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Wednesday, July 25, 2007
She’s going the distance
The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
As wedding season has descended upon us, my roommate and I are doing a lot of traveling right now, and we’re meeting lots of new faces in new towns, depending on where these weddings are.
As the two of us were discussing the idea of dating people we’d met at these weddings, I realized that our beliefs on long-distance dating are polar opposites. She thinks that starting a long-distance relationship is pointless, because, as they say, “long-distance relationships never work out.”
I pointed out to her, however, that the cliché statement is misleading, because in reality most relationships, whether long-distance or not, don’t work out. For a relationship to “work out,” you end up marrying that person, or at least living with them for the rest of your lives. And most of us will only marry one (or maybe two or three) person(s) in our entire lifetimes.
And although I agree that a long-distance relationship has a better chance of working if it begins while the two of you live close to each other, I think interest can be sparked enough at an initial meeting to, over time, turn into a roaring fire over hundreds of miles.
Does it take more for you to begin dating someone long-distance? Does someone you meet elsewhere have to portray more attractive qualities than someone you meet here in Atlanta? Or does the distance factor into dating decisions at all?
Have you ever casually dated someone long-distance, or does the type of relationship, by definition, imply something more serious?
Do you tend to exercise more trust in a long-distance relationship, since you spend less time with the person and have less indication of how he or she is spending time without you? Or is your level of security the same as it would be if your hubby lived in your city?
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