Misadventures in Atlanta

By 2CPTG

August 17, 2007 8:21 AM | Link to this

Morning, and Happy Friday……Booty Calls, for lack of a better word are passe now….In our sexually promiscuous society, no, folks aren’t turning down the occassional rendezvous, just ain’t calling it that anymore……they’re just doin’ it!!! Stats show they aren’t getting married, and those same stats show babies are still being born out of wedlock, so they’re gettin’ here somehow…….

be easy; my $.02

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 8:25 AM | Link to this

It’s Friday, Let’s Get Cwrazy!, Let’s Get Nuts!

Ladies, have you noticed more single men who are avoiding the friends with benefits arrangement? Have you ever been turned down by one? No and No. As the dudes I know have gotten older, I don’t necessarily see them avoiding cut buddies. However, they may tend to not have as many different cuts in the rotation but just narrow it down to the top 2 or 3. lol

By G

August 17, 2007 8:50 AM | Link to this

I see we have an easy topic for a Friday. I don’t know of any guys/gals in or out of my clique that are avoiding cut buddies or BCs. BCs are pretty much the norm nowadays. So many singles have been through the “relationship-ringer” that no one is anxious to invest in the emotional ups and downs of a traditional committed relationship. It’s a whole lot easier to commit to the booty than the heart.

I don’t think it’s strictly a male thing. I find more women are open to a BC. Many women that claim to have a “man” when I initially meet them don’t necessarily mean he’s a boyfriend. wink In other words, more women I meet have cut buddies, but are still in the market for a BF.

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 9:00 AM | Link to this

G It’s a whole lot easier to commit to the booty than the heart. I see its going to be a very off da chain Friday. As juvenile as that statement seems, it’s very true of how folks think today. We are just such an oversexed-minded society. We’re looking for love and belonging in all the wrong places. When was the last time a dyck gave love. I may give love licks but not genuine love.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 17, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this

Morning All!! I swear sometimes I think WD is listening in on me and my girls on the weekends! Just had this conversation and I dont think people are turning away from cutbuddies per se, like SlimOne said its just that people dont have as many! Its the norm, but I would like to think that you would want to have something in common even with a cutbuddy. I know its about the sex but there has to be sumthin else that attracts you to that person, JMO.

Ever been turned down No.

Happy Friday Everyone!

By Raqi

August 17, 2007 9:04 AM | Link to this

Ha Haaaa. Things that go thump, bump, hump in the night.

By QC

August 17, 2007 9:05 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday Bloggers

hey 2CPTG it’s good 2 read U

I did it! i took my letter opener and re-arranged all the letters on his key board…he won’t be in until 9:30 today, i came in early! He is going to have a fit, lolololol!

Thanks ForReal for the idea, oh i can’t wait til he gets here!

Have a great day all!

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 9:12 AM | Link to this

Raqi LOL, You made a funny….thump,bump, hump in the night. 2 pts for you

By AmazonRed

August 17, 2007 9:12 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday!

Since I avoid that type of arrangement like the plague…I really don’t know. However, I do hear the gripes of men who, as they get OLDER, state that the casual hook-up thing is just not fulfilling anymore. Even if they aren’t ready to get married (which is all the guys I know LOL), they’d rather have an old standby or an ex that they can call only “in case of emergency.”

It really is too risky and dangerous out there to be giving the business to any willing participant just because you can.

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this

Good morning everyone. I don’t engage in BCs. Did in my 20’s and 30’s (infrequently), but none now.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 17, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this

QC you need to cut it out!!!! LOL I cannot wait til you post his reaction!!!

By Ladylike a.k.a. Thickness

August 17, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Blog Fam

Que pasa! 2CPTG

I do notice that I have not received as many booty calls as I would have two or three years ago. In fact, many of the male friends I have made lately don’t even try the friends with benefits option, I love it. Although I think they do have casual sex buddies I just don’t rank and file as one of them.

By QC

August 17, 2007 9:24 AM | Link to this

Mo girl i’m sitting on the edge of my seat, lololololol i can’t stop laughing to myself….

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 17, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this

Mornin folks..

This topic boils down to one thing, that is the common denominator for most of the topics put out there,on this blog “maturity”

When a man reaches a certain level of maturity in his life, he seeks “quality vs. quantity”

Don’t get me wrong, if a chick that I am somewhat interested in calls and says ” I would really like to see you this evening” If I have no immediate plans or substitution,she can hook up with ya boy,but at 35 and I am still out meeting chicks to just simply bang, get a clue!

At some point, you should want a few quality women in your life to hang out with and not sleep with and then have a few quality chicks that you can hang out with,but they provide favors.

This scenario is far different than “BC’s” in that most “BC’s” are chicks that are tier 4 chicks, that you don’t care nothin bout!

By Gorilla O

August 17, 2007 9:43 AM | Link to this

GoodMorning Er’body! Whats up QC, SlimOne, My Fellow Eastsida MO, Sexy, and anyone else i missed
Have you slacked off on the casual hook-ups yourself? i think i turn down more azz than i get. it started a couple of years ago when i really got focused on my goals and trying to reach them. and i know if you focus a lot of time in a certain area, you slack in others. at the time, i was focusing more so on women and everything else was secondary. had to get my mind right and get my priorities in line. so now i spend the majority of the time doing things to help me accomplish my goals and make time here and there for a shot of azz.

By SSSBM

August 17, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

GOOD MORNING ROOM TGIF!!!! how is everyone doing this wonderful friday morning? Whats up SLIMONE@ WISE DIVA Believe your guy friend or not he probably is telling the truth (I cant say he is or he is not because I dont know his character) Even though he is in his late 20’s he’s just coming to age, I believe in the same thing, its to much casual sex going on these days just to have friends with benefits I love myself more than I love any person on this earth just to be running around sleeping with everyone. Even if you have three FWB at some point or another protection is going out the window and your opening yourself up for STD because no one knows what their other sex partner is doing. Im in y late 20’s also and sex could be the last thing on my mind sometimes, even though their are some nights I get a little confident (liquor) and I just want to put it down like JODY (baby boy) or DMX (belly). I have noticed a lot of my close friends turning down the BOOTY because were actually looking for THAT SPECIAL WOMAN plus you have the irritation that comes along with the friends with benefits. What do I mean by irritation? They want it to much and catch a attitude when they cant get it you also see the signs of them becoming attached. If were just “cut friends” whats up with the 21 questions when you can contact him/her? Let me break down some problems with the booty call because booty calls are not for everyone: if you’re clingy, desperate, STD-infested, or emotionally unstable,a booty call is the last thing you need!!!…An ex might want to get back together, or you could end up ruining a friendship. The best that you could hope for is that someone will want to break off the deal because they found someone else. The worst that could happen is that you’ll want to get more serious and they won’t….You know very well that you dintt plan on buying or wearing that wedding ring. Don’t string someone else along because you’re only thinking of your own damn NUTT!!!…

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

Morning folks and Happy Friday!

I can’t even comment on this topic. None of my friends participate in casual hook ups and while I’m sure I have some associates that might - we don’t discuss sex.

By kimmie

August 17, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

I agree with LL - basically age catches up with people, or at least it should.

I got a call recently from a former “friend with benefits” that I cut loose quite awhile ago. He was the only one in my life I would classify as that. It was never a fulfilling arrangement for me. Not that I wanted to marry the dude, but I really was interested in a quality adult relationship with real emotional as well as physical intimacy. I believe once you start a relationship off as FWB, there’s no turning it around into something serious later; it is what it is. Anyway, when I got the call I thought “Is this guy still doing this?” I mean, dude turned 41 in June! I know marriage is not for everyone, and he was never interested in anything long-term from me or anyone else, that’s why I only saw him as a FWB. But after a point, doesn’t it get kinda old? I didn’t even pick up the phone when I saw his name come up, because I told him I was seeing someone serious the last time he called and that has not changed. Now he seems like sort of a sleeze to me, not attractive.

By BrownEyes

August 17, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

QC I am LMAO over here, what a great idea!!!

On topic I call my guy my maintenance man and no I don’t think that people are getting rid of them. My maintenance man is just taking care of a few needs until I am found by the right man. I am usually the one making the calls to him. When I know I am haning out with the girls, like tonight, and I know I am going to have some drinks I go ahead and put him on standby and he is always happy to sit at his home and wait for me. But I will say that sometimes I do feel a bit cheap even though I was the one who initiated the call. I guess that all goes back to my maturity and my desire to really be in a committed relationship.

By SeanJohnson3000

August 17, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog…regarding the topic…i dont think BC’s have changed…u get older your rotation is smaller..2 or 3 books with working and other responsibilities.no time like u use to…like someone said..I do think the dynamics have changed though…when may have 2 or 3 quality chics on your roster..You may find yourself someones booty call .depending on if you are a quality dude giving out quality D..with all the women in ATL with their ish together and having been through things an not really needing a relationhsip to feel complete..she may just need you her phsyical needs..so these says…why u think u are fck her…in reality she is fcking you..sending u on your merry way…

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 9:58 AM | Link to this

My 13-year old daughter asked me what the B.U.D.D.Y song was all about. I broke it down to her explaining that these are friends with sexual benefits, lack of respect for each other, and that she doesn’t ever want to be anyone’s B.U.D.D.Y.

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

Chest bumps for Gorilla O and SSSBM

Women that have had friends w/benefits Have you ever been a little irritated when your CB called initiating a ‘meeting of the uglies’ but you don’t feel that way when you initiate it?

Also, ALL when you call up that CB, what do you say? Do you say, are you going to come square me up tonight, or do you try an indirect approach and say stuff like, you feel like having company tonight? Just curious.

By Gorilla O

August 17, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

can someone give SSSBM a citation for that long azz post!

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 17, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

One obersation I noticed recently, is that there is a huge demand for “Maint. men, especially for single professional women.

The majority of successful AA women are single,with very few options in a quality man,so they will settle for that dude,that can give them a “tune up” at a moments notice, rather than be alone(see Brown Eyes 9:53).

Not that most women don’t have options to date or someone to go out on a date with, but with all the dudes out there,that are serving up BDR’s (Bad Di*k Reports),some chicks would just rather find that one dude, that can “put them to bed” and roll with the program vs. grabbin the “sit and spin” i.e the vibrator.

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 10:10 AM | Link to this

Gorilla I was thinking the same thing. I think he has long posts enought to change his initials to LPSSSBM (long posting)

By SSSBM

August 17, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

THE PROBLEM WITH THE BOOTY CALLS ARE THAT NO ONE FOLLOWS THE RULES OR ABIDE BY THE “BOOTY CALL CONTRACT” If you do not have the booty call contract here it is feel free to print as many copies as you want. All booty call customers must sign before the sex act takes place………Booty call contract

The Pre-Booty Call Agreement

This pre-booty call Agreement (hereinafter referred to as “The Agreement”) is entered into on this day of ____, 20 , by ______, (hereinafter referred to as the “Participant”) between _____, (hereinafter referred to as the “Holder of ‘The Agreement’”) and ______ (Participant). This Agreement shall cover the following rules and principles for the Participant: 1. No sleeping over!! Unless it is very good and we need to repeat it in the morning. 2. No meeting in public except for dinner or drinks before the events of the evening. 3. No calls before 9 pm. We don’t have anything to talk about. 4. None of that “lovemaking” stuff, only mind-blowing sex allowed. 5. No emotional discussions!! i.e. where are we heading with this? Do you love me? The answer is “no”, so don’t even ask. 6. No plans made in advance. That is why you are called “the backup.” Unless you are from out-of-town, then it’s only a one-time advanced arrangement. 7. All gifts accepted- money is always good. 8. No baby talk- however, dirty talk is encouraged. 9. No asking for comparisons with former lovers it’s really none of your damn business. 10. No calling each other friends with privileges. We are not friends, just sex buddies. 11. Calling out the wrong name during sex is OK. Don’t be offended, you mean no less to me than you did before. 12. No extra clothing!! I don’t want your a* leaving anything behind when you leave. 13. No falling asleep right after sex!! It’s over so get your a* up and go home. 14. Don’t be offended if I don’t ask if you enjoyed it. I don’t care!! 15. You cannot borrow my car for any reason. 16. If anyone of the opposite sex asks who you are, the standard response will be “My roommates girlfriend/boyfriend.” 17. Doggie style preferred. Just hit it hard and right or get the Hell out! (Reason: The less eye contact the better. I don’t want to look at you.) 18. We are to hook up absolutely whenever the mood strikes me, so stop calling! 19. Bring your own drink-I am not your liquor store. 20. No phone use, please! I don’t want anyone calling back looking for your a*. *Extra tip for successful booty calls: The holder of the Agreement may only alter the aforementioned rules. If the other party attempts to change or alter any terms of the Agreement, it will automatically become null and void. The Participant will then be removed from the “Possible Future Relationship List” and given minimal Booty Call privileges, and cut off from any communications unless first initiated by the holder of this Agreement. If further violations of the Agreement occur the Participant will be deleted from phone memory, email list, and blocked from all communications until the Participant’s silly a* understands the rules.

Participant:

Signature: ______

Date: ______

Holder of the “Agreement”:

Signature: ______

Date: ______

By NCGirlfromATL

August 17, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs I thought your take on Musiq’s song was interesting. It’s a song I love (b/c it has a great beat, and a nice sample), but I hear what you’re saying about the respect part. Funny thing is, I think a lot of people who engage in BUDDY relationships think they are give each other the utmost respect by being honest about their intentions. It might not be for you or your daughter (when she’s 35 and has left the convent! lolol!), but for a lot of adults, it’s the best of both worlds.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 17, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

SlimOne when you call up that CB, what do you say? For me, it was “what are you doing tonight”, “you gonna be busy later”, something really simple. If you are cool with that person you can even strike up a simple, yet quick convo. Just depends on you. It probably is easier than you think.

By Staceye

August 17, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this

QC that brokedown minivan to hell is waiting! LOL

SSSBM you put it out there yet again! Amen brotha’…preach it!!

*Kimmie8 I feel you girl. I have bene in that situation. I had to cut a dude off like that. It was fun at first…but after you start to want more than that and that person it coming at you with sex on the brain all the time it begins to make you repulsed by this person.

Brown Eyes are you my twin! I feel the same way. After some guy hurts me I go on this dog a guy out venture. It’s like I have to inflict karma on some dude. I know it’s wrong. But I have not done that in years!

SJ3000 you always keep it real dont’cha?

SexyLeggs I am glad YOU explained it to her and not ignore her or give her some BS fairytale G-rated version. Some parents think they can shield their kids from stuff by doctoring it up. But they are going to hear it anyway…from kids at school…on the street, etc. And it may be wrong…or delivered in a glorified way to make your child think it’s ok to do these things. For example, my friend doesn’t let her son play with any toy gun including water. But I tol her if she thinks she can shield him from knowing what they do she is dead wrong. She needs to explain the effects of guns…not let some kid or TV or some other fool glorify it to make him think it’s ok.

By G

August 17, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

Who’s to say that a BC isn’t a relationship or there is no chemistry. The relationship can be consistent, and the chemistry can very well be physical. A “BC” can be as cool and consistent as any other relationship. You just leave the door open to meet other people. Just know your role and follow the rules. The communication does not have to be as blunt and condescending as inexperienced CBs tend to think.

Maturity? It’s mature to be upfront about your intentions and/or goals for what you want in a relationship. It’s mature to be true with yourself to know what type of relationship is right for you. LTR is not for everyone, and neither is BC.

By brown-eyed beauty

August 17, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

LOL @ SSSBM. #17 is just wrong LMAO

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

SSSBM I have the same contract someone sent as a fwd a while ago. It was funny the first time i read it.

I think as you get older and still have CB, that you tend to want it to be a faux relationship. What i mean is, its not just the come over after 2am, get the groove on, then drive home soon after with shaky legs. If you have some sort of connection with that person, other than the ‘act’, then you tend to want to pretend in your mind for those hours or so that you and he/she have something more. You and him/her don’t talk about dating other folks or chat with other CB’s in their presence, etc.

By Grand Poo bah

August 17, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday all
I was somebody else’s booty call recently. It was good for me as it was the first woman I was with since my divorce, but I agree too, without chemistry it is no good. In my younger days (I’m 34) my booty calls were friends I was
A. Attracted to and
B. Had some resepct for
this last woman was attractive to look at, but I couldn’t stand talking to her, so I have let her go. I am not opposed to a booty call right now in my life, as I am not in a relationship, but I will hopefully find someone nice and have a medium-term relationship in the future.

By SSSBM

August 17, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

@ SLIMONE when I use to do the BC i just call who ever up and ask do they want to get away and get a room on the other side of town!!!…I need another chest bump that felt good!!!… @ GORILLA O I will pay the citation thats fine but I will use the VISA not the KROGER PLUS CARD!!!! @The ladies Over 35 I have just seen one or two post with you all saying you all did the booty call thing in your 20’s and 30’s but not now, or as much. I’m guessing you are trying to settle down or trying to find the right man. Why do women have a wild 20’s and 30’s then try to settle down when the clock is ticking? Once all the wildness is out you all start complaining about there are no good men in your age range when you should have been thinking about that in you all’s roaring 20’s and 30’s. (just speaking my mind and asking a couple questions….IM PUTTING THE VEST ON NOW!!!)

By Jewel

August 17, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

Good morning Everyone!

No comment on this topic. My circle of friends does not participate in the cut buddy activity; unless you include waking your hubby in the middle of the night…three of my four close friends are married.

THE POSITIVE SIDE OF LIFE

Living on Earth is expensive, but it does include a free trip around the sun every year.

How long a minute is depends on what side of the bathroom door you’re on.

Birthdays are good for you; the more you have, the longer you live.

Happiness comes through doors you didn’t even know you left open.

Ever notice that the people who are late are often much jolier than the people who have to wait for them?

Most of us go to our grave with our music still inside of us.

If Wal-Mart is lowering prices every day, how come nothing is free yet?

You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person.

Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.

Don’t cry because it’s over; smile because it happened.

We could learn a lot from crayons: some are sharp, some are pretty, some are dull, some have weird names, and all are different colors…but they all exist very nicely in the same box.

A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

Today is a gift. That’s why it is called the “present.”

Have an awesome day, and know that someone who thinks you are great has thought about you today!

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

Mo Yeah I’ve done that approach too. For me that direct, Come ride this D, is a total turn off. I guess I can tie in what Staceye said into it. person is coming at you with sex on the brain all the time it begins to make you repulsed by this person Give me a little more mental stimulation with some decent convo some of the time Geesh! lol

By NCGirlfromATL

August 17, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

SSSBM You wrong for that! LMAO!!

Slim Do you say, are you going to come square me up tonight, For some reason, that phrase just cracks me up!

Slim’s CB: Hey girl, what you doing tonight?

Slim: Nothing.

(silence)

Slim’s CB: So, umm…you gonna square a brotha up tonight?

(crickets)

Slim’s CB: Slim? You there?

Slim: Yeah….but I don’t know anything about hanging drywall. Are you building something tonight?

Slim’s CB: Huh? Drywall?

Slim: Yeah…you said you wanted me to square you up. You need help holding the level or something?

Slim’s CB: (already scrolling thru his mental CB rolodex) Nevermind…

Slim: Have fun at Home Depot!

By QC

August 17, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this

LMAO! LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL

(laughing speradically) oh my goodness! my side is hurting so bad, lololololololololololololololololol!

Let me remind y’all he’s an excellent typist (almost as good as me) he just finished typing a 2 page report, emailed it to somebody on his team to critique they called him and asked wth is this he printed it out and hollared! WHAT HAPPENED TO MY KEYS ON MY KEYBOARD!!! he was just sitting there, typing….Carmen, look at this..i’m like what DeSean….look at your keyboard, oh my; all your letters are out of place….Now IT is bringing him another keyboard..

By SeanJohnson3000

August 17, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

@ Slim…cant speak for other cats..but if you are on the team…and we are cut buddies..for me..we are truly friends….to the point i really dont mind spending time outside of the bedroom…i woudnt say i am in love with you..but i consider you a friends that i care about…Often times i found that females see that as mixed signals..and in the end ..it can complicate things..

By DuShawn

August 17, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

why u think u are fcking her…in reality she is fcking you..sending u on your merry way… SJ You said something there. Its much easier for women to initiate the “booty call”. Men are so stupid, we have the mind set of Imma fall thru, beat it and dip. while the female is thinking When he fall thru, Imma make him eat it and dip Who’s the pimp and who’s the trick in that situation…….It depends on who you ask.

By skeeter

August 17, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

I’ve had several FWBs in the past, although at this point in my life, I’d rather have a full relationship with a man. But, I must say, anyone that I am attracted to sexually is someone that I like/respect enough to enjoy on some level other than just sex. If I felt so little for that person that I have nothing to say, than I certainly don’t want to have an intimate experience with him, either. So, whereas we didn’t ‘date’ per se, we did have a mutual relationship, which is as it should be, IMO. If only one person is getting anything out of the experience, then it might as well be a prostitute/client relationship. A good FWBs relationship can be very fulfilling, IMO.

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

NCGirlfromATL Musiq’s song has a great beat, but what bothers me about that song is the verse that basically says don’t get offended if I come with you and leave with another. That’s plain DISRESPECT and if you value yourself that should never be tolerated. Oh hell to naw on that.

Hey Staceye. Thank you. I do try to keep it real with her. I can only shelter her from so much. Children are quick learners, and the street talks to them louder than I can. Therefore, while she’s “on my watch,” I’m not going to sugar-coat life for her.

By SSSBM

August 17, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this

@ brown-eyed beauty everyone loves the mike vick position (doggy) 17 stand true because I have seen and been with some UGLY FINE A$$ FEMALES…@Slimone Do you use your contracts and file them away just for security reasons? @ staceye Preshate it babe!!!

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

SSSSBM what a pathetic, yet that’s how it is contract…LOL

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 17, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

SJ Co-signing your last post with my fold-tipped, feathered pen! If you are a cutbuddy for me then we are cool. I can hang out with you, laugh and joke and its all good. The main thing is that we both understand and agree on what the relationship is. I dont think you send mixed signals with that, that’s just a case of someone catching feelings thereby trying to void the arrangement!

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

SSSBM I am a mature, sexy woman who keeps herself together at all times for MYSELF. I was never reckless in my 20’s or early 30’s (before marriage). I had a few BCs, and I made a few BCs back in the day. Divorced one year and blossoming all over again (w/legs closed..LOL).

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

SJ3 To me, that’s how it would have to be. I don’t think i’ve ever had a strictly CB partnership where we weren’t friends. I guess I can say i’ve been lucky that they have enjoyed my company and respected me enough not to treat me like the come-towel. LOL! However, I can see how being that way could send mixed signals to the female making her believe that it could or is turning into something more.

NC You’ll be surprised the things I’ve heard men say from other chicks. But you are funny early this Friday. LOL

By brown-eyed beauty

August 17, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

QC gurl be careful! Once they start replacing parts and they find out it’s you- you may get written up or something.

sssbm you ever watch Nip/Tuck? reminds me of that episode where Christian makes the woman wear a brown paper bag while he’s hittin it.

BTW, anyone know when that new season starts?

By Ladylike

August 17, 2007 10:52 AM | Link to this

SSSBM yeah you put your vest on because this is supposed to be good friday. And you know you wrong for that, ought to be ashamed of yourself. Everybody ain’t trying to be wild and roaring in there 30’s! LOL

QC, MO girl, I know that has got to be hillarious. *He didn’t even look at his keyboard! mmph, mmph, mmph

By NCGirlfromATL

August 17, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

SexyLeggs Oh, I’m not disagreeing with you! I’m just saying, there are a lot of people who justify this action by saying, “Hey, I was honest with you about my plans…you can either go along with it, or not!” That’s basically what the song is about. I can be your BUDDY, you can be mine…no strings…we just hit it, or maybe we don’t…you have your other BUDDY’s and I have mine. My point was the irony of honesty. Of course, if you don’t want to be a BUDDY, then you should be just as honest as the person who is asking for the BUDDY hook up.

By Jewel

August 17, 2007 10:55 AM | Link to this

I will admit, after my last break-up, I did consider having a man on speed dial…but Mr. Fine Chocolate Delroy Lindo (Malcolm X, The Devil’s Advocate) was unavailable. LOL!

That really is not a part of who I am. Sex has to be more than wham, bam, thank you man! LOL! Fortunately, I did not go that route and am now in a fulfilling relationship with a wonderful man.

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 11:00 AM | Link to this

SBM I would think its the same reason men sow their wild oats and then when they mature - they get ready to settle down. It’s not the clock ticking but more like what LL said - maturing. I would think that after a while, both sexes get it out of their system and decide to settle down.

QC I am over here cracking up!!! I can’t believe he typed up something and sent it without reading it first. I’m glad I don’t live in Fulton Cty anymore now that I see where the tax $$ go, LOL.

By kinderbabe

August 17, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

good morning everyone.:)

WD regarding the gentleman from the dinner convo…sounds like he’s found his true essence and knows it’s not in how much d*ck he slings all over atlanta. people say that the arrangement of sex w/no attachment is a sign of maturity but i respectfully disagree. as you learn more about yourself (evolve), respect yourself and discover your true worth, it becomes harder and harder to even go out like that. i am and have been a whole lot of things in my life…lol…but at jet press time, i am fully aware that i am too good to be somebody’s piece of azz. for those who like it, love it. but i’ve retired my jersey in that game.

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

SSSBM Nah, I don’t use any contracts. When it comes to matters of the bedroom, I absolutely hate all the planned shyt. I might ask if you feel like company but don’t assume i’m coming to give you some. It makes it weird. I need mental stimuli.

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

NCGirlfromATL,I didn’t think you were disagreeing w/me. You’re right, if you’re upfront and the other participant agrees than it should be fine. BUT, my point has always been why agree to something like that…it feels so strange to my heart and psyche to think you’ve dropped me to leave w/another who appeals to you more at that particular moment. It’s disrespectful. However, I hear whatca saying.

By Staceye

August 17, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

Slim when I had a CB..I would just call him and says the pipes are rusty and they need cleaning! Or I’d call him and ask if he was alone and what was he wearing…he knew what was up then. Either he’d jump in his car and head to my crib while we um prepared on the phone until he arrived to my crib..or vice versa! But how did you know he said that…come ride this D! You psychic? LOL

SSSBM* d@mn the minivan…you are on the express jet to hell for the BC Agreement! LMAO! So you are saying while I am still in the Wild Age bracket that I should be looking to settle now? men don’t settle young either…so there should be be some men in their 40’s when I get there.

QC* somebody is gonna get you! LOL

By QC

August 17, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

Tazzee girl we’re all laughing, he said when he looked at what he was typing he just did’nt look at the screen cause he never do…he said he don’t know why this is happening to him at work…he laughed at himself…

By QC

August 17, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

Hey Staceye lol

By SSSBM

August 17, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

sexyleggs Please copy and print the contract it will help in the future in case any legal issues surface. @slimone no I didnt but I bet it was super funny!!! @ ladylike Im strapped waiting to return fire. As a man I see women who get older then try to settle when they should have planned ahead. PPPPPPR (proper prior planning prevent p** poor results!!!!) listening to Deborah Cox (ft RL) - We Can’t Be Friends (1999)

By Raqi

August 17, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

QC don’t fool around and get yourself fired.

By Jake

August 17, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

I see ya’ll are on it today. Nothing has changed, cut-buddies are still around, but I have changed. I agree that with the maturity post, as you mature, you want to have something sinificant or stable atthe least. Running around town, knocking’em them down left and right gets old, but it shole was fun. Once I had one hooked, I’d teach her what to say when she wanted me to come through.

“Boy, come get this puddy.” It was music to my ears…LOL

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 17, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

@Tazzee I don’t thing women fully understand that with men, marriage is an option, not a necessity!

Most men enjoy being single and having options! Women tend to be more into commitment, than having options.

I have had at least 3-4 women say to me in the past month,”you don’t worry about growing old and being alone” and I said to each of them,I am not alone now, so why do you think I am going to grow old alone?

They looked like I pooted!

There is a perception that if you are single, you are alone or if you never get married, you will be alone and that could be farther from the truth! Look at Hugh Heffner!

I can only speak for me and say that I love waking up everyday and not knowing what to expect!

I love the thought of going out tonight and not being on a curfew! I love the thought that I could meet one of these hairshow chicks this weekend and it could go down, without me looking over me shoulder!

I love the fact, that I can fly a chick in or go fly to a chick and it is all good!

I love the fact that I am in full control of my life and I don’t have someone dictating to me what they need or want me to do for them!

Hopefully, now you see why so many men love their options and most of all what life has to offer!

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

SSSBM, no need to print the contract, I will never, ever have to use it. Well, what the heck….best be safe than sorry!

By Raqi

August 17, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

So if I made a call right now to get together for lunch, would that be a booty call or just “maintaining”? LOL

By SSSBM

August 17, 2007 11:35 AM | Link to this

@ STACEYE When you get to your 40’s it wont be any men because* men in their 40’s will be trying to get at your daughter in her 20’s!!!* It might be one or two!! @Slimone Just fax the contract and get it signed before you arrive so it wont take the mood away, I feel safe when I say this “If a man/woman is at your door after 1am there will be some fKing going on” **AINT NOTHING OPEN AFTER 12am BESIDES THE WAFFLE HOUSE and LEGGS!! @tazzee That is true but the life cycle is reversing MEN ARE READY TO SETTLE WOMEN ARE DATING!!!

By Jewel

August 17, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

DuShawn In the words of the Queen of Soul: Who’s zooming who?

Raqi I agree. I mean, blogging on the job is one thing, but having the time for such childish pranks…LOL!

By NCGirlfromATL

August 17, 2007 11:37 AM | Link to this

Ok QC when are you gonna let him know he’s been getting punked on a regular? Cuz, you’re gonna be on IT’s ish list before long! That mess was HI-larious!

All CB experts, {(b/c I am, by no means, an expert in the ways of a CB) would you say that the 2nd BC conference was the most dangerous one? I ask that b/c it would seem that after the 1st conference…I mean, hook up, that the 2nd one would be the one where you would actually establish the CB nature of the conference. First time could easily be construed as a one-night stand…or worse (if all you wanted was a CB), could establish you as a couple.

By QC

August 17, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

I’m good y’all, he has a “workable keyboard”

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

LL I don’t understand why you directed your post to me. I know why so many men love their options because I love my options. I love coming home and only having to cook for me. I love laying in the bed Saturday mornings - getting up when I want to get up. I love hopping on a plane when I want to, going where I want to. And truthfully - if I wanted to go out with a different man every night I could - but for the most part I don’t want to be bothered. And while I am alone now - it’s because I choose to be, not because I have to be.

Honestly, right now - the only reason I plan to get married is because of my spiritual beliefs concerning pre-marital sex. If it wasn’t for that - I would be single for life. And if I could get married but maintain different households - that would be the greatest option for me.

So I have no argument as to why men like their options.

By Les Demigod

August 17, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

Holy ISH!!! We got 2CPTG and 3sman under one roof…Hell is the Truth to co-sign their a*******es??

By Jake

August 17, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

Cosigning with Raqi/Jewel:

QC, they hard to come by sometimes, jobs/careers that is, the keyboard prank goes into destruction of company property. Chill on the pranks and do not ever,ever,ever let him know it was you.

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

SSSBM what did I miss, are you referring to me with the Waffle House statement? I’ve already told you MY LEGS ARE CLOSED!!! Please, don’t get it twisted.

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 11:51 AM | Link to this

SBM Not true - I know a guy that’s 39 and he told me he needs a more mature woman. His last girl was 30. Now, he’s trynna holla at my 37 yr old tail. Then there’s the 43 yr old that thinks I don’t want him because of the age difference. There’s always men available, so save all that hype for someone that doesn’t know.

And I’m not going to mention the younger dudes that try to holla all the time.

By QC

August 17, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

NC he ain’t asked me if i was doing it, lol - i’ll tell him in around Christmas :) he’s just sitting at his desk, laughing about it

By QC

August 17, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

NC he ain’t asked me if i was doing it, lol - i’ll tell him in around Christmas :) he’s just sitting at his desk, laughing about it

By QC

August 17, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

Jake we put all the letters back in order together, they put it at another desk….

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this

The bad part about it is, as I approached my 30’s I was believing all the hype about all the older men want younger women. I thought that I needed to hurry up and find a man because my time was running out. What a JOKE! I get more play now than I did 10 years ago. Now that is primarily because I’m a much different person than I was 10 years ago - but I don’t have any men looking at me like I’m too old.

By 2CPTG

August 17, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

just playing Devil’s Advocate for a sec…..

so mature folks don’t get horny? If so, what do you call it when you satisfy that urge?

methinks, “dinner and a movie”

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

Tazzee, girl I hear you, and I’m in the same boat. I have this 27 year old trying to holla, I have a 63 year old, a 57 year old, a 29 year old, etc. You’re right, the men are out there, but I’m smart enough and wise enough to know that they don’t give a shyt about me…all they want from is “to back that thing up.”

By Jewel

August 17, 2007 12:02 PM | Link to this

This contract thing by Triple S BM (As in bowel movement? If so, we know what the “s” stands for. Yes, I am bored) reminds me of a short film I saw at a film festival once. A couple was about to engage in a one night stand and each had a contract for the other to sign. Their attorneys were in the room with them…

By QC

August 17, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

Have a great weekend bloggers, i’m out….HOLLA

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

SSSBM Contract signing….Um thanks but no thanks. I’ve survived without it so far and will keep my current methods in practice. You said, AINT NOTHING OPEN AFTER 12am BESIDES THE WAFFLE HOUSE and LEGGS! There will be something else open if a CB gets out of pocket….HIS SLOT. LOL!

Les Demigod Maybe if we pull out the Ouiji board we can conduct a seance to bring Truths spirit back. I’m sure he’d have a lot of input on the CB lifestyle as i think thats what he practices.

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 17, 2007 12:12 PM | Link to this

@Tazz Honestly, right now - the only reason I plan to get married is because of my spiritual beliefs concerning pre-marital sex. If it wasn’t for that - I would be single for life.

Wow…this is the ONLY reason you are considering marriage?? And you wonder why we have a high divorce rate!

I am out folks, headed to a three hour meeting. Have a great weekend all!

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

Jewel That wasn’t the Amatuer Porn Film Festival was it?

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

SSSBM, please answer me. I want to know if you were trying to sully my name. I just need to know for my own mental note on you.

By Les Demigod

August 17, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

Tazzee once I hit 30, i am gunning for you babe…looking over to the left and pointing…And your SexyLegged friend too, LOL

Jewel you had to ask about his name huh….

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

LL why did I know that you would take that statement and twist it. That is precisely why I don’t engage in dialogue with you. If that’s all you got out of my post - then you REALLY don’t get it and choose to stay content in your ignorant belief that men are the only ones that see some benefit from not getting married…

By SSSBM

August 17, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

@ SEXYLEGGS JUST A GENERAL STATEMENT I WASNT TALKING ABOUT YOU I DONT TAKE SHOTS AT OTHER BLOGGERS!!!!

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

Les Demigod you are funny…Just tap me on the shoulder after you turn 30…lol

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

**Oh, ok. I just needed to know because I was going to put you on a “friendly blast” (if there’s such a thing..LOL).

By Jewel

August 17, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

Hahaha! SlimOne Nope. Never heard of that one. It was last year either during the NBAF or the Women of Color Film Festival at the Auburn Avenue Library. No porn, but films at those festivals deal with the real issues in today’s world. It was a spoof about the realities of casual sex, i.e. AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases.

By Ladylike

August 17, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this

Tazzee Love the statement, and this is so true. “And if I could get married but maintain different households - that would be the greatest option for me.”

Wow it’s really true, the older I get men really think I’m Hot, I get tickled because age doesn’t even matter to them. So yes I see all of these options but the options that men are taking may not be for me as a woman.

By Grand Poo bah

August 17, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

Tazzee
{clap clap clap) I too enjoy being responsible for only myself. I have the option if I want to cook for more, I can.
As far as ‘younger’ women vs. older women, I have a range that is about 5 years either side. Clearly young girls are more mature than the same age boys, and I have found that to continue to be the case up into the mid 30’s. Once men grow up, (tired of sowing their oats, wanting to get a real job, etc.) it evens out and then you can get to actually know someone.
I’m out, Have a GREAT weekend.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 17, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this

WHOA, WHOA!!! Wait a minute! What is with all the Blog bullets flying around here today?!? Has the heat finally gotten to everybody? Come on ya’ll its Friday! You know, the end of the week, the last day. So lets keep it light and fun!

Tazzee I understood your post. There is nothing wrong with having your own reasons to get/not get married. At least you recognize that, some people would rather live a lie and add to the divorce rate!

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 12:37 PM | Link to this

Attention

We interrupt you for the following message: Today is Fun Freaky Friday not Fiesty Fussy Friday.

Now back to your regularly scheduled blog. And as we go into the weekend, just remember to keep it light, keep it tight, keep it right!

By SSSBM

August 17, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this

OFF TOPIC What are all the sexy lady bloggers doing this weekend? BESIDES PUTTING THE BOOTY CALL CONTRACT TO USE

By Ladylike

August 17, 2007 12:55 PM | Link to this

Maybe the bullets have cleared or people have just decided to go to lunch. LL and them tier chicks, it’s only ladies on this blog. SSSBM and all his talk about PPPPPP, whatever, maybe you should include many of the men in this same statement because I wouldn’t call the alternative options stated here very mature or Purpose Planning, to bring them to a Pleasing Productive End.

By SeanJohnson3000

August 17, 2007 12:55 PM | Link to this

@ Slim…are you describing a hair do…or your cottie pop?

By IslandGirl

August 17, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this

I see y’ll cutting up in here…and some folks checking out early

Just dropping in to say, TGIF!!! Been in meetings all morning..yawn

I don’t have much to contribute on the topic, but I’ll be lurking. Hope everyone has a great weekend.

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 1:00 PM | Link to this

Mo the thing is, where I am now (not madly in love with anyone) - I’m not looking forward to cooking for or cleaning up after anyone. I have yet to meet a man that doesn’t snore - so I’m not looking forward to fighting to get to sleep first. I’m not looking forward to waking up and seeing the same face every day. So in my state of not having a man I want to marry the only benefit I can see from marriage is some good sex on a regular basis.

It’s not that I don’t ever want to be married - it’s just that until I run across someone that I desire to do those things for and with - sex is the only benefit.

Trust me, I know that when the right man comes along - I’ll look forward to doing an abundance of things for him. Shoot I might even want to have his babies…NOT.

The point I was trying to make is, not all women are sitting around trying to be married. Some of us love our current situation and sans the man that will make me want to change my name and share my space - I am not looking forward to being married.

By Les Demigod

August 17, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this

Ouija are you with me? Mo mu, mo mu, mo mu me now. Dear Mr.Ouiji, I want to know my future, will I die of mu, of bloody mu?

Come come again,

Mu mu, mo mu, mo mu mu, mo mu, mo mu mu, mo mu, mo mu mu, mo mu….

Dear Mr.Ouiiiiiiiiiiji….Man you gotta love them E.1999 cats.

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 1:11 PM | Link to this

SJ

Keep it light= the energy/atmosphere/life

Keep it tight= definitely the cootie pop as well as physical self

Keep it right= all the above

By Gorilla O

August 17, 2007 1:20 PM | Link to this

@ Tazzee I have yet to meet a man that doesn’t snore. well, doesnt look like we’d work out, lol.

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 1:26 PM | Link to this

Les Demi Dang you took me back with that song. I really loved that cd,then some idiot stole it leaving me only the case.

By kimmie

August 17, 2007 1:26 PM | Link to this

Tazzee - I agree. Men think that’s all on a woman’s mind,whatever age she is. Sure, most of us would like to, but you got to have a fulfilling LIFE in the meantime too. And the women I know over 35 that are not married but would like to be, they were not neccessarily wild from 20 on, just enjoying life or circumstances brought them to where they are now. Life can change the best laid PLANS! I would have never thought I would be where I am at this age, but I spent the last 10 years caring for my parents, both of whom I lost to cancer too soon. Relationships kind of got put on the backburner because no one I met was very supportive or understanding. Timing is a factor too. When I was under 35, I kept meeting men who were focused on careers and not ready to make a relationship a priority enough to lead to marriage. So you see, one can’t really “plan” marriage and kids out very well, because LIFE can throw you curves you would not have expected. Sometimes, when people ask me why I’m not married, I say “Oh yeah, I forgot to do that, I think I’ll do it during my lunch hour tomorrow”. They don’t quite know what to say after that!

By Page1908

August 17, 2007 1:32 PM | Link to this

LOL Tazzee about LL! Girl, you know that’s how he is, sheesh!

Hey QC!!

By Les Demigod

August 17, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

Foe tha’ love of money Gotta make that money man It’s still the same down

Foe tha’ love of money lighten up!!!

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this

Gorilla O I dated one guy that snored so bad it made me mad. I would be deep into my nice little sleep and suddenly awakened by his snoring. So there I was, can’t sleep and he’s in his 9th dream!!! Talk about H-O-T!!! I wanted to just kick him! But I would usually get up and go sleep in another room.

I just don’t see how married people do it! While I loved him and would endure that once or twice a week - I never reached the point of being so in love that I could envision that every night.

kimmie Sorry to hear about your parents. God bless you for caring for them. Another misconception is that all women single and in their 30’s were too focused on their careers to get married. Nope - just didn’t run across the right man. But in the meantime, why not make that money?

By IslandGirl

August 17, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this

Eight words women use…MEN should know:

1.) Fine : This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

2.) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour.

3.) Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. Something, and you should be on your toes.

4.) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don’t Do It!

5.)Loud Sigh : This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. Means she thinks you are an idiot.(Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.)

6.) That’s Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a woman can make to a man. That’s okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

7.) Whatever: Is a women’s way of saying F@!K YOU!

8.) Don’t worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking ‘What’s wrong?’ For the woman’s response refer to #3.

By For Real

August 17, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this

What Blog Fam!!!

Here you go Mo. I know I have been slipping.

Ladies, and gentlemen… and lowlifes It is with outstanding pleasure That we are here to present tonight… Slick rick, the ruler! and mc ricky d!! Doing their smash hit, mona lisa, You know, like the picture? Anyway, I’d like to take this time out To bow before his divine majesty

[ricky] oh your majesty… [slick] hmm? [ricky] can I kiss your hand? [slick] mm-hmm [ricky] (kisses his hand loudly) [slick] enough! [ricky] come your highness.. they await you..

[slick rick] Well, it was one of those days — not much to do I was chillin downtown, with my old school crew I went into a store — to buy a slice of pizza And bumped into a girl, her name was mona — what? Mona lisa (what? ) singing mona lisa, so men made you.. Youknowhati’msayin? so I said, excuse me, dear

My gosh, you look nice! Put away your money I’ll buy that slice! She said, thanks - I’d rather a slice of you I’m just kidding, but that’s awfully nice of you The compliment showed she had a mind in her And when I smiled (ping!) I almost blinded her She said, great scott! are you a thief? Seems like you have a mouth full of gold teeth Ha-ha, hah! had to find that funny So I said, no child, I work hard for the money And calling me a thief? please! don’t even try it (right!) Sit down eat your slice of pizza, and be quiet She almost got cut short — you know, scissors She tried to disrespect who? ! the grand wizard Me! well what’s your name, son? Mc ricky d, but not to be so harsh I said to mona li-hee I’m.. sorry and I know that’s low class (uhh, yeah) Please sit, and tell me a little about your past She said, well I got courage, and I don’t like porridge (uh-huh) I’ve never been to college, but I’ve got crazy knowledge (uh-huh) Over eighteen and my eyes are green (uh-huh) I wear more gold than that man on a-team (uh-huh, uh-huh) Trim, slim, (yeah) and I’m also light skinned Best believe mona’s a virgin A virgin? ! honey needed a slap She tried to tell me she’s a virgin — with her yea wide gap I said, it don’t matter, see, I’m not picky (word) Let me spell my name out for you, it’s ricky: R — ravishing I — impress C — courageous; so careless K — for the kangols which I’ve got That I wear everyday and Y — why not? To fight’s not right that I recite and i’m.. Quite polite like walter cronkite Well, just about then, trevor my friend came in He said, hey rick, don’t you know playin with these snakes is a sin? !? He grabbed me by my shirt and pulled me right out the store He said, I don’t want to see you playin with these lowlifes no more! Now come along, we have a party to attend With some real mature women and some more of her friends He hailed down a cab and he waited for a minute And as the cab came, he thrusted me in it! And as we were leavin and drivin along I could hear a melody as mona sang a song

(excerpt from walk on by [d. warwick]) If you see me walking down the street And I start to cry.. each time we meet.. Walk on by.. walk on by.. Foolish pride That’s all that I have left, so, let me hide The pain and the hurt that you gave me When you said goodbye.. You walked on by..

By Raqi

August 17, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this

LOL Tazzee. The Pros vs The Cons.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 17, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

Tazzee Like I said, do you! Only you can make you happy and I agree with you wholeheartedly! Dont settle cause then you may make someone else miserable besides yourself.

For Real Thank you! I thought I was gonna have to replace you! LOL I’ll chalk it up to the heat but let’s not let this happen again, k?! by the way, I am going to see Lady T and Mint Condition tonight so take a few notes and be ready to rehash the concert for me on Monday!! :0)

Hey IG & Kinderbabe

By Gorilla O

August 17, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

yea Tazzee, ive been told i do my thang when it comes to snoring. ive never gotten dumped for it, but ive been given 1001 suggestions on how to stop it.

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

For Real that is is my all time favorite album (cd) by Dionne Warwick. Thanks for the flashback.

By Jake

August 17, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this

Gorilla

Don’t feel bad homie, my ex had me tested for apnea. I am MAN, hear me roar…lol

By IslandGirl

August 17, 2007 2:26 PM | Link to this

Hey Mo

By kimmie

August 17, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this

Thanks, Tazzee - Yeah, it was rough, but I would do it all over for 2 of the best parents in the world! I miss them much, though.

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

Tazzee, I definitely feel you. There’s nothing like not having to answer to anyone (except the Lord and self). I don’t even let my many admirers know I’m home alone every other weekend when I take my daugther to her father’s place. I’m doing me (quiet time, self-reflection, pure peace), not letting them DO ME!

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

I bought some apples yesterday. Red Delicious - they looked nice and firm. I just bit into one and it was soft. I HATE WHEN THAT HAPPENS!!!

Raqi LOL - I try not to think of it that way, but that’s what it boils down to. I’m sure I’ll meet a man with pros that outweigh the cons, and he’ll feel the same about me. Cause I know I have my share of ‘cons’

By Staceye

August 17, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

Tazzee I feel you on the snoring thing. UGH! My parents don’t even sleep in the same room because my dad snores so bad. And he has tried the sprays and strips.

Kimmie I am SO sorry baout your parents mami!

Mo take me with you…I have loved Teena Marie ever since I was a little girl. I remember singing her stuff when I was like 5. She has a beautiful voice with so much soul.

By Wise Diva

August 17, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this

hey everyone! I am SOOO glad it is Friday! TGIF!

I have a question, way off topic, kind of, but question: is it fair for a guy to ask his woman to throw away her ahem toys because he doesn’t like that she uses them? I mean, it’s one thing if he doesn’t want to SEE it, but to ask her to get rid of them, ummm that’s kind of domineering, right?

By Staceye

August 17, 2007 2:40 PM | Link to this

Tazzee those apples are just alike a fine well built man…he looks great on the outside but get him inside(pun intended) and….CRICKETS!!!!!

By Cinderella

August 17, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this

yyaawwnn is it 5:00 yet? How bout I’m addicted to Freecell. I’ve won like 30 straight games in a row. I’m so worried that the IT dept is gonna tell my boss lady. LOL

Tazzee dang it girl I WISH I had your attitude and common damn sense before I married the 1st time. You’re my shero.

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

Tazz I had some fruit from Publix today and it was OH SO SWEET. Mmm Mmm Good.

By Gorilla O

August 17, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

damn Staceye, your dad is that bad. the last SO i had, we had a couple of convo’s about marriage, and she said she probably would have to sleep in another room because of my snoring. i told her while she was sleep in the other room i was gonna sneak somebody over. that changed her mind.

Jake, i try and tell them that im the king of the jungle and thats why i sound like that, but they still be trippin. a man did you get that plies yet?

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

Staceye Have you dad ever thought about getting his tonsils and/or adenoids removed? That will help ease the snoring. I’ve had both removed but not for snoring though.

Wise I’d take it personal if some dude wanted me to bury the bullet. I’d consider putting them away and not discussing my one-on-one time with self with him, if it made him that uncomfortable. But him asking you to throw it away is like you asking him to chop is hand off. YOU FEEL ME?

By Staceye

August 17, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this

Wise Diva “Toys Over Boys” man! LOL Tell him to take Marta straight to hell …he is too insecure and knows that he can’t satisfy his woman better than B.O.B (Battery Operated Boyfriend)! DUECES!!!!

By Raqi

August 17, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

Wise if he does not share the residence with you then he has no right to tell you who, or what for this matter, you can have in your house. Now if he feels like a contender for your affection then he needs to come up with a “game plan” to make your ahem mechanical house guest your unwanted guest.

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

Staceye LOL, you got me with that one. I’ve moved on to my banana and almost choked when I read your comment.

WiseDiva The guys would prolly answer your question better, but it seems like dude is threatened by them. I was reading last month’s Essence. They had an article about trying new things sexually and this one woman talked about self-love. She said that even though she’s in a relationship now - she’s still her own best lover. Maybe that’s what the guy is afraid of…

Cinderella Girl, I almost got married 10 years ago so it’s only by God’s grace I’m not in the same boat as you. Oh and its a lazy Friday for me too. I’m about to build a spreadsheet for my fantasy draft.

By Les Demigod

August 17, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this

Wise nope, why would I ask my girl to throw her toys away? Toys are only made to enhance the act and save my a$$ during those long marathons…

I did try one of those pocket p-dussy…That Dayum thing hurt like hell…She had to cut it off me.

Not to come off gay, it felt like a woman was using her teeth on my manhood…

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

Wise Diva, I think it would be wrong of him to ask her to throw away her toys. He doesn’t have to see them. It’s not fair for a guy to ask his woman, may change my mind for my husband asking me. While I was dating my ex he asked me to throw away pictures I had in photo albums of childhood friends, a few pics of 2 old boyfriends. I refused. I have my pictures and a visual of my past, yet and no EX!

By Staceye

August 17, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

Gorilla when I go home I am in my room with the door closed and I still hear him. My mom sleeps with me when I am there and then in my room alone when I am not. So yeah it’s bad.

Slim I have told him to get that done..but he’s a wuss and he won’t do surgery! LOL o he will settel to sound like a runaway freight train!

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

LOL, leave it to you Slim I like that hand chopping analogy.

By Raqi

August 17, 2007 3:02 PM | Link to this

Tazzee the biggest thing for me was sharing my space after having it all to myself for so long. The snoring is not that bad, but the bed sharing and that freakin’ television were hurdles to be tried. To go from sleeping alone most of the time to sleeping with someone ALLLL of the time…

By Wise Diva

August 17, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

ok, ya’ll KNOW this ain’t about me, LOL I wish a dude WOULD . ummm, NO, but this girl has only being seeing that guy for 2 months when he “demanded” that she stopped using them. His “argument” was, you have me for that now, LOL, man. Insecure isn’t even the word, why would you deny your woman ANY kind of pleasure, that’s just wrong!

Ladies, would you ever ask your man to stop using porn, going to strip clubs, or self-pleasuring himself?

By IslandGirl

August 17, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this

Staceye….lol..your bad crazy girl…you crack me up on your 2:52 post..hehehe

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this

Les Demigod, I am on the floor hollering over here. Kudos to you for even admitting that. Whew, the visual is hysterical.

By 2CPTG

August 17, 2007 3:17 PM | Link to this

Demi, always wanted to ask someone how those things worked/felt….like teeth, eh?

Diva, only reason dude asked you to throw it away, ‘cause it’s probably bigger than his!!! When this chic and I went out to buys toys, I made sure the toy wasn’t bigger than mine…

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 3:19 PM | Link to this

Off topic. This is for the men only. I’ve been curious for a long time. My ex would get himself off EVERY MORNING. It would drive me insane to wake up every morning to a freaking vibrating bed from him going at it. Is this normal. I’m not exaggerating when I say EVERY MORNING.

By Cinderella

August 17, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

You know what I love about being single…eating in bed without feeling guilty, watching TLC all day, not having to wash clothes with grease and brake dust all over them and it staining the inside of the wash tub and messing up my clothes, cooking whatever the heck I want (the kids aint picky) and eating leftovers the next day, and best of all…having the bathroom all to myself.

so with that being said…why cant I wait for eyecandy to damn propose?? what’s that sucka’s hold up? LOL

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 3:23 PM | Link to this

Wise I wouldn’t want my man to frequent strip clubs or watch a bunch of porn. But I wouldn’t have a problem with him pleasuring himself if I wasn’t around.

By Wise Diva

August 17, 2007 3:23 PM | Link to this

hey MR.2!!, LOL @ threatened by the size, dang, I am no size queen, but I guess that is the root cause of his disdain

By Raqi

August 17, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

My friend Lacy had a guy friend tell her once that she may as well be doing it with another guy if she was seeking pleasure outside of him.

As for your second question…being a married woman and all, since intercourse is the most natural act of pleasuring we all like to think that your partner don’t need or shouldn’t desire anything else “outside” (pun intended) of you. But I would be lying if I say I have never had those days that I am just down right cranky and not in the mood and don’t want to say “Back up off me and go talk to Palmer”.

But what do I know…

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

Cinderella see - that’s what I’m talking about. I truly believe the right man will make all those ‘single benefits’ pale in comparison. LOL, hand in there.

waiting on the guys’ response to SexyLeggs - that mess is funny to me

By Wise Diva

August 17, 2007 3:32 PM | Link to this

LOL@ Cinderella, you are such a girl! One minute we are relishing in the “freedom” the next moment we are giving ole boy the side eye, waiting on the proposal!

ahh, I love being a woman, we get to be completely irrational and make it seem like perfect sense! Don’t hate fellas! You need a uterus to do it like we do!!

By Jewel

August 17, 2007 3:32 PM | Link to this

Okay. SexyLeggs He did that with you laying next to him!? I’m used to waking up to a “poke” or opening my eyes to a big grin! LOLOLOLOL!!!

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 3:33 PM | Link to this

Cinderalla what a sharp contradiction. Eyecandy probably knows all the things you just said and doesn’t feel like getting shot down. That post was funny (at least to me).

By Grand Poo bah

August 17, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl you forgot one, tssk
When a woman makes that sound (no man I know can do it) you are already in trouble and better recant your previous statement.
a tssk followed by either a Fine or Whatever means get out of her way but stay somewhere you can keep an eye on your belongings.
Peace out y’all

By Grand Poo bah

August 17, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

The evidence is mounting against Michael Vick. It looks like he will go to prison a tight end and exit a wide receiver.

By SeanJohnson3000

August 17, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

@ WD…i think toys for females are a way of life..like tats..especially for single females..no need to tell her to get rid of them..more like be there to limit her use or need of use of them…Females becareful…i have heard a lot of females that use toys “frequently”…they are now unable to climax from regular sx…toys are messing up their c****** sensitivity…

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 3:42 PM | Link to this

Thanks Tazzee, perhpas your inquiry to my post will help get the male bloggers to answer me.

Jewel, yes, he did that with me lying next to him. Around 5:30-5:45 my bed felt like a freaking freight train zoomed by. I was never poked to participate or even woken up to handle him. No, he like that particular route and we had many, many arguments over it. Who gets themselves off on a daily basis…who??

By Raqi

August 17, 2007 3:47 PM | Link to this

“…toys are messing up their c sensitivity”*

SeanJohn Uh dude…I think she told you that to probably spare your feelings.

(J/K, but, that’s for trying to ruffle my feathers the other day.)

By Cinderella

August 17, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

I would be a fool to turn him down. Everytime I look at him I get angry at myself for not being patient and marrying the first knucklehead that came along when I could’ve had it right the first time with him. But anyway, I got him now. I’m just trying to find the right way to trick him into proposing. I’m jokings fellas before ya’ll start foaming at the mouth

By DuShawn

August 17, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

I’m of the opinion that there is definitely a correlation between a woman’s age and her viewpoint of sex without commitment (i.e. Booty Calls). It’s an interesting cycle. Generally speaking, younger women (early to mid 20’s) are enjoying the freedom of adulthood. Consequently, they tend to base their decisions regarding sexual relationships solely on having fun. They’re at the I’m Grown stage. Promiscuity is common, often accompanied by diminished self-respect. By the time a women get‘s a little older (mid 30’s), the behavior she enjoyed a decade ago, she now views as degrading. This is the self-awareness stage. This is when the relationship agenda is formulated. Dating without a destination is unacceptable. They realize the value of their wombs and will not give that gift away to the undeserving. At this stage, sex outside the confines of a committed relationship, or at the very least, a close friendship is rare. The next stage (which is my personal favorite) is the Its my world phase. This occurs when a woman is mid 40’s early 50’s. By this time she has seen it all; marriage, divorce, children grown and gone. She no longer has a desire for a committed relationship. At this stage, the lady does not bullshyt. She will tell you in no uncertain terms the purpose of your presence in her life. To men that are young and weak, her self-assurance and dominance can be intimidating. Her regal demeanor exudes wisdom and commands respect. She’s not insulted by a booty call because she realizes it is what it is. However, unlike women in the first stage, she’s not going to be mentally manipulated into a late night encounter that leaves her feeling used and disrespected. In the “Its my world” stage, the woman dictates and controls how its going down. If she chooses to honor you with her company, she’ll do so. If not, accept it and behave yourself. When dealing with women that are at this point of their journey that’s all you can do. But if you know what I know, you’ll come when she calls.

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this

*WISE Ladies, would you ever ask your man to stop using porn, going to strip clubs, or self-pleasuring himself? Of course not….UNLESS it was causing some sort of issues such as if he was abusing the porn (child porn or meeting up with chicks off the sites, or running up thousands of dollars in charges). As long as there isn’t any negative consequences from the behavior let it be. But like Chris ROck said AIN’T NO SX IN THE CHAMPAGNE ROOM!

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

Great post “”DuShawn** you basically nailed it.

By Grand Poo bah

August 17, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs what IS your question?
Do all guys rip one off in the a.m.? I live alone and the answer is no. That is not to say never, but not every morning.

WD in response to a guy asking to get rid of the toys, that guy is assinine. Toys can be fun for both, plus if sportscenter is on we can both stay occupied

By SeanJohnson3000

August 17, 2007 3:59 PM | Link to this

@ Raqi…its all love….i knew you would try to get me back…by the way..i have no problems with a female using toys…try using your bullet while being hit dggystyle…i bet you faint from pleasure…

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 4:00 PM | Link to this

Hey guys, you are the first to jump on our women issues and the way we think or don’t think. Usually, your responses can be quick and furious. Are you guys afraid to tackle my question? What gives? As usual, I’m curious.

By Wise Diva

August 17, 2007 4:02 PM | Link to this

Well,goodness.. Dushawn just broke it down to the last compound, wow!

By SlimOne

August 17, 2007 4:02 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs that would irk the crap out of me especially if i was awaken out of a nice deep coma-like sleep. Also, with it being every morning I’d wonder why he wasn’t trying to slip up in my guts on the sly instead of waking Miss Palmer up.

Cinderella I was just talking about that very same thing to a friend recently. It’s like you want that stability we think marriage will bring but at the same time want our lax freedom too. Want a piece of cake?

SJ I’m not sure about the ruining the goodies by overuse of self-pleasing. I could see that if a chick was doing it day in and day out with only human interaction every once in a blue moon. However, if you’re with someone part of having a sexual relationship is to learn what pleases the other person. Now if homeboy can’t seem to figure that out over the course of a few sessions then maybe he needs to just buy her a new toy…not get mad at them.

Slim now skipping off singing My buddy, my buddy. Wherever I go, Heee’s going to go…..I’ll never grow up cuz i’mma toys r’us kid….

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 4:05 PM | Link to this

Grand Poo bah my question is this a normal thing to do every morning. I know guys do it, but EVERY MORNING. Goodness gracious!

By Jewel

August 17, 2007 4:07 PM | Link to this

But if you know what I know, you’ll come when she calls. Absolutely

By Passion

August 17, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this

lol @ Grand Poo bah

By Wise Diva

August 17, 2007 4:12 PM | Link to this

LOL @ multi-tasking Toys and ESPN, that would be the perfect set up for me, on both counts, ha! You crack me up Grand Poo Bah, and I thank you!

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this

Jewel, I’ll second that Absolutely and add in a Most Definitely.

By Wise Diva

August 17, 2007 4:14 PM | Link to this

Sexxleggs, honey chile, complain when the thing stops working, not if its being overworked, LOL.

clearly, he needs to be more considerate of your sleep though, keep it on his side of the bed, maybe you guys can get the mattress that won’t jiggle on both sides, LOL!

By Tazzee

August 17, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this

I’m sorry - but if he didn’t even try to get me involved first, then that would be a problem for me too SexyLeggs ummm, do you think that means he wasn’t satisfied with your bedroom skillz?

By IslandGirl

August 17, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

Dushawn…great post!

@Grand Poo bah…thats right I forgot the tssk…

SJ…man your a nut try using your bullet while being hit doggystyle…i bet you faint from pleasure.Question..while he is hitting it doggie style where do you put the bullet?…just wondering

SexyLeggs….it could be your SO preferred s*x in the mornings (every morning) and probably did not let you know that is his preference…I can’t imagine he preferred to do himself instead of enjoying your pudding.

By SeanJohnson3000

August 17, 2007 4:23 PM | Link to this

@ Sxyone…its common for a man to have an erection in the morning…if i am not mistaken its due to the body having an evelated level of testosterone during the AM..dont quote me though…but for me its like an alarm clock..lol…but for him to take care of him self when he has you RIGHT next to him doesnt make since..it is weird….my alarm clock..in turn be would be Your alarm clock and we would start every morning the right way…have you going to work with a smile in a good mood..

By SeanJohnson3000

August 17, 2007 4:25 PM | Link to this

last post was to sxylegs..my bad

By SeanJohnson3000

August 17, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this

@ Island girl…bullet is on the little man in the boat…

By Les Demigod

August 17, 2007 4:31 PM | Link to this

Du I agree whole heartedly with your post…

2 it doesn’t exspan like a woman virgina would…

Ladies, after using that device, I starting treat my girl’s kitty like gold…I was even lickatalking to it!!

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this

WiseDiva we’re divorcd now. I was just curious.

By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

Tazzee had to LOL…girl my skills are off da chain. I am an undercover freak so we didn’t have a problem there. He said he didn’t want to wake me so early in the morning, but he would wake me anyway.

By Les Demigod

August 17, 2007 4:37 PM | Link to this

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By SexyLeggs

August 17, 2007 4:40 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl, I’m a little confused. You’ll put the bullet the same place you would if it wasn’t being hit doggie style.

By IslandGirl

August 17, 2007 4:41 PM | Link to this

Everybody have a great weekend I’m out.

By Cinderella

August 17, 2007 4:42 PM | Link to this

bullet is on the little man in the boat… sj you got me screamin with that one!! lmao

By Les Demigod

August 17, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this

Nice All…

SexyLeggs…you are more then welcome to use me as your wake up tool…

By Wise Diva

August 17, 2007 4:56 PM | Link to this

I appreciate all the kind words this week, you guys are great. I should be back to my ole self next time I am up.

Have a fantastic weekend, folks! Diva out

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