Misadventures in Atlanta

By Sam

November 13, 2007 8:24 AM | Link to this

AND WHY ARE THERE ONLY FEMALE BLOG CONTRIBUTORS?!… THIS IS MY PROBLEM WITH ATLANTA I SEE NO BLAKC MALE REPRESENTATION IN MOST EVERYTHING HERE!

By Slim

November 13, 2007 8:30 AM | Link to this

Gee Sam, are you new here? Don’t get out much do you?

Stick around, you will see a HEAVY presence of black males in this blog…….

By Lady J

November 13, 2007 8:34 AM | Link to this

Morning!!! That would be an interesting hook up meeting people doing community service…

By Beautiful

November 13, 2007 8:36 AM | Link to this

Sam good morning 2 u. r u talkin’ bout yesterday’s topic? well, the guys don’t hardly participate in discussions that are “girlie” or geared towards females. they’ll be back. they lurk alot. you probably won’t see them 2day either.

2C, Truth, Rell, Dan, Dushawn, Blat, Melo hug.

By China Doll

November 13, 2007 8:38 AM | Link to this

Personally, I participate in many community service orgs. all year long, and have done so since I was in High School, when I’m serving the community my focus is on helping and empowering, not on hooking up/meeting a potential.

Sam I think a male contributor on this dating blog would be good.

By 2CPTG©

November 13, 2007 8:38 AM | Link to this

Morning, y’all…..

Bella, The beauty of finding a mate in doing *anything that you find joy in, is half the battle! You now have a common ground, and a basis for a lot of things…..That’s how yo go with the flow, and let love find you;

By binford

November 13, 2007 8:45 AM | Link to this

Morning Everyone!

First to Sam : The moderators happen to be women, so what? They take feedback for topics from anyone and the folks who post are from a variety of backgrounds. So get over it or stop trolling …or both.

On topic: Everyone who can should volunteer; not just around the holidays, but throughout the year. It is hard and sometimes I have failed to do this (I was a Big Brother for a while). My general philosophy is that by helping others it puts in perspective what you do have AND emits good karma.

Now if I could meet other singles by doing it, it would be great and might give me more encouragement to get out there than I have presently.

The only concern I always have is that if I did something like Habitat that people would assume I am Christian. And while I like to help people, I do not want the interjection of religion in my charity work. I certainly wouldn’t want to give off a false impression about my religious beliefs - that’s more trouble than it is worth.

I’m sure there is a website somewhere that specializes in singles charity work! So who is going to snoop it out so we have the BLOG group meet AND do something to brighten the community???

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

November 13, 2007 8:50 AM | Link to this

Morning Ya’ll!

Lady J I had the same thought! It would be quite interesting to meet other singles doing something liek community service! I have gone to feed the homeless many times every year since I was 14yrs old. I also contribute to Women’s shelters.

Sam like someone said, stick around. The fellas will stroll in shortly so you all are well represented!

Kisses to the MLB and mimosas to the WLB

Should be an interesting read today!

By star1

November 13, 2007 8:53 AM | Link to this

Good Morning all..sorry this is completely off topic…but I notice that alot on this blog…anyway Im curious about something..I was watching Girlfriends last night & they were discussing how after a female has a baby she is no longer the same down there….that it stretches & doesnt always fully stretch back…is this so? I also saw an episode on DR90210 where this woman had two babies that was over 10 pounds & she could no longer feel her mate so she had surgery to tighten her…is it that serious..I mean does that exercise I heard about not work or just not for all…I know everybody is different….Im just curious as to anyone who may have experience this or if the guys really can feel the difference with women who have had kids..

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 13, 2007 8:54 AM | Link to this

Morning, everyone!

Off-topic: I’m just back from Charlotte where I, and about 100 other die-hard Falcons fans, helped bring home a much-needed WIN! :-D

In case any of you are interested, I’ve finished writing the December issue of my newsletter and it is now available on my Web site at: (http://www.blackthen.com).

On-topic: Personally, I think one of the pros of meeting someone while serving others is you get to definitively gauge their level of sincerity and concern for someone else. This is important because, as it relates to a potential relationship with that person, the extent to which they’re willing to set aside their own needs and desires for the benefit of the other person is absolutely crucial.

As I’ve said before on this blog, love is a verb, and being willing to volitionally give of yourself to someone else, regardless of whether it’s in a soup kitchen or a relationship, is the height of love and is the one thing that speaks love in a tangible way to the other person. After all, love is not about what you say, but what you do.

On the flip side, one con of meeting someone in this context is that you run the risk of alienating that person if, in fact, your level of servanthood is not where theirs is. This goes back to the whole “love languages” concept I’ve talked so much about before.

Some people have the language of ‘acts of service’, whereas, others don’t. The person who possesses that language will need to understand this and be willing to “coach”, if you will, their mate in understanding how important service is to them, while at the same time not holding it against them if they don’t “speak” that language to the same degree. This approach will allow your mate to still feel comfortable “in their own skin” and not feel pressured to become someone they’re not.

By binford

November 13, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

Darrell Excellent post!

By Jazzyone

November 13, 2007 9:09 AM | Link to this

Morning ya!..personaly I have met some great people in the 3 orgs that I work with and if love finds me while im giving back then hey the better for me. As long as its not at the office Im open to it.

Joining a singles volunteer network??? nah I would not do becasue my focus while giving my time and energy to those orgs is to do just that, give back. Trying to meet someone intentionally is kinda lame to me there lies an ulterior motive where i don’t think there should be one and double vision of the goals focus….helping others..

By Beautiful

November 13, 2007 9:09 AM | Link to this

star1 it’s all true!!!

there is a procedure that can tighten your vagina, ask your doctor. after the procedure, it will be tight like a virgin. TO GET IT COVERED BY YOUR INSURANCE, TELL YOUR DOCTOR THAT YOU CAN’T HOLD YOUR PEE, YOU HAVE ACCIDENTS ON THE WAY TO THE BATHROOM, ETC. wink, wink

By SexyLeggs

November 13, 2007 9:13 AM | Link to this

Good morning all. Hopefully, I’ll have a better day blogging today than I did yesterday.

Sam, welcome….get ready! When the MLB come on board you will definitely think differently…LOL

Any community service that helps others is always welcomed by me. I contribute my time to many causes all year long. I’ve never been to a charity event geared toward singles. My stance is “by any means necessary” to help others.

By Rell (back to form)

November 13, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this

DONT FEED THE TROLL

wasssssssssssup everybody…way off topic but i had to share…smh

read below

Darius “Eddie Winslow” McCrary on Karrine “Superhead” Steffans (Sister 2 Sister):

“If you’re gonna turn a ho into a housewife, that’s the one to get.” (That’s not right, Eddie!)

By Page1908

November 13, 2007 9:18 AM | Link to this

LOL Beautiful @ vaginal tightening surgery. ctfu

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 13, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

darrell reading you is always a refreshing breathe of fresh (read:intelligent) air! thank you.

binford why you handing out assignments this early in the morning? :)

star kegels work too! just have to have the discipline to do them consistently. that way you avoid any unethical behavior, which is always a good thing.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

November 13, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

Start1 Those exercises are called Kegels and they work if you do them consistently! Like Beautiful said, everything stated is true! I am not one for Surgery if I dont need it but I am faithful about the Kegels. wink, wink :-)

By AmazonRed

November 13, 2007 9:20 AM | Link to this

Good topic Bella. I’m most likely going to be in Atlanta for the holiday and I was just thinking on the drive in that I should volunteer on Thanksgiving since I’ll be free. It didn’t even occur to me about other singles being around. LOL. But I guess that will just be gravy, no pun intended.

By melo

November 13, 2007 9:20 AM | Link to this

Sam, go back inside ur hole!

By AmazonRed

November 13, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this

LOL @ Rell saying to not feed the troll when he has one of the biggest bags of troll food! :-P

By Rell (back to form)

November 13, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

Ok after hunting a lil more here is the full quote…sounds like his de nutz are in a jar..and she has them on the mantle..lol

“Karrine’s not a passive girl. She’s a sweetheart. She is. But she’s very aggressive when it comes to her business. So she’s a balanced woman. And she keeps a clean house. She keeps an incredibly clean house. Everything is in order. Her son is very well-mannered. He’s a really, really fine young man. Karrine is outside of all the bull sh i t that people hype up about the whole ‘Superhead’ thing. She really is a cool chick to kick it with. She can cook. A couple of nights I was out, and I’d come back. And when I came in dinner was waiting on me; she’s seriously a homemaker. She’s very accommodating. Whatever arouses a man, she’ll figure it out. She’ll find it and she’ll master that. If you’re into watching dirty movies, you can sit up and watch dirty movies with her. If you’re gonna turn a ho into a housewife, that’s the one to get.”

By melo

November 13, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

Beautiful if u have had that procedure on yourself can i take a test drive so i can tell u how good that doctor is…And u ofcourse!!??

By Lady J

November 13, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

Hey Mo!!! My horscope said to try spedd dating…That is something I never did either and on Hitch it looks fun! LOL

By Jazzyone

November 13, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

Star1 Okay ga’head and go to your doc and tell him that something is wrong with you to get a leg up on vanity and you will look down there after surgery and have a baby male head protruding out waving atcha talking bout hey ma….LOL..gtfoh…

By Page1908

November 13, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

LOL @ Eddie Winslow and Superhead.

By 2CPTG©

November 13, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

Rell…..dawg, I can see both sides of the equation on that quote….if we were to read that, and had never heard of Karrine Steffans, wouldn’t she sound like a good girl to have?

By AmazonRed

November 13, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this

Lady J, if you want to try speed dating, click this link: Cupid

It seems to be geared for an “urban” mix as the coordinator is black and they hold their events at places like Verve Lounge and Copelands. I also like how it caters to every age group. I haven’t tried it yet, but if I do, it will be with this group.

By Rell (back to form)

November 13, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this

@ar…you must miss me….lol….well lady i miss you too…now lets get to the back and forth lovin….i am on top of you now…lol..

By 72inches225lbs

November 13, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

@ Beautiful you actually had that procedure done?

By AmazonRed

November 13, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

Yam hunter, how could I miss you when you haven’t gone anywhere?! LOL

By itsmorenamorena

November 13, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

Buen Dia to all ok, this is posted in two blogs on the AJC today

When I lived in DC, I signed up to volunteer with a group called Single Volunteers. But they did episodic volunteering and my schedule never meshed, although I did end up tutoring at a charter school for about 4 years. Can’t say I met anyone to date, but did catch up with a few college friends who also volunteered at that same charter school. But back to the topic.

Service, or volunteering has been an integral part of my life since I was a wee lil’ Girl Scout, and although the premise is promising, hooking up while volunteering just hasn’t happened. It’s often promoted as a surefire way to meet the person of your dreams — do the activities you like and you’ll find like-minded individuals there, and form relationships, yadda skippy yea yea.

Since I’ve been in the ATL, I’ve volunteered at various projects throughout the year with Hands on Atlanta, and while I haven’t met anyone on any of these projects, I have invited men along to make it a “date” and how they react to that provides some insight and helps me determine whether or not to take them seriously.

By China Doll

November 13, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

Star1

If you want medical advice why don’t you go to a medical message board/website to find out about that type of surgery. I’m sure their advice/input would be more of what you are looking for, if you are truly interested in having that type of surgery.

By SexyLeggs

November 13, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

No food today, but I did bring the Mimosas….drink up…gulp gulp gulp.

By Jazzyone

November 13, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this

Does anyone else have this type of guy at work??? When ever he comes around all he EVER talks about is sports I mean nothing else ever…its like dayum your wife must put you outside the door next to your shoes and tell you not to come back till after 5 pm…dayum…thank GOD for headphones or I would be fired by now….sigh

By Cemeeli

November 13, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

Good morning people

LOL…start off the morning with “Singles Who Serve”…a few minutes later “Kegels Serve”….hoo and we ain’t had breakfast yet…LOL….today is going to interesting…

By Beautiful

November 13, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

melo haven’t had it done, but would love 2. if anyone does test drive me after my “dream procedure” it will be my husband. sorry

By Jazzyone

November 13, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

I could have sworn I saw Verve’s windows with wood over them last month on my way downtown….

By Lady J

November 13, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

Thanks AR and will do….It is time to change it up!!!!

By Lady J

November 13, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

AR I can’t open it at work but when I get home will do…Thanks again!!! I like Copelands but cant get with Verve but I am going to go against the odds! Verve is more urban for me but hey…I was married to a NYC guy…anyway…

By Rell (back to form)

November 13, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this

@2c….yes if taken for a blind item it would….point taken.

By melo

November 13, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

LOL,Beautiful,u so boring!!

By China Doll

November 13, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

Yep, Jazzy

Got one on each side. On Mondays, they stand in front of my office door and talk about all of the weekend games. The college games and professional as well. By Thursday they start getting all hyped up about the upcoming weekend games. In a meeting one of them proposed that Friday be collegiant (sp) day. Everyone should wear their college football teams jersey. I said “He ll’s Naw, not everybody is into sports like that. So now,I close my door and crack my blinds. I think they got the message.

By Rell (back to form)

November 13, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this

ooo yea you miss me……still waiting for my invited…ya dig

still hunting your yam

By 2CPTG©

November 13, 2007 10:15 AM | Link to this

Fellas…..since Rell brought it up, if you were dating a female, who, on the surface seemed like the ideal chic, but later on down the line, her past caught up with her, how would you handle it…..seriously, could any one of you all have a serious relationship with a Karrine Steffans type?

yeah, we’re hijacking the topic and gearing it towards us, the menfolk…of course ladies, chime in….

By Beautiful

November 13, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

72inches225lbs i haven’t had it done. i seen it performed on that plastic surgery show.

By Lady J

November 13, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this

HEY Cemeeli!!!

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 13, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

2 …clarification needed: ‘caught up with her’ how exactly??

By melo

November 13, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

could any one of you all have a serious relationship with a Karrine Steffans type? YEP,2CPTG©..just a serious fcking relationship. Nothing more, nothing less.

By Cemeeli

November 13, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this

Aye…lol…i’m over here rolling.

By Rell (back to form)

November 13, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

@2C, for me could i deal..now that is a trick question…because you know those whorish tendencies will emerge again at some point…and it may be good may be bad….as of right now from my POV could i deal yep….i am not here to judge…and i maybe able to continue with her talents in other areas…lol

By star1

November 13, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

LOL..Thanks for the advice but I didnt need it for myself,…I was just curious it it actually did change like that after a baby…I dont have kids

By Jazzyone

November 13, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this

Where Bonk chikawawa at?? can’t wait to hear his answer on this??!! LMAOFF…

By Beautiful

November 13, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

melo i’m a square, i know. just being me. ;)

By Jazzyone

November 13, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this

Where Bonk chikawawa at?? can’t wait to hear his answer on this??!! LMAOFF…

Gross, narly, woof, If I were a guy I couldn’t stand to be with her..not hating cause not into hating ho’s…but I wouldn’t want to go out with her knowing that every guy we encounter has already tested her kit kat and her deep throat…heyal naw..walking f**k bag..unh unh…

By Foots

November 13, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

2CPTG Interesting question… What I’d like to know from the fellas is whether you could handle it if your woman had a past equal to yours?

By China Doll

November 13, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

Melo

Why does her past matter, if you have fallen in love with her? As adults we all have a past, whether it’s good or bad, and as long as you have distanced yourself from your past, does it truly matter?

By 2CPTG©

November 13, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

Venus….meaning, say she didn’t tell you she was a former porn star, or something like that….and y’all were out, and someone recognized her…or, if y’all were together and you visted her hometown, how could you handle the stares, or the snide remarks folks said about him/her……

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 13, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

Rell but what if its that she has kids (aka child support SHE is having to pay, therefor she cant contribute much to your unit wit her), or a disease or a hit out on her because of her past dealings…. could you still deal wit it and not judge?? just curious

By SexyLeggs

November 13, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

Star1, can you imagine the woman who just had her 17th baby.

By Cemeeli

November 13, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

Hye ladyj.

Jazzy gurl you a trip. He’s loading…

By Beautiful

November 13, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

2C a male shouldn’t touch that! after awhile the ho will get bored and go back to her ho’ish ways. she’s a risk.

By SexyLeggs

November 13, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

Bella, just put a twist on your topic SINGLES WHO SERVE in correlation with Superhead….Sorry..LOL

By China Doll

November 13, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

Foots

Good question!!!

By Tazzee

November 13, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

I like to volunteer, just for the sake of volunteering. Never had a romantic connection while volunteering though. My volunteer activities usually come through work and the singles ministry at church. Work - there’s mainly married folks volunteering. Church - it’s all women. I can’t remember the last time I volunteered and there were single men running around.

I think, as singles, we get so caught up in self that we miss out on opportunities to help others…well I know I do sometimes.

By AmazonRed

November 13, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

I went on a date with a guy who told me he had been with 120 women (he was 33 at the time). He was also in school to become a pastor. There was no 2nd date.

Eventually, his whorish ways caught up with him. He was sleeping with several women in his congregation and got kicked out of the church.

By Jazzyone

November 13, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

Today is our companys Holiday luncheon..now do ya really think im going to eat anything these people make…deff since I use the bathroom with a bunch of folks who do a rinse instead of washing of their hands after they come up out the stall and steam is still coming out the toilet…just nasty…stop it…

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 13, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

2CPTG a man as strong as you would proly not care about the talk, but the possibly of a disease im thinking would be a deal-breaker… idle talk from the wish-we-had-somebody-anybody gallery surely wouldnt scare no fellas from this here blog……

By 2CPTG©

November 13, 2007 11:05 AM | Link to this

Beautiful….take Superhead out of the equation….and you didn’t know her past, but, as someone stated, you fell in love, then what? Dump her based on her past????

All you former married ladies….surely y’all got down with your husband in more ways than one…and to him, you were his slut puppy; Are you saying a man shouldn’t touch you now???

By melo

November 13, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

China Doll, as in most things in lyfe, man have a double standard!! They will want to have a virgin for a wife even though they have been the biggest sluts themselves.That includes me,myself I. I dont want to be with a woman that will be glancing over me every time iam with her,looking and sharing glances with her previous men. Its like walking naked, because all the men know about her moves and can talk in intimate detail about her body. But ofcourse the men can have their cake and eat it.Maybe untill Hillary gets into office!!

By Jazzyone

November 13, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

ohmahgah,,SEXYLEGGS I was just thinking that..singles that serve..priceless…

By SexyLeggs

November 13, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

JazzyOne, I have a very warped sense of humor, and I hollered w/come up out the stall and steam is still coming out the toilet…

By Rell (back to form)

November 13, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

@dasV, so it is your turn today to play wierd and extreme..lets deal in reality…how many times have you gotten your knees dirty or taken baby across the face…but i bet you will still kiss your man in the mouth..ok, everybody has a past…deal with it or move on…i cannot judge because in my past i have had that behavior…i was flucking anything moving..feel me…come on now lets be real

By Jay

November 13, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

Hello LadyJ Foots, To answer your question. A man understands you have a past. I dont think I could be understanding of a past that state’s Ho-like activity.

By Tazzee

November 13, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

Jazzyone I feel you on those potlucks at the company. Usually I nibble on the stuff that I know was store bought to show that I can socialize.

By Blue_Kolla

November 13, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

What up blog…

2Can Nope. When I go to make my mark, I don’t want to have to “tag” over 50 other fuggin dudes.

Jazzy deff since I use the bathroom with a bunch of folks who do a rinse instead of washing of their hands after they come up out the stall and steam is still coming out the toilet…just nasty…stop it…

…which is why I don’t touch rails, bannisters, doorknobs, etc. OR shake hands with more than a select few.

By Rell (back to form)

November 13, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

TOO ALL MEN, SHE MAY NOT BE A FREAK FOR YOU NOW..BUT I AM SURE SHE WAS A FREAK FOR SOMEONE….remember that when you waxing all poetic about your boo….there is a small and i do small number of women that have not dabbled in that behavior….trust that

By China Doll

November 13, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

Melo and Rell Thanks for being REAL:)

By Cemeeli

November 13, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this

all jokes aside….self-centered is a very BAD look. We should do as much as we can to “serve” those that are in need. Whatever it is we can do to help.

By 2CPTG©

November 13, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

I’m kinda wishy washy on this one, myself…..cause if I met an otherwise wonderful young lady I wouldn’t think twice about her past……until it’s brought before me, then, I would have to check my own ego…..yeah, I know she ain’t a virgin, but damn, she was in movies????

By SexyLeggs

November 13, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

2C, no, I’m not saying a man shouldn’t touch me because I was someone’s “slut puppy” back in the day. I think women can be with a man that had a particular past more so than a man can accept a woman if her past was along the lines of Superhead’s. Thoughts start creeping in the man’s head and he blows a head gasket with mere speculation. Hey, I man be wrong, but I think woman can be more accepting than most men.

By Beautiful

November 13, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

2C take Superhead out of the equation….and you didn’t know her past, but, as someone stated, you fell in love, then what? Dump her based on her past????

no, a tell-all-book was not published, so you wouldn’t of had the chance to dump her a* in the beginning. you will find out after a couple of years why she’s actin’ the way she’s actin’, and why she has all of these excuses about where she has been, etc.

By kinderbabe

November 13, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

good morning, ladies and gents. about the speed dating thing. try hurrydate also. they have a website hurrydate.com. they have some nice events for african-american singles.

By Tazzee

November 13, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

Blue_Kolla will your woman be able to make her mark without having to ‘tag’ 50 other females or is your response part of that double standard melo was talking about?

Personally I don’t ask a lot of questions about a man’s past. But I dated this guy that grew up in Atlanta - I didn’t think it would be an issue until I realized that we could be out and might run into some other woman he’s been intimate with. I didn’t like the thought of it, but I didn’t let that hinder our relationship.

By Rell (back to form)

November 13, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this

@tazz….that happens to me often, i am out and see someone i have had sex with or dated..hell this is atlanta, it is not that big…

@2c…that is why i say be easy with the info up front….i mean the cats she sleeped around with are no better then she is….notice all i quiet on that front…i mean so she was the hip hop jumpoff..there are jumpoffs running around atlanta talking about there are no good men…lol…and they are doing it for free….at least this chick has some hustle in her..and that alone is cool in my book..feel me

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 13, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

rell i feel what you sayin. and nope! i am not goin weird and extreme. and i feel what 2 is sayin about us formerly married chicks.

even if it was just one or fifty it still is something to consider. something us females have to think about too when kissing you mens…. just cause theres no book dont mean the past wasnt just as scandalous.

By Foots

November 13, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

Double standards trip me out! You got melo trying to bang Beautiful and calling her boring when she wouldn’t respond positively (I know, I know, just jokes…) but then admits to wanting a virgin! LOL!!! At least he admitted to the double standard, so that’s good.

Jay With as many transplants from other areas of the country, you’d never really know anything about her past that she didn’t want you to know (we’re not talking about the ones writing books about their escapades). Would it bother you to even think about her being with other dudes if you didn’t know for sure? Would you feel the same way if she did EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING with only one guy she had been with for years?

By Blue_Kolla

November 13, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

Tazzee Like Melo said, there’s a double standard. Then like 2 said, I know you have a past, but dayum. And like you say, I ain’t askin’ questions ‘cause I really don’t care or want to know. But dayum, if all your dirt is common knowledge, then naah, I can’t handle that. There is a difference in being normal and being a `ho.

…so is that why you have one black couple living in places like Wilkes, Montana… ‘cause slim was big time `ho and dude couldn’t live with knowing that even the water boy on football team beat that, but at the same time not want to give her up?

By 2CPTG©

November 13, 2007 11:53 AM | Link to this

oh, Rell, I feel exactly where you’re coming from…..but it’s the thought that kills us men…….prime example, and let’s be real here…..of all the chics a dude may have slept with, he don’t trip about none others except his baby mama!!! C’mon now! A nikka feel like he own that cat, and it don’t belong to nobody but him!!! Let us find out somebody else cuttin our baby mama…..what? we sick!

By Jazzyone

November 13, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

For me at my age..oh Im getting to your past becasue your past is somewhat of a tool in shaping who you have become or lack there of..so yeah on the really real tip Im trying to find out who and what you are and were..and i don’t have a problem giving the same in return.

Of course I have had sex with my man but i haven’t had sex with half of the entertainment industry or my community now or in the past so um…if you wanna holla at Karrine..ga’head..but lick that t** at your own risk..trust it!!

By Blue_Kolla

November 13, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

Rell there are jumpoffs running around atlanta talking about there are no good men…lol…and they are doing it for free….

There’s a lot of ho’n going on right here in the A there champ. You better believe that info right there.

And I’m gon’ tell every brotha sittin’ on this blog, if your girl is living the lifestyle of a six-figure income… but happens to be a clerk down at the courthouse, you better put them powers of deductive reasoning to work and sharpen up dem sleuthing skills.

By Jazzyone

November 13, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

I can garuntee when ya’ mention my name it won’t be because I slurped and burped off ya D*yk juice baybeh…my reputation is a reflection of me so call it what ya want some don’t care and some do..but imma find out who you are..who wants a pedo, or down low, or a movie head star..nah…whatevea’

By Jay

November 13, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this

Foots. SO true. People move here to start over. They never did anything wrong. I try not to worry about who you been with and why are you with me.

By melo

November 13, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

You got melo trying to bang Beautiful and calling her boring… Yeah Foots,Beautiful is smart coz she would have to re-do the procedure after banging mandingo coz the pot would be back to a gaping hole!!

By Lady J

November 13, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

Hey JAY!!!:)

By Lady J

November 13, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

Hey Foots and KB and Taz!!! Thx KB!

By Rell (back to form)

November 13, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

@2c…yea there is alot of crime behind the “baby mom”. that is true. but i always wondered in that case…what is it that drives cats away from this women…but you still dont want anyone around her?

@Jazzy…i hear you…lol…but

@BK…what is funny to me..once i spot a jumpoff, and after all the standard jumpoff buzz words…or convo..idle chatter…i am like lets get money, but when you say that all the gospel music comes out of her then..like naw i am not down with that…but you down for flucking for free and getting money spent on you for things you can buy yourself…lol…too funny..and when i say money…i mean the internet game..ya know the pay per click sites…or sex sites..yea i have the idea but no stable to pull it off…lol

By Blue_Kolla

November 13, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ Jazzy I can garuntee when ya’ mention my name it won’t be because I slurped and burped off ya Dyk juice baybeh…my reputation is a reflection of me so call it what ya want some don’t care and some do..but imma find out who you are..*

I told you, you have a real colorful way of saying sh!t sometimes. LOL

By Jay

November 13, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this

How have you been? I hope all is well. Why you can’t go to the dome this month? A lot of people must be going thru the same thing. I was scanning the blog on yesterday. It’s been a while since I seen the Falcons get some love. DO anyone attend the hawks games?

By melo

November 13, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

Blue_Kolla,she talks like she know some shyt.Aint seen no church-upright lady talk like that.Some serious fronting on the nets(to use Bush lingo)

By Foots

November 13, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

Hey LadyJ. Have you gone back to work yet with the cast?

LOL @ melo! Did you and the wife do anything special this weekend?

Rell what is it that drives cats away from this women…but you still dont want anyone around her?

I think the official word for that kind of behavior is CRAZY.

By Blue_Kolla

November 13, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this

Rell/Melo dapps… Yoll know what time it is.

By Jazzyone

November 13, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this

ohmahgah RELL But my @ss…you really don’t want to go there with me today not with this subject baybeh…trust it…

By Tazzee

November 13, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this

I want to know about a man’s past but I don’t want to know about all the women he’s slept with. I figure the testing to make sure he’s clean is enough. With that said - when things get serious I just want a man tell me what I need to know regarding his past relationships so that there will be no surprises. I would hate to be watching the news and dude’s name come up for some May/December romance back in the day with Shirley Franklin or something like that.

By Tazzee

November 13, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this

melo Jazzy ain’t never claimed to be no ‘church upright lady’ - what are you talking about?

By Beautiful

November 13, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this

ON-TOPIC i have been putting off volunteering during the holiday time for years. i feel bad, because i’m blessed and i see families that wish they had what i have, which isn’t much. i want to definitely drag my boys out of the house this year. they actually might have fun. ANY SUGGESTIONS IN THE AREA OF DOUGLASVILLE WHERE WE CAN GO?

By Rell (back to form)

November 13, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this

@jazzy, where are we going….and did i say something to spark your meter?….all i said was but….lol….ummmm do we need a sidebar or something…or do you have something on your chest about me that you need everyone to know…..so you can stick me in my place…again.

By melo

November 13, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this

Had a nice time saturday in gainsville(30 miles nrth) at the apple mountain resort(time share thing-I did not buy since i already have one) Its a nice place to spend a weekend,esp if u got kids and like golf.Will try Helen GA,next time.

By Foots

November 13, 2007 12:37 PM | Link to this

Tazzee LOL! I’m with you on that. There definitely is such a thing as knowing TOO much about a person and that affecting the development of any would-be relationship. I’d be like Amazon and drop a dude quick if he tells me about his sordid sexual past like he’s bragging on it.

Just give me the pertinent information and that’s all I need. Especially if the May/December romance was with Shirley’s ex-husband or some mess like that…I don’t want those types of surprises either… LOL!!

By Blue_Kolla

November 13, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

…now watching folks posture.

By Kym-Proud Steeler Nation Member since 1994

November 13, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon,

I dont know if we are still on topic…but Bella I think volunteering is a wonderful way to meet new people. I current participate in a project that links people to volunteer on service projects, which give them a opportunity to not only “Do Something Good.” but meet great people who have your same values and idea. I havent met anyone to date..but I have made some really great friends and would recommend this method to other singles.

How about those Steelers!!!!7-2*

By melo

November 13, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this

But my @ss…you really don’t want to go there with me today not with this subject baybeh…trust it… ugh,ugh ugh. Its about to go down!!!

By Jazzyone

November 13, 2007 12:43 PM | Link to this

Tazz I thought that was typical of him anyone woman that isn’t what they see in the press or a superhead just a woman with her head on straight with some wisdom and knowledge is always the one thats frontin…as if the game is so hard to figure out..GTFOH…

I don’t have to front..not my style..what for life is too short and too real to fake your way thru it..just me…

By Tazzee

November 13, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this

Foots you took it to a whole ‘nother level.

Dr. Kym shoot, how bout those Falcons. whatchu tombout?? LOL! Yeah, your team is putting it down. Big Ben makes me more of a fan each week. But I won’t be his fan when we play y’all in the Superbowl. I just cracked MYSELF up with that one

By Blue_Kolla

November 13, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

This convo can get real funky, real quick… so errybody just let it ride.

…said as I put away my between-the-lines glasses.

By Kym-Proud Steeler Nation Member since 1994

November 13, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this

Beautiful you may want to check with one of the local churches. But Hosea’s Feed the Hungry always does a meal on Thanksgiving as well as Christmas. Also, there are several projects that are on-going in the Metro Area-like Salvation Army. That you could help with. They always need volunteers.

By Foots

November 13, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this

melo Apple Mountain? Was it pretty? I’d like to find someplace nice (and close) for a quick winter getaway…

By Kym-Proud Steeler Nation Member since 1994

November 13, 2007 1:01 PM | Link to this

Tazz Well then the thought of the Fakecons even getting close to the Championship should put you in laughter induce coma. They beat the Panthers…hello the Panthers. The Browns gave us a run. They are looking pretty dang decent.

By Lady J

November 13, 2007 1:04 PM | Link to this

Jay I broke my ankle 3 wks ago…I am doing well though!

Foots I am back with the cast and ok…Thx chica for asking…

By melo

November 13, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this

Foots,its okay,but maybe Helen GA may be a better place. Havent been to Helen but have had so much about it.AppleMtn is ordinary to me as far as attractions go. But if u buy in the timeshare u can pretty go anywhere as long as u with RCI intrntl.

By Jazzyone

November 13, 2007 1:16 PM | Link to this

@Rell Nope no worries from me cause Im goooooood…

By Foots

November 13, 2007 1:23 PM | Link to this

melo I always wanted to check out Helen right when the leaves started changing. I’ll have to wait until next fall for that part, but I can still try to go this winter just to see what the town has to offer. Good looking out!

By Cemeeli

November 13, 2007 1:30 PM | Link to this

One of the guys here at work (my neighor) came by my office during my lunch (my lunchtime)… to say very passionatly. Cemeeli i don’t care for Kanye to much because he seems sooo racist. he’s about to backpeddle in a minute.

By Dan

November 13, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

Dan lands back from the A, yet home calls him like a lone wolf hoooowwwwll

Being one the few resident Atliens (Grady Baby!), the town has a lot to offer, you can go a church of any demonination and serve breakfast, lunch, or dinner. You can help the Hosea Williams feed the homeless, and there are certain neighborhoods that have events that the homeless are welcomed to attend for meals and the like.

“To whom much is given, much is expected.”

There’s no place like home, no place like home (get of my leg Toto), there’s no place like home!

By LorDemi

November 13, 2007 1:42 PM | Link to this

And yeah…Believe it or not, most of the ladies in the porn industry are cool as hell..and have the head on st8..would a marry one yep, I should would..vanassa blue

By Cemeeli

November 13, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this

Hey Dan waving…im a native too, glad to metcha agian. LOL.

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 13, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this

anyone trying or will try Vista and MS2007 soon?? wondering if you have run into any problems with the new system?? i hear sync-ing my palm is a breeze, but not sure docs-to-go will support the new system…..

By SexyLeggs

November 13, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this

This may say a lot, but I went to Helen, GA for my one-year anniversary. It was boring as hell. Could have been a sign of things to come….LOL

By Blue_Kolla

November 13, 2007 2:01 PM | Link to this

Palm OS’s work great with Vista and MS2003; don’t know about MS2007, probably the same story though.

By LorDemi

November 13, 2007 2:04 PM | Link to this

DasV they both suck…if your system is slow…do you have more than 4GB of ram?

By Blue_Kolla

November 13, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

DasV You shouldn’t have any problems. I know that DOCS works well with Vista and MS2003. (I thought I answered you but that tab crashed so I don’t know if it went.)

By LorDemi

November 13, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this

Blu…both OS system are good for palms and pda’s as well…but they’re some memory hogs!!!

By SexyLeggs

November 13, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

Off-topic, I am f…..p**! Took my lunch out of the fridge and put in the breakroom where microwave is to take chill off. 30 mins later went in to heat my food and the entire tupperware container w/food was in the garbage. I haven’t been this hopping mad in a long time. I need to take a walk…

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 13, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

Lord thanks for the info…. but i know my pc and laptop are cool. wondering if my palm ts docs-to-go will still be able to sync.

blue thanks to you too! lemme know if find out anything on ms2007.

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 13, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this

lordD oohhh. i gotcha now! (read your post to blue) thanks. i am at 86% already so i will have make some adjustments, but no biggie because i proly need to clean things out anyway……

By 2CPTG©

November 13, 2007 2:35 PM | Link to this

off topic, but relevant……what in the heyal is going on with folks losing their cribs left and right….5244 homes set to be autioned off?

would y’all somebody who lost their crib?

By Rell (back to form)

November 13, 2007 2:35 PM | Link to this

@sexyleggs….LMAO…i hate to laugh but my sense of humor is twisted…lol…..now who did you p** off to throw your stuff in the trash….LMAO

like dave chappelle

fluck yo lunch….lol

By Blue_Kolla

November 13, 2007 2:38 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ Leggs I am f…..p! Took my lunch out of the fridge and put in the breakroom where microwave is to take chill off. 30 mins later went in to heat my food and the entire tupperware container w/food was in the garbage.

Take the high road. Somebody may have done you a favor. Food was out of your sight for 30 minutes. You don’t know what somebody might’ve done. Food in the office is like a drink at a bar - never to be left unattended. Lesson learned… now go fork out some bread for some more lunch.

TIP: Get one of those lunch cooler bags and leave your lunch in that at your desk. It’ll stay cool and you know that none of your greedy-azz co-workers has fugged wit’it!

By Bella

November 13, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this

Hi, everyone!

Just wanted to let you know that as itsmorenamorena noticed, this blog is in two places today. This season, any of our blogs that have holiday tie-ins may be posted in a second holiday section, so show the love if newbies walk in to MIA who normally wouldn’t be here!

I hope you’re all making it through today! I’m strugglin’!

By binford

November 13, 2007 2:46 PM | Link to this

120 by the age of 33??????

I would say dude needed to pick up the pace …slow poke.

By Blue_Kolla

November 13, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this

2Can what in the heyal is going on with folks losing their cribs left and right….5244 homes set to be autioned off?

The dream of owning your own home coupled with the need to keep up the jones’ (read… one-up your boy/girl), has led to peeps financing cribs that they really couldn’t afford. The math is simple, it’s the discipline that’s hard.

By China Doll

November 13, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this

Speaking of Lunch

I brought my lunch to work last month. I made a spinach salad, hooked just the way I like it. I put it in the fridge…went to get it…gone without a trace, I looking everywhere, found my tupperware in the dishwasher,along with my personal silverware and dressing container. I was p**.

I takes a lot on nerve to eat someone else’s lunch…not knowing who brought it.

By melo

November 13, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this

I haven’t been this hopping mad in a long time. I need to take a walk… boy or boy, talk of a double whammy!! So SexxyL is foodless and honey pot needs a rub as well. I’ll get u that Hosea feed the Hngry # sweetie.

By Jazzyone

November 13, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this

2 nope but my last real estate purchase was a foreclosure..actually anniversary of closing is NOV 17th..

By Tazzee

November 13, 2007 2:56 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs If there was only one microwave and I needed to use it, I would have taken your stuff out too - but I wouldn’t have put it in the trash.

How you gone leave your stuff in the microwave for 30 minutes?

OK, I know I’m in Houston - but it’s HOT out there.

By 2CPTG©

November 13, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

Blue, I feel ya, but damn! that must be hell to bounce back from, once a lender sees you’ve defaulted on a mortgage loan, they ain’t trynna give yo azz no more money! Ever went to someone’s crib and it was nice looking from the exterior, then, when you got inside, that shyt was empty as hell….or the heat wasn’t on in the winter……

By 2CPTG©

November 13, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this

of course, Jazzy, I’ll snatch one up in a minute; shoot, mine was too…

By Tazzee

November 13, 2007 3:04 PM | Link to this

2can add in all those attractive (interest-only, low interest) mortgages that have come home to roost. When I bought my last home in ATL, they said my income needed to be like $45k based on the loan I got. $45k for a $280k house?!?!!? That’s crazy.

By Cemeeli

November 13, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this

Speaking of greedy co-workers. They will eat up yo’ stuff in the fridge…so if you can leave your stuff in your own office/desk (in a lunch tote) like Blue said. I have put my lunch in one of my credenzas and it never did smell or get room tempture. Stayed cold from when i brought it in.

When i use the fridge…still missing in action, some green tea, yogurt cups, strawberries, slice of pie…

By SexyLeggs

November 13, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

Rell, I don’t know who I p** off. I’ve been staying at my desk not ruffling anyone’s feathers (or so I thought)

Blue Kolla, it’s ok, BK, I have a warped sense of humor myself (except when it comes to my dang food). I’ve taken the high road. Yes, you made an excellent point. My lunch will stay at my desk from now on.

Tazzee I had my lunch on the bookcase in the corner of the breakroom where I’ve always placed it, not in the microwave…I sat outside and blew off some steam. Went to the cafe and ordered a steak/cheese sandwich.

By Beautiful

November 13, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

2C the problem with the homes is that people were taken advantage of. those people were dependant on their agents to take care of them. at the closing, no one stood up and said, “BY THE WAY, AFTER TWO YEARS YO SHIIT IS GOING UP EVERY THREE MONTHS ABOUT $300”. can you handle that?????? the client would have said “HELL TO THE NAW!!!”!!! it’s not their fault. even Bush said it wasn’t their fault. scam, that’s all it was.

By Blue_Kolla

November 13, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

China I takes a lot on nerve to eat someone else’s lunch…not knowing who brought it.

That would happen to me once and only once; then it’d be, jokes on you jack… I’d roll in the next day with the lunch looking so good, smelling so nice… and laced with some spoiled milk.

By Dan

November 13, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

For those potential/current homeowners

The standard rate for owning a home is no more that 2.5 times your current salary. That price requires at least a $5K downpayment and it should be a fixed rate mortgage.

@ Tazzee— Much more of this problem was out and out fraud, overinflation of home prices, and unscrupulous lenders and appraisers. Yet none face any charges, criminally or professionally.

I urge anyone with an adjustable rate mortgage to refinanace (and tell your friends as well). The product is not made for traditional buying and holding of property. It was designed as a “soft money” loan for investors/flippers.

The raging outcry of a financial customer care professional.

By melo

November 13, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

2CPTG© if u got cash and some good credit, this and the next 12 months or so may be the best time to buy coz of all the low prices and high inventory. I been in my house for 7 years and been looking to upgrade.When i bought mine back then when still in college, my wife and i earned less than i currently earn alone, so i need a good 4/5 bdrooms.

By Blue_Kolla

November 13, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this

2/Jazzy of course, Jazzy, I’ll snatch one up in a minute; shoot, mine was too…

Mine too & and I’m about to start looking for another one real soon. So let ‘em keep up the good work… for me that is.

By Tazzee

November 13, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs Gotcha now - yeah, someone would’ve received a good ‘talking to’ from me. There aren’t many folks on my floor so I would have gone to each office and asked who messed with my food. I think someone has it in for you.

Beautiful Folks weren’t reading the small print. They didn’t do their own research. An agent is there to make money but too many folks were buying homes for the first time, not going to homebuying workshops or not listening to what they were told. Shoot a house is prolly the biggest financial investment you’ll make. If BofA declines you and some no-name mortgage company says they ‘can get you in a house’ - you need to read the fine print on that mess. While I agree that the subprime industry is foul - too many folks were so busy trynna come up, they didn’t pay attention to the potential downfall.

By 2CPTG©

November 13, 2007 3:18 PM | Link to this

Blue….you just gave me some humorous ideas…..

you know you’re living above your means, if……

you never have more than a 1/4 tank of gas in your car!

you have to take out a loan to pay your property taxes!

folks won’t return your call cause they know the first thing you’re gonna ask is, “lemme hold sum’in”

You’re looking now, to see who’s kids you can claim for income taxes!

you stay broke, and you live with a roommate.

folks at the pawn shop knows your name.

As opposed to a debit card, you have a payday loan “preferred member’s” card

You owe more than your car is worth (upside down!)…..

By melo

November 13, 2007 3:19 PM | Link to this

Beautiful i disagree.Ever heard of personal responsibility.Folks need to educate themselves in this day and age.Why do white folks have less foreclosures? A house purchase is the single biggest investment most folks will do in their lyfe time and u cant entrust that to an outsider who is looking after their own interests. Only u can look out for u!!

By Gimme A Break

November 13, 2007 3:20 PM | Link to this

Beautiful agents show/sell property most don’t have anything to do with the loan process. It’s up to the buyer to do their own due diligence with their loan officer/mortgage broker about their loans. Not to mention, most buyers hear what’s going on, but don’t care until sh*t hits the fan…then it’s everybody’s fault but theirs.

By Jazzyone

November 13, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

Beautiful..your agent isn’t involved in the numbers with the mortgage lender only the purchase price and the selling price plus your commission…if you buy a home and uou know you can’t afford it don’t count on anyone to tell you that you know it in your heart. If you are signing paperwork, know what you are signing before you do so…look at the amort sched you can see that your house is already goign to cost you tripple by the time you are done paying for it..anything extra and you are in the poor house…

By Jazzyone

November 13, 2007 3:25 PM | Link to this

yeah im at two and counting just sold/closed on the condo in buckhead 2 wks ago got that off my back and sold it to the developers..so im ready to pounce!!!

By LorDemi

November 13, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs Dayum, that sounds so Att-ishs…They playing yo a$$ back from Halloween(show dem long leggs on the smurf)…I wonder what they’re going to for x-mas…

By Blue_Kolla

November 13, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

Dan The standard rate for owning a home is no more that 2.5 times your current salary. That price requires at least a $5K downpayment and it should be a fixed rate mortgage.

Yeap.

By Beautiful

November 13, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

sorry, but everybody ain’t as smart as y’all. they went to a person who specializes in these types of loans. give me a break! this was their opportunity to finally get a home for their family. think about it, there are over 5,000 homes in foreclosure. so you tellin’ me that all of these people from all walks of life are dumb? no.

By Jazzyone

November 13, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

if in question have yourself a good attorney with you to view the contract and at closing.. or take a home buyers class..often times your PMI with the right down payment can be removed and not required on your loan. Your loan should not be more than 2.5xs your salary…keeping up with the jones’s will have you renting from the flintstones…

But lemme just say I bought my last home from the government and they paid closing costs and ‘MY’ attorney fees so dont’ believe it if they tell you they will do it!!

By 2CPTG©

November 13, 2007 3:31 PM | Link to this

I know I was prolly wrong for that list……but dang, Black Folks!!!! to those that may be out there reading…..quit playing into the damn stereotypes!!! Ain’t nobody fallin short but us; yeah, we all wanna partake in the great American Dream, but at what cost??? wake up!

By Tazzee

November 13, 2007 3:32 PM | Link to this

Dan I agree that the criminals should be prosecuted. But I also think people need to be more careful when making huge purchases. As someone who used to teach homebuying workshops, I can tell that too many people don’t listen to sound advice. I would counsel folks that had NO business buying a house - they would stop coming and the next thing I knew, they were in a house. Then lo and behold, 3 months later they are having problems paying the mortgage.

So I think the accountability goes both ways.

By Cemeeli

November 13, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this

2C Lol…you pretty much said it!!!!

By Beautiful

November 13, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this

Gimme A Break wateva! what comes around goes around. if those ppl who lost their home called the person who approved their loan, they cannot be reached. why? because they were either fired, layed off, gone out of business, etc. that should tell you something right there scam … … . .

By Dan

November 13, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

@Melo and Gimmieabreak

The entire process of buying a house is an ethical one. From the broker that shows you a home (preferably in your price range), takes you to a reputable lender and the lender the lawyers and appraisers all have industrial ethics that they are subject to.

So “Caveat emptur” is not relative, especially when making the largest purchase of your life.

By SexyLeggs

November 13, 2007 3:40 PM | Link to this

Melo, ok you’re giving me the # so I can get fed. However, you brought up 2 problem areas I’m having. I know you’re not expecting me to solve my other problem w/the homeless. Come on now, you can hook a sister up better than that…LOL.

By Foots

November 13, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this

jazzyone look at the amort sched you can see that your house is already goign to cost you tripple by the time you are done paying for it.

Now that’s a good point. I haven’t seen a schedule for an ARM, but I guess there would have to be one in the closing documents.

I’m all for personal responsibility. When I closed on my first house years ago, I was told I was approved for a certain amount. I told them that I would buy what I thought I could afford, which was less than the approval amount. At some point you have to know what you can handle.

Also, it takes months for the foreclosure process to be completed. If I began to have trouble making payments, I know I would call Wells Fargo so fast to talk over my options. The question I have is: Do people who know they can’t make their payments call their mortgage holder to discuss it before the foreclosure process starts?

By melo

November 13, 2007 3:45 PM | Link to this

so you tellin’ me that all of these people from all walks of life are dumb? no. Actually, yes,DUMB finance-wise. Recently, some guy aproached my wife, he dont work,his wife is the breadlady in the housse but their mortgage is 2 mths behind and he is talking about buying a bigger house! Folks do dumb moves just coz so an so has ish and they wanna keep up.They would rather go to a R-Kelly concert or on vacation than pay their gas bill or mortgage. I hear those stories everyday coz my wife is a mortgage broker.

By SexyLeggs

November 13, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

LorDemi, must be honest. The thought did cross my mind.

A few co-workers and I was discussing the fact that I found my lunch in the garbage and one relayed this story: Said another co-worker got fed up with their lunch being MIA and put a note the next day saying “Do Not Eat”. Well, some fool ate and wound up in the hospital w/food poisining. The co-worker that laced their lunch was FIRED.

Anyway, it’s never too late to learn a valuable lesson.

By melo

November 13, 2007 3:54 PM | Link to this

Beautiful, the ARMs are really based on the principle that ur income will go up by the time ur interest rate goes up.Or u may have paid down the things tying up ur cash flow by the time the ARM kicks in.So its not always a scam thing because those things work for some but not necessarily for others Each person has to find out what option works best for their situation.

By melo

November 13, 2007 3:57 PM | Link to this

SexxyL i suggest we get u a bullet I’ll help u choose but maybe the blog can suggest the best type! Where do we meet?

By Bre

November 13, 2007 3:57 PM | Link to this

Between now and March 2008 will be the best time to look and set your eyes on what you want. ARM’s peak in March 08 at $42bn, then recast volumes for pay-option ARM’s will reach come due Jun 2010 at about $24bn. Most houses on the market even now are over priced at about 14%. So you just have educate yourself know what you are getting into. Even going to auctions(bank/private forclosures) read the fine print, there you can also get caught up.

Just read and read, do as much research as you can.

By Blue_Kolla

November 13, 2007 3:59 PM | Link to this

Leggs The co-worker that laced their lunch was FIRED.

I didn’t say that I’d go around broadcasting that I put the jacked up lunch in the fridge. I’d just be the sitting at my desk like the cat that ate the canary @ LMAO.

By China Doll

November 13, 2007 4:01 PM | Link to this

Blue

LOL, good idea. But since that incident, for lunch, I only bring items I can keep at my desk. Not gone get me again. LOL

By AmazonRed

November 13, 2007 4:02 PM | Link to this

So binford, are you saying you’ve topped 120?! :-O

By Beautiful

November 13, 2007 4:07 PM | Link to this

melo sorry, im not convinced. my mortgage friend told me that the loan officers used loans where they didn’t even have to verify employment, salary, nothing. that’s insane!!!! money is the root of all evil.

By Gimme A Break

November 13, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this

Dan I am an agent…and trust, I always inquire about the range and I also consult with the loan officer to determine if the person can afford the house, but if they are approved for more and decide to go for more then what am I supposed to do? As stated earlier, a lot of people are buying homes not for the sake of an investment, but simply to keep up with the Joneses. When me and my ex purchased our home, we were approved for one amount but that didn’t mean we bought that amount. So Beautiful it’s not about being dumb but about being realisitic and grown people know what they can and can’t afford. Now if those people were involved in some dishonest practice from lenders, then my heart goes out to them, but those situations are far and few. Most knew the terms and signed on the dotted line…which ultimately makes them responsible.

By SexyLeggs

November 13, 2007 4:13 PM | Link to this

Melo, thanks honey, but I already own a bullet.

By Gimme A Break

November 13, 2007 4:17 PM | Link to this

Beautiful the LOVE of money is the root of all evil.

Foots to answer your question, I don’t think they do. Most people aren’t proactive when it comes to foreclosures. They wait until the situation is beyond repair to call. It’s sad because the bank ultimately doesn’t want the property…they just want their money. And if you’re willing to work something out they’re usually willing to work with you…most of the time. I’m sure there are incidents where it didn’t work out that way for the buyer, but I’m sure most companies would.

By 2CPTG©

November 13, 2007 4:18 PM | Link to this

Beautiful…..come now, sweetie…money is neutral; for it’s the love of it (some bibles even say the fruit of it)……this problem is occurring all over the country, but it’s mostly affecting areas with a high concentration of “us”!!!!!

I firmly believe we’re doing it to ourselves…..

By Tazzee

November 13, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

Beautiful the love of money is the root of all evil. Again, even with unscrupulous lenders - folks that have to use them should do a double take. If you have to get your loan from We’ll Get You In mortgage company because Bank of America, Wachovia, Chase, Wells Fargo, Citibank and LendingTree turned you down - then you need to do a double-take. And that’s not to say that the big name places are always legit because who would’ve thought HomeBanc would have those problems.

So yes, there’s some scamming going on - but accountability goes both ways. If it seems too good to be true, it probably is.

By SexyLeggs

November 13, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this

Blue Kolla, I with you on that…do your thing and sit your a$$ down and watch the results. Certain things you just don’t broadcast.

By Blue_Kolla

November 13, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this

Beautiful sorry, im not convinced. my mortgage friend told me that the loan officers used loans where they didn’t even have to verify employment, salary, nothing.

If you’ve got cash up front, even if it ain’t but 5%, you better believe that they gon’ twirk some’n, if not only just to seperate you from that lump that you holdin’.

BTW, you sure are convinced that the victims in these cases should not even at least share the blame. And to that I’ll ask you, if you go down to Bobby Joe’s Buy Here Pay Here and he puts you in a ‘05 Explorer for $600 and change/month, is that his fault or yours? Same principle!

By Dan

November 13, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

@Gimmieabreak

I am a financial adviser, is it not my ethical responsibility to advise a client not to buy on margin, if they can’t afford the loss.

In that same vein, if you know that this person can’t afford the approved payment amount, wouldn’t you at least say something, I mean!

If not, remember the next time you go to the doctor, he doesn’t have to ask you about your allegeries. So take the pills at your own risk.

By AmazonRed

November 13, 2007 4:25 PM | Link to this

I’m so glad I work in a nice office. Folks don’t go around eating peoples food!

Here, if someone left food sitting out for 30 minutes, someone would go around and ask why. Though I think 30 minutes is a bit premature to throw someone’s lunch away, it’s equally rude to leave food sitting out unattended in common areas.

By melo

November 13, 2007 4:28 PM | Link to this

Beautiful,*loan officers used loans where they didn’t even have to verify employment, salary, nothing. that’s insane!!!! * Those no doc loans are legal(in GA as well as most other states), no scam involved.When liquidity in the economy is good, a lot of people want to partake of the “good” stuff, but it does not give people the right to be irresponsible and get more than they can chew.Thats the bottom line. As blacks, we have a propensity in this country to play victim all the time.Its time we looked in the mirror.

By Blue_Kolla

November 13, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

GimmeASnake I always inquire about the range and I also consult with the loan officer to determine if the person can afford the house, but if they are approved for more and decide to go for more then what am I supposed to do?

I hope that everybody is reading this fuggin clown. Nearly all agents work for sellers, regardless of who initiates the relationship. Now you all just read what this snake just said, what’s he/she supposed to do, other than take advantage of your ignorance KNOWING that you’re gettin’ fugged in the deal, now and later. Now GimmeASnake, what you’re supposed to do is refuse to go through with the sale and advise the client; but then again that would be doing the right thing, and that would be one hell of a challenge.

And I bet’chu doing this sh!t to Black Brothers and Sisters too, you sorry azz *

By 2CPTG©

November 13, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

“If you’ve got cash up front, even if it ain’t but 5%, you better believe that they gon’ twirk some’n, if not only just to seperate you from that lump that you holdin’.”

OK!!!!

By SexyLeggs

November 13, 2007 4:46 PM | Link to this

BlueK, you’re absolutely right. At my first closing, the seller kept coming up ways to take my money. It was absolutely amazing. My agent looked at me and asked if I wanted to walk and I said “YES, AND WE DID!”

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 13, 2007 4:46 PM | Link to this

blueK the commission he got was forced on him, Blue. give the ‘em a break. please

By LorDemi

November 13, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

I’d just be the sitting at my desk like the cat that ate the canary @ LMAO

Meow

SexyLeggs I ain’t sliver…but I do have a very black bullet, LOL…You have a bless day sis…just rock dem jeans’n’heels for all the men who love legs…dropkicks to your enemies

By SexyLeggs

November 13, 2007 4:57 PM | Link to this

Interesting blog today. As usual, we were all over the page. I’ve learned something.

Good night everyone - be safe!

By Gimme A Break

November 13, 2007 4:59 PM | Link to this

Blue_Kolla for your information Smarty…I represent buyers…don’t particularly like working with sellers…but it’s all business. However, if I were dealing with a client that I felt couldn’t afford the property, I’d address it, but it’s their choice…so I’m going to do my job…which is to satisfy my client. So get off your sh*t and realize it’s about accountability for your own actions. I’m a realtor…not a babysitter…if you choose not to educate yourself and you still want to buy a house I’m not turning down the business and I don’t know one that would.

By SexyLeggs

November 13, 2007 5:01 PM | Link to this

Thanks LorDemi, when I’m ready I’ll get me a black bullet. Most definitely!

By Dan

November 13, 2007 5:02 PM | Link to this

@Gimmieabreak

Why not give us your name, we report what you’ve said the National Realtor Association and see what they have to say about it?