Misadventures in Atlanta

By G

September 24, 2007 8:38 AM | Link to this

I have an ex that blamed me for her moving from a size 6 to an 8. That didn’t make any difference to me, and I actually didn’t notice. I admit we ate out a lot, but there are usually healthy choices on the menu. We eat what we want……no excuses. My weight was always manageable. The fundamental difference was I worked out regularly and she didn’t. Like I always say…………fitness is a lifestyle, not a quick fix.

By Dan

September 24, 2007 8:51 AM | Link to this

I think my eating habits change because when you’re dating a woman, you eat at a lot of places you wouldn’t normally. Most men, and MLB back me up, would prefer the little cooking that we do at home.

Plus like you said, your social activities change, from being active and silly with the homeboys to dinner and talking with your girl (which can be stressful enough to gain 20 pounds).

Where are we going? Am I right fellas?

PS See Knocked up, great movie! With interesting subtext on class and attraction.

By Raqi

September 24, 2007 8:52 AM | Link to this

Yes being in a relationship can make you gain weight faster than when you are unattached.

By Cemeeli

September 24, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this

Morning Room Hope everyone had a good weekend!

I am the poster child for forcing other activities. (e.i. my last date, was at a Paintball field). And now since it is my turn agian to suggest a place. We will be visiting another venue that involves being active. YES! So no, I can say that i am a victim of “Getting fat while dating”.

Now as it seems your friends Dennis and Christa, are in the situation where thier partner is not as active as they are and/or don’t care much to be. I suggest that they try and interest their partner into date/events that does not involve ‘eat ums’ instead ‘Go active’. There’s plenty to do out there. Step away from the restaurants!!! LOL

For a quick impromptu ‘Catch me my schedule is swamped’ date. I have also suggested “Smoothie bars”/coffe houses they are easy/non expensive/health con place to meet for a date. Easy no-crowds no long waiting to be seated place to meet. AND if you and your date dare to sit and talk they accomadate for that too. I know, I know oh cliche’… so i’m different. Just my 2cents.

By AmazonRed

September 24, 2007 9:45 AM | Link to this

Well, I wouldn’t call my eating habits “bad,” but I’m still at the point where gaining weight is not a hindrance to me. I probably need to put on about 10-15 pounds so I don’t shy away from rich, decadent meals.

The bigger problem is that I’m not very active. And I don’t mind quiet evenings at home. So sitting around on the couch, eating snacks and watching movies is not the way to stay fit.

Ironically, my job encouraged me to enter a 5K and I told the main squeeze and he entered too. Now we spend our weekends running and training. It’s really cool because it gives us something to actively do and it’s healthy. In addition, we’re getting to know each other better as we run. Now we are competing to see who gets the hottest bod first. :-) (we’re already pretty hot)

By SexyLeggs

September 24, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. I believe dating can possibly make you gain weight. I personally do not have bad eating habits. I am extremely picky as to what goes in my mouth to my stomach. Most people eat because of their love for food. I eat purely for survival. I have a few favorites, but I eat because I have to. As a result, it’s easy for me to leave the desserts, fast food, etc. alone.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 24, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

Morning everyone

I tend to eat more (and yes worse) when I am dating seriously than when I am alone. My ex had horrible eating habits (oh gosh I shudder to think about it) but our problem was we ate late at night alot! But I was happy and in love so I went along with the program. I was upset b/c I maintained the same size forever and then started dating him and whoosh, weight everywhere! LOL Of course when we had trouble and then decided on divorce I lost all that weight, baby weight and a few xtra pounds!

Hope everyone had a great weekend.

By The Truth

September 24, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

Good morning blogsville. I hope you all had a great weekend.

On topic: Thunder Dan I cosign 100%. I will never stop hanging with my partners tho. I think that time apart makes you better able to enjoy your partner.

I think dating can lead to unhealthy activities unless you meet a chick like Foots that likes to keep it moving. A great date can be a weekly walk at The Silver Comet or hiking thru mountains. Get physical.

I absolutely love a woman thats comfortable in the kitchen so I never have a problem with that. It saves money and is much healthier if the 2 of you can cook lite. I am so over the usual dating ritual of going to every expensive joint in the city to prove I’m interested. Come over, lets cook, chill, find out who you really are instead fo your rep.

Hi Raqi, Similac, Red and Sexy.

Sexy I used to do that, eat for survival. Then I started making a little loot and started eating for pleasure. Now I’m trying to get back to that mindset but must admit I love ice cream.

By Atlanta Pearl Girl

September 24, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

When I’m really in my ‘zone’….. even when I’m dating I’m much more careful about what i order…and usually try to eat only l/2 of the food and get a to go box.

It’s doable.

Atlanta Pearl Girl

By SexyLeggs

September 24, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

Truth, have you made any casseroles yet and if so how did the dish turn out?

By Foots

September 24, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this

Good morning all! I definitely like to keep it moving, Truth, I love to dance. I’m not big on working out, but I like to take walks with the guy I’m dating. You do find out a lot when you have that kind of one-on-one time without distractions.

I haven’t gained weight due to dating someone, but I think it’s possible. I hear all the time about how folks get comfortable in relationships and pack on pounds. Or they don’t cut out the things that they usually did when they were single.

I’m all for dating a man with some type of physical hobby; the last guy I dated played soccer. He did go to play less when we were together though. I head that stuff off at the pass by having scheduled times for classes that I’ve already paid for. That way, I can keep doing my activities even though I’m with someone.

By BlatinoBrutha aka BLAT aka "Where the HE!_!_ have you been???"

September 24, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

…..Blat enters the Blog boxing match style, with Heavy D’s “Big Daddy” playing in the background…..

Morning, Blog Peeps!!!

On topic, Dee Blatino will readily and unashamedly admit to being the offender in this category…. Which is why I’ve gotten into the skinny mini’s. If they gain a few pounds while we’re dating, it’s all good cuz they probably needed them anyway.

By Tazzee

September 24, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this

Morning folks!

When dating I do eat out more and work out less. I was in one relationship where we worked out together and that was great. But for the most part, dating does interfere with my regular health plans. I am a person that loves to eat good food if I go out. But when cooking and eating at home, I keep it healthy.

By Foots

September 24, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

Atlanta Pearl Girl usually try to eat only l/2 of the food and get a to go box

I always try to do this when I go out, especially at a place like Cheesecake Factory where they give you just too much dayum food. I think they’ve started to pull back a little; their portion size was ridiculous.

Diva Since dating and food are a part of our topic today, can we have a topic one day where we post our favorite healthy recipes for 2? I’d love to get some ideas in a structured format from the bloggers (list of ingredients/quantities, directions, cooking temp and time, etc).

By Cemeeli

September 24, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this

Hey Truth. Yes i had a great weekend thanks. And thanks for the idea for my next date. I will suggest it. Silver Comet Trail this time of year is perfectly rated for a date. Cool…

By Foots

September 24, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

Class update Oh my goodness!! That ballet class I took on Saturday has my calves burning two days later!! I’m definitely adding this one to my monthly to-do list!!!

Have you ever been involved with someone who had horrible eating habits?

No, not really. In most cases, it was the opposite. Dudes that ate like birds and was after me about my eating habits, which aren’t overly bad. I just eat what I want to and watch how much of it I eat. It doesn’t bother me as long as he doesn’t criticize me. But if I had a choice, I’d rather date someone with nearly the same eating habits as I have. It makes food prep SO much easier at home when we eat the same type of thing.

By Wise Diva

September 24, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this

Hey everyone!

that’s a great idea Foots, we can get some recipe swapping in today, if you guys want. I don’t mind at all, we just have to beware of the topic making us all ravenous by noon!

I have one I can toss in the mix (no pun intended). I have to think up an official recipe because I sort of made it up, but it is always a hit with my friends and the special guys who actually got me to cook for them :)

By Staceye

September 24, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

Morning all… I would have ot say I do not gain weight when I date someone because working out at the gym is a Mon-Fri thing for me. I do it after work and plan whatever dates or activities afterwards. That allows me to eat what I want. Like Foots, I love to be active. I love to go to Stone Mountain and hike. When it’s nice outdoors I like to strap music on my arm and run the neighborhood (my friend calls me Forrest Gump). I also dance a lot..even after I work out. I come in and dance in my house for an hour…or after I eat a fatening meal I get up and dance to burn it off.

FOOTS I overslep and missed my belly dance class. I do want to check out the Risque Ballet. You make it sound so good. I love to ache after a workout…I know I worked the muscles. If you do ballroom, your calves will hurt because it’s done mostly on the toes.

By SexyLeggs

September 24, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

I have had comments in the past about how little I eat. As you guys may remember, I am a size 4 and I don’t eat big portions of food. I eat about every 2 hours. I always eat breakfast and munch on fruit all day. I most often have heavy lunches (meat, rice, gravy and veggies)and heavy dinner. I would rather date a guy that prefers to cook at home than going to a restaurant 3x out of a week. That’s crazy to me. Truth eat your ice cream and enjoy. Simply cut back on some of the other fattening things you really don’t need to truly enjoy your ice cream and its calaories.

By Cemeeli

September 24, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

Hey Foots remind me to kick my self. As you know i was al la babysitter Friday night right? Okay ,planned to wake up and get the return favor for the hour of R-ballet class uh-huh. But us folks…nevermind, cause I can vent for a minute on this one but it’ll remind me. I digress…couldn’t make it.

Glad to hear you got your work out on. Even though your claves are waving at people walking behind you. LOL.

By The Truth

September 24, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this

Sexy I didn’t cook at all this weekend. I went to our monthly get together last night and ate some great food and had wonderful convo. You know the Truth always has to be the radical party. Shake things up a little. We always have a ball. I may be a male chauvinist because I love for a woman to serve me. Food just tastes better. LOL

By Cemeeli

September 24, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

@ Sexy… im a all-day-muncher too. i keep healthy snacks every where. Office, home car and my gymbag so i try not to be caught ‘off guard’ during the day. My co-workers and friends say i eat like a bird. But I tell them i can eat smaller portions at meal time because i’ve eaten all day. So it balances. And if i can get back in my 4’s I’m doing really well because lately i have been on the lazy side since my work scheduled increased. I miss the conjoined multi-tasking w/ my son practices and i get out there and walk/run to get that extra work out.

By kinderbabe

September 24, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

good morning, all.:)

hmmm…on topic: as far as gaining weight goes, i can see how people can gain weight when a relationship is new. there’s a lot of eating at restaurants (at late hours..lol), having dessert more than usual and laying around that happens. the key is to balance it out with activities like walking in the park, hiking and…well, of course sex…lol. a gym date is a nice alterative too, that way you can eat afterwards w/less guilt..lol. meeting someone who’s active like me would be a plus since i enjoy going to the gym. meeting someone who’s a vegetarian or vegetarian-friendly would be cool too. if you guys know anywhere that fit, vegetarian men hang out, let me know.:)

By Cemeeli

September 24, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

Kinderbabe there is this one spot in the Westend/Ralph David Abernathy that is a cool lil vegetarian spot (can’t think of the name of it) it is right across from a natural hair salon Tajhaad Natural Hair i think that’s the name of the salon. I’ve only been there once but the place is run buy two very nice young dude and the clientale is surprisingly majority men.

By AmazonRed

September 24, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this

Blatino, I get that ALL the time!!! Certain guys really are into dating “slim goodies” knowing that when it’s time to knock out a kid, they should be okay because they have weight to gain.

I just hope guys like you are really into a girls personality and what she has to offer instead of just stepping to her because she has a small frame!

By Dee

September 24, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

I do think that dating makes you gain weight. I am a naturally slim/slender female and it has always been difficult for me to gain weight. In the 1.5 years since I have been dating my current boyfriend, I actually have gained 10 lbs from eating out so much. I have recently had a change in my budget and haven’t been able to eat out as much and have quickly lost that weight.

By SexyLeggs

September 24, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

I’m truly am not trying to be funny. Please, nobody hurt me too badly…LOL…but since my divorce my entire outlook is so much better. I can actually hear the birds sing more clearly. No kidding! The glow is evident, but the one thing that has grown is my butt. I don’t think this is from food, but it can be. I actually have a cute butt now. Never really had one. Some of my female co-workers have asked me who’s been rubbing on it because it’s that obvious. Nothing else has grown but that. Any explanations…

By AmazonRed

September 24, 2007 11:51 AM | Link to this

I’m also an all day snacker. Unfortunately, my current snacks of choice are Skittles and potato chips. LOL

By BlatinoBrutha aka BLAT aka "Where the HE!_!_ have you been???"

September 24, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

‘Sup, AmazonRed. Of course the personality it utmost, i’m just picking from that pool. LOL. I still be hanging wit my thick mamas, but wifey 1 was supah thick and want a little variety for #2.

By SexyLeggs

September 24, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

I’m about to give you guys an appetizer dish that all will love. When you make it, most will ask about.

Pecan Cheese Ball

2 8oz pkg Cream Cheese 1 lg can Crush p’apple (drained) 1 c green onions (finely chopped) ˝ cup green pepper (finely chopped) 1 ts. Garlic powder 1 ts. Accent 1-2 cups pecans pieces finley chopped.

(You may have to chop pecans some more yourself)

Mix all ingredients (except pecans). Shape into a ball. To be honest this is hard to do for me so I simply shape mine into a meatloaf. Spread pecans on top (Best when let stand overnight in fridge)

Serve with Club House Crackers..

By G

September 24, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

I usually prepare my meals throughout the week, and eat what I want on the weekends. The more I prepare and not eat out, the better results I get. During the week I keep it simple and lean:

For breakfast…….I need to do better. Usually it’s just a cup of coffee. I fix oatmeal, a protein shake, or eat a lean pocket when I get time. I’m still working on it.

For Lunch…..The meat is usually baked chicken breast or salmon. I’ll throw in a steak every now and then. I’ll add whole grain rice / baked potato and a veggie (preferably something green). I drink all water, some Gatorade, and no sodas. No bread for lunch.

Fruit and nuts are a good snack between meals.

I know my recipes sound bland and blah, but they work. I’m not that emotional when it comes to food.

By kinderbabe

September 24, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this

cemeeli i am familiar with that area. sounds like your talking about soul vegetarian. i have been a vegetarian for almost 12 years so i know all the spots.:). i have found it difficult to meet veggie men here in atlanta, well the kind i want anyway…lol. there should be sometime of veggie dating service…lol. that would be cute.

By Dan

September 24, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this

@Sexy, ARed

Thanks for the tips ladies, I never thought of a gym-date, I’d be afraid of trying to do too much to impress her and end up hurting myself.

On that note, Truth, Man you got to get that cook on, dude. It’s a “special” conversation with a young lady and she can hear you cooking. Hamburgers, hot dogs, not so much. But be on the other end chopping garlic, onions, and basil to add to the tomato sauce and….yeah. They like that.

PS Rachel Ray (Who I am secretly in love with) has a bunch of 30 minute meal books, and they be on point.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

September 24, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli:

Girl, does that salon cater to women also?

Sup Blog!!

By NCGirlfromATL

September 24, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

Sup y’all. Funny you should mention the cooking thing Wise. I spent part of my Saturday this weekend at Barnes & Noble buying cook books. LOL! Actually, I was waiting for Sears to patch a hole in my tire, and ended up at the bookstore. I got 3 big, hardcover cookbooks. Two from the Cooking Light magazine, and one was Betty Crocker (had one a long time ago, and lost it when I moved). I made Chicken Francois for dinner and it was delish! Low cal and low fat. Also made (check this!) low cal/low fat cream cheese brownies…ahem…from scratch. And they were soooooo good!

I love to eat out. But, it’s hectic on the waistline and the pocketbook. So, I’m trying to cook more and eat at home more often. I’m actually a pretty good cook, but since most of the time it’s just me, I don’t enjoy it that much. Too many leftovers. Now I’ve got some tricks up my sleeve, and don’t have to break out the old single woman’s staple…spaghetti…to impress a brotha. LOLOL!!

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

September 24, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

Sup KB? How’s school going?

I’m sorry, I can’t really comment on the weigh gaining while dating thing, because I haven’t been on a really good date in a minute. And the last guy I was dating didn’t like to eat out because he was such a health nut. I made lasagna one night though that was the bomb. He asked next time could I make it with ground turkey instead. I just hope he realized that I used sausage also. Hey I’m from NY, what can I say? I’m not a health nut, but I’m no slob either.

By FCM

September 24, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this

I think it does. When I am not on a date, I tend to eat earlier in the day…..When I date/am on a date, it usually does not start until after 8 and has food/drinks….its part of the whole social part of dating….so I eat late, don’t get enough sleep, all the bad habits for putting on weight.

By The Truth

September 24, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

Thunder Dan I put it down myself but I love getting served also. As I said I need to work on my side dishes but I do pretty good. Every chick I have ever cooked for still asks for that treatment. Its nice to be able to give as well as receive.

In my repertoire I also use the foot massager (with warm water), the body massager, and the lavender shower gels. A chick can leave with a full belly and totally relaxed. LOL

On a sad note, I haven’t met many chicks lately that I wanted to pamper.

Sexy I may have to get you over here to coach the Truth. I could really up my game with direction from you. LOL

By Wise Diva

September 24, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

FCM, that is so true, the time of day makes a big difference. Question, why don’t more of us go on daytime dates?

If you scheduled a daytime date, would you feel obligated to spend the entire day AND night together?

By AmazonRed

September 24, 2007 12:26 PM | Link to this

Ha! @ Blatino, nothing wrong with seeking a little variety. There are several benefits to dating a “slenda tenda”, many of them can’t be mentioned in this blog…but of course I’m a little biased. ;-)

@ Dan, I have to admit in the past if a guy asked me out on a gym date I might have looked at him like he was from Mars. I have to admit I was being really lazy. However, the impression part goes both ways. If he were really into some kind of activity, I’d probably be more prone to do it. So I say go for it now. A month a go, doing 3 miles would have sent me for the oxygen tank. Now I knock it out pretty easy. A big feat for me as I’ve NEVER worked out before!

By SexyCool

September 24, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this

i can definitely attest to being a victim of relationship weight gain…i gained about 40 pounds when i started dating this guy that was 6’3 and 270…i had maintained at a size 10 for years…then when we starting seeing each other, i slowly started ballooning and what’s worse…did not realize the effect that it was having on me until i was 40 pounds into it…

four years later…now that i am back on the right track…nothing can sway me…not even Coach’s horrible eating habits…even though…i must say…he’s been taking note of the changes that i have made in my habits recently and i can see him making small changes as a result…

but right now…he eats too many MAN SIZED portions and gets too many calories from sweet tea, koolaid and coronas…

By asdfjl

September 24, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

It definitely causes weight gain! I started dating my girlfriend in May, and we weighed ourselves about a month ago — both up 12 lbs, and we started at 120 and 155 respectively! Granted, it has been fun. I can tell we’re bigger now. We have decided to start eating more fruits & vegetables, and we are cutting out the ice cream and other desserts.

By kinderbabe

September 24, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

hey mochalatte:) school is getting better now (grad school and teaching). the year started off in a rough fashion :( but the kids are getting better and grad school is getting a little easier. i am enjoying the last of my hour break right now…lol. at least i just have til 2:30 then it’s off to part 2 at GSU.

how have you been?

By Jake aka The Smooth Operater

September 24, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

What up Peeps:

How are you ladies today? What up MLB.

Dating can put pounds on you when you reach the comfort zone. When sitting and chillin is as cool as anything else, you are more likely to eat up, let it settle, work it off, and go to sleep. A Fat Formula, because the work it off step isn’t always there…lol

Dan/Truth Cooking-the ladies won’t want to admit it, but if you are serving great food with a side of Peeda Leeda, they get hooked so quick. You become a conundrum, a man who can cook very well (soft side), then you turn around and take her to bed and go Neanderthal on that thang, she won’t know how to describe you.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

September 24, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this

KB That’s good. I’ve been fine. Just hanging in there. The one good thing I can say is that I’ve finally finished painting my bathrooms. Now all I have to do is hang up the chair molding, the baseboards and light fixtures and it’s a wrap! I can’t wait to finally finish, then I can move on to the living room!

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

September 24, 2007 12:56 PM | Link to this

Oh, and also….

Go Cowboys!!!!

Cause the Bears got that thang spanked in they own house.

Disclaimer: I apologize to all the members of the WLB/MLB who may be Bears fans. I’ll be providing warm hugs and tissues to anyone who needs them.

By mqew

September 24, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this

Afternoon all,

I had to weigh in (pun intended) as I have definitely fell victim to the dating lbs. But, I am a (self-appointed/inspiring) chef so I looooove food. I’ve pretty much maintained a size 6 by having a couple of pair of jeans that lets me know to back away from the table. I’ve always been an athlete, so it’s not a problem to bring it back by going to the gym at work, Bally’s by the crib, or the athletic club on the weekends. It’s definitely a plus to find that person who is on the same page… or at least in the same chapter. My other half has at least gained 60lbs since we’ve been together. I’ll take some blame for it because my food is definitely the bomb, but not all as he likes sweets (and I don’t bake), and sugary drinks. Also, he is an athlete, but he got hurt so….

As such is life, I think there is a balance that people can achieve or at least strive for. Decadent but not fat/calorie laden. I call it Simple Indulgence. My .02

By BennyB

September 24, 2007 1:19 PM | Link to this

Gaining weight triggered by dating a new prospect is a sign that the relationship is a toxic one. Some people ignore their longtime friends when a new lover comes to the picture (pro friend zone women are very good for this) but when one ignore the self and his/her own body for the sake of the relationship….a BIG disaster is around the corner.

What happened to the RED FLAGS? I been told long time ago that gaining weight is a big red flag that a relationship is detrimental….Are we that needy for love?

By SlimOne

September 24, 2007 1:22 PM | Link to this

Well a Howdy Doody Hello to all yawl

I can’t say that being a relationship caused me to gain much weight. I think the natural progression of age has caused my hips to spread just a tad wee bit more. Actually, I’m about to join a gym and hopefully start working out next week. I don’t want to lose anything but just tone up, build endurance, and strength. I’m excited

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

September 24, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this

Slim you just go girl!!! I’ve been running around the track in the evenings. Even my mom has got into the health kick. She hurt herself on Friday though, so she was laid up most of the weekend. She gets up at 6am and does one of those workout tapes and then does another one when she gets home. She says she alternates to keep motivated.

By Cemeeli

September 24, 2007 1:35 PM | Link to this

Back from lunch. Since we are talking food today. How about i had Singapore noodles w/Thai Chicken for lunch and it was good. Anyone with a quick recipe to share?

Mochalatte I’m a Dallas fan also, yes they SPANKED IT!!! Great game great game…expecially after my beloved Falcons lost. Also the salon spot i mentioned does cater to women.

Kinderbabe A Vegetarian Dating Service…ookay. Let me know about that one! LOL.

By The Truth

September 24, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this

Mocha wasn’t that a nice a* wuppin Chi-Town took last night? Dallas made them look like kids. Say what you like about T.O. but that dude is BAD.

Early prediction: Oakland Raiders to the playoffs. This may be the best year for football in years.

Hey Slimmy

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

September 24, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this

Amen for you Cemeeli. I have gone natural and I can’t think of a thing to do with my hair besides braids. I need to be up in that spot quick!

I hear you about the Falcons too. I don’t even know what to say I’m so disappointed, but it’s like my mom said, “No one in the league wants to be the one to say they lost to the Falcons.”

By SlimOne

September 24, 2007 1:58 PM | Link to this

Mochalatte I really want to do the kickboxing because i have a lot of pent up aggression that tends to come out in the form of drunken I hate you text messages. LOL So a little punching and kicking will definitely put me on my way to a more positive healthy mental future. hehehehe I’ve also started reading The Game of Life by Florence Scovvel Shinn and will start The Secret thereafter. So i’m trying to gain some more positive habits mentally and physically.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

September 24, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this

OK!!!

Truth Tony Roma, Marion Barber and T.O. are my new best friends!! I’ve always loved the Cowboys, but this year they are kickin’ azz and taking names later.

By SlimOne

September 24, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this

Hey Truthster Slim runs behind giving Truth a church booty pinch

By kinderbabe

September 24, 2007 2:05 PM | Link to this

cemeeli well, i figure, if they can have a dating/hookup/website called “booty call” then having a vegetarian hookup line is definitely harmless…lol. it doesn’t get any more triflin’ than that. i’d call the vegetarian dating service, veggie singles…lol. i’ll keep you posted.

By Tazzee

September 24, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this

SlimOne a punching bag is a great release. You can get one for $99 and just have it in the corner of your room. Also, I recommend reading Your Best Life Now by Joel Osteen to get a better outlook on life.

By Bella

September 24, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

I try to be pretty health conscious, but sometimes you find yourself eating wherever your man, or even friends, eat. Like last night, when I downed a double order of hash browns at WaHo and topped it off with a cherry sprite. Not so great.

However, I would NEVER blame a man (or anyone else) for my weight gain. It’s my job to say no if it’s not good for me. No one else is responsible for the way I look!

By Cemeeli

September 24, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

Truth…the Raider’s in the playoffs??? That would be something. My Cali friends would be sending you ‘shot outs’ for you saying that about the Raiders. LOL. Let them tell it, they hate my Falcons. But they don’t ever come around me with that Falcons bashing foolishness. I set em straight ‘bout their lil ladies i meant…Raidies.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

September 24, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

I feel you Slim I have just recently got off the “I hate you so much right now” text messaging plan. I started working out to relieve the stress of it all and to take my mind somewhere else. I figure if you thought I was cute then, just wait a d*mn minute, because I’m about to turn up the heat in this… Well you know what I’m saying. So I’m trying to get used to eating breakfast, lunch and dinner and snacks in between so I can start speeding up the metabolism and really kick this thing into high gear. Kickboxing sounds hot!! I’m in D’ville though and I doubt they have anything like that out here. If I hear anything I’ll let you know though. Tell me how the books go, I’m always looking for recommendations. (I’m a book nerd!)

By Wise Diva

September 24, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

that’s a great point Bella, I surely called BS on Dennis’ excuse, and I don’t think his girlfriend bought it either, LOL.

It seems like a lot of places are offering healthy alternatives, though.

By NCGirlfromATL

September 24, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

So Jake…what’s your special recipe? I see Truth is trying to up his game getting recipes, etc. What do you make that is a panty-peeler? Dan?

Ladies, do you have any special meals that have worked magic on your man?

By The Truth

September 24, 2007 2:20 PM | Link to this

Similac that kind of talk strains our relationship. However, you’ll be apologizing before years end. The Raiders already had a great defence last year and now the offense is moving, and Russell hasn’t suited up yet.

The Falcons have been clipped, they’re thru. Its a wrap. If they win 3 games it’ll be a good season. I think we can set up a scrimmage with a local high school team, if we tell the high schoolers to go easy on them. LOL I think there was 3 tailgaters yesterday.

A great book is “The Secret”. If you want to know why you keep attracting what you do read it. Hopefully it won’t hurt those feelings.

Go Fakons and take those Hawks with you. LOL

By Cemeeli

September 24, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

KB So at the “Veggie Singles” dating service a girl can order the Pasta w/white beans, dried tomatoes and Spinach entree’ with a side of fresh “Tall Dark and Handsome”? LOL

By SlimOne

September 24, 2007 2:31 PM | Link to this

Tazzee I wrote that title down so i can pick it up once i’m done with these two books. I preciate the referral.

Mochalatte I’m sure your area has to have some sort of kickboxing or something that you could sign up for. I didn’t even know that place i’ll be going to offered it but it was a nice surprise. I’ll give you all a report once i get through my first week.

NC My dude always liked my cream of mushroom chicken with wild rice and a veggie on the side. Dayum, yall gonna make me wanna cook on my day off. Shucks!

By 2CPTG

September 24, 2007 2:31 PM | Link to this

Afternoon, all….Slim, The Secret is an excellent read……

can’t relate on the topic, as I’ve personally never gained weight while dating….Lady in Red, are you still open to topic suggestions? I got a hot one for ya….

By Tazzee

September 24, 2007 2:34 PM | Link to this

Mochalatte LOL @ Tony Roma!!! I guess it’s the topic of the day that got to you.

The Truth You better stop talking about my Falcons. The Raiders win their first game in 3 years and you’re talking playoffs??? Playoffs?!?!? said like Jim Mora - and you know you’re lying about the tailgaters because we were out there in full effect. Yeah, we don’t know what’s going to happen on the field so as my friend and I said yesterday ‘all we got is tailgating and talking ish!’

By SlimOne

September 24, 2007 2:34 PM | Link to this

Truth I already have “The Secret” but already started the other book. Can’t wait to get into it though. At the next blog get to gether i will commit to doing 3 chin ups successfully. LOL!

By AmazonRed

September 24, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this

Truth, you have gained a new level of respect in my book with your prediction that my old hometown team DA RAIDERS will make the playoffs. If they do, dinner on me for your optimism!

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

September 24, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this

Tazzee You got me there! That game was just so good I didn’t know what to do with myself. The kids probably thought I was being abducted from the house I was yelling and screaming so much. It’s a wonder I have a voice this morning!

Slim I’m going to look into it. The only gyms around here are Gold’s Gyms and there is one 24-hour gym, but I don’t ever see too many people frequent it.

By Wise Diva

September 24, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this

yea, of course, Mr. 2. I am Always open to hot topics ..within reason, of course :)

By Cemeeli

September 24, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

Truth The dang blog divorce papers are waiting in NC’s office!!!

“The Secret” WTH…I’ve got a secret for you alright!

AND I want all my palamony payments before the 5th. And don’t bring them lil look-a-likes around me talking bout you sorry and can you get a glimpse of Warrick’s ring while he’s out at training camp? Should’ve known better than to trust that smile.

IT’S OVA!!!

By Foots

September 24, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this

If you scheduled a daytime date, would you feel obligated to spend the entire day AND night together?

Diva Yep. Night time dates have a definite cutoff time. With day dates, it’s not so clear and it’s something that has to be specified. If you’re to the point where spending the whole day together is a good idea, then it’s fine. But in the beginning stages, I stick more to the evening hours.

I also like the anticipation of waiting all day to see him. And quite frankly, I just look better at night. Something about the way the sleep wears off my face. Kinda weird…

By kinderbabe

September 24, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

cemeeli of course! you got the menu just right…especially w/the side of tall, dark and handsome which is essential to every woman’s diet AND good health…lol.

have a great evening everyone. off to school! peace.:)

By Cemeeli

September 24, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

Wait Tazzee …he’s not serious about them Raiders. Can’t be.

Cemeeli on Google tryin to find Oakland Raiders and i keep getting directed to some rehab sign up page.

By AmazonRed

September 24, 2007 2:51 PM | Link to this

Too bad “healthy alternatives” taste like crap!

Coke Zero takes nothing like the real thing either. Those “taste confusion” commercials are a lie! LOL

By The Truth

September 24, 2007 2:51 PM | Link to this

Tazz when you leave the stadium can you please turn out the lights? I hear the tailgaters all wore masks. I’m glad you have spirit because you dam sure don’t have a team.

S.W. Dekalb 35

Atlanta Falcons 3

Oh yeah, when you have a winning organization like the Raiders your simply waiting for the next superbowl. Can the Falcons even spell Superbowl?

Now picturing Slim doing chin ups with her granny pannies around her ankles. LOL

By For Real

September 24, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

Psychiatric Professional: So Mr. Truth you are of the belief that ahem the Raiders, the Raiders, will go to the playoffs?

Turth: You dayumm skippy!!!!

By For Real

September 24, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

Parole Board: Mr. Truth are you saying that the Okland Raiders will got to the playoffs?

Truth: You dayum skippy!!!

By For Real

September 24, 2007 3:02 PM | Link to this

Jesus: My son are you sitting there telling me that the Oakland Raiders will go to the playoffs?

Truth: You dayumm skippy!

Truth now sitting in hellz with Art Shell discussing intricacies of the center sneak.

By For Real

September 24, 2007 3:04 PM | Link to this

For Real now slipping a 10lb weight into Slim’s granny panties while she tries to do a pull up.

By The Truth

September 24, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this

Red I know your not from Oaktown. Fremont High in the house. Born and raised on 28th ave. Tell me it ain’t so. LOL

similac I’ve thought about those palamony payments and I’d really like to work this out. No need to do something I’d regret later. Lets meet at the hotel by the airport late at night and see whart happens. Smooches.

By SexyLeggs

September 24, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this

Are any of you still interested in coming to my house to watch the game on Oct. 7th and edumacating me a little? Please be honest because I will have food. If plans have changed and you can come (for whatever reason), Ijust let me know.

By Wise Diva

September 24, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

AmazonRed, LOL..ok that’s not always true. Sprite Zero is fantastic!

By NCGirlfromATL

September 24, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli It’s ok baby…Just come on by when you get off work, and we’ll get the papers signed. (shaking my head) He said the Raiders? The Raiders? As in the Oakland Raiders? I’m not even a big NFL fan and I know better than that. Honey, I see your pain…Lawd!

For Real You stoopid! LOLOL!!

Amazing Red Girl, you might as well go on and eat…we don’t want you dying of starvation waiting on the Raiders or Truth. LMAO!! Y’all so silly!!

Back on topic: Have you guys ever dated someone who ate foods you absolutely hated? You’re a Mexican food fan, but he/she loves Ethiopean? Like kinder, you’re a vegetarian and your mate is a die-hard carnivore? How do you handle the differences?

By SlimOne

September 24, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

For Real Now you know my granny panties has a 3lb weight limit.

By india

September 24, 2007 3:18 PM | Link to this

hello, everyone hope all had a good weekend in atlanta, anything interesting go on in hot atlanta? please share with me the only news that went on where i live is about the torture victim that was held by 6 people in logan wv which is not far from where i live , so if anyone has any good news to share please feel free to share.

By The Truth

September 24, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

Tazz, similac, and for Real lets go to the next Falcons game together. I still know some folks at the jail so we can get in free.

The Raiders will be 2-2 after next weeks game with the dolphins. The Falcons will ne 0-4 after playing Dunwoody High. Authur Blank should be ashamed for calling those guys a football team.

By Jake aka The Smooth Operater/Kitchen Slayer

September 24, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

NC

All my recipe’s are special, but I make a mean azz Roast with a pineapple glaze that I have perfected, with traditionals like dressing with the real gravy, homemade mashed potatoes, and the Lemon Peppered Chicken Breast, wild rice, something green. I’m somethin like a bootlegg G. Garvin…lol. I can make whatever, depends on the lady and her desires. All dishes served with real Cornbread or Garlic bread.

By SexyLeggs

September 24, 2007 3:32 PM | Link to this

Meant to say if any of CAN’T make it let me know.

By Cemeeli

September 24, 2007 3:42 PM | Link to this

Hey Sexyleggs i think we got caught-up with Truth’s hidieous Raider mess. What’s your addy?

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

September 24, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

D*mn Jake I’m getting hungry just hearing you type.

Mochalatte sends Jake a side message that says she likes the chicken dish, what a sista gotta do? LOL

By For Real

September 24, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this

Truth We are going to have to change your name to Fantasy if you believe that the Raiders will be 2-2 at any point this year. Who are you watching the games with RandyT? We can go to a Falcons but there is no way in Hellz I’m going to that nasty, run-down, pizzy smelling, rat infested landfill. I had to get Tetchiness shot the last time I was there. Does Al Davis still make the players share cups?

The Falcons will have a better record than the Raiders. I just don’t have any illusion of them making the playoffs.

By Cemeeli

September 24, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

Jake Stop!

By Jake aka The Smooth Operater

September 24, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

Mocha Peach

You know what you gotta do. For desert we can get together and make a “Banana in the Split”, I’ll use extra Whip Cream for you.

By AmazonRed

September 24, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

Ah, Truth, I’m not from Oakland, I’m from L.A. That’s why I said “former” hometown team. I did follow the Raiders to Oakland though. They left in 94 and I graduated from HS in 96 when I went off to college at Berkeley.

I absolutely LOVE the bay tho. Glad to see someone representing the Bay up in here!!!

By Wise Diva

September 24, 2007 4:02 PM | Link to this

what in the deuce is a Tetchiness shot?

Jake, you just became 48% sexier with your food post. hmm. You will get 2% more if someone reports back that you didn’t put them in the ER.

By AmazonRed

September 24, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this

Hey India, are you a minority by any chance? I think we need to be strategic in where we set down our roots. There should be none of us living anywhere near W. Virginia!

I don’t know if you were sold on living in ATL during your vacation, but you should certainly think hard about living FAR away from anywhere in Logan. They’re crazy!

By Jake aka The Smooth Operater

September 24, 2007 4:05 PM | Link to this

Ceemeeli

You say stop as if I am bullshyttin, by the way the Lemon Pepper is made with real juice, not just seasoning. I gets down in the kithchen, and if you aint cooking on a gas, you just playin.

DISCLAIMER Gas stoves that is, real men don’t cook on Gas Grills.

By NCGirlfromATL

September 24, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

Jake…umm…baby…ummmm…what time is dinner? I’ll bring the wine and dessert! You cook like that for me, I’ll even wash the dishes! Daaaaaaaang!

By Rocky

September 24, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

I believe being in a relationship can make you lose weight. Knowing that I needed to lose weight for health reasons was already strong on my mind. But when I got into a relationship, I found myself looking at my relationship thinking, “What a handsome couple we make, if only I was 30 pounds lighter.” So my motivation was health first and then looks. Maybe it sounds a little vain but I wouldn’t want to look bad beside my man and vice versa. I guess it depends on if you are happy with yourself or if you know a change needs to be made.

By AmazonRed

September 24, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

WiseDiva, I have not tried Sprite Zero, but I bet you I won’t like it. Does it taste EXACTLY the same as regular Sprite? That’s my bone with Coke Zero, even if it is good (I hated it but my co-workers love it), don’t say it tastes like the real thing…it doesn’t! Blech!

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

September 24, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this

Wait NC you are going to have to get in line sweetie. I got dibs on dinner first! LOL

WD I’ll let you know if you can give Jake that 2% later.

Jake Call me when dinner is ready. Give me about 45 minutes to get there. My number is…

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 24, 2007 4:17 PM | Link to this

Truth as an alumni of SWD I was ROTFLMAO at your 2:51pm post!!! But I am a Falcons fans so I will support despite how dim the season looks!

Jake you had a girl salivating with your post, ya kno, the food and errthang!! :-) I am with Mochalatte!

By Jake aka The Smooth Operater

September 24, 2007 4:21 PM | Link to this

Wise Diva

I really hope that you didn’t think the name was a game. ER isn’t bad for you, Electric Relaxation that is.

“relax your mind girl, please settle down”

I’m out ya’ll, ladies, be nice, be nasty if its worth it…get at ya’ll later.

By Honey

September 24, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

Hi everyone hi Jake, you need to come break my stove in with that dinner, i’ll supply everything you need and then some ;) how’s everyone doing, i hope you’re having a great day. My day needs to fast forward to 5pm and i need a drink cause this has been a crazy day!

By Jake aka The Smooth Operater

September 24, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this

mocha check out the menu at redclay.ent@hotmail.com.

By Wise Diva

September 24, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this

yea, well, it does to me, AmazonR. When it’s chilled and ice cold, Sprite Zero tastes the exact same to me (somebody at Coca Cola holler at me for a commercial!)

and I forgive the Falcons for whatever they do this season, they have to adjust and transition! Even though I fussed and yelled during the game. I am still entertained and enjoy watching them play. Stay up Falcon fans!

By Cemeeli

September 24, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this

No Jake, sweetie i believe you can cook. The thing is …as i read along your post…i was stuck at…

All my recipe’s are special

…and…

Depends on the lady and her desires.

LOL, what’s a girl to say!!!

By DuShawn

September 24, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this

I can make one helluva mayonnaise samich. I pair that with the beef flavored Ramen noodles and sugar water.

By For Real

September 24, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this

I make a mean phish sandwich!!!! But if that is not your thang, then you can wrap you lips around my grilled cheese sandwich. Let say you don’t like the grill cheese sandwich (hard to believe tho), hold you coochie for this one, fried balonna with scrambled eggs on top. You have my permission to touch yourselves ladies.

By For Real

September 24, 2007 4:42 PM | Link to this

Du lol.. on the sugar water.. Man you have no idea how many whoopings I got for wasting my mamma’s sugar like that. If it wasn’t the sugar I was making lemonade with the lemon juice moms used to make her world famous lemon pound cake. She would beat my azz and then give a big warm slice of the cake.

By Bre

September 24, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this

Just stopping by real quick…to say go Packers. On of my favorite traders is a Raiders fan, I had to give him so many tissues over the years due to there loosing streak.

On Topic, it depends on where you are on the waistline and your outlook on your body. I’ve always been pretty slim, but as the mid 30’s are kicking in its harder to maintain. But with a “dime” on my arm I’m more aware of my body and trying to stick to being healthy and work out.

By Foots

September 24, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this

4 Real Now if you put a fried egg on that bologna with some cheese, and grill the sandwich using real butter, I can get with it. Reminds me of home… (sigh)

By Wise Diva

September 24, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this

For real , you are so nassy, thumping For Real upside his head LOL

DuShawn, you are so country. I LOVES it. LOL

By For Real

September 24, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this

Phoots What is Bolongna? Oh and I left out the hot sauce and mannayes.

Wise Ouch!!! Sniff, Sniff Is that the hand you were touching yourself with? Smells like pot-purri!!!

By Wise Diva

September 24, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this

Everyone have a wonderful and healthy dinner tonight!

Diva out

By Tazzee

September 24, 2007 4:55 PM | Link to this

The Truth Don’t believe what you hear man - there was a lot of cupid shuffling going on at tailgates, but no masks, LOL.

By SexyLeggs

September 24, 2007 4:59 PM | Link to this

Good night everyone!

By SexyCool

September 24, 2007 5:02 PM | Link to this

miracles and blessings…

By FCM

September 24, 2007 5:07 PM | Link to this

I have done some daytime dates…usually on weekends and then they are more ‘active’ in that they tend to be at a park, an activity (ball game or museum)…..however, those are usually further into the ‘relationship’ stage. I think we as people are just so into what ever we are doing in our daily lives that ‘dating’ is sort of superfulous to it all, at least in the beginning, so it is more like to be dinner and talking to see if there is some merit.