Misadventures in Atlanta

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 8:37 AM | Link to this

Happy Freaky Friday

When it comes to age, do you have a ceiling on who would be too old for you, or a minimum age for potential dates? Have you ever taken a chance by dating outside your normal range? What was the outcome?

I have never actually given myself an age ceiling. I’ve dated someone that was at the most 7 years older than me and at the least 4 years younger than me. With regard to a guy being too old, it really depends on how he acts and what he believes in. When you start to get into a total different generation than you, i would see more differences come about. For instance, by dating someone extremely older than me, the guy would probably have older values and set ways about womens roles vs. mens roles. (i.e. woman take care of the home, men take care of money)

As far as dating someone much younger than i am, I would see that being more of a struggle because women are naturally more mature than men at an earlier age. So i would have to deal with issues of irresponsibility or immaturity depending on the person. However, dating someone younger can be a lot more fun if you’re not looking for anything too serious.

I prefer to date guys around my age or older. I’m definitely not into dating younger guys. Sorry.

By Lady J

October 5, 2007 8:47 AM | Link to this

Morning Good Folks!!!! TGIF!!!!!!!!!

The older the betta for J….Around my age and younger work my nerves….

HAVE A FANTASTIC WEEKEND!!!!

By Game 4 dem Lames

October 5, 2007 8:58 AM | Link to this

I would not mind dating a “cougar”..hell those matures are hot…my age limit is prolly 47

By M.

October 5, 2007 8:58 AM | Link to this

Men, have you ever encountered women who wouldn’t date you because of the age gap? Have you ever had a relationship fail because of an age difference?

I have encountered women and they always say you are how old? (Insert Age) Oh you are a BABY!! I always say ok and move on. My cutoff for age is always 3 up and 3 down. I also dated a older woman before and there were parts that I did not like, particularly how she wanted to be the Mother Goose. She thought I was young and dumb and could not take care of myself. Come to think of it, she didn’t really have it together if you ask me….I think if both of you realize that it is give and take, and just enjoy the company, as SlimOne said, it can be alot of fun…You gotta love the older women who like the younger guys Cougars

By SexyLeggs

October 5, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. I’ve never consciously thought of an age ceiling. I’ve only dated one person my age and I wound up marrying him. I like mature, seasoned men who still likes to go out and have fun.

Good morning Bella.

By The Truth

October 5, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

Good morning blogsville. Good Friday to you all.

On topic: I’ve never dated a woman older that 35. My last 3 gfs were in there late 20, early 30’s. I have met some nice women my age but never really pursued it like that.

For me its not a cement rule but general guidelines.

By bold & beautiful

October 5, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

Good Morning bloggers. I am an older women and do prefer men closer to my age. Unfortunately, men my age does not approach me ony younger men. And yes i do have an age limit. If younger 10 yrs. but you MUST be very mature, responsible, etc.

By Beautiful

October 5, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this

On Topic Hi guys! I’m 39 (Cancer). I prefer a man between 35 and 43ish, maybe 45ish. If he’s gonna be over 40, that’s fine, but he can’t look his age. It’s a turn off when a guy in his 40’s look like my dad. Unfortunately, age does matter to me. It’s ok though if someone tries to convince me that it doesn’t. ;)

Off Topic I need to vent, bad. I dated this guy for 18 months (just found out by reading the booty-call agreement that we weren’t dating, LOL). Anyways, I let him go this past July because he won’t commit. That wasn’t for first time I kicked him to the curb, probably the fourth time. I was on Yahoo Instant Messenger this morning and he pops up. I’m lookin’ at his message like WTF! Leave me alone. He asked questions like how r u? I answered. He’s so used to me saying stupid shiit like I miss you, when you comin’ home and when can we spend time together? After he sat there for awhile, he said he didn’t want anything and he is sorry that he bothered me. Either he wants me or not!!! Why won’t he just say it? I’m p** because he wants me to chase him, drool all over him and blow up his cell. I ain’t doin’ it. Why are men in the A like this? I’m so done.

By T-Mango

October 5, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this

Typically, the men that I date are older than me by at least 7-10 years. However, I did date a younger man once. He was 23 & I was 31. At the surface, he seemed to be more mature because of his military background and experiences overseas. But, over a short period of time, we discovered that we were in too different places in our lives. I was more settled than he was and he still had more wild oats to sow. I understood that…I’d been 23 once… So, we parted ways.

I’ll never say never. It depends on the person and their maturity level. But, at this point, I really can’t see myself “going young” again…that is unless your name is Kerry Rhodes.…I guess I’m a sucka for punishment…LMAO.

Y’all be easy-

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

bold & beautiful I’m curious, how old are you?

Truth howdy honey. I recently dated a 35/36 year old guy. He told me he liked to date younger women because they had more energy and were more fun than his older counteparts. He also said, he has dated women closer to his age but he basically was like…to be frankly honest, older womens bodies aren’t as appealing to him as a younger one would. He said, it would probably take more to get him turned on and most definitely would make his ‘recovery time’ longer with being with an older women.

Slim now putting on a geratol blog vest…don’t shoot the messenger

By Jazzyone

October 5, 2007 9:27 AM | Link to this

Hey ya! TGIF! my boss locked herself out of her office and locked the orig and spare key inside the office….

Dont’ date them over 4 yrs younger and don’t date them over mid 40’s. have dated them younger and older and nothing really bad about either older were sometimes less mature and younger were sometimes more mature. SO I think it generally depends on the man, his background that determine if hes old enough for me. I don’t look my age so I attract children but its all relative…

By AmazonRed

October 5, 2007 9:35 AM | Link to this

I already have a daddy and he’s great so I don’t need to date a man who is anywhere near his age.

I guess my ceiling is about 10 years older. But I usually attract guys who are about my age anyway. I’d prefer to reach the milestones of life together instead of having someone who is already established (older) or just starting out and hasn’t done much yet (younger). That being said, the current main squeeze is about 7 years older, so there are clearly exceptions to the rule.

Happy Friday everyone.

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

Beautiful I’m glad the booty call agreement helped you realize what you and this guy had. Now as far as you being through with him, maybe you should remove him from your messenger list or have him blocked indefinitely IF you’re serious about being done. One thing i’ve learned is that guys don’t really want to burn bridges with a nice piece-o-azz because they never know when they may have the urge to step behind curtain #2 again. THAT’s why he is still contacting you. Its a cycle…you’re hanging out having fun under no certain terms, we (women) start to think about all the time and coochie coupons we’ve given this dude and want to know where its going, dude is not ready to commit, so we get mad and be like well SEE-YA!, we don’t call or communicate for a while, the guy just basically gives you time to cool off, then they’ll send a How Ya Doing text, or email or whatever, sort of like peeking around the corner to see if the smoke has cleared. You responding lets him relax a little and come on out from hiding. By him saying he didnt want anything and doing the Sorry I bothered you, is just to get in your head…If buddy wanted to be with you or wants to, he’ll say it.

Slim now adding a testosterone blog vest to her arsenal

By Lady J

October 5, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this

lol Slim it is some older chics with bodies way better than my 28yr old body…lol I hate exercising and most are looking good here lately in their mid 40s and 50s bc they don’t want to age…Good point Slim!:)

By M.

October 5, 2007 9:39 AM | Link to this

@ Beautiful

On topic

You said it would be fun to convince you that the age does not matter. What if you come across a guy that is significantly younger and really has all their ducks in a row, no drama, no kids, and really making strides in life? Also what if you come across a older guy who just really doesn’t have it all.. Especially for his age? Do you continue to go in that direction? Atlanta has alot of young people who are doing very well compared to some of their peers and elders

Off topic

The guy did this to you just to see what the status is with him and you. You said one thing to him back then, but for some reason, he still thinks there is hope. As far as the A, maybe he had some other options for this weekend and he hasn’t really confirmed them yet, so therefore he just thought he would check his Sparetire to make sure that Its ready to go in the near future…

By AmazonRed

October 5, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

Beautiful - simple solution to your problem: Ignore him.

You can control the amount of drama in your life if you don’t give into situations that cause drama. Let it go. If he ever wants to be serious, he’ll let it be known. Right now, he’s just playing games. Ignore the game.

By bold & beautiful

October 5, 2007 9:41 AM | Link to this

@SlimeOne I am 47. People tell me that i look 35. My male friends nicknamed me Stallion. And to comment on your what your friend said about older women. That can be true, if he’s dealing with those older women who are not keeping themselves up and in shape. I’m not one of those women.

By SexyLeggs

October 5, 2007 9:44 AM | Link to this

I can definitely understand the younger body can be tight. That’s why we cougars keep ours even tighter…LOL.

Morning Truth and all MLBs.

By Game 4 dem Lames

October 5, 2007 9:46 AM | Link to this

WHATS UP MS PARKER…WHEN YOU GOING TO LET ME……LOL

@beau —-it is not him…it is you..in some way i think you like the attention..if you wanted him to go away you would make sure the he would..stop crying about the monster you created…kill that mofo..feel me…you read like the classic attention type..you need stop frontin

By Lady J

October 5, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

Slim you are on a roll today…That cycle is serious…Most older people regard it as playing games and don’t have time but it is many old and young playing this game bc hince NOONE WANTS TO BE COMITTED!!!! J

By MusingLee

October 5, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

Musing falls through the ceiling vent after hearing SexyLeggs too sexy comments…….

Ahhhh, good morning?!?!

Musing disappears through the dark cubicle just as quickly as he came

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

Lady J Yeah i know that more older women are on the workout train and are very much in shape. But with anything there are exceptions to the rule and that was his honest view point on it. I thought it was sort of harsh and funny at the same time but i love honesty. LOL! You also have to know that this dude works out about 4/5 times a week and looks GRreeaaatttt! hehehehehe

Speaking of working out: I have started my workout as i told you about last week. I didn’t realize how out of shape i was. I’m enjoying in though…all except the mean muggs from our more voluptuous women. This chick came up to me and said, If i was your size there is no way I’d be up in here. I laughed it off but dayum yall, cant a slim chick be in shape too? Can’t we tone up? Why working out gotta be for the sole purpose of losing weight? Arrggrrrgg!

Truth When do i get to redeem my body massage voucher?

By Lady J

October 5, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

at least one wants to and the other does not so hey you decide I am not having any sex or I will keep a spare bc I get horny too and it becomes physical once again…We are human!

By Jazzyone

October 5, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

Hey GameLOL Don’t have to wonder who you are..happy Friday to ya! Starting early at em I see…

By Foots

October 5, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

Good morning all!! Man, this weather has really gotten me down! Thank goodness that I have Girl’s Night Out tonight and we will be laughing for about 3.5 hours straight (or until they put us out)!

On topic, I’m 30 and the oldest I’ve ever dated was 8 years older than me. One poster was right, he can’t look his age if he IS much older because I don’t want folks thinking I’m his child. I haven’t really been approached by men more than 8 years older than me, so I guess that must be the magic ceiling for me.

I have talked to and gone out with a few 23 year olds, but I can’t hang with them. Instead of dating them, I end up convincing them that they should be going out and having fun at their age. I’d rather be a friend than a lover-mother when they are that age.

I had a 2 year long relationship with a guy 3 years younger than me in my early 20s. It was a great relationship, but I ended up leaving. He was an amazing 19 year old boy then and I’m sure he’s a wonderful 27 year old man today.

By SexyLeggs

October 5, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

SlimOne, I can definitely identify. While working out I’ll get comments like “why are you here?” There’s nothing wrong with your body. Well, there is such a thing as keeping everything working and one’s stamina level high.

MusingLee you are funny.

By AmazonRed

October 5, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

SlimOne - you spoke the truth and a WLB covenant so I must post it again for all to read and marvel in it’s glory.

One thing i’ve learned is that guys don’t really want to burn bridges with a nice piece-o-azz because they never know when they may have the urge to step behind curtain #2 again. THAT’s why he is still contacting you.

Amen, sister. Oldest trick in the book!

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

bold & beautiful I guess because he works out, the physical deal with older women would be an issue for him. However, he did say older women are at times more secure with themselves and play less games. I’m not sure why he even mentioned games because I get the feeling he’s a secret agent man himself. lol

SexyLeggs I think your last post sent me and everyone else in lurksville into the naughty files.

Slim now adding 5lb weights to the camel toe doing 2 set-30 reps of kegal exercises LMAO 1 one thousand, 2 one thousand, 3 one thousand…..

By BLAT

October 5, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

@Slim… mornin, beautiful. Your boy who said that about younger women is most definitely true, unless the older woman is an 8.5 +.

By Willie Dynamite

October 5, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this

Good morning WLB What up MLB

On topic- In my younger days(early 20’s) I was always attracted to Older women 30-40. The challenge of getting an older woman always made for an exciting chase. I was never attracted to the young girl type. My mental wouldn’t let me just get what I could have. i wanted to get what I’m not supposed to have. As I enter my mid 30’s I find myself attracted strictly to my age group. The commonality of our experiences is something that I have to have. Don’t get me wrong if it what one of those days/nights then you can get it whether you are 21 or 41.

Slim You sure you haven’t snuck into one of the MLB training sessions. You giving the game up today. Hope she’s listening!!!

By Jazzyone

October 5, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this

Have a nice day ya’…gotta ton of work to do…peace…

By MusingLee

October 5, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

Musing now passing the fk out behind a secret wall after seeing Slim’s exercise routine

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs Slim does not equal healthy. Anyone of any size can have a heart attack or any other health disorder. I can tell that exercising has more than a physical benefit but just makes me feel better overall mentally and helps me to keep you-know-who off my mind.

Yall remember that song, I’m gonna wash that man right outta my hair….WELL, ‘m going to exercise that man right outta my life and mind. Somebody pass me a towel so i can wipe his remembrance from my dripping brow. hehehehehe

Amazon thanks for the recognition. Seems like we need to lift our fellow sistah Beautiful up in this time of need.

By AmazonRed

October 5, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

Off-topic The main squeeze has been good this week so I’m going to make Sunday dinner while we watch his two favorite teams match up. Ladies, what meal has gotten your guy drooling? Guys, what would you want your woman to throw down?

By Beautiful

October 5, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

M. If a guy approaches me, I would give him the time to prove himself. It doesn’t matter at that point how old he is. You can learn so much from a person in the first 5 to 15 minutes. If he starts off with “hey, shawty how you doin’”, then I know no more time is needed. Regarding me being a sparetire, that’s exactly how I felt. I did accuse him once of treating me like booty. That hurt his feelings bad, poor baby.

SlimOne I did delete him so I couldn’t see when he was online. His thing in the past was showing up on IM making himself visible and sitting there. Of course, I would say something he wants to hear. Tonight I’m gonna put his azz in the “block this email” section. That will work only until my cell rings.

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this

Blat morning amigo. So which do you feel works best for you, older women, younger women, or those in the same age range as you?

Willie Dynamite I won’t say i’ve snuck into any MLB meetings. I’d like to say that i’ve had a case study for the last 8 years that i’ve gotten lots of material and information from.

Musinglee knocks over Slims cubicle wall causing one of her dumbells to fall knocking him in the head unconscious

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

October 5, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

Ok Here it is

The Kingdom

This movie..is sooooo riveting..it makes you think about life and how sometimes you really closer to your enemy than you think….in this movie the difference between “Us and Them” is not many…you will be mad..you might cheer and there are a couple of parts where your leg is shaking as you find yourself rooting for some of the charcters….I have not seen a movie that touches this part in a long time…you will leave this movie thinking about how you view the world and be grateful that you live in a free country GOD Bless the U.S.A

some parts of this movie are not good for small kids

Rating: I give this Movie 5 out of 5 stars….it is a Must See this weekend

By AmazonRed

October 5, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

SlimOne, well I must tell you that if you are going thru a break up, you are handling it well. Sorry it had to happen tho!

I’m going to hit you up on MySpace later, only if you promise not to reveal my secret identity. LOL

By SexyLeggs

October 5, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

SlimOne, my exact sentiments that’s why I never understood why women would come up to me and ask “why am I here.” I totally agree w/you.

Beautiful, simply take heed to the newly posted WLB covenant. That’s why my friend of 28+ years is trying to come back through the door (now that the both of us are divorced). It may take you that long to get rid of him. JK.

By Worth

October 5, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

Chick: Baby why can’t we be exclusive? I love you.

Dude: Well baby blah, blah, blah, blah, and then we can blah, blah, blah but until then we can’t be exclusive. You feel me?

Chick: Huh??!?!!? I don’t understand…. What are you trying to say?

Dude: Okay NO!!! I DON”T WANT TO BE EXCLUSIVE WITH YOU!

Chick: What do you mean? I feel like you are just saying this because you don’t want to give in to your feelings.

Dude: What part of I DON’T do you not understand?

Chick: So, you are saying that you don’t want to exclusive with and that you never want to see me again?

Dude: No I didn’t say I didn’t want to see you again because blah, blah, blah, blah, blah

Chick: I love him sooooo much… he just sacred of his feelings.

Dude: Whew!!! I almost burned that one…

By Lady J

October 5, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

Seriously AmazonRed, me and mine love the game and I have cooked just recently a meatloaf dinner, neckbone dinne, chicken and rice dinner, and the usual spaghetti dinner…Wings and things is a good one also…Oh Salmon twice baked potatoes and garlic bread is a winner too!!! I love footaball and cooking for it for away games…Home games @ the Dome tailgating…J

By Beautiful

October 5, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

Game 4 dem Lames and AmazonRed duly noted. I needed to hear that.

By Lady J

October 5, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this

did stew beef dinner too…he was pleased and took left over for lunch the next day…

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

Beautiful Well if he moves from the IM to your cell, there is this option on your phone where you can DELETE the message or IGNORE call. LOL! After my recent fiasco i’ve been doing just that. Don’t you know that this dude drafted this email to make me feel bad aka head games:

Well Slim I get the idea. You didn’t have to go that route that you are going. I’ll never call you again, try to contact you, or even try to think about you. What you are doing is lame and totally messed up. Instead of ignoring me you could have at least told me you didn’t want to speak to me anymore. What you are doing is probably the meanest shyt you have ever done. I’ll be taking down the pictures I have of you around my house. Hope you enjoy your new life without me. I honestly hope you need me one day and get the same treatment you have given me. P.S Enjoy the pic I attached

He had the nerve to attach a picture of both of us.

See how well that works. Men can dish it but can’t take it.

By SexyLeggs

October 5, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

ARed, make a southern Sunday dinner. Roast, mac/cheese, yams, white rice for the gravy from the roast(too much starch?), collards and top it off w/homemade Peach Cobbler w/vanilla ice cream. This is what I’m making this Sunday.

By Lady J

October 5, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this

Thanks GA.Man AKA “Mr. Entertainment”…Will see soon…If you see the Why Did I get Married before the 12th let a sista know about that too…Thanks!

By Lady J

October 5, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

ARed…Do his favorite dish…J

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed Your secret will be safe with me. A break up isn’t as hard as you would think it to be if you’re actually done or in a good mental space. After a long drawn out 8yrs, and the circumstances surrounding the recent deal, i’m just over it. Don’t get me wrong, I had my crying spell that lasted for about..Hmmm…6 minutes in the car going home. BUT a voice asked me what was i sad about; If anything you should be relieved because he is no longer your issue. As soon as i heard that, i immediately stopped feeling bad. I just needed to get that cry out because of course my feelings were hurt. The book i’ve been reading The Game of Life has really been a tool during this time. I don’t have any ill will towards him at all. I still love him but him being in my life just isn’t in the plan right now and I accept that.

Lady J Mmmmm you got me wanting some salmon now.

By BennyB

October 5, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

I’m not going to comment on age yet….because yesterday someone called me a flip-flop and your man here isn’t John Kerry, I have to challenge someone (mind) here: A very wise man once said:

“the feeling of being valuable is a cornerstone of self-discipline because when one considers oneself valuable one will take care of oneself in all ways that are necessary. Self-discipline is self-caring”.

Back to yesterday controversy….If a woman decides to practice abstention, she is practicing self discipline perhaps feeling more valuable. The feeling of being valuable is a foundation to self esteem, a woman with high self esteem is a confident lady perhaps a very attractive woman. If a woman decides to abstain, let give her a benefit of doubt that she have a plan to finally stop the uncommitted relationships cycle…..if only we lived in perfect world.

On the other hand, many single women have been giving up their puddy all their adult life but failed to receive any commitment in return. The maps in their brains seem so certain that they will not receive any commitment if they keep giving up their puddy. Yes….past experiences usually play a significant role in human decisions than common sense logic. Those women fail to realize that their sexual generosity is more a catalyst to commitment than to the lack of it. Instead of taking full responsibility for their situations, they love to console themselves by blaming men for their problems stating that: “all a man want is puddy”. Gals, if you think that locking your puddy will drive some man to commit to you……..you need mental help. What was today subject again?

By Staceye

October 5, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

Musing Where hellz have you been?

Slim ….WELL, ‘m going to exercise that man right outta my life and mind I find that the punching bag helped me. I just imagined his face as I punched and kicked! Oooh..that was relaxing! LOL Now since you are small you don’t have to do a lot of cardio…just weights to keep it right!

Did you get my comment on My Space? Is that your new man? LOL

On topic: My mami is 10 years older than my papi. She walks through the neighborhood and all the young dudes try to holla…even though they know my papi is nuts!

As a teen I always attracted older guys. Then I got the reverse when I got in my 20’s. I tend to attract guys younger than me. But I actually now get hit on from age 20-54. Granted I am not dating anyone as old as..or older than my papi. So I like them 25-39. I just can’t do 40. I think of the old perv in the club..and maybe his pubes look like Christmas Tinsel! LOL I know..I’m wrong! The only thing an old man can do for me is show me to a young one! Well now if he’s rich with a bad heart…I’d have to reconsider! LOL

See,I plan on being a cougar like SexxyLeggs… so I gotta keep it tight.

By DuShawn

October 5, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

I have lost my ability to relate to youngsters. Not long ago, we had a get together at the crib. My lady invited some of the teachers from my son’s school. A few Ques came thru to help me set up and cook out. This group of outstanding young females came in the door. I’m talking bout, mid drift shirts w/ belly button rings, tight abs and jeans, fly hair cuts, beautiful skin, their whole crew was fly and fine as hell. All were in their early twenties. As the event proceeded, I’m playing DJ, Chef and Bartender. Music is my therapy, so I’m setting the vibe, I’m jammim my old school; Confunksion, mixed with some EarthWind, Grover, Joe Sample, Loose Ends, etc……you know, one time for the grown folks. One of the fine youngster came up to me and said…”Yall ain’t got no Jeezy?”. I had to laugh, but I accommodated them. One of the chicks in that crew was really diggin our style (actually she was diggin wifey). Over the next few weeks, she started hangin at our crib trying to infiltrate our cipher. I took both ladies on a date one evening. We ended up at the poetry show in the underground. Frequently, the youngster would say some shyt that would remind me of why I don’t fck with babies. When we got home I told wifey *”your new friend is an idiot.”

By The Truth

October 5, 2007 10:55 AM | Link to this

When I was 35 I knocked off this 20 yr old chick I met at Lenox mall for the whole summer. I never really hung out with her. She came over, we did what we did and she was gone. That chick was tight as hell and just wanted to please. We never had to discuss where that was going.

I read someones post asking where is this ish going. Where is anything going? You enjoy where your at and what your doing and if the moon and sun line up you go to another level. If not you move on and be glad you had a great experience. Older women tend to want some type of insurance policy that this has to be going somewhere. I don’t do insurance. I want to enjoy the time and if something pops off we’ll go with it.

Foots I’m with you on this weather thing. Grey skys slow the Truth down. I’m glad to see your doing better today.

Slim I have you scheduled for a full body massage with hot stones tomorrow at noon. PLEASE dont wear those gold granny pannies with the smiling face on the back this time. I tore a muscle in my rib cage laughing at that ish last time.

Fellas, we need to come to a consensus on what message we’re sending the WLB in regards to giving up the azz. The message we have been sending is broken and garbled. If we can’t work this out I’ll call an emergency meeting of the MLB and we’ll iron this out. 1 beat, 1 sound.

Beautiful you gotta quit blaming everything on the dudes from the A. They don’t do anything you don’t let them do. Ol boy just wanted to see where you were. Was it cowardly the way he went about it? Maybe. Even courageous tigers are cautious when approaching prey. If you quit comparing ev1 to ol boy from cali ev1 would be a lot better off. My .02

By Game 4 dem Lames

October 5, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

@slim….you were in a same sex relationship….dude is a straight BENCH!!!!!….da hell is that, sound like some s** a chick would write to her lover…..you must have that “Red Snapper” because all the baby powder came out of that dude…he needs his arse whooped for that lil text there….fellas what has happen to us..when did we start buying tampons for ourself….SMDH!!!!!

By Lady J

October 5, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

BennyB has SPOKEN!!!! LOL Slim as you see I likes to eat!!! LOL…I am so ready to go…lol

By Beautiful

October 5, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

SlimOne OMG. If we spent as much time as we do foolin’ around with these niccas as we do makin’ $, we’ll be rich!

Worth funny, but oh so true.

By MusingLee

October 5, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

Staceye I’ve started a new job at another company. So I’ve been doing alot of training. And the work here will not slow down until the holidays.

Musing now realizing he is staring at Staceye’s chesticals.

By Staceye

October 5, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

Dang Slim you put it on homeboy like that? That’s some dangerous stuff! LOL

Benny B I choose to abstain and not date to make sure I mainatin focus on more important things in my life. Right now a man is not an important thing in my life. When I am intimate with someone I become somewhat emotionally attacted so….why waste my God given emotions on some dude that just wants to get his rocks off? That will be saved for when I do decide to date again and he has proven himself to be worthy of my affection and my body.

By BLAT

October 5, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

Hey Slim. Younger(20-23) is more fun, although older has given me joy as well on one or two occassions. Long term i probably need one closer to my own age about 2-3 years younger.

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

Staceye Yeah I got your comment and responded…New man? Where? lol Nah, I don’t have a man at all right now. It’s just me and my kitty Blue. I’ve been doing mostly the different classes they offer at the gym I go to. I wanted to at least get back into moving around and build up some sort of endurance before I jump into the battlefield with the trainer for the weights. Looking forward to getting cut up tho.

I just can’t do 40. I think of the old perv in the club..and maybe his pubes look like Christmas Tinsel! YEah you are definitely wrong for that one….LOLOLOL!

DuShawn So does that mean no young nookielove went down with you, the misses, and stupidkid? lol

Game 4 dem Lames OMG! I am about to bust a gut over here laughing at you. I thought the same thing when he attached the picture. I took it like he had to reach deep to counteract me totally ignoring him so he tried to go for the emotion aspect of it. I love myself too much to accept that type of behavior. The Divine Entity will align me with who I should be with when its time to be with him. I just have to be patient and have fun doing my own thang. Those other tricks are for kids. I’m trying to come into my Grown-N-Sexy Self.

By BennyB

October 5, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

SlimOne

Are you “if I stop answering his call he’ll get the hint” kind of woman? The guy wrote: “Instead of ignoring me you could have at least told me you didn’t want to speak to me anymore” which imply a big communication gap between both of you. I did not patent the handshake communication theory but I damn well know that communication problems cannot be blamed on one end of the communication node. Why man blaming is popular here? Anyway, what you expect when you date a wimp…..

By Staceye

October 5, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

Musing you so nasty! LOL

By DuShawn

October 5, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this

Slim I couldn’t tolerate her immaturity. You have to create a vibe of uninhibited intimacy for something like that to jump off. Although she was open about her bisexuality and often discussed her relationship with her last girlfriend, the youngster had some growing to do before she was ready to be exposed to a set like that.

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this

Truth I won’t wear the smiley face grannies BUT all i have left are my Good Girl high cut briefs. When you turn the lights off they say Bad Girl..Muuah ha ha ha Will that work?

Staceye I wouldn’t say dangerous but it does come with a warning sign. PROCEED WITH CAUTION-HIGH LEVEL THRILL. LMAO! just kidding

By imjussaying

October 5, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

of course she is a if I ignore him he will stop calling secretly that type of person instead of being direct and honest secretly they want that person to continue to call…oh grow up already..

By Game 4 dem Lames

October 5, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

@dushawn..sat/sun at the trap is where it is at homie…lol

@slim…i am sure you good but not that dayum good…he prolly curled up in the fetal postion listening to brain mcknight or something..but he is a classic example what is wrong with the game today….good luck with the working out…

By Foots

October 5, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this

BennyB In regards to your 10:48 post, it seems as though you have taken the time to further analyze the PuddyGate controversy. What is your final position on what a woman should do with her own puddy?????

By Simplyputt

October 5, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this

Good day all. I’m with ARed, these younger katz get on my nerves too. I date older men…8,10,20 years older. I feel like the new dog learnin’ old tricks and I like it.

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

BennyB I will forgive you in advanced because my situation is different. You asked the question why men blaming is popular here. SO let me ask YOU this: When you are with your SO, chilling at their crib and the OTHER WOMEN pops up and rings the doorbell, who else am i do blame and why would i not have the right to ignore him?????? She came over there to pick up a bike that he had bought her which had been in his garage with the tags still on in for at least a month, that he told me belonged to a female coworker that had no way to transport it to her place…I even rode the shyt too one day when he was cutting the grass. So she got curious when he wasn’t answering her calls i guess because i was there and decided to do a drive by. She of course see’s both of our cars in the driveway and decided she would ring the doorbell. There we all 3 stood…him looking crazy…me and her looking at each other, then back at him like WTF is going on.

So what, my intelligent brother, would you suggest I have done as apposed to ignoring him after that???? Hmmmmm??? So as far as your theory about communication gap being between more than one individual I can agree. There was a gap of communication…He failed to tell me he was dating this chick and failed to tell her about me.

By Foots

October 5, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

imjussaying Have you ever asked someone not to call you anymore and they continued to call? What would be your alternatives in that situation other than “ignore the call”?

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

DuShawn Was there one particular thing that just turned you off from her or was it her overall immaturity that did it? Sounds like she is a little girl trying to play adult games.

mjussaying Please refer to post to BennyB. I’m not a if I ignore him he will stop calling so find some other platform for your rant. Thank You please come again. Said in my foreign accent

By Game 4 dem Lames

October 5, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

@slimone…again he is a simp..he stepped outside the code

http://stopsimpinmovement.com/thecode.html

By Simplyputt

October 5, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

well, let me clarify that- not rusty dusty old. no no—not by a long shot. you have no chance with me old man. i like mid-life crisis old. they’re easier on the eyes and won’t break a hip. ohhhh ohhhh my neck, my back, my neck and my back crouch*

By kimmie

October 5, 2007 11:53 AM | Link to this

To Staceye & other blog ladies that have chosen celebacy - Stop explaining to BennyB or anyone else what you choose to do with your OWN body! You don’t owe anyone an explaination, except maybe someone you decide to date. At a point, you just get tired of meaningless sex and you crave a deeper connection, or you are trying to focus on other things. I’ve even known men who have felt that way. They may not go as far as remaining celebate, but there are times when maybe they chill with the usual game & focus on other things. I listen to Steve Harvey and his Strawberry Letter 23. He, a man, usually preaches to the confused women that write in to not be so quick to give it up to a man that #1 - You don’t really KNOW & #2 - You know has no intentions of pursuing the type of deeper connection you crave. You dudes usually make your intentions known in the begining & a lot of women choose to ignore it, and hope his mind will somehow magically CHANGE. Where is the problem when a woman chooses to actually pay attention and decide SHE is in control of her own body and destiny and decide she can’t roll with the obvious feelings he has put out to her in the beginning, verbally or otherwise, that he just wants the sex? Steve Harvey also made a good point this morning: most jobs have a 90 day probation period before you can recieve full benefits. Too many ladies have allowed partaking of the full benefits before they even get to know each other! The “company” does not even know what type of “worker” they have! Now, if a lady chooses to hire a temp to take care of a “special project”, she has full right to do that and she fully understands its a temp position that probably won’t lead to a permanent position. I guess I’m sort of venting, because I remember a former FWB tripping on me because I decided to cancel the FWB contract and chill. I’m just not wired for that type of arrangement and I admitted it. He actually acted as if he “owned” my body and how dare I decide to cut off access. I quickly let him know the only way he would have a right to be mad about that is if he were my husband and I was not performing my wifelies! Last time I checked, I did not have a ring on the 4th finger of the left hand from him! As far as celebacy leading to commitment, BennyB, what I gathered from your post is that you damned if you do & damned if you don’t, so why not do what YOU feel is necessary for your own well-being? When a situation is right for all parties concerned, everything falls into place, no need for the games. I’m sure you don’t agree, but who cares! On topic - Really depends on the person as far as age is concerned. I’ve known younger guys that have it more together than older guys. I know one thing - I want a true partner, don’t need another daddy & if I want a baby to take care of, that can be arranged.

By imjussaying

October 5, 2007 11:53 AM | Link to this

where you got games at was when he told you it was a chicks bike that she never came to pick up, then he tells you its a coworkers That was the okey dokey and you didn’t even see it. so blame ur self. U mad a that man cause some shiit u tolerated.dumb arse, now you wanna be at the male species and work ur self out at the gym ta death. You didn’t learn nothing if ya did you would see where you failed urself.

By The Truth

October 5, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

Foots let me add my .02 If I was a chick that wanted something in life I’d flag about 80% of the dudes out there for being bytches. Those cats wouldn’t touch my shyt. I’d be heading to the high ground where there’s not as much competition or stds(in general).

Alot of dudes only get play because of the numbers. In a different market they’d be forced to watch. They have no mental, financial, or emotional gifts to offer. Because of the abundance of women in the world they can always find one to grant them a waiver, basically overlook the fact that he’s a bytch.

Summary: If in doubt, punt the ball. If your out there funnin do what you do and don’t try to make it what it isn’t. If your a nut rag shut up and swallow.

Slim you did the right thing. At a certain point fugg convo. We said all that needs to be said. Time to move on. What mf tries to negotiate with someone that has displayed unfavorable terms? Thats bs.

By For Real

October 5, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

Slim I figured something like that was wrong with you. You lost your witty come power for about a month. So you go ahead and work it out. Just remember to you CT sock. Remember that rash in 04.

Truth I agree with you about the message concerning giving up the azz but how we come up with one message when all dudes are not the same? From POV it completely turns me off to hear a woman say Prove yourself to me to or You have to work for it I don’t have to prove myself to anyone and if I work for it then at the end I expect a check not some puddy.

2E’s What up? All I can say is at least you kicking instead of shooting. Whew, it’s going to take a dude a lot and I mean a lot of licks to get to the center of your tootsie pop.

Musing What up man? I heard you died! (said in my old man voice)

Du I feel you on the young chicks. Those 78 and up models are crazy as hellz. I can’t even talk to them. Everytime they open their mouth it sounds like fingernails on a blackboard.

By Foots

October 5, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

Slim Dang! “Crickets” like a mugg!!! LOL!! You’re dealing with this thing quite gracefully. I would have at least been broken down for 12-15 minutes, but you topped off at 6!! Girl, you a “keep it movin” pro with the right attitude to go along with it!

By Beautiful

October 5, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

My cousin likes her men dusty old. LOL. She is like 45, and he is about 80. Dang!

By DuShawn

October 5, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

I’m really attracted to fine 50 yr olds. As we’ve discussed previously in this forum, they do not bullshyt. There are no inevitable conversations about “where is this thing going.?” They’ve surpassed the philosophical ideologies on “abstention” and the self-help mantras like: ”being valuable is a foundation to self esteem”. This age group has no grand illusions of what things could be. They’ve been there. They recognize each situation for what it is and deal with it accordingly. They communicate in no uncertain terms. If they want some diznic, they will tell you and if you’re getting too sprung and began to crowd them, they will tell you that too. I recently had the honor of making the acquaintance of this exceptional lady. She’s in that age group, beautiful classy chick, tight body, two nice homes, new benz, the whole nine. Very intelligent, but real azz f&ck. She will cuss yo mafuggin azz out quickly. Needless to say, we hit it off right away. I enjoyed talking to her so much, I hated to see her leave. I would have been violating if I asked for her number. I didn’t know how she would react and everyone in the room new my wife. A few weeks later she had a cook out at her spot. A mutual friend told me about it and I rode out there with him. She was happy to see me. We discussed our initial meeting. I told her I wanted to get her contact info, but I felt it would’ve been inappropriate and that my intentions may have been misconstrued by others. She laughed and said “I know you wanted to ask me, but you were scared. you can admit it…..I intimidated you” She went on to say that: “she thought she had reduced this grown man to a nervous little boy” Her statements were comical, but her bluntness was refreshing. Its rare that at the kill……I’m considered the prey.

By imjussaying

October 5, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

Foots when I tell someone to not call me anymore then tend not to call me again.

He didn’t fail to tell you he wasn’t dating her anymore you should have saw his actions not read his lips it was obvious he was still seeing her you just didn’t catch on. Foreign accent or not you are still a dumb a*

By Game 4 dem Lames

October 5, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

@KIMMIE..you missed the message..basically he was saying take responsibilty for your choices good or bad..dont blame the man…own up to your poor choices and move on…stop using the p card or sex game as your trump to control men…it does not fix your poor choices…

By DEMIGOD

October 5, 2007 12:04 PM | Link to this

Worth are you and Musing kinfolks???!!!! LOL….If not my baad, Sup Bruh!!!!

Lady J Heeeeeey Baaaaby!!! How are ya??!!

Demi is now standing in front of SexyLeggs’s house, standing on his infamous crate with a sign which reads:

WILL LAY GOOD “PIPES” AND MILK THE “TWINS”, FOR SUNDAY’S MEAL

Slim do you mind if I video your work out sessions for Smooth Magazine…Demi is now getting beat down with a 1980’s Sony video tape title: “Igga Please!!! Do you know who I is?!?! *

Frequently, the youngster would say some shyt that would remind me of why I don’t fck with babies.

Well said Du.

Gals, if you think that locking your puddy will drive some man to commit to you……..you need mental help\

BennyB you are going straight Hellz with me and Musing, LOL

GA.Man, Blat, Willie Dynamite, M. and the Truth Sup and keep holding it down!!!

On topic My WWWWWWWUV, my mature, sexy, and got it going on sisters ages 32 – 40 (I’ve lowered my age limit), Heeeey to y’all rep’n that age group on here!!!!

Back off topic This Li’Demi’s Birthday weekend, so we’re going to be hitting up a lot of single moms for free meals and slipping on not so right Kool Aid…Hellz I may bring him to work and have the ladies fall out over themselves over him (Let’s just say…a few women will be able to turn him down when he gets older). Heck, I may end up hitting a few of those mature cuties. Well you all have a bless day, I am out!!!

And Li’Demi will not be drinking any not so right Kool Aid, it will just be plain old red, oops I’ve done f/k your carpet up Kool Aid, hehehe…Y’all already know his Daddy ain’t right!!!

By Foots

October 5, 2007 12:04 PM | Link to this

imjussaying I’m sure that Slim can handle this one on her own, but why do you have to resort to name calling and blaming her for something that you know nothing about? What’s your point?

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

imjussaying FYI: you sound really idiotic right now but i’m not one to judge. LOL Anyhoo, He said it was a female coworkers bike, who I know. Why would i not believe that if i’m trying to make it work. No need to question him on something as simple as that. So NO, I don’t blame myself for believing that. If i cant believe something that simple, i had no business involved with him in the first place. And you must’ve have missed a post because I’m NOT mad at him, have no RESENTMENT towards him and i’m not bitter towards MEN in general. I love men. As far as me working out, it was something that i’ve been wanting to do for a while. However, I was able to do that recently because the place had a great special going on that i could afford and couldn’t resist. It just so happened that it all lined up for me in the most perfect way. So you can’t steal my joy or my peace of mind with your immature rhetoric. It’s not going to happen. But just so you can understand, i’ll put it in a language you can understand:

Sticks and stone may break my bones but words will never hurt me.

Truth He didn’t have anything to say when we were all standing there. He didnt deny nor confirm. So if he couldn’t speak up at the time it was most critical, there is nothing to discuss now. So, I can only wish him the best in life cause now, It’s all about Slim. I can longer….actually I refuse to compromise my happiness for him. He is not ready and I’m okay with that. He just needs to keep it moving freely. I don’t want to enable him to be happy too. Works out good if you ask me.

By Lady J

October 5, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this

HEY DEMIGOD!!!!! Lil Mama is holding it down trying to matain….How are you Kutie Pie?

Good follow up Game 4 dem Lames….DuShawn it has been a pleasure reading you too and as always Foots keep it coming…For Real 78 and up are not all crazy in each year you have your batch of the SPECIAL ONES!!!:)

By SexyLeggs

October 5, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

Her statements were comical, but her bluntness was refreshing Dushawn, this is the same thing Staceye said a few weeks back about a brother being upfront with his intentions. I think you attempted to chew her out. If it wasn’t you, I apologize for calling you out on the very thing you just posted.

By MusingLee

October 5, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

Whats up For Real…I’ve been crazy busy trying to handle my business. This is the only time I’ve been able to blog for about the month or so.

Demi I think Benny B should ride shotgun….Where is the Urang?! Or did yall forget to make the payments???

By Foots

October 5, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

Game I think that his message was “I know what’s best for you, who I don’t know, and your puddy, who I’ve never met.” Why the hellz is somebody else’s azz on his mind at 10AM? What business is it of his WHAT a woman does with her azz? Is he concerned that too much of the “I’d like to wait for someone special” talk is going to interfere with his “Bone & Gone” puddy supply? Believe me, IT WON’T, so…why the puddy preoccupation??

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

For Real I lost my CT sock, I’ll need you to pick me up another one. XL this time please. That medium have me feeling chaffed.

Demi I’m sure the ladies in the “Biggest Loser” club would looovvvee for you to come check out our workout sessions. LOL

By DuShawn

October 5, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this

Sexy I don’t think it was me. If so, I doubt if I had anything negative to say about a brotha being forthright with his intentions. That’s something I encourage.

By Deeva 4 Life

October 5, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this

Foots were you reading my mind or what? I was just getting ready to type the exact same thing…you beat me to the punch.

By Game 4 dem Lames

October 5, 2007 12:21 PM | Link to this

@slim…if it were me i would have invited the chick in for the three screw…poppin up when you she knows the “office” hours….lol, she was out of pocket and subject to fines and the game….lol

By Foots

October 5, 2007 12:21 PM | Link to this

imjussaying when I tell someone to not call me anymore then tend not to call me again.

Really??? I guess it must just be the people with the Fiya that have the issue with folks that keep calling when asked to do otherwise. Dang, sorry bout that…

By Staceye

October 5, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

Kimmie You put it down girl. I like the part about 90 probation. I said that I would give my next guy that..but not let him know the time period. That way he doesn’t show his representative for 90 days just to getthe goods. Any guy who does not know exactly when I plan to give it up and he stays the same and stays around…might be the one. You live and you learn from your mistakes. I may do the temp thing…you know get an old flame that I no longer have those feelings for.And have him ummm. fix my plumbing! LOL

For Real My Tootsie pop? LOL You are a mess. 78 and up models…wow so we are cars now huh? LOL

Slim No rectification needed to that derogatory comment! Feel me?

By Game 4 dem Lames

October 5, 2007 12:27 PM | Link to this

what is funny about the puddy thing is that we will all see it different…i can understand where the women are coming from…but at the same time you have to chalk the majority of the bad ones to your choice in men period..it has nothing to do with sex…if it did you would stop all together..the message you need to get out there is that, i dont trust my choice in men at this time versus i am waiting to give it up to my knight in shinin armor…it is your choice in men..period..

By The Truth

October 5, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this

For Real the chick that needs you to prove yourself isn’t right herself. She goes right into the nut rag dept. What i’m saying is if you want something go get it. If you want a fam and a dude says he doesn’t, bounce. Don’t look back because if you do you got got. All we really need is some boxes to place these ladies in.

Group one: They know what they want and are getting it. Or, they’ll wait till they get it.

Group 2: They want any piece of a dude and thats what they get.

Group 3: Da nut rag AKA Babyface LOL

Come on man, between me and you. I know your tired of meeting chicks and then finding out they’ve been handled like ground beef. Sure, a large part is their fault but it gets depressing after a while.

Slim if a chick told me a bike in her garage was her brothers I wouldn’t automatically think it was her lovers either. I’m not that fugged up. Apparently alot of people have been hurt real bad in here, or were just to weak to recover. Some of these folks have run so much game they’ve fugged themselves up. OR, how fugged up do you have to be to think everyone is cheating on you? I’ve either never been cheated on or didn’t give a fug. Either way I don’t go through life thinking ev1s gonna hurt me.

Imjustsaying if the level of your game is okey doking someone over a bike in the garage you need to up your game. Also, come out from hiding. I’ve smelled that fragrance before.

By Beautiful

October 5, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

The Truth Starting today, I am taking full responsibility for all of my man issues. I think about how old I am all the time and it bothers me that every now and then I don’t act my age when it comes to shiit like this. After I left him, I put my stuff on lock. The next man who gets the privilege will have to be exclusive with me.

SlimOne I have learned to not hate the female in that type of situation. I’ve been told to keep my enemies close.

By BennyB

October 5, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this

Slim

Girl, let me just point you to a missed opportunity….. There we all 3 stood…him looking crazy…me and her looking at each other, then back at him like WTF is going on…..That was a perfect moment to tell the dude to F* out of your life

Stacey

I never disagreed with you on that road …..

Foots

I cannot pretend to know how it is to be a woman perhaps not in position to tell you what they should do with their puddy but a quick answer would be:”Whatever they choose to”. Women attract men and have puddy that man can’t get enough of. Plus, women have god like power to reject or accept any man who knock on their door. What I don’t get is how women misuse their power and come back to blame someone else for their poor judgment.

Someone said yesterday that puddy is a high commodity, why don’t you guys list it with NASDAQ. I will buy enough share, they may come handy when my gf is on strike. Women should see themselves as high commodity; it was so sad that it’s a WOMAN (not a man) who posted that just their puddy is a high commodity that should be locked.

By Alvin

October 5, 2007 12:38 PM | Link to this

Foots you know your boy is a fool. If a woman keeps calling me after I tell her not to call any more, she will have the pleasure of listening in on a live porn broadcast…hehehe hehehe…I don’t miss those days one bit, I was foolish then.

Truth on the same token, 80% of the women judge men on everything but his character…So there is plenty of blame to spread around…

I am out for real now y’all…

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

Foots I vote you to be the WLB’s official acronymerizer….PP Puddy Preoccupation…LMAO Priceless. hehehehe

Game 4 dem Lames LOL very funny. However, I must say chica was cute and slim like me. She is 32 and was past all the game playing. We could’ve been friends in a different life. All guys say that they would’ve cussed her out for doing a pop up when she had no rights at all to do that. But i guess she had to see for herself.

By imjussayin

October 5, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

Nope it aint the fiya you were a FWB and didn’t know it and now you want to brag about not being that when you have quite enough experience in it as it turns out. “People on their grown folks” tend not to have issues when they are dealing with mature adults and not playing kiddy games with each other.

By Foots

October 5, 2007 12:43 PM | Link to this

Game it is your choice in men..period..

Exactly. If the present slate of men a woman has to choose from doesn’t offer what she is looking for, what do you propose that she do?

I think that Truth summed it up really well. Which group do you want the woman you decide to be with to come from?

By Gimme A Break

October 5, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this

Oh so, Imjussayin you can decipher that mature adults don’t play kiddy games, but you can’t decipher that name calling is childish? I mean, I’m just sayin…

By The Truth

October 5, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

Beautiful thats the first step.

Alvin there is always plenty of blame to be spread around LOL

By imjustsaying

October 5, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

The level of my game? tight? you bet. If I knew the coworker as she stated she did I would have asked her why the recent tagged bike is in my so called mans garage instead of her own and find somewhere else to put it. Instead waiting for her to pop up. I will see Foots out and about and holla at her betcha she fall for it. LOL

truth how would you know anything considering you date children yaself bruh**

By Imjustsayin

October 5, 2007 12:54 PM | Link to this

Oh it is childish but you have to speak the language that is being spoken to be heard by the audience in attendance! LOL

By Foots

October 5, 2007 12:56 PM | Link to this

Okay imjussayin. You’re right!

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 1:03 PM | Link to this

Staceye I know no explanation or anything is required but this person is humoring me so that i’ll take any chance to release some endorphins as i can. Let the laughs continue on this beautifully dreary Friday. WOO HOO HOOOO!

Game 4 dem Lames the message you need to get out there is that, i dont trust my choice in men at this time versus i am waiting to give it up to my knight in shinin armor I must admit, that’s a good way to put it in some females cases, not all but still a good point.

Truth Either way I don’t go through life thinking ev1s gonna hurt me. I’m trying hard not to be part of that group. If you keep that in your mind that every nicca is going to step on your heart, then you will manifest those thoughts into action. Every dude isn’t the same and every situation is different. So anybody that wants to cut me down for believing what he said can kiss my CT in a circular sucking motion….

Beautiful I don’t hate the women at all. She was quite pleasant.

BennyB I did tell buddy that we had nothing else to discuss. I guess he didn’t take me seriously. I told him i’m getting too old to be playing these kinds of games and if he felt or had doubts about being with me, he should’ve said something.

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 1:14 PM | Link to this

imjustsaying How old are you?

Going through all the changes of checking with said coworker to verify if that was her bike is infantile behavior. I wouldn’t dare want to be in a relationship where i had to play inspector gadget for every little thing he said.

Chick: Hey babe what are you up to?

Dude: Oh, i just got back from my lunch break.

Chick: What did you grub on today?

Dude: Um, i had some chicken fingers from O’Charleys.

Chick: Did you really eat that?

Dude: yeah why would i lie about something like that?

Chick: I dont know, but i’ll call you later, i have some errands to run.

Chick now combing phone book for the number to O’Charleys…then she calls her bf back

Dude: hello?

Chick: hey, is there anything you want to tell me?

Dude: Uh, no. why?

Chick: well didnt you say you had chicken fingers from O’Charleys?

Dude: yeah, whats wrong with you?

Chick: Well i called up there…..

Dude: u did what?!! For what?

Chick: Well why didn’t you tell me you had fries AND ordered dessert, huh? Why you keep lying to me? You always leaving shyt out….hello?….hello? I know this nicc didn’t…hello?

If you’d like to make a call, please hangup and try your call again

By AmazonRed

October 5, 2007 1:15 PM | Link to this

I’m not into rehasing old topics, even from yesterday, however, I am curious: Where are these men who make their intentions up front at?! We are talking about MEN right? Bad communicating, never want to be the bad guy, say anything to get you to say “yes” MEN right?

I ain’t never heard no man say what they what UPFRONT. Intentions? Men I know involve any relationship talk upfront like the plague.

Maybe it’s because I always trump them first with stating my intentions first. I’m a blunt, in your face, untactful Sagittarius. No one is ever confused about what I want and expect. LOL

By Game 4 dem Lames

October 5, 2007 1:17 PM | Link to this

PLEASE STOP FEEDING THE TROLL!!!!!

@foots…what women need to do is stop believing there own b.s…of course you should value yourself..but like bennyb as said..it is said that you have to reaffirm that yourself..that speaks volume on your self-worth and esteem..feel me…dayum a box, just be women enough to be comfortable in your own skin..the sad thing is you can blog all day, converse with other, gain wisdom and still cant see where you are wrong…it is time for women to stop the finger pointing and take ownership of there part in the weekly slated docu-drama…trust me if you really sit back you will see where you enabled a bad habit in your SO..feel me

I am sure you are all are cool arse chicks but some of you need to get off the boo boo….

By Jamocamecrazy aka Asparian

October 5, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this

Well…Good Afternoon & Happy Friday to Everyone!!! On Topic: When dating, I’ve found I have always been more interested (not necessarily attracted, but it depends) to men who were of course a little more older than myself. *Men in some ways to me are like fine wine…they get better with age. A lot of times it would be based on the conversation and their POV’s on life itself and a must would be a great sense of humor…(as I’m always up for great laughs)…possibly b/c they’ve lived/ exp’d more in their lives (in general) by that time. But generally, the age would somewhere in between 30-40/43 yrs old. Today…they’re really working me like “a Hebrew on the Nile”….so if I am not as able to keep up with the posts from today’s topic, please…everyone have a beautiful & safe weekend. @ BennyB….just out of curiosity, I will be checking out that book you recommended on Love and Limerence.

By BennyB

October 5, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this

MusingLee

I prefer a bike but the weather is not cooperating with me….OK, I’m taking the back seat now………

By Game 4 dem Lames

October 5, 2007 1:25 PM | Link to this

@AR, you are right there is a infection of simpin in the game now…so your right where are they at the REAL DUDES..what you have is a bunch of skirts running around like MEN..feel me

on another…i love me a sexy Sagittarius..fellas find you one…she likes her freedom so she will respects yours..feel me….holla

By Imjustsayin

October 5, 2007 1:26 PM | Link to this

@ Everybody

The imjussayin today is not the Imjustsayin from a few weeks back. I posted a few weeks ago as such. WE ARE TWO TOTALLY DIFFERENT PEOPLE. Just felt the need to let it be known.

By DuShawn

October 5, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this

Another, trip situation regarding relationships and age: One of the Bruhs, and my closest friend in the “A”, lives a very wild lifestyle. Very similar to the pimp character on the movie “Hustle and Flow”. A lot of married old heads, like myself, frequently hang out at his crib to play spades, get drunk, watch the prostitutes walk around and basically live vicariously through dog. There is this one 19 or 20 yr old, young dude that’s always on the set getting money. He’s like dog’s little protégé. Very sharp and respectable kid. I often give him words of wisdom and uplift. Anyway, one chick that often comes thru to vibe with us (not a working girl, just a cool chick) slept with the young man and he was sprung. I had a conversation with her about it and she was sprung too! I mean couldn’t stop talking about him….and she’s 36 mafuggin years old. I just had to laugh and wish them well. Strange bedfellows …..you never know.

By Willie Dynamite

October 5, 2007 1:34 PM | Link to this

Slim After reviewing some of the comments(judgements) on here about your situation I think you handled it the right way. That dude should have realized when playing that game you sometimes lose. You are also right, no need to be mad at the other chick. She was in the same boat as you. Keep doing ya thing.

Du your 11:58 post was refreshing to read. Some of us get caught up in the day to day hunt that we never get the joy of being prey. It is evident by your post that you enjoyed that immensely. If you anything like me then you prolly enjoyed that more then you wouldv’e cutting up that youngster.

Truth bruh you of all people should know that every MAN aint a MAN. Some of these dudes can go to every meeting,read every book, but at the end of the day they 100% bytch made. As MLB we can only save those that can be saved. We know puddy when we see it and hear it.

By The Truth

October 5, 2007 1:34 PM | Link to this

imustsayin because a woman is in her 20’s, or 30’s, or 40’s doesn’t mean she’s a child. These were grown azz woman with accomplishments of their own. Two of the chicks made six figures. Can you say that? I didn’t think so.

Any real dude knows that puddy is a by product of doing and being what you are. A woman will always be present if you understand the rules. If your running game you do so because your hiding the fact your a bytch.

What’s amazing is one the most honest relationships in this camp is a cat in an “OPEN” (for lack of a beter word)relationship. Alot of these dudes are lying to get azz. That was never the way this game was played. If you want to bonetell a chick. If you want to be tight, tell her that too.

Also as a man if your pre-occupied with some womans puddy your a small minded bytch. As I said before, thats her thing, do with it what you want. I’m not the puddy police and I’m not a panty shield. If we can agree to share that thing then all is cool. However, who you bone isn’t the greatest thought in my head. I’m trying to get somewher in life.

Slim don’t let these guys rock you back on your heels. Life stinks when you play from a purely defensive position. Sometime the wisest move is to sit on the bench or join a new league.

By Foots

October 5, 2007 1:36 PM | Link to this

Gam just be women enough to be comfortable in your own skin..

Fine. And for the record, please remember that I am an advocate for owning your own choices. I have stated so TOO many times in the past.

Now… if y’all get off the puddy preoccupation and allow these woman to just be comfortable with their OWN choices about their OWN puddy without ridiculing them, calling into account her self esteem, trying to convince her that she’s the problem, bringing up the past choices you THINK she might have made, calling her a liar, etc. then I think we can finally put this baby to rest; it’s tired and sleepy and the weather isn’t helping.

That’s a dayum LONG sentence!

By M.

October 5, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this

@Beautiful

Im glad we figured out the problem. Another thing is maybe he may really be interested again, but remember ex’s are ex’s for a reason. If he didnt want a relationship then, what makes you think he wants one now?

By Game 4 dem Lames

October 5, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this

@foots..i hope you are tight right now…i thought we were just choppin up game, i am not on here for the back in forth…i respect what you say..and i am not questioning anything..maybe you might not get what i am sayin or accept it but realize there are other folks that maybe in on what i am sayin..

what that i am done…..lets move on

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

October 5, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this

Why can’t we be friends…why can’t we be friends…why can’t we be friends…singing in his 70’s voice

dang leave again and out comes the blog gear…

i have to take side with my regulars on this one…say what you mean and mean what you say….

this is the best way to be in life

By Beautiful

October 5, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

SlimOne thanks for the laugh. I’m prayin’ that in the past I was never that close to soundin’ crazy. LOL.

By Page1908

October 5, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Foots gettin’ her pressha up. Girl, I feel you! lol

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 2:13 PM | Link to this

Truth Find comfort that SlimGoody is in great spirits. Can’t nobody steal my happy heart right now. Sounds to me like someone, who i will refrain from naming, has some issues of their own. In the words of Dave Chappell….It’s Friday Bytches, Lets Get Fugged Up!

By SexyLeggs

October 5, 2007 2:13 PM | Link to this

Demi, your sign to milk the twins was very funny.

By AmazonRed

October 5, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

Game 4 dem Lames said: on another…i love me a sexy Sagittarius..fellas find you one…she likes her freedom so she will respects yours..feel me….holla

You have got us Sagittarians pegged so correctly! Who gave up the trade secrets?! LOL

By For Real

October 5, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

Musing That good to hear you got a new gig and it is good to read you again. Do they let yall wear shoes at the new gig? Oh and I gave Demi Car note book. And I have been paying my .37/mo dues in support of the Urang.

Slim I went CT R Us and they are out of the XL CT Socks so I sewed large and small together for you.

Game the message you need to get out there is that, i dont trust my choice in men at this time versus i am waiting to give it up to my knight in shinin armor That is poetic bruh. I only hope the WLB read it. BLAMING = IT’S NOT MY FAULT = PROBLEM WILL FOLLOW YOU

Truth I hear what you are saying but how many women do you know that truly knows what she wants. They make so many decision based on the emotions that their wants change as often as there emotions change.

Phoots If the present slate of men a woman has to choose from doesn’t offer what she is looking for, what do you propose that she do? Not put up walls and barriers. Don’t hold next dude responsible for your past. Don’t punish the next dude for the last dude’s actions.

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

Off-Topic This grilled chicken salad from Zaxby’s if off da chain! All i’m missing now is a glass of Goose and Pineapple…drinking a dayum bottled water instead. Ewwwww

By Game 4 dem Lames

October 5, 2007 2:20 PM | Link to this

shziiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit…name them…call em out

what up page1908 put em on the glass lady, what you been up too…lol

By Foots

October 5, 2007 2:20 PM | Link to this

Game It’s all good.

Truth Also as a man if your pre-occupied with some womans puddy your a small minded bytch. Dang!! LOL!!

By Beautiful

October 5, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

M. If John wants a relationship with me he better speak up now! I’m so tired of tryin’ to read nicca’s minds. When I leave this MF in May, that’s it. Read my response to The Truth. I’m not in the mood. All that energy I gave him is now going into my studies, my boys and hittin’ every club and hangout spot in the “A” before I go.

By Staceye

October 5, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

Games for Dem Lames on another…i love me a sexy Sagittarius..fellas find you one…she likes her freedom so she will respects yours You are around many of us fellow Sags.

By Page1908

October 5, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this

GA Man The Kingdom was actually filmed here in Phoenix last year. I remember the freeway being closed for several months prior to being open. During the filming of that movie, someone actually died on the set. I beleive it was a guy from the crew or something. I also remember seeing Jamie Foxx out and around town in Scottsdale, where I live. The funny thing about that movie is that it is supposed to take place in the desert in the Middle East, so there are lots of shots with desert scenery, etc. But many people don’t know that the Saguaro Cactus that appear in the movie are only unique to Arizona, not Saudi Arabia, as the movie suggests. Just a little info for ya….lol

By Lady J

October 5, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this

Peace good people…Have a great weekend!

By Game 4 dem Lames

October 5, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this

@AR, like i said i loves me a sag…but i am keeping my sources..lol

that is one chick i still have under my skin to this day…my jamacian butterfly..lol

@slimmie…what are you saying lady…i am ready for my vodka and tonic and i am chasin with tequilla shot….that will get the party started the right way..lol

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 2:28 PM | Link to this

For Real * I went CT R Us and they are out of the XL CT Socks so I sewed large and small together for you* I have no idea what you think i can do with that. But from the sound of it, it would be perfect for your beenie weenies. Just use the small side to put the weeny in and the large section for the beans..LMAO!

By Page1908

October 5, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

Hello Game! I’ve been awesome. How are you?

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

Lady J You know i’ve never had tonic…I always wanted to know how it tastes…Looks like really flat tap water, if there is such a thing. lol

By Game 4 dem Lames(Rell)

October 5, 2007 2:40 PM | Link to this

@page - hit me on email

By Page1908

October 5, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

LOL SlimOne Franks and Beans!!! lmao

By Game 4 dem Lames(Rell)

October 5, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

ummmm Slimmie..that was me..at any rate fix you a KETEL ONE and tonic twist of lime….you will be real cool after that…lol

By SexyLeggs

October 5, 2007 2:46 PM | Link to this

SlimOne, what is with you today. You are on your mark today.

By AmazonRed

October 5, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this

I’m playing catch up, but I really liked your response at 12:48, Truth This line in particular: I know your tired of meeting chicks and then finding out they’ve been handled like ground beef. Sure, a large part is their fault but it gets depressing after a while. HAD ME WEAK!!!! LMAO

By Staceye

October 5, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this

Heyyyy…I’m getting cyberly fugged up! LOL I’d like a French Connection!

By Page1908

October 5, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

LOL Game I don’t have your info anymore, dude! I’m at pageantgirl_1908 on the Y, so you hit me up! lol mean muggin

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

Game 4 dem Lames(Rell) My bad, didn’t mean to get you mixed up. I must’ve had an out of body experience and started drinking already. This KETEL you speak of, this is a vodka right? I think i’ve had it before in a martini.

Page1908 LOL, I have had any of that in a while.

By RiskyOne

October 5, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

GET A GRIP……….. AFTER READING ALL OF YOU ALLS OPINIONS TODAY!!! ATLANTA IS NOT TOO BUSY TO HATE I’M IN WINSTON-SALEM, NC AND I AND CONSIDERING ASKING MY JOB TO KEEP ME HERE NOW!!!

By Game 4 dem Lames(Rell)

October 5, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

bday shouts too all libra’s…we going to shut it down for the next couple of weeks

By Page1908

October 5, 2007 3:02 PM | Link to this

LOL SlimOne I haven’t had those in a while, either, but your comment made me think about that movie Something About Mary, when dude was like “Franks and Beans”! ctfu

By india

October 5, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

i love older men i’m 37 and will not even consider a man my own age or younger, there is not too much to choose from here where i live but the few men i have known has been much older by about 10 years, i grew up in a single parent home no father, so i guess i have daddy issues.

By Game 4 dem Lames(Rell)

October 5, 2007 3:04 PM | Link to this

@slimmie..ketel one is a brand of vodka yes..that is my twist

@RiskyOne….well of course city talk is going to be foriegn to a country square…da hell…what is poppin in winstom-salem….lol..are you serious…

By Page1908

October 5, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Winston-Salem poppin’! ctfu

By For Real

October 5, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

Slim HAHAHA!!! Welcome back!!!! Imma get you back whenever I can think of something. Oh your breath sank!! Have a good weekend.

By BennyB

October 5, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

AmazonRed Your question……. Where are these men who make their intentions up front at I will tell you mine up front….I don’t see nothing wrong with a little bump and grind…… Notfair to you…..I’ll be serious. Mostly brother is serious about Gal until he finds out that:

Gal’s can’t manage money - Gal‘s way of handling arguments is entertaining neighbors - Gal’s way of caring is stalking - Gal’s way of compromising is deciding - Gal’s way of cooking is Papa John’s - Gal’s way of saving is the Coach Store - Gal snore too loud (is this valid???)

Brother knows well that he cannot change Gal, so he get frustrated and looks for FutureGal or call ExGal….you know the rest. I didn’t say that brother is perfect either…..

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs I can’t describe how I feel other than Just Peachy.

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 3:17 PM | Link to this

Page1908 I knew exactly what you were talking about when you said it…He mistakenly zipped his frank…or was it his beans…in his pants…OUCH!

For Real You know i luuvvvs you.

By Beautiful

October 5, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

RiskyOne you funny! LMAO.

By DuShawn

October 5, 2007 3:28 PM | Link to this

GAMES “…sat/sun at the trap is where it is at homie…lol” The trap has kinda played out for me. We used to go often. As a matter of fact, I celebrated one of my anniversaries in there. We went to a play, had some dinner, listen to some jazz and then livened up the evening by hitting the trap. I’m not really a voyeur or exhibitionist, but its fun to be around people with the same mind set regarding sex. And don’t sleep on the breakfast. Typically, food and strip clubs don’t mix. For the benefit of those that don’t know, this is not a seedy, low class type joint. On the tame side, it’s like an upscale nightclub, plush décor, dance floor, two or three bars, full buffet, with a chef on deck cooking omelets by request. What turned me off about the spot is me and my wives fell thru one Friday night. The parking lot was kinda empty. I had fresh bottles of Patron and Remy at the bar with my membership number on it. So we decided to go in and get a drink or two. After a while, the ladies wanted to check out the back. They wanted to show off their lil vicky’s secret outfits. We hit the locker room. I come out first and walk around while waiting on them. Mayne, that shyt was like a gay bathhouse in San Francisco or some mafuggin where!!! All these dudes walkin around in towels in shyt. I’m like, “dayum…where all the females!!”. I’m making sure my towel is tied up tight and trying not to make eye contact we these horny, perverted looking maffugas. It’s a few other chicks in there, but none nearly on the level of the dymes I brought with me. I’m thinkin, “is it punk night in this mafugga or what….these girls need to hurry up and protect me, this shyt lookin strange as f&ck.” Finally they came out looking like super stars (thighs and thongs with the see thru wraps and the matching bras….dayum that was a beautiful sight). Anyway, we chilled for a minute. As expected, every time I went to the bar or bathroom, I came back to fellas in their ears. I’d have to run they azz off like a Lion does Hyenas. From that night forward I started trappin at the crib.

By SexyLeggs

October 5, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this

SlimOne, when you’re in a good place physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, it shows in ALL THAT YOU DO AND SAY. You’re good with who you are and don’t give a rat’s a$$ about those who don’t.

By Game 4 dem Lames(Rell)

October 5, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

@dushawn…i heard friday was like that…smh…but any rate i feel you homie..ya have to pull my coat to were you playing homie..hit me at casual2022 on the Y..feel me..we have common interest..holla

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

October 5, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

Good info Page1908 thanks for that…..see i always knew you were cool

By DuShawn

October 5, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

Games No offense playa, but I don’t move like that. I’m always the only Gansta in the camp. Now if you got some thats looking to upgrade from their current situation let me know. You know the game and how it goes….I’m tryin to get chose.

By Game 4 dem Lames(Rell)

October 5, 2007 3:53 PM | Link to this

I feel you homie…i just said get at me..feel me…

By DuShawn

October 5, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this

true….Dayum I guess everybody else done got their weekend started.

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 4:02 PM | Link to this

Du I’m still up in this camp but am trying to tie up some ends at this here J O B LOL!

By Game 4 dem Lames(Rell)

October 5, 2007 4:10 PM | Link to this

so where is the dranking going down today?

By SexyLeggs

October 5, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

I hope everyone has a safe and restful weekend. Enjooy!

By SlimOne

October 5, 2007 4:31 PM | Link to this

Game At your crib….whatchu got?

By Lady J

October 5, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this

SLIM It is great…Ie been dring TANGUREY(SP) with apple pucker lately…BYE SLIM!!!!:)

By Lady J

October 5, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this

SLIM It is great…I’ve been dring TANGUREY(SP) with apple pucker lately…BYE SLIM!!!!:)

By Lady J

October 5, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this

SLIM It is great…I’ve been dring TANGUREY(SP) with apple pucker lately…BYE SLIM!!!!:)

By DuShawn

October 5, 2007 4:57 PM | Link to this

I guess I’ll lock up when I leave. Have a Great Week End Eveybody.

By Miss G

October 5, 2007 5:05 PM | Link to this

This is for Beautiful-Was his name cedric austin-retired from the navy?