Misadventures in Atlanta

By SlimOne

August 30, 2007 8:24 AM | Link to this

HOWDY MY FELLOW BLOGVILLE

I only have 30 seconds before “The Man” comes looking for me. I’ll be building a secret underground railroad in the meantime to find my way back to you. SShhhh don’t tell nobody.

I Miss Yawl

NC What did I hear you say about my momma yesterday?

By melo

August 30, 2007 9:02 AM | Link to this

Slim,I will send Abraham Lincoln over there to sign ur emancipation papers!

By NCGirlfromATL

August 30, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this

NC What did I hear you say about my momma yesterday?

LMAO!! Girl, don’t believe anything Truth tells you! It’s all trickery and lies! But really, I did say your momma made a slammin mac and cheese! Oooh I can taste it right now! Yuuuummmm!!

Now, get back down there and free some more of us on the plantation!

By AmazonRed

August 30, 2007 9:11 AM | Link to this

Mornin’ All. I’m here still trying to figure out what MLB means!

melo Last night you said: AmazonRed, will tell u what MLB means if i can trade places with ur starter for one day!!Let him be on the bench and we see what happens.*

You have to remember that just because he’s the starter doesn’t mean he gets suspended for violating team rules! He’s been in the dog house many of time. LOL

By AmazonRed

August 30, 2007 9:22 AM | Link to this

Are first dates really “challenging” nowadays?

Things have gotten so casual and common that I really don’t feel much pressure on a first date. If you are a good conversationalist and secure, just being myself works fine for me. Maybe it’s more stressful for the guy because they have to make the plans and hope you like it, but one good conversation of planning TOGETHER before the date can take most of the uneasiness out of the day.

I don’t think I date out of my league. I date guys who I feel I could have a good time with. Because I’m built like a supermodel (not bragging just fact) I guess maybe a guy who doesn’t normally date that “type” may feel that I’m out of their league. Some go out of their way with the compliments and stuff. Don’t try too hard. You got the date, now just be the best “you” you can be.

By Wise Diva

August 30, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this

I am so sorry Amazon, I meant to respond to that question yesterday, LOL

MLB stands for Man Law Board (I think?) or something, anyway it started out as a joke, about “man rules” and what is acceptable to share with us girls, and what should be kept close to vest.

Soo then the ladies were all, we have laws too! and that became the woman’s version. It’s all very fun, and it kind of breaks the tension when we fight/debate about mars and venus. LOL

By SexyLeggs

August 30, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. I’m in meetings all day today.

Somewhat off topic yesterday’s blog was very insightful. If any of you have heard of Chrisette Michele, listen to If I Had My Way. If you don’t have a CD, go get it. This song encompasses every person’s thoughts and beliefs that were espoused yesterday. TheTruth, DuShawn, Staceye, Tazzee, etc. you guys will love this song. It is the epitome of love, passion, desire, lust and pure respect for your SO.

By Grand Poo Bah

August 30, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this

Dating takes a surprising amount of time and energy, mostly to avoid phone calls and to change my traffic patterns. Now that I am officially between spouses, it is time to figure out how to date again.
To start dating I took a friends’ advice to “do what you enjoy and you’ll meet someone perfect for you”. Sadly, I did not meet a single person while sitting in my underwear, eating pizza, and playing Nintendo. Since dating involves leaving the house, I had to go to the theater. Dating, unlike landing a snake filled jumbo jet with only Nintendo training, is not as easy as it appears. The first thing I had to do was ask a girl out; no easy feat for someone deathly afraid of pepper spray. In my online study of dating, I learned women like men who make decisions. It beats my video research which showed women love men who clean pools and/or deliver pizza.
Sticking to the online insight I decided to tell the young lady which movie we would be seeing. After reviewing the current movies, I realized I must be careful of any message sent. The first movie choice was Anthony Hopkins in Fracture, a thriller about a man who kills his wife. I was fearful that any spontaneous applause might cost me an elbow to the temple. Also playing was Knocked Up, I believe we all know what is wrong with that movie. Next on the list is a story about a woman with Alzheimer’s called Away From Her, which makes a better last date movie. The only movies left to choose from were Evan Almighty, starring the hot Gilmore mom and the virgin office boss, Shrek, and that pirate movie.

In my journey to begin dating again, I figured the least stressful way to start was to ask out a friend. Travis had plans and Andy simply said no, so I changed tactics and asked out a girl I met at school. We went to dinner before the movie. During dinner she mentioned that her concern was that she not be the rebound girl. I explained I already had my rebound date, unless she meant sex, in which case, I was very ready to rebound. That didn’t go over too well so I decided to smooth over the situation by telling her I hadn’t rebounded in past 3 years. She was still hesitant so I assured her it wasn’t what I meant, that I actually rebounded myself earlier in the day. I can’t tell you much about the movie because my date made me take her home after that comment and I only saw the closing credits. I think I’ll return to what works and only review rental movies.

To that end, if you’re a single girl willing to fly to Atlanta and/or rent a movie, can cook, and has questionable morals, please email me. Cooking is not required.

By AmazonRed

August 30, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

Thanks WiseDiva melo was gonna make me work for the answer. LOL

There should be a MIA 101 post for all the newbies to read. That way we wouldn’t ask so many stupid questions! :-)

By Dan

August 30, 2007 9:39 AM | Link to this

MLB. Wow in my day we didn’t need a Board per se, just a loosely held set of standards, but you gentlemen have it your way.

As for the topic, a first date is the easiest thing in the world, once she/he says yes, it’s up to the inviter to make the surroundings comfortable for the invitee. That’s pretty much it.

If she was attracted enough to ask me out, I just need to show up (and be the gentleman that I am a pay for the date.) If I ask her out, she just needs to show up (and at least offer a symbolic gesture of paying).

The convo was right to get her/me, so we just keep that up for as long as it lasts.

By Binford

August 30, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

I echo what AmazonRed said. A first date (even though a fact finding mission and you’re evaluating potential) can be a casual affair; and if you are calm, cool and collected both the inside and out, you’ll be fine.

I do appreciate AmazonRed’s humbleness and candor in regards to her being an ugly dumpling ;P

The MLB DOES exist and DOES have a secret headquarters in the mountains with the sole purpose of keeping men masculine!

By SexyLeggs

August 30, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

Daayuumm Grand Poo Bah, that was funny. Don’t know how much your citation will be, but it should be hefty.

By AmazonRed

August 30, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

Hey Binford You can be built like Heidi Klum and still have a face like Broom Hilda. LOL

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 30, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this

Mawnin Ya’ll!! Hope everyone is doing well.

SexyLeggs ^5 on the post about Chrisette Michelle! That CD is great!!!

I am gonna lurk and take notes today unless someone posts something that brings me out! *Mo getting pen and paper, along with slightly frozen Pepsi, to take notes (and stay awake)! LOL

By melo

August 30, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed,i’m glad he’s been in the dog house.Thats tacit wink to me, i think that i am taking over! MLB means MAN LAW BOARD,its some juvenile shyt i dont quite understand. U will soon hear the originals here expounding on it! Its a Friday for me here too, so i am clearing my desk. Let me know when i can bring my toothbrush over Amazon, and plz make sure u change the sheets. I aint gonna want to smell some other dudes sweat!

By melo

August 30, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

Hey Foots!!!

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

Goodmorning room! Happy today is Friday for me!!!

Lol..lol @ For Real Where is he? Stoooopid with the skit on Aqualung AKA Lunger yesturday. I’m still trippin’. My sillyserious self got a meeting in a minute i’m tryin to compose.

Hey Slim! NC was not saying any YO Mama jokes yesturday about mom dukes. You now it’s all love for WLB. Even in ones absence. Miss ya chic.

BBL to comment on topic gotta get my bkfst on.

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

Hey Foots… It’s on with chair class tonight. Can’t wait!

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

Hey Foots… It’s on with chair class tonight. Can’t wait!

By Ladylike

August 30, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

I am such an advocate for hanging out, and really I think this is why it’s hard for me to get to the first date. But I’m working on becoming a dater, and it’s getting better. I love being myself so the cool and aloof behavior is often dominant, although once I get to know someone I show my witty humorous side. Keep the first date simple. I want time to talk to him and he me so that he can find out more about me and vica versa.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

August 30, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone!!

So how do we get through that “challenging” first date? You put it in its’ proper perspective. It’s two people trying to get to know each other. If it works out…GREAT! If not, then keep it moving. Your future is NOT dependent on this first date.

Now, saying that, I’m going to add that first impressions can be lasting impressions. So, on one hand, you take it for what it’s worth, on the other hand…be prepared to seize the opportunity.

One thing that I have found works for me is to be very selective on who you would go out with. There has got to be something intriguing about this person to make me give up me time. I won’t go out with someone just have something to do…boring folks do stuff like that. I have found that if I’m intrigued by someone and they find me interesting and attractive….then the first date is icing on the cake! Since 2000..all of my first dates turned out to be long term relationships with the shortest being a year.

By AmazonRed

August 30, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

HAAAAAAAAAA @ melo. If you’re gonna act, act fast. He’s gotten the feeling that other guys are sniffing around and is bring up the dreaded “C” word!

Happy “Friday” to you. Where are you taking me this weekend? ! :-)

By Binford

August 30, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

AmazonRed That would be SUCH a crime!

Is an ugly dumpling something you get at a bad dim sum place?

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

Good morning blogsville.

Binford the next time you reveal info on the mancave we’re gonna tie you outside naked and cover you with honey and smack the hell out of the closest beehive. Comprende?

On topic: 1st dates are easy. Its just 2 folks getting together for some casual convo. Nothing more. I’ve noticed my neighbors invite me over to their spot for a first get together. Anyway, I consider myself to be a pretty worldly guy so I give great convo.

NC please don’t make me post a link to the vid of you going ballistic when your bullet ran out of batteries halfway thru happy hour.

Grand that was funny as hell.

Mo cmere so I can grab that hiny girl.

Sexy I’m always looking for good music. Thanks for the referral.

By Foots

August 30, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

Melo What’s up? How’z it going today?

cemeeli Yay!!! I’m glad you’re going! Make sure to tell them I talked them up, okay? I would really like for them to hire me to teach Level 1. A sista just cleaned out Dillard’s yesterday and I need another J-O-B! (Y’all PLEASE go by there, they have their swimsuits and shoes 75% off. Heaven must be like this.) LOL!!

Grand Poo Bah ^5 on the funny narrative!! You might be getting a citation though… LOL!

It’s my Friday too!

By Foots

August 30, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

Good old fashioned courting has been turned on it’s ear, do you think the first date means anything anymore?

Oh, I think it’s wonderful to have great first date and it does mean a lot. It has a LOT to do with whether a second date is in the future.

I love to dress up, but I don’t get a chance to do that much in my daily life. My last first (evening) date, he kept the specifics of our plans a secret until the day before. (note: he DID make plans in ADVANCE!) But he had been asking me questions in the weeks before to stealthily find out if I would be cool with what he was planning. He asked me to wear a black dressy dress, since I had on a black casual dress when we met. He came to pick me up wearing a suit. I could tell that the date meant a lot to him and I really appreciate all of the effort he put into making it special for the two of us.

By abc

August 30, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

I didn’t find 1st dates to be that challenging, they’re not all that pleasant though. Maybe I think so because I went on so many where I didn’t care to ask them out on a 2nd date. At any rate, I’ll take them someplace nice, do what I can to make them as comfortable and at ease as possible, and try to get to know them a little. It ain’t a science. When I was going on so many 1st dates last year, it seemed most of the chicks were completely unused to a man being nice to them… after a nice dinner and maybe a gift for them, they’d be so disappointed that I’d not ask them out again that I became just another azzhole that treated them badly, as far as they were concerned.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 30, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this

Truth Mo placing pad & paper on the table, sashaying over to Truth for a good ole fashioned *azz grab….only for you Truth, hugs and kisses! LOL

Lady Dark One thing that I have found works for me is to be very selective on who you would go out with..chica you said a mouthful with that one!! co-signing 100%

By Foots

August 30, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

Do you have first date jitters?

No jitters for Foots. I’ve been off the practice field for a LONG time, now I just be myself and if they like that, cool. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned not to try too hard, cause as DuShawn said yesterday, if they dig you, they dig you. If it doesn’t go well, I just remember that everything wasn’t meant to be. Now, I REALLY put the emphasis on whether I actually like the man or not and whether I enjoy his company.

By BennyB

August 30, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

First dates are routine, you want to make sure that you are not dealing with a psycho in the first place and then found out

Is she intellectual …..What was the last book you read girl? I know some girls don’t make time to read or learn new info….magazines are not acceptable here….oh…wait you don’t have time to update your knowledge? I guess we can talk about desperate house wife and America Idol…..yes I been told that those shows are very enlightening.

Is she grown up yet? Or she only listens to whatever mama or friends say….If she still a child, she need a baby sitter, I’m way over qualified for that….got to go…

Is she on pursuit of her life goals and ambitions or she’s just one goal sister — find Mr. Husband? Is she educated? Does she have a job? No I don’t want to know your credit score girl because I don’t think I can handle that now….it’s too early….

Is she bitter about the failure of her past relationships? Does she take any responsibility for the failure or is she’s one of those girls who blame every guy of wanting to get in her pant only….If she’s one of those (G)rils I’ll wait until a peace agreement between Arabs and Zionists is signed to call her back for a second date.

Does she have a childhood male role model? If yes I know it’s safe to be myself, if not, I may as well start working on eggs shell….I agree…she is so beautiful but this is not good…should I try to get some and disappear or what I do? I just don’t know yet…

Does she offer to pay? Don’t worry girl…if the date was ok, I will thank you but decline your offer. If I don’t have a second date in mind, I let you pick up the tip. She did not even offer…why bother to call for a second one?

I hope now you now why I didn’t call back…….

Let say that I called back and now you want us to be just friends…….Are you serious?

I guess the food was good because apparently you want some more. Yes girl…we can be just friend but from now on, you’ll be paying for the food and I will only pick up the tip…..and then she says …that’s no fair…

By Foots

August 30, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

Hey abc. What about those women made you not ask them out again after a nice dinner and a parting gift? Was it that they didn’t know how to receive and appreciate your chivalry??

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

Happy Friday to all the folks that are off tomorrow (my mind is already on vacation).

First dates - I have to admit that I need to adopt LadyDark’s philosophy of only going out with folks that intrigue me. I was the type to give almost ANY guy a chance, but now I’m finding that is truly a waste of my time. But for the most part, first dates for me are fairly easy - it’s telling the guy that there won’t be a second date that gets a little awkward. That’s why I need to limit who I go out with.

Now just hanging out with someone of the opposite sex is a different thing, for me. But as I’ve been told many times on this blog and in person - guys aren’t trying to be my friend. Although this one guy tricked me into going out to dinner the other night. He swore up and down he wanted to be my friend but before I could get my first sip of water, he was telling me how he could be my future husband…

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs I’ve been hearing one of Chrisette’s songs on the radio here and I like it - I might have to download her tonight as I prep my ipod for my vacation

By Dan

August 30, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

Yesterday, someone said that attraction began with the eyes. First a story, then 2 questions.

One of my great loves, I met in a club. I was on one side and she was on the other. I felt someone that kept looking a me and I honed in on these gorgeous eyes from across the room. (She later told me that she saw me come in with my friends and was watching me the whole night). For some reason I was drawn to those eyes like a moth to a flame. We left the club together (crews in tow) and conversed for the rest of the night outside her apartment. We actually talked until the sun came up.

The question is, ladies if you see a man that you are that attracted to, would you make the first move? And for the MLB guys, have you ever seen a woman so beautiful that you were actually drawn to her (with whatever intention?)

By QC - Is it 5ive yet?

August 30, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers I hate doing the dinner & movie for a 1st date that’s so…..played out for me…i prefer for us to come to a mutual aggreement on our 1st date..have a great day bloggers!

By Grand Poo Bah

August 30, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

I’ll pay and be happy. Glad to have some people laughing with me :-)

By abc

August 30, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this

Foots, nah… sometimes they were real country (I’m just not country at all), sometimes misrepresenting themselves quite a lot, maybe just not all that interesting to talk to, or just plain no spark. One had too long a prison record. A few were too obviously looking for someone to rescue them from single motherhood. It was kind of various.

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

ABC did I read your post right? You buy a chick a gift for the first date? I’m conflicted over that.

Half of me thinks its cool to be that thoughtful.

However, the better half of me thinks your one of those guys out there running up the cost of puddy. Go blow your money on a frisbee or something. Alot of these chicks are just glad someones gonna buy them a meal. Thats their gift. I’m going to forward you all past email updates on the current state of dating in america. Your way off base on this one.

Hi Foots and Cimilac. Foots, what did you get me from Dillards? You know I like expensive gifts. You can never go wrong with gator or croc.

They put Slim on lcokdown. LOL

By Brooklyn

August 30, 2007 10:42 AM | Link to this

I also dont classify the first date as a “date”. I call it hanging out or chilling with the other person so it takes the pressure of each of us so its easier to get to know the other person that way.

What do you consider the best setting for a first date? I think a jazz club or a low key resturant usually does the trick.

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this

No first date jitters for me either. Well, let me take that back - my jitters are more that I won’t like him than he won’t like me, but since I’m going to be more selective with my first dates - I don’t have to worry about that.

It used to be that I didn’t go out on first dates during the week because, if I’m faithful to my workout plan, I would be sporting a ponytail. In an effort to make the best first impression, I wanted to make sure my hair was down, contacts in, make-up on, etc. But then I realized I was, in a way, deceiving my date. So my last 3 first dates were during the week, wearing my ponytail and glasses.

By NCGirlfromATL

August 30, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

NC please don’t make me post a link to the vid of you going ballistic when your bullet ran out of batteries halfway thru happy hour.

Truth I’ll post mine if you post yours!

Thanks Cemeeli for having my back! lol!

On topic: I like first dates! They remind me of when I used to audition when I was an active musician. I love the adrenaline rush and the challenge of spending time with someone I might be interested in. It’s true that hanging out is a lot easier, but I kind of like the butterflies etc. I do think the first date is a lost art. But, not completely lost. LOL!

By Dan

August 30, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

@ Foots. True that whole post, homie. You meet these vapid women and it almost hurts your heart that she has more interest in TV than in events that directly affect her life.

@Truth, my man. The running up the cost of puddy…classic and true. A gift on a first date is sweet but so 1950, I think of Leave it to Beaver.

By Dan

August 30, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

@ Foots. True that whole post, homie. You meet these vapid women and it almost hurts your heart that she has more interest in TV than in events that directly affect her life.

@Truth, my man. The running up the cost of puddy…classic and true. A gift on a first date is sweet but so 1950, I think of Leave it to Beaver.

By Dan

August 30, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

@ Foots. True that whole post, homie. You meet these vapid women and it almost hurts your heart that she has more interest in TV than in events that directly affect her life.

@Truth, my man. The running up the cost of puddy…classic and true. A gift on a first date is sweet but so 1950, I think of Leave it to Beaver.

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

Dan for me it depends on the setting. I usually only make the first move at a get together, cookout or something like that. A setting where me approaching the guy won’t automatically be viewed as me trying to holla - if you know what I mean. With that said, if I’m just overwhelmed by a guy for some reason - I’ll contemplate making the first move, but the last time that happened I punked out. So hopefully the next time that happens, I’ll actually follow through.

QC Dinner is the perfect first date for me. For the most part there are no other distractions and we can just talk and enjoy one another’s company.

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

Dan when I saw my ex wife for the first time we were around alot of people but she was all I saw. There was absolutely no doubt that she was going to be mine. No doubt. Every fiber of my body claimed her and she said the same. We never had a first date because from the first moment I met her it was like we had been together forever. It was just natural.

Please don’t boot me from the MLB fellas. LMAO

Tazz is 5 carats gonna be enough?

By Got that?

August 30, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

As far as first dates are concerned, to me they are no different than later dates. It all comes down to being willing to be yourself. Eventually, they’re going to figure it out, so why hide it? The hardest part has already been completed, that is, asking her out and her saying yes. The rest is easy. If she liked me enough to accept the date, it’d make no sense for me to be anything other than who I am. I’ve been that way my whole life. I don’t have to think about it. I just have to be it. Either she’ll like it or she won’t. It’s as simple as that.

By abc

August 30, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

Truth, I didn’t really think of them in terms of cost vs. attention I’d get from them. I just showed them a good, clean time, that’s all. Frankly, the ‘cost of puddy’ is a little too cheap for a lot of these chicks, they should mark it up some, charge some love for it instead of a few bucks.

By Staceye

August 30, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

Morning All…

Sexxyleggs I have heard that song and you are so right it is so beautiful.

Poo Bah did you say cooking not required??? Well hi ya doin’? LOL I can cook..but I hate to. Now I will clean the hellz out of a crib because I am a neat freak.

I love movies of all type..I find horror movies to be funny. I tend to laugh at things that normal folks wouldn’t laugh at. Sorry..got a sadistic sense of humor and I’m a little morbid. Ok…you try doing dead people’s make up and see how normal you’d be! ANYWAY…I love to read when I have time.It was easier to read a lot of book in NY because you got most of your reading done on the train. OK…so when you meet a girl..just be you. Don’t be a boring date and just let her do all the talking. I’m known as Chatty Cathy in my family so there is never a dull moment on a date with me! As AmazonRed said, just be cool. Things should fall into place. No lines or game needed. I am just my usual crazy self…full of jokes!

Dan if you ask a woman out you should pay. Now that does not mean that she should not come out with her own money to cover her own expenses. But I know I would not go out with a guy again if he asked me out and did not do the customary thing of getting the bill. The next one might be on me. I have done dinner and a movie and I got the tickets online and after her paid for dinner I told him I got the tickets already. So splitting it is bad either.

MO you like Pepsi?? My girl….I can’t stand that muddy water tasting Coke they try to force on me everywhere I go just because it’s based in ATL. Mygirls and I did the Pepsi/Coke challenge when I went home for the 4th and guess what…3 out of 4 chose pepsi…yeah! LOL

Foots & Cemeeli I gotta see what classes you guys go to…I wanna go with you guys!

Sounds like you had a good date.

Ok..I’ll take my citation now!!!

By Foots

August 30, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

The question is, ladies if you see a man that you are that attracted to, would you make the first move?

Dan I have done this a couple of times, found a way to introduce myself to a man who was able to grab my attention. The practice isn’t habit-forming though.

Tazzee I don’t really get asked out a lot, so I’ve only had one first date this year. And it’s almost September! I guess I’ve just been warming the hellz out this bench after that last “false start”. :-(

No rush though. Some of everything has been approaching me lately, not one starter in the bunch. I just decline sweetly and resume sitting in the warm spot on this bench until the franchise player steps up and asks me to play.

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

Foots Girl since today is my Friday, I am there. The Dillard’s near me every time i go in there my size always seem untouched. So here i come shoe rack. I’m with QC-Is it five yet?!

Truth Miss you too babe. Similac gonna make sure she find those mid-top powder blue gators for you.

Wait a min… Truth was that you the other day with the all white linen suit complete w/white gators that Musing saw? You have been MIA for a min. LOL!

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

August 30, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Blog

Wow, there are alot of new people on the Blog. Someone please send Abe over to my place of business with Emmancipation papers also.

I’s trying to steal away from the plantation too massah

LOL, anyway, cute topic WD! I always am a little nervous before going out with a dude for the first time. I’ve had some shockingly awful 1st dates. I.E. The guy who wanted to go on a pinic to the park and only had grapes and cherries and no pinic basket or vehicle to get there. Go figure!

Holla Back! Hey NC, Truth, ABC, Slim and Tazzee! Where’s KB and GA.Man?

By Ladylike

August 30, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

Awwwwnow, Truth don’t be sending ABC now mail on how he’s way off base. I think it’s sweet to bring a lady a token of your gentlmenly kindness.

The first date should definitely be somewhere you both can talk not just look at a movie or at some loud concert but somewhere you can get to know each. Cozy restaurant, evening walk down upper Peachtree Street, then cozy dinner. Light jazz, or maybe just waffle house, lol, I’m just joking, but who knows.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 30, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this

QC Hey chica! I agree with you about the dinner & a movie for a first date. I would prefer something where we could talk more and that was a little more interesting. But I also agree with what many bloggers have said about hanging out. Hanging Out would seem to take the jitters out of a first “date”. JMHO

By Foots

August 30, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

NCGirl What instrument do you play?? I used to play the alto sax and the piano, those were the days…

Truth I didn’t know your size, sweetie, sorry! Looka here…if you send me about $46.82, I can probably get about $2,589.13 worth of merchandise. The sale is THAT good! LOL!!

abc Um…what do you mean by country?? (Foots clears throat) Like, in accent, or in pattern of thought?

By Dan

August 30, 2007 11:02 AM | Link to this

Fellas, agree or disagree: one line.

Isn’t a woman approaching, just the SEXIEST thing in the world?

@Staceye. I do pay for the times I ask women out, but like other writers I feel the same way, the woman must be intriguing. “Think Cee-lo in Beautiful Skin.”

By Jake

August 30, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

What up Peeps:

1st dates are just like the rest, either its cool or it isn’t. I will be me regardless, if you like we can do it again, but if you don’t like a man thats smooth, cool as hell and caramel, well I can’t help you…lol

@Truth ABC’s driving up the cost of puddy…LOL

NC active musician-What’s your talent?

Ladies how are ya’ll today? what up MLB

By Wise Diva

August 30, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

@Brooklyn, those are great first date ideas. I know Churchill Grounds can be the perfect setting because those blasted tables are so small, then you have to sit close to each other, it’s first date bliss, I tell ya!

By Jake a.k.a. cool as hell and caramel

August 30, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

Dan

You stand correct, its real sexy when a lady comes to get you.

By abc

August 30, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

Foots, country pattern of thought, a certain kind of closed-mindedness, inability to consider things outside the sphere of their specific experiences. Fair to them or not, I’m just not a country person. Provincialism is a bother, even folks’ attitudes about living in Atlanta seem that way to me.

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 11:17 AM | Link to this

On Topic: First dates for me are interesting and fun in some way. Like Tazzee said you get to tap into convos you prolly couldn’t engage when at social gatherings and such.

Though, like some in here have said neither am i a big eater so taking me out to dinner is not exactly my forte. movies…okay. But if i choose it will be Imperzo (sp?) or the Chocolate Bar …somewhere i can evoke more of your senses if i was feeling you from jump. If’ i’m just going cuase i wanna get out. Met me at Willy’s.

Oh,,,i absolutey love patio settings with food and laughter, fun. Of course this will prolly be after the first few dates.

Mochalatte Welcome back.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 30, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

Jake I am on my way!! LOL

Staceye I am a Pepsi girl!! I used to like Coke but went away to school got hooked on Pepsi b/c that’s all we had. Coke was not in abundance and was more expensive!

Truth that was sweet about you and the ex-Ms Truth!!

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

The Truth Awww, that was special - you getting soft on us man! On the carats - I’m not that flashy, I’m think 2 carats maximum anything over that is too much. But you could parlay those other 3 carats into a nice bracelet.

Staceye You used to work in a funeral home or something? I used to love that show Six Feet Under (oh and the restaurant is good too, LOL).

Dan I always offer to pick up the tab, but I have to be honest - if it’s our first date and the guy accepts my offer, then I’m looking at him sideways. On my ‘friend/date’ earlier this week, the guy insisted on paying. I really didn’t want him to pay - so I offered to leave the tip. I never saw the bill, but he agreed to let me pay the tip and said it was around $10. So I put two 5’s on the table - dude picked up one of my 5’s, tossed $3 on the table and kept the other $2… Now I’m not sweating $2 but that caught me off guard.

By Foots

August 30, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

Dan and Jake Is it only sexy when the woman is fine and beautiful? Or would you still think it’s sexy if Grimace walked up on you with a sashay and a smile?? LOL!

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

LMAO Similac. You know I don’t get down like that. I’m a Cole Haan or Johnson and Murphy kinda of dude with a sweet 3 button that fits just right. I think you got me confused with Creflo or Eddie Long. The exotic goes around the waste or on the wrist. Maybe if tasteful on the feet. I’m not a pimp. LOL

Hey Mocha. Long time no see. I hope all is well.

LadyLike think about it like this. If thats what ol boy does its not special because he does it to any woman he goes out with. Its not sweet its a routine. Also, a chick that can get down at waffle house is a woman indeed.

ABC your right on your last post. Theirs a slew of them that will gladly bend over if you pay their cell phone bill. I would love to meet a snobby chick that felt like her body wasn’t for just any ol body. At least make me feel like I’m getting something cherished. With alot of these chicks its like the “WNBA”. We got next.

Hi QC. I always love a movie and a good movie. If its the right chick anything you do will cool.

No dude should ask a chick out and not pay. Thats wack.

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

Heeyy Jake

My son has a friend name Jake. Every time i see your name i think of dat lil dude. Hes is really a cool lil guy to be almost 8.

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 11:31 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli LOLOLOL! Sorry, but when I read your post, I lost it now I can’t even think of the name of that restaurant place, let alone how to spell it. You’re talking about the one on Peachtree, right (and they have one at Perimeter)? DANG, if someone were to ask me the name before reading your post, I would spout it right out.

On the patio setting - I love hanging out at Fellini’s on Ponce on a nice evening.

By NCGirlfromATL

August 30, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this

Heeeey Mochalatte!!

Foots/Jake I started off playing piano (started lessons in 3rd grade and all thru HS), then violin (middle school & 9th grade), then drums (HS thru college). Now, I sing. Since I’m outing myself as a band geek…I was in every honor band, all-state whatever I could possibly audition for from about the 5th grade on. Drum competitions, etc…took a stab at drum & bugle corp (one of the only people to ever ‘walk on” to the drumline w/ no audition), but after a taste of spending entire weekends playing in a hot, dusty field, lugging heavy equipment around and having to sleep on the floor of some HS gym, I decided I was better suited for the spectator role! LOL! I still have some of my drumming skills…never give a drummer 2 pens and a flat surface lol! But, after a bad fall and torn ligaments in my thumb, I have trouble spreading my hand to reach all of the keys on the piano. Hence, voice lessons. LOL!

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

Pepsi! That is blasphemy, LOL. The only time I didn’t drink Coke was when I was in college and we were boycotting them because of Apartheid (AMANDLA!!!) I was sooooo glad when Coke got on board and I could starting drinking it again.

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this

Dan it is without a doubt sexy as hell when a chick approaches you. All of the women that have approached me are still my friends. If I approach them it may or may not go. Whats that about?

Foots I’ll be by to pick you up after work and we’re gonna close Dillards down. The Truth loves a good sale. On the size thing. Anytime I’m dating a woman long term I put all her sizes in my wallet. Sometimes you see something that would look perfect on your sweety.

By Staceye

August 30, 2007 11:40 AM | Link to this

Tazzee I did brief stint as a mortician beautician for a while some years ago. It was cool…no back talk, no arguements, and none of my secrest that I shared in “confidence” were ever spilled! LOL

As for your jinky date…I hope you never went out with him or called him again.

By Brooklyn

August 30, 2007 11:40 AM | Link to this

Wise, I think thats how my boyfriend managed to sweep me off my feet. He will pick me up and take me to all these small, intimate hideaway’s and jazz resturants like the ‘Sweet Lowdown’ or a comedy club or we’ll just go walking thru midtown on a lazy Sunday evening. Basically places that I will have never thought to go because it’s not so traditional to me. All in all I knew that he put thought into it so it meant that much more to me.

We’ll definetely try to check out the Churchill Grounds. I’ve heard a few things about it…

By Dan

August 30, 2007 11:40 AM | Link to this

@Foots. To be honest, physical attraction is a plus, esp. for romance. But to be honest with you, even if she looked like the “cryptkeeper” I would smile, give her the attention she deserves and carry on with the conversation as normal.

Don’t get me wrong, the hotter the better (I am a shallow someone), but for me it’s the confidence a woman shows, the ambition of the act and unconventionality that makes a females approach sexy. So yeah, at that point, she got me.

By Wise Diva

August 30, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

I am glad to see the new readers and commenters on the blog this week, some new perspectives, sweet! The regular blog cast, ya’ll already know I love ya’ll to pieces, right? muah

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

lol @ Tazzee Gurl…am i in the ballpark i hope. When i wanna go there it rolls of my tongue like butter. But i can’t spell it for nuthin’. Yea…that place.

Patio settings yes maam…

Fellini’s is definitly a cool spot. My son’s father and I use to carve our names into some of their tables(it was allowed)…when we were in love. Waaaayyy back in da day. We wore out most places like that.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

August 30, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

Okay, indulge me…

Hall of Fame Dates

Platinum Date: Mr. Bodybuilder in Chi-town….He took me to some hole in the wall restaurant that had awesome food. After that we went dancing at a reggae club….hmmmmm, it allowed me to feel all those muscles….then we walked around downtown….some square with a fountain…it was awesome and still stands in the Hall of Fame as one of my best first dates. It ended with a kiss on the cheek….just enough to want you begging for more…

Silver Date: I met Mr. PhD at one of my favorite dessert spots. He met me in the waiting area with roses. It was very nice. As we walked to the table I felt all eyes were on us….me carrying roses and all. He ordered 3 or 4 desserts for us to sample. It was great. We ended up at a park in the area and just talked and talked. That first date ended with a hug…we lasted 4 years.

Gold Date: My fiance and I met at Cafe Intermezzo on a Monday evening. The place was pretty quiet and we had a window table for two right in front of the dessert bar. It was an intimate setting and the conversation was great! He held my hand across the table and just look so self assured…I guess he knew something that I didn’t know at the time

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

Staceye actually this was the guy that said he was my friend then commenced to try and convince me we would be good together during dinner. It may seem cruel and decieving, but I plan to hang out with him again. I’ve already told him my intentions and overall he’s a fun guy to be around. He thinks he can break me down, but that won’t happen because 1)He’s not a Christian and B)I’m not really attracted to him. Now, had he allowed me to get to know him as a friend and if he were a Christian - I could see me getting over the attraction part. He’s not ugly or anything, just not fine enough for me to try harder to like some other things about him.

And I’m mad at you for confiding in the dead folks! LOL

By Ladylike

August 30, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

Hey Truth I like gifts so to me it’s sweet and endearing. I don’t mean expensive gifts, but flowers, a plant, a faygo soda pop from the dollar store heck use your imagination. LOL Believe or not I do the same thing, if I see something that reminds me of the guy I’ll buy it, especially if it’s funny, LOL.

Oh, the Waffle House is good anytime, I try not let guys know that I might be such a cheap date but sometimes going someplace more expensive doesn’t necessarily mean the quality of time spent on the date is better.

The Pepsi and the Coca Cola battle, well, I drink both. If I don’t have Coke, I’ll drink Pepsi. But truly Mr. Pibb, Dr. Pepper give me that strong fizz I like in a dark soda.

By melo

August 30, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this

Phew, just came out of a meeting with my boss and his boss. I gave it to them and they were stupyfied!Using me to clean up their inefficient azzes and not giving me props! Melo talks straight to anybody, same way i talk on blog!

By Cemeeli

August 30, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this

Thanks Lady Dark! Cafe Intermezzo That’s it!!!

By Staceye

August 30, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

*Tazzee I’m trying to tell you…dead men/woman tell no tales!!! LOL

But it’s funny when you tell a guy he will never be more than you friend…but just like Urkle (by the way I love nerds) he thinks he’s wearing you down baby!!! LOL

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

August 30, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

Grand Poo bah

ok that post was toooooo dang gome long

Riiiiiip

here is a reminder keep it short

Grand poo bah look at ticket and passes the f/k out 14236.00 including tax

By Jake a.k.a. cool as hell and caramel

August 30, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

Hey Mo, how are you. Ceemeli, he has no choice but to be cool, the name has power.

Brooklyn He BillyD’ed (bil-ly-deed) you. I have that term patented…lol

Took you out to enjoy yourself with him, but kept you in at the same time, kept you in new experiences. Took you to spots that are small and intimate, kissed you with conversation in those spots, its not to loud, and its just a wonderful vibe, places where you could connect, not loud azz stadiums and crowded hot spots. You didn’t have a chance…lol

Lets hear it for the Smooth Operaters, we comin back, just like Light Skinned dudes…hehehe.

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

August 30, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this

Bennyb

here is your ticket

riiiiip

dang folks..stop writing these books…lolololol

ticket 10364.00 tax not included cause yours was shorter

By Dan

August 30, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

@Truth. The sizes in the wallet is old school. I’m now officially a fan of yours.

Intermezzo’s, Churchill Grounds? Ladies tell me, what happened to the fly, fly picnic dates. Sitting across a candlelit table at McDonalds? Is it the venue (which determines the cost,and ultimately his income level) or is it the atmosphere (which could be created walking through Wal-Mart with matching carts shopping for bananas and other supplies?)

I don’t get. I used to date women that would say “It doesn’t matter where we go.” And mean it.

Oooh, these days, you’ve may have to take a second mortgage to take a woman out.

@Tazzee, why waste your time with a man that you feel is not worth your romantic effort. That kind of behavior is what creates bitter men and in turn bitter women. Let the man fly free for his real love.

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

August 30, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

Staceye here you go…..GaMan shaking hand like he was a kid in school writing lines

Riiiiiiiiiip

ticket cost 4568.25

By Dan

August 30, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

@Jake.

No, no. As long as New Jack City is in existence, and Micheal Jordan is still the Man. Light skinned brothers will never come back in.

The darker the berry….

By Wise Diva

August 30, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

Dan, I can assure you that a nice mix of frugal/cheaper dates, mixed with a few upscale dates, with a pinch of DUTCH, and a smart woman would be just as happy with that. Ya’ll know how to spot the golddiggers by now, so when you find that fabulous, level-headed woman (Yes, For Real, we DO exist!), then you don’t complain about the money, time, or energy that goes in courting her.

Personally, I think I am worth being taken to nice places, but ultimately it’s about effort and attention - from both of us.

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

Staceye LOL, if he managed to do an Urkel/Stephon transformation he might stand a chance. But I’m going to keep this guy around, he’s good people and hopefully he won’t cross the line and get cut.

GA.Man how you gone run up in here all late issuing citations. Have you seen Talk to Me yet? ;-)

By 2CPTG

August 30, 2007 12:26 PM | Link to this

hey y’all…..

off topic….Tazz, wanna unload some of your tix this year? esp the game against the Bucs????

By NCGirlfromATL

August 30, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this

Or would you still think it’s sexy if Grimace walked up on you with a sashay and a smile??

Foots LMAO!!!! All I can think about is Jamie Foxx’s Wanda character on In Living Color!

By The Truth

August 30, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

Dan and Jake its not about being dark or light. A dude that can produce is ALWAYS in demand. LOL

I used to hit Cafe Intermezzo in the 90’s’. You could go out back in the evenings and sit with the candles burning and have Mimosa’s and just enjoy your date. Oh yeah, I was linened up. It was nice.

By Tazzee

August 30, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

Dan I told him that I wanted a friend. He said he would be a friend. He’s also made it known that he wants something more - but I’m not feeling that. But I like him as a friend. He is free to find his real love and we discussed that during dinner. I told him that I don’t expect him to put me before any potential dates or anything like that therefore I’m not trying to get his weekends (not that I’m ever here on the weekends).

So when we left the restaurant Tuesday night, he seemed cool with it. I’m assuming he’s still cool with it by the fact that he’s been emailing me ever since.

This guy is almost 40 years old, so if he winds up bitter in the end, that is his fault.

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

August 30, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this

Tazzee here is your ticket for complaining about how tickets are given out…and i have been watching all morning long

Riiiiiiiiiiip

here you go…..2500.00

And as My big mama would say this one is just for jb

Riiiiiiiip

next time think it dont say it…

1200.00

Tazzee now pas