Misadventures in Atlanta

By SlimOne

August 15, 2007 8:12 AM | Link to this

Happy Hippety Hump Day

When you go out looking for someone to flirt with or ask out, how much does race matter to you? Um…I’ve only dated my brothas so race has never been an issue. LOL! I’ve flirted with guys of different races but flirting and dating are two different things. I just haven’t come across someone of a different race whom I was that attracted to, to create a curiosity to date them.

By Viera

August 15, 2007 8:19 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone; Why do you think men are men more willing to date outside their race than women?

I think it doesn’t bother the men as much as the women what people think.

When you go out looking for someone to flirt with or ask out, how much does race matter to you?

When I flirt it’s not about race it’s about attraction.

By Biff

August 15, 2007 8:34 AM | Link to this

Ladies of color will be disappointed that ol Biff is not attracted to them, unless you are talking Halle Berry.

People who date outside their race are showing a dislike for their own race or either some deep mental insecurity.

It is far more natural to be attracted to one of your won race, just as it is far more natural for a man to be attracted to a woman.

By SlimOne

August 15, 2007 8:44 AM | Link to this

Biff I’m curious, what is your race?

By Viera

August 15, 2007 8:59 AM | Link to this

You can find handsome & beautiful people in all races. It goes beyond beauty but first what attracts you to that person then when you get to know them you go from there. My question is at what point do people say “Wait a minute this person not of my own race”. Why would anyone stop a relationship based on that.

By QC

August 15, 2007 9:01 AM | Link to this

Good Merting

By SlimOne

August 15, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

Viera I’m with you on the flirting thing having nothing to do with race but with attraction. I’m not closed minded when it comes to dating outside my race, just haven’t met that someone where the attraction was strong enough for me to want to actually date them. It’s just something about my brown brothas with a dark goatee that drives me. :-D

By Raqi

August 15, 2007 9:06 AM | Link to this

IMO People are just people. It is not the color of our skin that makes us different or the same but it is our upbringing and the environment that we grow up in.

There was this girl that lived across the street from my first husband when we were in school. She was Caucasian but the first time I heard her talk I could have sworn there was a black woman trapped inside of her body. Her mannerism and everything was that of a young black girl and that’s because she was raised around blacks. The neighbor was predominately black and the school she attended was mostly black. It seemed odd at first but after a while she was just “normal”.

Cultural differences create a greater divide than skin color does. I have found that I can relate better to people of any race that share a mutual social interest as I do. There are a certain set of individuals that I care not to be associated with, black, white, red or yellow because we share nothing.

I say when it comes to dating be open minded and seek out the one that you can relate to on a level beyond the color of your skin. Don’t cheat yourself.

By Cemeeli

August 15, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this

Good morning room

WD this one is going to wake up the lurkers (incldng me). Hi yall!

going to get sumthin’ warm to drink brb.

By Viera

August 15, 2007 9:12 AM | Link to this

SlimOne I’m hispanic and I find the goatee very sexy. Not all men can wear it well and the ones that do well you know.

By Biff

August 15, 2007 9:13 AM | Link to this

Slim, I am a proud English-Scottish- Caucasian-American and I insist on that term being used to describe my race, no matter that is a waste of time and I simply could be referred to as “White”. I demand the respect of being referred to as “English-Scottish-Caucasian-American”.

By ATLtransplant

August 15, 2007 9:17 AM | Link to this

great someone just want to get ppl riled up. Good luck with that Biff

By Plies

August 15, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everybody! For me, it ‘used’ to be just trying to hit at least one chick of a different race/nationality so i could have a story to tell my unborn son. I also ‘used’ to see if i could hit one chick from every state.

By SlimOne

August 15, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this

Viera You’re right. But for the ones that do Mmmm Mmmm mmmm

Biff So with you being English-Scottish- Caucasian-American, what type of women are you attracted to and why not us sisters other than Halle Berry?

By Jake

August 15, 2007 9:32 AM | Link to this

What up ya’ll.

Hey Ladies, thanks for wearing thos sexy shoes today, and your toes look wonderful.

On topic: I’ve dated women of different races and I enjoyed myself while doing it. I think it really just depends on how you relate to one another. It was fun, but my beuatiful sisters have my heart, in those other scenarios I believe there was an unconscious wall that wouldn’t allow me get serious enough to love those ladies. I want to marry and grow old with a beautiful black woman.

By LorDemi

August 15, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this

I also ‘used’ to see if i could hit one chick from every state….

Until it started costing 50 dollars to fill up, one way.

Slim how are you doing sis… Viera hey you!! QC morning and don’t hurt buddy too much.

People who date outside their race are showing a dislike for their own race or either some deep mental insecurity.

That is true 65% of the time…Me I just love women, F/K their race.

By QC

August 15, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

I never understood why Men try to hit a female of different nationalities? Why would you wanna tell your unborn son, yeah man i’ve had sex with every women of every race would that make you a “proud poppa”? You seem fairly intelligent person :)

By ATLtransplant

August 15, 2007 9:37 AM | Link to this

Just something to throw out there.

Guys are notoriously cited for only looking at the physical side of things when it comes to be attracted to woman.

Whereas girls are often lead us to believe they look for something more.

If this is so then why do more men go outside their race(something that’s pretty much all physical) in dating, whereas women do not? And how come women are quick to say its not their “race” its just that I’m not “attracted” to them…

Looks like women are more hung up on the phyiscal aspect such as race then they percieve. You’d think for being a group that doesn’t get hung up on only looks they’d be mroe open to more types of ppl. But this is not the case.

By SlimOne

August 15, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

LorDemi How are you hun?

By Ladylike

August 15, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers and Blogettes, Happy Humpiest Day to ya!

I think men just feel more comfortable in seeking out what they like. To me women become very stressed about the idea and often consider loyalty to a particular race as a factor. Personally I think you should be open, it’s a date not a binding contract. There are fine gentlemen of every race.

By Grand Poo bah

August 15, 2007 9:41 AM | Link to this

Hello all, I am attracted to women of many races, with a couple of exceptions. My dating is based on intellectual and physical interest. You must be attractive to me to talk to, and your conversation must not make me think you’re an idiot or self-centered. There are 2 things that will disqualify a potential date and they are 1) If you smoke. I do not like it and I do not apologize for that. 2) If you are not in my same basic religion family. I am not here to judge your religious beliefs, however if you and I are to be together and possibly one day have kids, I don’t want to raise the kids with differing religions in the same house. To me, religion is a core personal belief.

By LorDemi

August 15, 2007 9:41 AM | Link to this

It was fun, but my beautiful sisters have my heart, in those other scenarios I believe there was an unconscious wall that wouldn’t allow me gets serious enough to love those ladies. I want to marry and grow old with a beautiful black woman.

Great post Jake!!

By SSSBM

August 15, 2007 9:46 AM | Link to this

If you dig someone, that’s all that matters, right? It would be unrealistic to think that everyone’s 100 percent color-blind. I think dating outside your race is more of challenge. But if it works, that’s fine. Many black men don’t date white women at all, others only date white women. I feel that if you date exclusively outside your race, you have a problem with your skin color. In my case my mother played a key role in my dating outside the race,It affected whether I’m dating just to date or dating to marry someone. My mother said, “Don’t ever bring home a white girl” when I was a teenager. I took her seriously. To sum it up DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY!!!!

By ATLtransplant

August 15, 2007 9:47 AM | Link to this

People who date outside their race are showing a dislike for their own race or either some deep mental insecurity.

IMO this is completely ignorant and narrow-minded. Finding someone that you truly love (50% divorce rate in this country/prob 75% married and unhappy) is hard enough. Why limit yourself to one group b/c you think thats what your supposed to do. Why do you care what ppl think?

By itsmorenamorena

August 15, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this

Buenas Dias to all ((waving))

My friends and I call this dating checkbox “other” - meaning other than brothas LOL

Well, I’ve given thought to dating “others” but haven’t really acted on it, lately. I’ve dated latino men in the past and find myself most attracted to black men and latino men.

My biggest question has always been how to meet “others.” I’m never approached by or have significant interaction with “others” in my social life, so I need some suggestions on how to go about it. The only time “others” hit on me is via my Match.com ad. Brothas don’t realize I exist on there, but “others” are sending winks, and professing love for chocolate as if the world is ending manana LOL. Rarely have any of them been appealing to my eye or my mind via their words, so that’s why I haven’t responded positively. I’m kinda over online dating, so if I were to consider “others” in dating I would need to meet them socially. So far it just hasn’t happened.

Me thinks if I was attracted to an “other” I would consider pursuing it. I just haven’t had such a situation occur.

Es mis dos centavos….

By SSSBM

August 15, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this

GOOD MORNING ROOM Whats up PLIES, QC, LADYLIKE, SLIMONE, Cemeeli, **I forgot to say hello in my first blog sorry for being so rude i was rushing!!!!

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 15, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this

Morning All!! Feeling much better today, that Reisling hit the spot! Now if only my handyman Jake had come by.. LOL Hey Jake!

ATLtransplant in regards to your last post. IMHO, women arent more caught up in the physical. For example, for the women that date outside their race, most started dating that SO by chance. When I say that I mean, it was someone they already knew or were well acquainted with and probably never looked at as a possible date before. They decide to ‘take a chance’ and go out with dude that is Mexican/White/Asian or whatever to find that they really like him. Hence it isnt the physical so much that attracts them, as it is that they find they are attracted to the person. Now I could be wrong, I am not speaking from experience. Yet I do have girlfriends that dated outside their race and this seemed to be the case for them. Again, just my .02 on the matter. From most of the male responses on here, if they see eye candy, they are jumping, period.

By LorDemi

August 15, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this

QC it’s about pride babe, most fathers want great stories to tell their sons…

By Cemeeli

August 15, 2007 9:52 AM | Link to this

Hey Jake/QC/LorDemi

On topic: I have dated outside of my race once and it was totally unexpected. Just so happens after being friends him and i started to date. Talk about Fun…he was one of those adventurous loving, ‘The world’s at his” feet dating experience. I can add him to the list of adventurous and romantic. And he LOVED him some sistas.

By NCGirlfromATL

August 15, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this

Morning all!

ATLtransplant I don’t think women have ever said that the physical aspects aren’t important. It’s the 1st thing you see. It can’t be ignored. I think you may be confusing the importance of physical attraction for women with the idea that we want to be more than just physically attracted. Women tend to give a less attractive man a chance if he impresses her with his personality. But, that personality has to shine through in the initial stages in order for a woman to get past the fact that he might not be as physically attractive to her initially. Ask Janet Jackson. She tried ugly, and it seems to be working! (Sorry JD!)

I’ve dated outside my race. It was mostly in college. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve grown far more appreciative of the Black male form than I was in my younger years. If a really cool, attractive non-Black male approached me, I’d give him a shot. But, honestly, if the same non-Black male approached me and an attractive and cool Black male approached at the same time…the brotha gets the first shot. LOL!

I’m like Slim there is nothing like a smooth, chocolate, goatee’d man…YESSIR!!

By Gorilla O aka "Mr. I Sport A Mean Azz Goatee"

August 15, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

Happy Hump Day Er’body! Whats up SlimOne, QC, Jake, Plies, etc. ive dated outside my race but not because of some mental insecurity. if im attracted to a person then ill date them no matter what color. i agree with Jake too though. ill date any race, but im not sure if ill actually marry outside of my race. dont know if i want to spend my life trying to get someone to relate to what it is be black and what we deal with on a day-to-day. plus i have sisters, aunts and female cousins that have already told me what would happen if i brought snow bunny home. FYI, i was reading an article and they were talking about black men dating white women. they say when a black man dates a white woman, we’re dating ‘above’ our race. aint that some shyt!

Plies, you wild boi!

@ Biff, why is it that you would date Halle Berry but not an ordinary, everyday sista?

By SlimOne

August 15, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

itsmorenamorena You know when i used to have a dating profile up, lots of caucasian men would message me. I was always curious why that was. Things that make you go Hmmm?

SSSBM Morning to ya

By And You DAYUM RIGHT!!(not Awwwwwwwwww...Dayum)

August 15, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

From most of the male responses on here, if they see eye candy, they are jumping, period.

AND YOU DAYUM RIGHT!!!

Hey QC

By QC

August 15, 2007 10:01 AM | Link to this

Aight Demi

Hey 3S-Man, Cemeeli, Jake, Slim1, NCgirl,Plies, Raqi

Welcome to the blog Viera

By SlimOne

August 15, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

NC Ask Janet Jackson. She tried ugly, and it seems to be working! (Sorry JD!) OMG! LMAO. You stoopid woman. I believe Janet probably turned him out. I get the feeling shes very…how should i say….OPen-minded.

By Cemeeli

August 15, 2007 10:04 AM | Link to this

Hey Gorilla, Slim, SSSBM

By Plies

August 15, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this

@ QC, Why would you wanna tell your unborn son, yeah man i’ve had sex with every women of every race would that make you a “proud poppa”? You seem fairly intelligent person :). i guess you didn’t see where i typed USED to. Used to as in in the past.

By abc

August 15, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

Biff would dig Halle Berry because she mostly looks like a white woman, just with a bit darker complexion.

I’ve never been interested in dating outside my race, for reasons physical, cultural and environmental. I tend to gravitate toward people like me.

By Biff

August 15, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

Its just that the black women I am attracted to have mostly caucasian features like Halle Berry.

By LorDemi

August 15, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

Cemeeli how are you sis…

…they say when a black man dates a white woman, we’re dating ‘above’ our race. aint that some shyt!

G.O. how sad, that’s ‘slave mentally’ right?

By Gorilla O aka "Mr. I Sport A Mean Azz Goatee"

August 15, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this

whats up Cemeeli

By itsmorenamorena

August 15, 2007 10:16 AM | Link to this

@Slimone….LOTS. Definitely makes me go hmmmm because I DON’T get that kind of attention from them offline.

By Staceye

August 15, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this

Biff get real….do you think someone is going to take the time to say all of that, English-Scottish- Caucasian-American? Even the acronym is too long. I do not call myself African-Dominican-Jamaican-Irish-American. Just call me Black!

Jake I’m wearing the stilletos fro ya baby!

Mo* you were getting drunk before Mr. Handyman Jake came over? LOL

On topic: My family pictures look like a UN meeting, because it’s multi-racial. I have dated pretty much every race on this planet. It’s like Baskin-Robbins…31 flavors baby! I love it. But I am not attracted to the color of a man’s skin…it just has to be nice, clear and smooth. I have things that I look for in a man…height (6ft & up),handsome, nice build (no bag of bones or Daddy chunky trunks) but a little muscle to him, educated, employed, got his own teeth, own crib, own car, spiritually grounded, got home training, ambitious & goal oriented. That is what I look for in a man…if he happens to be another race…SO WHAT! I keep my mind and options open on that.

By IslandGirl

August 15, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this

Good Morning

QC….what pranks you have up your sleeve today?

NC Ask Janet Jackson. She tried ugly….girl…I almost went to the bathroom on that one!…you wrong for that, but true.

Slim…what cracking with you, girlie?

Raqi…I agree with you 100%. Being from the islands , I grew up in a predominately black population. People from different nationalities blended with our culture.

On Topic…I’ve never dated outside my race, but now consider doing so. I’m no longer afraid of trying something new. I’ve never been uptight about what people say about me…ask my mother.

By LorDemi

August 15, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

Slim/NC plus that dudes bread is long…but they’ve been friend for many years. Too bad he F/Ked up her last album, his stupid A$$.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 15, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

I agree with *Slim & NCGirl, there is something about a black man!! Now I admit I have seen some very attractive men of other races but I havent been attracted enough to go out with them.

Gorilla O lovin the new name bruh!! LOL Do you happen to shop in Target or Publix? Mo thinking she probably saw Gorilla O on sunday while out shopping…so many attractive brothas were getting their shop on

By Cemeeli

August 15, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this

Gorilla How mean is that Goattee? When i tell you that is a sexy feature…Cemeeli’s wondering why O just HAD to share he sport’s a Tee. Boy stop.

By Jake

August 15, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

@QC Don’t be suprised at the statement Plies made as far as wanting to hit every race. I’ll back him up by saying I had the same sentiment at one time. I think it can be best explained by an attempt to satisfy one’s curiousity and ego. There was a time in my life where I purposely sought women of other races too experience the difference. Its a man thing…you wanna know what it would be like with a different type of woman.

By M.

August 15, 2007 10:32 AM | Link to this

Hey Blog. I think it is all based on your environment as much as the attraction. If you live in an area where your particular interests aren’t available, you will adjust. When I lived in Minnesota, I had no choice really but to date Caucasian women because of the limited selection. Most Black women were not even into Black guys and other races were not into their own race. It wasn’t an issue of insecurity but I guess of preference. Now that I live in Atlanta, honestly I am not attracted to Caucasian women (never really got excited about them). Black women (especially in the Atlanta melting pot) have their own style, sense of individuality, and uniqueness, therefore it makes them all different. I say date who has what you are looking for.

By NCGirlfromATL

August 15, 2007 10:34 AM | Link to this

I get the feeling shes very…how should i say….OPen-minded.

Ya think?!? LOLOL!! I can’t even hate on Janet. She might have brothas swinging from the chandeliers, but they are getting what they want, and so is she. Hey Demi…she likes short guys with a little freak in em…go on and get that, mayne!

Blog Q: For those who have dated outside their races, how, if at all, have your experiences been different than with someone of your race?

By Jerome

August 15, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

inter-racial dating has been around since the varying races have existed. However, it has always been something that each individual race has frowned upon (back before Biblical times).

However, Hollywood can be blamed (or credited) with the current wave of inter-racial dating and marriage. For the past ten plus years, Hollywood has disproportionately shown inter-racial dating and marriage. They show it as being commonplace and accepted. Thus, in the real world, people assume that inter-racial dating will be met with the same level of acceptance that is shown in films and on television.

It doesn’t happen that way in the real world.

I am not attracted to people of other races. It doesn’t mean I’m prejudiced, but even if it did, should I be forced to date/marry outside my race? At what point does political correctness supercede my rights as an individual?

Many men of our race think that “getting a white girl” is a sign of status, but subconciously they’re just getting back at whitey. Many women of our race think that dating/marrying a white man guarantees them a more stable life.

It’s all nonsense. And it dillutes and dimenishes both races.

By Midtown Mac Daddy

August 15, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

I’m a Caucasian guy and I enjoy ALL women. I really don’t care what her race or ethnicity is. The problem I have had with dating black women is the hassles we both receive from black and white idiots when we are in public. We get hassled by black men who feel she thinks they aren’t good enough for her. She gets hassled by black women who feel she is “dissin” her kind by dating outside her race. (It’s not her fault that when in a social setting black guys are always clamoring over light skinned sistas or silicone blondes). White women get the idea that she is “stealing” from their “pool”. We really hadn’t experienced any hassles from white guys. All men are horn dogs so if one of our buddies scores with a hottie of any race he is our hero!

By Gorilla O aka "Mr. I Sport A Mean Azz Goatee"

August 15, 2007 10:43 AM | Link to this

Staceye, you crazy as hellz!

@ MO aww sucky, sucky na! a couple more compliments and ima have to give you one of those waffle house invites. actually Kroger is my store. ive damn near swiped the strip off the back of my kroger plus card.

By abc

August 15, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

It’s incorrect that inter-racial relationships were ‘frowned upon’ in the Bible. It doesn’t even make any sense. Consider Noah’s sons: Europeans descended from Japheth, Africans from Ham, pretty much everyone else from Shem. With that kind of diversity, inter-racial relationships were frowned upon? There are tons of other examples, but really, I don’t want to get into all that today.

By Staceye

August 15, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this

Midtown Mac Daddy welcome to Blogsville. I agree with everything you just said. Glad to see and open-minded individual.

By SeanJohnson3000

August 15, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog…reqarding the topic…never really considered dating outside of my race..but i think its more than not being physically attracted ..Has a lot to do with the mental stimulation that i would require in dating..Wonder just how much would a female understand and relate to me other than a black female…on the surface yes..but when u get into the meat of the relationship…i can see having a language and or cultural barrier in the end..not that i am not openminded..but understanding me and black men period is hard…hard even for some black females…i think to the point that some even date outside of their race…funny but true

By NCGirlfromATL

August 15, 2007 10:55 AM | Link to this

Jerome I hear what you’re saying. And you are certainly free to date whomever you feel most comfortable with. In fact, you absolutely should! And I think there is certainly some sort of “baller rule” that makes Black men think that when they’ve “arrived” it’s time to get a White woman. But, “It’s all nonsense. And it dillutes and dimenishes both races.” Can’t get with that. It’s the same mentality the Klan and other “supremacy” organizations use to justify their brand of bull. Honestly, any man or woman that thinks that having money means that they need to date/marry outside their race has issues that require therapy to address. But, for those who date/marry outside their race b/c they genuinely love the person they are with…more power to them!

I love the fact that I am multi-racial! Both of my parents & I identify ourselves as Black (and on the streets, that’s what others would say too). But, we all acknowledge the rich heritage of other races and nationalities within us. I think the mixing makes us more connected as a human race. I love the fact that there are many shades of brown in my family. Yes, I prefer Black men. But I’m not going to rule out any other race, if he’s a good man.

By Gorilla O aka "Mr. I Sport A Mean Azz Goatee"

August 15, 2007 10:57 AM | Link to this

@ Cemeeli, How mean is that Goattee? bout as mean as those pitbulls they found on vick’s property!

@ Midtown, (It’s not her fault that when in a social setting black guys are always clamoring over light skinned sistas or silicone blondes) thats not true. ill admit that a good portion of the women ive dated have been light skinned; however, if i see a nice looking dark skinned, chocolate sista, ill holla at her too. and silicone blondes…i throw rocks at them!

By AmazonRed

August 15, 2007 11:03 AM | Link to this

Newbie AmazonRed checking in!

Metro Atlanta is over 60% black. If you’re looking for a good black man or woman here, it’s time to hang it up. LOL.

It does come down to attraction, but also opportunity. Many races still segregate themselves. Also, I don’t buy the whole “he/she has to be smart/intelligent” argument. You know what draws you to a person before they even open their mouths.

As for me, I’d prefer to date someone within my race. But I’d never turn away from someone who I feel God put here for me to be with.

By LorDemi

August 15, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

All men are horn dogs so if one of our buddies scores with a hottie of any race he is our hero!

Midtown Mac Daddy LOL funny funnie, sup homes…

By Tazzee

August 15, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

I flirt with whom I’m attracted to. With that said, there aren’t many social settings where I encounter many men of a different race. Especially now. When I lived in Atlanta, I lived and worked around a lot of Black people. I was in my own little happy world. Now I live and work around a large majority of White people. When I get ready to go out and socialize - I drive 30+ miles to be around Black people. So unless I’m out to dinner or something in my neighborhood - there isn’t much opportunity for me to flirt with men of a different race.

I’m not going to expand my horizons and try to socialize in more multicultural settings either. Why? Because I ABSOLUTELY LOVE BEING AROUND BLACK PEOPLE!!! Yes, my people can work my nerves at times, but when its all said and done - I wouldn’t trade my black people for anything in the world.

So unless I run across a hot man of another race at the grocery store or something like that and he knocks me off my feet - I’ll stick with the brothas.

Shoot, I’m having a hard enough time trying to establish an outside of work true friendship with a White woman. I can’t imagine how hard it would be to go a step further and date someone of a different race.

yeah, I’m content sticking with the brothas…

By Cemeeli

August 15, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

Gorilla that’s a mean Tee…hmmm. lol @ Vick’s dogs u silly!

And i’m just curious… are you bias when there is a light skinned sista verses a dark chocolate sis?

By abc

August 15, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

I couldn’t consider dating a person whose intelligence I didn’t respect. One needn’t be a genius, but for wont of a better measure to use for an example, I doubt I could hang with a chick who had an IQ less than 120, no matter what they looked like (‘course, good looks can’t hurt). American average ranges between 90 and 115, depending on demographic. Mine is 160. I don’t put a lot of creedence in IQ as a accurate assessment of intelligence though, I’m just using it as a rough indication of measure.

By Jake

August 15, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

Awwwwwwww……Dayummmm, I just cut my Goatee…lol

Wearing a raindrop right now. (sides cut off goatee, triangled down, curved on the bottom sides to catch the chin…lol)

By AmazonRed

August 15, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

Whoops, sorry I missed a statement in my comment (rookie mistake), so I’ll post the correct one here:

Metro Atlanta is over 60% black. If you’re looking for a good black man or woman here and can’t find one, it’s time to hang it up. LOL.

It does come down to attraction, but also opportunity. Many races still segregate themselves. Also, I don’t buy the whole “he/she has to be smart/intelligent” argument. You know what draws you to a person before they even open their mouths.

As for me, I’d prefer to date someone within my race. But I’d never turn away from someone who I feel God put here for me to be with.

By For Real

August 15, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!!!

What I find strange about dating someone from another race specifically black and white is that White Men and Black Women tend to have the biggest problem with it.

I have dated women of different races and cultures and I have found that all women are same. No matter the color or culture. They all complain about the same ole ish it’s just said differently. Oh and can we stop with the Black men date white women bc it is a sign of status ish.

By AmazonRed

August 15, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

For Real

I don’t think all women are the same. It could be that you just date the same type of women.

I certainly don’t think all men are the same. LOL

By QC

August 15, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

Hey AwwwwwwwwDayum

Plies ok

Jake yep i hear ya, and some men are still trying to be an International Lover

IslandGirl Not sure what’s up for the day; i’ll think of something…he keeps sitting over here “burping” like a pig, i gotta come up with something good, lol

Hey ForReal

Hey GA.man i know you’re lurking!

By IslandGirl

August 15, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

*@Midtown Mac Daddy *…thanks for that post. Good to hear another perspective on the topic.

By Gorilla O aka "Mr. I Sport A Mean Azz Goatee"

August 15, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this

@ Cemeeli, are you bias when there is a light skinned sista verses a dark chocolate sis? if you had two beautiful sistas standing next to each other and the only thing that separated them from each other was their complexion, then 9 times out of 10 i would approach the light skinned sista. but dont get it twisted, ive dated my share of dark skinned sistas too. its just my preference. and i have a long history of it with the men in my family. damn near all of my folks are light skinned, and all the men mostly date light skinned women and all the women mostly date dark skinned men. i said all that to say that even though i have my preference, i dont down or dismiss my chocolate sistas.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

August 15, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this

Gorilla O you know I got love for my fine, eastside brothas!! LOL And I loves me some Waffle House!! I’ll look for you in another week at Kroger. :0)

Jake Its all good babe, just keep that haircut tight and that toolbelt handy and we can work with ya! Right Staceye (girl I wasnt getting drunk early, just trying to shake off some stress!!)!

Hey For Real where is my song for the day?

By Cemeeli

August 15, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

Was sup For Real?

@Jake Dat sounds sexy too!!! Cemeeli now adding Jake’s teardrop…oops raindrop goatee to her list for sexy features.

By Jake

August 15, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this

QC

When are you going to ask that man out, we know you like him, you wouldn’t enjoy messing with him so much if you didn’t?

By IslandGirl

August 15, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

The friends I have that date white men do so because they are attracted to the person. I don’t think they dated outside of their race because of a preconceived idea that it is “dating up” or status superiority, etc. That is just crazy mess.

I think it would be a great dating challenge to ask someone outside my race out on a date.

By Gorilla O aka "Mr. I Sport A Mean Azz Goatee"

August 15, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

abc, as far as your IQ requirement, to each his own. i just feel that people do too much analyzing when it comes to dating. there’s no formula or equation when it comes to dating. E doesnt always equal a perfect relationship! JMO

By Staceye

August 15, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

*ABC when you start dating a girl you administer an IQ test? Heck the only test I am worried about the results of these days for a man of mine is a STD test! LOL

By LorDemi

August 15, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this

NC nope, I am good…I like what I like, there’s nothing like staring at some nice DDs while standing up, LOL

By Tazzee

August 15, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

Jerome I have to say that I agree with you wholeheartedly regarding the media. White/White relationships are very prevalent, but at the same time the mixing of other races are also prevalent. In mainstream media - the mixing of the other races is more prevalent than straight Black/Black, Asian/Asian, etc. relationships.

Furthermore in most commercials/ads you have more ‘mixed’ children than you have straight up Black/Asian/Latin. And while I have no problem with interracial relationships or children - I do have a problem with the constant underlying theme that having a relationship with your own race is wrong. If a Black mother states that she only wants her son/daughter to marry within the race - she’s wrong. But if a Jewish or Italian mother desires that her son/daughter marry of the same ethnicity there’s nothing wrong with it? Stuff like that is ludicrous to me.

By Gorilla O aka "Mr. I Sport A Mean Azz Goatee"

August 15, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

And I loves me some Waffle House!! damn MO, you might be a keeper. lol. you can find me in kroger damn near every weekend…oh i forgot to tell you one of my other alias’ is Gorilla O aka “I’m Tha Man In Tha Kitchen”!

By QC

August 15, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

@Jake Uh, that’s a big “no no” sweetie….he’s not interested in Women

By LorDemi

August 15, 2007 11:46 AM | Link to this

IslandGirl dating up race wise is an american thing…I blame slavery.

I don’t think 40 years is enough for us to forget, try 100 years.

By Grand Poo bah

August 15, 2007 11:49 AM | Link to this

Are all women the same? Of course, all women are nuts. Are all men the same, of course, all men are idiots. (I’m an idiot for the record, but at least I recognize that fact). So when I look for a woman I try to find a charming, acceptable nut. I just hope she is looking for a self-aware idiot. :-)

By abc

August 15, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

It doesn’t take any analyzing or testing to be able to assess someone’s relative intelligence! Just talk to them for a few minutes. Do they know anything? Can they carry on a conversation, can they speak well? Are they anything like well-read, listened and informed, or are they mostly fans of reality TV, hip-hop and nightclubs?

‘Course, to each his own. Clubbing is the world for lots of people. The next season of American Idol is important to them.

By NCGirlfromATL

August 15, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

Jake When are you going to ask that man out, we know you like him, you wouldn’t enjoy messing with him so much if you didn’t? I was thinking the saaaame thing! LOL!!

Go on QC, hook it up! While you’re at it, get the man a bottle of Beano. Sounds like he’s got some gas issues! You’ll want him to take care of that before you ask him out.

Visualizing Jake’s Soul Patch…hmmmm

Welcome Midtown!

LMAO @ Demi

By SlimOne

August 15, 2007 11:51 AM | Link to this

Island Girl I’m cool. Just waiting on Friday for 5pm. lol

By AmazonRed

August 15, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

LOL @ Grand Poo Bah’s comment on men and women.

By DuShawn

August 15, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this

Regarding dating other ethnicities, in the words of one of our modern day poets “I like them brown, yellow, Puerto Rican or Haitian.” I’m a Miami Boy also. Down there, we taste the rainbow. But I have never felt comfortable dating a Caucasoid. I found myself taking them places where I would not be seen. For some strange reason I felt embarrassed. That’s just a personal hang up I guess. …..Wait a minute. I think I posted this comment a few days ago…It’s Deja Vu all over again.

By NCGirlfromATL

August 15, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

Uh, that’s a big “no no” sweetie….he’s not interested in Women

Ooops!! Dang…sorry QC!

flicking the Gaydar switch…wondering why it’s not coming on…is the bulb burned out?

Where’s Musing? And Blatino?

By Tazzee

August 15, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this

Grand Poo Bah you summed that up in a nutshell, LOL.

By Grand Poo bah

August 15, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this

Thank you AmazonRed and Tazzee , not only am I an idiot, but I am simple. :-)

By IslandGirl

August 15, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this

DuShawn…yes, you did post the same comment about a week ago lol….good memory…or its just that you really don’t like dating Caucasoids

By ATLtransplant

August 15, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

Mo and NCGirl good posts. Thanks for your 2 cents. I see where both of you are coming from.

Jerome, Tazzee I really don’t see what you all are seeing in the media. I dunno maybe I don’t watch enough TV! haha. really though you think this “theme” is out there in the media: I do have a problem with the constant underlying theme that having a relationship with your own race is wrong.

I just don’t see that.

By SlimOne

August 15, 2007 12:26 PM | Link to this

HEY ALL Are any of you going to participate in Atlanta Restaurant Week

I’m trying to figure out which place would be a good one to try.

By Wise Diva

August 15, 2007 12:32 PM | Link to this

Hi everyone! Couple of things: Sorry to be so quiet this week. I lost someone dear to me last week. We celebrated her life on yesterday, so it’s still heavy on my mind and heart, but I will get through it with time.

Mr. Married Musing congratulations! I hope you guys are happy forever! Hopefully she doesn’t catch a charge living with you, at least in the first 3 years, LOL.

@G, I think it was you.. did I read this week that you think I am attracted to thugs? Where in the world did you get that idea?! LOL. Geeks are my thing, geeks are hot! Thugs don’t usually like me anyway!

What else…oh, let me go catch up first! I missed you guys!

By Tazzee

August 15, 2007 12:38 PM | Link to this

ATLtransplant Look at the relationships in mainstream media. For the most part, the only solid Black/Black relationships were found on the CW.

And of course you wouldn’t necessarily notice it unless you were looking for it. What I mean is, one day I wondered why all the Black men on ER (for the most part) were hooked up with women of another race. White, Asian, Indian - you name it. But the same isn’t true for the White male characters. They were pretty much hooked up with White females. Then I started to notice that’s the overall trend in most shows. It was a ‘shock and awe’ experience to see Taye Diggs’ ex-wife on the Grey’s anatomy spin-off with a Black woman.

Now I’m sure the powers that be would say that they are embracing diversity in all this.

Mind you - I don’t watch all the shows that come on, but I see the commercials for most. For the most part I watch sports - and please don’t get me started on the commercials they show during sports.

But it’s not just TV, its the circulars - you would never see two Black/Asian/Latin children in the same ad. If they are in the ad, they are always paired with someone White. But it’s nothing to see two White children together And that’s if they are in the ad - because for the most part you have mixed children nowadays. Mixed and White children.

By Poppa Grande

August 15, 2007 12:38 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon to all of you….

This is something about which I spoke to me best friend yesterday. He is single and dating woman from Thailand. He is black. He said that he was attracted to her. He also said that it wasn’t a case like Wesley Snipes who will only date asian women.

For me, I took the phrase “taste the rainbow” to heart. I always say that I enjoyed my 20s. It was more about the experience than anything. It wasn’t about race as much as it was about cultures. I dated a Russian lady. I also dated a sista that was 6’4” and currently in the WNBA. It was never about race.

By Staceye

August 15, 2007 12:43 PM | Link to this

Wise Diva I love geeks too. I was the Undercover Geek in high school. I was a Cheerleading captain and in the school plays and events because I was in the performing arts program. So ti everybody’s shock when they saw my name as Salutatorian of the class. give me a Geek/Nerd over a Thug anyday. I’ll take Scholars making Dollars over Thugs leaving slugs!

By MusingLee

August 15, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this

Hey All,

Men will date any Woman as long as she is fine…When I was single I would have worn a Yamika or whatever was required to get into some “cabbage patch”…LOLOL

Musing trying to fit in

Musing: Hey baby dang you are one fine stallion. So where you from?

Chick: Yugoslovia!

Musing: Really?!?! Me too!…I used to hang out on Klovloski Street next to the bakery.

*Musing now peeking into his Man Purse for his “Yugoslovia to English” dictionary….”

By SlimOne

August 15, 2007 12:46 PM | Link to this

Wise Take all the time you need. Sorry to hear about your loss.

By Gorilla O aka "Mr. I Sport A Mean Azz Goatee"

August 15, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this

@ abc, so what does that say about a person if they’re looking forward to the next season of American Idol? what, that they’re not intelligent. im interested in females that are well rounded. i have a friend who’s an assistant principal with plenty of intelligence. and we can sit and talk about everything from politics to plies. so does that mean she’s not intelligent because she doesnt want to spend all day talking about whether evolution is a fact or a theory?

By QC

August 15, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

No problem NC

Hey Musing

By Wise Diva

August 15, 2007 12:56 PM | Link to this

Thanks Slimone! did you enjoy your vacation?

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

August 15, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this

Hey QC….shhhhhh…dont tell

By Cemeeli

August 15, 2007 1:02 PM | Link to this

Hey Tazzee Piggin’ back to your 11:44 post. *If a Black mother states that she only wants her son/daughter to marry within the race - she’s wrong. But if a Jewish or Italian mother desires that her son/daughter marry of the same ethnicity there’s nothing wrong with it? That opens another topic and new level of response…But i’d like to say to that; Personally as a mother, I will be please with who makes my son happy. I don’t think i will have a real problem being that he attends a very e-diverse school and has friends of 3-4 ethnicticies…yet he still always manages to be in the Lil Miss Brown Skin faces grinnin…wit his cute lil dimples…lol. My mom has her hand in there somewhere coax my son to not loose his ‘culture’ even though he sees all daily.

The comments made in here from the men have really got me to thinking.

Cemeeli sits back to think …Will my lil look-a-like date outside of his race? seriously…hmmm

By MusingLee

August 15, 2007 1:04 PM | Link to this

Hey QC…

Musing now struts off to eat some lunch

By SlimOne

August 15, 2007 1:15 PM | Link to this

WiSe I sure did. You missed my StungByAJellyfish story. That was my only complaint for my mini vacation. Oh yeah, I forgot to tell yall, when I was out jet skiing, I saw a dophin. I tried to catch up to him but I couldn’t keep up with all the turns and crap. But it was exciting to me nonetheless.

By Tazzee

August 15, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

Cemeeli Honestly, if my nephew married a White woman I would be heartbroken - but I would never tell him who to date. If he’s happy, in the end I’m happy. However, there was an article in Essence a few years back where a woman said she wanted her son to bring home a Black girl. You should have seen the response - you would think she said Kill Whitey the way folks called her all kinds of racists. But a mother asking her son to bring home a nice Jewish girl is no big deal.

In the end, like I said - I have no problem with folks being with who they want to be with. I do have a problem with the notion that wanting to be with your own race is wrong. How many times have we heard on here that we need to ‘expand our options’ or that Black women should date more outside of their race? My question is, what’s wrong with wanting to keep it in house?

I’m sorry, but when I leave the workplace - where it’s mainly me and a bunch of White men, the only arms I want to go home to are the arms of a brotha - and I don’t see anything wrong with that.

By IslandGirl

August 15, 2007 1:28 PM | Link to this

This is a long story, but it is great. Stone me if you want too

The Wealth of the Wicked‎ by Tyler Perry

I had a dilemma—I loved my house and having a lot of land. If I moved to the city I would have to give up the land for the convenience of in-town living. I was telling this to a friend and she said that maybe I didn’t have to give up the land. She told me that there was a piece of property in the city that had four acres more than my old house and that it was for sale. As she was giving me the address I realized that I knew the area very well.

I remembered the time when I was homeless. I would go to that very street where this property was located and just look around. I would get such a peace and comfort when I was in this neighborhood knowing that I was going to be okay and that my God could do anything. I learned a long time ago that you have to see yourself in a better situation before it could happen. So in my mind’s eye, while homeless and all, I could still see myself living there.

So some years later I found myself walking around this beautiful property. There was a small house on it, and the realtor asked me if I wanted to see it. I agreed. As I walked up to the door I started to sweat. I said, “I don’t want to go in.” Something just felt very wrong about the house itself. So I finished the tour outside. I went home and couldn’t sleep. I prayed about it. I went back to the property several times and walked around it praying. And in the middle of one of those prayers I felt this sense of peace. I thought, “Oh God, you mean I could have it?” So I called the realtor and bought the property. I still refused to go into the rundown house. I decided to tear it down and build my dream home.

A few weeks into the construction I was doing a book singing in Atlanta and the sheriff comes in and serves me. I was being sued by the previous owner of the property for tearing down the house! I called my legal team and after some research they filled me in on the situation. According to the lawyer who had argued and won the case for me, the man who owned the property before me was a lawyer who had lost the property in a malpractice suit. She also told me that the woman who filed the original malpractice suit against him was murdered, and that another woman who had purchased some of his other property was kidnapped. Needless to say, my team was a little concerned. However, I had no fear. I knew that I had gotten a word from on high and that I was supposed to be there.

I continued building the new house, continued going there when I was in town and continued to be grateful. Before the foundation was poured I put a Bible under it and whispered a prayer of thanksgiving. Little did I know, the most shocking thing I still hadn’t found out yet.

I had gotten a call from Mayor Franklin saying that Dr. King’s personal papers were going up for auction at Sotheby’s and that she was trying to raise money to bring them all back here to Atlanta. Understanding the importance of this, without hesitation I joined in the fight. Little did I know that this moment would mean so much more to me in the days to come.

Not long after that phone call I found out that the same man that used to own my new property also owned a hotel in Atlanta. During the civil rights struggle he sued the US government because he didn’t want to integrate his hotel. He argued this all the way to the Supreme Court and lost, of course. Even though Dr. King’s dream had always meant a great deal to me it was closer now more than ever.

We went to court and when I was called to the stand you should have seen the look on his face. I don’t think he knew that I was Black (when he first filed the lawsuit). Needless to say the judge threw out the case and instructed this man not to harass me. No sooner than we left court he had re-filed his lawsuit. The judge was livid because of this and had him arrested. Well, he got out and guess what? He did it again. You guessed it-he sued me again! So I have decided to go public with this story. I wanted to tell you about it first because I didn’t want you to read it somewhere and not know what was going on. All is well though. I was just informed that the judge has kicked it out again.

But what is so wonderful about this, and what I wanted to share with you is this—here I am a 37-year-old Black man. I am living on and owning the property of a man who once argued the merits of segregation and refused service to “coloreds”.

You talk about someone who is grateful! Every time I walk the grounds or turn the key at the front door, I’m reminded of all of the people who paid the price for not only me but for all of us to live wherever and however we want to live. So I say thank you to all those that have come before me and I apologize for all of us in this get-rich-or-die-trying generation who have forgotten that somebody paid it all.

God bless.

Tyler Perry

By Cemeeli

August 15, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this

Tazzee I agree… the decision is theirs of course. But now that i have though about it. I would pefer a daughter in law that looks like me. I feel ya on the going home to the arms of a black man when you have worked all day with lily. Same deal here at my J.O.B.

By Jake

August 15, 2007 1:39 PM | Link to this

LMAO@Slim chasing Flipper.

My bad QC, keep fuggin with him.

NC Soul Patch…its like a upside down martinti glass, nice and dark too, and trimmmed so tight you would think I put a razor on it…lol

By QC

August 15, 2007 1:40 PM | Link to this

Uh oh…IslandGirl i’m almost sure that Musing will give you a citation for that looooong post you did…pass him a “wedding gift” and he’ll forget allllllll about it..

off to lunch

By Viera

August 15, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl —> I will pay for your citation. It’s what I needed to read to put things in perspective.

By Tazzee

August 15, 2007 1:54 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl that was long! Nice story, but long as all get out.

By NCGirlfromATL

August 15, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this

@ Jake…Oooooh. You trim it yourself?

Dolphin on Slim’s vacation:

Dophin (whistling) Dooo dee dooo deee doooo…Wow. Life sure is nice out here in the nice, warm ocean. Lots of food. I’m not jumping through hoops and people aren’t trying to ride me like a pony, like my cousin Earl, and dem. Laaa dee daaaaaa…

(Slim zooms by on her jet ski)

Dolphin: Whattha…whotha…AYE! WTF do you think you’re doing?

Slim hears…”aaaaah waaa waaa woooo aaaaaaannnnng waaaaaaaaaaa!!”

Slim: Wow! That dolphin is talking to me! I’ll bet he wants to play! (Slim guns the jetski motor)

Dolphin: This b*t(h is crazy! Dayuuum! I’ve gotta get the fug up outta here. (Dolphin speeds off deeper into the ocean)

Slim: Come on Mr. Dolphin!! Let’s play!

Dolphin (swimming as fast as he can, looking back over his fin) Daaaaayum!! She’s trying to kill me! WTH!! I was just chillin’, minding my own business. And this crazy @zz chick started chasing me! (making crazy Z formations and figure 8s trying to lose her)

Slim: Hmmm…this jetski doesn’t have the turning radius of a Porsche. This dolphin has skills…COME HERE MR. DOLPHIN! I just wanna pet you…and maybe have you jump through some hoops…and get a quick ride!

Dolphin: NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!

By SlimOne

August 15, 2007 1:58 PM | Link to this

Jake I was sitting there trying to get the dolphins attention but then I realized a dolphin is not a dog. So saying Come here boy like you would a dog wasn’t very effective. So i recharged and started making dolphin noises. Obviously, it realized my dolphin accent was a phony and dipped out on my @ss. LOL

By Cemeeli

August 15, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl Watch out, you ‘bout to be cited!!! This one may cost us all a lil change.

Musing/GaMan coming in blog room to shut it doooowwwn.

By Bre'

August 15, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this

Tazee So very true, I think since I’ve been in this field for finance its just me as any sign of color…Going home period is great once leaving these walls…I think only a brotha could handle me long term wise. But if any other color happens to fall into the 5 finger rotation then it is what it is.

WDHang in there.

Demi Hey handsome.

By SexyLeggs

August 15, 2007 2:01 PM | Link to this

Boo hoo, boo hoo…I just found the blog. It doesn’t appear on my screen anymore. Knew something was amiss so I googled Wise Diva on the AJC home page. Goodness gracious. Hello everybody. Must lurk just to get over my shock of missing you guys.

By SlimOne

August 15, 2007 2:03 PM | Link to this

IG Now you know that’s a two-citation lenght post. LOL! Take some advise from Jay-Z and Chop it up! lololol

By IslandGirl

August 15, 2007 2:05 PM | Link to this

QC..ok, good tip.

Musing…I forgot to drop off your cyper wedding gift. Here you go….hope you like the matching his/hers edible undies…mmmuuuuaaaahhhhh. Please don’t give me a ticket. I’ve reached my quota for the month….I got other bills to pay.

By NCGirlfromATL

August 15, 2007 2:06 PM | Link to this

Wise I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. My prayers are with you.

Nice post Island.

I don’t want Musing to be rocking the man purse. Nooooo!!! There has to be some MLB rule that man purses violates!

By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"

August 15, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

OOOOOOOH heck NAWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!!!

ISLANDGIRL who in the heck tod you to post a 150 a paragragh in the blog………Dang i got to get my calculator ou for this one

150.25 98.63 56.35 725.36 603.25 1051.35 510.36 641.25 1825.69 745.25 968.36

ok your total is $$7376.00 minus 500.00 for good story discount=$$6876.00 pluscourt cost and fees of 1954.00=8830.00

NO FOOD STAMPS CARDS CASH ONLY

By IslandGirl

August 15, 2007 2:08 PM | Link to this

*Viera *….I happy you enjoyed it…positive message.

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 15, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this

What it do folks???

@Wise Lurker Your next topic should be“Why Do Women Have So Many Hang-ups and limit the few options they Have”

Dudes have preferences, but we will date just about any chick, if she is fine! She can be black, white, short, tall, admin or v.p.,car no car, home or apt.

Chicks got 152 reasons why they cannot date a dude and about 3 reasons why they can date dat dude!

I keep saying all the time, that every woman cannot have the same 5 dudes and if the average dude in the U.S. is 5-10, how the he double ll is erry chich gonna hook up with a dude over 6’0??

Not to be negative, but the brothers want to somewhat work with these chicks program, but there is too much red tape and politics involved at times..geesh!

By LorDemi

August 15, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl you cool, Slim is calling musing’s wife now…

Bre’ hey lovely lady, how is your day going so far?

NC I almost believe dolphins can speak, LOL

Dayum Slim trying to date out side of the human race period, huh? lol

By IslandGirl

August 15, 2007 2:13 PM | Link to this

Slim…I know, but the story is so encouraging…I figured its worth the citations.

IG…on the corner of Peachtree and Pedmont holding up a sign asking for donations to pay blog citations

By SlimOne

August 15, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

NC You wrong for that, but he probably was like, I know this chick ain’t trying to catch up with me. Imma bout to lose this chick with a quick left, a wide right a zig and a zag….

Slim sitting in the middle of ocean with huge plume of black smoke coming from her wave runner

By Cemeeli

August 15, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

LOL @ NC girl you is crazy. I need for Slim to let Dolphinland enjoy there hab.

By Tazzee

August 15, 2007 2:16 PM | Link to this

GA.Man LOL - why did your post remind me of Madea at the kitchen table on the 10-Key in Diary. I am over here in tears!!!!

By For Real

August 15, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

Lunch time observation:

By Jake

August 15, 2007 2:20 PM | Link to this

NC Of course I do, I don’t have time to chase a barber around. I handle all my own grooming. Besides, every man should have some trimmers at the house, never know when you’ll need to clean yourself up, barbershop might be closed.

By IslandGirl

August 15, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

@GA…no food stamps accepted?!…dang

By abc

August 15, 2007 2:28 PM | Link to this

Gorilla, well yeah, frankly. I consider that Reality TV is about as mindless an ‘entertainment’ as you can get. ‘American Idol’ represents musically what Dick & Jane Readers represent in literature. It’s just a bunch of singers, for cryin out loud. If people think that’s musical excellence, it simply illustrates their lack of musical knowledge. Lack of cultural knowledge is an American hallmark.

Regarding your friend the principal, hey, how should I know how smart she is? I don’t consider Plies all that interesting, myself. Anyone can discuss politics, but not that many people can do so intelligently, because they don’t know that much about world events. Evolution is a theory, period, just as gravity is theory. If you want to test the Theory of Gravity, just go drive off a cliff — an ill-advised activity and everyone knows what’ll happen, but that doesn’t make it the FACT of Gravity, it’s still called the Theory of Gravity. There’s plenty of archeology to back up the Theory of Evolution, but it’s a theory in similar fashion.

By SexyLeggs

August 15, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this

I have only dated my own race. Would I date outside my race? Yes, if the person had a good soul and a kind heart. Now, the white boys here at work are knocking down doors trying to get to me. At present, I’m not interested in anyone.

By NCGirlfromATL

August 15, 2007 2:31 PM | Link to this

For Real I have some answers to your lunchtime observations:

Why do people speed up when you are trying to cross the street? Points. Plain and simple. And the slower they walk, the higher the point total. If they walk out there against the light, double your points. And don’t let a mug drop something or trip in the crosswalk.

Why do people wearing jackets outside come into the restuarant screaming it’s hot? Again, simple. Air conditioning. You didn’t notice the penguins serving you while you sat in the restaurant? LOL!

Why do I feel embarrassed when a women is with a dude and she is staring at me? It might be that boog you’ve got hanging out of your right nostril. Yeah. I meant to tell you that before you left, but you snuck out. Sorry.

Is there something in Diet Coke that dissolves all the food you just ate? It only works on cheesecake, pizza and other baked goods. Negates the calories. And is apparently as addictive as crack.

Why is the walk longer coming back from lunch? The Itis. Slows down time, and makes you feel like you’re walking through mud.

Slim LMAO!! No baby, it’s not a dog! “Heeeeeeere, dolphin dolphin!! Heeeeeeeeere boy!”

By Staceye

August 15, 2007 2:40 PM | Link to this

Musing that is weird you would choose Yugoslavia….my ex if from there. I loved him..still do. But he went back to play pro ball. Never has a man compared (sniff sniff)!

GA Man* I knew you’d come out of hiding for the renderence of a citation.

By LorDemi

August 15, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

Wise done while stand on a crate Here’s a brotherly bone crushing hug and a kiss on the forehead, sorry for your loss…

LL* sup bruh!!!

At present, I’m not interested in anyone…Demi is now kicking rock at SexyLeggs post. LOL

By Staceye

August 15, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

NCGirlfromATL you know you are dead wrong for the answers to For Real’s lunchtime observations!!! LOL

By Cemeeli

August 15, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

@ ForReal Why is the walk longer coming back from lunch? usually it’s cuase you don’t wanna go back to work.

By SeanJohnson3000

August 15, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this

@ IrieGirl….i cant read all that shyt..face balled up..like Fantasia

By Tazzee

August 15, 2007 2:53 PM | Link to this

NCGirl - LOL at your responses! The Itis - makes me wanna go watch that Boondocks episode.

By i'm swiss

August 15, 2007 3:02 PM | Link to this

“People who date outside their race are showing a dislike for their own race or either some deep mental insecurity.”

Okay, I’m getting here way late & after reading the first couple of comments I don’t really have any desire to catch up. I generally try to keep my posts positive (since I mostly just lurk) — but that is quite possibly the dumbest statement I’ve ever read on this blog. And that’s saying something.

I’m a white southern boy, and in addition to white, American girls, I’ve dated girls of all sorts of races and nationalities — Japanese, Brazilian, Filipina, Haitian & African American. It has nothing to do with any dislike of being white (I’m about as white as they come, trust me) — rather, I really enjoy interacting with people of different backgrounds and cultures. Take off the sheet & try it sometime — you might learn a thing or two…

By Staceye

August 15, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

Tazzee You know the Boondocks are coming back on with new episodes?

*Can she run fast in high heels? Does she duck from the man in the purple suit?

By Gorilla O aka "Mr. I Sport A Mean Azz Goatee"

August 15, 2007 3:04 PM | Link to this

YOU GOTTA SEE THIS! NO JOKES, REAL ISH!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YuoiZnr4jLY&eurl=http%3A%2F%2Fallhiphop%2Ecom%2Fblogs%2Frumors%2Farchive%2F2007%2F08%2F13%2F18406671%2Easpx

By IslandGirl

August 15, 2007 3:05 PM | Link to this

SJ…too funny..what you got against Fantasia lol

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 15, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

@i’m swiss I agree with ur post 100 percent! Some folks just don’t get it!

It is not about color,it is all about who treats you the best and who’s got ur back!

Wake up people,it is 2007,not 1957!

By Adam

August 15, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

Being a Caucasian-American, race is not and has never been an issue for me. Heck black ladies pay more attention to me anywho, and I think its great, even stole a few smooches from them hehe. Since these days women seem to be very fickled, I usally go with who shows that they are interested.

Most Caucasian women Imo don’t show enough backbone and can be very hard to tell what they are thinking. I can’t stand a women who beat around the bush when something is wrong, I like one that tells me straight up when something is wrong and Black ladies tend to be very vocal, I like that.

But the down side is that my family told me that they would write me of the will and dis-own me if I were to marry a Black girl. Which I think is utterly retarded because true love is blind, and no body tells me who to fall in love with. I don’t care if the girl is a lime-green color with pink polka dots, if she is what I’m looking for, then thats all thats counts.

Ether way when I do get married I will probably not have the support of my family and thats their problem, its high time that people in general leave the past in the past and grow up. Cheers

By Cemeeli

August 15, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

GaMan Reviews on new movies? Where you been with that? What’s up?

By Staceye

August 15, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

i’m swiss & Longtime Lurker I agree with you..and I’m co-signing on your posts.

By NCGirlfromATL

August 15, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this

^5 i’m swiss!

Lawd…who woke up LL?? LOLOL!! Sup!

SJ You wrong for messing w/ Fantasia. But, I can’t help but think of TT last week on Steve Harvey…”tif too ton’t tant tee tan ton’t talk to tee…to atead and tee yotelf!” That still cracks me up!!

DuShawn/I’m Swiss (if you’re still out there) Since you’ve both dated women outside your respective races, how, if at all have your experiences been different from dating women of your race? (I asked this earlier of the whole blog, but got ig’ed ;-p))

By Viera

August 15, 2007 3:19 PM | Link to this

IslandGirl —> I will pay for your citation. It’s what I needed to read to put things in perspective.

By SexyLeggs

August 15, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this

&Demi, you have me cracking up over here! Hey don’t you remember you got in trouble by standing on that corner waiting for me to walk by? I was crushed that you had to run upstairs I believe to SlimOne. Therefore, I’m not interested in any one at the moment.

By QC

August 15, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this

Have a good evening bloggers……

By Ms. B. Incognito Browne

August 15, 2007 3:27 PM | Link to this

*@I’m Swiss and Longtime Lurker…Amen

By Tazzee

August 15, 2007 3:28 PM | Link to this

i’m swiss

One can interact with people of different backgrounds and cultures and still desire to only date someone of their own race. Ever since I entered Corporate America - I had to interact with people of different backgrounds and cultures. In order to be successful in Corporate America I had to take interest in things that I had no interest in - but if I wanted to engage in conversation at lunch, or the company gathering I had to (at the time) be up on the latest episode of ‘Melrose Place’ or how the Tarheels were doing in basketball.

What I’ve learned is that I will choose my own culture each and every time. So while I’m sure your comment wasn’t directed totally at me, I can say that I have experienced other cultures and backgrounds in work-related social settings. At the end of the day what I enjoy best is being around others like me.

By Cemeeli

August 15, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

I knew this topic was gonna wake up the long time lurkers! Never ceases to amaze me how we all come out of lurkesville to voice opinion about this. Regardless of how many other dating topics, this interracial dating topic will most def bring out the comments….cool. I love the snatch and grab convo’s.

Rock on ppl.

By Tazzee

August 15, 2007 3:31 PM | Link to this

Staceye I heard it was coming back and all I can say is It’s about time! I’m getting tickled sitting here thinking about the first season. And the uncut versions are just plain RAW!

By abc

August 15, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this

What Tazzee said. You can’t avoid interaction with a wide variety of races and ethnicities on a daily basis these days: white, black, Indian, Pakistani, Hispanic, Chinese, various Europeans, you name it. Still, when choosing a potential mate, I want one that’s like me racially, culturally, from similar backgrounds and environments. It just works better for me that way.

By i'm swiss

August 15, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

Tazzee —

You’re right… my comment wasn’t directed at you. I have no problem w/ people who choose to date only within their own race. It’s a preference. What ticked me off was the specific comment that people who date outside their race dislike their own race and/or have some sort of self-hate issues.

By Staceye

August 15, 2007 3:40 PM | Link to this

Adam it’s good to know that you will do whatever makes you happy. Forget your family! It’s your life and you should live it to please you. I feel the same way you feel close-minded individuals. And you’re right…most Black women are very vocal about what’s going on. I know I am. But some men call that an attitude!

By SlimOne

August 15, 2007 3:40 PM | Link to this

Sexyleggs What did you say Demi do to me upstairs in the corner of the room in the back of the closet with our pants down? We didn’t do it. I promise!

By IslandGirl

August 15, 2007 3:40 PM | Link to this

@Adam…great post! I appreciate it.

By LorDemi

August 15, 2007 3:41 PM | Link to this

Adam I love them Jap. Anime girls to, LOL

SexyLeggs as much as I love me some Slim, I am a leg man…you know I wouldn’t pass you up in heels. LOL

Hellz, I would have stop and brought you a pair are two!!!

By i'm swiss

August 15, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

@NCGirl —

The only real difference I’ve experienced are the looks I occasionally get from other people when I’m out with a girl of a different race (especially black). Otherwise, it’s pretty much the same issues regardless of race — at least that’s been my experience.

By "Longtime Lurker"

August 15, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this

@Adam Believe it or not, I am African-American and I have heard the same things from my side of the family!

Unfortunately,the older generation on both sides are not very receptive to change and “new america”

If you look at kids nowadays, they play with any kid, regardless of their race and see no color,unfortunately, most adults do!!

What we have to realize is that we have more in common than we think and this means male, female, black, white, etc.

On the surface, we are all striving for the same things, but we tend to feel “extra special” about ourselves at times and look for a difference in us vs. them!

To everyone, if you fall in love with someone, who looks different from you, so what! Who cares about what someone else thinks! Get with that person who cares most about you and who got’s ur back!

If you limit your options, your options will limit you!

What is important is what you think and how you view your life and how you want your life to be!

By Tazzee

August 15, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

i’m swiss I agree with you on that point. I had that in my original response to you with some other stuff, but I dropped a paragraph to avoid a citation.

My opinion is this - diversity is definitely necessary to make it in this world. We all should be able to interact with all types of people. However, when you get to something as intimate as close relationships - there is nothing wrong with choosing to stay within your own race.

A lot of people like to condemn the church for being one of the most segregated institutions in the world today - but I don’t see anything wrong with that either. Worship is such an intimate and personal experience, what is wrong with choosing a house of worship where you feel totally comfortable expressing yourself?

Again, I have no problem with interracial relationships, its the notion that there is something wrong with those of us that choose not to go that way that bothers me.

By DuShawn

August 15, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this

NCGirl Other than the obvious cultural differences women are pretty much the same. There are no general characteristics that are specific to women of a particular ethnic group. They’re just like a bag skittles, different flavors but equally sweet……..or sour

By MusingLee

August 15, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this

OHhhh Helllzzz Naw! Island That post was hella long…I feel asleep twice just trying to scroll through it.

Staceye You need to stop tripping and catch a plane to Yugo…LOLOL..He’ll take you back, just show up with a long coat, some cheese, and a landing strip in the right place.

Ceemeli I can’t read your name without seeing Cameltoe…what’s up with that???

By SexyLeggs

August 15, 2007 3:55 PM | Link to this

SlimOne you are a hot, horny mess. I am hollering over here. Girl, you must have had too much from the blog bar because you told me you did everything I instructed to the tee and Demi was quite pleased. You even said he apologized to you for being in the corner waiting on me. He kissed your toes and told you it would never happen again. At least, that’s what you told ME! Demi that’s why I’m not interested in any one…ROFLMSAO!

By SexyLeggs

August 15, 2007 3:57 PM | Link to this

Oh no, I messed up and missed 2 new pair of shoes from Demi. I love me some CFMPs…yep yep.

By For Real

August 15, 2007 3:59 PM | Link to this

For Real: Psst Slim come over here…

Slim: Why?

For Real: I heard you like Dolphins.

Slim: OOOo I do. You know where one is?

For Real: Yep but you gotta come on here to see it.

Slim: Ok here I come. So where is the Dolphin.

For Real: zipppppppp!!

Slim: That ain’t no Dolphin. They are not that color.

For Real: It’s an African American Dolphin.

Slim: Really??? I didn’t know there where African American Dolphins.

For Real: eeeeeeeeeee, ak,ak,ak,ak See Slim he like you..

By Cemeeli

August 15, 2007 4:02 PM | Link to this

Musing WTH? lol you silly? I dont’ know wutz up wit it? And you all serious…

Cemeeli aka Cameltoe Naw…dat aint it. Try again.

By Staceye

August 15, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this

MusingLee it’s good to have you back baby! LOL He loved my landing strip..wasn’t big on cheese though! But he did the love the high heels and the full length mink with the Frederick’s underneath!

By MusingLee

August 15, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this

ROTFLMAOOOOoooooo @ For Real…hahahahahaha

By For Real

August 15, 2007 4:09 PM | Link to this

NC Like I said, women are all the same no matter their race. Women whine, complain, and try to control men the same in every race. White men Black women, and all Asian folks give me the most looks if they are white or Asian. If they are latin all the latin men cut me the eye but look as if they despise the latin chick. But when I am overseas I don’t get any looks other than oh look there is a black man. Wow! Mummy can I touch him?

Oh and you would let me go outside with a booger in my nose.

For Real now whipping booger on NC’s steering wheel.

Staceye You can borrow my Yugo and drive to the Yugo to get Piedtro.

By SlimOne

August 15, 2007 4:10 PM | Link to this

For Real I’m going to snatch you up and put you over my knee.

eeeeeeeeeee, ak,ak,ak,ak See Slim he like you Now you have me crying over here! LMAO!

By IslandGirl

August 15, 2007 4:12 PM | Link to this

@LL…I cosign on your post. I agree with everything you said.

By MusingLee

August 15, 2007 4:12 PM | Link to this

Staceye just for you I will examine any outfits just to make sure he’ll like it when you show up…I’m married now so you can pretty much show me anything and I’ll be cool with it.

Musing standing in front of a half neked Staceye, sweating like President Bush in a spelling bee

By NCGirlfromATL

August 15, 2007 4:16 PM | Link to this

Thanks I’m Swiss & DuShawn. When I dated Caucasian men, we got “the look” too. I was in college, and fairly shy, so it bothered me a lot. It was probably the only time during those years when I felt the need to bow up and challenge someone. (Now, it’s a regular occurence LOL!) It was a good experience though, to date someone who experienced life in a different way.

It’s funny, growing up I’d hear (not from my parents) on tv phrases like “if she can’t use our comb, don’t bring her home.” My folks were more of the mindset that if he treated me right, they could deal with it. They told me they’d prefer I dated Black guys, but really, it didn’t matter. But, I did get the gas face from the mother of a guy I dated in high school. His father already knew me, and we got along great! His dad knew we’d been dating for a while, but his mom didn’t (parents were divorced). When his mom found out he was my prom date, she hit the roof, and made him cut our evening short. I was upset at first, that he ditched me at a party, but I had really good friends around, and ended up having a better time after he left than before. The next time I saw him, he was w/ his mom, and couldn’t even look me in the eye. But, my mom gave her the most evil, eat ish look. It was great! LOL!!

By LorDemi

August 15, 2007 4:18 PM | Link to this

SexyLeggs Naw boo…you mess up on that last post.

Demi hands SexyLeggs two Gucci shoe boxes, replace with Payless shoes

Sexy is now body slamming Demi on Wise’s desk.

By Poppa Grande

August 15, 2007 4:21 PM | Link to this

DuShawn…I agree.

Most women were pretty much the same. There are some cultural differences, but for the most part when you get down to it. Most women were the same.

All females seem to pay more attention to details than men. I guess that is why men get caught cheating more often the women. That has nothing to do with race at all.

By Staceye

August 15, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

For Real I’ll take your Yugo to get to Yugo cause “him strong like bull (said with Russian accent)!

Musing I will do a fashion show just for you love! You can go buy the same outfits for the new wife! You can invite For Real…tell him I’ll wear the 6 inche heels for him!

By MusingLee

August 15, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

LOLOL @ demi being beat down by SexyLeggs.

By LorDemi

August 15, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this

WTF!!?? Ladies are co-signing LL post left and right to day, huh?

Hell must have frozen over two times then…

By SexyLeggs

August 15, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this

@Demiok, my wires are known to get twisted sometimes…no harm no foul!

By NCGirlfromATL

August 15, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

For Real now whipping booger on NC’s steering wheel.

Ummm…you know I borrowed SJ’s ride today, right? Ummmm…you might wanna run…now!

For Real: eeeeeeeeeee, ak,ak,ak,ak See Slim he like you…

Dialing PETA…hello? PETA? Listen, I want to report some animal impersonations. Yes. Impersonations. Trust me…this is illegal. You don’t want this thing walking around impersonating a Black Dolphin. You’ll have Rev. Al and Jesse’s Rainbow Coalition beating down your door. Plus, it’s just gross. I’ve heard it has this little tiny fin-thingy…yeah…his name is For Real. Spell it? F-0-R R-E-A-L. For Real. Yes. Oh thank you for taking care of this…

By SlimOne

August 15, 2007 4:32 PM | Link to this

Demi Are you going to repolish my toesey woseys tonight?

By SexyLeggs

August 15, 2007 4:33 PM | Link to this

Demi exactly how did I mess up w/the last post…the CFMPs simply mean a great sexy shoe. Albeit the acronym stands for something else, the bottom line is a great, sexy shoe.

By Staceye

August 15, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

Sexy Leggs I know what the acronym stands for…I got a closet full of those shoes!

By LorDemi

August 15, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this

I read a of Jap. manga and watch a few brit shows time to time…Them dudes over seas have some of the same problems we american dudes have with our women…I think we all are looking for a change in the dating scene…

Let’s have an Orgy party!!

SexyLeggs cool, now let’s go and hop in the shower…I am dying to eat some grits off those lovely legs of yours. LOL

By SexyLeggs

August 15, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this

Staceye so do I. Size 7 1/2.

Good night everyone!

By SexyLeggs

August 15, 2007 4:55 PM | Link to this

BTW Demi you too are a hot, lovely mess!