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Tuesday, November 6, 2007
Target Practice
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
I finally figured out a way to reduce some problems I have in dating men: I need to shift to a new dating target. I can be outspoken, stubborn, and passionate about many things, ok most things. Of course, my dating targets are men who are just as outspoken and stubborn. They turn me on and it’s like a moth to a flame. Unfortunately, I have been burned (and burned them) too many times.
Not anymore. My new dating target will be someone who appreciates my outspoken, stubborn ways and allows me to be myself. If a guy prefers a submissive, demure, coy creature, I can now find the strength to let him be. No matter how much I want to rip his clothes off. Besides, all of that strong chemistry that I always feel towards the dominant, alpha male types usually just explodes in the bedroom or in a painful breakup (or both). I just don’t have the energy for that anymore! Well, I have the energy for one of those, but I digress.
Although, I still have that strong attraction to the alpha male, I accept the fact that we won’t thrive in a relationship. Not placing any blame on either party, it’s just a tough lesson I learned - like.. um last week? I have convinced myself that I can find that same passion and attraction with the type of man that won’t require me to relinquish the best part of myself. I also learned that letting a man be a man does not mean I have to be disrespected - actually, the parents taught me that one, I just now get it, get it.
When it comes to approaching/dating your type, do you think you need more target practice?
Are you dating the type of people that show the most relationship potential? If so, how do you know?
How do you decide who to give the green light to and who to cross off your potential mate list in terms of character traits that would co-exist with yours?
Do you clash with a particular type of person? Do you know which personality seems to complement you?
Have you ever dated someone only to discover how incompatible your personalities were? What did you learn about yourself?
When it comes to dating, do you prefer the type you need or the type you want? Better yet, do you know the difference?!
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