Misadventures in Atlanta

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 8:19 AM | Link to this

Good Early Mownin Yall

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 8:38 AM | Link to this

Goodmorning Slim, looks like we’re early!! lol

By MochaTreat

July 11, 2007 8:39 AM | Link to this

Good morning Slim, MO, QC, Musing, Kinder, Sexione and GAman

I have never used a dating service….but I perfer to do something fun on a first date…like bowling, shooting pool or even a movie. I find that a fun atomsphere takes some of the pressure off. What other ways do you pace yourself in the beginning of a relationship? I take my time and let the relationship develop on its on…sometime it will bulid and sometime it will just fizzle out. What about the amount of time you spend with someone? Or how many times you see them each week? How long into a relationship do you feel it’s OK to vacation with them? the amount of time varies…I do work full time and take classes not to mention I have 2 teenagers that are active in sports…so the number of times we see each other will vary depending on what I have going on that week. I won’t vaction with him until I am comfortable enough with him to introduce him to someone in my family…sisters, brother, cousins…and then do a background check.

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 8:40 AM | Link to this

Do you limit the amount of time or effort you put forth in the beginning of a relationship? Does meeting for lunch take a little of the pressure off?

It really depends on what you’re looking for and what type of person you are. If I’m really interested in someone, I’ll put forth more effort than if I’m still trying to figure out if i’m into someone or not. Lunch dates do seem to be a little more relaxed. I guess it’s something about that night time stuff.

What other ways do you pace yourself in the beginning of a relationship? Certainly we don’t call significant others as much when a relationship is first blossoming. What about the amount of time you spend with someone? Or how many times you see them each week? Of course I won’t blow someone’s phone up. I tend to get a feel for how the other person reacts and gauge things on our chemistry. I go with the flow. If the flow is not all that great to me, then my drive to spend time or call them dwindles. If we’re both feeling each other and our schedules permit hanging out, then we hang out. It’s not rocket science.

How long into a relationship do you feel it’s OK to vacation with them? Again, it depends on the vibe of each other and the level of comfort. I think vacationing together gives you a better 3-D view of a person. I wouldn’t necessarily suggest a week long vacation too early but a weekend deal could be good.

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 8:41 AM | Link to this

I used to jump into relationships gun blazing and and all bushy tailed, now things have changed and I learn to pace myself. Now instead of doing a first date we do a meet and greet to take the pressure off. We discuss our interests, intentions and other sruff. If the meet and greet goes well then we’ll go out on a first date. Meet and greet also pays off b/c you’ll get first hand on how a person acts in public.

Hey Slim

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 8:42 AM | Link to this

Okay, this is some of the craziest ish I’ve ever read………

Tori Spelling is now available for weddings. “Yep, that’s right. … Reverend Tori Spelling! I did it last week online and my official certificate is in the mail. I’m so proud,”

WTF????? lmsao

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 8:45 AM | Link to this

Hey Mocha * I take my time and let the relationship develop on its on…sometime it will build and sometime it will just fizzle out* I am like this too. No rush, if it’s meant to be, it will develop (almost) naturally. I’m laughing at the background check, but I feel ya 100%!!!

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 8:46 AM | Link to this

Yeah we are early Ladies. Help yourself to some of the breakfast goodies I’ve had prepared for us.

Mocha background check…lol I wonder if that includes a retina eye scan and fingerprint session. hehehehe

By MochaTreat

July 11, 2007 8:50 AM | Link to this

Off Topic Puffy and long time girlfrind Kim Porter has split…again…I knew when I read the articl in Essence with the two of them on the cover…it was only a matter of time!

@Sexione I saw that too…crazy huh!

By QC

July 11, 2007 8:51 AM | Link to this

Good Merting Bloggers In this day & time i really take more time getting to know a person i.e. background checks, family medical/mental history, etc Quality time is very important to me, but in the beginning of a relationship i don’t want too much time alone right away….but just enough for us both…i’d like to see him at least 2-3 times a week…60-90 days is enough time for me to feel comfortable to travel with my new friend…pacing is important to me; i want to be able to marinate into his mind, so he can realize what a good woman i am…as well as the “nicest, sweetest person he’s ever met in his life” Yep QC is a sweetie pie have a great day bloggers…this topic calls for a good round table breakfast buffet so enjoy WLB & MLB Be sure to try the hot peach/lemonade tea

By MusingLee

July 11, 2007 8:52 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

I actually like daytime dates…There are alot more places open and if the two of you don’t like each other, you didn’t waste a night on them.

Hey QC.

Sexi, Tori needs to sit her’azz down somewhere….Her face looks like a big toe that’s been stepped on.

By QC

July 11, 2007 8:54 AM | Link to this

Morning Mocha, Slim, Sexie1, Lacey, Musing, Truth, Demi, Jake, For Real, KinderB, SJ3000, lurkers, newbies, Santa Claus, Darrell…err’body

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 8:55 AM | Link to this

@Mocha and then do a background check. Background checks are essential these days. A GF of mine told me about a guy she knew only by seeing him on a reqular at a funtion she frequented. She’d seem him there several times and found him very interesting. They exchange numbers, scheduled their first date and then she did the background check, turned out the guy had a rap sheet a mile long with crimes that ranged from shoplifting to child molestation. Goes to show background checks should be first priority in dating.

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 8:59 AM | Link to this

Okay, one more……..

On Dec. 21, Porter gave birth to daughters D’Lila Star and Jessie James

Again, WTF??????? Did she really name a girl Jessie James? Okay, I’m tripping!!! lmsao

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 9:01 AM | Link to this

@Musing I actually like daytime dates b/c a mixture of alcohol and dimmed lights alters a person’s psyche

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 11, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

Morning Ladies!! I see the WLB is in full effect this morning! ;0)

I wouldnt necessarily say I limit the time but I just dont bumrush the situation too soon. I look at that as smothering and I dont like to be smothered so I wouldnt do that to anyone else. As far as pacing myself, I prefer to kind of play it by ear initially (meet for lunch, grab a bite to eat early on a saturday, something like bowling or a movie) and keep it light. And I would prefer to do things that allow us to talk more so we can get to know each other. That makes future dates kind of easy to me. Of course all of this may change since I am re-entering the dating world, so I will be taking notes!!! Mo getting her notebook along with a latte and a muffin

Oh and on the vacation thing, I have no comment! In my last relationship we had the worst traveling record!! We couldnt go anywhere without arguing before, during and after the trip!

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this

Musing I am in too much pain right now to be laughing at your crazy butt!! Her face looks like a big toe that’s been stepped on. Oh my……….ouch!!! lmsao I like daytime dates too….more to do, and you can do a much better inspection of your prospect. kinda like shopping in the dark vs. the bright lights of the store

Heeeyy QC I’m a sweetie pie too……..until you rub me the wrong way! Is it true that the sweetest people can be the meanest people (if you provoke them)? Hmmmmmm…..

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 9:08 AM | Link to this

Musing I’ve always thought Tory Spelling looked like one of those Pugg Dogs. Homegirl is trying to find any kind of way to get paid since she didn’t get any of her dads billions of dollars.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 11, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

Sexione On Diddy’s girls names….I was like WTF?!?? Supposedly they are named after his grandmother and kim’s grandmother. His was named Jessie I think. Mo shaking her head at the childrens names….AGAIN

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 9:11 AM | Link to this

Hey QC and everybody

By kinderbabe

July 11, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this

good morning ladies hope all is well in your world.:)

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 9:23 AM | Link to this

Mo wow, sweet gesture, but dayum, those children have to grow up and endure life with that! lol

Slim I didn’t know that she didn’t get any $$$$ (not that I really care!), how’d that happen? Talk about getting jilted ouch!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 11, 2007 9:27 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone!!

Do you feel more efficient by meeting someone for lunch or drinks instead of a full dinner on the first date? Does meeting for lunch take a little of the pressure off?

Yes, I prefer for a guy to take me somewhere that doesn’t require much capital investment on the first date. That way if things don’t work out no body feels like they wasted anything, but their time. In my last 3 relationships (incldg current) met for desserts and drinks on the first date.

What other ways do you pace yourself in the beginning of a relationship?

This just happens naturally. It takes a minute for me to develop feelings for a dude so things just takes it’s natural course. But of course ways in which one would pace themselves are through limited phone calls, visits, etc…but the only time one would need to pace themselves is if they feel like things are unbalanced. Otherwise, just go with the flow.

How long into a relationship do you feel it’s OK to vacation with them?

This is tricky….I would definitely say be careful about this one. Traveling too soon can rupture a relationship, but it’s definitely an eye opener. I would say, just make sure there is a solid foundation in the relationship before you travel together….

By T-Mango

July 11, 2007 9:27 AM | Link to this

Good morning to the WLB and MLB

In Lurksville, GA today…

By MochaTreat

July 11, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this

@Sexione Everything was left to the mother…and she ain’t sharing!!

By MusingLee

July 11, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

Slim a pugg?!? LOLOLOL..hahahaha

Yall Women know you not going to do any background checking.

Chick meets dude and is awe struck

Dude: Heyyyy, you look great wanna go back to your place.

Chick: Hellz yea…Wait! I’m suppose to do a background check.

Dude rips open his shirt and shows his taco meat

Chick: Ahhhhhhh dannnnggg….Let’s roll.

Chick wakes the next morning to an empty house

By Foots

July 11, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

Good Morning!

Do you limit the amount of time or effort you put forth in the beginning of a relationship? Does meeting for lunch take a little of the pressure off?

I’m kind of going through this right now. With the current guy, our first date, we met for lunch. I think that lunch does take the pressure off, plus if it’s during the workday, the date has a definite end if it’s not going well, or whets the appetite for more if it’s off da chain.

Or how many times you see them each week?

We started off with lunch, then he started coming over after work. So right now, I see him more than I have ever seen anyone within the first month. Usually, I don’t have that kind of desire to see someone so much, so I think I’m going to just enjoy spending this time getting to know each other instead of overanalyzing it.

How long into a relationship do you feel it’s OK to vacation with them?

Long enough to have spent the night with them at least once to make sure that they won’t scare the hell out of you when they wake up. That could just kill the vacation.

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this

@ Musing LOL funny

By QC

July 11, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this

@SexieOne..cross me once and that’s all 3 strikes at the same time It takes a lot for my “mean streak” to come out…when i read what Puddy & Kim named those beautiful babies that…i also said wth! they gotta go thru life with those messed up names…D’Lila Star (baby stripper name) Jessie James (diaper strapped gun totin’ baby) all messed up!

By QC

July 11, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

Hey LadyD, Foots, T-Mango

Musing, you stoopid…taco meat

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

Musing Stop it!!!! Did you take your meds this morning? Cause you showing out!! don’t laugh, don’t laugh, ouch!!

Foots Good for you, relax and enjoy!

Mocha Dang, then I guess it’s safe to say she and mom aren’t on good terms. And he had to have a reason for doing that…………or maybe just crazy!

By SeanJohnson3000

July 11, 2007 9:45 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog..QC..Slim..Moeisha..

on topic…i had a few daytime/lunch dates receently..and they were cool…the only thing i didnt like about them was having to come back to work..that and they are not as intimate as a nite date would be….with new people that is..so i wouldnt want to have a first date in the daytime..people u already are seeing..it can get spicy though..nooners etc..

regarding jumping into relationships..thats a no no for me…relationships should be gradual..too much at risk..to jump in and out…keep it casual until both parties agree to take it to another level.

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

Sexione Yeah it’s true. I think her dad left behind around $500 million with the wife responsible for dividing up the funds. However, her and her mom aren’t the best of friends so I think Tori probably got less than 2 million.

Musing taco meat? Yous a skrait fool boy! lol

QC now that you mention it D’Lila Star does sound like a good stripper name. I hope she doesn’t grow into that. hehehehe

By Foots

July 11, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

Is pacing important at all?

I agree with Lady Dark D’s, that the only time pacing is needed is if things are unbalanced. Like when you feel that your interest level just might be higher than his and you feel the need to pull back a little. For those that didn’t have the ability to pay attention to my signals and self-correct, I’ve had to tell them that they were calling too much. It was kind of embarrassing for him that I had to do that, but by that time, he had worried me so much that I really didn’t care.

By QC

July 11, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this

Let’s hope not Slim

By Ladylike

July 11, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

Good Merning Bloggers and Bloggets

Although I don’t use a dating service I really like meeting for lunch and drinks, you are able to learn more about a person when you date a different times. Meeting for lunch does take the pressure off when dating. I enjoy doing a variety of dates it does not slow down the pace of a relationship but I enjoy the exploration of how we relate and are compatible.

By Foots

July 11, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

Hey QC. Sexione Things are off to a good start, but I’m in the “who knows what tomorrow will bring” camp.

Do you limit the effort you put forth in the beginning of a relationship?

I’d have to say yes, I do limit my effort at first. I’m a follow the lead type woman, in that if I really like the dude, he has to be putting forth a little more effort than me until I feel comfortable that he’s really into me. Once things get going though, I try to make sure that my efforts are equal to his.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 11, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

Hey QC!

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

Off topic a bit: I just heard on the news about getting breat implants during your lunch break. Men would you date a woman who had breast implants and does that send a message of her being insecure with her body knowing that the nipples are the simulating part of the breast?

By MusingLee

July 11, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

Lacey No Man has a problem with breast getting bigger…As long as the waistline doesn’t…..And we don’t have to pay for it.

By T-Mango

July 11, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

Hey QC

By SeanJohnson3000

July 11, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

@ Purple Lace..dont know if a lot of AA females are into getting implants..but i am not a fan of them at all…neither is my mouth…that said…keep em real and keep em natural…its no need for all that…some of yall watch too much TV

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

I’m so sleepy zzzzzz

By Tazzee

July 11, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

I have to agree with whomever (don’t feel like scrolling back up) stated that lunch dates are cool because there is a set time limit. I also agree with Lady Dark’s statement about minimum financial investment in the beginning. But if a guy insists on spending a lot on the first day - I’m not going to deny him that pleasure.

As far as limiting effort - I put forth the effort I feel the person is worth. Meaning, if the guy didn’t really wow me on the first impression it’s hard for me to even set aside time to get to know him. But if we had nice engaging conversation or there was something else about him that really sparked my interest - then I make the effort.

On vacationing - if I trust the guy, then there’s no timeframe for vacationing together.

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

Slim me too, and I don’t feel like doing ANY work………this is definitely a goof-off day! oh well…lol

By NCGirlfromATL vacationing

July 11, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

Dang SJ! LOL!

On topic: I have been doing the lunch date lately too. It’s cool, but I would like to see how we do in the evening. The lunch date is good if you’re not sure about whether or not you’ll really like your date, and you can use work as an excuse to leave if they are crazy. That’s harder to do at night.

By Demi

July 11, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

…pacing is important to me; I want to be able to marinate into his mind, so he can realize what a good woman I am…as well as the “nicest, sweetest person he’s ever met in his life

QC morning babe…it’s funny you posted that. Last night, the lady I am dating now, told me had she knew how nice and cool I really was, I would never made it to date number two. BUT, the reason she made me wait…A month and two weeks…was because of the same reason you’ve stated.

Shyt made me soo mad, that I sent her to work tired, late as hellz, and bowleggie walking…oh she isn’t a natural bow by the way…

HEHEHEHEHEHEHEHE

And HEY to all my lovely Sisters and Gang signing M.L.B. (real thug out like) to the Fellas…

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

Question How do you guys feel about the new show that will air on BET….Hot Ghetto Mess?

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

July 11, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog

Ok, just straight off the chain!! QC Baby stripper is not a term you can use before noon. ROTFLMAO

What’s up Slim, Sexi, Kinder, Bella, SJ3000, Musing, LDD and MochaT!

Dating is just hard anyway, I’m not sure if using a service is my style. But a lunch date can provide valuable information on a character before I invest in childcare, gas, food, etc..

I like to see how things go first and then try to figure out the tough spots later. There will be no diving in head first in the shallow end for me.

By Bella

July 11, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

Morning, blog!

I agree about the lunch date being an easy out—for either side—if your date is horrible. It’s not as easy to bail at 9 p.m. without someone thinking you’re either a nun or realizing that you’re leaving them in the dust!

By SeanJohnson3000

July 11, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

@ Slim…BET period does more harm than good…

By Demi

July 11, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

Tazzee thank for agreeing to go out with me and my girl, she has you by 3 years, so you two will get along great…lets see if I can my girl to agree quickly as you have, LOL J/K’n

By QC

July 11, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this

Hey Demi oh no! you put dat thanga thang on yo girl eh?

Slim, i don’t think BET you air peoples dirty laundry with that super ghetto mess but what about that other new show coming hellz date with this little bitty azz midget running around dressed up in his to early for halloween devil costume wth!!!

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

Slim BET is a hot ghetto mess!!

Hey *Mochalatte welcome to the party!! lol

By Demi

July 11, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this

Lacey now, I have no problem with ladies getting their breasts lift or reduce…In my opinion, not all women look good with mega D’s on no frame bodies…be like Awwwwwwwww…Dayum, where’s the rest of you??!!

SJ being a former swinger, the latest implants technology, actually looks and feel like the real thing. So don’t knock those ladies off your list yet.

By Tazzee

July 11, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

Demi whatchootomboutwillis?

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

July 11, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this

Slim I cannot even watch BET anymore. I watched for the awards show and that was about it. Heck they were running re-runs of College Hill on MTV!!! WTF!!!

Ay Demi Ay bay bay! LOL

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

SJ3000 & QC AA are just in this rut that I don’t know I’ll see the light to in my lifetime. Sad but that’s life I guess.

QC I haven’t heard about the midget show. What station is that supposed to be on?

By Foots

July 11, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

Demi Was she saying that she wouldn’t have continued to date you had she known that you were a nice person?? I must have made a wrong turn somewhere…

Slim They are trying to put it under the premise that “we have to do better”, so they are showcasing things that are supposed to make us think, but I think that it’s just another mindless effort by BET to be entertaining. I think that they could use their programming time much more effectively.

By QueDogVactioning

July 11, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

What up Blog

Said while wearing a wife beater, Jogging pants and Gold boots. Looking out my window looking for Musing in the civic playing Atomic Dogg but I think he might be outside my trailer at the school.

On Topic I haven’t had any lunch dates, but I have had a couple of after work, happy hour dates and they totally work for me. The person is coming from work and just wants to unwind, rather than coming from home and putting on their club / date attitude. They are more cool and receptive to just normal conversation. Plus It’s early enough to bow out and go home if they do not work, and if they do work it will make for a great night.

What’s up Musing, SJ, Tazee, and Hey NC Girl.

By QC

July 11, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

Slim it’s coming on BET also…

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

Mocha I hardly watch BET too. I can’t even really stand 106 & Park. Are you sure you saw College Hill on MTV? wow

Foots They are trying to put it under the premise that “we have to do better Well that same goal could be reached by showing AA’s doing bigger and better things, not necessarily exploiting those that simply don’t see the damage in acting a fool. But who am I?

By The Truth

July 11, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

Good morning bloggers. Firm cheek check to the WLB and firm hand shake to the MLB

On topic: Slower is always better, unless good quality sex is involved. Then faster is better. LOL Its always best to do a short meet and greet for hook-ups ( never saw chick before) but the best possible situation is to meet someone out and drop in for a bite to eat.

Special good mornings to Slim QC and MO.

I see I’m not the only one that thinks BET is crap. No wonder our kids are thugged out, our “OFFICIAL” channel instructs them on how to do it.

The hair shop (I’m a t**) will be open in 5 mins ladies. Clean it up and bring it in.

By Tazzee

July 11, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

What’s up QueDog - how long are you going to be vacationing? I’m jealous…

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 11, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this

Good Morning WLB & MLB Did i hear someone say sleepy? Dang is it in the air cause i can’t shake this feeling.. BET is a mess- i don’t watch it at all. My daughter was down my mother house one weekend and down there they look at everything. Tell me why when i pick up my at the time 3yr old daughter she was siging bay bay bay bay bay/ ella a a ella/ mommy put you to bed i was like no Destiny abcd…. I told my mom when she is down there no TV or radio for her. Where is Truth you guys got to see him —the pictures he sent me yesterday were too cute/handsome. He look so innocent but we all know better.

By MusingLee

July 11, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this

The Civic crashes through the white fence atQue’s house…Atomic Dog blasting, neighbors yelling, and kids running…Musing now passed the fk out after drinking leftover Q Juice

By SexyCool

July 11, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

what happened with the meet-n-greet scheduling?

By NCGirlfromATL vacationing

July 11, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

Heeeeeeey QDV!! I heard Musing took the Civic to get detailed, but they said they do detailing not renovating. Oh, and you might want to make another cassette tape of Atomic Dog. The Civic’s tape deck ate up the last one.

Now, the after work date is good too. I haven’t done too many of those, but I can see the benefits. Plus, even if things go well (or if they don’t), it can also be a time-limited date, and you can still go out and get your groove on later.

As far as effort, I like to think I put the same amount of effort into any kind of date. I am a give my best at all times kind of person. I would feel bad if I gave a half-azzed effort. Sure, I don’t always get the best from my date, but that’s on him. I can rest easy knowing I was the best me I could be. If he can live w/ being lazy, then he’s probably not the one for me.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

July 11, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

Slim Girl BET is ruining the mind of perfectly good children. My kids only watch Disney, Cartoon Network and Nickelodeon when they are with me. I try to ward off what they learn at their donors’ house. As a people we really have to do better, and let’s just say that BET is not helping any!

And yes, College Hill ran the entire Virgin Islands show in one day. I’d never seen the show before until I saw it on MTV. It was crazy. I had to stop and watch!!! And of course we have to depict ourselves in the worst ways while on TV!!! Just crazy. But I will finish my rant on the decline of our nation’s children!

By Demi

July 11, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

QC I really wish I hadn’t (not really), she sent me this text: FORGET ABOUT DINNER!!

LOL, time for me to hit her with the nice guy act and treat her out tonight.

Tazz just messing with you babe, so what dude have you kick to the curb this week?

Mochalatte you’ve just given me a good idea…Imma turn old girl into a whitechocolatepecansundae, LOL

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 12:16 PM | Link to this

@Truth for some reason I just can’t picture you moving slow LOL

BET is a hot mess. I haven’t watched it in years. Here’s an article about Beyonce’s gear for the BET award show.

TMZ used the word “Roboho” two weeks ago in a humorous fashion review to describe an outfit Beyonce wore in performance at the BET Awards. In a statement to TMZ, The Rev said the use of the word was racist and misogynistic. TMZ respectfully disagreed

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

Truth How’s it hanging bud?

MisU He look so innocent but we all know better LOLOL, sho you right!

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

SexyCool we never decided on a date or place. I saw that some were asking for Saturday dates, so here goes…….7/28, 8/4 or 8/11?

By QC

July 11, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon Sir Truth

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 12:26 PM | Link to this

Mocha Then understand that people a little less exposed see that on tv and believe it all to be true. We need to go back to the days of Cosby Show and Different World. I think BET is supposed to have a new show that mimicks MTV’s show about the rich bratty kids but of course AA kids. Either way I’m looking forward to the new season of Cathouse on HBO. LOL *I think it started this past weekend.

By QueDogVactioning

July 11, 2007 12:27 PM | Link to this

Musing You Stoopid. LMAO

Tazee I have one month left NC Girl The afterwork date is good because you have the true person, the conversation is not forced. And the happy hour drinks are cheap.

By NCGirlfromATL vacationing

July 11, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

Lacey I saw the article on TMZ.com. It was referring to the outfit, not to Beyonce herself. While the description may have been ill-timed in the wake of Don Imus, I think Rev. Al took it out of context and made it into something it wasn’t. Plus, if you read TMZ regularly (or even periodically), they’ve called a lot of Caucasian women even worse. I’d hardly call their comment about B’s outfit racist. Again, ill-timed, perhaps. But not racist or even misogynistic. I am often interested by what our so-called Black leaders choose as their causes. When the Duke lacrosse rape case first began, both the Rev’s Jessie and Al came out in support of the alleged victim, and even went so far as to say they would pay her way through college. Not surprisingly, they have been ghost here in Durham since the ish started hitting the fan about our former DA. Just b/c the DA did a p!ss poor job of handling the case doesn’t mean that the alleged victim wasn’t the victim of something. Where are our fearless leaders now? Yet, the use of the word roboho to describe an outfit needs national attention…okaaaaaaay.

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

Demi Imma turn old girl into a whitechocolatepecansundae I’m scared to ask what exactly this dish consist of, really. Ugghhh!

Lacey Wow! ROBOHO? That’s crazy but why would they call her a ho. Even though she may dance provacatively at times, I’ve never thought about her being a ho. Not sure what criteria they used in that respectful disagreement. So would that make Paris Hilton a JailhouseHo? lmao

By For Real

July 11, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

For Real: Hey I am glad you were able to have lunch with me today.

Chick: Me too. You know you are cute.

For Real: Thank you. You got going on too.

Chick: You know I feel this connection with you.

For Real: Oh yeah? I kinda like the vibe too.

Chick: So are you familar with GPS and can I get the coordance to your house. Long and Lat please…

For Real shoots Chick in her pinky toe and steps on it as he walks away. No mo lunch dates for me

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

NC I am often interested by what our so-called Black leaders choose as their causes You have a point there. When they constantly jump on the bandwagon of issues that don’t necessarily deem national attention it makes it hard for folks to take you seriously. They’ll begin to think you engage in frivilous issues.

As far as the outfit is concerned I’m sure Britney Spears wasn’t deemed a princess when she had on that see-thru number a while back.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 11, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this

@ Sexione How bout 7/28. Aug is to close to Back-to-school for me and the kids. Yall keep me in prayer cause working, going to school and children that are in school also whew let me hush I’m getting tired just thinking about it. Have anyone decided on a meeting spot? Musing I’m gonna bust you in the head if you don’t stop making me have loud laughing outburst.

By MusingLee

July 11, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this

LOLOL @ For Real

Chick falls over out of her chair in pain and places tracking device on back of For Real’s penny loafer as he walks off

By Tazzee

July 11, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this

Demi didn’t kick anyone to the curb ‘per say’ but I did decide that another guy wasn’t worth the effort of trying to get to know him.

Honestly - I’m thinking of giving up on ‘trying’ to date. NCGirl’s post convicted me because I like to give my best at all times. But when I try to date a guy - meaning I’m not all that impressed with him at the onset, but I give him my number or email anyway because you never know - I usually end up getting frustrated with the entire process and my frustration is evident by the guy. This last guy clearly knew that I was agitated with talking on the phone with him and honestly - I should have never given him my number or simply shut it down before it got to the point where I would be snippy on the phone. It is not my intention to be disrespectful to anyone or make anyone feel like they aren’t worth my time.

So from now on, I’m only dealing with effortless dating if that exists

By The Truth

July 11, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

Wow, I’m surprised to find out there are others that are unhappy with BET. When I turn to some of those channels I feel like somewhere someone cut the communication cord. I don’t know wtf those people are talking about. Do parents with kids today get credit for knowing a second language? LOL

Whats up QUE? Long time no see.

MSU ty for the compliment. I have been alot of things in my life but innocent has never been one of them. LOL

Mocha that rant could go on for days because theres plenty to talk about. Decline is not the right word for what we are seeing.

NEWS FLASH: We have officially lost another generation.

By QC

July 11, 2007 12:48 PM | Link to this

For Real lmao!!!!

By SexyCool

July 11, 2007 12:48 PM | Link to this

mocha…i am slowly weaning coach’s little one off of disney and putting him on a total PBSKids schedule…reason…no commercials…when he’s watching disney, every other commercial, he’s pointing to the screen saying, “Can I have that?”

By Demi

July 11, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this

Foots it truth, she usually attract bossy a*******hole type…I act that way for the first week and a half. But, I could tell there was something about her I really like…I drop the act and treated her how I love treating women who are WORTH IT. She’s shock at times, of how I treat her and is tying to get use to my professional business suit wearing/straight foolish at time wild ghetto ways.

Okay Truth shoot me

By NCGirlfromATL vacationing

July 11, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this

Here is the TMZ “roboho” article:

http://www.tmz.com/2007/06/27/bets-fashion-fright-night/

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 11, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this

On the topic of BET: I have come to dislike them as a whole. I do lile BET J for the older videos and live music (jazz etc) they have. I really had high hopes for College Hill as it was a chance for BET to highlight HBCU’s and to give exposure to schools that otherwise would have none. But sigh alas I forgot what network I was expecting such high things from. Instead they portrayed HBCU’s as nothing but out of control institutions (and I had a relative on one season). I wish HBCU’s that choose to participate in this show would do so with stipulations, otherwise its nothing but a college “Real World”.

Hey QDV longtime no post, good to hear Atomic Dog again! :0)

Truth you betta stop advertising your ahem services like that (the cat trim)!! Its gettin a lil warm around here LOL You too SJ!

Seems like most of you guys would recommend lunch dates so I may have to try that out this go round.

On the blog outing, I am good any saturday ‘cept July 28th

By MusingLee

July 11, 2007 12:53 PM | Link to this

MsU Do you happen to have the lil’pig snort sound when you laugh??? LOLOLOLOL

Probably sounds like feeding time on the farm.

By SeanJohnson3000

July 11, 2007 12:55 PM | Link to this

@ Slim, Truth,MsU..if i am not mistaken..the person in charge of what u see on bet and mtv is a chic..AA chic too…saw on MTV one day..GO figure..

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 11, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this

@ SexyCool i am slowly weaning coach’s little one off of disney and putting him on a total PBSKids schedule * How old is your son?* My son love PBS Kids (Author, Caliou& Clifford the big red dog) & for whatever reason he love FOX 5 news heck he is only 6.

By Demi

July 11, 2007 1:04 PM | Link to this

SlimOne guuuuuurl, nor do I!!! She just given me permission to add food into our scenes…So Imma makes some shyt up!!

You know your boy ain’t right, LOL

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 11, 2007 1:06 PM | Link to this

Musing I’m Black so it more like one of them laugh where you can’t tell if they are laughing or crying.LOL followed by Whooo hahhh.

By SexyCool

July 11, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this

In my job, I do a lot of interviews for positions. Sometimes, I am shocked by the young people who come into my office looking for employment and their inability to present themselves in an acceptable manner using common sense and whole sentences.

By MochaTreat

July 11, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this

Wow I go to a meeting and come back to “Roboho”.lol!

@Tazzee You sound like my sister..”I’m thinking of giving up on ‘trying’ to date”..she has given up..I tried to tlak her out of it…but she wasn’t trying to hear that.

By The Truth

July 11, 2007 1:20 PM | Link to this

PP The Truth does slow too. you know the one about the 2 bulls on the hill right? The moral: Walk down and you can have em all. LOL

SJ go wash your mouth out with soap. BEllA delete his post about not being a breast man. I forgive you, it was probably a slip. LMAO I’m not surprised its a female. The worst part of all of this is we do it to ourselves.

Demi you get 1 pass for your story last week. Don’t get to carried away tho. Whats up dude?

NC actually we have no leaders, at all. What we have are some charachters that come out for photo ops and then get ghost. Jesse Jackson, Al, all of them are clowns. WTF did Jesse need to take a photo with Terrell Owens for? Exactly. Those dudes have sold out for the money. NOTE: I would have done the same thing. REASON: We don’t want to be saved so I might as well profit from the decline. And lets not even talk about the dudes in the pulpit.

MO vagmotologists are in high demand when your as skilled as I am. Whats up sweetie? You comin in for a trim?

By Demi

July 11, 2007 1:23 PM | Link to this

Tazzee hey bay, try one of my tricks…Date anything that looks good/w a job and car (you know what looks good to you)…But non-American. Trust me you, will have a good week….I am not joking

By SeanJohnson3000

July 11, 2007 1:25 PM | Link to this

@ Moeisha…u never had a man shave you or help you shave…lather u up and such…

By Demi

July 11, 2007 1:30 PM | Link to this

or Tazz your mind is telling you to take a break from dating…which is what I did for 4 months and ran into her.

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this

Slim Mocha just the description of her outfit was not called for imo. I saw the outfit and was thinking the same thing but not to that content of being a roboho. LOL Harvey called her as he saw her. The word ho is used to carelessly that is has become second nature to some folks. Our neighborhood isn’t the only neighborhood who uses derogotory words. But as usual they will find a way to put a black cloud over our head even if we give them the amuniton to do so or not. Now the NAACP is burying the N word. I hope it doesn’t take as long as it did to bury James Brown LOL

By For Real

July 11, 2007 1:32 PM | Link to this

After long day at work. For Real sitting on his bed takes his shoes and socks off. For Real starts to remove the jam from his toes when he realizes that the penny in his penny loafers isn’t a penny at all. A Tracking device!!! Dayummm Crazy Azz Heffer. I should have shot her tumbs off. Now I will have to search the house for bugs.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

July 11, 2007 1:32 PM | Link to this

Slim I feel you girl and Truth It’s amazing that we have a generation of lost souls running around due to the chaotic minds of others!!!

Okay, Rev. Al needs to spend more time with Genarlow Wilson’s mom!! That boy is sitting in the middle of a grave injustice. Now don’t get me wrong, was he wrong for having it video taped? Sure, why do you need evidence of this type of act? But is 10 years too much for consensual s3x? Hellz yeah! And how bout the tape being released to the media? I’m telling you, what is the world coming to?

Slim A Different World was my favorite show! I watch it on re-runs every chance I can get. I have the Whitley and Dwayne wedding on tape!!!

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

@Truth you are a pure mess LOL

Update on my workout: Monday did 65 reps on the roller abs, Tuesday recovered from the roller abs, Today hitting ab roller again.

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 1:41 PM | Link to this

The only bugs For Real seems to turn up in his house were two dead cockroaches, a dried up centepede and some rat droppings. He slips on some leftover toe jam and falls face down in the rat poo Ewwww

Lacey Now the NAACP is burying the N word. I hope it doesn’t take as long as it did to bury James Brown Gurl you are going to make me choke on my baked potato! lmao

By NCGirlfromATL vacationing

July 11, 2007 1:42 PM | Link to this

Sadly Truth I have to agree w/ you about the so-called leaders. It’s all about being a celebrity, and getting your name in the tabs on a regular. Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie have made a “career” out of it.

Tazzee I have waivered on the dating hiatus thing. I have had a few decent dates lately, but the truth is, I really like one guy. Don’t know what to do about it.

Blog Q: How does a woman get out of the FZ? How do you let a guy know that you really like him w/o it sounding all high school? “Will you go w/ me?” lolol!!

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

July 11, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this

Lacey You go girl!! It’s hard to stay motivated with excercising. I know. I usually walk for about 30 minutes to an hour a day, except for Sunday. But when it rains I really have nothing I can do. I try work out tapes, but my living room isn’t made for working out. But I make do. Keep doing your thing girl!!!

By For Real

July 11, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this

Truth We don’t want to be saved so I might as well profit from the decline. I got to disagree with you on that bruh. You can quit if you want to but I want. How are you going to say all black people? That’s what the media does. Also, who ever said that Jesse and company are black folks leaders? I don’t remember a vote being held. People like Bill Cosby are just as guilt as the people that don’t take responsiblity for their actions. Everyone wants to point out and comment on what is wrong but nooooo one wants to do anything about it.

As far as BET is concerned. It’s owned byhe rest of the media. All they want to do is create sheeps that will respond to whatever they decide to call entertainment, news, or facts.

For Real now setting his soapbox on fire.

By Tazzee

July 11, 2007 1:48 PM | Link to this

Demi - actually this most recent guy and the last guy that I actually went on more than one date with were non-Americans, LOL. Yeah - I’m done. Now I’m focused on trying to set my friend up with someone.

OK, I feel so old! I just called my high school to see if they still had my SAT scores on file. The office assistant was like Ms. Tazzee, I’m looking at your information, but I can’t tell what it is because the information is so old All I could do was laugh. I have to call back in about an hour to talk to her superior - who may or may not be as old as me, LOL.