Misadventures in Atlanta

By Jazzyone

November 1, 2007 8:27 AM | Link to this

Morning ya! Dated em rich, poor, and regular, lazy, professional athletes, coasters, rollers ond jokers, hard working and the like. All in all I just appreciated the man who had some direction, goals and aspirations, hobbies and gives back to his community rather than just coast thru.

I tend to gravitate to a man that is constantly growing and reaching goals personal or professional just a direction in this life that we have been blessed with, that turns me on to no end, Just me. Holla ya this topic has been beat to death before bella so ya have a great day check back later lots of testing to do today with our release being installed on all the roads….

By Beautiful

November 1, 2007 8:37 AM | Link to this

I love this topic today, because it doesn’t matter what job he has when I met him. What matters to me is that he is working hard at his goal like I am.

If I meet a wealthy man, I would expect him to still be active daily to keep the wealth alive. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a job. Laying around the house is not a option!

Rell where u @?

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

November 1, 2007 8:39 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Would it be a no-brainer for you to date someone who is independently wealthy who didn’t have a job (read: you think I’m the biggest idiot ever)?

No it would not be a no-brainer for me to date a man who is wealth but not because he did anything to gain the wealth but because he was born into it. I mean the life lotto falls and some people dont have to do anything to win..However I look for character, not how much money is in the bank. So I don’t think you are a idiot for not dating him…if he didnt have qualities you could live with day to day then that is understandable.

Would it make a difference if someone inherited money versus, say, developing a patent on something he or she worked on in their late 20s and then living off of the money later in life?

Again, for me it is character. If he doesnt have to work, what does he do all day? Did he start a foundation to help young people? Volunteer? Is he motivating others to be successfully? or Is he just hanging out at the country club sipping Jack Daniels? Even wealthy people do productive things with their time.

By SexyCool

November 1, 2007 8:49 AM | Link to this

not date a man because he’s wealthy and doesn’t go to a job everyday…you playin’, right?

i can barely type for laughing…GTFOH

By Beautiful

November 1, 2007 8:53 AM | Link to this

SexyCool the way you put it … … … . lol

By SexyCool

November 1, 2007 8:58 AM | Link to this

seriously though…isn’t the reason we all run the rat race to ultimately become financially secure and be in control of your own destiny and even more than that be in control of your daily schedule???

doesn’t an interest bearing trust fund give you that?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

November 1, 2007 9:00 AM | Link to this

Morning Errbody!! Hope you all are doing well! I need to get a pepsi and then maybe I will start to officially wake up.

On topic: I have dealt with someone that doesnt have a job. I found that things like drive, self motivation, accountability, laziness and some other unpleasant characteristics were obviously traits that I couldnt deal with! I just couldnt grasp why there was such a lack of maturity. He didnt have to be CEO but hell I would have taken a garbage man or a janitor simply to show that you arent a complete bum. Like Dr Kym said, its about charatcer.

For Real I need you to show up with some great music for today.

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

November 1, 2007 9:01 AM | Link to this

SexyCool

Money is not a motivation for everyone. For those who it is that’s great ..for those who it is not(like me) that is still great. Money can buy you alot of things in life. But they are just that things.

By SexyCool

November 1, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

and to the real questions that you asked regarding the issues…lack of principles and personal goals, bad habits, bad attitude, and so on are all no-go’s regardless of whether a dude is wealthy or not…

but then too…depending on how wealthy he is…i could work with some of them issues…

i’m sorry, i’m trying to be serious about this topic…but i KEEP laughing…

By SexyLeggs

November 1, 2007 9:05 AM | Link to this

Good morning. I would date a man that has character and direction. He could be the garbage man, landscaper, waiter. As long as he’s moving forward and not stuck he’s dating material. How can anyone be lazy in 2007. The mere thought makes me want to puke.

By SlimOne

November 1, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

Morning All

I just couldn’t really have too much respect for a dude that didn’t work. It’s different if something happened like getting laid off. But i would expect him to actively look for another job.

By SexyCool

November 1, 2007 9:11 AM | Link to this

oh, dr. kym…it ain’t that deep, sweetie…but really…nobody is running out to date the brokest dude on the block…i don’t care how witty, and wonderful and caring and compassionate and how well he treats you and all that and so on…

money makes the world go round…and there is no denying it…and if you think that you can make ME believe that a man’s financial earning ability and his goals and ambition in that area does not affect how you see him, think again…

and just so that i don’t come across as a golddigger, i can tell you that coach didn’t have a regular income until we started dating…and i can guarantee you that money is not my motivation for being with him…

By 2CPTG©

November 1, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this

mornin…..

just as Sexy Cool stated…..my real folks know, I HATE a job! But I’m also allergic to broke, so, between investments, interest bearing accounts, a lil hustlin (legally), I’mma stay strapped!!! But that doesn’t mean I’mma go to a traditional J.O.B. e’ryday….

By Rell

November 1, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this

what is going on beautiful

waving to all my ladies with places in my ticker…you know who you are….wet wet, ms parker….i heart you guys!!!

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this

Hmmm…dating a wealthy man is so far out of my realm of reality, I don’t know really what I’d do. I’ve dated very driven men on the verge of wealth or greatness, but they were continuously striving to reach that brass ring.

Anywhoo, I could definitely date a man with no job and a trust fund HOWEVER I’d have to know what motivates him to wake up everyday. Enjoying life without worrying about money is fabulous…but people lose money all the time. If that were to happen, what would motivate him to support himself? What skills would he have acquired? All very important questions.

As for me, I’d love to be a stay-at-home mom when I marry, but that’s not to say I’d do nothing or that I’d have no marketable skills if I had to re-enter the workforce.

By Jazzyone

November 1, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this

yeah whateva’ those that say money doesn’t bring a certain amount of happiness/security and overall joy aint neva had any…it doesn’t make a person nor is it everything but I prefer to have it than not, it helps..trust it…dayum all that talking out the side of the neck madness…

Now KYM you have come on here talking about you date married men so was it for sex or was it for money and what they could do for you? what was your motivating force to do so?? I’m just asking….because character can’t be what it was or lack there of…seriously…

By Jazzyone

November 1, 2007 9:23 AM | Link to this

Rell, 2, SexyC holla ya!

By Sybil

November 1, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

Money not a motivator? Isn’t that why you went to work this morning?

By melo

November 1, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this

A big, fat, lump of money sitting in a high-interest account just getting larger. For starters how do u know this is true, because lots of women get played by these types of men. The 1st thing is to have goals and direction urself.Once thats established, u will want to gravitate to similar minded people of the opposite sex.Talk about an impending fat contract with Jive or non-existant Motown wont make u flinch.

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

November 1, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this

SexyCool

Consider I dont know you or coach and you dont know me or what drives me my goal is not to make you think or believe anything about me. I stated what I know to be true..some people are motivated by money..others are not. I have dated men with no money and men with some money and men who had all the money. But their earning ability are not what drew me to them. I watched the guy with no money go on to develop and do great things, while the guy with all the money loose everything that truly matter because that is what he pursued most. It maybe considered a bit silly to not follow some dudes wallet to the end of the earth and jump off because there is a diamond on the other side..but that’s me. I remember talking with my sister once. She said I will date a garbage man because if he is treating me right, at the end of day when he gets home I will wash those stinky clothes, have his shower waiting and dinner ready. Why? Because I know he is doing what he does for our family.

By abc

November 1, 2007 9:32 AM | Link to this

It can be said that there are 2 kinds of people: those who live to work, and those who work to live. Personally, I fall into the latter category.

If I were independently wealthy, I certainly would not be a corporate technology stooge such as I am. It would be idiotic to pursue a 9 to 5 if one didn’t have the financial need to do so. Manage the wealth resource, sure, but it’s not as if that’s so difficult to do — the most conservative investments will yield 5% annually. If one is too stupid to deal with that themselves, hire a financial consultant to do it for you. No brainer.

I would expect anyone in such a position to still find useful purposes for themselves, in philanthropy and volunteerism. Just because a person doesn’t have a regular job, especially if they haven’t the need for one, doesn’t make them lazy by definition.

By Dan

November 1, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this

Now to keep it all the way real, if I knew a babe that was independently wealthy…

I’d be on that thang all day! That would become my job, pleasing her a spending her money. As much as I like my current occupation, I’d be out on a Tuesday if I found a Sugarmama.

All Day Long

By Foots

November 1, 2007 9:35 AM | Link to this

Wait a minute!! Let me go get some popcorn real quick…

By SexyCool

November 1, 2007 9:35 AM | Link to this

jazzy…mad luv from the other side…

By 2CPTG©

November 1, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

what up Jazzy…..gal, I’m like you, with all that talk about money ain’t everythang…..no, it ain’t…..but it damn sho helps! And what fool wants to work???? Hell, if it wasn’t for these probate lawyers, I wouldn’t be on a job now!

By SexyCool

November 1, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

just laughable…really…so, i’m laughing…

By Corbin

November 1, 2007 9:41 AM | Link to this

Today’s topic hits home a little bit as it relates to not only me but particularly some of my friends. I have two jobs … they help me cover my expenses, maintain my quality of life, and provide a slight window of opportunity for my personal advancement. Needless to say I gainfully employeed. On the other hand, I have a few homeboys who are underemployed for lack of a better word. Unfortunately, some of my boys are what one would call a Failure to Launch case (kinda like the movie) due to a lack of opportunities, and/or desire. Now my people are good men and some have SO w/ their own distinct set of woman problems. They are not neccessarily trapped in college mode, but their job situation doesn’t allow them to upgrade themselves as they would like to.

At the same time I have some homeboys who are “trust fund kids” who suffer from the same Failure to Launch syndrome. Oddly enough some of my paid friends and broke friends both share a lack of motivation and a healthy appetite for quality weed. Even more ironic some my paid friends problems come from not knowing what to exactly do with the money they are going to inherit. This completely baffles me as I could take one tenth of what they’re going to get and flip it until it can’t flip no mo’. But I digress. To keep my post short, although I have friends in low places they aren’t that much different from my friends with monetary benefits. Internal motivation is something that you can’t smoke away or instill. Some dudes prefer to keep their lives as simple as possible but are unaware as to how to do it while constantly grinding.

By Rell

November 1, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this

@ABC…cosign!!!

By LorDemi

November 1, 2007 9:42 AM | Link to this

Hmmm…dating a wealthy man is so far out of my realm of reality, I don’t know really what I’d do

Get yo AZZ a laptop, an Imma bout my business no nonsense suit/w pants, read up on all news…no matter how boring, and post up at dayum near any star bucks where houses or condos cost 500 thous and up…I bet you pull a rich boy then…Extra: After P-dussy staving and turning his advances down…Bone the Lee-Bracey out of him..after the act, play it cool, tell dude you have a early meeting to attend..shower and leave…9 times out of 10..buddy is going to be knocking on your door with a ring or foolish gifts…money, cars, etc!!!

There just have to be something about you that makes him say Awwwwwww…Dayum!

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

November 1, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

Jazzy

Of the married men I dated. Two I knew nothing about their marital status. Three I knew and didnt care because I loved one with all my heart and had since before he got married. Another I cared for deeply before he got married and considered to be a wonderful friend. The final gentleman made me laugh until I cried and we provided each other with emotional support at some really rocky points in our lives. the other two were just the thrill of the chase.(I had a power-conquest thing going) Not one of them paid my bills or bought me fancy gifts.

Frankly, it was their companionship I valued the most. Did we go to dinner? Yep. Movies? Yep. Sometimes they paid and sometime I paid. Sometimes we went dutch. Sometimes it was a midnight hump and bump. But never was I holding up the finanical yardstick to say..Is that a AMEX black card you are holding?

By SexyCool

November 1, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

ARed…as long as you don’t believe something is possible for you, it won’t be…now, that’s not to say that your goal in life is, or should be, to date wealthy men…this pertains to anything, any area of life…you must first be able to conceive a thing, so that you can believe it…then, you can achieve it…

again, i’m not specifically referring this to dating men with money…

By Rell

November 1, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

@corbin..the gigglo game is cool, but just know in that arrangement the women has all the power…so you have to be extra with your game to keep your respect

By Foots

November 1, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

abc I’m with you on this one. I would certainly date an independently wealthy man. With all the reasons to disqualify somebody, having money is NOT it for me. If he’s an immature, party all the time type, then we wouldn’t work out regardless of the money, because that doesn’t fit my personality type. He’d have to have productive ways to spend his time.

I totally get the “what if there is a character issue” in all of this, but if there are no character issues and it’s just his blessing that he inherited/made his money early/hit the lotto, etc, I’m not going to fault him for that. I know that if I had my choice, I would NOT be going to a job everyday. I need money to live and so therefore, I go make money. If I didn’t need the money, I’d certainly be spending my time doing something I really love, like traveling, going back to school (again), working with the community, buying real estate and businesses, and leaving a legacy of wealth for my future generations.

By 2CPTG©

November 1, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this

5 married men????? that’s a dayum shame! I wouldn’t even tell nobody that shyt…

By Bella

November 1, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this

Good morning, everyone! Thanks for putting so much thought into your posts this morning!

And I agree with everyone about the fact that he could be wealthy, but what does he do all day? I mean, it’s one thing if you volunteer at a children’s shelter or something you feel is worthwhile…but what if you’re just putzing around the house? What are your goals in life?

By Staceye

November 1, 2007 10:08 AM | Link to this

Morning guys…a sista is needing one of mo’s Pepsi’s to wake me up!

But I have dated both sides of that coin. The broke dude who has big dreams and is doing nothing to make them happen. I too have big dreams but I am on my grind to make them happen. You go tthe dude who won’t work because he is focused on being a rapper….GET A JOB BRUH. live plan B until you can make plan A happen. Now, I have dated a guy who’s family is very wealthy because they own a very big company that is nets millions. So he did not have to work..but he went to college and learned the family business became CFO of the company..but he treated me like a princess..anything I wanted on fifth ave was mine, Bendel’s Sak’s you name it. The only thing was I wasn’t atrracted to him. I enjoyed his company and how sweet he was. But when it came down to getting physical…I just could not do it. Guess I would not make a good Gold Digger if I decided to go into that huh? LOL But in the end I had to tell him the truth. That could have been a great guy for me…wonder what he’s doing now!

Can you get passed the physical to make a great connection?

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 10:08 AM | Link to this

LOL @ LorDemi, I may give that a shot.

SexyCool, what the hell are you talking about? Who said I didn’t believe it wasn’t possible for me? I simply said I haven’t dated a wealthy man. Doesn’t mean I haven’t dated a successful man. I know what circles they run in. I’m just not 40 like many of you on this blog, I’m 29 and folks are in my group are just now passing the bar exam and graduating from Harvard Med and Business schools. Don’t get it twisted.

By Rell

November 1, 2007 10:08 AM | Link to this

not to get off topic but dayum…i never watched the show…

Duane “Dog” Chapman: I don’t care if she’s a Mexican, a w******* or whatever. It’s not because she’s black, it’s because we use the word nier sometimes here. I’m not gonna take a chance ever in life of losing everything I’ve worked for for 30 years because some f*** nier heard us say nier and turned us in to the Enquirer magazine. Our career is over! I’m not taking that chance at all! Never in life! Never! Never! If Lyssa [Dog’s daughter] was dating a nier, we would all say ‘f*** you!’ And you know that. If Lyssa brought a black guy home ya da da… it’s not that they’re black, it’s none of that. It’s that we use the word nier. We don’t mean you f*** scum nier without a soul. We don’t mean that s**. But America would think we mean that. And we’re not taking a chance on losing everything we got over a racial slur because our son goes with a girl like that. I can’t do that Tucker. You can’t expect Gary, Bonnie, Cecily, all them young kids to [garbled] because ‘I’m in love for 7 months’ - f*** that! So, I’ll help you get another job but you can not work here unless you break up with her and she’s out of your life. I can’t handle that s**. I got ‘em in the parking lot trying to record us. I got that girl saying she’s gonna wear a recorder…

Tucker Chapman: I don’t even know what to say.

By Dan

November 1, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

Dr. Kym…..stop it. Just stop.

Foots, ABC I’m usually with you on most of your posts, but for real for real, if the man has money when you meet him, if he was wining and dining you his “motivation” wouldn’t matter.

I think the timeline y’all on is a long one. No offense, but not every relationship can/does/will/should lead to marriage. So some of these concerns are irrelevant.

By LorDemi

November 1, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

2CPTG© how many married h0es you’ve knocked off…this is ATLANTA..sexual sin cty

By Beautiful

November 1, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert it’s your turn 2day … … . lol

By binford

November 1, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

mornin my blog peeps!

For me, I think its the ability for a woman to make her own way. Now I don’t mind if she makes more, or less than me …I just want to know she can provide for herself (or us if need be).

I don’t frankly know how I’d handle a woman who was wealthy and didn’t work. I guess as long as she was doing things and not mulling around not living life; who cares?

However, I do think (in general) there may be jealousy or envy for the one that did have to work. Now that would be a problem. My philosophy is that if you can do it, good for you. YEA!

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

Hmm, now that I think about it I’ve gone out with a few pro ball players, but I don’t count them as wealthy cuz they really weren’t trying to settle down at the time!

By abc

November 1, 2007 10:15 AM | Link to this

Forget ‘goals in life’. That’s over-rated hooey, another cliche… ‘just say no’, ‘just do it’. Life on Earth is short. Just learn, spread love and joy, enjoy your short stay here. Learn compassion for those less fortunate, do what you can to have a positive impact. Without all the hassle introduced by the necessity of a job, the things that are really important make themselves more apparent.

Now, if the boy just futzes around the house all day, getting high and watching Montel, that’s another matter. If he’s a waste, I’m sure you can tell, just at face value.

By Foots

November 1, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

Bella I mean, it’s one thing if you volunteer at a children’s shelter or something you feel is worthwhile…but what if you’re just putzing around the house?

Well, what if he traveled around the world as his hobby instead of doing philantropic work? Would that make a difference?

I think that to make a good decision about him, you may have to ask yourself “What would I do with my life if I never had to worry about money?” We’ll all have different answers, but the key is to see if his goals (or lack of) line up with yours. If they don’t, it probably wouldn’t be a good match anyway, money or no money.

Shoot, most folks’ end goal IS to work hard and retire rich so that they can REALLY enjoy the finer things in life. If you’re already rich, goal achieved.

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

November 1, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

I work to pay my bills and provide for my kid. But I love the job I do every day. I take great personal satisfaction in doing what I love and knowing that others benefit from it. I could be working somewhere else making more but what good would that do me if I am miserable? What I do now provides me with the comfortable living I need. In a leadership seminar we talked about what motivates people to work. Be it Social…Knowledge..Money etc. Money was not the area I scored high in. It is not what gets me out of bed in the morning and I knew that before the seminar.

By NotDeBeers

November 1, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

The qualification I hear mentioned most from women looking for a man is that he have… (say it with me now) a good job

Does that include what was learned yesterday, that he must be able to buy a 10carat rock, since she is such an expensive HO?

By Jazzyone

November 1, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

2 count smore like 7 but hey her thang…

2e’s your post is the Definition of a gold digger…Now, I have dated a guy who’s family is very wealthy because they own a very big company that is nets millions. So he did not have to work..but he went to college and learned the family business became CFO of the company..but he treated me like a princess..anything I wanted on fifth ave was mine, Bendel’s Sak’s you name it. The only thing was I wasn’t atrracted to him. I enjoyed his company and how sweet he was. But when it came down to getting physical…I just could not do it. Guess I would not make a good Gold Digger if I decided to go into that huh?

—Oh my God let me just sit back and read ‘cause WOW is all I can say WoW!

By Foots

November 1, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

Dan if the man has money when you meet him, if he was wining and dining you his “motivation” wouldn’t matter

So, would you date a Paris Hilton-type, just because the money was there? Or would you rather date an Oprah or Angelina type? They all have lots of money, but one type or the other fits in with how you view life: their motivation, goals, what they actually do with the money, etc.

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

Foots, good points as usual. Heck, I’d hope he’d be in to world travel and would let me quit my job and travel with him on his dime!!!

By Beautiful

November 1, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

Staceye Can you get passed the physical to make a great connection?

no. like you said, only if you’re a gold digger.

Erick from high school was wealthy and he loved some Angie, but because I couldn’t see myself kissin’ him … … . you know the rest.

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

November 1, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this

2c Surely my Smokey friend you are not passing out judgements around here. I mean I didnt see that measuring stick come out when Dushawn or the other guys grace of with their tales of fornication.

By 2CPTG©

November 1, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this

Demi, say what you want about me, but dawg, I don’t do married chics!!!! AT ALL! if it’s one thing I respect, it’s the sanctity of marriage….y’all do your thing in that realm, but it ain’t for me!

By Staceye

November 1, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

Honestly, I would love to be so wealthy that I did not have to work. I do not like having to conform to a 9-5. I would love to travel the world and learn about other cultures and do missionary work in impoverished countries…but that is not in my reality right now. I wasn’t raised rich or poor. My mom did very well for us and I never wanted for anything. But to say that I’m a trust fund baby is a lie…would be great though. If I met a guy that had that life, I would not knock him. As long as his bills ar paid and he has investments working for him to keep his money rolling in. I am nt mad at dude….just hope he’d like to share the wealth with a sista! LOL

By Bre

November 1, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

Good Morning to all….ahhhhh

This topic hits very close to home, hit in the chest close. So I’m going to read it out for a minute.

By dan

November 1, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

@Foots

Me? Personally, I’d have a Paris Hilton because at least life would be interesting (except for the VD). I don’t need/want superwoman. I’m selfish in that regard.

I want my woman to have a life of her own and I want to be someone that does good works, but sometimes enough is enough. Be with me and not have your mind on a third world country.

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

Paris Hilton may be a scrawnky coke head with no panties, but even that chick works. She does tv, designs handbags. She brings money into the empire.

On top of that, she seems to live life to the fullest. She’s good with me. LOL

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this

Pardon my ignorance, I’m still fairly new to the blog. Dr. Kym, what makes you a relationship expert? Or is that just something fun you’ve made up for the blog?

By Dimples

November 1, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

@KyM I admire you being honest. I know you mention it happen in your past. I know we all have done some things in our past that were bad choices but at least you have the will-power to admit yours, but as I read the posts, I realize that there are some ignorant folks on here that will not let your past rest. Anyway….

By 2CPTG©

November 1, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this

I’m not passing judgment on you either, Kym, but notice the difference in what you said and what Du says, his wife is an active participant! did your married friends’ wives know about you??? And damn right I smoke, ain’t no shame in my game! How does that correlate to what we’re talking about though? Like I just told Demi, do your thang, it just ain’t mine….

By Staceye

November 1, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

*Jazzyoone8 jow am I a golddigger? A gold digger would have not told him the truth. We met on line….his picture wasn’t that cute. But his convo was great. I had no idea about what he did. We met and had dinner and drinks. I did not find out about what he did or owned until after about a month. In NY you do not have to drive, do I never saw his car until then. Then he started telling me things. All he said about his profession was the company he worked for. I did not know his position. Granted I went to his place and it was nice….but in NY there is somethign called rent control when your family has had the apartment since 1960. So that could have been the case. I did not assume. Then, I did start to like him because he was nice. The only problem was when we got to the point of physical, I realized I was not attracted to him. And I immediately let him know. Mind you, I tried to get over it because he was so nice. He met my family and friends when I invited him to my pageant (St. Kitts). A golddigger would have kept it going. I offered to give all the stuff back that he got me. I am not the type of person who would purposely accept things from a guy just cause. I thought I really liked him because no guy had ever been so nice or cool to me. So how am I golddiger?

Just like I said last week, I had a boyfriend try to buy me $750 shoes and I would not accept them because of the price. A golddigger woudl have rocked them with no thought. So before you point finger and call somebody a name, know the whole story!

By Dan

November 1, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

@Dimples.

My past is past and some things I’ve done will go with me to the grave.

Like you I admire Kym’s honesty, but situations like that are best left to rest becuase life/karma/God has a way of working on you when you bring the dark to the light.

my 2(dayum no cent button)

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

November 1, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

Staceye I always have enough Pepsi to share just dont take the last one! LOL So have one chica so you can wake up!

Come on ya’ll lets play nice today! Leave the judgements outside Blosgville. We have already gone the everybody-has-a-past route, no need to go there again.

By SexyCool

November 1, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

who said it? YOU DID!!!

**By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this

Hmmm…dating a wealthy man is so far out of my realm of reality, I don’t know really what I’d do.**

and baby girl…i don’t have to twist what you say…you do fine all by yourself…now, after i post something that was intended to motivate you to open your mind…which you took the wrong way…all of a sudden you remember dating a few pro ball players…again, laughable, so i’m laughing…

this blog is the GREATEST source of entertainment to pass the days when massa chains me to da’ desk…

pure comedy, really…

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

SexyCool, again, what the hell are you talking about?

I don’t need you to motivate me or open my mind. I have already achieved both! Do you know what wealthy means? Wealthy is more than having money. I’ve dated men with money, but I haven’t dated a WEALTHY man. And no where did I say or indicate that I need your “believe to achieve it” speech.

I’m successful, my friends are successful. I’m happy. Get a grip, suga.

By Rell

November 1, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

what all the flucking fuss for because i am grubbing more/and i pack heat like the oven door

Jay Z - Heart of the City

By Foots

November 1, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

Dan Well, yeah, then, Paris would fit in more with your view of life. And yeah, she does work…when she’s not high, drunk, in jail or making sex tapes. LOL!! But even she’s trying to change her own motivations now because she knows that she should be using her money for good instead of evil and building the fortune instead of blowing it!! She’ll attract more people who are drawn to that sort of thing now, rather than the party life. Sort of like the Beta version of Angelina, before she became Angelina version 2.0…

By 2CPTG©

November 1, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

Dimples……quick question…..you say let folks’ past rest? hell, how do we know what folks’ past consist of, if they’re the ones putting it out there? If I don’t want my past brought up, I’m simply not going to mention it. Hell, looks to me like they should let their own past rest!

Shoot, I’ve done a lot of trifling shyt in my past, but guess what, y’all don’t know about it, cause I haven’t brought it up! All’s fair in love and on the blog, sweetie!

By LorDemi

November 1, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

2CPTG© cool…but you got Du all wrong…I feel you, each to their own.

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

November 1, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

2C As I recall last week Dushawn made mention of having a affair with a married woman throughout her marriage. That was the day that everyone one who had fornicated or done something wrong was going to die and go to hell.

By SexyLeggs

November 1, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

WOW!

Beautiful, did you just give out your name?

By SlimOne

November 1, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this

I must admit, sometimes you all drain me with all the bickering and back-n-forth that goes on in this blog. The weight of the world is on my shoulders. So would someone be so kind as to hold it long enough to let me fix a drink? LOL

By SexyCool

November 1, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

ARed…i apologize for hurting the baby’s feelings, sweetie…

this ish ain’t personal…and if you take it that way…you don’t have enough going on in your life…

you don’t have to validate yourself to me with your i’m so successful* speech…cause i really give less than a dayum about your level of success…or lack thereof…

By SexyCool

November 1, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

oh…and for the record…i’m done with your simpleness for the day…

By 2CPTG©

November 1, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

Kym, do your thing! it just ain’t for me…….and personally, I don’t give a damn about who’s going to heaven or hell, I’m only responsible for my own salvation!

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

November 1, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

Dimples It is all good I have mentioned it on more than one occassion and if I am asked a question I will answer it. period. The one life lesson I have learned at 35 (not 40plus by the way) is that anything I did in life I did it..so why should I hold my head down and be ashamed of it. What’s done is done. Also Dan I dont walk around my life going God will get me because I did this 5 years ago or 5 mins ago..that is not how it works.

By For Real

November 1, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

For Real walks up to Slim while she is holding the world and trying to fix a drink and lift up her skirt and takes a picture of her CT with his trusty camera phone.

Foots I would chose Oprah bc she has more money and she has less time to live.

Oh and what kind of engineer are you? I’m ME.

By For Real

November 1, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

SexyCool & A-Red The baddest chick hit my hit hand.

For Real now charging his camera phone and 12 backup batteries

By Beautiful

November 1, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs yes, did i do something wrong? I’m one of those who don’t hide. ;)

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

SexyCool, no hurt feelings here, sweetie. You do you, I’ll do me and the world will keep on spining. You don’t have to give a damn. In fact, I hope you don’t so you can keep your misguided opinions to yourself. Save that cheerleading rah-rah speech for “Coach” to keep a regular paycheck.

Ta ta.

By Jazzyone

November 1, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

Staceye Accepting gifts from a cat knowing hes spending cause hes digging you is plain ole fashioned gold diggin! If that weren’t the case trust me he wouldn’t have been throwin money your way sistah… but the feeling isn’t mutual?? is just plain gold diggin

Buy those things yourself if you not diggin’…your man offerred to buy shoes for 750…hes your man..so thats all relative..pointing fingers?? Commical you pointing them at ya’self chick you are the one that constantly posts this kinda stuff so don’t be mad at me…LOL…

Judgements?? Dimples fall back baybeh….oh stop I’m just asking questions about what SHE IS POSTING..do you but if you post it we kicking it up in here so be ready for the responses you get ..you don’t dig..then roll by the posts…playing kumbi-ya….

DAN exactly..cosign!

By Dan

November 1, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

@Slim

While I can’t hold it for you. I will pray for you.

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

Dr. Kym, did you miss my question about what makes you a relationship expert?

By Foots

November 1, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

Yeah, I just KNEW I’d need the popcorn today!! HAPPY ALL SAINTS’ DAY - November 1!!

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

November 1, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

ARed I made the name up for the blog.

By SexyCool

November 1, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

for real…you stoopid, dude…

By Dan

November 1, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

@DR Kym

U keep thinking that…..

By SexyLeggs

November 1, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

ARed, are you having a bad day? The way I read the initial posts she wasn’t trying to slight you. Anyway, Staceye, your post was well stated.

By Sybil

November 1, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

SexyCool - them simple chicks are funny as hell. Gone and brush ya’ shoulders off.

By The Truth

November 1, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

Dayuuuuum, I’m trying to stop blogging and y’all keep me reading with these fights. I love a good fight.

Rell we’re gonna continue to be N—-s until we arm ourselves and fight for what we want. Equality cannot be legislated and is not given away freely. Al Sharpton, Jesse, and the rest of those clowns can’t lead us thru what we must do to become equal. We need cats like that sniper in DC. LMAO. Until then we’re 2nd class citizens in a 2 bit society.

DR KYM and 2C please post faster so I can have a good laugh before I have to leave. This shyt is better than coffee. LOL

Morning ev1. LOL

By Foots

November 1, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

For Real For Real now charging his camera phone and 12 backup batteries

Oh, I have TONS of batteries!! Let me know if you need to borrow a few…

And you know you silly about Oprah and her longevity. I studied Electronics. I worked as an RF Engineer for six years, but after the MBA, moved over to Finance….where I now rot until I can figure out how to retire wealthy and go be friends with Oprah so I can introduce y’all… LOL!

By SexyLeggs

November 1, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

SlimOne, I’ll be there at noon to relieve you of the pressure of the world. We must hold each other up!

By Jazzyone

November 1, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

2 ^5

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

Thanks for the response Dr. Kym. I thought it was neat having a resident Dr. Phil type on here. LOL. Oh well. ;-)

By SlimOne

November 1, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

When For Real takes a look at the picture, he notices that Slim was the Baby Powder Bandit all along.

LMAO…kidding but seriously i almost bust my neck in the bathroom yesterday before i left for work. Powder and tile is not a good combination.

By binford

November 1, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed You better get to steppin and get that rich style going, I can’t be waitin for you forever!

By 2CPTG©

November 1, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this

yeah, that’s what kills me, folks don’t want people to comment on their situation, but put that shyt out there for the world to see!!!

as Silky Smooth would say, some ‘o y’all got more nerve than a toothache!

By Blue_Kolla

November 1, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this

Hmmm… There ain’t but two, maybe three female posters on here today that’s about anything, other than gettin’ paid. I swear… I can read yoll like a Jack-n-Jill book.

By SlimOne

November 1, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

Dan I appreciate you praying for me and everything but do you think you can hand me that bottle of Goose behind you and the jar of cherries please. You’re too kind.

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs, my day is going quite well. Thanks for checking in. I had a nice Halloween.

By SexyLeggs

November 1, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

Beautiful, you didn’t do anything wrong. I was just surprised to see your real name. Thought most are using monikers to disguise their real identities in case lurkers know who they really are.

By Cinderella

November 1, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

As long as he’s doing something he loves and is the best at what he does (whether a janitor or doctor)than it’s all good.

By Derrell - Not Rell today

November 1, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

@The Truth..i dont worry about scarry azz white boys…feel me, they know where to keep that ish….that aiggn dont bother me because i am not one…what i dont like is the current hunt on the black man…feel me

By melo

November 1, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

when we got to the point of physical, I realized I was not attracted to him. And I immediately let him know. Mind you, I tried to get over it because he was so nice-Staceye

So did he dip or not? U tried to get over him, how, mentally or by trying to fake enjoying the physical stuff? Sorry, im just having fun, u dont have to answer, but then i thought, u put it out there.WTF

By Staceye

November 1, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

Jazzyone again..I accepted the gifts because he was sweet and like I said I liked his personality and did like him…I just found that when it was time to physical..I then and only realized I did not like him physically. He did not start to buy me things until after a month of us hanging out and I cared about him…so I thought it was going to turn into something. Again…a golddigger would not have told him the truth.

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

LOL. binford, what rich style are you looking for?

I thought you were going to pull in enough dough for me to sit on the couch all day and eat bon-bons. LOL

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

LOL! binford, what rich style are you looking for exactly?

I was leaving it up to you to bring in that big dough so that I can sit on the couch all day and eat bon-bons. LOL

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

November 1, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this

Dan I dont think-I know.

2C I didnt care about your comment..I am just noting when a man does it he is playa number 1 if a woman does it she is going to die and go to hell.

By kinderbabe

November 1, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

i’m gonna make sure to include all of you in my prayers this evening…lol. so much anger…whew…too much for me. have a good day everyone and please, please, please do something that brings you a sense of peace before lunch.:) it’s not that serious y’all. (as someone reads this on the blog and says to themselves “go to hell!” lmao)

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

LOL. The block is hot with this discussion today. Maybe money is the root of all evil. LOL

By 2CPTG©

November 1, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

it’s days like today, that Tau Omega Sigma was started…..lawd hammercy!

By Blue_Kolla

November 1, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

Staceye You remind of a James Bond movie.

By SexyLeggs

November 1, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

Rell, thanks for posting what Dog Chapman said because I got the tailend from 2 radio stations this morning and my curiousity was very much piqued.

By Beautiful

November 1, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs gotcha! but i would love to use my real name. i use Beautiful because it’s daring sort of. i’m not beautiful per se, but inside definitly.

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 1, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

WOW ok. here are the rules: no misquotes from previous blogs, no referencing obvious contradictions on today’s blog (save it for tomorrow), no below-the-belt (gold-diggers need love too), for the record ‘judgement’ is ‘judgment’, also one of the announcers is checking on this, but we believe its that time of the month for the females posting here.

OK. now everyone to their respective corners and lets have a clean fight.

DING

By Blue_Kolla

November 1, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

and just to spread the Truth Pill around, Corbin, you’re asking to be the next Pepe The Poodle lapdog type, with that arrangement.

I can see who paid attention in Psychology class. EVERYBODY needs a job… (read “purpose” for the shallow minded), whether it’s for financial and/or mental stabilization.

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

Bella, do you know what your trust fund friend says when people ask him what he does for a living or what business he is in?

By chink

November 1, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

This is even funnier than yesterday!!

By LorDemi

November 1, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

I am just noting when a man does it he is playa number 1 if a woman does it she is going to die and go to hell.

Standing on blog crate

Ya Dayum Right!!!

Finally glad Demi is at eye level, Kym reaches out and choke the living ish outta Demi…

By Page1908

November 1, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

LOL @ everyone…sheesh, where do I start?! Is the topic gold digging, fornication, someone always talking about their beauty pageants,wealthy men, or how women always hatin’ on them because of their looks?!

Sigh

By binford

November 1, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

AR I was counting on you so I could eat bon bons!

You said God blessed you with many a good attributes, right? So as the Black Crowes album says: Shake Your Money Maker!

Me? I’m just a poor boy, I need some sympathy. Because I’m…..

Nevermind :P

By DasV (yea, its me)

November 1, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

RELL what did you think about what he said. i gathered that he uses the n-word at home and with family, but doesnt have anything against his family dating black. the negra chica started threatin them with wearing a recorder and exposing how they talk at home. so he wanted her gone. is that what you got out of it or is there more to it than that??

By Staceye

November 1, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

Melo we never got down because when we started to mess around is when I found that I could not get into his physical…that I really liked his personality. So that meant I had him in the FZ and was trying to make him more because he was so sweet. Its not in my character to purposely lead somebody on for personal gain. Because I would not want someone to do it to me.

Blue-Kolla how do I remind yu of a movie?

By 2CPTG©

November 1, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

Kym, if you weren’t trying to make it personal, why bring my habits into the discussion? I do a lotta shyt, but why bring up smoking? does mentioning that, somehow supposed to make me look bad, or make it seem like, *nikka, you got issues too”? straighten me!

By For Real

November 1, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

Slim EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

A-Red It’s the love of money that’s the root of all evil.. Oh and did you read what Sexycool said about your mamma? Now I ain’t tryin to start nothing but I’m just sayin.

For Real now in Walmart buying additional cell phones and tripods

By Blue_Kolla

November 1, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

‘judgement’ is ‘judgment’ Partially correct, both are considered acceptable.

By melo

November 1, 2007 11:51 AM | Link to this

Foots,mail call!

By BennyB

November 1, 2007 11:51 AM | Link to this

If a man is passionate about his job, he is a workaholic - If he works Monday to Friday, he is average - If he has a dream and makes sacrifices to go after it, he is a fantasist - If he is unemployed, he is lazy - If he chooses not to work because he does not need to, he got no goals.

Those are some bs reasons that women dig to feel good about themselves. In reality no one need their explanations of choosing to leave a guy. It’s their full right to do what they want when they want. This is known as it’s not me, it’s him…………the other one is: it’s not him, it’s just me.

I don’t see a reason a man has to do charity work and share his wealth just because he’s got money to be classified as goals oriented WTF???. Life is what you make of it, some think that to be worthwhile one must help those in needs but I think that you do want you enjoy and love to do. Many people work because they have to not because they want to and that’s very depressing. Wanting a mate to live the way we expect them to and to have goals that we expect them to have is expecting them to be us. Expectations are nothing else but premeditated disappointments.

Staceye - You dating a nice guy?????!!!!!! What a waste of time and probably money……….by the way receiving without giving is just plain O gold diggin

By Derrell - Not Rell today

November 1, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

Why do we have to keep up the lame references to fights…folks will get tight bout ish…just keep it moving…it lame to continue this fight crap

@BK…james bond???….i think we should move the topic off staceye, babygirl gets alot of airtime..we need to find something else to talk about….

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

binford - I guess we’ll be one raman noodle eating, redwood tall couple then. LOL.

That being said, I’m sure you and I have enough brain matter to strike it rich. If that fails, I’ll shake the moneymaker if you promise to be my manager. ;-)

By Sybil

November 1, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

I already know whether or not I’m digging a dude’s physical before I start taking gifts from him.

By Jazzyone

November 1, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

kinder If you wanna pray for me thats cool because its extra after I pray for myself…I’m not angry at any one because all this isn’t decreasing or increasing my fiscal 4th quarter bottom line seriously!

But its funny when people post and they get upset when people respond..so hey it is what is.

Keep ya bread up cause being on the hunt for someone elses will bring you nothing but evil motives and behavior..how ‘bout that?!

By For Real

November 1, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

For Real now handing Foots a Chico Stick for promising to introduce him to Oprah when she gets rich. In the meantime you wouldn’t happen to know the new black chick or that spanish chick from Heros would you?

By Blue_Kolla

November 1, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this

Staceye I’m gon’ take the high road on this one and just tell you to let it ride. Just consider that comment to be idle chatter.

By Jazzyone

November 1, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

2 FUH REAL!

By Derrell - Not Rell today

November 1, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

@PD(wink)…i took it for what it was..he is a racist..period, no words for that ish…just that race needs to be discussed

@bella….would you date interracially?

By melo

November 1, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

Staceye, did u say u British or u got British relations? Can u hit me up takpat78@gmail.com

By Dimples

November 1, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this

@ Jazzy1 Believe me I’m not new to the blog at all. That’s why I was able to make that comment. At time this blog can be informational or encouraging and sometime it can be full of BS. Just depending on who is blogging. Get my drift…

@ DAN Based on old posts, there have been topics that have really hit home for all of us that cause personally information to be shared with one another: Example ” Mother Day”. but again your probably wasn’t blogging then.

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

November 1, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this

2C The last one.

By SexyCool

November 1, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

in order for it to be considered a fight…you must have a worthy opponent…otherwise, it’s considered abuse…

By Bre

November 1, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

Even on the darkest days around here I’m usually able to find some key points to pick up as I lurk. However today has been very funny and entertaining period.

Be easy……

By SexyLeggs

November 1, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

Foots, your 9:35 post was so accurate. I didn’t think it was going to get as bad as it has gotten. You saw it coming…gold star for you!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

November 1, 2007 12:04 PM | Link to this

What the heck happened in here!!! I leave for a few and comback to all hell breaking lose!! I will have to scroll back and try to see what the topic for today is. I may have to be like Slimone and get some popcorn and enjoy the show cause you guys are off da chain today. We all do remember that Halloween was yesterday right??

Hey Truth Kisses to you

For Real Stop trying to get photos of folks CT’s and give me my song for the day!!

By chink

November 1, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

Expectations are nothing else but premeditated disappointments

nice bennyb

By Jazzyone

November 1, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

Dasv Oh yeah thanks for the Clarification..Lawd help me…

By Blue_Kolla

November 1, 2007 12:06 PM | Link to this

Jazzy Keep ya bread up cause being on the hunt for someone elses will bring you nothing but evil motives and behavior..how ‘bout that?!

Where do I sign?!

By LorDemi

November 1, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this

i’m not beautiful per se, but inside definitly.

holding magnifing glass in

Beautiful Dont let me find out you’re a Dime piece in this B-ish…its on and poppin then!!!

Staceye stop beating around the Poo see bush, just say dude was ugly and short…you thought he was a troll, LOL

you’re going to kill me, huh? She me fleeeeeeeee!!

By DuShawn

November 1, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this

Benny B “Expectations are nothing else but premeditated disappointments.” That’s the realest shyt you ever wrote.

By Kori

November 1, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

2CPTG If you’re smoking that stuff please pass it around the blogroom so folks can calm down. I ain’t mad at ya.

Puff, puff, pass

By Peeps

November 1, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

For all of you that willingly run around co-signing, can I get you to meet me at the Wachovia down by Justin’s at 2:20 this afternoon?

A brother is trying to get a loan.

By Staceye

November 1, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

Benny B First of all I never asked him to buy me things. I never went with him to buy these things. He just suprised me with them when we went out. At first I refused them…then he said he saw them and thought that I’d like them and he wanted me to have them. After I realized that I only liked him as a friend, I brought them back to him and he refused to accept them back. He said he resepcted my honesty. Meeting him online we chatted. Then we spoke on the phone for 2 weeks for hours at a time before meeting face to face. I liked his mind, his humor and then when we met I like his demeanor. I was disappointed that he was not my usual type of physical beauty…but I seeing past that..so I thought. I used to love just chillin’ at his crib watching movies and buggin’ out. So it wasn’t about the gifts..it was that I could talk to him about anything. I felt comfortable around him. Which was something I never felt around a guy. So I thought it was going somewhere…until we were messing around I did not feel the same attraction that I felt with other guys and I knew that I could not be ina realionship with a man I was not physically attracted to. So instead of gaming him…I told him the truth. Something a Golddigger would not do. So you and whoever can call me whatever you like…but I know and God knows so screw what you think of me! I am proud of me for being honest and at least trying to return the gifts.

By Jazzyone

November 1, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

Dimples Nah Im not good at drifts what are you trying to say??..nah Im just playing lemme stop rufflin feathers…its all good i’m must being a nikkerina today……LOL

By Jazzyone

November 1, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this

* I try to behave when Wise is here but when bella is here I can’t be responsible for my actions…LOL….*

By Derrell - Not Rell today

November 1, 2007 12:27 PM | Link to this

@staceye…please stop defending yourself so we can move…lol….

@bennyb…dude what is the chicks name that did you dirty….i need to speak with her

and again STACEYE PLEASE STOP DEFENDING YOURSELF SO WE CAN MOVE ON..lol

By Beautiful

November 1, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this

LorDemi on looks, i rate myself a 7 maybe. ask yo boi Rell. lol.

By For Real

November 1, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

In an effort to relieve the tension on the blog today I thought this song was appropriate to bring the love back:

Don’t call it a comeback I been here for years Rockin my peers and puttin suckas in fear Makin the tears rain down like a MON-soon Listen to the bass go BOOM Explosion, overpowerin Over the competition, I’m towerin Wreckin shop, when I drop these lyrics that’ll make you call the cops Don’t you dare stare, you betta move Don’t ever compare Me to the rest that’ll all get sliced and diced Competition’s payin the price

I’m gonna knock you out (HUUUH!!!) Mama said knock you out (HUUUH!!!)

Oooops my bad wrong song here we go:

There’s some hoes in the da house there’s some hoes in da house…

Shyt, dayumm camera phone. Let me see ah here we go:

If i dont do nuthin imma ball im countin all day like the clock on the wall now go and get cha money little duffle bag boy say go and get cha money little duffle bag boy (Get Money) I aint never ran from a figure and i damn sure aint bout to pick today to start runnin look honey I aint never ran from a figure and i damn sure aint bout to pick today to start runnin look honey(Get Money)

WTF is wrong with my camera phone!!! Baby powder!!! Damn you Slim

By Dimples

November 1, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this

@ Staceye Reminder: These people don’t know you. You don’t have to type your fingers stiff trying to convince them that your not a gold-digger. I have guy friends that are fun to talk-to, hang-out with . We will even help each other out in hardship but they will never be more than a friend. I have a few guy friends that have told me stories about how some females have showering them with gifts and when it got to extreme like in your case they had to bag up and let them know they wasn’t feeling them like that. It all good gurl. Stuff happens! You said you told him the truth; it’s all good.

By Beautiful

November 1, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this

For Real lol

By 2CPTG©

November 1, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this

Kym, if smoking is the only issue you can find on me, then, sweetie I’m good!

here ya go, Kori, it’s that kush too!!!

By LorDemi

November 1, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this

Staceye Bay, dude has money…spend he was going to spend that ish anyway…Might as well be on you.

Folks trip’n ‘cause you got the good without giving up yo good, LOL

By Lucille Willoughby

November 1, 2007 12:43 PM | Link to this

My first husband was a trust fund baby. I ended up leaving him because my career (which I had worked hard for) was finally taking off, and he resented the fact I even had a career. He was used to just coasting through life, doing whatever he wanted, and the fact that I was doing what I’d always dreamed of and succeeding at it made him feel bad. He had absolutely no personal ambition, drive or work ethic. He just wanted to live his life from one party to the next, which gets old after awhile. While there have been times where I could have used the security that came with the trust fund, I don’t regret dumping him.

By melo

November 1, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

I think its good to have blog fights, it mirrors lyfe.What say uall? I will start one Now….. ARed i think u are the smartest azz bytch on the blog,save for Foots Now all other bytches can start hating and backstabing her. Lets Roll

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this

Lucille, you should have done like Shaq’s wife and started skimming money from his bank account once you knew you were gonna leave! Then you could have had the great career and some of that trust fund security. Hell, I think you earned it. LOL

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

November 1, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this

2C and any of the others watching

I have been on this blog long enough to know that—well I dont know any of you. I dont care what you think you know about me…because if I saw any of you on the street I wouldnt know you from Adam’s Tomcat. So why would I fight with anyone on here?

By binford

November 1, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

AR I consider Ramen Noodles to be it’s OWN food group :)

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

November 1, 2007 12:53 PM | Link to this

HOLD UP HOLD UP HOLD UP

dang i have been gone for two weeks and now i come back And folks smoking weed…snapping pic of camel toes…taking shoes…charging batteries and giving away batteries…what hell is going on

We are the world….we are the children …we are the ones who make a brighter so lets start giving….ooooh there are people dying…

ok ya’ll get the point

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 12:53 PM | Link to this

Thanks for the compliment, melo! LOL

By 2CPTG©

November 1, 2007 12:55 PM | Link to this

ummmmm, Trust Funds are untouchable! like beneficiary designations…..

By kimmie

November 1, 2007 12:56 PM | Link to this

Stacey - I understand the urge, but have I not told you before that you don’t have to defend yourself or explain yourself to anyone, especially Benny? He just likes to instigate ish, I think:)! Anyway, I think your experience is a prime example of what I’ve tried to explain to people a thousand times - NICE IS NOT ENOUGH, MONEY IS NOT ENOUGH, if you are looking for passion and love! There HAS to be some physical chemistry! He does not have to be pretty, just have something that does it for YOU! People can whine about GIVE IT A CHANCE all day long, but that’s no way to live. If you were a true golddigger, we wouldn’t even be having this discussion with you, cause you’d be up in NY kicking it with your 10 carat rock on! I had a male friend that used to call ANY woman that dated even a semi-successful man a gold-digger. He called my best friend one because she was dating a CPA! He automatically put a label on her and said she would not be dating him if he was a janitor. She was a news anchor, doing her own thing! People have their own definitions of a golddigger, but this one did not make sense!

On topic - I don’t knock anyone that has been fortunate. I am just really attracted to men that live life with a purpose, whatever that may be! Drive and determination are sexy! If he’s a trust-fund baby but motivated to contribute something to his community & the world, what’s the problem? If all he does is get up every day and smoke pot and play with his toys, well I guess he’s not making much of a contribution, is he? Not very attractive, rich or poor.

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this

binford, Truth be told, I can’t stand ramen noodles (which is probably why I misspelled it). No matter how broke I was in college, it wasn’t bad enough to eat that stuff! LOL

By M2

November 1, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this

I understand women who want to date successful men just as I understand men who want to date beautiful women.

That said, I had a CLASSIC experience a few years ago. At the time I drove a ‘96 Accord and asked a girl out. She specifically told me she wouldn’t date me because I didn’t have a nice car. Little did she know I had just received a $150,000 bonus at work (on a salary of $65,000). Now I make $700-800K a year and laugh every time I think of it….

By SlimOne

November 1, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this

Slim starts flapping her skirt up and down rapidly shooting huge plumes of baby powder smoke everywhere causing the L to extinguish before 2CPTG passes it to Kori. When the smoke clears For Real finds his shoe strings tied together with his pants down, exposing his lil Britney

By 2CPTG©

November 1, 2007 1:03 PM | Link to this

Kym, I’m not fighting with you; of course, shyt gon’ get heated every now and then, but that’s life……..ain’t nuttin, lil mama…….shiiid, y’all see some of us know each other, ya wouldn’t believe how we’ve gon’ at it, and still got mad luv for each other…..

By 2CPTG©

November 1, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this

Kori gimme my shyt back! see, that’s why you cain’t smoke with e’ry body!

By Derrell - Not Rell today

November 1, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this

it always killed me when dudes would hold on to a memory about some skirt that missed a good thing…i mean she may not have been worthy…but because she was eazy on the eyes she needed to be with you….lol

EVERY WOMEN IS NOT GOING TO BE CUT FOR YOU!!!!!…

remember it is about cooperation not competition!!!

By WTF????

November 1, 2007 1:17 PM | Link to this

FREAK’N FUNNY AS HELL

You’ll take dis shyt way too serious!! Bloggin’ is a pasttime…not a career. Since I read way mo than I blog, it ain’t dat hard to fiqure out what plucking realm most of des folks are functioning. I have..so to waste a lot of time “vitual” arguing with nameless cats is senseless.

By melo

November 1, 2007 1:17 PM | Link to this

Now I make $700-800K a year and laugh every time I think of it-M2 Why laugh? That girl gave u motivation to go out there and get it. And ur 150k was probably not going to cut it, who knows? Girl had standards and thats on her.I applaud her no matter how much people knock her. Its like trying to knock the sugarloaf mama with the $m mansion. Your morals are urs alone.

By QC

November 1, 2007 1:21 PM | Link to this

Hello everyone….Slim1 lmao!!!!!

Page what’s up girl!!! so have you adjusted to waking up in the A yet?

For Real exposing his lil Britney

have a great day bloggers i’m out!

Hey Staceye, Jazzy, BK, GA.man, kinderB, Everyone!

By Foots

November 1, 2007 1:26 PM | Link to this

Dang it!! I’m out of popcorn! Just as well, cause this stuff is giving me that 93 octane! A sista needs to go to lunch…

By Kori

November 1, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

@2CPTG.(laughing). How did ya pass it to me when I wasn’t on the blog to see it comin’? Here you go-enjoy.

By WTF????

November 1, 2007 1:30 PM | Link to this

M2 Hold up…who da hell makes that kinda dough working fo someone else?

Solidifys my point…dis is a plucking imaginary “virtual” world, not be taken seriously.

By M2

November 1, 2007 1:36 PM | Link to this

It’s true WTF. Finance, it’s a beautiful business.

melo - I only laugh because she jumped to a conclusion based on my car. I still drive a $20,000 car.

By Sybil

November 1, 2007 1:41 PM | Link to this

To be real, I was wondering what $700K a year dude cares enough to be blogging about this mess and who has time to do it.

I know that my $40K a year self has time to sit here and blog all day because I work at a mid-level job that has me sitting at a desk in front of a computer screen. My job is not really demanding and takes me less than a couple of hours a day to get the most pressing of my duties completed.

By no means do I consider myself a success, I am simply a survivor. Surviving fairly well, but simply surviving, none the less.

I am certain that once I achieve a valid level of success that I will not have time to blog, will not miss it and it will rarely, if ever, even cross my mind.

By melo

November 1, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this

Hold up…who da hell makes that kinda dough working fo someone else?WTF???? Depends on what u know(ur world)shawty. U street leaf/coke pedlers have a way of re-assuring urselves about what u make compared to corporate types. 150k bonus is real minimum, up here on wall street!

By AmazonRed - Bonehead

November 1, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this

So I head out to a late lunch and stop by Bonehead’s, cuz I am a big fan of the Bonehead shrimp. I get out the car and a cutie gets out right behind me. He’s well put together. About my height because I have on flats today. That will work.

Anyway, I place my order and take a seat, he places his order after me. He heads to the seating area. Channeling yesterday’s convo, I make contact and speak back when he speaks to me. He takes a set across from me. In his line of vision. My order comes, to go, so I get up and make it a point to make eye contact again. Where he speaks and I speak. Then I leave.

MLB, I know I should have done X, Y or Z. Missed opportunity. Point of this story is I have to do better at being an “aggressive dater.” Baby steps. At least I locked eyes and spoke back. LOL

He’s probably still there eating lunch. Maybe I should go back. LOL

By Blue_Kolla

November 1, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this

LOL @ MELO street leaf/coke pedlers Ohhh dayummm… hahahaha

Hey Queen

back to my nod… zzzz…

By Pomey2

November 1, 2007 1:53 PM | Link to this

Two comments and one question.

Question If someone is pursuing a dream, working hard to get it, but it isn’t happening, how long is long enough to wait for the dream to materialize before its time to move on??

By AAA

November 1, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this

FOR DR KYM , I TAKE IT YOUR ARE NOT MARRIED, PROBABLY LIKE HALF OF THE WOMEN ON THIS BLOG THATS WORRIED ABOUT HOW MUCH MONEY A MAN MAKES. MONEY MAKES A DIFFERENCE, BUT IF A MAN MAKES LESS THAN YOU, WHO CARES, AS LONG AS HE TREATS YOU WITH RESPECT. MEN THAT MAKE A LOT OF MONEY, HAVE NO RESPECT. CERTAINLY, WOMEN DONT WANT A MAN TO WORK AT MCDONALDS, BUT IN THE SAME TOKEN A JANITOR WILL DO, THEY MAKE 50000 A YEAR ACTUALLY. NO EDUCATION. LOOK AT SOMEONE HEART NOT THEIR POCKETS. THATS WHY ITS SOO MANY BLACK WOMEN IN THE THIS CITY AT THE CLUB EVERYNIGHT, LOOKING FOR A BALLER. THEY ARE BROKE AND ARE TRYING TO FIND A MAN WITH SOME MONEY. OOPS. BROKE AND BROKE=BROKE, SOMETHING AND HALF OF SOMETHING=SOMETHING. GET RIGHT AND GET A LIFE

By chris

November 1, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this

seriously though…isn’t the reason we all run the rat race to ultimately become financially secure and be in control of your own destiny and even more than that be in control of your daily schedule???

Who ever said that you are in control of your destiny? thats whats wrong with the world today. everyone thinks they are in control.

By WTF????

November 1, 2007 2:00 PM | Link to this

Melo

My mayne don’t the written ‘virtual’ venacular fool you. My situation and financial position is on the sho’nuff up and up but I this is not the forum I chose to compare apples to oranges. Or to floss my net worth, assets, etc.

By Blue_Kolla

November 1, 2007 2:01 PM | Link to this

Reality: All this salary pumpin’ reminds me of that Third World joint where dude says, “You gon’ see da same JAH as me.”

By Jazzyone

November 1, 2007 2:04 PM | Link to this

2can need a season 3….sigh

By AAA

November 1, 2007 2:04 PM | Link to this

@AMAZONRED, YOUR A STALKER, IF HE WANTED TO HOLLAM HE WOULD HAVE. @POMEY2-YOUR RIGHT. THATS WHY THEY HAVE NO MAN IN THIS TOWN, MONEY HUNGRY IDIOTS THAT DRIVE A HONDA ACCORD.

By melo

November 1, 2007 2:05 PM | Link to this

how long is long enough to wait for the dream to materialize before its time to move on??-Pomey2 U whole lyfe.Put the dream in $$$$context.As long as u make it dollar wise, thats good. U can start off drilling for oil, give it up and buy and sell the oil. Dont necessarily focus on the hole,focus on what u do with whats in the hole,Bigger pic.

By Derrell - Not Rell today

November 1, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

@ar, maybe he was not checking for you..maybe he was not down with the tall chick with the soup coolers….lol or….he’s gay an was checking out the valet…

i like your idea of the meet and greet i wanna see what all the fuss is about…i am ready for the calendar/album/mixtape/bukey nakkid photos to drop..what is the bizness

By mqew

November 1, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

Awwwwww. It’s over?!!!
Aaight, I guess I’ll do some work.

By Blue_Kolla

November 1, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

Tall Red I know I should have done X, Y or Z. Missed opportunity.

Not neccessarily; dude could possibly be in an exclusive relationship, and not want to fugg that up by engaging you, knowing that he could probably hit it with minimum effort.

By Derrell - Not Rell today

November 1, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

@AAA…why the trolling?

By Bull-Shyt

November 1, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

If you work on Wall St, why do you care what’s going on in Atlanta?

By melo

November 1, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

off to tha meeting, dont gossip behind my back.

By 2CPTG©

November 1, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

fret not Jazzy….

By melo

November 1, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

WTFF???? yo mayne, i no shawty, ur shyt is dope!!

By Road Rage

November 1, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

2 things that are rock solid in this world:

By Derrell - Not Rell today

November 1, 2007 2:19 PM | Link to this

knowing that he could probably hit it with minimum effort.

@blue_k….come homie keep it mackish..slick comments are not needed and weak….you better than that pimpin

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

November 1, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

AAA you appear to be lacking in reading comp skills Here let me help… My quote from earlier today… Money is not a motivation for everyone. For those who it is that’s great ..for those who it is not(like me) that is still great. Money can buy you alot of things in life. But they are just that things.

By Jazzyone

November 1, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

Blue i’m really diggin you lately…you and I have had our go rounds but your isms are on point today baybeh…

Melo ima talk aboutcha @ss running up in here calling folks bytches and such, you ain’t talking to me its PRINCESS BYTCH TO YOU SHAWTEH… Im just playing im silly this afternnon after coming from outside on such a wonderful, absolutely beautiful day..sigh..my gosh I wish I was boating right now….

By AAA

November 1, 2007 2:25 PM | Link to this

@DERRELL, WHAT IS TROLLING? IS THAT A MADE UP WORD? ITS SEEMS SO.

By AAA

November 1, 2007 2:28 PM | Link to this

@DERRELL, YOUR A HYPOCRITE. YOU SAID EARLIER TO A/R THAT MAYBE THE GUY DOESNT LIKE SOUP COOLERS OR TALL CHICKS, BUT YOU JUST MADE A COMMENT TO BLUE_K ABOUT KNOWING HE COULD HIT THAT WITH LITTLE EFFORT AND YOU SAID THAT WAS WEAK? ARE YOU A IDIOT OR WHAT. BLUE-K CANT MAKE A COMMENT ABOUT THIS WOMAN WHO WE DONT KNOW, BUT YOU CAN? GET A LIFE.

By melo

November 1, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

meeting starts in a few. If you work on Wall St, why do you care what’s going on in Atlanta-Bull-Shyt. Wall streeet is just a term we use to refer to the markets and the NY stock exchange.We call it the OFFICE.We make the money, even when at home, in pjs! Am i saying something sensible to u or u want me to elucidate so we can have intercourse?

By Pomey2

November 1, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

melo but doncha get tired hearin how it’s just about to happen? It’s “another six months, we gonna have payoff” meanwhile cashing out the CDs “another six months” meanwhile takin the 401(k)

When is enough enough?

By AAA

November 1, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

@KYM, BUT YOU DONT HAVE A MAN, BECAUSE YOU ARE LOOKING FOR SOMEONE THAT MAKES AOT OF MONEY, SWEETIE I TOOK PSYCHOLOGY IN COLLEGE, ITS NOT THAT HARD. YOUR CRITIZING OTHER BUT IN THE SAME TOKEN WHAT ARE YOU EVEN ON THE BLOG. SAME YOU DONT CARE HOW MUCH A GUY MAKES, DONT TELL OTHER WOMEN THEY SHOULD, ALL THIS F’ING HYPOCRITES ON THIS BLOG, GEEZ.

By atllaw191

November 1, 2007 2:35 PM | Link to this

Interesting concept; having a J-O-B versus trust fund. I don’t date any longer. This happened mainly because dates figured I had a lot of time (although I worked full time and went to school full time) to mingle with THEIR family, not mine and it was just too much WORK. Now that that is off my chest, and I’ve finished the degree with a fab GPA, still working full time and making my way in the world, I find that being alone is a lot different from being lonely. I have work, family, know where my bank account stands at all times without someone else dipping into it, am reliable when it comes to paying my bills on time (therefore, no anger over the fact HE had to have that one golf club instead of paying the gas bill), and although pretty broke still (in comparison to others), I don’t feel inadequate when hearing sob stories from others as to their marriages. Although an occasional night out would be great, I hear stories all the time now that boyfriends are either eliminating their sig others (see AJC or WXIA, etc.), and I feel no need to “get into it” any longer. As to the issue: I would not (if) date a person who had a trust fund, simply because I agree with the author that there is something inherently LAZY about a person who squanders their time while living off the funds others set aside for you. People who do so have too much time on their hands (i.e., devils workshop) and tend to rely on another’s interesting work history and friends and friends of friends for company instead of making their own. Since I’m now of the age that persons who I might engage a conversation are “retired”, it would seem to me that they should be doing “something”, not necessarily making a lot of money, but doing something constructive - like habitat for humanity building, giving back, etc. I entirely feel that each person should carry their own weight in a relationship and that consists of work-life balance. One who does not choose to work, for whatever reason, tips that balance to the negative.

By Stop that AAA

November 1, 2007 2:35 PM | Link to this

Using all caps is shouting, knock it off. You don’t need to use all caps to get your point across AAA

By WTF????

November 1, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

MeLo, MyLo, ByLo, DownLo, Nuff of da Drama…B(&)!!! Azz*

By Hotlanta

November 1, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

AAA what make you think that ALL black women are spending our precious 24 hours in a day looking for a man. Sure I club a lot but I go to dance. I can pick up a man at the movies, in aisle 4 at Kroger or while I am jogging. Sure a lot of us are not married because we are not stupid. What do I look like when I meet a man fall in supposebly love and we get married and all he gotta do is just hang his clothes in my closet after the wedding because my place is fierce. Excuse me if I should fall in love first I am gonna sell my house and WE are gonna move into another house. That ain’t being a gold digger that is being smart. We have seen toooo many women in our family marry for love and when it is ova girlfriend ain’t got nothing but his debt but he has moved onto someone else. PLEASE stop the madness. I ain’t gonna be with a man and we are gonna sit up under the brige everynight, saying baby money ain’t important but give me the cardboard box top so that I can keep warm it’s gonna be a frost tonight. Any man step, (I said MAN not boy) to me he better be bout it, bout it.

By Derrell - Not Rell today

November 1, 2007 2:40 PM | Link to this

@AAA..i am all out of troll cookies sorry, maybe next time, K

By Jazzyone

November 1, 2007 2:40 PM | Link to this

melo was I a dumb @ss for selling my google stock @ 535 a share or what???!!** thats all im saying…..

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

AAA, proofreading does wonders.

Derell (Mr. Formal today, Lol) Good point. Maybe he wasn’t checking for me.

Blue_Kolla, I guess buddy.

By Jazzyone

November 1, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

AAA could you please stop screaming im all for you voicing your thoughts but gee wiz stop screamin ya.

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

November 1, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

AAA Poor thang..You are still not reading ..I never said I didnt have a man. Also, taking a psych class and being the project of study in a psych class are two total different things.

By SexyLeggs

November 1, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

AAA you read Derrell’s comment wrong. He was repeating what BKolla said.

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

November 1, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

I know I know Rell..Dont feed the Trolls.

By Blue_Kolla

November 1, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

Hmmm… now that’s interesting… Mr. Wall Street has no idea what “trolling” is, but more importantly, no resolve to go look it up. I would expect more from one who must be in a position of great responsibility. So for the good of the blog, I’ll just apply the “Suspect” stamp.

By AAA

November 1, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

I LIKE CAPS, I AM NOT YELLING@HOTALANTA, YOU JUSTT ADMITTED TO WHAT I SAID. AT THE CLUB, TRYING TO FIND A MAN, WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE IS A SINGLE BLACK WOMAN WHO IS UNHAPPY AND IS TRYING TO JUSTIFY HER MEANS AS TO WHY SHE IS SINGLE. THATS WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE, ALSO YOUR SPEECH IS IMPAIRED, AINT ISNT A WORD, GO TO SCHOOL BABY. WOMEN LIKE YOU AND YOUR GIRLFRIENDS, ARE ALL THE SAME. MISERABLE AND MAKING EXCUSES.

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this

atllaw, Atlanta DOES seem to be the capital of domestic murder-suicides. Whatever happened to just moving on when someone dumps you?

Story from today’s AJC: Morehouse student shot after intervening in a domestic dispute in Atlantic Station. Geez. AJC Story

By Jazzyone

November 1, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

Dayum is that how we sounded earlier cause it sure is ugly…SPED…..

By DuShawn

November 1, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this

I got a question for the fellas: 2CPTG, Blue, Rell, Melo, etc Would you seriously date a chick that worked at Mcdonalds and had a GED?

By AAA

November 1, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

@JAZZY, AMAZON, DR KYM,SEXYLEGGS, DR KYM, DO YOU HAVE A PHD? IF YOU DONT SHUT THE HELL UP, A FAKE WANNABE PHD, FOR YOUR INFORMATION, MY DAD IS A PSYCHOLOIGIST, SWEETIE, AND I HAVE A COLLEGE DEGREE, DARLING,(IDIOT) AMAZON, THATS WHY YOU GOT DISSED, HE DIDNT WANT YOU. DUH) JAZZY, I CAN TYPE IN CAPS IF I LIKE, IF YOU DONT LIKE IT DONT READ MY POST, SEXY LEGGS: READ WHAT DERRELL SAID, GO BACK AND REREAD WHAT HE SAID. HE SAID HIS COMMENTS WERE NOT MACKISH” PIMPS DONT MAKE COMMENTS LIKE THAT.

By AAA

November 1, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

@JAZZY, AMAZON, DR KYM,SEXYLEGGS, DR KYM, DO YOU HAVE A PHD? IF YOU DONT SHUT THE HELL UP, A FAKE WANNABE PHD, FOR YOUR INFORMATION, MY DAD IS A PSYCHOLOIGIST, SWEETIE, AND I HAVE A COLLEGE DEGREE, DARLING,(IDIOT) AMAZON, THATS WHY YOU GOT DISSED, HE DIDNT WANT YOU. DUH) JAZZY, I CAN TYPE IN CAPS IF I LIKE, IF YOU DONT LIKE IT DONT READ MY POST, SEXY LEGGS: READ WHAT DERRELL SAID, GO BACK AND REREAD WHAT HE SAID. HE SAID HIS COMMENTS WERE NOT MACKISH” PIMPS DONT MAKE COMMENTS LIKE THAT.

By Blue_Kolla

November 1, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

AAA My bad champ, I got’chu mixed up with M2.

By joe

November 1, 2007 2:56 PM | Link to this

I find it ironic that the regulars on this blog are so concerned that the dude works, yet all you do all day at your job is participate in this blog! Get real!

By Dan

November 1, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

I can cosign on the finance bonuses.

Also, if you work in finance, you are generally cheaper at least that’s how I justify it than the average person.

Well, I have to at least pretend to work……

By Foots

November 1, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

Pomey When is enough enough?

Any time someone is working towards something, there will be progressive milestones along the way. You should be able to tell pretty quickly whether it’s all talk and BS or whether positive progress is being made by watching for the completion of the interim milestones. Enough is enough when you find that they haven’t made any measurable progress towards their end goal within a reasonable amount of time.

If you ask a person that age-old interview question “Where do you see yourself in ten years?” and they can answer that, follow it up with “And what steps do you need to take to get there?” Only someone very serious about getting there will be able to answer that question.

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

pomey2, go to L.A., the money focus there is ridiculous. But the A is like a mini-L.A. to me anyway.

By MEN

November 1, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this

IF SHE HAS GOALS, WHY NOT!

By BennyB

November 1, 2007 3:02 PM | Link to this

Stacey, It’s funny that some people are trying to tell you what to do and what not to do. It’s called controlling. How many P.O do you have? Receiving without giving is wrong; if you accepted the gift from him, you could spend $10 on a cheap pair of sun glasses and mail them to him, you will have emerged as loving instead of digging. A gift is a gift; it does not have to come in horizontal position; a UPS envelop can do it. Obviously, the guy liked you, offered gifts to you and you called the game off. The same thing happened to you, you liked another guy, you offered him puddy and he called the game off. Now, you wish you can hate every man on this planet for the same exact sin you did and get away with. The point here is that we hurt people that love us the same way people we love hurt us; its life, we should move on and not be afraid to live and take risks.

kimmie - Why someone should watch on sideline while her name is bashed? If you don’t speak your mind on a blog platform, where are you going to do so? If only some people could stop telling us what to do, stop expecting shyt from everybody else……. If you think that the sole purpose of my posts is to instigate ish, why don’t you be a woman enough and challenge me on it……Are you the kind of girl who tell their friends what to do and what not to do and go behind their back when they are not looking?

By Jazzyone

November 1, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

Ahhh I see okay we will let you go ahead and rant….its a public forum but if your dad could only see you now..LMAOFF!

By Jazzyone

November 1, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this

nope not all I do at my job but multi tasking is this century….LMAOFF…

By AAA

November 1, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this

@joe, I have a real easy job IT is simple. I am free at this time of the day, but I have noticed that some of these people on this blog are on here everyday like SEXYLEGGS, MELO, JAZZYONE. They dont have a life, its quite apparent.

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

November 1, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this

AAA Ohhh so you were Dad’s science experiment. I am proud of you for the college degree…After all you can get a degree in Basket Weaving from some of the finest institute of higher learning in world.

By Derrell - Not Rell today

November 1, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

@AR…what da hell..only superman can stop bullets….capt sav-ho only power is rescue…i bet he thought “they told me these pants would work”…he could have lost his life doing that…and i am sure said female went home with the cat using her as a punching bag

By Blue_Kolla

November 1, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

DuShawn Honestly bruh… yeap sho would, IF and only IF she had aspirations to further her position and was diligently working on it. Now if she’s satisfied with a MacJob as is she’s made it, HELL NO!

Some of our journeys have encountered more shipwrecks than others and I understand that, and since I’ve got my own ship, I’ll pick her up as long as she has the mettle worthy enough to stand beside me on brigde.

Besides… if for some reason I run up on the goose laying golden eggs, and I’m sittin’ on swole, you better believe that I’m Comin’ To America in the Civic joint myself. I don’t need no Heather Mills act-alike.

By Foots

November 1, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

said in my best Eddie Murphy from The Klumps voice

THIS BLOG NEEDS AN EXORCIST!!!!

Foots is now having a flashback of Dave Chappelle as Samuel L Jackson saying “I’M NOT YELLING! THAT’S HOW I TALK!!! YOU AIN’T NEVER SEEN MY MOOOOVIES?? THERE WAS JUICE, THAT WAS A GOOD ONE, DEEP BLUE SEA….THEY ATE ME!! A M/F SHARK ATE ME!! DRINK B%$^H!!!!!

I gotta get my laughs where I can today. Y’all about to make a sista go climb a crane and tie up ya rush hour. LOL!!

By aaa

November 1, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

@MEN, great comment, who cares if she works at Mcdonalds,TELL THESE IGNORANT HOES ON THIS BLOG ITS OKAY TO DATE A MAN THAT WORKS AT MCDONALDS. SPEAK

By Kara

November 1, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

You wouldn’t know the regulars if you didn’t READ the regulars, every day. So, really, are you that different from anyone else in the forum?

By Derrell - Not Rell today

November 1, 2007 3:17 PM | Link to this

@dushawn…at first i said naw, then i thought….dude you dated strippers with no plan..and then after that tight post by BK i stand corrected..i would give it a shot…good post Blue Kolla

By Beautiful

November 1, 2007 3:20 PM | Link to this

tell me if i was wrong for letting him go

i met a guy who was really handsome and the physical attraction drove me crazy, BUT (1) we couldn’t go on a date because his license was suspended and i’m not a taxi (2) he didn’t have his own place lived with auntie i think (3) he worked for a temp agency it didn’t seem to be going anywhere (4) he loved to send me butt naked shots which i hated yes he was a freak (5) he’s about 36ish.

it sounded like he was workin’ on his issues though. did i mention he was fyne as wyne. lol

does this make me a gold digger because he had nothing to offer?

By Derrell - Not Rell today

November 1, 2007 3:20 PM | Link to this

@aaa…ignorant hoes…..dude you low budget period…and corny.

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

Whoa…the woodworks are busy today.

By Staceye

November 1, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

Benny where did it say that I gave him anything? Granted it never amounted to the same as what he bought me. He dressed very professional all the time…I told him I wanted to see him in casual clothing…so I bought him an outfit to see if he’d like it and maybe start to incorporate things like it into his wardrobe. I even sent him flowers (girly I know).

Oh and the guys that hurt me were not honest. They led me on knowing that they had no intention of being a good man to me. So totally different. A guy who knows he is not looking to be in a relationship..and he lies to get the girl and get in her panties is a scum. At least when I realized that I could not be attarcted to him..I told him the truth. I had always went from the “pretty boy type. My mom suggested that I give a nice guy a try and not focus on his looks. That was my attempt to make it work. But if there is no physiocal attraction..it’s not going to go anywhere….no matter how much you try to make it so.

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By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this

Beautiful, it doesn’t make you a gold digger. It makes you shallow! You wouldn’t given a guy with those issues that kind of time if he was ugly. LOL

I’m playing with you tho.

By SexyLeggs

November 1, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

WOW!

By Bre

November 1, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

@DANPlease explain: you work in finance, you are generally cheaper at least that’s how I justify it than the average person

Thanks.

By Blue_Kolla

November 1, 2007 3:33 PM | Link to this

Beautiful does this make me a gold digger because he had nothing to offer?

You don’t want me to answer that do you? LOL

By Staceye

November 1, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this

Beautiful I am glad you let that lay good for nothing freak go. You are raising to boys correct? Why add a third? LOL

By aaa

November 1, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

@derrell: correction , I am a fine a* black woman with a man, who has a good a* job, so yes i can call them hoes, get on my level) and all of my friends live in 200-500000 houses with a higly educated man, and nice cars.

By Beautiful

November 1, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this

ARed i tried, i really did. gurl, couldn’t do it! i wanted to meet to play pool and he was like “you comin to get me right?”.

By Derrell - Not Rell today

November 1, 2007 3:40 PM | Link to this

@staceye Oh and the guys that hurt me were not honest. They led me on knowing that they had no intention of being a good man to me. So totally different. A guy who knows he is not looking to be in a relationship..and he lies to get the girl and get in her panties is a scum…..something worse, makes them a SIMP

By aaa

November 1, 2007 3:40 PM | Link to this

@beautiful, you are a gold digger, get some class about yourself. His license has nothing to do with you, are you paying for his troubles? Of course not, you are too stuck on” I am noones taxi” This is what I am talking about ” and I mean it IGNORNANT HOES” and probably ugly, but you are worried about what is in someones pocket? Duh

By Blue_Kolla

November 1, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

Rell Mayne, life will put’chu in some situations to look at things in a totally different light. Only then can you empathize with one who’s fortunes may not have not been as good as your own.

That’s why peeps on here kill me, like they’re sitting up on Sinai or something, when in actuality they’re making the same fugged up moves as errybody else.

By SexyCool

November 1, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

actually…i would agree with dan…in fact, getting to know a fellow blogger who is in finance, tazzee, and seeing her live the financial principles that i so often read about but was not practially applying, went a long way in helping me begin to make some decisions that turned my life around financially…because of the examples that i learned from her…i am in a much stronger financial position than i was in 2005…kudos, taz!!!

By LorDemi

November 1, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

DuShawn it depends on where her head is at and thats all to it.

LOL@MEN, good one.

Pomey look at T.P., if that dude had given up on his plays…

By Beautiful

November 1, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

Blue_Kolla babe, that’s y i’m here. i felt bad, because i can’t do for him like i do for my babies. sorry

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this

Beautiful, too funny. LOL.

I would date a man with no car but it have to be a temporary situation. Him driving a bucket would be okay. I don’t believe you should invest a lot of money in depreciating assets, personally.

By aaa

November 1, 2007 3:45 PM | Link to this

@fake a* Dr KYM, you wish you were where I am sweetie. I understand your curiousity for my lifestyle, trust me I make more money than you do, you are the “Experiment” Come back when you actually have a PHD and a Business running. k!

By SexyLeggs

November 1, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

I’m trying my best over here….you feel me Staceye!

By dan

November 1, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

I know the time value of money. So every excess dollar that I spend could be earning me interest.

Therefore I spend money on what I need and once a quarter something I want.

I want to retire at 40

By Derrell - Not Rell today

November 1, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this

@aaa….bench please!!!!!!!…lets file this under you need more people

PLUS

BENCH I DONT GIVE A FLUCK WAT YOU THINK

By aaa

November 1, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

In fact, these are the hoes that are looking for my man at the club. I am very fortunate, and not stupid. I looked for smart men, not how much money they make. Smart men always make money, I have dated lawyers and robotic engineers, you might not know what that is. Look it up.

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

November 1, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this

AAA

It seems that your man has the good job and your friends have the homes with the cars..so that would make you what…tagalong, deadweight, third wheel on a ten-speed?(insert any term associated with freeloader here).

By abc

November 1, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

DuShawn, re: GED working at McDonald’s, sure, depending on her personality, intelligence, charm, personal appearance, chemistry. One of my brothers has no more than a GED, but he’s president of a regional company, owns controlling concern of another, probably makes 3-4 times what I do, and is more personally involved in his work than I am. GED alone does not tell the whole tale.

By kimmie

November 1, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

Staceye - I’m laughing over here because Mr. B has just blown everything out of proportion! “Controlling”, “woman enough”, “telling people what to do”, give me a freaking break! Benny do you really think I give a s—- what you or anybody on this blog does? Like I said, strictly entertainment, occasionally informative! Other than the child I’m raising, the only people I tell what to do, I’m getting paid for doing it. Don’t get your drawers in a bunch! With that, I’m out, the moon must definitely still be FULL!

By Foots

November 1, 2007 3:53 PM | Link to this

Beautiful You don’t have to justify why you chose not to pursue anything with a particular guy. Nobody knows what you can deal with except you. Shoot, if you want to dump a guy because his middle finger is too dayum short, that’s your prerogative. But if you decide to tell the blog about it, might I suggest one of these size extra-medium comfy blog vests? There are some snipers loose up in this camp! :-)

By Derrell - Not Rell today

November 1, 2007 3:55 PM | Link to this

@BK, that is why i had to restate my position on the matter…i know about those curve balls life can throw…

By Blue_Kolla

November 1, 2007 3:55 PM | Link to this

Staceye Oh and the guys that hurt me were not honest. They led me on knowing that they had no intention of being a good man to me. So totally different. A guy who knows he is not looking to be in a relationship..and he lies to get the girl and get in her panties is a scum.

So you know I have to ask you, what dream were these dudes selling that allowed you to set out the draws? Serious talk here…

Rell/AAA and all of my friends live in 200-500000 houses with a higly educated man, and nice cars.

These are the same married chicks that come all the way down from Acworth, trying to get over to the crib to “spend a little time” and get knocked off.

Come on AAA, if you got it all wrapped up nice and neat cool, but don’t act like some dude keeping you is the capstone of your existence.

By Beautiful

November 1, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this

it’s official y’all, per aaa i’m a gold digger, because i should spend all my time taxing this nicca around and spending money on his issues and waiting for him to drop the question about moving into the house i bought with my money, when in reality i should invest that in my two boys. lol. funny i can live with that.

By Staceye

November 1, 2007 4:04 PM | Link to this

Beautiful girl I feel you. There is no way in hell that I would be picking him all the time. If he is in that much trouble he should not be looking to date anyone. I met someone like that before..needless to say I was out with the quickness. Yu are not asking too much that a man have his own transportation (hooptie is fine), live on his own and hold down a job. The ones who think there is something wrong with you for that need to have their head examined. There is nothing wrong with wanting a man to be able to hold his own. You never said you wanted him to take care of you.

Sexyleggs girl I feel you…telepathy! I got’cha! LOL

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By Hotlanta

November 1, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

I don’t have to justify my being single AA. You are the one that is miserable with that man you got. He is long on money and everytime he takes his clothes off the Disney song “It’s A Small World After All” come to mind. Don’t nobody what that short stick you have but you. Why is it that when people say they are happy and SINGLE folks act act if we are lying. You sound as if you arer jealous of us single folks.

By Blue_Kolla

November 1, 2007 4:07 PM | Link to this

Tall Red I don’t believe you should invest a lot of money in depreciating assets, personally.

Like what DuShawn told Benny earlier… That’s the best shyt you’ve said all day.

Beautiful Check this twist - say your dude’s license was jacked up but he was diligent about alternative means of transpo, would that change anything?

I’m asking ‘cuz i have a cousin like that, wanting me to pick him up from work, drop him at his girls crib, blah blah. I was like, “Look here Joe, you gon’ have to man up, get on the train, bus, whateva. Do what’chu gotta do.”

By Foots

November 1, 2007 4:08 PM | Link to this

In fact, these are the h&^% that are looking for my man at the club.

aaa I guess that your man is at the club in the first place because he dreads coming home to your mean azz.

I’ll holla, I’m too happy-natured for this ish today. Is The Exorcist on his way???

Y’all be easy. If your rush hour is tied up, yeah, it’s my fault. I’m close to deciding to do some sight-seeing from one of the Buckhead cranes.

By aaa

November 1, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this

A stupid hoe just called a man, the N word. My goodness. @blue_Kolla, I had your back at the beginning, but I changed my mind, I dont live in Acworth , and my mans pe, is quite nice, I dont small dks in my life darling. TO ALL MY HATERS, ITS OKAY, HATERS PUT MONEY IN MY POCKET, TRUST ME. BYE HATERS, MY REAL JOB IS OVER.

By Blue_Kolla

November 1, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ Foots There are some snipers loose up in this camp! You stoopid!

By Nina

November 1, 2007 4:13 PM | Link to this

There’s a lot of hate on this website. Some people should really evaluate themselves closely and when you do, I don’t think you’ll like what you see.

By LorDemi

November 1, 2007 4:17 PM | Link to this

Beautiful I wanna know…its call Gold now??!!…opening pant, pulling out, and looking down…:

Manhood you are Golden!!!!

Now heading to wallstreet to look for a gold digger

By Hotlanta

November 1, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

It’s a shame AA if we had a snow storm in the ATL the inside of your house will be colder than the outside because your man can’t measure up. Better hope the weather stays warm.

By DreamsMaterialize

November 1, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

Bella says that she thinks not having a job is a representation of “laziness, lack of leadership, lack of discipline, lack of energy or effort”. I think these same qualities apply to lot of people who work too. For all of us who work, I’m sure we can go down the list of people at work who are lazy, lack leadership, lack discipline, energy, or effort. If you want to know if someone has certain qualities, don’t use other aspects of their life to indirectly determine that, just see if they actually exhibit the qualities you’re trying to find out about.

On the question about how long you should give your dream to materialize, I would say that your dream should not be confined to a time limit, unless you have a family counting on you. A person who truly has a dream would rather die trying to make that dream a reality than give up and live the rest of their life knowing they didn’t keep trying. Like I said, unless you have a family counting on you, go for broke…you only get one shot at life, make it count.

By Staceye

November 1, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

Ok…I’m confused! Has anybody read anything about aaa today that would give anybody a reason to hate on her? I mean..I’m just asking! LOL

By Beautiful

November 1, 2007 4:21 PM | Link to this

Blue_Kolla if he had a ride and showed me his plans on paper on how he was goin’ to get himself outta the mess he was in, probably yes cause his body was tight and those lips … … . dayum. i didn’t even get a chance to test drive, double dayum. lol

By Staceye

November 1, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this

Beautiful be glad you didn’t test drive it. You could have been a woman who has a man that just looks good. Otherwise as the saying goes…he doesn;t have a pot to p*ss in, nor a window to through it out of! LOL

By Magenta

November 1, 2007 4:32 PM | Link to this

So, tell me about Trust Fund Baby. Does he get up early in the morning? Does he have a wide range of interests that he is active in? Does he dress appropriately (or a notch better than necessary) for every situation? Does he have a lot of quality friendships? Does he have a talent that he uses to contribute to a larger cause? Does he do volunteer work? Does he keep up with current events?

A person doesn’t have to be “gainfully employed” to be worth considering. But what you don’t want is a case of arrested development, who thinks that just because he doesn’t have to work, also means he doesn’t have to do ANYTHING. This is a very similar set of criteria for retirees, by the way.

A healthy person stays active and involved. This should be the sort of person you look at and assume they have a job. Know what I mean?

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

November 1, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

I think this is very important..and i havent said it in a minute

Dont be ashamed to pray…prayer changes things….if you got a problem, take it to him..he can fix anything

By ATownBaller

November 1, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this

To sum a lot of what everyone is saying. We as human beings have different expectations for people at different stages in our lives. As people mature values change and well as what is important. Money is always a factor but true love and respect can only be earned. These are the qualities that are most important when money isn’t. They call this generation the “microwave” generation, always want and needs things NOW. Sometimes that gets us in trouble even when we try to find a wife, girlfriend, or jumpoff. The bottom line is when you met someone your individual situation and past experience affects the “choosing” process. Its once we are choosen do we find out was it a good choice is was or wasn’t. There is really no right or wrong answer. Keep playing the odds, sooner or later with a positive attitude you will find the perfect person. And you only attract qualities you put out there. But relying on money will only get you that far. And trust me, money takes away a lot of the everyday issues, but what happens when your partner gets laid off? Is it over? Probably so, thats why divorce in this country is so high. Stay focused on YOUR personal goals and eventually you will find what you are looking for. If its money, hope you meet someone with a lot of it. But be straight up about it. If not, you will find yourself in the same club doing the same two step because the money got old and you found out thats not really what you wanted. Peace…

By Tazzee

November 1, 2007 4:42 PM | Link to this

Afternoon folks!

If dude stimulated my mind (and had nice teeth, LOL), I would date an independently wealthy man in a heartbeat!

I don’t care if he sits around all day because if I could sit around all day - I would. Well, I take that back - I would travel all day. I would do some volunteering and mentoring - but that wouldn’t equate to work hours! Just enough to keep me fulfilled and the rest would be play time for Tazzee.

By Derrell - Not Rell today

November 1, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this

peace and love!

and to all the haters…one yaself

By DuShawn

November 1, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this

On the topic of Giving up on your dreams: Everyone should give up on their dreams immediately but never give up on you plans. It’s not just a matter of semantics. Dreams are unexecuted objectives that result in goals not obtained. If one plan stalls, make another one. Don’t dream about it, be about it.

By Tazzee

November 1, 2007 4:46 PM | Link to this

Y’all will be gone by the time I read the comments for today so have a great evening folks!

By DuShawn

November 1, 2007 4:47 PM | Link to this

And another thing: I want all my kids to be Trust Fund Babies.

By SexyLeggs

November 1, 2007 4:55 PM | Link to this

Good night everyone!

By AmazonRed

November 1, 2007 5:06 PM | Link to this

Bella, good job on a topic to keep the blog busy today! Looking forward to seeing what you bring tomorrow.

Good nite folks.

By LorDemi

November 1, 2007 5:07 PM | Link to this

Tazzee yo late’n’sexiness…you have a bless big sis…all said with brotherly love

ATownBaller Good Post!!!

By Tazzee

November 1, 2007 5:24 PM | Link to this

Thanks for the shout-out SexyCool