Misadventures in Atlanta

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

September 11, 2007 9:09 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone!!

Please don’t send the dogs after me, but I would have changed. If a guy asked me on a date and he didn’t feel that I was dressed appropriately for the evening I would defer to his taste. I would do this in an occassion where I’ve never been and have never met his friends before. The reason that I say this is twofold: One, he asked me to be his companion for the evening and the event…if I choose to accept his offer it is because I want him to have a good time as well as myself. Why accept a date and then go on it if I knew he would be uncomfortable. I can express my independence in so many other ways. Secondly, I have been places where when I got there I felt out of place because of my attire (whether that is under dressed or over dressed). The bottom line is to make it a win/win situation for the both of us.

Now, if I started to see a trend where he felt a need to consistently tell me what to wear then I would find it unacceptable.

However, I still ask my fiancee when he puts something on that might not be appropriate to change….sometimes he does….sometimes he doesn’t.

By SexyLeggs

September 11, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. Can’t wait to read TheTruth comments. I dress according to the event I’m attending. Let me ask you this Wise. Did your friend know she was going to meet “friends from church?” If I opened the door and my date commented the way he did, no doubt my feelings would have been pinched. Don’t know if I would have changed to go with him or simply stayed home. I wouldn’t have gone in the outfit whereby making both of us uncomfortable.

By AmazonRed

September 11, 2007 9:21 AM | Link to this

I feel you Lady Dark. I try to avoid such situations myself. If a date asks me to accompany him somewhere, I’d ask him “what do you want me to wear.” I found that you can find a lot about a guy and his taste that way, and also that many guys would enjoy “dressing their woman” from time to time if they could get away with it.

The main squeeze took me to meet his mom a few weeks ago. I straight up asked him what he was wearing so that I could compliment him. When I opened the door, I got the vote of approval. That makes both him and me feel good.

Anyway, back to the question: If a man remarked negatively about my attire, it probably be his fault. Mr. Uber Conservative should have given Rachel a little more insight as to what they were doing for the evening. Girls like to dress appropriately for where they are going (for example, she would have been p** if he took her to a bowling alley in that outfit!). So if men want us to wear what they like, they better be better at communicating.

By C tha 1

September 11, 2007 9:41 AM | Link to this

Guys, what do you like to see women wear when they are out with you? What do you consider trashy and cheap attire for women? Would you ever ask a woman to change her clothes because her attire was not appropriate for the plans you have?

Honestly, it depends on the situation. Hypothetically speaking if a woman I’m dating got booty, and hips she can’t hide in sweat pants I already know she’s gonna draw some attention. At the same time if she’s working with something dangerous and then accompanies me to a rather conservative outing in a stank outfit of course a red flag in my mind would go off. Ultimately, as the man doing the courting and planning of the date I’ll advise her on what to wear that would fit the occasion. Most women hate to feel over or under dressed because they want to be comfortable at the end of the day. Simple planning avoids alot of confusion and awkwardness.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 11, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

Mawnin Ladies!!

I agree with you Amazon Red, I like to ask my guy what he is wearing so I can better gauge what I will wear. Communication is key.

Now if he remarked negatively about my attire….well he would only get one chance to do that. After that we wont be going out anymore so it wont matter.

By Jewel

September 11, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

Good morning Everyone!

If he was familiar with her style of dress and thought it would be inappropriate, perhaps he should have informed her of the evening events prior to picking her up. That would be the mature way of handling the situation. Telling her to change after she has taken the time to primp herself was an insult to her feminine ego. Just my humble opinion.

By nature, women dress to impress their man, or the one whose interest they hope to gain. Generally, men want their woman to dress a certain way because of what he wants other men to think (or not think) about her. If a date remarked negatively, I would tell him to suck it up…or, give me some cash or his credit card to shop for something else! LOL! If my man asked me to change, I will honor his request. Actually, I would make sure that my attire is pleasing to his eyes without him having to ask.

I am not into the hoochie look, nor do I keep up with the latest fashions and fads. My style is classy, conservative and compliments my age and body type. This is not out of concern for what others may think, but rather about the respect I have for myself. If you have to pull and tug your clothing, something is not right…

Have a Powerful, Productive, Prosperous and Positive Day!!!

By Foots

September 11, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

Amazon So if men want us to wear what they like, they better be better at communicating.

You make a very good point. I like to know what type of date it will be before I get dressed, so that I can be dressed appropriately. Just a statement as simple as “dress for a nice dinner” would be helpful.

I am mindful about my appearance when I go out, because I do believe it’s possible for your clothes to say a lot about you before you have a chance to say a word. I remember stressing for days about what to wear to meet my ex’s family, and I knew that his mother would be there. I wanted to look nice and put together, not too high maintenance, but not too low rung either. I did the same thing when I met his friends.

I also agree with Lady Dark. I would have gone with him, but I would have changed clothes. There is a time and place for everything and every style of dress. You can’t always take it so personally if you make an honest mistake of getting your times and places out of whack.

By Foots

September 11, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

Hey Ladies! I registered for the Chair class for this Saturday, the 15th @ 11:45 and the Ballet class next Saturday, the 22nd @ 12 PM. Let me know if you’ll be joining in on the fun in either one… :-)

By Raqi

September 11, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this

Men are always griping about women trying/wanting to change them, but then you find them trying to make some women be who they are not. For her to have to changed her attire for him to make herself seem like someone she obviously is not would have been a bold face lie. Men…I tell ya…

By 2CPTG

September 11, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this

G’ Morning……hmmmmm, don’t think we’ve ever ventured down this road before, Wise…..personally, I don’t think a person’s attire makes that big of deal - not as far as dating is concerned, anyway. Hell, in today’s society, what can’t you wear? Just be appropriate for the occassion…formal, semi-formal, business casual, sporty, etc…..just state the category and let him/her pick out their own clothing….maybe it’s just me, but I have an idea of the type of person I’m dealing with waaaaay before we get to “date” day. After a few phone conversations, emails, texts, etc…..I know whether or not the other person has taste, and if their tastes’ mesh with mine….

By AmazonRed

September 11, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this

Hi Foots

AmazonRed will see you at the chair class on Saturday! I know I have a baby shower to attended that next weekend, but depending on the time I may very well be there too! Thanks for taking the lead on this.

By Jewel

September 11, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

I wonder…Wise, had he ever voiced concerns about your friend’s attire prior to this date? Or, was he simply concerned about what his “church” friends would think?

By 2CPTG

September 11, 2007 10:29 AM | Link to this

Raqi, it ain’t just men, sweetie……and, like Jewel just stated, Buddy was just trynna keep up appearances; he should have had some inclination what type of lady he was asking out…..I’m not about to take Chiquita to a church function, nor will I take Sister Mary to the night club…..just know whom you’re dealing with.

By Staceye

September 11, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

Morning all…. This has always been a touchy subject for me. If a guy asks me out….I want to knwo where we are going so I can dress accordingly. But accordingly is not what he wants me to wear…it’s what I want to wear. No man is going to tell me how to dress. What’s next…what I can and can’t eat? My fashion statements have always been a part of me. I remember a guy I was dating years ago….he met me knowing I like mini skirts. So once we became a couple he had a problem with he way I dressed. I told him that he met me in a mini…so why should I change now. He had the nerve to say I was dressing like a single woman. I let him know even if I am married that is not going to change my style because that is mine. I later dumped his insecure azz. He wanted me in baggy clothes (NOT…any girl with curves know that baggy clothes make you look fat), meanwhile his eyes probably wandered over to the chick walking by in the mini. WHATEVER! If the scenario came for me to me a guy’s parents…then I would not wear anything in front of them that I would not wear in front of my own parents. I refuse to be fake. I do nto put on a new act in front of his parents…again I would not do or say anything that I would not do or say in front of my own. I am Staceye 100% of the time. Take to or leave it! I could care less!

By BlatinoBrutha aka BLAT aka "Where the HE!_!_ have you been???"

September 11, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog!!! Blat’s a little late, but he’s got breakfast burritos n mimosas ya’ll know i’m an alkie

See, to me, this one dem situations that simply needed not to happen. When I first take a girl out, I’m used to her asking me where we’re going, and what to wear. If she doesn’t, and it’s something special, then i’ll go ahead and suggest something, like “jeans are OK”, or “maybe you should dress up”, or even, “this one’s kinda conservative”.

Guys should usually have a a good idea what a girl’s tastes are from what she wore when he met her…

OK………. So how come no one’s asked why in the He!!z he’s taking her to meet his church friends on a first date anyways????????????

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

September 11, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

Wise So how did the date end? Did they have a good time despite her attire? Will there be a third date?

By Foots

September 11, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

I don’t think a person’s attire makes that big of deal - not as far as dating is concerned, anyway….maybe it’s just me, but I have an idea of the type of person I’m dealing with waaaaay before we get to “date” day.

2CPTG Here’s my example of this. I met a guy at a youth church function on a Saturday. It was a very casual affair since it was outside and we were playing outdoor games. He had on shorts and a jersey when I met him. Okay, cool. We talked for a few weeks and yes, I could tell that he was not a “shirt tucked into pants w/ a belt” type of guy. When we went out for our first date (dinner at Atlantic Station), yes, he dressed JUST LIKE THAT. Except he had on workout pants and a jersey, a little variation on the theme. I did convince him to take off the doo-rag though. LOL!! My bad, I guess.

By Cemeeli

September 11, 2007 10:48 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Peeps!

“What Not To Wear”…anyone watch that show? Anyways….I think the best way for both to be dressed appropriatly would be ask date what he/she is wearing so you can gain an idea of what to wear. As someone else said communication is key. In some cases if you know of the atmosphere of type of place/s you will be going you’ll know what type of attire is suitable.

Hey Sexyleggs, MO, Foots, Jewel and Amazon.

Good points in your post 2CPTG.

By AmazonRed

September 11, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

Staceye, I’m laughing at the “dressing like a single woman” comment! Now that I’m approaching 30, I’d say “dressing like a YOUNGER” woman just because the last time I put on a mini skirt, I got an unwelcome suprised at what time and gravity can do back there! LOL

By Foots

September 11, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

Blat Some folks are friends with people they go to church with OUTSIDE of the church doors too. I don’t think he was taking her to meet them, just that they would be wherever they were going.

AmazonRed Yay!! I look forward to meeting you! So, um…taking cues from your name, are you tall and light-skinned?? Just wanna recognize you. LOL!

Back on topic, I don’t see this as being a situation where a man won’t let a woman be herself in choosing what she wants to wear. To me, it’s all about what is appropriate for the occasion. Myself, I would not wear to church what I wear to work. And I certainly wouldn’t walk up in my job wearing church sequins and fringe. I wouldn’t go bowling in an evening gown. Nor would I wear jeans to an event where Barack was speaking.

Regardless of if it’s what I picked out and it’s what I WANT to wear, if I have misjudged the occasion and it’s BEFORE I leave the house, it’s okay for someone to speak up to me, if for no other reason than to save myself some embarrassment. That’s one reason why I always over-pack on trips, just so I have enough choices to fit the different occasions I may encounter.

If this was a situation where it was a relationship with ongoing criticism of how I dressed, then it’s HIS problem, not mine. Y’all already know what I’d do in that case…

By Jewel

September 11, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

Doo-rag on a date! LOL! Too funny, **Foots! You are better than me. I would not have continued that date!

By 2CPTG

September 11, 2007 10:56 AM | Link to this

“When I was a child, I spake as a child…..but when I became a man, I put away childish things”……….Foots, no grown azz man should consider a jersey “going out” attire; unless, you’re going outside!!!

By Wise Diva

September 11, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

Good morning!

He told Rachel they were going to a restaurant for dinner, for a friend’s birthday. She didn’t even know he belonged to a church, let alone had a social circle of friends. She went on the date, said his friends were very cordial to her, and she didn’t get strange looks. I think she had the most problem with how he handled things, because his tone was inconsiderate and judgey (is that a word?). I think because he tried to berate her, she was turned off by that, but she isn’t going to dump him. I told her to watch that kind of thing with him, if he is too controlling, that could be an issue.

By Staceye

September 11, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this

Foots I have been out with a dude who looked like he just left the b-ball court and we were going to an actual restuarant. He asked me out so I assumed he would at least have on jeans and a button down. But I was like oh well…if that’s your style and you don’t care that you look different….by all means! You like it…I love it! LOL

By AmazonRed

September 11, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

Foots* - You are close. I am tall, but I’m brown skinned tho. I never really understood what “redbone” meant. LOL.

By Staceye

September 11, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed since when is 30 old? LOL Gravity should not start to effect you yet! Girl…lunges & squats can be your best friend!

Foots I always over-pack on trips too. I have had to pay over weight fee at the airport a few times. But It’s worth it to always be prepared. Oh…I will be out of town this weekend so I will not be able to attend class. I will check the schedule to see what’s next up that I can attend.

By Foots

September 11, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

Jewel/2CPTG Yeah, I know… He was a year older than me too. We didn’t date long, but I did give the brotha a chance.

Wise You’re right about the tone and delivery of a statement like that. If my friend was wearing something a little too “showy” for the occasion, I probably wouldn’t say “Girl! You look crazy! Put on some clothes!”, I would say something like “I think it’s going to be cold in there, maybe you should take a jacket or wear a warmer shirt”. That’s passive aggressive for sure, but it gets the point across without making somebody feel bad.

Staceye/SexyLeggs/IG/Cemeeli You coming to class too?

By Cemeeli

September 11, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

Doo Rag?…lol… come’ on that’s a bit much.

Wise Your friend should have had the ‘now what was your real issue with my outfit? converstaion on the way back from the date. Obviously his friends had no problem with her clothing.

Foots & Amazon You two shall see me at ‘chair’ Saturday…Yay! it will be cool to see you two there…

Foots I’m thinking about doing the Risque Ballet too.

So who else is in?

By SexyLeggs

September 11, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

Foots, I have to check w/my daughter’s schedule, but I plan on being at the class. Hey Raqi, Cemelli, Staceye, Jewel, etc.

Wise he deceived her and lied to her. She dressed for dinner out with her new date. For this to be their 2nd date and he came off the way he did was rude and wrong!

By Cemeeli

September 11, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

Amazon…Let’s say it together. 30 is the new 20! I am not claiming old by any means.

By SexyLeggs

September 11, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed, I still wear miniskirts. Unfortunately, I’m acquiring a little “plug” around the waist, but my ABlounge should help me shed that real soon. If you have the body, legs and mentality for miniskirts or younger looking clothes, as they say, then go for it. Life is short. I dress to impress MYSELF and then others.

By Foots

September 11, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

Staceye Oh, okay. We’ll see you at another time then!

Yeah, the last time I was at the airport, I was 3 pounds over, and you know that snitch was about to make me pay $25?? I was hot about that!! But then again… You aren’t allowed to be upset in an airport, so I had to cuss her out internally and in theory only. LOL!!

By AmazonRed

September 11, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

Staceye, I’m not saying 30 is old, but I do consider it getting oldER. And trust me, no one was as surprised as me to see that gravity was up to it’s old tricks. I didn’t think thin folks had to worry about stuff like that. HA HA jokes on me. Gravity told me to get in the gym!

By melo

September 11, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

No man is going to tell me how to dressStaceye

No wonder u find the dating scene in ATLANTA to be terrible,u are going to be single for a long time sweetie, with that100% Staceye attitude.

Melo is at home today,lurking and reading.

By Cemeeli

September 11, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

@Sexyleggs. What is ABlounge? …never heard…

By AmazonRed

September 11, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

Ladies Everytime I rejoice in gettting older, folks tell me I’m not old yet! Who wants to be 20 again? Wouldn’t you hate it if the best years of your life were BEHIND you? That would suck!

SexyLeggs, I agree that you should wear the sexy gear while you got it! I should have worn more miniskirts, now I have to pause before I put one on. LOL So from here on in, I’m going to walk around with my midsection showing all the time. I can still get away with that. LOL

By Raqi

September 11, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

2CPTG Now you know that if it had been stated that this was a male friend whose date had asked him to change what he was wearing the argument right now would be “women trying to change men”. I agree that one should know who they are dating. But I also say that physical appearance is what catches our eye first so if how she presented herself was eye catching at the start and it prompted a second date then he should be fine with showing his church family who he has chosen to keep company with.

You best believe if what he deems to be inappropriate for this set of friends is okay with him under any other circumstance, it’s only a matter of time before one of those “friends”” sees them together, should they continue to date, in her real self. What will be said then?

By AmazonRed

September 11, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

Ew…a doo rag on a date is a “no go” for me. I might not even leave the house if I see that mess.

By 2CPTG

September 11, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

Foots….kudos for giving him a chance without immediately dismissing him….what he did with that chance, was on him….

By The Truth

September 11, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

Hi ladies and gents.

On topic: I think a person should be able to wear what they want, however, that may be the info you need to go on to the next person. If your a conservative type dude, for example, and your going out with a chick that dresses like plat pow then you’ll always be uncomfortable with what she is. Don’t try to change her, enjoy her for what she is and move on. Some women can wear a circus tent and because of their natural gifts they’re going to draw attention. If you can’t handle that then move on.

A beautiful things is a woman that can dress for any occasion and make it look good. Go to a baseball game and she’s down with a t-shirt and jeans. And she looks dam good. A play, she’s in a nice pantsuit or dress. And she looks dam good. A picnic and she’s in a sun dress (my personal favorite, dam they are so sexy). And dam she looks good. Always a lady no matter the occasion.

For dudes it should be the same. If you go to church throw on a nice suit to represent the woman on your arm. Hanging out, some clean jeans and t. A picnic some linen or some nice shorts. Try not to embarass the woman on your arm.

I would want a woman that naturally dresses on the same level as me. That would be comfortable for me.

I know a female in the adult entertainment industry that I would never take anywhere. She always wears yeast infection tight pants and sweats and halter tops or thin shirts, and she’s packing d cups. That would get on my nerves. Plus her attitude is conducive to her line of business. While I enjoy her gifts I wouldn’t want to see it all day everyday. And i wouldn’t want my buddies coming by everyday. LOL

Hi Foots, SExy, Nipples, Red, Raqi, Staceye, Wise (great topic), Jewel, Mo. Wattup MLB and oh Great Pooba.

By Staceye

September 11, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

Foots the trick to not having to pay extra…take a carry bag one little thing in it..so that leaves space to take some clothes out to carry on and lighten that bag. No fees….Ilearned after 2 or 3 times of that internal cussing out myself! LOL

*Melo8 I’d rather be single than have some man thinking he can rule me. Now if he goes to buy my clothes and I like them then he can tell me what to wear. But as long as I work and take care of myself..I buy what I want and wear what I want. If a man can;t handle a woman with her own mind…then screw him because he is a weak man who wants a weak woamn and he is barking up the wrong tree. I am actually loving the single life. No drama and time to focus the things I trying to do in life. I dont have to make time for anyone…no emotional drama. I love it.

Amazon show what’s you best asset.I have to agree with you and SexxyLeggs. I can’t hide what men call my “ASSET”! But I also have long legs so I will show those as well. Enjoy your body now…when you are old and have to cover it you will need pictures and glory days to reflect on! LOL Sure you can blast Brickhouse at 70 while you dance in your granny panties….but please, only in your own bedroom with the mirror covered! LOL

By AmazonRed

September 11, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

The Truth As usual, your post did not disappoint! “Plat plow,” “yeast infection tight pants” - ROTFLMAO. Too funny.

By 2CPTG

September 11, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

Raqi, I think we’re saying essentially the same thing….Buddy appears to be the one fakin…..

By BlatinoBrutha aka BLAT aka "Where the HE!_!_ have you been???"

September 11, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

Sup, Truth!!!

By SexyLeggs

September 11, 2007 11:53 AM | Link to this

TheTruth, I’m your lady for all those occasions. Man, you had me hollering over here, out loud, with wears yeast infection tight pants. Whew!! Anyway, your post was right on the money (as usual).

By Tazzee

September 11, 2007 11:53 AM | Link to this

Morning all!

If a guy made a negative remark about my attire - in the way that this dude did - I would have turned around and left him standing there. Especially if its just the second date. I’m assuming that Rachel dressed with the same type of flavor when he met her and on their first date. So he must have liked her style. Dude can’t try to flip it for his ‘church friends’ - especially when he didn’t tell her in advance that he was trying to front during the dinner.

Now, if we had not discussed the attendees previously and he felt my attire was a little too revealing, I would have been open to him kindly asking me to change - but a sarcastic remark would get the door slammed in dude’s face.

Overall, I dress fairly conservative. The main complaint I’ve had from previous boyfriends is about my hair.

By SexyLeggs

September 11, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

Staceye, you’re my girl! You still need to lighten up. You walk and talk like a Ninja. Nothing is going to break you. I’m reading your post and the one thing I think of is “why is it wrong for a man to suggest or comment on your outfit without getting blasted?” Your man, your date, friend, should be able to comment on your clothing. If he can comment that you look sexy in something he should be able to comment if something just doesn’t look to good on you (whether he bought it or not). Constructive criticism is very helpful in one’s mental growth. If you don’t like what someone said you don’t have to blast them. Let water run down your back and move on.

By Cemeeli

September 11, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

Hi Truth Up to your norm i see. Who might grace your presence in yeast infection tight pants? Lol…Seriously knowing the type of man you are.

By Jewel

September 11, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

30 is old???! So what, “ya’ll” ready to cart Jewel off to the Blog Manor Assisted Living for Seniors!?! Haven’t you heard that 40 is the NEW 30? So, 30 has got to be the NEW 20! LOL!

By QueDogTeaching

September 11, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

What up blog Said while speed bloging.

Lets be real about today’s society. How you dress is how you get approached. Is it right? No. But if you are perceived to be dressed like a hoochie you will get treated like one. Examples, getting grabbed in the club, instead of someone just saying hello, or making eye contact. Getting the “what up girl, Dayum you fine” versus the “how are you, you are a beautiful young lady.” Getting the “let’s go get something to eat and go to my place tonight” after the club Versus “can I have your number and call you tomorrow”

Ask yourself, How do you get approached?

By SexyLeggs

September 11, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli Truth already told us who would “grace his presence” = a female in the adult entertainment business that although he likes her gifts wouldn’t want to see them everyday.

By Staceye

September 11, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this

Sexxyleggs He can say what he wants about my outfit….that is fine everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But I will not change for him that is what I’m saying. I dress for me….if I like it, that is all that matters. If he likes it…great we’re on the same page. Sorry I am feminist to the heart. I refuse to be told what to do by a man…a woman either for that matter. As a child you are told what to do. As an adult…I make my own decisions. Now I am not saying that what someone says will not be taken into account. But in the end the final decision is mine. You have to do al ot of things you don’t want to do like at work. But in my personla life….Nope!

By SexyLeggs

September 11, 2007 12:26 PM | Link to this

I hear what you’re saying Staceye, but it’s a game of semantics. He’s not “telling” you what to wear. He’s making a comment and perhaps a request to change. I’m glad to read that Now I am not saying that what someone says will not be taken into account*, but you really are saying quite the opposite! It’s all good. You are absolutely right, you rule YOUR WORLD.

By SexyCool

September 11, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this

one question…how does a guy LOOK like a player?

By 2CPTG

September 11, 2007 12:32 PM | Link to this

“I refuse to be told what to do by a man”…..ummmm, aren’t you the same one that was bashing your biological father a few weeks back? And bashing the Atlanta dating scene, as well….lil mama sounds like you have a lot of repressed anger built up inside of you…..

By The Truth

September 11, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

Staceye sometimes I feel the heat coming from your posts. I know there’s a sweety pie under all that armor and I wish you’d let it out. Whatever happened happened. Let it go so you can get all of your blessings. This comes from an old hard hearted dude thats learning late in life that without people you love and that love you you might as well be dead. Whoever hurt you continues to do so. Don’t let them win anymore.

Sexy I knew you’d be ready for whatever we have planned. LOL will I be over or under dressed with my trusty toolbelt?

Tazz why would guys have a problem with your hair?

If by chance I wasn’t dressed properly for an occasion I’d feel honored that the woman I was with let me know. Thats what we’re here for. I may not of understood the magnitude of the moment.

I recently bought a dinner jacket. A tux is next. I want to oneday go on a date that includes ballroom dancing. I have to learn how to first but I bet it would be fun. A beautiful woman in a flowing black dress and me all tuxed up.

Hi * Similac*.

By SexyCool

September 11, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this

going to get some popcorn to get ready for the show…brb

By Jewel

September 11, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this

Hello QueDog. What is the grade level that you teach? Have you heard about the Jena Six story?

Ladies Has your SO ever asked you to change a staple in your wardrobe? Not some Tom, Dick or Harry (or Tre, Darius or Henry, but someone with whom you were in a committed relationship or marriage?

I believe the level of commitment to the relationship determines the response from a man or woman.

By Wise Diva

September 11, 2007 12:56 PM | Link to this

A player look, well it’s actually a swagger, I think, really flashy, slick appearance, the bad boy look. I guess, LOL

By The Truth

September 11, 2007 1:02 PM | Link to this

Good post QDT. What grade do you teach?

Jewel good point also. If the recommendation comes from someone you respect and care for then it will be well received.

Similac I think you were asking me a question. I’m not into a woman that shows her camel toe everyday. I like a woman that has gifts outside of her physical ones. You know the kind you can talk with and have a great time with and when its time for the lovin all you can say is “where did that come from”? Its like QDT said, if you offer yourself as puddy you get treated like puddy. Unfortunately alot of women feel the only thing they can offer a man is sex. They short change themselves.

By Jewel

September 11, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this

Good question SexyCool. I think it is a gut reaction a woman has to something he says, his tone, possibly licking his lips while talking to you…you know, that hungry lion on a prowl look.

By Cemeeli

September 11, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this

Jewel I believe the level of commitment to the relationship determines the response from a man or woman. I agree!

If my dates says; Wear that slinky black dress and your lil sexy heels tomorrow night. Best believe he is #1. Taking me somplace other than hanging at the nearest neighbrhood eat out. #2. We have exstablished some type of relationship where he’s comfortable to say, and i am comfortable with him in my wardrobe.

If my date says; What is that you have on, take that mess off!? #1. I am to small to try and pick up a grown man weight 180lbs off the floor. #2. Repeat while kneeling down to his ear If you ever think you can talk to me like that …i’ll be changing my clothes alright….J/K. But it’s really all about respecting how you say.

By Tazzee

September 11, 2007 1:12 PM | Link to this

Hey Truth - I’ve received complaints about the ponytails I wear most of the time. If we’re going some place special during the week - I go the extra mile to wear my hair down. But my normal fare is ponytail during the week and down on the weekends. Sometimes I’d get ‘why don’t you wear your hair down more often?’ - but that’s about it.

Jewel I’ve had a guy tell me he hated a certain piece of clothing, but it was something I wore around the house. But that’s it.

By SexyCool

September 11, 2007 1:12 PM | Link to this

okay…i’m there…i was actually thinking about how a guy would DRESS like a player…not his attitude…or how he comes across…

i don’t even want to TOUCH the jena6 issue in this forum…and with all due respect…jewel…i don’t think this is the place…besides experience has shown that discussions that involve matters of race quickly deteriorate into nothing productive on this site…

By AmazonRed

September 11, 2007 1:16 PM | Link to this

Go head on The Truth, I love a man who is ready for all occasions. I ended up scoring tickets to a forma ball thrown by the 100 Black Men. I had a few options on who to invite but I was most impressed by the guy I was really feeling, who already owned a tux. We went and jaws dropped when we walked in the room. It’s wise for a man to make an investment in something like that, as it means he’s going places!

By DuShawn

September 11, 2007 1:20 PM | Link to this

if you are perceived to be dressed like a hoochie you will get treated like one Dave Chapelle had a comedy skit on this subject. To paraphrase: “Imagine if I were dressed as a police officer and you saw me on the street and needed help. But when you frantically approached me for assistance, I said I’m not a police officer. I just got on the uniform..…” That’s how men feel about women who dress too provocatively. You might not be a hoe, but you dayum sure got on the uniform.

By DuShawn

September 11, 2007 1:20 PM | Link to this

if you are perceived to be dressed like a hoochie you will get treated like one Dave Chapelle had a comedy skit on this subject. To paraphrase: “Imagine if I were dressed as a police officer and you saw me on the street and needed help. But when you frantically approached me for assistance, I said I’m not a police officer. I just got on the uniform..…” That’s how men feel about women who dress too provocatively. You might not be a hoe, but you dayum sure got on the uniform.

By 2CPTG

September 11, 2007 1:21 PM | Link to this

I’m with you, sJea; I’ve never seen the “player” section in men’s clothing stores….

By Jewel

September 11, 2007 1:23 PM | Link to this

You are correct, SexyCool. My blood boiled when I heard the story. But, I was not asking for a lengthy discussion. I know Que teaches and it sparked a thought about those young lives. I just hope all who knows do their part for justice.

By AmazonRed

September 11, 2007 1:29 PM | Link to this

QDT nice try, but there are so many different types of men out there, you can be come at crazy no matter what you wear. You’ll usually catch me in jeans and a baby tee and I’ll still get grabbed or approached with respect. Some guys simply have no shame, no home training and nothing to lose!

By The Truth

September 11, 2007 1:42 PM | Link to this

Jewel and Sexycool I just read that story. Its just another incident to show how far we must still go. Parts of this country are stuck in the 40’s.

Red what is baby tee? I’m glad you enjoyed yourself. Whats that 100 black men thing about anyway?

Tazz my sister just left saturday and she still wears her ponytail at 50. I liked it myself.

By SexyCool

September 11, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this

…but i have seen the “hoochie” section in the womens…lol…

By AmazonRed

September 11, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this

Hey Truth a baby tee is a t-shirt. However, it’s more form fitting to the body.

Atlanta has one of the largest 100 Black Men chapters in the country. The Atlanta chapter is the sponsor of the Atlanta Football Classic game held at the Georgia Dome. They are basically an all male community service organization consisting of the biggest movers and shakers in the Atlanta area. Basically, all the members are black men who own or have high ranking positions with in the companies they work for.

By For Real

September 11, 2007 1:53 PM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!!

On Topic: I love a women that can not only dress (I feel you Truth on the Sun Dress) for any situation but be prepared to handle any situation a lady (BTW, what happen to being feminine?). I agree based on the way Wise put it that dude could have told her in a better way to change her clothes but she also knew he is “Mr. Conservative” when she met him. So know who you are dating.

Off Topic: Ladies and Gentleman here is a PSA.

DRESS ACCORDING THE FOLLOWING:

AND FOR SHOES PLEASE WEAR ACCORDING TO:

THIS MESSAGE HAS BEEN BROUGHT TO YOU BY THE PEOPLE THAT HAD TO EXPLAIN TO THEIR CHILDREN WHAT BACK CLEAVAGE IS.

By Page1908

September 11, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this

lol at “hoochie” section in the women’s department.

By For Real

September 11, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this

ARed , all the members are black men who own or have high ranking positions with in the companies they work for. That’s not true. The organization was started so that black men (job or title doesn’t matter) can come together to help the community. So you have janitors and CEO’s in the organization. Very cool concept but like all thing it has changed.

By 2CPTG

September 11, 2007 2:06 PM | Link to this

Re: Jena 6 - Justice, or, Just-Us?

By Foots

September 11, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this

I had to catch up, but some of y’all have me rolling over here!

For Real You know what? I started buying dress heels and sandals at least 1/2 size bigger than my feet. There is nothing worse than a tight shoe worn during a night out, even if it IS your size. Buying a little larger helped me out.

That helped, and also buying the right size draws. I was in denial for a minute, since I had always been so small, but I went up a size and my attitude improved greatly! Changed my life!! LOL!! Is that TMI??

Player-type clothes on a dude? Hmmm… I’m envisioning a guy with his shirt unbuttoned halfway down, with a large pendant on his necklace getting hung up on his taco meat. Oh, and some Gators!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 11, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

For Real i am over here crying at Back Cleavage!!! LMAO!!!

The Jena6 situation……(Mo glaring at her screen in silence)..nuff said..

By Cemeeli

September 11, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

@ Truth…thanks for clearifilying that for me. All i could see was Clarence Thomas in your post about the ‘night girl’. LOL…

@Forreal…Hey, what is back cleavleage?

By Foots

September 11, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

“hoochie” section in the women’s department

In the stores where I shop, they’ve nicknamed it the “Junior’s Department”. Why do they want our teens to dress like that?? Goodness!!

Jewel Has your SO ever asked you to change a staple in your wardrobe?

I can’t remember if this has happened, so I’ll say no.

Truth I’m with you on this: If by chance I wasn’t dressed properly for an occasion I’d feel honored that the woman I was with let me know.

Would my ego be bruised a little? Probably. But hey, that’s why I have clothes for all occasions. I like all of my own clothes, since I bought them, so it’s nothing for me to run on upstairs and change into something I like just as well, but may be more place appropriate.

By AmazonRed

September 11, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

For Real Sorry to break it to ya, but I’ve seen their membership roster and you’ll find no janitors on that list. In fact, I was trying to find the regular joes because I have several friends who’d like to join but haven’t gotten to the right level yet.

By Cemeeli

September 11, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

Lol @ Foots EVERYTIME i see Taco meat i have to excuse myself from laughing so hard. What was Rambo thinking about when he got dressed?

By Cemeeli

September 11, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli sorry for all her grammar and spelling errors today. Massa gotta sista on edge today and i’m running away to blogland.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

September 11, 2007 2:28 PM | Link to this

Truth If by chance I wasn’t dressed properly for an occasion I’d feel honored that the woman I was with let me know. cosign!

By DuShawn

September 11, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this

I think it’s all in the delivery. I’ve been with women that I thought dressed to conservatively as well as women on the other end of the spectrum. I’m not a cross dresser, but I have excellent taste in women’s clothes. I grew up around alot of sharp women. (My mother, aunts, and sister are all AKA’s that kept the latest designer gear, handbags, fly cuts and expensive foreign whips.) I have gone on dates with women that were inappropriately dressed, but I would never berate them because of their choice of attire. In some instances, a female’s lack of exposure to certain social settings may cause her to be inept at choosing what clothing is inappropriate (similar to that scene in the movie Set it off where Blair Underwood’s character bought Jada Pinkett a dress for their evening together.)You have to be subtle with your suggestions. A true man doesn’t want to belittle the female he wants to uplift her. As touched on previously, I’ve dated the finest thang in the club, but she had no idea how to dress for a business function. If I dug her enough to want to step her game up, I’d say something like “I like what she’s wearing……I’d love to see you in something like that…., what size are you……If you don’t mind, I’d like to get you a few things.” I’ve done this often. Now, I ain’t gone front. I didn’t actually do the shopping. I just shot my sister some bread and the chick’s size and told her to cop some elegant, fly shyt.

By The Truth

September 11, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

Foots never, ever, reveal that much about you and your to small draws. LOL BTW, I had the exact same pic in my head of a playa.

My last word on the Jena6. This is what happens to people that refuse to fight for themselves.

For Real what’s up with those dresses? They are so sexy it hurts. Every woman at 18 should get a $1000 victoria’s secret gift card ( undies should always match) and 14 sun dresses with sandals. That should be mandatory.

RED and For Real are they really doing something for the community or are they like the black church? Don’t mean to step on toes.

Red when I was in germany I had a double breasted off white dinner jacket, black tux pants, white wing tipped shirt (remember those?) and some tight shoes. I was like 19 but dressed to the max. I came back with over 30 pairs of shoes. They had a english tailor who I would take pics from GQ and he’d make me clothes. Sadly, I’ve GROWN a little since then and had to give that stuff away.

By Jewel

September 11, 2007 2:34 PM | Link to this

Back cleavage LOL! I had to read that twice…that is not sexy.

By SexyLeggs

September 11, 2007 2:35 PM | Link to this

Off topic - I thought everyone has heard about Jena 6. Michael Baisden, Frank Ski (?), Tom Joyner, Rev. Al Sharpton, Rev. Jesse Jackson and a whole host of dignitaries are renting buses and going down to Jena on 9/20. Mr. Baisden has been reaching out to all asking that we all join him in Jena on the 20th. We must let them know that this is not unjust and unfair. More important, Jena knows that a lot of people are coming and believe we will help their economy. So, today on the radio the public is being asked not to spend a dime there…Bring your own food and beverages.

The 100 Black Men is, in essence, a mentoring organization for up and coming young men with an interest in excelling in life.

By For Real

September 11, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli It’s the woman’s Taco Meat except it’s not hair but actual meat.

Phoots I bet you still keep at least one pair of your old draws don’t you?

ARed I did say things have changed. One of the founders was a waiter. Now, he owns one of the largest hospitality companies in the US. So, yes it has changed and now it’s a social elitist club.

By AmazonRed

September 11, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Truth, my toes are fine. I’m not a member (obviously) but I’ve done work with their organization so I know what they are about. Long story short, they put their money where their mouth is. They host the Classic to raise money for their premiere program, Project Success. And know what Project Success does, it takes 100s of elementary school kiddies in Atlanta and mentors them thru til HS graduation. And you know what they get as a graduation gift? Their college tuition, books, fees and a computer paid for outright.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

September 11, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

Dushawn A true man doesn’t want to belittle the female he wants to uplift her. I like that!

By AmazonRed

September 11, 2007 2:46 PM | Link to this

My bad, For Real did see where you said things have changed. I was figuring you just meant the Atlanta chapter. Maybe other chapters will still take on a janitor and a bus driver. LOL

By Cemeeli

September 11, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

Back cleavage…ohhh???

Dushawn…your sister getting the goods for your lady sounds so familiar. So i was not the only errand sis.

Thanks for my new oufit too bruther. lol…and the change

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

September 11, 2007 2:48 PM | Link to this

Phoots I bet you still keep at least one pair of your old draws don’t you?

LOL…It’s probably like me keeping a pair of high school jeans….I have hope that one day I’ll get back in them??!!?

By For Real

September 11, 2007 2:56 PM | Link to this

Truth I agree with 100% but I need to add. “They need to learn how to walk too.”

100BM’s they do mentor (elementary - college) and give scholarship to high seniors which is good but I say you should look them up of your own edification. The organization my appeal to you.

Du A true man doesn’t want to belittle the female he wants to uplift her. That’s real talk there.

By QueDogTeaching

September 11, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this

Jewel & Truth

I teach high school. And this behavior of dress starts here, and it is usually to get attention from the boys. And it usually turns to negative attention. From “you look nice today” to “dang look at that ta-dass” So when you think your little girl looks cute in that low cut halter top, think about all those boys who are thinking up under that halter top. And not to mention the pedophiles, that make the young ladies think that they are grown, so they can do grown women things. (True statement made by a student at the school.)

Here it is in a nut shell especially for you strong women (read Staceye) If your man wants you to dress a certain way, especially if he wants you to put on more clothes. It is because he respects you and wants other men to respect you, and not see you as a piece of meat. There is the “Man she is pretty look” and the “Man I want to bang that fine thang look” There is a difference.

By QueDogTeaching

September 11, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this

Jewel & Truth

I teach high school. And this behavior of dress starts here, and it is usually to get attention from the boys. And it usually turns to negative attention. From “you look nice today” to “dang look at that ta-dass” So when you think your little girl looks cute in that low cut halter top, think about all those boys who are thinking up under that halter top. And not to mention the pedophiles, that make the young ladies think that they are grown, so they can do grown women things. (True statement made by a student at the school.)

Here it is in a nut shell especially for you strong women (read Staceye) If your man wants you to dress a certain way, especially if he wants you to put on more clothes. It is because he respects you and wants other men to respect you, and not see you as a piece of meat. There is the “Man she is pretty look” and the “Man I want to bang that fine thang look” There is a difference.

By Jewel

September 11, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

So, today on the radio the public is being asked not to spend a dime there…Bring your own food and beverages. SexyLeggs We dismantled a transportation system by not patronizing it.

I know, SexyCool. I said I wouldn’t. Sorry…

By Cemeeli

September 11, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this

LadyDark I’m like that with jeans too. I try to hold on to a good pair for years. But most dresses and suits i get tired of quick.

By For Real

September 11, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

Phoots: Imma gonna put them jeans on today to see if they still fit.

Jeans: Girl look at those thighs and azz.. you know good and well you prayed for those when you were in high school.

Phoots: Yeah, but I was just hoping…

Jeans: And were are you planning to put that CT and (said in my Slick Rick voice) that yeh wide gap?

Phoots: Ohhh!

By Foots

September 11, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this

For Real I sure do!! I went through everything when I moved, but I didn’t get em all. Sometimes, a size 5 will slip into my repertoire (or whatever other crevice you can think of) and by 9:17 AM, I’ll be having a REALLY bad day! LOL!

I was just talking about back cleavage the other day in a conversation about why some folks shouldn’t wear sleeveless tops and dresses, but I didn’t know the correct term for it. Thanks!! LMAO!

By SlimOne

September 11, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this

I miss yall!

For the short time i sped read the posts, DuShawn, Foots, & Truth have me cracking up.

If i’m going out, i’ll ask what I need to dress for if the guy doesn’t necessarily want to tell me where we’re going.

QUESTION What’s the appropriate attire for Waffle House? lol

By For Real

September 11, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

So Phoots what do you do when a size 5 is “Friday”? Do wear “Monday”?

By Staceye

September 11, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

Truth I hear you…but I just feel I’m still going to wear what I want. As far as my amour…you may be right. But you can’t show sweetness in the world…people mistake it for weakness.

I ballroom dance…perhaps I can teach you so that you may be able to dazzle a woman. What do you want to learn, Tango, Samba, Salsa or Smooth Waltz?

2CPTG Yes I bashed bio-dad & the men here….

Dushawn now that is smooth if the guy buys a girl something. If a guy buys me something…I am going to wear it. If he is suprising me then I will ask how to dress so I will be properly dressed for the occassion.

For Real I went to Velvet Room Friday and saw a dude exposing his taco meat and I almost choked on my drink because I thought of the mention of it on the blog. Dude thought he was sexy too. It looked bloody awful!!

Foots I’ll admit…I tried to buy my Victoria’s secret’s lace boy shorts in the same size as my thong. Can you say eternal wedgie? LOL I know now to go up a size on the boy shorts to fit the roundness.

By AmazonRed

September 11, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

Ha…ladies I have a different situation, I can still fit into my clothes from high school! I know this for a fact because the mini skirt I wore a few weeks back happened to be my old high school cheerleading skirt (had to wear it for an office party lol). That’s when I realized that even though my size may not have changed, gravity had affected areas that had previously stood firm. LOL

By BennyB

September 11, 2007 3:18 PM | Link to this

Retro back to my Greeks college days…Back then highlights were football and step shows….

Yes, I used to put on tight T-shirts on step shows to make girls scream…It was crazy and I loved it. Sadly back then, I did not believe to have anything that may attract other people except my body and sport abilities. Now, every time I see a girl’s cleavage out showing a glimpse of the twin sisters and legs on free street show; I can’t help but ask myself if she real believe that she’s anything more than a sexy body… It’s all about confidence inside.

Wise, why in the heaven your friend give a damn about what his date think about her outfit? Did she real dress for him or for herself? I understand that she put on a killer outfit on second date….is she desperate or what? Second date is way too soon to put a brother in the mojo mood…..My grand mother told me to “never believe what a girl says, just watch her actions” ….I guess dressing is an action…isn’t?

By Staceye

September 11, 2007 3:20 PM | Link to this

QueDogTeaching no matter what I wear my body type shows. I told my really skinny friend that she will always be looked at differently from men. We can both have on baby-t’s and jeans..but who do you think get’s the, “Dayyyyyyum”?

Foots why some folks shouldn’t wear sleeveless tops and dresses I agree…if your arms look like Christmas hams…..DO NOT DO IT!!!

By SlimOne

September 11, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this

Foots Sometimes, a size 5 will slip into my repertoire (or whatever other crevice you can think of) and by 9:17 AM, I’ll be having a REALLY bad day! LOL! This sort of makes me wonder if CT’s get bloated or swell throughtout the day. I too have experienced….how should i say…discomfort…from putting on the wrong dayum jeans. LOL!

By Jewel

September 11, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

BTW, Tazzee & Foots I have one pair of comfortable black capris that my SO says he is going to burn when we get married. That’s IF we get married…I have known those capris longer than I have known him! LOL! In general, he is not a fan of capris, which are a common item in my summer wardrobe.

By Foots

September 11, 2007 3:25 PM | Link to this

For Real LOL!! You have my jeans talking me out of putting them on?? You silly!!

And yes, for the record, I still keep a few of those pairs of jeans around. And yes, I can still get in them. It might take about 35-42 minutes to complete the process and if something happens to be in the pocket, I’ll have to wait until I take them off to get to it….but I can still get in them. I try them on every once in a while for inspiration, but I wouldn’t dare leave the house with CT showing. :-)

By Cemeeli

September 11, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

To the blog men We women feel just as sexy as you think we look in a nice sundress. And the sexy heels or sandals. Just thought i’d put that out there. Won’t cost yall nothing.

Cemeeli checking to see if it’s time to pick another sundress just because . Yeah, whatever…any excuse to go to mall works.

By Ivy

September 11, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

Hey, Wise Diva! Good to read you!

When I was dating, I was very conscious about my image, yet I dressed according to my mood. While, I don’t dress provocatively nor ultra conservative……..(kinda somewhere in between), I always wanted to look nice and sexy at the same time. So, depending on where we were going, I’d moreso dress appropriately for the outing. Like, I wouldn’t pair fitted jeans /slacks/skirt w/ a fitted top nor would I be completely covered from neck to ankle.

By AmazonRed

September 11, 2007 3:31 PM | Link to this

Staceye, I’m just curious on how skinny you consider “really skinny” is your friend on Nicole Richie status, or maybe Calista Flockhart?

By 2CPTG

September 11, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this

“no matter what I wear my body type shows. I told my really skinny friend that she will always be looked at differently from men. We can both have on baby-t’s and jeans..but who do you think get’s the, “Dayyyyyyum”?”……………..

alas, we have it!!!! You hatin on skinny girls! Are you envious that you don’t receive the desired attention from Men that you’d like? Could it possibly stem from the lack of a “Daddy” growing up? sure sounds like it.

By Cemeeli

September 11, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this

Hey Slim U got away today? So who has your basket?

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

September 11, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

foots you got me thinking about Chingy’s song- Dem Jeans!

Damn Girl How’d you get all that in Dem Jeans

I bet you had to jump up and down
Just to put ‘em on
Bet you had to wiggle it around
Just to put ‘em on
Bet you had to lay back on the bed
Just to zip ‘em up
Am I right?

By For Real

September 11, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this

MLB 2E’s ain’t lying and she got some 70’s breastestes too…

By SexyLeggs

September 11, 2007 3:40 PM | Link to this

ARed you are right. As we age, gravity steps in slaps us in our face if we don’t take care of ourselves. I went home in July, and I overhead my mother saying I still wear the red shorts I wore (Wrangler) when I was 15. I can still fit them, but can’t zip them. I’m 40+ now. I can still wear all of my clothes. Back then, in NYC, I bought quality, somewhat expensive clothes that wouldn’t go out of style.

By Jewel

September 11, 2007 3:42 PM | Link to this

QueDog Good post, with one minor correction: It starts at home. The mother is responsible for leading her daughter by example on how to respect herself. The father (or male role model) must validate his daughter’s self-esteem and show her what a man will/will not do when he respects her.

By SexyLeggs

September 11, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

Let me rephrase…I can’t still fit my red shorts. I can get them on…that’s about it…LOL

By Wise Diva

September 11, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this

Mr. 2, you are cracking me up with your armchair psychology/observations.

Hey Ivy!

@Benny, it’s Rachel’s style to be on point when she goes out for the evening. She is the type that dresses to impress when she goes out, I don’t know how that smacks of desperation, though.

By 2CPTG

September 11, 2007 3:54 PM | Link to this

Lady in Red, you know how I do it….but it’s all starting to come together now…’ol girl straight bitter!

By Staceye

September 11, 2007 4:00 PM | Link to this

2CPTG Helllooo..no I am the one who get’s the dayyyyym! Not the skinny friend! One day in Lenox Mall she and I entered through the men department and there were sales men hiding behind things staring and I did not notice it..she turned around and caught them and she pointed to me and they were like yeah her! She feel out laughing! But we both had on the the same type of outfit. I am so not envious of skinny…I’m a 7/8 and proud. I do not lack male attention.

*Amazon They both are beanpoles….but Nicole Ritchie is deathly. But Calista has gained a little weight…she was on the deathly street as well.

For Real what is 70’s breastestes? LOL

By Foots

September 11, 2007 4:07 PM | Link to this

Staceye My sister told me she wore a thong to work once. She said she lost them about 2:30. LOL!!

Christmas hams??!?!? LMAO!!

For Real Naw, I just wear them. I figure that since it’s Friday, if I look pitiful enough, my boss will let me go home early and and I can get a jump on the weekend. Always thinking, right?!?

Amazon I was REALLY skinny back in the day. I have been 5’6” since I was about seven. And I weighed 103 lbs when I graduated from high school (soaking wet and holding 2 twelve pound bricks in each hand). I always had a boyfriend, too, so I KNOW good and dayum well that they must have been interested in my mind, cause bananas had more muscle and fat on them than I did.

By The Truth

September 11, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this

Staceye I would love to be able to do all of the above. I just think its cool. Did you get formal training or just picked it up? I may secretly buy a training cd and break out my mop. LOL Thats why some women are so cool. They take time to learn different things. Can you imagine the Truth tuxed up doing the Smooth Waltz? That would be a site.

BTW Weakness is cowering away from something that may hurt you. Strength is going forward knowing this could hurt like hell. I could love you deeper than you could love me because I know that whatever you do to me I’ll recover. That is my only strength.

Confession: I think I have taco meat. LOL Every time I wear a v neck t-shirt my partners laugh and ask for cheese with that taco. I don’t wear v-neck t shirts anymore.

Similac I think we knew that because EVERY woman that wears a sundress looks radiant. A crackho could wear one and glow.

Hi Slim. They let you out on early release toady?

BeenyB unfortunately alot of people fall for the cleavage in the t-shirt trick when the real beauty is in the mind. Sometimes it takes years to figure that one out.

By 2CPTG

September 11, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this

well dang then, lil mama (Staceye), why the bitterness?

By Foots

September 11, 2007 4:13 PM | Link to this

Hey Slim!!

Lady Dark Girl, sometimes I need a shoe horn, some pliers, AND an assistant!! LOL!!

By AmazonRed

September 11, 2007 4:17 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs I was about to say that if you can’t zip them up, they don’t fit! But I see you added the correction. LOL. That is still a great feat though. Go head girl!

Today I’ve been inspired enough to look up gym memberships. Using the fast metabolism as a crutch is no longer acceptable!

By For Real

September 11, 2007 4:18 PM | Link to this

Slim Do I need to organize a rally to free you? I can have every Waffle House worker within 20 miles at your building in 20 Waffle House minutes. Chanting….

Free Slim and her Camel Toe! Free Slim and her Camel Toe! Free Slim and her Camel Toe!

By Jewel

September 11, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

Truth Your posts have softened, somewhat. Which one is it: 1. Get struck by lightening? 2. Have a near-death experience? 3. Doctor said you only have three months to live?

By DuShawn

September 11, 2007 4:21 PM | Link to this

Truth “A crackho could wear one and glow” lol..I dig the sundresses too….But naw bruh. Unless that sundress comes with a rehab, some weight gain, a shower and a dentist, it aint gone do nothing for a crack head.

By Foots

September 11, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this

Slim Do we still have any more Taco Meat Perm left over from Demi? I think Truth needs a touch-up!

Truth Weakness is cowering away from something that may hurt you. Strength is going forward knowing this could hurt like hell.

Oh my!! That’s very deep and insightful. Can you put this on a T-shirt for me?? (And can you make it a baby tee two sizes too small? I’m going to try to borrow SexyLeggs red shorts and DuShawn’s mom’s expensive foreign whip to go to Lenox so I can test Que’s theory.) LOL!

By Cemeeli

September 11, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

@Truth…naawww bru, a crackho can not pull off being radiant, beautiful, confident and sexy even in a potato sack. It’s all from within and there so it shows.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

September 11, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

amazon girl, go ahead and join a gym…or build an in-house gym…either way it’s easier to keep it tight than to have to lose it!

By Staceye

September 11, 2007 4:28 PM | Link to this

Truth I have had some training but a lot of it such as salsa & merengue from my family. Tango,Samba & Smooth Waltz I had training. I have been doind various dances since age 3.

By Jewel

September 11, 2007 4:32 PM | Link to this

So, today’s topic can be summarized with food…

Men NO TACO MEAT

Ladies NO CHRISTMAS HAM

By BlatinoBrutha aka BLAT aka "Where the HE!_!_ have you been???"

September 11, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

Staceye, where u from??? u Latina?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 11, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this

I have been in the cut today laughing so hard at you guys!! Thanks so much for starting my b-day off right!

I am off tomorrow, will be celebrating all day so you guys hold it down for me!

By SexyLeggs

September 11, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this

DuShawn, when I read Truth’s post about the sundress on a crackho, I thougt no way!!!Thanks for chiming in…LOL

By Foots

September 11, 2007 4:37 PM | Link to this

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MO!!!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

September 11, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

Happy BDAY MO!!

By SexyLeggs

September 11, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

Foots you are a mess. You can borrow the infamous “red shorts” anytime.

Jewel, if you think Truth’s posts have softened is because his family just left that he hasn’t seen in many, many moons and with his maturity he realizes what’s important in life.

By Staceye

September 11, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this

Blatino I am from NYC…but my mom’s side is from D.R….so yeah.

By For Real

September 11, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this

Phoots Okay but I wouldn’t do any driving until blood flows back into the those line left by those size 4 draws.

Truth Ewwww…. I don’t know about the crackho in a sundress. But have you tried putting SoulGlo on your taco meat? lol..

2E’s I have been doing various dances since age 3. Oh really!!!

By For Real

September 11, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this

Jewel Add Pig in a Blanket to that list.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY MO!!!! Don’t do nothing I wouldn’t do without me.

By BlatinoBrutha aka BLAT aka "Where the HE!_!_ have you been???"

September 11, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this

ahhhhhh …. TA TO!!!!

I’m colo-black, but some say i’m really DR, LOL

By SexyLeggs

September 11, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this

HAPPY B-DAY MO.

By Wise Diva

September 11, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this

Happy Birthday, enjoy your birthday MO!

LOL @ SoulGlo on taco meat!

By Foots

September 11, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this

Staceye I’d love to learn all of those dances! Especially Salsa and any form of the Waltz. Okay, so… If you teach me to Salsa and Waltz, I can show you how to climb a 10 foot pole, transition to a Martini Girl, and come down in a split. Deal? :-) I also need a Tap tutor. I’m pretty rusty on my paradiddles.

Jewel LOL @ the Meat Synopsis!!

Lady Dark it’s easier to keep it tight than to have to lose it

So why did you let me order the pasta today???? (sigh)

By Jewel

September 11, 2007 4:46 PM | Link to this

Oh. Thanks Mrs. SexyLeggs Truth. LOL!

For Real You are stupid! SoulGlo LOL! “Just let your soooul glooo!”

By 2CPTG

September 11, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this

Happy Birfday Mo…..

hint: ya birfday ain’t over til the party ends!!!!!!

By Foots

September 11, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this

For Real LMAO!! That visual calls for a skit!!

By DuShawn

September 11, 2007 4:51 PM | Link to this

Back on the sundresses. There is just somthing special about a female in a sundress with the sandals, waxed legs, and pretty feet. Then when you walk behind them, you could see that azz freely jigglin ever so slightly….um um um…dayum.

By BennyB

September 11, 2007 4:51 PM | Link to this

* Jewel* Naah

Today’s topic can be summarized with clothing mania

MEN: If they don’t like it…they throw away gf (wife)’s clothes simply because they don’t like them

WOMEN: Over-dress, under-dress, cleavage-open dress, public skin-show dress or antiquity-dress (like put on your high school dress …is that what I read?)

By DEMIGOD

September 11, 2007 4:52 PM | Link to this

Staceyes Do you Bay!!!

Foots your boy is a clean shaven dude…taco what?

Peace I am Out!!!

By Staceye

September 11, 2007 4:52 PM | Link to this

For Real I have not nto been doing THAT type of dancing! LOL Nasty!

Blatino Colo-Black…I feel ya. You must be brown-skinned if you are called Dominican! LOL I get Panamainian and Cuban the most.

By The Truth

September 11, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

Ok, maybe not a crackhead but you know what I mean. LOL

Jewel neither one. LOL My family was in town last week and I had so much fun with them. It really made me question what I was out there chasing when I had everything I needed right there. I already miss my older sister and now I want to get them to move out here. Her and her husband were so cool. I could do that.

We would just pull up chairs and sit around for hours and talk. It was a blast. They had pictures of my mom (she passed 2 yrs ago) and my nieces and nephews. It was wild. I flew solo for 20+ years but I saw the light last week. I saw them 2 times in 20 years but when we got together it was like we were kids again. The price we pay to conquer the world may be to high. “Its the simple things”

By Staceye

September 11, 2007 4:59 PM | Link to this

Foots I gave up tap at 7…so I can’t help ya! LOL But I would love the pole dancing lessons. I can help you witht he ballroom dancing.

By The Truth

September 11, 2007 5:01 PM | Link to this

Sexy dayumm hun, Read my post that was going up when yours hit. That is very good.

Mo happy birthday. Smooches

I was going to use a hot comb on my taco meat.

The Truth loves a woman that can teach him something Staceye and Foots

I have a visual of Foots in a to small baby t with red shorts and a whip. Hmmmmmmm

By For Real

September 11, 2007 5:06 PM | Link to this

Phoots & 2E’s Let me be the first to say it touches me way down deep to see that the two of you are so willing to reach out to one another in sisterhood. Please allow me the honor witnessings such a wonderful event so I to my fellowship with both of you.