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Yours truly…

By Bella | Wednesday, November 14, 2007, 08:00 AM

The Atlanta Journal-Constitution

This week the Living section of the AJC ran an article about a new book out called “Other People’s Love Letters: 150 letters you were never meant to see.”

You can read the full story here.

What’s really beautiful about the collection is that it’s not just all the ushy gushy love letters. Many of them are breakup notes or letters written during difficult times in relationships. Additionally, many of them are in nontraditional letter format—screenshots of cell phone text messages, notes on napkins and e-mails.

Do you keep old love letters? I know I have a box buried away somewhere at my parents’ house. But I have pruned the collection over time, throwing out letters that didn’t mean as much to me or those from suitors I’d long since stopped loving.

What’s the best love letter (text, e-mail, sticky note) you’ve ever received? Have you ever sent a note you thought was particularly poetic? Have you ever handwritten a breakup note or a letter about your disgust for someone?

Do you think it means more to receive a handwritten letter now that we live in an era of texting and e-mail? When was the last time you handwrote a love note?

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By Lady J

November 14, 2007 8:11 AM | Link to this

Morning!!! I have not seen or written a love letter since high or grammer school…Text messaging has taken over…LOL

By Jazzyone

November 14, 2007 8:16 AM | Link to this

Morning ya..I can see the subject will change today by 11:00 trust it.

ANYways good information yesterday to even lurkers im sure. This is the type of forum that should be happening to inform and educate people on the home buying process. If we don’t help ourselves and others who will??

If anyone cares here is a link that has proved strong and equitable for me every single time!! Link to foreclosures and you all know that most services are not free. This link is free and from the Government. Check it out. http://www.hudpemco.com

By 2CPTG©

November 14, 2007 8:19 AM | Link to this

morning all,

said like Jim Mora……A love note! A love note! ummmm, in Middle School!

tighten up, Bella!

By 2CPTG©

November 14, 2007 8:27 AM | Link to this

yeah, Jazzy, real life issues need to be addressed every now and then…..

By Corny as Hell

November 14, 2007 8:30 AM | Link to this

Donte’,

To be honest, I’m sending this e-mail for selfish reasons. I’m not doing so well without you and I need to move forward. I truly believe that I personally made alot of little mistakes because I tried to hard, and if I had to do it again I wouldn’t had let it go this far. I’m preparing myself to not date for a long while, while I again learn from what just happened. I can hear you now “just let it go”. I hated it when you said that, lol. Well, here’s my first step in moving on:

I dislike the fact, from day one, that you would not allow me to be apart of you. From that moment, I knew we were doomed, but I kept it to myself. The reason for thinking that way was because of how I am. I had explained to you a hundred times what I needed. I believe we are both at fault for this mess we made. I, for allowing myself to try to make you do something that you weren’t ready for. You, for pulling me in and making me fall so deeply in love with a man who I adored so very much.

*Why did you come by my home last Saturday? Why didn’t you wait until you were ready for me? If you would have come to me a year from now, whoever I was with, would of probably got the boot. I was perfectly ok until the phone rang. I daydreamed about you coming back for me 100%. When you walked into my house, I expected alot more than what you gave me. I was very disappointed that you started something you couldn’t finish. It would have been wonderful for you to turn to me while you sat next to me and stated that you wanted me back. Instead, you played with my head. You knew I still loved you, but instead insisted on making me suffer and beg for you (which I have no shame in doing). Donte’, I have no patients, you know that. All that did was make me want you more and then when you ignored all of my calls, make me angery.

My questions to you again are the same ones, because I will never understand your reasoning behind them: 1) Why are you so private? 2) What are you hiding? 3) Why haven’t you invited me out to your home? 4) Why wouldn’t you stay the night with me? 5) Why did you always leave my home so quickly? Your visits were always timed. Your the first guy that I didn’t have to kick out for over staying their welcome. 6) Over the holidays, why wouldn’t you be excited for me to meet your parents? Donte’, this is what you do with a person you love, you share them with family.

I know, I know we only knew each other for a very short time, but SO WHAT! Even though I want marriage, I wasn’t going to drag you to the alter until after some years had pasted. Your not ready for that and I don’t believe in divorce, so for me to rush into a life long commitment would be another mistake.

Were you being truthful with me regarding your female friends? Really. I wasn’t jealous of your cell phone/IM list for no reason. I wish you would have just told me like it was. So what if I was insecure, so were you in a way. I have a right to know what’s going on and to feel unthreatened in all relationships. Feeling insecure is a good thing, because then you’re smart enough to know when you are being b****** into thinking otherwise.

I hate to say it, but being in a relationship with me would of taken alot of time and work on your end. I’m so damn needy. I’m working on that, trust me. I know how busy you are, but you never gave me a chance to help you out in anyway. I would of came to you morning, day or night. When I found you, I had the same love in my soul for you that I had with Daryl and I knew this was it. After I let you go in December, I kinda tried to find that again, but like I said, they are not you.

I just wish you would have given us a chance and said F*** IT! What could it hurt. My way is sometimes the best way, you know. I have proven that over the years living with Daryl. A person who thought, his way or no way.

Well Donte’, tomorrow is a new week for me and you. I wish us both the best in life. You are always in my thoughts and dreams with your fine a*! lol. I am ok and I know your not sweatin’ the small stuff. You guys need to really thank the Lord above for allowing you to be men. You have it made. It’s going to take me longer this time to get you out of my system, because I know that you are gone forever. Before Saturday, I was confident you would come for me. I didn’t know how long it was going to take you, but to tell you the truth, it didn’t matter. I tell everyone, “I met him too early”.

Now your gone what am I gonna do so empty my heart my soul can’t go on. go on without you My rainy days fade away when you come around please tell me baby why you go so far away. Why you go.

By JJ

November 14, 2007 8:39 AM | Link to this

One of the most romantic things my ex-husband did while we were dating, was to take a notepad of 8x11 paper, and spelled out a huge “I love you” with all the paper, on my bedroom floor.

By Blue_Kolla

November 14, 2007 8:42 AM | Link to this

What up Blog…

Off Topic: hud.gov is a good place to start as well.

On Topic: zzzzzz…

By Kym-Proud Steeler Nation Member since 1994

November 14, 2007 8:43 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Jazzy I have bets on 9:30am on the topic change.

I have written a email to say how I feel to give myself closure to a relationship and find the strength to move forward. Now if I want to vent out my frustrations I just write it in a poem or blog it.

By Lady J

November 14, 2007 8:49 AM | Link to this

I feel you Kym and Go Steelers!!!!

By Beautiful

November 14, 2007 8:52 AM | Link to this

BK good morning … . . u funny, lol.

By 2CPTG©

November 14, 2007 8:52 AM | Link to this

Dr. Kym…..what cha got for us today….throw us some’n to work with!

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 14, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

Morning, everyone. :-)

Though this may not be directly along the lines of the “love letter” theme for today, I think it’s close enough to still be on-topic. (I hope so, anyway.) If not, I trust you’ll all endulge me nonetheless.

Today’s subject compels me to confess that I’m an absolute sucker for a sad love song. There’s just something about the ‘storyline’ of a song about a love lost or unrequited that pricks my heart in certain way, I guess it’s because, in looking back over my life, I can relate to both situations (as, perhaps, can many of you.)

And if you think that’s funny, let me add to that the fact that while other people are stuck in Atlanta traffic playing their R&B or Hip-Hop all loud and stuff, I’m in my car cranking slow jams and love songs to get me through. It’s true. (To each his own, right?) LOL!

My favorite sad love song of all time is a song by the band Toto called “I Won’t Hold You Back” from the CD entitled ‘Toto IV’. Here are the lyrics, but to really appreciate them, you have to listen to the song for yourself as it’s both a love letter and break-up letter all in one.

I Wont’ Hold You Back by Toto

If I had another chance tonight I’d try to tell you that the things we had were right Time can’t erase the love we shared But it gives me time to realize just how much you cared

Now you’re gone, I’m really not the same I guess I have myself to blame Time can’t erase the things we said But it gives me time to realize that you’re the one instead

Chorus: You know I won’t hold you back now, the love we had just can’t be found You know I can’t hold you back now

Now that I’m alone it gives me time to think about the years that you were mine Time can’t erase the love we shared But it gives me time to realize just how much you cared

Chorus (Instrumental break)

You know I won’t hold you back now, the love we had just can’t be found Listen to me baby You know I can’t hold you back now

By binford

November 14, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this

I’m a pack rat and pretty much have stuff like that since high school. Every blue moon I take a gander at them.

When somebody makes a tangible effort to make you feel special and cared about, it means a lot; much more so than an email.

A girl I was seeing had drawn about 10 different phrases on paper with little doodle and styles on each phrase (1 phrase per page). Then when I wasn’t home, she had hung them on the wall and waited for me.

It was nice coming home and seeing that and the feeling of being wanted it gave me.

Who knew the stupid b*h would just months later, cheat and break my heart.

But I’m not bitter or anything. :)

By Blue_Kolla

November 14, 2007 9:06 AM | Link to this

Beautiful Top o’ da mornin’ tu’ya.

2Can We can always work with that Dear Don`te joint up there. LOL

By QC

November 14, 2007 9:12 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers

hey BK

Have a great day all!

I will not be offended if someone gives my brother “Darrell” a blog citation for that long post…it’s not even 10am LOL

Hey Ga.Man

Is this long post Wednesday

By kia

November 14, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this

Hey everybody this topic must be open to middle/high school kids

Corny as hell you need a hug for that long azz of a post

I loved the cute little love notes i use to get in school

do you wanna be my girlfriend - check __yes or __no

By Jewel

November 14, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this

A love letter?! LOLOL!

Do you like this topic? Check yes or no.

Good morning Everyone!

By Alvin

November 14, 2007 9:18 AM | Link to this

One of the most romantic things my ex-husband did while we were dating, was to take a notepad of 8x11 paper, and spelled out a huge “I love you” with all the paper, on my bedroom floor.

Well…I see why he’s your ex..Wasting trees like that!!

Lady J I tried textING you last week..to tell you how I feel…since you are here, I will tell you how I feel right now:

GO DOLPHINS!! hell with the steelers’n’falcons LOL

Sad part is…I Hate the dollfins

GO DOLPHINS!!

By Cemeeli

November 14, 2007 9:18 AM | Link to this

Good morning peeps

Breakfast today is: Fish and grits… beverage: juice or water. Have at it.

Thanks for that site Jazzy!

And

Thank you Darrell for the love song.

On Topic; hum….i’m sort of like Darrell in this capacity. My love letters are songs, to and from me.

By Beautiful

November 14, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

Corny as Hell awwwwww.

By Rell (back to form)

November 14, 2007 9:20 AM | Link to this

off topic - NIP/TUCK is off the chain..for the fans of the show..what do you think so far?

best love letter

Traci -

I love you - period.

By The Truth

November 14, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this

Good morning blogsville.

On yesterdays unofficial topic: Interest only/adjustable rate loans were a great product when they first arrived. First, you had to have a 720 score to qualify (assuming financial responsibilty). The big kicker was in the details. The loans were tied into the Libor index which at the time was the most stable index around meaning not much movement in interest rates and when it did it was ususally down. Second, the savings were huge. A home that may have had a note of $3500 would now have one of say $2400 (the larger the loan amount the larger the savings. Now here’s the magic. If you made the original payment (which was advised), in this case $3500, you would have $1100 going to PRINCIPLE in the first month. Thats $$13,200 the FIRST YEAR and $66,000 over the first 5 years. On a 30 yr fixed rate loan your principle would have been reduced by MAYBE $2000 ($25 dollars per month going up a dollor or so each month)over the first 5 years. $66,000 v $2,000 is a no brainer. This is how the loans were packaged initially. Over time buyers only cared about the reduced payments and forgot about the equity build-up part and the product started going to hell. Also, to make the loans more accessible the loans were tied into other more volatile rates besides the LIBOR and thats how we got the wild payment adjustments.

What started out as a great program morphed into the hell that now exists. It went from equity buildup to a nice home AND a mercedes C-Class. LOL

JUst a little info.

Also, this crisis reaches across all ethnic and geographical boundaries. We aren’t the only ones, just the only ones we see. Between higher living costs (gas, food, natural gas) everybody is being pinched in the middle. Income isn’t infinite so if gas costs $100 more a month that money comes from somewhere. Less to save and or spend on necessities. The noose has been tightened.

Other contributing factors are divorce (enough said) and job loss, which is happening more and more each day.

On topic: When I was in the army in germany and dating my ex wife we would go to the field for a month at a time. Are mail usually started arriving after the first week. Every time like clockwork on the first mail call I’d get a bundle of letters (maybe 20) with cards and dabbed in her perfume. Made a guy feel real special. LOL I wrote her some also and she still has them. I threw all mine away as soon as we split. Evrything goes in the trash. Time to start a new chapter in life.

No long azz post tix. I’m Frank Lucas today and you can’t touch me. LMAO

By AmazonRed

November 14, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this

Good morning all. *eyeroll * to the folks who don’t enjoy the topic so they rather hijack it for their own purposes. At least give it half a day to get off the ground.

Anyway, in high school my friends and I were all big letter writers. I saved each letter we wrote each other in 11th and 12th grade. It was nice, because one of my guy friends ended up being my HS sweetheart. He didn’t really know how to approach me, and he wasn’t a good writer. But he knew I was into the letter thing, so I have a lot of cute letters from him as he tried to assimilate into our letter thing. I’m so glad to have those letters because it’s evidence of my first love and how he felt about me.

My college sweetheart and I wrote letters as we went to different schools. He used to send me postcards with pictures of his campus. I loved that because I really felt more connected to where he was.

After that, it became all email based. I did a lot of LDRs, but I saved all of those mushy emails from my fellas.

When I’m unhappy in a relationship, I write down my thoughts. I’m a Sagittarius with no tact, so writing it out first allows me to tone it down before speaking on it. I save that stuff too.

By 2CPTG©

November 14, 2007 9:24 AM | Link to this

Blue, cuz, I didn’t get past the first sentence….said to myself….we ain’t gettin’ nowhere with this…..

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 14, 2007 9:24 AM | Link to this

Good morning, QC! (my sister)

Hey, I’ll gladly accept the citation, but only if Corny as Hell gets one right along with me. LOL!

By Lady J

November 14, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

Alvin LOLO!!! I needed that laugh this has been one dragging week! Counting down to next Tuesday!!!:)

GO NFL except the Patriots!!! LOL

By Cemeeli

November 14, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this

Hey QC! I dont’ know where GaMan is hiding.

(acting as the assitant to the blog police)…somebody probably should do the honors.

That’d be due to Darrell and Corny!!!

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 14, 2007 9:32 AM | Link to this

Off-topic

For those of you have DirecTV, channel 866 is now playing classical Christmas music (for those of you who like that kind of stuff, like me.)

It’s really cool to be able to just leave your system on that one channel and get some really nice, relaxing, commercial-free Christmas music over the next several weeks.

So, now ya’ll know that I like sad love songs and classical music. LOL!

By Page1908

November 14, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

Are we still on topic? lol

By Cemeeli

November 14, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

Miss Foots don’t come in here today without replenishin the stash… MO, Sexyleggs and myself are fresh out of pineapple. And it’s only Wednesday. Sis Page is not even showing up with her lil chick-o-sticks.

HI Alvin you acting up already!?!?

By Lady J

November 14, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this

XM RADIO ROCKS!!!!

By AmazonRed

November 14, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

Darrell, I’m big into love songs too. Especially ones by Brian McKnight. I would drive my roomates crazy listening to that “mushy” stuff all the time. I found it empowering. They found it depressing. LOL

Awww…@ binford. Hugs for you Mr. Not Bitter. ;-)

By Cemeeli

November 14, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this

Um…Hi Truth your post had some info in it that ppl needed, Thanks so much for that. And your military reminisce was sweet…. But i be darn if you don’t need a citation for that post. Now man up…Frank!

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 14, 2007 9:46 AM | Link to this

Hey, Page, just thought I’d let you know that I haven’t used the ‘t’ word in two whole days. LOL!

Oh, and uh, by the way… GO FALCONS! :-D

By Blue_Kolla

November 14, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

SGL ;)

QC wassup.

LadyJ GO NFL except the Patriots!!! LOL That’s what I’m talkin’ ‘bout.

By Rell (back to form)

November 14, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

@AR, ya need some…you full of attitude…lol

@darrell..christmas music player, somebody get heathcliff huxtable a sweater…lol…but i feel you on the love songs…distant lover transport me to a time when i was okinawa ja….good times…hell even today on the drive in..the played adina howard - freak like me…and alot of memories once buried came back…whoa, almost had an accident….in a trance….lol

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

November 14, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

Hello All!! Thanks goodness its Hump Day!

PSSST! Cemeeli *I have a few of those pineapple n&l’s stashed away but we wont tell Foots cause its her turn to stock up! LOL

This topic is ummmm….interesting (I guess). I have written a love email lately, but as someone who journals often, that is easy.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 14, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

Amazon & Cemeeli

Glad to know a brutha’s not alone when it comes to love songs. :-) Matter of fact, my iPod is LOADED with old school slow songs for when I go to the gym. They keep me focused during my workouts a LOT better than that up-tempo stuff.

By SexyLeggs

November 14, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. Corny as Hell, I’m sorry! I need a hug this morning and it seems you do to so here’s my hug to you….UUMMM.

I can’t remember the last time I received a love letter/note. I do get cute text messages, but I would prefer a sentiment expressed on paper.

Ut oh…Truth has turned into Frank Lucas = we are doomed today!

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 14, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

Rell

Why I gotta be Heathcliff Huxtable, dawg? LOL!

By AmazonRed

November 14, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

Rell, no attitude here. Some of y’all are just being jerks, for real.

By QC

November 14, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

Hey Cemeeli, Mo, Page, all WLB

lol @ Rell - get Heathcliff Huxtable a sweater…LMAO

Morning brother

What’s up Sir Truth

QC is leaving blogsville for a few hours….i shall return probably after 1:30

By Cemeeli

November 14, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this

Sir Darrell imma just say don’t get to close to my plugins if you ain’t feeling ‘em. I like songs that remind me of how i FEEL/FELT in a givin situation. And NO i don’t feel like the “Duffle Bag Boy” ever *(WTH is that)…lol.

By China Doll

November 14, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Off Topic: Has this happened at your office?…A manager of another department just told me that, an associate emailed here that “he would not be in, due to sickness” email was dated 6:30 this morning, so far he has not called in. Is this a new trend? LOL

By AmazonRed

November 14, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this

Darrell, you are definitely not alone! My house is strictly an R&B house. Right now Lionel is singing “Just to Be Clooose to Youuu…” to me.

Stuff like this really makes my day!

By melo

November 14, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

Clayton county pples,how ya’all doing? And u ladies and gents from other counties,good morning!!

By SexyLeggs

November 14, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

ARed, I write down my thoughts as well. I have some serious journals. One time I wrote my thoughts down to my ex on things that were so wrong with us. When I finished, it was 10 pages long. I still have that long a* letter/thoughts. He read itand didn’t respond to one damn thing in that letter. He simply handed it back to me.

By Lady J

November 14, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

morning melo…

By Blue_Kolla

November 14, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

melo You down there hob-knobbing and rubbing elbows with that little azz Victor Hill? LOL

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 14, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli I’m suddenly feeling this “cosmic connection” with you on the love songs tip. :-) I mean, you absolutely nailed it when you said the songs remind you of how YOU feel/felt in a given situation and that’s basically what it’s all about.

On my iPod I have songs like ‘Nights Over Egypt’ (Jones Girls), ‘Don’t Stop This Feeling’ (GQ), ‘I Want Your Love’ (Chic), ‘Secrets’ (Con Funk Shun), Forget Me Nots (Patrice Rushen) and ‘What You Won’t Do For Love’ (Bobby Caldwell).

Those songs not only sound amazing, they all MEAN something to ME, so I appreciate your making that point. :-)

By AmazonRed

November 14, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs - Ouch. Your ex is a real jerk. I wish I were more into journaling. I’m just not consistant with it. I usually write my thoughts down on whatever scrap of paper is around at the time. LOL.

I just had a long talk with a friend who wrote her mom a 16 page letter after a recent fight. Front and back!

What did you do after he handed the letter back? I hope you handed HIM the divorce papers. LOL

By Rell (back to form)

November 14, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

@ar…again, i did get my myspace invite…..i wanna see what the fuss is about….jerks, yea you need some….lol…you so fiesty this morning….i love it

@darrell - mayne i am just joshin with you…ya cool main..but the love songs…i like them like the next man..but…lol

By SlimOne

November 14, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

As Slim tries to sneak in for a quick peek, she is shocked to see all the long azz posts. Aye Yi Yi, yall shole don’t make it easy for a sistah hiding from big brother, dayum!

Last handwritten long love letter was back in college. However, since then i’ve received little short love notes, texts, emails, cards….not recently though. Right now the only letter I would receive is one from Publishing Clearing House saying i’ve won 1 million dollars. ha ha ha

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 14, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this

Darrell you cool with those love songs and the classical music, only cause you listen to coldplay… iffin you dig dmb too then you are definitely alright in my book…. crash into me on continuous rotation is perfect for ‘meditative isolation’.

sexyLeggs i couldnt help but chuckle at what your ex did… cause mines did the same thing. how frustrating is that…. and then i dunno if you did this … i went back and read my long heart-wrenching letter and i was half-way with re-writing the thing before it dawned on me i need to leave this man cause he aint even worth the paper this written on…. ahhhh. memories. LOL

By Cemeeli

November 14, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this

Hey China i have called in by way of email before. But it was to the team and i copied my director…she happened to be on vacation at the time. IMO there was not any reason to call them… well i guess it depends…

By Blue_Kolla

November 14, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

Leggs He read itand didn’t respond to one damn thing in that letter. He simply handed it back to me.

See…? Only thing he read was the first line - “Baby, I’m not feeling good about us right now,” and the last line - “We need to work on the these things.”

And when he handed you back the letter, he probably said something like, “OK.”

So what I’m saying is that he got your issue and your bottom line. All of that other extra in the middle was just that, extra. LOL

By Page1908

November 14, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

LOL Cemeeli! You know it is tantamount that I have a full stash of Chico Sticks at all times…lol Darrell…wink.

Hey QC.

By Rell (back to form)

November 14, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this

@sexy…i would have handed back to your crazy arse as well…10pages of things wrong…ok, where do i start first…lol…i beat alot of it was u and not him

By AmazonRed

November 14, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this

Aw, Darrell, you need to get out more if you think that’s fiesty. 90% of my posts this morning have been about love songs and love letters.

Keep waiting on that invite. Better yet, hold your breath til you get it. ;-)

By AmazonRed

November 14, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this

Aw, Rell, you need to get out more if you think that’s fiesty. 90% of my posts this morning have been about love songs and love letters.

Keep waiting on that invite. Better yet, hold your breath til you get it. ;-)

By 2CPTG©

November 14, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

Melo…’sup….what’s this about the warden down there trynna get Direct TV in the state joint? I guess anything to keep down hostilities….

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 14, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

Rell I know, and hey, it’s all good, man. :-) But, uh, bruthas have hearts too, ya know? LOL!

By kimmie

November 14, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

Darrell - I have to drive from College Park to Alpharetta 5 days a week, and ole school slow jams and smooth jazz get me through the traffic! I’m a sucker for love songs too, though a note now & then is nice. I have a few old ones from past loves. Emails are nice, but not the same.

By Jewel

November 14, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this

LOL! @ Blue SHERIFF Victor Hill is one short man. He wears some nice suits and ties.

Are we still trying to squeeze something out of this topic?

By SexyLeggs

November 14, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

ARed, the key is being consistent. I keep a book under my couch and one in my nightstand. When I write, I always date and jot the time down. It’s interesting to go back and she what you were feeling on that particular day at that particular time.

To be honest, I looked at him and said “what, you have no comment?” He turned and walked away. I felt extremely foolish, but I knew I had hit a nerve because what I wrote was the truth. LOL…a few years later I filed for divorce.

BKolla every time I see him on tv I think the same thing *little azz Victor Hill.

By SexyLeggs

November 14, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

ARed, the key is being consistent. I keep a book under my couch and one in my nightstand. When I write, I always date and jot the time down. It’s interesting to go back and she what you were feeling on that particular day at that particular time.

To be honest, I looked at him and said “what, you have no comment?” He turned and walked away. I felt extremely foolish, but I knew I had hit a nerve because what I wrote was the truth. LOL…a few years later I filed for divorce.

BKolla every time I see him on tv I think the same thing *little azz Victor Hill.

By Kia

November 14, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

China that does not work in my office, if anyone were to do that they would be written up when they returned to work

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 14, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

DasV Good morning. ;-) Who is ‘dmb’? (pardon my ignorance) :-)

By China Doll

November 14, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli

We were just trippin’ cause most of us are “ole” school. So we always call in and speak to a supervisor. LOL!!

By AmazonRed

November 14, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

God Bless you kimmie on your commute! Goodness! How long does that take.

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 14, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

blueK LOLROTF at your headsup that he read the first and last line. come’on mayne… you all must know the middle has some substance…..even if we do get a bit wordy.

reminds me of what someone tole me about gettin to the point quickly on this blog… lol. that is too funny!

truth thanks for the information and jazzy for the website… i been surfin on that all morning.

By Beautiful

November 14, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

Blue_Kolla All of that other extra in the middle was just that, extra. i agree.

By Foots

November 14, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

On topic: I still have letters from exes and letters that I’ve never sent. I intend to send them when I write them, but I end up keeping them, so I can read where I was at that time of my life. Some of that stuff makes me laugh out loud. I do think that letter-writing is very romantic, though I do it more on the computer than my own handwriting. I like cards and notes too, those I do in my own handwriting. I think that people can recognize the thought and effort involved in doing the little things that make someone smile. It can be seen as middle-school by a lot of folks, but that doesn’t take away from the fact that it’s a free, easy way to brighten up somebody’s day. And many days after that, because most people keep things like that and look at them when they are having a hard time.

Off Topic N&L Snatcher I used the website that kimmie gave me last week to order a new stash of Pineapple. They should be in in the week or so, just in time for Thanksgiving!!

By Cemeeli

November 14, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

@ Darrell- Cemeeli I’m suddenly feeling this “cosmic connection” with you on the love songs tip.

Cemeeli taking notes (with a felt tip pin) that Darrell is sending signal.

I am feeling your playlist and so there goes the connection. Don’t stop this feelin by (GQ)…okay okay.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 14, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

Kimmie I feel you on your 10:24. :-)

I work from home quite a bit, but when I do drive into work, it’s from Covington (Newton County) to Union City, which is 90-miles round trip.

I have Sirius installed in my car and am usually listening to Jazz Cafe, Spa, Heart & Soul or Symphony during the drive in. (Those are a few of the R&B and smooth jazz channels.) I also have that Toto song on repeat, too. :-)

By Blue_Kolla

November 14, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

Leggs/DasV Yoll are taking that the wrong way. Remember, we use the other side of the brain. You’ve got to come at us with the issue, the bottom line… and THEN all of the little details. Then you’ll get a much more deliberate response. Just some “dealing with man” advice. Try that out next time.

Kimmie* *I have to drive from College Park to Alpharetta 5 days a week…

You need to get’chu a bucket, and just leave that joint at the park-n-ride up in Alpharetta and ride the train. That’s gotta be like a 2-hour ride?

By SexyCool

November 14, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this

speaking of love songs…that new alicia keys single…like you’ll never see me again…is HAWT!!!!

makes me fall in love all over again every time i hear it…i HAD to go buy the cd yesterday…i’m listening to it now…

By Jazzyone

November 14, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

Darrell Thanks for the note on classical music have direct TV and classical sooths my soul I will be checking it out this enin’!!!

^5 Rell best love letter

Traci -

I love you - period.

Im witcha save all else just tell me the deal off the rip..

By Jewel

November 14, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

All of that other extra in the middle was just that, extra.

Ladies, don’t debate it. That is a pure example of the male brain. Women generally use more words than men.

JOKE A husband looking through the paper came upon a study that said women use more words than men. It read, “Men use about 15,000 words per day, but women use 30,000.”

Excited to prove to his wife that he had been right all along when he accused her of talking too much, he showed her the study results.

The wife thought for a while, then finally she said to her husband, “It’s because we have to repeat everything we say.”

The husband said “What?”

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 14, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli Re: your 10:33, all I can say is LOL! :-)

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 14, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

China happens at my job all the time! i’ve never had the gumption to do it though. and you right, cause im ole school… ole school wit a job. LOL

Darrell dave matthews band.

By Rell (back to form)

November 14, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

@Amazon…hold my breath huh….lol, yea ok..lol…you are funny with yours..but its cool…you prolly some lard arse talking shizt anyway…lol

@Darrell…ya know funny things is player..is that we all have a heart..hell, i could blow your ears off with my before and after stories..the space that i am in right now is cool for me…the alternative..well umm…i could be there…but for what..it is boring there….it is better for me to indulge in my dark side a lil more…the other side was cool, but full of the melodrama…and i dont have the patient for that any longer

but trust my dude i can give anyone a good run in the romance dept…..i live to please and i do..but lately my imagination in that dept has been dulled to the point now where it is not there…feel me

but trust me…when it comes to expressing my love or feelings for someone…i can wrap them in my words

By Nosey

November 14, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

ARed

do you know a guy named dat damn dre’ from myspace?

By melo

November 14, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

I dont write coz i have a bad handwriting(shld’ve been a doc) and i dont like to leave any evidence. SexxyL, that ish u write will come back to haunt u. Imagine, after u burn the house down and plead ignorant. Those firefighters will smoke that journl out. off topic:Heard that the post office is issuing a new stamp with a pudsy on it.And its causing confusion coz mafuckers dont know which side to lick.

By Cemeeli

November 14, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

Darrell i see what you doing…Lol… just meet me in you cafe room on your website.

Blog ladies…stop winking* n stuff. DANG!!!

By Jazzyone

November 14, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

Das girl I am ADDICTED to that site..

By Cemeeli

November 14, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

Ditto…Sexycool Like you’ll never love me agian. Added to my download last night. CD came out yesturday.

Blue has said it. And u can’t help but to be schooled ‘bout it.

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 14, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

BlueK naah. i am feelin what you sayin. for me writing it aaallll down helps me get to the bottom line.

for the next time, imma still write it out, but i will cut it down, bottom-line it and and text the brutha with it, along wit an invite to go to lunch or something. that work?

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 14, 2007 10:55 AM | Link to this

DasV Thanks for the ‘dmb’ explanation and actually, I do like them - a lot. I also like John Mayer.

If you don’t have it already, check out Mayer’s CD ‘Heavier Things’ and the song “Somthing’s Missing”. It’s a great, mid-tempo, jazzy sort of tune about how he has all the material things a man could want, except the one thing that matters most - someone to share it all with.

Just another song to which I can relate right about now.

By Cemeeli

November 14, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

@ Darrell i was in Conyers (for the day) this past Sat. there was not (let me run home, NO.)

I agree 90miles RT, probably the same from my side of the woods. Yea, it is like a mini-road trip.

By Poppa Grande

November 14, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this

Good Morning, all,

My wife does that journal thing.

I agree with the person that said that he probably just read the beginning and end. I have even done it with my wife. I saw my grandfather do the same thing. Heck, he would walk out in the middle of arguments and come back about 3 or four hours later. He said that he did that in order to keep from doing something that he would regret later. (He grew up in a household where he saw his father beat his mother like Albert Johnson aka Mister did Ms. Celie in “The Color Purple”. Sometimes, its not about being a jerk. Not always, but sometimes.

I’ve read Dale Carnegie’s (last name spelling may be off) How to win friends and influence people. He talks about writing your frustrations down, but you don’t have to always give it to that person. He tells stories of President Abe Lincoln writing angry letters to Generals that lost some the the key battle of the Civil War. Some were found after his death, but he threw most into the fireplace after writing them. He just wanted to get the information off his chest.

By SexyLeggs

November 14, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

Melo, what I write won’t come back to haunt me. Believe that. I’m in the process of writing a book and that’s why I write as much as I do. Take that to the bank!

By Blue_Kolla

November 14, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli Blue has said it. And u can’t help but to be schooled ‘bout it.

I laid it out there real nice and neat. I can’t force DasV to get it. Why am I picturing that godzilla movie when he was smashing that tree down King Kong’s throat.” LOL

Naah Das, don’t leave out anything, just change up the order of the main elements of the convo. ‘Cause trust me, we WANT to know the details. We just can’t process them without some major concentration, which until we get it, will be on getting to that bottom line.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 14, 2007 11:05 AM | Link to this

Rell Your 10:45 is for real, man, and I understand and respect where you’re coming from.

The whole love letters/love songs thing is significant to me, in part, because I’ve always had a love for words and what they mean. In fact, I minored in english in college and I even dabble every now and then in etymology as a lightweight hobby.

SexyLegg’s post about that long letter she wrote to her ex was DEEP to me, because it was a cry for help. The fact that her ex never responsded is beyond words in describing how ridiculously low that was.

If a woman were to take the initiative to come to me and tell me about problems she’s seeing in our relationship - as opposed to simply packing up and leaving - you’d best believe I’d break out the highlighter and go through ALL 10 pages with a magnifying glass, because the letter is her heart crying out. 10 pages, ya’ll!

I commend on that, Sexy, even though it didn’t acheive the results you wanted. :-)

By AmazonRed

November 14, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

Nosey - nope, don’t know anyone by that name.

Rell, guess you figured it out. I am a lard azz. Shucks, what do I do now that you’ve figured out my secret. Lame conclusion, man.

I’ll meet you halfway tho. MLB and WLB read this dating article. We are in new times indeed. Tell me, are these women selfish or savvy?

Click here

By SexyLeggs

November 14, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

Exactly Poppa Grande, sometimes you just want to get certain things off your chest.

Melo, why I have to burn my own house down?…LOL

By SexyLeggs

November 14, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

Off-topic, this just in:

November 14, 2007. Looks like there’s a new addition to the cast of the Broadway show The Color Purple. MediaTakeOut.com has exclusively learned that Fantasia Barrino is likely to be pregnant!! And there’s more, the child reportedly belongs to Atlanta rapper Young Dro.

According to a show insider, Fantasia has been talking openly to the cast about her new condition. The insider explained, “She told [one of the cast members] that she’s pregnant and she’s really excited … Apparently Young Dro, the baby’s father, is happy about it also.”

And the insider claims that while Fantasia isn’t showing yet, she’s definitely acting pregnant. Our tipster told, “She’s walks with her hand on her hip and all of a sudden she’s taken to chewing ice.”

Congrats to Fantasia and Young Dro. We just know they’ll make some adorable kids.

By Foots

November 14, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

Poppa He talks about writing your frustrations down, but you don’t have to always give it to that person.

I definitely do this. I have stuff I will NEVER let another soul read, until they go through my stuff when I’m dead, then it won’t matter. It is very good therapy to get it all out and read it yourself.

On slow songs… If Bobby Brown can be the King of R&B, then I must be the Queen. I LOVE old school slow songs…give me some Glenn Jones, Donny Hathaway, Commodores, Isley Brothers, etc. any day. I listen to them everyday. I’m not down on Hip-Hop, but I’d rather listen to music that has shaped my life, it’s the music OF my life.

By Staceye

November 14, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

GA Man Corny as Hell needs a citation for that long azz post! LOL

Lady J why you hating on the Pats? LOL

I will be in lurksville today….still recovering from my trip and preparing for Puerto Rico in 2 1/2 weeks.

By SexyLeggs

November 14, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

Darrell, you just made me cry. You nailed it. It was a cry for help, and I was blasted against the wall w/silence.

By Foots

November 14, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs Great!! Now she’ll be two men’s Baby Mama. Is she going to do a song about that for her next CD? I like Fantasia, but DANG!!!

By Lady J

November 14, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

O.M.G…I wanted to see the sista blow and act live…oh well still going to the play…thx for the info…What is on of young dro rap songs?

AR could not open it at my place of work…

By Alvin

November 14, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli I am well behave today…dont you see that glorifed halo above my head…it’s not just for show.

now swapping halo with little red horns as Cemeeli walks away

AmazonRed I have a feeling you’ve invented a few new colorful words (as Blu would say), after each breakups.

Darrell hush…QC I keep thinking of a cute/sexy woman (not Y-O-U..hehehe), wearing an over size white tee with a big yellow happy face in the middle with heels and zero else…cause you post so dayum cute:)!!

Truth has turned into Frank Lucas

DAYUM!!

He read it and didn’t respond to one damn thing in that letter. He simply handed it back to me.

A wise man…Dude was like: This woman is crazy and if I open my mouth…I have a feeling…my body will never be found.

And Darrell, dude it’s time for some happy music…1-8-7 on the ———, yeah and they don’t stoooop!!

Oop, wrong song…

By Rell (back to form)

November 14, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

@Amazon..i am sorry, i forgot..your moody..so it is only cool to joke with you on the days you say it is..sorry wont happen again

but i still love your fiesty side twinkie….

@darrell…to me the letter is crazy, it may have helped her but not him..alot of times when we have problems with our mates..it is not them, but us….we have unresolved conflict or feelings from a previous event…trust me on the surface alot of things are really not that bad..but in how you percieve it to be…constant communication is hard for some people…ya know we trip ourselves up..why you ask…because we bullshizt ourselves so long we start believing it..we stop having fun in life because we fight each day to prove to ourselves that we matter….meaning love for self is lacking…even when most are barking it loud….smh…..i could go on but i forgot my soapbox today

By itsmorenamorena

November 14, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

@AmazonRed

When I’m unhappy in a relationship, I write down my thoughts. I’m a Sagittarius with no tact, so writing it out first allows me to tone it down before speaking on it.

ME TOO!! LOLOLOL I’ve been called harsh, mean, crass and self-centered more times than I care to count. So I try to mellow it out first by writing out my thoughts, in an effort to become more tactful LOLOLOL

Buenas Dias everybody

By Blue_Kolla

November 14, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

LMAO @ melo Heard that the