Misadventures in Atlanta

By Beautiful

October 15, 2007 8:19 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone! Rell gets some sleep Birthday Boi. LOL. Today is the day!

My 02. on the subject is ignoring the contacts from the ex (co-signing Bella). I don’t have a personal experience, but someone told me last week that they are a ex for a reason!

By aqualung

October 15, 2007 8:22 AM | Link to this

Lately, I AM the boomerang ex. Trying to get a grip and quit calling, texting, etc. Jesus be a restraining order.

By 2CPTG

October 15, 2007 8:46 AM | Link to this

morning y’all……

and the hip-hop Idiot Award goes to……..T.I.!!!! (said like Fred Sanford) “You Big Dummy!”

By 2CPTG

October 15, 2007 9:05 AM | Link to this

oh, the topic…….“Is there a better way to deal with someone you truly don’t want in your life anymore?” tell that clown it’s a wrap!

“Possibly something more mature than the silent treatment?” If that doesn’t work, there is something called a restraining order!

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this

Morning All, good topic as I just broke it off with someone.

I’m very good at “cold turkey.” I miss this man terribly but allowing him back into my life is counter productive to what I’m trying to accomplish: marriage and kids. He’s called me a few times during the last couple days, sent emails and I got a lot of texts on Saturday when his college team (one of my clients) had a particularly good game. I ignored them all.

From experience, they all go away once they know you aren’t playing. They might try now and again to see if you’ll respond, but no one likes flat out rejection. This is hard for women to do because we are emotional creatures, however, the one thing we can’t get back is TIME and once you start wasting time with a guy who is not on your agenda, it’s hello to being 50 and still single wondering where all the time went. No thanks.

By Latina_in_30004

October 15, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone.
I’ve had a boomerang ex and it has been until recently that he has finally stopped calling me. I dated him for a long time but I knew things were not going to work out between us, so I broke it off. It’s been years since we dated and he hasn’t stopped calling - even after he got married, that didn’t stop him.

At first I asked him nicely to stop calling, then, I chose to ignore his phone calls, and that’s when he would call my brother, some of my close friends and even my mom, telling them that he still loves me and that he needed to talk to me.

Finally, one day I decided to answer the phone and I let him have it - I was so nasty to him and I even told him that if he didn’t stop calling me, I was going to let his wife know he was harrassing me. That seemed to work. What a pain!!!

By Awwwwwwwwwwww...Dayum

October 15, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this

Awwwwwwwwww…Dayum, Some one needs to call T.I.P. to get T.I. out of jail…T.I. done FK up again!!

Hey QC, hope your mom is feeling better.

By Beautiful

October 15, 2007 9:35 AM | Link to this

2CPTG i can imagine that that would be the guy reaction - tell that clown it’s a wrap!. but remember, it’s hard for females to be hard. it’s easier for us to just not answer.

By abc

October 15, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this

The silent treatment is a cowardly and noncommittal approach. Just tell it like it is. If you’re honest about it with yourself and the ex, everyone will get the picture.

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

abc, if you “tell it like it is” and they still continue to call, what are you supposed to do then?

Ignore, ignore, ignore!

By abc

October 15, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this

Well yeah, I guess that’s all you can do. I still get harassing emails and anonymous phone calls from an old flame that’s not happy that I’m getting married. She’s never been rejected before, I guess. It’s not as if I’m completely unsympathetic, but it’s a pain in the neck, that’s for sure. All I can do is ignore it.

By Poppa Grande

October 15, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

Amazon, ignore is the coward’s way. Simple and plainly.

Its just plain disrespect. A man’s time is precious, too. We all only have a set amount time on this earth. We don’t know its gonna end. You may never make it to 50. You just never know. Atlanta has so many fatal car accidents, its scary some times.

If it had been one or two dates, its one thing, but a year and they’ve shown respect to you. Its the right thing to do. It makes opportunity for closure for both parties. Silence is a one-sided closure.

Then again, I’ve always been one to say what I mean and mean what I say. I can be blunt about it.

Tell a guy (or girl) that its over, and they don’t want to listen. Make sure that its clear. If he or she doesn’t listen get a restraining order. That way you have legal recourse, and it is legally documented. Then, the silent treatment is fine.

By Blue_Kolla

October 15, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

ABC …I’m getting married.

Man I read that and fell the fugg out LnMAO. Congrats bruh.

On topic: Disappearing from the radar works pretty well.

By Awwwwwwwwwwww...Dayum

October 15, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

Awwwwwwwwwwwww…Dayum, Poppa !!!

Tell a guy (or girl) that its over, and they don’t want to listen. Make sure that its clear. If he or she doesn’t listen get a restraining order. That way you have legal recourse, and it is legally documented.

Now you gotta get legal on these H(o)s…Mayne, times have change.

By HA

October 15, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

Very simple……..CHANGE YOUR NUMBER!!!!

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

Pappa Grande, what da hell you talking about? I did tell the guy it’s over. I’m a Sagittarius. Blunt it all I know.

I told him it’s over. He accepted it. Then the phone calls, texts, and emails began. Nothing can change the fact that he and I want two different things, so there is nothing left to talk about.

That’s not cowardly, it’s wise. Now I can move on and find someone who wants the same things I want and he can do the same. No need to waste anymore precious time on a relationship that doesn’t work.

There is no need for a restraining order. WTF kind of people are y’all dealing with?!

By Dan

October 15, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

I have had boomerang ex’s, where I’m from we call them stalkers or The Sprung.

To a degree I can understand it; it’s been a minute since the desires of a woman was satiated, and I may have been the last man to take the time to get to know what the keys to the lock were.

That being said, it’s in the approach. If it’s about “getting back together” that’s not good. If it’s just to reminisce, then I usually try accommodate them.

But the door swings both ways….

Dan returns to stalking and missing home….

By Foots

October 15, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

Good morning! Timely topic. A few months ago, I had a drop-by from an ex that I haven’t talked to since we broke up, about 15 months before the incident. I was on the phone with a new friend and my doorbell rang. I went to the door, saw who it was, told him kindly that I was on the phone. He was incredulous, like “Oh, you can’t get off the phone to talk to me?” WHY WOULD I? It’s been 15 months and not a peep, nothing. I moved shortly after, so I’m not sure if he tried that mess again.

More recently though, it’s been a week since I told one of my newer exes to stop calling me. It got pretty out of hand, as no matter what I told him previously about us not getting back together, he still called. After a few weeks of him leaving messages, I finally picked up the phone and told him to stop this nonsense. We’ll see if he makes it another week successfully, without irritating me to no end.

By SexyCool

October 15, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

never really had to deal with this kind of issue…or at least not that i can remember…i’m getting old…i can attest to the fact that the memory is the first thing to go…LOL…

rell…birthday boy…what it is, homey?….enjoy your day…may your life be filled with miracles and your cup overflow with blessings…

By SlimOne

October 15, 2007 10:55 AM | Link to this

Oh well….had this post but it got eaten up somehow.

hey yall

By Poppa Grande

October 15, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

Unfortunately, I work in the legal field. I see how the incidents happen. Have legal documentation is smart. I’ve seen kidnappings. Unfortunately, I’ve seen murder-suicide cases. More often than not though, I see many many harassment cases. Its smart to have that legal documentation, in case, you run into the super crazy. They exist in both sexes. Nobody likes rejection. Its human nature. Some people deal with it better than others. Crazy people fit no income class. Crazy people are everywhere.

Actually, same sex relationship have the most crazyy (esp. lesbian) of these cases.

By Jazzyone

October 15, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

Blue Hey dude how are ya, haven’t read ya in a while but then again fell off from the ajc for a while. I Have never had a problem with anyone calling after I tell them not too, and if he is balsy enough to do a drive by? then okay he can deal with the repercussions of that. LOL!

Never had a problem being hard when I had to be once I spell it out he won’t call back

Now my ex fiance, yes we are best friends and will always be, he’s my guy and we are better as friends not husband and wife.

Poppa Um why did you have to come up in here calling people Ho’s hunh? seriously!

By SlimOne

October 15, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this

Have you ever been guilty of dating the ex multiple times, possibly encouraging the boomerang behavior to happen later?

Ah, yeah i must say so. I take my responsibility in the whole thing. I just always held on to that hope that it would work out eventually. But i was wrong. It always went back to the same ole shyt no matter how much the packaging and/or presentation changed. Once I’d allow my guard to come down…BAM…I got hit with the HUMBUG! So like Amazon said the one thing we can’t get back is TIME and once you start wasting time with a guy who is not on your agenda, it’s hello to being 50 and still single wondering where all the time went. No thanks. I don’t want to waste another 7/8 years on some HumBug. He needs to go be free to do whatever it is his heart desires without me in the picture and he won’t have to continue lying to do it….and I can move on and hopefully meet the person I’m supposed to be with.

By 2CPTG

October 15, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

A Red….say what, “There is no need for a restraining order. WTF kind of people are y’all dealing with?!”………yet, prior to that, you said, “I told him it’s over. He accepted it. Then the phone calls, texts, and emails began.”………don’t sound like he accepted it!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

October 15, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

Hey everybody, hope you guys had a great weekend. My ex has my pressure up today so Mo’s mood is kinda foul. I will drop by later after I have had a chance to WOO-SAH for a few…..

On topic, never had an ex to act like what’s described here. I always make it known ahead of time, if we break up that’s it so dont bother, cause I wont.

By kinderbabe

October 15, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

it’s funny that this topic comes up…i don’t have exes that show up out of the blue (foots)…lol…but they do call randomly. i recently was contacted by three different exes from 8-10 years ago. one had the nerve to ask me out on a date. wtf?? about 2 years ago i finally shook off an ex from college who just wouldn’t quit calling.

some may wonder why i would tolerate such but i’ve always been the type not to inconvenience myself due to other folks nonsense. i didn’t bother changing my number or anything (unless i moved). i figure, i have the right to keep my ish the same. let those fools make some changes, like leaving me the f&*k alone…lol.

By Jazzyone

October 15, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

7 to 8 yrs?? oh heyal naw, it doesn’t take me that long to figure out if it isn’t a fit it isn’t a fit, and I do what?? keep it moving thats right!

I did the go back to the ‘him’ once in one of my past relationships I was young and learned from it after that once im done im done.

By Blue_Kolla

October 15, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

sup Jazzy …just layin’ low is what’s up. Still jazzy I see! LOL

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

2C, he knows it’s over and he knows why. He’s calling cuz he doesn’t want to burn that bridge. He wants to be friends…but more importanly, he wants to be “cool enough” so that the door to the puddy would never fully be closed. I know that game. I don’t play that game. I can’t be his friend. I don’t want to see him with any other chick.

He hasn’t contacted me in two days. So I think he’s gotten the hint. Persistance doesn’t always equal dangerous, anyway.

By Jazzyone

October 15, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

Blue yeah can’t help but be me Blue….Hope things are well with ya.

By SexyLeggs

October 15, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. Took my daughter to Savannah for the weekend. We had a great time. I don’t do ex’s. As I previously stated, they’re an “ex” for a reason. I don’t think it’s healthy to go backwards in life. JMO.

By SlimOne

October 15, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this

Jazzyone That was off & on…lived together for about 3 of those years. I actually moved to a different state then came back and we started talking again then. Then I went off started talking to someone else for some months….many gaps and lapses in that time frame but still TOO DAYUM LONG.

By Foots

October 15, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

kinderbabe I haven’t gotten into anything that serious to warrant changing my number either. What a huge inconvenience! It would take me two days straight to inform all these dayum companies of my number change. Either they can go to voice mail or just stop calling. Shoot, in the days of internet background search, they can find out A LOT about you for $35, so I just try to hide in plain view. LOL!

By Aggressively witty

October 15, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

ABC. congrats. Sounds like you living the real life “internation players” lyrics by andre…”Hate to see yall frown, but I’d rather see her smile”

I dont have no boomerang exes now that I am married. I dealt with decent broads who respect that fact and i also made it clear when nupshewals was pending so there would be no need for them to be acting all aussie like. Gooddaymate.

Off topic:

1) Look out in the fantasy, I slept for too long now my comeback is on.

2) TI man for real, you needed more guns than a Montana militia man

3) how are 2 of the jena 6 now on the red carpet at the BET awards? Shouldnt they be back home helping they boy out?

By Poppa Grande

October 15, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

I didn’t call anyone a h*o. I don’t know where that came from.

I did call ignoring an cowardly act. Its extremely passive.

People are active when they get together but want to be passive when the separate.

I then said document things. There are some really crazy people out there especially when emotions are involved. Many people don’t know how to deal with emotions. Atlanta has a bad history down this road. Many a battery, assault, etc due to this here. I am a native and have heard of quite a few and work in the field and see quite a few.

Sad, but true. 97 out of 100 may not do anything. However, you may not want to be part of those three.

Amazon, you only of people what they want you to know. If you haven’t broken up with a person before you won’t know how they will act.

By 2CPTG

October 15, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

A Red, no, I’m not saying persistence equates to dangerous, either….however, that’s how it starts, but if you’re comfaortable, hey, who am I…..but what doesn’t make sense, is this statement, “I don’t want to see him with any other chick.”……why would you care? And trust, those two days off aren’t the end of it….

By Bre

October 15, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this

BK Nice to read you, I hope all is well.

Topic I can’t recall having an issue with an ex. I’m pretty good at moving on, when its over its over. Life is really too short, one must keep it moving in order to enjoy the journey.

By Foots

October 15, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

Have you ever been guilty of dating the ex multiple times?

Yes, I have done this. Great guy, we dated for a year, broke up, and tried it again after we had seen what else was out there. Everything about us together looks great on paper, but we never could relate well enough to make a relationship work.

We broke up on fairly good terms and over the years, we’ve become really good friends. It’s just amazing that two people that loved each other, are so much alike and have many of the same goals can be so incompatible relationship-wise. We talk about it from time to time and are able to be honest about what’s wrong with us as a couple, but neither one of us would know how to fix it if we actually wanted to try. Tough break I guess.

By kinderbabe

October 15, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

foots amen to that!! lol. it is a terrible inconvenience. i never even considered changing my number, truth be told. it’s just too much. that goes for my cell phone too. so, how’s everything going w/you? did you see tyler perry’s movie or go to taste of atlanta? i didn’t make it out to taste. didn’t want to chance getting stuck in atlantic station w/all the visitors in town.

By Jazzyone

October 15, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

Sorry poppa that was AWWW Dayum…

By 2CPTG

October 15, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

A-Dub….what it do, boi….da hell you been????

By SexyLeggs

October 15, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

Congratulations abc.

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

2CPTG, Duh…I care because I want to be with this guy. Since that’s not an option, I don’t want to be his homegirl and see him dating other chicks. Just because you break up with someone doesn’t mean you don’t stop caring or stop wanting to be with them. Good grief, it hasn’t even been 7 days since it ended. I was a good woman, why wouldn’t he at least want to give it one more shot? Eventually, I will stop caring tho. That’s why I don’t need to keep him in my space.

Poppa, no I don’t know how someone will react. But I do know that it would be extremely insulting to me if someone I had history with filed a restraining order against me without merit. Let me at least see some questionable behavior before I go for drastic measures.

By NCGirlfromATL

October 15, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

Sup blog!

I haven’t experienced the boomerang in while, thankfully. I believe in keeping it moving. A friend had a serious boomerang problem, though. She saw the guy everyday in the gym (she works there) and he kept trying to corner her to explain his misdeads. He called her all day, and generally wouldn’t leave her alone. This wasn’t your typical BF/GF breakup. Dude was married and still trying to get my friend to come back to him, after he’d lied to her about his marital status!! She came to me in tears, and I told her Stop entertaining his drama! Everytime he called, she answered the phone. Everytime she saw him in the gym, and he tried to talk to her, she’d stop to listen. If she didn’t want to hear from him, then don’t! Don’t answer his calls. Don’t text him back. Keep walking when he walks up. She finally started doing it, and eventually he got the clue. But, I firmly believe that if you entertain the drama, it will continue. Now, there are those crazy few that won’t take the silent treatment as a clue…for them, law enforcement intervention may be appropriate!

Heeeeeeey Slim, Mo, Foots, Blat, er’rbody!

By Aggressively witty

October 15, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

2can, aint nothing man. just working hard trying to make sure the family is taken care of. Hopefully starting a new gig by the 1st of next month.

Sup with you?

By Jazzyone

October 15, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

Could we zap Brian Nichols @ss already..gee wiz im so tired of hearing about this chump…

T.I well you know I saw him on the hip hop vs. America the other spitting game about how we should be glad that he is sitting on the stage talking about the stuff he used to do instead of being out doing it…um..hmmm…guess not. His creditbility is shot he jeopardised himself and his family. Rapping about it and living it is two different stories I can’t believe he made such a dumb move and been making them since Sept purchasing guns…caught up in his own hype.

By Poppa Grande

October 15, 2007 11:51 AM | Link to this

I’ve seen my sister spend time in the hospital after being stabbed by an ex boyfriend. He muttered the classic line from Slick Rick “If I can’t have her, he can’t either.” She was out on a date and he happened to see her. ( followed them there)

Also, I think its ironic that Bella brought this topic today since Brian Nichols trial is starting today. If you knew the details of the rape case that he was on trial for. Its was a case of not wanting to let go. He was raised by a good parents. He was just crazy. In my opinion, he was spoiled. He always got what he wanted. In this case, she wanted to break it off after he father a child out of their relationship. So, he packed a cooler of food, and broke into her place, tied her up and raped her for at least three days.

I doubt that she could have seen something to that degree coming from him. So you never know totally who you are dealing with.

By Blue_Kolla

October 15, 2007 11:51 AM | Link to this

@ 2Can/Amazon Now sending over the tequila to go with that salt. LOL

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

*NCGirl said: But, I firmly believe that if you entertain the drama, it will continue.

Amen, sista! Amen!

By 2CPTG

October 15, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this

A_dub….just chillin, folks….was gone for a hot minute and recently, within the past month or so, came back to blogsville to chop it up awhile…..

A Red, maybe the issue is a lil too sensitive right now, but read what you’re writing….“I was a good woman, why wouldn’t he at least want to give it one more shot?”….earlier, it was, “the one thing we can’t get back is TIME and once you start wasting time with a guy who is not on your agenda, it’s hello to being 50 and still single wondering where all the time went. No thanks.”…….(scratchin my head)

By SexyLeggs

October 15, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

Hey, while in Savannah, my legs finally paid off….LOL A video was being shot in one of the squares, and I was asked if I would just walk by with my long legs. I got $50.00. The video was being shot by my daughter’s cousin. I had on jeans.

By Aggressively witty

October 15, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

Poppa, you posting from jail cause umm let some dude stab my sister and I would be blogging right from the cell next to brian nichols and TI.

By For Real

October 15, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

Phoots It’s just amazing that two people that loved each other, are so much alike and have many of the same goals can be so incompatible relationship-wise. Can you give a little more details bc it doesn’t make sense.

On topic: Can’t relate to this one.

7 days???? 7 days???? How can you put ole boy into this category at a boomerang ex??? Woman’s logic I guess.

By Blue_Kolla

October 15, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this

You see Jazzy, that’s why I like you. Me and you thinks alike. We all know Nichols did it - got a courtroom full of witnesses, and a tow-truck guy. What’s all this nonsense with the trial?! And T.I. ala Vick?

By Poppa Grande

October 15, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this

That’s why you make it clear to never contact you again. You let the person know that if you contact me again I will file a restraining order. It gives them notice that you don’t want to be bothered again. There is a nice way of saying everything…I’ve learn there is way of telling a person to go to Hell and they will be packed and ready to go. You can be blunt or not, that you preference.

See, ignoring the person does not give the other person the point blank knowledge to leave you alone. If leaves no gray area that the silence leaves. Then filing an order is the last resort because the person was warned beforehand.

By Poppa Grande

October 15, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

No, I’m not in jail. I really thought about it though. However, instead I decided to go to law school. (I am currently there). Ultimately, I want to be a prosecutor.

By abc

October 15, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this

Thanks for the congrats!

By Jazzyone

October 15, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

Amazon so where you his jump off?? LOL

By Jazzyone

October 15, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this

* Im just kidding Amazon* I know that you are very sensitive to this issue, so I kid I kid, shake it off if he doesn’t know you are a good woman his loss..

By 2CPTG

October 15, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

Jazzy, you wrong for that……..but I agree with y’all…..these rappers nowadays gotta be some of the dumbest folks walking….if the bodyguard is accustomed to bringing the weapons to the studio, then all of a sudden he wants to change the meet-up spot to a parking lot, of all places, shouldn’t that have raised a red flag that sum’in wasn’t right???? And then….didn’t he have enough heat at his home in the closet?

By Blue_Kolla

October 15, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

2Can And then….didn’t he have enough heat at his home in the closet?

You stupid. LMAO

By Staceye

October 15, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this

abc The silent treatment is a cowardly and noncommittal approach. Just tell it like it is. If you’re honest about it with yourself and the ex, everyone will get the picture Not true buddy. You can talk until you are blue in the face…but some thingk that they can guilt you back, woo back or fool you back no mateer what you say. They only hear what they want to hear….and believe what they want to believe. So ignoring them and not responding to lame azz attempts such as text, calls, emails and flower deliveries is the the way to get your point across that you have cut the ties and burned the bridge so it can not be recrossed or revisited.

Blue_Kolla I love that MIA approach myself.

Mo let NO MAN get your pressure up. he is not worth a stroke or battling hypertension.

Jazzyone Could we zap Brian Nichols @ss already I am tired of my tax dollars feeding his azz and having to pay for his defense when he is clearly guilty as sin in the pulpit!

*Sexxyleggs8 go ahead girl…show us how the cougars do it. LOL By the way…cougars are 40 and up right? Just checking.

Poppa Grande just as some view marriage as only a piece of paper…there are some who view a restraining order as the same.

By SexyCool

October 15, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this

i’m going out to buy TI’s last album today…he’s going to need some change for his defense…

By wayne

October 15, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this

So what do you do when she doesn’t give you clear messages? Simply ignoring attempts at contact doesn’t do anything but fuel his fire. I have experienced that!! If she has any guts (and compassion) she has to lay it out clearly and directly.

By 2CPTG

October 15, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

Sexy Cool……shiiiid, if he spendin’ 12 stacks on machine guns, fool don’t need our help! and Blue, mayne, these cats are a trip! already got a felony, and knowing the feds are just lookin for anything they can get him with, he gon’ be stupid…..prolly was gon’ make a song bout how he sittin on machine guns with silencers….

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

2C, have you had a head injury recently? You are not comprehending at all today. He didn’t call it off, I did. So I can UNDERSTAND why he’d still want to call me as I was a good woman to him. However, letting him back in would not benefit me, so I chose to ignore him. Just because he calls does not mean he gets to talk to me. Get it now?

Jazzy, I know you were joking. But no I was not his jump off. I’m not anyone’s jump off. ;-)

By Blue_Kolla

October 15, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

LOL @ SexyCool …he’s going to need some change for his defense

By Jazzyone

October 15, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

I ain’t buying Shyt fir T.I. even after the trial he has the cheese, heyal let him pay for his own self inflicted pain..He can kick boulders…

Stacye oh dayum girl you had to say that as I realize im 41 and in cougar territory sigh..LOL! no its 45 and up LOL!

By SexyCool

October 15, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this

what is most amazing to me is that it’s normally not the rapper / athlete / whoever that gets into trouble first…it’s usually one of the knuckleheads that he surrounds himself with…

By SexyCool

October 15, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this

jokes, people, jokes…

By SexyLeggs

October 15, 2007 1:08 PM | Link to this

no its 45 and up LOL! With that being said….I’m a fierce cougar…LOL @myself.

By 2CPTG

October 15, 2007 1:14 PM | Link to this

ok…..now I get it, A Red…..you broke up with him 7 days ago because you all weren’t going in the same direction; You told him that it was over, then he started calling, texting, and emailing, because as you stated, you’re a good woman, so of course he should try to make another go at it; but, you’re ignoring him because you see it as a waste of your time; All the while, you still want to be with him, but since you can’t, you don’t want to be his friend, homey, or anything; let alone, see him with another chic………..now, it’s been two days since he’s tried to get in contact with you, and you think he’s gotten the picture……yeah, I get it now……

Dude got over you, quicker than you’re gettin over him! which gives credence to what Jazzy said……..ouch, my head hurts!

By Page1908

October 15, 2007 1:27 PM | Link to this

I think it’s funny when people, especially women, say that they want the dude to just tell them straight up that it’s over instead of not returning calls and other stuff like that; however, when they don’t want anything to do with dude, then those same women will simply “ignore” the dude and hope he gets the hint. It’s funny when people do the exact same things to others and then get mad when it is done to them.

seriously

By Awwwwwwwwwwww...Dayum

October 15, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

Poppa My Baad bruh!!

Jazzy Oops, I forgot to add Male/female to the tag line…now please stop stalking my handsome black boy, you are getting little too ruff with Awwwwwwwwww…Dayum, LOL

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

2CPTG, if that’s what you took from that story, so be it. *shrug *

By Foots

October 15, 2007 1:50 PM | Link to this

For Real This is the very short version: I guess it’s a trust issue in that we didn’t trust each other to provide what we each needed. In cases like that, folks start looking out for themselves, and you can’t further a relationship like that. The last time we were together it lasted a year. When we first got back together, he was contracting out of town, like he was when we met. We knew that in order to work towards marriage, that we needed to be together in the same city. The long distance thing was the main problem in our last relationship. So, one thing we agreed upon at that time was that he would do everything he could to be home with a permanent position within 6 months if we got back togehter. I waited a year.

I found out that he had stopped making an effort towards our plans because the money was too good for him on the road to get a job in town. In MANY conversations, I told him that this wasn’t what we agreed upon and I decided to call it quits.

In our present conversations about life and such, he admitted that the money clouded his vision of marriage and family and that what he did was wrong; he assumed that I would always be there waiting while he left me alone to go conquer the world. I admitted my shortcomings in the relationship, which were many, and we made peace with it. He’s a great guy (attractive, smart, funny, good mind for business, educated, spiritual, responsible) and sometimes I wish we could figure things out, but it’s probably not meant to be.

By Jazzyone

October 15, 2007 1:50 PM | Link to this

Page good point

By Foots

October 15, 2007 1:53 PM | Link to this

Amazon That’s kinda what I took from it too. Where was he off in his synopsis?

By Jazzyone

October 15, 2007 1:56 PM | Link to this

Aww what da heyal you talking bout??

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this

Well first off, you can’t be a jump off if you aren’t jumping off, if you know what I mean. Second, he could be over me, he could not be. We’ll never know unless we start speaking again. I guess all his friends think I’m over him just because I haven’t picked up the phone. Doesn’t seem like a reasonable conclusion. But like I said, if y’all like it, I love it.

If indeed he is over me. Great. Makes everyone’s lives easier, then.

By Page1908

October 15, 2007 2:00 PM | Link to this

LOL Jazzy girl, that is some mess, really.

By Page1908

October 15, 2007 2:04 PM | Link to this

Jazzy do you still have my email address? I’ll be making my debut October 26th, so let’s chop it up soon!

PS- Of course, I am bringing plenty of Phoenix Suns stuff to rock because you know basketball season is just 2 weeks away! LOL

By Page1908

October 15, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this

LOL @ being someone’s “jump off” without really jumping off!

By SexyCool

October 15, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

i agree with 2’s first paragraph of thought…but the second one, not so much…

it seems like to me…dude did not take A-red seriously when she told him she didn’t want to have anything to do with him and thought she would be soft enough for him to come around and make her his anytime jump off…

sounds like to me that ARed said to him something that i used to say…

let’s just CALL it friends…but…we really don’t have to BE friends…

By Dan

October 15, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

Since Truth is MIA… Let me be the one to interject a little wisdom.

Let it not be said reconciliation is sometimes necessary. So the cathardic conversaitons that FOOTS referenced is a part of the healing.

Think about it from the other person’s point of view. Sometimes this (for them) is an unresolved issue. Try and think about it that way before you start wigging out.

After explaining (calmly) your side of the story, if this person STILL doesn’t get it, then call the cops.

By For Real

October 15, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

Phoots So the two of you were not going in the same direction. I can understand that. That place and time thing can be a trip. When the time is right it’s like WOW but when it’s wrong it’s like WHY.

abc I see you have been playing Scrabble too huh? Congrats!!!!

Page Nineteen 0 Eight The Suns are done. You can use that gear as dusk rags

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

October 15, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

Mo strolling in feeling much better now for the moment

Staceye It was hard for my pressure to not be up, son’s father is acting an azz as usual. I should be used to it however I cannot get used to an adult being childish or silly, especially when you are a parent. Sometimes being the bigger person doesnt pay off. But thanks anyway!! LOL

Hey Err’body!!

And Jazzyone I agree with your post this morning, Once I am done, I’m done…that is my motto and it has worked soooo well!! :-) And I too am so sick of Brian Nichols! I mean come on now people…..his trial is starting to resemble R.Kelly’s child porn trial…

By 2CPTG

October 15, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

Sexy Cool, the second thought was merely one of them, hmmmm, sum’in to think about, sorta things…..but since she said there was no jumping off taking place, buddy coulda been like, shoot, I didn’t get the goods no way, so why continue to bother…..thus, the two day lapse in correspondence.

By For Real

October 15, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

Way, way off topic:

This came from a feminist blogger. What does the WLB think?

*”It’s not a coincidence that the rise of feminism coincided with the great technological leaps of the 20th century, or that the most advanced societies on earth are also the most feminist. Women are fundamentally more important to the survival of the human species than men because they can make more humans. Yes, men provide half the genetic information, but women’s bodies do all of the work. They get pregnant, they give birth, and they nurse the child through infancy. You need to realize that men only exist to provide for, protect and support women so they can live and produce more humans. Once you’re no longer needed for that purpose, you cease to have a reason for existing.

“What men have done is essentially made themselves obsolete through technology. The reason you guys are being kicked to the curb is because you, individually, aren’t needed anymore. Soon, as society becomes even more advanced (and your muscles become even more useless), fewer and fewer men will be needed, until none are needed at all. Life will get better and better for women, and (when reproductive technology advances enough) parents will opt to have girls overwhelmingly instead of boys. women will embrace lesbianism, and eventually start reproducing together.

“Sorry guys, but your time is up. Stop fighting already, and just accept your fate.”*

By Blue_Kolla

October 15, 2007 2:38 PM | Link to this

Page?!

Sexy/2Can/Big Red Neva mind dude, how is this slim going to break up with dude, but then talk about she don’t want to see him with another female. WTF is that about? Sounds like a selfish type of br… I mean female, that wasn’t really that good to him anyway.

By Page1908

October 15, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

Blue is that you? Hey dude! I agree w/your 2:38 post. These are the same women who are perfect in every way, remember?! seriously

By SexyCool

October 15, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this

blue…i see your point…but i kinda feel what she was saying…which goes to my calling it friends and not being friends…

if they are being friends…then they would probably have the occasional what’s going on in your life conversation and she’s supposed to be cool with him going on with his life and seeing other females and what not…

but…if they are just calling it friends…then, she doesn’t see him, doesn’t speak to him, doesn’t think about him…doesn’t nothing…this way…what he does in his life is none of her concern whatsoever and she doesn’t have to deal with it or him on any level…

By Blue_Kolla

October 15, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this

For Real I don’t know about whta the WLB has to say, but as a Lifetime Member of the MLB (Now flashing the Platinum Membership Badge), all I can do is laugh and say, “YRB!!”“

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this

SexyCool, 2’s first paragraph was pretty accuarate. The second yeah, not so much. That’s just opinion. I didn’t even throw out the first option because I know I won’t be ready for that. I don’t know how you can date someone, meet the family, make plans for the future and all that and just be like “what up homey?” LOL Maybe in a few months. But probably not as I won’t be putting forth the effort.

Blue_Kolla, I never told him I didn’t want to see him with other women. If I’m done w/ him, he can do what he wants. I didn’t know that once you break up with someone, your feelings just end towards a chick. Kudos for you if you can do it, but sounds like YOU really aren’t good to them anyway. Geez.

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 2:56 PM | Link to this

Guys…once it’s over, it’s over. We’re not being friends, we’re not being anything. Remember, I’m on the Ignore, ignore, ignore team. All this banter about what this and that could mean is exactly why it’s easier to just let it go. There is no confusion that way.

By For Real

October 15, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this

2C I feel you. What if dude just trying to get his G.I. Joe with the KungFu grip action figure from her house and she is ignoring him?

By Foots

October 15, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this

For Real Not in different directions so to speak. We both want the same things, but maybe we aren’t really meant to get to those things together. I know that if I told him that I’d like to try again, he’d be all for it. But I can’t do that because we got out of our relationship twice as friends. If we tried it again, one of us would probably end up in a cell with T.I, Brian Nichols, OJ, R. Kelly, and Mike Vick. LOL!! J/K (not really..)

And I’m not even touching that other post about the feminist viewpoint.

By 2CPTG

October 15, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

Bwoi, this is getting funnier by the minute…..“I don’t know how you can date someone, meet the family, make plans for the future and all that and just be like “what up homey?””……….I didn’t know you could do all that either, and no jumpin’ off, goin’ on?????? c’mon red!

By Jazzyone

October 15, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

* So Amazon why did you stop seeing him if I can ask* Did you do all this and not in a committed relationship?

By For Real

October 15, 2007 3:04 PM | Link to this

BK When I read that ish I was like WOW!!!! That’s some crazy freaky jason ish. It makes you wonder if these are the women that are running NOW? They actually want to get rid of men. Why can’t she just be a lesiban and leave it at that? Hellz she want all the puddy. Greedy azz heffer!

By Staceye

October 15, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this

For Real is that femnist my sister from another mister? LOL

SexyLeggs My bad girl you still got 4 years before you are a bonified Cougar. You are be liek Diana Ross in Bobby Brown’s video when she was like mid 40’s strtting better than the young woman! So what are you considered? What is mid twenties? What is early thirties? I need to be PC about it! LOL

Mo I feel ya girl. Just don’t be like my grandma and say he is gettin on your last nerve for years. I am still wondering how strong that is last nerev is? LOL How long can you be on someone’s last nerve before is pops???

**

By Jamocamecrazy aka Asparian

October 15, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this

@ …”Hellz she want all the puddy. Greedy azz heffer!”

I am LMAO!!!!HAHAHA!!!

Wassup Everybody!!!

By Jazzyone

October 15, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this

* For real* naw I want a man in my life for more than just donating babies, heyal she can be with a bunch of lezbos but I can barely stand a woman so shes on her own with that one..strictly big dyckly..period..technology??…she must be jaded and scorned thats some bullshhhh…

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this

Jazzy, I wasn’t the one “doing all this.” He was. He’s the one who introduced me to moms. He’s the one who introduced me to all the friends and frat. He’s the one who wanted me to travel w/ him to homecoming. But he wasn’t good with “titles” and I’m not good without them. If he had his way, I guess we’d be like Kurt and Goldie, but I need more like Ossie and Ruby.

There is no real compromise when two people have a difference in opinion about titles. So I felt it best to let it go.

By Deeva4Life

October 15, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

For Real I can’t speak for all women, but for me I don’t care how advanced technology gets it will never replace the presence of a real man. Period.

By Jazzyone

October 15, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

Amazon I hear you on that one leaves a gray area in there if you don;t determine whats going on and have a meeting of the minds. Well you did what was best for you and I commend you for standing on what you believe no matter what anyone says…Okay ya im out. ya behave!…

By 2CPTG

October 15, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

Jazzy……..in my best Slick dyck Willie voice from Do the Right Thing……”don’t let me catch you nekkid on payday!” I see you had to emphasize Big……..ladies, what’s big? I mean e’ry dude thinks he’s slangin’, but what’s big to y’all?

By Foots

October 15, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

Amazon When he introduced you to all his folks, was he just saying “This is my Friend, Amazon”? How long had y’all been seeing each other?

By SexyCool

October 15, 2007 3:31 PM | Link to this

ARed…did i just read you right?…you ended a developing relationship over a title???

By Staceye

October 15, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this

For Real I still got my G.I Joe with the Kung-Fu Grip. I still got my original Transformer and my Go-Bots…oooh think my granny still has my He-man action figure. I was little as hellz playing with those. I was the little runt playing with the big kids.

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this

Foots - great question. He always just said “this is Amazon” to the point where I had to press him on what his friends and family thought. He said, they just think you’re “my Amazon.” I’m like “huh?” LOL

We had dated for over a year. But he started introducing me to the important people in his life maybe 6 months after we met. I was also there by his side when he buried his dad.

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

SexyCool, sounds like it was developing wasnt it? But how can it develop if he’s doing all that, yet wants to see other broads? Didn’t add up to me, so I cut my losses.

Any guy that wants to be with me and only me will make that known. He didn’t want to let go of “just in case” possibilities.

By SexyCool

October 15, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

understood…just asking…i didn’t realize that he was doing all of this AND trying to make you a part of the rotation…sounds like he’s bought into his own press…

By SexyLeggs

October 15, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

Staceye, JazzyOne is the one who has 4 years left before being a bonafide cougar. I’ll be 49 in 2 months. I’m already fierce. Yes, ForReal, JMO of myself…LOL. I’d be stepping like Tina Turner w/attitude like Dianna Ross.

By For Real

October 15, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

2E’s You are just a big kid aren’t you. I bet you were a favorite for hide-n-go-get weren’t you. lol…..

ARed Sound like you flipped the script on ole boy. If I am not mistaken, you posted that you were cool with the two of you dating each other while seeing other people, now you want a title. Since he didn’t give you one you break it off and don’t want to deal with him anymore.

By Staceye

October 15, 2007 3:53 PM | Link to this

2C ladies, what’s big? I mean e’ry dude thinks he’s slangin’, but what’s big to y’all if we have clench the kegal muscles to uh feel your presence….chances are you are not big! If we have to question if you are in…you may be working with a Mini-me. If I say I could have had a V8…and I don’t drink those…chances are you have a pinkie winkie. Did I give enough? LOL Of course love…I am not talking about you! Smooches!

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

SexyCool, yeah, the story is longer and detailed but when you boil it down to brass tacks, we simply wanted different things. Kim Porter was happy for 10 years thinking she was the main chick, when clearly she wanted more.

I don’t do main chick. I don’t do friends with benefits. All these gray areas were just confusing. I gave him time to get it together. When he didn’t no ultimatums, no whining, no nagging. I just cut my losses and I’m moving on. We tried it his way. It didn’t work for me. He didn’t want to try it my way. So I’m moving in a different direction.

By 2CPTG

October 15, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this

A Red, (I’m not trynna pick on you, but you got the bizzness for the day)…..you say it didn’t add up to you???? why not….you said y’all weren’t cuttin’ right??? so he was seeing other chics that would; now, that adds up. And you said y’all dated for over a year??? Gal, either your pockets are sittin on swole, or you’re one helluva beautiful young lady….and you’re his trophy, that he’s waiting for you to succumb….

By Foots

October 15, 2007 3:59 PM | Link to this

2CPTG This will be TMI, but since you asked… Here’s Visual #1: If I can’t wrap my hand all the way around it, it’s just right, if my fingers touch, tough break.

By Foots

October 15, 2007 4:01 PM | Link to this

Visual #2: I have long hands for a woman. It better be longer than my hand.

By 2CPTG

October 15, 2007 4:02 PM | Link to this

Staceye, of course sweetie, cause none of that applies to me……..

By SexyCool

October 15, 2007 4:02 PM | Link to this

sometimes…i feel like i’m the only person that forgets the details of the lives of other bloggers…i can’t remember from one day to the next who’s married…who’s divorced…who’s shacking…who’s momma is sick…who’s baby’s daddy (or momma) is tripping…who are the swingers….what so-and-so said last week…

either…i am completely self centered…or my mind is bad and i need to start doing more sudoku in order to exercise my brain so that i can remember more details…or…it takes so much to tend to my own business that i don’t spend time minding others…or i just don’t care that much…

and since we all know how caring i am…it can’t be the last thing…

(really laughing at myself over here)

By Dan

October 15, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this

@For Real

The problem with that posting are the words “…you [men] provide the genetic material….”.

If we provide the genetic material, mathematically speaking the odds of fresh genetic material being used after about the first or second generation of test tube babies (shout out to the late Robin Harris) becomes very slim.

What you will have is a replication of the genetic structure of the original generation (pre-test tube) and the latter. That combination will not provide the genetic diversity to continue the human race after 4 more generations.

Point is, we (men and women)are created to be symbiotic. Face it! We need each other, even genetically.

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this

For Real, He knew from the beginning that I’d always want a title. I’m fine with dating…but I date with a purpose. He knew that. He had ample time to figure out what he wanted to do.

And if I did flip the script, so what? I’m certainly entitled to have a relationship the way I want it. And if I don’t get it, to move on to someone who has the same values I do. What was I supposed to do…wait forever? No thanks.

Bottom line…HE JUST WASN’T THAT IN TO ME. Men are simple right? When they find a girl they can’t live without, they lock it down.

Any man on this board would commit to a girl they felt they could not live without.

By SexyLeggs

October 15, 2007 4:05 PM | Link to this

You know, size really doesn’t matter if you get down to the nitty gritty. I was with a dude who was pretty small. I was amazed and told myself we wouldn’t be going far together. His stroke was better if not far better than most I’ve been with. He treated me like a queen. He loved on me, through me and in me. He treated me like a woman. The deeds we did w/o pentration that brought me to my ultimate “O” were breathtaking. I even lost my mind over one special encounter w/him. (I believe Staceye mentioned she lost her mind at one time). Anyway, size really doesn’t matter when you get right down to it. Only a person who knows the difference can understand what I just posted here.

By 2CPTG

October 15, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

so Sexy Leggs, you’re the Lena Horne of the blog…..an ageless beauty…..that’s what’s up! shout out to all y’all ageless beautys out there…..ain’t nuttiin sexier than an older lady who’s still got it…..49, eh???

By SexyCool's Alter Ego

October 15, 2007 4:08 PM | Link to this

If you can’t reach the bottom, you ain’t long enough. If you don’t stretch those lips, it ain’t thick enough. If it don’t touch the back of my throat a little bit, well you get the picture…lol…

*yeah, 2…i changed my name to post this one…lol…

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 4:12 PM | Link to this

2CPTG, no problem. I’m not like that poster Beautiful. My skin is thick.

I said I wasn’t doing jump off activities…aren’t jump offs chicks that are getting f—cked and nothing else? That wasn’t it with us. He knew I wasn’t comfy with having sex outside a relationship. That being said, we had done it, but I did cut that part off once I thought he was becoming comfortable. Our relationship actually got better, we ran the 5K together, I met moms again, we made plans for homecoming…but I knew he was getting puddy from somewhere else.

Long story short, it was time for it to end! We didn’t have the same objectives in mind. Period.

But to your point, I am a hellava beautiful young lady so that’s it too. LOL

By For Real

October 15, 2007 4:15 PM | Link to this

A-Red I don’t any of us are entitled to anything but what we have earned. You went into this with your eye wide open bc you knew what he was about. Hold your head up and chalk it up to lesson learned. As far as locking a lady that I could not live without, well I don’t believe such a thing exist. My life experiences can be summed up in three words:

LIFE GOES ON So that’s why there is no such thing as a person I nor any of us could not live without.

By Staceye

October 15, 2007 4:18 PM | Link to this

*For Real8 I reallyplayed hide and go seek…not the nasty variations! LOL

Sexyleggs8 you done messed up now…2C* is coming for ya! LOL

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

Foots - you like those donkey d*cks!!! LOL!

By For Real

October 15, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

Dude: How’s that baby you feel me?

SexyCool: What? You started already?

Dude: Sweating Hellz yeah!!! Come on now you can’t tell me you don’t feel nothing.

SexyCool: Not a Dayummm thing!

Dude: Hold on let me try this.

SexyCool: What are doing?

Dude: I’m putting KY on my leg. I bet yo azz feel this.

SexyCool passes the f/k out

By Staceye

October 15, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this

SexyCool I thought I was the only one with alter egos. Mines are Sasha and Ava. LOL

By Alter Ego

October 15, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

for real…you’re a nutcase…toodayumfunny…

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 4:27 PM | Link to this

Correction For Real, he went into this knowing what I was about. He did his best job putting on his “we’re working towards something” face so that I would stay. I was always straight up to what I wanted and he wasn’t as such. I was patient and I gave him. If I had knew sooner that he was incapable of commitment I would have left sooner.

And maybe he is capable…but not with me. So godspeed to him. LOL

By 2CPTG

October 15, 2007 4:27 PM | Link to this

thanks, Red for recognizing there’s nothing personal in my posts….

and I must say, sounds like there’s a slew of beautiful women on here……y’all better be glad I changed my ways!

By Foots

October 15, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

For Real LMAO!!!

Amazon Yeah, and it’s even better if I can still feel residual occupation the next day too.

SexyLeggs Oh, sure. Some of my best experiences were with an LDM. They know they are lacking in that area, so they more than make up for it in others. What’s bad is that when he DOESN’T know he’s an LDM, and tries to handle it like Daddy Long Leg. Just sad!

By For Real

October 15, 2007 4:31 PM | Link to this

Phoots: Spots a fine man that meets her hand test Heyyyy sexy what’s your name?

Man: Willlllber!!!

Phoots screams OH LAWD and passes out while Wilber search her pockets for sugar cubes.

By Awwwwwwwwwwww...Dayum

October 15, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

BK sup bruh!!!

SexyLeggs I will be at your house tonite with a pak of mags…I’ll remind you of what good D is, LOL

A.Red there is nothing wrong with being a side chick…I’ve been a side D more than once in my life and I am still living. J/K

SexyCool you are the reason I am unable to leave those mature women alone…at what number can your Alter Ego be reach??!! LOL

Is there any way you can blog from your PDA?

By Staceye

October 15, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

2C you changed your ways…is that PC for “Reformed Ho”? LOL

I’m out you guys. Take care. Hasta Manana!

By SexyLeggs

October 15, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this

2C to tell you how confident I am, I entered Essence’s “Ageless Beauties” contest. Wasn’t called, but entered it. I do not look, nor act 49. I’ll kindly take the title of “the Lena Horne of this blog.”

ARed, no you didn’t say “donkey dcks…ROFL.

By SexyCool's Alter Ego

October 15, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this

2…since when???….lol…(i kid, i kid)…

By Foots

October 15, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

Amazon You did the right thing for yourself. Men and women have the right to really look at a situation, re-evaluate it and possibly decide that it’s not right for them now, even if it used to be.

Good luck on your Keep It Movin journey. I’ll save a seat for you on the bench if you need to rest your feet. I’ll have to ask Slim and NC to be sure, but I think the WLB still keeps a AA-battery stash right next to the extra-medium blog vests if you need ammunition.

By SexyLeggs

October 15, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this

DOESN’T know he’s an LDM, and tries to handle it like Daddy Long Leg. Just sad!

**Foots, you are so right. Now, for these brothers who then ask how does this feel to you, trying to mack like he’s all that, my machete tongue will cut cha!

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this

2C..it’s all good mayne! If I’m willing to put my bidness out there, I better be willing to take the responses.

Foots!! You crazy girl! Make em too big and I’m doing the hurt cOOchie dance all day. Ouch. You go girl.

Aw Dayum - Do your thing but I can’t settle for being a side anything. Just leads to mess and trips to the clinic. LOL

SexyLeggs I said it! LOL

By 2CPTG

October 15, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this

Staceye….that’s PC for alotta thangs…….

and aw dayum, bwoi, sexy cool gotta walk about her that’ll make you wanna follow her home….I’m tellin’ ya!!! (winkin at Sexy Cool….hey luv)

By Foots

October 15, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this

For Real LOL!! You know what??? You are a FOOL!! But hey, 2CP asked!!

I had a boyfriend once that more than fit the description, way more, too much more. The first time we were intimate, he wanted to keep the lights off. I found out why very quickly. He was afraid I would run. And eventually I did. It was Ri-dayum-diculous!! Literally.

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 4:48 PM | Link to this

Foots, thanks so much for the words of encouragement. Each day gets easier. And I take comfort in knowing I did the best thing for myself. I don’t have to worry about missing the right one cuz I was too busy wasting time with the wrong one.

Nice to know about the battery stash, however, I prefer the manual transmission instead of the automatic, if you catch my drift. LOL!

By SexyCool's Alter Ego

October 15, 2007 4:50 PM | Link to this

aaaawwww, shucks…who me??? (blushing ‘cause you said it and laughing ‘cause i know…)

By SexyLeggs

October 15, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this

I’m hollering over here at I prefer the manual transmission instead of the automatic, if you catch my drift. LOL! Priceless!

By SexyLeggs

October 15, 2007 4:56 PM | Link to this

Have a safe and restful evening everyone!

By The world's biggest lie...

October 15, 2007 4:56 PM | Link to this

The world’s biggest lie:

A dozen extra kind words each day and a few more minutes of foreplay will do more to increase a woman’s sexual desire and pleasure than an extra inch or two of P’ ever could.

Fellas, don’t believe that hype, LOL

By Foots

October 15, 2007 5:00 PM | Link to this

Amazon LOL!! I’d rather have that too. However, I gotta do what I gotta do in the meanwhile. Atlanta thinks it’s in a drought…shoot, it’s probably MY fault.

By AmazonRed

October 15, 2007 5:02 PM | Link to this

Whew, it’s getting hot in here. Good thing it’s quitting time. Til tomorrow everyone.