Misadventures in Atlanta

By lady j

November 6, 2007 8:11 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog!!! I most def need target practice with dating…lol It should be a fun day on the blog…J

By Anon

November 6, 2007 8:22 AM | Link to this

Maybe you need to lower your standards too and quit thinking you are the Bomb in the dating world. Come back down to earth.

There’s a reason you don’t have dates and have to write about your experiences. Those who can DO, those who can’t, write about it.

By AmazonRed 2.0

November 6, 2007 8:33 AM | Link to this

I definitely need more target practice for the upgraded Amazon 2.0! My mistakes before weren’t in the types of guys I was choosing. I’ve always chosen guys with good character, I think. It was more about the way I acted in the relationship and how I didn’t ever want to rock the boat, thinking a guy would be more devoted. Wrong. Those types of gals were boring. And truth be told, I’m a little pistol anyway. Concealing that part of me wasn’t benefitial to all parties anyway.

By james

November 6, 2007 8:37 AM | Link to this

What do u bring to the table? Can you cook a full Thanksgiving meal? Whats your credit score? How are your std records?

By Gina

November 6, 2007 8:40 AM | Link to this

lower her standards!? Is that what you did?

By Dan

November 6, 2007 8:43 AM | Link to this

@Anon

Hey guy…if you don’t like the topic, think the people are shallow, and you have nothing positive to contribute, I think I can speak for pretty much most of the folks here, RIDE OUT.

On Topic: The only personality traits that I dislike are weak women. WD I like a strong woman with her own opinions, that means I don’t have to give them to her. Keep my mind stimulated and you got me, whether I agree or not.

@ARed good morning, what say you?

By lady j

November 6, 2007 8:44 AM | Link to this

james good points…

By Dave

November 6, 2007 8:50 AM | Link to this

Now that I am single again I am once again changing what I look for.

What I am really attracted to is rare and literally 1 in a 1000 kind of girl. Intelligence, quirky, geeky, unusual and a little crazy but crazy in the way I am crazy. A girl who stands out for me and really gets my attention. Not how she looks but a personality that draws me in and captivates me. Someone who can keep up with my random thoughts.

I am willing to wait.

By kia

November 6, 2007 8:52 AM | Link to this

Morning, another hit or miss day on blog already.

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 8:53 AM | Link to this

Have you ever dated someone only to discover how incompatible your personalities were? Certianly, Me and Mr was very imcompatible, he was frugal and I spend spend spend. He didn’t like to socialize and I’m a social butterfly, I’m humorus and well he’s a scrooge, just plain boring now that it’s over I feel a sense of R-E-L-I-E-F and I’m back enjoying the single life, a life I’d thought I’d never ever enjoy. I’ve never been so happy to be dumped by a man.

Handing out Mimosa and burnt toast cd to the early birds

By Foots

November 6, 2007 9:00 AM | Link to this

Anon Quoting from the CNN article Rell posted yesterday:

*The single women I know are frequently advised, “Stop being so picky,” “Have a better attitude,” and “Lower your standards,” perhaps to the point where they’ll date anyone with a p_ and a pulse.

I believe this is precisely the wrong approach. Why? Consider our statistical friend, the bell curve. The great bulge in the middle represents areas where you are, well, average. This is also the part of you that could easily be mixed and matched with the largest number of potential mates. The skinnier upper end represents your greatest gifts, the areas where you are most talented and extraordinary. The few people who share your most exceptional characteristics are your tribe, the population that is most likely to contain your heart’s partner.

I suggest that you should be pickier, less accepting and more committed to the “bad attitude” that will make you seek people who are extraordinary in the same way you are.*

By Kym-Proud Steeler Nation Member since 1994

November 6, 2007 9:00 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

When it comes to approaching/dating your type, do you think you need more target practice? Nope my sight is set on one target at this time—Locked and loaded.

Are you dating the type of people that show the most relationship potential? If so, how do you know? In the past nope I was not dating for relationship potential I was just dating. I have a committment phobia of sort sooooo I had a tendency not to get to close or comfortable.

How do you decide who to give the green light to and who to cross off your potential mate list in terms of character traits that would co-exist with yours? *

Do you clash with a particular type of person? Do you know which personality seems to complement you? I clash with the alpha-male types at times because I am not one for bossing me around. You can ask me, you can advise me….but dont talk to me like you are addressing your dog that just went on the rug. The type that complement me is the laid back, easy going brother. Why because he is the direct opposite to my intense, hyper, pull no punches personality. In other words he provides balance.

Have you ever dated someone only to discover how incompatible your personalities were? What did you learn about yourself? Yes. That ever one needs to find balance. I learn alot of patience. But it also enforced my own value system on what I will and wont tolerate in the name of love.

When it comes to dating, do you prefer the type you need or the type you want? Better yet, do you know the difference?! When I was 20 it was about what I want. Now at 35(God I am loving 35) it is all about what I need.

By Anon

November 6, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

I believe this is an open forum and ALL comments are welcome. I have an opinion and I am allowed to express it. If it doesn’t agree with yours, well then that is your problem, and here I shall stay!!!

You all are entirely too picky and that’s why you are LONELY and writing daily into a blog about the exact perfect person you are holding out for.

Yes, lower your standards, and quit being so freaking picky. There are tons of singles out there but ya’ll are too fussy. You are missing out on so much fun.

Ya’ll remind me of the jobless person, who is seeking the perfect management position…….you want the reward, but aren’t willing to work for it. You just think that the perfect person is going to drop out of the sky and land right smack in your lap. It ain’t gonna happen…….you need to get out there and meet EVERYONE you possibly can.

And quite crying in this blog every single day. Get out and get a life for crying out loud…….

By EnglishTutor

November 6, 2007 9:12 AM | Link to this

y’all? contraction for ‘you all’ and the tic goes between the missing characters.

examples: it’s for it is. can’t for cannot, didn’t for did not, won’t for will not, wait, that’s a separate lesson.

By Dan

November 6, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this

Anon this is an open forum. But the topics are specifically designed to be helpful.

You attack comments are not the least helpful. To assume everyone on here is lonely is presumptious, and in that I’s have to ask…….Why are you here?

By lady j

November 6, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this

I have notice with me when i accept less I get less…When i comprimise for the wrong reason I get another mess…I am TIREd of messy situations I really want to try to change my actions for better resutls but that comfort thang is a beast!!!! It is a self reflection process that I hate….Why do many people run from self…

By Rell - Reloaded

November 6, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this

PLEASE DONT FEED THE TROLLS..stay on topic, and this is a good one

@Junk Food Junkie….why would you be scarred to rock the boat in a relationship…

By Gina

November 6, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this

Oh Anon, you could have summarized your rant in 2 words: Get desperate. Clearly, that is what you chose to do, and look how happy YOU seem!

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this

Dan,

I say option 1! Will I have to be blind?

By Foots

November 6, 2007 9:18 AM | Link to this

Have you ever dated someone only to discover how incompatible your personalities were? What did you learn about yourself?

My goodness, yes!! It was a relationship that could have ended in marriage if I would have decided to settle. He was a great person, but we brought out the absolute worst in each other. I’m glad that I had the sense to get out of that before we got in too far to give up.

Do you clash with a particular type of person? Do you know which personality seems to complement you?

I prefer men with strong personalities and a real sense of who he is (i.e., he can define himself outside of what he does, what car he drives, where he lives, etc). Foots and a weak-willed man will never work. I need a man who can be the CEO of this company and still appreciate my role as his right-hand COO.

Are you dating the type of people that show the most relationship potential? If so, how do you know?

I think I am dating the right kinds of people. In the conversations I have after the first few days of meeting them, I try to identify the characteristics I am looking for in a man. I can quickly eliminate the “I’m not looking for a relationship” types, the “I’m still hung up on my ex-wife” types, the “my major focus right now is my career” types, and the “I wanna rock right now” types. I have no problem with spending most of my weekends at home alone, if the alternative is spending (wasting) time with a man I already know I’ll be incompatible with. I’ll just be well-rested when the right one comes along.

By Foots

November 6, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this

Anon It’s funny that you used the exact same words from that article I posted from at 9:00!! LOL!!

English tutor That’s called a tic? I thought it was an apostrophe! My bad!

By Kym-Proud Steeler Nation Member since 1994

November 6, 2007 9:23 AM | Link to this

Totally Off Topic-How about that Steel Curtain smashing down on the Ravens? Next up.. grudge match against the Cleveland Browns. Ohh and for those keeping score in fantasy land 9 weeks and counting in the top spot.

Back to your regularly scheduled blog-already in progress

By abc

November 6, 2007 9:24 AM | Link to this

Anon has a point, in a way. When Mia was doing the blog, the topics were all about her situations and dilemmas in dating and relationships, but she was having dates and relationships, for good or ill. Maybe WD and Bella are too, but just don’t write about them so much. The topics become all this hypothetical whatnot at that point.

By Tip

November 6, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this

Anon is making some good points. This IS an open forum. I don’t think he/she is posting to be negative but SOME folks need to hear that. JMO `

Ya’ll have fun. wink…wink…EnglishTutor

By Dan

November 6, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

@ARed

One it is, and no, blindfolds maybe handcuffs come later……;)

By Rell.com

November 6, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

what is funny i posted an article that mirrors this very topic..lol

and it was some good game in there….shout out to foots for noting it….

By SexyCool

November 6, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

my question for bella is this…exactly what kind of man will you be dating now? what qualities will you look for?…because if you are looking for the opposite of what you described as having been attraced to in the past…the man that you seek seems to be a weak, dispassionate pushover…

or am i reading this wrong?

By BLAT

November 6, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

….. stumbling in wearing the same ish he had on at Lotus last night….

umm, what…up…Blog!

This is soooo hitting home for me. Agent WD-40, I think your new target approach isn’t going to be successful. You will, at first, appreciate the fact that a dude will let you be you with no intereference, but is that honestly what you really want??? Relationships are built on checks n balances, and I see someone with your makeup getting, like me, BORED with someone who’s just too easy to get along with.

You need to find that Alpha Male who’s comfortable enough in his own skin to let you be his Alpha Female, and then ya’ll can run on and go make lil Alpha’s… LMAO

By lady j

November 6, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this

Dr. K it was a GREAT game!!! Go Steelers and Coach Tomlin!!!

By Anon

November 6, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this

No actually what happened was I started loosening my standards. I found a plethoria of fine people to date, and found that I was much happier in the dating world. I ended up finding a very special person, whom I have been with for three years. Before I loosened/lowered my standards, I wanted the perfect person. They aren’t out there. You have to look at ALL types of people, and have an open mind.

You all sit here day after day and rant about how you want someone to “take care of me”, “keep up with me”, no fatties, no this and that, etc. Once you realize how miserable you are making yourselves, you will realize you need to open your minds.

Don’t judge a book by its cover. See what’s actually inside that not-as-attractive person, and you find gold. Open your minds, and your hearts, and you will find happiness. Go out with everyone who asks you to go out. What do you have to loose?

But you would rather be picky, let numerous people walk right out of your lives, and lament about how miserable you are that you haven’t found the right person yet. You haven’t LOOKED hard enough.

By SexyCool

November 6, 2007 9:32 AM | Link to this

i’ll agree with abc…mia did not have a problem putting herself out there…good, bad or ugly…you gotta admire that…

By Rell.com

November 6, 2007 9:32 AM | Link to this

@abc..stop being nosey…i think the topics are cool..lol

By Tip

November 6, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this

Anon has some good points. I don’t think he/she is posting to be negative to all. This IS an open forum and SOME do need to hear those tips and take heed. JMO Y’ll have a good one today. wink, wink @ EnglishTutor

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2007 9:35 AM | Link to this

Rell, the same way you talk about all these chicks emasculating their men is exactly what I wanted to avoid. I have too many friends who are ball busters, including my mom sometimes, and I look how miserable their men are. So I attempted to be the opposite. But all those men love their fiesty women so…

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this

Hey Room Ditto on that game Dr. Kym aka Steel Nation Queen!! All i can say good game…to add to the winners this week…^5 to all the National Blackout no buying tickets to the NFL game folks(including me) must of motivated them Falcons - GO BIRDS!!

Cemeeli just peeking in on all her blog friends

Good Topic today!

Hi Sexycool & Foots and all the WLB. Sweet forehead kiss to all the MLB.

By AmazonRed 2.0

November 6, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this

Wow, some of you guys have been here a long time. I guess I need to read some of Mia’s old topics.

Dan…10-4. LOL

By Rell.com

November 6, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this

Why lower you standardds….i am all about standards….lowering your standards devalues your time and person…everyone will not be for you..keep your standards and integrity..dont sell out!!!

By Hotlanta

November 6, 2007 9:45 AM | Link to this

My new dating target are for rich/phune men only. No poor/fat ones for me. I don’t need to me with a man toooo poor to take me to dinner or I gotta pay for everything. Don’t need to be with a man that sooo fat when I am with him I think it is a solar eclispe going on. Anon what do you mean too picky. Are we suppose to date a man who smells, pick boogers outta his nose, lives in his mama basement at 45 and is nasty because he asked us out. PLEASE!!!! You gotta have some standards. When you start doing it for the hell of it then you are p** because you wasted your time. Don’t hate us because you had to lower your standards to fine somebody and unhappy because you did.

By melo

November 6, 2007 9:45 AM | Link to this

I think one needs to date somebody who complements them, not one who is like them. So for Wise, if u say u are the A personality type, u cant do too well with anotherA personality coz u will have frequent personality clashes.A demure and laid back guy like me can be explosive in the BED as well! And i find that true of the laid back women as well.(closet freaks) Its important to know who u are 1st, before u can define what u want in a mate.

By Kym-Proud Steeler Nation Member since 1994

November 6, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

Annon I actually agree with you. You do have to expand your target area if you are out there seeking..whateva it is you are looking for.

By Anon

November 6, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

And another thing, don’t try to change someone. Accept people as they are, and if they aren’t compatible with the way you are, then find someone who is.

Based on my previous experience:

and lastly……

By Page1908

November 6, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

I don’t think Anon was saying “lower your standards” per se. I took their comment to mean just try to be a little more open minded in dating, since a large majority of folks on the blog complain about the dating scene so much. Being more open minded is actually not a bad idea. Supposedly the majority of the females on the blog are perfect 10’s with bangin’ bodies, etc., and the majority of the males are also supposedly perfect 10’s who are all ballers, over 6 feet tall, etc., so that should mean that these folks shouldn’t have an issue with dating, right? So, what’s the problem?

By aqualung

November 6, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

The DANGER with dating more appropriate people that show greater relationship potential is that when/if you split up, the pain is greater because the potential for a long term relationship was there.

Ex: hypogirlA There were low/no expectations of the blond German summer fling hypogirlA enjoyed when she was 21 years old. Now that hypogirlA is dating minority men with advanced degrees and $100K+ salaries who are looking for a wife, the expectations are higher.

higher bounce —> harder fall

By Jazzyone

November 6, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this

For me my standards haven’t been lowerred just changed as I’ve matured. While dating now I seek a compromise in what I need and what I want My needs in a man are not detrimental to my mental/physical health.

Have I ever dated one that wasn’t for me..well yes and I tend to learn from all of my past for a number of years now and reflect on the things that brought me pain and joy. The joy helps me navigate towards whats best for me.

Although I am a so called strong woamn I have never had an issue with a man that thought my characteristics should be squelched because I think it has to be a balance and when a strong man come into my world im turned on and attracted to him. I don’t want to be his equal I don’t want to be less I want to be his woman nothing less.

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this

*i remember Mia back in da day … i was serious lurker then. That’s when RunninIT (miss him too) was a part of the klan.

*Hey where are the staples? Tazee, NCGirl, QC, Mo, Sean, Kinder, Musing, GaMan, Truth, DuShawn and alot of folks missing…. * A lot of newbies (which is cool) gots love for you all too!

By Rell.com

November 6, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

@AR…thats not true, trust me..men like cooperation..if you assisting with the vision it is all good..that means bringing all that you are to the table….everyone can be fiesty or keep a tude….but the real power is controlling your emotion…feel me

By SexyLeggs

November 6, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

Good morning. I find no need to lower my standards when I do decide to date. Character speaks volumes. Respect is like a fine perfume/cologne. A good heart, along with good morals and ethics is what I’ll be looking for, along with other traits.

By SexyCool

November 6, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this

page…girl, you got me laughing OUT LOUD over here…priceless…

By Dan

November 6, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this

I get it now Anon. You’ve been hurt. We all have (humans that is) so process that anger. But that is an inward journey, you can’t project those feelings onto people around you. That’s not healthy.

I’m glad you found someone to spend your time with. However, you should continue to heal and not impede the progress of others.

By kinderbabe

November 6, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

hey cemeeli:) i mostly lurk nowadays…hope all is well w/you. have a good blog day..lol.

By Wise Diva

November 6, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this

Good morning! Great comments so far, already. Welcome to the new readers!

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this

Alrighty now @ Page1908 can i say…WELL, WELL!?!

By Staceye

November 6, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

Dan your 8:43…nicely put! LOL

Me 2 can you at least scrape the toast? I mean…dang! You giving out crusty toast! LOL

Foots I cosign your 9:00 post girl.

Kym Did yu see the Patriots on Sunday..that comeback? Ahhh! Beautiful!

I too clash like plaid and polka dots with that “Alpha Male”. The more you come at me with that..the more of a pitbull I become. I will not have ORDERS barked at me. I do not want a weakling…but I will not allow a guy to try to rule me. I had one guy think he could get away with that…he caught a vase to the forhead. Ok he ducked…but if he didn’t…WHAM. I know..anger management! LOL

EnglishTutor First off…this is not an English class. We are educated people on this blog. We just like to have fun with the lingo. Now get your knickers out of a bunch and remove that stick from your azz and loosen up and join in. Otherwise…you can keep English 101 to yourself!

Rell Don’t feed the trolls LMAO! Junk-food Junkie…would that be ARed or me? You know I LOVE chocolate!

Hotlanta tell us how you really feel! LOL

By Rell.com

November 6, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

@page….actually there could be some DIMES on here…i dont find that hard to believe..actually they are DIMES because they can bring more to the table than just looks..on the fellas..there are some real true to the game players on here that play the game fair..they say it everyday..but most only pick up what they want..feel me….i dont see the problem…ya know if folks focused more on choppin up good game and less on the boo boo…then things would go alot smoother…

By Jazzyone

November 6, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

Page I read and your post and think what you described is on the outside about people that tends to bring some closer but once they get to know what on the inside, thats where the real search begins and people tend to not like what they find about others, or don’t know who they are walking around aimlessly looking for someone to save them from themselves.

If it were that easy all of the material possesions and outward appearances would be enough. People who live in realtiy understand that it takes more than this to find a person to spend the rest of their lives with.

By Jazzyone

November 6, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

What up ya TOS!! QC hope fam is doing well!.

Page so how is your stay in ATL going you settled in and such??

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this

So Rell, are you saying I can’t be a b*tch on wheels? It looks like fun! LOL

By Morrigan

November 6, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

Anon, you say there are tons of single people out there and “You haven’t LOOKED hard enough.”. OK, I’ll call you on that. I want the names and numbers of three - just three - eligible men who want to date a woman over 50. C’mon, out of the tons of singles out there, surely you know three. You don’t? Then stop patronizing me and telling me it’s my fault I can’t get a date.

By The Truth

November 6, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

“The worst thing in the world is to compromise and lose”.

Hey Similac, alot of us regulars have turned into serial lurkers and pop-in artists. LOL

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

November 6, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this

Someone call my name…

hey Kym are we in the same league..if so you are going down…and soon….lololol

oh hey everyone

By Jazzyone

November 6, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

Anon your bolded points are restirctions as well and you preach looking outside the box and not putting people into categories because of looks and such.. what you really did was You just stereotyped groups of people into boxes and I have to say how you can you claim to be so open but so narrow minded at the same time or did you just describe what you want but don’t have and wanna be??!!

By Wise Diva

November 6, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

Anon, you made a lot of great points. In response to your earlier comments, I hope I don’t “read” like I am some perfect being who gets it right all the time! That is SO not the case at all. I definitely have flaws and understand who I am, still learning more each day, in fact. I actually date a whole lot, mainly because I enjoy it, and it turns out I enjoy writing too, so I am extremely lucky to be able to do both. So, in a way, I am doing both, but I definitely don’t pretend to do both flawlessly, because I am human, beautifully human, but human nonetheless. Thank you for your comments!

By Foots

November 6, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

Page I don’t think Anon was saying “lower your standards” per se.

LOL!! No, Anon didn’t say “lower your standards” per se, Anon said “lower your standards” exactly…as in Yes, lower your standards, and quit being so freaking picky AND Maybe you need to lower your standards too and quit thinking you are the Bomb.

You know what I think? Any of these people on the blog can have a date every night if they wanted to. Most of them could have been married already if they so chose. But isn’t the point of dating for long-term relationships about finding the person who complements you and adds value to your life, and at the very least, someone you can get along with without much effort, not just about having a warm body next to you? I don’t think it’s about trying to find perfection, we all know that no one is perfect. It’s about trying to find what works for that particular individual.

Hey Cemeeli!!

abc I might be wrong, but from the post, it sounds like Wise was dating someone and it imploded last week because of personality differences, which is where the topic idea came from.

By Anon

November 6, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this

Example Hotlanta 9:45 post. My new dating target are for rich/phune men only. No poor/fat ones for me. I don’t need to me with a man toooo poor to take me to dinner or I gotta pay for everything. Don’t need to be with a man that sooo fat when I am with him I think it is a solar eclispe going on. Anon what do you mean too picky.

There you go….she’s looking for someone with a fat wallet, for the money, not love. High Maintenance.

jazzyone didn’t lower her standards, but “changed” them. Hence -opened her mind……

And yes, I have been hurt numerous times, who hasn’t? That’s why I opened my mind and started dating all types……poor, fat, high maintenance, low mantaintence, ugly, georgous, etc.

By Page1908

November 6, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

LOL Sexy, Jazzy, Cemeeli, Rell. I’m just sayin, that Anon does have a point. When I read the blog, it seems to me that we all want the same thing. If that is true, then why is it so hard for people to get together? That’s the part I guess I will never understand. We all want a quality person at the end of the day, but, it seems to me that when people are talking about their wants, they almost always have to do with material things or something similar. Rarely do I hear any mention of character. We all tend to find ourselves giving relationship advise to others on the blog, but um….yeah, how can that be done if you are not in a healthy relationship yourself? Anon was just saying to be a little more open minded when dating. I don’t think they were saying to just lower your standards and date just any person. I don’t think there is anything wrong with trying something different. If we keep making the same mistakes when dating, shouldn’t we go about it differently? I’m just sayin….

By Kym-Proud Steeler Nation Member since 1994

November 6, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

Dan How is his statements a sign of hurt? I mean to be honest..everyone on here(you too) is chasing some rainbow or pipe dream relationship. You him/her tall, built, fine-fine whateva. You want them to be your intellectual equal. You want them to have the best in clothes and accessories. You want them drive a banging car, nice crib. You want them nice, but firm, strong but sensitive. The list goes on and on. The end result is that no one is perfect. He maybe tall but he is going to have foot order, she maybe fine but missing two teeth, his house maybe fly but he wont have a lick of damn furniture, the car maybe banging but the car note is high as hell. They maybe smart but have no common sense. You have to make some trade offs. The last perfect man died 2,000 plus years ago. Reality is there will not be another one-ever-ever-ever. You are not perfect. I was cracking up at Page’s statement because to here this blog tell it most days they are all to damn sexy to be walking the streets and should be floating on clouds. Come off of it. Dan you may not like what Anon is saying but there is some truth in his message. Everyone is so caught up in fantasy land when dating that when reality hits they are all disappointed walking around dazed going why me? Well, why the hell not you? Relationships..dating..marriages..whateva take work. Hard work. The one thing I learn from watching those around me who are married is that there are going to be days where you can absolutely not get along. But for some reason nowadays everyone wants a fairytale. Hey… wake up. Snow White got the prince and all his problems too. There are no more cowboys to ride off into the sunset with. Welcome to Reality. Population you and everyone else.

By Rell.com

November 6, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

@AR…nope, what would be the point..that is wasted energy…feel me

@staceye..junk food junkie = the next proactive client…amazon red..lol

By Page1908

November 6, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this

Jazzy- I am doing well. Just trying to get used to the cold weather (well, it is cold to me….lol)

By 2CPTG©

November 6, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this

G’day, mates……

to tell someone to lower their standards/expand their horizons is a correlation to yesterday’s topic; folks like what they like! Folks that say they’re miserable of disenfranchised with dating, well, to me, that’s a self infliced wound; you’re the master of your fate, and captain of your soul. YOU determine what makes you happy; and if nobody likes, or agrees with YOUR choices……fvck ‘em!

By Kym-Proud Steeler Nation Member since 1994

November 6, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

GA Man—STEEL CURTAINS BABY

Staceye So not a Pats fan…I was rooting for Peyton and the Colts to pull it out. But they will meet again.

By Hotlanta

November 6, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

Anon- based on my previous experience.

Broke men are embarassing. They will take you on a date and ask you for gas so you can go on a date. They don’t have no shame. How are you supposed to take me on vacation and I gotta pay my half.

Men who are over 30 and constantly have roommates living in an apartment or living from one woman to the next have not matured enough to live on their own. They always feel like 2 are better then one. They need to to grow up and man up.

Ugly men think that you might choose them because you think phune men are dogs. They wind up alone as well beause you will get tired of looking at Wolfen everyday.

By Page1908

November 6, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

LOL Foots, you know what I mean! I know Anon said lower your standards, but I took it as saying just be more open minded.

By Brooklyn

November 6, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

Have you ever dated someone only to discover how incompatible your personalities were? What did you learn about yourself? I did date some one who I thought was the perfect guy for me: charming, handsome, daring and quickwitted but that ended up not going so well when I got to know him better because I came to realize his charm was pretty much fake and he joked around and made witty remarks all the time as a defense mechanism. He also figured since he was easy on the eyes he could act any sort of way and I will accept it. The lesson I learned from him was to get to know a person well before I think he is God’s gift to me. And he sure wasn’t.

When it comes to dating, do you prefer the type you need or the type you want? Better yet, do you know the difference?!

I know I need a more open-minded, sensitive man who at the same time is willing to accept my independant, opinionated, feisty attitude but I always get attached to men just like me—-and it doesnt end up so well. We both try to out-talk and out-do each other.

By Rell.com

November 6, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

@2CPTG…COSIGN!!!!!!!

By Dan

November 6, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

@Kym

We recognize our own. That’s how I know. I’ve been through the stages of grief over each of my relationships (including those I ended).

It’s something that we as humans go through. It’s how our pyshce handles grief. Having gone through it, I know the signs.

And to Anon….this too shall pass.

By lady j

November 6, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this

Truth is that the TRUTH…

By Lena

November 6, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

I think Bella and Wise Diva both are smart about writing about personal things, with a little vagueness. People are dying to tell you that are wrong (especially miserable people) Give them a blank space and an anonymous moniker and they will not pass up the opportunity to diagnose you with various psychological disorders or determine your personal worth. If you don’t believe me, check yesterday’s thread.

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

Truth & GaMan Can i get a keep me warm during this soooo funny fall weather {{{hug}}} from you. Whew that wind is whipping today !

@ Hope to find SuperTruth on the grind and the family doing well.

Hey GaMan how bout that American Ganster? - Frank Lu…i mean Denzel was great, as always. T.I. needs to try again IMO!

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

Staceye, I’m a Pats fan. I never lost hope for my man Tom Brady!!!

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

Anon I’m picky at least that’s what my friends tell me. I do know what I need instead of going for what I want at this stage in my life and I can’t see myself lowering my standards on what I need. When you lower your standards that means you’re settling and when you settle you’re there until something else better comes along and that’s not fair to the person. Yeah, I’ll compromise but to an extent. If our personality clashes what good will it be for us to go on and make something work that is unworkable if we aren’t willing to come to some kind of common ground. Most people don’t like change and I’m not in the business to change a darn person. Either you accept a person for who they are or your keep it moving. JMO

Staceye LOL burnt toast is a soothing cd by ken ford.

Truth What’s up?

By lady j

November 6, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

Truth meant that is the truth…

By Jazzyone

November 6, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

Alright ya be easy..i’m going to sit back, lurk and continue to listen to Mozart, Trio in G,K. 496..holla ya!

By EnglishTutor

November 6, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

LOL @ Foots - I actually started to key apostrophe but went for the shorthand. (and in IT it is abbreviated as ‘tic’, saves keystrokes and spelling errors). LOL

By Anon

November 6, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

hotlanta you are looking for a wealthy man to keep you. You are “high maintenance”.

“how are they gonna take ME on vacation, when I gotta pay my half?”

Ever thought about taking your own vacation? Instead of waiting around for someone to TAKE you?? Get a group of and go to Jamaica or some other hot spot..you might meet someone there……

That’s what I’m talking about. You are sitting there waiting for Mr. Money bags to come along and take care of you. If you want to go on vacation, then go.

Take some responsibility for yourself and your happiness…..quit whining and do something about it. You are the only one who can make yourself happy. You cannot expect that from someone else.

By AAA

November 6, 2007 10:55 AM | Link to this

@ANON, and TIP, THESE PEOPLE ON THIS BLOGS ARE VERY UNHAPPY, I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU. THEY NEVER WANT TO HEAR THE TRUTH THATS WHY THEY ARE OLD A* HELL AND SINGLE, THERE IS NO WAY A WOMAN SHOULD BE 35 AND OVER AND SINGLE. NEVER. AND I AM ONLY 30 YEARS OF AGE. THEY ARE MISERABALE AS HELL.

By 2CPTG©

November 6, 2007 10:55 AM | Link to this

Rell, you feel me kinfolk…..to me, expanding my horizons would be to do more of what I like doing….not changing up my style simply to appease some other knucklehead! Akin to old folks sayin’ you want a good girl, then go to church….shoot, If I wasn’t going to churh previously, why would I fake the funk, and pretend to be into it now….surely, the mascara gon’ wear off, and you gon’ come out…..there’s only one absolute truth in this world, and that’s your own existence; all else is relative….thus, to thine ownself be true!

By EnglishTutor

November 6, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

@Staceye - that was actually suppposed to be funny,(the english correction) it being something learned from the original, MIA, and I was merely paying tribute. You would have had to have been there, I suppose.

By Page1908

November 6, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

Ok, when people say they refuse to settle, how do you know that the person who you are dating is not settling for YOU? Perhaps they are thinking the exact same thing when they date you. sheesh

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

Is compromising and lowering your standards the same thing when it comes to dating? Can someone please give me their thoughts on this?

By AAA

November 6, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

@ANON, RIGHT ON!! GOLD DIGGING WOMEN, WHO ARE UNHAPPY. THANK YOU FOR TELLING THM THE TRUTH, ALWAYS HAVE THEIR HAND OUT. BEGGING FOR SOMETHING. I REMEMBER SOMEONE SAYING IF A MAN DIDNT HAVE A DRIVERS LICENSE SHE WOULDNT LET HIM TAKE HER OUT. DUMMY. THAT DOESNT MAKE A PERSON.

By Dimples

November 6, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

Hotlanta Girly you got me laguhing up something over here as i read your post.

By The Truth

November 6, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this

Thats funny Lena. And true.

Hi LadyJ, Similac, Footsy, and the rest of the crew.

A deep, warm and cozy hug to Similac. TI will have time to practice his tough guy act, in jail.

The Raiders could beat the Steelers and Patriots anytime they want to. They just don’t want to, now. LOL

Falcon fans, if you think its bad now wait till next year when some players will defect or be cut. Can you say o’fer?

Page its hard to get together because we are all selfish b******* masquerading as nice people. Welcome to the Atl.

Hotlanta your a hot mess. You crack me up. LOL

Ok, off to see Tyler Perry’s movie. I heard it was good.

By Alvin

November 6, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli Hey you and Sup Page

GA.Man you stay bless Bruh!!!

Sup Blat, KB, Ruthless Truth, slim’A.Red’Ms.Eyes, the Two Sexys, and Rell

I miss the Power Puff Girl!!

Anon I hear where you’re coming from, the dating world isn’t as bad as portrayed on here time to time.

But I don’t count…I am wild as Hell, so I am enjoying the dating scene…Good, Bad, and the Ugly.

This blog is just a place to vent, recoup, go out and clash swords (or minds), with the women I VIEW, as the baddish B-ishes in the ‘A’!!!

I am now thinking of ways to get freaky in Barnes’n’Noble…

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

November 6, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

Yes you are right..Frank Lucas was the man…even though i didnt agree with how he got his money you got to give the man props…he did his thang…Denzel might get another Award for this one…i think all of the actors in this movie did extremely well…T.I was ok, he does need to brush up his skill level abit…but in time(No Pun Intended) he will get better….

So steel curtain, that lost you took was a bad one from me huh? lololol your only one

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 11:05 AM | Link to this

The topic today makes me plug one of my jams: Anthony Hamilton’s “The Truth” The lyrics of that song ministers well to what alot of you all are saying about compromise and setteling in dating/relationships. Peep it out.

By 72inches225lbs

November 6, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

@ Hotlanta dating is all about the good the bad and the ugly. Everything in life balances out. For you to suggest that most of your dating has been a negative experience reflects on you as a person. You might want to look in the mirror and be honest about the person who is staring back and ask yourself would YOU date that person.

By For Real

November 6, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

Foots But isn’t the point of dating for long-term relationships EWWWWWWWWWWWWWW long-term rerere….

Wise Give me a typical argu…conversation that the two of you had. I need more info to understand why you changing targets.

I agree with Page for the most part. I, myself and me (I think) don’t or do not have a problem with dating other than getting utimatums at the beginning of each year. But since I like variety, my mind is always open. Awwww shyt it’s or it is or my mind is leaking again.

By Staceye

November 6, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

GA Man whaaaat? No citation for me just cause? What is the world coming to? LOL

Truth glad you peeped in for a moment bruh!

Kym So not a Pats fan…I was rooting for Peyton and the Colts to pull it out. But they will meet again BOOOOOOO BOOOOO! LOL Don’t be hating! Ared you feel me girl? Go Pats!

*Hotlanta8 I ain’t mad at ya..you are stating what you want! LOL

Me 2 oops…my bad! I like jazz too. I need to check that CD out.

By SexyLeggs

November 6, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

There are quite a few of us here on the blog that are very happy. I am one of them. I blog everyday because it’s entertaining. I presently do not have much work to do. Everybody here is NOT unhappy. However, I think we all take different things away from these blog topics and can learn from each other even if its via cyberspace.

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

@Page1908 Come on out of Lurkeville Ga. girl… What you say!?!?

By 2CPTG©

November 6, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

@ the female formerly known as Purple Lace….they are one and the same! both terms mean the same thing….you are settling for something which, for reasons known only unto yourself, you would not necessarily have settled for to begin with…..in one word, desperate!

By lady j

November 6, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

Hey Truth!

By Lena

November 6, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

@ aaa There is no way a woman should be 35 and over and single. Never

What? You don’t get out much do you? Do you know how many single people there are?

There are many out there who are doing the best they can. You, are like everyone else in the world, you are just trying to fumble your way through human relationships, and you are in no position to judge other people’s. choices.

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

Hey Alvin aka Demi aka Have fun Bruh I so co-sign your post and where you are w/ dating. See Cemeeli’s billboard of message to enjoy lifey!…Live, Love and Laugh.

By For Real

November 6, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

Truth the 98 Falcons will kick the Raiders, Pats, Colts, and Steelers azzez all day. And before you say I am in denial, I’m not, I am in a happy place until football season is over.

Run that thang Jam!!

By Foots

November 6, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

Anon I agree that the most important thing to look for is who the person is. That can come in any package, income level, etc. But I see the point of the other posters too: If they have achieved what they consider success, whatever that is, shouldn’t they look for someone who has achieved something somewhere near the same level?

To be sure, saying that you’ll only date above a certain income level or that you won’t date men below 6’2” doesn’t make much sense to me, but it makes sense to some, which is why it’s hard for me to totally discount it. But if the general idea is to have standards of your own to narrow down your dating pool, what is wrong with that? Everyone isn’t included in my dating pool. I don’t have the time or the energy to spend weeding through people who are obviously wrong for me in the name of having a good time. I can have a good time with my friends, I need a true partner who can meet me somewhere near halfway.

Now to be extreme, are you out there dating the homeless man with the good heart? If you are, good for you. Maybe you’ll end up with the next Tyler Perry.

By Anna

November 6, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

AAA, people with your mentality really explains why the divorce rate is so high. Are you married?

By Dan

November 6, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

@AAA

FIRST LET ME SAY….sorry, I forgot my manners.

As Truth said (what up dog!) we mostly on here to vent.I got involved because I had some questions that wanted answers to, and kinda like a survey I check various sources.

Dig it man, we happy, and most days we on here clowing. Fact is all of us could be married with three kids, including Diva. This place is in part fantasy.

But into every lie, there is truth…

By itsmorenamorena

November 6, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

Oh how timely, Wise Diva

Buenas Dias a tod@s Let me answer the questions:

When it comes to approaching/dating your type, do you think you need more target practice? Um, yea.

Are you dating the type of people that show the most relationship potential? If so, how do you know? If you have demonstrative social skills, then you may have relationship potential. Unfortunately, I’ve had to lower the bar to that of late. Time to raise the bar, ya think? Honestly, I’m making an effort to open to different types than I may have paid any attention to in the past, but I can’t say it’s necessarily been more successful. I’m still, single….

How do you decide who to give the green light to and who to cross off your potential mate list in terms of character traits that would co-exist with yours? Funny enough, not having a passport nor the desire to get one has crossed a couple potentials off the list.

Do you clash with a particular type of person? Do you know which personality seems to complement you? Yes, since I don’t like to be told what to do, bossy controlling types that ALWAYS have “the answer” work my RESERVED nerve! Just shut the hell up sometimes. Through the dating process, I’m finding out what personalities traits complement me, but he should start with a sense of humor, intelligence and a sense of altruism.

Have you ever dated someone only to discover how incompatible your personalities were? What did you learn about yourself? Question of the weekend, that has spilled into the day — I realized over the weekend that I am simply not compatible with my latest person of interest. Yes, we may want the same things, but we are so far apart on how to get there, we can’t even get started. I’ve been pondering whether or not I should even bother anymore since the weekend. What have I learned? That I can no longer accept less for companionship.

When it comes to dating, do you prefer the type you need or the type you want? Better yet, do you know the difference?! Ideally, he’d be both, right?

Es mis dos centavos :)

By Jazzyone

November 6, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

2 I beg to differ. What my standards were in my 20’s are different than now at 40. For me its called evolution, growth, some get stuck and that is evident in the posts on some days.

My core standards Morals, beliefs, respect factor) haven’t changed but as Ive encounterred the world and people my standards may have grown, or evolved or changed to a degree. Despreate?? Surely you jest!! I am far from desperate baybeh..trust it…you can’t be serious…

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

GaMan LOL @ he does need to brush up his skill level abit…but in time(No Pun Intended) he will get better…. We’ll see.

Truth are you still on the Raiders short bus?…come on dude! Perry’s movie is one to see. But to compare the acting skills American Ganster is better.

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this

@AnonEver thought about taking your own vacation? Instead of waiting around for someone to TAKE you?? Yes I have. I even buy flowers for myself too. I understand what you’re saying and yes we shouldn’t wait around for someone to do for us and just because you’re alone dosen’t mean we have to deprive ourselves of places and things to do. I remember the first time I went to a function by myself. I was afraid but I pulled it off and I met some really nice people there. One of the best times I had in my life.

Cemeeli I love myself with some Anthony Hamilton

By Daily Lurker

November 6, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

By SexyCool

November 6, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

my question for bella is this…exactly what kind of man will you be dating now? what qualities will you look for?…because if you are looking for the opposite of what you described as having been attraced to in the past…the man that you seek seems to be a weak, dispassionate pushover…

*SexyCool Wise Diva posted this topic not Bella, so do you feel differently about the topic now?

By Foots

November 6, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

Anna Yes, AAA is married. Everything must be perfect in that marriage for her to come on here telling everyone else how they are lonely, wrong, unhappy, dummies, gold-diggers, etc. I pray that it remains that perfect; I know that her husband loves the negativity in her spirit and that that spirit is the key to a long-lasting relationship. But even fairy tales can come to an end, just ask Juanita Bynum and Terry McMillan. Pride goeth before the fall.

By Jazzyone

November 6, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

Hotlanta* seems you may be attracting the type cast of the man you don’t want??why is that??

Remember AAA is the one that has the man that every woman wants that stays up in the clubs but doen’t get down with other women who’s dad is a therapist….LOL

By aaa

November 6, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

I am happily married, under the age of 30. I can judge who I like to judge, this is a open forum,(meaning express your opinions) OLD LADIES: dont hate, you missed out the chance to find a man at a younger age, because you were shallow. @DAN, I am speaking of single people not married ones. Your a freak. This is not fantasy, this is life.

By aaa

November 6, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this

Foots dont hate, you wish you were married. Its not that hard. Look inside and not outside. Please I dont want your prayer on my relationship, there is no telling where your mindset is

By SexyCool

November 6, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

same question…in fact…since i know wise personally…i cannot imagine what kind of man would fit her new requirements…

By DuShawn

November 6, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

I’ve never compromised or lowered my standards when it came to dating…..Hell, I never even had standards. I dated whomever I was attracted to. I wasn’t one to implement certain criteria, that if not met by a potential candidate they would no longer be considered. I didn’t give a dayum about a female’s level of education, how many kids she had, credit score, criminal record or none of that. If she was fine and elegant enough to catch my eye and her personality and spirit were positive enough to keep my attention, we could roll. I think I’m a special case. I’m equally as comfortable sitting on an egg crate in the hood next to the liquor store as I am behind a podium in a boardroom conducting a power point presentation. Consequently, the women that I’m typically attracted to run the entire gamut.

By The Truth

November 6, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

AAA what you have today can be gone tomorrow. Watch which pedestal you place yourself on. Life is an incredibly long race and because you came out the gates ahead of some other woman doesn’t mean its over. My .02

We are in a time of change folks. The old rules don’t apply anymore. Marriage is not the best case for everyone and being single isn’t bad at all. The main thing is being happy where you are today, at this moment.

In conclusion, I am happy as hell now and will not change to being unhappy to accommodate a mate.

Some of you ladies (you know who) will now feel a warm sensation like love in a blanket covering you. Thats from me. Smooches.

The Truth now clutches his beads and exits thru the smoke wearing a bright azzed yellow robe with no underwear underneath and chanting buddhist prayers.

By aaa

November 6, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

Jazzyone Thats right, thats why your single..LOL

By Wise Diva

November 6, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

@ For real..that’s tough to summarize, we have power struggles, some of them extremely unnecessary (on my part too), and it just gets tiring and stressful.

When you have strong-will people dating each other, sometimes its like a clash of the titans, and the “current dating targets” have this idea that compromise in ANY form is a serious punk move that makes you appear weak. Now, when you have a touch of narcissism (both of us), a pinch of I don’t care, aloof attitude (both of us), it turns into something way too intense. Then it comes down to, do we like each other enough to work through this?

By aaa

November 6, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

* Jazzyone* Thanks for making me a star, I am soo glad you remembered me. Thanks:) I know I stay on someones mind:)

By Dan

November 6, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

@AAA

That’s what your wife said….

By SexyCool

November 6, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

wise…please forgive my misdirected question…

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

@2C You’ve got to be kidding. I’ll compromise while in a relationship but I won’t settle to be in a relationship. I’ll compromise when it comes to choosing what to eat or entertainment but I won’t settle for bozo the clown when I can have Hercules…

By Anna

November 6, 2007 11:40 AM | Link to this

aaa, yeah you can judge who you like, but it doesn’t make it ok, you discredit your own comments, so you come off just sounding really unhappy. People who are so busy telling others how to live are not happy. They are miserable, and misery loves company.

By 2CPTG©

November 6, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this

Jazzy, methinks you read it wrong……..lower your standards, or compromise your standards, are the operative word(s) here.

If I like intelligent females, regardless of their educational pedigree (yeah Du, I’d take the G.E.D. recipient), I’m not going to go out and seek a female who can barely put together a coherent sentence; I’m not going to dumb-down just to get with you…..and to say I got a girl…..to me, that reeks of desperateness. And you kinda agreed with me without verbalizing it; if you’ve matured and grown from what you were in your 20’s, and your oulook on life has matured as well, surely you aren’t going to seek out the same things you did when you were 20…right? and if you revert back to the things you’ve outgrown, then what does that say?

By Dan

November 6, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this

To Everyone Else

I’m sorry but I had to do it. Judgemental people that say things anonymously irk me.

@WD, everyone sorry about that.

By Jazzyone

November 6, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this

AAA yep i’m hating sure am..I want to be you…LOL SPED!!!

By lady j

November 6, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

great point me 2…there is a huge difference…

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

@TruthIn conclusion, I am happy as hell now and will not change to being unhappy to accommodate a mate. I especially cosign that and your whole post wink wink and chocolate whipped creme smooches to you

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

November 6, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this

Staceye here is your citation for using to many “OOOOOOO” in a post

Riiiiiipppppp

please pay the lady at the front

By aaa

November 6, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

Like I said, I am very happy. I am very blessed to be where I am today. But I get tired of Women, Single, playing themselves. Women in this city are closed minded. There are too many Men and not enough Women, because, they are soo worried about money, what they have to offer, what they can do for me, why? Do for yourself, As they say “God Bless the Child that has Its Own” Not a Dependent. Build a better Self esteem for yourself(Women)

By AmazonRed

November 6, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

LOL. It tickles me when the trolls get on the board and announce “no wonder you’re still single” like it’s some sort of disease.

Liking yourself means being happy with who you are whether you are with someone or not. The end goal in my life is not to be married, it’s always to be happy. You come in this world alone, you leave this world alone. If you are unhappy with who you are your not going to be too successful in the relationship game anyway.

In addition, it’s nice that everyone has an opinion and advice about why folks are the way they are. But remember, in life and love, one size does not fit all. I view 99% of these rants with a grain of salt. We don’t know each other. We’ll never know each other. And you’ll never know anyone seeing only one dimenision they display on here.

By Rell.com

November 6, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

@jazzy1…SPED…A TOS CLASSIC…lol

@AAA…bench check yourself, what value are you adding today with your post..get your mind right…stoopid f******* king bench

By Jazzyone

November 6, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

aaa yep I tend to rememeber the foolish it helps me when Im trying to teach these kids about self esteem and healthy dose of reality so they don’t grow up to be complete idiots.. LOL…

Me single?? am I..LOL…

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

me 2 OK @ your 11:39 post. I believe you have a healthy realtionship Or may be well off to one. And let that be. Anthony has alot to say and he says well.

By 2CPTG©

November 6, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

ummmm, Purple Lace……duh, of course you compromise while in a relationship, you just don’t compromise to obtain a relationship! maybe you didn’t state your original question properly……

By Page1908

November 6, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

Thanks, Truth! So far, so good.

Cemeeli…lol. Like I always say…”I’m just sayin’”. People kill me thinking that they are the ones settling for someone else.

I don’t think that compromising and settling are the same things. You can compromise, I believe, without settling. I guess the two can be different depending on each of our own experiences.

I’m surprised LL has not come out of Lurksville to get on his soap box about how women in “The A” (lol, that was for you, Tazzee) all want to date the same 10 dudes who are over 6 feet tall, etc. LL you are long overdue for your soap box, so come on…lol looking around

Regarding sports talk: Ok, I am not into football, but of course, I am a HUGE basketball fan. Since it is known that the Hawks suck, I definitely will be watching the SUNS give the Hawks a beat down tomorrow night….lol

By Jazzyone

November 6, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this

2can gotcha! thanks for the response. *aaa Have a nice day you aren’t a match for me or anyone else on this blog..so imma’ just go ahead and go past your posts..since you seem to be here to seek attention, first you post in small print then when no one responds you post in all caps…you are a funny lil thing so have a nice day ya! Your misery is showing lil girl….LMAOFF!!!

By Staceye

November 6, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

English Tutor my humble apologies…I was not up on the MIA days.

Truth The Raiders could beat the Steelers and Patriots anytime they want to. They just don’t want to that’s so far fetched…that it’s cute and funny! LOL

aaa There is no way a woman should be 35 and over and single. Never Though I am not 35 yet…I see nothing worng with being single. Some people choose single-life because they do not want the drama and crap of a relationship. I can personally feel that. NOT EVERY WOMAN IS SITITNG AROUND WITH A WEDDING GOWN AND NIKES ON SO SHE CAN MAKE THE MAD DASH TO THE ALTER!

Anon funny you should mention Jamaica…I headed there in 2 days fro a quick get away. Then 3 weeks later to Puerto Rico for my Birthday…Go Sags!!!

Truth nam yo ho rangue kuo! LOL

By Wise Diva

November 6, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

No problem SexyCool, I actually missed your initial comment/question. But my “new target”, well, I think I still need/want a strong man, but his idea of strength, and what makes a man isn’t solely based on his domination over me. I am already slighty anti-submissive (I am working on that), so when a man, right out of the gate sees that as something he wants to change through outright negativity, I just check out. Basically, I want more maturity, less of a raging dominator, I want a loving partner, not a father. At the same time, I still have some growing up to do, as well, and pitching diva fits, just to prove a point, has no place in a relationship. Live and learn.

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

2C I asked for others opionin on compromise and settle since some people tend to compromise their better judgement and enter a relationship for the sake of being in one and settle for anything that person tells them. I know I have.

By SexyLeggs

November 6, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this

Pig Latin…LOL

Jazzyone thank you!

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

ATTENTION MIA’s Blogworld - November 6, 2007 is National Come on Outta Lurkesville Ga. day!

Page1908 - I follow you! It’s all relative.

By Page1908

November 6, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

Me2, that’s a nice point, and all, but can you REALLY get Hercules instead of Bozo the Clown? Just askin’…

By For Real

November 6, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this

Wise Ahhh I was in a relationship like that a few years ago so I understand. We can’t or cannot even speak on the phone now without it ending in you are going to do it my way over tones. I don’t or do not think you need to change your target bc if you do, you will have to change who you are in some way. I believe you just haven’t found a guy that can give you the back -n- forth that you crave and the confidence that the guy has your best interest at heart. My tells me to this day that I was the only that she has met that knows how to handle her. You just need to find the guy that knows how to handle you but you got to trust him first.

By SexyCool

November 6, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

love the answer…see your point…your personal growth is evident…my admiration…

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

@Cemeeli I’m not in a relationship, just exit one and I came to realise the one thing that I thought I wanted in my life is not what I needed in my life right now, It’s not my season just yet and I’m alright with it. Right now I’m going to enjoy the heck out of my single life and I know that there’s certianly nothing wrong with being single aaa and anon I do know one thing I have plenty of time on my hands to give back to the community along with my pals at helping hand and other organizations I’m a member of.

By DuShawn

November 6, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this

2CPTG I agree with you. I would never “dumb down”, Imma be myself. However, I wouldn’t intentionally flex my intellect to the point that the chick feels out of place, or not good enough. When I dated hood females, I enjoyed broadening their horizons, hippin them to classy shyt, and encouraging them to accomplish their dreams. However, sometimes I desired the more polished, educated chick to have stimulating conversations about current events or philosophical viewpoints. My challenge has always been to find both of those women in one.

By Tazzee

November 6, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this

What’s up folks!!!

Page LOL, how did you know I was lurking. Oh and word on the street is, the Hawks have been good this year. At least that’s what the people say…

SexyCool Hey Lady! your Wise/Bella blunder tickled the hell out of me! Weren’t you the one that couldn’t understand how folks kept getting them mixed up? LOL, I’m over here giggling just a little bit

GO FALCONS!!! That was for you The False for talking about my team! hmmm, let’s see if that comes out right

I’m over 35, single and very happy. I’m with you ARed - folks kill me acting as if marriage is the be all to end all.

Now let me go check out Wise’s questions so I can actually say something about the topic…

By 2CPTG©

November 6, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

Me 2, ok, let’s break this down…..for all practical purposes, let’s say you’re single; if you look at a dude whom you otherwise would not pay any attention to, what would that be? compromising? settling?

if you say compromising, then wouldn’t that mean, you’re relaxing a standard that you already had in place, prior to giving dude a second look? Can’t the two words be used interchangebly here?

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 12:16 PM | Link to this

ROTFLMBO @ Page1908 Remebering the scene off of nutty professor hercules hercules!

By Page1908

November 6, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

LOL Tazzee! Girl, the Hawks are, and continue to be, one of the worse teams in NBA. But, I guess there is always hope…lol. I knew you were in Lurksville, TX somewhere!

By Page1908

November 6, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

LOL Me2…dang, I forgot all about that! LOL @ The Klumps!

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

November 6, 2007 12:27 PM | Link to this

HAHAHAHA the FALSE come on Truth i know you not gonna let that fly

By DuShawn

November 6, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

On second thought I have compromised and settled, temporarily, several times, just to get the azz. Only because they were super fine, I have tolerated some of the most bougiest, arrogant, Oreo type chicks as well as the hoodest, stupidest, no subject verb agreement females you ever saw. I new from the rip that a relationship beyond the physical would never develop, but I would entertain them with one goal in mind. Hopefully, I could get the azz before my patience ran out. That was my mind set as a younger man.

By lady j

November 6, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

Hey Tazzee!

By SexyCool

November 6, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

yeah, taz…i was one of the ones who pointed to the difference in writing styles…

oddly, today’s topic read more like something that bella would come up with than wise…that is, until i read how she answered my question…

By Tazzee

November 6, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this

When it comes to approaching/dating your type, do you think you need more target practice? Honestly, I don’t think I have a ‘type’ per se - or maybe I’m just still working on that. But I do know I need more target practice in the area of dating (past the first date).

Are you dating the type of people that show the most relationship potential? If so, how do you know? I think I date the type of guys that show a lot of relationship potential, mainly because they are usually ready to enter into a relationship with me. I think I’m meeting guys that are prime for the picking - kinda like what Demi said the other day about the next woman he met that fits certain qualification being the one for life (hey Demi! ;-)) - the problem is me. I don’t think I’m ready for a relationship. I’m still enjoying playtime.

How do you decide who to give the green light to and who to cross off your potential mate list in terms of character traits that would co-exist with yours? If our conversations are exhausting, I usually cross them off the list. There are varying character traits that might cause this. I don’t have a checklist - I just watch things unfold and take it from there.

Do you clash with a particular type of person? Do you know which personality seems to complement you? I do know that I don’t get along with men that talk a lot. I like the ‘strong, silent type’ - the type that when they do say something, it means something. I guess its because I’m not much of a talker myself. I’ve been out with guys that just couldn’t enjoy silence. Also, when guys talk a lot I start blocking stuff out so if something meaningful comes out, I might miss it, LOL. But with the silent ones - when they say something I really listen and those are the types that are effective at putting me in my place. I know some of the female bloggers don’t like that term, LOL.

Have you ever dated someone only to discover how incompatible your personalities were? What did you learn about yourself? Not really in the recent past. Back in the day when I did it was because I was so determined to be in a relationship that I really tried to make things work - even if it was with the wrong man. I learned that I wanted the relationship more than the actual man.

When it comes to dating, do you prefer the type you need or the type you want? Better yet, do you know the difference?! what you want might make you cry, and what you need might pass you by if you don’t catch it. what you need might honestly turn out what you want to be if you just let it

And since I haven’t been really been blogging during the month of October - no fines allowed!

By Staceye

November 6, 2007 12:37 PM | Link to this

GA Man You are so foul man! LOL

By melo

November 6, 2007 12:38 PM | Link to this

Ugly men think that you might choose them because you think phune men are dogs-HotAtl Is this the hate you were talking about yesterday NCgrl? We might need the civil liberties union pple on the blog. Do those ”ugly” pple know they are ”ugly”,HotAtl?

By Tazzee

November 6, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

Ooops what you need ironically, will turn out what you want to be if you just let it

By The Truth

November 6, 2007 12:43 PM | Link to this

Tazzee because I love you I’m not going to reply to the name calling. LOL I will say no one in blogsville will throw it in your face if you “conveniently” become a cowboy fan. LOL

NEWS Flash The atlanta falcons have been scrapped. Their players will be shipped to real teams in the league, bolstering their practice squads. Coach will now run a day care service. Team headquarters will be converted to a truck stop. More news at 6.

And the pigeons, I mean Hawks. Looks like another long season. I must say I admire your courage for backing losing organizations. LOL

Where’s Beautiful come on out of Lurksville.

AAA and Anon you have us at a disadvantage. Because we have all been blogging so much we dam near know each others shoe sizes. Why don’t you take a moment to share your information with the group. I promise that whatever you say WILL be thrown up in your face whenever its convenient. LOL I would just like to know more about you 2 happy and well adjusted folks. Go.

By Jewel

November 6, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this

Is compromising and lowering your standards the same thing when it comes to dating?

Me 2 Is it a case of lowering one’s standards or simply growing, evolving, learning, changing, maturing? The things considered important are shaped by life experiences. No one should lower standards that relate to a person’s character. No one should lower standards that compromise the essence of who they are, just to please someone else. When compromising, I believe the rules are different between casually dating and being in a LTR. You are required to give more of yourself in a commitment. Casually dating? Both are in it to have a good time. Compromise only on where you want to go to have fun.

Just an aside comment to a previous post that I read. I do not believe the poster was saying that she needed a man to take her on vacation. If someone offers to take me on vacation, to dinner, a concert, museum, etc., etc., I do not expect to pay. The operative word is they offered. I did not ask. Otherwise yes, I will take myself on vacation. Have done it many times. Much like inviting someone to your house for dinner and you expect them to bring part of the meal. I know. I have learned since moving here that one is expected to bring a dish. However, if I extend an offer I am prepared to foot the bill without expecting the other person to contribute. That’s how I was raised.

By Brent

November 6, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this

AAA Your clueless commentary is not well reasoned, accurate, or insightful. Put up or shut up.

By Beautiful

November 6, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this

lurkin’ 2day. hello er’body!

By Tazzee

November 6, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

The Truth LOL, I’m will not tell a lie - when that new stadium is built I am going to try to make it to at least one game. Other than that I’m sticking with my Falcons! Ride or Die baby, ride or die!!!

Hey Lady J

What’s up Jewel? - making any strides on that time issue? I was thinking about you the other day when my friend was running late to pick me up from the airport, LOL.

By Beautiful

November 6, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this

Hey Truth! behind in my studies (law student). i miss y’all. can’t play 2day. ;)

By Alvin

November 6, 2007 1:00 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli last relationship ended due to job promotion…Us two freaks couldn’t do LDR, hehehehe…My son is here so, it didn’t work out..I would have move to Canada and made big, LOL

Now, I treating lady friends to strip clubs, going to cool laid back house parties, and scheming up some crazy love making session this winter, for the next cutie I am with…

*New Cutie: *Alvin what are those things in front of the fireplace?

Me: Inner thighs warmers, made for women by a man

New Cutie WTH?!?!

Me: Come, allow me to show you how they work.

NC (LOL) is now bucking and squirting for no appearance reason at all

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 1:01 PM | Link to this

@2Cif you look at a dude whom you otherwise would not pay any attention to, what would that be? I would be settling.

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 1:08 PM | Link to this

Jewel you nailed on the head. If I ask someone out I will foot the bill. I can’t for the sake of me understand how some people ask a person out and expect them to pay. Some things are just common sense.

By The Truth

November 6, 2007 1:11 PM | Link to this

Tazz we all understand why you’d want to “visit” the new stadium. Wink, wink. Once you see what a pro team really looks like the dodo’s are going to make you sick.

Beautiful do your thang girlie. I may need you oneday the way their locking bruh’s up nowadays. LOL

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 1:14 PM | Link to this

Hey Tazzee,GaMan, Beautiful, Jewel, melo you too, and everybody today Didn’t know i could get a response from the wise lurkers. Haven’t read some of you in weeks. Glad to read all of you.

Imma go ahead and co-sign with Ms. T. Hey lady ditto I’m still enjoying playtime…living my life cause it is GOLDEN!!!

By AmazonRed 2.0

November 6, 2007 1:16 PM | Link to this

Maybe it’s just me, but I thought this blog was to voice your preferences or what you would do in a certain situation if your way was the only way that goes.

I’ve never dated a short man, or a fat man, and I’d prefer it that way. All things considered. However, we all know in life you don’t always get your way and that you sometimes have to compromise. I don’t think anyone would truly turn down someone they really felt was right for them. But it’s also smart to put yourself in situation where you can meet the type of people you are naturally attracted too.

It’s just funny to see folks knock others preferences. If someone says they don’t want to date X, Y, or Z, why do you care? It just leaves more of the “real” (eyeroll) people out there for you to surround yourself with.

By DuShawn

November 6, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this

I believe as people mature their standards or what they are willing to except in a relationship tend to become more relaxed, or maybe realistic is a better word. I’ve known men that refused to get seriously involved with single mothers. As these fellas matured, their views changed. Similarly, I’ve met women that would not date a guy unless he had a great career and climbing to corporate ladder. As those same women have gotten older, now the dude just must have employment…..of any type. As long as he’s getting a W-2, he qualifies. I wouldn’t call it settling. I’m of the opinion that the reality or life has a way of making one reevaluate their expectations.

By lady j

November 6, 2007 1:20 PM | Link to this

GO Falcons all day everyday and damn NE!!!! LOLOL Now that is funny!!! GO COLTS AND STEELERS!!!

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 1:21 PM | Link to this

@ Alvin Inner Thigh Warmers…yous freaky!!! Is it time for a trip to see you sweetums? I think so. poor Lil Demi…

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

Dushawn 12:30 post spoken like a real player. Dayum shame some women are following the same suit nowadays. How many women do you think settle/compromised with you just to get hers?

By Jewel

November 6, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

HAH! on U.G.L.Y. People…U Gotta Love Yourself! LOL!

Hello Tazzee! How are you? I’m still improving. If we’re going somewhere and I’m not dressed when he gets to my house, I simply give him the remote. Amazing little tool to avoid an argument! LOL!

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this

Hey DuShawn Sort of off topic but if i get answers from any of the men today it may help me to understand /or not, about these non compromising men. So imma go out on the limb and ask.

These dudes that refused to get seriously involved with single mothers. What was their reasoning?

By Jazzyone

November 6, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this

DU ^5 You 1:18 post are my feelings on the subject and I agree whole heartedly…(is that a dayum word even?! LOL) Lik back int he day did I want to date a man with children? nope…will I date one now?? of course and so on…

By For Real

November 6, 2007 1:32 PM | Link to this

For Real now replacing all the mirrors in Truth house with fun house mirrors. Raiders ain’t got nothing..

P1908 The Hawks are going to put that thang on your Suns. Didn’t the Lakers blow them out???

Tazzee I got your back. Stay true.

By Bre

November 6, 2007 1:33 PM | Link to this

Dushawn1:18 post on point.

By lady j

November 6, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

great post Du…

By DuShawn

November 6, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

“How many women do you think settle/compromised with you just to get hers?” Me 2 At the risk of sounding arrogant, I don’t think any woman that I have ever dealt with would considered herself to have settled for me. I was not a woman’s compromise, I was her aspiration.

By SlimOne

November 6, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this

Question So you if and a person decided to ‘meet up’ somewhere, WHO foots the bill? Or is it a ‘we go dutch’ situation?

By Page1908

November 6, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this

LOL For Real! Man, whatever! The Hawks have NO answer for the Suns, or any other team, pretty much, in the West! Like I said, I’ll be the one at the game with the purple and orange afro wig and the Nash jersey on…don’t hate…lol mean muggin

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this

@ me2, I follow you on the ‘in wait’ and enjoying single life thing.

I must admit i have bent a little in a realtionship and it was for a wonderful growth. We compliment each others weaknesses. I can be very strong willed, stubborn and outspoken. But because he continued to probe me and he found my reasoning to be THAT way that i am. It came to a point where i trusted him more and relinguish some of my “steelwalls” then slowly and watchfully allowed him to dominate in SOME areas in our realtionship. And WHEW what a sweet breath of reality did i get. My standards are not as high anymore… for the better. I’m not knocking anyone’s standards cause we all have ‘em just maybe we can find a way to tweak the high standards and still not settle.

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 1:48 PM | Link to this

Dushawn that does sound very arrogant. But I won’t break your spirit cuz we both know that aint all true, LOL

By DuShawn

November 6, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli Some fools feel as if only a sucker would take on another man’s responsibility. Others realize that a true mother will always put her child first. Consequently, her time to focus on her new man and the relationship would be limited. That’s just a couple examples of the misguided logic I’ve heard from dudes over the years.

By Anon

November 6, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this

Ok Truth and others… here goes. I’ll tell you how I met the man of my dreams…..

I started looking at guys that I never would have given a second look at. I was getting older, and not too successful in the dating world. I have several male friends whom I adored, but I am not “attracted” to them. What I was attracted to was their personality. So I started looking at people and made some great observations of personalities.

The more I looked, the more I thought, I’m attracted to people who are enjoying life. All shapes, sizes and colors.

VERY long story short……I never dated black men and grew up in mostly white neighborhoods. Along came this black man, totally full of life, having a wonderful time, but taking care of responsibilities at the same time. He wasn’t a big partier, which I was at the time, but he was more into friends coming over and doing dinner, watching football on tv with friends, low-key kind of partying, etc.

I started hanging out with him and his friends, and we got to know each other and realized we had ALOT in common, the same goals, desires, etc..we both LOVE to travel and have had tons of talks of our travels. We have been on several trips together…….

Needless to say, we are now exclusive. Never in my life did I think I would end up with a black man. However, by changing what I was looking for, and opening my mind, I found my soulmate.

10 years ago, I would have never even looked his way………

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this

@ Slimone - My answer to that is; Be prepared to foot your own bill. Always be prepared in these situations. Usually the date I’m with will pay the bill. But i NEVER expect him to.

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this

Hey Slimeone I would say go dutch since you’re “meeting up” I guess…..It’s been a long time since I’ve “meet up” with someone though LOL

By John Law

November 6, 2007 1:56 PM | Link to this

Geesh! Some of you really need professional help. Consider approaching a potential mate as you would a job search. You don’t restrict yourself to one internet site, or avoid print media or networking. You never know what direction a good job will come from. It goes the same for a partner. While it’s ok to stay true to your “preferences,” its also true you don’t know from where love will bloom. It’s not about lowering your standards, it’s about giving yourself, not the other person, a chance to find love.

By Jewel

November 6, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this

SlimOne Be prepared to pay for your own entertainment. If he offers and insists, allow him to pay. A gentleman will do this for a lady. Get an understanding before you go, if you are unsure. It was a common practice for me to suggest paying for myself on a first date. Of course, the man always paid because he was honored to be in my fabulous presence. LOL! By offering, I did not feel guilty if I realized during the course of the evening he would not get a second date. For him, it took the pressure off when he realized he wasn’t getting the cookie. LOL! Really, it depends on the level of the relationship. When it comes to marriage or a LTR, either person should pay. No one is tallying “who pays for what” in such cases.

By Page1908

November 6, 2007 2:00 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Du.

SlimOne- We all were raised differently when it comes to who pays for the date or whatever, so, to me, I would just ask the person who is gonna pay for it, so that way there are no surprises.

By For Real

November 6, 2007 2:00 PM | Link to this

For Real now placing cement glue inside of orange afro wig and sewing up the holes in Nash jersey.

Hawk are going to bury the Suns. Nash will not be able to guard Law. They ain’t calling the flopping BS that Nash does this year. Watch out for Horford and Smith is gonna Superman Stoudemire.

I’ll be there as well.

By Willie Dynamite

November 6, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this

What up blogsville-

Haven’t we all compromised at some point. I wouldn’t stoop to settling but your definitions can change over time. Liek someone else said you go from wanting a brother with a fast track corp job to just wanting a brother with a good job. That’s not settling that’s mental growth.

As for personality types, Some bruhs just look for challenges. i had a thing some years back for the type A personalities. It was just the challenge of breaking a bytch if you know what I mean. I looked at the Type A personality as being a bia bia and the thrill of cracking that shell turned me on.
Du That 12:14 was on point. I truly understand the search for that Corporate/hood all wrapped in one. After all that is me in a nutshell.

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 2:04 PM | Link to this

Thanks DuShawn glad you could give me a more explanation on the logic of this way of thinking. Also, growth and maturity most def play a role in filter the foolish thinking where these guys are really being an azzhole. I have a feeling some of those same dudes where raised by single moms. I could be wrong but you know…

By Jazzyone

November 6, 2007 2:04 PM | Link to this

Slim always be prepared to foot the bill that wayt here won’t be any confusion if you have to one day.

By DuShawn

November 6, 2007 2:04 PM | Link to this

Me 2 In retrospect, I guess a lot of them did settle and comprise. They settled for that mistreatment in hopes on being The One and in some cases compromised their morality to please me.

By Jewel

November 6, 2007 2:04 PM | Link to this

Dushawn Thanks for extrapolating what I stated in my first post. Having realistic standards is key.

By Foots

November 6, 2007 2:05 PM | Link to this

SlimOne It depends… I’ve been in that situation many times. It’s not an “official date”, but I know that we are getting together because he wants to spend some time with me. I make it a point to eat VERY light. In those cases, we play “Wallet Duel”, meaning when the check comes and he goes for his wallet, I whip out mine, with the full intent to pay for at least my part. The vast majority of the time, he does offer to cover the whole check. I then offer to cover the tip. Sometimes, I get taken up on that offer, but not usually. If he covers the whole check on a “hang out” meeting, I will offer to get it the next time. He usually says okay to that, but when the time comes, he nearly breaks his dayum wrist to get his wallet out before I do at the next outing.

I only had one man get offended about “Wallet Duel” on an official date and that was the dude I spoke of yesterday. He told me flat out “I am the man and I will pay for both of us. If I couldn’t afford to take you out, we would be at home.”

By SlimOne

November 6, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli, me 2, Jewel I was figuring that it would be more of a ‘be prepared to foot own bill’ deal. However, the ‘meeting’ was initiated by the other party. So that’s where some confusion was coming in.

Fellas what do u think?

By Wise Diva

November 6, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this

Anon, wow, there are great lessons, in your experience. Thank you for sharing that!

By Foots

November 6, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

Anon Oh, so you’re talking about being open minded with regards to race?? It seems like you found someone with whom you were compatible with, same goals, same desires, same love of travel. You were looking for what everyone else was looking for, but you happened to find it first. That’s wonderful, like a fairy tale ending almost.

Would you have married him if he was a good person, but your goals and desires were misaligned, or if he had a great personality but you two had nothing in common? Are you attracted to him physically?

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

Anon do you feel justified by letting us know you’re with a black man? He’s a man doesn’t matter what shade his skin maybe. White woman make me sick when they say they have a black man like that’s suppose to mean something. You may not realise this but you’re making it sound as if he sould be happy you’re with him as if being with a white woman is the best thing that can happen to a man.

By SlimOne

November 6, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

Page1908 I would probably much rather just be prepared to pay for my own rather than ask. That question could come off the wrong way to someone you’re just getting to know. Plus like Jewel said, I won’t feel bad if we’re not feeling each other’s chemistry. I’d sure hate to get served a summons for court all for a chick-fil-a sandwich and a large lemonade.

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

Slime0ne most men use that to throw a woman off only to protect his pocket. Take it for what it is a “meet up” and not a date. It’s all about protecting one’s interest.

By 2CPTG©

November 6, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

here it comes!

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

me2 get out of my head.

By 2CPTG©

November 6, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this

is it just me, or does me 2 read like she kinda salty with the menfolk?

By Jewel

November 6, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this

Jewel scrolls up to see what she missed by not reading Anon’s looonng post…

By DuShawn

November 6, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this

For all the fellas looking for love, never underestimate the value of the back alleys and crack houses. You could find a diamond in the rough. Clean her up, get her hands and feet done, some dental work, rehab and get her weight up…you can rebuild you a Beyonce…lol That’s if you’re up to her standards.

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 2:28 PM | Link to this

AnonAnother thing when you said you lower your standard did that mean you were lowering your standards to date a black man? So are you saying for a white woman to date/marry a black man she’s lowering her standards? help me understand this Anon

By Jazzyone

November 6, 2007 2:28 PM | Link to this

uh oh here it comes….

Anon glad you found someone to make ya happy..

By lady j

November 6, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this

this is an informative forum today not fun…Great Blog Day!:)

By For Real

November 6, 2007 2:31 PM | Link to this

Slim: Hey I’m glad we came out tonight.

Dude: Me too. I had a great time and nice choice on this restaurant

Slim: I had great time as well. I have been look at this restaurant for a while now and I thought it would be a great place to eat and talk.

Dude: Well I hope that I am not being to forward but I hope to have a second first date with you.

Slim: Awwwwww that’s cute I think I can handle that.

Dude: Cool I’m gonna plan something nice

Waitress: Here you go sir (handing Dude the check)

Dude: Thank you. Let me see I had the water, cheese sticks, oh hell naw they charge for chip & salsa. Slim you had everything else

Slim: WTF!!! Mitty-Ficky you ate half my sandwich and tasted the hell out of my Sex on Beach.

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

2C Explain yourself please.

Dushawn I wanna puke!!

By For Real

November 6, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

I didn’t read where A-Nun said that she was white. I read she lived next to abc.

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

Anon Don’t you think you hear you mama calling you?…Lol

By 2CPTG©

November 6, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

Me 2, I’m just sayin’ Ma….you sounding kinda bitter in your posts….I did read earlier where you’re just coming out of something, maybe that may be affecting your view on the fellas right; I’m just saying, may not be true, but that’s the vibe I’m gettin…..’specially that comment to Slim, bout men trynna protect their wallet…..again, I may be off base.

But I am diggin’ what you’re sayin to Anon……I’mma sit that one out, though, cause I know my fingers will have me akkin’ a fool.

By DuShawn

November 6, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this

For Real you clownin…..lol

By SlimOne

November 6, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

For Real You got me cracking up out loud. I needed that laugh but I should’ve known it was coming.

By Staceye

November 6, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

Jewel & Me 2 I agree that if a guy offers to take you somewhere..he should foot the bill. However, not everybody has home training…so my mami taught me not to order or ask for anything I can not pay for myself just in case. A sista’ will no be bustin’ suds ‘cause old dude is either, broke, cheap or classless. I think it’s the gentleman thing to do, pay. But never assume that guy is a gentleman or you might get stuck! Example: when I first moved here, I met this guy. he invited me out to D&B. Then He ordered just a beer and I ordered an entree and one drink. So at the end of the date he goes, “we are gonna have to make a run for it…I only got enough money to pay for my beer”! Needless to say I pull out my card and paid the bill and took his beer money…and never called him again. He kept calling me. It was nuts. This was our first and last date. How the heck can you invite me out and you are broke? UGH

Jewel, your are right…just give the man a remote and he is calm. All he needs is a beer and he will be as calm as a breast-fed baby! LOL

Slimone when a blind date occurs, I plan to go dutch..unless he offers. he then gets cool points in my book.

By DuShawn

November 6, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this

2CPTG I agree with your assessment of M2. Imma change her name to You Can Hate.. Me 2

By Foots

November 6, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this

Anon Re-reading your post, it doesn’t sound to me like you lowered your standards at all OR settled, like you advised everyone else to do. In your story, it sounds like you DID get what you were looking for and more, except for your first choice in skin color. So why are you so hard on other single women who would like to find what THEY are looking for?

By Tazzee

November 6, 2007 2:51 PM | Link to this

For Real LOL on your 2:37 - I was thinking the same thing.

By Alvin

November 6, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli in truth, single men are selfish, we want it to be all about ME/US…A single mother with a child can’t do that, her child will always came first and you second. Trust me Du, in the black community you get very little respect for raising child that’s not yours…Li’Demi isn’t mine, so I know first what it’s like. My family was pss, so I told them, my funeral or yours we’ll see each other…B-ishes!!! *With all that anger out of the way…Now that I’ve Li’Demi, I understand what single mom goes through. Single moms understand better than anyone, for a single dude with or without children to love another man seed, speak volumes of his character. Those single moms, who are handling their biz, will love you like no other…watch her take care of the home, kids and YOU…like a porn star..!! LOL

By For Real

November 6, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this

Continuation from the restaurant……..

Slim: Yo broke azz is gonna pay for half of the sandwich and half of the drank!

Dude: Here is my money (slamming $7.00 down on the table) oh and here is a 15% tip throwing $1.05 at Slim. I’m outta here… (Dude walking off like George Jefferson slips on some baby powder and bust his head to the white meat)

Slim calmly walks over to where Dude is laying on the floor squats over his face and farts!!!

Slim: That’s my half for the chip & salsa bytch!!!!

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this

2C I’m not jaded just giving my POV

By Demi

November 6, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

Anon I outta blog slap yo a$$…why did you put the story out there first?!?!?!?

Now I FEEL where you’re coming from!!!

Great (dry humping air) Post!!!!

LOL

Alvin: she is going to kill your little a$$

By Jewel

November 6, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this

**FOR REALLLLLLLL I AM IN TEARS! LOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!!!

By Foots

November 6, 2007 3:02 PM | Link to this

For Real You are one silly dude! LOLOLOL!!!

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 3:06 PM | Link to this

LOL Du and 2C you just can’t handle the truth. Men like you think you’re the ish but don’t realize that your ish stinks. How bout take a double dose of magnesium citrate cuz you’re full of ish…

Everything you’ve learned you learned from a female. Stop giving yourself all the credit. Up here reading like you the boom digidy(sp) I bet you still sporting a jerry curl LOL

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

Auuuwwww Alvin that is great! Taking care of Lil D like he’s your own. You’ve got me all smiles over here talking about the HONORS of being a single mom taking care of business. And you too single dad, THAT is so sweet.

You keep up the good work with lil Demi.

WLB hand me some tissues and a some flowers from the Gift Shop to give to Alvin.

Cemeeli taking notes: Alvin is a great single dad and knows a little about leg warmers…LOL!!!*

By Demi

November 6, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

2CPTG© Thats the problem with SOME of these black women…Bitter a*******es

Anon Don’t even waste you F/K’n time explaining ish…SOME women think they’re all that.

Thank you for the post…

By Alvin

November 6, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

2CPTG© Thats the problem with SOME of these black women…Bitter a*******es

Anon Don’t even waste you F/K’n time explaining ish…SOME women think they’re all that.

Thank you for the post…

By Staceye

November 6, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

For Real you are buggin’! LMFAO

By Alvin

November 6, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

2CPTG© Thats the problem with SOME of these black women…Bitter a*******es

Anon Don’t even waste you F/K’n time explaining ish…SOME women think they’re all that.

Thank you for that post…

By 2CPTG©

November 6, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this

that’s what’s up, Me 2…..

shout out to all the lurkers out there…….I know some days ya dying laughin’ and others, you’re scratchin ya head………Kori, where you at? I let you hit the blunt, now I ain’t seen ya azz no mo……boy, I tell ya…..my folks, my folks….but I luv ya all the same!

By SlimOne

November 6, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this

Slim: Ewwwww, that sounded like a wet one.

By The Truth

November 6, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this

Anon I gotta do this so I apologize up front. Are you overweight? You don’t have to answer but I already know the answer based on yesterdays posts.

For Real check the burnt rubber in texas dude. Tazzee is jumping ship the moment that new stadium opens. I advise you to do the same. Abandon those Fakons while you have a chance.

If you invite someone out you pay period. Anything less is simply bytches. A female friend took me out to lunch yesterday and we had a great time. Its a nice gesture for the ladies too.

By Jewel

November 6, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this

LOL Stacey. As teenagers, my mother made sure my sister and I had enough money for our meal AND .25 (Yeah, when payphones existed.) to call home if we needed a ride. She said, “At the end of the night, you do not owe him anything!” I had a first and only date with this guy a few years back. We met at Ruby Tuesday’s. I told him I could pay for my meal, but he insisted on paying. We get our menus and he says he’s not that hungry and suggested I order an appetizer. I think I ordered chicken fingers. Of course, his “not hungry” behind ate half. I’m sitting there thinking, “never again.” The idiot tried to kiss me after he walked me to my car. I gave him a nice church hug. The point is, do not offer if you cannot afford to pay.

By Alvin

November 6, 2007 3:17 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli it’s nothing…her was born dead and his dad walked out on him…I was born dead and my dad walked out on me…it’s no biggie

By melo

November 6, 2007 3:18 PM | Link to this

I agree that if a guy offers to take you somewhere..he should foot the bill. What if u offer to take him out,Staceye Do u offer to pay?

By aaa

November 6, 2007 3:18 PM | Link to this

ALL THESE EVER SO HAPPY SINGLE WOMEN CHASING AFTER SOMEONE ELSE’S MAN. A MAN DOESNT SUCCEED WITHOUT A WOMAN NEXT TO HIM. FOOLS. SO FOR ALL THESE “I AM SOO HAPPY BEING SINGLE” WHY ARE YOU LOOKING FOR A MAN TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR BROKE A*!!! LIKE I SAID FAKE A* SINGLE WOMEN WHO ARE LOOKING FOR A MAN

By 2CPTG©

November 6, 2007 3:19 PM | Link to this

Wait a minute, Me 2, I was respecting of your difference of opinion; Not one time did I say that my boo-boo didn’t stink, or that I think I’m the shyt!

Don’t start nuttin, and it won’t be nuttin….

By DuShawn

November 6, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this

Me 2 you called me right out. That’s exactly the type of dude I am. By the way, how did you know I have a Jerri Curl. I thought I turned my dayum Web Cam off…lol

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 3:25 PM | Link to this

LOL2C I’m just having a little fun witcha! You’re alright in my book.

Demi props to you and much success, Imma let 3:10 post slide.

By Jazzyone

November 6, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

lives next to abc and aaa…LOL Holla ya…off to the races…..

By aaa

November 6, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

ANON HAS A LOT OF HATERS!!! A WOMAN FOUND LOVE AND THESE UGLY FOLKS ARE STILL HATING. THATS WHY THEY ARE CHASING AFTER OTHER WOMEN’S MEN. I MUST ASK, HOW MANY OF THE WOMEN WERE DUMPED BY A MAN BECAUSE HE WNET BACK TO HIS OLD LADY? I AM SURE EVERY OLD AZZ WOMAN ON THIS BLOG. EVEN THE MEN ARE HATING, DAMN!!! ARE YOU GAY? WHY HATE ON A WOMAN AND THEIR RELATIONSHIP. GEEZ, BLACK PEOPLE BE EDUCATED..

By The Truth

November 6, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this

AAA your little puddy isn’t the magic elixir. A dude can do just fine with you. Where do you get this ish from anyway? Can I say splurge on some anger management sessions? The women of blogsville haven’t tried to take your man hun. LOL

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this

Truth I gotta say this… Are you really SERIOUS about them Laides of a team out there in Oakland? Are you really serious?

By SexyLeggs

November 6, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

Just curious AAA, who on here is chasing after someone else’s man? The only blogger on here saying someone’s chasing after their man is YOU. You afraid and mad as something or someone. Anon redeemed herself, but you’re very angry. Now, before you go off on a rant on me just let me let you know that I will not be running after you with critical posts. Post on if you’d like, but you will not get a rise after me. I’m merely asking a heartfelt question.

By Rell.com

November 6, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

@anon…i am not feeling your story on the black man…seems to me that you were an undesirable in your own community so you figured you would settle and find a black man….typical of white southern trash….chick you need to guard your words from now on…because if anyone settle it would be the brother….i mean really…but that capt sav ho power is mofo

By For Real

November 6, 2007 3:33 PM | Link to this

Pastor: Now we will bow our heads for silent prayer.

aaa: LAWD THANK YOU FOR MY….

Pastor: GOT DAMIT AAA I SAID SILENT PRAYER!!!

Congregation: AMEN!!!!!

By Alvin

November 6, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

He was

And Dayum aaa I would like to know the meaning of your name.

By Rell.com

November 6, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

@aaa..killyoself bench….that anon is a lil disrespectful with her whole settling on a black man…what part of the game is that….i am not feeling that…and you need to come out of hiding you dayum juvie

By The Truth

November 6, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

Similac hell naws my simi didn’t just turn on me like that. The crackling you here is my heart breaking in pieces.

By lady j

November 6, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

o.m.g. rell and funny jazzy…

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

Truth baaby i’m just saying darling…your silver and blacks and doing nothing. And let’s not add they havn’t been doing a thing in a while. I wuv you though…

Come mer and let me give you a hug and feed you a collaboration of a-la-Cemeeli-carte’ chocolate fondue …

By Foots

November 6, 2007 3:50 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs/Truth AAA did mention the other day about women trying to meet her man in the club, and then it gets brought up again today. ????

Oh, yeah, Anon did tell us all to lower our standards, she even said that she did that herself, i.e. Before I loosened/lowered my standards, I wanted the perfect person. They aren’t out there, which is how she ended up giving a black man a chance. A man who sounds wonderful by anyone’s standards. So how DID she lower her standards with him? I’m not so sure that’s redemption. Maybe I’m reading that wrong…

By Alvin

November 6, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

me 2 thank you…I was upset..that’s all.

By SlimOne

November 6, 2007 3:52 PM | Link to this

DOES ANYONE KNOW WHO THIS CHICK IS ON V103 AND WHO HER BABY DADDY IS?

By 2CPTG©

November 6, 2007 3:54 PM | Link to this

ok, Me 2…..we cool then……

Kori, since I fired yo head up the other day, yo time to return the favor…..we can go over to abc’s crib, and watch the bootleg copy of American Gangster in the home theatre, that I just copped from Slim…..btw, Slim, my shyt dark as hell!

By Staceye

November 6, 2007 3:55 PM | Link to this

Melo yes, if I offer to take a guy out….I pay the bill if he allows me.

aaa I am single and NOT looking for a man period. So what are you saying…all single women are on the Man Hunt?

By Tazzee

November 6, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

The Truth c’mon now, if I wanted to jump ship I would have become a Texans fan by now - but I would rather take the 2hour flight to Atlanta to see my Falcons than the 45 minute drive to Reliant stadium. And trust me when I tell you - my visit to the Cowboys’ new stadium will be on our bye week. I don’t miss my Falcons for nothing…well, except for when I was stuck on a freaking plane for 8 hours on October 15th!

ride or die baby, ride or die!!!! 10-6, here we come!!!

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 4:00 PM | Link to this

@ Alvin…i’m still trying to understand your 3:17 post about born dead.

By Kori

November 6, 2007 4:01 PM | Link to this

2CPTG. I’m listening to Dre’s The Chronic at the crib. Where u at?(laughing)

By The Truth

November 6, 2007 4:01 PM | Link to this

The Truth is feeling real insecure about his relationship with Simi right about now. (Raises hands in the air crying why, why?) A little info. The silver and black are on the way back. J. Russel will bring us back. Who will bring the Facons back?

Rell AAA is a biggie. Ol boy wdropped his standards to be with her. He wouldn’t have accepted a black woman in her shape.

By aaa

November 6, 2007 4:02 PM | Link to this

AAA stands for Attractive, Articulate, Anticipated, Thats AAA. You couldnt get a date with my man* Sexyleggs* Gold Diggers arent his type. * RELL* You need a woman, like the ones on this Bloig, You are very Disrespectful. Love yourself

By SlimOne

November 6, 2007 4:04 PM | Link to this

2CPTG© Oh my bad dawg. You have to turn it over.

By Jewel

November 6, 2007 4:04 PM | Link to this

LOL! For Real I’M THINKING…WHO IS SHE YELLING AT?! lol! Those uncontrolled rants are not ladylike qualities.

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

@ Slim. Is V-103 doing a segment on “Find Your Baby Daddy” or something?

By lady j

November 6, 2007 4:08 PM | Link to this

good post foots……

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 6, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this

Alvin this is my suggestion for our triple a ‘friend’: An Active Anticipation of a realistic prospect kept alive by varying the search, utilizing the obvious while not automatically discounting the original. but i doubt its appreciated, or even understood. but it pretty much sums up my answer to the questions posed at the outset… this blog morphed into something almost intellectually obscene today (the guys were all nuttin up and even 2 threatened to unleash his fury.) too funny

By me 2(formally purple lace)

November 6, 2007 4:10 PM | Link to this

Foots you are reading it wrong darling, Anon said Before I loosened/lowered my standards, I wanted the perfect person. They aren’t out there. You have to look at ALL types of people, and have an open mind so in other words she lowered her standards and dated a black man. what is there not to understand in what she’s saying?

By Lurker

November 6, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this

And here I THOUGHT ANON merely meant she found her love and soulmate where she had not been looking; not that she had settled for a black man.

By Rell.com

November 6, 2007 4:12 PM | Link to this

@aaa…me!!!!…bench you are one coming up in this thing we got talking slick…so your arse gets checked…there is nothing to you….your just a lil JUMPOFF that made it good..and i dont need your advice on women…trust me…so this my last post direct to your funky c** arse…killyoself!!!!!

By Dr. Kym aka Relationship Expert

November 6, 2007 4:12 PM | Link to this

Tazzeee* Did you say 10-6? Girl how about 6-10? LMAO

By Wise Diva

November 6, 2007 4:13 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Kori, that’s hilarious.

aaa, I love to see new people join in, new voices can be great…but, I have to ask though, do you happen to have a translator for you? I am probably reading you out of sequence or something. I haven’t seen ANY of those A’s exemplified in your comments, but I am really trying to! Hope you stick around, I would like to know more about your experiences, if possible. so interesting

By The Truth

November 6, 2007 4:13 PM | Link to this

Tazz 10-6, I just spit up in my own mouth over that statement. Also, we all need a little time in our week that is purely wasted. Yours is obviously Facon time. Between the Facans and the Dodo’s there’s not a professional between them. LOL

Anon are you going to answer my question?

Lets all chip in and get AAA some couch sessions. Either I or For Real can play the psych. LOL Her man is prolly tippin and thats why she’s trippin. LMAO

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 4:15 PM | Link to this

Truth I’m over here trying to get the fondue pot ready and sending signals to you. But cha ain’t responding b/c you so fixed on them darn Raiders the ‘black’ is fogging our relationship. It ain’t me baby!!!

J.Russell can’t do it by his self…but I’m with Tazzee - Falcons ride or die!

By Rell.com

November 6, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

@LURKER….too much, yea you bleeding hearts type would think that, but as a black man i found her whole gump arse story to be disrespectful…read between the lines and wake the fluck up….smh

By Alvin

November 6, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

Before I loosened/lowered my standards, I wanted the perfect person. They aren’t out there, which is how she ended up giving a black man a chance. A man who sounds wonderful by anyone’s standards. So how DID she lower her standards with him? I’m not so sure that’s redemption. Maybe I’m reading that wrong…

She wanted all of the above but for him to be white…Think about it, for most women on here dating outside of your race is lowing your standards…how many women/men on here have met their soul mates who were of a different race or sizes. We’ve had too many,”So’n’So is prefect…BUT”, on this blog.

Trust, I’ve had my shares of,” You’ve a good brother, BUT…” and I am sure I have said a few myself, LOL.

This is not a race thing, but a human thing…and that’s all to it. It’s rare to find all that you want in a person, per your check list.

Hell is that what most of you are looking to date…A check list?

By Wise Diva

November 6, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

oh and FOOTS, I think you have been representing since you showed up on this forum, I meant to shout you out yesterday, but I love to read your comments chica!

By SexyCool

November 6, 2007 4:21 PM | Link to this

i have just two words for the under 30s who come onto the blog with their know-it-all-self righteous sounding criticisms of those older than themselves…keep living…

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

Truth i can’t loose you baby it’s to cold out here. You give the best {{{hugs}}}. For what it’s worth…I have friends that are Raiders fans…ugh…i meant…hmmm.

By Kori

November 6, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

BTW, 2CPTGI’ll go to abc’s, but only if we can watch American Gangster and Scarface back to back. Oh, but it can’t be tomorrow night. I’ve got to get to church for bible study.

Bless my heart

By SexyLeggs

November 6, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

Rell, don’t let aaa get you riled up…it’s not worth it. Just laugh it off and keep on trucking….

By Alvin

November 6, 2007 4:28 PM | Link to this

DasV (yea, its me) hey you, I am good…now, LOL

By The Truth

November 6, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this

J.Russell can’t do it by his self…but I’m with Tazzee - Falcons ride or die!

MLB we just lost 2 good women from the WLB. I’ll miss Simi and Tazz. Dam, why’d they have to pick the Facons to ride with. ( Tips his bottle to salute the lost ones)

I’m open minded but when I want love I can find a sista to get it from. My .02

Dr KYM even you are being generous at 6-10. Lets try 3-13. LOL You don’t have to go easy on them. Their Facon fans, they’re used to dissapointment. LOL

By Cemeeli

November 6, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

Alvin i put my check list away many, many moons ago. Buy doing so i broaden my horizons….

By Staceye

November 6, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

Alvin My friends call me Miss United Nations because I dated all, Black, White, Latino, Asian, Middle Eastern, etc. I do not consider it to be lowering my standards. In fact I see it as an upgrade possibilty. By not limiting my self to just Black or Latino..I can meet that many more guys. When I say upgrade..that means I get to learn more about his culture and I cosider that to be an upgrade in life. That is why I chose to date outside of my race as well as my own.

By Tazzee

November 6, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

Dr. Kym I’m an overly optimistic fan in my own little world here, LOL - but 10-6 is still possible…

The Truth while I think everyone has allowances for wasted time - I don’t. More importantly, I waste no $$$ - you know that saying one man’s trash is another one’s treasure. Well it may be a waste of your time to watch the Falcons (I’m sure it’s a waste to watch the Raiders) - but for me it’s time and $$$ well spent. I still love you though, but I’ll love you even more when football season is over…

GO FALCONS!!!

By Wise Diva

November 6, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

I didn’t consider it disrespectful but I am not a black man though, and I can be a bleeding heart type too, LOL.

I know you guys don’t like to hear it, but there may come a time in a black woman’s life where she may think that a black man isn’t who she is supposed to be with. Thankfully, our faith in black men get redeemed by the positive men we are related to, the wonderful men we meet, befriend, fall in love with, marry, etc. I don’t think it reflects on one’s physical attributes, but it is related to a lot of painful experiences, a touch of personal growth, and a few reality checks along the way.

Don’t take it so personal, we certainly can’t/shouldn’t take it personally when black men find love with other races.

By Alvin

November 6, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

Rell.com it’s all the same…too many folks are closes minded. it wouldn’t matter if she had said asian or latino..folks wiii still find something to pick apart.

By Foots

November 6, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this

Thanks Wise. I love reading your posts too.

Demi You co-signed it, so I know that you understand what she said. Let me break this down: For me, lowering my standards would be dating a liar, a cheater, someone who couldn’t form a complete sentence, a drug user, someone in and out of jail, someone who beats me, someone who lays his lazy azz on the couch all day eating up all my popsicles from Aldi. I would NOT call dating someone of another race lowering my standards, if he had everything else I seek. I don’t think that way, and I dayum sure wouldn’t put it in print.

By Lurker

November 6, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this

Rell.com it’s all the same…too many folks are closes minded. it wouldn’t matter if she had said asian or latino..folks wiii still find something to pick apart.

ain’t that the truth.

By 2CPTG©

November 6, 2007 4:50 PM | Link to this

c’mon now ladies…..let’s be real…..though you may not say it out loud, let one of y’all hearthrobs like Morris Chestnut, or Boris Kudjo be seen with a white chic, y’all skin would crawl….but it’s ok if Seal picks one, cause……..well, y’all know….

By Alvin

November 6, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this

Staceye you don’t count…You date who you Dayum well please!!!…Can’t a short dude with a bit of money get a break, I am waaaay finer than J.D. and J.Z….LOL

Cemeeli that’s for the folks under 32…Dem and that Dayum check list!!*

Wise Diva because of our past history, people forget God intended for this nation to be grace with people from all backgounds…I can’t wait for Li’Demi’s generation to be able to date and mingle with folks from WTH!?!

Be like: Bay, I don’t know what planet you’re from, but your blue a$$ is fine as hellz!!!

By SexyLeggs

November 6, 2007 4:55 PM | Link to this

Good night everyone. Have a safe and restful evening!

By Ohh la la

November 6, 2007 4:57 PM | Link to this

Maybe it shouldn’t be termed “lowering your standards” so much as “expand your horizons”. Meaning expand your boundaries or limits because you may be looking for a “jewel” to come packaged in a Tiffany box but what you really desire may come in a Target bag.

By Alvin

November 6, 2007 4:58 PM | Link to this

Foots you’re still missing the point…Before I loosened/lowered my standards, I wanted the perfect person…meaning those white men she wanted, were a piece of ish…LOL

By The Truth

November 6, 2007 4:58 PM | Link to this

Tazzee lets agree to put our love relationship on hold until after football season. That way there won’t be any lingering effects. LOL 10-6. LMAO

Go Facons, to hell with your sorry azzes.

By Foots

November 6, 2007 4:59 PM | Link to this

Demi Being open-minded about different types of people and lowering your standards are two different things to me. If a wonderful Samoan man came up to me tomorrow and we got to know each other and he was great in all the ways that matter to me, I could not look him in the eye a year later and say “Baby, I lowered my standards when I chose you because you are not black”.

I know that you have a hearing disability that does not determine who you are on the inside. Most women may not truly be able to deal with that. But for the one who can, if she EVER comes up to you and say “Baby, you’re great in other ways, but I lowered my standards when I started dating you because of your disability”, tell her to kicks rocks, okay?

By Wise Diva

November 6, 2007 5:01 PM | Link to this

Great discussion today, I enjoyed it alot. Hope you guys return for more tomorrow.

Have a great evening!

By Alvin

November 6, 2007 5:11 PM | Link to this

Foots and sis, do you see us brothers up in arms…beside Rell, he love a good fight anyway…Soooooo why, what she said bothers you? Who knows, there maybe something wrong with the bruh, like he’s smaller than your hand or something, LOL

What’s good for her, maybe bad for the next.

By Alvin

November 6, 2007 5:29 PM | Link to this

Foots LOL, I feel you…she did use the wrong choice of words…something tells me she not bad looking..those are point of views of someone bless with good looks, but wanted more…