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DEL.ICIO.USStop right there
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
We’ve all ignored them at some point in our dating history. For some of us, it took longer to start recognizing them for what they were. But for all of us, they’re an indication that we’re either
a. wasting our time with the person we’re dating
b. in danger of being emotionally or physically abused by the person we’re dating
c. in danger of being cheated on by the person we’re dating
d. all of the above.
They’re red flags.
You know what I’m talking about. And what’s interesting to me is that there are some things that didn’t seem like red flags to me early on in relationships that ended up being very clear signposts of things to come.
For example, my friend Sarah’s husband was young when they got married, and was moving straight from a household in which he was pampered and spoiled into her household…where he eventually expected her to also pamper and spoil him. Additionally, he was used to spending lots of his parents’ money before they got married…and ended up shopping away much of their finances after they got married, too! His financially dependent relationship with his parents should have been a huge red flag for my friend.
But this case is nothing compared to some of the red flags that can occur in relationships, and sometimes we’re so blinded by love that we don’t pay attention to them.
Here are some red flags that I think are pretty universal:
- Not meeting any of your SO’s friends or family after months and months of dating
- Lack of interest in you or the relationship (ideally, we shouldn’t have to list this, but you’d be surprised
- Obsessing about your activities—where you were, who you were with, etc.
What red flags would you add to this list? Have you had situations in relationships that wouldn’t necessarily be alarming to others, but in your particular relationship were an indication of things to come? What types of alarming things have you seen in other relationships where the people involved were too blind to see them?
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By Dan
November 27, 2007 8:54 AM | Link to this
Red Flag:
You don’t know where he lives, even after having sex with him.
You’re out and you here someone call him by a different name.
You see he gets strange looks for women pushing strollers.
You don’t know where he works, until one day you go through the drive in at McDonald’s….
By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"
November 27, 2007 8:56 AM | Link to this
GaMan comes in put his hands up and lowers his head…Sean Taylor dies a crazy death…another young man gone
By Dan
November 27, 2007 8:57 AM | Link to this
Red Flag:
You don’t know where he lives, even after having sex with him.
You’re out and you here someone call him by a different name.
You see he gets strange looks for women pushing strollers.
You don’t know where he works, until one day you go through the drive in at McDonald’s….
By Lady J
November 27, 2007 8:57 AM | Link to this
Morning! J will be lurking…
By Mike In Woodstock
November 27, 2007 8:58 AM | Link to this
Red Flag #4 is When the person you’re dating refers to one or both parents as “roommates”.
By Lady J
November 27, 2007 8:59 AM | Link to this
Morning, J will be lurking and taking notes!!!:)
By Rell
November 27, 2007 9:00 AM | Link to this
@DAN….word
By SlimOne
November 27, 2007 9:01 AM | Link to this
Hello, hello, hello, hello (echo)
Anybody in here? in here, here, here
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
November 27, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this
Oh my, this is something! Cant wait to see some responses to this!
For me though:
the way he talks to his mother
his track record of getting and maintaining employment
you dont know where he lives
extreme clingy-ness/possessiveness
dramatics about everything
Morning Everybody
By Lady J
November 27, 2007 9:05 AM | Link to this
I know GA it touched me last night and this morning…So sad!
So it is a red falg at 33 staying with parents be it man or woman trying to date?
By ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)
November 27, 2007 9:08 AM | Link to this
Good morning gang! I’m taking notes too…I’m sure this is going to be some funny ish.
By Atlanta Pearl Girl
November 27, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this
Wow….. I should write a book and am actually about this.
The last person I was with and actually ‘married’ (yes…MARRIED)…. was 2 out of the 3 on your list. Turned out…. he was cheating on me with an x wife that I didn’t even know about! I was floored! Floored because I really do consider myself pretty savvy in the people department….. He was really good at hiding things and glossing them over…..
The not meeting their friends and frantic over what you’re doing are major major red flags “Warning…Warning Will Robinson”.
Atlanta Pearl Girl.
By lovelyliz
November 27, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this
Red Flag Alert If he’s doesn’t know how to cook, do laundry or iron AND isn’t extremely wealthy it’s a bad sign.
I am not saying he has to be a gourmet cook or love ironing and other housework, but if he’s not rich enough to pay someone else to do those things, either his woman or his mother is going to be expected to do it for him.
He’s a mama’s boy or incompetent & lazy. Both are unacceptable in a mate.
By ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)
November 27, 2007 9:11 AM | Link to this
here’s one….
when you finally do you meet his mother, SHE tells you all the dirt on him…(and he says she’s lying)…LOL!
By Beautiful
November 27, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this
Red flags:
By Sassy
November 27, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this
Red Flags?
Excessive/Dramatic mood swings. Can everyone say Bi-Polar!
By ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)
November 27, 2007 9:21 AM | Link to this
oops…typo!!
when you finally do meet his mother, SHE tells you all the dirt on him…(and he says she’s lying)…LOL!
ATLien Straight from the “A” www.straightfromthea.com
By PurpleOne
November 27, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this
When t(he)y don’t acknowledge their role in anything that went wrong in their past/present relationship, i.e., it wasn’t my fault, the other person did all that stuff to me and I didn’t do anything wrong, etc…MAJOR red-flag because they are ‘perfect’ and in denial!
By SlimOne
November 27, 2007 9:23 AM | Link to this
Red Flag: If the person is always evasive about things, especially in the Trying to Get to Know each other phase. He will only answer questions such as his name and how many siblings he has. Anything else is like pulling teeth
By Lady J
November 27, 2007 9:24 AM | Link to this
Sassy I can and feel you and Beautiful I feel you on the sex talk…Crazy I may say…
By Captain Tom
November 27, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this
Never make a date at the Grady GYN clinic.
By PurpleOne
November 27, 2007 9:27 AM | Link to this
OMG, Beautiful, that is so funny and all are on point! My most recent ex actually posted on several dating sites and I know this b/c on the one I’m on, he came up as a match at 84%! But his profile stated he had 2 kids when he has 3 and he lowered his age from 48 (almost 49) to 43! LOL! So from his profile, he is ‘Male’ looking for ‘Female’…I swear, that is all it says and I guess that is the most basic way to say, “I just want to have sex”…obviously, he doesn’t plan to have enough conversations in order for anyone to find out he is lying about his age and kids!
By Lady J
November 27, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this
PurpleOne that is a good one!
By Captain Tom
November 27, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this
Never date someone that thinks STD stands for Shy Timid Demure
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this
lol sounds like we have some experts on this subject in the house today. I think everybody pretty much done hit the lick to all the red flags.
By Captain Tom
November 27, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this
Your date curls his or her arm around their dinner plate….just like they do in prison.
By Captain Tom
November 27, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this
Never date someone if she refers to you as “my next baby daddy”.
By Beautiful
November 27, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this
Lady J don’t get me wrong, i love the nasty talk, but if you ain’t my man it’s a turn off to me. and while we were on the phone, i get a text msg that i didn’t know was coming of a wee wee pic. lol. i was shocked. i just met him. lol.
By Captain Tom
November 27, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this
Never date someone whose favorite spectator sport is midget bowling.
By SexyLeggs
November 27, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this
Good morning, everyone. I was out yesterday on jury duty and will catch up with you guys after I declutter my desk.
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this
Disregarding defined boundary limits is a big one for me. If a uequivocally articulate my boundary preferences and the other person blantantly dimisses or disregards them, then I know there are some control issues at hand.
By SeanJohnson3000
November 27, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this
Sup Blog…one BIG red flag for me is…if a female comes from a family full of women and NONE of them has a man…
RIP Sean Yaylor
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this
oops unequivocally and blatantly-can not type this morning too many days off
By Dan
November 27, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this
@ Captain Tom
HA! Like they do in prison
Another sign, s(he) tells you they moved out of the house early to “seek fame and fortune but I’ve turned my life around since”.
By Lady J
November 27, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this
@Beautiful…I feel you…it is the one wo talk all the time and when it occurs it like okkkkkkkkkk….I got you!
By Captain Tom
November 27, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this
Do people really send “wee wee” pictures.
By Beautiful
November 27, 2007 9:47 AM | Link to this
PurpleOne you know what really hurts? is when you meet a guy online and start dating and he doesn’t cancel his dating profile and you can see that he checks it err’day. :( moving on … … .
By Captain Tom
November 27, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this
Never date anyone that has a tatoo (sp) of a circle in the middle of the forehead with the caption…”Easy Button”
By Beautiful
November 27, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this
Captain Tom i’ve found out that a guy has no shame in sending me one. i hate it. they really think that it will turn me on. ah baby, yea right there. i don’t think so!
By Jazzyone
November 27, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this
Why wouldn’t he check his email/dating profile dating and being exclusive are two different things….
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
November 27, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this
ATLien I have a friend and when she was dating her ex, his mom pulled her to the side and said “he’s not going to marry you stop wasting your time”. I was floored that mom put him on blast like that, but she told the truth!!
SJ3000 family full of women w/no man…I have heard that too.
Beautiful & Lady J I agree about the wee-wee pics and nasty talk!
By T-Mango
November 27, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this
He tells you that he never gets angry. LOL.(this just means that he turns green, bursts out of his clothes and he gets even)
In one month he tells you that you are “the one”
He’s evasive when you ask him questions. Moreover, when you ask the same question at different times you get different answers
You’re out on a date and your date bumps into his best male friend. Instead of giving each other one of those complicated handshakes to greet each other, they give each other a kiss and a hug like they are Lil Wayne and Baby. Hmmmmm
He pops up at your home or job when you never gave him that information
He tells you after a few dates that he has a situation. This could mean alot of things…(ex: a pending case, could be married, baby on the way, etc.)
You meet a guy at a social event and begin to get to know him via phone. He shares that he is a parent. Then, he goes on to reveal that he has a son in Florida, daughter in NY, a son in DC, another daughter in California, and another child in Texas. All by different mothers of course…WTH? Stop right there-he’s a babymaker and not wrapping it up
By abc
November 27, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this
I’ve come to regard it a big red flag to be repeatedly told, over many months time and occasional queries as to where the relationship is going, to ‘leave it up to God’. I could come to resent divine reference as an excuse for not knowing one’s own mind and heart.
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this
Beautiful What’s worse is if a person marries the guy tthat she with an online dating site and he still continues to keep his dating profile open. This actually happened to a woman I worked with, one baby later. Ouch!!
By Kym-Proud Steeler Nation Member since 1994
November 27, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this
Good Morning…as I drag in here tired as heck from watching that nightmare game last night…what the same hell was that..it was like a nightmare. We won! Go Steelers! Mike T..make them practice full pads until next sunday night… Not to mention tears of sorrow for Shawn Taylor
On Topic..Dating Red Flags..If he cant communicate during the date. Say something…about anything..that is a problem for me. Good conversation holds my interest no convo..big problem for me.
By Captain Tom
November 27, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this
@Beautiful….I guess I am just from the old school….I could never do that…probably because I am 147 years old and haven’t seen it in 53 years.
By Beautiful
November 27, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this
Jazzyone but err’day!!!! dang. once a week would be cool. but not err’day.
By AmazonRed
November 27, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this
One of my friends was dating this engineer who was real reluctant to tell her his last name (she wanted to save his number in her phone). Turns out, he has a page on “Don’t Date Him Girl” dot com! LOL
Needless to say, that was the red flag deal breaker. LOL
By Jazzyone
November 27, 2007 10:15 AM | Link to this
Beautiful thats why your feelings got hurt because instead of checking for him you shold have done you until you both decided to be exclusive..if hes checking his email every day and you are checking for him to see if hes checking that screams red flag to me….just fall back….
By lovelyliz
November 27, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this
I once dated a guy who paid for absolutely everything with a personal credit card. A credit card, not a debit card. We’re not talking about a guy who was a big spender or someone who saved all his receipts.
Go out for pizza, put it on his credit cards. Buying groceries, put it on his credit cards.
He was in debt up to his eyeballs. I found out later that he didn’t sell his almost brand new car. The repo-man came and got it. Luckily we weren’t still going out at that point.
By 900k
November 27, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this
Red Flag #1
When she says that she does not get along well with females and ONLY has guy friends… that just means to be prepared to meet one (or four) of them every time you go out. She will not get along or respect your sister and mother as well.
By GOD (not demi)
November 27, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this
one BIG red flag for me is…if a female comes from a family full of women and NONE of them has a man…
Yep…you’ll find yourself sleeping with the momma, sister, aunt’n’cousin…before you know it!!
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this
“Don’t Date Him Girl” lol darn to that internet
By NiceGuy
November 27, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this
She’s really hot, and about 19 years old, but…
She has no job. She lives with a 40+ year old man who’s a friend of her father’s She has no car or driver’s license She drinks too much You suspect drug use She’s a chronic liar She has a probation officer (for beating up a previous boyfriend) She’s a nympho (really)
This was a real one (“dated” her 3 times). Did I mention she was hot?
By The Devil is...(not demi)
November 27, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this
LOL@complicated handshakes
By Dan
November 27, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this
@ A red I may need to check that page!
And to the “leave it up to God” commentor… right on.
And a family full of women with no men… that should tell you everything you need to know. Ain’t no breaking that cycle.
By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth
November 27, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this
Good morning blogsville.
Ev1 talking about red flags as if they only apply to guys. What about: 1) Something minor happens and she has a huge emotional outburst 2) She pops up uninvited because she misses you. 3) She’s trying to introduce you to everybody she knows after the first date. 4) She already has a baby room prepared in her home. 5) Her best friend is a lawyer. 6) Her house looks nastier than west hell. 7) When your in the car you smell something fishy but assume your driving by captain D’s. 8) She has 5 engagement rings hanging on a chain on her neck.
UPDATE: THE RAIDERS are making a late push for the afc west. Stay tuned.
Also, The Facons will play Redan Middle School in what some will call a lop-sided game, for Redan.
By derbygirl84
November 27, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this
Been there, done that, need to share: -more than one baby momma -haven’t been inside his house -sudden “dropped” calls when you talk serious -crazy momma (his) -liar, liar, pants on fire -been to prison (yikes) -plays you off in public, but hot and steamy when alone -two “real” dates in five months And yes, this relationship is OVER
By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"
November 27, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this
Rell you’ve got mail
Good morning to everyone i hope you all are having a wonderful seasonal time of the year….
Red flags…when that person only wants to spend time with you when it comes to spending money
the money is good to have, but a person should want to spend free time with you…i think the best time is when you both are in the same room…give each other that look and smile…no talking has to be done
A person will show you who they really are in time…sit, watch, and listen and you will learn more than any amount of questions you have in your brain
By Lady J
November 27, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this
LOL Truth!!!
By lovelyliz
November 27, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this
She has 5 engagement rings hanging on a chain on her neck.
My (ex)brother-in-law’s cousin has that many from the last 7 years. I don’t know where she keeps the ring’s though.
By abc
November 27, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this
I’m hip to the needless emotional outbursts from women too, Dan, but in my experience, every chick on the planet is like that.
By abc
November 27, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this
correction, what Truth said about emotional outbursts.
By Corbin
November 27, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this
^5 SJ3K on your 9:42 post. Another red flag for me is a chic believes her preacher is a completely honest upright man, and all other men are unworthy of trust.
By Beautiful
November 27, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this
abc, Truth i don’t agree about the outbursts. all females aren’t emotional like that. some of us actually can keep it together.
By GreenCardSavvy
November 27, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this
When a foreign guy/girl tells you they are waiting to get thier work authorization permit. They try to offer you money to marry them to get a green card. The money is not worth it to be stuck with a jerk for 5 years in order to obtain a green card.
By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth
November 27, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this
Seanjohn whats up dude? That “if a female comes from a family full of women and NONE of them has a man…” was some funny ish. So sad, so true.
ABC if I have to ask a chick where we’re going I know its nowhere. If a woman has any kind of feelings for you in that way she’s not going to keep them secret. There will be plenty of clues along the way. BTW, have you done “THE THING” yet?
If I were to base my perception of the world on the front page of AJC I’d swear the world has gone to hell. How the hellz do you kill your mother and brother, cut them up, and throw them in a river? Can you say anger management? Passing a 1 million dollar bill? HUH. I didn’t know the Hulkster was getting divorced. They looked like they were having fun on tv.
By Staceye
November 27, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this
Beautiful now that’s some funny ish!!!! LMAO
The wee wee pics…I know! It’s so pathetic. If I wanted to know what it looked like, I’d just ask hin to drop ‘em and let me see. No unsolicted pics please!
Purple One I’ve got a girlfriend like that. Nothign is ever her fault. The whole world is just mean to “her”!
Cap’n Tom Your date curls his or her arm around their dinner plate….just like they do in prison thank you for cauing me to burst out loud with laughter at work! LMAO!
Truth You are crazy! LMAO….that same girlfriend I mentioned earlier, her house si always nastier than west Hell to! LOL She has also had 3 supposed fiancees..but no ring! Hmmmm!?!
By FeelingGood
November 27, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this
Red Flag Man complains about everyone around him being stupid, foolish, or whatever. He is always being rude to someone. Watch out - bacause it will only be a few days before he is rude to you and you are stupid or foolish.
How people treat others is a big indication of how they will treat you.
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 11:05 AM | Link to this
GA.Man AKA “Mr. Entertainment A person will show you who they really are in time…sit, watch, and listen and you will learn more than any amount of questions you have in your brain
That is real truth. I always listen to what someone says to me and then I watch what that person does. And anytime there is not a correlation between the two then I know that something ain’t white in the milk.
But then again, I always use my disqualifyiing list as a quick point of reference-deja vu, not vu ja de. Sometimes you can hear a red flag before you can see it.
By Deacon Demi
November 27, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this
Dress in a thousand dollar purple suit/w matching tie/shirt and gators
RED FLAG When the dayum church woman you are trying to hit in church, tells you she’s a new virgin…Deacon Demi is now wondering WTH a new virgin is
Heeeeeeey, Sista J…You wouldn’t be one of those ‘New Virgins’ would you??!!
By SeanJohnson3000
November 27, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this
@ Truth…whats the deal pimp?…i mean preacher..lol
@ Corbin…truth be known..females listening to preachers..have broken up plenty of relationships…it really benefits preachers to have a congregation full of single women…that way he can be head of househould over ALL of them..
By Staceye
November 27, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this
Truth I read that about ole dude in NYC. I hate to claim him as a NY’er! LOL
Feeling Good You hit the nail on the head!
GA Man you get a citation just cause! LOL Merry Christmas!
By Dan
November 27, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this
@ Purple One
That’s a classic “Victim mentality”. I know this becuase I’ve dated versions of your friend. In my former fallical need to protect women, I found myself in the line of any number of dangers at any given time.
For me that was a toxic relationship that I ended with her as “Loony Laura”.
But from what Truth was talking about, I get nervous everytime a woman has one of those fits. It sends me back to Laura…..
By ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)
November 27, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this
@ M’Karyl
That’s some funny is rite thurr…LOL! There’s a whole lotta ATLiens on blast on that site!
By ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)
November 27, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this
@ M’Karyl
That’s some funny ish rite thurr…LOL! There’s a whole lotta ATLiens on blast on that site!
By ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)
November 27, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this
@ M’Karyl
That’s some funny ish rite thurr…LOL! There’s a whole lotta ATLiens on blast on that site!
By Bella
November 27, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this
Good morning, everyone!
You guys are making me laugh this morning!
We’ve identified a lot of red flags for women this morning, but only a few for men. What things should make you leery about entering into a relationship with a woman (ladies, you can chime in on this one, too!)
By Beautiful
November 27, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this
The Truth i watch the hulks while doing dishes all the time and they fought constantly. :(
By Dan
November 27, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this
OOooohhh! Don’t get me started on the preachers and single women.
Please let’s save that discussion for another day. I might lose my job for blogging on that ish.
By Sidelines
November 27, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this
Staceye….LMAO, I know exactly who your talking about! Girl…your nuts, but so true!!!!! lol….
Back to lurksville….
By kinderbabe
November 27, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this
good morning all. hope everyone’s day is going well.:)
By ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)
November 27, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this
Sorry for the triple post…!
By Lady J
November 27, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this
Hey Demi…Sista J just chilling not deconess (sp) yet!!! LOL
I like to usher!!! LOL Those women always struck me as undercover…LOL
By Dan
November 27, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this
Well, Truth’s fish scent was one.
The “Victim” joint for me is one.
And to add to that, if she stares at me for longer than 30 seconds I get worried.
If she has a cat/dog/fish that makes bad faces at her.
Oh, yes, if her dog is her “baby” she may have a psychosis!
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this
New Virgins’ A woman who has had a poontane transplant??? WTF
By ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)
November 27, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this
@ Mo
This dudes mom told ALL the goods…gave up info about his ex-wife and what really happened to cause the divorce (he cheated). She told about his “anger management” problems (he hit his ex-wife and girlfriends, been in fights at the club)…and on and on…
I was grateful but Dang… your own Moms knows you ain’t no good…LOL!
By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"
November 27, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this
LOLOL Staceye you get Two for giving me one….
Truth you got no sense..none at all….lololol go back and get some
By 900k
November 27, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this
2She tells you that her ex is getting “out” soon.
3She and her ex are still good friends and talks to his mom on the phone once a week.
4She screams and humps a pillow whenever Chris Brown is on TV and she’s 30+
5Her sister, girl cousin or best friend damn near hates you… no reason at all just does. This usually means that they can’t figure out why she chose you over that lame D-boy she tried to hook her up with.
6She still sleeps in the bed with her son every night who has his own room and is 9yrs old!!!!!!!! The bad thing about this one is you can’t say much the little punk aint yours so mind yours!
By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth
November 27, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this
SJ3000 please rspect my new postion in life. Thank you. LOL BTW, if you need some hotties contact me or Deacon Demi. We got em lined up. LOL
I wish some chick would tell me what her fuggin preacher said about some ish. I’d pack her azz up and drop her off at the church. LMAO
Dan in the dating world you have to be like ol boy in the movie Heat. “Never have anything you can’t walk away from in 15 seconds”. After her first outburst pull the curtains, exit stage left. No closure needed. LOL
Beautiful your statement “some of us actually can keep it together” scares the hell out of me. As if maintaining a level head is something you have to work at. Also, filming someone in their home, especially a family, would seem stressfull to us single folk. I guess they didn’t seem unhappy. Anyway, his time in the spotlight is up so she can move on to the next teller, I mean guy. Why would you ask for child support for a 17 year old tho?
By itsime
November 27, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this
Red Flags: A guy wants to come over your house for the 2nd date. He tell you he live alone but he got a room-mate He tell you his last relationship ended because he cheated on her In the beginning he calls you twice a day now he calls every other day he tells you ” let’s be friend” but wants to cuddle and kiss all over you….
By ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)
November 27, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this
@ Truth
I almost missed your post…glad I didn’t!
Still laughing…
By Staceye
November 27, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this
Dan I feel you on the staring thing. It creeps me out. I tell a guy not to do that and if he does..I think he’s nuts!
Sidelines how you doin’? LOL
By AmazonRed
November 27, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this
lovelyliz, The guys in my office put EVERYTHING on their credit cards. They want the miles and rewards. Of course, they pay it off each month. LOL That’s the key to making that “credit only” lifestyle work.
Hey Dan!. I better not see you on Dont Date Em Girl. LOL
That’s some cold game for that comment about a house full of women and none of em got a man. Ouch.
By PurpleOne
November 27, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this
OMG, @GA.Man AKA “Mr. Entertainment my ex slept with his daughter until we broke up in March and she is now 11…I had told him throughout the relationship that that was inappropriate and he disagreed, that she was his baby girl and he only had one…I know he didn’t do anything but that just isn’t cool…now she is ‘budding’ and I told him that b4 we ended and that she had ‘hair’ so he needed to step back…I wonder if he is still doing that? he would say, she is scared to sleep alone and i’m like, huh, she has a room by herself at her mom’s house and she even agreed but he ‘insisted’…i guess he didn’t want to let the ‘baby’ grow-up but that just ain’t cool, no matter what…his room had a sitting area with a couch in it so he had no excuse! He also said it was different if my son were to sleep with me (hypothetically speaking)! The Victim…
By Corbin
November 27, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this
Red Flag: If a chic has two or more degrees, and her new found status prevents her from relating to anything that isn’t “high minded” or “on her level”.
By Hotlanta
November 27, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this
When he calls your home at 8:00 to check and see are you aat work and he is not.
If you go to the mall to shop and he is always there standing around
If he has a coupon each time you got out and especially for the movie matinee before 6:00pm
If he has a pager/cellphone on while with you and says that is my ex that keeps calling me and I am not going to answer it. Or you are at his house and ole girl is knocking on the window/doors and he says she is just crazy.
If they want to take you to church as a first date. DUH, That means he is cheap. I want to see you outside of your element. You are not the first one he has taken to chutch and everyone is looking at you snickering
If he lives in his mamas basement and got woodpaneling on the wall and a crush velvet picture of Pam Grier and a black fishet on the ceiling.
If he hasn’t bought any furniture since 1976. Ladies remember Princess House
Whenever they insist in turning out the lights when they take off their clothes. See ya
Whenever he thinks International travel is from here to Florida
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this
@Truth &
After her first outburst pull the curtains, exit stage left. No closure needed.
If there is not established emotional relationship then it is imaginary, irrational, co-dependent and insane emotional energy. Me would be like the Eagles and say:
But me, I’m already gone And I’m feelin’ strong I will sing this vict’ry song ‘Cause I’m already gone Yes, I’m already gone And I’m feelin’ strong I will sing this vict’ry song ‘Cause I’m already gone Yes, I’m already gone Already gone All right, nighty-night
lol
By Beautiful
November 27, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this
Truth As if maintaining a level head is something you have to work at.
i don’t have to work at it any harder than you. certain situations aren’t really that serious.
By Staceye
November 27, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this
* itsime* Oh my…is it possible we met the same dude? Or are there a lot of friggin’ loonies in ATL?
Corbin The 2 degrees chick..is what Dan islooking for! LOL
By Lady J
November 27, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this
Corbin too funny…..Sounds like the folk(women that is) I work with…LOL
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this
Red and LovelyLiZ:
I do not know which one is worse-the one who charges everything to the credit card or the one who is always “just a little short on cash til I can get to the ATM” and needs you to pick up the unexpected extra expenses-like the tab was $30 and he only has maybe $15-$20-lol
By Deacon Demi
November 27, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this
The Bish buys a new outfit for church each week, but doesn’t have a dime to pay me or pastor Truth titles and offering!
M’Karyl you tell me…But I’ve heard it a few times…I just tell them, there is nothing wrong being a reformed 0e…but you bet not allow me only 2 positions and no oral..once the time comes!!
Hellz naw, I want the buffet you been serving up to the local cummunities!!
By BennyB
November 27, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this
1)If she have kids for more than two men: Think why two others guys quit and call a taxi 2)If she is over 30 never been in relationship for more than 2 years…….buy a dictionary highlight the word stability and give it to her for her generosity 3)If she is divorced and has no kid……just imagine, zip up and jump 4)If her accomplishments or future plans include liposuction or implants 5)If she has no relationship with her father or a father figure…… 6)If she is widowed and her ex husband accidentally die in swimming pool or she is a nurse and her ex die while sleeping after making love
By PurpleOne
November 27, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this
Oh no M’Karyl, I then have to say to the server, please split the bill and I’ll pay for my own! If I rode with him, then as I was taught, I can call a cab or call someone to pick me up!
By SexyLeggs
November 27, 2007 12:21 PM | Link to this
Staceye, did you enjoy your trip? I know you did.
Ok, red flags =
lying about how many children he has (character);
car has been in the shop for 6 months (been repossessed);
asks to borrow $$ after the first 2 weeks of seeing each other; (unscrupulous);
doesn’t know how to kiss (hasn’t had much practice); and as has already been stated
doesn’t know where he lives!!! Just a few of my thoughts.
By Kori
November 27, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this
Flags-
1- if your date calls his dinner knife a shank. 2- if your date is 40+ and is talkin’ bout launching his rap career 3- if he says “I’m in sales” but never tells what he sells or the company name
By 900k
November 27, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this
Ok fellas these should have been the first signs to look out for:
@ the bar you meet her and offer to buy her a drink and she says “what about my friends? can you get them one too??” and they’re not even standing next to her. Shes crazy RUN
You invite her out for the first time, lunch not too formal. She brings along her homegirl and they order crablegs at 12n on a Tues… you know they aint trying to pay …RUN!
She tells you that she has danced for cash b4 (no biggie), however never at a strip club just a few bachelor and private parties… man if you don’t get the hell up and RUN!!!!
By Jazzyone
November 27, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this
A level head is something you have to work on..ohmahgah WTF is that..um speak for the crew you attract dude…ohmy goodness I have heard it all….
By Lady J
November 27, 2007 12:26 PM | Link to this
I just got you Demi…LOLOLOL…SLow me….I guess I am a New Virgin…LOL
Boy yous be off da chain!
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this
Deacon Demi
Bro, that thang do not regenerate new, unused cells just cuz it has been inert-lol. Maybe after a while they think it is like “new wine in an old bottle”-ha ha
By Staceye
November 27, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this
Benny B just because a woman is divorced and does not have a kid is not a red flag. Maybe she can’t have any…or maybe just doesn’t want any. Not every woman wants to be knocked up, married or not. Even if I were to ever get married…I don’t want kids.
As far as her father…did it ever occur to you that her father could be an @sshole and she is better off without him???
By Lady J
November 27, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this
lol
By Sexy Shaft (not a DEMIGOD)
November 27, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this
PurpleOne what’s buddy name and addy…buddy sounds lika soon to be child molester…we don’t play that ish!!!
By 900k
November 27, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this
@Purple
That was me with the kid thing but I feel ya. thanks for the response anyhow
By Staceye
November 27, 2007 12:37 PM | Link to this
Sexyleggs Which trip, Jamaica? That was 2 weeks ago. I am going to Puerto Rico this weekend for my b-day!
By Beautiful
November 27, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this
Staceye ^5. i thought his post was alittle off too.
By Willie Dynamite
November 27, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this
I am laughing my Azz off over here. Ya’ll are tripping today!!!!
By Teresa
November 27, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this
A man claiming to be sent by god, but tries to rape you on the first date!
By Dan
November 27, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this
@ 900K
If they ordering crab legs at 12pm…run Sheeeet, you bring your friend to the date, and she has the nerve to order anything…
That’s a “let me go to my car” moment, which results in a sreeching tire-as-I-bail moment.
By Cursedinlove
November 27, 2007 12:43 PM | Link to this
I have dated some crazies. Here are some of my red flag signs, not all from one particular guy, but a mix of all the loonies I’ve dated over the past 20 years:
1) Drives a minivan, has no kids 2) Doesn’t want to spend holidays with you and your friends/family, although they have none of their own 3) Keeps calling you by their ex wife’s name on “accident”, constantly 4) Tells you that at one point, he recorded his ex wife’s phone conversations 5) Drinks beer beginning at the crack of dawn until bed time 6) Sits in a room in the dark and flicks his lighter 7) Refuses to have picture taken with you by friends 8) Has previous restraining orders 9) Says they are into threesomes, and they don’t mind men! 10) See them hit their own mother
Sad, but true.
By SexyLeggs
November 27, 2007 12:48 PM | Link to this
Sorry, I thought you went somewhere after the Jamaica trip. Hey, guess I’m tripping. I do remember that you’re going to PR for your b-day.
By abc
November 27, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this
I think the ‘new virgin’ thing is about vows of abstinence until marriage, after having been called to the Lord. Kind of like having not known better beforehand.
By Gimme A Break
November 27, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this
BennyB I’m curious…why is a woman being divorced w/no kid a red flag?
By Lady J
November 27, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this
@Teresa reading the Bible from front to back all the way to the bed…LOL
By Teresa
November 27, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this
If he wants to watch porno’s all the time
By 900k
November 27, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this
@Dan- you’re right there are no excuses to give but we were sitting outside, I valet parked… man she set me up.
@Benny - they comin for ya head bro I feel your pain though… married for several long years and no seeds makes a brotha think a little.
By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth
November 27, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this
Ladies, if you want to find out how fortunate you’ve been read Curseds post. Dayuuumm woman, what are you attracting? LOL
Deacon lmao @ “Hellz naw, I want the buffet you been serving up to the local cummunities!!”
BennyB dam bruh you hit hard. LMAO 1)If she have kids for more than two men: Think why two others guys quit and call a taxi
By PurpleOne
November 27, 2007 12:53 PM | Link to this
@SexyShaft & 900k, I understand the heart strings but puberty should put an end to it! But the double standard, why couldn’t my son sleep with me though that wasn’t up for discussion? That girls mom blew up with it b/c that child went home when she was like 5 and told her mom, I slept with Ms. H and my dad! At first, it was like a ‘spend the night’ party but then I found out the mom had an issue and then I thought about it and that he was doing that when I wasn’t there too and I’m like, nope, I won’t be a part of it any more (stupid me for thinking it was ok at first) and I refused to sleep over when he had all of his kids (all 3 by the ex-wife) and the boys of course, they couldn’t even sleep in a sleeping bag on the floor in his room, only the baby girl could cuddle with her daddy. He even said, it isn’t like there is another dude in the bed and I countered with, well, what if her mom and her new husband cuddled with baby girl? Then he would be ready to kill…double standard…
By 2CPTG©
November 27, 2007 12:54 PM | Link to this
hey y’all…
some of my possible red flags…..
she looks like she stepped off the cover of a magazine, but her kids are poster children for Wal-Mart, and Target…
She’s got 3 kids and none of them live with her…
If she refers to each of the kids’ father by their street nicknames..
she tries to claim those 3 kids when income tax rolls around…
If her nick name is, “Peaches”,
If she constantly asks, “what dat mean?”
If her hair changes colors every week…
If she thinks all Atlanta has to offer is the club scene…
By Teresa
November 27, 2007 12:54 PM | Link to this
He wants to watch purple rain all the time
By Lady J
November 27, 2007 12:56 PM | Link to this
thanks abc for the clarification thus said the Lord! Decon Demi scatch me from the list!!! LOL
By brownsugarvixen
November 27, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this
[Good Afternoon Everybody: This it a hot topic.
Ladies Please Take Notes. I’ve had a few of these things happen to me. Can I just say, WTF!
Red Flags 1.If he asks you to pick him up from the marta station on the first date. 2.He wants to wife you in less than one month. 3.He invites you back to his crib, only for you to discover a tv on a crate, folding chairs and no furniture. 4. He ask you out on a date, then he takes you to a fast-food resturaunt. 5. He tells you he is free during the weekdays, but busy on the weekends. (no J.O.B.)hint…hint 6.He invites you over to his place and (never mentioned that he had kids, his baby mama shows up unannounced. Exit quickly you know it’s about to be some drama. 7.You’re on a date & he answers his cell phone, and leaves you hanging more than 5 minutes (excuse yourself from the table, catch a cab back to your car if you need to, trust me it will be worth it)
I’m sure that there are some many more. Those came to mind immediately. It’s sad when you need private invesigator just to date these days. LOL]
By Deacon Demi
November 27, 2007 1:00 PM | Link to this
M’Karyl LOL
Hotlanta I feel you, I don’t know why some dudes pull that mess…If I am short on cash, I ain’t dating period…That means it’s time for a change in spending habits!!
Lady J just messing with ya…
SexyLeggs do you mind offering kissing lession to a handsome chocolate/w nice white teeths…comes with black men fo reel for real lips…LOL
By Jazzyone
November 27, 2007 1:02 PM | Link to this
Red flag= stays up in church all the dayum time but before hes out the parking lot hes trying to run folks down before they get to their cars…
Stays up in church all the dayum time but gossips about people during service about he poeple sitting next to him…
has a ton of male freinds that stay over but hes only got a one bedroom and no couch…
By Lady J
November 27, 2007 1:03 PM | Link to this
Seriously Teresa what is with the porn all the time…before, during, after or just watching BET????? Some internal issues…lol
By Hotlanta
November 27, 2007 1:03 PM | Link to this
Ok ladies here are some more signs to look out for.
If he has those Kroger sacks and calls them luggage. Look out he is trying to move in with you. He moves from one woman to the next as quick as he can. He thrives on large apartment complexes.
He is 60 and he still thinks he is old school and refuses to call himself an old man.
If he has braids in his hair and he is over 18 years old.
His idea of exercise is raising the beer from his chair to his mouth.
No we are not having a Blockbuster or NetFlix night.
He picks you up at 9:00pm and says he has to go to the bank to cash his check but it pulls up at a checkcashing joint and acts as if he is the man.
Brags constantly about how he can rock your world then when you get it you felt as if you were laying next to a rock
Drives a Mercedez and sleeps on a futon in the middle of the living room. Got the nerve to tell you to step over it.
All of his furniture is rented means he ain’t planning on staying in one place long. Just drop something on the floor/peek and look for the tag.
He has 10 kids by 8 women/not paying a drop of chile support and allllll up in your face. Then gets mad at you if you don’t wanna talk to him. PLEASE stop the madness.
By Lady J
November 27, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this
I know Demi it is too funny though!!!!
By PurpleOne
November 27, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this
Wait a minute now Teresa…you talking about my baby! He is a musical genius and I have several male friends that are serious Prince fans! That includes my ex…I’ll be pulling out my DVD tonite! Well, they don’t watch it all the time but they don’t miss any TV performances or concert performances.
By Teresa
November 27, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this
PurpleOne no disrespect! I love prince, But to watch Purple Rain damn near everyday!
By AmazonRed
November 27, 2007 1:14 PM | Link to this
Ouch BennyB. Well, I felt that one. I’ve never been in a relationship for over 2 years but I credited that as being wise enough to recognize those red flags and get out before they became a bad relationship. I’d be wary of those who do those long relationships who at the end said they should have gotten out 3 years earlier.
Anyways, gave me food for thought I guess.
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 1:14 PM | Link to this
PurpleOne:
I just find it convenient to excuse myself to the ladies room and then I find the exit and a cab. I refuse to believe that a person does not know how much loot is in their pockets from jump. Not sorry-gotta go-Ciao-then I split.
By Teresa
November 27, 2007 1:19 PM | Link to this
He does not try to reach out to all the little boys he has fathered
By Tazzee
November 27, 2007 1:22 PM | Link to this
afternoon folks. haven’t read all the comments but just had to say RIP Sean Taylor…his death hit me kinda hard for some reason…
now let me see if y’all can make me laugh today.
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 1:23 PM | Link to this
*2CPTG, Jazzyone, Hotlanta *
Y’all need to stop-lol. Got me rolling up in this jink. Does somebody no CPR-lol!!!
But we all know it to be true. Let the church say Amen!!!
By me 2(formally purple lace)
November 27, 2007 1:23 PM | Link to this
If he tells you that his ex had him arrest for no appearant reason saying, that she’s crazy RUN!
If he tells you he doesn’t drink but when you go out he drinks more than nemo RUN!!
If he says a man is not gay if he have relations with another man RUN!!
Purpleone rock on!! I love me some Prince too!!
By AmazonRed
November 27, 2007 1:25 PM | Link to this
2CPTG - Why wouldn’t you dress your kid in Walmart and Target clothes. Shoot, until my kids can keep clothes clean and not grow out of them every 5 minutes, that’s exactly what my kids will rock. LOL
900K, your post was hilarious.
By Willie Dynamite
November 27, 2007 1:27 PM | Link to this
I’m co-signing the hair color different every week.
Peaches and Punkin (what the hellz is your name) 30 yrs old talking bout call her punkin.
If you are over 30 and never been in a relationship for over 2 yrs then yeah something is wrong. Call it what you want but something is definitely wrong!!!
By Hotlanta
November 27, 2007 1:30 PM | Link to this
My biggest pet peeves is if he comes to your home and BLOW the horn instead of getting out and knocking on your door. Ladies don’t even get in the car. First class loser for sure.
Another one is when they come to your house for the first time, throw the right leg across the top the left leg, put his arms on the back of your sofa and take it upon themselves to turn your television set on without asking. Then they say, it looks good in here. That is toooo comfortable for me. Gotta go.
By Lady J
November 27, 2007 1:30 PM | Link to this
@me 2(formally purple lace)…had one to say it was just weed…lol…that sis gots fed up and called the police quick…
By 2CPTG©
November 27, 2007 1:30 PM | Link to this
A Red…..if I don’t buy my clothes from Target, or Wal-Mart, then I’m not buying my kids’ clothes from Target or Wal-Mart!!!! that’s all I’m sayin….and only a Peaches would do something like that!
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this
Red *she looks like she stepped off the cover of a magazine, but her kids are poster children for Wal-Mart, and Target…
I took that to mean that the sister is all high end for herself, but she low rents the kids.
By Teresa
November 27, 2007 1:35 PM | Link to this
If he tries to choke you while you guys are sleeping. He is a violent sleeper.
By John in Tampa, FLA
November 27, 2007 1:36 PM | Link to this
Red flag #1:
You are having sex with a woman and upon hearing a noise outside, she says “omigod, it’s my husband”.
Trust me, it ruins the moment.
By Santa Clause
November 27, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this
I luvs me the Hens Club.
By Thirdwheel
November 27, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this
BennyB You comment about if a woman over 30 who hasn’t been in a committed realtionship for two years or more is just totally wrong. A lot of people don’t date anymore and are happy by themselves. Some can’t attract men and some have never been in dates. You can’t determine that a woman is crazy just because she hasn’t had a man attached to her hip for more than two years. You better recoginze!!
Here are some red flags that I have seen from my coworkers and friends:
If you meet this man on the phone and day two you have to buy him a cell phone and pay his phone bill you better run….
If on day four you are still talking to this man on the phone and he says he loves you and please come pick him up from his runaway home some 9 states away you better run….
If on day five you take your crazy butt across 9 states to pick him up and when you pull up all of his belongins are on the street with him wrapped in Food Depot bags you better run….
If on day six you are on your way back to Georgia and he gets sick in the car and he tells you oops I have Diabities but I haven’t been on meds for 5 years and you have to take him to the emergancy room and pay the bill you better run…
If on day 7 you take him to your house and the first thing he ask is when can you put his name on the title and when can you take him to Walmart and buy him some stuff for the house you better run….
If you have a man who is very overweight but you want to give it a chance anyway but you tell him that his body ordor is making you tear up and he goes to his bathroom sink and just washes his neck and sprays room spray on him and ask you is that better you better run….
If you have a guy that ask you out but YOU have to pick him up and YOU have to pay for dinner at a fast food joint and then he ask YOU to drop him down the street from his house you better RUN
If you have a guy that can only call you between certain hours and when he does call he speaks in a low tone that you have to be actually deaf to hear him you better run….
If the guy who you moved across 9 states and have only known for 4 days keep asking you when are we going to tie the knot because we are living in sin but yet he can’t have sex because his friend won’t get up you better kick him out the house and run…..
By Beautiful
November 27, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this
ARed i guess i’m the only one who gets it.
By Teresa
November 27, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this
THIS BLOG IS MAD FUNNY!!!!!
By AmazonRed
November 27, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this
Well, 2CPTG, I guess I’ll just have to be Peaches. I’m never high on spending big money on depreciating assets! LOL
By AmazonRed
November 27, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this
Wow…there are some real crazies out there. LOL @ these lists.
By Peaches (not demi)
November 27, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this
2 dont make me cut you kee-gro, LOL
sorry bruh, slip of the hands
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 1:53 PM | Link to this
Thirdwheel
Write that bible of truth. You watch them judge shows and ya’ know that is what they do…lol!
By Tazzee
November 27, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this
BennyB “If she is over 30 never been in relationship for more than 2 years……” That’s me, it’s good to know I’m a red flag…
By brownsugarvixen
November 27, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this
I’m finding it harder to control my laugther, as this blogs grows. I got the telephone in one hand and they oxgyen mask in the other.
Men here are some red flags.
1.If the woman you dating, has more grandkids than she does children. Hit the ground running.
If she let you spend the night, then ask you for some rent money the next morning. Get out the house, you can dress in the car.
If all her girls are named after cars. You know em’ Mercedes, Lexus, Alexxus & Portia.
If the first thing she tells you is that all men are dogs, and if you ever cheat on her she will kill you… she telling you da truth, leave while you still can.
If you arrive to take her on a date and she wearing sweat pants, a t-shirt and house shoes.
If her idea of a fancy resturaunt is the golden corral.. anybody smell a hood rat.
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this
I think it is when the moms looks like Saks and the kids look like Goodwill rejects-that’s Mizz Peaches thang.
By Teresa
November 27, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this
You meet him over the phone, ask him if he got a cellie, and he stated he needs to put more minutes on his phone
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 2:01 PM | Link to this
BTW meaning those peaches and punkin and niecy’s in general. In the case I know her name was April-my kin. She could step out hot to the nines, but her daughter couldn’t get give her clothes to Goodwill.
By Hotlanta
November 27, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this
If he over compliments you on your clothes so that he can wear them. Run as fast as you can.
If both of you are hot curling and using hair rollers on your hair. Better yet if you are under the hairdryer at the salon and he is under the one next to you and asking for Revlon ahir color #415. RUN!!!!! Superfly is dead.
By AmazonRed
November 27, 2007 2:03 PM | Link to this
But M’Karyl, you know Target and Wal-Mart got those designer lines up in there now! LOL. You can dress em cheap without them looking tacky. LOL!
By SexyLeggs
November 27, 2007 2:04 PM | Link to this
Deacon Demi, can’t be kissing on just anybody all willy nilly. I must conduct a survey first.
Watch out if he only wants to sit at the children’s table during the holidays instead of conversing with the adults…..ooh, ooh, you better watch out on that one!!!!
By BLAT
November 27, 2007 2:05 PM | Link to this
….working today with a heavy heart. No mood to discuss love…
RIP Sean Taylor …. you will be dearly missed. Loved by any who knew you, and certainly appreciated by most who knew of you.
What’s so sad is that after all his troubles, he had started to become what we should expect of a young black man. Tops in his profession, raising a beautiful family, good citizen. Now, Gone.
….. the Poobah lowers the MLB flag to half staff and decrees a ceremonial pouring of the Crown by the members of the Council. Again, the Meast will be missed…..
By brownsugarvixen
November 27, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this
BennyB**Sounds like you have some very interesting coworkers. There is no way in high h3ll, I’m driving 9 states to get a man. They must have some serious issues. There are plenty of good men right here in Atlanta. If they can’t find one loally, it might be that they have exhausted the dating pool of men here. LMAO. Now that ish is a serious red flag.
By Kym-Proud Steeler Nation Member since 1994
November 27, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this
Another RedFlag for me..
If the only convo a man has is to give u a running total of the price of everything he owns I am not interested..For example.
Me: That is a nice shirt you have.
Him: Oh you like this 30.00 dollars-(insert namebrand here)
Me: You smell really nice.
Him: You like that (insert cologne here) got it at (insert store here) and (insert price here)
If the date continues down the line of Yeah I paid (blank) for this chair.. or I paid (blank) for that gadget..Or I got this I got that..I am pretty much done. Sorry I want to know you not your gadgets, car or other accessories. Also I am not the IRS I dont need a price runddown of how much everything you wear cost and the store it came from.
By Blow Me
November 27, 2007 2:13 PM | Link to this
Red Flag:
He comes to your house on the first date and ask you can he use the rest room…..Tells you he has loose bowels and proceeds to MUD BUTT the bathroom and leave s** chips in the toilet
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this
Red
I know this. I sew and design my own clothes, I thrift-just scored a Kasper butter suede black trench all weather for $20, Jones New York, Talbot’s and Saks pieces to name a few-all for real down low and inexpensive. I can shop anywhere and look like money.
But it is when the moms look fab and the chillun looking the orphans out of Dickens-lol!
By Tazzee
November 27, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this
Y’all are crazy!!! “Watch out if he only wants to sit at the children’s table during the holidays instead of conversing with the adults…..” That is too funny SexyLeggs.
These are from guys I met just last Friday:
He tells you he needs to go ‘pee pee’
He thinks that something must be wrong with your reproductive system if no one has ‘pumped a baby up in you’ at your age
He’s married and says his definition of marriage is different than most people…
By Blow Me
November 27, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this
Red Flag:
He comes to your house on the first date and ask you can he use the rest room…..Tells you he has loose bowels and proceeds to MUD BUTT the bathroom and leave s** chips in the toilet
By Blow Me
November 27, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this
Red Flag:
He comes to your house on the first date and ask you can he use the rest room…..Tells you he has loose bowels and proceeds to MUD BUTT the bathroom and leaves s** chips in the toilet
By SeanJohnson3000
November 27, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this
@ bubblingbrownsugarvixen….i like golden coral lol…if a chic suggest we go there…she gets points…under ONE conditiion…she agrees to smuggles me some cookies in her purse..
By 2CPTG©
November 27, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this
…….
she’s 32 and has grandkids…..
you meet her at the bar, and she points out her son/daughter on the dance floor…
when she says she’ll cut ya, she means it, and shows you the blade…
You ask her if she’d like a glass of wine, and she asks if you’ve got some Boones Farm….
the only thing she knows about a computer is Myspace…
she has a whole song playing on her answering machine…
she knows the stars of every reality show…
she has a “tat” on her neck…
By Tazzee
November 27, 2007 2:20 PM | Link to this
Kym that sounds like that silly McD’s commercial, LOL. I’ve met guys like that.
Here’s another one - when he asks you to take down his number, he asks what service you have. When you tell him AT&T, he says ‘well let me give you my AT&T number’ - I’m all for free mobile to mobile calls, but dude was also dressed like a pimp, LOL. I guess the dressed like a pimp should have been the first flag…
By Beautiful
November 27, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this
*If she let you spend the night, then ask you for some rent money the next morning. Get out the house, you can dress in the car.
If the first thing she tells you is that all men are dogs, and if you ever cheat on her she will kill you… she telling you da truth, leave while you still can.*
i am dying over here! lol.
By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth
November 27, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this
Bright Red Flags:
She comes from Lousianna and keeps trying to serve you food with red sauce.
The underside of her t** smells like the back of your ears after a great workout but before a shower.
Within five minutes she starts talking about her cell phone bill.
Some of y’all know alot about prison life. LMAO HMMMMMMMMMMM
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this
You ask her if she’d like a glass of wine, and she asks if you’ve got some Boones Farm…
Didn’t Boones go out with the 70’s and liesure suits LOL
By AmazonRed
November 27, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this
Tazzee That “pumped a baby up in you” comment had me weak. Awful. LOL
By Someoneslippedmeamiky
November 27, 2007 2:28 PM | Link to this
Should it be a red flag it he likes his salad tossed?
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
November 27, 2007 2:28 PM | Link to this
Hotlanta If both of you are hot curling and using hair rollers on your hair I almost spit Pepsi all over my computer!! Hilarious!!! LOL
By 900k
November 27, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this
ok now that everybodies using my format here’s a few more:
If she got into a fist fight last week, nuff said… RUN
If she tells you a story about how her mom and her fell out one time and resulted in either one of them grabbin a pair of scissors … RUN!
If she asks you “Why dont you sell drugs?!!?” … RUN
If she just cashed her child support check (while complainin bout her babydady) but her kids stay with grandma out in Macon… RUN!!!
If she tells you that one of your homies is cute… well then she’s a jump off!!
off topic sorry
By SlimOne
November 27, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this
You go to the kitchen to get your date a beverage. On your return, you catch him hurriedly trying to eat the booger that he just dug out his nose.
Your date needs to use the restroom. You catch him dig in his butt then smell it.
You and your date are out a little later than you planned & he calls his mom to check in & tell her he’ll be home a little late.
You invite him to a bbq. He has hotdogs but insists on you cutting it up into little pieces instead of eating it in a bun.
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this
2CPTG© Or what’s worse is when they want to take a $20 bottle of chenin blanc or merlot and drink it from a tumbler size kool-aid glass over a tray of ice,like itis kool-aid. I actually one time had someone ask me if I had some sugar to add to the wine because it was not sweet enough. Hey, if you don’t do wine cool, but don’t go ghetto-get a beer (without ice and as straw)-lol
By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth
November 27, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this
SJ3000 I’m with you on Golden corral. If she can’t get down with that she’s way to good for me. LOL C’ya. There’s nothing like sitting down to an inexpensive buffet meal.
Blow Me funny as hellz but please spare some of the more graphic details. LMAO @ shyt chips.
Whats up Blat?
By Blow Me
November 27, 2007 2:34 PM | Link to this
RED FLAGS_
You go into his bathroom and he has Fruity Body wash and a box of douches…but he claims to live alone :<:
His tag does not have his birthday…..His car is in someone else’s name :rolleyes:
Before you can go on your date, he always have to stop and make a “play”
For Xmas he buys you a roll of stratch offs (lotto tixs) Half of dem mofo are already stratched :lol:
By Teresa
November 27, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this
A man that gossips more than a woman, don’t they call that diareaha of the mouth….nothing but ish comes out?
By brownsugarvixen
November 27, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this
SeanJohnson3000** I like the corral too, but thats far from fancy.
Blow Me** MUDD BUTTIN. That’s when you tell them, you’re havin plumbing problems. They’ll have to save that phunk for someone else. Too funny, still trying to catch my breath.
By Blow Me
November 27, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this
He ask you for your pee before he goes to see his p.o. then puts in a baby food jar and hide it under his nuts!!!
By Kori
November 27, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this
If he picks you up for a date and after seeing how nice you look he snaps his fingers in Z formation and yells You Bet-ta Work Honey. You are Fierce!”.
By Hotlanta
November 27, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this
If he says he is calling from the office then you hear cash registers and people ordering coffee, he is calling from Barnes & Nobles or Starbucks.
If he has a hard time following simple directions to your home believe me he will have a difficult time trying to get to your heart and everything else.
By Sidelines
November 27, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this
900….If she tells you that one of your homies is cute… well then she’s a jump off!! off topic sorry
ROFLMAO….I’m in stitches ova’ here! lol…
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this
He calls you to ask what you are doing. You reply that you were going to Gorin’s for ice cream. He offers to stop by and give you a ride. He arrives, with his three chillun in tow, and then suggest that y’all go to Zesto’s because he is concerned that you may spend too much buying ice cream at Gorin’s for everyone.
By Willie Dynamite
November 27, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this
Fellas let me ask a ???
Were these red flags back in the wildin out days or were they just qualifiers for jump-offs and hit and runs?
I’ve had quite a few Peaches and Punkins and a few of them had that good-good. Just couldnt keep em around.
By SeanJohnson3000
November 27, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this
@ brownvixen….just asking..whats fancy to you? and how often would u will be willing to treat? i dont mind going to very nice spots..but another red flag for me is a female that enjoys the finer things in life and fine dining…but will never use her “own” money…not speaking on you though…
By Thirdwheel
November 27, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this
I know women that do this too…. but they scratch their front like they are going to town….Your date needs to use the restroom. You catch him dig in his butt then smell it
How about if your date don’t have a drivers license but he insist on driving your car and dropping you off and picking you back up… You better run….
If a woman comes to your house and says she needs to use the bathroom and you think she is doing number 1 but it’s number two and she leaves the bathroom funky for you but tries to cover it up with that cheap spray mist you better kick her out and run…..
if your date uses coupons on the first date and says lets do a 2 for 1 special then you better run….
By Tazzee
November 27, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this
Red Flag: If he refers to all his exes as significant other (never using pronouns like ‘she’ or ‘her’) coupled with a few touches to your arm followed by ‘gurl, let me tell you’
By Teresa
November 27, 2007 2:51 PM | Link to this
@BlowMe…That comment is MADDDDD FUNNYYYYY!!!!!! LMAO!!!!!!
By QueDogTeaching
November 27, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this
What up blog Said while laughing at the sad but true comments in this blog.
Here are a couple:
Knows all bruhs and says I just loved the Ques in college.
Moved from another state because “I had to clear my head and get away from my ex”
Has moved from more than two states not job related and have had a bad relationship experience in every state that she has lived.
Every man she has ever dated has cheated on her.
Has “Dated” Or claims to know more than one Celebrity or athlete.
If while you are out more than one guy knows her by name or “situation” and her response is “I dated him once or twice”
If she can make this statement “once we started fist fighting in front of the kids, that was the final straw”
Makes this statement on the first date “I want to be a house wife”
By 900k
November 27, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this
If she does hair on the front porch… just keep driving man.
If you meet her mother for the first time and moms asks you for $5… RUN
If she has a good job but dresses like %ish for work & hair uncombed… shes tired.
If her only child lives with her mom in NY and she’s been here since ‘04… RUN
If she says ” OOH… I’ve been there b4!” everytime you ride by a nice hotel… jump off! jump off!
By Teresa
November 27, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this
Is it a red flag if he ONLY likes his salad tossed
By brownsugarvixen
November 27, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this
Slim** I only got 20% oxgyen left in my tank. Anymore laughs & a sista may need the paramedics.
You go to the kitchen to get your date a beverage. On your return, you catch him hurriedly trying to eat the booger that he just dug out his nose.
Blow Me** People who buy you scratch offs and half of them already scratched. They be tryin to get their cut. Oh h3ll naw.
Your date needs to use the restroom. You catch him dig in his butt then smell it.
By Hotlanta
November 27, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this
If you are in the car and he has a white coat on in the car next to you fronting as if he is a doctor. Tell him to pull over and get out of the car. Look down at the pants. If those pants are black/white checkered and that white coat has blood all over it he is a cook. Not a chef but a cook.
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this
Well Golden Corral ain’t Ruth Chris’ or Bones, for sure-but it ain’t bad eats either. Flexibility is good. I prefer one, but I can do the other-with my money as well. Personally, I like what I like and I do not mind treating myself to those pleasures.
By 2CPTG©
November 27, 2007 3:02 PM | Link to this
……
she asks do you smoke, and bets that she can roll a blunt better’n you…..
says you talk like a white boy because you can pronunciate your words properly…
doesn’t have any benefits on her job because she says, “they ain’t takin’ no money outta my check!”…
she won’t look for a job til her unemployment benefits stop…..
You never see all of her kids at the same time; cause Man-Man is with his daddy this week, and Nuck-Nuck is with his daddy next week…
You invite her to an office party, she declines, but says, “bring me a plate”….
By Dan
November 27, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this
@ Thirdwheel
Don’t be boughie, ain’t nothing wrong with a coupon. I think that would speak to a person’s frugality. Now if they only take you to places where they can use coupons….
@ Que
Be real..if she mentions one athlete or one celebrity.
By brownsugarvixen
November 27, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this
SJ300** Fancy spot for me woule be Chops in Buckhead, Rays on the River, Maggianos, these are place I go to on special occassions. It’s true though lots of women be wanting you to pay all the time. On first dates I always make preparations to role dutch. Never know if a man gonna pull that I forgot my wallet $hit. I not about to be washing dishes,after a $30 manicure. LOL. If casual dating has the potential to turn into something more only then do I offer to treat.
By Hotlanta
November 27, 2007 3:06 PM | Link to this
Ladies don’t we hate those old played out athletes who carry around old brown around the edges and crumbling newspaper articles of themselves. I am like dude 1972 is ova. Wake up.
By SexyLeggs
November 27, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this
Off topic, have you guys heard about the boyfriend of a man that raped and murdered her 10-month old baby. Sorry to change the mood, but my head is swimming trying to grasp some sicko doing this.
By Staceye
November 27, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this
Cursedinlove uhhhh…dayyyyyum! LOL
Teresa I met a porno freak….needless to say he never even got to see this! LOL
Brownsugarvixen uh….whoa! LOL
Ared I feel you. I have no kids but I see how kids, especially little boys, dog the hell out of some shoes and clothes. I would buy the good stuff for when are going somewhere they will not be running around and playing. But it would be Walmart, Old Navy & Target other times!
Blow me Ugh….that’s just nasty!
SJ You are nuts! LOL
Slim WTF? LOL
By SlimOne
November 27, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this
Thirdwheel If a chick is scratching the front,its one of two things….either she is not so clean or healthy down there or she got carried away with the clippers one day and now the hair is growing back.
Note to self to not ever do that again
By Teresa
November 27, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this
If the back of his ears smells like corn chips…RUNNNNNNNN
By BennyB
November 27, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this
AmazonRed, you will not get any credit on Wall Street if all you do is buying and selling stocks because you find a flag that they will not perform. On Wall Street you lose money, on dating you lose time. Do your homework; analyze your stock before you commit to buy.
A divorced woman without kid(s) is like a wound without scar, they call them supersonic: you can hear them cry but you cannot see their tears.
Tazzee Can’t keep a man for 2 years!!! So easy even Spears can do it….Hope that you just been looking for the same damn thing in the same damn place…….
By SexyLeggs
November 27, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this
2C, there’s always a Nuck-Nuck or a Man Man somewhere. That was funny!
By AmazonRed
November 27, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this
Dan, you better not be calling out bougie broads. LOL
Off-topic, I just booked 10,000 miles of travel for a period of 15 days. Aye yi yi. Who wants to take me on a nice vacay after all my travel is done?!
By Blow Me
November 27, 2007 3:20 PM | Link to this
He stays dead fresh….but doesn’t have a car to the first.
All he wants to do is stay high and drink
He calls you whispering…Tells u to come pick him up and he is bucked naked behind a bush. :rolleyes:
You come over and he has a the countertop in the kitchen full of baking soda, mason jar…and dime baggies all over the counter :blink:
By Staceye
November 27, 2007 3:20 PM | Link to this
Sexyleggs I saw a picture of that 10 month baby. She was beautiful. I wanted to cry. Sick people out there.
By SeanJohnson3000
November 27, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this
@ Brownsugar…i feel you…just was asking..never been to chops..i will have to see how it is..rays is cool…maggianos was decent…ruth chris gives you a flintstones size steak and portions.
By caramelcutie
November 27, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this
A few atlanta experiences popped to mind: He asks u out to dinner and gets there and says he’s already eaten. “but u go ahead and order”…cheap!
he asks u out to dinner and gets mad when u want to order a glass of wine..cheap!
he comes over, eyes all red and smell like smoke but swear he dont smoke weed
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this
Hotlanta
the aritcles, the photo albums, the old videos, etc. Ain’t seen that many afros and platforms shoes in a minute-lol.
By AmazonRed
November 27, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this
BennyB, I think you have me confused with another poster. One thing I don’t waste is time. You won’t see me in a 5 year relationship I wish I have gotten out of after year 2.
Folks like to ignore these red flags. I like to see them for what they are and get out accordingly. I think I’ve saved myself a lot of grief.
By AmazonRed
November 27, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this
He calls you whispering…Tells u to come pick him up and he is bucked naked behind a bush.
HA HA HA HA!!! BlowMe, I am DONE with that comment!
By SexyLeggs
November 27, 2007 3:32 PM | Link to this
Staceye, she was gorgeous. I’ve been corresponding with the journalist in Philly who just wrote the article. I didn’t realize it happened about 2 weeks ago. She says the mother is in shock and has methamorphed into a quiet, shocked shell of herself. People around her have a close watch on her. WTH is wrong with lowlife male creatures even thinking about doing something like this. Ok, back to topic….WHEW!
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 3:32 PM | Link to this
SeanJohnson3000
It really boils down to what is mutually enjoyable for both people. Again, flexibility is good. I would not expect someone to take me to a place that I would not take myself.
BTW, Ray’s in the City has a good happy hour and some of the best seafood inside of 285 downtown.
By nay39
November 27, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this
Ladies, look out for these flags (keep in mind, these are all from one guy who is 50 years old): 1. Never owned a house 2. Doesn’t live alone (always with a woman or a roomate) 3. Still putting minutes on his cell phone 4. Calls you 18 times (in one night) 5. Talks about moving in with you after 3 weeks 6. No bank account 7. Drinks all weekend (even Sunday) and a few days out of the week 8. When you ask about his future career goals, all he can say is “I’m blessed” (wth does that mean???)
There is one more, and this can apply for men as well as women: if they only talk about themselves, and hardly ever ask you any questions! That means they don’t to know who you are, but what you can do them.
By nay39
November 27, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this
Ladies, look out for these flags (keep in mind, these are all from one guy who is 50 years old): 1. Never owned a house 2. Doesn’t live alone (always with a woman or a roomate) 3. Still putting minutes on his cell phone 4. Calls you 18 times (in one night) 5. Talks about moving in with you after 3 weeks 6. No bank account 7. Drinks all weekend (even Sunday) and a few days out of the week 8. When you ask about his future career goals, all he can say is “I’m blessed” (wth does that mean???)
There is one more, and this can apply for men as well as women: if they only talk about themselves, and hardly ever ask you any questions! That means they don’t to know who you are, but what you can do for them.
By SexyLeggs
November 27, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this
For the record Chops is excellent!!!!
By lazy les
November 27, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this
Red Flag- YOu make love and then he has to go blow the leaves off his yard. Good I have my OLd man. You can’t trust a red head.
By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth
November 27, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this
Brownsugar all those restaurants feed you as if your not hungry and are just droppin in for a snack. Dam that. I can drop $100 at Mortons and leave hungry or $7 at Golden corral and roll my azz outta there. Do the math. LOL A nice compromise is brunch at the ritz. Any of you ever tried that?
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 3:40 PM | Link to this
SexyLeggs
Sad fact of the matter is that these things are happening way too often. I sadly fear that there is not a low to low to go anymore for some people. Children are innocents that far too often become the victims of twisted adults perversions.
By Beautiful
November 27, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this
me and this one guy i dated was on our way home and i asked him to stop at a burger joint cause i was hungry. girl, he ordered me a burger with nothing else. lol. i was p**. he had the nerve to hand me a bag with a plain burger. omg! no drink, no fries, no napkins, no nothing. i laugh about that all the time. yes, i ran!
By Tazzee
November 27, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this
BennyB it’s not about being able to keep a man for 2 years, how about not wanting a man after that first year. Trust me, I could have been married 3 times but I decided that, like you said - I analyzed my stock before committing to buy.
When you date to marry - why keep dating after you figure out the person you’re dating is not for you to marry? It doesn’t take 2 years to find that out.
But what I have found is a lot of men that might be in a relationship for 2+ years but they were only faithful for one. Or how about the ones that only stay in a relationship because nothing better has come along? It’s the folks that are always in LTR’s but never been married that are red flags to me. Not that I think anything is wrong with that guy - but as a person that dates to marry, I might question whether that guy has the same end in mind.
By Hotlanta
November 27, 2007 3:45 PM | Link to this
Lsdies avoid the men that set his daily calendar around the court system amd he is not an employee.
By brownsugarvixen
November 27, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this
Blow Me Hilarious. If she doesn’t see the pitbull standing guard, the iron screen door, and the burglar bars on the windows. Before makin it into the house. Then she need to do more than blink.
On the real ladies:
If he still wears a Jerry Curl, knee high football socks w/stripes, high tec boots, or dress shoes w/white socks. Can I say playa from the Himalayas (this brother go way..way. back).
If everybody he knows including himself all got street names (Mookie, Ray-Ray, Peanut, Black, & Smoke). Proceed with caution, they all got a wrap sheet. You might be asked to bond one of them out of jail.
By Just being Real
November 27, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this
If she thinks SEX AND THE CITY IS THE BIBLE FOR LIVING LIFE!!
By SexyLeggs
November 27, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this
Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth, I’ve taken my daughter there for brunch.
By Blow Me
November 27, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this
Here’s one for the fellas!
She thinks section 8, food stamps, tanf is living in the lap of luxury
She greets you brother with a bj
Only way she knows how to dance is to clap her a*….ALL at your Xmas party
By AAA
November 27, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this
Thank goodness, I have never had a date from hell!!! Ladies and Gents, dont forget it is also about WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE. If you look cheap, you get cheap, if you look classy you get classy and its not at the club
By Tazzee
November 27, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this
nay39 you dealt with this dude for 3 weeks? LOL - that’s some messed up stuff from one man.
Rays in the City has some good Crab cakes! More crab than cake.
By aaa
November 27, 2007 3:52 PM | Link to this
But what I have found is a lot of men that might be in a relationship for 2+ years but they were only faithful for one. Or how about the ones that only stay in a relationship because nothing better has come along? It’s the folks that are always in LTR’s but never been married that are red flags to me. Not that I think anything is wrong with that guy - but as a person that dates to marry, I might question whether that guy has the same end in mind.
Thats not true, people choose to get married. Some people dont want to get married, they want to stay single and mingle forever. Dont judge a man based on that assumption. Perhaps the man hasnt found the right on. Men like variety. Its the way of Life” Women start thinking like a man, I had too, and it all worked out for me!!
By AmazonRed
November 27, 2007 3:53 PM | Link to this
Tazzee - Amen to your comment. None of the guys I dated in my past were the ones for me. Plain and simple.
When I find a guy I think I can spend the rest of my life with…trust, I don’t plan to let him go.
By Blow Me
November 27, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this
She thinks section 8, food stamps, tanf is living in the lap of luxury
She greets you brother with a bj
Only way she knows how to dance is to clap her a*….all at your Xmas party
By BLAT
November 27, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this
@SLIM… You should just wax or laser the NuNu. Sorry, couldn’t resist.
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this
Ritz Carlton rocks for brunch, so does Chequer’s-so is the Waffle House-lo. The ATL metro has a plethora of good places to eat out, with a wide range of price options.
By Teresa
November 27, 2007 3:59 PM | Link to this
You invite him to your work xmas party and he flirts
By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth
November 27, 2007 4:01 PM | Link to this
Sexy did you like it? I thought it was nice. Good food and a nice enviroment. Btw, how have you been doing?
Blow Me I don’t see the prob with meeting your brother with a bj. You’ve just found a 100% knockoff. LMAO
M’Karyl this thing is so outta wack nobody is immune. Old, young, smart, retarded, fat, skinny. Everyone is a target. Its like the sicko’s are playing a game of one upmanship.
By Dan
November 27, 2007 4:02 PM | Link to this
Boughie, boughie, boughie.
Yet another red flag. Some boughie women have “champange tastes on a beer budget.”
By ATLWorldwide
November 27, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this
Ditto on AmazonRed’s comments.
It takes less than one year to figure out that someone is not right for you. Why keep on keeping on for the sake of being in a relationship? Nothing wrong with being a loner, and NOTHING wrong with knowing you have more options than to remain in a relationship just because other people who could care less about you think you should be in one!
I’m over 30 and haven’t been in a relationship for over a year b/c I’ve either spotted too many red flags, or didn’t want to waste time with someone I knew I didn’t want to be with for the rest of my life.
No psycho here, all amicable breakups (no cut on the side afterwards either)
By Staceye
November 27, 2007 4:04 PM | Link to this
Beautiful did you at least get cheese on the burger? LOL
By Blow Me
November 27, 2007 4:07 PM | Link to this
He has a sticky black tails mag and a bottle of lotion on the table in the bathroom. :<:
You go to his mama’s house and they in there arguing….He screams out “F*** u B***!!” to his mom and turns around and smiles @ U and says ” Baby let’s go! ” :o
By Tazzee
November 27, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this
aaa I said I ‘might’ question whether he has the same end in mind. If he’s the type that likes to mingle forever then we don’t have a future.
“Perhaps the man hasnt found the right on. Men like variety. Its the way of Life” Women start thinking like a man, I had too, and it all worked out for me!!” Please join all this together for me…if a guy hasn’t found the right one and he’s looking for her, I would think he would know before 2 years. So that would put him in the category of staying with someone that’s not right until something better comes along…provided that he’s been ‘faithful’ to the woman he’s been with for 2 years but she’s not the right one but he’s looking for the right one…And if a guy is wanting variety - then he’s dating multiple women - to me that is not the definition of being in a relationship.
Just asking for clarification on your response to my comment.
By SexyLeggs
November 27, 2007 4:10 PM | Link to this
Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth, more importantly, how did my daughter enjoy it. We both had a blast. I can’t remember who told me this, but even if you can’t afford the entire dinner for two go for dessert anyway. I’m trying to expose my child to as much as I can. She loves the High Museum.
Thanks for asking, my friend. I’m doing exceptionally well.
By Blow Me
November 27, 2007 4:10 PM | Link to this
After a week knowing him….and days messing he calls u collect…..from JAIL!!
Before he can even call u after he got yo number….His babymom calling you “How you know Tyree?!”
RED FreKIN FLAG!
By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth
November 27, 2007 4:13 PM | Link to this
MK I havent been to Chequers for brunch but I’ve had dinner there. Great food. Any chick that can appreciate waffle house is a winner for me. LOL As I’ve said before the best eats, regrdless of price, for me is Pappadeuxs. That blackened Opellousas Fillet is de lic ous.
Ared lmao @ Only way she knows how to dance is to clap her a*….all at your Xmas party. 2 fuggin funny
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this
Tazzee
Their mountain trout, seafood pasta, lobster, sushi and lump crab cocktail all rock!!
Blow Me Sho’ you right-lol!
Red Go for what you know. Be true yourself.
By Corbin
November 27, 2007 4:15 PM | Link to this
^5 Just being Real on your 3:46 comment. Women who make too many references towards any telvision show or movie just to make their lives seem even more fabulous and drama filled get a red flag.
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this
truth No it is more like how low can you go. My point is that so many children are dying at the hands of the mother’s boyfriends, along with all the other crazy $hit happening as well.
By Deacon Demi
November 27, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this
Now holding a sign which reads:
Church Building Fundraiser: Blog Fight $10.00…aaa vs Tazz
ding,ding,ding…
By brownsugarvixen
November 27, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this
Beautiful sounds like that brother was only tryin to give you the bare necessities (meat & bread). While I’m sure that some people like plain burgers, he could’ve at least gotten u some ketchup & mustard packets.Just when you think you’ve seen and heard it all.
@Truth: Chops is an excellent place to dine. It can be pricey depending on what you eat. I agree 100% that there are lots of hot spots that provide you with variety, larger portions, at a great price. Don’t mind hitting those spots up either.
By Hotlanta
November 27, 2007 4:21 PM | Link to this
Okay Blow Me. Be careful if homeboy has a food stamp debit card with the American Flag on it and try to front like it is a regular American Express card.
AAA what is this thing about women start thinking like men. I hate it when people tell me that. I is all about what you want and you play the numbers hgame until you find the one you want. I thought it was called dating.
By Teresa
November 27, 2007 4:21 PM | Link to this
where is this story at about the 10 month old baby
By AmazonRed
November 27, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this
Right on ATLWorldwide! LOL
By ATLWorldwide
November 27, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this
Ditto Tazzee.
People that are in 5 year relationships without getting married send off red flags, in my opinion.
Men over 21 who have children out of wedlock are red flaggers (means they don’t like to use protection).
Men who get a little too excited about my profession (like they are dreaming of sitting on my couch playing Nintendo all day) are red flaggers.
If he can’t tell you what his job is in less than five words = red flag
By Blow Me
November 27, 2007 4:25 PM | Link to this
TRUTH What the hell is M’Karyl talkin about?? Make your own thread that’s depressing!?!?! Sad but damn….too depression and to sick to think about!
By SlimOne
November 27, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this
Blat You should just wax or laser the NuNu. Have you thought about the reprocussions or effects of having a laser that close to the CT? It might cause some abnormal chain reaction, making it start to grow at an alarming rate. Next thing you know I’ll be in Guiness Book of World records and have to hire a Brinks armed guard to keep dudes away.
By SexyLeggs
November 27, 2007 4:27 PM | Link to this
aaa and Tazz, stay right in your corners and ignore that ding, ding, ding. You aren’t on Jerry Springer!!!
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this
Truth
Chequer’s has a great all you can eat Sunday brunch for $18 (?, havent been in a while)-omelets and belgian waffles made to order, shrimp, smoked salmon, pastries, fresh fruit, eggs and much more-this price also includes free refills on non-alcoholic beverages.
Pappadeuxs is cool-little too much sauce and seasoning for me, prefer Ray’s or McKinnon’s. And I would do the Waffle House over Majestic any day-lol. DUnk n’ Dine and Landmark work too.
By Tazzee
November 27, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this
LOL BlowMe *”After a week knowing him….and days messing he calls u collect…..from JAIL!!
Before he can even call u after he got yo number….His babymom calling you “How you know Tyree?!”*
I’ve had both of those happen - it’s been a while on the collect call from jail, but getting a call from the women before he calls, that’s recent.
Deacon Demi Quit instigating!!! I’m just looking for clarification, that’s all…
I’m a lover, not a fighter ;-)
By SexyLeggs
November 27, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this
Theresa, http://kdka.com/local/child.assault.victim.2.570471.html
By buckie
November 27, 2007 4:32 PM | Link to this
What if he shoves his manhood down my mouth w/o remorse?
By buckie
November 27, 2007 4:32 PM | Link to this
What if he shoves his manhood down my mouth w/o remorse for my gag reflex!!!!
By buckie
November 27, 2007 4:32 PM | Link to this
What if he shoves his manhood down my mouth w/o remorse for my gag reflex!!!!
By buckie
November 27, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this
What if he shoves his manhood down my mouth w/o remorse for my gag reflex!!!!
By ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)
November 27, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this
A man with more that one ex wife….RUN!
A man with more than one “baby momma”…RUN!
ATLien Straight from the “A”
www.straightfromthea.com
By Alvin
November 27, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this
I just thought about something, since I am a deaf cat…I bet women be throwing red flags on my a$$ like a mugg…LOL
Tazz knowing you…you’re not a big risk taker, when it comes to you heart, huh?
By BLAT
November 27, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this
Nah, SlimBaby… I’ve personally enjoyed the product of a lasered NuNu, and I loves me a clear runway from which to take off!!!!!
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this
SexyLeggs I’m trying to expose my child to as much as I can. Bravo Mami. It is this type of approach that prepares our children to move more confidently through this world. My daughter had the opportunity to go to Europe twice-once as a part of the “People to People” program when she was 15, and again with her International Business class when she was 21. And, I know from my own experiences that being encourged to do things and being exposed to many things as a child gave me more poise as I grew older.
By ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)
November 27, 2007 4:37 PM | Link to this
If after your first kiss he says… “it’s been so long since I touched a woman…” RUN!
ATLien is Straight from the “A”
www.straightfromthea.com
By Tazzee
November 27, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this
ATLWorldwide I don’t red flag men over 21 with a child out of wedlock, I can only hope that it’s with a woman they were in an exclusive, got the test already relationship. Additionally, it depends on how long ago they had the child. So I try to keep an open mind about that and learn the circumstances behind it.
But what kills me is men that can’t seem to understand why I DON’T have a child. I told this one man that I believe in doing things in the proper order and being responsible - he still didn’t get it…
By Staceye
November 27, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this
Blow Me You are a friggin’ hot mess! LMAO
Teresa you will find it on www.mediatakeout.com
ATLWorldWide People that are in 5 year relationships without getting married send off red flags I agree! It doesn’t take you that long to know what you want….unless you were 16 when you got together and now at 21…still to young to get married!
By Teresa
November 27, 2007 4:40 PM | Link to this
Thanks SexyLeggs
By M'Karyl
November 27, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this
Blow Me my comments were related to Sexleggs mentioning of the 10-month old wo was raped and murdered by her mother;s boyfriend
By 2CPTG©
November 27, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this
“Be careful if homeboy has a food stamp debit card with the American Flag on it and try to front like it is a regular American Express card.”……
shiiiid, I wish I could get some food stamps, we’ll be eatin like Kings……
By Tazzee
November 27, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this
Alvin nope, because I love hard and I love for life pretty much. But if I’m really feeling a guy - I don’t hold back. The good thing is, the guys I’ve dealt with got exposed before I got in too deep.
By Blow Me
November 27, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this
He is a strong supporter of BLUE FLAMES and MAGIC CITY.
He always smells like a 5th of Henn and a box of Newports!
By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth
November 27, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this
To those trying to halt Deacons attempt at staging a great blog fight, please stop. The church really needs and appreciates those “alternative” funds. Come, enjoy the event and lets have a love offering. LOL
Blow Me she was just commenting on the sick folks out there. Not trying to deflate your fun bag.
*MK I’m going to have to hit Chequers brunch. Sounds good.
By SexyLeggs
November 27, 2007 4:47 PM | Link to this
M’Karyl, I truly believe things happen and are said for a reason. My daughter has been asked to participate in the 2008-2009 People to People program to I believe Spain. I put the brochure on my nightstand to revisit at a later date. I’m scared, but I can’t let this opportunity pass for her.
If you don’t run after he says “it’s been so long since I touched a woman…” RUN as ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)says, you’ll be cleaning his skeet, skeet up from the window to the wall…LOL.
By ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)
November 27, 2007 4:48 PM | Link to this
@ Tazzee
But what kills me is men that can’t seem to understand why I DON’T have a child. I told this one man that I believe in doing things in the proper order and being responsible - he still didn’t get it…
I’m with you. Some men just don’t understand….
They don’t realize that alot of these broads are just out here poppin em out to “keep a nukka”…
By Alvin
November 27, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this
SexyLeggs all I can say is wow… such a beautiful child…I am calling my son’s mom to check on him now…(I call 3 or 4 times a week to speak with him any how).
That dude would have never made it into police custody…
By Alvin
November 27, 2007 4:55 PM | Link to this
Tazzee cool, I can respect that…their loss, LOL.
Blow Me those are well respected club…they were even mention in yin yang’s Ai Ai Ya Ya, LOL
By brownsugarvixen
November 27, 2007 4:56 PM | Link to this
5years of dating is to darn long. Even worse, people who been in a relationship for 15 years, stay married 2 years and then divorce. Like they didn’t know that da h3ll, they was getting into. WTH is up with that?
By SexyLeggs
November 27, 2007 4:57 PM | Link to this
Don’t worry Alvin, he won’t make it in a jail cell.
By SexyLeggs
November 27, 2007 4:58 PM | Link to this
Good night everyone. Have a safe and restful evening!
By Deacon Demi
November 27, 2007 4:59 PM | Link to this
RUN as ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)says, you’ll be cleaning his skeet, skeet up from the window to the wall…
SexyLeggs in my TI voice
WHAT YOU KNOW ‘BOUT THAT!!
LOL Night All
By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth
November 27, 2007 5:00 PM | Link to this
Atlien the funniest post of the day. LMAO “If after your first kiss he says… “it’s been so long since I touched a woman…” RUN!”
That was a cute little baby. I’m with Alvin, a 10 cents bullet would save thousands in court and incarceration fees. The thing is everyone with kids is vulnerable to these cats. Where did they come from?
Sexy as scary as it may be you gotta let her go. Charachter comes from experience, experience comes from doing. She’ll never forget the experience.
By ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)
November 27, 2007 5:01 PM | Link to this
SexyLeggs
LMAO…you’re right! I wasn’t even thinking of him being celebate…but “so long since I touched a woman” could mean that mo-fo been out touchin MEN! LOL!
By brownsugarvixen
November 27, 2007 5:08 PM | Link to this
I just read the story about the little girl. On a serious note. People have to really be careful who they share their beds with. This guy was a SERIOUS WHACK JOB. Beautiful baby. R.I.P. precious child. My heart is broken. I’m compeletly mortified. It honestly may be a good thing that she is resting forever. I’m sure the injuries she sustained would have been to much to live with, and a constant reminder of what happened to her in the past. Moment of prayer on that one!
By Teresa
November 28, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this
test
By Blow Me
November 28, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this
We back in business I see!