Misadventures in Atlanta

By SlimOne

September 5, 2007 8:30 AM | Link to this

I think men are more cautious about opening up emotionally to women. It’s easier to keep it light, keep it tight, keep it right. There is less guilt when you’re emotionally involved with a chick as far as when you end up getting caught cheating or when you’re ready to move on to the next piece of @ss. All you have to say is Trick, AIn’t love you!…I’m out.

Slim just did a wham bam thank you ma’am on the blog while shooting the peace sign on the way out

By dan

September 5, 2007 8:51 AM | Link to this

I think the natural inclination is to be cautious about a new relationship. It’s not just your past experiences (that plays a major role) but it has to do with the fact that the person is a relative stranger. Do you want to pour your heart and energy into this person, without knowledge of their durability? Depends on your motive?

For me at least, I can say that one-night stands have been relationships, as have flirtive encounters. But in the end I use the word girlfriend strictly, because for me that title holds a certain amount of significance. Most of the women I date are just “homegirls”.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 5, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

Whaddup Party People! Hope we have a few more residents to join us today.

I’ll chime in later, got much work sitting on my desk waiting on me!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

September 5, 2007 9:35 AM | Link to this

Good Morning!! Happy Hump Day

Are you cautious when it comes to dating/relationships?

Yes, very cautious. There’s too much at stake…my heart, my mental peace, my emotional balance, my time, my desires…you put all that and more at risk when you enter into a bad relationship!

If so, are you intentionally restrained when getting to know someone, or is it some sort of defense mechanism because of previous experience?

I have always been slow to develop feelings. I remember when I was a young girl praying to God that one day I would fall in love because I was afraid that I didn’t have the emotional capacity to do it….oh the young mind. Although, I have fallen in love several times over I am grateful that it takes a minute for this engine to revvvvv. Every boyfriend that I have had fell for me quicker….didn’t really mean anything in the end though

Is being cautious the same as being picky? If not, where is the line between the two?

NO, being cautious means that you are weighing the options and evaluating the risks. Picky means that you want what you want regardless of the outcome. I think that’s why guys can pick a gorgeous chicken head and thinks he’s happy. A female can pick the bad guy and think she’s struck gold. A cautious person would know the difference.

Who do you think are more cautious — men or women — when it comes to starting a relationship?

Starting a relationship…I think women are more cautious. Men will enter into a relationship to shut the women up (even if he has no intention on being faithful)..Marriage…I think men are more cautious to take it to the next level.

Lady Dark now hiding from the Blog police for her long post

By SexyLeggs

September 5, 2007 9:41 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. I think everyone should venture in a new relationship with caution. Take your time before attaching boyfriend/girlfriend. Take time to find out about each other, and then decide if a “union” will occur.

By Staceye

September 5, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

Slim you throwing the dueces as you become M.I.A! LOL

Dan I notice a lot of guys call the friends that are girls “homegirls”. Since when did the title “Homegirl” come to mean Friends with benefits? So now when I am kicking it with a guy and he keeps mentioning Homegirls and I am looking at him like jam…he is spreading himself all around ATL and I no longer want to be with him because I do not want to become another one of his “Homegirls”…or harem or what ever you guys want to call it!

On topic I am a put it out there type of person. I say what I feel and feel what I say. It has lead me to wear my heart on my sleeve because I don’t believe in games. i think if everyone is real and honest…a lot can be prevented. It lets you know whether to proceed on with this person instead of wasting your time playing the game of “he loves me…he loves me not”! But after being hurt so many times, I have to hide my heart and do an Omarion and replace it with an icebox. I no longer let myself get emtionally connected to anyone. Right now if I date it’s for fun. When I decide to get my rocks off again..I will chose one but still get my serial date on so I do not place any real feelings into him. I’ll play the game just like a man…except I don’t sleep with anything that has a pulse. men don’t show their feelings nor tell you whats going on because they feel it makes them vunerable. Well sad to say that now we most likely will get nowhere because we are both withholding things and looking at each other sideways because trust is something that can not be factored in. When do you know it’s ok to give that person some trust if you are both playing the game?

By Dan

September 5, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

@Staceye

Gal, girl, girlfriend.

Any one of these designations denote commitment when referring to a specific woman. And while I can’t speak for your friend (or ex-friend), in particular FWB is not a homegirl she’s referred to in a less sensitive and politically correct manner.

The homegirl can be just a friend, yeah she’s cute, there’s just no chemistry. On a good night something may happen…but I won’t press the issue:homegirl.

As for the on topic message. Trust is like lending money, you give it anyway in small increments hoping it will be returned. But one should neither a borrower nor lender be forewarned when it comes to trust in relationship.

By Bella

September 5, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this

Good morning, everyone!

It’s so interesting how everyone has a different opinion of whether men or women are more cautious. I guess it just depends on your personal experience. My gut reaction when I was thinking about this blog was that men were more cautious, but as I started thinking about it, I saw more examles in my own life where men were actually the ones wanting to jump on in to relationship.

I think in the examples I have seen, however, these men truly know the women they’re interested in and are past any kind of one-night-stand or friends w/bennies stage. They’re ready to go hardcore or go home.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

September 5, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

Staceye Your post moved me…I guess because I felt alot of pain in your words. The heart is a resilient muscle and like every other muscle it can get stronger the more it is used. Don’t quit the journey….the best is yet to come.

When do you know it’s ok to give that person some trust if you are both playing the game?

You don’t…you NEVER trust a person who is playing a game. But sometimes you have to lead by example. If someone is seeing that you’re not about the games they have a choice to respond accordingly and if not, then you bounce.

By Foots

September 5, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this

Are you cautious when it comes to dating/relationships? If so, are you intentionally restrained when getting to know someone, or is it some sort of defense mechanism because of previous experience?

I haven’t been as cautious as I probably should have been with a few folks. But really, if I had put more time into those relationships that wouldn’t have worked out anyway, I would have felt like I wasted my time. I’m more like Staceye I think, if I’m in, I’m in. Since I only date one at a time, he is the only one I focus on. I haven’t been the type to intentionally restrain myself from exploring the feelings I have for a man. As it turns out, it has allowed me to find out what I need to know faster so that I can keep it movin if necessary.

I’m not the type to broadcast my feelings to the other individual though. The guy that I was most in love with in my entire life, I never vocalized my feelings, not to him. Maybe that’s my way of keeping a part of myself away and safe. And I make sure to keep my friendships and activities going, so I never put everything I have into someone else and I haven’t lost myself in anyone.

Luckily, I haven’t had a lot of drama from being an “all in” type person, just a couple of cases of broken heart and I heal with the best of them. I just remember that I am not in total control and if a relationship was meant to be, it will be, no matter how slow or fast things move.

Foots asks Lady Dark to scoot over as she joins her in her hiding place for overly long posts

By dan

September 5, 2007 10:27 AM | Link to this

@Bella

That, in my opinion is the crux of the argument. I can personally state that it wasn’t until I recognized my own maturity that I began to understand that it wasn’t about reputation, or numbers, or bragging rights (which is how men compete at a certain level of maturity).

It began to be about the connection to the one person that you can laugh with, hang out with, essentially a friend. Now the immaturity still wants the friend to be physically appealling but those other qualities are increasingly important.

Most of my friends that are getting married and engaged cite the “homegirl factor” as the reason.

By Foots

September 5, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this

Is being cautious the same as being picky?

I don’t think so. I think that “picky” comes into play when you are choosing who to spend your time with. Then “cautious” comes in once you have that person and choose to proceed very slowly.

I’m picky, but not extremely cautious once I pick someone. I’m thinking that if I choose to spend time with a dude out of all the ones that didn’t make it past “hello”, then I’m all for seeing where it goes with him.

Now that I’ve decided what I’m looking for relationship-wise, I’ve been turning down a bunch of dudes who aren’t making it past “hello”. In the first informative conversation, I can tell that we are different points in our lives and are looking for different things. I don’t even want to waste my time leaving the house anymore. I’m just warming the hellz out this bench for now.

By Foots

September 5, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

dan I don’t think it’s immature to want the person you spend the rest of your life with to be physically appealing to you. My future husband ain’t gotta be built like Tank, but I have to feel some attraction and chemistry for someone I’m going to look at and bed down til death do we part.

By Biff

September 5, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

What do you mean by “relationship?”

The problem with getting to know a lot of chicks is that they live their lives on the edge of mental illness compounded by a monthly surge of hormones which cloud and define their persona.

By Sunny

September 5, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

Hey all…The guy Im seeing seem to have no problem opening up & letting me know what he wants…its only been a couple of months & he wants me on lock down….don’t get me wrong I want him in every way….just shock at the fast pace….do u think this is common in guys who have been divorce….

By Staceye

September 5, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

Foots I feel you…if I am not physically attracted to you it is NOT going down! That may sound shallow…but you are not going to get with the ugliest person because you think they willt reat you well. You get with he one you are attracted to and hope it works out. It’s just human nature.

By kinderbabe

September 5, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

good morning all! bella to comment on your topic, i don’t think that men typically rush into relationships. women and men, i feel, have totally different concepts of what a relationship is. through my experiences, i have found that men who want to “jump into” a relationship are eager to provide the “appearance” of a relationship. in other words, they are in a rush to prove and make the woman comfortable so that they may have the type of relationship they want. most of the time that means, getting as much sex they want, whenvever they want it. rushing into the relationship is just the setup. so, in the context in which you’re speaking, men aren’t in a rush to share themselves emotionally as women often do.

By Dan

September 5, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

@Sunny

Without knowing the specifics of your situation or his divorce, three words: Beware the Rebound

By Bella

September 5, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

Hey, kinderbabe!

I see where you’re coming from. And there are those kinds of guys out there, for sure. But I’ve known some genuinely amazing guys who were definitely all about a true relationship — exclusive, loving, sacrificial give-and-take — who jumped on it. I suppose they just knew what they wanted and went for it!

By sunny

September 5, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

@Dan….they were seperated for years before the divorce was final….so I’m sure he has been around since then of some such….

By DEMIGOD

September 5, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

Well sad to say that now we most likely will get nowhere because we are both withholding things and looking at each other sideways because trust is something that can not be factored in.

Staceye LOL the dating world isn’t that bad sis, continue to date and have fun…you will become an awesome woman once you hit your late 30’s, SMILE sis

Heeeeeey QC, Slim, SexyLegg, LDD, KB, and the young and ever mature Foots

I am now fleeing AJC in my soup up GoGo Power Wheels Civic

Peace!!!

By Lady J

September 5, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this

WELL SAID KB!!!!

By Staceye

September 5, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this

Demigod I am already an awesome woman! I do not have to wait that long! LOL

By SexyLeggs

September 5, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

Hey DemiGod. @Staceye, I can only imagine the wall you have built up. I know you’re an awesome woman, but I don’t see how a man’s love is going to penetrate such a tough exterior. Your survival in life and love rests upon your shoulders I realize, but honey, soften up just a little. I know who you are. I was a lot like you back in the day!!!

By QC

September 5, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

Hey Demi, err’body

Wow, it’s so sloooooow in here today, my co-workers & I are talking about Shaq filing for divorce, i’m not surprise…but can you blame his wife Shaunie for having all that stuff on the side? Why she hid it from him i don’t know….so who’s next Kobe have a great day bloggers!

Hey kinder-B

By kinderbabe

September 5, 2007 12:27 PM | Link to this

thanks ladyj

hey demi :)

By SexyLeggs

September 5, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this

I just received an email that said Shaunie was caught “doing it” with the personal trainer. I’d like to know what she acquired on the side (with Shaq’s money).

By NCGirlfromATL

September 5, 2007 12:55 PM | Link to this

Is everyone else’s office as crazy busy as mine has been so far this week?!? Dang!

Yes, I’m cautious. If feel like Bobby Brown’s character in Two Can Play that Game…”I’ve been hurt before…so I’m careful about my feelings” LOLOL!! Ok, not that pitiful. I’ve actually gotten better about it, although some might find that hard to believe. But if you didn’t know me before, you wouldn’t know the difference.

By Grand Poo Bah

September 5, 2007 1:19 PM | Link to this

My 2 cents, it is not strictly related to gender that makes one more ot less cautious. For me it is age. The younger poo bah threw was cautios to a fault, for fear of getting emotionally hurt. The less young poo bah is more open emotionally, but will also know within a couple of weeks whether or not the person I’m with is worth the effort and will cut loose anyone that does not make the cut. The caution now comes not from emotion, but rather trying to weed out insincerity. There are some people who would like to go out with poo bah just for the perks, and not for the personality. To be fair, a good looking poo bahette is what I am looking for, but there still has to be some chemistry. If I think it is all about my resources, even Halle Berry would be dropped.

Of course, Halle, if you’re reading this, you have enough that I would trust you were sincere.

By SexyLeggs

September 5, 2007 1:26 PM | Link to this

Grand Poo Bah, I’ll got out with you because of your intellect first and foremost.

By Grand Poo Bah

September 5, 2007 1:41 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs I have 2 words for you
WOO HOO

That makes my day

By For Real

September 5, 2007 2:04 PM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!!!

On Topic:

First we have to define what relationship means. If you use the WLB definition then men are the most cautious. If you the MLB definition women are the most cautious.

KayBee You are 100% correct in your assessment of some male behaivor as it pertains to a relationship. All men know that 99.9% of the women out there want to be in a “relationship” so they tell them what the want to hear to get want they want. Right or wrong it works 99.9% of the time.

Slim You read like you need to press your private part up against my private part.

2E’s Dang Baby!!! You and me need to get a 5th of scotch.. oh well maybe we need 1/2 gallon and drive to a corn field so you can scream all that pain and anger out of your system. Then we can play Nekked Tic-Tag until you throw-up on your hair.

By need song lyric

September 5, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

Hey..To the guy that usually post the songs…what r the lyrics to “Angel of mines” or how do I find it….Thanks

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 5, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

need song lyric Try to google the song title.

For Real I could use a song right now!

Hey everybody! Glad to see we are in a regular swing today! I have been busy as hellz! Talk about working a sistah!! Geesh!!

By Staceye

September 5, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

Sexxyleggs I have now gotten to the point I am just numb to men. They are fun to hang out with and some benefits but no emotional connects are needed!

Now that For Real has changed my name to 2E’s….I guess I have a double identity!

By Dan

September 5, 2007 3:06 PM | Link to this

@Staceye That’s a little disappointing to hear, you may just be letting a few of the good ones (of us) walk right past you.

By Staceye

September 5, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

Dan I am tired of trying to find the needle in the haystack. Evrytime I think I have found it…it turnes out to be a colorless piece of hay…I was bamboozled, hoodwinked, fooled! LOL

By Grand Poo Bah

September 5, 2007 3:33 PM | Link to this

Sunny
I do not know how common it is in divorce for a man to “open up at a fast pace”. I know in my case I am more open now than I was when I was younger. But that is a combination of age thing as well as a I don’t want to waste my time dating someone only to have something come up down the road in 9 months that will cause us to break up. I’d rather know that today and not get emotionally invested and eventually hurt.
Having been married, hopefully you learn the importance of opening up. I for one do not have secrets. That does not mean I offer to tell all, it just means if you ask, I will do my best to be completely honest in my response.
Sexxylegs you still have me smiling, Wednesday is a good day.

By For Real

September 5, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this

Here you go Mo

Do you ever see that stuff that be when it get cold that is that ish you can’t see? See that ish happens sometimes. Yep, black ice.

Verse 1:

Now you know and I know I done bumped every hole in the wall did catch that phone call most of y’all did admit thought it was tall, Gipp flipped like a dip slipped fell on some black ice did you think twice, homeslice come in he went satisfied got bars can’t ish meetin’ coast to coast yeah ( ? ) man do-si-dos too many coming close coz

Chorus: Touched what I never touched before, seen what I never seen before woke up and seen the sun sky high, sky high

Verse 2:

Circulate like a Sunday paper capers caught tony tone with cheap flicks good pick pay hard watch the hard turn sideways

pick the tale for real sale for the who lose cash flesh keep your life for now feeling good and warm with the rug tight thirty five degrees nippy tonight, don’t forget the chapstick lips dry quick when the jack out make you wanna cut out take the slack out some people black out hibernating to a cave blackout

Chorus Touched what I never touched before, seen what I never seen before woke up and seen the sun sky high, sky high Touched what I never touched before, seen what I never seen before woke up and seen the sun sky high, sky high

Verse 3:

I been in it for the past few days tighter than fades I know my plays now can I rap? can I adapt? now really sure yeah who’s that looking over the shoulders of those writing dreams feening for the taste of menthol missed class stayed in the hall looking for a squeeze play better yet a holiday stayed away from the pyramid board game broke it down to a neighborhood slang, cash before fame

sky high, sky high, sky high, sky high, sky high, sky high

Verse 4: Big Boi

now who done stepped in? the man the b-i-g the secret weapon boy slicker that black ice throwing them flows like rice at weddings so quick flexing, you speaking sum’ that’s refreshing to the earlobes [these lyrics are found on http://www.songlyrics.com] pay for the room and still be in pimp mode like icebergs, chryslers and buicks some n**** ain’t on their jobs so them suckers tend to lose it abuse their priveliges now their whole village is shot to pieces coz dudes be biting that same stupid ish I mean that feces boy don’t beat me if you ain’t got no work I’m strictly about these verses like the ones you hear at church boy seach boy, talking about your dough and punk like lurch boy every time I heard your rhyming like a f*** jerk boy, simp, yeah!

Verse 5: Dre

Friends, Romans, countrymen lend me you eardrum it was a beautiful day off in the neighborhood Yellows and greens and blues and browns and greys and hues that ooze beneath dilapidated wood Ain’t a thing could explain but what pertains to cocaine it a thing that rain See summer roll around all about change then they steady move them keys like bob james Coz old man winter’s arrived the temperature dives November just died December’s alive thus it ain’t no typical ride just individual way to bring home the bacon when bacon was all gone making it our own taking me all wrong We’ve all indulged in the bulge of these no-nos no you ain’t solo, its cause lower levels you can go take sun people put them in the snow

Chorus Touched what I never touched before, seen what I never seen before woke up and seen the sun sky high, sky high

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

September 5, 2007 3:40 PM | Link to this

Hello all…i hope and pray you all had a safe holliday with your family and friends…

No citations as myself and Musing are still on that holliday break

Staceye dont worry …you seem to have a good heart and one day One day the right one will come along….and then you will find happiness

By SexyLeggs

September 5, 2007 3:54 PM | Link to this

Staceye, I am not happy to read that you are numb to men. That simply is not a safe place to be. I like your *”needle in haystack/colorless piece of hay” comparison. I know, I turned nice after becoming pregnant and know you don’t want to go that route (LOL). Just stay true to yourself and hopefully things will work out and that colorless piece of hay will turn into gold.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 5, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

For Real I am over here bobbing my head steady singin “sky high”!! ‘Preciate ya boo!!

Staceye hang in there girl, its rough but you will be okay. But you will have to open up a little if you ever hope to get your man, he is out there!

Grand Poo Bah I agree with your last post! ^5

By SexyLeggs

September 5, 2007 3:59 PM | Link to this

Grand Poo Bah, glad to have put a smile on someone’s face today.

By For Real

September 5, 2007 4:01 PM | Link to this

Hey yall don’t worry about 2E’s too much, she is a beautiful lady with a great personality. She will be just fine, so long as she realize that she ain’t taller than me with 4” heels on.

By Staceye

September 5, 2007 4:08 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs & Mo I am not sure if I ever want to be in another relationship. It’s just tto much drama and pain and it’s not even worth it. Strange..now that I do not want relationship..I’ve got guys coming out of everywhere trying to take me out and trying to get me to be their girl. I am like, “what is this…when I wanted a man I couldn’t pay to get a comittment.” Now ain’t that irony? I had a guy I just met a few weeks ago and never called until today just come and bring me flowers? Now how am I supposed to know if he is sincere or just like any other guy trying to get the knickers or just in it to play games by getting me to like him and them he hurts me? See..this is why I just want to keep men at 10 ft. pole distance.

By ATL Pearl Girl

September 5, 2007 4:13 PM | Link to this

Once again…. I’ve been on so many blind dates I should get a free dog.

By Atlanta Pearl Girl

September 5, 2007 4:17 PM | Link to this

I have to agree with previous posts…..

I’m much more careful about getting emotionally involved…… it takes too much of my being.

By SexyLeggs

September 5, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

Staceye, lighten up, please. Just because somebody bought you flowers doesn’t necessarily mean he’s trying to get in the knickers. Pretty sure he’s trying to let you know he thinks you’re worthy of the flowers and simply wants to get to know you better. Everything is not “game.”

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 5, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

Staceye I understand your apprehension about getting into another relationship. Right now you arent ready, period and that is fine. But you may find one day that you do want a relationship. The fact that you dissect men so much says to me (MHO) that one day you will want that one man in your life. But only when you are ready and not a minute before that. I dont want to be in a relationship right now either but I know for me that wont always be. Just like with anything else in lfe to get to the good stuff you gotta go thru some BS!

By abc

September 5, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this

Conversely, I have always considered dating to be something of a chore, the purpose of which was to find someone with which to share something deeper. Endless casual dating would bore me. Some folks will think “hearts are for breaking, love’s made for taking” and not really give much of themselves, but hey. Love is a beeyotch.

By Dan

September 5, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

@Staceye and ATL

The beauty of love is not just in the good time during a relationship, but during the bad times as well. For the strength of Love is found in how you deal with the down time.

Staceye, I believe that the men that are approaching you know are seeing what you have yet to realize about yourself…that you found a new love. The love of you.

And it is in that Love that each of us reaches the point that we don’t need another person to fulfill us, we do it on our own. And the people that approach can see the knowledge of self coming off you like a glow of your own. And the foolishness need not apply.

By BennyB

September 5, 2007 4:40 PM | Link to this

@Staceye Guys don’t make you like them…you just open up your heart for players; all you need is a lesson of how to control your feelings before you let your guards down. Actually, you need to find the kind of men that hurt you and stay’hell out of their way … Easy even a cave man can do it……

By SexyLeggs

September 5, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this

You nailed it Mo.

By Foots

September 5, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this

Did somebody mention a 10 ft pole??? Awwww, I bet I can climb that ish all the way to the top!! LOL!!!

By Staceye

September 5, 2007 4:47 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs I know..I think every dude is suspect. I feel they all ahve this ulterior motive behind the kindness. not to mention they do all these nice things to get you and then they stop.

Mo you are right..I am not ready for a relationship now. I am happy being by myself.

Dan I never thought about it like that. Hmmm…thanks for opening up my eyes to something.

By Staceye

September 5, 2007 4:52 PM | Link to this

Be careful Benny B those cave men are going to come to looking for you. LOL

By Foots

September 5, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

Staceye Girl, you need this time in the valley before you can even get the strength to look up at the next mountain. There isn’t anything wrong with where you are right now, cause I know I’ve been there. Mo said it best, when you’re ready, you’re ready, and not a minute before. We all need time in the valley to rest up for that next journey up the mountain. That’s where we take the time to learn who we are, what we want, and how to get it.

The way I get out of the valley sooner is to remind myself of what Mama said “If you thought he was something and God said no, just imagine what He has waiting for you down the road!” That thought alone gets me climbing again.

Take all the time you need right where you are. You’ll need your strength for the rest of your journey.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

September 5, 2007 4:56 PM | Link to this

Staceye I am with you girl, not as jaded as you but I certainly understand where you are coming from! (Hey Lady J)

Being by yourself is a lovely thing!! I am enjoying that aspect right now myself!! LOL

By SexyLeggs

September 5, 2007 4:57 PM | Link to this

Staceye, first and foremost stop thinking every guy is suspect. That’s the problem. I’m not saying let your guard down completely, but go forth with “human being” connection and let go of the “game” concept. Just say to yourself “I’m about to meet another interesting person.”

By Staceye

September 5, 2007 5:01 PM | Link to this

Thanks Ladies…good nite!