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DEL.ICIO.USRelationship therapy
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
As we age, we all learn (I hope) from our previous relationships and past mistakes. And many of us are very independent when it comes to how to conduct our lives because we simply refer to our own experience.
But there’s still that person you always go to when you see something negative looming on the horizon of a relationship or when things have already gone sour.
Sometimes you go just to vent, sometimes you go for wise advice, and sometimes you go just to hear what you already know you need to do. Whatever you go for, it’s the person whose advice always seems wise beyond his or her years (even if they don’t follow their own advice!).
For me, that person is my friend Angel, who has never failed to give me constructive, honest dating advice. She’s seen me in really desperate situations, but she’s also given me feedback when everything seems to going great in my dating life.
This year she brought me back down to earth when I was hanging on to something I thought would develop into a serious relationship, but she could see from the outside that it never would. I was just hanging on to the idea of someone, and she snapped me back into reality.
Who in your life gives the best dating advice? Friend or family? Distantly removed co-worker or nail technician? Do you know people who give great dating advice but don’t seem to use it for themselves?
Have you ever received excellent relationship advice from (gasp!) a book, the radio or a TV show?
Speaking of the radio, here’s a plug from one of the AJC editors:
Do you have a relationship dilemma? Is your significant other driving you nuts? Or perhaps you just want to make your great relationship even better. Dr. Richard Blue, Star 94’s radio therapist and author of “Dr. Blue’s Guide to Making Relationships Work,” is going to help a few lucky readers. Email your specific relationship questions to Elizabeth Cobb (ecobb@ajc.com) by noon on Monday, Aug. 13.
Happy Monday!
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By Sexione
August 6, 2007 8:11 AM | Link to this
Well, well, well…..goodmorning everybody!!!!
Sexi now looking around for all the blog fakes who claimed they were coming to the get together and didn’t show up! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA Y’all are funny!! lmsao Sexi now revoking all credibility cards of said blog fakes….muah hahaha!!
By SlimOne
August 6, 2007 8:18 AM | Link to this
Good Early Monday Mownin Yawl
Sexione So who all ended up showing up?
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 8:18 AM | Link to this
Good Morning* Sexi1!!* Haha. Girrly I’m laughing with you. I can’t wait to read from the no shows…
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 8:22 AM | Link to this
Girl tell me why i didn’t get in bed until after 1am. didn’t make it to the early service but i somehow made it to the afternoon service, and how bout my dad done made his way to Atl. to get his what his drank on for his b-day, girl i was praying that he didn’t get so tore up that i have to experience another one of those episode i was telling yall about.lol
By Sexione
August 6, 2007 8:27 AM | Link to this
MsU Morning gurl, you know I’m over here cracking up!!! I just can’t stand fake folks….one of my pet peeves!! lmsao
Slim Let’s just start by saying the mlb (lowercase on purpose!) is a JOKE!!!! Aside from Jake and ForReal………..and if I were them I’d resign my membership! HAHAHAHA
By Sexione
August 6, 2007 8:30 AM | Link to this
MsU No dad wasn’t trying to get his party on like that! Again!!! too funny!!
By SlimOne
August 6, 2007 8:32 AM | Link to this
Sexione lol Sorry to hear that it didn’t have a huge turn out. How did it go otherwise?
I saw Usher at 300 Saturday. That is one small dude in person.
By Sexione
August 6, 2007 8:44 AM | Link to this
Slim No need to be sorry, it was no skin off my back, and we had fun. I pretty much knew it would go down like that because we all know that most folks only have the kind of courage displayed here that is keyboard courage. But I will say that to me it does discredit a lot of what is said here………esp. by the mlb. That is another reason I said I didn’t believe the whole “get a place and have it catered” deal from the beginning. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA Let’s face it, there are a lot of fake azz folks up in here…..up in here!!!!!!!!! lmsao
Oh and I read that Usher did get married over the weekend.
By M.
August 6, 2007 8:53 AM | Link to this
Morning bloggers. Sorry your event didnt go as expected. I didnt hear about it.
On topic, usually for me, its my friend L. He is really upfront and tells me the stuff that I need to hear even if I dont want to. Also I remember last year I had a dating issue and I wrote this columnist for a big newspaper and she responded on her live chat. Glad Im out of that situation. Its Monday…
By Lurker
August 6, 2007 8:57 AM | Link to this
crickets, crickets, crickets Dayum, it’s quiet in here!! lol
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 9:00 AM | Link to this
Sexi1 Yes he did. Girl he caught the greyhound. I don’t know if i mention that he got glaucoma he only have about 40% of his vision in one eye. This man can sniff out a liquor store. Oh Sexi1* don’t leave out the WLB that didn’t show, but like you said we had fun and there are tons of fake folks on this blog.
By SlimOne
August 6, 2007 9:02 AM | Link to this
Lurker I’ve noticed the crickets in here a lot lately. I’m not sure what the reason is other than folks getting a little burnt out on Blogsville. We need to spice Picker Uppers.
By T-Mango
August 6, 2007 9:08 AM | Link to this
Good morning all
By M.
August 6, 2007 9:11 AM | Link to this
@ Sexione
What happened with the event? Was it the fact that it was on a saturday? I think I checked in once on friday and didnt really hear about it. Was it the D & B in marietta? This blog is looking a little empty today.
By Lurker
August 6, 2007 9:11 AM | Link to this
Actually Slim, it looks/sounds like the blog is dead! I’ve lurked thru some crappy topics, some crappy comments, some crappy IT issues……..and some good topics and comments too……..but it looks like the bad has now outnumbered the good. And looks like the party may have put the nail in the coffin. Maybe the blog needs to be reworked with a better twist and topics………unfortunately you can’t change the participants…….and from what I can tell there are quite a few duds (yes, duds) here.
By Cemeeli
August 6, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this
Good morning and better morning to all.
Even though i was a possible show/or no show for D&B. Fri. I surely was coming i thought. Planning on it anyway.
Saturday I was down…when i say down, there was the worst hater I have seen this last month of my stress season. And the hater appeared in my throat ALL DAY.
STREP! Who gets strep on the weekend? HELLO SOMEBODY!!!
I thought strep was one of those weekday aliments. (be out of wrk for 3 days) lol. But I was down the entire weekend. Let’s just say I shall was a lil bit irritable with that mess.
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
August 6, 2007 9:14 AM | Link to this
Morning All!! Mo comes in waving a white flag Now why I gotta be fake cause I had a gazillion things to do and couldnt make it?!?!
Sexione sorry for not returning your call. My obligations held me up longer than I expected. I am glad that you guys had fun though and hate that I missed it. I cant believe the MLB didnt show up in full force!
By Sexione
August 6, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this
MsU Sho’ ya right!! I figured I should start there because of the amount of trash talking they do on a daily basis. But no, don’t wanna leave out the wlb fakes too! I can see dad now on the Greyhound talkin bout “shoot, I’m going to the A to get my party on…it’s my birfday!!” Bless his heart!! lmsao
By SeanJohnson3000
August 6, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this
Sup Blog…MsU..Sxone..where you two the only females to show up?
By Sexione
August 6, 2007 9:19 AM | Link to this
Mo Don’t get it twisted, I didn’t say that everybody that didn’t show up is a fake…………but I will say most! I figured your party lasted longer…….hope you had fun!!! And yes, I know I’m calling folks out this morning……but you know this is not the first time I’ve mentioned the level of faketivity in here…..hehehehehe
By SlimOne
August 6, 2007 9:23 AM | Link to this
Lurker I think it has a lot to do with the basically the same topics. We have the same arguments…blah blah blah. It has been slowly dying the last week or so. I’m looking forward to my mini-vacation this week. So that’ll give me a break.
I won’t be here after tomorrow for the rest of the week.
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
August 6, 2007 9:23 AM | Link to this
Sexione ‘preciate ya chica!! I was like dayum Sexione aint holdin no punches this morning!!
It was my sister’s housewarming and lawd being an older sibling sucks in situations like that!! LOL I got put to work like my name was Kizzy!! I had to tell lil girl that she owed me, talkin bout “can you come help me”. It was more like “can you do errthang, pleeeeeeze”…lol
Hey SJ & MsU
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 9:23 AM | Link to this
hey Lurker Hmm. so Usher got married. alright now, well that’s good to hear..Staceye where you at girl. Forreal don’t forget 2:25pm.lol
By SlimOne
August 6, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this
Sexione Why don’t you just throw the fakerslist out there. We need a shake up in here…its so dead. Turn up the heat.
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 9:26 AM | Link to this
SJ We wasn’t the only two WLB We had fun other people even joined in.
By abc
August 6, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this
Meet up with you folks? You gotta be kiddin. Yall ‘bout half crazy, if not all the way.
On topic, my relationship advice usually comes from my best friend, a woman. She doesn’t advise herself well at all, but her advice for me is often on point, not always, but pretty often. She tells me what women really want. My girl gets jealous of her though, so these days I only see my friend if there are other people around.
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this
I hope i don’t come across bitter cuz i far from that. The people that did show came from far away. I know for a fact that there were about 10-12 people that kept stating they were coming and kept on asking about the info, but again i am not singling anybody out i’ll let you do it to yourself. so if the shoe fit by all means wear it..what’s up Jake
By Sexione
August 6, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this
Mo You know how I do!! lmsao A big sister’s job is not an easy one!!! I know she was glad you were there…………and she should be thinking of a special way to say thank you! Tell her I said so! lol
Slim you’re right about the topics! Lurker too………it does start to get old after a while. I’m sure it won’t be long before I’m a blog memory…..I’ll have to retire my moniker! lol Hope you enjoy your mini-vac……..I need one, this is the last week before school starts! whew
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 9:33 AM | Link to this
Hey Mo We kinda figured you were still tending to your sister party..
By SeanJohnson3000
August 6, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this
@ MsU..oh ok..just wondering…
By Jake
August 6, 2007 9:35 AM | Link to this
Good Morning to my Sweeties, what up MLB:
Chocolate Covered Blog Strawberries to Staceye, Sexione, and MsU.
Ya’ll don’t be so hard on everyone, who knows what kept them from showing,(I just said that to be fair, Fake Azzes…LOL). Maybe we’ll do it again at a later time.
On topic: No go to person for advice, I just trust my instincts, even though they have missed the mark before, but they are usually on point.
By Sexione
August 6, 2007 9:41 AM | Link to this
Slim Nah, that’s too easy!!! See MsUs 9:31, she hit it on tha head!!!
By SlimOne
August 6, 2007 9:45 AM | Link to this
I must say you all do sound very bitter. From what i’ve heard from the long time bloggers is that every time they’ve tried to hook up a get-to-gether in the past, it has never gone off too well. I say chuck it up and charge it to the game. No need to be bitter about it. Just be thankful you didn’t go all out buying stuff for a blog house party. lol
By Sexione
August 6, 2007 9:46 AM | Link to this
Heeyyy Jake do it at a later time? And expect different results? What’s it called when you do the same thing over and over and expect different results? Exactly!!!! I’ll pass, unless it’s the original crew! Thank you for my chocolate covered strawberry, my hands are a little full though, I may need you to feed it to me! lol And I’m with you, I don’t go to anyone for dating/relationship advice. If anybody’s gonna screw me up, let it be me! hehehehe
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 9:49 AM | Link to this
Jake a.k.a ladies man LOL Thanks for the chocolate covered strawberries.. abc stop talkin bout yourself.lol
By Raqi
August 6, 2007 9:50 AM | Link to this
For me my relationship go-to person (therapist) was my mother before she passed. Whether I asked for it or not she was there to provide me with her opinion and/or advice as she saw fit. She told me things I didn’t want to hear as well as encouraged me when she felt it was needed. She was also there to lend a shoulder to cry on when tears came flowing.
Now that she is gone I confide in my friend Doc whom I met during the time that my mother was ill. It was only after her death that Doc and I became really good friends. Doc has been with her husband for 20 years, married 16 of those years with a brief one year separation after the 5th year. From what I have witnessed the past 4 years their relationship seems to be pretty strong. She told me about a lot mistakes that she made at the beginning of their marriage and how she learned from them. Although no two relationships are the same learning of her experiences has helped me probably more than she realizes.
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this
on topics Have you ever received excellent relationship advice from (gasp!) a book, the radio or a TV show? Sassy,Single&Satisfied By: Michelle McKinney Hammond
By Sexione
August 6, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this
MsU HAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Some stuff ain’t even worth responding to! Gurl, you funny!
By Cinderella
August 6, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this
@Cemeeli my little boy had strep over the weekend also…bless his little heart he was so miserable!
@Sexione-I think it’s alot easier for people to talk smack and tell tall tales when you dont know who they are. Once you meet they wont feel as confident swapping tales. YaknowwhatImean?
By Tazzee
August 6, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this
Morning folks!
It’s not even 10am on the east coast and y’all are talking about the blog must be dead, LOL! On a Monday morning at that.
Sorry the get together didn’t go as planned. But give folks a break. Perhaps something better came up.
On-topic - my relationship guru is married. She swears she’s training me to be a wife. Whenever I have a relationship dilemma, I call her and usually my first words are ‘please tell me again why this is worth it’. I usually know what she’s going to say but I have to hear it in those moments when I’m on edge. Her first words are usually - ‘now before you delete his number out of your phone…’and she always ends her sage advice with ‘if you want to be in a relatinoship’
I truly treasure her advice and she knows that if I ever get married and have a wedding - she will be standing right beside me. She deserves it after all her hard work.
Because I have to see that someone is living the advice that their giving - I usually don’t pay attention to advice from folks on TV, etc.
Have a great Monday folks - and let the no-shows have a break. Those of you that went had fun, and that’s all that matters.
By Lurker
August 6, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this
Slim So what was your excuse, I mean reason for not going? Since you seem to be a supporter of the blog. And to be honest, no one sounds bitter to me, they’re just telling it like it is. Why would so many people act liek they want it to happen, then fade to black when the time comes? Just seems immature to me (not talking about the folks that had other plans).
By Je t'hommes
August 6, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this
Mornin peeps
I find that milk chocolate melts very easy in 95 degree weather so me and my 6mth old was out the house by 8am and back by 12. By 5 the heat level was set to hell so I was not about to come out. Wanted to, but…. Not delusional, I do know yall not talkin bout me… I jus wanted to say why I wasn’t there…
Anyhoo: I usually don’t ask anyone they’re opinion about relationships cause Ima do what I want anyway. And since I feel that way, I’m the last person on God’s green earth that will advise anyone. People don’t listen (especially the ones that need to)!
By Sexione
August 6, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this
Cinderella exactly! But when you (not you personally) say it and then hide behind the screen folks still know….it’s all just toilet mouth. Hey, it is what it is!!! lmsao
Cemeeli hope you’re feeling better!!!
By Cemeeli
August 6, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this
@Cinderella It was a HOT MESS dealing with that this weekend. I did attend service yesturday which made me feel better. Is your son still taking his antibiotics? I have 6 more days to finish.
By Jake
August 6, 2007 10:06 AM | Link to this
MsU I do keep me some Couvoisier…LOL thanks for compliment, but as stated at prior times; its all natural, smooth will never go out of style, I like to think I bring cool breeze with me when I enter a room…hehehe.
For those who couldn’t make it, it really was cool, no bitterness, really just busting ya’ll chops a bit.
Hey Moses come back down from the mountaintop, oh my bad, thats abc up there…lol
By Staceye
August 6, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this
Shout outs to my WLB whom I had the pleasure of meeting on Saturday…* Sexione & Ms. U* and I can not forget my Blogville Boos Jake & For Real Smooches! For Real, when is my therapy appointment? Do you still want to write my adventures? I had fun with you guys….3 margaritas made it even better.
By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"
August 6, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this
Good morning All
Sexione now you see why the party i planned didnt o over well due to people….calling at the last minute saying they werent going to show…so if you would please stop saying this about the party i was planning…cause your comments seem to be coming right at me…and that my dear is not fair…now on the other hand i told everyone i had to take my son back to South Ga. on sat. that is a 6 hour drive….while i was on my way to the party….i got stuck in traffic…then had my car hit..not once but twice
Now you can clearly see…but please stop trashing my early attempt at a get together…..thanks (Smile)
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this
Sexi1 I know girl..I’m all over the place.lol
By Bella
August 6, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this
Good morning, everyone!
For those who are bored, my mama always said, “only boring people are bored.”
@ Tazzee: I love it! …”if you want to be in a relationship.”
By SlimOne
August 6, 2007 10:15 AM | Link to this
Lurker Well first off, i never said i was going. I thought about it but then stated i forgot about a prior engagment….Ladies night out at 300 Atlanta. Folks saying they were coming and didn’t show up isn’t mature, I agree. But i also think some folks like the anonymity part of the blog. If they aren’t bitter, I’m cool with that. I would apologize for assuming. Either way glad the ones that did show had fun. Its not that serious to me.
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 10:19 AM | Link to this
Staceye Hey girl, you know you had me cracking up.lol. Forreal somewhere with a headache after he empty the fridge of said beverage.lol Jake lol. you know i had to throw that in there.
By Tazzee
August 6, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this
Bella it’s funny because she and I go back and forth about it because there used to be a point in the advice giving when I would stop her and say ‘I don’t even want to be in a relationship bad enough for all that’ - so now she knows to just throw it in there.
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this
Jake you are crazy!!! you know what i’m talkin bout.lol I’m bout to have another outburst.
By Cinderella
August 6, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this
@Cemeeli- after about 1 full day of taking the antibiotics he was feeling alot better. But yes he’s still taking them. Make sure you change out your toothbrush or you’ll keep infecting yourself.
By Sexione
August 6, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this
GAman not trashing you, you know what comes next……..it is what it is!! lol But trust, if it was directed at you, I would have said that a long time ago. Just for the record, I would have said it no matter who had made the comment. Oh and another one for the record, you should have shared that info with us as a follow up after your initial announcement, that way, everyone would have been clued in. Such is life……..anywhoo…
Jake yeh, we just busting a few chops………HAHAHAHAHA I love that……….Moses…that was good!!! lol
What up Staceye!!!
MsU yeah, me too……bout to head out though. lol
By Ladylike
August 6, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this
Good Morning Blog Family
My best advice lately has come from a radio host (gasp) is right, because this person has been so honest that sometimes it hurts. But it has all been true, the advice and given and criticisim made, all I could was I can’t believe he said that, WTF? hahaha, LOL
Hey, MsU, Sexione, Tazzee, and all the rest of the WLB
As for the no-show, I was out of town, when the living die, I gotta go, it is what it is. And maybe some people just want to stay anonymous, give them a breat you guys.
By Staceye
August 6, 2007 10:26 AM | Link to this
Just a question…I was talking to my homegirl and she asked me if I still believed in love. My answer was no. I simply feel real love does not exist. There is always that Upgrade Mentality. One or both get bored and too comfortable with each other and begin to look else where because it seems that the single people seem to be happier. So they venture out to do their own thing only to find what they saw was merely a mirage. But now it is too late to go back and the paradise you already had. Some one else has come along and dusted it off and made it shiny and new again. And you are left with that hand full of dirt from the dessert that you thought was oasis. I find it hard to trust…therefore I find it impossible to love. I am always looking at you and thinking when…not if…yu are going to hurt me. I prepare myself like a basketball player bracing him/herself for a charge as the oppent drives to the basket. Sometimes I still fall backwards…but slowly I manage to stand again. Shakey…but still strong. But now I have bruises that I must cover because I do not appear weak or broken. Signs of a warrior…or signs of a coward…those who build a fort around their heart to keep others out? I was told to love and to hurt is how you know you are alive. I say if I am breathing…then I am alive. You tell me.
By Raqi
August 6, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this
LOL Tazzee I have stood in the mirror and asked myself that question a time or two. But then some days something as simple as a wink on the way out the door makes it all worth it.
By Cemeeli
August 6, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this
@Cinderella Yes i started feel like i could open speak clearly about Sat. night/early morning. Sunday i was well but i can still see the red and patches on the back of my throat so I know what that means. Oh- I did change my t-brush this morning. Maybe even get an extra can of lysol to spray everywhere..I never want to meet STREP another day in my life. My son had it last year Christmas day.
By Staceye
August 6, 2007 10:35 AM | Link to this
Jake you ok love? You know Red Stripe thanks you for huge patronage of their product. You have been given a free pass to use the term Irie as much as you want and no one will harp on you for being an American! LOL ForReal just as I told you about my height requirement…I must have had a magnet for the lil’ dudes that night because I got hit on at a club by like 4 of them. But the irony of the night was….I got approached by a dude who was 7’1…that more than made up for it. That was strange even for me.
By abc
August 6, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this
Staceye, “Better to suffer open rebuke than hidden love.” You’ll still believe in love when the right one comes along.
To me, the Moses stories are kind of a crackup. The Jews had to be the most complaining and fickle people of all time, constantly berating Moses about taking them out of Egypt and into the desert, no amount of Godly miracles would appease them for long; then they finally get to the promised land, and Moses doesn’t get to finish the trip on account of being afraid of giants. Crazy!
By Lurker
August 6, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this
As I said earlier, I have lurked off and on for a while (what can I say, I like reading AJC), and I have to say one thing that just came to me regarding GAmans comment to Sexione……..calling at the last minute saying they werent going to show First off, I don’t ever remember you setting a date, or even a tentative date. I do remember you telling everyone (whenever they asked)that you were waiting for the weather to get warmer, but never a month, or date, or approximate date. Now not that I care, but how can people be backing out at the last minute when a date ws never set? Sounds kinda fishy to me………….but again, it’s not like I care…..just thought I’d point out the obvious. Have a great day all.
By T-Mango
August 6, 2007 10:44 AM | Link to this
Isn’t the purpose of a public blog to be anonymous and voice your opinion(good or bad)? The MIA blog is more personal than most other blogs because some of the crew has been blogging together for a long time. So, y’all know each other so to speak…there isn’t anything wrong with that-
Since personal information has been exchanged now (photos, MySpace pages, etc.)let those that met on the blog connect offline and those who just want to blog (without the social connection) blog.
I think the blog may have been affected when too much of the personal was brought into the mix. Sometimes people just want a place where they can escape for a little while and/or be heard without any attachments.
I was not present on Saturday either. That doesn’t make me or anyone else that did not come a “faker.” Folks did not attend for their own reasons. Besides, we’re grown people and we do what we choose to do when we want to do it.
Glad everyone that did attend had a good time…
By Tazzee
August 6, 2007 10:47 AM | Link to this
Staceye - wow, that was deep. Honestly, I still believe in true love. But I haven’t been hurt like you have, so I can understand your hesitation. I am slow to let people in, simply because when I let someone in they have that ability to cut me deep. But when I let someone in, man or woman, they are in there for life. For me, once a person gets past my personal intuition and displays a certain amount of consistency then I stop trying to trust the person and I trust God. What I mean by that is, I truly believe God will show me what I need to allow that person a deeper place in my heart. And He’s done that time and time again.
To answer your question - I believe you are indeed living. But are living life to the fullest? I can only assume that you are guarded with new female friends as well. You could be missing out on some awesome relationships with wonderful people. But if being guarded is what gives you peace of mind - then go with it.
If you can go to bed each night with a feeling of true joy - then, IMO, you are living life to the fullest.
By Cemeeli
August 6, 2007 10:51 AM | Link to this
@Staceye you said a mouthful. I always say Live, Laugh and Love. It may not happen in that order but life’s to short to not allow yourself to trust and fall. I am not a relationship expert i can say that i have learned and there’s a purpose for love and hurt. Makes us who we are. But then you should protect your heart also. There is absolutely nothing wrong with falling getting up and try for the win again.
Signs of a Warrior.
By SlimOne
August 6, 2007 10:59 AM | Link to this
T-Mango I agree with your 10:44. I thought the faker comment carried a bitterness to it IMO. I think when we get crazy on the blog and laugh it up, folks entertain the idea of transferring that fun into real life. However, when the reality sets in of the exposure, folks back out. As stated previously it is what it is.
By Raqi
August 6, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this
Staceye In my opinion you have several things going here. First it seems that you have some issues and by that I mean trust issues, which you clearly stated. That is something you have to overcome for yourself. No matter how great a person is you may meet until you resolve your issue then the situation is not going to change.
You stated that single people “seem” to be happier. That is an assumption and does not stand true for everyone. It is up to each individual single or coupled to maintain their own happiness. If you are looking for someone else to do it for you then you have another issue there. As Bella stated earlier boring people get bored.
As for finding out it was all a mirage, hey whose fault is that? We have all made those mistakes. Everything that looks good to you is not always good for you.
(LOL I sound like my mother now. That’s my bittersweet. A little “in your face” but laced with much “only because I care”.)
By IslandGirl
August 6, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this
Morning Errrybody
I apologize for not showing up on Saturday….ended up not getting off of work on time
Hope everyone had a great time meeting. Hopefully there will be another opportunity.
I’m lurking today. Will get in the conversation later.
By melo
August 6, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this
@T-Mango.^^5Sometimes people just want a place where they can escape for a little while and/or be heard without any attachments
Could’nt have said it better myself!!
@Tazzee been reading ur fascinating blog,esp the 2005 stuff…am understanding u somewhat, in terms of ur perspectives.Touching!! Will be in Houston,Nov 16-18.I will email u, hopefully u we may meet. Have Great day my anonymous blogmates.
By T-Mango
August 6, 2007 11:13 AM | Link to this
Hey Slim I feel you on that…it is what it is. I’ll connect with you (and a few others) offline later though:-)
I’m taking a blog break. Return date= unknown In the words of Truth…exit stage left. Poof.
By The Truth
August 6, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this
Morning bloggers.
Dam Staceye, you brought me out of lurksville with that last post. Its way to early on a monday morning to get that deep. LOL You should repost it after lunch so folks can digest it. I just wanted you to know that pain is a part of the human experience. There’s no way around that. No need in covering your heart. Just don’t put it out there for EVERYONE to step on. The real strength is to be able to give your heart because you know you can recover if things go south. I’m not strong enough to ward off all the things that may come my way but I’m strong enough to recover from them. LOL Pick your spots and give your heart where you feel it will be appreciated. Good luck and hope for someone that apprecaites what you are.
Sexi1 chill the fugg out. The gathering wasn’t mandatory was it? You are a bitter azz chick that needs to sit the fug down and think about why nobobdy wants you. Just because the MLB did a little internet flirting with you doesn’t mean they want to sponsor you for an extended time. Its just casual talk and passing around different thoughts. I guess its getting harder to sell that used up azz at like new prices. BTW, I’ll stay on today so you can come back with some corny azzed shyt.
Folks, I’m trying to stay off but some of this shyt just has to be responded to.
Wattup MLB? Hello LADIES of the WLB.
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this
Dang!! are we sill talking bout the same thing. I mean no one was force to come out and no one was force to say they would. For the ones who couldn’t make it and wanted to it’s all good. For the ones who said they would come and just didn’t show up no love lost baby.Slim if i can recall you stated that you was pending because you didn’t want to use a half of tank of gas and no one show up. well maybe we felt the same you dig.
I have no problem with the ones who wanted to stay Anonymous that their choice. We all have the right to voice our opinion and hey i say what i wanna like it or not i could care less. We all adult or at least i thought.. Some people come on here and bash other people like they got their ish together but is fake as all outdoor.WTH. Like i said earilier i’m not singling nobody out they doing it to their self. Ceemeli get well girly!!
By Cemeeli
August 6, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this
Heeyy Truth coming out of Lurksville and stuff. How’s the biz going? I hope all is well with you and yours.
By Ladylike
August 6, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this
Okay I’ve blogging for a while and some of you guys are getting too deep. It’s a blog we don’t have to meet in person but I’m sure we see each other in passing without knowing who is who. And plus everybody can’t handle knowing each other on a personal level, maturity level that is.
Truth why you being so mean, don’t be so mean, LOL.
By Staceye
August 6, 2007 11:28 AM | Link to this
Wow Truth came out for me. Thanks! Thank you Raqi for the in your face…laced with love. Thanks to ABC, Tazzee and Cemeeli as well. I guess one of these days my heart will be able to travel the road…but as of now…I am like Omarion…I’ve got an ice box where my heart used to be!!!
By SlimOne
August 6, 2007 11:29 AM | Link to this
I’ve said all i had to say regarding the No Shows. Looks like we have some spice in here though.
Truth You’re a trip. LOL!
By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"
August 6, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this
In the words of T-Mango and Truth I am taking a break myself this is/has gotten to crazy….GaMan is out POOF
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this
Staceye at all cost guard your heart, you have some good/bad people out there and at times you neva know what you gonna get.. Some are fortunate to find someone to love, trust & spend the rest of their days with and some are not. But who would have ever known especially after the way you work the bar saturday.lol
By melo
August 6, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this
people come on here and bash other people like they got their ish together but is fake as all outdoor And some people are so invested in the blog and the personalities, like they’re paid to do it…lol People..have a lyfe..But i know this is good for ajc bizness and traffic.Keeps the ad $$$ coming.
By Tazzee
August 6, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this
Hey melo! Actually I’m going to be in ATL that weekend for the Bucs game.
Dang Truth that was harsh. note to self, stay out of Truth’s way…
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this
I’m not stun you Melo !!LOL
By IslandGirl
August 6, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this
Truth…dayum…take it easy.
Sexi and MsU it is understandable why you guys are irritated about the outcome- especially since you were looking forward to meeting everyone. I’m glad you guys had a great time irregardless.
By Jake
August 6, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this
T-Mango/Any other people offended
When did everybody get so sensitive? I was just cuttin up myself, if you couldn’t or preferred not to show, so be it. I think its funny that this battle is happening, its evidence that through these computer screens, human connections still happen.
Truth You come back with a bang don’t you.
Staceye Hey lady, you turned my smile upside down. Its not a question of if love exist, it does, you just have not received it in the way that you need it or should have gotten it. We all probably have been and have hurt people, the real deal is that life has to be lived and isn’t always beautiful, sometimes it is a beautiful struggle. You are not a warrior or a coward, you are just human, but treat love like double dutch, rock on the side until it is your turn, but when you get a chance, jump in and stay as long as possible. Please put a smile on that face sweetie.
By Staceye
August 6, 2007 11:55 AM | Link to this
Ms.U you know I loves my free drinks. So of course I will talk and flirt with strangers! LMAO! I am very friendly to people, male and female. Somethimes thatis my downfall. I talk to everyone. I used to have conversations with the homeless people on the street sometimes. I would just ask their stories and things like that. And so whenever I saw them again I would say hello and they said it made them feel good to be treated like a person. I actually had a boyfriend before that was not to happy about my friendliness. He used get all sacarstic on me and call me Casper the Friendly Ghost. Is it a bad thing to be friendly?
By Ladylike
August 6, 2007 11:56 AM | Link to this
Hey I like blogging even if I don’t know you guys personally, where yall going, don’t leave, don’t leave. Ohh no! See I get invested emotionally in the blog then you guys break my heart, what I’m gone do, don’t check out, I have a darn good time here during the day.
By Staceye
August 6, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this
Wow Jake…that is something I have never heard, the double dutch metaphor. I guess I will be rocking on the side and watching everyone else jump in.
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
August 6, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this
Jake I am co-signing with you. I cant believe there is a blog war going on!! For those that met, its all good (wish I could have been of them) and for those that chose/choose not to, that’s all good too. Can we please get back to havin fun and bloggin?!?!?!
Cant we all just get along?
Truth hey there…comin in swingin aintcha bruh??
By T-Mango
August 6, 2007 12:06 PM | Link to this
No battle here. It was a response to the statement that was made. So, no need to put my name on another post about that topic Jake…
Hey Truth
Y’all be easy-
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 12:06 PM | Link to this
Hey Island girl Mo have you heard from LadyJ?
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this
SJ i thought about you saturday when i went to Wally world.
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 12:11 PM | Link to this
hey Ladylike
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
August 6, 2007 12:18 PM | Link to this
MsU You know I was thinkin about Lady J, but no I havent heard from her. I have been wondering how she’s doin though…
By IslandGirl
August 6, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this
Ms.U No, I’ve not heard from her. Is everything OK?
By Gorilla O aka "Tha Code Cracka"
August 6, 2007 12:24 PM | Link to this
Good Afternoon Er’body. Whats up SexiOne, MsU, SlimOne, Staceye, Truth, Travis, etc my bad about saturday, something came up. i hope er’body that showed up had a good time though. on topic, im that person that people come to for advice. i dont know if i just give that good of advice or they know if they need someone to talk to or just listen, then im there for them. and its crazy because i dont have anyone that i can confide in when it comes to a relationship, or anything else. and im sure they’re a few people i could go to, but i tend to keep things in and deal with it on my own. main reason is because ive talked to people in the past and they either leaked some info, or they found some way to use what i said against me. so i havent found someone that i trust enough to tell all my business to.
By Jake
August 6, 2007 12:26 PM | Link to this
T-Mango
My bad sweets, I didn’t want to single you out, just saw your comments. The deer is on left, you have the rifle pointed at me…please turn that thing the other way…LOL
Hey Mo
By Dr. Kym-Relationship Expert
August 6, 2007 12:35 PM | Link to this
Good Afternoon,
The people I go to for advice regarding relationships…hmmm depends on what I need. If I need tell it like it is..my big sister…if I need a shoulder to cry on(vent)..I have a gal pal(LadyBug) for that…if I need the flip side of me(practical)…I have a gal pal(Ms. L) for that. Now if I need someone to give me a combo of all plus a life lesson then my cousin is the answer. Each of them provides their own unique brand of support and advice. * I Dont always listen* but even when I dont they rarely say I told you so.
Tazzee All I can say is Steeler Nation Baby!!!!
By SlimOne
August 6, 2007 12:40 PM | Link to this
Slim peaking head in around the corner.
Has it cooled of in here yet?
By SeanJohnson3000
August 6, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this
@ MsU..i was there saturday..and sunday..lol
By SeanJohnson3000
August 6, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this
@ MsU..i was there saturday..and sunday..lol
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this
I know she said she was going to cheerleader camp for a week, but that’s was about three weeks ago. i know it’ not like her to not blog.
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 1:02 PM | Link to this
Hey* Gorilla O* SJ do you recall what time on saturday??lol
By Ladylike
August 6, 2007 1:03 PM | Link to this
Hey MsU girl when they hit me with this boycott the blog mess this morning I got a little emotional, LOL, I’m just playin, haha.
I will go to my Big Sis for advice, but not about men though, other stuff.
I must the radio host was really good, letting me know some general things that men are thinking and what women (a christian woman) needs to consider. It has been a uniques perspective and I really enjoy their POV.
By Tazzee
August 6, 2007 1:05 PM | Link to this
Dr. Kym Your boys looked good yesterday. My nephew was rooting for the Saints and since I can’t root for a division rival, I had a good time giving him a hard time about the game.
By Tazzee
August 6, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this
To piggyback on Dr. Kym’s post, I do have other folks I go to depending on what I want. If I want to male bash I have friend to happily assist me and if I just don’t want to think about him at all - I have another friend that will help me do just that.
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
August 6, 2007 1:10 PM | Link to this
On topic before I skip out to lunch
I have a cousin (female) that I confide in along with my best friend (male). That way I have a perspective outside of my own from both sides. Also my cousin is a single mom so she gives me great advice now that I am single again and a mom this time.
By SeanJohnson3000
August 6, 2007 1:16 PM | Link to this
@ MsU…11ish…had my 2.0 with me…so we hit the Camp Creek Marketplace and two walmarts…he was trying to pick up little girls and i was the set up man/wing man…i had to try to occupy the mothers
By Gorilla O aka "Tha Code Cracka"
August 6, 2007 1:23 PM | Link to this
@ Tazzee if I just don’t want to think about him at all - I have another friend that will help me do just that….you wouldnt happen to be talking about Mary now would you? just asking because i know of someone named mary that can help you forget about er’thang for a couple of hours.
By MsUnderstood aka MsU
August 6, 2007 1:33 PM | Link to this
SJ dang i miss you. I was there around three.lol I would be a giveaway if you did see me especially if my daughter is with me, she speaks to everybody who comes in eye view of her. If you don’t speak back she will keep on speaking till you do..
By The Truth
August 6, 2007 1:35 PM | Link to this
Hi ev1. Its good to hear from you folks. For those that asked, I had a productive week last week and am looking forward to a turnaround. I must admit that I gotta put on my training spikes because this thing is bigger than I thought. Oh well, pads and helmet, here I come. After I come thru this one( and I will come thru it) I will be changing my name to Super Truth. LOL I’ve always loved a challenge and this is just another one. Business is the 2nd funnest thing in the world, behind a great piece of azz. LOL
T-Mango I 100% co-sign your point: “Sometimes people just want a place where they can escape for a little while and/or be heard without any attachments”. Plus alot of times you could get a helluva laugh in here.
Blogsville: I must apologize for my part in this thing. I think my photo request amped up the meeting gasses and caused some of the bad feelings. Personally I knew and have said for some time I wasn’t going if they had one. Y’all are cool as hellz for bloggers but thats as far as it goes.
Dr Kym and Tazz I wanna come on here and woop woop about the team I love but I can’t. I’m a Raider fan ( The Truth buries his head in his hands. There’s always 2010). LOL
Where’s Demi, Blat, Que, For Real, LL, Dushawn? Do I need to call an emergency meeting? LOL
The Truth blows a soft kiss to Kinder, wherever she is. I still want my pic. LMAO
By For Real
August 6, 2007 1:43 PM | Link to this
For Real talking to the person he trust the most…
For Real: Ah man can I talk to you?
Batman: Talk.. about what?
For Real: Well I’m just a little confused about something.
Batman: Huh.. my bad dawg I wouldn’t even listening. You sound like you were starting to whine.
For Real: Man I ain’t whinning. I was just tryin to talk you
Batman: Fugg that talk ish here drank some this bat-juice and you will feel better and stop ackin like a lil itch.
For Real: Man fugg you. Give me that and you better watch your mouth.
Batman: Oh now you go some ballz???
For Real: Air and opportunity m/f
For Real and Batman now fighting like Jim Carey in Me, Myself and Irene.
For Real: Pow!! That’s for not coming to the meet & greet. *
Batman: Ok, ok, you want to fight dirt huh. Here take that. Bam!!! I told you You saw the Bat-signal…
For Real: Ohhhh, why you can’t fight me straight up. Always using you utility belt.
By For Real
August 6, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this
For Real talking to the person he trust the most…
For Real: Ah man can I talk to you?
Batman: Talk.. about what?
For Real: Well I’m just a little confused about something.
Batman: Huh.. my bad dawg I wouldn’t even listening. You sound like you were starting to whine.
For Real: Man I ain’t whinning. I was just tryin to talk you
Batman: Fugg that talk ish here drank some this bat-juice and you will feel better and stop ackin like a lil itch.
For Real: Man fugg you. Give me that and you better watch your mouth.
Batman: Oh now you go some ballz???
For Real: Air and opportunity m/f
For Real and Batman now fighting like Jim Carey in Me, Myself and Irene.
For Real: Pow!! That’s for not coming to the meet & greet. *
Batman: Ok, ok, you want to fight dirt huh. Here take that. Bam!!! You saw the Bat-signal…
For Real: Ohhhh, why you can’t fight me straight up. Always using you utility belt.
By Tazzee
August 6, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this
Gorilla LOL, naw I this is a person. We will just hang out and not talk about men at all. Also she’s the only friend that I trust enough to really drink around.
By Cemeeli
August 6, 2007 2:00 PM | Link to this
Super Truth Can I speak that new name right now? I like that…has a ring.
I am glad to hear all is going accordingly for your business. Always stay ready for the valley exp. because they are just that…experiences.
By SlimOne
August 6, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this
For Real I see you’re still up to your skit antics. LMAO!
By Page1908
August 6, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this
LOL @ no one showing up for the blog meet-n-greet. I’m not sure which of you used to blog last year around this time, but I believe the same thing happened before when someone tried to set up a blog meet-n-greet. I guess it is true what someone mentioned earlier that some people do not want to meet others in person because it may somehow blow a cover on their “blog personality”. Nothing wrong with wanting to remain anonymous.
Hey SJ and QC
By Tazzee
August 6, 2007 2:20 PM | Link to this
Yeah Super Truth the blog fallout is all your fault! If you don’t mind, like Cemeeli, I’m going to go ahead and start calling you that. speak those things…
By SlimOne
August 6, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this
I feel like the blog went through a break up. Did i miss the We need to talk post?
Slim now reminincing on the times we’ve shared in blogsville singing Its So Hard to Say Good-bye, to Yesterday
By melo
August 6, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this
http://www.cnn.com/2007/LIVING/personal/08/06/interracial.dating.ap/index.html
Maybe the answer to some women woes.You just have to deal with the white man size issues!
By Ladylike
August 6, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this
T-Mango has a point but the unfortunately some of us actually do know others on this blog but choose to remain anonymous. And eventhough I have meet some people in person I never reveal myself. My close friends don’t even know who I am, it takes the fun out of it.
Hey Page1908
By melo
August 6, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this
I hear some WLBs went to the meet and greet without their knickers on,hence the disappointment. They really feel dissed…lol
Its a hot and dry summer, my commiserations!
By SeanJohnson3000
August 6, 2007 2:41 PM | Link to this
Sup AKA8091
By Ladylike
August 6, 2007 2:43 PM | Link to this
I thought it odd that you ask for pics anyway Truth, then what was even more interesting was people started sending them to you. Yeah I think you did bring about the idea of a meet-n-greet but like Page said it didn’t go very well before, I guess this time was the same.
By SlimOne
August 6, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this
It’s Official
There will be no more furthur attempts for a Blog Meet-n-Greet. It hasn’t worked in the past and thats probably indicitive of how it’ll be in the future.
Unless we’re meeting up for some stip Uno or Naked Twister, all bets are off.
By Page1908
August 6, 2007 2:49 PM | Link to this
Hey *Ladylike
LOL SJ, Dude, Imma get you!
Melo I read that article today also. As for me, I already date “out”. I don’t see anything wrong with it.
By Page1908
August 6, 2007 2:55 PM | Link to this
Yeah, that’s true Lady. People tried to do it last year, but I guess it didn’t work then either. I guess people just are curious to see pics, but may not want to meet in person. Personally, I am fine with pics or meeting in person, but I guess everyone has their preference. Also, a few old heads actually know each other and are even friends, so I suppose people are meeting on their own terms.
By Staceye
August 6, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this
Melo my friends call me Miss United Nations. I have dateed dang near every race on this planet. I see nothing worng with it. My family is all mixed up anyway…so it is normal to me. The saddest part about it is…the ones who treated me best were not Black…oh by the way I am Black! LOL But when I met these guys there were ready for relationship and marriage and I was not so that was my bad. Maybe that is why I am having such a hard time win love now. Man..I’m going back to NY and import me a man to ATL! LOL
By melo
August 6, 2007 3:02 PM | Link to this
@Slim,Unless we’re meeting up for some stip Uno or Naked Twister Yeah,Slim, for something freaky like that, i’m in. All we need is for u to come to the meet and greet, u dont have to say ur name and next thing, its on and popping.Password to the door..take it off Count me in. Grown folks cant waste their time on some stupid meet and greet to have drinks(somebody was faking,i know who wanted it bad!).Driving 20 miles for a drink with strangers……shaking my head!!
By Iodrome
August 6, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this
Wow yall sound so mad about the meet and greet, like you expected to find something? tsk tsk Now thats rich! Maybe they did show took one look at some of you, realizied who the Fakes really were and desided not to waste there time.
By melo
August 6, 2007 3:14 PM | Link to this
@Staceye,you right.NY is better than Atl as far as meeting open minded people is concerned.Southern folk are homophobic(both white and black) and the men in the A are fake,and 1/2 have less levels of testestorone, so thats a headache for a lady ready to settle with a real man. But work on yourself as well. It works both ways.
By SeanJohnson3000
August 6, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this
@ Staceye…what made u move to Atlanta, Georgia…?
By Lady Dark w/Dimples
August 6, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this
Hey Everybody!!
Page Thanks so much for picking me up and going to dinner when I was in Scottsdale. I meant to send you this earlier but I was remiss. It was really good meeting you! I’ll be back in October so let’s do it again.
On topic My bestfriend is my go to person because I know that she’ll be honest and won’t judge me.
By SlimOne
August 6, 2007 3:28 PM | Link to this
melo I like the password….Take it off LOL! But if i come it wouldn’t take long to figure out who i am. It’s not like i call myself SlimOne just for the idea of being slim.
(knock knock)
Doorman: what’s the password?
Slim: take it off
In walks a 350lb chick…or at least it looks like a chick
Doorman: oh hellz naw! Code Red Code Red….We have an imposter!
SlimFatONe, now passed the fugg out. Her heart couldnt take all the excitement
By DuShawn
August 6, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this
This blog used to be a forum that invoked intelligent discussion and often heated debates about the topic de jour. I found it to be informative, entertaining and a great way to make the day go by faster. Over the past several months, I’ve noticed a lot of the regulars posting less and less. The exchange of comments has deteriorated to mostly irrelevant, insignificant, juvenile drivel. I often lurk hoping somebody would say something of substance. I want to participate, but after reading such childish banter, I can’t relate and have nothing to contribute. Don’t get me wrong. I enjoy a little facetiousness. Sometimes the jokes and skits bring much needed comic relief to stressed filled days. However, I miss the days when I used to come to this blog and get so involved exchanging ideas and view points that it would be 5:00pm before I realized it. Now I read you all are off on some tangent about the disappointing turn out at the blog meet and greet………….. Typical. The rap group Pharcyde had a song called I Gotta Say Something That Means Something. Some of you should adhere to that mantra.
By IslandGirl
August 6, 2007 3:35 PM | Link to this
@Staceye…I appreciated your openess about dating outside your race. A very good friend made the decision to no longer date black men about a year ago. I’m not sure if that really improved things (regarding dating, etc).
I feel you about meeting guys in NY, but don’t forget Baltimore. The guys in that area are cool too.
By Tazzee
August 6, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this
Good post Dushawn I’ve been blogging since March 2004 (along with QC and WiseDiva) and this spot has gone through it’s cycles. However, I would say this - if you want stimulating conversation - offer up some. Do you go to anyone for relationship advice? Does anyone come to you?
In my time blogging, I have never let the comments of others deter my purpose for being here. When the email addresses were linked, there were many times when I would messages from lurkers about a comment I made. I remember one such email came when I was thinking of letting go of MIA - it was that email that let me know that my insight may be valuable, even if no one comments.
Those that have jumped ship will return, and if not - there’s some lurkers out there waiting for such a time as this when they can comment without being drowned out by all the ‘extra’.
By SlimOne
August 6, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this
DuShawn Your opinions are welcomed. So what do you suggest we get into an intellectual discussion about that we haven’t discussed in detail already. I’m open to discuss, just need something to say something about. :-)
By Mo (now known as Moeisha)
August 6, 2007 3:42 PM | Link to this
DuShawn Wow…after that last post I am starting to feel like SlimOne, is the blog breaking up? While I agree a few regulars have dropped off, I attributed that to the season, it being summer and time for vacations and all. Those taking time off for the kids (that have them) leaving more days open than the rest of the year for consistency with blogging. Now maybe I am being naive but that is jmho. I do think we could use some really enlightening topics again, those that actually were what initiated the MLB and WLB respectively.
We shall see, I wont give up on the residents of Blogsville…
By Staceye
August 6, 2007 3:54 PM | Link to this
SJ3000 I wanted a different scenery. I have traveled to a lot of places. My forst choice was Miami…but I do not do hurricanes. So Next on my list was Atlanta. Will I stay here…doubt it. Island Girl I have dated one guy from Baltimore. He is really cool. In fact we are still cool till this day. So I guess you are right. I of course will still date my brothas…but I just can’t see how some women won’t expand their horizons and see what others have to offer. Should I just wait around for a good Black man or just get a good man period? I choose the latter.
By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"
August 6, 2007 3:55 PM | Link to this
Ok…lets see if we can lighten the mood
Movie Preview Bourne Ultimatum
Where do I start Bang from the start of his Movie the action starts….In this the third installment of the Bourne Legacy….Jason is hot on the trail of finding out what really happened to him and even closer to finding out who he really is….This tale takes you on a tour around the globe…and trust me you wont get lost….action,action, and more action
This movie is live and adrenaline pumped….It gets 4 3/4 stars out of 5
It is worth the price of Admission
By SlimOne
August 6, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this
Mo Like you i’m not giving up totally. I’ve even tried to brainstorm on some new issues…but i guess it’s hard to sit down and come up with something not dissected into a million pieces already.
By kimmie
August 6, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this
DuShawn I agree!! There is also just a general air of nastiness, I feel, especially to “outsiders” that have not been blogging long. Others don’t really feel welcome.
The bravado from the MLB is cute sometimes, but it gets old. And a lot of what is said is totally blown out of proportion or taken way too literally. Once, I was just trying to build up my blog sisters and give them props by saying I felt they could have any man they wanted. Of course, I have more than an ounce of good old-fashioned common sense and I did not mean it LITERALLY! Of course, many took it that way! I just threw up my hands!
Remember people, if we had all the answers to dating and relationships, we would not find this blog or anything like it even remotely entertaining or informative! When someone puts an experience out here on this blog or asks for an opinion, by all means BE REAL, but save the nastiness!
And yes, I am one that prefers to enjoy the blog INCOGNITO, but to each his/her own. I have great friends I can SEE, but I don’t knock those that would like to see who they are blogging with.
Can we all just get along? Words made famous by Rodney King
By Tazzee
August 6, 2007 4:00 PM | Link to this
Staceye I agree you should just get a good man period. However, for me - I am only attracted to Black men. If I am ever attracted to someone of another ethnicity, I wouldn’t deny it. But there is just something about the brothers that I can’t go anywhere else, yet.
By NCGirlfromATL
August 6, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this
Afternoon all! Been in court all day trying to keep mugs outta jail!
This is a funny topic to me, b/c I’m typically the one who is the friend people come to. I tend to be pretty private w/ my relationships, so I don’t really tell my friends a lot of what is going on. But, if I had to pick a friend, one who will tell me what I need to hear (not what I want to hear) and do it w/o judgment or an “I told you so” it would have to be my best friend, Bec. She has seen me at my worst, just as I have seen her at hers. When she needed someone to put their foot in her @zz for doing something stoopid, it was me. But, I told her that I loved her and wanted her to be happy, no matter what she decided to do to resolve her situations. She has done the same for me. Gives it to me straight, no chaser, but with love. LOL! I have other friends who want to be my relationship gurus, but tact isn’t their forte, and I don’t respond well to their sarcasm and judgment at times. I know that they are just trying to help, but sometimes I don’t need advice…I just need an ear. I’m the type of person that usually has already figured out what I plan to do about a particular situation before I tell anyone there’s a problem. So, suggestions aren’t really what I need (although, I will entertain one, if it’s a good one). Often, I just need to get it off my chest, so I can move on. Some of my friends and family don’t get that, and want to fix everything for me. That probably annoys me more than anything. lol! But, I know they mean well.
Heeeeeeey DuShawn!! As one who often engages in the drivel, I offer my apologies. Just like when I have a problem, when I’m stressed, sometimes I just need to laugh and act silly. That’s what the blog does for me. But, I wouldn’t want my silliness to run anyone off, so please forgive me!
By Jake
August 6, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this
Dushawn
A fan of Labcabin I see. That was a great CD, got it in the ride now. As for the lack of seriousness and whatnot, I think it just depends on the topic. If it is one that everyone can relate too and have clear cut opinions, it is easy to slip into the humor. Its cool either way for me.
By For Real
August 6, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this
BRING SOMETHING TO THE TABLE OR STOP WHINNING!!!!!
LIKE BELLA SAID “ONLY BORING PEOPLE ARE BORED”
Melo What up with all the South bashing, man monitoring, and NY is better than the “A”? Let me guess you are not from the South or the ATL. I am from the ATL and it seems to me that we didn’t have the issues you spoke of until all these other folks started moving here. And come on bruh, if NY is sooooo much better why are here?
By IslandGirl
August 6, 2007 4:10 PM | Link to this
@Staceye….I understand what you’re saying. Many times I’ve been tempted to date men of different races, but I’ve just not felt comfortable about doing so. Although, I’ve seen so many polite and good looking white men, I’ve just not muster up the courage.
When it comes to meeting the right person, does it really matter if he is black or white?
By Jake
August 6, 2007 4:10 PM | Link to this
kimmie Great post, however, not entirely true. I can agree with you that sometimes people are answered rudely, but those are individual replies from rude people. It has been some time since you have posted, hope all is well. See, wasn’t that nice…lol
I hope everything is cool with you.
By For Real
August 6, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this
Dushawn I understand what you are saying but everyone blogs for a different reason. Your reason to blog will differ from mines. Does that make you right and me wrong? No. 90% of the topics on this blog do not apply to me, so I can’t relate. So I joke about it.
Slim It’s not just your responsiblity for the liveliness of this Blog. You contribute to the blog each and everyday. So, don’t feel obligated.
By IslandGirl
August 6, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this
@Tazzee…I agree…you can’t give up on the brothers. I love me my black men.
DuShawn…I have to agree with you also. I’ve lurked on this site for over a year now, but only started posting comments for a few months now. I’ve recently stepped back into lurksville because of some of the comments, but it’s all good.
There are many folks that give great posts that are funny and encouraging. They make it worthwhile.
By Staceye
August 6, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this
Tazzee & Island Girl it’s true you can not help who you are attracted to. I wonder though….could it be where you are from? In NY we are so mixed and so full of culture that interracial dating doesn’t even make a splash. It’s so common it’s not realy noticed. But I have been to B-more Island Girl and you guys too are very cultured. For Real I don;t think he was dissing Southern men…however I do feel like they do not understand a NY woman as well as a NY man. We are very complex. A lot of us have to be a certain way because of our enviroment and just how the city gets in you. We may not come off as soft or warm as a Southern girl…but trust me, it’s in us. But you have to be the right man and have the right tools to chip away at the exterior. Since I have been here I have tried to date Southern men and some of them are like dropped-jaw shocked at my boldness and my non-ability to hold my togue. I say what I feel and I am very defensive. But it’s not meant to be mean…it’s just me. But I feel like dudes from my area know that and they are not thrown off for it.
By Ladylike
August 6, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this
Page, Tazzee, DuShawn, MsU.
You guys had me going back and reading some of the old topics. I started blogging around the end of 2006 and beginning of 2006, yeah you’re right it was good back then. Now of course, I’ve changed my name since then, but things change. And I really do miss some the other bloggers too, everybody could express themselves intelligently without all the backlash, you know you had those guys who get “told off” every now & then (including myself), but for the most part we liked each other. It’s not that I never want to meet any blog memebers it’s just Atlanta is smaller than we think, you never know who you are talking too!
By GA.Man AKA "Mr. Entertainment"
August 6, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this
To all folks bashing ATL
maybe we shoud put a new feel to it….how about if we make folks earn the right to be here…Yo shuld have to live in Macon, Warner Robins, or Rome…. once you have shown you can hang with them…then you get a pass to the “A”..lolololol Now i know some folks gona get mad….please look at the lol attached to it…and if you still mad…I just dont care…
By melo
August 6, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this
@For Real,And come on bruh, if NY is sooooo much better why are here Why do u have an inferiority complex?!!NY is better than Atl as far as meeting open minded people is concerned if u wanna quote,do so accurately.
Context is always important. I am here coz on balance..all things considered, i wanna be here at this point in my lyfe. Didnt say i will die here or will be here 4 ever. I like to debate u factually, not emotionally, i aint a lady.
By Ladylike
August 6, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this
Melo yes I read the articles, know of a few blog sites also, it’s cool, I do date many avaiable flavors. But I can’t explain what I love or find endearing about many men of color, and I say of color because a puerto rican man is so sweet.
By DuShawn
August 6, 2007 4:42 PM | Link to this
Jake you would have to be a real hip-hop connoisseur, like myself, to know that CD. I’m impressed. I guess I was venting in my previous post. As many of you are aware, from some of my past comments, I can be as stoopid and as big an azzhole as the next man, but that shyt plays out after a while. For instance, I think that MLB and WLB bullshyt has run its course. It started out as a joke, developed into a fictitious organization (with officers nonetheless) and is now, in my opinion, just foolishness. But I digress, to each his own. I don’t know, maybe it’s me. I’m old and I don’t play. It reminds me of why I stopped dating youngsters (under 25). Their topic of conversation would frustrate the hell out of me. I want to discuss the genocide in Darfur and they want to talk about the new Young Joc video.
By Page1908
August 6, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this
Dimples Hey girl! I am glad you made it back to the A safe and sound! I had fun with you when you came here, so definitely keep me posted for your October visit. By then, it won’t be as hot and muggy…lol. Also, when you come back, I will have to school you on how we get down “West Coast style”! LOL
By Tazzee
August 6, 2007 4:46 PM | Link to this
Staceye I’m from the midwest and really only lived in the midwest and south.
Ladylike I don’t know about you, but I would take the jokes and so forth we have now over the bashing/attacks that took place daily back in 2006. If there was ever a time when I cut back on blogging it was then. So as they say, different strokes for different folks.
By SeanJohnson3000
August 6, 2007 4:48 PM | Link to this
This is just a cycle that the blog goes through….new heads one the scene..old heads go into permanent lurk status…True enough..the blog isnt as informative as it use to be…new moderator…but topics are the same just re worded..so naturally some of us that been around wont comment on them as much..just need some different view points and put spins on topics..and that takes people being open minded…too many folks on here dont date enough for it to be a dating blog.and i dont mean eahc other..too many i dont do this..i dont do thats…on top of that..when u start exchanging pics and emails u get a lot of side action that takes away from blog in a way and makes it more personal because some folks actually KNOW each other…which is cool…you just gotta make sure we are adults about it…and be able to handle ..what goes on off the blog stays there….when it comes to meets and greets..u gotta understand that some folks have painted such a pretty picture of themselves and there lives when they are just ordinary folks..no more no less..when it all boils down to it…thats all is on here in my opinion..if it was anything other…i seriously doubt they will be blogging…rather on an island sipping somethng fruity..instead of at work bored…like i am..
By Ladylike
August 6, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this
I meant to say I have been blogging since the end of 2005 & the beginning of 2006.
But anyway, maybe we try this again on tommorrow.
Something to consider: It’s never too late to say you’re sorry, to change your life, and to start again with a whole new clean slate. Always be yourself even if people try to be nasty to you, you will sleep better at nite.
Peace Out All, have a great evening.
By Page1908
August 6, 2007 4:52 PM | Link to this
LadyLike lol umm who are you? I didn’t know you were an old head with a new name…lol. It’s cool, though. But, yeah, I used to like it when it was the old heads, like Tazzee, DuShawn, Musing, QC, Wise, JazzyOne, Runnin, D Dub, Bre, 2 Can, Mister, Lady w/Dark Dimples, Raqui, MissUnderstood, Kym and whoever else, i can’t remember…lol.Even LL with his crazy self!!! LOL Remember when they used to have the other clique called “Gyrl Power”? LOL yeahhhh those were the days…lol
By abc
August 6, 2007 4:52 PM | Link to this
I used to live in Warner Robins, hang out in Macon quite a lot. Been awhile, though. Metropolitan it ain’t, but the places have their own unique charms.
I would think that Atlanta can take a little bashing. It’s not a utopia, there are plenty of things good and bad about it. It’s just a place.
Speaking of Macon, I went down to see the Macon Music play a ball game a few weeks ago, and they were sorry as hell! Not like when the Macon Braves were there, but ol’ Luther Williams looks fine still.
By Demi
August 6, 2007 4:55 PM | Link to this
rolling in all late in ishhh
What I Miss?!?!?!??
now my a$$ back to sleep
By Jake
August 6, 2007 4:56 PM | Link to this
Dushawn
I would agree with that description, I can dig crates with the best. I really think I was supposed to be a DJ…lol
I agree the MLB/WLB, did gro into its own monster. I’m out ya’ll.
By Ladylike
August 6, 2007 4:57 PM | Link to this
That’s true Tazzee, I can especially remember this on the day we discussed being celibate and such in 2006, it was nothing like the conversation held couple of weeks ago, but the blog is meant to be informative and sometimes I think even therapeutic.
Alright I’m out, till Tuesday.
By abc
August 6, 2007 4:59 PM | Link to this
Regarding DuShawn’s comments about discussions that stimulate intellect vs. conversations of drivel:
“The well-meaning contention that all ideas have equal merit seems to me little different from the disastrous contention that no ideas have any merit.” —Carl Sagan
By For Real
August 6, 2007 4:59 PM | Link to this
melo
No complex bruh you are the that stated NY is better not me. You speak of facts but how can factually say NY is better than the A for meeting open minded people? How?
What is your definition of an open mind? Oh and please base your definition on fact. You know what don’t bother bc I already know that the definition of an open mind is relative. So, your definition will not be universal. But go ahead try if you want to.
I’m glad to hear you are not a lady. You had me wondering for moment with your assessment of which city has the best men.
By Ladylike
August 6, 2007 5:01 PM | Link to this
Oh Page poor LL he get told off so bad, but it was in fun. Girl I would neva tell who I am because you tell me off often, I guess everybody needs a honest opinion.
By melo
August 6, 2007 5:04 PM | Link to this
@For Real,South is better then,if that will put u to sleep!!
By Demi
August 6, 2007 5:51 PM | Link to this
I want to discuss the genocide in Darfur and they want to talk about the new Young Joc video.
Thanks God for the 33 and up crew…LOL
I’ll be back in the “A” sometime tonight