it not being me…. but i have to address the fact that if it had been, you were gonna lemme come to work lookin like a hot mess!!
LOLROTF
gurl, please stop all this co-signing. hheehheeehheeee sometimes some ppl are just plain wrong….
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this
DasV, WHEW! I was really trying to word my answer to you by being politically correct because I respect you as a blog family member, and I respect your intellectual stance on many topics. I feel so much better. Hell no, I would never where an outfit like that…hee hee hee! Again, WHEW!
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this
SexyLeggs Your fisrt clue that it was not Sis DasV was “white boots with a blue jacket and skirt suit is kosher for the workplace?? and how about those boots with the furry stuff going down the sides and the laces have fur-balls I primarily saw the fur dohickeys on all the gals in West End or on Candler Road-lol
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this
See, I’ve acquired some tact as I’ve gotten older….ROFL!!!
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this
SexyLeggs
when I first walked into Sans Souci I thought I walked into a barnyard full of bumpkins It was that, but like you said it was some regional culture at is partying best! The music rocked!!
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 3:52 PM | Link to this
DasV, I wouldn’t call it co-signing, but it’s hard to tell a grown a$$ woman she looks a hot freaking mess!! If I had seen you in person, I definitely would not let you appear at the workplace like that. Hopefully, you read my post on why I fluffed my words.
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 3:54 PM | Link to this
DasV sorry for offending your new wardrobe….Lol guess you don’t need your RL jacket back i can use it for Saturday night.
Lol @ Hot mess…say it all the time. & Why!
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 3:57 PM | Link to this
M’Karyl, I really wanted to say that looks exactly like something I would see the girls trying to rock on Bankhead. However, Candler Road and West End are right up there as well.
I couldn’t get past the blue jacket and skirt suit.
By DasV
December 4, 2007 4:02 PM | Link to this
kimmie naaaa, girl. it dont matta what shade of blue it was. white boots at work is a no-no. white shoes period i thought was off-limits. someone correct me if im wrong
Cee not shorts. blue suit jacket, cream blouse, matching blue skirt and white boots… with no less than 3inch heels.
and walkin behind the sista in the furry boots even I couldnt help look at her booty…. her pants were so tight!
still LOLROTF
im pretty conservative at work…. same earrings, same pair of glasses, same basic tops, skirts and pants that are all inter-changeable… muted colors… my personality adds the right amount of color
but you know how i do all the other times… my RL velvet piece was ready for the wedding and i rocked it! with a cream turtle neck and cream pants and a matching verabradley sling purse, so’s i could get my dance on!
sEXYLEGGs i feel ya girl! but for the record: neva fluff wit me girl… if im actin or dressin like a hot mess tell me so with NO hesitation. we both grown.
By kimmie
December 4, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this
DasV/SexyL - I figured it was not Das, but I was sort of following SexyLeggs and being PC too:) Yeah, snow boots with fur tassels (or anything with visible fur, for that matter) I think is inappropriate for the office workplace - JMHO. Baby blue would work a little better with white boots, but still a hot mess!
By DreamsMaterialize
December 4, 2007 4:07 PM | Link to this
I wonder what happened to Pimp C. That’s too bad. We’re dropping like flies.
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 4:07 PM | Link to this
DasV, Sexyleggs & M’Karyl & MK your name is hard @ heck to type fast :-). What is it with the making a fashion statement like that at the workplace anyway? I’ve been trying to figure that one out for a minute. If 90% of the office is wearing Brooks, Bach or whatever… somewhere in your fashionist mindsight you had to get the understanding at the office dress protocol. And please tone down the stiletto’s!
By kinderbabe
December 4, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this
demi lol…don’t want to see your family, huh? i understand. i’ll be taking a break from mine for christmas. we got along fine for thanksgiving though.
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this
I hear ya DasV. I’ve made a mental note of that. I’m glad, because I don’t like to fluff.
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this
Now DasV i need that get-up for my Asian-friend’s wedding coming up in January. She said something about ‘red-colors’ to wear for the tea. I’ll figure something out.
By pisces07
December 4, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this
Beautiful… You need Holiday pool lessons.
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 4:15 PM | Link to this
DasV
Dey be fashion for de’ job and fashions for de’ street and clubbin”, and unless you be workin’ de’ street or in de’ club, then den da’ two don’t mix-lol!!!! And some fashions just need to stay in de’ house when you ain’t leavin’ home.
SexyLeggs
So true about the area. There were somethings I never saw when I lived in B’Head, Midtown, VA-HI or D”woody, but saw all the time in West End, Decatur or Stone Mtn-lol.
By DasV
December 4, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this
CEE that its!! if you have any question regarding the dress-code… if there is something in the employee handbook that is unclear… then just look around ppl! LOL thanks for letting me vent
and what size you is?? i dont mind you borrowing, just bring my clothes back dry-cleaned. LOL
By SlimOne
December 4, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this
Beautiful Yeah UGK, Underground Kings rap group.
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 4:25 PM | Link to this
Cemeeli
Just type M’. M’Karyl is my first initial and my middle name with a spelling variation. The M’ means of the people in one the the East(?)African languages when it is placed before a word (think M’Tume). And carols are songs or voices in harmony. So I adapted my own variation to mean voice of the ppl-and ppl really do call me 0”M apostrophe” as my name. And it means voice of the ppl.
But the fashions, chirl, I just do not understand WTF!!! It is like maybe we should do a city-wide show of “What Not to Wear’?????
By DasV
December 4, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this
M’K laughin at ‘fashion for the streets and fashion for the clubs’… gurl, now-a-days that line is waaaay blurred. and you right, some of the mess i see needs to be worn only at the house.
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this
I’ll need that in a size 6 DasV. I feel you on the dry-clean…family will squezze themselves in yo’ stuff and bring it back not cleaned. I stopped that one real quick!
And some fashions just need to stay in de’ house when you ain’t leavin’ home. MK that’d be translated to -Yo’ pajama pants aint’ workin’ and slippers and socks too. NO! Now when i see you head out for the night you bling down. What is that?
By Demi
December 4, 2007 4:32 PM | Link to this
DasV bay you keep I got mad love for my matures..this one sister who is shape like an upside down bowling pin, love wearing beyond tight clothes…a female version of Mr.Brown from meet the Browns.
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 4:32 PM | Link to this
SexyLeggs, DasV, Cee
If you want to read an interesting book on the history of African American fashion and culture, check out- Stylin’: African American Expressive Culture from Its Beginnings to the Zoot Suit”
This book was written by two Euro-Australian historians and it is truly on point. And now I know where the “boogie” look comes from…a must read.
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this
DasV
I have always said that if fashion is a matter of taste, then some folks wear “bad breath” everyday. And if a fashion faux pas was punishable by a criminal sentence, then some folks would be dressed for death row-lo
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 4:41 PM | Link to this
OH and DasV one day I just said to a intern here at work. She walked over to my desk one day to ask a question and I just turned around and saw legs and cleavlage with some colors everywhere, something i don’t remember exact. and i said ….Where are you going?…she started laughing. I giggled too b/c i was not letting her off the hook (laughing it off). So we got in a convo about proper dress…she was cool and embraced it. Great academic graduate of Hampton homegirl school me on some things too.
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 4:41 PM | Link to this
Sounds like an interesting read to me. I love to read anything on African American Culture. From the zoot suit do the diddy bob (the swagger of a man from the streets) to the swagger of the man in the board room….man o man!
By Demi
December 4, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this
M’Karyl have you notice how white sportcasters try to dress since M.Irvin, D.Sanders and other B-ball players showed up 5 years ago?
We brothers make cheap suits look good, LOL
By DasV
December 4, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this
M’ i aint mad atcha for the naming convention…
LOL@that long book title, but putting in my palm to p’up at the library
and mind if i steal that one: ‘dressing bad breathe everyday’
LOLROTF@ demi’s upside down mrs. brown
By M'Karyl
December 4, 2007 4:50 PM | Link to this
*SexyLeggs8
It covers fromslavery to 20th century how the AA style in fashion developed and what factors influenced it expression. It really does explain why we do have our own unique code and manner when it comes to dress. It even covers teh difference in the South and the North, etc.
Ciao good folk until…stay safe…I am gooing to cocktail mingle with the ppl who work in this bldg compliments of the landlord co.
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 4:52 PM | Link to this
M’ Okay. Thanks for the suggestion on the African Culture book.
By DasV
December 4, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this
CEE good-lookin out wit that graduate.
SexyLeggs girl, you got a hank-ka-ring fo some man aintcha??!
By DasV
December 4, 2007 4:56 PM | Link to this
a black man does make a cheap suit look good!!
By Cemeeli
December 4, 2007 4:57 PM | Link to this
Hey Demi since i do get down with Sport Center, ESPN, 5th Quater and other shows of famous sportcasters/commentaries. Yes I have notice that change.
Cheap suits…nah…just cultured. ;-)
By SexyLeggs
December 4, 2007 4:59 PM | Link to this
Great posts today.
Everybody have a restful and safe evening.