Misadventures in Atlanta

By Dan

October 31, 2007 8:42 AM | Link to this

It’s funny. When I was younger my attitude was “get all you can, while you can” and I was chasing everything in sight.

Now, I have more friends, male and female that tell me about women that are looking, women that are interested, and I find myself not caring.

So for me, I’m a passerby dater. A woman would have to be really aggressive for me to even notice.

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 8:45 AM | Link to this

Hey y’all!

Beautiful doesn’t go out much. I’ve been here for two years and have only been out twice, dave & busters and playdate. That’s it! The reason is because I’m addicted to the internet. I’ve met some great people and dated some on there: yahoo personals, match.com and of course myspace. I regret not hitting Visions and Club 112 before they closed down; those were the main two on my list. Before I go, my plan is to go out at least once a month to a different place, including a strip joint. I’m taking suggestions on hot spots. Thx!

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 8:51 AM | Link to this

Dan that is the problem that i am running into. i don’t get approached hardly at all. i’m steppin’ up my game cause y’all got lazy! lol.

good morning!

By SexyLeggs

October 31, 2007 8:59 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone!

By 2CPTG©

October 31, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

Good morning y’all…….

halloween…..the haterz holiday! come on out haterz, masks and all…..

Hey Beautiful….how are you today, o lovely one…..

By melo

October 31, 2007 9:05 AM | Link to this

Good topic Bella Really wanna know where the ladies go or have to go, to get hunted in Atlanta!

By binford

October 31, 2007 9:06 AM | Link to this

I’m not aggressive at all and would much prefer, as Bella stated, to run in to someone casually in the course of normal activities. But for most of us, that doesn’t happen.

When I do go out, I do try to make contact with women - which doesn’t really happen. It might be because I’m heinous looking …who knows? Perhaps I give them the creeps (which I guess would be good tonight, ay?)

Trying to go out to different places is something I don’t do nearly enough. I’m not a huge drinker or bar type of dude. Night clubs (places where people dance) are completely out of the question. Ain’t no way I’m dancing in public! Besides, I just don’t enjoy it - Not even on Halloween in a costume!

And the well is bone dry in my circle of friends - so I have to step outside my tribe to find the future-ex-Mrs. Binford.

Happy Halloween ye’all!

By SlimOne

October 31, 2007 9:08 AM | Link to this

HAPPY HAL-O-WEENIE!

I’m a go-with-the-flow-passerby dater. Hardly do i ever approach a guy. I may open up dialogue just to have someone to converse with but never initiate a phone number exchange. Not dressing up for halloween.

By 2CPTG©

October 31, 2007 9:09 AM | Link to this

good morning Seexy Leggs……lemme ask you and Beautiful a question, would y’all date a younger guy? let’s say buddy had his shyt on tight, and he met all of your “requirements”, he was just younger than you; would his age turn you away?

By Jazzyone

October 31, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

What up ya!…I tend to meet folks when Im out doing the things I enjoy doing, hobbies etc..I don’t do the chasing thing don’t have to…so all is well in America…Holla ya!

By Count D Poo see

October 31, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

Happy pagan day everybody…lol

By Count D Poo see

October 31, 2007 9:13 AM | Link to this

i am a gorilla with my dating…i am like look chick this is count D poo see and i want you…her is my number call me at 7pm thats right 7pm…lol

By AmazonRed

October 31, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this

I was the poster child for “go with the flow” dating. I believed my man should find me, wherever I may be, even if it meant at home on my couch!

After this most recent break up, I have started to realize how much time I could have potentially wasted. So now I’m out there, increasing my odds of meeting him. A 40-something soror of mine just got a 4 carat rock from a man she met on a dating website. Of course I scoffed at online dating, but she is a fly sister who was like “what are you really afraid of? You work 40-50 hours a week and travel for work on the weekends, WHEN DO YOU HAVE TIME TO MEET PEOPLE?” She had a good point and that rock helped seal the deal for me. No more “standing around.” The least I can do is go out and do fun things I love anyway.

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this

What’s up handsome? I’m ok … . . alittle homesick though. :(

By binford

October 31, 2007 9:18 AM | Link to this

Beautiful It is not that men are lazy, it is that we get mixed signals. If we approach, then we’re “bothering” you and if we don’t, we’re not “workin it”.

This has been said before, but all a woman has to do in a social setting is make eye contact or walk by and say “hey” with some eye contact. 99% percent of men know this is clearance to approach! If they don’t, they are the 1% that need to go extinct, or are in to someone else, or taken.

In the grand scheme of things it is easy for a woman to get us fishies(men)if she is interested. Just drop the hook in the water; we’ll bite!

By Count D Poo see

October 31, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this

@AR….Count D poo see will have fun with you…lol.

By joe

October 31, 2007 9:23 AM | Link to this

If more women tried to start a conversation with someone who catches their eye instead of sitting back playing that coy game ya’ll are programmed to do then there might be a better chance of romance. C’mon ladies, it’s not 1955 anymore!

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 9:24 AM | Link to this

2C i’m only attracted to younger guys. if he’s older than 39, he better not even look his age. sorry, it’s a turn off to me.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

October 31, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

Happy Halloween All! I hope you guys have a good one. Mo is trying to avoid all the mounds of candy floating around her office… (sigh)

On topic: I am a go-with-the-flow type of chick BUT I have and will approach a guy. If I am truly interested in him I have no problem letting him know. And I tend to meet people in the most average settings (grocery store, mall, bookstores, etc)

By Count D Poo see

October 31, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

@binfold…..note - every women you approach will not be cut for you or your mackin…HER LOSE

second note - come correct with your mouth piece…most women get hit on all day..so approach on a courtsey level…i.e…non threating…a hello usually works..followed by anything around that you can comment it on

note three - you have mackish moments all day…you just need to tune your radar to those moments…while you checking for one chick there are at least three checking for you

and i am sure you already know this..but like MJ practiced the layup daily…we need to be reminded of the basics….keep it mackish player

By abc

October 31, 2007 9:32 AM | Link to this

I haven’t gone partying on Halloween since I was 20 in New Orleans, down in the French Quarter. Now, that was a party!

This year, even though I live in a golf/tennis/swim with thousands of kids trick-or-treating, I’m turning out the lights, making some popcorn and disappearing down into the home theater.

By AmazonRed

October 31, 2007 9:35 AM | Link to this

LOL @ Count D Poo see.

By 2CPTG©

October 31, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

A Red, believe it or not, online dating can be quite fun, but just be careful….a webcam is the weapon of choice in that realm, to ensure the picture and the person match up….

By 2CPTG©

October 31, 2007 9:39 AM | Link to this

abc, what country club do you live in? Can me and Rell come over and discuss political views and shoot the shyt down in the home theatre too?

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

October 31, 2007 9:41 AM | Link to this

Good Morning All,

Very laidback dating..not aggressive at all. I dont approach guys just not my thing. I have dated online and even then they guy had to “wink” at me first.

By Jazzyone

October 31, 2007 9:41 AM | Link to this

Ladies a lil conversation and a simple hello is all that is needed sometimes trust it! Pulled anumber this morning at the gas station at 6 this morning said hello to this sexy fine @ss choco bar! How bout he put oil in the Lac and offerred to hit the machine with his card to buy my Gas..of course I declined but I did get that number what?? yeah…life is good! yum ;-))

By Jazzyone

October 31, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this

abc can we come over I have the Orig gansta movie in tow..what up ya!..j/k…unless you gone do it…LOL!!

By Count D Poo see

October 31, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

@AR….you need to get in a count’s mind. I could change your life…so tell me want you dont like about yourself..lol

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed please try the on-line dating. it’s fun and you will learn alot about the guy before you even meet him.

binford i was kidding about being lazy, but this is new to me. do you know how many men i could have approached since i’ve been here? alot. i feel like i’ve wasted valuable time!!! dayum.

By AmazonRed

October 31, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this

Thanks 2CPTG, I’m going to give it a shot. I really did believe that online dating was for losers with no social skills. Folks at the end of their rope! But I have several friends whom I respect and admire who have met the love of thier lives on the internet, whether it be on an actual dating site or on message boards and such. We’ll see.

By SexyLeggs

October 31, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

2C, I would date a younger guy but no one in their 20’s.

I was told my flapper dress was too short by HR. They want me to go home. WTF….I’m not going anywhere!! The length is the same as my other minis I wear to work and this never bothered anybody. I look good and they’re hating. I’m steaming mad!

By Staceye

October 31, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

Happy BOOOO Day!!!

Binford that eye contact thing is not a sure fire thing. Guys that I have interest in whatsoever..they still approach me. I can tell them, I got a man, I’m dating, I’m a man (LOL), etc…and they still keep pressing on. I try NOT to make eye contact..amkes me understand why people wear shades in a club!

Beautiful girl you have got to get out and increase your chances. I am not looking but I sure get my share of male friends should I decide to really date again. I too like younger men..or at least look younger. I don’t want to feel like I am dating my dad!

**Ok…how about I heard they’ve got Halloween doughnuts upstairs…a sista is about to go blow her diet today. It’s cool..I will burn it off in the gym today. Can’t have the booty getting all out of control! Anybody hitting and parties tonight?

By binford

October 31, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this

4 CARAT? … FOUR FRIGGIN CARATS???

That’s insane!

I’ve decided, I’m going to dress as a chick when I go out tonight. Think about it….. I could get proposed to and get a 4 carat rock! I get a fancy dress and it’s all about me!!!

I think women should get on bended knee and propose to men and give US a rock! This culture has it all wrong!

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs that’s called a vacation day. you go gurl!

By Bre

October 31, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this

SLeggs Be very careful anything can be grounds for termination these days. If they notify you to go home and change and you don’t you can be creating more trouble down the end.

By Staceye

October 31, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs girl I know first-hand about haters. I bet it some ugly no shape having tramp that got the problem with you. Work your walk mama!

By SexyLeggs

October 31, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

I don’t know about you guys, but I see nothing wrong with passing a guy in the club, on the street, at a restuarant, etc. and saying hello, or complimenting something he’s wearing. Men love it, ladies.

I realize that I’m going to have to get out on the dating scene if I want to meet someone. Right now, I’m not looking forward to it.

By Jazzyone

October 31, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs um where do you work im just curios where you wearing mini skirts and such…

By Alvin

October 31, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs look bay, Imma change my age just to reel you in…

I am 35ish today, sooooooooo…you have no choice but to go out with me!!

By Jazzyone

October 31, 2007 10:15 AM | Link to this

Why does it have to be a hater that doesn’t think a mini skirt is appropriate…it isn’t depending on the culture of the office and the environement and the company.

By Alvin

October 31, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this

Hey Bre

SexyLeggs girl go home and change…and hit the meanest mature sexy walk on the way out!!!

By Count D Poo see

October 31, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

@SEXYLEGGS..take a picture….i wanna see what the fuss is about….sending you home because of your dress…and i bet the folks who reported you are the BIG BACKS…lol

@binfold…i was thinking the same thing 4 carats….her head game must be priceless..lol

By SexyLeggs

October 31, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

Bre, you’re right. However, I’m not going home. I’ll go to Target and pick up some unflattering piece of crap.

Staceye, you know it!

JazzyOne, I work for an attorney. Been here 11 years. When I say minis, I don’t mean very short like we did in the 80’s. They’re at a respectable length above my knee.

Alvin, it’s a date…LOL

By Jazzyone

October 31, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

Bre have you been to ITALY????

By Brooklyn

October 31, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

Hey Blog. I dont consider myself an agressive dater, per se,but I am not one of those coy, meek girls who sit down while others call the shot. I think I’m somewhere in between. If I see someone I like, he will def know I’m interested by the way I look him over. Unfortunately, I dont dress up or celebrate Halloween so I’ve never met a potential man that way…

By AmazonRed

October 31, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

Yes, y’all. 4 carats. I told her that was a baaaad azzzed ring. She was like “I know, I designed it myself.” Her dude just provided the cheddar. Her ring is HAWT!

By Dan

October 31, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

@Sexyleggs

That’s just jealousy. Don’t let it get to you.

On topic: my thing is not that I don’t approach, I simply feel like I don’t have to. I’ve said this before, I’m cute so I shouldn’t have to work that hard.

By 2CPTG©

October 31, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

ummmmm, Jazzy, gal, you may want a mechanic to look at the “Lac”…..you shouldn’t have to be puttin any oil in there……do you change the oil on a regular? ‘Cause if you addin oil, you may wanna check them gaskets, and seals!!! That’s on the serious tip!

By AmazonRed

October 31, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

jazzy1, I had the same thought. Heck, at my job, women still have to wear pantyhose, so mini’s would be a huge NO NO!

SexyLeggs, sorry it had to happen. You actually were probably pushing the envelope for a while, and someone finally decided to say something to HR. I know I tone it down at work. I’m on the management track and I’ve found things like skirts will automatically look nicer on my frame than others. I’d rather folks focus on my work than my attire. But that’s just me.

By Bre

October 31, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

SL Just pick something up then when its the end of the day change back.

Hey Demi You stay out of Trouble!!!!!!!!!

OT I’ve always went after what I wanted. Men like it more than you know when you make the first move. Men overall don’t like rejection and you make it easier if you do the approach. I tell you this after the first let down, its nothing to it. Because you’ve went thru the worst part already. Just keep Pushing…

JOne A long time ago, like maybe over 10 years ago. Sardinia was by far my favorite, I was bored in Naples. Are you going? If so just let me tell you this they LOVE, I mean LOVE Sistas. I was not alone ever.

By LorDemi

October 31, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs sounds like the wife’s husband show up and stared a minute too long at them legs, LOl

I am dressing as the Black Panther and I have a skin tight Storm suit for ya

By SexyCool13

October 31, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

i used to be a go with the flow dater…when i was actively dating…never had a problem meeting guys…

By AmazonRed

October 31, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this

binford, you hitting the town tonight? Which spot? * wiggles eyebrows*

By Willie Dynamite

October 31, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

Morning All-

On Topic- Back when I was single I had the Go with the flow attitude. It worked for me. All my potnahs had the shotgun approach (very aggressive). They would holla at 50 just to get 5-6 numbers. I was the sniper I’d holla at 4-5 to get 1-2. Back then my circle was pretty big. For me instead of the dog label my potnahs got, all i had to do what just lay it down real good to a few of them and just get referrals so to speak. I neva was the club type so when I did get dragged out to the club you could usually find me posted up somewhere with a winna.

Leggs Go home, better to bytch about going home than to explain why you got all Angela Davis over a skirt. And don’t get something unflattering (don’t think thats possible for you). get something just as fly thats within requirements and let the haters hate w/o any ammo. Then smile at they azz.

By QC

October 31, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

Morning all….well, it’s official

PAGE IS FINALLY IN ATLANTA

welcome to the ATL Ms Page

Have a great day all!

By For Real

October 31, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

Jazzy: Hey cutie how are you.

Dude: I’m good. How are you doing pretty lady?

Jazzy: I’m well, I’m trying to put this 40 weight old in my Lac.

Dude: Let me take care of that for you. I don’t want you messing up that nice suit you have on.

Jazzy: Awwwww thank you. Can you rotate my tires and replace my water pump too?

Dude now cutting Jazzy’s breakline.

By LorDemi

October 31, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this

Bre I don’t see no trouble…

issssh, Imma bout to fly my a$$ around this blog now…Now you see me, Now you dont!!

By Bella

October 31, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

Happy Halloween, everyone!

AmazonRed, I’ve heard both good and bad stories from online dating, but probably more positive! It’s worth a shot, right?

By SexyLeggs

October 31, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

ARed, anything is possible. I’ve always pushed the envelope because I can basically wear anything, BUT I DON’T. I dress very appropriate for the office. The way some of these people come to work is absolutely amazing and should be given a citation for their unkept appearance in the workplace. I am a professional and act and dress accordingly. Unfortunately, not today!

Thanks LorDemi, I like that. Off to Target I go.

By mqew

October 31, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

Hey yall,

Uhhmm.. Binford. What? Why should women propose?

By SexyLeggs

October 31, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

Before I go shopping, ARed, being from NY we tend to dress a little sharper and push the envelope way more than some of these Southerners do. I’m not trying to be condescending, but some of these women in this building alone just don’t care what they look like. I just don’t get it. I take very good care of myself.

By Staceye

October 31, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

ARED he fiancee got a brother? LOL

Sexyleggs Hateration is admiration!!

By Alvin

October 31, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

They would holla at 50 just to get 5-6 numbers.

And them dudes be 50 and still haven’t figure out why their game isn’t working.

By Page1908

October 31, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

LOL thanks QC for that announcment! I miss my west coast already…lol sigh

By Count D Poo see

October 31, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

COUNT D POO SEE THEME SONG FOR TODAY..LOL

I want’a do something freaky to you Baby Oh, baby I want’a Right now Oh, baby

Your love is like a mountain I’d love to slide down into your canyons (Slide down) In the valley of love (In the valley of love) I won’t rest (I won’t rest) Until I bring joy and happiness (Ah)

I want’a do something freaky to you Baby (Something freakish to me) Oh, baby Oh I want’a (Something freakish to me) Baby

All prepostitons of the Zodiac signs I won’t quit until I blow your mind (Blow my mind) Compatible am I (Compatible am I) I’ll hit the spot (Hit the spot)

In the name of love Ooh, everything I’ve got Ooh Ooh Ooh

[Sounds of ecstacy] Ow!

I want’a do something freaky to you Baby (Freakish to me) Oh, baby

I don’t want’a stop your image of me But my style of love is totally free (Free) I’ll put it where you want it (Put it where you want it) As long as you need it (As long as you need it) I’ll make it good Mm And I won’t mistreat it (Ah)

I want’a do something freaky to you Baby (Something freakish to me) Oh, baby Oh I want’a do something freakish to you right now (Something freakish to me) Oh, baby

Get a little freakish, baby Get a little freakish, baby (Ah) Get a little freakish, baby Get a little freakish, baby (Oh)

All prepositions of the Zodiac signs I won’t quit, no (Freakish to me) Until I blow your mind I’m compatible as ever Ooh I’ll hit the spot Oh, in the name of love (Something freakish, baby) In the name of love In the name of love In the name of love In the name of love Ooh, in the name of love (Freakish, baby)

[Sounds of ecstasy] (Freakish, baby) (Freakish, baby) (Get a little freakish, baby) Oh Oh Oh Get a little freakish, baby

By AmazonRed

October 31, 2007 11:02 AM | Link to this

I hear you SexyLeggs, you’re a sharp lady that has clearly made wise decisions in life, so I feel ya. I’m from L.A. and know how to dress too. I just choose to not show off that particular skill set in the office. I JUST started wearing heels again. Before when I wore them I had dudes breaking their neck. Just not worth it to me. That was at my last job where I was surrounded by more blue color brothers. But if I was walking with senior staff, they still noticed the reaction.

Bella, it IS worth a shot. I just hope I don’t find those few stalkers out there. I’m VERY cautious about the company I keep. But crazy can find you anywhere.

Staceye, I’ll ask if her fiance has a brother! LOL

By Count D Poo see

October 31, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

@page1908….welcome to the A…

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

October 31, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs Sorry but what does your location in the nation have to do with how you dress or your apperance. I mean I have seen some sloppy dress people from the midwest, the north, and Canada. How about saying the people in your office dress like a HAM instead of defining it by region. Also for those Northerns so unhappy with the way things are int he South. You do know that Delta is ready when you are.

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

someone just reminded me that we’ve been to the leopard lounge too. didn’t like it … … . to dark and the men there seem like they didn’t have anything goin’ on.

By abc

October 31, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

Now, a 2 carat diamond with plainly visible flaws, not so great color and imperfect cut goes $15K. A 4 carat with similar flaws would go well in excess of $50K. I’m talking flaws that look like little dirt clods and pieces of lint inside the stone, and color that’s just plain yellow. Very slight inclusions and good color would push a 4 carat diamond way over $100K pretty darn quick. You’re sure it was a 4 carat diamond?

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

October 31, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

Good morning….Just dropped by to say hey and to give Staceye a ticket..just for the hell of it

HEy everyone…winks and hugs to the ladies..head nod to the fellas

By melo

October 31, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

SexyL, if yur knickers are showing while seated, u got a hot mini.If ur skirt loks like a loin, barely covering ur triangle, u got a mini!! But since u work for a law firm. i would have thought ur bosses would have given u a break since it attracts clients.

By Staceye

October 31, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs your 10:48 post is right on point! Then they hate on the ones who actually put forth effort to like nice. It’s not only the body and face to pull off a hot outfit…its a swagga! You either got it or you don’t! HATERS CHOKE ON IT!

ARED if he does…make sure he is not the broke azz brother looking for an upgrade! LOL

By AmazonRed

October 31, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

abc - I’m sure.

By LorDemi

October 31, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

Count D Poo see…For Real is that you, boy take that mask off and put the gun down!!!

standing on my motorize blog crate…ARed, girl I dare you to put those heels on…now cocking left eye like the ROCK

By AmazonRed

October 31, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

beautiful, I’ve only been to the Leopard Lounge twice, but both times it was FULL of men! This was on Thursday nights. I might have to hit that up tomorrow. LOL

By Staceye

October 31, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

GA Man how you just gon’ roll up in this piece and had JUST ME…a citation? LOL I still got my whip…don’t make me use it!

Melo I say knickers as well…do you also have British family members?

By WTF????

October 31, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

Bloggers SOME OLE FOLK JUST LIKE ATTENTION. AINT NUTHANG CUTE BOUT SOME OLE AXX CHICK TRYIN’ TO BE 23. YO DAY IS GONE…LET THE YOUNG FLY GIRLS HAVE IT!!!

now back to your regular scheduled program.

By kimmie

October 31, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

Dr.Kym - You took the words right out of my mouth! I was born & raised in the South & so were my parents. It’s no “Northern” thing to dress! My mother was voted best dressed on campus (CAU) by the Delta’s and she was not even in the sorority! All that “down here” & “I’m from NY, LA, etc.” stuff is so tired! As someone put it the other day, this is the South, not another planet! Game is game anywhere you go, and the same goes for dressing. Everyone from NY is not ready to compete on America’s Next Top Model or Project Runway! Ever seen that show What Not To Wear? The makeover contestants come from all over the nation!

By Count D Poo see

October 31, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

what da fluck is swagger…lol…i hate hate that saying…my swagger….gtfoh!!!!

By abc

October 31, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

Hm. Sure it’s actually a diamond, not lab-created?

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert i want to personally apologize for saying bad things about the south. b4 i came here, i was told so many wonderful thangs about Georgia, especially the men. my expectations were extremely high! i knew i was going to be here forever.

but then i arrived, and it hit hard. everything from the roads to the redneck haters got to me. they really do scare me. theres places i’m told not to go. what! and the governor, lawd! i’ll start keeping the comments to myself.

if i was born here, i know i would love it.

By AmazonRed

October 31, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

Staceye, why does it have to be hating? We all have folks who do not dress appropriately at work (not saying this applies to SexyLeggs). Whether it’s too risque or too slovenly. There is one dude in my office who must be allergic to the iron. When HR finally decides to get to him, it’s not going to be hating. LOL.

But I got you on the inquiry, Stace. LOL

Yes, LorDemi, I will put the heels on. My new office is much smaller and much less a “hostile enviornment” to work in. Some of the chicks call me “Miss Model” but at least the dudes ignore me.

By binford

October 31, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed I have a league game tonight, so I’ll be dressing up for that. Depending on when that’s over - may go hit a bar afterwards for beer and wings. Wanna come meet me all sweaty like? ;P

Off topic: And I am curious after all these years, why the man has to spring for ring? (I still can’t believe 4 CARATS!) Even if I had millions, I still think a big ring is gaudy and impractical. I’ve seen some neat diamonds encrusted bands that couples have had made that are matching him/hers - I think that’s the way to go.

By AmazonRed

October 31, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this

abc, I don’t care that much. Why do you. You do know there are rich men in this city? Right?

By Sybil

October 31, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this

After a certain point, don’t you get too old for mini skirts?

By abc

October 31, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this

Where have you been told not to go, Beautiful? And why? Just for the sake of personal reference.

By Bre

October 31, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this

You can find hot green mess dressed people in every corner of the world….no matter the city. I live in NYC from the ATL and lived in 5 other major cities in the USA. Granted I’ve always got my dress on even with handmedowns as a child. Its all in how you put it together and wear it. I see ppl on the train every single day wondering if they dressed in the dark below the train tracks. And this goes for men and woman.

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

ARed now that i think about it. we went on the wrong nite. the guy friend i was with felt bad for takin’ us there.

my next stop will probably be the compound. i’ll probably go by myself so i can let it go more.

By Hotlanta

October 31, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this

Stacye I love me some young men also. Don’t have time for a man to take his Viagra for it to get in his bloodtream. I will be sleep. I am the big 50 and I have not had sex with a man over 40 yet. I tell my friends the men over 50 ain’t looking for us. So you gotta do what cha gotta do. Mix it up a little bit. As long as he doesn’t have baby breath and he is not riding a tricycle I will date him.

By Peeps

October 31, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this

Maybe they don’t think your legs are as sexy as you do.

Maybe they are tired of seeing your knobby knees or your cankles (you know when your calfs are so fat there the same size all the way down to your ankle).

Maybe they have been wanting to tell you that your mini skirts are inappropriate.

And did somebody say you work in a law firm? This ain’t Melrose Place.

All said in a gently teasing manner with a good old southern “Bless yo’ heart” at the end.

By AmazonRed

October 31, 2007 11:42 AM | Link to this

binford, are you in a basketball league or some other sport? Maybe I can roll thru and be your cheerleader. I can still do a split! ;-P

And I promise, I’d never ask you for more than a full carat! LOL I do find things like that wasteful, which is why I wouldn’t date a man who drove a Hummer. You aren’t in Iraq and those cars kill the environment. Be sensible!

By melo

October 31, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

Staceye, i have British education,4 the most part(except for my amaerica MBA) and culture. Benn in he states only 10 years! Kimmie& Ared** u all right,inappropriate dressing has nothing to do with where u from.If NYC and LA are so happening that one has to use them to validate what they do, u must be in the wrong place or u loseing the plot. I am curious tho to see SexxyL in her tight minis.

By Staceye

October 31, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

ARed example…when I first got here I had tricks coming over to my desk everyday just see what I was wearing then go find a way to “complain” about it. Meanwhil, the fat chick with cleavge to her navel and the boney chick with a dress so tight you can see the ribs where her breast should be…but no one say a thing to them. Let me wear a dress the fits..and it’s a problem. I even had a gay male manager tell me, “you’re an attractive woman and people are going to notice you”. Now tell me how that is NOT discrimantion or hate in the highest form? So if I were uogly, fat or boney I could come to work naked and no one would care. But because I refuse to dress down or weara mu-mu to appease some self conscience women…I’m wrong? My first day on the job, I spoke to these women (something a NY’er does not is speak to someone we do not know) I even smiled and they gave me the stank-face without knowing my name or anything about me. Then when I spoke a little more, they found I was from NY..and the hate was so thick up in there you couldn’t cut it with a knife. Just because I actually give a d*mn how I look when I step out of the house..there is something wrong with me?

By Ohh la la

October 31, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

Oh Oh Binford I think you are about to talk yourself off AR radar. Heehee. just joking!

By Count D Poo see

October 31, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

@beautiful…..include count d poo see on your trip to the compound…so i can see you get loose lil mamma….lol

By Foots

October 31, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this

Bre LOL @”hot green mess”!!!

By kimmie

October 31, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this

binford - Why does the bride’s family have to (traditionally) spring for the wedding? Just the way ish is!

Beautiful - I’d like to know too, where you were told not to go! But I’ve never known any major city where there were not parts you may not want to frequent. You should not be living in fear! Are there really cities in the US & world where EVERY area is wonderful, clean and SAFE? I know, I’m being a little sarcastic, but some of you visitors are so PARANOID!

By abc

October 31, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

Yeah, sure there’s a lot folks that show money in Atlanta, ARed, but a $100K diamond is movie star stuff. Seems unlikely. Hey, it’s nothing to me, just curious.

By SexyLeggs

October 31, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

WD, thank you. While driving to Target I thought hell no. I’m not going to buy something I had no intention of spending $$ on. I went home. I now have on a long skirt with a split on the side, with a blue silk blouse, blue patent pumps and my ankle bracelet. I like your phrase let the haters hate w/o any ammo. That’s what I’ve decided to do.

Staceye, you’re right hateration is admiration for the most part. I wanted to be Tina Turner. Here I am looking for a co-worker to be “Ike” not realizing that the company would give me a beat down!

ARed, thank you. That was a very nice compliment.

DrKym, I disagree with you. Location does matter on how a person dresses and their appearance. A person’s region/location is all fused into who the person becomes. Dressing is one aspect of it. Yes, there are sloppy dressers every where. And yes there are well dressed people everywhere. NY is seen as the garment district. IMO, location/region can dictate on how a person dresses or choose not to dress. JMO!

Melo, when I sit everything is covered. Let me reiterate on what I call a mini = anything above the knee even if it’s resting on the top of the knee cap. There’s no Sharon Stone going on over here. This is probably TMI, but when I do go pantiless, before you me, I have pantyhose on.

By Staceye

October 31, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

Sybil I feel as long as your azz doesn’t sag to the back of your knee-caps and your gams still look hot (ie. Tina Turner & Diana Ross) WORK IT! I will work out until I am too old to work out and keep doing the d*mn thang! I many years a head of me before I reach cougar stage..but I hope not to be some old fogy that let’s herself go and say because I am 45 I should dress like Granny Pearl.

By AmazonRed

October 31, 2007 11:53 AM | Link to this

Staceye, sorry that happened to you, but that doesn’t mean that when it happens to other people it’s hating. It could be simply inappropriate. Someone should have reported the other inappropriate ladies as well.

The gay male manager was right. You are an attractive woman and people will notice you regardless. This is why many women get tripped up in the corporate game…worrying about the wrong stuff. I’m going to get noticed regardless, so my choice is to focus on things in my work that aren’t obvious when you meet me. My brain and my work ethic. I could give a damn about winning best dressed awards in the workplace. That is not the time or place to be a STARRA!

By Raqi

October 31, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

LOL!!!

By The Truth

October 31, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

MMMMMUUUUUUUAAAAAAHHHHHH!!!!

HAPPY HALLOWEEN BLOGSVILLE.

I hope you all go out and find your own ghoulish mates tonight.

ABC you can get a GHI round 4 carat diamond for $35,000 (diamond only). D flawless starts at $62,000 PER CARAT. Most people go GHI for rings so ol boy could have come out the pocket for 40k for a nice ring. That could go up to $300,000 on the high end. Ared ol girl wouldn’t happen to be coming from Vegas would she. A guy I know of dropped a rock on a chick like that a short time ago.

Take care everyone.

MMMMUUUUUUAAAAAAHHHHH

Hope I didn’t scare ya. LOL

By Count D Poo see

October 31, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

i think we need to do the meet and greet..i mean all this adversting and there is no album coming out…so we need to pick a weekend a spot and lets see what the fuse is about…i mean dayum….and all that where you from ish is for lames that were NOBODIES back in there home state…er body is somebody outside there HOOD….lets see..what the fugga fuss is about…

By SexyLeggs

October 31, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this

I’m not going to comment on half of the mess I’ve seem to have started. I apologize. Melo, my skirts are not tight. Everything is appropriate on my end, except for my flapper dress.

By melo

October 31, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

SexxyL,thanks. Problem is u used to being around people who dont notice and savor ur sexuality. We might need to hit some spot 4 some after wrk martinis or happy hr thing. I be showing u around and u on my arm..hehe. Friday is coming.

By Sybil

October 31, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

Tina Turner and Diana Ross are both performers. This society has a real problem with looking at entertainers as role models. Some of them worthy, most of them not.

Yes, they may dress a certain way on stage. However, I can’t say that I’ve ever seen either one of them photographed offstage in a mini skirt.

And at the same time, neither of them work in an office. When they go to work, they wear clothing appropriate for where they work.

By Jazzyone

October 31, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

2 I got this I’m over my due time for my oil change it wasn’t out of oil just like to the add point. just came back from getting one..i was like 3K miles over LOL..

By binford

October 31, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

kimmie

Traditionally the Bride’s parents do pay for the wedding, and I don’t necessarily go along with that either. BUT, we all know the wedding is for the Bride and not the Groom! Most men could get married by the justice of the peace and it would suit them just fine. The wedding is for the princess to have her special day and to feel like a queen.

We NEVER hear men say, “when I dreamed of my wedding day….” and then ramble about the napkins or what the band played or any other detail.

Dudes just say, “I got hitched” and we return our rent-a-tux the next day.

So I think I will get a Brides dress for when I go out later, so I can feel special! I got damn fine legs :)

By Jazzyone

October 31, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

For real..LOL that was funny!!!

By Peeps

October 31, 2007 12:06 PM | Link to this

I don’t know Diana Ross was looking kinda grandma-ish the last time I saw her. Me no likey grandma in a mini.

Tina Turner - Well, have we seen any recent pictures of her. Seems like all that fuss about Tina’s legs was years ago. What is she looking like today?

For all we know, she could be walking around looking like Eartha Kitt.

By AmazonRed

October 31, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this

Well abc, your post is making a lot of sense. You put some doubt in my head. I know her ring is MORE than 2 carats. I’m certain about that. It was a square diamond so maybe it came off bigger. So I’ll revise it and say it’s between 2 and 4 carats. It’s a very large diamond. I’m glad to see you and Truth, so educated on this matter.

Truth (boogie man making an appearance lol), she didn’t come out of Vegas.

By Jazzyone

October 31, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

Plus that Gotdayum car talks and beeps at every little thing even before something jumps off so it was boinkin’ at me to add and get an oil change…i’m like allright already dayum…

Sexyleggs I hear you girl I knew you were doing it well…adn yes dressin in the south can be diferent Im from Ann Arbor Michigan and they aren’t doing it like we do it at home..getting dressed and getting dressed is something different to some down here…

By kimmie

October 31, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

Truth - Happy Halloween! Cool Vincent Price laugh!!!:)

Speaking of, I heard Thriller on the radio. Still the best!

By Dimples

October 31, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

@Staceye Where do you work? If you don’t mind me asking? I tend to see that type of behavior everywhere not just in the work place.

By WTF????

October 31, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

SL

Look chick…yo azz come on here er’day tooting da ole azz horn talk’n bout how yo azz is dis and dat. Nuff already!!! What yo azz is is ole an unlucky in da love game and look’n fo attention. Don’t talk bout it walk bout it.

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this

Hi Truth!

kimmie, abc there are a couple of restaurants in douglasville that i wouldn’t be caught in. who knows whats hangin out back.

By abc

October 31, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this

Truth, I guess you mean GIA certification? GHI is near-colorless; DEF is colorless range. I’d say for a GHI color at 4 carats for $35K, it’d have to be a I2 or I3 clarity/inclusion rating. Not to make a big deal out of it, it’s just that I recently went through the whole diamond shopping thing. While told by all the sales people that color and size is all that matters, I really didn’t like the ones with visible flaws.

By Staceye

October 31, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

ARED so am I supposed to dress down to make others feel better anout themselves? NOT! I dealt with that in school…even at a private school where we had to wear a uniform, I always did something to be original. I do not like to be like other…whether is the crazy designs on my nails, hair colors ans styles, tights, shoes, purse, something to out my Staceye spin on it.

At that job it was because the guys were always talking to me, offereing to take me out to lunch, etc…those hatin’ heffas couldn’t take it. It actually made me laugh because they were pathetic and sad. If they actually focused on their own appearance then they would not be worried about their man seeing me walking to my car after work when he came to pick them up. Yes, thathappened to me. I did not know who he was. In fact it happened 3 times with 3 diffrent men. The problem is between them and their men…not me.

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

October 31, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

It is one thing to say I live in a warm climate so I dress for that climate and another thing to say I live in a cold climate so I dress for that climate. But to say all people in a certain region dress a certain way because of where they are from is crazy. Thats like saying all Northerns are alleybat acting and loud talking. Just as saying all Southerners are married to their cousins and the daddies are their uncles too. Come on

By Jazzyone

October 31, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this

WTF WTF????!!!

By Jazzyone

October 31, 2007 12:27 PM | Link to this

Page1908 Hey gal you made it hunh..well great, welcome to the A!

By DuShawn

October 31, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this

abc Is there a subject that you know absolutely nothing about?

By kimmie

October 31, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

binford - You rock yo bride outfit, then, I’m not mad atcha! LOL Hey, you asked why the man has to spring for the ring, I’m just giving you a comparison - this is how it’s TRADITIONALLY been done, but anyone can knock tradition and do as they please - this is a free country! Both my parents are gone, and I’ve always wanted to elope to Italy to get married, so that’s what I’ll most likely be doing. I could care less whether men dream about their wedding day or not. If I knew one that did, most likely he’s not looking at marrying anyone that looks like me (female) anyway! LOL

Beautiful - A few restaurants in Douglassville? Is that the best you can do? Is that all that’s got you all scared? BOOOO!!!!!! LOL

By Jazzyone

October 31, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

Well you know what Doc KYM lemme just say i can see someone on the street and pretty much tell what region they could be from from hair to shoes to colors of dress..so i don’t know some people can tell and some can’t…

By DuShawn

October 31, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

Or do you know something about every thing.

By chink

October 31, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this

This is hilarious

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

Count D Poo see if we all met, it would take the fun out of it … … . well, to me anyways.

but i am dying to see what 2C and truth looks like. lol.

By The Truth

October 31, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

ABC I was speaking of GIA cert. Unless its a large flaw 99% of folks won’t be close enough to see flaws at all and wouldn’t know what they saw if they did. I can’t see jack without a loupe anyway. LOL Either way, if ol boy can afford it and feels she deserves its all good. When is your big day?

Binford that 1205 is funny as hell. So true.

OK folks, take care. I’m going to see Tyler Perry’s movie. I heard it was good.

By AmazonRed

October 31, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this

Staceye, you are totally right, but you still need to know how to play the game. You need to know your office culture and decide if you want to accept it or not. There is this one chick here that runs around in 5-inch heels. That is her right. But no one in management takes her seriously. Your stance could be silently hurting you. That’s all I’m saying.

Hating chicks are a dime a dozen. I’ve never been concerned with those.

By Jazzyone

October 31, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this

aaaaiiigghht ya! ya be easy imma coast until its time for me to go get my nappy @ss head done today..be safe out there and have a great evening….

By WTF????

October 31, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this

Dushawn

ABC = The Great Who Know It!!! LOL

By Foots

October 31, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this

I’m going to get noticed regardless, so my choice is to focus on things in my work that aren’t obvious when you meet me. My brain and my work ethic.

Amazon I thought I’d share my experience about this. When I was in my mid-20s, I used to dress a lot more fiya for work. They cut out our Jeans Friday, so I tried to spice it up anyway I could, thinking “They would probably rather have me in jeans than this low cut sweater dress!!”

I began to notice that I had to fight for my promotions and for recognition and I eventually found out why… One day, a male director came up to me and said “Hey there, young lady. So… What do you do all day besides sitting around looking pretty?” Hellz, I was an engineer!!

Yes, I was offended and yep, he said something inappropriate. But after that shock wore off, I took stock of what he said and why. I realized I got attention for my clothes and my shape, not for the degrees, the hard work, my accomplishments, and my intellect. Once I figured out what kind of attention I wanted, I changed up my game a little, and I was glad that they started seeing more of what was above my shoulders.

By LorDemi

October 31, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this

Staceye I feel you, alot of cute and sexy ladies on my job are treated the same way…by not so cute at all women…

Beautiful where are you from?

By Staceye

October 31, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this

Dimples I work for a Finance company. I work in Healthcare Finance. the job I was speaking of earlier was a dental comany insurance company.

abc I wish a dude might bring me a 1 carat ring…that is the tricycle of rings! I’d tell him holla when he gets a real bike and gets the training wheels taken off.

Funny I love big rings…but my ring finger is a 4.5 and you just don’t find those lying around.

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 12:38 PM | Link to this

y r ppl so mean? u asked, i answered. dayum … … . . movin’ on.

By 2CPTG©

October 31, 2007 12:38 PM | Link to this

somebody flush the toilet…..full ‘o shyt round here…….

and it’s the 3 C’s that matter when looking at diamonds….cut, clarity and color!

By Jazzyone

October 31, 2007 12:46 PM | Link to this

2^5 yep you got it daddy!!!!

By DuShawn

October 31, 2007 12:46 PM | Link to this

I wish a dude might bring me a 1 carat ring… staceye……..you’re right?

By melo

October 31, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

Beautiful this is a relationships blog. Some here have met,know each other and have & continue to hook up. They just dont broadcast that!! U maybe slow to the game. Pick urs and get ur groove ON. Dgville aint Atlanta, in case u havent noticed yet since u came down.

By AmazonRed

October 31, 2007 12:48 PM | Link to this

Foots - What a story. Glad it worked out for you. And I’m glad you get my point. No, it’s not fair, but hell we’re already blessed in the genetic lottery…there is always a trade off. LOL. You can’t have it both ways in the working world…that sucks, but who said life was fair?

By Jazzyone

October 31, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this

Before I chill lemme just say…um Beautiful you mess around and see 2 in person your @ss will be smitten trust it the man is all that and a piece of sweet potato pie…with some dayum whip cream on top thats all imma say…

By Deeva4Life

October 31, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

Staceye so are you saying you’d turn down a proposal simply because of the size of the ring? What if that’s all he could afford at the time and had plans to upgrade later? Would you still tell him to “holla when he gets a real bike and gets the training wheels taken off?” Just curious…

By kimmie

October 31, 2007 12:53 PM | Link to this

Beautiful - I’m not being mean, just playing! I guess it can be a little scary if you’re not from here and don’t know. I feel the same when I visit other places. You just have to use common sense, especially at night. It’s all good!

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 12:54 PM | Link to this

melo please don’t talk to me like i’m stupid. i know dville ain’t atl. i moved to dville because i have kids and i wanted to buy a house in the country. and i’ve met one person from this blog. dang, you guys r a trip.

By Foots

October 31, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this

Weighing in on the diamond (non) issue… I’d like a pretty ring. Size isn’t a big issue for me. I’d just like to be able to see the diamond, or whatever stone is chosen. The MOST important thing to me is that the man I love is asking me to spend the rest of my life with him. And frankly, as a finance professional, I don’t want to foot that dayum bill when I’m his wife. LOL!! If he can get a big stone because he can afford it, fine. But I’d never, and I mean NEVER, fix my mouth to ask for it.

By melo

October 31, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this

Foots, thats good advice, but watch ur audience!! lol That may fly over some pple heads.

By melo

October 31, 2007 1:02 PM | Link to this

Beu, please don’t talk to me like i’m stupid OKAY. Talk like u got it.

By DuShawn

October 31, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this

If a female turned down my proposal because the ring was too small, I would thank her and fault myself for being blinded by love and allowing a materialistic trick to infiltrate my heart. I definitely won’t be back with a larger rock. I’m sure Staceye was only joking.

By TheyHateMe

October 31, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this

Wow - a one carat ring is a tricycle? Let me guess - this was said by a single chick with no prospects? Am I right?

By Count D Poo see

October 31, 2007 1:10 PM | Link to this

@staceye…i have a 1 carat ring but a 10’ tube steak…would you still turn me down…lol

By melo

October 31, 2007 1:15 PM | Link to this

NOW lets all get back to talking about getting hunted and hunting.Its more sexciting than this dress and ring stuff. But then again, when u dress like Staceye and SexxyL, to some it means,Come get Some. Thats why u may not be taken seriously.

By WTF????

October 31, 2007 1:15 PM | Link to this

Sometime thangs r said to hipe up ego’s, self-esteem or fo self promotion

By Count D Poo see

October 31, 2007 1:16 PM | Link to this

@dushawn…i feel you, only JUMP OFF’S think that way…..but yea she was just flucking with us..i cant believe that…it looks good for shock value…lol….and i am all about shock value…lol

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 1:16 PM | Link to this

DuShawn i’ll take a 1/4 of a carat ring. it shouldn’t matter the size.

By AmazonRed

October 31, 2007 1:23 PM | Link to this

Well, a 1 carat ring is a nice size to me. My mother didn’t even get an engagement ring, but she did get her man to stick around for 30 years. And counting.

She did tell me to make sure my man buys me a ring tho. LOL

By melo

October 31, 2007 1:25 PM | Link to this

Melo is out for the day.Peace. Beautiful,I am sorry if i hurt u!!

By JacobthepearltongueJeweler

October 31, 2007 1:27 PM | Link to this

Staceyeonly your insecurity outweigh your immaturity. Whats wrong with getting a small to moderate size diamond and upgrading on an anniversary and or milestones in the marriage? And you wonder why self proclaimed “dime pieces” like yourself can find a man that will phck you but NOT be phcked up with you.

By Corbin

October 31, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

Since some of the ladies seem to be talking about rings, and the quality of diamonds the made the wheels turn in my mind. Ladies, if your SO is the ONE but operates on a budget, how important is the quality of the ring he proposes with. There are women who don’t place that much emphasis on it, and there are those who will tell a bruh to step off for coming with a weak ring. Personally, I find the latter unappealing but that’s another discussion. Your thoughts.

By SexyLeggs

October 31, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

You guys are a trip! Looking cute and have an aura of confidence doesn’t make you trashy. It’s little closed minded thoughts like your’s that get me. Melo……

By kimmie

October 31, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

Foots - I agree, the man is what is important. I’ve seen too many people go in debt over diamonds & weddings, only to file bankruptcy and get divorced anyway. I just would like a beautiful, simple ring that conveys his love for me. I remember this lady I used to work with had the ugliest ring I have ever seen. It was yellow and cloudy and the size of a walnut. Everyone kept oooohing & aaahhing over it, but I know quality jewelry when I see it. To each his own, but I don’t need to show off for other people.

By Corbin

October 31, 2007 1:35 PM | Link to this

Guess I was sorta late with my post, the brothas already jumped on Staceye for that 12:36 comment … I hope you were joking.

By DasV (yea, its me)

October 31, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this

are we done with the hater talk?? cause i been over here lurking… waving two fingers, rockin back-n-forth singing jill’s ‘hate on me’ chorus: go ahead and hate. hate on me hater. i’m not afraid of, what i got i paid for, you can hate me….

but iffin we’ve moved on… i’ll move on to something else…LOL

By abc

October 31, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this

DuShawn, sure, I suppose there are lots of subjects of which I’m uninformed. Diamonds would have been a good case in point, up until a few months back. As far as carats go, my girl would have been happy with a plain gold band, that’s what she told me and I believe it. It just made me more inclined to get a really nice ring, though, high quality without being too ostentatious.

Staceye, 4.5 is a very small finger. If you go for too big a ring, it won’t look quite right.

By Page1908

October 31, 2007 1:48 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ WTF! Wow…so true!

Thanks, Jazzy! I’m just trying to stay warm! lol

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 1:49 PM | Link to this

LorDemi i’m from stockton, california. going back home in may when school is out. my babies miss their dad … … . and grandma, aunties.

By Tazzee

October 31, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this

Afternoon all!

Don’t have time to read the 160+ comments on this topic (you guys may not even be on topic anymore, LOL) but I was talking to a friend about this very thing last night. I am not an aggressive dater at all. My friend was asking if I was successful at online dating and I had to say no - but that’s because I never really put the effort into it. Some might say joining the site and putting up a profile is taking a pro-active approach to dating, but when I would get messages I was very laid back in my response.

The same is true when I’m out and about and I meet guys. I’m open to meeting new folks, but unless a guy blows me away - I’m very laid back in getting to know someone. With the last guy I met, we talked for like 3 hours when we met - just hanging at the bar watching some football. But since then, I’ve been bad about calling him because when we get on the phone - he doesn’t talk about anything. I can’t stand talking on the phone anyway. When we met - he really didn’t blow me away to endure the boring phone calls so another one bites the dust.

I go to places where singles mingle - even go out by myself a lot here in Houston. But I go out to enjoy myself, if a guy wants to come over and enjoy with me - cool. If not, I don’t make an effort to really meet anyone.

And since I’m not sure if I’ll get the chance to comment again this week…

GO FALCONS!!!!

By Hateraid sponser

October 31, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this

Dasv Why would someone hate on your lying triflin pay a nikka to like you arse?? ur kidding right???????????????????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

By Aliases

October 31, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this

input please - My SO has fancied himself an author and has written nearly 70,000 words and has anonounced that his book is complete.

The thing is, it’s garbage.

Although, it’s actually a good story, he wrote the book with a thesaurus at his side and the manuscript is filled with ten dollar words that would make a reader need a dictionary to get through it.

Now, he has asked me to proofread it and I’m trying to but it’s like torture.

He would not take it well from me if I told him what I really think of his work.

What do I do?

By LorDemi

October 31, 2007 2:06 PM | Link to this

Beautiful I looked the city up on Wiki, a country town for a state like Cali…Girl look, do you want me to take you on a shooting range date…Imma have you packing guns like a red neck…get yourself a lady .45 or 9mill..take a few self defense courses with Mean’n’Sexy Eyes…Pole Dancing with Foots…Ish talking with Jazz…Corporate Ebonic 101 with 2 and You’ll be like,”Igga wha!?!?” in no time!!

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

October 31, 2007 2:06 PM | Link to this

Staceye Hey girl email me at swshmk@gmail. What’s up Forreal

By DasV (yea, its me)

October 31, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

LOL see, there you go hiding behind a fake moniker…playin hide-n-i-am-not-gonna-go-seek. iffin you have summtin serious to say, bring it.

yous just mad i didnt offer no money for you to chill wit me like how you wanted.

By 2CPTG©

October 31, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this

alias, what’s wrong with telling dude the truth??? damn, would he rather hear it from a publishing house? folks make simple stuff complicated! what, would you rather lie to him to spare his feelings, or tell him the truth to make him step up his [writing] game?

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

Aliases that’s tough! if it were me, i would state the truth with alot of kisses, hugs, and booty. lol.

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this

Aliases b supportive. ;)

By Dummies

October 31, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

this is why people should NOT meet offblog.

Keep the drama to yourselves. Nobody cares.

By DasV (yea, its me)

October 31, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

LOLROTF@…with alot of kissess, hugs, and booty classic.

By Jazzyone

October 31, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

Tell him to man up his shyt reads like a rocket science project and if he wants to sell to the masses he better stop smoking that hashish and start over…LOL….

UMMM HATER AIDER WTF???

By 2CPTG©

October 31, 2007 2:25 PM | Link to this

Demi/Alvin I like that, Corporate Ebonics 101!!!!!

By Aliases

October 31, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this

I’m thinking he would rather hear it from publishing houses.

That way, the publishing houses are the one that rejected his work and not me.

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 2:34 PM | Link to this

Aliases but he asked for your opinion.

By Aliases

October 31, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this

No, he didn’t ask for my opinion. He asked me to proofread it. Big difference. He wants me to look for spelling and grammatical errors.

By Staceye

October 31, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this

Deeva4Life I would go out and get the ring I want with my own money. At least I’d like it. Dushawn I was joking…but I would let him know what I like and why I would choose to go get the ring I want.

Melo no matter what I wear..I get noticed..so why dressed matronly? If I wera babgy pants it makes my azz look bigger…which I do not. So I make sure my clothes fit me with no bagginess because it adds pounds.

abc I am aware of my tiny finger…but love big jewelry. My wrist is so small that I can wear a child’s bracelet..but yet in still I love to rock a man’s watch!

By My Opinion

October 31, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this

Aliases You say that the plot of the book is good. Right? I would think you would want to see your man succeed. Being rejected by publishers could really crush him and delay if not completely crush his dream. I think it would behoove you to talk to him, help him to fix it.

By SexyLeggs

October 31, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

Woo Hoo, company has announced we can all go home. Good night everyone!

By Ohh la la

October 31, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

@Aliases I say let him find out from the publishing co. Some men don’t wanna hear the truth, thinking you aren’t being supportive and wanting their ego stroked. Let it ride and it will save you an argument. in my humble opinion.

By Aliases

October 31, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this

I have decided to suggest that he contact a literary services firm that I have located for a manuscript evaluation.

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this

gotcha!

By Foots

October 31, 2007 3:02 PM | Link to this

Aliases You have a good idea in your 2:49. But if he’d rather you proofread it, just do what he asks. Proofread it ONLY. And tell him up front that you will only be proofreading it, and not offering an opinion on the content, you’d rather leave that part up to professionals. Unless you’re a writer too…if you are, then I’m back to your idea.

By Aliases

October 31, 2007 3:04 PM | Link to this

Ohh la la - that’s exactly what I’m dealing with. He won’t see it as a truth but as a criticism.

By Sybil

October 31, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this

I wanna be Willie Gary’s next baby momma. LOL!

By Blue_Kolla

October 31, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this

Hahahahaha…

What up blog…

I can see where some peeps shined up their masks real good last night. Dayummmm…

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this

Foots co-sign

By Blue_Kolla

October 31, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this

@ Jazzy hashish?

You’re tellin’ on yourself there slim.

By Bre

October 31, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

Hey BK

By Rell - aka (Count D Poo See)

October 31, 2007 3:18 PM | Link to this

@sybil…yep JUMP OFFS are getting paid..he is an idiot, you going to cheat and have twins…dummy

By Little Wang Wang (not Demi)

October 31, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this

i’ll take a 1/4 of a carat ring. it shouldn’t matter the size.

Dudes, if you aint working with nothing, pull that ish and watch her flee…But if she’s still around you…pulla 3-4 rock just because.

By 2CPTG©

October 31, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

Sybil….ain’t that sum’in, 28k per MONTH!

By Blue_Kolla

October 31, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this

Aliases/WLB All I can say is that if there is one person that I can trust, it better be my woman, and if she sees me doing something totally jacked up, I expect her to bring it to the wood, just like she’d bring me the winning lottery ticket. Anything else is unacceptable.

By DuShawn

October 31, 2007 3:28 PM | Link to this

On the topic of Aggressive dating: This past weekend a couple of potnahs and I went to see a high school football game in the Orange Bowl. My lady and her crew were there, but I didn’t see them. She called me after the game. I told her to meet me in front of my potnahs mother’s house, which was in my old neighborhood. We’re standing outside, sippin a little yac, talking about the old days, wifey pulls up with four other girls all cute, thick and fine. I knew a few of them and they hopped out to give me a hug. All the fellas simultaneously said Dayyuuuumm!!! Anyway, all the ladies were eating something out of these Styrofoam cups, I mean tearing it up. I’m like what’s that? They said it was chicken souse (If you’re not from the south, you prolly don’t know what it is). When my potnah overheard what they were eating, he rushed over and jokingly ask one of the girls “Dayum baby, let a brotha get some of that souse juice.” She said; “Hell naw, I don’t know you!” He responded without hesitation. “Well just let me get a bay leaf and a piece of grizzle.” This cat is one of my closest friends, was in my wedding and a fool. What he said was so spontaneous and retarded everybody bust out laughing. That broke the ice with him and the chick and they were buddy buddy for the rest of the night. The point being, it was several dudes standing out there. All of them wanted to holla, but they had different approaches. One cat kept leaning on his Jag, trying to make I contact. Another approached and actually pulled out a bank roll. Both were quickly dismissed. However, my potnah got in there with charm and humor, but he was also aggressive. He rushed her while other cats were thinking what to say. He and I have always had a gift of gab. I remember many years ago he told me; “DuShawn, If I see a female I like, I’m at her. Because you may never see her again. I don’t care if I’m at a red light and the female in the car next to me is fine. Imma roll down my window and ask her what kind of gas she puts in her car. Saying anything is better than saying nothing at all, and letting your only opportunity pass you by.”

By Foots

October 31, 2007 3:28 PM | Link to this

I forgot to comment on the doggone topic… Do you consider yourself a go-with-the-flow dater, or you actively trying to get out there to meet new people and increase your options? If you consider yourself more casual, do you ever try to push yourself by showing up at singles events or new places to meet people?

I’ve found that I meet the most people doing normal stuff, going to WalMart, at the gas station, taking a walk, going to dinner with friends, etc. I might meet somebody when I’m out for the purpose of meeting someone, but there are MANY people out there for the same reason and I don’t stand out enough for what they are looking for. I guess I’m more go with the flow type and I like meeting folks in natural circumstances.

My friends tease me cause they know I could meet a man in a dayum convent. That’s half true, but the other half is that when I’m ready to meet someone, I just put on the “open” face (which is the exact opposite of the “I wish a pligga would come up and say something to me” threatening face), speak, and smile. Oh, and I unfold my arms too. Nothing says “you bet not say a dayum thing to me” like arms folded up across your chest… LOL!

By Staceye

October 31, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

Sybil I don’t want kids…but I’d join ya in being his baby mama.

By Willie Dynamite

October 31, 2007 3:31 PM | Link to this

Off-Topic Quick question, any good mid-week Happy Hour spots preferably the Eastside. I’m free early today and could use a drink or two before dealing with these bad azz begging azz kids.

Aliases You know your SO better than any of us. I would suggest to go with your gut. On a another note if you already know he can’t take constructive criticism from you then its gonna be problems moving forward. Speak now or forever hold your peace.

By Beautiful

October 31, 2007 3:32 PM | Link to this

Rell - aka (Count D Poo See) i should have known … … … we’ll let you know what nite we’re going. it’ll be sometime in nov.

By My Opinion

October 31, 2007 3:33 PM | Link to this

Blue_Kolla ^5 That’s the way you roll if you have a REAL man and a REAL relationship!

By Staceye

October 31, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

Dushawn Souse is a popular West Indian dish….

I would have given your boy the time of day because I love a guy who can make me laugh..no the car or dough flosser. I am not impressed by what you drive or how much money you have unless you are about to give it to me.

By LorDemi

October 31, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this

Rell Dayum I had it wrong..said while passing a $150.00 bottle of Henny to Blu

Staceye you’ve been upgraded…you are now Ms.ImmaBuyMyOwnRing, said with brotherly love.

By Blue_Kolla

October 31, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

Foots …“I wish a pligga would come up and say something to me” threatening face)…

I combat that with the “You got it wrapped up nice and neat, but that mugg is fuggin it up” snicker. Then I tell you that you have something on your nose. LOL

By Blue_Kolla

October 31, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this

QC/Bre wassup slims :)

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

October 31, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

Willie Gary makes 13million a month. He has the money..just pay.

By Staceye

October 31, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this

Lordemi You wrong! LOL I can’t help what I like. I would trade his ring in and add my money and get what I want. It’s my ring..I should at least like it.

By DuShawn

October 31, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this

Dr Kym thats 13 mill a year not a month

By me

October 31, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this

The I lived in NY, LA, Tokyo, Paris, yada yada but now live in Lithonia.. Uh hum…

By 2CPTG©

October 31, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

Staceye…..sweetie, sum’in ain’t addin up! how can you not be impressed with a dude’s loot, but won’t settle for the 1 carat ring??? Takes dough to get what you’re looking for, and the lifestyle you seek…….if a dude’s driving a low budget car, what are the odds of him being able to afford that big rock? which is it, Ma?

By DasV (yea, its me)

October 31, 2007 3:52 PM | Link to this

Solutions like everything else are in the eye of the beholder. You asked for input, but you proly know best, Aliases. i just hope things work out baby-girl, and this doesnt prove to be a deal-breaker. you know men’s egos are sensitive.

By Blue_Kolla

October 31, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

Staceye We’re getting low on dem free blog passes…

By Rell - I hate SIMPS

October 31, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this

@dushawn, that simp has the money..and i bet he thought that he was mackin…no, he got gamed…i will pop my collar to the chick..if he was up on game he would have known better….smh

By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert

October 31, 2007 4:08 PM | Link to this

I stand correct Mr. D. But all the same he has the bread. He was trying at one time earlier this year I believe to charge legal fees in the range of 22,000 per hour in a case involving Motorola. I believe the judge only allow a fee of 1,000 per hour. Considerable lower. But a tidy sum just the same.

By Staceye

October 31, 2007 4:13 PM | Link to this

2CPTG if he is not spending all his money on a car..then he shoud have more in the bank. the dude with the big fancy car…got a big fancy car note. The dude in the alright car (if his credit is good) he has a lower payment. LOL

By Staceye

October 31, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

2C When I say I am not impressed..i am talking about the dude who is obviously trying to floss and show off what he has. Now if I meet a guy say…at a party. He does not mention what he drives or how much he makes…but approaches me with a joke like Du’s homeboy…I am more inclined to find out about him. And give him the time of day. now will it help if he does make a lot of money…yes. But that will not be the sole reason I get with him. I like guys that make me laugh and can just be real without the games. Agaian like I said..unless he is going to sign that car (already paid off) to me and give me his money..I am not going to get all excited.

By DuShawn

October 31, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this

Rell I actually met that brotha a couple of times. I was a Financial manager for a company years ago and he was one of the primary investors. He has a huge annual Christmas Party at his offices in Fort Pierce. I’ve attended a few. That man ain’t a simp by long shot. Granted he gotta pay 28k a month, but he’s making over 250k a month. Mind you, that’s for two kids. They’re twins and 6 six years old. He was paying the 28k, but discovered baby mama was spending his bread on tummy tucks, diamonds and shyt, not even putting money in the kids college fund. He took her to court and had it reduced to 5k per month. This latest development is just a reinstatement of the original order. I had the opportunity to be in some sets where he and the CEO of the company I was with and a few other Black Millionaires were having some drinks and talking amongst the fellas. Them cats are some boss playas for real. Yeah he slipped six years ago and bust one inside a fine young thang and got her pregnant. It happens to the best of us. The end result is three more rich black folks.

By 2CPTG©

October 31, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

ok, so lemme get this straight…..he’s supposed to scrimp on himself, “if he is not spending all his money on a car..then he shoud have more in the bank. the dude with the big fancy car…got a big fancy car note. The dude in the alright car (if his credit is good) he has a lower payment.”……….but yet, go overboard and get you a rock worth more than his car??? still don’t add up…….

By LorDemi

October 31, 2007 4:52 PM | Link to this

Staceye i see where you are coming from…sounds like you do well by yourself, but want the man you with to be on you level or better…I think

By Foots

October 31, 2007 4:52 PM | Link to this

DuShawn I wonder why a dude making $13M a year has concerns about a college fund. It seems to me that he could invest some money himself for the next 12 years and present it to his children. Or he could just buy a whole dayum college for them when they got ready to go. Dude wasn’t worried about how his kids would afford to go to college. He was probably mad because she was living the high life off his money and stupidity.

By DuShawn

October 31, 2007 4:59 PM | Link to this

Foot He was probably mad because she was living the high life off his money and stupidity. Exactly!!! Can you blame him. It’s called child support not baby mama and her new man support.