Misadventures in Atlanta

By SlimOne

August 30, 2007 8:24 AM | Link to this

HOWDY MY FELLOW BLOGVILLE

I only have 30 seconds before “The Man” comes looking for me. I’ll be building a secret underground railroad in the meantime to find my way back to you. SShhhh don’t tell nobody.

I Miss Yawl

NC What did I hear you say about my momma yesterday?

By melo

August 30, 2007 9:02 AM | Link to this

Slim,I will send Abraham Lincoln over there to sign ur emancipation papers!

By NCGirlfromATL

August 30, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this

NC What did I hear you say about my momma yesterday?

LMAO!! Girl, don’t believe anything Truth tells you! It’s all trickery and lies! But really, I did say your momma made a slammin mac and cheese! Oooh I can taste it right now! Yuuuummmm!!

Now, get back down there and free some more of us on the plantation!

By AmazonRed

August 30, 2007 9:11 AM | Link to this

Mornin’ All. I’m here still trying to figure out what MLB means!

melo Last night you said: AmazonRed, will tell u what MLB means if i can trade places with ur starter for one day!!Let him be on the bench and we see what happens.*

You have to remember that just because he’s the starter doesn’t mean he gets suspended for violating team rules! He’s been in the dog house many of time. LOL

By AmazonRed

August 30, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this

Are first dates really “challenging” nowadays?

Things have gotten so casual and common that I really don’t feel much pressure on a first date. If you are a good conversationalist and secure, just being myself works fine for me. Maybe it’s more stressful for the guy because they have to make the plans and hope you like it, but one good conversation of planning TOGETHER before the date can take most of the uneasiness out of the day.

I don’t think I date out of my league. I date guys who I feel I could have a good time with. Because I’m built like a supermodel (not bragging just fact) I guess maybe a guy who doesn’t normally date that “type” may feel that I’m out of their league. Some go out of their way with the compliments and stuff. Don’t try too hard. You got the date, now just be the best “you” you can be.

By Wise Diva

August 30, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this

I am so sorry Amazon, I meant to respond to that question yesterday, LOL

MLB stands for Man Law Board (I think?) or something, anyway it started out as a joke, about “man rules” and what is acceptable to share with us girls, and what should be kept close to vest.

Soo then the ladies were all, we have laws too! and that became the woman’s version. It’s all very fun, and it kind of breaks the tension when we fight/debate about mars and venus. LOL

By SexyLeggs

August 30, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. I’m in meetings all day today.

Somewhat off topic yesterday’s blog was very insightful. If any of you have heard of Chrisette Michele, listen to If I Had My Way. If you don’t have a CD, go get it. This song encompasses every person’s thoughts and beliefs that were espoused yesterday. TheTruth, DuShawn, Staceye, Tazzee, etc. you guys will love this song. It is the epitome of love, passion, desire, lust and pure respect for your SO.

By Grand Poo Bah

August 30, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this

Dating takes a surprising amount of time and energy, mostly to avoid phone calls and to change my traffic patterns. Now that I am officially between spouses, it is time to figure out how to date again.
To start dating I took a friends’ advice to “do what you enjoy and you’ll meet someone perfect for you”. Sadly, I did not meet a single person while sitting in my underwear, eating pizza, and playing Nintendo. Since dating involves leaving the house, I had to go to the theater. Dating, unlike landing a snake filled jumbo jet with only Nintendo training, is not as easy as it appears. The first thing I had to do was ask a girl out; no easy feat for someone deathly afraid of pepper spray. In my online study of dating, I learned women like men who make decisions. It beats my video research which showed women love men who clean pools and/or deliver pizza.
Sticking to the online insight I decided to tell the young lady which movie we would be seeing. After reviewing the current movies, I realized I must be careful of any message sent. The first movie choice was Anthony Hopkins in Fracture, a thriller about a man who kills his wife. I was fearful that any spontaneous applause might cost me an elbow to the temple. Also playing was Knocked Up, I believe we all know what is wrong with that movie. Next on the list is a story about a woman with Alzheimer’s called Away From Her, which makes a better last date movie. The only movies left to choose from were Evan Almighty, starring the hot Gilmore mom and the virgin office boss, Shrek, and that pirate movie.

In my journey to begin dating again, I figured the least stressful way to start was to ask out a friend. Travis had plans and Andy simply said no, so I changed tactics and asked out a girl I met at school. We went to dinner before the movie. During dinner she mentioned that her concern was that she not be the rebound girl. I explained I already had my rebound date, unless she meant sex, in which case, I was very ready to rebound. That didn’t go over too well so I decided to smooth over the situation by telling her I hadn’t rebounded in past 3 years. She was still hesitant so I assured her it wasn’t what I meant, that I actually rebounded myself earlier in the day. I can’t tell you much about the movie because my date made me take her home after that comment and I only saw the closing credits. I think I’ll return to what works and only review rental movies.

To that end, if you’re a single girl willing to fly to Atlanta and/or rent a movie, can cook, and has questionable morals, please email me. Cooking is not required.

By AmazonRed

August 30, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

Thanks WiseDiva melo was gonna make me work for the answer. LOL

There should be a MIA 101 post for all the newbies to read. That way we wouldn’t ask so many stupid questions! :-)

By Dan

August 30, 2007 9:39 AM | Link to this

MLB. Wow in my day we didn’t need a Board per se, just a loosely held set of standards, but you gentlemen have it your way.

As for the topic, a first date is the easiest thing in the world, once she/he says yes, it’s up to the inviter to make the surroundings comfortable for the invitee. That’s pretty much it.

If she was attracted enough to ask me out, I just need to show up (and be the gentleman that I am a pay for the date.) If I ask her out, she just needs to show up (and at least offer a symbolic gesture of paying).

The convo was right to get her/me, so we just keep that up for as long as it lasts.

By Binford

August 30, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

I echo what AmazonRed said. A first date (even though a fact finding mission and you’re evaluating potential) can be a casual affair; and if you are calm, cool and collected both the inside and out, you’ll be fine.

I do appreciate AmazonRed’s humbleness and candor in regards to her being an ugly dumpling ;P

The MLB DOES exist and DOES have a secret headquarters in the mountains with the sole purpose of keeping men masculine!

By SexyLeggs

August 30, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

Daayuumm Grand Poo Bah, that was funny. Don’t know how much your citation will be, but it should be hefty.

By AmazonRed

August 30, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

Hey Binford You can be built like Heidi Klum and still have a face like Broom Hilda. LOL

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 30, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this

Mawnin Ya’ll!! Hope everyone is doing well.

SexyLeggs ^5 on the post about Chrisette Michelle! That CD is great!!!

I am gonna lurk and take notes today unless someone posts something that brings me out! *Mo getting pen and paper, along with slightly frozen Pepsi, to take notes (and stay awake)! LOL

By melo

August 30, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed,i’m glad he’s been in the dog house.Thats tacit wink to me, i think that i am taking over! MLB means MAN LAW BOARD,its some juvenile shyt i dont quite understand. U will soon hear the originals here expounding on it! Its a Friday for me here too, so i am clearing my desk. Let me know when i can bring my toothbrush over Amazon, and plz make sure u change the sheets. I aint gonna want to smell some other dudes sweat!

By melo

August 30, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

Hey Foots!!!

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

Goodmorning room! Happy today is Friday for me!!!

Lol..lol @ For Real Where is he? Stoooopid with the skit on Aqualung AKA Lunger yesturday. I’m still trippin’. My sillyserious self got a meeting in a minute i’m tryin to compose.

Hey Slim! NC was not saying any YO Mama jokes yesturday about mom dukes. You now it’s all love for WLB. Even in ones absence. Miss ya chic.

BBL to comment on topic gotta get my bkfst on.

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

Hey Foots… It’s on with chair class tonight. Can’t wait!

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

Hey Foots… It’s on with chair class tonight. Can’t wait!

By Ladylike

August 30, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

I am such an advocate for hanging out, and really I think this is why it’s hard for me to get to the first date. But I’m working on becoming a dater, and it’s getting better. I love being myself so the cool and aloof behavior is often dominant, although once I get to know someone I show my witty humorous side. Keep the first date simple. I want time to talk to him and he me so that he can find out more about me and vica versa.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

August 30, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone!!

So how do we get through that “challenging” first date? You put it in its’ proper perspective. It’s two people trying to get to know each other. If it works out…GREAT! If not, then keep it moving. Your future is NOT dependent on this first date.

Now, saying that, I’m going to add that first impressions can be lasting impressions. So, on one hand, you take it for what it’s worth, on the other hand…be prepared to seize the opportunity.

One thing that I have found works for me is to be very selective on who you would go out with. There has got to be something intriguing about this person to make me give up me time. I won’t go out with someone just have something to do…boring folks do stuff like that. I have found that if I’m intrigued by someone and they find me interesting and attractive….then the first date is icing on the cake! Since 2000..all of my first dates turned out to be long term relationships with the shortest being a year.

By AmazonRed

August 30, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

HAAAAAAAAAA @ melo. If you’re gonna act, act fast. He’s gotten the feeling that other guys are sniffing around and is bring up the dreaded “C” word!

Happy “Friday” to you. Where are you taking me this weekend? ! :-)

By Binford

August 30, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed That would be SUCH a crime!

Is an ugly dumpling something you get at a bad dim sum place?

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

Good morning blogsville.

Binford the next time you reveal info on the mancave we’re gonna tie you outside naked and cover you with honey and smack the hell out of the closest beehive. Comprende?

On topic: 1st dates are easy. Its just 2 folks getting together for some casual convo. Nothing more. I’ve noticed my neighbors invite me over to their spot for a first get together. Anyway, I consider myself to be a pretty worldly guy so I give great convo.

NC please don’t make me post a link to the vid of you going ballistic when your bullet ran out of batteries halfway thru happy hour.

Grand that was funny as hell.

Mo cmere so I can grab that hiny girl.

Sexy I’m always looking for good music. Thanks for the referral.

By Foots

August 30, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

Melo What’s up? How’z it going today?

cemeeli Yay!!! I’m glad you’re going! Make sure to tell them I talked them up, okay? I would really like for them to hire me to teach Level 1. A sista just cleaned out Dillard’s yesterday and I need another J-O-B! (Y’all PLEASE go by there, they have their swimsuits and shoes 75% off. Heaven must be like this.) LOL!!

Grand Poo Bah ^5 on the funny narrative!! You might be getting a citation though… LOL!

It’s my Friday too!

By Foots

August 30, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

Good old fashioned courting has been turned on it’s ear, do you think the first date means anything anymore?

Oh, I think it’s wonderful to have great first date and it does mean a lot. It has a LOT to do with whether a second date is in the future.

I love to dress up, but I don’t get a chance to do that much in my daily life. My last first (evening) date, he kept the specifics of our plans a secret until the day before. (note: he DID make plans in ADVANCE!) But he had been asking me questions in the weeks before to stealthily find out if I would be cool with what he was planning. He asked me to wear a black dressy dress, since I had on a black casual dress when we met. He came to pick me up wearing a suit. I could tell that the date meant a lot to him and I really appreciate all of the effort he put into making it special for the two of us.

By abc

August 30, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

I didn’t find 1st dates to be that challenging, they’re not all that pleasant though. Maybe I think so because I went on so many where I didn’t care to ask them out on a 2nd date. At any rate, I’ll take them someplace nice, do what I can to make them as comfortable and at ease as possible, and try to get to know them a little. It ain’t a science. When I was going on so many 1st dates last year, it seemed most of the chicks were completely unused to a man being nice to them… after a nice dinner and maybe a gift for them, they’d be so disappointed that I’d not ask them out again that I became just another azzhole that treated them badly, as far as they were concerned.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 30, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this

Truth Mo placing pad & paper on the table, sashaying over to Truth for a good ole fashioned *azz grab….only for you Truth, hugs and kisses! LOL

Lady Dark One thing that I have found works for me is to be very selective on who you would go out with..chica you said a mouthful with that one!! co-signing 100%

By Foots

August 30, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

Do you have first date jitters?

No jitters for Foots. I’ve been off the practice field for a LONG time, now I just be myself and if they like that, cool. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned not to try too hard, cause as DuShawn said yesterday, if they dig you, they dig you. If it doesn’t go well, I just remember that everything wasn’t meant to be. Now, I REALLY put the emphasis on whether I actually like the man or not and whether I enjoy his company.

By BennyB

August 30, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

First dates are routine, you want to make sure that you are not dealing with a psycho in the first place and then found out

Is she intellectual …..What was the last book you read girl? I know some girls don’t make time to read or learn new info….magazines are not acceptable here….oh…wait you don’t have time to update your knowledge? I guess we can talk about desperate house wife and America Idol…..yes I been told that those shows are very enlightening.

Is she grown up yet? Or she only listens to whatever mama or friends say….If she still a child, she need a baby sitter, I’m way over qualified for that….got to go…

Is she on pursuit of her life goals and ambitions or she’s just one goal sister — find Mr. Husband? Is she educated? Does she have a job? No I don’t want to know your credit score girl because I don’t think I can handle that now….it’s too early….

Is she bitter about the failure of her past relationships? Does she take any responsibility for the failure or is she’s one of those girls who blame every guy of wanting to get in her pant only….If she’s one of those (G)rils I’ll wait until a peace agreement between Arabs and Zionists is signed to call her back for a second date.

Does she have a childhood male role model? If yes I know it’s safe to be myself, if not, I may as well start working on eggs shell….I agree…she is so beautiful but this is not good…should I try to get some and disappear or what I do? I just don’t know yet…

Does she offer to pay? Don’t worry girl…if the date was ok, I will thank you but decline your offer. If I don’t have a second date in mind, I let you pick up the tip. She did not even offer…why bother to call for a second one?

I hope now you now why I didn’t call back…….

Let say that I called back and now you want us to be just friends…….Are you serious?

I guess the food was good because apparently you want some more. Yes girl…we can be just friend but from now on, you’ll be paying for the food and I will only pick up the tip…..and then she says …that’s no fair…

By Foots

August 30, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

Hey abc. What about those women made you not ask them out again after a nice dinner and a parting gift? Was it that they didn’t know how to receive and appreciate your chivalry??

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

Happy Friday to all the folks that are off tomorrow (my mind is already on vacation).

First dates - I have to admit that I need to adopt LadyDark’s philosophy of only going out with folks that intrigue me. I was the type to give almost ANY guy a chance, but now I’m finding that is truly a waste of my time. But for the most part, first dates for me are fairly easy - it’s telling the guy that there won’t be a second date that gets a little awkward. That’s why I need to limit who I go out with.

Now just hanging out with someone of the opposite sex is a different thing, for me. But as I’ve been told many times on this blog and in person - guys aren’t trying to be my friend. Although this one guy tricked me into going out to dinner the other night. He swore up and down he wanted to be my friend but before I could get my first sip of water, he was telling me how he could be my future husband…

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs I’ve been hearing one of Chrisette’s songs on the radio here and I like it - I might have to download her tonight as I prep my ipod for my vacation

By Dan

August 30, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

Yesterday, someone said that attraction began with the eyes. First a story, then 2 questions.

One of my great loves, I met in a club. I was on one side and she was on the other. I felt someone that kept looking a me and I honed in on these gorgeous eyes from across the room. (She later told me that she saw me come in with my friends and was watching me the whole night). For some reason I was drawn to those eyes like a moth to a flame. We left the club together (crews in tow) and conversed for the rest of the night outside her apartment. We actually talked until the sun came up.

The question is, ladies if you see a man that you are that attracted to, would you make the first move? And for the MLB guys, have you ever seen a woman so beautiful that you were actually drawn to her (with whatever intention?)

By QC - Is it 5ive yet?

August 30, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers I hate doing the dinner & movie for a 1st date that’s so…..played out for me…i prefer for us to come to a mutual aggreement on our 1st date..have a great day bloggers!

By Grand Poo Bah

August 30, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

I’ll pay and be happy. Glad to have some people laughing with me :-)

By abc

August 30, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this

Foots, nah… sometimes they were real country (I’m just not country at all), sometimes misrepresenting themselves quite a lot, maybe just not all that interesting to talk to, or just plain no spark. One had too long a prison record. A few were too obviously looking for someone to rescue them from single motherhood. It was kind of various.

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

ABC did I read your post right? You buy a chick a gift for the first date? I’m conflicted over that.

Half of me thinks its cool to be that thoughtful.

However, the better half of me thinks your one of those guys out there running up the cost of puddy. Go blow your money on a frisbee or something. Alot of these chicks are just glad someones gonna buy them a meal. Thats their gift. I’m going to forward you all past email updates on the current state of dating in america. Your way off base on this one.

Hi Foots and Cimilac. Foots, what did you get me from Dillards? You know I like expensive gifts. You can never go wrong with gator or croc.

They put Slim on lcokdown. LOL

By Brooklyn

August 30, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

I also dont classify the first date as a “date”. I call it hanging out or chilling with the other person so it takes the pressure of each of us so its easier to get to know the other person that way.

What do you consider the best setting for a first date? I think a jazz club or a low key resturant usually does the trick.

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this

No first date jitters for me either. Well, let me take that back - my jitters are more that I won’t like him than he won’t like me, but since I’m going to be more selective with my first dates - I don’t have to worry about that.

It used to be that I didn’t go out on first dates during the week because, if I’m faithful to my workout plan, I would be sporting a ponytail. In an effort to make the best first impression, I wanted to make sure my hair was down, contacts in, make-up on, etc. But then I realized I was, in a way, deceiving my date. So my last 3 first dates were during the week, wearing my ponytail and glasses.

By NCGirlfromATL

August 30, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

NC please don’t make me post a link to the vid of you going ballistic when your bullet ran out of batteries halfway thru happy hour.

Truth I’ll post mine if you post yours!

Thanks Cemeeli for having my back! lol!

On topic: I like first dates! They remind me of when I used to audition when I was an active musician. I love the adrenaline rush and the challenge of spending time with someone I might be interested in. It’s true that hanging out is a lot easier, but I kind of like the butterflies etc. I do think the first date is a lost art. But, not completely lost. LOL!

By Dan

August 30, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

@ Foots. True that whole post, homie. You meet these vapid women and it almost hurts your heart that she has more interest in TV than in events that directly affect her life.

@Truth, my man. The running up the cost of puddy…classic and true. A gift on a first date is sweet but so 1950, I think of Leave it to Beaver.

By Dan

August 30, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

@ Foots. True that whole post, homie. You meet these vapid women and it almost hurts your heart that she has more interest in TV than in events that directly affect her life.

@Truth, my man. The running up the cost of puddy…classic and true. A gift on a first date is sweet but so 1950, I think of Leave it to Beaver.

By Dan

August 30, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

@ Foots. True that whole post, homie. You meet these vapid women and it almost hurts your heart that she has more interest in TV than in events that directly affect her life.

@Truth, my man. The running up the cost of puddy…classic and true. A gift on a first date is sweet but so 1950, I think of Leave it to Beaver.

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

Dan for me it depends on the setting. I usually only make the first move at a get together, cookout or something like that. A setting where me approaching the guy won’t automatically be viewed as me trying to holla - if you know what I mean. With that said, if I’m just overwhelmed by a guy for some reason - I’ll contemplate making the first move, but the last time that happened I punked out. So hopefully the next time that happens, I’ll actually follow through.

QC Dinner is the perfect first date for me. For the most part there are no other distractions and we can just talk and enjoy one another’s company.

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

Dan when I saw my ex wife for the first time we were around alot of people but she was all I saw. There was absolutely no doubt that she was going to be mine. No doubt. Every fiber of my body claimed her and she said the same. We never had a first date because from the first moment I met her it was like we had been together forever. It was just natural.

Please don’t boot me from the MLB fellas. LMAO

Tazz is 5 carats gonna be enough?

By Got that?

August 30, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

As far as first dates are concerned, to me they are no different than later dates. It all comes down to being willing to be yourself. Eventually, they’re going to figure it out, so why hide it? The hardest part has already been completed, that is, asking her out and her saying yes. The rest is easy. If she liked me enough to accept the date, it’d make no sense for me to be anything other than who I am. I’ve been that way my whole life. I don’t have to think about it. I just have to be it. Either she’ll like it or she won’t. It’s as simple as that.

By abc

August 30, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

Truth, I didn’t really think of them in terms of cost vs. attention I’d get from them. I just showed them a good, clean time, that’s all. Frankly, the ‘cost of puddy’ is a little too cheap for a lot of these chicks, they should mark it up some, charge some love for it instead of a few bucks.

By Staceye

August 30, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

Morning All…

Sexxyleggs I have heard that song and you are so right it is so beautiful.

Poo Bah did you say cooking not required??? Well hi ya doin’? LOL I can cook..but I hate to. Now I will clean the hellz out of a crib because I am a neat freak.

I love movies of all type..I find horror movies to be funny. I tend to laugh at things that normal folks wouldn’t laugh at. Sorry..got a sadistic sense of humor and I’m a little morbid. Ok…you try doing dead people’s make up and see how normal you’d be! ANYWAY…I love to read when I have time.It was easier to read a lot of book in NY because you got most of your reading done on the train. OK…so when you meet a girl..just be you. Don’t be a boring date and just let her do all the talking. I’m known as Chatty Cathy in my family so there is never a dull moment on a date with me! As AmazonRed said, just be cool. Things should fall into place. No lines or game needed. I am just my usual crazy self…full of jokes!

Dan if you ask a woman out you should pay. Now that does not mean that she should not come out with her own money to cover her own expenses. But I know I would not go out with a guy again if he asked me out and did not do the customary thing of getting the bill. The next one might be on me. I have done dinner and a movie and I got the tickets online and after her paid for dinner I told him I got the tickets already. So splitting it is bad either.

MO you like Pepsi?? My girl….I can’t stand that muddy water tasting Coke they try to force on me everywhere I go just because it’s based in ATL. Mygirls and I did the Pepsi/Coke challenge when I went home for the 4th and guess what…3 out of 4 chose pepsi…yeah! LOL

Foots & Cemeeli I gotta see what classes you guys go to…I wanna go with you guys!

Sounds like you had a good date.

Ok..I’ll take my citation now!!!

By Foots

August 30, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

The question is, ladies if you see a man that you are that attracted to, would you make the first move?

Dan I have done this a couple of times, found a way to introduce myself to a man who was able to grab my attention. The practice isn’t habit-forming though.

Tazzee I don’t really get asked out a lot, so I’ve only had one first date this year. And it’s almost September! I guess I’ve just been warming the hellz out this bench after that last “false start”. :-(

No rush though. Some of everything has been approaching me lately, not one starter in the bunch. I just decline sweetly and resume sitting in the warm spot on this bench until the franchise player steps up and asks me to play.

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

Foots Girl since today is my Friday, I am there. The Dillard’s near me every time i go in there my size always seem untouched. So here i come shoe rack. I’m with QC-Is it five yet?!

Truth Miss you too babe. Similac gonna make sure she find those mid-top powder blue gators for you.

Wait a min… Truth was that you the other day with the all white linen suit complete w/white gators that Musing saw? You have been MIA for a min. LOL!

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

August 30, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Blog

Wow, there are alot of new people on the Blog. Someone please send Abe over to my place of business with Emmancipation papers also.

I’s trying to steal away from the plantation too massah

LOL, anyway, cute topic WD! I always am a little nervous before going out with a dude for the first time. I’ve had some shockingly awful 1st dates. I.E. The guy who wanted to go on a pinic to the park and only had grapes and cherries and no pinic basket or vehicle to get there. Go figure!

Holla Back! Hey NC, Truth, ABC, Slim and Tazzee! Where’s KB and GA.Man?

By Ladylike

August 30, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

Awwwwnow, Truth don’t be sending ABC now mail on how he’s way off base. I think it’s sweet to bring a lady a token of your gentlmenly kindness.

The first date should definitely be somewhere you both can talk not just look at a movie or at some loud concert but somewhere you can get to know each. Cozy restaurant, evening walk down upper Peachtree Street, then cozy dinner. Light jazz, or maybe just waffle house, lol, I’m just joking, but who knows.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 30, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this

QC Hey chica! I agree with you about the dinner & a movie for a first date. I would prefer something where we could talk more and that was a little more interesting. But I also agree with what many bloggers have said about hanging out. Hanging Out would seem to take the jitters out of a first “date”. JMHO

By Foots

August 30, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

NCGirl What instrument do you play?? I used to play the alto sax and the piano, those were the days…

Truth I didn’t know your size, sweetie, sorry! Looka here…if you send me about $46.82, I can probably get about $2,589.13 worth of merchandise. The sale is THAT good! LOL!!

abc Um…what do you mean by country?? (Foots clears throat) Like, in accent, or in pattern of thought?

By Dan

August 30, 2007 11:02 AM | Link to this

Fellas, agree or disagree: one line.

Isn’t a woman approaching, just the SEXIEST thing in the world?

@Staceye. I do pay for the times I ask women out, but like other writers I feel the same way, the woman must be intriguing. “Think Cee-lo in Beautiful Skin.”

By Jake

August 30, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

What up Peeps:

1st dates are just like the rest, either its cool or it isn’t. I will be me regardless, if you like we can do it again, but if you don’t like a man thats smooth, cool as hell and caramel, well I can’t help you…lol

@Truth ABC’s driving up the cost of puddy…LOL

NC active musician-What’s your talent?

Ladies how are ya’ll today? what up MLB

By Wise Diva

August 30, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

@Brooklyn, those are great first date ideas. I know Churchill Grounds can be the perfect setting because those blasted tables are so small, then you have to sit close to each other, it’s first date bliss, I tell ya!

By Jake a.k.a. cool as hell and caramel

August 30, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

Dan

You stand correct, its real sexy when a lady comes to get you.

By abc

August 30, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

Foots, country pattern of thought, a certain kind of closed-mindedness, inability to consider things outside the sphere of their specific experiences. Fair to them or not, I’m just not a country person. Provincialism is a bother, even folks’ attitudes about living in Atlanta seem that way to me.

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

On Topic: First dates for me are interesting and fun in some way. Like Tazzee said you get to tap into convos you prolly couldn’t engage when at social gatherings and such.

Though, like some in here have said neither am i a big eater so taking me out to dinner is not exactly my forte. movies…okay. But if i choose it will be Imperzo (sp?) or the Chocolate Bar …somewhere i can evoke more of your senses if i was feeling you from jump. If’ i’m just going cuase i wanna get out. Met me at Willy’s.

Oh,,,i absolutey love patio settings with food and laughter, fun. Of course this will prolly be after the first few dates.

Mochalatte Welcome back.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 30, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

Jake I am on my way!! LOL

Staceye I am a Pepsi girl!! I used to like Coke but went away to school got hooked on Pepsi b/c that’s all we had. Coke was not in abundance and was more expensive!

Truth that was sweet about you and the ex-Ms Truth!!

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

The Truth Awww, that was special - you getting soft on us man! On the carats - I’m not that flashy, I’m think 2 carats maximum anything over that is too much. But you could parlay those other 3 carats into a nice bracelet.

Staceye You used to work in a funeral home or something? I used to love that show Six Feet Under (oh and the restaurant is good too, LOL).

Dan I always offer to pick up the tab, but I have to be honest - if it’s our first date and the guy accepts my offer, then I’m looking at him sideways. On my ‘friend/date’ earlier this week, the guy insisted on paying. I really didn’t want him to pay - so I offered to leave the tip. I never saw the bill, but he agreed to let me pay the tip and said it was around $10. So I put two 5’s on the table - dude picked up one of my 5’s, tossed $3 on the table and kept the other $2… Now I’m not sweating $2 but that caught me off guard.

By Foots

August 30, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

Dan and Jake Is it only sexy when the woman is fine and beautiful? Or would you still think it’s sexy if Grimace walked up on you with a sashay and a smile?? LOL!

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

LMAO Similac. You know I don’t get down like that. I’m a Cole Haan or Johnson and Murphy kinda of dude with a sweet 3 button that fits just right. I think you got me confused with Creflo or Eddie Long. The exotic goes around the waste or on the wrist. Maybe if tasteful on the feet. I’m not a pimp. LOL

Hey Mocha. Long time no see. I hope all is well.

LadyLike think about it like this. If thats what ol boy does its not special because he does it to any woman he goes out with. Its not sweet its a routine. Also, a chick that can get down at waffle house is a woman indeed.

ABC your right on your last post. Theirs a slew of them that will gladly bend over if you pay their cell phone bill. I would love to meet a snobby chick that felt like her body wasn’t for just any ol body. At least make me feel like I’m getting something cherished. With alot of these chicks its like the “WNBA”. We got next.

Hi QC. I always love a movie and a good movie. If its the right chick anything you do will cool.

No dude should ask a chick out and not pay. Thats wack.

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

Heeyy Jake

My son has a friend name Jake. Every time i see your name i think of dat lil dude. Hes is really a cool lil guy to be almost 8.

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli LOLOLOL! Sorry, but when I read your post, I lost it now I can’t even think of the name of that restaurant place, let alone how to spell it. You’re talking about the one on Peachtree, right (and they have one at Perimeter)? DANG, if someone were to ask me the name before reading your post, I would spout it right out.

On the patio setting - I love hanging out at Fellini’s on Ponce on a nice evening.

By NCGirlfromATL

August 30, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this

Heeeey Mochalatte!!

Foots/Jake I started off playing piano (started lessons in 3rd grade and all thru HS), then violin (middle school & 9th grade), then drums (HS thru college). Now, I sing. Since I’m outing myself as a band geek…I was in every honor band, all-state whatever I could possibly audition for from about the 5th grade on. Drum competitions, etc…took a stab at drum & bugle corp (one of the only people to ever ‘walk on” to the drumline w/ no audition), but after a taste of spending entire weekends playing in a hot, dusty field, lugging heavy equipment around and having to sleep on the floor of some HS gym, I decided I was better suited for the spectator role! LOL! I still have some of my drumming skills…never give a drummer 2 pens and a flat surface lol! But, after a bad fall and torn ligaments in my thumb, I have trouble spreading my hand to reach all of the keys on the piano. Hence, voice lessons. LOL!

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

Pepsi! That is blasphemy, LOL. The only time I didn’t drink Coke was when I was in college and we were boycotting them because of Apartheid (AMANDLA!!!) I was sooooo glad when Coke got on board and I could starting drinking it again.

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this

Dan it is without a doubt sexy as hell when a chick approaches you. All of the women that have approached me are still my friends. If I approach them it may or may not go. Whats that about?

Foots I’ll be by to pick you up after work and we’re gonna close Dillards down. The Truth loves a good sale. On the size thing. Anytime I’m dating a woman long term I put all her sizes in my wallet. Sometimes you see something that would look perfect on your sweety.

By Staceye

August 30, 2007 11:40 AM | Link to this

Tazzee I did brief stint as a mortician beautician for a while some years ago. It was cool…no back talk, no arguements, and none of my secrest that I shared in “confidence” were ever spilled! LOL

As for your jinky date…I hope you never went out with him or called him again.

By Brooklyn

August 30, 2007 11:40 AM | Link to this

Wise, I think thats how my boyfriend managed to sweep me off my feet. He will pick me up and take me to all these small, intimate hideaway’s and jazz resturants like the ‘Sweet Lowdown’ or a comedy club or we’ll just go walking thru midtown on a lazy Sunday evening. Basically places that I will have never thought to go because it’s not so traditional to me. All in all I knew that he put thought into it so it meant that much more to me.

We’ll definetely try to check out the Churchill Grounds. I’ve heard a few things about it…

By Dan

August 30, 2007 11:40 AM | Link to this

@Foots. To be honest, physical attraction is a plus, esp. for romance. But to be honest with you, even if she looked like the “cryptkeeper” I would smile, give her the attention she deserves and carry on with the conversation as normal.

Don’t get me wrong, the hotter the better (I am a shallow someone), but for me it’s the confidence a woman shows, the ambition of the act and unconventionality that makes a females approach sexy. So yeah, at that point, she got me.

By Wise Diva

August 30, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

I am glad to see the new readers and commenters on the blog this week, some new perspectives, sweet! The regular blog cast, ya’ll already know I love ya’ll to pieces, right? muah

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

lol @ Tazzee Gurl…am i in the ballpark i hope. When i wanna go there it rolls of my tongue like butter. But i can’t spell it for nuthin’. Yea…that place.

Patio settings yes maam…

Fellini’s is definitly a cool spot. My son’s father and I use to carve our names into some of their tables(it was allowed)…when we were in love. Waaaayyy back in da day. We wore out most places like that.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

August 30, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

Okay, indulge me…

Hall of Fame Dates

Platinum Date: Mr. Bodybuilder in Chi-town….He took me to some hole in the wall restaurant that had awesome food. After that we went dancing at a reggae club….hmmmmm, it allowed me to feel all those muscles….then we walked around downtown….some square with a fountain…it was awesome and still stands in the Hall of Fame as one of my best first dates. It ended with a kiss on the cheek….just enough to want you begging for more…

Silver Date: I met Mr. PhD at one of my favorite dessert spots. He met me in the waiting area with roses. It was very nice. As we walked to the table I felt all eyes were on us….me carrying roses and all. He ordered 3 or 4 desserts for us to sample. It was great. We ended up at a park in the area and just talked and talked. That first date ended with a hug…we lasted 4 years.

Gold Date: My fiance and I met at Cafe Intermezzo on a Monday evening. The place was pretty quiet and we had a window table for two right in front of the dessert bar. It was an intimate setting and the conversation was great! He held my hand across the table and just look so self assured…I guess he knew something that I didn’t know at the time

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

Staceye actually this was the guy that said he was my friend then commenced to try and convince me we would be good together during dinner. It may seem cruel and decieving, but I plan to hang out with him again. I’ve already told him my intentions and overall he’s a fun guy to be around. He thinks he can break me down, but that won’t happen because 1)He’s not a Christian and B)I’m not really attracted to him. Now, had he allowed me to get to know him as a friend and if he were a Christian - I could see me getting over the attraction part. He’s not ugly or anything, just not fine enough for me to try harder to like some other things about him.

And I’m mad at you for confiding in the dead folks! LOL

By Ladylike

August 30, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

Hey Truth I like gifts so to me it’s sweet and endearing. I don’t mean expensive gifts, but flowers, a plant, a faygo soda pop from the dollar store heck use your imagination. LOL Believe or not I do the same thing, if I see something that reminds me of the guy I’ll buy it, especially if it’s funny, LOL.

Oh, the Waffle House is good anytime, I try not let guys know that I might be such a cheap date but sometimes going someplace more expensive doesn’t necessarily mean the quality of time spent on the date is better.

The Pepsi and the Coca Cola battle, well, I drink both. If I don’t have Coke, I’ll drink Pepsi. But truly Mr. Pibb, Dr. Pepper give me that strong fizz I like in a dark soda.

By melo

August 30, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this

Phew, just came out of a meeting with my boss and his boss. I gave it to them and they were stupyfied!Using me to clean up their inefficient azzes and not giving me props! Melo talks straight to anybody, same way i talk on blog!

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this

Thanks Lady Dark! Cafe Intermezzo That’s it!!!

By Staceye

August 30, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

*Tazzee I’m trying to tell you…dead men/woman tell no tales!!! LOL

But it’s funny when you tell a guy he will never be more than you friend…but just like Urkle (by the way I love nerds) he thinks he’s wearing you down baby!!! LOL

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

August 30, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

Grand Poo bah

ok that post was toooooo dang gome long

Riiiiiip

here is a reminder keep it short

Grand poo bah look at ticket and passes the f/k out 14236.00 including tax

By Jake a.k.a. cool as hell and caramel

August 30, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

Hey Mo, how are you. Ceemeli, he has no choice but to be cool, the name has power.

Brooklyn He BillyD’ed (bil-ly-deed) you. I have that term patented…lol

Took you out to enjoy yourself with him, but kept you in at the same time, kept you in new experiences. Took you to spots that are small and intimate, kissed you with conversation in those spots, its not to loud, and its just a wonderful vibe, places where you could connect, not loud azz stadiums and crowded hot spots. You didn’t have a chance…lol

Lets hear it for the Smooth Operaters, we comin back, just like Light Skinned dudes…hehehe.

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

August 30, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this

Bennyb

here is your ticket

riiiiip

dang folks..stop writing these books…lolololol

ticket 10364.00 tax not included cause yours was shorter

By Dan

August 30, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

@Truth. The sizes in the wallet is old school. I’m now officially a fan of yours.

Intermezzo’s, Churchill Grounds? Ladies tell me, what happened to the fly, fly picnic dates. Sitting across a candlelit table at McDonalds? Is it the venue (which determines the cost,and ultimately his income level) or is it the atmosphere (which could be created walking through Wal-Mart with matching carts shopping for bananas and other supplies?)

I don’t get. I used to date women that would say “It doesn’t matter where we go.” And mean it.

Oooh, these days, you’ve may have to take a second mortgage to take a woman out.

@Tazzee, why waste your time with a man that you feel is not worth your romantic effort. That kind of behavior is what creates bitter men and in turn bitter women. Let the man fly free for his real love.

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

August 30, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

Staceye here you go…..GaMan shaking hand like he was a kid in school writing lines

Riiiiiiiiiip

ticket cost 4568.25

By Dan

August 30, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

@Jake.

No, no. As long as New Jack City is in existence, and Micheal Jordan is still the Man. Light skinned brothers will never come back in.

The darker the berry….

By Wise Diva

August 30, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

Dan, I can assure you that a nice mix of frugal/cheaper dates, mixed with a few upscale dates, with a pinch of DUTCH, and a smart woman would be just as happy with that. Ya’ll know how to spot the golddiggers by now, so when you find that fabulous, level-headed woman (Yes, For Real, we DO exist!), then you don’t complain about the money, time, or energy that goes in courting her.

Personally, I think I am worth being taken to nice places, but ultimately it’s about effort and attention - from both of us.

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

Staceye LOL, if he managed to do an Urkel/Stephon transformation he might stand a chance. But I’m going to keep this guy around, he’s good people and hopefully he won’t cross the line and get cut.

GA.Man how you gone run up in here all late issuing citations. Have you seen Talk to Me yet? ;-)

By 2CPTG

August 30, 2007 12:26 PM | Link to this

hey y’all…..

off topic….Tazz, wanna unload some of your tix this year? esp the game against the Bucs????

By NCGirlfromATL

August 30, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this

Or would you still think it’s sexy if Grimace walked up on you with a sashay and a smile??

Foots LMAO!!!! All I can think about is Jamie Foxx’s Wanda character on In Living Color!

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

Dan and Jake its not about being dark or light. A dude that can produce is ALWAYS in demand. LOL

I used to hit Cafe Intermezzo in the 90’s’. You could go out back in the evenings and sit with the candles burning and have Mimosa’s and just enjoy your date. Oh yeah, I was linened up. It was nice.

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

Dan I told him that I wanted a friend. He said he would be a friend. He’s also made it known that he wants something more - but I’m not feeling that. But I like him as a friend. He is free to find his real love and we discussed that during dinner. I told him that I don’t expect him to put me before any potential dates or anything like that therefore I’m not trying to get his weekends (not that I’m ever here on the weekends).

So when we left the restaurant Tuesday night, he seemed cool with it. I’m assuming he’s still cool with it by the fact that he’s been emailing me ever since.

This guy is almost 40 years old, so if he winds up bitter in the end, that is his fault.

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

August 30, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this

Tazzee here is your ticket for complaining about how tickets are given out…and i have been watching all morning long

Riiiiiiiiiiip

here you go…..2500.00

And as My big mama would say this one is just for jb

Riiiiiiiip

next time think it dont say it…

1200.00

Tazzee now passed out with Grand poo bah

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 12:38 PM | Link to this

2CPTG I’m going to all home games except the Giants, and that ticket is already sold. Plus, I don’t sell my ticket to the opposing team’s fans. I’d rather absorb that loss. Some Ravens fans got lucky with my ticket tomorrow, but it’s only preseason. But I still love you… muah!

By Dan

August 30, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this

@WD I completely agree a good woman is worth it. That’s what makes the time spent with one, worth the effort and why, when it’s over, nothing else will do.

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this

Dan - actually, for me it’s neither the venue or the atmosphere - it’s the company. I went on a ‘date’ with this guy at Bojangles earlier this year. I was in Charlotte, NC and I love Bojangles - so that’s where we went. The chicken tenders were good - the company, not so much.

By Foots

August 30, 2007 12:43 PM | Link to this

Dan I don’t get. I used to date women that would say “It doesn’t matter where we go.” And mean it.

Hmmm, I thought that in these stories, the man decided where the date would be? Sometimes, it’s not the venue or the atmosphere of the place (and by the way, those places mentioned are cozy, but aren’t expensive). It’s the fact that the dude actually put some THOUGHT into where he would like to take his potential new woman. If he thinks of a picnic and can take care of the details, perfect. As one who has spent hours preparing a picnic (grocery shopping, making chicken salad, baking brownies, making sure you didn’t leave anything you might need), it ain’t that easy and is much appreciated.

Look, I consider myself easy to please in a lot of aspects. But if all the thought a man can put into our first date is Dueling Shopping Carts at Wal-Mart, dude needs to think again. This isn’t a test. If the woman is special to you, for goodness sake, plan something special for her.

Now… Let the bullets fly as they may.

By Staceye

August 30, 2007 12:46 PM | Link to this

Jake you sound like my dad when you say light dudes making a come back! LMAO I love all colors..but something about smooth dark chocolate that makes a sista go into a diabetic coma! Whooooooo!

*Dan I love picnics…but I think because they know I have asthma they think I’ll croak! LOL But I run outside..so why can’t I dine outside? I used to have pinics in Central Park and Inwood park all the time. No men in ATL want to take me (sniff sniff)!

GA Man you take food stamps? LOL

NC you think of Wanda…i think of Shanene’! LOL

By 2CPTG

August 30, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

yeah, I love you too…..said while givin’ you the gas face…….

By Dan

August 30, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this

Tazzee brings up an interesting point.I can’t speak for every man here, but I have come to realize that my every interaction with a woman will have a lasting impact.

Whether it’s the way I approach her, the way I treat/speak to her, the way it ends. Ultimately, I feel as if it is in some way to behave in an appropriate and considerate manner. Becasue to my mind, my actions may yet affect the next 10 men she may encounter.

Thus again raising the cost of puddy.

Anyone (male/female) feel ya boy out there?

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this

Dan My theory is that I want to leave every person I come into contact with blessed, not stressed because they interacted with me. No matter who it is, male/female, work/friend/romantic relationship - I try to make that person’s life better in some way.

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this

Dan I said when I would chose the place where to go on a date. That I would go to those places i mentioned.

I don’t mind at all a pic-a-nic at he park at all. Just as Foots said it’s a great gesture with the thought/preparations a guy has to put into having a picnic date.

But no i’m not doing McDonalds or Walmart.

By Hotlanta

August 30, 2007 1:03 PM | Link to this

A date to me us just a date. I don’t go all willynilly by adding the white picket fence and the 2.4 kids. Get the free meal and come back home. If it is a really goooooooooooood date. I stay at his house and get breakfast.

By Dan

August 30, 2007 1:06 PM | Link to this

No offense to anyone intended.

Dan has been reading for a minute, likes how the people here think, and wanted to post some thoughts.

It’s all hypothetical and ALL LOVE, Peace and SOOOOUUUULLLL!

By For Real

August 30, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!!!

Lets see here:

NC Played the bag-pipes in high school.

2E’s Use to get into arguments with dead people bc their makeup wasn’t right.

abc Is responsible for driving the cost of puddy up.

Slim Is the new “ShawShank”. Keep fighting girl. Don’t let them big gurls thank they can just take your abnormally large CT.

Phoots use to have alto sex on a piano. Don’t know what that is be I like it.

Cemeeli carries a pocket knife.

Tazzee dumping a dude bc his booty ain’t big enough

I think that’s about it.

Oh and Wise likes to do the “Nasty” in tight places.

I’m done!

By Jake a.k.a. cool as hell and caramel

August 30, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this

Truth/Dan/*

I don’t know whether LS dudes are coming back for real, I was really talking about my kin, “Smooth Operaters”.

Staceye I don’t fall on either side of the color chart. But I know this Caramel melts in the ladies mouths…wanna taste?

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this

Truth Alright now!!! Don’t start with the suit and tailored shoes. Smelling like your cologne should have Heaven somewhere in the name.

Imma stay right over here and watch you enter the room AGIAN!

By Sully

August 30, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this

In all honesty, regardless of first dates or “hanging out”, the first time you meet someone, you aren’t meeting the true person, you’re meeting their representative. The true person comes out after the first date, if you get that far.

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

Jake He’s a little dude for real. How are you 8 and when you meet/see grown men you dap, give five,pump fist and give that lil shoulder touch thing men do, and don’t miss a beat? This lil guy and my son are really a site see.

By ATL Pearl Girl

August 30, 2007 1:30 PM | Link to this

I’ve been on so many blind dates I should get a free dog.

Oh yes.

By BennyB

August 30, 2007 1:33 PM | Link to this

* GA.Man AKA “Mr. Entertainment* Sorry dude, you can’t give me a ticket, I got diplomatic immunity.

When the demand is high, the price go ways up, so logically taking a woman on a classy fancy first date is a foolish idea, you put her in a pursued mode and they love it. She will run away, make you prove that you are something (WTF!!!). At this stage most guys will lose it (been there) and give up wondering what they’ve done wrong…. If you treat a woman like 24K gold on first date (you can pay for it), she will act like the whole fort Knox depository from then on. So you know that there is no way to gain access into Fort Knox depository unless you watched Ocean 11 way too many time.

Guys, you are advised to take a woman on a first date to do something that you do daily or weekly….like starbuck, motorcycle riding, tennis, play guitar….. Remember girls don’t like or play poker ….If you spend more than what you make an hour on a first date….then you are irrational.

By DuShawn

August 30, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this

I had the sure fiya inexpensive first date routine. All I needed was about forty dollars and if executed properly I’d have change left over. I’d throw together a picnic basket with the wine, fruit & cheese, candles, etc. Then I’d pick her up around 10:00pm. Hopefully, she would’ve already eaten by then, because dinner is not included. My first stop would be Monty’s in Coconut Grove. It’s an outdoor venue, its like a huge deck right on the water, Caribbean theme, torches, 2 or 3 bars, live reggae and no cover. We’d sit at the bar (a table would encourage her to look at a menu.), order one round, then excuse myself, discreetly go talk to dread in the band, slip him five dollars, tell him to play I Don’t Want To Wait In Vain by Bob Marley and dedicate it to me and my date. Shortly thereafter, dread would be on the mic “We have a special couple in the audience this evening……..this next song is dedicated to (her name) and Dushawn.” The female would always be so surprised to hear her name announced. That move earned points. From there I’d take them to the Marriot on Biscayne Bay. They have a piano bar on the second floor overlooking the ocean. This place has a more intimate ambiance, and it’s free. We’d take a walk on the dock, look at the Yachts and just talk. The next stop would be Halover Beach. By now it would be about 3:00am. I’d bring the picnic basket (and my pistol), we’d walk on the beach and listen to the ocean, then climb up in the life guard’s booth, light the candles open the wine and have a picnic under the stars. By the time I take her home she believes I’m her soul mate, but more importantly, I only spent about thirty dollars.

By Cheeseberger

August 30, 2007 1:49 PM | Link to this

This has been great evesdroping on. Being fairly new to the dating scene again after my 12 year marriage I do believe G poo bah really has my favorite perspective on things! My reaccuring problem seems to be is the 1st date is not a contractual agreement to a new and binding relationship…..Damn,it seems that as soon as the single men out there find someone who will help pick up the tab, is not offended by porn, can cook and is NOT looking for marriage BAM!!!!! here comes the marriage proposal! is it that evereyone wants what they can’t have?……hey, how about a couple dates first?…..or work on that “rebounding yourself a bit more”

By NCGirlfromATL

August 30, 2007 1:49 PM | Link to this

NC Played the bag-pipes in high school.

@ For Real Yeah, but I was sexy in my kilt…what’s your excuse for wearing a skirt?

Staceye You stoopid!! LOLOL!!

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 1:50 PM | Link to this

BennyB I have to agree with you on your first date theory. On a first date, we’re getting to know one another. I don’t think I’ve proven to a man that I’m worth spending a lot of extra money on. Notice I said extra because if you normally go to the higher end establishments, then don’t go cheap on me. But I notice a lot of guys trying to impress in the beginning so they start out taking a young lady to Nava - then they get mad when she doesn’t want to go to Moe’s. In his mind she shouldn’t expect more - and in her mind he should think she’s even more special now. And let us not forget the age old phrase ‘what you did to get me you must do to keep me.’

Now the flip side to that is - some guys interpret my choosing of a more regular type restaurant as me being a more regular type of woman and that is not the case either. I just know that dating can be expensive on the men and I’m not trying to break the bank the first time around. So I’ll usually pick something along the lines of Friday’s/Ruby Tuesday’s (not those exact places, but similar in cost) for a first date.

Essentially, as a woman, I’m stuck between a rock and a hard place - I don’t want to sell myself short by appearing to think of myself as ‘less than special’ but at the same time, I don’t want to come off as trying to get a free meal at a place I wouldn’t eat otherwise.

By Grand Poo Bah

August 30, 2007 1:56 PM | Link to this

Tazzee Don’t worry about your ticket, I gots you covered.
However, before accepting any ticket from GA.Man I’ll appeal for leniency from the honorable and Oh So Wise Diva.

Staceye I think we got a good deal here, I cook, you clean, everyone eats.

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this

Dushawn That is a very lovely date to say the least you put alot of thought and specials for that picnic. Exspecially the I’d bring the picnic basket (and my pistol). LOLOL!

I love dates like that…can’t say many men know how to pull that one off. You are defintley not like most. And wild. I love it!

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 2:01 PM | Link to this

Tazzee that is an admirable theory but not one I subscribe to. I leave myself open to handle different people with different approaches. I don’t have a problem with someone saying they met me and thought I was the devil. Even if they hate light skinned bald head dudes for the rest of their life. LOL

Foots I understand what your saying but to me that whole “special” thing is the problem. All this raising someone above what they may or may not be to show them you care is a big mistake, IMHO. I say lets not do what the masses are doing and just focus on what works for us. Your not a princess and I’m not a prince (actually I am but you know what I mean). I would rather start without the bells and whistles and grow to love a chick over time vs. love/lusting after her and learning to hate her over time. I think the statistics would support my theory. Actully, under my program one of you ladies in blogsville that hated me in the past will wind up loving me deeply and forever. (The Truth looks around blogsville to see who that woman is but still sees alot of women with clenched fists looking back. Nevermind)

Thunder Dan I don’t think that far ahead. I do what I do and if that works then cool. If not, thats cool too. I’m better at being me then what she wants me to be.

GAMAN I didn’t know you took stamps. I’ll give you $50 for 100. Hook a bruh up.

By SlimOne

August 30, 2007 2:01 PM | Link to this

Truth You been asking bout me knee-grow? I’m sneaking in again. I’m so sad without you all…..Okay i’m lying but that doesn’t change the fact that i’m going thru BlogWithdrawal.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 30, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

Dushawn you get points galore for your first date! WOW!!!

For Real my song for the day if you dont mind!

By Dan

August 30, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this

Ladies, dig this (and men tell me if I’m wrong)

Your value is not decided by where we go. That is such a misconception. My value is not in where I take you. Ladies your value is defined by: first the offer of a date (assumption being spending time to get to know you), then the actual date (where, as long as the conversation isn’t too innane and you look nice, we’re into it). And finally, the request for a second date, right there is where you find out your value, if no second date is offered. You have your answer.

By Wise Diva

August 30, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

@Grand Poo Bah, and I will gladly grant that leniency. GaMan (and his sidekick Officer Musing) got a lot of nerve trying to spread their ADD behavior around to other blog readers, LOL. I love the long posts (especially the witty/funny ones), I read them ALL, I promise!

By Dan

August 30, 2007 2:13 PM | Link to this

To complete my thought.

Dating has never been about assigning value to a woman (somehow morphed into that). As a man and as a woman we define our own “Self Worth” therefore (like Money Mike said) no one can devalue you, but you.

And I’ll be the first to admit a lot of us, men and women, have overvalued our worth ad nauseum.

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

Grand Poo Bah thanks sweetie, I was skurred to say anyting else about it for fear of getting another ticket…

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

BennyB you get the post of the day award (133). I cosign 100% and offer you my ex girl friend as proof. You hit that thing on the head. That is wisdom for the ages. Forget about the bull, this is how I live my life, if thats cool we go forward, if not get ABC to buy you a gift. J/K LOL

Eventually no matter how high you take a chick your gonna come right back to how you lived anyway. Dam bruh, I’m impressed. I’m gonna throw in my ex wife too.

ABC when is the big day anyway?

By abc

August 30, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

Big day… tellya, I’ll send the chick some thermal socks and electric foot warmers and let you know. Hmph.

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this

Ok Thunder Dan. You get co post of the day. Your 213 post was tight. I offer you this chick I knocked off in germany as proof. It appears alot of these dudes have finally got this thing right. You can’t buy a womans affections. Only her azz. You guys really impress me. Spread the word to our bruh’s that haven’t got the email updates.

By Wise Diva

August 30, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

So Dan, if the first date guy requests my presence at say, oh, I don’t know a strip club or swingers club, you don’t think that is related to how he views/values said woman?

On one hand I think I get what you are saying, but I think guys assume that it’s value/woman’s worth we are seeking from you, when really, we don’t know in the initial stages how MEN perceive our value TO THEM, unless they offer effort, attention, and yes, a nice meal (which, Again, does NOT have to cost much).

By Staceye

August 30, 2007 2:34 PM | Link to this

DuShawan I am gonna take a shotin the wind and say oyu live in Florida! But nice first date anyway! I love Marley! But that title song…are you trying say something!

GA Man does DuShawn get a citation?

By Wise Diva

August 30, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this

and to add to that Dan, it seems to me that men set the precedent in this regard, because how much you guys make, what you do for a living, your toys and disposable income, is so intertwined with your OWN perception about what you have to offer a woman, so naturally, we seem to take cues from you. If you have the money to spend and invest in things that you want, when you choose NOT to do that with a woman you are highly impressed by, that seems to send a message to her about how YOU perceive her (and she can be as confident as they come)

By BennyB

August 30, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

The Truth

Thanks for the ex-loaded gift man; I heard that them ex (s) got way too many baggage than what I’m allowed to carry on my bike. If you put your ex wife on the gift deal, I may give it a thought maybe she matured up…..Oh….wait…. no way…. thanks man …. I pass….

By Staceye

August 30, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

Sorry for the typos….sista got a bad toothache and can’t see the dentist until Tuesday! The meds got me loopy.

By Dan

August 30, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

@Wise Diva. A strip club might be the line of DTM (doing too much).

But what I tell me female friends is what I’m trying to express here. Initially, in a first meeting a man’s value to a woman is defined by attraction. We know that, thus the 200 crunches a night. But the opposite is also true.

The date, as has been said, is the time to evaluate what lies beyond that attraction. Is it the mind or just the body? Is she/he a nice person or a jerk? That’s how a relationship begins “here’s me, I hope you like it, if not KIM.” At the same time, some people are willing to change.

That’s what I meant about value, to each his own concept of his worth, and it’s up to you to show the SO and the SO to see what you each are really worth.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

August 30, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

How do I interpret what value I hold to a man??? It’s definitely NOT where he decides to take me on the first date…it’s his interaction with me on that date. If he treats me like I’m the only woman in the world on that date then I know he’s digging me….

But I also believe that if said dude offers up McDonald’s then I’m going to think about what message did I send him for him to think that was ok?

By DuShawn

August 30, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this

Another cheap date I often did: One of my partners had Miami Heat season tickets (4 seats). He was out of town on business a lot and would always shoot me his tickets for the games he could not attend. Not far from the arena was this sports bar/restaurant (great food) called the 1800 club. I would have my date to meet me there. Before I got with her, I’d go the arena and sell two tickets. Then go to the 1800 club; buy dinner and drinks with the ticket money and two trolley tickets. The bar provided transportation to and from the game, they had two or three San Francisco style trolleys that took you on a brief tour of downtown Miami, dropped you off at the arena, then picked you up after the game.The tickets were five dollars each. During this time I had condo downtown overlooking Biscayne Bay. After the game I’d take them to my spot, sit on balcony, listen to some music, have a few cocktails, and enjoy the view. This date cost absolutely nothing.

By BlatinoBrutha aka BLAT aka "Where the HE!_!_ have you been???"

August 30, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

UMMMM, no introductions today…. Just a question as to why my loyal Generals TRUTH, GAMAN, and MUSING have allowed a newbie to impersonate The Poobah….

By Jake a.k.a. I was fly when I didn't have shyt

August 30, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

Wise

I gotta say that some dudes percepton of their worth is tied to their trappings, but me, no ma’am. I was gettin at’em when I was ridin in my 4 cylinder,with one headlight, and no insurance. I have never needed to compensate, I could drive a Beetle and bring you to a cardboard box, and feed you sardines. You would still leave happy, exhausted, but happy…hint,hint.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

August 30, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

That’s funny Blat…I thought that was YOU!!

By BlatinoBrutha aka BLAT aka "Where the HE!_!_ have you been???"

August 30, 2007 3:07 PM | Link to this

Bring it, JAKE!!!

Put me in that club…. I’m fat, short, n broke, n still got them wanting me to wife’em up.

By For Real

August 30, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this

Wise men set the precedent in this regard, because how much you guys make, what you do for a living, your toys and disposable income, is so intertwined with your OWN perception about what you have to offer a woman

Those men that do that are doing so bc they know it will attract women of all types. And don’t tell me not you bc you look as well. Now, sit back your breast are sitting on your desk.

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

LDD if thats all ol boy could do thats all he could do. The fact that he wanted to take you there is no indication of his perception of you. He may want to share with you his love for the Big Mac. If a chick calls me and asks if I’ll escort her to a kids party for her niece I don’t perceive that she thinks I’m a kid. She just may want me there to comfort her in a potentially uncomfortable situation.

I will say todays posts have been somewhat eye opening. I can’t believe that you ladies attach significance to where you sit down and eat a meal. As if TGIF isn’t good enough for you. Thats a shame. When me and my boys started making a little money we started this thing where we’d go to Golden Corral and sit around for 2-4 hours luaghing and joking. We’d have a ball. We still do. If I asked a chick to go and she said she doesn’t eat there I’d say thanks for providing me with that info and drop her azz off home. If what you ladies are saying is true the rabbitt hole is much deeper than I thought.

Blat relax poobah. Everyone knew that dude was an imposter trying to breath in your fumes. Let that dude have his moment of glory.

By Foots

August 30, 2007 3:19 PM | Link to this

DuShawn You’re very imaginative with your date ideas. No matter what your intent for the end of the evening may have been (smile), you certainly put a lot of thought into the dates and made them feel very special.

One of the most amazing dates I had, I was dating a Clark Atlanta student while I was here for an internship. I was about 20 years old and he was 23. He was the first to take me to Intermezzo. We had coffee and shared a dessert and had such a wonderful conversation. Then he took me to this playground off of The Prado by Piedmont Park. It was after midnight, it was so peaceful, and we played for about two hours. Perfectly innocent and one of the best dates I’ve ever had.

That’s what I mean about the thought behind a date. If I said he spent $15, I’d be stretching it. But it’s the “doing something different”, the wonderful company, and him being so thoughtful about things I might have liked to do that made the date so special.

Oh, and Dan, I approached him when we met. He had on this cologne, it was Realm, and it just drew me in. Not to mention he was 6’5”, deep chocolate brown and looked an awful lot like Babyface. Where the heck is he now?????

By Wise Diva

August 30, 2007 3:20 PM | Link to this

I can’t believe that you ladies attach significance to where you sit down and eat a meal

Oy vey, it’s a good thing ya’ll men are so hot. I give up, WLB, you ladies can elaborate more if you want, but I suggest you just save your keystrokes for something else, LOL

By Dan

August 30, 2007 3:26 PM | Link to this

Truth just spoke the Truth.

Fact is ladies, if anyone of you says on those days you come home you’ve never gotten KFC, checkers, McD’s or somewhere else….might be some fibbing going on.

That being said, for you to eat in those spots regularly and not treat yourself to Intermezzo’s or wherever, then you leave the burden on the man and that is not the way to behave.

When I meet women that go to these places on their own, all good. But it’s not a man’s place, job, or inclination to be the tour guide to the “finer things in life”.

Now if that is the case, then the fact that you place value on where you eat makes a lot of sense. Sense and sadness.

By abc

August 30, 2007 3:28 PM | Link to this

Yeah, I share the sentiment about perceived class of venue. I don’t know about Golden Corral, never been; but, the $20 filet at Longhorn suits me about as well as the $40 filet at Bone’s or Canoe (okay, they’re better, but they’re not that much better).

Someone was asking me how much I spent on sweeties engagement ring, and when I told him he didn’t believe me. He said if I could spend that much on a ring, why was I driving that?! pointing at my economy car. People accumulate money not by wasting it; do you want to have money, or do you want to show money? There’s a difference. I purposely live far below my means.

By Foots

August 30, 2007 3:32 PM | Link to this

Truth I think that you do get the point about women wanting men to put forth some kind of effort in making a good impression on her for their first date. From what I read, a lot of men don’t care about doing that anymore. That’s sad too.

I don’t know what it is with all these tests! If you think she/he is special, treat she/he like she/he is special. What is difficult about that?

But I will say this, if you get a woman who tells you to your face where she is not going when you make her an offer, wrong woman. Even if she doesn’t like what you have chosen for her, a well-mannered woman knows how to be polite and suck it up with a smile. Trouble don’t last always, so I see no reason to be impolite in that situation. She always has the choice later to decline a second date.

By Foots

August 30, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this

abc Why did you spend so much on her engagement ring?

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

August 30, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this

Dan/Truth I can only assume that you’re purposefully trying to complicate the issue. Yes, we eat at these places….but I don’t dine at these places in the evening. But let me ask the question, when was the last time you took a female there on a first date? Exactly! So it’s really NOT an issue because men just know what’s appropriate.

By Ladylike

August 30, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this

Okay, I’ll stop reading and try to clarify this rabbitt hole theroy my brotha Truth has.

We are women, and mostly independent, we are also quite receptive so taking me to a nice restaurant is again a kind gesture, and really has nothing to do with the cost of puddy going up or down, the same as bringing or sending me flowers, or any other token gift. *”Each woman determines her own value.” So whether it’s a date at Pricci’s, Golden Coral, McDonalds or Waffle House make sure you keep up the variety, and so will I when planning. The thought is always nice but everyone enjoys being esteemed highly, don’t you?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 30, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this

Okay I will be the first to co-sign Dan. As someone who goes out to eat on her own a lot (now and when I was married) I have NO PROBLEM with a guy taking me to a place that I go to on my own. If I wouldnt pay to go there myself why would I ask someone else to take me? Now the key being why would I ask, if he takes me on his own that’s another story. Like someone mentioned earlier though, when dating inititally you are making an impression so its a catch 22, dayumed if you do, dayumed if you dont. I guess I can surmise from this (in my note taking) that it is safe to go somewhere comfortable….

Anybody care to clarify?

And Truth I love Golden Coral!!! LOL My sister and I are regulars at Moe’s as well. Its all about having fun and enjoying the food as well. So what if my favorite is the Blonde Brownie from Applebee’s!!! :0)

By Ladylike

August 30, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this

I meant to say try to explain to Truth why this is not a rabbit hole.

By For Real

August 30, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

Phoots When you say “special” what do you mean? How can you tell if a person is special prior to the first date?

By DuShawn

August 30, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this

I can make a female have a good time in a mutha fuggin phone booth. It’s not how much you spend or where you take them. It’s the vibe you create and share when you’re together that makes a date special.

By Grand Poo Bah

August 30, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this

Bless you Wise Diva I’ll keep my posts witty/humorous, and mostly honest.
Tazzee you are welcome and know I always got your back.

Staceye with a toothache and good meds I best stick to only cooking you soup, even if you could chew my catchatorie you’d be so loopy you wouldn’t taste it :-}

By Wise Diva

August 30, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this

How can you tell if a person is special prior to the first date? You can’t that’s why you determine if they are special enough to have your time, attention, and expense

By abc

August 30, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this

Foots, it’s difficult to explain exactly. It was just important to me that she have the most beautiful diamond of all, in a beautiful setting.

By IslandGirl

August 30, 2007 3:45 PM | Link to this

Hey guys…I’m late…but its all good

@ABC…thanks for that comment earlier, “Frankly, the ‘cost of puddy’ is a little too cheap for a lot of these chicks, they should mark it up some, charge some love for it instead of a few bucks.”

This is why I think dinner dates are over rated. I often turn down dinner dates and suggest meeting up at a bookstore or Starbucks. I pefer to have a cup of coffee or tea and talk.

I went against the grain a few weeks ago and had a first date at this guy’s house. I will never do that shishhhhh again….. …just my two cents on first dates.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

August 30, 2007 3:45 PM | Link to this

Also, I’m not saying a guy can NEVER take me to Mickie D’s or the likes thereof….Me and my SO (and his son) was at Golden Corral last Saturday. Dang, come to think of it, I paid and I’m not a huge fan of the spot….long lines on a Sat evening.

And who’s talking about a tour guide for the finer things in life?

By Dan

August 30, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

Have I taken woman on a first date to McDonald’s. Yes. Yes I have.

Why? Just to see her reaction, would she pout or would she make the best of a bad situation? As we dated, the dates got progressively more expensive (i.e. Chops and Nava) but to this day, my fondest memory of that relationship is sitting at a table at McD’s eating, laughing, and talking.

PS We almost got married

By Foots

August 30, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this

ForReal How can you tell if a person is special prior to the first date?

YOU should know. Some other dude should be asking about this, cause I KNOW that you can tell.

Now this is what you told me yesterday: Anyone that would approach another person without scoping them out first is a fool. It doesn’t take long for me know what type of person I’m dealing with, It’s not hard. All you got to do is watch and listen. But my number one source for determining a person’s character is their eyes. 99.9% of the time they don’t lie and that’s based off of personal experience from around the world. I have never been wrong.

In your case, you have already scoped her out, looked her in the eyes, and figured her out. If you see something special in her, I guess you’d ask her out, if she wasn’t, then you wouldn’t. So it follows that every woman you ask out is special, because you have never been proven wrong.

Now, as for how other dudes can know, my thing is this: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Treat people decently if that’s how you want to be treated. It’s no skin off your back if you treat someone well.

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

Truth What i was stating in my earlier post were potential places… never said we HAD to go those places. I am open. Are you triyin to approach the situation like the women are not willing to enjoy one place vs. another if she is feeling her date things will jump off right inside a Port-A-Potty. J/K.

For the record i like all sort of places to go out on dates. I just perfer X over Z when i’m making the selection. Don’t we all?

By Foots

August 30, 2007 3:54 PM | Link to this

abc Now that’s sweet. You wanted your girl to have the best and it was important to you that she had it because she means something to you.

And it ties into the point I was trying to make to folks talking about perceived value. You know that she would have been fine with something lesser, but the way you value her, you wanted her to have more.

I’m just glad that you didn’t do the childish “I’ll give her a chip first and see if she accepts it, and if she does, I’ll pull out the real ring, and if she don’t I’mma kick her to the curb” game that some dudes on here would probably pull.

By Jake aka the penny saver

August 30, 2007 3:55 PM | Link to this

abc As for perceived class, it is so ridiculous. I am glad that you made that point. Some of us, spend so much that we do not even realize its going out. Every morning when I leave the house, my goal is to keep my wallet closed…lol

I used to live in a city in the mountains. I would take ladies up to see the view, as I kept going up there, I noticed that those people livng on top of the mountain looking down at us were just smart with their cash. You would typically see beat up S-10’s, a Camry here or there, nothin extravaggant. It changed my perspective on what is valuable. Thank you Lord for the trips to Monte Sano Mountain!!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

August 30, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this

Dan You should have married her!

By PurpleOne

August 30, 2007 4:00 PM | Link to this

All: I met someone on a singles site and we want to meet up this weekend for maybe a late lunch/early dinner (must be done before 5:00 b/c of another obligation) so all we have are pictures and great conversations for a week to go on; any suggestions on a type of location? I kind of like that coffee thing but I’m not a big coffee drinker like that…we are mid to late 40’s so factor that in please.

By Dan

August 30, 2007 4:00 PM | Link to this

@Foots. It’s not a game. If a woman got clowns on a first date, it doesn’t matter whether or not we are eating great or just eating.

Respect due, I want to know as early in the game as possible, are you interested in me or more in what I may provide? Doesn’t that theme run universally?

By For Real

August 30, 2007 4:04 PM | Link to this

Phoots Don’t try to turn my words. If you are going to debate you can’t take words from one context and enter them in another context. Anyway, if you look at my words they say nothing about determining if a person is special or not. I simply stated you can tell a person’s character by looking into their eyes, which their character can be good or bad. A person’s character doesn’t necessary speaks to that person being special. It will take 3 dates before I can determine if that lady is special to me. I like to date good women and by that I mean a good spirt. I also want to make sure that the baggage is minimal and under control prior to asking them out. Am I clear now?

By Ladylike

August 30, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

Dan I don’t know it sound you may a let a good woman slip thru your fingers.

By BlatinoBrutha aka BLAT aka "Where the HE!_!_ have you been???"

August 30, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

Truth, mane, i ain’t really sweatin it. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery….

By SexyLeggs

August 30, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this

You guys are off the chain. I have a lot of reading to do..LOL.

Don’t forget to go buy Chrisette Michele’s CD. Have a great evening because by time I read all of this you guys may be gone.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

August 30, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this

Hey Jake a.k.a. cool as hell and caramel AKA Jake -I was fly when I didn’t have shyt AKA Jake -the penny saver

By Jake

August 30, 2007 4:10 PM | Link to this

foots don’t knock the chip 1st, then real rock test. My potnah did it, she was looking at the little one like, “oh that nics, thanks”, (bad sign), he later gave her the rock, ear to ear. That shyt lasted three months before they split, wasted my money on that tux.

Point being, if she was really down for it and him, you could gave her a band alone, it doesn’t matter. No man wants his wife hand to be light, but there should be no particulars needed when someone is offering you their forever!

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 4:12 PM | Link to this

I can do Morton’s as well as the next guy but why should I take some chick their that I’m just trying to get to know? I still love going to Costco, hanging with good friends and eating at spots near me. Nothings changed but my income(and thats changing back at warp speed, but thats another topic LOL). I really don’t need to be in this convo tho because I don’t take women out anymore. If you wanna come by and fire up the green egg with steaks thats cool but after that I’m out. I’m just glad to know that I made the right decision a long time ago.

Ladylike alot of what a woman considers to be nice gestures remove a dude from his loot. A guy WILL go broke being nice to y’all. I’ll remain mean. Not trying to be mean but would you relieve the tension in my b—lls after this good meal. Since we’re all being nice. (Not you per se but you see what I’m typing.)

Nipples don’t try to simplify what I’m trying to complicate here. LOL We’re talking hypothetically here.

LMAO @ For Reals “Now, sit back your breast are sitting on your desk”

By Wise Diva

August 30, 2007 4:12 PM | Link to this

@Purple, do you have an idea about each other’s interests yet? Like if you guys don’t mind crowds, there is a lot going on this weekend, perhaps you guys could check out the Decatur Book Festival or Jazz Festival. Or maybe you can try the Chocolate Bar, or Grape for wine/dessert.

Or if either of you belong to a church or volunteer with an organization, maybe they have a community program that could use extra hands/volunteers for something, and you could grab some ice cream after that.

ok, just ramblin now :)

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

August 30, 2007 4:15 PM | Link to this

staceye yes ma’am food stamps are good

By Dan

August 30, 2007 4:16 PM | Link to this

@Purple one. You want to be surrounded by people and not too crowded.

I’d say a sports bar or bowling.

By For Real

August 30, 2007 4:17 PM | Link to this

abc very good point. I’m not into the material stuff. I believe my money is better spent on creating moments.

By Foots

August 30, 2007 4:17 PM | Link to this

Dan See my third paragraph of my 3:32. It is disrespectful to clown. We agree on that.

But let me clarify. If you are taking her to McDonald’s because it’s what you can afford, cool. If you are taking her to McDonald’s because you are trying to test her to see her reaction to see if she is worth taking to places that you can really afford, childish. Just look in her eyes like For Real and test her character, and you won’t have to play those kind of games.

For Real People with good character ARE special because IMO, there are many more people these days with character issues than those that are without.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

August 30, 2007 4:18 PM | Link to this

Truth I thought we had an understanding…Dimples Not Nipples!!!

By Jake aka Sweet Peeda Jeeda the Womb Beater

August 30, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

Hey LDD, are you still floating.

Purplone

Hit the Montreaux Jazz Festival at Underground this weekend, Free during the daytime, should be a good vibe. Jazz, blues, and some Neo-soul.

By Grand Poo Bah

August 30, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

Blat/Truth There is just me, and I gare-ron-tee I ‘aint breathing anything you guys are expelling.
When you get as wise as me, then you can challenge for the title of Grand, ‘til then, stay blat and tiny, oh so tiny.

By PurpleOne

August 30, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this

@WiseDiva, I personally don’t think doing a ‘crowd’ venture is good for a first date because we really can’t focus on getting to know one another and you can’t hear above the noise! We really don’t know the other’s interest yet; he suggested somewhere to eat but I wanted to suggest something and I just told him that we both can think about it for now so I wanted to present something low key, where there aren’t distractions of mounds of people and noise.

I like your suggestions of volunteering…I’d have to hurry up and look into that.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 30, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

Ummmmm For Real…I am STILL waiting on my song! >;0( Mo shaking her head thinkin “he is gonna make me show out on him in just a sec”

Jake agree with your 4:10 post

By Foots

August 30, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

Jake If he REALLY knew his woman, he wouldn’t have had to do it “the test”. Think about it this way: if you get as far involved emotionally as to asking a woman to marry you, you should already know if she is the kind of woman who would trip on a small stone or if she would be appreciative and excited about being your wife.

Your second paragraph is right on. It shouldn’t matter to the woman who is really down for you. But like abc, you should want her to have the best.

By Ladylike

August 30, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

Daggummett Truth your impossible, Lol.

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

August 30, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

BennyB no immunity is allowed…pay the fine…

Tazzee and (Fake) Grand Poo bah now your fines have a late fee….extra 300.00 in food stamps

Wise…wise…wisee you know the city of blogsville needs that money to offset the cost of your Diva-mobile…you want the Re-po man coming and getting it…lol

GaMan sneaks out and takes one shoe from every pair Wise has in her closet

That’ll teach you messing in the bizzessness of the City….lolol

Staceye…your fine is commuted cause you didnt try to wiggle out of it

By C tha 1

August 30, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

I try not to repeat myself when it comes to dates, but I do get motivated when I got one that really excites me. Back when I was driving my beat up Nissan Altima I had the priviledge to take this fiiinnee, chocolate sista out to a play. At that time Quick Trip was working a brotha like a African Hebrew slave and I was dead tired when I got off. Nevertheless, I left work with a dozen roses (back when they used to sell them) went to the crib to freshen up and meet Sista Fine #1. No lie, back then I wished I was ridin’ a little bit cleaner so to compensate I plucked the rose peddles from the stem and spreaded them across the passenger seat and tha passenger seat floor. My whip was fresh from the car wash and was smelling like cherries so it created a helluva ambioance for a beat up ride. She was floored when I opened the door for her and was able to ride with shoes off to let the rose peddles tickle her toes. We both had plans for early in the following morning, but really enjoyed the play (although a dozed off for a minute … Quick Trip can do that to ya), but it did set up things to go down shortly afterwards…it was probably one of the most rewarding dates I had that didn’t envolve sex … I guess cause I was really feelin’ her.

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl thats what I’m talking about. Lets get some Starbucks, or ice cream, talk and see where this thing goes. Your WLB sista’s are trying to pollute the game.

Purple1 have him meet you at piedmont park (during the day) and bring a blanket.

By abc

August 30, 2007 4:27 PM | Link to this

Yeah, she’d have been happy with a plain gold band and even suggested that herself. It’s about what I wanted her to have, not what she wanted. She’s happy with it, though.

By Dan

August 30, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

Truly this was fun.

Honest conversation and interesting perspectives.

Make it good tomorrow WD, I have the fie, fie half day so at least let it be interesting.

By For Real

August 30, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this

Phoots I understand what you are trying to say but there are alot people in jail with good character due bad decision making. IMO, special as it relates to SO or wife, is in the eye of the beholder. So, no matter how good of a person you are, you may not be special to me. That’s why you don’t go all out on a new applicant until you are satisfied with her interview.

Mo I’m sorry about the song. You are not blogging enough today for me to gauge your mood, so I need some help from you today.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

August 30, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this

Jake aka Sweet Peeda Jeeda the Womb Beater Nope, reality has set in…we have his son for 2 weeks. Yesterday, he had temper tantrums all evening!

Blog Moms What would you want your 18 month old child to call your baby’s father’s new wife?

By Grand Poo Bah

August 30, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

GAMan I have taken both my and Tazzees fine and got lotto tickets for Friday. If they don’t win, we’re even. If they do win, you’ll only recognize me and Tazzee from our backsides coz we’ll be getting outta here.

By Jake aka Sweet Peeda Jeeda the Womb Beater

August 30, 2007 4:40 PM | Link to this

For Real* why don’t you play **Mo some Clarence Carter “Strokin”, so Sweet Peeda can go give her the interpretive dance…lol

By For Real

August 30, 2007 4:41 PM | Link to this

Truth have him meet you at piedmont park (during the day) You ain’t have flash backs are you? lol…

Phoots I agree with you he should have done his home work first. I don’t waste my time on any chick I believe will disturb my peace. I don’t care how pretty and fine she is.

By Dan

August 30, 2007 4:41 PM | Link to this

Last one

Anyone interested in a good time. Hit the Mark up on Sat. Night.

Should be rather live

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 4:41 PM | Link to this

*C tha 1 * if you ever post a story supporting the WLB’s point of view again we’re gonna bend you over a park bench with shackles for the black gay pride celebration this weekend. NUDE.

Staceye does your medication have you so groggy that you’d mistake a 5’11 light cat for a 6’5 dark cat and if so I’ll be over in a few minutes. I hope you feel better.

Nipples, I mean LDD I apologize hun. Its just Nipples makes me throb so I keep saying it. Nipples. Sorry.

I think alot of the fellas have a much better understanding of whats going on out there. For that we thank you ladies. Spread the word to the 4 corners of the earth. These chicks want dinner coupons. LOL

Slim what time do they release the chains?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 30, 2007 4:42 PM | Link to this

For Real the mood is good, birthday coming up so I am making some plans! I am getting excited, working a lil OT to have some extra spending monies!

Jake I cannot stop laughin at the new name!! LMAO!!!

Hey IG I agree with your last post!

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

August 30, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this

LOlololol Grand Poo bah….ok yous a fool…

By Ladylike

August 30, 2007 4:46 PM | Link to this

Have a Great Evening All, good conversation today.

By Foots

August 30, 2007 4:48 PM | Link to this

For Real Where did I say “go all out”? What was special to me was coffee, dessert, and a playground. What was special to me was pre-planning and someone requesting that we get all dressed up like grown ups. It doesn’t take much for something to be special to a person. Just put some thought into it. I guess I just hate to think that a man would go through the trouble of asking out a woman and spending time with her if she wasn’t worth it. She may prove him wrong later, but initially, I thought the interest in her is what brought on the date offer.

Purple To add on to Truth’s statement, there may be an issue if he knows all of the secret spots of Piedmont Park…

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this

been in meetings all afternoon…

Have an awesome holiday weekend folks!

Tazzee is vacationing until September 6.

By BennyB

August 30, 2007 4:50 PM | Link to this

When I was in Bruxelles, MacDo was the place to be, they even have beers. Y’all sisters need to get out of ATL to appreciate…. Every Belgian girl whish someone will take her to Macdo for the first date…..I thought that independent women travel…..to some overseas places like Canada!!!!!!!!!!

By Foots

August 30, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

Bye Tazzee!! Have a great vacation!

Y’all have been quite real today! Everybody be safe and have fun this holiday weekend.

And be careful driving today. The sky looks like terror and mayhem from my window’s view.

By IslandGirl

August 30, 2007 4:57 PM | Link to this

Hey Mo

LDD…thats a hard question. I’m not sure I would be fond of my child calling someone else mommy. Call her Ms. Jake..or what ever her name is, but not mommy.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 30, 2007 5:01 PM | Link to this

Jake Ohhh, you being bad!! LOL ;0)

By For Real

August 30, 2007 5:02 PM | Link to this

Have a good holiday weekend this is my FRIDAY so I am out. 2E’s what time should come by and administer your medicine?