Misadventures in Atlanta

By 2CPTG

August 17, 2007 8:21 AM | Link to this

Morning, and Happy Friday……Booty Calls, for lack of a better word are passe now….In our sexually promiscuous society, no, folks aren’t turning down the occassional rendezvous, just ain’t calling it that anymore……they’re just doin’ it!!! Stats show they aren’t getting married, and those same stats show babies are still being born out of wedlock, so they’re gettin’ here somehow…….

be easy; my $.02

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 8:25 AM | Link to this

It’s Friday, Let’s Get Cwrazy!, Let’s Get Nuts!

Ladies, have you noticed more single men who are avoiding the friends with benefits arrangement? Have you ever been turned down by one? No and No. As the dudes I know have gotten older, I don’t necessarily see them avoiding cut buddies. However, they may tend to not have as many different cuts in the rotation but just narrow it down to the top 2 or 3. lol

By G

August 17, 2007 8:50 AM | Link to this

I see we have an easy topic for a Friday. I don’t know of any guys/gals in or out of my clique that are avoiding cut buddies or BCs. BCs are pretty much the norm nowadays. So many singles have been through the “relationship-ringer” that no one is anxious to invest in the emotional ups and downs of a traditional committed relationship. It’s a whole lot easier to commit to the booty than the heart.

I don’t think it’s strictly a male thing. I find more women are open to a BC. Many women that claim to have a “man” when I initially meet them don’t necessarily mean he’s a boyfriend. wink In other words, more women I meet have cut buddies, but are still in the market for a BF.

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 9:00 AM | Link to this

G It’s a whole lot easier to commit to the booty than the heart. I see its going to be a very off da chain Friday. As juvenile as that statement seems, it’s very true of how folks think today. We are just such an oversexed-minded society. We’re looking for love and belonging in all the wrong places. When was the last time a dyck gave love. I may give love licks but not genuine love.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 17, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this

Morning All!! I swear sometimes I think WD is listening in on me and my girls on the weekends! Just had this conversation and I dont think people are turning away from cutbuddies per se, like SlimOne said its just that people dont have as many! Its the norm, but I would like to think that you would want to have something in common even with a cutbuddy. I know its about the sex but there has to be sumthin else that attracts you to that person, JMO.

Ever been turned down No.

Happy Friday Everyone!

By Raqi

August 17, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this

Ha Haaaa. Things that go thump, bump, hump in the night.

By QC

August 17, 2007 9:05 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday Bloggers

hey 2CPTG it’s good 2 read U

I did it! i took my letter opener and re-arranged all the letters on his key board…he won’t be in until 9:30 today, i came in early! He is going to have a fit, lolololol!

Thanks ForReal for the idea, oh i can’t wait til he gets here!

Have a great day all!

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 9:12 AM | Link to this

Raqi LOL, You made a funny….thump,bump, hump in the night. 2 pts for you

By AmazonRed

August 17, 2007 9:12 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday!

Since I avoid that type of arrangement like the plague…I really don’t know. However, I do hear the gripes of men who, as they get OLDER, state that the casual hook-up thing is just not fulfilling anymore. Even if they aren’t ready to get married (which is all the guys I know LOL), they’d rather have an old standby or an ex that they can call only “in case of emergency.”

It really is too risky and dangerous out there to be giving the business to any willing participant just because you can.

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. I don’t engage in BCs. Did in my 20’s and 30’s (infrequently), but none now.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 17, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this

QC you need to cut it out!!!! LOL I cannot wait til you post his reaction!!!

By Ladylike a.k.a. Thickness

August 17, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Blog Fam

Que pasa! 2CPTG

I do notice that I have not received as many booty calls as I would have two or three years ago. In fact, many of the male friends I have made lately don’t even try the friends with benefits option, I love it. Although I think they do have casual sex buddies I just don’t rank and file as one of them.

By QC

August 17, 2007 9:24 AM | Link to this

Mo girl i’m sitting on the edge of my seat, lololololol i can’t stop laughing to myself….

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 17, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

Mornin folks..

This topic boils down to one thing, that is the common denominator for most of the topics put out there,on this blog “maturity”

When a man reaches a certain level of maturity in his life, he seeks “quality vs. quantity”

Don’t get me wrong, if a chick that I am somewhat interested in calls and says ” I would really like to see you this evening” If I have no immediate plans or substitution,she can hook up with ya boy,but at 35 and I am still out meeting chicks to just simply bang, get a clue!

At some point, you should want a few quality women in your life to hang out with and not sleep with and then have a few quality chicks that you can hang out with,but they provide favors.

This scenario is far different than “BC’s” in that most “BC’s” are chicks that are tier 4 chicks, that you don’t care nothin bout!

By Gorilla O

August 17, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this

GoodMorning Er’body! Whats up QC, SlimOne, My Fellow Eastsida MO, Sexy, and anyone else i missed
Have you slacked off on the casual hook-ups yourself? i think i turn down more azz than i get. it started a couple of years ago when i really got focused on my goals and trying to reach them. and i know if you focus a lot of time in a certain area, you slack in others. at the time, i was focusing more so on women and everything else was secondary. had to get my mind right and get my priorities in line. so now i spend the majority of the time doing things to help me accomplish my goals and make time here and there for a shot of azz.

By SSSBM

August 17, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

GOOD MORNING ROOM TGIF!!!! how is everyone doing this wonderful friday morning? Whats up SLIMONE@ WISE DIVA Believe your guy friend or not he probably is telling the truth (I cant say he is or he is not because I dont know his character) Even though he is in his late 20’s he’s just coming to age, I believe in the same thing, its to much casual sex going on these days just to have friends with benefits I love myself more than I love any person on this earth just to be running around sleeping with everyone. Even if you have three FWB at some point or another protection is going out the window and your opening yourself up for STD because no one knows what their other sex partner is doing. Im in y late 20’s also and sex could be the last thing on my mind sometimes, even though their are some nights I get a little confident (liquor) and I just want to put it down like JODY (baby boy) or DMX (belly). I have noticed a lot of my close friends turning down the BOOTY because were actually looking for THAT SPECIAL WOMAN plus you have the irritation that comes along with the friends with benefits. What do I mean by irritation? They want it to much and catch a attitude when they cant get it you also see the signs of them becoming attached. If were just “cut friends” whats up with the 21 questions when you can contact him/her? Let me break down some problems with the booty call because booty calls are not for everyone: if you’re clingy, desperate, STD-infested, or emotionally unstable,a booty call is the last thing you need!!!…An ex might want to get back together, or you could end up ruining a friendship. The best that you could hope for is that someone will want to break off the deal because they found someone else. The worst that could happen is that you’ll want to get more serious and they won’t….You know very well that you dintt plan on buying or wearing that wedding ring. Don’t string someone else along because you’re only thinking of your own damn NUTT!!!…

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

Morning folks and Happy Friday!

I can’t even comment on this topic. None of my friends participate in casual hook ups and while I’m sure I have some associates that might - we don’t discuss sex.

By kimmie

August 17, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

I agree with LL - basically age catches up with people, or at least it should.

I got a call recently from a former “friend with benefits” that I cut loose quite awhile ago. He was the only one in my life I would classify as that. It was never a fulfilling arrangement for me. Not that I wanted to marry the dude, but I really was interested in a quality adult relationship with real emotional as well as physical intimacy. I believe once you start a relationship off as FWB, there’s no turning it around into something serious later; it is what it is. Anyway, when I got the call I thought “Is this guy still doing this?” I mean, dude turned 41 in June! I know marriage is not for everyone, and he was never interested in anything long-term from me or anyone else, that’s why I only saw him as a FWB. But after a point, doesn’t it get kinda old? I didn’t even pick up the phone when I saw his name come up, because I told him I was seeing someone serious the last time he called and that has not changed. Now he seems like sort of a sleeze to me, not attractive.

By BrownEyes

August 17, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

QC I am LMAO over here, what a great idea!!!

On topic I call my guy my maintenance man and no I don’t think that people are getting rid of them. My maintenance man is just taking care of a few needs until I am found by the right man. I am usually the one making the calls to him. When I know I am haning out with the girls, like tonight, and I know I am going to have some drinks I go ahead and put him on standby and he is always happy to sit at his home and wait for me. But I will say that sometimes I do feel a bit cheap even though I was the one who initiated the call. I guess that all goes back to my maturity and my desire to really be in a committed relationship.

By SeanJohnson3000

August 17, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog…regarding the topic…i dont think BC’s have changed…u get older your rotation is smaller..2 or 3 books with working and other responsibilities.no time like u use to…like someone said..I do think the dynamics have changed though…when may have 2 or 3 quality chics on your roster..You may find yourself someones booty call .depending on if you are a quality dude giving out quality D..with all the women in ATL with their ish together and having been through things an not really needing a relationhsip to feel complete..she may just need you her phsyical needs..so these says…why u think u are fck her…in reality she is fcking you..sending u on your merry way…

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

My 13-year old daughter asked me what the B.U.D.D.Y song was all about. I broke it down to her explaining that these are friends with sexual benefits, lack of respect for each other, and that she doesn’t ever want to be anyone’s B.U.D.D.Y.

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

Chest bumps for Gorilla O and SSSBM

Women that have had friends w/benefits Have you ever been a little irritated when your CB called initiating a ‘meeting of the uglies’ but you don’t feel that way when you initiate it?

Also, ALL when you call up that CB, what do you say? Do you say, are you going to come square me up tonight, or do you try an indirect approach and say stuff like, you feel like having company tonight? Just curious.

By Gorilla O

August 17, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

can someone give SSSBM a citation for that long azz post!

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 17, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

One obersation I noticed recently, is that there is a huge demand for “Maint. men, especially for single professional women.

The majority of successful AA women are single,with very few options in a quality man,so they will settle for that dude,that can give them a “tune up” at a moments notice, rather than be alone(see Brown Eyes 9:53).

Not that most women don’t have options to date or someone to go out on a date with, but with all the dudes out there,that are serving up BDR’s (Bad Di*k Reports),some chicks would just rather find that one dude, that can “put them to bed” and roll with the program vs. grabbin the “sit and spin” i.e the vibrator.

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

Gorilla I was thinking the same thing. I think he has long posts enought to change his initials to LPSSSBM (long posting)

By SSSBM

August 17, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

THE PROBLEM WITH THE BOOTY CALLS ARE THAT NO ONE FOLLOWS THE RULES OR ABIDE BY THE “BOOTY CALL CONTRACT” If you do not have the booty call contract here it is feel free to print as many copies as you want. All booty call customers must sign before the sex act takes place………Booty call contract

The Pre-Booty Call Agreement

This pre-booty call Agreement (hereinafter referred to as “The Agreement”) is entered into on this day of ____, 20 , by ______, (hereinafter referred to as the “Participant”) between _____, (hereinafter referred to as the “Holder of ‘The Agreement’”) and ______ (Participant). This Agreement shall cover the following rules and principles for the Participant: 1. No sleeping over!! Unless it is very good and we need to repeat it in the morning. 2. No meeting in public except for dinner or drinks before the events of the evening. 3. No calls before 9 pm. We don’t have anything to talk about. 4. None of that “lovemaking” stuff, only mind-blowing sex allowed. 5. No emotional discussions!! i.e. where are we heading with this? Do you love me? The answer is “no”, so don’t even ask. 6. No plans made in advance. That is why you are called “the backup.” Unless you are from out-of-town, then it’s only a one-time advanced arrangement. 7. All gifts accepted- money is always good. 8. No baby talk- however, dirty talk is encouraged. 9. No asking for comparisons with former lovers it’s really none of your damn business. 10. No calling each other friends with privileges. We are not friends, just sex buddies. 11. Calling out the wrong name during sex is OK. Don’t be offended, you mean no less to me than you did before. 12. No extra clothing!! I don’t want your a* leaving anything behind when you leave. 13. No falling asleep right after sex!! It’s over so get your a* up and go home. 14. Don’t be offended if I don’t ask if you enjoyed it. I don’t care!! 15. You cannot borrow my car for any reason. 16. If anyone of the opposite sex asks who you are, the standard response will be “My roommates girlfriend/boyfriend.” 17. Doggie style preferred. Just hit it hard and right or get the Hell out! (Reason: The less eye contact the better. I don’t want to look at you.) 18. We are to hook up absolutely whenever the mood strikes me, so stop calling! 19. Bring your own drink-I am not your liquor store. 20. No phone use, please! I don’t want anyone calling back looking for your a*. *Extra tip for successful booty calls: The holder of the Agreement may only alter the aforementioned rules. If the other party attempts to change or alter any terms of the Agreement, it will automatically become null and void. The Participant will then be removed from the “Possible Future Relationship List” and given minimal Booty Call privileges, and cut off from any communications unless first initiated by the holder of this Agreement. If further violations of the Agreement occur the Participant will be deleted from phone memory, email list, and blocked from all communications until the Participant’s silly a* understands the rules.

Participant:

Signature: ______

Date: ______

Holder of the “Agreement”:

Signature: ______

Date: ______

By NCGirlfromATL

August 17, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs I thought your take on Musiq’s song was interesting. It’s a song I love (b/c it has a great beat, and a nice sample), but I hear what you’re saying about the respect part. Funny thing is, I think a lot of people who engage in BUDDY relationships think they are give each other the utmost respect by being honest about their intentions. It might not be for you or your daughter (when she’s 35 and has left the convent! lolol!), but for a lot of adults, it’s the best of both worlds.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 17, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

SlimOne when you call up that CB, what do you say? For me, it was “what are you doing tonight”, “you gonna be busy later”, something really simple. If you are cool with that person you can even strike up a simple, yet quick convo. Just depends on you. It probably is easier than you think.

By Staceye

August 17, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this

QC that brokedown minivan to hell is waiting! LOL

SSSBM you put it out there yet again! Amen brotha’…preach it!!

*Kimmie8 I feel you girl. I have bene in that situation. I had to cut a dude off like that. It was fun at first…but after you start to want more than that and that person it coming at you with sex on the brain all the time it begins to make you repulsed by this person.

Brown Eyes are you my twin! I feel the same way. After some guy hurts me I go on this dog a guy out venture. It’s like I have to inflict karma on some dude. I know it’s wrong. But I have not done that in years!

SJ3000 you always keep it real dont’cha?

SexyLeggs I am glad YOU explained it to her and not ignore her or give her some BS fairytale G-rated version. Some parents think they can shield their kids from stuff by doctoring it up. But they are going to hear it anyway…from kids at school…on the street, etc. And it may be wrong…or delivered in a glorified way to make your child think it’s ok to do these things. For example, my friend doesn’t let her son play with any toy gun including water. But I tol her if she thinks she can shield him from knowing what they do she is dead wrong. She needs to explain the effects of guns…not let some kid or TV or some other fool glorify it to make him think it’s ok.

By G

August 17, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

Who’s to say that a BC isn’t a relationship or there is no chemistry. The relationship can be consistent, and the chemistry can very well be physical. A “BC” can be as cool and consistent as any other relationship. You just leave the door open to meet other people. Just know your role and follow the rules. The communication does not have to be as blunt and condescending as inexperienced CBs tend to think.

Maturity? It’s mature to be upfront about your intentions and/or goals for what you want in a relationship. It’s mature to be true with yourself to know what type of relationship is right for you. LTR is not for everyone, and neither is BC.

By brown-eyed beauty

August 17, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

LOL @ SSSBM. #17 is just wrong LMAO

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

SSSBM I have the same contract someone sent as a fwd a while ago. It was funny the first time i read it.

I think as you get older and still have CB, that you tend to want it to be a faux relationship. What i mean is, its not just the come over after 2am, get the groove on, then drive home soon after with shaky legs. If you have some sort of connection with that person, other than the ‘act’, then you tend to want to pretend in your mind for those hours or so that you and he/she have something more. You and him/her don’t talk about dating other folks or chat with other CB’s in their presence, etc.

By Grand Poo bah

August 17, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday all
I was somebody else’s booty call recently. It was good for me as it was the first woman I was with since my divorce, but I agree too, without chemistry it is no good. In my younger days (I’m 34) my booty calls were friends I was
A. Attracted to and
B. Had some resepct for
this last woman was attractive to look at, but I couldn’t stand talking to her, so I have let her go. I am not opposed to a booty call right now in my life, as I am not in a relationship, but I will hopefully find someone nice and have a medium-term relationship in the future.

By SSSBM

August 17, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

@ SLIMONE when I use to do the BC i just call who ever up and ask do they want to get away and get a room on the other side of town!!!…I need another chest bump that felt good!!!… @ GORILLA O I will pay the citation thats fine but I will use the VISA not the KROGER PLUS CARD!!!! @The ladies Over 35 I have just seen one or two post with you all saying you all did the booty call thing in your 20’s and 30’s but not now, or as much. I’m guessing you are trying to settle down or trying to find the right man. Why do women have a wild 20’s and 30’s then try to settle down when the clock is ticking? Once all the wildness is out you all start complaining about there are no good men in your age range when you should have been thinking about that in you all’s roaring 20’s and 30’s. (just speaking my mind and asking a couple questions….IM PUTTING THE VEST ON NOW!!!)

By Jewel

August 17, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

Good morning Everyone!

No comment on this topic. My circle of friends does not participate in the cut buddy activity; unless you include waking your hubby in the middle of the night…three of my four close friends are married.

THE POSITIVE SIDE OF LIFE

Living on Earth is expensive, but it does include a free trip around the sun every year.

How long a minute is depends on what side of the bathroom door you’re on.

Birthdays are good for you; the more you have, the longer you live.

Happiness comes through doors you didn’t even know you left open.

Ever notice that the people who are late are often much jolier than the people who have to wait for them?

Most of us go to our grave with our music still inside of us.

If Wal-Mart is lowering prices every day, how come nothing is free yet?

You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person.

Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.

Don’t cry because it’s over; smile because it happened.

We could learn a lot from crayons: some are sharp, some are pretty, some are dull, some have weird names, and all are different colors…but they all exist very nicely in the same box.

A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

Today is a gift. That’s why it is called the “present.”

Have an awesome day, and know that someone who thinks you are great has thought about you today!

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

Mo Yeah I’ve done that approach too. For me that direct, Come ride this D, is a total turn off. I guess I can tie in what Staceye said into it. person is coming at you with sex on the brain all the time it begins to make you repulsed by this person Give me a little more mental stimulation with some decent convo some of the time Geesh! lol

By NCGirlfromATL

August 17, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

SSSBM You wrong for that! LMAO!!

Slim Do you say, are you going to come square me up tonight, For some reason, that phrase just cracks me up!

Slim’s CB: Hey girl, what you doing tonight?

Slim: Nothing.

(silence)

Slim’s CB: So, umm…you gonna square a brotha up tonight?

(crickets)

Slim’s CB: Slim? You there?

Slim: Yeah….but I don’t know anything about hanging drywall. Are you building something tonight?

Slim’s CB: Huh? Drywall?

Slim: Yeah…you said you wanted me to square you up. You need help holding the level or something?

Slim’s CB: (already scrolling thru his mental CB rolodex) Nevermind…

Slim: Have fun at Home Depot!

By QC

August 17, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this

LMAO! LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

(laughing speradically) oh my goodness! my side is hurting so bad, lololololololololololololololololol!

Let me remind y’all he’s an excellent typist (almost as good as me) he just finished typing a 2 page report, emailed it to somebody on his team to critique they called him and asked wth is this he printed it out and hollared! WHAT HAPPENED TO MY KEYS ON MY KEYBOARD!!! he was just sitting there, typing….Carmen, look at this..i’m like what DeSean….look at your keyboard, oh my; all your letters are out of place….Now IT is bringing him another keyboard..

By SeanJohnson3000

August 17, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

@ Slim…cant speak for other cats..but if you are on the team…and we are cut buddies..for me..we are truly friends….to the point i really dont mind spending time outside of the bedroom…i woudnt say i am in love with you..but i consider you a friends that i care about…Often times i found that females see that as mixed signals..and in the end ..it can complicate things..

By DuShawn

August 17, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

why u think u are fcking her…in reality she is fcking you..sending u on your merry way… SJ You said something there. Its much easier for women to initiate the “booty call”. Men are so stupid, we have the mind set of Imma fall thru, beat it and dip. while the female is thinking When he fall thru, Imma make him eat it and dip Who’s the pimp and who’s the trick in that situation…….It depends on who you ask.

By skeeter

August 17, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

I’ve had several FWBs in the past, although at this point in my life, I’d rather have a full relationship with a man. But, I must say, anyone that I am attracted to sexually is someone that I like/respect enough to enjoy on some level other than just sex. If I felt so little for that person that I have nothing to say, than I certainly don’t want to have an intimate experience with him, either. So, whereas we didn’t ‘date’ per se, we did have a mutual relationship, which is as it should be, IMO. If only one person is getting anything out of the experience, then it might as well be a prostitute/client relationship. A good FWBs relationship can be very fulfilling, IMO.

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

NCGirlfromATL Musiq’s song has a great beat, but what bothers me about that song is the verse that basically says don’t get offended if I come with you and leave with another. That’s plain DISRESPECT and if you value yourself that should never be tolerated. Oh hell to naw on that.

Hey Staceye. Thank you. I do try to keep it real with her. I can only shelter her from so much. Children are quick learners, and the street talks to them louder than I can. Therefore, while she’s “on my watch,” I’m not going to sugar-coat life for her.

By SSSBM

August 17, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

@ brown-eyed beauty everyone loves the mike vick position (doggy) 17 stand true because I have seen and been with some UGLY FINE A$$ FEMALES…@Slimone Do you use your contracts and file them away just for security reasons? @ staceye Preshate it babe!!!

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

SSSSBM what a pathetic, yet that’s how it is contract…LOL

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 17, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

SJ Co-signing your last post with my fold-tipped, feathered pen! If you are a cutbuddy for me then we are cool. I can hang out with you, laugh and joke and its all good. The main thing is that we both understand and agree on what the relationship is. I dont think you send mixed signals with that, that’s just a case of someone catching feelings thereby trying to void the arrangement!

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

SSSBM I am a mature, sexy woman who keeps herself together at all times for MYSELF. I was never reckless in my 20’s or early 30’s (before marriage). I had a few BCs, and I made a few BCs back in the day. Divorced one year and blossoming all over again (w/legs closed..LOL).

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

SJ3 To me, that’s how it would have to be. I don’t think i’ve ever had a strictly CB partnership where we weren’t friends. I guess I can say i’ve been lucky that they have enjoyed my company and respected me enough not to treat me like the come-towel. LOL! However, I can see how being that way could send mixed signals to the female making her believe that it could or is turning into something more.

NC You’ll be surprised the things I’ve heard men say from other chicks. But you are funny early this Friday. LOL

By brown-eyed beauty

August 17, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

QC gurl be careful! Once they start replacing parts and they find out it’s you- you may get written up or something.

sssbm you ever watch Nip/Tuck? reminds me of that episode where Christian makes the woman wear a brown paper bag while he’s hittin it.

BTW, anyone know when that new season starts?

By Ladylike

August 17, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

SSSBM yeah you put your vest on because this is supposed to be good friday. And you know you wrong for that, ought to be ashamed of yourself. Everybody ain’t trying to be wild and roaring in there 30’s! LOL

QC, MO girl, I know that has got to be hillarious. *He didn’t even look at his keyboard! mmph, mmph, mmph

By NCGirlfromATL

August 17, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs Oh, I’m not disagreeing with you! I’m just saying, there are a lot of people who justify this action by saying, “Hey, I was honest with you about my plans…you can either go along with it, or not!” That’s basically what the song is about. I can be your BUDDY, you can be mine…no strings…we just hit it, or maybe we don’t…you have your other BUDDY’s and I have mine. My point was the irony of honesty. Of course, if you don’t want to be a BUDDY, then you should be just as honest as the person who is asking for the BUDDY hook up.

By Jewel

August 17, 2007 10:55 AM | Link to this

I will admit, after my last break-up, I did consider having a man on speed dial…but Mr. Fine Chocolate Delroy Lindo (Malcolm X, The Devil’s Advocate) was unavailable. LOL!

That really is not a part of who I am. Sex has to be more than wham, bam, thank you man! LOL! Fortunately, I did not go that route and am now in a fulfilling relationship with a wonderful man.

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

SBM I would think its the same reason men sow their wild oats and then when they mature - they get ready to settle down. It’s not the clock ticking but more like what LL said - maturing. I would think that after a while, both sexes get it out of their system and decide to settle down.

QC I am over here cracking up!!! I can’t believe he typed up something and sent it without reading it first. I’m glad I don’t live in Fulton Cty anymore now that I see where the tax $$ go, LOL.

By kinderbabe

August 17, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

good morning everyone.:)

WD regarding the gentleman from the dinner convo…sounds like he’s found his true essence and knows it’s not in how much d*ck he slings all over atlanta. people say that the arrangement of sex w/no attachment is a sign of maturity but i respectfully disagree. as you learn more about yourself (evolve), respect yourself and discover your true worth, it becomes harder and harder to even go out like that. i am and have been a whole lot of things in my life…lol…but at jet press time, i am fully aware that i am too good to be somebody’s piece of azz. for those who like it, love it. but i’ve retired my jersey in that game.

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

SSSBM Nah, I don’t use any contracts. When it comes to matters of the bedroom, I absolutely hate all the planned shyt. I might ask if you feel like company but don’t assume i’m coming to give you some. It makes it weird. I need mental stimuli.

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

NCGirlfromATL,I didn’t think you were disagreeing w/me. You’re right, if you’re upfront and the other participant agrees than it should be fine. BUT, my point has always been why agree to something like that…it feels so strange to my heart and psyche to think you’ve dropped me to leave w/another who appeals to you more at that particular moment. It’s disrespectful. However, I hear whatca saying.

By Staceye

August 17, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

Slim when I had a CB..I would just call him and says the pipes are rusty and they need cleaning! Or I’d call him and ask if he was alone and what was he wearing…he knew what was up then. Either he’d jump in his car and head to my crib while we um prepared on the phone until he arrived to my crib..or vice versa! But how did you know he said that…come ride this D! You psychic? LOL

SSSBM* d@mn the minivan…you are on the express jet to hell for the BC Agreement! LMAO! So you are saying while I am still in the Wild Age bracket that I should be looking to settle now? men don’t settle young either…so there should be be some men in their 40’s when I get there.

QC* somebody is gonna get you! LOL

By QC

August 17, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

Tazzee girl we’re all laughing, he said when he looked at what he was typing he just did’nt look at the screen cause he never do…he said he don’t know why this is happening to him at work…he laughed at himself…

By QC

August 17, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

Hey Staceye lol

By SSSBM

August 17, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

sexyleggs Please copy and print the contract it will help in the future in case any legal issues surface. @slimone no I didnt but I bet it was super funny!!! @ ladylike Im strapped waiting to return fire. As a man I see women who get older then try to settle when they should have planned ahead. PPPPPPR (proper prior planning prevent p** poor results!!!!) listening to Deborah Cox (ft RL) - We Can’t Be Friends (1999)

By Raqi

August 17, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

QC don’t fool around and get yourself fired.

By Jake

August 17, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

I see ya’ll are on it today. Nothing has changed, cut-buddies are still around, but I have changed. I agree that with the maturity post, as you mature, you want to have something sinificant or stable atthe least. Running around town, knocking’em them down left and right gets old, but it shole was fun. Once I had one hooked, I’d teach her what to say when she wanted me to come through.

“Boy, come get this puddy.” It was music to my ears…LOL

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 17, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

@Tazzee I don’t thing women fully understand that with men, marriage is an option, not a necessity!

Most men enjoy being single and having options! Women tend to be more into commitment, than having options.

I have had at least 3-4 women say to me in the past month,”you don’t worry about growing old and being alone” and I said to each of them,I am not alone now, so why do you think I am going to grow old alone?

They looked like I pooted!

There is a perception that if you are single, you are alone or if you never get married, you will be alone and that could be farther from the truth! Look at Hugh Heffner!

I can only speak for me and say that I love waking up everyday and not knowing what to expect!

I love the thought of going out tonight and not being on a curfew! I love the thought that I could meet one of these hairshow chicks this weekend and it could go down, without me looking over me shoulder!

I love the fact, that I can fly a chick in or go fly to a chick and it is all good!

I love the fact that I am in full control of my life and I don’t have someone dictating to me what they need or want me to do for them!

Hopefully, now you see why so many men love their options and most of all what life has to offer!

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

SSSBM, no need to print the contract, I will never, ever have to use it. Well, what the heck….best be safe than sorry!

By Raqi

August 17, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

So if I made a call right now to get together for lunch, would that be a booty call or just “maintaining”? LOL

By SSSBM

August 17, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this

@ STACEYE When you get to your 40’s it wont be any men because* men in their 40’s will be trying to get at your daughter in her 20’s!!!* It might be one or two!! @Slimone Just fax the contract and get it signed before you arrive so it wont take the mood away, I feel safe when I say this “If a man/woman is at your door after 1am there will be some fKing going on” **AINT NOTHING OPEN AFTER 12am BESIDES THE WAFFLE HOUSE and LEGGS!! @tazzee That is true but the life cycle is reversing MEN ARE READY TO SETTLE WOMEN ARE DATING!!!

By Jewel

August 17, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

DuShawn In the words of the Queen of Soul: Who’s zooming who?

Raqi I agree. I mean, blogging on the job is one thing, but having the time for such childish pranks…LOL!

By NCGirlfromATL

August 17, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

Ok QC when are you gonna let him know he’s been getting punked on a regular? Cuz, you’re gonna be on IT’s ish list before long! That mess was HI-larious!

All CB experts, {(b/c I am, by no means, an expert in the ways of a CB) would you say that the 2nd BC conference was the most dangerous one? I ask that b/c it would seem that after the 1st conference…I mean, hook up, that the 2nd one would be the one where you would actually establish the CB nature of the conference. First time could easily be construed as a one-night stand…or worse (if all you wanted was a CB), could establish you as a couple.

By QC

August 17, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

I’m good y’all, he has a “workable keyboard”

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

LL I don’t understand why you directed your post to me. I know why so many men love their options because I love my options. I love coming home and only having to cook for me. I love laying in the bed Saturday mornings - getting up when I want to get up. I love hopping on a plane when I want to, going where I want to. And truthfully - if I wanted to go out with a different man every night I could - but for the most part I don’t want to be bothered. And while I am alone now - it’s because I choose to be, not because I have to be.

Honestly, right now - the only reason I plan to get married is because of my spiritual beliefs concerning pre-marital sex. If it wasn’t for that - I would be single for life. And if I could get married but maintain different households - that would be the greatest option for me.

So I have no argument as to why men like their options.

By Les Demigod

August 17, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

Holy ISH!!! We got 2CPTG and 3sman under one roof…Hell is the Truth to co-sign their a*******es??

By Jake

August 17, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

Cosigning with Raqi/Jewel:

QC, they hard to come by sometimes, jobs/careers that is, the keyboard prank goes into destruction of company property. Chill on the pranks and do not ever,ever,ever let him know it was you.

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

SSSBM what did I miss, are you referring to me with the Waffle House statement? I’ve already told you MY LEGS ARE CLOSED!!! Please, don’t get it twisted.

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 11:51 AM | Link to this

SBM Not true - I know a guy that’s 39 and he told me he needs a more mature woman. His last girl was 30. Now, he’s trynna holla at my 37 yr old tail. Then there’s the 43 yr old that thinks I don’t want him because of the age difference. There’s always men available, so save all that hype for someone that doesn’t know.

And I’m not going to mention the younger dudes that try to holla all the time.

By QC

August 17, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

NC he ain’t asked me if i was doing it, lol - i’ll tell him in around Christmas :) he’s just sitting at his desk, laughing about it

By QC

August 17, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

NC he ain’t asked me if i was doing it, lol - i’ll tell him in around Christmas :) he’s just sitting at his desk, laughing about it

By QC

August 17, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

Jake we put all the letters back in order together, they put it at another desk….

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this

The bad part about it is, as I approached my 30’s I was believing all the hype about all the older men want younger women. I thought that I needed to hurry up and find a man because my time was running out. What a JOKE! I get more play now than I did 10 years ago. Now that is primarily because I’m a much different person than I was 10 years ago - but I don’t have any men looking at me like I’m too old.

By 2CPTG

August 17, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

just playing Devil’s Advocate for a sec…..

so mature folks don’t get horny? If so, what do you call it when you satisfy that urge?

methinks, “dinner and a movie”

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

Tazzee, girl I hear you, and I’m in the same boat. I have this 27 year old trying to holla, I have a 63 year old, a 57 year old, a 29 year old, etc. You’re right, the men are out there, but I’m smart enough and wise enough to know that they don’t give a shyt about me…all they want from is “to back that thing up.”

By Jewel

August 17, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

This contract thing by Triple S BM (As in bowel movement? If so, we know what the “s” stands for. Yes, I am bored) reminds me of a short film I saw at a film festival once. A couple was about to engage in a one night stand and each had a contract for the other to sign. Their attorneys were in the room with them…

By QC

August 17, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

Have a great weekend bloggers, i’m out….HOLLA

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

SSSBM Contract signing….Um thanks but no thanks. I’ve survived without it so far and will keep my current methods in practice. You said, AINT NOTHING OPEN AFTER 12am BESIDES THE WAFFLE HOUSE and LEGGS! There will be something else open if a CB gets out of pocket….HIS SLOT. LOL!

Les Demigod Maybe if we pull out the Ouiji board we can conduct a seance to bring Truths spirit back. I’m sure he’d have a lot of input on the CB lifestyle as i think thats what he practices.

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 17, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this

@Tazz Honestly, right now - the only reason I plan to get married is because of my spiritual beliefs concerning pre-marital sex. If it wasn’t for that - I would be single for life.

Wow…this is the ONLY reason you are considering marriage?? And you wonder why we have a high divorce rate!

I am out folks, headed to a three hour meeting. Have a great weekend all!

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

Jewel That wasn’t the Amatuer Porn Film Festival was it?

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

SSSBM, please answer me. I want to know if you were trying to sully my name. I just need to know for my own mental note on you.

By Les Demigod

August 17, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

Tazzee once I hit 30, i am gunning for you babe…looking over to the left and pointing…And your SexyLegged friend too, LOL

Jewel you had to ask about his name huh….

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

LL why did I know that you would take that statement and twist it. That is precisely why I don’t engage in dialogue with you. If that’s all you got out of my post - then you REALLY don’t get it and choose to stay content in your ignorant belief that men are the only ones that see some benefit from not getting married…

By SSSBM

August 17, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

@ SEXYLEGGS JUST A GENERAL STATEMENT I WASNT TALKING ABOUT YOU I DONT TAKE SHOTS AT OTHER BLOGGERS!!!!

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

Les Demigod you are funny…Just tap me on the shoulder after you turn 30…lol

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

**Oh, ok. I just needed to know because I was going to put you on a “friendly blast” (if there’s such a thing..LOL).

By Jewel

August 17, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

Hahaha! SlimOne Nope. Never heard of that one. It was last year either during the NBAF or the Women of Color Film Festival at the Auburn Avenue Library. No porn, but films at those festivals deal with the real issues in today’s world. It was a spoof about the realities of casual sex, i.e. AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases.

By Ladylike

August 17, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this

Tazzee Love the statement, and this is so true. “And if I could get married but maintain different households - that would be the greatest option for me.”

Wow it’s really true, the older I get men really think I’m Hot, I get tickled because age doesn’t even matter to them. So yes I see all of these options but the options that men are taking may not be for me as a woman.

By Grand Poo bah

August 17, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

Tazzee
{clap clap clap) I too enjoy being responsible for only myself. I have the option if I want to cook for more, I can.
As far as ‘younger’ women vs. older women, I have a range that is about 5 years either side. Clearly young girls are more mature than the same age boys, and I have found that to continue to be the case up into the mid 30’s. Once men grow up, (tired of sowing their oats, wanting to get a real job, etc.) it evens out and then you can get to actually know someone.
I’m out, Have a GREAT weekend.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 17, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this

WHOA, WHOA!!! Wait a minute! What is with all the Blog bullets flying around here today?!? Has the heat finally gotten to everybody? Come on ya’ll its Friday! You know, the end of the week, the last day. So lets keep it light and fun!

Tazzee I understood your post. There is nothing wrong with having your own reasons to get/not get married. At least you recognize that, some people would rather live a lie and add to the divorce rate!

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 12:37 PM | Link to this

Attention

We interrupt you for the following message: Today is Fun Freaky Friday not Fiesty Fussy Friday.

Now back to your regularly scheduled blog. And as we go into the weekend, just remember to keep it light, keep it tight, keep it right!

By SSSBM

August 17, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this

OFF TOPIC What are all the sexy lady bloggers doing this weekend? BESIDES PUTTING THE BOOTY CALL CONTRACT TO USE

By Ladylike

August 17, 2007 12:55 PM | Link to this

Maybe the bullets have cleared or people have just decided to go to lunch. LL and them tier chicks, it’s only ladies on this blog. SSSBM and all his talk about PPPPPP, whatever, maybe you should include many of the men in this same statement because I wouldn’t call the alternative options stated here very mature or Purpose Planning, to bring them to a Pleasing Productive End.

By SeanJohnson3000

August 17, 2007 12:55 PM | Link to this

@ Slim…are you describing a hair do…or your cottie pop?

By IslandGirl

August 17, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this

I see y’ll cutting up in here…and some folks checking out early

Just dropping in to say, TGIF!!! Been in meetings all morning..yawn

I don’t have much to contribute on the topic, but I’ll be lurking. Hope everyone has a great weekend.

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 1:00 PM |