Misadventures in Atlanta

By QC

November 9, 2007 8:23 AM | Link to this

Morning Happy Friday Bloggers

Being private when dating someone new is very important to me…i’ve often wondered if my “new guy” was hiding something from me…sometimes i tend to do a little “snooping” on my own…i hold onto my business until i feel comfortable with him or our relationship is really going somewhere…and i am known to keep “my business” to myself….I hope you all have a great day/weekend…i’m off Monday yippee…Have a safe trip to NC Darrell, i’ll holla at you before you leave…Hey Ga.Man i’ll check back later and do remember to check out the best website created by the Best Brother in the World

www.blackthen.com

By Beautiful

November 9, 2007 8:30 AM | Link to this

i’m looking forward to today’s discussion. i dated a guy two years ago and he was very secretive. two months had went by and i didn’t know where he lived, etc. at that point, i broke it off. it was kinda wierd to me. if you are dating me exclusively, i should know these things within a couple of weeks. duh!

BIG shout out to 2C & Truth. hug

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 9, 2007 8:41 AM | Link to this

Morning, all. :-)

My own personal credo when dating is to put ALL my “standard” information (i.e. the TRUTH about me) out there from the get-go and let the chips fall where they may.

I choose to do this because I’ve found that being “volitionally transparent” (as opposed to making someone “work” to find out things about you) saves both parties the nervousness and anxiety alluded to in Wise Diva’s opening comments.

Another benefit of that to me, is that it helps me sleep at night realizing that even in an instance where nothing further develops, I have a clear conscience knowing that I never lied to or misled anyone. Call me crazy, but my personal reputation is just that important to me.

As someone who is divorced, I would have no problem at all sharing ANY details about my first marriage (and I’ve been married only ONCE), as long as the conversation doesn’t delve into talking private information about my former wife. In other words, anything about the marriage itself is “on the table”, however, I would owe it to my former wife to respect her personal privacy and leave such details out of the conversation.

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 8:42 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. Yes, you should be somewhat private when dating someone. Yet, one’s personality, likes, dislikes should emerge as time goes by. I too would have broken it off if I dated someone for 2 months and didn’t know where they lived. As any good card player would tell you, keep your trump card and play your hand wisely.

By 2CPTG©

November 9, 2007 8:44 AM | Link to this

Morning, Beautiful, and all…..

being the complex creature that I am, it’s almost impossible to reveal much, if anything about me to a potential suitor; Not that I’m hiding anything, there’s just many facets as to who I am….time and due diligence reveals all.

By Dan

November 9, 2007 8:46 AM | Link to this

Good topic

What strikes me is that like QC and WD, women want to know dizzam near everything about you, but feel completely justified in keeping their secrets their own.

I recently started talking to a lady and she wants me to be the first to “open up”, I mean fellas what happened to reciprocity? Ladies, you have to give what you want: love, respect, openess and honesty. ;)

To address the topic, the “D” has the problem of brutal honesty. I’m not evasive at all, but the caveat is that you have to ask a direct question.

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 9, 2007 8:54 AM | Link to this

I perfer to date a somewhat mystery man. I don’t want your whole life story on our first date, give me bits of information as time goes by, that’ll keep me interested and wanting to come back for more. I’ve dated guys who’ve given me what seems to be their whole life story on the first dat. After all that talking I loose my interest and start looking for a way out. My thing is don’t indulge too much information until you feel that that person will stick around for a while. I don’t want a bunch of men walking around knowing too much about me esp if we never made it past the dating stage.

Morning Everybody, Happy Friday!

By QC

November 9, 2007 8:57 AM | Link to this

Dan I don’t need to know dizzam near everything about “new guy” i’m not one to ask a million questions, but i wanna know what i need to know….

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

November 9, 2007 8:58 AM | Link to this

Morning All!! Happy Friday!!

I am not an open book but I wont volunteer all info about me. I would talk about my marriage but in very minute details and I would respect my ex’s privacy and leave him out of it (much like you Darrell). Interesting topic, cant wait to see some responses! Oh and I dont expect guys to tell me everything but I dont expect to have to ask for everything either.

By China Doll

November 9, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

I have learned be a very good listener,to ask the “right” questions, and to observe. I have also learned to not tell my whole life story, as we women sometimes do, on the first few dates or conversations.

I’m not a snoop, so I don’t plunder. LOL

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 9, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this

Dan

I feel ya on the whole reciprocity thing, but for me, my desire to come forth willingly with information about myself is tantamount to a “lead by example” approach.

In other words, my hope is that as I “take the lead”, it will help allay any concerns she has about finding out whatever it is she wants to know about me. If I’m successful in that, then, hopefully, she’ll feel comfortable enough to reciprocate. If not, it’s no biggie, because I’ve still achieved what I mentioned in my initial comments (@ 8:41). So, I see it as a win-win.

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this

Hello Everybody! Happy Friday. I tend to be the “mysterious one” when dating someone. Even you guys know more about me than someone i date…well up until a certain point in the realtionship. Let see;

Do you ever wonder if someone you are dating has something to hide? Well by the time i get to share my ‘private info my SO probably has shared A LOT of things about himself. I don’t know how i manage to get people to talk & listening to every detail too.

Do you think that your privacy in dating is important? Simply yes. I think about how or if what i share (private things) will be used against me one day. Or if it will be misconstrued so i wait to share things with people i date.

Do you like to be the mysterious stranger or are you an open book? I like myserious. Never cease to amaze me how surprised a guy is when they think i’m one way and it’s rally another.

What (and when) do you reveal things to someone you are dating? Somehow the timing (for me) is always after that first really bad arguement. LOL…

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 9, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this

Dan I’m alright with the basic need to know like where he was raised, education, and what he’s doing now and what his plans are, but to know his ex’s name, birthday what they did on their wedding/night and other information that is certianly not relevant to us since we are just dating is not necessary, can someone correct me if I’m wrong?

By Dan

November 9, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this

@Darrell

I never said I didn’t agree with your post, in fact I’m the say way for the same reason (I’d rather walk away with my integrity out of an interaction, knowing that I tried my best to be honest.

It’s just that in any relationship there has to be balance, I don’t want to feel like I’m the only one in it. It boils down to a control issue (in that I don’t want to lose hand) but I’d rather be in an equitable relationship than a one sided one.

Information is power.

By Rell.com

November 9, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this

I usually give you what i want you to know about me…i reveal hidden talents or interest later..and i like my women to do the same…surprise me at times…keeps it fun and interesting…what i hate is to meet a women and she lets me know that she has kids….like ummm thats cool but thats your responsiblity not mine, i just got your name…lol….not trying to be stepdaddy…let me get to know the person before you hit me with the attachments.

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 9, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

Darrell maybe I should’ve dated you since most all the divorced men I’ve dated divulged all information about their ex wives without a second thought.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 9, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this

Dan

My 9:14 wasn’t to imply that you disagreed with me. I was simply expounding on your comment about “reciprocity” to say that although you bring up a valid point, I, personally, wouldn’t necessarily let the absence of it deter me.

My bad if I didn’t get that across clearly.

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this

Morning ya…I tend to pace myself in being revealing about my inner most self..the basics we can cover and I expect the same to a degree. I personally like to go at a natural unforced pace on both sides in the new revelations arena, just works for me not so much preasure and i don’t want it to seem like an interview process.

Lets laugh, talk and smile a while enjoy the comany simply and move into things smoothly…

Holla ya hope everyone has a great weekend.

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this

So RELL do you tell a date to kick rock if she shares with you that she has a kid/kids?

Or

Are you saying if in the initial (first meeting) conversation with a woman you get vexed by her telling you she has babes.

By SexyCool

November 9, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this

i read the tone of this topic as being about your personal information, facts about your actual situation and personal history as opposed to full disclosure about your personality, habits, likes dislikes and so on…

and for me…i used to pay attention to what an individual doesn’t tell me and questions that he seems to avoid…

simply put…while still in the dating world, i was more on guard to whether or not a person may seem to be hiding things about themselves…their living situation, their emotional availability, their true interest/intest, their true mental state and so on…

By Beautiful

November 9, 2007 9:45 AM | Link to this

Rell.com hi babe.

what i hate is to meet a women and she lets me know that she has kids….like ummm thats cool but thats your responsiblity not mine, i just got your name…lol….not trying to be stepdaddy…let me get to know the person before you hit me with the attachments. you funny. lol.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 9, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

Me 2

:-)

I guess it’s that old “to each his own”, ya know? I’ve just never seen the benefit of bringing one’s former spouse into a situation that, in the grand scheme of things, won’t affect them anyway.

I’ve been divorced nearly 10 years now (next May), and given the fact that both parties usually have some degree of fault in the marriage not working out, why not just decide to treat the other person respectfully, you know? It doesn’t hurt to do that. :-)

Besides, regardless of what variables contributed to the dissolution of the marriage, if for no other reason, I choose to honor the ‘personhood’ of my former spouse because she still has worth and value in the eyes of God. Which is why I never refer to her as my “ex”, because I think the term “former spouse” is much more respectful.

By Rell.com

November 9, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

@Cemeeli…i am saying…lol..that if we are vibing and you introduce me to cemeeli….i want to meet her and learn about her…if you have kids i dont have to know unless you are choosin…that is a choosin question…if we are just dating then all i need to know is where we are meeting feel me…i dont need all the other stuff unless you choosin…i just feel like when women throw out choosin question they escalate the game to a point that it does not need to go at that stage….i hope that i have broken it down…my mother did it that way…in all my years i have only seen her with two men…i am sure she dated because we spent time with nana..but on the serious tip two men..feel me…mothers now will bring the kid on dates…

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

Good observing Sexyleggs and on that note. I agree. Paying attention to detail is key when dating. Yea, all that avoiding is a red flag and it makes me guarded.

By Got that?

November 9, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this

As a private person, I’m a firm believer in privacy. There’s a time for everything. I don’t want to know everything about a woman all at once. Stretch it out across time to keep interest. A lot of things, I’ll figure out with direct questions. However, if there’s something significant that demands to be communicated, it should be handled quickly. Otherwise, disclose things as the relationship develops. If a woman came at me yakking about her life story and wanting to know mine, I’d walk away and give my ears a rest.

By Page1908

November 9, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

I would prefer to know the basics upfront, but the details of the person over time. Often times now-a-days, we want to know everything about the other person on the first date, however, I don’t! The best part, I think, of dating is getting to know someone over a period of time. I guess that is seen as a drawback to some people because we typically don’t want to “waste” our time with people if we do not like the details about them. All I know, is that I would hate for someone to dismiss me just because they felt they didn’t know everything about me on the first date.

You’d be surprised what you can find out about a person by just having casual conversations and LISTENING! Some women tend to run their mouths a mile a minute going on and on about themselves, but sometimes if you just listen, you can find out everything you need to know.

By Beautiful

November 9, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this

Rell.com thinkin’ back…………… i did only say how many babies i had when asked. i have never given out that info. ;)

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 9, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

Good point Darrell

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

Dating yes you probably would disclose you had children and thats a wize choice..but just getting it punched in from the back with you hair pulled with no future in it (sport F**n) then no you probably don’t want to hear if she has kids or not…LMPAOFF…

By Bre

November 9, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this

Greetings this wonderful morning….hope all is well with everyone.

I’ve always been very unfair in this I’m pretty much a closed book on a lot of personal things. My grandmother is to blame she was like when people know too much about you they can hurt you. Right or wrong that’s how I came up keep things close to the vest and your safe. The relationship I’m dealing with now he knows more about me than people whom have been my friends for over 10 years. Some still don’t know my exact birthday or where I’m from in the south. I’ve dated guys for months and they not know where I lived. I enjoyed being a mystery, I would never lie but if I don’t want to say I won’t period.

However in my wise days I’m pretty direct and apply don’t ask a question you really don’t want to know the answer to and vice versa. So if the kat does not want to reveal some info then I let it go. If it affects the current relationship I would hope he would open up and share whatever is needed to keep the communuication open and flowing. I’m learning to open up a little bit more here and there. But there are still some things I just refuse to share and that my right.

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

It feels wrong to me that someone would not want to know I have a child on the first or second date. I think that’s important enough info to state upfront so you can determine whether you want to go further in the dating realm or if you would just subtly dismiss any chance of us getting to third base in the hopes of a home run (and I don’t mean sex). No, you’re not entitled to know all about me upfront, but certain things should come up in conversation. Would you want to know that my ex is living w/me but we sleep in separate rooms or would this be too much info too soon? What info outweighs other info that should be shared upfront?

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

I understand now Rell! …You want to know what type person the date is first. And then you’ll take her and the klan if she is “choosen”…i got to be honest i have been the woman that shared i have babe on a first date. not that i want dude to be stepdaddy! it’s just that when i mention to a date about my beloved it’s usually when the subject is up.

By 2CPTG©

November 9, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

Page….“You’d be surprised what you can find out about a person by just having casual conversations and LISTENING! Some women tend to run their mouths a mile a minute going on and on about themselves, but sometimes if you just listen, you can find out everything you need to know.”

it goes both ways……but oh so true!

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

What up Blog…

Being the Supa Sag that I am, I’ll play it however you want to play it. I am quite flexible and comfortable in either of the fore-mentioned scenarios - I can be as open as a kid’s book or as mysterious as Hawk off Spencer; it all depends on my potential partner.

I only ask that you don’t ask questions that you can’t answer. That just ain’t fair… QC. LOL (Matter of fact, I can’t remember you ever posting that much. ‘Sup wit dat?) Bottom line is

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

Hey yea QC i we forgot breakfast. LOL. Enjoy your weekend chica.

By binford

November 9, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this

I bet AmazonRed has plenty of secrets - and I’ll for as long as it takes for her to spill her guts ;P

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 9, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this

Page

You make a great point in your 10:00 about listening. :-) In fact, your comment brings to mind a question I want to run by all the guys here.

Has this ever happened to you? I’ve had women tell me regularly that they want to meet a man who’s a “good communicator”, only to meet him (namely, me LOL!) and not know how to handle it because they’re not used to a man who can both speak and listen well.

Have you guys run into either this or other situations where you feel you possess(ed) a certain attribute a woman says she wants, only to find she’s not really ready for it?

I’m just curious to know.

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

Hey Sexyleggs must be why Rell’s post touched home with me. But i understand his way of thinkig now. For me; it’s where we are in the dating process. Like you said the subject is important.

By Rell.com

November 9, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

@sexleggs….its like this…i determine how far from getting to know you….if you have things you need to handle..then handle them…i dont need to know that….folks need to start focusing on the person first and not the trappings…thats all i am saying..it is amazing how it works when you try it…i am dating the person, not the kids, bills, ex…etc etc…dating should be fun..not a couch session over dinner.

By The Truth

November 9, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

Good morning blogsville.

Jazzy1 thats some funny ish. You got me laughing early this morning.

Getting serious and on topic: Full disclosure is the only way to go. Its going to come out anyway. Plus that don’t ask, don’t tell policy didn’t work for the army and probably won’t in a realtionship.

If you ask I’m telling. You can process the info any way you need to.

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

Hawk off Spencer, WOW. He was/is sexy and mysterious. He would probably scare me on a date if he was silent as his character. Looks too much like a hit man.

By Foots

November 9, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

Good morning! I don’t consider myself a very private person. My family wasn’t very private, we even used the bathroom with the door open growing up. Even now, if my mom, sister or I are taking a bath, either one of us will walk right in and start talking. So I’m an open book pretty much and I don’t think I even have the ability to hide the different aspects of my personality. Letting someone know who I am is like breathing to me.

I like to find out as much as I can about someone else from “context clues” instead of direct questions, just like how I reveal things about myself. I’m like Wise in that I find out more information about a man’s character by stealth conversation, which I can steer towards the topics I’m interested in learning about. I might ask a guy where he’s going to eat for Thanksgiving. In that conversation, I can get a good indication of the type of family ties he has. If we are talking about jobs and I ask him how long has been working there, I can get a good indication of how stable he is (cause the folks I know that job hop can’t stay put anywhere or with anything for too long).

The only thing that I don’t volunteer or feel comfortable sharing right off the bat with a guy I’m interested in is information about my past relationships. I will be very vague about that until I am asked a specific question. Even a direct question like “Why did you two break up?” will be met with the general “Oh, we just were not right for each other” answer, and hopefully that will be enough.

By 2CPTG©

November 9, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

Darrell, yes…..honesty……

I get this alot, “were you really _,” or, “did you really _,” then, when you tell ‘em or show ‘em, they still wanna discount it as hard to believe, or, rather not wanting to believe.

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this

Hey Darrell 9:48 post should be in a book dude. Is it? A man that finds a wife has favor with God. so if you know/knew she is worth and value in Gods eye. Keep the respect. Always.

By Page1908

November 9, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

You are right, 2 it does go both ways. Most of the time, when I first meet dudes, and I talk to them over the phone they are like “well, Page1908 you are pretty quiet. Do you have any questions to ask me?” And I am like “no, not right now, I am just listening and I don’t have a prepared list of questions to ask so carry on”…lol. They are very surprised because of this, so I have to think that they are running into women who give them the third degree from day one, which I do not.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 9, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

The Truth Your 10:24 nailed it, man! Good post and I’m on board with that 100%! :-)

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

I’ll tell you this. The things that usually don’t come out upfront is HOW MCUH a person really partakes in drugs, alcohol or what type of sexual fiend they may or may not be. These things are gleaned from listening and observing rather than from full disclosure.

By Rell.com

November 9, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

@darrell…all the time, that is why it is dangerous for any man of means to follow a women…most dont know excatly what they want…most want to get married until the reality of the situation comes to bear..feel me…sometimes i dont take what they say on wants literally…feel me….

i have always felt

if a women likes you she will DATE you..regardless of her type…feel me

i read something about lisa raye saying she always thought she would date an in-shape guy..instead she is hitched to the president of a small country who is clearly not i shape..again…speak something but act on it differently

By Mom of two

November 9, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

When I’m meeting someone for the first time, I make it very clear I have kids. My kids are #1 and I’m not going to lead someone on without letting them know that upfront. I’m not looking for a “baby daddy” (God I hate that term), I’m looking for a companion, and if you can’t handle the fact that I have kids, then NEXT!!!!!

How deceiving to date someone for a period of time, and not tell them you have children. Why hide the kids? If you don’t like kids, then I will move on. But I think keeping information like that hidden is stupid.

If someone I am going out with doesn’t like kids, then why continue. I’m not Susan Smith and if you don’t like kids, well then go find someone who doesn’t have any…….

By Foots

November 9, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

Purple most all the divorced men I’ve dated divulged all information about their ex wives without a second thought.

Girl, I am planning a chapter of the book I will eventually write called “Hey, Let Me Tell You About My Ex-Wife…”. If they start with that mess and speak about her negatively, I know quickly that they are not over her and that they probably shouldn’t be dating and bringing anyone into that drama yet.

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

Jazzy …but just getting it punched in from the back with you hair pulled with no future in it (sport Fn)

You know you’ve got a real colorful way of sayin’ sh!t sometimes. LMAO

By QC

November 9, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

Hey BK what’s up baby!!!!

hey Cemeeli how ya doing girl!

Hey Page

What up Sir Truth

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

@ Darrell brutha i think you gonna need a vest for that 10:18 pst.

By Dan

November 9, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

@ Darrell and 2C

It’s the “too good to be true” syndrome.

Some women have this ideal man in their head and when they meet him (me) it’s like…..”it couldn’t be true, he’s lying or hiding something.”

I used to think that my natural mischeivousness was to blame, but after talking to a friend of mine she told me that most women won’t just believe that it’s real. Proof (as in actually living it with me) will not dissuade them. She said, and I agree, that some women just aren’t ready to believe.

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

Are the warriors on this blog feeling better today?

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 9, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

2CPTG© Yep, your 10:28 is exactly what I’m talking about, man. And I’ve learned that what’s really going is that the woman is, intentionally or not, comparing you - and your “faults” - against those of someone from her past, which is often times why you get those “double-take” reactions.

It’s like you said, even when you show and prove to them they still don’t want to believe it, and the reason why, I believe, is that in their mind’s eye, they’re holding you up against the image/reputation/track record of someone else, and that’s not entirely fair.

I believe a woman should at least let me start off with a clean slate, and that I shouldn’t be put in a position where I’m “paying for the sins of my predecessors.”

Know what I mean?

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 9, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

mom w/2 i dont necessarily share that i have children because i first want to be sure he is dating to get next to me, not my kids… its a crazy,dangerous world we live in and i am my childrens first line of defense.

most women have children, and all pedophiles know it. its cautious, not stupid.

By Wise Diva

November 9, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

It’s Friday, yeaaaaaaah. TGIF! I see we have a mix of open book and mysterious stranger comments today, cool.

oh and very interesting guys about Darrell’s comments, could you expound a little more, when you saynot know how to handle it and not ready to believe?

do you have specific examples of behavior or comments that you have experienced/heard?

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 9, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

@Dan and *Rell

Well-said on both counts, ya’ll. Good stuff. :-)

@Cemeeli

Hey, let ‘em bring it! LOL! Besides, I got my sister (QC) backing me up, so let’s do this! :-)

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

Seriously is it not true??? All you wanna hear is how loud shes screamin your name not roll callin off how many kids she has while you banging her in the head with DEEEZZZ NUUTTSSS…am I wrong?! LMAOFF..im silly t’deh…

off topic These (only black person on my dayum floor) folks up in here going to give me a testing area thats not mine and has three different levels of testing to be performed and Im not knowledgeable in any of them…I was like okay lemme show these fools a sistah going to work this building to get this done..then the people Developers) that had all the knowledge shut me out cause they don’t like their work QA the developers telling me they don’t know how stuff works whent hey coded it..WTF?? thats okay I beat em at their own game..tested and passed the defect and found a problem with their code (shyt) along the way……bastids When they going to learn I only test the SHYT I get..dayum….sigh

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

Miss Foots um sweetie do you smell something in the blog room today? ….no, no no it’s not Lagerfield or Jean, naaaw not Love’s ion think.

sniff….sniff… It’s sort of like a tropical scent. You smell it?

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 10:55 AM | Link to this

Good point DasV.

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

For those women concealing the kids, don’t worry because if you cross my path, I’m asking about them and your stalker ex’s right off the bat. Some info, a brutha needs to know from the giddyup.

By BennyB

November 9, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

I’m very annoyed by women who want deep information about a man they are dating. Don’t even show them your photo album, they will question you about every girl in the album, they want to know why you are not with your ex anymore, they want every irrelevant information about you. Do you know why? Just to validate their feelings. When I’m with a woman that I value, I’m only interested in intellectual conversation,I don’t want talk about my past or hers. I don’t even wanna know the name of her sexual maintenance men. Ask about my plan for the future? Be ready because the same question will bounce back at you. Most women are very shallow; matured and intellectual women are very rare in this town.

Darrell, are you kidding? I wrote this before: Women will tell you what they want in a man but they will never tell you what they respond to. Why? Because they don’t really know. Women don’t want a man because he is a good communicator; they want a man because they are attracted to him. Women don’t operate like men: Their mode of operation is in this order: FEEL -> THINK ->JUSTIFY. Your logical mode of operation is THINK -> JUSTIFY -> FEEL. Please stop using logic to explain women behaviors. You should treat women you meet like your little (15 years younger) sister who’s very illogical and talk too much but you still love her anyway; you’ll see different results.

Respect Rell About your long post yesterday…….Did you ever take time to think why black women are so hypocrites?

By melo

November 9, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

It makes me feel more comfortable and I reciprocate that by being more open too.(double standard!!) Volunteer ur info. first if u want the other person to do the same.Otherwise its a double standard to expect someone to reveal some about themselves when u are holding back. Lead by example if yu want a good dating experience.Obviously we are not talking about pvt stuff that puts u in a vulnerable situation. For example, if u feel u want the guy to know where u stay, let him know and hopefully he will receprocate. If he does not, then u are justified to have questions. But its inapropriate to hold other people to account for standards that u urself do not uphold first. It aint that hard to be a straight forward person! Why lead a complicated, mysterious life?

By Foots

November 9, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli Now LOOK!! I found out that I was missing a pack of Pineapple went I got home yesterday…you wouldn’t happen to know anything about that, would you?

By Foots

November 9, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

Darrell I believe a woman should at least let me start off with a clean slate, and that I shouldn’t be put in a position where I’m “paying for the sins of my predecessors.”

Are you speaking of a woman you haven’t known all that long or one you’ve been spending time with for a while?

By The Truth

November 9, 2007 11:05 AM | Link to this

Darrell what sized vest do you wear? LMAO (Whispers yes but low enough where the woman folks can’t hear)

Blue you caught that too. To funny. That had me rolling.

simi that line “A man that finds a wife has favor with God” has been officially modified to include “a GOOD wife”. Any cat in blogsville can get married this weekend if he really wants to. Finding a good wife is the trick. (That statement was not meant to incite any riots as I’m wearing a suede shirt today and have found the standard issue MLB blog vest doesn’t go well with this outfit)

QC good morning woman.

Sexy when I say full disclosure I mean as we conversate. Not tying you up and putting a lamp in your face and your feet in water. All is revealed over time but I’d like to know about that bank heist you participated in trying to “Set if off”.

Foots so your that girl. The one that wants to talk while I’m in the bathroom. Glad I got locks on my doors. LOL Thats my reading time.

By Got that?

November 9, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

Jazzyone, developers don’t like QA because it points out their flaws. Some developers think they don’t make mistakes. After 17 years of dealing with application development, I’m glad to be a pre-sales consultant.

By For Real

November 9, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

HEYYYYYYYY PAGE 1908!!! I HOPE WE WEREN’T TOO ROUGH!! NEXT TIME WE WILL USE VASOLINE!!!

On Topic:

You are right Wise this is a female issue because yall nosy. I can picture Wise on a first date pulling out tape recorder saying:

*Wise here on first date with LaMarcus. The date is 11/14/07, time is 8:30pm and he was late BTW. LaMarcus who likes to be called “Cus” what’s that about… drives a faded er I mean a light blue Pinto which he classifies as a classic. I am now taking LaMa.. I mean Cus picture for photo documentation. Now, lets start our interve… date. So Cus, *

By Observer

November 9, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

Our past is what makes us the person we are today. If someone can’t handle your past, things that happened before you met, then it isn’t meant to be.

If you can’t handle that I have been divorced, and I have kids, then I don’t want you in my life.

Trials & tribulations in our past, makes us the strong person that we have become, or at least me. What doesn’t kill me has made me stronger, and if you can’t accept that, then I don’t have time for you or the stupid games you want to play.

I will accept someone for who they are, and not what I want them to be…..

By Foots

November 9, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

Rell Regarding kids… I’d like to know as soon as possible if a man has children; his role as a father is a part of who he is. It has never even crossed my mind that he might want a baby step-mama, and that would be his reason for telling me. I figure that if his child is such an important part of him and his life, that something about his child would come up in normal conversation for him. It was always the ones where they didn’t say anything about their children during the first few dates that I had a problem with.

Nowadays though, I get the question asked of me first, since most men think that a woman my age has children already. Usually during the initial conversation at first meeting. So I just ask the return question.

By Dan

November 9, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

@Melo

Right ON! Right on target with that comment!

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

Benny You should treat women you meet like your little (15 years younger) sister who’s very illogical and talk too much but you still love her anyway; you’ll see different results.

Ohhh shiznit! You’re about to get it for that one. LMAO …now passing dude the vest. hahahaha

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

ARE YOU SERIOUS!!!

By BennyB

November 9, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this;

Blah, blah,blah…blah blah blah:

Respect Rell About your long post yesterday…….Did you ever take time to think why black women are so hypocrites?

By Soldier Girl

November 9, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

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By Wise Diva

November 9, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

eh, I think calling it a double standard is a bit of a stretch, there would obviously be things I share too, and it wouldn’t bother me to reveal things first, I am only saying that if I notice that I seem to be the only one sharing, I tend to get worried. When I used the word reciprocate, I meant the same degree of sharing would be reciprocated.

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

Why are so many harping on whether to disclose if you have children or not. How about whether you should disclose you have a felony under your belt? How about disclosing you have a trial coming up? Should this be disclosed or found out down the road. There are so many, so many things that can and should be disclosed upfront and are not.

By The Truth

November 9, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

Just read BennyBs post and decided to put my blog vest on for safety. INCOMING LOL

By Foots

November 9, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

BennyB I’ve noticed in your posts that you’ve become much more condescending towards women, like women are incapable of thinking, knowing what they want, or forming a coherent thought that has strains of logic in it. Now you advise Darrell to handle a grown woman like a 15-year child?? Is this how you really believe women to be?

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

Got that I know right been in QA Software dev for almost 12 years now and its the same old thing, thank God I love what I do, but i try to tell them we are in this together gee wix im just doing my job lets focus on the billion dollars this client is going to pay for crap code so we can continue to get heluva bonuses..Seriously…

By kimmie

November 9, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

Foots - The DAWGS said we gotta wear black. Are you wearing your black today or are you going to the game? Gotta represent!

On topic - From my personal experiences, the fact that one has kids should come up very early. They are part of you and should be a package deal. It could affect the way you date, not that you are looking for another mother/father for the kids and no, you should not be bringing your kids around someone even YOU don’t know! What I mean is, I don’t want to bring anyone around my child I am not serious about. Meaning it will be a very long time before he can come over to the house. The explanation - I have a child. Or, “Sorry, I can’t meet you after work for drinks, I have to pick up my child and make sure they get dinner & homework done. If a man is not interested in dating someone with a child, well he knows upfront. I don’t do one-night stands, so anyone I deal with will at the very least become a friend. I can’t see even just talking to someone on the phone for any length of time and my child never coming up in conversation. Das - good point, though.

By DrumRollPlease

November 9, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

the mystery subway girl goes public, Wise posted the story recently.

http://abcnews.go.com/Technology/story?id=3828525&page=1

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

Hi Truth i said that to say; He has respect for his “former spouse”. Obviously he thought she was/is a GOOD wife.

You might need to change your outfit?

By Wise Diva

November 9, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

Uh oh, I feel another blog battle coming on.

By Rell.com

November 9, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

@foots….Rell Regarding kids… I’d like to know as soon as possible

^^only if you are important enought to keep around..folks are taking what i say out of context..like my good friend jazzy said..if we just fun flucking then i just need your name and last test date..lol….only when you choose to DATE ME is when i need to know about the kids, your schedule…who is first last…etce…

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

Foots, you know what’s so funny to me about those pineapple N&L’s is that I didn’t find out about that flavor until last year. They’re sold in just about every gas station.

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

…Now laughing at Benny for being relentless and putting Rell on the stand. LMAO

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

Excuse me WD Can we find out Benny’s Link to: ???

By Foots

November 9, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

Darrell I’ve learned that what’s really going is that the woman is, intentionally or not, comparing you - and your “faults” - against those of someone from her past, which is often times why you get those “double-take” reactions.

What is your understanding of why a woman does this in the first place? Do you believe that it may be a defensive mechanism?

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this

And Blue don’t give Minnie…i meant Benny, a vest cause he is sooooooo out of pocket with that!!! He should be able to take whatever comes back at him.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 9, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

Foots Sorry it took so long to respond, but I was in a meeting.

Um, I don’t think it was me who made a reference to “handling grown women like a 15-year old” (per your 11:15 post.) In fact, I’m POSITIVE that wasn’t me. So, if you could please help me understand what you’re talking about, I’d appreciate it. :-)

By Wise Diva

November 9, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

I’m sorry Ceemeli, I don’t follow, what’s your question regarding?

umm for the record, personally? I’d rather throw up in my mouth every day than date a boy that wants to treat me like a 15 year old teenage girl - unless it’s in the bedroom and we are role playing, and even then, I may wonder about his pedophile tendencies. I’m just saying..the hell?

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 9, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this

Darrell we can only go on what we know. and what you know is bruthas in our past have all proven to be knuckleheads, but presented themselves in much the same way as you are presenting yourself to us. and what we’ve learned is that over time the facade fades and we’re left holding the bag.

when i wish to meet a brother as you say you are, and i think about communicating and vibing with him, i am sure that past experiences will effect my initial dealings with you… but my plan is to step back, objectively analyze, and bring wiser/older ones (family) into the mix (not with a blow-by-blow rundown of whats goin on, but a headsup and what are your feelings?) and pray for insight and for you in your understanding and emotional maturity to be patient with me as i rise to height never before reached and descend into an oblivion only before ever imagined.

time can be our greatest friend, but our instant-gratification minded society would have us believe it is an enemy…..

it takes time…. most of the bruthas here are so critical of women entirely because of what THEIR past experiences has proven to be. i dont care why you think i do it, what i want to know is do you have the patience/time to see me through it?

we promise to stop it, it you all promise to stop it. and as the man, take the lead.

challenge tell us what you like about us and we will share what we adore about you.

By Rell.com

November 9, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

@bk..i am not on the stand…and i dont feel like black women are like that, i just posted it for FYI just another article….feel me

i am sure bennyb as the answer so why not provided versus playing the flucking riddler….sometimes the cattiness amougst the brahs is down right upsetting…

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 9, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

Foots In response to your 11:29, it could very well be a ‘defensive mechanism’ for some. I’m no Dr. Phil (or Dr. Kym, for that matter), so I don’t know. But, what I hope it’s not is what I alluded to earlier with respect to undue and, perhaps, unfair comparisons of me to someone else, so that I’m placed in the position of paying for someone else’s “mistakes”, or, what I called “paying for the sins of my predecessors.”

Is that too much to ask? I mean, if you’re a woman who desires a man that’s a good communicator (and I consider myself to be such), why not give me the benefit of the doubt (a clean slate) and let me demonstrate that attribute to you, as opposed to having me prove to you that I’m not “him” (whoever “him” might be).

I believe there’s a distinct difference between the two.

By Foots

November 9, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

Darrell That particular post was to BennyB. I tend to highlight names of the people I am referring to within my posts. In his post to you, he directed you to treat a woman like your “15 year old illogical sister” to get different results. See his post which he directed at you at 11:00.

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

Dasv…what difference does it make if a man knows now or later becasue of him being potentially a pedi??..well doesn’t he still have to get thru u to get to the kids I mean if hes a sicko he’ll get to them now or later but its you that protect them how does he knowing upfront decrease that chance of drama???

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this

Lol @ WiseDiva My question.

…it wasn’t about ANYONE or ANYTHING. I apologize for the confusion.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 9, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

DasV Your 11:38 was so beautiful that I think I might print it and frame it. May I? :-)

By For Real

November 9, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

BennyB Dayummmmmm!!! Some holes just can’t be filled bruh but that ish was funny as hell. MLB in some cases you know he right tho.

For Real now releasing a stank bomb with a hint of used baby powder in the *WLB building to provide cover for Benny B’s escape. Runnnnnnn Bennnyyyy Runnnnnnn!*

By Dan

November 9, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

Regarding children, I have none, but I have encountered a number of women that wait until 2 months into courting to….”Bam, you knew I had a child right? I’ve mentioned them before?”

Thing is Dan has a photographic memory, so if you told me, wouldn’t I remember….

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

Hypocreatures in what way BennyB???

By Dan

November 9, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

No matter how many times I read and reread it:

[Women’s] mode of operation is in this order: FEEL -> THINK ->JUSTIFY. *[Men’s]logical mode of operation is THINK -> JUSTIFY -> FEEL. *

Diva can we bronze this statement as the realest comment on the sexes? I smell a topic

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

DasV we can only go on what we know. and what you know is bruthas in our past have all proven to be knuckleheads, but presented themselves in much the same way as you are presenting yourself to us. and what we’ve learned is that over time the facade fades and we’re left holding the bag.

First of all, I can’t even get with the set-up that you use for argument. You can’t tell me that every female is an angel and that every brotha that you’ve dealt with has been a knucklehead. Lots of women play the knucklehead role as well.

And even if your set-up were accurate, then every man would be guilty until proven innocent. And I also would have a problem with being judged by Uncle Jesse and Aunt Gladys, both of whom know less than .05 about me.

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 9, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this

Jazzy1 not mentioning too soon into the relationship that i have assures me that he is interested in me, not in abusing my children. and because i am the first line of defense my goal is ensure that he is NOT sicko, not that he might not be.

for the same reason a man who is only out for booty will not abide by a 3month rule, a sicko will not stand for a six month wait to even see a pic of my beautiful children.

and its not as difficult as it might seem to be… i have a great support system who back me up in my efforts to protect my children.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 9, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

Foots Per your 11:46, yeah, I went back and sorted that out. Thanks, for the clarification though. :-)

To answer your earlier question, no, I don’t see women as being tantamount to my 15-year old sister (if I had one that young.) In fact (and forgive me if this takes us off course from what you were asking), I don’t see a woman’s age as being the most significant factor in determining my level of interest in her. It is a factor, but not the most significant one.

A woman first has to stimulate me mentally and if she can do that, then chances are her overall level of maturity will be compatible with mine. (That’s to be determined over time.)

To me, a woman’s level of maturity is the most significant thing in a relationship; even more so than physical attributes. Once a mutual level of maturity has been established, everything else is pretty much a matter of commonality and convenience. You know, the whole “getting to know each other better” thing. ;-)

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

Benny B Im thinking if you treat a grown woman like a 15 year old and she responds to that type of interaction then she is mentally young and she might be 15 years old thus putting you in a category that you might not like with the law chasing you. LOL

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 9, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this

darrell are you mocking me i have never before seen a shorter post coming from you…..:)

By Foots

November 9, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

Darrell No, it’s not too much to ask. But in the process of living, you run across so many types of people and situations. It helps to be able to look back and say “Hey, I’ve seen or heard this somewhere before” and draw on past experience to make things make sense. That’s what’s happening. Is that wrong? No, it’s called learning.

Some men on here have talked about “selling a dream” to a woman. Now what does that mean?? It means telling her what he knows that she wants to hear to make her believe in him so that he can get whatever he wants. I’m sure that the pimps and players on the board can define it much better, as they have more practice with it. His words are sweet, but based on lies. He usually hurts her badly when he pulls the dream out from under her, months or years down the road.

So what happens when a good man comes along and starts saying the exact same thing she has heard before from the dude selling dreams? She instinctively tenses up, because experience has taught her not to believe that right away, she might get hurt. She doesn’t take your words at face value, and it will be harder for you to convince her that you are telling the whole truth. She’s learned that “all that glitters isn’t gold”.

The key to it is understanding where she is coming from and having patience with her if she is worth it to you. It is a good indication that she has been hurt badly before if she accepts and loves you tentatively. What better way to soothe the hurt than with patience and caring, instead of criticism and misunderstanding?

You shouldn’t have to pay for another man’s sins or start from a lower level than you would have if she hadn’t been hurt. But I shouldn’t have to pay so much for gas to put in my car while the oil companies make billions. It is what it is. My car needs gas and you want love. You just have to figure out whether the sacrifices it takes to get it are worth it.

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

November 9, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

HAHAHAHA…lolololololol

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

Blog Ladies What exactly causes an ended relationship to be classified as FAILED?

I’m asking because if a relationship is ended, then I don’t place it in the failed category and don’t think of the female as a trick/knucklehead/skeeza blah blah. But it seems to me that women see all past relationships as failed and the dudes as knuckleheads, dogs, playas, etc.

Candid answers, like cash, are always welcomed here.

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 9, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

BlueK* how yoouuu dooinnn?? (smile)

ok. if someone i been with had been alright and WE were alright, then we’d still be together. but we aint, so WE aint. but i feel you, i shouldnt have said that ALL bruthas we been wit been knuckleheads. most are though, and you know it. a good man is a rare commodity.

and as far as uncle jesse and aunt gladys commenting … i am not asking them to comment on YOU, i am asking uncle jesse for insight into how a man thinks, and I am asking aunt gladys what would a mature, submissive woman do in this situation… feel meh??

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

Mentioning them and interracting with them is two different things.

By Soldier Girl

November 9, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

Everybody put your “blog vest” on it’s about to be a war

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By Foots

November 9, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this

Darrell Again, that post was to BennyB, but I AM glad that you don’t share his sentiments on how he views grown women as illogical creatures who don’t think or reason.

By Page1908

November 9, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Darrell saying “tantamount” all the time! ctfu

Side note to self: Sheesh, now that I am in the same time zone, I still can’t keep up! Maybe I need to borrow Rell’s helmet…lol j/k

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

Dan but I have encountered a number of women that wait until 2 months into courting to….”Bam, you knew I had a child right? I’ve mentioned them before?”

Either those shortys were living with grandma, grown-n-gone, or you and your girl were just sport fuggin. (<===still LMAO at that one and Jazzy.) I mean for real, after 2 months you haven’t gotten up in the crib or talked to her in general convo enough to figure that one out?

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 9, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

Foots good going with your book…Rell shouldn’t asking if she has kid/kids be an opener before the first date? You’ve got to know what you’re getting into on the surface JMO Darrell I believe a woman should at least let me start off with a clean slate, and that I shouldn’t be put in a position where I’m “paying for the sins of my predecessors.” The way you’re reading is that women are the only ones doing this, ummm men do it too..I’ve met a lot of men who are carrying around a whole bunch of bagages from failed marriage/relationship.

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

Foots, I’m standing on my desk clapping at your post.

By Foots

November 9, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

Blue I’ve dated some very good men, but we didn’t make it together for whatever reason. I would classify a relationship as “failed” if we had potential for long-term, but never made it that far. Somebody I went out with once or twice or dated briefly and somebody lost interest, who cares? But if it was a relationship that we were both trying to advance to the next level and couldn’t, it is by definition a “failed relationship”.

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

I really don’t think that some men even care if they see a photo or not of a womans kids in less than 6 mos or more than 6 mo. Some might but after 6 months of nothing sex included they won’t be concerned about waiting that long to see a photo of children trust it!….im just be real here.

If a woman after 2 months is upset that a man won’t show her where he lives then how is it that he can’t pay you a visit in less than 6 months and see photos of the kids..IMHO.lets be realistic here that is what borders on Hypocrisy..not saying you are im just giving my opinion of that scenario.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

November 9, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this

BlueKolla For me, a relationship is only failed if there is a bitter breakup. If we can agree that we cant get it right and split then its not a failed relationship. JMHO

Foots I will have a Pineapple N&L please…Mo with her hand stuck out

Me2 I agree about the kids, I mention up front and would like to know about yours upfront.

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this

DasV for the same reason a man who is only out for booty will not abide by a 3month rule,

It’s about time for DuShawn to fall through, so I’m gon’ let him handle this one. LOL

…now thinking to self, “Now I KNOW Das in all that good talk that she talks, ain’t just say no dumb sh!t like that!

By melo

November 9, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

feel more comfortable and I reciprocate that by being more open too Well i did not type that,ref,* more open too, only responded to what i read. Thanks for the clarification. U meant a “two way reveal and receiprocate”

By BennyB

November 9, 2007 12:26 PM | Link to this

Foots, Wise D, What is the logic to only notice that I wrote little (15 year younger) and ignore that I added sister, besides jumping on quick conclusions? Girls, I got sisters……….No, I did not tell anyone to sleep with their younger sisters either

Do you know how brothers treat their younger’s sisters? 1)They love them 2)The spend time with them 3)They value them 4)They protect them 5)They tease them 6)They tell them jokes 7)They treat them like valuable equal human being but mostly they don’t try to understand their reasoning and don’t expect anything from them (Love them as they are). Are you guys advocating not to be treated like a younger sister by your SO? Unless you don’t know what you want…….

BTW, my comments were directed to Darrell, I added sister on purpose. I know brother got a sister perhaps can relate very well……..

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 9, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

BlueKolla I’d say the relationship is failed simply because it wasn’t successful. To me a successful relationsip results in matrimony and a successful marriage results in till death do us part. JMO

By Soldier Girl

November 9, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

Failed Relationship comes from lack of communication, not being compatible, one is just using the other, or hell they just don’t get along, it’s hard trying to make something work when you know within your heart it can’t so just let it go and move on

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By Dan

November 9, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

@ Blue.

Yeah, but as you well know, there are women that could teach the CIA a thing or two about secrecy.

Yeah, you talk, but somehow the topic never comes up..

Dan leaves the blog wishing everyone a good weekend and holiday sking that “you remember the reason for the season”. As he returns to the A.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 9, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

DasV Not mocking you at all. :-) I sez what needs to be sed and that’s all that needed to be sed at that moment. :-)

Foots Per your 12:08, I’m fine with making “sacrifices”, but in the context of your post, I think that term needs to be clarified just a bit.

I think your analogy is somewhat misapplied here, because the oil companies know they’re going to reap a benefit down the road, whereas, I don’t. In other words, my “taking one for the team” and enduring whatever machinations a woman might want to put me through in getting to know more about me and calling it a “sacrifice” doesn’t guarantee me anything in return for the so-called sacrifice you suggest I make.

So, I respectfully disagree with you. To me, it’s not about sacrifices, but about what’s necessary and what’s not. It may be “necessary” for me to pay $3 for a gallon of gas, thereby, enriching the pockets of the big oil companies. However, in the process of you and I getting to know each other, is it really necessary for you (hypothetically speaking) to compare me or hold me up against some other guy you’ve known? No. I don’t think so. It’s simply a matter of how one chooses or chooses not to approach things.

By Wise Diva

November 9, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

I think as far as logic goes, we had the same amount in responding as you did in writing - the shock value was there, don’t be surprised it was exploited

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 9, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

blueK LOLROTF.

brutha, no you didnt just sic DU-man on me?? you are wrong for that! LOL

but thats OK. imma stand by what i said. cause dont nobody meet the children dem till i know all i need to know. and foots i think you got me confused with another blogger… cause i aint said nothing about bein upset at not knowing where a brutha lives after two months. you been doin that alot lately, you all right baby-gurl?? i will give you this though, i mention i have kids and most dont believe because of my size, so’s i will share a pic, but that fact is not included in my ‘stats’(the initial information i share with men i meet) and intros are waaaayyyy down the line, if ever.

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

Foots You just have to figure out whether the sacrifices it takes to get it are worth it.

That was a good way to sum that up.

DasV (I’m fantastic, and you?) RE: 12:09 Thanks for clearing that up.

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this

showing somebody where they live and knowing where they live are two entirely different things. I don’t have to come over to your place w/in 2 months, but if your hesitant in mentioning anything about your home, it is a red flag.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 9, 2007 12:37 PM | Link to this

Page Per your 12:11, it’s been a long day already, so I’m just cuttin’ and pastin’ now. LOL!!!!

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 12:38 PM | Link to this

I tend to not label past relationships as Failed I tend to label them as learning experiences I think ive posted that for years now.

TO me failed is when we are the marriage area becasue you really have to put in over 110 percent to keep in on track even in the most exceptional unions..so to me when that ends that would be failed doesn’t matter who ended it it failed becasue that is a union under God..just F*king and having a man heyal it just didn’t work out….and I learned from it…

By Foots

November 9, 2007 12:43 PM | Link to this

DasV foots i think you got me confused with another blogger… cause i aint said nothing about bein upset at not knowing where a brutha lives after two months. you been doin that alot lately, you all right baby-gurl??

Okay now, what are you talking about? It seems that YOU have me confused with another blogger, because I didn’t say that, nor have I directed a post towards you today. Where did you see this?

By Beautiful

November 9, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this

Soldier Girl lol.

By Page1908

November 9, 2007 12:46 PM | Link to this

LOL Darrell. Ok, yes, the cut and paste is “tantamount”.

By Foots

November 9, 2007 12:48 PM | Link to this

Darrell However, in the process of you and I getting to know each other, is it really necessary for you (hypothetically speaking) to compare me or hold me up against some other guy you’ve known? No. I don’t think so.

Maybe my analogy didn’t make sense to you, but hopefully my attempt at explaining why this may be happening did. You don’t have to agree, but I hope that it served to clarify where a woman who does this may be coming from. Agreement is not necessary for you to consider and understand.

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this

I said that DasV but it was a general statement not that you posted it…LOL

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

MO* *For me, a relationship is only failed if there is a bitter breakup. If we can agree that we cant get it right and split then its not a failed relationship.

Now see, that’s where I am. For the most of us, we’re gonna have to stand in there and take a lot of pitches before that game-winning take-me-long slow ball finally comes across. And even then, folks gon’ miss it because they’re looking for the fast ball and the curve.

Me To me a successful relationsip results in matrimony and a successful marriage results in till death do us part.

So what you’re saying is that even though you’re learning and growing (experiencing relationships that don’t get you to the grave), you’re still failing? That may be too literal a translation… but something to think about.

By Tazzee

November 9, 2007 12:54 PM | Link to this

Afternoon folks!

I am an open book. Now I don’t automatically start telling folks all my info - it usually comes up in conversation. The same is true with learning about the men I encounter - most things will come up in conversation. If there’s something I really want to know, I’ll flat out ask it - but for the most part I’m going with the flow. But in going with the flow I’ve learned to also trust my intuition because I’ve been burned before. Don’t plan to have that happen again.

By AAA

November 9, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this

if someone cant tell the other person they have children, you are a horrible parent, and I wouldnt want to date a liar. Why would anyone ever deny their child? Thats like showing the world the child means nothing to you!! If someone doesnt like you because you have kids, they are not the one for you! I theory has always been, no kids=date someone with no kids, kids=date someone with kids. Its only fair. No one has time for the immature drama that comes along in the relationship.

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 9, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this

Foots Re: your 12:48, I understand and perhaps I shouldn’t have used the word ‘disagree’. It was more my having a different perspective than anything, but it’s all good. I see where you’re coming from and I concur that agreement isn’t critical to understanding. :-)

By Demi

November 9, 2007 1:02 PM | Link to this

DasV Dayum bay, you got kids now..let me see the baby fat…don’t mind the horns and wicked grin

By Beautiful

November 9, 2007 1:03 PM | Link to this

i have a bad habit of comparing every1 to my ex. but in the end, it all depends on if he can make me laugh.

By Tazzee

November 9, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this

BK I’m with you - if I learn something about myself as a result of a relationship, something that makes me a better person - then there’s no failure in that.

By Foots

November 9, 2007 1:06 PM | Link to this

Mo Ain’t no mo pineapple!! I think that Cemeeli stuck me for my N&L yesterday. Her tongue looked a little yellow when I saw her yawn this morning. LOL!

BennyB As you may have noticed, a man was the first to highlight your comment. Funny that you should only address the women who mentioned it…

If your post was indeed meant to say that men should love and protect women as they would their younger sisters (instead of using the example of a 15-year old girl to illustrate a grown woman’s lack of logic) then I apologize that I misunderstood your initial comment, which led off with please stop using logic to explain women behaviors.

By The Truth

November 9, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this

Dayuum ME2 thats a hell of a standard to put on a relationship. I’ve had relationships that taught me things that didn’t necessarily work out but were good relationships. I wouldn’t call that failed. Sometimes a relationship can just show you what you don’t want and be considered a success. IMHO.

By Tazzee

November 9, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this

BK as I read your question further: But it seems to me that women see all past relationships as failed and the dudes as knuckleheads, dogs, playas, etc. Those are women that haven’t learned how to be accountable for their part in relationships. Even in my worst relationship I have to admit that I wasn’t really paying attention to what his actions were telling me - I second guessed my suspicions and tried to be ‘ride or die’ with someone that didn’t deserve. Now, he was a lying dog - but I let him be.

By Foots

November 9, 2007 1:10 PM | Link to this

Darrell No worries. I am indeed a fan of both your perspective and your website.

By QC

November 9, 2007 1:16 PM | Link to this

Hey Demi

have a great weekend everyone!

Have a safe trip Darrell

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 9, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this

foots my bad. me and JAZZ worked it out.

Demi come on here boy! and let my stomach swalla ya whole, dem horns wicked grin and all!

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 9, 2007 1:20 PM | Link to this

Foots Thanks for that 1:10. I appreciate it. Now I can head up to Charlotte with a smile and watch my Falcons beat the Panties…I mean…Panthers…on Sunday. :-)

By Tazzee

November 9, 2007 1:25 PM | Link to this

Have fun Darrell I’ll be looking for Falcon fans in the stands this weekend.

GO FALCONS!!!

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 1:27 PM | Link to this

Foots If your post was indeed meant to say that men should love and protect women as they would their younger sisters (instead of using the example of a 15-year old girl to illustrate a grown woman’s lack of logic) then I apologize

Actually what he said was to treat her as if she were 15-years YOUNGER. But I couldn’t even relate to that because I’ve met some 15 years younger with more sense than some 15 years older. Now explain that one!

Well well well… If it ain’t Tazmanina Tazzie? Glad to see that we can dialogue. “You’ve come a long way baby.” LOL

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 1:27 PM | Link to this

Hey MO go over to the left of the cabinet. NO girl not next to the arsenal cabninet. Yea, in that box right there, there’s something in there for you. Now don’t be opening it all willy freely and stuff.

By Foots

November 9, 2007 1:29 PM | Link to this

Truth It’s a different way of looking at the same half-filled (or half-empty) glass of water. It’s probably more of a matter of semantics than anything, as in: If a person is attempting to assassinate someone and doesn’t hit the mark, it is a failed assassination attempt. So it follows that if a person is attempting to advance a relationship and doesn’t hit the mark, it is a failed relationship attempt.

Since failure is defined as “the state or condition of not meeting a desirable or intended objective”, if the intended objective for your interaction with that person was til death do you part, it failed. If the objective was to have a good time and learn something about yourself in the process, it was a success if those goals were reached.

In that vein, I can amend my earlier statement to say that the few serious relationships I’ve had where we both wanted a future together were a little of both, a failure because we didn’t reach our intended goals with the relationship itself, but also a success because we enjoyed our time together and learned something about ourselves in the process.

By Foots

November 9, 2007 1:32 PM | Link to this

Darrell Safe travels for you, insightful brother.

kimmie I’m not going to the game, but since I do intend to wear black, I’m going to do my best to take it to the next level and find a Catwoman costume left over from Halloween. Or maybe Staceye will let me borrow her dominatrix outfit… LOL!!

By Tazzee

November 9, 2007 1:35 PM | Link to this

Blue Kolla yeah, it’s still early in the day - give it some time and we’ll prolly be going at it before the weekend hits, LOL.

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 1:36 PM | Link to this

QC/Darrell Now I can head up to Charlotte with a smile and watch my Falcons beat the Panties…I mean…Panthers…on Sunday. :-)

Now see Ladies this is exactly how you all get blown away - putting all your faith in proven loser, instead of cutting your losses, you continue to throw good money after bad. Now just as sure as D will be here on monday talking about his head hurting, being let down, and the long trip back, some female is gonna be on here talking ‘bout how “Johnny ain’t sh!t,” and “he wasn’t even man enough to… blah blah.”

D I just hope that you’re going up there for some NASCAR or something and since you’ll be in town, take in the falcon’s game. LMAO

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 9, 2007 1:36 PM | Link to this

BK, TruthI value a successful relationship as one the beat the odds and matured to another level of uniting as one. Of all the relationships I’ve had only one was successful. A relationship ending on a good term means only that you both parted on mutual understanding which still equates to a failed relationship. JMO

By BennyB

November 9, 2007 1:38 PM | Link to this

Wise, Foots, that wasn’t shocking at all. That was the same old defensive behavior of seeing only the negative instead of listening. Do you have any idea of what a 15 year younger sister represent to a man? Maybe some people don’t have close siblings to relate. Why some women always on defensive, even if they are not attacked? Was that READ -> THINK -> FEEL? Or READ -> FEEL ->ATTACK? Whatever it was, it was very shallow………

To clarify my point, in business, politic, science……. women are very logical being but pertaining to romantic relationships, women are the most illogical creatures EVER. Logic got nothing to do with feelings……If only you could listen a little before judging……….

By Foots

November 9, 2007 1:40 PM | Link to this

Blue But I couldn’t even relate to that because I’ve met some 15 years younger with more sense than some 15 years older. Now explain that one!

My bad! I’m 30, so that would be 15 for me. But you’re right. I’ve met 23 year old dudes that I couldn’t believe were only 23. Dudes that had so much direction and vision, none of the party mentality, and were mature enough to already be managing folks twice their age. So I can’t get with the example either, especially cause dating 15 years younger than me would definitely land me in prison. LOL!

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 1:42 PM | Link to this

Staceye may have taken that outfit to Jamaica to use on the locals.

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this

Foots/MLB I’m going to do my best to take it to the next level and find a Catwoman costume left over from Halloween. Or maybe Staceye will let me borrow her dominatrix outfit…

All I can say is that whenever the blog meet-n-greet decides to come around, there’s gon’ be a lot of dudes walking around looking for the Foots nametag. LOL

By kimmie

November 9, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this

Foots - Bring it, sister! GO DAWGS!!!!

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 9, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this

BK I wasn’t referring to one’s own growth in a relationship that didn’t work, I was referring to the relationship not the person perse. We learn from our failure how else can we grow.

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this

when will YOU understand that we are READING and not listening. We can only read what you write if we could listen in person we would see the body language the inference in some pitches of the voice and kinda get abetter feel for what you mean to say..but since we are READING write what you mean heyal….

By Tazzee

November 9, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this

BK for some reason I thought you were a Falcons fan…maybe you were just open to some tickets if someone had some. But a real fan doesn’t ‘cut their losses’ per se - they hang in there for the good and the bad and learn to take the team as is. When the Falcons lose, I don’t get upset. As a matter of fact, my motto for this season has been ‘tailgating and talking smack’ - that’s where I’m getting my joy, a win is just icing on the cake. But even if not, I will have a ball tailgating and talking smack.

Oh and touching muscles - so if you happen to be walking on the first level of the Dome and some random female happens to rub your arm and smile at you - that’s me ;-)

By Beautiful

November 9, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this

We learn from our failure how else can we grow. yep that’s me. co-sign.

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 9, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this

cosigning Foots 1:29 post

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this

ME2 I got’chu slim. I know I have a question but let me ponder some thoughts for a minute.

By Wise Diva

November 9, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this

It’s so adorable how you get a condescending tone when you get responses from women, LOL. I think your point was made, the entire comment was taken as if there should not be equality and balance and some of us happen to disagree, that’s all.

you know, logic is not assigned by gender, but you seem to think otherwise. It seems as if penis owner = logic/reasoning to you. I respectfully disagree.

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this

Tazzie Oh and touching muscles - so if you happen to be walking on the first level of the Dome and some random female happens to rub your arm and smile at you - that’s me ;-)

Aight, so since Wise always says that this blog is read by hundreds of lurkers, why can I see like 30 dudes with short sleeves on next week asking erry chick within 3 feet, “Is your name Tazzie?!”

You don’t be up under the bridge do you?

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 2:05 PM | Link to this

Heyal Im 41 so 15 years younger is too young for me. with a few exceptions like this younging I almost fell in love with but caught myself cause of the age difference. We have kept in touch since he moved a way for a couple years soon to return. I thought okay this kid who is im sure 10 yrs younger is looking for a come up but the more we hung out and dated the more we were meant to be…so when he returns to Georgia I may just do that..since he claims hes sorry he didn’t make me his ole’ lady last night in convo..Im like er um at this point lil daddy drop the ole cause I am ole”’but im get at that kid trust it…

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this

There you go Benny. Be objective, but if you believe in something, stand yo muthafuggin’ ground. They’ll hate you for a minute, but in the end they gotta respect you as a man.

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this

^5 wise

By Demi

November 9, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

QC you have a great weekend

Foots Dayum…I holla at you in 3 years, you’re a bit too young for me to date…hehehehehe I like them 33 and up babe

DasV LOL and what stomach??!! Now you got me thinking of the time I ate breakfast off my crazy Ex’s tummy and than some…I wish I could call her.

Darrell do you want me to la Gangsta Lean pour the henny on the railroad track now or when you get back?

I tried dating a 19 years old, I lost patience with her 90210 dramas…smart girl through…The latest chops of Spellman girls left me like, Awwwwwwww…Dayum!! But I can’t touch..If I am unmarried when I hit 40, I will try again for them young girls…be like: “Baby, let me be your sponsor of the week.” LOL

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this

Miss Foots while you sharing examples of semnatics (see post 1:29). Don’t forget to check your stash every now and again…Lol…Cause Sexyleggs, MO, and myself we are all in your bag.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

November 9, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

Mo opens the cabinet per Cemeeli’s instructions and finds a stock full of pineapple n&ls! Mo is now hiding some in her pockets before words gets out

Thanks Cemeeli! Good lookin out!

For Real can you or Rell get to workin on our Friday song?

By Tazzee

November 9, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

Blue Kolla Actually, I have a personalized jersey that has Tazzee on the back, so they wouldn’t have to ask, LOL.

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 2:19 PM | Link to this

Jazzy Lil youngin’ proved just what I said ha? The more I deal with the 30-45 crowd, I’m seeing what the foreal ol’ heads mean when they say that they ain’t dating NO female over 30. LOL

Demi Darrell do you want me to la Gangsta Lean pour the henny on the railroad track now or when you get back?

Mayne, you stoopid!! LMAO

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 2:20 PM | Link to this

Heeeyyy Demi.

Lol @I tried dating a 19 years old, I lost patience with her 90210 dramas…

….silly rabbit….

By Darrell (of blackthen.com)

November 9, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this

Demi How ‘bout instead of the railroad track you let it flow as I cross the state line into South Carolina. LOL!!!!

By DJ Rell

November 9, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this

@mo…

Cherrelle - Didn’t mean to turn you on

Let you take me out I knew what you were all about But when I did I wasn’t trying to lead you on

Now you bring me home And tell me goodnight’s Not enough for you I’m sorry, baby I didn’t mean to turn you on

You read me wrong I wasn’t trying to lead you on Not like you think I didn’t mean to turn you on

You read me wrong I wasn’t trying to lead you on I want a friend I didn’t mean to turn you on

Oh, I didn’t mean to turn you on

I know you expected A one night stand When I refused I knew you wouldn’t understand

I told you twice I was only trying to be nice Only trying to be nice Oh, I didn’t mean to turn you on

You read me wrong I wasn’t trying to lead you on Not like you think I didn’t mean to turn you on

You read me wrong I wasn’t trying to lead you on I want a friend I didn’t mean to turn you on

Oh, I didn’t mean to turn you on

Why should I Feel guilty cause I won’t give Guilty cause I won’t give in I didn’t mean to turn you on

I didn’t mean to turn you on I didn’t mean to turn you on I didn’t mean to turn you on I didn’t mean to turn you on

I didn’t mean to turn you on I didn’t mean to turn you on Top40db: The most accurate lyrics site on the net. I didn’t mean to turn you on I didn’t mean to turn you on

Oh, I didn’t mean to turn you on Oh, I didn’t mean to turn you on

I didn’t, didn’t, didn’t…

I didn’t mean to turn you on I didn’t mean to turn you on I didn’t mean to turn you on I didn’t mean to turn you on

No, I didn’t, baby

I didn’t mean to turn you on I didn’t mean to turn you on I didn’t mean to turn you on I didn’t mean to turn you on

You think that I’m a fool Cause I didn’t play by your rules I didn’t mean to turn you on

You don’t stand a chance All I want to do is dance I didn’t mean to turn you on

I told you twice I was only trying to be nice I didn’t mean to turn you on

I loved you for a friend But I guess this is the end Of our relationship cause I didn’t mean to turn you on

I didn’t mean to turn you on I didn’t mean to turn you on I didn’t mean to turn you on I didn’t mean to turn you on……

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 9, 2007 2:25 PM | Link to this

dEMI yous a mess!! moved right on to the next course without missing a beat i know you did

BlueK wanna come share my popcorn and watch benny back-peddle

to be honest, im kinda hoping 2 and Truth rumble again… cause that mess yesterday was en-ta-tain-in’!

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this

Blue not sure what you meant??? there isn’t anything to prove other than we will continue to be friends and have fun when he returns thats all…anything more well it’ll be what it’ll be…when he dropped that statement my reply was well at least we keep in touch and thats enough..we made an impact in each others lives and for me thats priceless…

By DJ Rell

November 9, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this

Mo keep shaking that arse….

D-Train - Your the one for me

With the love I have inside of me We can turn this world around We can live through all eternity And we’ll never touch the ground We’ll take a chance to ride upon a star To a place that’s far away The light of love will shine on us Forever and a day

{Chorus}: Bustin’ up on a cloud, shout out loud You’re the one for me With your love by my side The world will be mine You’re the one for me

With this true love I found Picks my feet up off the ground to fly away With this true love my dear Takes away my every fear, don’t go away

You just don’t know what you did to me But I’m not the same Since you gave me love That’s sheltered from the rain You just don’t know how you make me feel Your sweet lovin’ girl, is so unreal I’ve got love, love desire From your lovin’ my soul’s on fire

{Chorus}

I’m ridin’ on a cloud Got to shout it out loud, you’re my all Baby, hold on tight For the rest of my life, don’t let me fall

{Repeat 1st & 2nd verse} [3x]

You’re the one for me, yeah You’re the one for me

{Chorus to end}

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this

Tazzee Actually, I have a personalized jersey that has Tazzee on the back, so they wouldn’t have to ask, LOL.

Well if you get hit with the stray football, you won’t have to ask, “Is that you Blue?” LMAO J/K Actually I’d walk right up and make with the intros, trip for a minute and be off.

By DJ Rell

November 9, 2007 2:31 PM | Link to this

mo…

Lisa Lisa - Wonder if i take you home

Take me home, Take me home

Baby, I know you’re wondering Why I won’t go over to your place Cause I’m not to sure about how you feel So I’d rather go at my own pace And I know and you know that if we get together Emotions will go to work And I may do something I might regret the next day And end up hurt Oh I don’t know…

That’s the way that I feel I’m so afraid of a one night deal I wonder if I take you home would you still make me love baby Because I need you tonight I wonder if i take you home would you still make me love baby Because i need you tonight

Your love is… take me home

Lately you’ve been expressing to me Just how much you want to make love I want it just as much as you do But will you still keep in touch You say I’m teasing but ought to have a reason Don’t let your feelings fade Cause you will have me and sooner than you know it If you could only wait Oh I dont know…

Thats the way i feel Im so afraid of a one night deal, cuz sometimes I wonder if i take you home, will you still make me love baby Because i need you tonight I wonder if i take you home will you still make me love baby (home home, home home) Because i need you tonight I wonder if i take you home will you still make me love baby Because i need you tonight I wonder if i take you home will you still make me love baby (home home, home home) Because i need you tonight

And on the real side, if you love me (huhh) You would wait

I wonder if i take you home, (home home, home home) I wonder if i take you home

Your love is…

I wonder if take you home, would you still make me love baby Because i need you tonight I wonder if take you home, would you still make me love baby Because i need you tonight

I wonder, I wonder, I really really wonder (home home, home home) take me home I wonder, I wonder, I really really wonder take me home

Your love is… No Good!

Keep telling me lies & ur still not sure -in my eyes, our relationship would be more clear “no its just i feel that your rushing me” “ok, since you dont love me & dont want to be with me” “no its not that its just that im afraid of getting hurt” I dont know i just keep asking myself, Should i really take you home? What do you think?

take me, take me take me home take me, take me take me home take me, take me take me home home home, home home

home Your down on your knees, begging me please

take me home TAKE ME HOME!

Will you still love me, IF I TAKE YOU HOME! Will you still love me, IF I TAKE YOU HOME!!!!

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 2:35 PM | Link to this

DJ Relly Rell Mannn, I love some Cherrelle and Al O. That was a wild azz song though… almost as good as this classic right here…

I saw you (and him) walking in the rain You were holding hands and I’ll never be the same.

Tossing and turning another sleepless night The rain crashes against my window pane Jumped into my car didn’t drive too far That moment I knew I would never be the same.

Now here you are begging to me To give our love another try Girl I love you and I always will But darling right now I’ve got to say goodbye ‘Cause

(I saw you) Hey hey baby how ya doin’ come on in here (Walking in the rain) Got some hot chocolate on the stove waiting for you Listen first things first let me hang up the coat (You were holding hands and I’ll) Yeah how was your day today Did you miss me (Never be the same) You did? Yeah? I missed you too I missed you so much I followed you today (I saw you) That’s right now close your mouth ‘Cause you cold busted (Walking in the rain) Now just sit down here, sit down here I’m so upset with you I don’t know what to do (You were holding hands and I’ll) You know my first impulse was to run up on you And do a Rambo (Never be the same) I was about to jam you and flat blast both of you But I didn’t wanna mess up this thirt-seven hundred dollar lynx coat So instead I chilled — That’s right chilled I called up the bank and took out every dime. Than I cancelled all your credit cards… I stuck you up for every piece of jewelery I ever bought you! Don’t go lookin’ in that closet ‘cause everything you came here with is packed up and waiting for you in the guest room. What were you thinking? You don’t mess with the Juice! I gave you silk suits, blue diamonds and gucci handbags. I gave you things you couldn’t even pronounce! But now I can’t give you nothing but advice. Cause you’re still young, yeah, you’re young. And you’re gonna find somebody like me one of these days … Until then, you know what you gotta do? You gotta get on outta here with that alley-cat-coat-wearing, punch-bucket-shoe-wearing crumbcake I saw you with. Cause you dismissed! That’s right, Silly rabbit, tricks are made for kids, don’t you know that. You without me is like corn flakes without the milk! This is my world. You’re just a squirrel trying to get a nut! Now get on outta here. Scat! Don’t touch that coat…

By Foots

November 9, 2007 2:35 PM | Link to this

Wise ^5 for your 1:59. Can you imagine how hard it would be to date a man with such sweeping, pre-conceived generalizations about women? Maybe one day, he’ll be able to give women the benefit of the doubt and not hold the new woman accountable for the sins of the women he has previously encountered (as Darrell aptly suggested) in relation to their relationship IQ.

Cemeeli/SexyLeggs/Mo Get yo hands out my bag!! Foots now tries to distract and redirect the N&L snatchers by waving a bar of Laffy Taffy under their collective noses… LOL!!

Tazzee * I have a personalized jersey that has Tazzee on the back*

LMAO @ myself, cause I probably would have been searching the roster talking bout “I don’t see no doggone Tazzee in this list, they must have cut him!”

By For Real

November 9, 2007 2:35 PM | Link to this

Benny B I agree with BK stand your ground. I don’t agree that women are completely deprived of logic but it is the last thing they use in their thought process tho.

Foots I agree with you about the failure only bc everyone has a different definition of failure and success. But let me ask you this, what level of responsibility does one assume in failures and successes. And do you think their level of responsibility coinside with whether or not they consider a relationship a success or failure?

By Tazzee

November 9, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this

Jazzy get at him, GET AT HIM!!!

By Foots

November 9, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this

Demi But by that time, you’ll be three years older too! Will your dating window keep moving up??

DJ Rell Song request… Can I read “Love Me In A Special Way” by DeBarge??

By DJ Rell

November 9, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

Cameo - Attack me with your love

Attack me with your love, baby

Hey…

When you walk, when you pass me by There’s FEELINGS that come immediately to mind One is I’d like to have you, two is I love your face The third one is irrelevant ‘cause there’s no time or place

Attack me with your love Attack me with your love, baby (Attack me with your love) Attack me with your love Bushwhack me with your love, baby (And I’ll do all the things you want me to)

Excite me with your love Entice me with your love, baby CONSULT me with your love I’m happy with your love, baby

I think you need to know the deal about just how I really feel ‘Cause intentionally I’m for real and I’m sure I’ll make you feel That I’m a mean man and I’m a go-getter (Ow) Hey, baby, baby

Late at night when the evening comes I sit down to check my options, there are none First thing I think about is your lovely smile And ALL the things that drive me wild (Uh)

GALLANT lady drivin’ me crazy What am I gonna do, woo-hoo GALLANT lady drivin’ me crazy What am I gonna do if I can’t have you

Attack me with your love Attack me with your love, baby Attack me with your love Bushwhack me with your love, baby (And I’ll do all the things you want me to)

Excite me with your love Entice me with your love, baby (Oh) CONSULT me with your love I’m happy with your love, baby

Hey, pretty lady (Lady) There’s no defense against your love I wanna show you how I feel Hey, baby (Oh), baby

The night is young, here take this glass We’ll toast to happiness and a love that’ll ever last Of all the loves I’ve had before No one can compare, to me you’re so much more (Uh)

IF just let me do (Hey) what I wanna do to you I know I’ll have you, woo-ooh If you WON’T let me know what I wanna do to you Then I’ll wait for you (I’ll wait for you), I’ll wait for you

Attack Attack, baby Attack Bushwhack, baby

Excite Entice, baby Come slap me I’m happy, baby

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

See what you started MO? With your pineapple n&l’s eating, ole school jams requesting, TGIF happy friday self? You know it don’t take much for me to “go left” and shut down here at work at like NOW! I’m feeling like hitting up either the Grand Prix or 300 Atlanta. hmmmm.

By BennyB

November 9, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

instead of using the example of a 15-year old girl to illustrate a grown woman’s lack of logic Where did I wrote 15-year old girl?

Wise D, Do not generalize what I wrote, I was very specific.

Blue_Kolla, I’m not really here to convince anyone. I know well that it is hard for grown up people to concede that what makes them tick is something very illogical that they cannot explain.

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 2:46 PM | Link to this

Jazzy Come on now slim. Get off of that ice block you sitting on. Dude was handlin’ his business on most if not all fronts and you got blown out. Otherwise you wouldn’t have mentioned it. It’s ok to be real, getting caught up is real, and EVERYONE gets caught at least once or twice.

By Tazzee

November 9, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

Foots LOL - I actually laughed out loud at that one. I have the #1 on my jersey and one guy asked me who is #1 (he didn’t see the back tho) and I was like ‘I am!’ I ordered the jersey before we picked up that sorry kicker (Prater) so I was glad when we cut him because he had 1 on his jersey for those few weeks.

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this

DasV Thanks for the popcorn. I also brought along a big azz 3-liter coke and some Henn-dog.

…yeah, this oughta get good.

By DJ Rell

November 9, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this

nu shooz - i cant wait

My love, tell me what it’s all about You’ve go something that I can’t live without Happiness, is so hard to find Hey baby, tell me what is on your mind

Coz I can’t wait (baby I can’t wait) till you call me on the telephone I can’t wait (baby I can’t wait) till we’re all alone

You know I love you even when you don’t try I know that our love will never die Hey darling when you look into my eye Please tell me you’ll never have to say goodbye

Coz I can’t wait (baby I can’t wait) this is what I’ve been waiting for I can’t wait (baby I can’t wait) till my love walked in the door I can’t wait (baby I can’t wait) true love is so hard to find I found yours, you found mine I can’t wait (baby I can’t wait) tell me what is on your mind Got to let you know…

I can’t wait (baby I can’t wait) till you call me on the telephone I can’t wait (baby I can’t wait) till we’re all alone Oh oh I can’t wait (baby I can’t wait) true love is so hard to find I found yours, you found mine I can’t wait (baby I can’t wait) tell me what is on your mind No, no, I can’t wait (baby I can’t wait) No, I can’t wait (baby I can’t wait) Say it one more time Oh I can’t wait (baby I can’t wait) this is what I’ve been waiting for Oh I can’t wait (baby I can’t wait) till my love walked in the door (fade)

By China Doll

November 9, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

DJ Relly Rell

You took me back with LisaLisa. LOL, that was my jam.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

November 9, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this

Mo at work gettin her jam on now that *DJ Rell has spiced it up in here*LOL Keep’em coming baby! ‘Preciate cha! :-)

Cemeeli you know Fridays are my favorite day of the week!! I gots to get it poppin before we shut Blogsville down!

Foots Stop being so stingy DANG! Mo rolling her eyes at Foots as she pops another Pineapple n&l

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this

but it is the last thing they use in their thought process tho. You are so wrong for that comment ForReal.

Foots, trying to substitute laffy taffy was funny, but will never work.

By DJ Rell

November 9, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this

SOS Band

Sos Band - Just Be Good To Me Lyrics

Friends tell me i am crazy And i’m wasting time with you You’ll never be mine It’s not the way i see it ‘cause i feel you’re already mine Whenever you’re with me {ooh…ooh…ooh…}

People always talkin’ ‘bout Your reputation I don’t care about your other girls Just be good to me {ooh…ooh…ooh…}

Friends are always tellin’ me You’re a user I don’t care what you do to them Just be good to me {ooh…ooh…ooh…}

You may have many others But i know when you’re with me You are all mine Friends always seem to listen To the bad things that you do You never do them to me {ooh…ooh…ooh…}

People always talkin’ ‘bout Your reputation I don’t care about your other girls Just be good to me {ooh…ooh…ooh…}

Friends are always tellin’ me You’re a user I don’t care what you do to them Just be good to me {ooh…ooh…ooh…}

La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la Just be good to me

Life is a game of chances So i’ll take my chance with you And you, i won’t try to change We talk about it and i Never had a piece of you And to have all of nothing {ooh…ooh…ooh…}

But just be good to me In the mornin’ Just be good to me In the afternoon or evenin’, oh, yeah Just be good to me {ooh…ooh…ooh…}

I’ll give you love, i will smother you I’ll give affection, i won’t bother you I’ll be good to you, you’ll be good to me, yeah, yeah Just be good to me {ooh…ooh…ooh…}

I’m like a cherry pie, i will tie you down When you need me, i’ll be around I’ll be good to you, you’ll be good to me And we’ll always be together, be together, ha

La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la (oh…) Just be good to me {ooh…ooh…ooh…}

(i love you so) la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la (be nice to me, be sweet to me) Just be good to me {ooh…ooh…ooh…}

(we won’t worry, no don’t worry ‘bout what the people say) La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la (we’ll be good to each other) (ooh, each and every day) just be good to me {ooh…ooh…ooh…}

(i’ll be good to you) la, la, la, la, la, la, la, la (you’ll be Good to me) La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la (we will love each other, ooh, Yes, we will) Just be good to me {ooh…ooh…ooh…}

La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la Just be good to me {ooh…ooh…ooh…}

La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la Just be good to me {ooh…ooh…ooh…}

La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la Just be good to me {ooh…ooh…ooh…}

La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

Benny B Actually you were very general in your statement…but hey if you want to relate to people like they are 15 year old male or female because you think its so difficult to deal with people for who they are then hey thats your bag..but what does that say about you??seriously while you are throwin shade in such a general way..

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

Ohmahgah my cat Elvis made the newspaper ajcpets in the pets of the week..smiling pets…Im so excited!! I love my baybeh..

By For Real

November 9, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

CLAP, CLAP – CLAP,CLAP, CLAP, CLAP – CLAP, CLAP

Ooh ooh You might not ever get rich But let me tell ya it’s better than diggin’ a ditch There ain’t no tellin’ who you might meet A movie star or maybe even an Indian chief

(Workin’) At the car wash Workin’ at the car wash, girl Come on and sing it with me (Car wash) Sing it with the feelin’ ya’all (Car wash, girl)

Ooh!

Some of the work gets kinda hard This ain’t no place to be if you planned on bein’ a star Let me tell you it’s always cool And the boss don’t mind sometimes if you act the fool

At the car wash Whoa whoa whoa whoa Talkin’ about the car wash, girl Come on, ya’all and sing it for me (Car wash) Oooh oooh oooh (Car wash, girl)

(Work and work) Well, those cars never seem to stop coming (Work and work) Keep those rags and machines humming (Work and work) My fingers to the bone (Work) Can’t wait till it’s time to go home (?)

(Hey, get your car washed today) Fill up and you don’t have to pay Come on and give us a play (Do the wash, right away)

(The car wash) Talkin’ ‘bout the car wash Car wash, girl Come on, ya’all, let’s sing it with me (Car wash) Sing it with feelin’, ya’all (Car wash, girl)

Whoa whoa whoa whoa (Car wash) Never seem to stop comin’ What’d I say Keep those rags and machines hummin’ (Car wash) Let me tell you, it’s always cool …

By mqew

November 9, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this

Ben- It seemed like what you were saying is that only men are capable of having logical thought processes. Not that grown people (meaning both sexes) are incapable. Which is it?

By Tazzee

November 9, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

Ladies - in BennyB’s defense I can’t believe I just typed that, LOL - he did say 15 years younger, not 15 years old. Considering the person he was initially talking to has been divorced 10 years, I’m sure he wasn’t referring to a 15 year old.

Jazzy lemme go check out your baby.

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 3:04 PM | Link to this

Here’s a song for you ForReal…Slow down by Loose Ends. Can’t seem to get the lyrics to print.

By DJ Rell

November 9, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this

Dennis Edwards - Dont look any further

Whoa, oh, well well well well well Ohhh,hmmmm

Someone to count on In a world of change Here I am, stop where you’re standin’

What you need is a lover A man to take over Oh girl, don’t look any further

Strange, when you think of the chances That we’d both be in a state of mind Too cool to be careless Lookin’ for the right thing Oh baby, don’t look any further

Tonight Tonight, we’re gonna taste a little, paradise Rock you all night long, baby All night long Daylight Daylight I’ll still be lookin’ in your ebony eyes And we’ll go on and on and on

day-o day-o, mombajee ai-o, well Don’t look any further day-o day-o, mombajee ai-o, well Don’t look any further

Someone to count on In a world of changin’ Here I am, stop where you’re standin’

What you need is a lover You need a lover To love you all over Love me all over Oh baby, don’t you look any further, further

Don’t look any further

Don’t look any further

Tonight Tonight, we’re gonna taste a little, paradise Rock you all night long Rock you all night long Daylight Daylight I’ll still be lookin’ in your ebony eyes And we’ll go on and on and on

day-o day-o, mombajee ai-o, say it Don’t look any further day-o day-o, mombajee ai-o, well Don’t look any further, don’t you ever look

day-o day-o, mombajee ai-o, Don’t look any further, further day-o day-o, mombajee ai-o, Don’t look any further, further

day-o day-o, mombajee ai-o, Don’t look any furth

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

Blue Umm dude I just asked for clarrification thats it…no ice block chill out its all good..yes I care for him very much and yes he put it down he loves me i love him and thats really a cool thing and it wasn’t a traditional relationship in so many ways I can’t even tell you…

We didn’t experience the full on part of a relationship I fell in love with him as friend and maybe when he returns we may explore becoming more than friends…

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs we know what’s up with that laffy taffy. She wanna share those banana laffy taffies with us…i wonder why. LOL

Hey MO i’m tryin not to take all the stash but you better stop dancing and get your n&l hook up. It’s Friday and you wont get these for free after 5.

China… I’m still singing TAKE ME, TAKE ME, TAKE ME…WHOOOOAAAA, WHOOOAAAA…hahaha. Was the runnin’ man out when that came out?

Why folks start asking questions when you trying to tip out and go home early?

By Tazzee

November 9, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this

Jazzy your baby looks real sessay!!! But some of those glowing eyes freaked me out!

By DJ Rell

November 9, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

Biggie…oops i mean Mtume…lol

JUICY!!

you now very well what you are your my sugar thang my chocolate star I’ve had a few but not that many but you’re the only one that gives me good and plenty

Juicy Fruit—-juicy

Candy rain coming down taste in my mind and spread you all around here I am oh this loves for you hey baby swee as morning dew close my eyes oh what fantasy and yur right here with me

Juicy

Cherry blossom kiss is what you givin’ makes my body rock keeps me sizzlin’ do what you will I don’t care I’ll be your lollipop you can lick me everywhere

Juicy Fruit—-your so (juicy) Juicy juicy fruit—-juicy

Here I am this loves for you hey baby your sweet as honey dew close my eyes oh what fantasy and your right here with me

Juicy—-Juicy Fruit (repeat until end)

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

Tazzee did you see him??? hes in smiling pets part three smirking at the camera…Hilarious thinking he too cute to have time to take a photograph…the black cat…

By Foots

November 9, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this

For Real But let me ask you this, what level of responsibility does one assume in failures and successes. And do you think their level of responsibility coinside with whether or not they consider a relationship a success or failure?

Oh wow, good question. I’m trying to think of a personal example to help me get my arms around that, but I’m coming up empty. Let me put on this Catwoman costume, helps me think better… Oh, and can you give me a massage, that may help…

N&L Snatchers I went to Costco and got this barrel of N&L! It has 500 packs of Nasty Azz Grape, Artifical Tasting Banana, Choke You Cherry, and Everybody-on-your-row-know-you-are-eating-them Apple. Now can I please eat this last piece of Pineapple I found at the bottom of my purse ludged in my checkbook?

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this

JazzyOne, I just saw your cat. They definitely put the right caption. Too funny.

By BennyB

November 9, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this

jazzyone, Where did I say 15 year old?

By Foots

November 9, 2007 3:17 PM | Link to this

Jazzy Can you post the link for Elvis??

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 3:17 PM | Link to this

BennyB im sorry I thought you indicated 15 year old child I could have sworn I read that…if I mis spoke iz’sorry!!

By DJ Rell

November 9, 2007 3:18 PM | Link to this

Hall and Oates - Cant go for that…WHAT!!!!..holla at me

Easy, ready, willing, overtime, Where does it stop, where do you dare me to draw the line. You’ve got the body, now you want my soul, Don’t even think about it, say no go. I— I ‘ll do anything that you want me to do, And I’ll do almost anything, that you want me too, ooh,

But I can’t go for that, (No can do) No, I can’t go for that, (No can do) Oh, I can’t go for that, (No can do)

I can’t go for that, can’t go for that, can’t go for that.

I can go for being twice as nice, I can go for just repeating the same old lines. Use the body, now you want my soul, Ooh, forget about it, now say no go.

I— I’ll do anything that you want me to do, And I’ll do almost anything that you want me to do,

But I can’t go for that, (No can do) No, I can’t go for that, (No can do) Oh, I can’t go for that, (No can do)

I can’t go for that, can’t go for that, can’t go for that. Oh, I— I’ll do anything that you want me to do, And I’ll do almost anything that you want me to do,

But I can’t go for that, (No can do) No, I can’t go for that, (No can do) Oh, I can’t go for that, (No can do)

I can’t go for that, can’t go for that, can’t go for that, can’t go for that. I can’t go for that,

can’t go for that (No can do) I can’t go, I can’t go— for that, (No can do) Oh, I can’t go for that, (No can do) Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no can do, Oh, I can’t go for that, yeah, (No can do) No, no, no, no, no, no…..

By 2CPTG©

November 9, 2007 3:18 PM | Link to this

“to be honest, im kinda hoping 2 and Truth rumble again… cause that mess yesterday was en-ta-tain-in’!”

…..small minds do what????

By Tazzee

November 9, 2007 3:20 PM | Link to this

Yep Jazzy, I saw him. Looking all sneaky and whatnot, LOL.

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 3:20 PM | Link to this

Give me the Grape N&L and you are so right about the Everybody-on-your-row-know-you-are-eating-them Apple ones.

Can somebody print the words to Slow Down?

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this

Tazzee, SexyL I know right!! well that made my day im off to the races ya be easy..let me go home and give elvis some treats for being so photogenic…Holla ya!

By For Real

November 9, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

For Real is now chewing on a mouth full of grape L&N’s while giving Foots a massage.

For Real will now use his hands to to give Foots a message.

As soon as For Real can swallow that candy and get it out of his teeth, For Real will massage Foots with his mouth.

By kimmie

November 9, 2007 3:23 PM | Link to this

Foots - My boss LOVES YELLOW gummie bears! He actual found this candy website where he was able to order 5 pounds of nothing but yellow gummie bears for about $15. I think it was called Candy Warehouse, but I’m not sure, I’ll check on it for you. They had just about every candy in the world on that site. On the box it said “Kids and Dentists love us”. I bet you could order some Pineapple N&L’s on that site!

By Jazzyone

November 9, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

For Elvis..link http://pets.yourajc.com/ Then go down to the smiling pets part 3 of the photo gallery and hes page # 16….

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this

@ Jazz…your Elvis is to much…mr. smoooootthhhh.

By kimmie

November 9, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this

Foots - There’s this site called groovycandies.com where you can get a 48 ct box for $5.95.

By Foots

November 9, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

kimmie You my girl for that one!! I’m going to try to look them up. Maybe I can find some other stuff on there…

SexyLeggs I came back upstairs yesterday eating one and walked down my row. EVERY LAST PERSON said “What’s that? Apple N&L?” LOL!!

By Page1908

November 9, 2007 3:31 PM | Link to this

LOL Kimmie Cool, cuz I wanna order a bulk shipment of candy necklaces, chico sticks, and fun dip!

By For Real

November 9, 2007 3:31 PM | Link to this

SexLeggs What about this one:

I’ve waited, oh, so long

For you to come to me.

What did I do wrong

It’s all a mystery to me

Baby, I feel it too

What am I supposed to do

Maybe I’ve just changed

Or can I be wrong for you

You, you’ve got me hangin’ on a string now

I’m not your plaything

You, you’ve got me hangin’ on a string now

Am I your plaything

You never told me you were waiting, contemplating

With my heart, my love

You never told me you were waiting, contemplating

With my heart, my love

Do you mean to say

That after all this time

I’ve waited like a fool

Now who’s been changin’ you

You, you’ve got me hangin’ on a string now

I’m not your plaything

You, you’ve got me hangin’ on a string now

I ain’t your plaything

By DJ Rell

November 9, 2007 3:32 PM | Link to this

Chaka Khan - Stay

Please stay with me now Don’t you let me go I’ll make it somehow I got to let you know That I’ll make it Somehow, some way Though I wait on the day What I’m doing’s gotta pay Some way, somehow

My baby, when he cries It’s ‘cause something’s on his mind This world is full of lies You and me are one of a kind The good Lord will stand behind every step We are blind to fate, that’s life, that’s life

Stay, stay, stay, stay (won’t you please) Stay, stay, stay, stay

It fits, but you can’t make it work Where there’s pain, there’s got to be hurt And the green grass grows from the dirt Yeah, that’s a fact of life alright The good Lord stands behind every step We are blind to fate, that’s life, that’s life

Stay, oh won’t you please Stay, stay (won’t you) Stay, stay, stay, stay Stay, stay, stay, stay

Stay, stay (right here) Stay, stay (don’t you go, no no) Stay, stay (oh no no) Stay, stay (stay baby baby please stay) Stay, stay (right here, right here, right here) Stay, stay (I want you to stay right here) Stay, stay (we can stay here, together, together yeah) Stay, stay (don’t listen to what people say) Stay, stay (stay, stay, listen now yeah) Stay, stay (stay, yeah yeah now)

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this

Hey Foots you see where kimmie said where you can go to buy and replenish our stash? LOL

Hey Sexy & MO…we got BAAANNNK!!!

By Foots

November 9, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this

For Real As soon as For Real can swallow that candy and get it out of his teeth, For Real will massage Foots with his mouth. LOL!!!

By For Real

November 9, 2007 3:40 PM | Link to this

this one is for you Foots

I DO LOOOVE YOOOOU !!! (oooooooooooooooh) you can have a piece of my love (OOOoooooooh) dumb b*** it’s waitin for you (oooooooooh) girl it’s true (IIIIIIIIIIIIIII) you can have a piece of my love (lovin baby) it’s waiting for you (heeey) girl it’s true you can have a—

baby you can’t have all of me ‘cuz i’m not totally free i can’t tell you everything that’s goin on baby there’s a few things in my past that should not be explained i’m askin you baby be with me——for a lil while (you can have a—) please hush no questions asked lay back and relax girl (i do love you-girl it’s true) now kick off your shoes now put your head down (is waiting for you) since we’re here now baby i’m givin you a piece of me you can’t have (you can have a-)

(CHORUS:) you can have a piece of my love (1 & 2-my love) it’s waiting for you (1-for you)(2-waiting for you) girl it’s true (1-you can have a piece of my love) REPEAT I DO LOOOOVE YOOOOOOU !!!!

i know that this is wrong but the feelin’s so strong i wish this could last forever but it wouldn’t be the same tell me who would be to blame? is we were to hurt all over again? (you can have a-) please hush (you can have a piece of my love) no questions asked lay back and relax (I DOOO LOOOVE YOOU!!) take off your shoes let your pretty sexy hair down (girl it’s true) it’s time now baby i’m givin’ you a piece of my love (you can have a-)

CHORUS: you can have a piece of my love (1 & 2-my love baby) it’s waitin’ for you (2-my love, my love, woah yeeaaaaah !!!) girl it’s true (1-you can have a piece of my love) REPEAT you can have a-

(INSTRUMENTAL)

(I DOOO YOU LOVE-girl it’s true) kick off your shoes let your pretty head down let’s make love…over and over and over and over AGAIN !!! (you can have a-)

CHORUS: you can have a piece of my love (1 & 2-my love baby) it’s waitin for you (1 & 2-for you… i wanna make love over and over and over again !!!) girl it’s true I DO LOVE YOU !!!

By QueDogTeaching

November 9, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this

What up blog Said while wondering if I have missed meeting Page 1908

Off Topic I keep hearing about this party that 102.5 is throwing at a hotel downtown tonight. Does anyone know where it is.

By Foots

November 9, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this

kimmie OH MY GOD!!! I didn’t even know they had a Peach flavor!!! And Green Tingleberry, Strawberry Banna mix!! N&L Snatchers, kimmie is our heroine!!!! I’m ordering some this weekend!

Good night y’all, be safe!

By Willie Dynamite

November 9, 2007 3:42 PM | Link to this

BennyB They gon put your pic up on the wall at MLB headquarters. No vest or nothing. Man you came outta that one without a scratch. You even got a apology. Dayuuuum!!!!

On Topic- I’m like BK said Being the Supa Sag that I am, I’ll play it however you want to play it. I am quite flexible and comfortable in either of the fore-mentioned scenarios - I can be as open as a kid’s book or as mysterious as Hawk off Spencer; it all depends on my potential partner. However you want it. The convo will let me learn what I need/want to know.

WLB um, what a brother gotta do to get a N&L?

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 3:42 PM | Link to this

Jazzy Oh aight, just checkin… ;)

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

Um Page What’s that? Did i hear chico stick paper rattling in your bag?

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this

ForReal, that works just fine. Thanks Hon!

Cemeeli, yes we do!!! LOL

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 3:45 PM | Link to this

DJRell, can I hear something, anything by Slave?

By BennyB

November 9, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

Tazzee, should I follow my posts to you so you can traduce them in Venusians language? I was wondering what some women here smoke, whatever it is, it is damn good……….

Finally, that was logical……Maybe you are a very rare kind….

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

November 9, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this

DJ Rell kisses to you for that Stay by my girl Chaka Khan!! I am in here jammin for real now!!

Foots & Cemeeli okay so now we can take turns ordering the candy, i’ll go first. Any requests?

By Wise Diva

November 9, 2007 3:50 PM | Link to this

LOL @ without a scratch, geez, I don’t think there was malicious intent to bust him up! We weren’t going below the belt. We leave that sort of stuff to the testosterone toting dudes on the blog. ha!

By For Real

November 9, 2007 3:55 PM | Link to this

Okay MLB I got a fresh package Pineapple N&L’s for the first person to tell me who song this song:

Oh yeah, hey baby, yeah. Oh yeah, yeah, that’s right

We had a chance to find true love. And make it last forever. From the first dance. I knew it was just you and I together

What made you try those childish games? What made you want to use me? So now today, we’re not the same And you’re about to lose me

Baby, I’ve been a fool for you You made me go round and round I’ve been a fool for you But it’s over now, it’s over now, yeah

You stood me up and you put me down In front of all our best friends, yeah You seem to love to show yourself In front of all the other men, yeah, yeah

You tell the girls that I don’t mind And you’ve got such a good thing But one day soon, you’re gonna find, yeah This fool of yours is missing

Baby, I’ve been a fool for you, oh You made me go round and round Yeah, I’ve been a fool for you But it’s over now, it’s over now

I’ve been a fool for you You made me go round and round I’ve been a fool for you But it’s over now, it’s over now, yeah

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

Tazzie/Jazzy Yep Jazzy, I saw him. Looking all sneaky and whatnot, LOL

I’m thinking the same thing. Sneaky azz cat’d probably be trying to scratch up my shoes just ‘cause I came in late to feed his azz one day.

BTW, that probably explains your people giving you those crazy assignments at your work spot - “Serves her right. Who does she think she is anyway, naming that Black-azz cat Elvis?! As soon as we get a sistah in here with a white cat her azz is gonnnneeeee. Dammit” LMAO

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 3:57 PM | Link to this

Que, all I remember hearing is about a concert that Michael Baisden is hosting at the Civic Center tonight (I think) and another show at the Fox on Saturday (Aretha Franklin)…again (I think).

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 4:00 PM | Link to this

Mr. Willie some things and people are better left alone…and then sometimes that energy can be used better.

Well to get a N&L you gotta be able to contribute an oldie song or two.

By Tazzee

November 9, 2007 4:00 PM | Link to this

BennyB I’m very logical in my reading, HOWEVER if a man has my heart - I must admit my logic gets a little fuzzy, so I’m not even trying to argue your point.

For me, on the front end of relationships I am very logical - but as soon as I let go and let him in, I have to ‘force’ myself to be logical.

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 4:01 PM | Link to this

WillieD Man you came outta that one without a scratch. You even got a apology. Dayuuuum!!!!

Dude, I’m sittin’ here ringside like whoa! Brutha bobbin’ and weavin’ like Mayweather up in dis joint!

By lady j

November 9, 2007 4:01 PM | Link to this

lol diva now that is funny…peace

By Wise Diva

November 9, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this

yeah, Benny, we were wondering what you were puffing on too, LOL. Logical people agree with you, I see a pattern.

whether you used young/younger - the same idea was gleamed from your comments..it seemed that you thought the man would handle a woman he is in a relationship with as less mature (younger sister). The idea of partnership dynamic seemed to be missing, I think that is what most reacted to, but whatever..if handling a woman as your younger sister works in the confines of a relationship, that’s certainly your right - that’s why I said, personally, it wouldn’t work for me. IMO, you can be my partner, and still respect me as having valid and logical thoughts and actions, even if you don’t agree with them, and I would reciprocate that.

By Page1908

November 9, 2007 4:05 PM | Link to this

Hey QDT! Nope, you didn’t miss meeting me! wink

Cemeeli lol yeah, those are Chico Sticks and Candy Necklaces

LOL @ Jazzy’s cat. Girl, he is the bomb!

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

Wise Miles Jaye

By Demi

November 9, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli Hey sis…I hope you have a great weekend.

DasV yes…a pleaser by nature…Smile Sis

Foot who knows…my date range is 33 to 40 now…there is no telling who God will put in my life.

D I can’t be bootlegg’n alochol across the state line nah!! See M.Vick

GO DOLPHINS!!!!!..er..go falcons!

DJ Rell bruh…you mind crunk’n it up, with a few remix…it’s Friday yah heard!! These ladies have had a looooong hard week, we need them tipsy and dancing up outta them clothes!!! LOL

Now throw your hands up in the SKYYYY

PEACE!!

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 4:12 PM | Link to this

My bad Wise, that post was for For Real I don’t need the whole pack, just send me a two-piece. Thanks.

By Tazzee

November 9, 2007 4:17 PM | Link to this

HOL’ UP!!! I know a Dolphins fan isn’t trynna make fun of us Falcons fans!!! Demi, sweetie we need to pour out the entire bottle for that team, but since I don’t believe in waste you can just spit on the ground in honor of the Dolphins, LOL.

GO FALCONS!!!

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 9, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

sis smilin

By For Real

November 9, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

Page How did you enjoy the game? I told you the Hawks are for real.

BK I batted 1000 with the album.

By For Real

November 9, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this

Awwwwww Dayummmmm Demi I know you didn’t say Dolphins. Flipper doesn’t even claim to be a Dolphin anymore.

By Blue_Kolla

November 9, 2007 4:31 PM | Link to this

For Real Mayne, that was what nineteeeeen 88? Trust me when I tell you that I was havin’ a BALL !!!

By Trouser Cough

November 9, 2007 4:32 PM | Link to this

I only let a Woman close to me, once she has proven her worth as person (Sorry good looks don’t count). I view letting a person close too fast as a threat to my life and life style especially women. And when trust is established, I only go as far as she does with sharing information about one another, no more, no less.

But I have learned the hard way to NEVER go out of my way for a woman its best just to meet them as far as they are willing to go, that way I don’t feel my efforts were in vain, if things don’t turn out the way I would like them too.

By Cemeeli

November 9, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this

Have a safe weekend all.

LOL @ Flipper doesn’t even claim to be a Dolphin anymore.

Goodnight yall. i’m out!

By SexyLeggs

November 9, 2007 4:46 PM | Link to this

Good night everyone! Have a safe and restful weekend!

By Tazzee

November 9, 2007 4:46 PM | Link to this

Trouser But I have learned the hard way to NEVER go out of my way for a woman its best just to meet them as far as they are willing to go, that way I don’t feel my efforts were in vain, if things don’t turn out the way I would like them too.

I guess I can understand the reasoning behind that - but for me, life is too short for that mentality. If I’m feeling a guy I have no problem putting myself out there - worst case scenario, he’s not feeling me as much. In the end, I won’t be thinking ‘what if…’

By Tazzee

November 9, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this

Have an awesome weekend folks. And…

GO FALCONS!!!

By Wise Diva

November 9, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this

I enjoyed this week immensely. Talk to you guys next time -

Have a fantastic weekend everyone!

Diva out

By Demi

November 9, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

Tazz/For Real their recond look Dayum near the same, LOL

DasV hope you stay smiling throughout the weekend…

Night All

By For Real

November 9, 2007 4:58 PM | Link to this

Reporter: So Flipper what do you think of the Miami Dolphins this year

Flipper: Ruff, Ruff

By ATLien (from StraightFromTheA.com)

November 9, 2007 5:08 PM | Link to this

I know I’m late…..but what about the dontdatehimgirl or heaintnogood or whatever you callum sites??? Should we ignore what others have to say about someone we are considering dating or seeing seriously????

By Stacy (www.about-atlantaga.com)

November 13, 2007 9:39 AM | Link to this

I’m a big fan of Googling the men I date. Sometimes you can get some interesting information. One time when I went out with an older man who was the founder of a prestigious organization. I found out he was asked to leave because he was seen dating ladies much younger than he. I didn’t go on a second date. Thank you Google.