Atlanta Weather

Mostly cloudy

57° F

Pollen 1

Air quality 42

| Traffic

Misadventures in Atlanta Blog is on the Move!

Attention Readers! We have moved! The Misadventures in Atlanta Blog can be found here. The new technology will improve our blog and commenting experience. Update your bookmarks and RSS feeds!

AJC.com > Living > Blog > Archives > 2007 > August > 24 > Entry

Material girls (and boys)

By Bella | Friday, August 24, 2007, 08:00 AM

The Atlanta Journal-Constitution

As a woman, I’m always flattered by men giving me gifts when they’re either pursuing my heart or when we are already in a relationship together. Candy, flowers, jewelry: I’m game for all of it. And as I’ve gotten older, the gifts have, generally speaking, become a little more expensive, since now I’m dating people with a little bit more money than the paper route boys.

I do, however, have one friend who tends to accept very large gifts from men she never intends to date. This friend has received (read: requested and picked out) expensive leather jackets and jewelry from men, in addition to accepting plane tickets to fly across the country for a week to hang out with someone.

Now, I wouldn’t classify this woman as a gold digger of the usual type. She does not target men for their finances—she’s just as happy dating someone who is still in school as she is someone who’s a lawyer. The point is, are there gifts that are too expensive to accept if you have no interest in the giver? Does it matter how rich the giver is?

As the giver (male or female) do you just have to accept that you may give someone an expensive gift who will never take you up on a relationship offer? Is it wiser to give such items after a relationship is already established?

Do you or does someone you know accept expensive gifts even if you’re not romantically interested in someone?

Permalink | Comments (209) | Categories: Dating

Comments

Commenting is now closed for this entry.

By sup

August 24, 2007 8:23 AM | Link to this

anyone out there?

By QC - TGIF!

August 24, 2007 8:44 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday Bloggers I don’t except expensive gifts from Men that i’m not interested in…i do have a friend she’s out to get whatever she can, and does’nt turn down anything…but she gives it up at any given time I hope you all have a great day!

Assorted tea, muffins, water, latte’, fruit, turkey sausage/bacon, eggs w/cheese & grits..enjoy

Strawberries, w/chocolate & whip cream for all WLB members

By SlimOne

August 24, 2007 8:47 AM | Link to this

Morning I would say TGIG but I have to work tomorrow. Dayum!

I don’t give anyone expensive extravagant gifts that I’m only dating or trying to get to know. Nor have I been in a situation where a guy wanted to shower me with a buffet of gifts that I had no interest in. I wouldn’t feel comfortable accepting these types things if i know I’m not into the dude. That’s just plain wrong.

By Keep the receipt, guys

August 24, 2007 8:57 AM | Link to this

“She’s not a gold digger of the usual type”? What are you, high? When you look up “gold digger” on wikipedia, her picture is there!

By AmazonRed

August 24, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday!

I don’t even know how to respond to this topic…this situation is so far removed from my reality!

I was raised to not be the type to accept lavish gifts…even if you are in a relationship. I have one friend who expects her man to pay her bills and stuff. It just seems like she expects him to take care of her, just because they are dating. Just leaves things open for a big meltdown if things don’t work out.

By Binford

August 24, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this

Bella While you wouldn’t consider your friend a gold digger, she is at the very least playing dirty pool. Giving a person a false impression and ultimately stringing them along is truly wrong.

By SlimOne

August 24, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this

I am really weary of guys that want to take me out of town all expenses paid because I automatically think he feels he’s bought me for that entire trip….Puddy in the morning, Puddy in the afternoon, Puddy at night. Well I’m sorry to inform you that the Puddy Cafe is now closed for remodeling.

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. Great topic. My take is if the woman doesn’t intend to date this person, she shouldn’t accept lavish gifts. However, if the person giving the gifts is aware that the recipient isn’t even remotely interested and he insists on giving the gift, then that’s on him. Personally, I wouldn’t accept a lavish gift from someone I’m not interested in.

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 9:35 AM | Link to this

Hotlanta are you coming out to Bell Bottoms tomorrow night???

By Atlanta Pearl Girl

August 24, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

I guess you have to ask yourself why it bothers you so much that she’s accepting the gifts or that she’s getting better gifts than you? (just asking here)…..

I think that’s her business….

If the men are willing to give regardless of if she dates them again or not…once again…their business.

I agree with Slimone….. if they are buying you a gift what do they expect in return?

But…once again…their business…unless she’s running a business of getting gifts for cookies…now that’s a whole other story……

By Jake

August 24, 2007 9:47 AM | Link to this

Good Morning:

I got a gift for her alright, never lead with the wallet. I have onl accepted/given gift in parameters of a relationship. I refuse to be gold dug, but you should spoil your woman.

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this

I don’t think it’s the guys “job” to pay the bills of the woman he’s dating. I have never asked anyone to pay a light bill, water bill, rent, etc. for me. I just wasn’t raised that way. To ask someone for assistance every so often is another thing, and even that’s hard for me to do. This is how I truly feel - before I met the guy my life was mine, my bills were mine and my problems were mine. Ok, now I’m dating someone. The only thing that has changed is that I have a companion I can bounce things off, someone I can share my thoughts, beliefs and yes problems. He’s not my problem solver I AM! Again, I “may” ask for a little assistance, but I doubt it (I would have to be at a point where I could not humanely handle this on my on.)

By Bella

August 24, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

BAM, baby! 8 a.m.!

Good morning, everyone! Happy Friday!

The reason I say she’s not the average gold digger is because she’s not hunting for someone who’s rich. For her, it’s not scoping out someone to marry because she’ll live an expensive lifestyle for the rest of her life (because I’m sure everyone knows at least one true gold digger who ONLY dates rich men or women for the purpose of financial security).

But I do have questions about accepting expensive gifts from people you don’t even intend to date. So let me ask this: Where’s the line? At what monetary amount would you not accept a gift from someone? Have you ever not accepted a gift from someone because it was too expensive?

By Sexyback

August 24, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

Morning all, long time reader, never posted, but this is a great topic.

I love it when guys give me gifts. I deserve to have nice things. But then again, I only date guys with tons of money. If they can’t spend money on me, I throw them away. Every woman should be showered with expensive gifts.

Aint nothing wrong with a sugar daddy here and there. I love to go to exotic places with georgous men and be treated like a Queen. I have been to Greece, Spain, Italy, Chicago, New York, Las Vegas, San Francisco, etc. I never pay for any of these trips, well not out of my own pocket.

By Ladylike

August 24, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

Good Morning, Happy Friday

I wish somebody could have cleared up that traffic for me this morning. No lights working in Lithonia, every car in the town setting on the streets.

On topic Really, I love gifts, but I find that I’m pretty simple. All are nice but I do not accept these gifts from guys that I do not at all plan to date regularly. I feel like I’m taking advantage of him, and not really being honest.

By C tha 1

August 24, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this

What’s up everybody! Its been a minute since I’ve had the time to actually blog, my new position got me runnin’ every where.

On topic: It has been my experience to take my time in regards to gift buying. It all depends on what comfort level you are at with the woman in question, and how she will actually receive the gift. Some women read so deep into certain gifts when its not that big of a deal. And as the giver you have to make sure you don’t play yourself and over step any boundaries in gift giving … you’ll end up looking like a sucka.

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this

Nothing wrong with being given lavish gifts and being treated like a queen. No offense Sexyback but you may not pay for these trips out of your own money, but you sure sound like you pay for them some other way.

By SlimOne

August 24, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

Sexyback Do you turn tricks or have provide sexual favors for these men that dish out all this cash on you? If not, what are you giving them in return?

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 24, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this

Morning all. Mo trying her hardest not to let this be a bad friday. Traffic was a nightmare on every road b/w Panola Rd & Wesley Chapel, my child is sick and I am coming down with something as well. Is it too early for a glass of wine?? ;0(

By Jake

August 24, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs/Slimone

Get out of my head, I think ya’ll might be onto something.

By QC - TGIF!

August 24, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

zzzzzzzzzzzz

By The Truth

August 24, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

Good morning folks. I thought I’d drop in and say hi to some old friends. Its gonna be a great day.

On topic: There are 3 dudes that lead with their wallet. Those with no headset, those that are married, and those that are banked up. A cat that can’t occupy a chicks mind with his conversation does so with his money and gifts. Married dudes pay gladly so they can get the booty and don’t have to worry about that “Phone Call”. A cat with alot of cash would rather not occupy his mind with her conversation so he pays her so he doesn’t have to talk with her. Different situations, same result. Money for booty. There is a 4th category but he usually gets the least amount of booty of them all. The married dude. LMAO

There are alot of women out there paying for love too. Gifts, assistance, eating out. Alot.

The marketplace is perfect. Trade what you have for what you want. LOL

A married buddy of mine said he ALWAYS drops some money on his friends nightstand when he leaves. The translation, don’t call me.

Fellas, instead of taking these chicks out and dropping $300+ a month on them (easy to do), spend that money buying cooking utensils, fixing up your place, learning to cook, etc. Get that chick over your place and set it out for her. If she keeps asking to be taken out you know what she’s in it for. No problem. Bone her and let her go drain the next dude.

Just my .02.

MLB for life baby. LOL

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this

Sexyback, you say you’re a long time reader but never posted, but this is an interesting topic. That right there implies you have an “it’s all about me attitude.” Over the years, there have been some very interesting, heartfelt topics on this blog and out of all of those you’ve decided to post about lavish gifts being given to you. WOW!!

You say everyone should be showered with gifts. No, everyone should be showered with morals, ethics and wisdom. Really, I’m not trying to pick an argument with you. To each his own, I just found it interesting that this topic prompted you to post.

By For Real Construction & Camel Toe

August 24, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this

FRC&CT: So I hear you are in the market for remodeling?

Slim: Yes I am. zippppppp Here take a look and tell me what you can do.

FRC&CT: Good Gawd!!!!!

For Real Construction & Camel Toe passes the f/k out

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

@TheTruth, I love reading your posts because they are always on the mark.

By Nokia - 21

August 24, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs She sexyback* is probably **lying girl, out of all the great topics this blog has had why today, all of a sudden would she come out of lurkesville to comment People can say anything behind a pc screen, besides if she’s getting all of that (which i’m sure she’s not) she gotta be giving up more than just a conversation & a smile

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 24, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this

Hey Truth good to hear from you.

Jake hey sweetie

Ladylike I see you and I had the same traffic issues this morning. I swear you would have thought that I-20 was shut completely down, east and west bound!

For Real I need a really good sone today….pleeeeeze!!

By Thank God, Allah, and Jehovah It's Friday!!! aka Gorilla O

August 24, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

i feel if you have no intentions on being with a person, but you accept gifts from that person, you’re a gold digger. regardless of if the person is giving just because he wants to. and i hate to be the bearer of bad news, Bella, but your girlfriend falls into the gold digger category. especially if she’s leading them to believe it could possibly be something more than what it really is. its just hard for me to believe that she’ll request all these gifts from men, but will date someone who’s not able to keep up the same mode. once you’re accustomed to a certain lifestyle, you expect the next person you date, or become friends with to keep it up. and alot of women have the mind state that if you offer, they’ll accept, even if they dont need/want what that person is offering. this is small, but i was tried the same way at the movies once. me and my partner went on a double date to the movies. when we got to the concession stand i asked my date if she wanted anything. she said no. when the rest of us started ordering, then she says she wants a slushy…the biggest damn slushy they make. and we all know how high the food is at the movies. so i bought it for her and made it a point to watch and see if she actually drank it. how bout during the course of the whole movie she sipped it twice. then when the movie was over she sipped again and just left it in the drink holder. needless to say, when we got outside i went HAM. so i asked her why did she get it if she didnt want it. her response was, well you offered. she couldnt even get a free pass to stone mountain park from me after that. and with all that said, i dont put all the blame on the giftee (new word). if you’re the one doing the spending, and the person your with is not reciprocating, then you’re the dummy for continuing to break bread.

By 2CPTG

August 24, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

mornin’ y’all…..

this topic can be a double edged sword, cause ya boi here believes it ain’t trickin’ if ya got it….no, I don’t go showering just any random chic with gifts and whatnots, but I do believe in spoiling that special someone….on the other hand, if I’m in the mood for splurging, and I want some company, then, I know it costs to be the boss….so I’mma govern myself accordingly, and break bread!

By Thank God, Allah, and Jehovah It's Friday!!! aka Gorilla O

August 24, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

didnt mean to be rude…GoodMernin Er’body! Whats up SlimOne, QC, SexyLeggs, Truth, Jake, Ladylike, etc.

By aaa

August 24, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

Yes, accepting gifts is okay, only if you are dating them. Its okay for a man to pay your light bill, gas, water, couchie is not free, dont sell yourself short. Make him pay something, or buy something. Women sell themselves short and end up mad. Well you should of thought of that before givig the goods. If a man cant help you , you he is no use!

By QC - TGIF!

August 24, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this

Hey Truth, Jake, For Real

Gorilla-O you Muslim now, lol? i always look forward to what follows your blog name on a daily basis….

By Lady J

August 24, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

@ Thank God, Allah, and Jehovah It’s Friday!!! aka Gorilla O….You are Funny…When I read your moniker I laughed out loud!!!

Hey Good People…Will continue to lurk…

By aaa

August 24, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

@The Truth, you friend is a h$E. A married man should never be sleeping around. Thats how women are getting diseases from men like your friends. Warning: anybody that knows the truth, stay away!! Thats “The Truth”

By Nokia - 21

August 24, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

2CPTG I like the way you said that, and it’s sooooooo true. I always enjoy reading your comments, you have a lot of wisdom & give great advice! I love the way you keep it real at all times i missed your blogging while you were MIA it’s good to read you again.

am i cyber flirting ;)

By For Real

August 24, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

Here you go Mo I hope this helps.

Somebody’s Watching Me - Rockwell

I’m just an average guy with an average life I work from nive to five, hey hell I pay the price But I want is to be left alone in my average home But why do I always feel like I’m in the Twilight Zone

CHORUS: I always feel that somebody’s watchin’ meeeeeee And I have no privacy I always feel that somebody’s watchin’ meeeeeee Is it just a dream?

When I come home at night I bolt the door real tight People call me on the phone I’m trying to avoid Well, can the people on TV see me or am I just paranoid

CHORUS I always feel that somebody’s watchin’ meeeeeee And I have no privacy I always feel that somebody’s watchin’ meeeeeee Is it just a dream?

When I’m in the shower, I’m afraid to wash my hair I might open my eyes and find someone standing there People say I’m crazy, just a little touched But maybe showers remind me of Psycho too much That’s why…

I always feel like somebody’s watching me Who’s playing tricks on me I always feel like somebody’s watching me Tell me it can’t be

I don’t know anymore Are the neighbors watching me Well is the mailman watching me And I don’t feel safe anymore, oh what a mess I wonder who’s watching me now? Who? The IRS?

I always feel like somebody’s watching me Who’s playing tricks on me I always feel like somebody’s watching me I can’t enjoy my tea!

By Jake

August 24, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

Truth

What up potnah, “don’t fill that clip too tight, give them bullets room to breath”, you still shootin up I see…lol.

The last part of the post, spend that cash at the crib, and learn how cook somethin other than spaghetti, you are home free if she is worth the time. Once you do the initial dating, ensuring interest, if she is feeling you, she will gladly spend time with you in the comfort of home, key words in bold print…lol. No real woman wants to chill in a straight up bachelor pad, decorate the dayumm place, get plug-in or two, and put something on them naked azz walls…hehehe

By CJ

August 24, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

Mornin’ All!! I was always very funny about accepting gifts-any gifts-from men. Even in high school. I didn’t matter if it was jewelry or a meal-I always felt like in the back of their mind they’d be expecting “something” I guess I’m a bit independent. Married now so of course things are different! I also feel like it has to do alot with your upbringing…

By Thank God, Allah, and Jehovah It's Friday!!! aka Gorilla O

August 24, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

ATTENTION, ATTENTION, ATTENTION, ALL WOMEN! INSTEAD OF GETTING A DEGREE IN YOUR FIELD OF INTEREST, BECOME AN ENTREPRENEUR AND SELL COOCHIE….’AAA’ PUTS HER STAMP OF APPROVAL ON IT!*

By Staceye

August 24, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

Morning all..TGIF!

Slim If I do go on a trip with a guy..I make sure I am holding my flight info and I have enough money to get back to the airport and change my flight if he starts to act a fool. No man owns this puddy! The Puddy Buffet is non-existent over here! I may give a coochie coupon if I am in a good mood! LOL

Mo as my mom always says…it’s noon somewhere in the world. SO DRINK UP GIRL!!!

Truth welcome back. I do not go to a dudes house for him to cook dinner for me until after we have hung out in public places and I get to know him. I will not let some freak I know nothing about get me back to his place and do God knows what to me and slip me some ill drug. So that cooking for me while saving yourself money is a no no! I don’t mind Dutch…however if you ask me out I expect you to pay…but not assume you will. Some chicks go out to dinner with a dude and she doesn’t even have 2 cents to rub together but will keep ordering drinks and lobster. My mom taught me not to go out with no money and not to order what I can not pay for at the end of the night because you don’t know what that guy’s intentions are. Some dudes put you on a pay gauge. If he feels he is gonna get some later he will pay. But if he thinks he’s not….it’s DUTCH BABY! Either way…I am always prepared like the Girl Scouts taught me!

My ex and I were in South beach and I saw these stilletos in a store window and he said for me to try them on. We both liked them so he was about to get them..now I expected them to be $150-$200…when the sales lady said $750…I was like hell no! Mind you he wasn’t phased. He pulling out his card to buy them and I said no. Now some chicks may call me stupid..but I am counting many things I can do with $750 that are more important…like bank it! LOL But nah…I am courteous with a man’s money just as I am with my own. I would not expect him to buy or do anything for me that I would not do for myself. Ok…we later on had shots of Loius 13. But that was at his urging.

I have had guys that were trying to get with me buy me expensive things such as jewels and trips…but I never led them on. they thought I was just playing hard to get. So…as long as I am up front about it…what you do after that is up to you.

Ok…here comes GA Man with my citation!

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

Sexyback what happened, thought you wanted to post on this all important topic.

By Staceye

August 24, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

AAA I feel you boo!I got a friend who is always broke…giving up the goods and wonder why she can never geta date. I am like hell if you giving up the puddy and he isn;t taking you out or helping you pay a bill or two….you’re the dummy! Then she aske to borrow funds from me and I am like I ain’t your man nor am I doing ya…so don’t ask me for shyt! LOL

For Real you listening to my IPOD? I have that strapped to my arm while Im a running. That is still my jam….You gotta do Don’t Disturb This Groove! LOL

CJ I don’t care what they are expecting….I will not be moved! LOL

By The Truth

August 24, 2007 11:19 AM | Link to this

Cool down everyone. There is a place for Sexyback in the marketplace. The thing is she’s paid to perform. she can’t have a cycle, emotions, feelings, or anything most people would call normal. When those cats want to bone they bone. She’s got to be ready, period. If she feels some type of way about something no one cares. Keep those legs gapped. In the end those cats will move on to another youngster who is tighter then her and she’ll be like some other bloggers, trying to sell old booty at new booty prices. Thats when she’ll pay for the trips to Greece. LOL

Sexyback did you go to Corfu? Please tell me it was Corfu and not Athens. LOL

Gorilla O and Melo I browsed your posts on religion yesterday. You shouldn’t be so hard on some of these chicks. They believe in the man (preacher, pastor, wtfever) where as we believe in the spirit. If they had a great dude at home everyday would be like sunday, filled with joy, praise and plenty of love. In his abscence the rev fills in till her knight in shining armor arrives.

Modern day preachers are pimps with a good business plan and tax exemptions. A pimp gets 5-15 women and takes 100% of their earnings. A preacher gets 15000 and takes 10% of their earnings. A pimp wears out his product whereas a preacher can work these chicks till the day they die. In the end both pimp and preacher walk around flossing tight whips, nice bling, and living la vida loca while the flock struggles to make it day to day. Dam, I may need to get into pimping, I mean preaching.LOL

Whats up Jake, Mo, Slim, Leggs, QC, Ladylike, Bella, gorilla? Hope life is taking good care of you. Gorilla, what happened to your partner? Haven’t seen him around.

Oh yes, I’ve been lurking. I got my eye on y’all. LOL

By Cal

August 24, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

Sexyleggs, why don’t you and your friends retract your claws, why are the female commenters so catty? You dont like what someone says and you pounce to insult them, and question when and how they comment on a topic. Are you taking blogging too seriously?

By melo

August 24, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

SexxyL,but you sure sound like you pay for them some other way, U gangsta girl!

When i was younger, and i took a gal to places and casinos like that, i would bang 5, 6 rounds in a day. Room service for the weekend, no restaurants visits.By the time we fly back, ur puddy would be so Sexyback would have been prime cut rib!!

Dont accept gifts u urself have a hard time even contemplating buying.Other messed up dudes will put some lead in yur skull once they know they have been taken.

By Staceye

August 24, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

Truth I went to the Dave Chappelle show and he told the story of Iceberg Slim….I was like, “maybe I should get me some hoes”! LOL But I do feel you on the extravagant lifestyles of the “Men of the Cloth”.

By melo

August 24, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

SexxyL,but you sure sound like you pay for them some other way, U gangsta girl!

When i was younger, and i took a gal to places and casinos like that, i would bang 5, 6 rounds in a day. Room service for the weekend, no restaurants visits.By the time we fly back, ur puddy would be sore. Sexyback would have been prime cut rib!!

Dont accept gifts u urself have a hard time even contemplating buying.Other messed up dudes will put some lead in yur skull once they know they have been taken.

By For Real

August 24, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this

aaa chicks like you are always getting played and then want to blame the dude. If all you got to offer a man is puddy, then you ain’t no use to a man. Pay your bills??? Hellz naw!!! I didn’t make them so why should I pay them. I got my own bills to pay but if a $30 azz bill is all it take to dig you out them here you go.

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

August 24, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

Staceye yup…..you knew i was coming…WTH girl you know the limit and you keep on doing this ish………Riiiiiip please pay the lady at the front desk

Have a nice day..GaMan nows climbs on his new scooter bought with the fines paid this month alone

By Thank God, Allah, and Jehovah It's Friday!!! aka Gorilla O

August 24, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

whats up Staceye. as long as I am up front about it…what you do after that is up to you. i agree with that to the fullest. not trying to change the subject, and its not aimed directly at you because i dont know your thoughts on this, but how come that statement doesnt apply to just dating in general? ive met women and have been up front with them about not wanting to be in a relationship, just ‘friends’. very few accepted it for what it was, the others still caught feelings, but i was adamant about how i felt. just in conversations ive had with a couple of platonic female friends i have, i was told i wasnt right for leading them on. i explained that i was up front, but they said that in order for the females to catch feelings, i had to lead them on in some way, shape, form, or fashion. so do you think even though you’re up front with these men, subconsciously you may be leading them on and that’s why they continue to break bread? just curious.

By NiceGuy

August 24, 2007 11:40 AM | Link to this

Sexyback, you sound like a REAL winner. I do ok, and I have money, but I would use you and toss you out with the other trash. That’s what you need.

By Brooklyn

August 24, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this

I agree with Jay Z when he said “Might buy you Crist’, but that about it Might light your wrist, but that about it meaning to him buying a female all this seemingly extravagant thing doesn’t mean a thing to him. He can afford to do all of that and more and its no skin of his back. So it kills me when golddiggers think that they are the s*, when in reality they are the ones being used…JMHO

By MusingLee

August 24, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

I’m not buying lavish gifts for any “Random Broad” (to quote LL)….That’s the perfect why to get the okey doke put on you…

Musing gets a call

Musing: Danggg Baby, your new whip is tight…Where’d you get it?

Chick: Ahhhh, my dad bought it for me.

Musing: I didn’t know he rolled like that..Well it’s nice…I’ll see you later.

One week later

Capital One: Hello Mr. Musing?!?!

Musing: Yes??? What is it.

Capital One: We want to thank you for purchasing a new Landrover on your account with us.

Musing: WTF!!!

Musing now slapping some chick down in an Atlanta hotel parking lot….

By The Truth

August 24, 2007 11:47 AM | Link to this

3A’s so your saying selling a* is ok but cheating is not? Thats a nice moral platform. Do your thang hun.

Jake glad to see you still holding it down in here. As long as you and SJ are in here there is always some sensible reasoning going on. You 2 cats were always cool as they come to me.

Staceye this is the old choose or be chosen stance. If I choose you chances are I’ll have to pay for the priviledge. If you choose me you’ll play with me, stay with me, and lay with me. The best of all worlds is we choose each other. That rare occurence is called bliss.

2CPTG you bring up a great point. If I want to break bread with a chick or just want her company its my dime. Thats all cool and a part of the game. Its the lames out there getting drained that throw this thing out of wack and have chicks like AAA thinking every dude is gonna sponsor em.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 24, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

Gorilla O so do you think even though you’re up front with these men, subconsciously you may be leading them on and that’s why they continue to break bread You arent leading them on, they break bread hoping to break you down! There are some of us that feel like if we hang in there long enough (or spend enough money) the person will change their mind about not wanting to be in a relationship. And yeah that might be true, but they still may not want to be in a relationship with you. We see what we want to see, hear what we want to hear. Sometimes you have to stop the other person by ending the interaction altogether.

By b.o.o.h.o.o.

August 24, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

Hi. Raqi, sorry I didn’t answer you the other day; didn’t get back in time to post. On topic: Sexyback, I’m jealous :)! You must be sumpin’…In regards to that, a gift is a gift; if something is expected in return, it is not a gift, it is payment. I personally think sex is it’s own payment and I’m not a ho but if someone gives me a gift, yea! And stacye what you said about the shoes is what gives someone class. and even tho I haven’t been around, glad to hear from truth too.

By Brooklyn

August 24, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this

Like Jay Z said “Might buy you Crist’, but that about it Might light your wrist, but that about it” meaning that lavishing you with all these extravagant gifts is no skin off his back. Like some men, he has plenty where that comes from so giving you all of this means nothing to him. So it kills me when gold diggers really think they are playing somebody when its actually them being used…JMHO

By QC - TGIF!

August 24, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

Hey Staceye, GA.man

By Keeping it Real

August 24, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

Some men have to “sponsor” women because they don’t have much to offer. Think about it. Men, if you know that you are hung like a toddler, what else do you have to give a woman besides dollars?

By QC - TGIF!

August 24, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this

Musing you came through right on time, lololol!

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

@Cal hold up one minute. If you read my original post I said I meant no offense but it sounded as though she was paying somehow. It’s a mere statement, not a “claw”. That’s what’s wrong with some of you men. You can’t determine the difference from a statement and a bold slap in the face.

By i'm swiss

August 24, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

@SlimOne

“Puddy Cafe is now closed for remodeling.”

Um… this is off topic, but the curiosity is killing me… Exactly what sort of remodeling have you got going on down there? And do you need a good contractor? ;)

By Brooklyn

August 24, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

Like Jay Z said “Might buy you Crist’, but that about it Might light your wrist, but that about it” meaning that lavishing you with all these extravagant gifts is no skin off his back. Like some men, he has plenty where that comes from so giving you all of this means nothing to him. So it kills me when gold diggers really think they are playing somebody when its actually them being used…JMHO

By Nokia - 21

August 24, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

^5 Keeping It Real

Will all the Dr Thumbs & Mini Me Dycks please stand up

Have a nice weekend bloggers

By Sexyback

August 24, 2007 12:09 PM | Link to this

Sorry, I’ve been working, had an hour long tele-conference, and couldn’t comment.

No I don’t turn tricks. There are some good, decent men in this world, who actually like the companionship of an intellegent, well-rounded, confident, beautiful woman, who can hold her own. I happen to be one of these women. These men have alot of money, and are not married. It’s an untapped market, if you will, and it just happened to fall into place.

I love travelling, and if given the opportunity, my bags are packed. I enjoy dating these guys, and we have alot of fun together.

I take care of them too, with my time and attention. We have alot in common, and I see nothing wrong with what I am doing. No one is getting hurt, no kids are involved, and I enjoy being in the company of my guys. They have taught me alot about men, and the way ya’ll think.

If they want to take care of me with presents and trips, that’s fine.

By Thank God, Allah, and Jehovah It's Friday!!! aka Gorilla O

August 24, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this

The Truth, i tried not to get too deep in the religion discussion. ‘cause i know you can talk about your old lady’s parents, but you cant talk about her preacher. ive always compared them to pimps. i really feel that most of them are retired pimps, loud dressin and slick talkin! ima go to tha damn moon if i wake up at 4 in the morning, turn to BET, and see Bishop Magic Don Juan talkin bout call in for your PPP (Personal Prayer Package)!

By Foots

August 24, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this

Hey Y’all! Vacation last week and digging myself out from the pile of work this week. Thought I’d drop in to say hi. I have new vacation pics up on my page.

Staceye I am courteous with a man’s money just as I am with my own.

This is how I feel too. Although I can’t really put it into use yet because I haven’t ever been showered with gifts or flowers. Gifts for birthday and Christmas, yes. But I have been offered things randomly which I had to refuse because I have a complex about accepting gifts (thanks Mama). Well, her and the concept of TANSTAAFL.

But as for a man providing support for me and buying trips and such, I haven’t met anyone who would do that on a regular basis. The last guy I dated was the type to do it, but we didn’t get too far into the relationship to get into all that.

People have their love languages and mine happens to not be “receiving gifts”. Flashy material things aren’t important to me and I am happy to be able to pay my own bills.

By PurpleOne

August 24, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this

Now I have a twist to the topic…what do you guys feel about giving back an engagement ring? Dealt with dude 4 years, got engaged, he ‘required’ an act in the bedroom that for me is Sacrilegious…he didn’t just want the azz, he actually wanted the poop hole…He actually thought a ring that was 1.99 carats was enough to even think about it, wanted to negotiate a monthly amount of times, which was not an option in the 4 years and I guess he thought he could ‘buy’ it…I told him to find a DL dude and handle your business! He begged for his ring back the same way he begged for the poopy spot and I held out as long as I could on giving back that ring but if I couldn’t get rid of him otherwise, it was better to cut my losses and give him his “tried to purchase” literally azz ‘gift’…Trifling! Isn’t a gift a gift? No strings attached? Oh, of course he is now my ex-fiance’ of about 5 months and he is so bitter…I even purchased our ‘marital’ home b/c I was in the process of moving anyway and he gave me not a cent towards a gallon of milk, nor did I need it but dang! The writing was all on the wall once I moved into this big A house, 5 bedrooms, 4 bathrooms, full basement over 1500 sq ft, that I didn’t need by myself! Thank GOD I can pay for my house (thank God his name wasn’t on anything) and that it was revealed to me before we tied the knot b/c I would be in divorce court right now acting up!

By SlimOne

August 24, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

I wonder if Sexyback is kin to Karrine Steffans aka SuperHead?

I get called into the principals office (manager) and come back to 23,689 posts. Dang I’m trying to catch up…this might be my last day being able to blog. We’re getting a new system that will be able to monitor EVERYTHING!

Slim: So I’ve heard a lot about For Real Construction

FRC: Yes, we’ve been in the business for about 5 years now and growing.

Slim: well i was interested in having one of my walls knocked down, have some upgrades done to the G-tower.

FRC: Well theres no job too big for For Real Camel Toe Construction. Lets take a look at the existing blue prints and I’ll be able to see where we can go from here.

Slim pulls it out as it takes up the entire table. For Real passes the f/k out

By Foots

August 24, 2007 12:16 PM | Link to this

Men, if you know that you are hung like a toddler, what else do you have to give a woman besides dollars?

I can think of a few things, like love, respect, companionship, true partnership, but that’s only because I don’t choose men based upon the size of their wallets and boxers. I make money and I have a bullet. If a dude is going to be somewhere breathing MY air, he must have more to offer me that what I can already do for myself.

By The Truth

August 24, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

Keeping it Real I’m 100% sure I could screw you by buying you a Happy Meal and you’d like it. Its apparent you have never been exposed to much outside of the hood. Actually the largest sex organ a person has is between their ears. Try using that sometimes instead of letting it go to waste. Lets me and you “Keep it Real” for a moment. I’m going to make a few remarks about you and you tell me if I’m right or wrong. Please be honest.

I bet you make less than $35,000/ yr.

You have at least one child, probably 2.

Your not married and haven’t been in a relationship in some time. Raw fuggin doesn’t count.

You’ve never been in love.

Ok, let me know if I’m right or wrong. Keep it real hun.

Hi BOOHOO, muse and Gaman. We’re trying to get this party crunk on a friday. LOL

Oh yeah. Ladies, if your gonna be a ho don’t do it for someone paying your $45 phone bill. Crackheads can get that on the street. LOL Ok, maybe they can get $25. Ok 10. LMAO

By Thank God, Allah, and Jehovah It's Friday!!! aka Gorilla O

August 24, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this

b.o.o.h.o.o., dont be jealous of Sexyback. you can do the same too. lets set up a time when i can come and appraise the puddy and tell you what its worth. after that put together a good business plan with a fye marketing scheme, and you too will be well on your way to receiving lavish gifts, and expensive getaways…thats depending on what my appraisal comes back as. hopefully you’re not upside down and owe more on the coochie than what its worth.

By Foots

August 24, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

PurpleOne I would give the engagement ring back if I broke off the engagement but he still wanted to marry me. I would keep it if he broke off the engagement but I still wanted to marry him. If the engagement ended mutually, I’d ask him if he wanted the ring back and would comply with whatever he said (I’d personally like to sell it and split the money in this situation).

Now if I were to get divorced, I would keep the engagement ring/wedding band. I think that after this point, the rings are the least of the worries.

By QC - TGIF!

August 24, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this

GOOD FOR YOU “PURPLE ONE”

By melo

August 24, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

PurpleOne,so he all of a sudden wanted the poop hole after giving u the ring?Crazy, if that is it coz seems like he was buying you. I find it hard tho that somebody would get to the point of getting engaged without that topic ever coming up. Coz if the subject had been brought up, u would have not accepted the ring.Right? Give the ring back tho, i think thats the etiquete route thats followed by most reasonable people. Some ladies like their poop hole banged though(not that i have tried it)with freaky missis!Mattter of fact, i’ll ask her bout it tonite!! Give it try with a bullet for a start and see how it feels. I know my doc got up my alley when i had that prostate scan(sleek with that medicinal scream up there)It felt aaaight with his fingers in me(smirk).But aint curious enough to wanna do it, coz thats temptation and i dont like to sin going that route!! I like the puddy just fine.

By MusingLee

August 24, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

Dang Purple…LOLOLOL….Please give dude the ring back…As a guy I’m all for getting the ring back. If some girl bought something like that for me, I wouldn’t hesitate giving it back if she wanted it. Holding onto something like that is done purely out of spite.

By Foots

August 24, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this

Do men who think of “puddy as payment” (or reimbursement) believe that the woman is not getting as much out of the act as he is? I could see it that way if she is doing a true exchange, money for sex. But most of the time, it’s not that cut and dry if she’s attracted to him, wants to be with him, AND is getting done right.

Anyway, they could never be forms of equal payment because you’re dealing with intangibility vs. tangibiliy. If the puddy is really good, the after effects can wear off quickly and the man wants it again in about 30 minutes cause he can’t ever get enough. Intangible. A nice LV purse lasts a lifetime. Tangible. LOL!! I heard on an old Blues song once “You can’t miss what you can’t measure”. You can modify that to: “A man may run out of money, but a woman will never run out of puddy.”

I need to go get some food…

By 2CPTG

August 24, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this

Keep it real, lemme try to keep it real for ya; Just because a man breaks y’all off with some change (or material thing(s)), does not mean we’re lacking; Very well could mean we know a cheap trick when we see one….or, we prolly don’t feel like getting jazzied up to go to no club, thus we cut out the middle man, or, as I stated previously, we got it, and we can spend it however we please! lotta loot does not equate to a small member!!! And to take it a step further, most cats aint blowin big dough on a chic he hasn’t cut yet!!

By The Truth

August 24, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this

Purple1 did you really love this dude or was he just “the one” that asked? Not trying to be funny.

Hi Foots.

By Jake

August 24, 2007 12:48 PM | Link to this

Purpleone

Thats a crazy “azz” story, but there are a lot angles to look at. Its was definitelykind of weird for dude to want that so adamently, but, as his future wife, love of his life, how bad could a “dookieholectemy” have been…lol

Seriously speaking, did this one issue cause the demise of what may have been a great relatonship, or did you not love dude like that. As for the whole azz subject, you would have been married to him. I guess that was a fetish that you did not be a part of.

By Jake

August 24, 2007 12:48 PM | Link to this

Purpleone

Thats a crazy “azz” story, but there are a lot angles to look at. Its was definitelykind of weird for dude to want that so adamently, but, as his future wife, love of his life, how bad could a “dookieholectemy” have been…lol

Seriously speaking, did this one issue cause the demise of what may have been a great relatonship, or did you not love dude like that. As for the whole azz subject, you would have been married to him. I guess that was a fetish that you did not be a part of.

By Staceye

August 24, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this

Gorilla that is a funny situation because intially she may not want anything as well. But we all know women are emotional creatures and once you start hangin with someone and then if you sleep with on a regular basis…you begin to develop feelings for them. We can’t turn our feelings on and off like a switch…nor can we control them. So it’s a catch 22! I also would like to co-sign on Mo’s co-sign!

Purple One any dude that gung ho about the back trap door is suspect to me. God gave woman a puddy for that as well as a mouth..now when he starts trying to enter the exit only door when the sign says so. Run for the hills…he may be skittles….tasting the rainbow! Oh..and keep the ring! LOL Did he think the ring was the deed to dig up the grounds of the land? Husband or no husband..I have my limits. Not very many but I have them.

By Cemeeli

August 24, 2007 12:55 PM | Link to this

Hey Room What it be peeps?!?! Truth, Slim and Foots are back!?! WOW! Okay so i can’t catch up reading all the post but i see the staples are holing it down in here… Wuz up Jake, and QC didn’t forget to holla at Gorilla O.

Newlywed Musing Hows the married life? Mr. GA Man still hadn’t heard any reviews from you!!**

By Reality Check

August 24, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this

Bella, regarding your friend: now, I ain’t saying she’s a gold digger, but she ain’t messin’ with no broke, broke…

By SlimOne

August 24, 2007 1:00 PM | Link to this

Any one want to take me to Carrabba’s and a movie in exchange for a weasel rub?

By melo

August 24, 2007 1:01 PM | Link to this

Foots,Do men who think of “puddy as payment” (or reimbursement) believe that the woman is not getting as much out of the act as he is? U right, the only thing tho is Man who game women like that spit them out the moment the woman is begining to enjoy themselves!At least thats what i did. And i would jump onto the next fly girl in town, leaving the other heifer licking her lips. And when i did bang, it wasnt always about mutual pleasure.Thats what happpnes because if the girl feels used, most times i used her and cleaned out all her juicy oil, for my(not our) gratification.

By DB

August 24, 2007 1:01 PM | Link to this

Keep it simple: Any time a something is given with the expectation of receiving something in return is not a gift — it is a payment. If a guy gives a girl an expensive gift with the expectation that the gift will make her more “available”, it’s just another form of currency for “paying for services rendered.” And if a girl accepts a gift, realizing that she’s going to have to put out to “thank him” for it, she’s basically saying that she can be bought.

I can be bought — but not by a leather jacket. Some folks just don’t have any self-respect!

By NCGirlfromATL

August 24, 2007 1:02 PM | Link to this

  • know my doc got up my alley when i had that prostate scan(sleek with that medicinal scream up there)It felt aaaight with his fingers in me(smirk).*

melo takes today’s award for TOO MUCH INFORMATION!! Dang.

Slim (channeling Tank) Pleeeeeeeeeeease dooooooooon’t gooooooooooooo pleeeeeeeeeeeease doooooooon’t goooooooooooo! Dang employers and their spyware! lol!

heeeey Truth Boy, you don’t know how to slip in do you? Just stomping all back up into the blog! LOL!

On topic: Ladies, as Steve Harvey says on a regular, you only get as much respect as you demand. That doesn’t mean you only get as much $$ as you demand. Maybe my parents raised me differently, but I cannot foresee a situation where I’d date a guy just for his ability to help me pay a bill or buy me a gift. My mom always told me to take enough money w/ me to pay for my own food, make a phone call and pay for a cab. It’s a lesson that has come in handy a time or two. But, I don’t assume anything when it comes to a guy I’m dating. I don’t assume he’ll always pay for dinner. But when he does, he always gets a sincere thank you. I don’t assume that he’ll buy me a gift for my birthday, but again, when he does, he knows how much I appreciate it. And when he does something sweet and unexpected, he gets major cool points. But, that doesn’t mean he’s always rewarded w/ puddy. Sometimes, the thank you is really what he’s looking for…the puddy is just the icing on the cake.

By QC - TGIF!

August 24, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this

Hey Cemeeli where you been hiding? good point 2cptg

By Foots

August 24, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this

Jake I guess everyone has their limits of what they will and won’t do. Personally, although there are some things I would never consider doing with just a boyfriend, everything would at least be a topic of discussion with my husband. I figure that if we are giving each other the rest of our lives, we better make it dayum interesting. Anyway, I think that after marriage is when it should get REALLY freaky, when you aren’t held back because of guilt or lack of commitment. JMO.

By mqew

August 24, 2007 1:08 PM | Link to this

Afta noon all… I just wanted to insert my .02. From your response to triple A and Sback, it sounds like the guys on this topic are of the same opinion… it depends on what they think of the chick and what category they put the chick in. I’m not sayin all yall are easy to “play”, but certainly most. Yall act like women do not appreciate getting “dug” out!!! I mean, regardless if he’s the giving, or the I’ma hold back until.., or the cheap or whateva type. It’s a frickn crap shoot anyway when you meet some one. You never know what you’re gonna get! He may be very generous and can do a Holiday on your aas, or cheap as he11 and can’t f******* worth sh!t. What I’m saying is from the “2gether” women to the hoes it depends on what your typical cunning woman is in it for. We can usually spot the different spending types (I know I can) if that’s what we’re looking for, or the ones who will put it down…

Bella - I would go so far as to say in re to your friend: No she may not go out searching for a brotha wit loot, but I bet she recognizes the type she thinks will do what she’s expecting/want.

My .02.

By aaa

August 24, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this

*@ *For Real and **Thank Allah and Jehovahs, please, take your fake muslim a## somewhere, dont talk about Allah if you are not Muslim, thats insulting, trust me. Women like me get the job done, and I have my own business, if you really want to know, my man is satisfied, satisfied. I get what I want.Men like you all are mad because women like me dont want cha.

By IslandGirl

August 24, 2007 1:15 PM | Link to this

TGIF Good Folks

Sup QC, GA, Slim, Real, Truth, Jake, Staceye, our lurking folks, Mo, Trarzee, T-Mango, Dushawn, Kym, Raqi, and Kinder…y’ll have a fabulous weekend.

@Slim…I have to cosign on what you said earlier about guys to offer to take you out on lavish trips etc. I have this one friend that is always trying to get me to go on trips with him….like I don’t know what that is about. Some men don’t care if you’re just trying to be friends….anyway, I try to be very careful about accepting gifts from casual dates…

@ Truthy….long time to read…great post.

By Honey

August 24, 2007 1:17 PM | Link to this

Alcoholic Annoying Azzhole aka aaa Are you Mushlim? If not why get so offended? It was’nt ForReal boo it’s Gorilla-O get cha facts straight before you try to shine aight!

By Foots

August 24, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this

melo Unless a woman is being taken without her consent, she receives something from the act. Something about it is enjoyable to her, even if it’s just your company/attention and the feel of the weight of you on her body. It may not be the same type of satisfaction as you get, but since you can’t measure that either, you can’t say it isn’t the same amount.

And that’s the other thing: Because men don’t run out of “ding-a-ling” either, even a woman who feels used can ALWAYS go find another, if that’s all she wants from a dude. Feelings of being used and abandoned are intangible and temporary, and you can even rebuild dignity and self-respect. That LV purse will still around though! LMAO!!

Good post NCGirl! Whenever I receive something, expected or unexpected, it is very appreciated. In a lot of different ways. LOL!!

Hey Truth, Cemeeli, Slim, and all the party people.

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this

You guys are off the chain, as usual.

PurpleOne give him back his ring. I never believed in keeping th engagement ring if the wedding has been called of. Now mind you now, I’ve never been given a 3, 4 or even a 5 karet ring to blind my morals. JK…I would still give the ring back.

By melo

August 24, 2007 1:20 PM | Link to this

NCGirlfromATL,preciate the silver shield!!

By QC - TGIF!

August 24, 2007 1:23 PM | Link to this

Hello IslandGirl how’s your day going?

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

NCGirlfromATL your on topic post was right on point.

By Page1908

August 24, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

Wow, yeah, it’s definitely off the chain in here today..lol

What I can add is this: About 2 years ago, I asked this dude I know a question. He lives in Las Vegas, where prostitution is legal, so I asked him: “Have you ever paid for sex?” When I asked him this question, I guess I kinda expected him to say “hell no”, but he didn’t. Instead, he answered: “Well, I have never DIRECTLY paid for sex, but every man pays for sex in some way or another, whether it is taking a woman out to dinner, gifts, etc. Those things are always some sort of “payment” for sex.”

By Cemeeli

August 24, 2007 1:30 PM | Link to this

@QC Gurl my job moved. I am now twice my commute to and fro. So when i do get here its strrraaaight to da grind!!!

Cemeeli comes to work and all day long put out fires until time to leave…sniff,sniff…Cemeeli misses posting and holla’n at the WLB & MLB in the blogroom.

By Thank God, Allah, and Jehovah It's Friday!!! aka Gorilla O

August 24, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this

yea aaa, the only thing missing in my life is your gold diggin azz! and dont try to focus the attention to me using allah in my name. that aint got shyt to do with this discussion. it wasnt used in an offending manner so dont act like you’re offended. im more offended by you puttin on about your business but you still require a man to pay your bills. i guess the lemonade stand just aint poppin right now. go fly a kite!

By melo

August 24, 2007 1:32 PM | Link to this

think that after marriage is when it should get REALLY freaky, when you aren’t held back because of guilt or lack of commitment Good pointFoots Put some nice cream on it and Give up the poop hole,Purple

By Thank God, Allah, and Jehovah It's Friday!!! aka Gorilla O

August 24, 2007 1:33 PM | Link to this

whats up Cemeeli

By b.o.o.h.o.o.

August 24, 2007 1:33 PM | Link to this

purple, melo, and foots ya’ll are makin’ me laugh! truth I think I’m in love! LOL! Crunk it up!

By PurpleOne

August 24, 2007 1:35 PM | Link to this

All, I did love this guy. He was not a bad guy! He was just ‘kinky’. Of course it came up, as I stated, all the time, he begged for it throughout the 4 years. I’m just supposing that he thought, after loving me, that I would somehow change my mind because he got me a ring! He heard that NO all along and he thought it was a challenge b/c he would joke and say, I’m gonna get that azz!, as if I was gonna somehow break down b/c he loved me enough to want to marry me that I was somehow indebted to him and I would all of a sudden change my mind. Oh we talked about it, it being a requirement and I would just say, whatever and I really think he thought he was going to change my mind. It wasn’t about him asking me to marry him at all, he is almost 50 and I’m mid 40’s. I had never had anyone in my life even inquire about that and he said, it was required in his marriage and he was previously married so we know what she did for 16+ years but I think it became a game to him b/c he couldn’t believe no one ever asked b4! I was like, you think I was just hoing around or something b/c I was single a long time?! Obviously, there were some control issues and they became apparent after the ring…HE broke off the relationship when he realized I wasn’t giving up my poopy hole for him, in love or not! For one thing, there was absolutely no ROI! Why in the HECK would I put myself out like that and get what in return?

By aaa

August 24, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

Honey, I am partially, will be fully during Ramadan. Sept 14th. My man is Muslim.

By Cemeeli

August 24, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

@Foots Got a chance to take a casual class at p-la-teaz! Fun, fun fun…chair dance…what a workout!

By Keeping it Real

August 24, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

Some men have to “sponsor” women because they don’t have much to offer. Think about it. Men, if you know that you are hung like a toddler, what else do you have to give a woman besides dollars?

By aa

August 24, 2007 1:40 PM | Link to this

It is offensive to me, I dont like fake azz wannabe muslim people, As I said DONT USE ALLAH IN VANE, OF GOD FOR THAT MATTER.

By QC - TGIF!

August 24, 2007 1:40 PM | Link to this

It’ll get better *Cemeeli keep your head up gurl!

out to lunch

By melo

August 24, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this

even a woman who feels used can ALWAYS go find anotherFoots i agree with cha.Come to the SexxyL’s party tomorrow at BellsB sweetie!! Wanna get my party on, wanna get my hoe on and wanna get my poop hole on, all SATURDAY night long!!!!

By The Truth

August 24, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this

Staceye I have never been with a man in any way other than shaking hands and I love anal sex with a woman. Actually, we can get down in alot of different ways. I want everything you have, period. You don’t deny me and I won’t deny you. I’m not gay or supsect. I hope. LOL My point is a woman that has met “the one” will give him every ounce of love she can muster. Her heart goes first and everything falls behind that. I have read your past posts and I know if you met “the one” you’d have your a* poked up in the air. You just need a solid dude to love you real hard for a year or two so you can get over those bumps you had.LOL I’ve met women that told me they don’t do this and that but when you roll here I’m going to have you doing alot of things you didn’t think you would. Not in a bad way but passion knocks down alot of walls. I would just recommend you be more open minded about it. In case we meet and get buck wild. LOL

Foots that is a sensible and reasonable response. Politically correct with a hint of freaky in it. LMAO That vacation did you good. You brought up a good point about getting freaky after marriage. Alot of folks are wild while single but when they meet a person they like they get real conservative thinking their partner won’t notice the battle scars.

Slim come by and pick me up in the Bentley vertible and Carabba’s is on ya boy. Your puttin up for the movie tho, I want to see War and that camel toe. LOL

3AAA, I got 52 bucks on me. Can I get an around the world and a good swallow? You know dam well you don’t have a man and Gorilla was using Allah as a joke.

Way to insert some logic MQ.

NC good to see you. You know I don’t do tact. LOL

Hi Similac

By IslandGirl

August 24, 2007 1:44 PM | Link to this

@NC whats up chica?

@QC…girl busy….cant wait to check out of this place…I’m looking forward to nothing but rest this weekend

By Honey

August 24, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this

Mike Vick signed the plea deal, Lord help him; i just hope he’s able to play football again. Aight aaa

By PurpleOne

August 24, 2007 1:49 PM | Link to this

melo, there is a difference between freaky and nasty (kinky) as far as I’m concerened! How about we turn that around then, I’ve got a battery operated companion and let me do you sometimes if I’ve gotta do it! He wasn’t trying to hear that! I’m all about swinging from the chandelier but if I say, that is not even ‘legal’ or I have a problem from the stand point of sodomy and I’ve told you over and over, and now you’re turning me off b/c you keep giving me the pouty face when you beg, it is simply not an option…many folks I’m sure that have been married ain’t doing that and have GREAT sex lives! All else was banging but he started making me nervous as time went on thus I couldn’t relax after about the 2nd year b/c he just wouldn’t let it go and it increased even after the ring so I felt in my heart that he really loved me but honestly thought I would do anything for him. Yes, to all, I gave him his ring back and it was well past the 90 days that the store may have taken it back and I had had it sized so it was different from the wedding band part and I’m sure he found that out b/c he didn’t want me to get it sized b/c in his mind, the avg. ring size should fit my finger(?).

By Keeping it Real

August 24, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this

Truth WOW! I must have really touched a nerve with you. You’ve pretty much just outed yourself to the entire blog that you’re packing a vienna sausage:) Sorry to disappoint you sweetie, but your assumptions about me were very wrong. I do make more than $35,000 (in fact I’m currently working towards my Ph.D.) I’m happily married with two children (both of which are my husband’s)and My husband and I are truly in love with each other. Oh, and he’s very well endowed, unlike some others….just keeping it real!

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this

PurpleOne I thought I read your original post right, but read others and got a little confused. Your ex was asking to perform anal sex on YOU not You on him. That’s a whole new different story.

By melo

August 24, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this

AAA,Honey, I am partially, will be fully during Ramadan. Sept 14th well that was polite comeback on Honey. U could have just declared a Fatwa on her,and got that b*** killed suicide style!!!

By Keeping it Real

August 24, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this

Truth WOW! I must have really touched a nerve with you. You’ve pretty much just outed yourself to the entire blog that you’re packing a vienna sausage:) Sorry to disappoint you sweetie, but your assumptions about me were very wrong. I do make more than $35,000 (in fact I’m currently working towards my Ph.D.) I’m happily married with two children (both of which are my husband’s)and My husband and I are truly in love with each other. Oh, and he’s very well endowed, unlike some others….just keeping it real!

By Cemeeli

August 24, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this

@Truth Hope the business side of thangs are doing well for you…your presence is missed.

@Gorilla O if i wasn’t a native like yourself i would asked? Are u musl, christian or witness???…but since u a native…i just say speakerbox…you showing out LOL!

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this

TheTruth couldn’t have said it any better, passion knocks down alot of walls. Passion (not lust) will have doing the most pleasurable sexual acts you never thought about doing before.

By The Truth

August 24, 2007 2:01 PM | Link to this

purple1 I apologize but if you spoke about it beforehand and said no and he kept pushing it over years then thats wack on his part. I don’t want a woman to do something she doesn’t want to do although in some cases I’ll take it. (Y’all got me thinking about my jucy booty ex gf now) Whatever you do together should be fun and pleasurable..

Honey I saw that. That was a sweet move on his part. This dude will be in the NFL again. 100%

3AAA, your changing religions to be with some dude? Farakans gonna mad that your selling a* for a 45 gas bill. You give hoe’s a bad name.

By melo

August 24, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this

Purple,melo, there is a difference between freaky and nasty (kinky Kindly refer u to Foots statement above *think that after marriage is when it should get REALLY freaky, when you aren’t held back because of guilt or lack of commitment *

Its all good. Sometimes old heifers have these old rules they apply(i know u in that bracket) and they cant change. Its all good to do what u comfortable with.

Now that u have broken up, bring up the issue with a young cat hopefully next time and just explore the possibility, at least one time. Who knows,heaven maybe on the other side, but u wont know unless u give it at least a shot!

By PurpleOne

August 24, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs, Yes, he wanted to do me. I would tell him all the time that it was a homosexual move and that is just a fact, the act itself. He had all this puddy, brains, body and looks to go with it and he, as he said, just got greedy and wanted everything but when he said it was ‘required’, I was like, who are you to ‘require’ something that I don’t agree with…He would never entertain having it done to himself, then it was ‘gay’…WTH?! Retired Military…it was a power/control issue and I finally ‘got it’!

By melo

August 24, 2007 2:02 PM | Link to this

Purple,melo, there is a difference between freaky and nasty (kinky Kindly refer u to Foots statement above *think that after marriage is when it should get REALLY freaky, when you aren’t held back because of guilt or lack of commitment *

Its all good. Sometimes old heifers have these old rules they apply(i know u in that bracket) and they cant change. Its all good to do what u comfortable with.**

Now that u have broken up, bring up the issue with a young cat hopefully next time and just explore the possibility, at least one time. Who knows,heaven maybe on the other side, but u wont know unless u give it at least a shot!

By melo

August 24, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

aa,It is offensive to me,DONT USE ALLAH IN VANE,By the end of day, this blog will be burning like Iraq.We got Allah people mad in here!

By Thank God, Allah, and Jehovah It's Friday!!! aka Gorilla O

August 24, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

you wild as hell Truth.

aaa I dont like fake azz wannabe muslim people. ms lady, i have never in life applied for muslimship or even inquired about being a muslim. but i now know why after reading the dumb azz comments you make.

By PurpleOne

August 24, 2007 2:09 PM | Link to this

I agree SexyLeggs about passion but passion and pain don’t mix for me…I love passion and pleasure but can pass on the pain…there was nothing painful for him and he loved everything else he got! Believe me, I learned to do some things with him that I hadn’t done prior, that didn’t ‘require’ pain on end and they became pleasurable. He simply wasn’t about to experience any pain…he wanted ALL pleasure! I had to ask him often, so why is it that I have to make that sacrifice?!

By For Real

August 24, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

aaa I am glad that you have business but what do that have to do anything if you are selling azz to pay your internet bill. I am glad that you don’t want me bc I ain’t trying to take care of no grown azz women with an Inscent & Oil business.

Staceye What do you mean women can’t control their emotions? Why can’t you?

Slim Hand me a towel. I think I was drooling while I passed out.

By aaa

August 24, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

@ The Truth, Melo, Your not smart enough to become Muslim, its above of all of you ignorant black men.You would have to read to understand. Thats why I am sure the majority are single and unhappy. Thats why you all can write a paragraph about nonsense. Grow-up to be a man, act like one, not a child

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 2:19 PM | Link to this

PurpleOne don’t get me wrong, but passion and pain = sweet pain and it can be a beautiful experience. I’m not necessarily talking about anal sex (to each his own), but there are some things that slightly hurt in the beginning but will have you begging for more by the end.

By melo

August 24, 2007 2:19 PM | Link to this

SexxyL,Your ex was asking to perform anal sex on YOU not You on him. That’s a whole new different story. WTF. DO U mouth the anal on ur man or u stick the toy in there?Which one?

By Page1908

August 24, 2007 2:20 PM | Link to this

LOL @ Inscent and Oil Business! Is that the same lady someone had mentioned a while back and called her the “Oil Lady” at the mall? lmao

By sky-eye

August 24, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

* NOTICE * Sexione is still alive over on Vick blog!!!She hangen in the MV camp.

By PurpleOne

August 24, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

Well melo, if I got beyond 40 years and hadn’t even been asked, was raised that that was wrong, had that notion about sodomy being wrong no matter what in my head that long, I wasn’t about to start now! I actually have a friend that has been married for over 10 years and she swears she has never ever done her husband and has never ever done any man, with her mouth and she isn’t about to start now. We are the same age so all I can say is, to each his own…I don’t knock what others want to do, it just isn’t of interest for me and I know going forward b/c it was such a hot topic and constant, I won’t ever do it! I am so not curious in any way about it! Heck, taking a poop can be bad enough in and of itself! More power to whatever y’all do!

By aaa

August 24, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

@ For Real, why would I want a man like you? I can find trash anywhere.

By PurpleOne

August 24, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs, I hear what you are saying and some things ‘hurt’ a little with the end result of pleasure, I’m not talking about that kind of pain, I’m talking about need Tucks Pads or Prep-H pain or something!

By Cemeeli

August 24, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this

Heeeyyy For real I missed saying hello to you earlier.

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this

Melo what’s wrong with you? I originally thought she was bent out of shape because her ex wanted her to use a toy on him…I’m entitled to read posts wrong..thank you.

By sky-eye

August 24, 2007 2:31 PM | Link to this

@ PURPLE RUN NOW FAST!!!!!!!!!!!!

By sky-eye

August 24, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

@ PURPLE RUN NOW FAST!!!!!!!!!!!!

By b.o.o.h.o.o.

August 24, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

I’m with purple about men asking for that letting you try it on them first (with something the size they are) and/or finding a man on the DL to try it with…I know some people like it, but in a Maxim-type survey they said something like 3% of women worldwide were interested, while in GQ something like 70% of men, so you guys are going to have to try it with toys or on each other if you ever want it.

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this

PurpleOne you got me laughing over here with the Tucks and Prep-H.

By SeanJohnson3000

August 24, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this

Sup Blog….dam its hottt…

@aaa….u really need to think twice about converting to Islam or being Muslim..do you homework…doesnt sound like your heart is in it…if it was..u would know a females role…and they way u are speaking to men…isnt part/allowed of/in their culture..question for you…how do you feel about your husband having more than one wife?

By IslandGirl

August 24, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs and Truth….don’t mind Truth with that mess….(Truth I feel you but…hellz no)..passion knocks down alot of walls..Look, I don’t care how passionate things get…shyt you can hang me from the chandelier, but you’re not going up my a-hole…lol

By DuShawn

August 24, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this

PupleOne “……she has never ever done her husband…..with her mouth and she isn’t about to start now.”

That’s crazy. I guarantee there is a female out there that is reaping the benefits of your friend’s sexual conservativeness. Most men that are married to prudes keep some azz on the side that will do everything their spouses will not. Typically, she’s generously compensated, and deserving so.

By SlimOne

August 24, 2007 2:46 PM | Link to this

Truth I’m so mad I haven’t been able to keep up with the blog today…but you are skrait cwrazy boy. How about I let you drive the vertible while I let my pet leech give you a suckie suckie Me love you long time Special. It doesn’t swallow but my pet Camel toe does

For Real Here’s a towel for that drool….OOPS I made a mistake and gave you the nut towel. My BAD Dawg!

By PurpleOne

August 24, 2007 2:46 PM | Link to this

AMEN b.o.o.h.o.o.!!! Since he had his “receiving end of experience” of pleasure, he wasn’t interested in trying it for himself to see what it felt like!…well, I told him I hope he can find whatever going forward b/c it ultimately led to our relationship demise since he wasn’t gonna get it in his marriage…I’m just so glad we didn’t get married. Heck, he might have tried to rape me eventually! He was pretty much that adamant about it! He’d be fighting mad, i.e., turn colors, have to get up and leave mad!

By Honey

August 24, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

aaa Why are you jumping on black men was becoming Mushlim your choice or your man’s?? Besides, Gorilla-O never said he was trying to be Mushlim did you just post today for the 1st time, or have you been lurking? If you’ve been lurking you would have noticed Gorilla-O has at least 4-7 different words before his blog name you don’t have to be offensive. Melo what in the world is fatwah?

By PurpleOne

August 24, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

High Five IslandGirl!!!

By DuShawn

August 24, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

Here’s a towel for that drool….OOPS I made a mistake and gave you the nut towel. My BAD Dawg!……..lol, hilarious!!

By melo

August 24, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

aaa,Grow-up to be a man, act like one, not a child u can take ur shyt to Mohammmed in Mecca or Medina, I dont give a fauck!!(said while laying down a mat on the floor,kneling and yelling akmur akbar!!)

By melo

August 24, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this

Sexxy, im not saying u should not read wrong, I was asking which one u would do?

By Cemeeli

August 24, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

@Slim Is this you leaving the room with a BANG? * For Real Here’s a towel for that drool….OOPS I made a mistake and gave you the nut towel. My BAD Dawg!* o-me o-my…dis chic is hella off da chain.

By melo

August 24, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this

HoneyMelo what in the world is fatwah In the Muslim world, if they feel disrespected they(like a religious leader will) will order thru a proclamation(fatwa)all Muslims kill that person when they see them.No negotiation or nothing, just kill that person!! Thats Bull shyt madness right there. I was messing with that chic and she probably will send a text to her long Bearded sheik before day is over to come get melo!!

By Honey

August 24, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

Thanks melo well hellz bellz we all should be saying fatwa then! This blog is all fun i love posting, reading & lurking. So who’s gonna be the 1st to have a Toga Party?

SlimOne is off da chain, let me chim over to the Vick blog

By Staceye

August 24, 2007 3:20 PM | Link to this

Truth it’s not about love. I just feel that anal sex/sodomy (hence Sodom) is the dirtiest act! The thought of it makes me want to vomit. I know what the primary use of the anus is….so um no. I have loved a dude deeply but Ilet him know from the getty up…that ain’t happening and if he tries to be sneaky he will catch something to his face and I will catch a case! It makes me think of rape..so no one will ever go there with me. If a guy is so gung ho about it…let me stick a B.O.B up is his azz and see how he likes it! Will he grin and bear it for my pleasure?

**

By Jake

August 24, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

We had power outage over here, but I see it got hott over here. @aaa, sweetie, I do not think anybody wanted to offend you, as a matter a fact O’s title was somewhat all inclusive, something we should all try to be, learn to tolerate, not hate!!

Purp

I feel you, beliefs are beliefs.

By Allah

August 24, 2007 3:25 PM | Link to this

I don’t exist. Neither does God or Jesus. You people are sheep and will do whatever you are told. Bleet, bleet.

That said, I cannot believe sex, oral/anal or whatever is being discussed in this blog side by side with with religion.

I have been away from this blog for over two months, and I come back and its the same people saying the same thing, and sex talk one hour into the blog, totally off topic. Don’t you people have lives? How do you keep doing this crap every single day?

By b.o.o.h.o.o.

August 24, 2007 3:28 PM | Link to this

word, Jake about O’s title

By k-mac

August 24, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

PurpleOne, I mostly just drop by now & then for a good read, but I have to applaud the way you stood up for yourself!! Also, as an adult woman whose dating demographic is now men in their 40s and 50s, I have to ask: WHATS UP with the azz obsession? Do they just get bored with the regular stuff after a certain age? More and more are asking for it, and the ones who really demand it, it’s like a drug or something for them. Like, they HAVE to have it, won’t consider not getting it. “Millions of women LOVE this,” they tell me. “I’ve had women who beg for it,” they tell me. And I tell them: “I’m sure some of those nice women have phones. Call them!”

By For Real

August 24, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

MLB Slim is a SQUIRTER and why do I smell pepper jack?

For Real now blowing into IG’s dookie hole to find out how deep is her love

By Foots

August 24, 2007 3:33 PM | Link to this

melo I wish I could come out to the party, but I am hosting a little get-together for my cousin’s bundle of joy tomorrow. I’ll be pushing a vacuum while cursing out loud after 8 PM on Saturday. If that sounds like fun, come on over and get you a broom.

cemeeli Yay!! I’m glad that you enjoyed it. We are supposed to be having a showcase at the studio sometime this fall. I might take one of those chair classes to prepare.

DuShawn As much as I would like to debate the morality of your 2:45 statement, I won’t because I totally agree with what you said. Nuff said.

Slim You know you are CRAZY!!! LOL!!

Hey PurpleOne. Who broke off the relationship? You mentioned also that you bought the house that the two of you were going to live in together. Are you still going to live in it?

By Honey

August 24, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this

Allah - you are fatwa wrong for that

By MrHughes

August 24, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

I have nothing really to comment… But “Skittles, tasting the rainbow”… I’m rolling in the middle of my office and everyone is looking at me like a fool.

By Foots

August 24, 2007 3:45 PM | Link to this

Staceye I know some folks that feel the same way about oral, which is a form of sodomy, if I’m not mistaken. The primary use of a mouth is talking, eating food, and breathing but folks use it for “other things”. Curious folks just need to find other folks that are curious also if they like to try anything different.

I’d never advise folks to do anything that made them uncomfortable. Shoot, that guy was making Purple uncomfortable for two or three years! That’s a long time to feel pressured, especially if you feel very strongly about the thing he’s applying the pressure about. It’s a wonder they lasted for that long. Y’all know how I do.

Still though, when the right one comes along and I do get married, I’ll be going to the library doing research on all the things I want to try!! I’ll be studying for my PhD in Freakology.

By Cemeeli

August 24, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

@Foots What’s your addy?

It was so much fun. I really cant’ wait to do it agian. I am prolly going next week.

By Staceye

August 24, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

Foots I promise I will make it to Pole-teaze one of these days. I see ceemeli already beat me to it.

By Honey

August 24, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

Roll on MrHughes, roll on!

By Daily Lurker

August 24, 2007 3:52 PM | Link to this

sky eye NOTICE Sexione is still alive over on Vick blog!!!She hangen in the MV camp. um, NOBODY cares! has anyone asked about Sexione? NOT

By PurpleOne

August 24, 2007 3:52 PM | Link to this

k-mac, I haven’t been out dating yet, still kind of licking my wounds but I’ll about ready to see what’s going on and I do have other divorced female friends that say exactly what you are saying and we are mostly I guess ‘old fashioned’ in that regard and are scratching our heads. My theory is that they see how ‘free’ these young women are about doing any/everything, not realizing the price they will have to pay cause ain’t nothing free and are all of a sudden ‘curious’ and yes, my ex acted like it was a drug!

Foots, He never wanted to say it so I had to ‘trick him’ in to saying what he really felt and he finally agreed to break it off by saying, we were never in synch (why did you propose to me? and it took 3.5 years?); I had to keep the house because the breakup was after I moved in (just closed Jan 31st), my last house I put up to sale and ended up to rent so there is someone there and I had already put earnest money on new house/lot, then we got engaged in that mix, ‘we’ then picked a different house/lot to build (my first lot did not have basement and combining 2 fully furnished homes, we thought we needed a basement) so with God’s grace, I’m managing. We never lived together, he had his own house too, family from N.O.’s Katrina (a whole other blog) staying there now 2 years, we had lived only 5 miles apart and the move now made it not so convenient, which all of his ‘stress’ was adding up by the time I moved and over the last 1.5 years (at the time) of having his folks live with him and not accustomed to such a ‘nice surrounding’ and having stuff, man, I hung in there with him through all of THAT and even his brother trying to ‘take me’ from him! whew…yes, I’m about to get back into the game, been off the market for 4+ years now…so not looking for the drama…

By IslandGirl

August 24, 2007 3:53 PM | Link to this

@Real…thats virgin territory…so when you blow…you won’t hear an echo.lol

By SlimOne

August 24, 2007 3:55 PM | Link to this

For Real You must have gotten your wires crossed. IG is actually the SQUIRTER, so i’d be careful with your face so close to her dookie shoot. Oh yeah, I think she had Mexican for lunch which would explain that pepper jack cheese you smell.

Pnnnnoooottttt!

By Foots

August 24, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli footswalker77@yahoo.com

Staceye Come on out and join us!! They are adding new classes all the time!

By ALVIN

August 24, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

Some men have to “sponsor” women because they don’t have much to offer. Think about it. Men, if you know that you are hung like a toddler, what else do you have to give a woman besides dollars?

In my case it’s all about greed…In order to sleep with 60 to 80 women a year, it takes money. You can get most women to make a video for $500.00 to $3000.00 and sell the armature videos for 10 or 15 bucks…With most men women are just toys anyway, I am sure most women on here feels the same about men.

F/K pleasure…I USE to just wanna tap into any woman who’s pretty and moves.

Demi: Y’all have a bless weekend!!!

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 4:04 PM | Link to this

Do any of you remember when I told you about I was taking exotic dancing? I’ve had my chair class and it was so much fun. Glad you enjoyed Cemeeli. Once again, all women should take an exotic dancing class.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 24, 2007 4:05 PM | Link to this

Mo strolling in after being heavily medicated to get rid of that dreaded sinus headache HEY YA’LL!!

I see you guys have it jumpin in here as usual! Its is definitely a Friday!

Staceye Co-signing on the anal sex issue. It aint happenin, period, so dont go there (pun intended)!

Slim you’se a fool for that last one! I still cannot stop laughing!!

By IslandGirl

August 24, 2007 4:11 PM | Link to this

Slim…LOL…I actually had indian food for lunch..so you know how much curry was in that dish….Real…better duck for cover.lol

By Foots

August 24, 2007 4:12 PM | Link to this

Alvin/Demi I’ve been MIA lately. How are you and your girl doing??

Purple Yes, that’s a lot of stress. It may have been better for you not to marry. He would still be supporting his whole family despite the change in address and that’s not probably how you imagined things going.

Be careful out there on the market. My mom is in her late 50s and the men who try to take her out are still crazy. I thought they would have grown up by that time…

By melo

August 24, 2007 4:13 PM | Link to this

Some of u women up here are boring!! Bre,boo.ho.ho,Hotlanta,Sexxyl, tell me it aint so with u ladies. (u realize im only talking to some of the grown and liberated ones)

k-mac, welcome to the milenium baby!!Yu, purple,AAA,Island and Staceye need to start a church.lol Prude Church of Mohammed.

Staceye, girl, im disapointed. Been looking at u for a minute.lol

By Ladylike

August 24, 2007 4:15 PM | Link to this

Post in the morning, come back and all he)) done broke loose up in here, LOL, what’s happening?

Hey Truth hope business is good!

AAA If I have yet to say it, Welcome to the Blog I respect your choices and I’m happy for you, but I’ll take a Christian man anyday simply because the Walk in Love, and truly love me well. See this is why I tell you brothers (All Races) to handle your business because you never know who is watchin.

LOL Foots you are right DuShawns 2:45 statement is very true.

By Honey

August 24, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

Today was a great day on the blog for me; it’s time for my weekend to begin. You guys are so much fun, i should’ve joined in a long time ago. Surely i’ll return one day when i have the time. My name Tameira my friends call me Honey cause i’m oh so sweet, be blessed bloggers! :)

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

I already stated I was an undercover freak. Some things I will do and some things I won’t. Those that I do and don’t will not be affirmed on this blog.

By Honey

August 24, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this

Melo you seem to be a really kool guy, i look forward to blogging with you soon ;)

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

Melo it’s time for you to stop with the church talk. You have rode that ship out of here a few posts back when you realize people were getting p**. Pick your battles in life. This one seemed silly to continue. Everybody has their opinions and all should be respected (even here on the blog).

By Ladylike

August 24, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

Hey Mo girl I think I’m going to leave early, or stop at a happy hour one, I can’t take anymore bad traffic.

By PurpleOne

August 24, 2007 4:28 PM | Link to this

I hear y’all but every man doesn’t break their marital vows so maybe my friends husband possibly (maybe far and few between) is living with it…everyone isn’t so shallow that they would go against their vows…it is up to the individual and I’m sure there are many a man not getting it, not missing it (I know for a FACT that some don’t want their woman doing it to them because they view it as what a paid prostitute does and that it is unnatural…lots of old school fellows out there too).

Have a great weekend!!!

By melo

August 24, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

Everybody has their opinions and all should be respected i do respect everybody’s opinion, but free to differ as well with whatever opinion as long as u say it. If u get p**, be my guest!!

By IslandGirl

August 24, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

Melo…”start a church”…. *IG loves the lord, but I’m not always on best behave (I’m a work in progress). Anyway, you just trying to start of issshhhh.. Its Friday baby…check me on Monday when I tighten up my boxing gloves…much love to you.lol*

By melo

August 24, 2007 4:32 PM | Link to this

you seem to be a really kool guy, i look forward to blogging with you soon ;) Me too Honey(said while licking my lips LL Cool J style)

By The Truth

August 24, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this

3A’s if your gonna be a muslim the standards must be dropping. I worked with alot of your friends while I was a prison guard. In there they’re considered a gang. After they slap the s** out of you for looking a man in the eyes you’ll be a christian again. LOL

Keeping it Real who really cares about how hung your bf is except you and the other broads he’s fuggin? No one. BTW, this is the internet, ev1 is gorgeous, hung like a horse, movie star fine and happy as all outdoors.

Staceye I feel you if its not something you want to try. Its not mandatory but leave your options open. I’ve had women expose me to alot of things. some were pleasurable and some weren’t. The thing is if its me and my girl the sky’s the limit. I really like Foots stance on this topic. We may not do everything but its up for discussion. Just my .02

On second thought, 3A’s and Keeping, I’d like to introduce you to Bynums husband. Talk away ladies. LMAO

By DuShawn

August 24, 2007 4:37 PM | Link to this

Purple One If you believe your last post your either naive or delusional.

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this

Melo don’t get me wrong, I’m not p**. Not that you need forewarning, but that’s what I was doing…Carry On!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 24, 2007 4:40 PM | Link to this

Ladylike Girl I was thinking the same thing! This morning had my pressure all the way up!! (as the old folks say) LOL!! I cannot do another rush hour like that unless I am on vacation and not worried about getting somewhere on time!

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 4:41 PM | Link to this

I’m cracking up over here. On the radio just came Huey Lewis (I think). It hurts so good, come on baby make it hurt so good!! I’m cracking up. Sorry, I have a warped sense of humor.

By Foots

August 24, 2007 4:42 PM | Link to this

Purple I know for a FACT that some don’t want their woman doing it to them because they view it as what a paid prostitute does and that it is unnatural…lots of old school fellows out there too

Those are the dudes that are actually paying the prostitutes to do it! LOL! Just kidding… (not really)

But for real, no, not every man steps out on his woman. Many people honor their vows. But it’s easy for someone to get distracted by others if their needs are not being met, man or woman. Either that happens, or the person just has to make peace with that missing part of their lives if they intend to stay. Or be miserable forever.

It’s probably best to get with somebody who thinks like you do about a variety of topics and who you think is willing to meet your needs (and has needs that you are willing to meet also).

By Honey

August 24, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this

Melo glad you responded before i left my office; feel free contact me @ your leisure:

HoneyDew2Sweet@yahoo.com

I’m out!

By ALVIN

August 24, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this

Foots we are still trying to break up, LOL. She has taken a new position in Toronto, Canada…I am on my way to the Airport to see her tonight. She and I aren’t cool with LDR, or so we say.

while putting on a wet suit IG, lets squirt, LOL

And

SexyLeggs how undercover are you Said while stripping down to boxers and show off a well toned chocolate body.

Night All!!!

By melo

August 24, 2007 4:46 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs,but that’s what I was doing…Carry On! OFFICER, bring dem on ur handcuffs!!

By Cemeeli

August 24, 2007 4:46 PM | Link to this

@Staceye Go and get your fun on…you’ll enjoy it.

Foot You’ve got mail.

Room When is there ever time or a right or wrong to settle a good Gold digger debate??

Cemeeli leaving the da room…anticipating going to her car and looking for her Friday Weekend 30min ride home CDs. looks like OUTKAST (southernplayalisticcadillacfunkymusic) is in order…oh Jill and Kem its allright…yall still my ride out…just no ta-day!!!

Enjoy your weekend peeps! B blessed.

By melo

August 24, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this

Melo… out, and about to get DOWN!(holding Honey on the waist).

See yaa at the PARTEY, PARTEY,PARTEY!!

GOOD Weeekend er’body!

By The Truth

August 24, 2007 4:51 PM | Link to this

Ok bloggers, have a great weekend and i’ll drop in in a few weeks to make sure your doing alright. Don’t bad mouth me behind my back because I will be lurking. LOL Good to see some old heads in here. TC

By DuShawn

August 24, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this

On the topic of women and gifts, I believe in cheerful giving. Don’t get wrong I tricked out and broke bread with plenty of women with that use what I got to get what I want mentality, but I let it be known that it would benefit them more to establish a friendship with me as opposed to a business transaction. I’m the one you chill and relax with after you’ve made your bread. The best gift I’ve ever given a female was not a trip or some jewelry or any of the other typical material bullshyt……it was a refrigerator and a stove. I was dealing with this chick several years ago. She was having a rough time but sincerely trying. She just moved in an apartment in the hood with her infant daughter. I went to visit her and she was keeping the babies milk in a cooler she had to keep refilling with ice and cooking on a hotplate. The next day, I had new appliances delivered to her spot. She didn’t ask for them nor did I tell her they would be arriving. She was so grateful she shed tears…..

To this day I could get some of that head……..regardless of who her current man is.

By IslandGirl

August 24, 2007 4:55 PM | Link to this

@Alvin/Demi…lol

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 4:57 PM | Link to this

Have a safe weekend everybody.

By IslandGirl

August 24, 2007 4:57 PM | Link to this

Have a great weekend everybody.

By SexyLeggs

August 24, 2007 5:04 PM | Link to this

DuShawn that was real sweet and manly of you.

By ALVIN

August 24, 2007 5:12 PM | Link to this

DuS you were about to be praise by all the ladies until…

To this day I could get some of that head……..regardless of who her current man is.

Wild

 

Do Good Locally » Find nonprofit causes near you

Find more causes » List your nonprofit

Kudzu Services » Find the right people for the job