Misadventures in Atlanta

By lady j

November 21, 2007 8:18 AM | Link to this

Morning All!!!

I am thankful I have a opportunity again to truly date….Dating is shaping me into a woman who is finding herself through the ups and downs with dating…It gives me a chance to give men a chance to see what I will tolerate and won’t…Date is a process that must takes place before any long term commitment…I did the process backwards but it is all good bc it has been the best life teaing experience ever…So I am thankful for my failed marriage and the intelligence to end it as early as we did…It made me stand on my on and start the quest of finding out who J really and and what J really wants in life…It brought lil J that continues to demand me to be a great mommie…and over the duration I truly learned it is truly ok to be single and thankful for that…Happy Thanksgivving Blogsville!!!

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 21, 2007 8:18 AM | Link to this

Awwww, snap! This is gonna be a good one. LOL!

(Morning everyone and Happy Thanksgiving!)

By Kym-Proud Steeler Nation Member Since 1994

November 21, 2007 8:18 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

As I start my day of cleaning…but atleast I am home.

I am thankful for all the men in my life-my son, my dad, my uncles and “that special one who makes me smile with just the thought of him.”

By lady j

November 21, 2007 8:19 AM | Link to this

Meant Happy Thanksgiving!

By Jazzyone

November 21, 2007 8:25 AM | Link to this

Im thankful for all the men in my past and present and most of all for my DADDY. He has taught me allot and so have the men I know. There are a couple on my greatest loves list and for that I am thankful.

Funny how AAA came up in here spitting hate on men black men mind you when she was just up in here claiming she had found her greatest love and married a black man….was that not her ya???

Have a great holiday….

Dan and Demi please see your email accts as the hourglass is almost empty….

By lady j

November 21, 2007 8:25 AM | Link to this

Oh good one Kym…Thankful for lil J dad, my brother, my male friends I have who truly have my back..include my stranger ones too..lol…and those crazy co-workers of mine!!! Men are good people through all their drama too…lol

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 21, 2007 8:34 AM | Link to this

I’m neither dating nor in a relationship right now, so, as it relates to giving thanks for the women in my life, it would have to be for my mother and sister.

My mom because she possess all the attributes I look for in a woman. Not in the context of a “caretaker”, lest any of you misconstrue what I’m saying, but someone who’s modest, humble, sincere and down-to-earth. My sister because she’s always looked out for me and what’s in my best interests. She’s never wanted anything but the best for me, whether it’s in my relationships, my job, my children, whatever.

So, there it is. :-)

By ImAPeach404

November 21, 2007 8:45 AM | Link to this

Really nice topic!

I guess at this point I’m most thankful for my really, really close guy friends (who are not transformers!!!) They help me to see that there are good guys out there who are truly looking for good women. They help me see that I’m not the last human being in the world who values a traditional relationship laced with honesty, respect, and consideration. I am so thankful to them for that. I LOVE my guy friends.

I’ll have to really sit and think about what im thankful for about dating… I’m drawing a blank.

By M'Karyl

November 21, 2007 8:49 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks:

I would have to say that first and foremost I am thankful for my father, grandfathers, uncles and extended male family elders who are the foundation and inspiration for influencing, shaping and molding my positive, beautiful and affectionate views of strong Black men. I am fortunate to have been reared with a plethora of wonderful Black men as role models, heroes, and valiant soldiers of exemplary manhood and virtue.

Next, I would have to say that I am thankful for my daughter’s father because if not for him, then I would not be the mother of a truly beautiful and wonderful child. And then ,I would have to say that I am grateful to James, a young brother I met right after I first moved to the ATL because he was the first brother to tell me that I did not need to enhance my appearance with artificial means to make myself more attractive. He encouraged me to see the natural beauty of myself from within out. Then there was Rogelio, my Panamanian soul mate. We called him Panama Jones because with him life was always an unprecedented and unanticipated adventure. I am grateful to him for opening my eyes and my mind to the resourcefulness of my inner being, and for teaching me how to redirect that resourcefulness to survive in the unprecedented struggle that lay before me in my life.

And I am even grateful the men who may have presented my character and integrity with challenges that helped to make me stronger because of them I learned how I did not want to be treated ( or rather mistreated).

Peace, blessing and love to them all.

By binford

November 21, 2007 8:51 AM | Link to this

I cosign Darrell’s post.

And even though the love segment of my life has rarely been what I’ve wished for, I’m still thankful to be above ground when I wake up every morning. I have it good in a lot of ways - plenty to be thankful for.

By QC - waiting on 5ive

November 21, 2007 8:57 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers…my Dad made a great impact on my life…he was the Best Dad in the World…i’m thankful for my Mom she’s a soldier, go getter & means the world to Me…..there’s nothing in this world i would’nt do for her and she knows it….yes, i’m very thankful for my brother Darrell/Wordsmith…he’s right i’ve always wanted the best for him and if i can make that happen he knows i will….I’m single right now…i also thank God for life, health & everything he’s blessed me & my wonderful Family with

WE SHOULD ALL GIVE THANKS WITH A GREATFUL HEART FOR ALL GOD HAS DONE FOR US

have a great day!!!

By ImAPeach404

November 21, 2007 8:58 AM | Link to this

M’Karyl… wherever you’re meeting men at, I’d like to be there too! Sounds like you’ve had some wonderful brothas in your life :)

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

November 21, 2007 9:01 AM | Link to this

Morning All! I hope you all have a Happy Thanksgiving tomorrow!

I am thankful for my marriage even though it ended. That relationship gave me my greatest gift: my child. I never would have imagined that I could love someone the way I love my baby! :-) I am also thankful for the experience of being married though. It taught me a lot about myself and I found a lot of things that I need to change and improve on. I feel like I will be so much better in my next relationship due to the experience. I am always thankful for my friends and family, the whole lot of them! However this year I am thankful for new beginnings!

By SexyLeggs

November 21, 2007 9:02 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone! I am thankful for all my past relationships. I’ve learned something from each one. One in particular was when I dated the biggest con man that I believe existed in Atlanta in the late 90’s. He was charming, excellent orator and seemed to have a good heart. However, he was a wolf in sheep clothing. I learned to trust my instincts at all levels of dating and to ask more questions when doubt and disbelief seeped in my brain. I’m thankful for my father (albeit absent) that somehow enstilled in me the drive to do and be a better person and to own up to my responsibilities.

I’m thankful for my brothers who seemed to always walk down the wrong path in life thereby helping guide me not to follow them.

M’Karyl, I have to steal this because I was wondering how to state this exact sentiment. Next, I would have to say that I am thankful for my daughter’s father because if not for him, then I would not be the mother of a truly beautiful and wonderful child. Most definitely!

By M'Karyl

November 21, 2007 9:12 AM | Link to this

ImAPeach:

I would rather focus on those Black men who have been the bounty and beauty of my life’s joy, rather than those who have not quite made any lasting good impressions on my spirit. Truly, I have encountered more men who have not been so cool, but they never really were an emotional value-only an aggravation of negativity.

For example, from 2003 to 2007 (the last 4 years I lived in the ATL) I had approximately 300-400 men solicit me for sex without knowing my name, harass me, stalk me, verbally abuse me, become physically threatening- all for not being interested and simply because I am single and roll solo, so without a man I must be an available cootie-lol. But these men to not count, they only annoy and disrespect. So them I will not even acknowledge because they only serve to block the light of those who love me. TO tem-Peace minus one (subtract a finger form the peace sign) lol

By AmazonRed

November 21, 2007 9:12 AM | Link to this

In dating, I’m thankful I’m not stupid, fat or ugly. LOL. It makes it much easier. I’m thankful for my failed relationships as each one has taught me more about myself.

I’m thankful for the great men in my life my dad, granddad and male friends that have shaped me to who I am and showed me how a real man is supposed to behave.

By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth

November 21, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this

Good morning blogsville.

On topic: Having gone thru most of my life thinking everything I touched turned to gold, I now realize that “luck” came from the folks that raised me. The spirit they breath into you is so powerful. To bad I had to wait so late to realize that. Luckily I had a chance to tell my people what they did for me before I said my final farewells.

We are the result of everyone we meet, the experiences we have, the people we have loved and said goodbye to. At some point we must take a moment to thank those who graced our presence and helped us become the person we are today. The holidays are a great time but everyday is good. You never know when you’ll be saying your last goodbye.

On women, my ex-wife was as good a woman as I’ve met. She continued the job that my family started. She took great care of me and showed me much love. To bad a bruh had to be young and stupid. Sometimes growing up just plain hurts. We are still friends today.

Actually, outside of one chick I’ve been fortunate in the dating arena and have learned some great lessons. I will have to say tho I got better than I gave. Alot of those women deserved better than the way I treated them.

Would all the women wearing plunging v neck tops come to the alter for a moment of head bowwing. LOL

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 21, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this

M’Karyl Your comment at 8:49 (“…he was the first brother to tell me that I did not need to enhance my appearance with artificial means to make myself more attractive…) takes me back to Wise Diva’s opening comment and the Jill Scott song.

The truth is, I honestly wouldn’t care if there were “no more black women” because, as insipid as this might sound, it truly is what’s on the inside that matters. I couldn’t care less about a woman’s race or ethnicity, because what makes a “good” woman is the same thing that makes a “good” man - the condition of her heart.

So, for me, a woman’s race is completely irrelevant because how she’ll treat me as her man isn’t determined by her outward characteristics, but by her inward character. Besides, when you get right down to it, it is the condition of our heart that defines who we really are.

By Deacon Demi

November 21, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

Jazzyone will do

By Rell

November 21, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

i am thankful for the blog lady(ies) that keep me from going off in the strasphere…ya know who you are….lol…luv ya guys!!!!

By M'Karyl

November 21, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this

Peace SexyLeggs:

BTW, the brother BlackPlanet.com site name is Full Body-Orgasm, not Body_Orgasm. I told him that I pubbed him on this site and he wanted to see what was up, so he peeped it last night. Please ladies-check this brother out, just out of curiosity. He is actually a very well-rounded and interesting young brother. Just a fine and grand package of Black manhood, intellect, compassion and character. He loves to chat with all ladies about anything. He is 28, which is too young for me. But I have to give the brother his props!!!

By Rell

November 21, 2007 9:24 AM | Link to this

• I’m thankful I’m not stupid, fat or ugly. LOL. It makes it much easier.*

all i can say is WOW

By Cemeeli

November 21, 2007 9:27 AM | Link to this

Thankful for real men, ok!

Grandaddy thank you for telling me to always smile and show my dimples because it brightens the room. For smiling at me even when i was getting in trouble (which made me smile back). Thank you for the rolls of $10-$20 quaters that you gave all the girl-grands for christmas and the $5-$10 for the boys because you said men should work…(i didn’t understand at first but now that i have a son i get it, kinda). Thanks for my sons dad that made me a single mom, without his actions I would never have appreciated what could be more important than that relationship. Thankful for my uncles (with their crasi selves) stepping in and tryin’ to get gansta about MY LIFE. Love yall to unc…(this is making me cry). Thankful for my dad that was not there physically but was always looking out for me behind the scenes. Lastly i am thankful for my brother (not biological) that was strategically placed in my life (now we both know why) to encourage me to always do me!

Here’s to all the men that have planted idelible impressions in my life.

By brownsugarvixen

November 21, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

Goood Morning All!

Nice Topic.

I must say that I’m thankful for all the strong men that’ve surrounded me at one point or another. Hats off to my father for molding his baby girl into a strong confident woman. For giving me advice, direction and guidance in life that is priceless. For making me see that I can achieve all that life has to offer and more. Furhter more for being the wonderful man that he is, and truly leading by example.

I’m even more thankful for all encounters that I’ve had with men, rather is was dating or day-to-day. I think that every man is special; they just as precious of diamonds as we women are. Some have much cleaner surfaces that appear flawless, while others come with dirt that you gotta clean off in order to watch them shine.

Overall my experience with the men in my life has been that of positive things. I guess I’d call myself lucky. Through divine destiny I’m wed to a wonderful husband, who is just as great a man today, as he was when I met him many years ago. Hat’s off to all men!

By AmazonRed

November 21, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

Rell, I was wondering who’d be the first to bite. Figures it would be you. LOL. I hope you realize it was said in jest.

M’Karyl - I’m having trouble getting past the “full body orgasm” name! Of all the names to identify yourself with…lol

By Rell

November 21, 2007 9:32 AM | Link to this

@wordsmith…cosign your post..

By ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)

November 21, 2007 9:32 AM | Link to this

Good morning peeps!

I’m most thankful for the “Dawgs” I have encountered in my lifetime and for the lessons that I learned from bad relationships. It makes me really appreciate what a real GOOD man is and what their true qualities are…

By YAWN

November 21, 2007 9:32 AM | Link to this

YAWN, boring…….strong black men? Ha ha ha ha ha I have yet to meet one.

All I see are pimps and gangstas…. pants all hanging down to your ankles -, looking like a thug, the latest in prisonwear? Proud to be a punk?

Yup, welcome to the ATL…home of gangstas and pimps……

By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth

November 21, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this

Wordsmith I have to disagree with you on that one. While it does matter whats on the inside I can find the insides I’m looking for wrapped in chocolate or caramel. While women as a whole are beautiful its just something about a sista that makes me wanna…

Please join me for another emergency prayer session. All heads bow. LOL

By C'Mon

November 21, 2007 9:35 AM | Link to this

In dating, I’m thankful I’m not stupid, fat or ugly. LOL.

AmazonRed. WTH?? That was some ignorant ish.

By ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)

November 21, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this

@ Yawn

I think you’re hangin on the wrong side of town…

By M'Karyl

November 21, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this

Brother D:

I feel you on that one. It truly is a matter of the inner being to whom we connect, not necessarily the outer appearance. Granted we all have preferences in desirable attributes, etc. But at the end of the day, I want to share myself with someone who gets me for me. And yes, it is a condition of the heart-Peace and happy Thanksgiving.

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

November 21, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this

Good Morning How is everyone doing…Man i got the stove going….my son is here…. I am so thankful for everyone and everything in my life…..**I am thankful for all of you…everyday we interact with each other, alot times we get to vent and get out things we normally couldnt in any other venue…

So i say thank you, May God bless you and continue to do so….if you have a person that has done something to you, and you have not forgave them…this is a perfect time to do so…alot of People didnt wake up this morning…be thankful for your every breath and life you have

tell someone that you love them…God Loves you and so do i

By Kara

November 21, 2007 9:41 AM | Link to this

Yawn, water seeks its on level. If you don’t know any strong men, maybe you should question why that is. You probably emit weakness and ignorance yourself, thus this is all you are exposed to. I feel bad for you, I really do.

By DreamsMaterialize

November 21, 2007 9:41 AM | Link to this

I’m thankful for all of the strong, beautiful women who helped raise me. I’m also thankful for my daughter, who inspires me daily to be the best man I can be. I am, after all, the first man she’ll ever know and interact with. So, I have to set bar high. I am lastly thankful for the woman who has not yet come into my life.

By brownsugarvixen

November 21, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this

Truth LOL I think you onto something good. Wordsmith may need a lil schoolin from u!

By brownsugarvixen

November 21, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this

Yawn- Where are you lookin the reason why all you see is pimps, thugs & cons?

By Rell

November 21, 2007 9:45 AM | Link to this

@AR, get overyourself…i just thought wow..she really loves herself….i am not longer engaging in the blog back and forth…sweety if you feel that way i pop my collar to you..again i am waiting to see what you look like….but again no heat from over here….ya dig

@truth…i love my black women like the next man, but ummmm a nice body brazillian is nice too homie….lol

TROLL ALERT TROLL ALERT…OR SHOULD WE SAY LIL PEE NIS ALERT

By AmazonRed

November 21, 2007 9:45 AM | Link to this

C’Mon, lighten up. Learn to recognize JEST.

By ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)

November 21, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

@ Kara

VERY well said!!

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 21, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this

Preacher “While women as a whole are beautiful its just something about a sista that makes me wanna…”

I can respect that and I’m not discounting that sentiment in any way. Where I’m coming from is that, as it relates to a woman I might consider becoming “involved” with, I wouldn’t make her race a “prerequisite” for being with me.

As I see it, (certain cultural connections not withstanding) “sistas” (and “bruthas”) are just as susceptible to lies, deceit and mistrust as any other race of females. So, again, for me, it boils down to being a matter of the heart. In other words, can I trust her.

By brownsugarvixen

November 21, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this

GA Man- That is so true. I’m thankful for every day of life. I pray for longevity. Hopefully we all do!

By 2CPTG©

November 21, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

morning….

thankful for it all……“count it all joy”….

By M'Karyl

November 21, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed:

I was responding to some email invites that I ahad received from BlackPlanet.com memebers when I stumbled on this site by the mere mis-click of a mouse button. But oh my, my, my-what a wonderful “mistake”-lol, if for no other reason than the eye candy value-ha! I may be middle aged, but I ain’t blind!

By AmazonRed

November 21, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

Rell, stop “waiting” to see what I look like. It’s irrelevant. Happy holidays to you, sweetie.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 21, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

Is it just me or is anyone else wondering if YAWN and Puppet Master might be one and the same? Hmmm….LOL!

By SexyLeggs

November 21, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

Ok, I’ll be the first to say this: I’m thankful for Wise Diva/Bella/The AJC and the many interesting topics that are given to us.

I’m thankful for BLOGSVILLE in all its glory. You guys are extremely smart, articulate and own a sense of self-worth (well most here do).

Also, I must say I’m thankful for Mama who exudes confidence, wisdom and grace at all turns in life. My hat is off to you Mama!

By Cemeeli

November 21, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

GaMan we are thankful for your thoughtfulness to say we are your fanly too! ;-)

Hey lil GaMan! waving

By brownsugarvixen

November 21, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this

Darrell - That thought crossed my mind. Probably, all the negativity is shine so bright.

By brownsugarvixen

November 21, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this

Darrell - That thought crossed my mind. Probably, all the negativity is shining so bright.

By AmazonRed

November 21, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

M’Karyl I find it surprising that folks still use BlackPlanet! LOL

By M'Karyl

November 21, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

Darell: Is it just me or is anyone else wondering if YAWN and Puppet Master might be one and the same?

Either that or just separated at birth-lol

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 21, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this

trynna help get Darrell initiated

can you trust her??

you can only trust what you know… and what you know comes from experience you had as a youth…. so unless you were raised by another ethinicity, its us sistas you MOST identify with and are better able to trust.

TAG - YOUR IT.

By SexyLeggs

November 21, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this

Truth, I immediately thought of you w/my horoscope reading for today. The cooking/rent free partnership we are about to enter into…LOL

If you’ve been thinking about starting a new business partnership, SexyLeggs, this is the day to take some positive action towards that end. Any new business enterprises started today, particularly where partnerships are involved, show a lot of promise for success. This might make a profound difference in the course of your life, so make sure you allow for as many possible contingencies as you can. Go for the gold, and enjoy the adventure!

Especially the part of enjoying the adventure…I’m cracking myself up over here.

By ATLien (of straightfromthea.com)

November 21, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

@ Darrell

You may have a point there… Way too many similarities…LOL!

By QC - waiting on 5ive

November 21, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

Morning Deacon Demi

**Ga.Man….what’s up

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 21, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

dEACON Demi i forgive you for makin me get a ticket LOLROTF

father T standing behind dress screen what is the order of business today? i want to dress appropriately.. are you preaching or is this private-prayer- sessions hump day??

By Wise Diva

November 21, 2007 10:08 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone!

Sexyleggs, thank you, I think I can speak for Bella too, we really appreciate that comment!

I am thankful for the blog, too and the online community that has been created, even the blog haters, and psychos, LOL. You definitely keep it interesting!

By SexyLeggs

November 21, 2007 10:08 AM | Link to this

msn.com has an article on 10 reasons to give thanks to men and 10 reasons to give thanks to women.

By Deacon Demi

November 21, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

Why women…no matter their color, are important:

A female coworker’s husband, had a heart attack. He is at home and doing well…Her male coworkers (they are good friend)..went and got a sympathy card..had the whole office thinking dude pass away.

Lucky for us, our wise Queen Dona dona caught that fools slip up and schooled him..

latest rumor…co-worker dude was most likely trying to force female co-worker’s dude into another heart attack..so they can elope.

We are bored.

By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth

November 21, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

Rell the Truth makes a correction to include the Brazilian and Panamanian sista’s. LMAO Lets just call them sista’ too.

I think AJC pays folks to come on here and say ignant shyt and dip.

Yawn if thats all you see move out the hood.

Nice post Gaman. Hey, what’s on the stove? LOL I’m hungry today.

Word I feel you, I really do. However, at the end of the day when I picture myself retired and chilling on my rocker its a sista I see sitting next to me. AS a matter of fact when I think of a woman on all fours… its a sister. I’m just wired like that. The good thing is we all have choices. I just feel that with a sista there’s alot of things I DONT have to explain. She already knows.

Where is DasV?

By ImAPeach404

November 21, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

M’Karyl I understand what you mean about focusing on the positive men who have come into your life. Unfortunately for most, the bad often outweighs the good in the world of dating. I’m under the impression that you no longer live in ATL? Is this correct? If so, where do you live now? I believe you are one who said you do not date, but I often wonder if the process is as difficult in other cities as I find it here…

I will have to say tho I got better than I gave. A lot of those women deserved better than the way I treated them.… Truth, knowing this, have you adjusted your dating & relationship ways as you’ve gotten older?

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 21, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

on topic you know i had to do it

when i am feelin low, being crushed under the woe

its you to make me laugh, help me up and back on task

when i feel a tingle up my spine, i feel to dance, my hips to whine

its you the face i seek, your slick glance show where the blessed meet

when i’m taken advantage and have cause to fight, when justice a call, something needs to be made right

its you that steps to blaze war, its you that brings the equalizing of score

when its tenderness and touch i crave, the inward desire comin in waves

its only you i know ill me satisfy, its only you to make me scream and cry

when the car a knock and stall, when i am frustrated and feel to ball

you hold my hand and call on of your boys, wit a cousin that tinkers wit cars as toys

it is in the company of you brethren i am most at home, even if football is all thats on

you make me smile and lift my head with pride, i am woMAN and my rightful place is by your side. kisses for all my blog bruthas, and a little tongue for 2

By Tazzee

November 21, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

Happy Thanksgiving to everyone.

On topic - I am thankful that I can date, there were a couple of instances where I could have married the wrong person and I thank God I didn’t. As far as men, I’m thankful for all men in my life past and present as they have taught me a lot. Everything I’ve experienced was for a reason and I pray I’ve learned the necessary lessons to prevent me from repeating some errors and to help me build on my strengths.

But most of all I’m thankful for the life God has given me. Every day I wake means He still has a purpose and a plan for my life. It also means He’s giving me another chance to get this thing called life right. I’m thankful that He has blessed me with people that love and accept me for me. I’m thankful for my dysfunctional family - and my dysfuntional part in it, LOL.

Sometimes I look at myself and marvel at how blessed I am. Sometimes I just have to say WOW! If I died tomorrow, I won’t leave this earth wishing I’d had a chance to do anything. If I died tomorrow, I’m sure the people that I love know just how much I love and appreciate them. If I died tomorrow, I would go with a smile on my face knowing that my life on this earth has been grand and my eternal life will be even better.

This reminds me of a line from one of my favorite songs:

Every time I think about about what He’s done, I get overwhelmed, get beside myself…

By AmazonRed

November 21, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this

Let’s get ready to celebrate the REAL holiday tomorrow…the beginning of the Sagittarius season!!!

By Jazzyone

November 21, 2007 10:15 AM | Link to this

Yawn is abc and aaa all rolled up into one….silly trick..we manage to look past all the meth heads, trailer trach, child molesters and still let you up in here LOL…

By M'Karyl

November 21, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed:

I initially started using it to keep up with varous friends of mine from all over, it was a common site to hook up on. I have never really used it much or used it for anything in particular. But I had all of these email invites all of a sudden-the one that caught my eye was from Barrack Obama, using the site as a mass outreach tool. But it continues to grow, and grow-you know it is us, dandelions and roaches-lol

By lady j

November 21, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

Hey Tazz!! Great Post!

By AmazonRed

November 21, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

Tazzee, that was beautiful.

By kinderbabe

November 21, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

hey everybody…how are you QC?

By Jazzyone

November 21, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

^5 Tazz…I can relate so much to your post and for that my sistah I thank you!

By M'Karyl

November 21, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this

ImAPeach404:

Correct, I moved to the South Hampton area of VA 5 months ago. I think that the mating scene is a challenge anywhere you go because peeps is peeps. I do think that various factors influence the demographics. For example, the female/male ratio in the ATL has a big influence on the dating scene there. And I think that the military presence here has a big influence on the dating scene in this area.

I will admit that the men here have been as attracted to me as in the ATL, but they have not been as caustic and cruel when I simply say no and no thank you. They are aprreciative of my appearance without being demeaning and the do not disrespect my independence by way of rejection negativity behaviors.

But, I still do not date. I like meeting people by way of random encounters; and I prefer to meet someone and perhaps hang out on a less structured way than dating construes. Every man that I have been involved withto any significant degree in my life time, I have always literallly bumped into them and then dazzled them with my smile-true, lol

By lady j

November 21, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

Hey KB and QC!

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 21, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

DasV What’s up? ;-)

“you can only trust what you know… and what you know comes from experience you had as a youth…. so unless you were raised by another ethinicity, its us sistas you MOST identify with and are better able to trust.”

Gotta disagree with you on that one. The fact is that what you know about a person (regardless of whether it’s garnered from one’s youth or afterwards) is only an outflow of what’s on the inside of the person. And, as such, it is my personal opinion that a woman’s race should not matter.

Granted, race/ethinicity plays a huge role relative to certain cultural commonalities and interests. However, as it relates to unconditional love, I couldn’t care less whether my woman likes black-eyed peas or collard greens. What matters most to me is whether or not I can believe her when she looks me in the eye and says “I love you and only you.”

Once that’s settled, she can be from “the crib” or the Carribean, it wouldn’t matter to me.

By Cemeeli

November 21, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

Thanks to Tazzee for extolling the Most High.

This needs to be post’d in bold…i ll do the honors.

Every time I think about about what He’s done, I get overwhelmed, get beside myself…

By T** patrol

November 21, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

Dasv It does not matter how much you throw your panties at 2 he is not going to fvuk you!! Would you get over it already??!!

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 21, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

Preacher “AS a matter of fact when I think of a woman on all fours… its a sister.”

I’mma leave that one alone, brah. LOL!

By SexyLeggs

November 21, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

ARed, that was funny = Let’s get ready to celebrate the REAL holiday tomorrow…the beginning of the Sagittarius season!!!

Tazzee, that was touching.

DasV, thank goodness you’re not wasting your talent (at least I don’t think you are). Thank you!

By Rell

November 21, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

but they have not been as caustic and cruel when I simply say no and no thank you. They are aprreciative of my appearance without being demeaning and the do not disrespect my independence by way of rejection negativity behaviors.

^^that is the only part of my va upbringing that keeps me from going to the dark side….lol…i use to be 100 percent that way…but life has a way of taking things from you…

By ImAPeach404

November 21, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

I am lastly thankful for the woman who has not yet come into my life. Thats really nice Dreams

By Cemeeli

November 21, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

What’s cooking? ladyj, DasV , kinderbabe & QC? Where is MO.

Whoe else is up cooking besides GaMan?

By Lady Dark with Dimples

November 21, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone

I am so thankful to God for how He has blessed my life. When my mom passed away and my boyfriend of 8 years walked away 2 days later..God was the only man that showed up for me! Not my dad (although I love him to death) not my brother- love him to death too! It was God that taught me not to hate or hold resentment for those who let me down. I have hope and faith in men because I know the love that God has for me.

I am thankful for my fiance. I’ve given him several reasons to walk away and he didn’t take me up on any of them. I am grateful that he won’t let a teardrop hit the floor before springing into action.

I am thankful for my best male bud. He prays for me and my well-being! He’s a great role model as to what a Christian man looks like!

By Deacon Demi

November 21, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

Any wise man could’ve told you that was the wrong card…but really?

I am graceful for God giving my mom the strength to put up with a child such as me…And big up to all my Mature’n’Sexy ladies for showing me, not all women are crazy…most are just going through the struggles called life and will mature with time…to be patience and understanding with women who have been hurt and emotionally scared (Mayne, at the time I was going through it with this chick…I was like: That b-ish need some help, someone need tell her to go and see Jesus!!).

Or what about the fact you took the time out to call me and ask me how my day was… listen to me while I runt and rave about the women of ajc (j/k’n ladies..put the guns away)…Even though your day was a lot more stressful than mines.

And Dayum bay , did you just cook me breakfast in the nude, with your hair’n’make all done up…And hug me tightly from behind, before kicking me back into the world while handing me my guns’n’knives…said to me while hitting your trade mark sista gurl stance

YOU NEED TO MAN UP BRUH!!!!

LOL

I was young and dumb

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 21, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

father T see 1004 post

By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth

November 21, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

Peach404 at my age the meaning of dating has changed. Understand, when I was younger there was only 1 desired result. AZZ. If I went out and didn’t get it it was a loss. I was on auto-pilot. Even meeting women casually I just had to get inside of them. Thankfully that has changed with time and the times. I used to be a shot gun blast and now I’m a sniper. LOL Yes, things have changed as I age.

Jazzy ABC was alot of things but he would at least post in his name and defend whatever he said. These cowards that keep changing their names are the worst.

Now we have Tpatrol. WTF??? Tpatrol let her throw her undies at anyone she wants to.

If any of you ladies need to have “hands” placed on you please come forward and bring your checkbooks.

By lady j

November 21, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

Hello Cemeeli…nothing cooking here…just helping making a list and enjoying this great breakfast my sis just made!!!!

Wishing Cemeeli and your family a great day tomorrow!!! From lil J and I!:)

I love blogging with you!

By M'Karyl

November 21, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

Rell:

It is interesting that you know this. I am currently (here goes the Socio-Anthroplogist in me) doing a comparative analysis of Coastal South vs. Deep South regional variances. Like LA vs. NY are regionally distinct from each other, North Vs. South-the same. I think that many people view the South as the South, but just as the Southern dialects are different from state to state, so are the variances of the cultures within the general Southern region.

I have some historical text about VA history-Israel on the Appomatox, A Murder in Virginia, and of course I need to revisit Nat Turner and Daniel Plesser (?)-gotta check the name, who were two major leaders of revolts in the VA.

By SexyLeggs

November 21, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

I am grateful that he won’t let a teardrop hit the floor before springing into action. WOW, that is so so sweet! LDwD, I’m glad you have that.

By Lady Dark with Dimples

November 21, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli I’m cooking….which is why I can’t wait to leave the plantation to get to the store so that I won’t be up all night!

By Cemeeli

November 21, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this

Alright J you know i can’t take another layer, so stop it! Much LOVE to you and yours…I bet lil J is tha MAN!

while where passing out tissues, love and all;

Smootches to the blog fanly if i forget to say goodbye later…Muah.

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 21, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this

darrell sup? ;)

i love that you are romantic but like most romantics (myself included) you are flirting with foolishness. regardless (or as southerners love to say: ir-regardless) of what flows from my spirit at the end of day if i dont have a meal prepared tha tyou comfortable with eating, theres gonna be static!

if my mama and her mama didnt shave ad i come to bed and at first you think we got new puppy, theres gonna be static.

if my cultural background dictates that i have an altar for every relative that the family has lost to death in the front room and there is no room for you (let alone your boys) to watch the game, there is gonna be static.

if burping after a meal to thank someone for a well-prepared meal is how i do, and how my family do… theres gonna be static. and i dont care if i say aaaaallll day long ‘i love you and only you’, theres gonna be static.

love has to be logical first. and its only logical that like kind stay wit like kind. not sayin it cant work, but you’d be hard-pressed.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 21, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

Preacher “…Thankfully that has changed with time and the times. I used to be a shot gun blast and now I’m a sniper.”

Man, you crazy! LOL!

On a serious note, though, that comment reminds me of Magic Johnson’s dedication to his wife in his book My Life. It reads, “To Cookie. I should have married you sooner.”

My point? Be careful while you’re out there “snipin’”, man. ;-)

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 21, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

some more darrell

BTW… there is no such thing as ‘unconditional’ love. we love on the condition that the one we are with is loyal, kind, trustworthy and honest. ie..ending a marriage over infidelity because fidelity is a condition. you said you want someone to say ’ i love you and only you’… baby boy that is a condition. check your premise.

we gonna get you initiated yet!

By Preacher/Father/Bishop Truth Formally known as The Truth

November 21, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

DASV had I known you were the stand up assistant you are I would have agreed to the 20%. DAYUUUM. Today we’re going to be laying hands on some lost souls that happen to wrapped in a nice skirt. Pick 3 or 4 and let them know daddy, I mean Father Truth, needs to see then in his private quarters. Play some music for the rest of the folks till I get finished. LOL

Darrell what I meant by that is if I have a need a sista can take care of it. Even my sexual fantasies contain sista’s. I know I can find exactly what I’m looking for wrapped in some shade a coco. Thats all. The graphic lingo was meant to catch your eye. LOL

Hi similac, Dimples, and Kinder glad you all could join us today. Smooches

By Kara

November 21, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

DasV, please stop stereotyping interracial relationships. Love has to be logical first?

Life is about static, there are same race marriages that have their own version of static, it doesn’t make their love any more logical.

Have you even been in a relationship with anyone outside your race?

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 21, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

DasV “if my cultural background dictates that i have an altar for every relative that the family has lost to death in the front room and there is no room for you (let alone your boys) to watch the game, there is gonna be static.”

Ain’t no need for “static”. Me and my boys can just head over to Buffalo Wild Wings. :-)

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 21, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

Patrol come’on papi… i knw you want this… but aaallll this just for 2cptg. dont hate.

By Rell

November 21, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

@Mkey..i was born and raised in the colonial town..lol..of williamsburg..trust me when i say that when i went out into the real world…i was full of simpin and subject to alot of game ran on me…see i was the nice dude..the respect dude that like fast loose women…i am very visual…which lead to me getting played in the past…i wised up after every encouter….some good and bad…like everyone else i have a story to tell..but when i look back over my journals or writings that i would give women in my simpin days….i think wow, who is this dude…i dont know him..then i remember the location - Virginia…NOT CA OR TX OR GA…or abroad….i was raised to find that good black women and treat her as such…with all the trimmings..but what mama does not tell you..that every chick does not have a crown..feel me

By QC - waiting on 5ive

November 21, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

Hey lady J, kinderB,Cemeeli, Jazzy

i’m good kinderB once i’m off @ 5ive i have 6 days off…so i’m chillaxing as my niece would say

By lady j

November 21, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

@Cemeeli…On the Mother’s Day Blog…I cried and blogged the whole day…It was a great day on the blog…I use to refer to lil j as lil lady j but since i been on the meds been out of wack…Blame it on the meds as Diva can tell some to get off i think i am hooked…lol…It is all good though!!! I do want a son one day..lol…

By Deacon Demi

November 21, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

QC and Cemeeli hey!!

so unless you were raised by another ethinicity, its us sistas you MOST identify with and are better able to trust

Hell to the no…I am about to make like Blatino and lump women into one group J/K

DasV my baad…I should have warned you about them Acuras…hehehehehe.

And remember bay, we aren’t all rise the same…My mom taught me, once the outter appearence is remove, it’s the inside of the person that matters.

Now Darrell you don’t count…you like Bush and thats jack up’s cousin.

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 21, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

kara yea i have. it was great too. but i didnt go into blind… i went into logical… i knew that i was going to have to think outside of the usual box in order to get past the unusual hiccups that come with dating outside my race.

wouldnt you agree that you have to have an open-mind to do so?? ok. thats logic. feel meh?

besides baby girl. im trynna get something done outside of stating my POV….

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

November 21, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli Somebody lookin for Mo? LOL I am here just had to do a lil work, ya know. I have enjoyed reading everyones responses so far.

Hey Lady J, ARed, Kinderbabe, SexyLeggs, Lady Dark, ImaPeach, Truth, Demi and errbody else that is present today!

I have been told that I actually have to cook something for tomorrow dinner. Now I figured I still had a few years to go before I would have to contribute but moms shut that thought down! LMAO So I will be in the kitchen for something other than pinching off the turkey this year!

Now back to this grocery list: sugar, cream cheese, macaroni, cheese, milk, butter….

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 21, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

Das “there is no such thing as ‘unconditional’ love. we love on the condition that the one we are with is loyal, kind, trustworthy and honest. ie..ending a marriage over infidelity because fidelity is a condition. you said you want someone to say ’ i love you and only you’… baby boy that is a condition. check your premise.”

We can take this off-line if need be, but I couldn’t disagree with you more that there is no such thing as “unconditional” love. Of course there is! Otherwise, as a Christian, I could never buy into Jesus’ command to “love one another”, which was given without condition.

To say I want a woman I can believe when she says “I love you” has nothing to do with conditional love. It’s about whether or not she can be trusted. I may choose to not be involved with someone I can’t trust, but I can still love them. Why? Because even in instances of infidelity (as you alluded to) there is still the OPTION to forgive