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DEL.ICIO.USWe met on StalkerSpace…
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
My cousin has the following posted in his “About Me” section on The Facebook:
I want to take the opportunity to say this part is ridiculous. Everyone already knows the person and if they don’t then they are a stalker, I know, it’s how I met my wife.
It makes me laugh because it’s incredibly true. If you don’t know about the person who’s page you’re viewing, it’s probably because you have no business knowing.
But with the popularity of myspace.com and thefacebook.com growing, it seems that they’re actually starting to edge out online dating sites, according to an article in Business Week this month.
For the full story, click here.
Although most of us don’t use online dating sites at all, I know a few people on the blog have been encouraged to try them recently. For any of you that have signed up for an online dating service, have you had any success? Is your rate of return better, worse, or similar to meeting people “in real life”?
Have you ever used your social networking site to find a date? Via friends’ pages or randomly? Do you think it’s easier to meet someone via myspace or thefacebook through which you may have a mutual friend versus meeting someone more randomly via a dating service?
If you haven’t ever used social networking to find a date, would you ever? Why or why not? Do you agree with the article that the stigma of online dating (and possibly finding a date via social networking) has diminished?
Do you know of any success stories via online dating or online social networking?
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By Lady J
November 30, 2007 9:21 AM | Link to this
Happy Friday Folks!!!
By Lady J
November 30, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this
Online dating does not work for me…Met a few folks and conversed and when we meet up talk more the excitement leaves an for the most part there isn’t a physical attraction so I bounce not that I am all that but I have to be attracted a lil physically to even consider to talk more…i don’t waste folks time so I either go mute or just say straight up that we are not good matches…But I erased all profiles bc it is just not for me…Face to face impromtu meeting and going from there is more my stlye…J
By SexyLeggs
November 30, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this
Good morning everyone. I am well rested and ready to go. Got in the bed at 9:30. Hopefully, I’ll comprehend posts a little better today. Never been on myspace or facebook, so I’ll lurk a little today.
By AmazonRed
November 30, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this
Well happy Friday all!
I am one of the folks who was encouraged to try a dating website. I decided to do it after a friend got engaged to a man she met on match.com. Since then, I’ve found a good number of folks I know have at least tried it!
My experience has been real positive thus far, probably because I’ve been very selective in who I respond to. My criteria is very narrow. I’ve had conversations with several but I am taking it very slow. Much to the guys frustration, I’m sure. LOL Couple have told me that their membership is running up soon so they’d like to lock it down. But if you aren’t ready, you aren’t ready. I’ve met one guy from the site and he seemed nice. Too early to tell if there is long term potential.
That being said, I always get tons of messages everytime I log into MySpace. Ironically, I wouldn’t use that site to find a date! At least with dating websites you know that person paid money and that they are looking for someone. Even if their intentions weren’t honorable, there is some accountability. I just think MySpace breeds the randomness. I simply don’t respond.
By Lady J
November 30, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this
Bella my about me sections were very short and simple…bc youneva know who is searching and taking notes…lol
By ATLien (of StraightFromTheA.com)
November 30, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this
Good Morning Gang!
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
November 30, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this
Morning All and Happy Friday!! TGIF
I havent ventured into the online dating realm and probably wont so I will lurk on this one.
SexyLeggs I am well rested too despite the fact that I was up watching the Cowboys beat the Packers.
By Lady J
November 30, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this
Morning ATLien (of StraightFromTheA.com)!!!
By Lady J
November 30, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this
@AmazonRed…I went on the speed dating sites you gave and going to try in Feb when I am in 100% commission…Copelands seems like a nice spot to meet n greet and play that game…Have you participated yet?
By M'Karyl
November 30, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this
Red Couple have told me that their membership is running up soon so they’d like to lock it down.
Oh well, then that sounds like a personal problem to me-lol. What they fundage loose its wattage. Uh, uh red flag those joes girl.
By abc
November 30, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this
I tried online dating sites for awhile. I grew weary of all the first dates, they all felt like blind dates. Online dating sites and emails/phone calls in advance of the first dates don’t really illuminate much, if anything, about the person in a true light. I only asked 2 out of 11 or 12 out for a 2nd date, and then decided I’d just have to meet people in the real world instead.
By Lady J
November 30, 2007 9:45 AM | Link to this
MO hun, I don’t care for those Cowboys…LOL I feel asleep quick…Gots nothing for GB either! LOL
By Dan
November 30, 2007 9:46 AM | Link to this
I think that when I knew I was getting old when people were telling me about Facebook and MySpace and my reaction was… I’ma grown azz man.
I just have not the time or the energy to connect with a lot of people like that. “Wanna be my friend?” No. I don’t know you. From classmates.com “I haven’t seen you in a while, I joined your site, left you a message.”…If I haven’t seen you since high school..there..is..a..reason.
I’m just not into websites for connectivity. I’m simple, I need to know if your breath stinks, I need to know if you have bad teeth, there are just certain thing that a face-to-face can give me.
By AmazonRed
November 30, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this
Lady J - I have not tried it yet. I was going to sign up for one for my birthday next week, but I now have plans. I have a couple of irons in the fire now, but if nothing pans out, I will probably look to try it after the new year.
M’Karyl, forget red flags. Those are the ones that don’t get follow up reponses. I’m not one for internet THREAT dating! LOL
By Lady J
November 30, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this
Dan I am younger and still didn’t frequent daily and send those crazy forwards and talk to people online I could have called or text…especially those right in the area…It was cool at first to connect with old highschool classmates but after that excitement died and we were just being nosy seeing what every1 did I was like ok…I blog daily but that wasn’t everyday and it is one chic that st8 overdose on myspace…won’t call her out…lol
By "Longtime Lurker"
November 30, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this
Mornin all…
I met a young lady on-line late last year and although we are friends, we have had many dates and remain close!
She is one of the most intriguing and intelligent people I have ever met, so I do believe in possibilities with dating sites!
By Lady Dark with Dimples
November 30, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this
Good Morning Everyone!!
I would definitely try online dating if for some reason me and SO don’t make it down the aisle. I’m adventurous like that and I would view it as such.
I do have a myspace page…but mainly it’s for me and my friends.. I’ve listed myself as 99 yrs old so I never get any views :-)
By AmazonRed
November 30, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this
Lurker, this lady sounds like a good fit for you. Why are you guys “just friends?”
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
November 30, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this
Lady J I dont care for the Packer or the Cowboys but I love a good football game. I was hoping to see a really good game like that Patriots/Eagles game but to no avail. I fell asleep as well somewhere in the 4th quarter.
By M'Karyl
November 30, 2007 10:08 AM | Link to this
AmazonRed
Sure you right. I can’t feel your desperation. And I won’t, no I won’t- I can’t feel your desperation. And I won’t try, I won’t try. No, no, no. Hear what I say, get lost today. Cause I can’t fell your desperation…(sung to the tune of “I Can’t Get No Satisfation”)lol
Off the topic: In most areas the local number to call to report crimes or tips is a Crime Stoppers, etc. Not in the Commonwealth of Virginia. You call 1-800-lock-u-up, cause they will lock you up-lol
By Lady J
November 30, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this
I know MO a good game is great!! Now that eagles game agaisnt those fake Patriots was a great one!!! LOL
By Lady Dark with Dimples
November 30, 2007 10:15 AM | Link to this
Mo do you have the NFL package?
By SexyLeggs
November 30, 2007 10:15 AM | Link to this
This cracked me up…I’ve listed myself as 99 yrs old so I never get any views.
I’m with you on this one Dan, I’m just not into websites for connectivity. I’m simple, I need to know if your breath stinks, I need to know if you have bad teeth, there are just certain thing that a face-to-face can give me.* RIGHT ON!
By "Longtime Lurker"
November 30, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this
@AmazonRed Why rush the situation! I believe in taking my time and getting to know each other and she just came out of an eight year relationship.
By DreamsMaterialize
November 30, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this
Online dating sets you up for disappointment. It’s like reading a book and then going to see the movie based on the book. You usually walk out thinking, “damn, the book was so much better.” This is because when you read, you create your own images of the characters, scenery, situations, and this is probably far different than what is portrayed in the movie. The same is true when you date online. When you read a person’s messages/notes, you create an image of who this person is and what they are like. When you actually meet the person, you more than likely realize that the image you created is far better than the real person. When you date in person, the image you create is based on the actual person (personality, behavior, intonation, etc), not on your interpretation of the notes you’ve read.
By AmazonRed
November 30, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this
Ah…my bad Lurker. It seems like you’ve known her for a whole year. How slow do you need to go really. LOL
That being said, do your thing. You sound really happy.
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
November 30, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this
Lady Dark No I just happen to have Directv! LOL But I need to get that NFL package for real since I luvs football like I do. :-)
Anybody watch The Wire? The last season start Jan 6th
By Lady J
November 30, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this
@DreamsMaterialize…Great way to sum it up…That is how I felt also…
By SlimDiva
November 30, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this
Happy Friday…TGIF…LITERALLY!!! I’m looking forward to a relaxing weekend.
I recently tried online dating. It has been interesting at best. I’ve communicated with some people. Some have been very persistent about getting my contact numbers and/or meeting me. I’m taking it EXTREMELY slow. I’ve met a few who don’t resemble the photos that are posted, but taken 10 years ago…LOL!!!
I rather stick with the coincidental meeting of someone new rather than continue with online dating.
By AmazonRed
November 30, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this
Dreams you bring up a good point. However, maybe try going into it with lower expectations. When I’ve met folks offline, one thing that tickles me is that they look much better than their pictures. LOL.
Also, I always try to establish a strong rapport on the phone before even agreeing to meet. If we can’t find anything to talk about on the phone, I doubt face to face conversation will be more pleasent.
By Lady J
November 30, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this
Yes MO!!!!!!!!!!!!!11 And can’t wait!!!!! You J has been satying with Mom dukes since Oct and she has Direct TV and I love it bc of XM radio and HBO…J is getting hers installed 12/1 and can’t wait!!!! hope I don’t have a XM party when I return home next Thursday!!!! LOLOLOL
By BLAT
November 30, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this
…The Grand Poo is officially not going to comment on this blog topic on the grounds that he just has too dayum much ish out on the web…
But Off the Record… It’s a muddafuggin GOLD MINE. I just feel it lends itself to my approach to getting to know a girl. ONE: You can find out a lot about a person going in that you may not learn for up to a month if you meet them on the regular, such as potential common friends(for obvious reasons), places they hang out(ditto), and potential things you can use to find things in common. TWO: Once you’ve established some kind of rapport, you can ask a lot of questions that you’d either feel uncomfortable asking in person, or they’d be likely to not answer.
I’ve had one or two WTF??? moments when I met a girl, but overall, the experiences have been wildly entertaining and rewarding, and i’ve met friends and “Potentials” from all over.
The trick is to get the phone number as soon as possible, just like at a club, and establish phone rapport…. At that point, it starts to feel a lot less like online dating and a lot more like regular dating.
Blat exits, having NOT said any of what u just heard…..
By Lady J
November 30, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this
@DreamsMaterialize…It is so draining to after conversing and reading then meeting folk over and over and nothing prevails like getting to know each other more…i really try not to be too shallow but online can take one on an emtional ride when they really trying to I guess to hard…
By "Longtime Lurker"
November 30, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this
@AmazonRed What is wrong with spending a year to get to know someone, before you are ready to date?
I think spending a year or more getting to know someone, before you actually consider becoming involved in a new relationship is actually a good thing, because you are building a foundation and we all know that if you try to build a house without a foundation, it will often fail.
Also,you need ample downtime, between relationships and after eight years of dating the same person, you should use a year or so to determine exactly what you want out of life and a new relationship!
New relationships often fail because you fail to plan!
By ATLien (of StraightFromTheA.com)
November 30, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this
MySpace is great for networking cause you have a captive audience…but I wouldn’t dream of dating anyone from there…not on purpose :)
I’m with you SlimDiva I can’t get past the idea of meeting someone online for a date. You lose the personal aspect like chemistry and body language that you get when meeting someone in person…
By ATLien (of StraightFromTheA.com)
November 30, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this
…and HEY Lady J! waving
I’m in and out today so if I don’t respond know that I still luv ya!
By Georgia Girl
November 30, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this
I just married a man I met through Myspace about 9 and a half months ago. My original intentions in meeting new people through Myspace was to try and find some folks to hang out with in a new town. All the college friends have moved away and I was living back at home, so I really just needed a new social network. Yes, there were definitely some weirdos during the time my profile was public but it really doesn’t take a whole lot to figure out who the weirdos are. The man I married was polite (a BIG plus in a setting like Myspace) and friendly, so we set up a low-key date to just have dinner and check out some hang-outs around town. A great first date, and here we are, married a month and a half.
Like any dating situation, I think the most important thing is to be cautious. Myspace made it easy for me to filter who I responded to-you can really tell a lot about someone by what they put up for the world to see. And I was fortunate to stumble across someone who is so compatible. But I think if you have a good idea of what you’re looking for, and are certain of what WON’T work for you, it’s as good as a dating service or a singles club. There are a lot of people out there, don’t you think the odds are reasonable that there are plenty of normal people looking for other normal people, for friendship and love? I think so anyway, ‘cause we both were. :D
By AmazonRed
November 30, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this
Lurker - there is nothing wrong with that if it works for you. As said previously. Do your thing.
By ATLien (of StraightFromTheA.com)
November 30, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this
Anybody watch The Wire? The last season start Jan 6th
Mo You just made my day!!!
By Lady J
November 30, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this
MO, the whole purpose was for the Wire to…I got so excited but that is the bobm show!!! LOVE IT!!!! Sex and the City anfd The Wire are box sets I will own in life…:)
By Staceye
November 30, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this
ARed I agree if someone is paying to meet someone then they would be least likely to be the carzy My Space crap you get. I get all kinds of weird messages on My Space. Sometimes I do not even respond.
Dan ouch baby! LOL Do I need to send you that t-shirt picture in a hurry? You sound a little perturbed!
**Lady Dark..I too have myself as 99 but I still get hits! Can’t win huh? How come you put what you want and don’t want but they look at your pictures and do not read what you say!
By Lady J
November 30, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this
WOW!!! Congrats GA Girl!!!
By handsome
November 30, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this
Hie u’all. Bored as hell, need someone to talk to right now. Which nice female 30-50, wants to talk to me?
By brownsugarvixen
November 30, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this
“Mornin All”
Not much experience in the online dating, I’m sure that there are many pros..&..cons! I have a bp. page and I log in to check messages for those whom I communicate with. I get lots of notes, but it’s mostly from guys that are looking for a physical connection, which I clearly state on my page what my interest are….Lookin for a man isn’t one. It sort of becomes redundant very quickly. To many personal questions, that are utterly disrepectful. I’ve had the pleasure of making friends with a handful. Me personally I make better connections in person. Any one can seem genuine through cyber space.
By Lady Dark with Dimples
November 30, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this
Staceye Because it’s just a game to them…
Georgia That was a nice story! How long did you date your hubby before you guys got married?
By AmazonRed
November 30, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this
Staceye, since the blog will be closed on Sunday…HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
handsome - Just missed your cut off, I’m 29 and 360 days! LOL. How old are you? 50?
By SexyLeggs
November 30, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this
Happy B-day to you Staceye since I won’t be able to wish you one on Sunday. Have a great day and hopefully you’ll get everything you want for that particular day.
By DreamsMaterialize
November 30, 2007 11:05 AM | Link to this
AmazonRed I actually went into it with NO expectations. lol Just wanted to see what the buzz was about and kinda got drawn in.
Lady J It wasn’t draining for me because I never really expected much from it. I try not to impose my expectations on people. It is what it is. If I expect something different from you than what you are, then I’m setting myself up for disappointment…my own fault.
By T&W
November 30, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this
We are the lucky ones… I was about to exit the on-line dating arena after three months of not having met anyone I felt was worth meeting in person. I came across his site, he didn’t have a picture of himself posted, but others that interested me. My comment was nice picture… He looked me up and sent a note. Mind you I was on my way out, but decided to give it one more try and cut to the chase by giving him my phone number (at this point, I’d be able to tell within 20 mins.) He called the next day… Over a year later and we couldn’t be happier. Lucky, I guess because we both knew what we wanted and recognized it immediately when we found it! Note, we are 44 & 50 years old.
By ATLien (of StraightFromTheA.com)
November 30, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this
stepping in again
hey…i just came across Ezra’s (aka Buddha from I love NY) Hell Date Episode on YouTube … I KNOW I’m not the only one who watches that garbage…LOL!
By handsome
November 30, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this
AmazonRed,u about good, am 45. How tall are u?
By Staceye
November 30, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this
ARed & Sxyleggs Thank you guys!
By AmazonRed
November 30, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this
T&W, that is a great story. I do wonder about guys on dating sites with no picture. It seems like a waste. But part of me thinks there are a couple of billionaires that want to see which woman responds to who they really are. LOL.
But my guess is most of them are just trolls. LOL
By Lady J
November 30, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this
Got you DreamsMaterialize…Thanks!
By SeanJohnson3000
November 30, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this
Sup Blog….I have tried the online thing…has it pros and cons…and i have ran across some very intriqing folks…although people can paint a picture of who they want you to believe they are online..you can really get to know a person and how their personality is via online…and certain walls and barriers that are up can be bypassed because people can communicate via keystrokes in ways that they are unable to verbally face to face. Me personally the cons out weighed the pros so i am super hesistant….I lurk on myspace and its very entertaining..i browse various zip codes and enjoy looking at the pictures and reading the blogs and surveys..allows me to peek into the lives of strangers..recently i have noticed about 5 folks out and about in my area of whom i have viewed their page…One thing i find so funny is…you have so many folks on the net wanting/craving attention..but act like they are not on the net for the attention…why have a thong pic and set our page to private?
By kinderbabe
November 30, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this
hey lady dark w/dimples.:) how have you been?
hey blogsters:) how’s everyone doign today?
By Lady J
November 30, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this
lol ARED!!!!! I did not make the cut either!!! gots less than 24 months!!!
By AmazonRed
November 30, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this
handsome - I’m 5’11”…How tall are you? Why are you trying to talk to women 15 years your junior?
By Lady J
November 30, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this
KB it is Friday what else can I say! LOL
By handsome
November 30, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this
Why are you trying to talk to women 15 years your junior? I’m 6’2’. If she can be called a woman, we good.U dont like older man, i take it? I dont mind older or younger woman as long as we compatible on the conversation.
By Page1908
November 30, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this
I agree with SJ in terms of online dating having its pros and cons. What we sometimes forget is that we can meet plenty of weirdos or good people in person too just like we can online, so to me, I don’t think online dating is worse, it’s just a different way of meeting people that you wouldn’t normally meet in your daily dealings.
As for MySpace or any of those….ummm NO. I have never had an interest in any of those, but, to each their own, I suppose.
By T&W
November 30, 2007 11:40 AM | Link to this
AmazonRed, We talked and laughed so much that 4 days later he asked me out, then we had 3 days until date night (we were so excited). I’d almost forgotten that I didn’t know what he really looked like (he knew what I looked like and jokingly described himself). I kinda thought to myself, it won’t matter “I like him”. As it turned out, he’s just right for me… I just thought “Umh, Umh, Umh” perfect.
By Dan
November 30, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this
I guess I project my own insecurities on to other people in the sense that I rarely, if ever, believe the things I read about somebody online.
From the very first time online, I learned that the use of an “alter ego” online was not only popular, but necessary.
In fact, this may be the only site where I’m anywhere near myself.
By AmazonRed
November 30, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this
Hey handsome, I’m just busting your chops really. :-) No I don’t prefer older men, but that’s not to say I won’t, or haven’t, dated them.
On online dating sites tho, I reject all men over 40. You’re gonna have to run into me on the street. LOL
By DJ
November 30, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this
These social networking sites I think will continue to take over dating sites. You can find out more about what your getting yourself into with this. Since Im a single guy and there seems to be nothing around as to what Im after, myspace can help scan that out. You meet her at a bar, her name is Alice Smith..go look her up. If shes all skanked out online, well then shes a skank and your gonna have to pass on her. Unless your into skanks!
By AmazonRed
November 30, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this
T&W - I think you found a needle in a haystack. Really! I love your story.
One question for you and the blog, what do you say when folks ask you how you met? I can see myself telling my close friends and family the truth…but for “aqaintences”…I don’t know how I feel about saying I met him on the internet or a dating website.
By M'Karyl
November 30, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this
Staceye
Feliz cumplianos chica
By AmazonRed
November 30, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this
Dan, you’re keeping it real on here…how do we know it’s the real you and not your alter ego? LOL
By Page1908
November 30, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this
LOL @ all skanked out online! LMAOOOO. Dudes can be all skanked out online too, with their shirts off, showing their gold chain, tats, and they usually have shades on. It also seems to be a requirement that they take either the “prison” pose or the pose in front of their car showing the rims. PUHLEEZE! GTFOH That is SO tired! If I see a dude with any of those things, he will be nothing but a jump off in my book (that is IF I was looking for a jump off).
By Redhdsuzq
November 30, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this
I met my boyfriend on myspace a year ago. We actually met in another state, but through odd circumstances both moved to ATL, where we have stayed together. I have teenagers who all had myspace, so I got it to keep up with them. I will say that my friends and I used the ‘dating’ websites for a little minute a few years ago, but none of us found anyone we’d spend more than a lunch date with! I did have a friend in VA who dated every other man on the yahoo personals until she found ‘a’ one that she liked. Who knows, right?
By M'Karyl
November 30, 2007 12:04 PM | Link to this
Dan I do not think that you are really projecting your insecurities, but rahter that you are just exercising good common sense. It is so true that the images ppl project online are often times a gross distortion of who they really are. The online veil abets this deception. It is just the way it is. I think anyone who does not question or use a discretionary measure of judgment is truly deceiving themselves. All that glitters is not gold.
By Cemeeli
November 30, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this
LOL @ Page handing out chicko sticks again today I see! If this aint tiiied —-> dudes w/shirts off, showing their gold chain, tats, and they usually have shades on…the “prison” pose… There’s that TACO MEAT look at him…lol.
Hello everyone! Hope you all have a wonderful Friday and Weekend!
By Staceye
November 30, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this
M’Karyl Gracia Mami!
Take Care all….I’m out!
By Lady J
November 30, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this
Hey Cemeeli!!!
By Page1908
November 30, 2007 12:21 PM | Link to this
LOL Cemeeli! Girl, why did I totally rock a Candy Necklace the other night when I went to dinner at Cheesecake Factory in Perimeter Mall! It was so bananas!
Girl, those dudes with the no shirts on and that dang taco meat! UGHHHH! Then they have some bs on there like “I am looking for a God fearing woman”! I’m wtf?! Dude you got your shirt off! mean muggin LOL
By Tazzee
November 30, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this
morning folks!
I’ve tried on-line dating. Like SJ3000 said, I’ve found there are more cons than pros. But it was a cool way to ‘meet’ men. I’d be sitting under the dryer at home chatting with folks.
I’ve learned that LDR definitely wouldn’t work for me, unless the guy lived in Atlanta.
As far as social networking, I don’t do facebook or myspace. I have a myspace page but I haven’t really done anything with it. My 20yr class reunion created a real cool, private site and I’ve connected with some folks from there.
As far as meeting people online though - I’ve met some of my dearest friends on this spot right here. I remember telling my uncle that I’d met some friends online and he gave me this crazy look as if to say ‘you got me up in your house with all these potentially crazy people!’ You know some folks think only weirdos hang out online.
But it took a while before my family and other friends stopped referring to the friends I met online as my ‘online friends’
By Georgia Girl
November 30, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this
Lady J Thanks!
Lady Dark It all sounds outrageous, but…our first date was 2 days after Valentines Day. I knew I was in love with him after a month, and by about month 2, it was certain that he was exactly the man I was supposed to be with. There were no games, everything was honest (even the sticky subjects, especially exes), and it all just felt exactly right. Now I know what they mean when they say “When you know, you’ll know!”
By Page1908
November 30, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this
Tazzee- LOL @ ‘online friends”. Yeah, I see what you mean about LDR with dudes other than those that live here in “The A”…lol wink
By aka_stars
November 30, 2007 12:37 PM | Link to this
Hah..interesting topic..
I actually met my fiancee from hotornot.com. He was stationed in Iraq at the time and contacted me. We exchanged contact info and talked on a pretty regular basis. I treated him like any other friend I had ever met: joking, teasing, etc.
Later on, when he was home on his 2 week leave back in January 2006, we decided to finally meet so he could save me the trouble of being a fifth wheeler while out with some friends. And we’ve been together ever since.
We get married December 30. I guess we’re one of those success stories..
By Georgia Girl
November 30, 2007 12:38 PM | Link to this
Sorry about that Lady Dark, I didn’t even answer your question entirely! He proposed just shy of dating four months, the wedding was right at 8 months after the first date. Still learning about each other, but completely in love and have the same values and goals in life and the determination to see it through.
By M'Karyl
November 30, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this
Tazzee
You know some folks think only weirdos hang out online
Have they ever walked the streets of the ATL? 1) The old blind black man who used to be down at 5 pts barking and talking to himself and “God”.
2) The old militant christian lady at 5 pts with her sign talking hell and brimstone.
3) The brother who hangs out in the VA-HI area with his stretch pants showing off his over-sized organ.
4)The brohter on the MARTA train walking from car to car talking about “help me, hep y’all. I’m homeless and I need some $$-all while sporting new Tims.
And, heaven only knows how many more can be named-lol
By binford
November 30, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this
YAWN I hate when you get out of bed and it’s past noon - really a buzzkill! :)
On Topic- I was on a dating site for a while and had some good experiences, it was not enough to keep going on. Too many girls only has head shots, which every time I decided to take the risk, the girl was a lot bigger than I anticipated. And what’s with the un-natural love of dogs and cats? “I can’t live without my pet!” That is CRAZY! Scary enough - I met some people I have met outside of the site on the site and we went out, and I realized there was probably a reason I didn’t ask them out when I met them before ;P I suppose that is the price you pay for the search (that and price of the date!).
By Georgia Girl
November 30, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this
And regarding someone’s question about what do you say when asked how you met, here’s my take… I go for honest! Online dating is not as taboo as it once was, and I want to show people that it CAN work, as long as you’re honest and realistic. If you’re getting to know someone and you start getting a weird vibe, move on! But otherwise, I think there really are a whole lot of normal, non-psychopaths out there just looking for friends. We don’t all have a lot of opportunities to meet people, so sometimes the internet is a great starting point. But it’s just a tool, and you really do have to be cautious about how much info about yourself you put out there. But as for me, I have NO shame in how I met my husband. I don’t think it’s any stranger than saying you met at a club, or in school, or at the park, or at the grocery store, or wherever.
By aka_stars
November 30, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this
Oops, correction..
He was on leave in January 2005. That’s what I get for not proof reading!
By kechia wilkerson
November 30, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this
hi i really do recommemned the dating sites for people who are busy and dont have time to hang out i met my husbad three years ago on aol.com and at our reception we learned that one of his friend were engaged an they met on v103 and have now been married for two years i guess it depends on the people who you meet.
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
November 30, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this
M’Karyl ROTFLMAO @ your post!! I came in contact with all those crazies on MARTA!! The 4th person asking for money errday actually got cussed at by my friend! She was like “stop disturbing folks early in the morning with that mess! We all need some dayum money that’s why we are going to WORK!” :-) He shut up though and we didnt see him for a while after that.
By SeanJohnson3000
November 30, 2007 1:00 PM | Link to this
@ MaryKay..lol..i remember one and two from your list….
Any one lived on the southside in the mid to late 90’s remember the white dude with the long hair and beard that walked up and down tara blvd barefooted 24/7 non stop like he was a white jesus?
By M'Karyl
November 30, 2007 1:15 PM | Link to this
SJ3000
See, you can get those freak shows in the ATL, any area, any time. But not here in the VA, cuz they will call 1-800-lock-u-up, cart you away and dissolve the key-lol! Ain’t no crackheads and homeless ppl pan-handling in downtown,cuz they will lock-u-up.
By SexyLeggs
November 30, 2007 1:21 PM | Link to this
Who remembers the guy who kept a sock in his pants on the corner of Charles and Ponce. And, how about Superman who cruised downtown all day long. Whew!
Ok, you guys can get back to your online dating stories…
By M'Karyl
November 30, 2007 1:27 PM | Link to this
SexyLeggs
That is the man I am talking about with the “over-sized organ in his stretchpants-lol
By M'Karyl
November 30, 2007 1:34 PM | Link to this
I have read several of the post about the onlne dating scene. And it pretty much reflects what I have heard other ppl say whenever that topic comes up. I have never done online hook-ups, but I was skeptical of personal ads too, especiallly since I knew some of the ppl placing those ads (so I knew why they did not anybody-lol).
I guess I am rather old school in that I would prefer to have aface-to-face encounter when I meet someone. Maybe that is because for me the attraction is either instaneous or it is not. It has been that way with every guy I have ever been attracted to-bam! wow! or nothing. I do not think that using intermediary sources would provide the same thing.
By handsome
November 30, 2007 1:35 PM | Link to this
what do lonely hearts do…at Christmas?
By Page1908
November 30, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this
LOL @ the dude with the “over-sized” organ and the stretch pants! ctfu
By QC
November 30, 2007 1:42 PM | Link to this
Hey kinderB, Cemeeli, Page
i’m ready for this day to end…is there any type of cough medicine to take that won’t make you drowsy..even if it’s a non-drowsy medicine?
By M'Karyl
November 30, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this
handsome
Contribute their love to something/someone where a need transcends the small, momentary needs or wishes of ourselves-do some good for someone who is not as fortunate as you are-and who knows you may meet another person who is doing the same thing for the same reason. In all things rejoice!!!
By Dan
November 30, 2007 1:47 PM | Link to this
@ the guy that calls himself Handsome because I can’t do it. You will be referred to as H going forward.
Well homie, you can imbibe whatever you imbibe and feel depressed.
Help the homeless and less priviledged.
Or simply thank the Almighty that you are alive and doing well and chill.
Loneliness is function of not having enough to fill you. Another person can’t do that for you. Learn to love yourself first.
While I’m often alone, I’m never lonely.
By Cemeeli
November 30, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this
Page this is not cute;Taco Meat looking for a God fearing woman. What about that bear look, dude!?! lol
M’Karl lol @ The old militant christian lady at 5 pts with her sign talking hell and brimstone. A while back a friend of mine went to The Underground and had to walk past her to get to the crosswalk. My friend had on a chiffon blouse (remember when those were in?) anyway when we got up to the militant missionary which she was right at the crossing light and loud wit it! So i was like… auw hellz. At first she had calm/quiet, uhm (caught me by surprise) but then she says out LOUD…And look at ‘cha YOU LOOK LIKE A HOOKER with that DEVIL’s wife shirt. Ya’ going to HELL!!! …omg..to this day we still laugh at that. ROTF!
By Page1908
November 30, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this
Hey QC. Maybe you should try some Cod Liver Oil capsules. That should help.
By Cemeeli
November 30, 2007 1:56 PM | Link to this
Hey QC! Tylenol Cold n Cough!
When you talk to Darrell, I send my greetings. ;-)
I hope you get to feelin’ better. It’s the weekend girl!
By M'Karyl
November 30, 2007 2:01 PM | Link to this
Cemeeli
Chirl, she done called me a few things-lol! And I have, on occassion and depending on my mood, graciously reciprocated a comment or two at her-ha ha. She be live(and loud). Some days 5 pts is better than a three-ring circus.
By Page1908
November 30, 2007 2:04 PM | Link to this
LOL @ Chiffon blouse! That was when dudes were wearing those Rayon shirts with the overalls suspenders with one strap hanging down. dang I miss my Guess overalls! lol
Cemeeli, my friend met a dude who once they met in person said that he believed in having sx on the first date and he wanted it bear back, so you never know what the dudes are really looking for.
By Cemeeli
November 30, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this
@ Page. Uh-oh…..Cod Liver Oil capsules. I use them to seasonally and i tell you i just hate to drink anything cuase i’m scared to burp. And mother with her ‘remedy for errythang’ self talking about…Just drink water ALL while you talking them. I’m like and that’s it huh ma! She be on that mineral oil, cod liver, flax seed all that! QC They do work. …ugh..taste horrible.
By SeanJohnson3000
November 30, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this
@ Page 1980..you musta been raised by your grand mother…
By M'Karyl
November 30, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this
@Dan While I’m often alone, I’m never lonely. Amen to that!
QC
Depends on the symptons that you have. Some of hte Alka-seltzer tablet products work well and are more immediate in kicking in.
By Cemeeli
November 30, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this
@ Page - WTH!?! he believed in having sx on the first date and he wanted it bear back, <—-This dude needs to meet a chic that believes in cutting folk. You know the type chic that will make a negro sit his @ down.
I owned ONE piece of Chiffon in my life and can’t remember if i ever wore it. Talked into getting on from the same gf.
@M’Karyl - My gf said some stuff to her but it was so long ago i can’t remember. And by the time she looked over at me. I was …just couldn’t keep my composure. LOL!
By QueDogTeaching
November 30, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this
What up blog Said while going to buy Page a Ring Pop to go with her candy necklace.
On Topic I don’t have a personal Myspace page, but I did create one for the alumni of my school to get information. And yes I am addicted to this vehicle for information. The don’t call it Crackspace for nothing. I have been contacted by those who just want to know what you are doing now, old friends that I have not seen in a long time, as well as old flames. I can also say that with the pictures that are downloaded, and the music that is attached, it shows more of the persons true personality.
On the crazy homeless downtown. One night leaving the underground going towards Walters I saw a dude counting bricks on the side of the building. He was hitting each brick hard with his pointer finger and counting out loud. But what was even more crazy was that we stood there for about 3 mins to see if he would miss-count.
By QC
November 30, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this
Thanks M’Karyl & Cemeeli
It’s not a cold but a very, very nagging cough and my throat is itchy/scratchy I’ve been told to try everything from 666’s to gin/lemon/honey, put vick’s vapor rub on my feet w/footies and put it behind my knee caps, put a red onion under my bed, take some cod liver oil pills
Cemeeli, i will do that ;-) 4 ya
Have a great weekend all!
By Cemeeli
November 30, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this
………stop the press……..!
Page WORE a candy necklace to Cheesecake Factory @ Perimeter Mall. That is fuuuunnnny!
By Page1908
November 30, 2007 2:19 PM | Link to this
SJ- LOL, no, but my boss is an older lady and she was telling one of my admin assistants to take some cod liver oil the other day, and she took them and it worked.
I would suggest working out, taking lots of vitamin c and eating grapefruit. I am not big on taking medicines. When I feel something coming on, I will go immediately to Yoga class and after I fee a lot better.
By handsome
November 30, 2007 2:19 PM | Link to this
Dan and M’Karyl, i’m good, just need a little rubbing.my back is sore from working and jst some company from a like minded female. Is this a bad way to meet? Who is out there, i see all these females talking. Who wants to talk to mwa? And yes, iam handsome Dan
By Noel
November 30, 2007 2:20 PM | Link to this
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MAURICE SOUDERS, WEST FULTON CLASS OF 1981; although he was suppose to graduate from BTW class of 1980
By Beautiful
November 30, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this
i think ya’ll already know how i feel about online dating. i was with my ex for 8 years. we met on a phone dating thingy sponsored by a radio station in oakland, ca in 1997. go raiders!
i don’t go out much at all, so i have this funny feeling that i will find my hubby online. looking for a man in the comfort of my own home is wonderful. what can be better that that?
i have used yahoo personals, match and myspace. i’m not active right now and not wishing to date, but i do have a myspace page, angeliquegeorgia@yahoo.com. stop in and say hey.
By Page1908
November 30, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this
LOL QDT! Thanks! I SO love Ring Pops! I had a purple one last week, but I left it on my desk at work over the weekend…lol
Cemeeli- Yeah, dude said that to her. He said he was just being upfront.
And yeah, the candy necklace was so yummylicious!! I’m such a girlie-girl lol
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
November 30, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this
QC all those remedies work but I wouldnt recommend that 666, that stuff is gawd-awful!! I have done the Cod liver pills, apple cider vinegar, red onion under the bed (breaks fever), Vicks in some hot tea (dont ask) and the newest one ECHINACEA! For the scratchy throat try a hot toddy…
By SeanJohnson3000
November 30, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this
@ QC..the cod liver oil works…i had a cold coming on earlier this week..i pop one and about 1500 mg of vitamin c and the symptoms went away.
By M'Karyl
November 30, 2007 2:31 PM | Link to this
Cemeeli
he believed in having sx on the first date and he wanted it bear back, <—-This dude needs to meet a chic tha