Misadventures in Atlanta

By SlimOne

September 28, 2007 8:29 AM | Link to this

Yep! It’s Friday WLB/MLB…Let’s Get Fugged UP!

He wants to know why do women take dating advice from other women?

Um, I will assume that women take advise from their friends in order to get input into a situation. Sometimes a person outside of the issue can lay a new set of eyes and see something you may miss. I’m just taking a wild guess. I may ask a friends opinion on something but ultimately I will make my own decision.

I’ve been blessed with truly great friends. I’ve never had to experience them blocking on me. But I’m 29 so i’m not in the 21-25 yr old range in today’s world which i’m sure is more impressionable than i was at that age.

Do you think that women have friends that purposely block their chances with dates?

I wouldn’t call those females friends if they did that. But yeah, it happens. Some other chicks are miserable and rather block on you for selfish reasons. Misery loves company. So if you’re out dating some awesome guy, that will take time away from her. Sounds petty but this scenario is more frequent than you think.

By G

September 28, 2007 8:33 AM | Link to this

I can go on for days at a time on this topic. I have a buddy that hangs out with the crew off and on. There’s a reason for the inconsistency. He doesn’t follow the rules when we go out. His perception of the dynamics of attraction is vertually inept. Being a thirty-something guy, you would think his game would be more together.

I’ve constantly explained the “wingman” concept to him. It doesn’t matter who plays wingman, just realize your role in the situation and follow through.

I have more…….BRB

By SexyLeggs

September 28, 2007 8:49 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. Woo Hoo, it’s T.G.I.F. What a tiring week this has been.

Back in my late 20’s, it didn’t matter if my friends didn’t like my date and it still does matter some 20+ years later. There insight is helpful at times, but I’m dating him not them.

If any of my so-called friends “blocked”, I would have to assume they want him as well.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 28, 2007 8:55 AM | Link to this

TGIF!!! And I say that like I dont have to work tomorrow! LOL

Hope everyone is doing well on this friday!

On topic I dont recall every having this problem. I take advice from my friends but ultimately I make my own decision when it comes to someone I date. I have heard of situations where one person sabatoged the date or relationship chance of a friend but I think that is just childish anyway.

By Willie Dynamite

September 28, 2007 8:58 AM | Link to this

Morning All

I know I’m new but can a brutha get some breakfast this morning. I’m feeling old school and how bout some good grits and eggs with whatever else you got?

Do you think that women have friends that purposely block their chances with dates? Uhh yeah, it’s usually in the under 30 crowd when you hang out in packs. After tht youv’e learned to go solo (probably because of this). I’m sure everyone can chime in on this today. it’s universal.

Do guys ever block chances on their friends? Have you ever found that one of your boys purposely sabotaged things with a potential date out of competition? Bruthas are a little different if/when we go out in packs most of us know our roles for that day and act accordingly (except G boy. After a little while we know how to deal with the blockers in a female pack. Divide and Conquer. One of the fellas has to take one for the team. If that brutha doesn’t play his position he’s out.

In my experiences Women go out with survival tendencies (we all came together we all leaving together mentality). Whereas the fellas are more like Hunters, somebody has got to be successful.

By SlimOne

September 28, 2007 9:12 AM | Link to this

Willie Dynamite You can have some of my grapes. I didn’t have time to make breakfast this morning.

In my experiences Women go out with survival tendencies (we all came together we all leaving together mentality). Whereas the fellas are more like Hunters, somebody has got to be successful Well that’s why i love my best friend. I recall a time me and her were out. We or should i say I met this guy. He wanted to take me out to breakfast and it was like 4 in the morning. She didnt block, she just took a pic of his license plate and told me to make sure i called to let her know i made it back home afterwards. So it just depends on who you hang with. We just want to look out for our buddies. Safety first

By QC

September 28, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this

Good Mernting Bloggers

I’ve never blocked nobody from getting next to someone they were interested in….what’s up WLB it’s friday thank goodness!

Hey Slim, Mo, SexyL

Have a great day all

By SexyLeggs

September 28, 2007 9:20 AM | Link to this

WDynamite, I’ll share my breakfast with you…here are some home fries, and half of my cheese/egg/ham/onion omelete w.Ruby Read Grapefruit juice. Sorry blog friends, I only have enough for two and he asked first. Enjoy!

By Jazzyone

September 28, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

Hey ya’…I can’t say that I have ever blocked anyone and their path to that man they want because my taste tend to be different than my friends but hey if you want him go get him, no worries on my end…good luck send me an invitation to the wedding.

To avoid the block that women may do I tend to keep the internal workings of my relationships to myself I talk to my friends yes but just light convo about me and mine…I tend to be pretty private when it comes to the real deal with me and my man..if u talk to much about your bidness and things change in your relationship for the positive or negative its too difficult to change the minds of the people that you have talked to about him…so tend to keep my bidness to myself….

By QC

September 28, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this

Willie D Take this ticket to the blog cafe and eat all you want at the breakfast buffet sweetie

enjoy

By Foots

September 28, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

He wants to know why do women take dating advice from other women?

It’s just another way to gather information. At 30, I’ve seen a lot of things that I can decipher on my own so I don’t have to “get advice” on how to handle a situation. But having friends that you trust who can fill in some blanks for you or offer a different perspective from an angle only they can see is invaluable.

Do you think that women have friends that purposely block their chances with dates?

I’ve had people talk to me about situations that were not in my best interests, but still free me to make my own decisions without making me feel crazy. I appreciate that. And I’ve had folks that think they know more about my situation than I do, when they are caught up in worse situations. I don’t appreciate that. That just helped me to learn which of my friends I can tell certain things to, because all friends can’t be told everything and some are better than others for helping you deal with dating situations. For example, if I’m emotional, I call KS, then MM. If I’m hostile, I call KA. If I need to learn some new cuss words to use in my next argument with dude, I call JA. If I just want to laugh about how silly the whole thing is, I call YW. If I want to be talked out of the relationship completely and told of how good it would be if I were single like her, I call my cousin. LOL!!

By The Truth

September 28, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

Good Friday Blogsville. Looks like its going to be a beautiful day.

On topic: My boys never block nor do we move in packs in the dating world. You have a girl, do your thing. You have my support. If it doesn’t work out and you need to talk, I’m here 100%. My boys have never been anything but great with any of the women I’ve dated.

My boy is on the phone right this minute telling me about his wife. I’m letting him vent. He’s been there for me for 15 years. Ol boy has married a chick with 2 kids, he’s put her in a fat home, a new ride, a fat ring, an 8 thousand dollar bracelet, and she still barks at him like he’s joe blow. He takes the boys to all the sorting events and handles the discipline. This chick keeps telling him she has to get used to the family thing. Her kids are 15 and 7. You should have been gotten used to it. Anyway, I listen and try to be supportive. Thats my boy thru and true. This one test me though.

WillieD I overnighted you a 1 page MLB membership package. I need your sig for the records but I already forged your sig and your app was approved. Welcome bruh. Your blog gear can be picked up today and I highly recommnend you get comfortable with the blog cup. You’ll need it alot in this camp.

Hi Slim, Mo, QC, and of course Sexy. Wattup WillieD, glad to see you plug in before 1pm.

Footnote: Me and my boys laugh at everything so if a chick comes in real serious like it takes them awhile to adjust. If my boy totals his car I ask is he ok, was anyone hurt,… Then I jone him about never being a good driver anyway. Thats how we get down.

By Willie Dynamite

September 28, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

Slim thanks for the Grapes,sweet and seedless just like I like em. Leggs That what I’m talking about, a good Omelete. I owe you one (You like Spinach,Sun dried tomatoes and some gooey cheese). It’s on me Monday!! another thing, i still have those Leggs and 3.5 from the other day in my mind. What’s the attire today? ya killing em again? QC Can I redeem this coupon at my leisure? On topic- You have to know your friends. If you trust their opinions it wouldn’t necessarily be blocking. Call it Safety or looking out for your best interests. more often than not who you thought were your friends are just acquaintances. That’s when the you get blocked and probably don’t realize it until after the fact.

By Beautiful

September 28, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this

I agree with SEXYLEGGS. If the chick is hatin’, she wants him! Period.

By Sugar

September 28, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

Morning ALL…I have a question…I;’ve been seeing this guy for a couple of months….its been moving quickly from the jump as far as him stating what he wants & he sticks to what he say….anyway as we were getting off the phone he slips & tells me he loves me (by accident)…he says he didnt mean to say that…& he knows its too soon to be saying that & he havent said those words in a long time…Im just curious as to how that can accidential come out like that…have anyone every had that happen….

By BennyB

September 28, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

Dating a young woman in cohort is very puzzling and exhausting. If you found yourself dealing with a girl who belongs to a female cohort, she better be the cohort leader. The major problem with many young girls is self esteem. Some of them don’t even know why they are here. They rely on outside inputs to validate their self worth.

Wise, if your friend is confident and decent looking tell him to use the contest method: Date one girl in the group and send mixed signals to another single girl in the group or date any girl well known by the group. This will create competition between them. Girls in a cohort respond to competition (outside inputs) than anything else. College insecure girls are sick; a doctor once told me that they have what’s known as “empty restaurant” syndrome. If those girls see two restaurants: one full of customers and one empty, which one do they select? Asked the doctor…. I responded…depend of what they wannna eat. She laughed a lot and said….they don’t know what they wanna eat, they don’t even know that they are hungry….The only reason they will choose a restaurant is because someone else is there……

By Beautiful

September 28, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

SUGAR, don’t worry so much about it. It happened to me and it lasted 8 wonderful years. ;)

By melo

September 28, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

I do block!!!! I do because when i see a BAD situation i let it be known how i feel, right there. Recently my brother and i were at a party and he was cozy with this girl.I had no problem with a brother getting his groove on. Turned out she slept at his house that night and this SLUT had camped at his house for a couple of weeks until i turned up and saw her there. I told him, fugging her was okay but dating her and letting her spend time at his house, NO!! She is history now. I would do the same for a friend.

By melo

September 28, 2007 10:15 AM | Link to this

Oh and yeah, my brother is 31 and a Woman Magnet A real PIMP i must say.

By For Real

September 28, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

3Dude: Yo check those ladies over there! Oh one of us has to get at least one of them.

6Chicks: Hey girrrl look at those dudes over there checking us out. They kinda fine. Lets give them the eye for them to come over.

Bitter Bytch: Wait a minute!!! I thought we were here to have a girls night out. We did not come here to meet some ole trifflin dudes. This night is about our sisterhood.

3Dudes: Look a couple of them are checking us out. Lets go over there. Awwww Dayummmm!!! BB alert!!! WTF! Which one is it? Dayumm she gonna fugg it up. Oh lawd they are forming the circle of Hellz.

Bitter Bytch: Now come on ladies lets get in a circle and dance. I ain’t no man…. ummmm I mean we don’t need no man to have a good time. Heyyyyy that’s my song (2 da left)

3Dudes: Awwww Dayummmm!!!! It’s too late the circle is complete and they playing the Bitter Bytch anthem. Come on yall don’t give up we can break the circle. Naw man we can’t we don’t have enough men and besides we have to find a dude willing to take Bitter Bytch! Dayummm!!!!! I ain’t doing it. Look theirs a cute girl escorted by her friends Fat B******* and Troggladite. Alright the first one to down 2 shots gets the cute girl.

By 2CPTG

September 28, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this

morning…..I don’t know if any dudes ask his boys’ opinion of a female….if they offer one, it’s usually after the fact - I think dudes kinda recognize if theres some hatin’ going on, and who to steer away from….cause truth be told, if y’all out at the same time, nine times outta ten, he prolly wanna get at her too; but if he sees you gettin the play, then he’ll step off.

By SexyLeggs

September 28, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this

WillieD, I love spinach, but not sundried tomatoes. Today’s attire is black low rider capri pants, black and white sleeveless sweater and black pumps. I’ve been told by a stranger in the elevator that I looked very nice this morning.

By Foots

September 28, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

Sugar I don’t see why he had to apologize for how he’s feeling, feelings aren’t always on a convenient timeline. So, what did you say to him after he said it that made him have to explain himself?

By QC

September 28, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

Hey Sir Truth

Willie D your coupon is good thru 2015 so yes you can use it when ever you want to

For Real LOLOLOLOL

3Dudes: Awwww Dayummmm! it’s too late the circle is complete, lolololol.. Bitter Bytch Anthem LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL!

By Foots

September 28, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

For Real You silly….but that’s pretty much how it happens. I had a bitter friend like that. She was always “ready to go” right when I started having the best time, and criticized my choice of dance partners while she was at it.

By Jewel

September 28, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

LOLOLOLOLOLOL!! For Real You are absolutely crazy!

The younger you are, the more likely this will happen. A good friend, not an associate, will give advise with your best interest at heart. A best friend will discuss any issues she senses with you, allowing you to make a decision that’s your own, not one based solely on her opinion. Misery loves company…I was friends with a woman who is no longer my friend primarily because of her negative attitude about practically everything. In my last relationship, she would occasionally point out all of his faults, based on the limited information I had shared. Each time I told him what she said, he’d retort, “That’s why she doesn’t have a man!”

By Staceye

September 28, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

Morning all….I am sooo tired. But TGIF!

I don’t block…do you. But I will be doing a Big Brother and watching his every move. Sometimes a friend can put things you do and say in perspective. When you like somebody you can be blinded to their bad side or thier intentions towards you. So having that friend to watch out for you is key. I have not really found that friend here in ATL. I have one friend that since she started hanging with me, her taste in men have changed…to my taste and that is where the problem comes in. I do not trust her opinions on men becaue like SexxyLeggs said…she wants him too. So she of course is going to hate. She wants a man so bad she’d be willing to cut her “friends”….that is why I miss my friends back home. We never had that problem.

Now as the guys say..i can take one for the team. If my girl meets a guy she likes and his friend is short, ugly, fat, tec…I will chat it up with him to give my girl a chance to hook up with ole boy. I am flirty anyway.

By The Truth

September 28, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

Sugar ol boy is falling for you and he was trying to slip it to you gently. Alot of times if it looks like a duck and walks like… its a duck. The question is why are you questioning it? Is it because you don’t feel the same way? Thats how it sounds to me. Then again I think in this society we have problems saying and showing love. Watch this: Sexy, Foots, Slim, QC, Mo, Beautiful, Sugar and Jazzy The Truth loves you. Smooches/

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

September 28, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone!

I do wish more women would understand the concept of a wingman. I have girlfriends who will NOT talk to a dude for 1 minute to let me get my groove on!!!

I agree with foots. You have got to know which girlfriends you can talk to about what. I have girlfriends who told me to leave my man because of what they will and will not put up with….and then you see them putting up with worse.

What I have learned is that everyone is human. I have some really great girlfriends, but there are times when loneliness, disappointment in life, etc cloud their thinking. I take it in stride because at the end of the day…I know it’s hurt talking and they love me!

By Beautiful

September 28, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

THE TRUTH, i luv u 2 baby. :)

By Atlanta Pearl Girl

September 28, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

The problem lies with the ‘age’ he’s dealing with obviously. They’re young. Sure when you’re that young (God I’m only 40 but STILL)…… it’s still like being in high school or college. Of course that’s what they do.

See what you have to look forward to when you get older?????? I’ve always dated older men because they are WAY past this stuff (and if they aren’t by that age….. ::::blink…you’re gone!::::)

Just try to enjoy and stop whining.

Good Grief.

Atlanta Pearl Girl

By For Real

September 28, 2007 11:02 AM | Link to this

Sugar If he was in a previous relationship it could have been a slip. I have done that before I am quickly explained myself to the lady because I didn’t want her getting any ideas.

Phoots Why do women do that? Whole purpose of going out is to have a good time. Men don’t do that.

2E’s You may not block but your booty sure does.

By Foots

September 28, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

I love you too Truth!! (wit cha fine self!!)

By Beautiful

September 28, 2007 11:09 AM | Link to this

FOOTS, don’t keep it to yourself! What does THE TRUTH look like? LMAO!

By Foots

September 28, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

Question for the guys: Suppose you approach a woman out somewhere that you would like to get to know better and she is with one of her friends. You offer to buy her a drink. Would you also offer to buy her friend a drink at that time?

By Foots

September 28, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

For Real Why do women do that? Whole purpose of going out is to have a good time. Men don’t do that.

It’s not the same in all cases. Sometimes, especially if my friends and I go out to dinner, we are there to eat and catch up with each other’s busy lives. We have an agenda of funny topics to cover. Guy company is usually not welcomed. But if we are out dancing somewhere, that’s different. We don’t have to hang so tight and flirting is mandatory.

Truth Please send Beautiful a photo of your phineness.

By "Longtime Lurker"

September 28, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

@Wise Lurker You know, your friend Leo is correct!

It has always amazed me, that most women value their friend’s opinions so much, especially other ‘SINGLE’ women!

How in the H E double L can a single friend give any advice on how to get and keep a man?

On top of that, if you are having trouble in your relationship, why would you turn to a single woman for advice?

My first thought if I was having trouble in my relationship would be to speak with a couple enjoying success being happily married!

Believe it or not, your girls are blowing your chances of finding and keeping a good relationship more than you think!

There are always going to be bumps in the road, when you first start dating someone and through out your relationship, but you have to seek advice from qualified individuals and not folks, who are not in relationships!

There are too many bitter broads giving free advice to they girls and causing they girl to make bad choices with various dudes!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

September 28, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

Beautiful I can answer the question about how THE TRUTH looks…Let’s just say one wouldn’t be disappointed!!

Until he starts talking about a woman stepping out of line LOL!

By M.

September 28, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

*@ DuShawn * From your comment yesterday:

“I like them thick with a good ankle/calf ratio. don’t sleep on them ankles.They can tell you alot.”

I think the official term for women who don’t have this is “Cankle” (The calf and the ankle are 1 entity..)

On topic:

I think it’s important to take what your friends say with a grain of salt. Especially if they don’t have anyone. They probably don’t want someone new taking their friend away. They probably figure if they are not happy, no one is going to be happy. I know it is selfish. I am NOT seeing leave your friends for a new flame but do everything within reason.. Why is it that women/men with no SO have all the answers? If they had a clue they wouldnt be rolling around in a king size bed alone daily.

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

September 28, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

WillieD welcome to the MLB

i will get with you and go over some things you might need to know

hey all the pretty ladies of the WLB head nod to the MLB

By melo

September 28, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

Foots, that would be the gentleman thing to do.If its a group of ladies, its kinda a problem coz that may leave ur pockets picked!

By M.

September 28, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this

@ DuShawn From your comment yesterday:

“I like them thick with a good ankle/calf ratio. don’t sleep on them ankles.They can tell you alot.”

I think the official term for women who don’t have this is “Cankle” (The calf and the ankle are 1 entity..)

On topic:

I think it’s important to take what your friends say with a grain of salt. Especially if they don’t have anyone. They probably don’t want someone new taking their friend away. They probably figure if they are not happy, no one is going to be happy. I know it is selfish. I am NOT seeing leave your friends for a new flame but do everything within reason.. Why is it that women/men with no SO have all the answers? If they had a clue they wouldnt be rolling around in a king size bed alone daily.

By Jewel

September 28, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

I have girlfriends who told me to leave my man because of what they will and will not put up with….and then you see them putting up with worse. LadyDark I will do you one better…the woman I mentioned previously would talk about what was so bad about him, again, based on limited knowledge, and then would attempt to recreate situations in her “relationship” with a man who (1) was married to a woman when they met at a club. She found out he was married through a mutual friend. He told her he was just living with her. As if one is better than the other. (2) He told her from day one he did not want a relationship with her. *Hmmmph. And she wondered why I chose to limit my conversations with her.

Oh, by the way, how are the wedding plans coming along? Have the two of you set a date?

By nothing better to do

September 28, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

so what do y’all ladies look like?

By Jewel

September 28, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

*Here you go, Truth and only because it’s FRIDAY…

Beautiful You can’t handle The Truth!LOL!

By For Real

September 28, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

Phoots Buying the table a drink is a sucka move period. I would ask you to meet me at the bar for a drink and a quick convo. That way I can see your entire package and I can get you away from BB. And yes there is alway a BB in any group of females no matter the size.

By The Truth

September 28, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this

Poppa I don’t know if your on today but that kid got out in Jena. You were right on this one. I still say slay em. Take care.

Foots I have never no would I ever go out and meet a woman and buy her a drink, or her girlfriend. She didn’t come with me. Thats leading with your wallet. Now before you say i’m cheap (I’m not) what happens is you’ve placed it in this womans head that your prepared to buy that azz. That can be one very expensive drink before its all over. If your feeling me then my convo will get us there and when WE go out the drinks are on my.

Nipples and Staceye include yourselves in my earlier statement. You posted after I finished typing. Smooches.

For Real co-signing your post on 2E’s butt doing the blocking. LMAO

Ladies, its totally different for guys. If your feeling one of us vs another its no biggy. No jealousy or resentment. I got next. LOL

By SexyLeggs

September 28, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this

I love you too, Truth.

By BennyB

September 28, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

* Sugar *, from what you said, the relationship is moving too fast and you are not comfortable: “It’s been moving quickly from the jump as far as him stating what he wants” at the same time you trust what he says: “He sticks to what he says”. How about you? Let us know your inputs, I‘ll give you my 0.25$ on it. How do you feel Sugar? Are you feeling guilt because the boy is feeling you and you may feel nothing? Are you are in damage control mode? Are you very worried that you will hurt him? Do you think that you are leading this man on too early?

Contrary to For Real statement, the unconscious statements we make are the most genuine one, the problem is to know if it was unconscious or a planned conscious game. If the statement was unconscious, the guy dreams about you days and nights.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 28, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

Truth hugs & kisses to you babe!

For Real its friday so I need an appropriate song!

Hey QC, Staceye, Lady Dark, SlimOne, LL, Melo, DuShawn, Foots, Jaazyone, SexyLeggs and all other Blogsville residents!

By QC

September 28, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

Ga.Man what’s up potnah?????

By Willie Dynamite

September 28, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

Leggs Dayum Dayum Dayum again!!! Truth Thank You Man, good looking out. GaMan just pull my collar when you get the chance and let me know the deal. Sugar Sounds like you uncomfortable with him saying that. My .02 is that men don’t slip and say that. We might slip and say Dayum instead of Dang when talking to the preacher but we don’t slip and say the L word. Trust your gut and if you are not comfortable Put the track shoes on and dip. For Real That’s classic (BB), just how it happens.

By Jazzyone

September 28, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

@Truth Moma loves you too! smooches its friday so you get a lil’ tongue with that..LOL! J/K….

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

September 28, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

I am fine QC how have you been doing….dang i been gone so long…feel wierd…i did try to come in on some other days..but the blog was down…but I digress

By Beautiful

September 28, 2007 11:51 AM | Link to this

THE TRUTH……….. I’m sorry, but they got me curious now! ;)

By 2CPTG

September 28, 2007 11:53 AM | Link to this

ummmm, Jazzy, you know I’on play that!

By sugar

September 28, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

Hey Thanks for the comments….@Foots-I didnt get a chance to say anything before he took it back

For Real——he says he hasnt been in a serious relationship in four years…but I could understand that slip if he had been…

@ BennyB to answer your questions..it was kind of fast at first but IM cool with it now..I am really feeling him..(dont know about love yet) kind of scared of that…Im not leading him on….nor do I feel quilty….So far he’s the one I could see myself with until…I havent felt that since my HS sweetheart…if he’s not on the real then he deserves a oscar…

I was just wondering could he really feel that way but just scared to let me know at this time…

By SexyCool

September 28, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

been there…done that with the what my friends think thing…grew out of it…

i finally came to realize that my friends are not the ones putting the work into this relationship…so…their opinions really don’t matter…

in fact…i have some friends that hear nothing of coach’s faults and our issues…for all they know…he’s the greatest thing since sliced bread (and he is)…and they think he’s the perfect man (for me, he is)…

on the flip side…i do have some friends that are mature enough to listen to my relationship trials without the usual “girl, i wouldn’t put up with that ish if i was you” and the “girl, i would leave his @$$”…they are the ones that i can confide in…have a BMC session (bytch, moan, complain)…and then tomorrow…when coach and i are fine…they are happy for me…not telling me that i am crazy for sticking with him…

and i could go on…

By For Real

September 28, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

Sugar BennyB has it partially correct. Most men talk to women on the conscious level to control her response. It’s the unconscious actions of a man that says much more than anything that comes out of his mouth.

By SexyLeggs

September 28, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

Truth, I think any one of the women on this blog can handle you. I know I can. Well, maybe not 2E’s since she doesn’t want any one right now. She’s concentrating on more important things.

Oh snap…just went back and read your post and realized it’s a line from a Tom Cruise movie (perhaps Jerry MaGuire).

By Staceye

September 28, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this

For Real Why you gotta pick on my booty? LOL What did it ever do to you?

Truth how are you co-signing on For Real…you have never seen me except a headshot. I’m curious…sing it with me now, “who’s that peepin’ in my window? Pow, nobody now!” LOL

Mo…what it do girl?

By Jazzyone

September 28, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this

Hey Mo!!! Waving!!

By SexyCool

September 28, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

melo…how can your brother be a woman target AND a pimp at the same time?…those two personalities TOTALLY contradict one another…

By For Real

September 28, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

Sugar I will more than happy (what exactly is more than happy) anyway, I will be happy to help determine how you feel about ole boy. The National Institute of Human Behaivor or NIHB has test called… the Blackcake Test. I can help you with the test if you are interested.

By Jazzyone

September 28, 2007 12:04 PM | Link to this

dayum @ 2 just when I thought you weren’t looking…you know you my 1 and only! Smile…

By 2CPTG

September 28, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

@ Jazzy, oh, ok….straighten me!

By Jewel

September 28, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

SexyCool Enough said.

By DuShawn

September 28, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this

Buying the table a drink is a sucka move period. For Real I don’t totally agree with that. Foots If I see a table of beautiful women and their laughing and having fun, Imma ask if I could join them. I would never lead with a drink. My charm, intellect and swagger should get my foot in the door. From there I’m just partying with them enjoying their company. Even if I’m more interested in one, Imma entertain them all and let them choose. (You play yourself if you target one, if that fails you’re out gas with her friends.) If they welcome me into the fold and we’re vibing and having a good time. I’ll break bread and buy a few rounds just to show my appreciation for allowing me to intrude and blessing me with opportunity to hang out with some cool females. The true chicks will return the favor and buy the next round. By the way, my wife told me that’s the technique she uses to stop dudes from sweatin her when she’s out with her friends. When a sucka comes up with that lame ”can I buy you a drink” shyt, she always responds ”yeah, but all my friends are thirsty too.” When the dude starts doing the math, he disappears.

By SexyLeggs

September 28, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this

ForReal, I think you inviting her to the bar for a drink is a good thing. Some women travel with a tribe. To buy everyone at the table a drink could be expensive. Hell, your skit was hilarious.

WillieD, you are funny. Thanks for all the “dayums”.

By Jazzyone

September 28, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this

@2You know it…signed Mrs. Lil daddy!

By The Truth

September 28, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this

WillieD welcome bruh. Whenever your in combat mode and you need the cavalry just holla “MLB”. We got ya, even if your wrong we’ll stand by your side. (Lord knows Blat and the guys have carried me when I was riddled with bullets) LOL We also have a nuclear weapon at our disposal. When ish is real tight and the entire WLB is at you just scream for Dushaun. He’ll appear from nowhere, throw out some smooth azz ish, then dip. He blows up the whole spot. LOL

QC when I read your “Whats up potnah” to GMan I immediately thought back to me and my last ex at the braves game. She had her hat on backwards and we yelled and laughed the whole game. My point being the upside of these new women is their spunkiness is cute as hell sometimes.

Jewels a fan of “A Few Good Men ” I see. LOL

Beautiful I’m just another dude out there. Nothing better, nothing worse. BTW, I’m 40+ so whatever my stunning good looks were going to get me in life I already got. I have to work at it from here on. LOL The real jewel is whats located between the ears.

Thank you ladies for the props. Its always good to be apprecaited.

Jazzy did you just slip your tongue in my mouth? Don’t get me wrong, I’m not complaining. I just wished you wouldn’t have pulled it back so fast. LOL

Sugar relax, take a deep breath, and enjoy ol boy. He seems to be as sincere as they come nowaday.

By 2CPTG

September 28, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

what’s the difference between buying a round of drinks for a table of lovely ladies, and tippin every dancer on the pole???? Surely you don’t just throw a dollar and call it a night????

When I go out, I look to break bread…regardless of the locale. It just comes with the territory…..To me, that ain’t leading with your wallet, cause again, it ain’t trickin if you got it! And for me, I’m not lookin to pull wifey outta the club; So spending money is what having a good time is all about to me…and if you do buy the whgole table a drink, you may get more play than you initially thought….

By Staceye

September 28, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

Dushawn I love your wife’s way of thinking! LOL

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 28, 2007 12:26 PM | Link to this

Alright Party People…Mo is the official Blogsville bartendar for the day since ya’ll getting the party started. GAMan & Missing in action MusingLee I dont want to hear it today, I got this under control! :-) I will go ahead and fix a Hen & Coke for myself. Anybody up for a dranki-drank?!?

For Real I need you to get that song poppin boo…

By Willie Dynamite

September 28, 2007 12:27 PM | Link to this

Buying the whole table a drink could be a sucka move if you lead with that. At that point you just a sponsor. Whats more important is how many Men will actually approach a table of ladies solo. Most Men don’t have the confidence/swagger to pull it off. Du just gave the Playa move of the day. Its not about whether you buy the drinks its all about the situation. If you chopping it up at the table with the ladies then all is good. If you sponsoring the table just to try to talk with 1 out the bunch you a sucka. When you get done they gonna jones you and the price of the puddy will have just went up.

By BennyB

September 28, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

Sugar Real men know that it’s impractical to tell the L word to a woman unless they know the feedback (either positive or negative). Apparently, yourself don’t know what your feedback will be :”( dont know about love yet)”. Until the man realizes that all your guards are down, you will not hear the L word unless when they play or it slips from the unconscious. Remember that every love story is about 3 things: timing, timing and timing

By SexyCool

September 28, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

i remember the first time coach told me he loved me…

6.08.2006 - fears…

early morning conversation….

him: i love you..and i don’t ever want to lose you…

her: i love you 2…and i never want you to walk away…

By Jazzyone

September 28, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this

Truth, yeah sorry I had to do it…it was my duty to slip you some tongue and feel on your booty…hahaha sorry ya…Im outta control on this Friday for absolutely no reason at all…

By Beautiful

September 28, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

I don’t want the guy to buy my friend a drink. He chose me! I want to feel special. Coming over to me and asking me to go over to the bar with him for a drink would be very nice.

By 2CPTG

September 28, 2007 12:41 PM | Link to this

Beautiful, you said, “I don’t want the guy to buy my friend a drink. He chose me! I want to feel special.’…therein lies the playa move…you don’t know who he wants…..as Du said, the playa puts the onus on y’all to choose!!! Willie D, you do know sum’in about choosin, don’t you? or you just heard about the movie, from which your name is derived?

By Staceye

September 28, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

As far as the drink thing…it’s cool if the guy wants to buy my friends drinks. I have guys do that most of the time. But he doesn’t have to be all Spice Girl on me…“if you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends”*! LOL

By SexyCool

September 28, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this

reading my old blog entry…i just realized that i really needed that for myself today…wow!!!

By Beautiful

September 28, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

2CPTG…………..OMG! Come on……..the guy came over to me and looked me in my pretty eyes! He took my hand and offered to buy my fine azz a drink. He knows what he wants.

By SexyLeggs

September 28, 2007 12:53 PM | Link to this

Mo, you must be reaading my mind. I’m sitting here wishing I was sipping on some NaVan or a frozen maragrita. Straight to the liquor store when I get off work.

By 2CPTG

September 28, 2007 1:00 PM | Link to this

ok, Beautiful, if you got it like that….

By The Truth

September 28, 2007 1:01 PM | Link to this

Dayuum WillieD spout the truth from your mouth man. While I truly understand Du’s point of view that situation comes up extremly rare. In that instance I could see it. 99.9% of the time though your just running up the price of puddy. Some of you bruhs in this spot are on point.

Staceye just shot me. Didn’t anyone see that? You want to send me the whole body shot? Then I can speak more eloquently on the booty. LOL atlred01@yahoo.com

Has anyone read Obama’s book “Audacity of Hope”? I’m going to pick it up in a few and was wondering what the reviews were like.

By Staceye

September 28, 2007 1:08 PM | Link to this

Truth you gotta check my My Space page….Staceye_J.

I’m out for the weekend guys!

By Sugar

September 28, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this

@FOR Real..lol @ the test…..

Thanks again for the comments…

By Tazzee

September 28, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this

Happy Friday folks!

Not a blocker, don’t hang out with blockers. When my friends ask me for advice, I always tell them to consider the source - and then reply. If it’s relationship advice, I always have my ‘but what do I know, I’m perpetually single’ disclaimer.

Just in case I forget to say it later:

GO FALCONS

By Page1908

September 28, 2007 1:14 PM | Link to this

I think I am with Jazzy on this one….I keep my convos about dudes I am interested in to a minimum when talking with my girl friends. I’m not the one to give any and all details at all.

Hey QC and Dimples!

By DuShawn

September 28, 2007 1:22 PM | Link to this

Truth I read it. It was all right. I had hoped it would be more autobiographical. It primarily espoused his views on the current state of political bureaucracy and the futility of partisanship in Washington. I found it to be a slow read. However, it was easier to get through than Cornell West’s Race Matters. I needed a dayum thesaurus and a dictionary to fully comprehend that brotha.

By 2CPTG - former PI

September 28, 2007 1:22 PM | Link to this

the only cats who should be concerned with the price of puddy, are the Johns who are willing to pay for it….

By For Real

September 28, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

Here you go Mo

I got so much trouble on my mind I refuse to lose Here’s your ticket Hear the drummer get wicked The crew to you to push the back to Black Attack so I sat and japped Then slapped the Mac(Intosh) Now I’m ready to mike it (You know I like it) huh Hear my favoritism roll “Oh” Never be a brother like to go solo Lazer, anastasia, maze ya Ways to blaze your brain and train ya The way I’m livin’, forgiven’ What I’m givin’ up X on the flex hit me now I don’t know about later As for now I know how to avoid the paranoid Man I’ve had it up to here Gear I wear got ‘em goin’ in fear Rhetoric said Read just a bit ago Not quittin’ though Signed the hard rhymer Work to keep from gettin’ jerked Changin’ some ways To way back in the better days Raw metaphysically bold Never followed a code Still dropped a load Never question what I am God knows Cause it’s comin’ from the heart What I got better get some (Get on up) hustler of culture Snakebitten Been spit in the face But the rhymes keep fittin’ Respects been givin’ how’s ya livin’ Now I can’t protect a pad off defect Check the record An reckon an intentional wreck Played off as some intellect Made the call, took the fall Broke the laws Not my fault they’re fallin’ off Known as fair square Throughout my years So I growl at the livin’ foul Black to the bone my home is your home So welcome to the Terrordome Subordinate terror Kickin’ off an era Cold deliverin’ pain My 98 was 87 on a record yo So now I go Bronco

Crucifixion ain’t no fiction So called chosen frozen Apology made to who ever pleases Still they got me like Jesus I rather sing, bring, think reminisce ‘Bout a brother while I’m in sync Every brother ain’t a brother cause a color Just as well could be undercover Backstabbed, grabbed a flag From the back of the lab Told a Rab get off the rag Sad to say I got sold down the river Still some quiver when I deliver Never to say I never know or had a clue Word was heard, plus hard on the boulevard Lies, scandalizin’, basin’ Traits of hate who’s celebratin’ wit satan? I rope a dope the evil with righteous Bobbin’ and weavin’ and let the good get even C’mon down And welcome to the Terrordome. Caught in the race against time The pit and the pendulum Check the rhythm and rhymes While I’m bendin’ ‘em Snakes blowin’ up the lines of design Tryin’ to blind the science I’m snedin’ ‘em How to fight the power Cannot run and hide But it shouldn’t be suicide In a game a fool without the rules Got a hell of a nerve to just criticize Every brother ain’t a brother Cause a Black hand Squeezed on Malcom X the man The shootin’ of Huey Newton From a hand of a N**** who pulled the trigger

It’s weak to speak and blame somebody else When you destroy yourself First nothing’s worse than a mother’s pain Of a son slain in Bensonhurst Can’t wait for the state to decide the fate So this jam I dedicate Places with racist faces Just an example of one of many cases The Greek weekend speech I speak From a lesson learned in Virginia (Beach) I don’t smile in the line of fire I go wildin’ But it’s on bass and drums even violins Watcha do gitcha head ready Instead of gettin’ physically sweaty When I get mad I put it down on a pad Give ya somethin’ that cha never had controllin’ Fear of high rollin’ God bless your soul and keep livin’ Never allowed, kickin’ it loud Droppin’ a bomb Brain game intellectual Vietnam Move as a team Never move alone But Welcome to the Terrordome

By Wee Wee

September 28, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

I am in love!!!! I’ve got to lose my innocence all over again!!

By Page1908

September 28, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

Hey Tazzee. Did I already ask you if you were coming to Super Bowl? I think I did, but I can’t remember…lol. We’re already starting our “Countdown to Super Bowl 2008” festivities.

By For Real

September 28, 2007 1:26 PM | Link to this

I’m just feeling PE today.

Hit me Going, going, gone Now I dialed 911 a long time ago Don’t you see how late they’re reactin’ They only come and they come when they wanna So get the morgue embalm the goner They don’t care ‘cause they stay paid anyway They teach ya like an ace they can’t be betrayed I know you stumble with no use people If your life is on the line they you’re dead today Late comings with the late comin’ stretcher That’s a body bag in disguise y’all betcha I call ‘em body snatchers quick they come to fetch ya? With an autopsy ambulance just to dissect ya They are the kings ‘cause they swing amputation Lose your arms, your legs to them it’s compilation I can prove it to you watch the rotation It all adds up to a funky situation So get up get, get get down 911 is a joke in yo town Get up, get, get, get down Late 911 wears the late crown

911 is a joke

Everyday they don’t never come correct You can ask my man right here with the broken neck He’s a witness to the job never bein’ done He would’ve been in full in 8 9-11 Was a joke ‘cause they always jokin’ They the token to your life when it’s croakin’ They need to be in a pawn shop on a 911 is a joke we don’t want ‘em I call a cab ‘cause a cab will come quicker The doctors huddle up and call a flea flicker The reason that I say that ‘cause they Flick you off like fleas They be laughin’ at ya while you’re crawlin’ on your knees And to the strength so go the length Thinkin’ you are first when you really are tenth You better wake up and smell the real flavor Cause 911 is a fake life saver

So get up, get, get get down 911 is a joke in yo town Get up, get, get, get down Late 911 wears the late crown

Ow, ow 911 is a joke

By Willie Dynamite

September 28, 2007 1:26 PM | Link to this

2C I could neva be like the movie. However, I do know a thing or two and I can take it to whatever level I need to.

Since I had a pretty good breakfast Thanks again ladies I guess I can have a liquid lunch and get my Friday started MoHow you doing today? (With T Pain Bartenda playing in the background) Can I get a Martel on a few rocks please?

By For Real

September 28, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

Still feeling it.

By Tazzee

September 28, 2007 1:38 PM | Link to this

Hey Page1908 - I’ll be there if the Falcons are there 13-3, here we come! LOL. Aren’t you going to be here (in ATL) by the time the game gets to AZ?

By Jewel

September 28, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this

For Real I thought about you the other evening…you and your Scrabble skits. Fox 5 had a segment on its 5 o’clock news about a man who proposed to his girlfriend through a Crossword puzzle.

Truth & DuShawn Cornell West and Michael Eric Dyson both can snag you with some BIG words.

To All See ya later, alligator…after while, crocodile…after supper, m___ you have to be old, old school to know the rest! LOL

Have a Wonderful Weekend!

By For Real

September 28, 2007 1:40 PM | Link to this

Here it is BAMMM And you say, G******* This is the dope jam But lets define the term called dope And you think it mean funky now, no Here is a true tale Of the ones that deal Are the ones that fail Yeah You can move if you wanna move What it prove It’s here like the groove The problem is this - we gotta’ fix it Check out the justice - and how they run it Sellin’, smellin’ Sniffin’, riffin’ And brothers try to get swift an’ Sell to their own, rob a home While some shrivel to bone Like comatose walkin’ around Please don’t confuse this with the sound I’m talking about…BASS

I put this together to… Rock the bells of those that Boost the dose Of lack a lack And those that sell to Black Shame on a brother when he dealin’ The same block where my 98 be wheelin’ And everybody know Another kilo From a corner from a brother to keep another - Below Stop illin’ and killin’ Stop grillin’ Yo, black, yo (we are willin’) 4, 5 o’clock in the mornin’ Wait a minute y’all The fiends are fiendin’ Day to day they say no other way This stuff… Is really bad I’m talkin’ ‘bout…BASS

Yo, listen I see it on their faces (First come first serve basis) Standin’ in line Checkin’ the time Homeboys playin’ the curb The same ones that used to do herb Now they’re gone Passin’ it on Poison attack - the Black word bond Daddy-O Once said to me He knew a brother who stayed all day in his jeep And at night he went to sleep And in the mornin’ all he had was The sneakers on his feet The culprit used to jam and rock the mike, yo He stripped the jeep to fill his pipe And wander around to find a place Where they rocked to a different kind of…BASS

By Page1908

September 28, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this

LOL Tazzee well, you will not be here then if you are waiting on your Falcons to make it, just like my Cardinals won’t make it! Yes, I will already be there in ATL, but I will still have my Condo here to come back to, which is cool because there will not be any hotel rooms available anywhere. I think they are already selling out.

By mayretter local

September 28, 2007 1:48 PM | Link to this

WD in da house

By Foots

September 28, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this

Thanks for your response guys. I was just wondering how this situation was handled by the male masses. In my experience, if I was with my friend (only us two) and a guy came up, he spoke to both of us and chatted with both of us. Of course we can tell which lady he is interested in, so that’s not a problem. But if he offered to buy a drink for one, he extended it to the other, MOST of the time, since most of the conversation will be between him and his lady of interest. Sort of a “I’m sorry cause I just busted up your twosome and now you don’t have anyone to talk to, here’s a peace offering for your inconvenience.” I’ve just found it to be polite for a man to offer; my job (if I’m not the chosen one) is to politely decline the offer and excuse myself to the restroom or somewhere to give them some time.

I’d be more apt to think a man was rude if there were only two of us and he acted as if only one of us were there.

By Foots

September 28, 2007 2:01 PM | Link to this

Truth I’m going to the library this weekend to pick up Juan Williams’s book, the one that he was discussing with O’Reilly in their interview. Long title: “Enough: The Phony Leaders, Dead-End Movements, and Culture of Failure That Are Undermining Black America—and What We Can Do About It”. Should be interesting…

By BlatinoBrutha aka BLAT aka "Where the HE!_!_ have you been???"

September 28, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this

Hola to the Blog!!!

WillieD, I can see you’ll be a welcome addition to the MLB. As you know, I’m the Grand Poobah, and I dayum well know Truth forged your stuff, but I trust his judgement cuz he’s on the council.

Occasionally you may get flagged by yours truly if you happen to reveal to many MLB secrets in one post, although it doesn’t matter cuz the WLB doesn’t really listen to us anyway.

Just know that dee Blatino keeps his bullet-proof vest on at all times and will co-sign any crazy azzed ish you post on here if necessary. Ask Truth about that.

On Topic, ya’ll be straight for reallz on this stuff. Du, you sayin real, playa. Always keep them guessing. Although ya’ll know my policy on buyin drinks at the club…. I generally don’t. Literally maybe once a month, and that’s goin out 3-4 nights a week. I am not the Drink Fairy, lol.

By BennyB

September 28, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

* Dushawn* Amen

“I’ll break bread and buy a few rounds just to show my appreciation for allowing me to intrude and blessing me with opportunity to hang out with some cool females”

You got to be out of your mind man…….Show my appreciation??? I don’t expose my wallet to show my appreciation. Man, I just don’t know about you. Money you use for those few rounds can help you later on if you keep at Ameritrade man. By the way, I thought independent women can take care of themselves…..

If I ask a lady on a date, I pay. If I met her out, she went out at her own and there’s no any honest justification I can find to buy her a drink.

By QC

September 28, 2007 2:20 PM | Link to this

Hello Page have you started packing yet….

By The Truth

September 28, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this

Foots let me know whats going on in that book. It sounds interesting. I may recommend it at my book club meeting next month. i’ll wait for your summary on that one.

Dam Du, now I have to read thru this book with pre-conceived notions. I’ll try to get thru it.

LMAO @ Blats Drink Fairy.

By SexyLeggs

September 28, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

Damn BennyB! You’re right, independent women can take care of themselves. According to the scenarios posted here, the woman didn’t ASK YOU to buy her a drink. The guy offered. Big difference!

By Foots

September 28, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

Blat You go out 3-4 times a week?? Dayum!!!

Foots is now making a mental note that she is officially classified as boring as hellz… LOL!

I hate it when a polite offer or gentlemanly gesture from a man gets turned into what he thinks is an encroachment on her so-called “independence”.

By SmileyC

September 28, 2007 2:34 PM | Link to this

Why do women take dating advice from other women? I don’t!

Do you think that women have friends that purposely block their chances with dates? Some women though b/c they may be jealous!

Have any of you tried to make a move on someone and their friend’s behavior impeded your progress? I don’t make the first moves!

Well I’m 24 and I have female friends that I may ask there opinion about a guy who is of interest. However, it is just that there opinion and I do what I feel like I should do…if I want to go futher then I go..if I don’t then I don’t! My bff is a male, he wishes that I would ask his opinion before I start dating b/c he feels since he knows me so well ~ he can figure out if a guy is for me or not…rather then me waste my time on them! I have yet to let him do that…I like to leave that up to me…

By For Real

September 28, 2007 2:35 PM | Link to this

Drink Fairy good one Blat

Phoots If it was just two ladies at dinner I would be hesitant to interrupt your dinner bc I think that’s rude. I would make contact with the one that I was interested in and wait for lady to excuse herself and then meet her at the bar. Now if it was at a club… well I don’t do clubs so I can’t answer.

By The Truth

September 28, 2007 2:40 PM | Link to this

Staceye your a nice looking woman. If you can just amp down the anger you’d be a great mate. BTW, you are defintely blocking. LMAO

By For Real

September 28, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

Phoots * hate it when a polite offer or gentlemanly gesture from a man gets turned into what he thinks is an encroachment on her so-called “independence”.* Come now, women don’t know where the line of independence starts and stops. It varies from women to women, so how is men suppose to know when he is stepping on a woman “so called independence”. Hellz sometimes you can’t hold a door open for a lady without her tripping and I ain’t walking around on egg-shells trying not to step on a woman’s “so called independence”.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 28, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

WillieD I didnt forget about you on the drink bruh, but Truth was trying to get a peek at my apple bottom! (Hey Truth) Here ya go sweetie…*Mo slides a drink down the bar to WillieD *

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

September 28, 2007 2:46 PM | Link to this

Jewel Wedding plans are coming together…although fiance is trying to sabotage them LOL. He keeps adding to the guest list!!

Truth smooches

Page Whaddup girl! I’ll see you in a few days!!

I think it’s a very gentleman thing to do if they were to buy the entire table a drink. They’ll definitely get points for that. But I don’t let a guy buy me drink unless I’m feeling him or he’s a friend.

Tazzee Falcons 13-3 LMAO That was funny

By Wee Wee

September 28, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

I’m in love!!!

By BlatinoBrutha aka BLAT aka "Where the HE!_!_ have you been???"

September 28, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

I knew you’d appreciate that one, Truth.

And Foots, I for one do NOT think you’re boring as hell… It’s just that I’m 29, Single(Divorced), no kids, and I work hard as hell on several jobs n projects that keep my a$$ at the club for business and pleasure. Plus, Blatino is not a homebody………….. UNLESS there’s a Body at Home.

Which reminds me, Latina baby, i know you’re lurking. Where’s the arroz con gandules and chuletas you promised me for lunch? I had to settle for one of them Ramen noodle packs. Q lo Q mamita???? LMAO

By SexyCool

September 28, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

a’ight den, folks…time for me to start a weekend…i’ll be hanging out down at the auction table at philips arena for the thrashers home game tonight…if any of y’all come thru…holla at the tall chick that’s just chillin’…lol…

May your life be filled with miracles and your cup overflow with blessings.

By abc

September 28, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

Whereas I’ve experienced women’s anger upon holding a door or chair, or other rather superfluous gentlemanly gesture, that kind of reaction went out with women’s lib. I haven’t seen anything like that for 10-15 years.

The ‘blocking’ thing can go both ways, her friends can talk you up or talk you down. I’ve been getting talked up a lot lately, but I can’t figure out exactly why, because her friends don’t really know me.

By SexyLeggs

September 28, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

Congratulations Wee Wee…young and giddy!

By Foots

September 28, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

For Real so how are men suppose to know when he is stepping on a woman “so called independence”

Here’s my $0.02 on that. Just as you want women to judge each man individually and not taint our perception of him with past events in our lives, don’t let past events with ungrateful women taint your gentlemanly offers with a new woman. If you are a gentleman.

If you were raised to open doors, then open doors. It’s okay to be who you are regardless of who she turns out to be. If she says “I can open the dayum door for myself!!”, you can say “Yes, of course you can, but while I’m here, you shouldn’t have to”. Or whatever you can say to let her know that she doesn’t have to be combative and that you’re doing it not because you think she can’t, but because that’s who YOU are.

I can’t think of one good reason why a woman would trip if a man is polite to her. Maybe if she’s the “I don’t need no man” type? But if she’s that type, why would you want to date her?

For some reason, some folks overanalyze “independence” and don’t understand what it means. How is the fact that I can support myself related to whether or not you are polite enough to not let a door slam on me??

And for that matter… Where the HELLZ are the women that find a man opening a door for them offensive???

By Jazzyone

September 28, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this

WEE WEE Congrats! Oh Gee step on our independance?? wow..thats funny…is it that serious…You not all of us are walkin around with a big ole’ ‘I’ on our chest banging on it saying we are independant. Just be you fall in and be you and a chick will do the same..you hold the door open for me heyal that gives you a few points I’ll be ladylike and you be a gentleman we won’t have any problems..it really isn’t that serious is it? or maybe it is??

By SmileyC

September 28, 2007 3:07 PM | Link to this

I have a question for you guys…

Yesterday this guy asked me out on a date…and he was like which would I prefer “dinner & a movie” or “dinner & go to the club” I was thinking to myself who goes to the club for a date…that’s where you go to mingle to find someone! I mean but I’m not originally from ATL…and he is..is that normal for Atlantians to do on a date - go to the club??

By QC

September 28, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this

Have a safe, restful weekend bloggers…i’m out!…HOLLA

By Foots

September 28, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

Love is a many splendored thing, Wee Wee!!

Thanks Blat, but I’m AM kinda boring. When I’m home, which is most of the time, I’m not usually bored. But I know I could be making better use of my time. Which is why I’m excited about becoming a literacy tutor for K-5!! I’m going to use this opportunity to do more than just read with them.

By latina_in_30004

September 28, 2007 3:20 PM | Link to this

Happy Friday!!!

LMAO @ BLAT - Omg, sorry about that mi amorcito but I’ve been soo busy today. Glad to know you’re thinking of me though wink wink. Oye, yo te puedo hacer las chuletas pero no el arroz con gandules - me tienes que dar la receta.

Have a great weekend everybody.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 28, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this

For Real thanks for the PE up in here today!! So appropriate considering I am about to really go slap off on my co-workers if the dont leave me alone!

By DuShawn

September 28, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

Benny B I’m always appreciative when a beautiful woman gives me a moment of her time. When a female is approached she has two choices. She could respectfully decline your advances or give you an opportunity to shoot your gift. If my history is any indication, when they listen, it’s a wrap. Trust me when I tell you. I’m far from a mark. However, I do believe in cheerful giving and buying few drinks for some new fine friends will not break me. That’s beneath petty. In the scenario I presented earlier, it was some new females that were showing me a nice time, when they really didn’t have to, and it was in my spirit to reciprocate. That exact scene has happened hundreds of times during my career. If a female is down with me, we gone ball, not that I’m trying to impress her. I do the same thing when I’m alone. Real recognize real. True females ain’t trying to beat a muhfugga outta some drink money, they already got bread. I’m a quick judge of character. If I come the conclusion that a chick is cool with me, Imma show love. That mindset has allowed me to experience indescribable pleasures that most could only dream of.

By The Truth

September 28, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

Foots good for you on tutoring. I’m growing to like you more each day.

By BlatinoBrutha aka BLAT aka "Where the HE!_!_ have you been???"

September 28, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this

Latina, ta bien…. Oye… Where you from anyways? Everybody knows dat dee Blatino is Colombian. lol

By We work

September 28, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this

Hey Errbody! What’s hannin?

sniff…sniff…WHY DOES IT SMELL LIKE A DISTILLERY IN HERE?…

What’s the topic folks? what’s the toppy? …LOL… the other day i popped in folks were going to blows and snatching wigs about “showing out in public” didn’t nobody except for GaMAN give me a protection vest . Today I sneak in here and the blog room is a Juke Joint. What’s really going on…

…speaking of football who we play Sunday?

Hey to all my WLB and a big ole {{{{hug}}}} and kiss to the MLB.

By Pharress_Beuller

September 28, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this

Pharress now being escorted to the podium in true presidential fashion

Foots

I ran out of time yesterday so here’s my email: time4sumakshone@gmail.com

I’m always up for a healthy debate with a kinda boring yet intelligent woman (lol).

Sexy-Secret-Servicewomen now jumping to sheild Pharress after sounds of gunshots are heard…

By For Real

September 28, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this

Phoots You yourself know those women who feel a man is stepping on their “independence”. It’s “I don’t need no man” chick or the chick that has just been hurt by another man (hey 2E’s). They dress, act and look like just like you. So, how can an ordinary man know what type of chick he running up on? You are right about being who you are which is why I said “I ain’t walking around on egg-shells” for no woman. As for what independence means I guess that is subjective bc I don’t call taking care of your responsiblities independence I call it being responsible which is an attribute of an Adult (male or female). The matter of politeness should have started at home but in today’s society rudness and selfishness are seen as strength. How many times does a polite person have stick his hand in the fire before they learn it’s hot? Just bc you have not experienced a woman taking offense to a man being a gentleman to a woman doesn’t mean it has not happen.

I’m a southern boy and I was raised to open doors, pull-out chairs, hold your hand while walking down stairs, put you on the side away from traffic, allow a woman to go first into a building or elevator, pick up an item that woman dropped, move/pickup the heavy stuff, speak respectfully…etc I have been called a chauvinist bc I believe a woman shouldn’t do certain things. And no work is not one of them.

By 2CPTG - former PI

September 28, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

“That mindset has allowed me to experience indescribable pleasures that most could only dream of.”

kinda parallel what I was saying earlier…. @12:25 “if you do buy the whole table a drink, you may get more play than you initially thought….”

By latina_in_30004

September 28, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this

Blatino I figured that much when you offered to bring me some arepas, eres paisa o rolito? I’m from Honduras y si se bailar punta, LOL.

By The Truth

September 28, 2007 3:52 PM | Link to this

LMAO @ Pharess. Kinda boring is not bad at all. Pick your spots.

Du bruh, I got your point. I feel your approach but it could border on puddy purchase. If thats your tactic, its fine with us. Your a respected resident of blogsville and i know your not out there outright running up tabs. However, a less worldly cat playing your cards could come up broke with blue balls.LOL Lets just say thats some master level ish.

By For Real

September 28, 2007 3:53 PM | Link to this

Du I feel you on having a good and meeting new people. Women have a way of brightening up room when they are friendly and are having a good time. As a matter of fact I just recently took care of a lovely lady drinks this past weekend bc she brighten the spot I was at. And for record I never even tried to meet her. I was enjoying her persent. Now I know she probably was thinking who fugg is buying all these drinks? Now there is a difference in being a Mark (in my Ice Cube voice) and being a dude that can drop $200 and not run to a payday loan center.

By BennyB

September 28, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

Thruth

I can’t believe that you think Stacey need to “just amp down the anger”. What she badly need is to power down the anger amp and auction it. But if she comply this blog will be a very boring place.

By DuShawn

September 28, 2007 3:57 PM | Link to this

open doors, pull-out chairs, hold your hand while walking down stairs, put you on the side away from traffic, allow a woman to go first into a building or elevator, pick up an item that woman dropped, move/pickup the heavy stuff, speak respectfully…etc I have been called a chauvinist bc I believe a woman shouldn’t do certain things. And no work is not one of them

For Real I was with you up until that last sentence. My female just brought home her first paycheck in seven years. I celebrated that shyt more than her graduation.

By Foots

September 28, 2007 3:59 PM | Link to this

For Real Good for you on the chivalrous behavior! Which of these statements do you agree with?

This is only my opinion… A man who chooses #1 is a chauvinist. A man who chooses #2 is a gentleman.

I actually DON’T know any women who feel that a man is stepping on her independence, unless that man is trying to order her around somehow, i.e. don’t wear this, you can’t go here, you should be at home. And that type of behavior is cut short by my crew. Any ADULT would balk at that type of treatment. General kindness and politeness that a man shows to a woman is always appreciated.

Truth And you know I loves me some Truth (most of the time, LOL)!! I have been feeling like I need to do more lately. I used to have a Little Sister through Big Brothers/Big Sisters; we got together when she was 12 and stayed together until she was 18 and out of the program. Now that she’s 19 (and a scholarship sophomore at Georgia Tech, YAY!!), it’s time for me to get back into more children’s lives. Foots loves da kids!!

By The Truth

September 28, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this

BennyB she just needs some love. We’ve all been angry at the world at sometime. And don’t worry, there will always be someone in here to set it off. LOL

DU feel good that you was able to do your thing so she could what she needed to in that 7 years. Ain’t nothing wrong with handling yours. (But I know those extra dollars feel good)

Foots I used to be a big brother myself. My little brothers moms tried to push up and it got uncomfortable. I saw the dude a few years back training dogs. He’s cool as all gettup.

By abc

September 28, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this

I used to be pretty adamant about the chicks needing to have a job thing, but it’s not important to me anymore, probably because I make a lot more money than I did back then. If she’d rather be a stay-at-home, volunteer with the church, whatever, that’s fine with me.

By For Real

September 28, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this

Du I was saying she has to work. If my mamma worked then any lady I’m with will have to work.

Phoots That’s cool it’s in your heart to giving back. 4 points on the board for you…

As to your question it is a combination of both depending on the situation. Now I know I sound like NC but in this case it is true. The situation will dictate the answer to your question.

ex: someone breaks into the house should she go because she is a woman? I say yes because someone has to tell the story.

By Foots

September 28, 2007 4:17 PM | Link to this

Truth 8My little brothers moms tried to push up and it got uncomfortable.* WOW!! What did you say to her?? As many young boys that are waiting for a Big Brother, I am PO’ed that she would mess it up.

By Beautiful

September 28, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

WISE DIVA………… can you have a topic on your ex being married to someone else, but he still tells you he loves and misses you?

By For Real

September 28, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

Truth: Hello maam my name is Truth and I have been assign as lil Man-Man Dontavious big brother.

lil Man-Man’s Mom: MAN-MAN YO NEW DADDY HERE!!! MMMMMM-MM BOY I’M BITE YO SPLEEN.

Truth pass the f/k out

By DuShawn

September 28, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

I feel your approach but it could border on puddy purchase Truth actually that’s not my approach. That’s merely an intro. Once I set the hook, I reel them in like this: You know what? I got somebody I want you to meet. You remind a lot of my people. Yall got the same style, a perfect mix of realness with a regal demeanor. Imma a call her up here so you can meet her. She don’t know too many folks in the “A”. Maybe yall could hang out some time Once I link them up, my work is done. I just kick back and watch their friendship simmer like a Crock Pot. Now that’s some real master level shyt.

By The Truth

September 28, 2007 4:27 PM | Link to this

Foots she was trying to hook up. I was just getting divorced and all I wanted was booty. A relationship was out ofthe question. He was a cool little dude though. A real woman magnet. He’s still laid back and a cool cat.

Ok blogsville. I hope you all have a great weekend and we’ll do this again monday. Be safe.

By Foots

September 28, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

Beautiful I think that the illustrious members of the MLB (or WLB for that matter) can shed some light on that for you…

By Foots

September 28, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this

Have a great weekend all!!

By BennyB

September 28, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

DuShawn …did you?

“I’m always appreciative when a beautiful woman gives me a moment of her time”, man, you sound like you don’t give them your own time when you talk to them. Personally, If choose to spend my precious time talking to a women……I value her a lot……How much money that worth? I value my time than any other thing and hate to waste other people time. If we value people we spend time with them

Having said that; I still don’t see any possible way that I will buy a drink for the whole table. It sounds like buying friendship to me and its corruption. Buying drink for people that I just meet to get more play than initially thought according to 2CPTG. I want a woman who can at least buy her own drink …damn

By Willie Dynamite

September 28, 2007 4:42 PM | Link to this

Du you need some theme music when you come in here Man. Truth was right about you. Hope everyone enjoys the weekend, Enjoy!!

By BlatinoBrutha aka BLAT aka "Where the HE!_!_ have you been???"

September 28, 2007 4:47 PM | Link to this

Hey, una Catracha Latina!!! Pues, naci aqui so technically I’m a goober. Pero mami es de Barranquilla, so I guess I’m a corroncho…

Hit me up sometime atlien78@gmail.com, since e’ry body puttin their contact info all on the Blog Refrigerator Door n ish… jajaja

By abc

September 28, 2007 4:48 PM | Link to this

I’d say it’s not that unusual to carry feelings around for exes, beautiful, no matter how one has moved on in their lives. If whatever you had was for real at all, certainly it doesn’t just go poof and it’s gone. Over time, sure, but how long can that take?

By DuShawn

September 28, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this

Benny B I guess we view that differenly. For me, It’s really a moot point. These days if I buy a round of drinks for a table, the drinks would be non alcoholic (three in kiddie cup), the table would be in a restuarnt and the recipient of those beverages would be my wife and three children.

By BlatinoBrutha aka BLAT aka "Where the HE!_!_ have you been???"

September 28, 2007 4:52 PM | Link to this

Beautiful, did you hack into my computer or something???????

I just got done writing an email to my married ex tellin her we gots to stop talkin and both move on…… Truth, is there such a thang as BlogTelepathy? Cuz dat wuz some skarry sh!t.

By Wise Diva

September 28, 2007 4:57 PM | Link to this

It’s been a crazy day! Have a wonderful weekend everyone!

By SexyLeggs

September 28, 2007 4:57 PM | Link to this

Everybody have a safe and restful weekend>