Misadventures in Atlanta

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 8:19 AM | Link to this

Good Early Mownin Yall

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 8:38 AM | Link to this

Goodmorning Slim, looks like we’re early!! lol

By MochaTreat

July 11, 2007 8:39 AM | Link to this

Good morning Slim, MO, QC, Musing, Kinder, Sexione and GAman

I have never used a dating service….but I perfer to do something fun on a first date…like bowling, shooting pool or even a movie. I find that a fun atomsphere takes some of the pressure off. What other ways do you pace yourself in the beginning of a relationship? I take my time and let the relationship develop on its on…sometime it will bulid and sometime it will just fizzle out. What about the amount of time you spend with someone? Or how many times you see them each week? How long into a relationship do you feel it’s OK to vacation with them? the amount of time varies…I do work full time and take classes not to mention I have 2 teenagers that are active in sports…so the number of times we see each other will vary depending on what I have going on that week. I won’t vaction with him until I am comfortable enough with him to introduce him to someone in my family…sisters, brother, cousins…and then do a background check.

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 8:40 AM | Link to this

Do you limit the amount of time or effort you put forth in the beginning of a relationship? Does meeting for lunch take a little of the pressure off?

It really depends on what you’re looking for and what type of person you are. If I’m really interested in someone, I’ll put forth more effort than if I’m still trying to figure out if i’m into someone or not. Lunch dates do seem to be a little more relaxed. I guess it’s something about that night time stuff.

What other ways do you pace yourself in the beginning of a relationship? Certainly we don’t call significant others as much when a relationship is first blossoming. What about the amount of time you spend with someone? Or how many times you see them each week? Of course I won’t blow someone’s phone up. I tend to get a feel for how the other person reacts and gauge things on our chemistry. I go with the flow. If the flow is not all that great to me, then my drive to spend time or call them dwindles. If we’re both feeling each other and our schedules permit hanging out, then we hang out. It’s not rocket science.

How long into a relationship do you feel it’s OK to vacation with them? Again, it depends on the vibe of each other and the level of comfort. I think vacationing together gives you a better 3-D view of a person. I wouldn’t necessarily suggest a week long vacation too early but a weekend deal could be good.

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 8:41 AM | Link to this

I used to jump into relationships gun blazing and and all bushy tailed, now things have changed and I learn to pace myself. Now instead of doing a first date we do a meet and greet to take the pressure off. We discuss our interests, intentions and other sruff. If the meet and greet goes well then we’ll go out on a first date. Meet and greet also pays off b/c you’ll get first hand on how a person acts in public.

Hey Slim

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 8:42 AM | Link to this

Okay, this is some of the craziest ish I’ve ever read………

Tori Spelling is now available for weddings. “Yep, that’s right. … Reverend Tori Spelling! I did it last week online and my official certificate is in the mail. I’m so proud,”

WTF????? lmsao

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 8:45 AM | Link to this

Hey Mocha * I take my time and let the relationship develop on its on…sometime it will build and sometime it will just fizzle out* I am like this too. No rush, if it’s meant to be, it will develop (almost) naturally. I’m laughing at the background check, but I feel ya 100%!!!

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 8:46 AM | Link to this

Yeah we are early Ladies. Help yourself to some of the breakfast goodies I’ve had prepared for us.

Mocha background check…lol I wonder if that includes a retina eye scan and fingerprint session. hehehehe

By MochaTreat

July 11, 2007 8:50 AM | Link to this

Off Topic Puffy and long time girlfrind Kim Porter has split…again…I knew when I read the articl in Essence with the two of them on the cover…it was only a matter of time!

@Sexione I saw that too…crazy huh!

By QC

July 11, 2007 8:51 AM | Link to this

Good Merting Bloggers In this day & time i really take more time getting to know a person i.e. background checks, family medical/mental history, etc Quality time is very important to me, but in the beginning of a relationship i don’t want too much time alone right away….but just enough for us both…i’d like to see him at least 2-3 times a week…60-90 days is enough time for me to feel comfortable to travel with my new friend…pacing is important to me; i want to be able to marinate into his mind, so he can realize what a good woman i am…as well as the “nicest, sweetest person he’s ever met in his life” Yep QC is a sweetie pie have a great day bloggers…this topic calls for a good round table breakfast buffet so enjoy WLB & MLB Be sure to try the hot peach/lemonade tea

By MusingLee

July 11, 2007 8:52 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

I actually like daytime dates…There are alot more places open and if the two of you don’t like each other, you didn’t waste a night on them.

Hey QC.

Sexi, Tori needs to sit her’azz down somewhere….Her face looks like a big toe that’s been stepped on.

By QC

July 11, 2007 8:54 AM | Link to this

Morning Mocha, Slim, Sexie1, Lacey, Musing, Truth, Demi, Jake, For Real, KinderB, SJ3000, lurkers, newbies, Santa Claus, Darrell…err’body

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 8:55 AM | Link to this

@Mocha and then do a background check. Background checks are essential these days. A GF of mine told me about a guy she knew only by seeing him on a reqular at a funtion she frequented. She’d seem him there several times and found him very interesting. They exchange numbers, scheduled their first date and then she did the background check, turned out the guy had a rap sheet a mile long with crimes that ranged from shoplifting to child molestation. Goes to show background checks should be first priority in dating.

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 8:59 AM | Link to this

Okay, one more……..

On Dec. 21, Porter gave birth to daughters D’Lila Star and Jessie James

Again, WTF??????? Did she really name a girl Jessie James? Okay, I’m tripping!!! lmsao

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 9:01 AM | Link to this

@Musing I actually like daytime dates b/c a mixture of alcohol and dimmed lights alters a person’s psyche

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 11, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

Morning Ladies!! I see the WLB is in full effect this morning! ;0)

I wouldnt necessarily say I limit the time but I just dont bumrush the situation too soon. I look at that as smothering and I dont like to be smothered so I wouldnt do that to anyone else. As far as pacing myself, I prefer to kind of play it by ear initially (meet for lunch, grab a bite to eat early on a saturday, something like bowling or a movie) and keep it light. And I would prefer to do things that allow us to talk more so we can get to know each other. That makes future dates kind of easy to me. Of course all of this may change since I am re-entering the dating world, so I will be taking notes!!! Mo getting her notebook along with a latte and a muffin

Oh and on the vacation thing, I have no comment! In my last relationship we had the worst traveling record!! We couldnt go anywhere without arguing before, during and after the trip!

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this

Musing I am in too much pain right now to be laughing at your crazy butt!! Her face looks like a big toe that’s been stepped on. Oh my……….ouch!!! lmsao I like daytime dates too….more to do, and you can do a much better inspection of your prospect. kinda like shopping in the dark vs. the bright lights of the store

Heeeyy QC I’m a sweetie pie too……..until you rub me the wrong way! Is it true that the sweetest people can be the meanest people (if you provoke them)? Hmmmmmm…..

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 9:08 AM | Link to this

Musing I’ve always thought Tory Spelling looked like one of those Pugg Dogs. Homegirl is trying to find any kind of way to get paid since she didn’t get any of her dads billions of dollars.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 11, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

Sexione On Diddy’s girls names….I was like WTF?!?? Supposedly they are named after his grandmother and kim’s grandmother. His was named Jessie I think. Mo shaking her head at the childrens names….AGAIN

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 9:11 AM | Link to this

Hey QC and everybody

By kinderbabe

July 11, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this

good morning ladies hope all is well in your world.:)

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 9:23 AM | Link to this

Mo wow, sweet gesture, but dayum, those children have to grow up and endure life with that! lol

Slim I didn’t know that she didn’t get any $$$$ (not that I really care!), how’d that happen? Talk about getting jilted ouch!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 11, 2007 9:27 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone!!

Do you feel more efficient by meeting someone for lunch or drinks instead of a full dinner on the first date? Does meeting for lunch take a little of the pressure off?

Yes, I prefer for a guy to take me somewhere that doesn’t require much capital investment on the first date. That way if things don’t work out no body feels like they wasted anything, but their time. In my last 3 relationships (incldg current) met for desserts and drinks on the first date.

What other ways do you pace yourself in the beginning of a relationship?

This just happens naturally. It takes a minute for me to develop feelings for a dude so things just takes it’s natural course. But of course ways in which one would pace themselves are through limited phone calls, visits, etc…but the only time one would need to pace themselves is if they feel like things are unbalanced. Otherwise, just go with the flow.

How long into a relationship do you feel it’s OK to vacation with them?

This is tricky….I would definitely say be careful about this one. Traveling too soon can rupture a relationship, but it’s definitely an eye opener. I would say, just make sure there is a solid foundation in the relationship before you travel together….

By T-Mango

July 11, 2007 9:27 AM | Link to this

Good morning to the WLB and MLB

In Lurksville, GA today…

By MochaTreat

July 11, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this

@Sexione Everything was left to the mother…and she ain’t sharing!!

By MusingLee

July 11, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

Slim a pugg?!? LOLOLOL..hahahaha

Yall Women know you not going to do any background checking.

Chick meets dude and is awe struck

Dude: Heyyyy, you look great wanna go back to your place.

Chick: Hellz yea…Wait! I’m suppose to do a background check.

Dude rips open his shirt and shows his taco meat

Chick: Ahhhhhhh dannnnggg….Let’s roll.

Chick wakes the next morning to an empty house

By Foots

July 11, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

Good Morning!

Do you limit the amount of time or effort you put forth in the beginning of a relationship? Does meeting for lunch take a little of the pressure off?

I’m kind of going through this right now. With the current guy, our first date, we met for lunch. I think that lunch does take the pressure off, plus if it’s during the workday, the date has a definite end if it’s not going well, or whets the appetite for more if it’s off da chain.

Or how many times you see them each week?

We started off with lunch, then he started coming over after work. So right now, I see him more than I have ever seen anyone within the first month. Usually, I don’t have that kind of desire to see someone so much, so I think I’m going to just enjoy spending this time getting to know each other instead of overanalyzing it.

How long into a relationship do you feel it’s OK to vacation with them?

Long enough to have spent the night with them at least once to make sure that they won’t scare the hell out of you when they wake up. That could just kill the vacation.

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this

@ Musing LOL funny

By QC

July 11, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this

@SexieOne..cross me once and that’s all 3 strikes at the same time It takes a lot for my “mean streak” to come out…when i read what Puddy & Kim named those beautiful babies that…i also said wth! they gotta go thru life with those messed up names…D’Lila Star (baby stripper name) Jessie James (diaper strapped gun totin’ baby) all messed up!

By QC

July 11, 2007 9:36 AM | Link to this

Hey LadyD, Foots, T-Mango

Musing, you stoopid…taco meat

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 9:40 AM | Link to this

Musing Stop it!!!! Did you take your meds this morning? Cause you showing out!! don’t laugh, don’t laugh, ouch!!

Foots Good for you, relax and enjoy!

Mocha Dang, then I guess it’s safe to say she and mom aren’t on good terms. And he had to have a reason for doing that…………or maybe just crazy!

By SeanJohnson3000

July 11, 2007 9:45 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog..QC..Slim..Moeisha..

on topic…i had a few daytime/lunch dates receently..and they were cool…the only thing i didnt like about them was having to come back to work..that and they are not as intimate as a nite date would be….with new people that is..so i wouldnt want to have a first date in the daytime..people u already are seeing..it can get spicy though..nooners etc..

regarding jumping into relationships..thats a no no for me…relationships should be gradual..too much at risk..to jump in and out…keep it casual until both parties agree to take it to another level.

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

Sexione Yeah it’s true. I think her dad left behind around $500 million with the wife responsible for dividing up the funds. However, her and her mom aren’t the best of friends so I think Tori probably got less than 2 million.

Musing taco meat? Yous a skrait fool boy! lol

QC now that you mention it D’Lila Star does sound like a good stripper name. I hope she doesn’t grow into that. hehehehe

By Foots

July 11, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

Is pacing important at all?

I agree with Lady Dark D’s, that the only time pacing is needed is if things are unbalanced. Like when you feel that your interest level just might be higher than his and you feel the need to pull back a little. For those that didn’t have the ability to pay attention to my signals and self-correct, I’ve had to tell them that they were calling too much. It was kind of embarrassing for him that I had to do that, but by that time, he had worried me so much that I really didn’t care.

By QC

July 11, 2007 10:05 AM | Link to this

Let’s hope not Slim

By Ladylike

July 11, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

Good Merning Bloggers and Bloggets

Although I don’t use a dating service I really like meeting for lunch and drinks, you are able to learn more about a person when you date a different times. Meeting for lunch does take the pressure off when dating. I enjoy doing a variety of dates it does not slow down the pace of a relationship but I enjoy the exploration of how we relate and are compatible.

By Foots

July 11, 2007 10:22 AM | Link to this

Hey QC. Sexione Things are off to a good start, but I’m in the “who knows what tomorrow will bring” camp.

Do you limit the effort you put forth in the beginning of a relationship?

I’d have to say yes, I do limit my effort at first. I’m a follow the lead type woman, in that if I really like the dude, he has to be putting forth a little more effort than me until I feel comfortable that he’s really into me. Once things get going though, I try to make sure that my efforts are equal to his.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 11, 2007 10:28 AM | Link to this

Hey QC!

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

Off topic a bit: I just heard on the news about getting breat implants during your lunch break. Men would you date a woman who had breast implants and does that send a message of her being insecure with her body knowing that the nipples are the simulating part of the breast?

By MusingLee

July 11, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

Lacey No Man has a problem with breast getting bigger…As long as the waistline doesn’t…..And we don’t have to pay for it.

By T-Mango

July 11, 2007 10:50 AM | Link to this

Hey QC

By SeanJohnson3000

July 11, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

@ Purple Lace..dont know if a lot of AA females are into getting implants..but i am not a fan of them at all…neither is my mouth…that said…keep em real and keep em natural…its no need for all that…some of yall watch too much TV

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

I’m so sleepy zzzzzz

By Tazzee

July 11, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

Morning Folks!

I have to agree with whomever (don’t feel like scrolling back up) stated that lunch dates are cool because there is a set time limit. I also agree with Lady Dark’s statement about minimum financial investment in the beginning. But if a guy insists on spending a lot on the first day - I’m not going to deny him that pleasure.

As far as limiting effort - I put forth the effort I feel the person is worth. Meaning, if the guy didn’t really wow me on the first impression it’s hard for me to even set aside time to get to know him. But if we had nice engaging conversation or there was something else about him that really sparked my interest - then I make the effort.

On vacationing - if I trust the guy, then there’s no timeframe for vacationing together.

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

Slim me too, and I don’t feel like doing ANY work………this is definitely a goof-off day! oh well…lol

By NCGirlfromATL vacationing

July 11, 2007 11:10 AM | Link to this

Dang SJ! LOL!

On topic: I have been doing the lunch date lately too. It’s cool, but I would like to see how we do in the evening. The lunch date is good if you’re not sure about whether or not you’ll really like your date, and you can use work as an excuse to leave if they are crazy. That’s harder to do at night.

By Demi

July 11, 2007 11:16 AM | Link to this

…pacing is important to me; I want to be able to marinate into his mind, so he can realize what a good woman I am…as well as the “nicest, sweetest person he’s ever met in his life

QC morning babe…it’s funny you posted that. Last night, the lady I am dating now, told me had she knew how nice and cool I really was, I would never made it to date number two. BUT, the reason she made me wait…A month and two weeks…was because of the same reason you’ve stated.

Shyt made me soo mad, that I sent her to work tired, late as hellz, and bowleggie walking…oh she isn’t a natural bow by the way…

HEHEHEHEHEHEHEHE

And HEY to all my lovely Sisters and Gang signing M.L.B. (real thug out like) to the Fellas…

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 11:18 AM | Link to this

Question How do you guys feel about the new show that will air on BET….Hot Ghetto Mess?

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

July 11, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog

Ok, just straight off the chain!! QC Baby stripper is not a term you can use before noon. ROTFLMAO

What’s up Slim, Sexi, Kinder, Bella, SJ3000, Musing, LDD and MochaT!

Dating is just hard anyway, I’m not sure if using a service is my style. But a lunch date can provide valuable information on a character before I invest in childcare, gas, food, etc..

I like to see how things go first and then try to figure out the tough spots later. There will be no diving in head first in the shallow end for me.

By Bella

July 11, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

Morning, blog!

I agree about the lunch date being an easy out—for either side—if your date is horrible. It’s not as easy to bail at 9 p.m. without someone thinking you’re either a nun or realizing that you’re leaving them in the dust!

By SeanJohnson3000

July 11, 2007 11:25 AM | Link to this

@ Slim…BET period does more harm than good…

By Demi

July 11, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

Tazzee thank for agreeing to go out with me and my girl, she has you by 3 years, so you two will get along great…lets see if I can my girl to agree quickly as you have, LOL J/K’n

By QC

July 11, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this

Hey Demi oh no! you put dat thanga thang on yo girl eh?

Slim, i don’t think BET you air peoples dirty laundry with that super ghetto mess but what about that other new show coming hellz date with this little bitty azz midget running around dressed up in his to early for halloween devil costume wth!!!

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 11:36 AM | Link to this

Slim BET is a hot ghetto mess!!

Hey *Mochalatte welcome to the party!! lol

By Demi

July 11, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this

Lacey now, I have no problem with ladies getting their breasts lift or reduce…In my opinion, not all women look good with mega D’s on no frame bodies…be like Awwwwwwwww…Dayum, where’s the rest of you??!!

SJ being a former swinger, the latest implants technology, actually looks and feel like the real thing. So don’t knock those ladies off your list yet.

By Tazzee

July 11, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

Demi whatchootomboutwillis?

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

July 11, 2007 11:41 AM | Link to this

Slim I cannot even watch BET anymore. I watched for the awards show and that was about it. Heck they were running re-runs of College Hill on MTV!!! WTF!!!

Ay Demi Ay bay bay! LOL

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

SJ3000 & QC AA are just in this rut that I don’t know I’ll see the light to in my lifetime. Sad but that’s life I guess.

QC I haven’t heard about the midget show. What station is that supposed to be on?

By Foots

July 11, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

Demi Was she saying that she wouldn’t have continued to date you had she known that you were a nice person?? I must have made a wrong turn somewhere…

Slim They are trying to put it under the premise that “we have to do better”, so they are showcasing things that are supposed to make us think, but I think that it’s just another mindless effort by BET to be entertaining. I think that they could use their programming time much more effectively.

By QueDogVactioning

July 11, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

What up Blog

Said while wearing a wife beater, Jogging pants and Gold boots. Looking out my window looking for Musing in the civic playing Atomic Dogg but I think he might be outside my trailer at the school.

On Topic I haven’t had any lunch dates, but I have had a couple of after work, happy hour dates and they totally work for me. The person is coming from work and just wants to unwind, rather than coming from home and putting on their club / date attitude. They are more cool and receptive to just normal conversation. Plus It’s early enough to bow out and go home if they do not work, and if they do work it will make for a great night.

What’s up Musing, SJ, Tazee, and Hey NC Girl.

By QC

July 11, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

Slim it’s coming on BET also…

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 11:58 AM | Link to this

Mocha I hardly watch BET too. I can’t even really stand 106 & Park. Are you sure you saw College Hill on MTV? wow

Foots They are trying to put it under the premise that “we have to do better Well that same goal could be reached by showing AA’s doing bigger and better things, not necessarily exploiting those that simply don’t see the damage in acting a fool. But who am I?

By The Truth

July 11, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

Good morning bloggers. Firm cheek check to the WLB and firm hand shake to the MLB

On topic: Slower is always better, unless good quality sex is involved. Then faster is better. LOL Its always best to do a short meet and greet for hook-ups ( never saw chick before) but the best possible situation is to meet someone out and drop in for a bite to eat.

Special good mornings to Slim QC and MO.

I see I’m not the only one that thinks BET is crap. No wonder our kids are thugged out, our “OFFICIAL” channel instructs them on how to do it.

The hair shop (I’m a t**) will be open in 5 mins ladies. Clean it up and bring it in.

By Tazzee

July 11, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

What’s up QueDog - how long are you going to be vacationing? I’m jealous…

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 11, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this

Good Morning WLB & MLB Did i hear someone say sleepy? Dang is it in the air cause i can’t shake this feeling.. BET is a mess- i don’t watch it at all. My daughter was down my mother house one weekend and down there they look at everything. Tell me why when i pick up my at the time 3yr old daughter she was siging bay bay bay bay bay/ ella a a ella/ mommy put you to bed i was like no Destiny abcd…. I told my mom when she is down there no TV or radio for her. Where is Truth you guys got to see him —the pictures he sent me yesterday were too cute/handsome. He look so innocent but we all know better.

By MusingLee

July 11, 2007 12:07 PM | Link to this

The Civic crashes through the white fence atQue’s house…Atomic Dog blasting, neighbors yelling, and kids running…Musing now passed the fk out after drinking leftover Q Juice

By SexyCool

July 11, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

what happened with the meet-n-greet scheduling?

By NCGirlfromATL vacationing

July 11, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

Heeeeeeey QDV!! I heard Musing took the Civic to get detailed, but they said they do detailing not renovating. Oh, and you might want to make another cassette tape of Atomic Dog. The Civic’s tape deck ate up the last one.

Now, the after work date is good too. I haven’t done too many of those, but I can see the benefits. Plus, even if things go well (or if they don’t), it can also be a time-limited date, and you can still go out and get your groove on later.

As far as effort, I like to think I put the same amount of effort into any kind of date. I am a give my best at all times kind of person. I would feel bad if I gave a half-azzed effort. Sure, I don’t always get the best from my date, but that’s on him. I can rest easy knowing I was the best me I could be. If he can live w/ being lazy, then he’s probably not the one for me.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

July 11, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

Slim Girl BET is ruining the mind of perfectly good children. My kids only watch Disney, Cartoon Network and Nickelodeon when they are with me. I try to ward off what they learn at their donors’ house. As a people we really have to do better, and let’s just say that BET is not helping any!

And yes, College Hill ran the entire Virgin Islands show in one day. I’d never seen the show before until I saw it on MTV. It was crazy. I had to stop and watch!!! And of course we have to depict ourselves in the worst ways while on TV!!! Just crazy. But I will finish my rant on the decline of our nation’s children!

By Demi

July 11, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

QC I really wish I hadn’t (not really), she sent me this text: FORGET ABOUT DINNER!!

LOL, time for me to hit her with the nice guy act and treat her out tonight.

Tazz just messing with you babe, so what dude have you kick to the curb this week?

Mochalatte you’ve just given me a good idea…Imma turn old girl into a whitechocolatepecansundae, LOL

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 12:16 PM | Link to this

@Truth for some reason I just can’t picture you moving slow LOL

BET is a hot mess. I haven’t watched it in years. Here’s an article about Beyonce’s gear for the BET award show.

TMZ used the word “Roboho” two weeks ago in a humorous fashion review to describe an outfit Beyonce wore in performance at the BET Awards. In a statement to TMZ, The Rev said the use of the word was racist and misogynistic. TMZ respectfully disagreed

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

Truth How’s it hanging bud?

MisU He look so innocent but we all know better LOLOL, sho you right!

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 12:17 PM | Link to this

SexyCool we never decided on a date or place. I saw that some were asking for Saturday dates, so here goes…….7/28, 8/4 or 8/11?

By QC

July 11, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

Good Afternoon Sir Truth

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 12:26 PM | Link to this

Mocha Then understand that people a little less exposed see that on tv and believe it all to be true. We need to go back to the days of Cosby Show and Different World. I think BET is supposed to have a new show that mimicks MTV’s show about the rich bratty kids but of course AA kids. Either way I’m looking forward to the new season of Cathouse on HBO. LOL *I think it started this past weekend.

By QueDogVactioning

July 11, 2007 12:27 PM | Link to this

Musing You Stoopid. LMAO

Tazee I have one month left NC Girl The afterwork date is good because you have the true person, the conversation is not forced. And the happy hour drinks are cheap.

By NCGirlfromATL vacationing

July 11, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

Lacey I saw the article on TMZ.com. It was referring to the outfit, not to Beyonce herself. While the description may have been ill-timed in the wake of Don Imus, I think Rev. Al took it out of context and made it into something it wasn’t. Plus, if you read TMZ regularly (or even periodically), they’ve called a lot of Caucasian women even worse. I’d hardly call their comment about B’s outfit racist. Again, ill-timed, perhaps. But not racist or even misogynistic. I am often interested by what our so-called Black leaders choose as their causes. When the Duke lacrosse rape case first began, both the Rev’s Jessie and Al came out in support of the alleged victim, and even went so far as to say they would pay her way through college. Not surprisingly, they have been ghost here in Durham since the ish started hitting the fan about our former DA. Just b/c the DA did a p!ss poor job of handling the case doesn’t mean that the alleged victim wasn’t the victim of something. Where are our fearless leaders now? Yet, the use of the word roboho to describe an outfit needs national attention…okaaaaaaay.

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

Demi Imma turn old girl into a whitechocolatepecansundae I’m scared to ask what exactly this dish consist of, really. Ugghhh!

Lacey Wow! ROBOHO? That’s crazy but why would they call her a ho. Even though she may dance provacatively at times, I’ve never thought about her being a ho. Not sure what criteria they used in that respectful disagreement. So would that make Paris Hilton a JailhouseHo? lmao

By For Real

July 11, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

For Real: Hey I am glad you were able to have lunch with me today.

Chick: Me too. You know you are cute.

For Real: Thank you. You got going on too.

Chick: You know I feel this connection with you.

For Real: Oh yeah? I kinda like the vibe too.

Chick: So are you familar with GPS and can I get the coordance to your house. Long and Lat please…

For Real shoots Chick in her pinky toe and steps on it as he walks away. No mo lunch dates for me

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

NC I am often interested by what our so-called Black leaders choose as their causes You have a point there. When they constantly jump on the bandwagon of issues that don’t necessarily deem national attention it makes it hard for folks to take you seriously. They’ll begin to think you engage in frivilous issues.

As far as the outfit is concerned I’m sure Britney Spears wasn’t deemed a princess when she had on that see-thru number a while back.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 11, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this

@ Sexione How bout 7/28. Aug is to close to Back-to-school for me and the kids. Yall keep me in prayer cause working, going to school and children that are in school also whew let me hush I’m getting tired just thinking about it. Have anyone decided on a meeting spot? Musing I’m gonna bust you in the head if you don’t stop making me have loud laughing outburst.

By MusingLee

July 11, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this

LOLOL @ For Real

Chick falls over out of her chair in pain and places tracking device on back of For Real’s penny loafer as he walks off

By Tazzee

July 11, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this

Demi didn’t kick anyone to the curb ‘per say’ but I did decide that another guy wasn’t worth the effort of trying to get to know him.

Honestly - I’m thinking of giving up on ‘trying’ to date. NCGirl’s post convicted me because I like to give my best at all times. But when I try to date a guy - meaning I’m not all that impressed with him at the onset, but I give him my number or email anyway because you never know - I usually end up getting frustrated with the entire process and my frustration is evident by the guy. This last guy clearly knew that I was agitated with talking on the phone with him and honestly - I should have never given him my number or simply shut it down before it got to the point where I would be snippy on the phone. It is not my intention to be disrespectful to anyone or make anyone feel like they aren’t worth my time.

So from now on, I’m only dealing with effortless dating if that exists

By The Truth

July 11, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

Wow, I’m surprised to find out there are others that are unhappy with BET. When I turn to some of those channels I feel like somewhere someone cut the communication cord. I don’t know wtf those people are talking about. Do parents with kids today get credit for knowing a second language? LOL

Whats up QUE? Long time no see.

MSU ty for the compliment. I have been alot of things in my life but innocent has never been one of them. LOL

Mocha that rant could go on for days because theres plenty to talk about. Decline is not the right word for what we are seeing.

NEWS FLASH: We have officially lost another generation.

By QC

July 11, 2007 12:48 PM | Link to this

For Real lmao!!!!

By SexyCool

July 11, 2007 12:48 PM | Link to this

mocha…i am slowly weaning coach’s little one off of disney and putting him on a total PBSKids schedule…reason…no commercials…when he’s watching disney, every other commercial, he’s pointing to the screen saying, “Can I have that?”

By Demi

July 11, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this

Foots it truth, she usually attract bossy a*******hole type…I act that way for the first week and a half. But, I could tell there was something about her I really like…I drop the act and treated her how I love treating women who are WORTH IT. She’s shock at times, of how I treat her and is tying to get use to my professional business suit wearing/straight foolish at time wild ghetto ways.

Okay Truth shoot me

By NCGirlfromATL vacationing

July 11, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this

Here is the TMZ “roboho” article:

http://www.tmz.com/2007/06/27/bets-fashion-fright-night/

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 11, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this

On the topic of BET: I have come to dislike them as a whole. I do lile BET J for the older videos and live music (jazz etc) they have. I really had high hopes for College Hill as it was a chance for BET to highlight HBCU’s and to give exposure to schools that otherwise would have none. But sigh alas I forgot what network I was expecting such high things from. Instead they portrayed HBCU’s as nothing but out of control institutions (and I had a relative on one season). I wish HBCU’s that choose to participate in this show would do so with stipulations, otherwise its nothing but a college “Real World”.

Hey QDV longtime no post, good to hear Atomic Dog again! :0)

Truth you betta stop advertising your ahem services like that (the cat trim)!! Its gettin a lil warm around here LOL You too SJ!

Seems like most of you guys would recommend lunch dates so I may have to try that out this go round.

On the blog outing, I am good any saturday ‘cept July 28th

By MusingLee

July 11, 2007 12:53 PM | Link to this

MsU Do you happen to have the lil’pig snort sound when you laugh??? LOLOLOLOL

Probably sounds like feeding time on the farm.

By SeanJohnson3000

July 11, 2007 12:55 PM | Link to this

@ Slim, Truth,MsU..if i am not mistaken..the person in charge of what u see on bet and mtv is a chic..AA chic too…saw on MTV one day..GO figure..

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 11, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this

@ SexyCool i am slowly weaning coach’s little one off of disney and putting him on a total PBSKids schedule * How old is your son?* My son love PBS Kids (Author, Caliou& Clifford the big red dog) & for whatever reason he love FOX 5 news heck he is only 6.

By Demi

July 11, 2007 1:04 PM | Link to this

SlimOne guuuuuurl, nor do I!!! She just given me permission to add food into our scenes…So Imma makes some shyt up!!

You know your boy ain’t right, LOL

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 11, 2007 1:06 PM | Link to this

Musing I’m Black so it more like one of them laugh where you can’t tell if they are laughing or crying.LOL followed by Whooo hahhh.

By SexyCool

July 11, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this

In my job, I do a lot of interviews for positions. Sometimes, I am shocked by the young people who come into my office looking for employment and their inability to present themselves in an acceptable manner using common sense and whole sentences.

By MochaTreat

July 11, 2007 1:18 PM | Link to this

Wow I go to a meeting and come back to “Roboho”.lol!

@Tazzee You sound like my sister..”I’m thinking of giving up on ‘trying’ to date”..she has given up..I tried to tlak her out of it…but she wasn’t trying to hear that.

By The Truth

July 11, 2007 1:20 PM | Link to this

PP The Truth does slow too. you know the one about the 2 bulls on the hill right? The moral: Walk down and you can have em all. LOL

SJ go wash your mouth out with soap. BEllA delete his post about not being a breast man. I forgive you, it was probably a slip. LMAO I’m not surprised its a female. The worst part of all of this is we do it to ourselves.

Demi you get 1 pass for your story last week. Don’t get to carried away tho. Whats up dude?

NC actually we have no leaders, at all. What we have are some charachters that come out for photo ops and then get ghost. Jesse Jackson, Al, all of them are clowns. WTF did Jesse need to take a photo with Terrell Owens for? Exactly. Those dudes have sold out for the money. NOTE: I would have done the same thing. REASON: We don’t want to be saved so I might as well profit from the decline. And lets not even talk about the dudes in the pulpit.

MO vagmotologists are in high demand when your as skilled as I am. Whats up sweetie? You comin in for a trim?

By Demi

July 11, 2007 1:23 PM | Link to this

Tazzee hey bay, try one of my tricks…Date anything that looks good/w a job and car (you know what looks good to you)…But non-American. Trust me you, will have a good week….I am not joking

By SeanJohnson3000

July 11, 2007 1:25 PM | Link to this

@ Moeisha…u never had a man shave you or help you shave…lather u up and such…

By Demi

July 11, 2007 1:30 PM | Link to this

or Tazz your mind is telling you to take a break from dating…which is what I did for 4 months and ran into her.

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 1:31 PM | Link to this

Slim Mocha just the description of her outfit was not called for imo. I saw the outfit and was thinking the same thing but not to that content of being a roboho. LOL Harvey called her as he saw her. The word ho is used to carelessly that is has become second nature to some folks. Our neighborhood isn’t the only neighborhood who uses derogotory words. But as usual they will find a way to put a black cloud over our head even if we give them the amuniton to do so or not. Now the NAACP is burying the N word. I hope it doesn’t take as long as it did to bury James Brown LOL

By For Real

July 11, 2007 1:32 PM | Link to this

After long day at work. For Real sitting on his bed takes his shoes and socks off. For Real starts to remove the jam from his toes when he realizes that the penny in his penny loafers isn’t a penny at all. A Tracking device!!! Dayummm Crazy Azz Heffer. I should have shot her tumbs off. Now I will have to search the house for bugs.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

July 11, 2007 1:32 PM | Link to this

Slim I feel you girl and Truth It’s amazing that we have a generation of lost souls running around due to the chaotic minds of others!!!

Okay, Rev. Al needs to spend more time with Genarlow Wilson’s mom!! That boy is sitting in the middle of a grave injustice. Now don’t get me wrong, was he wrong for having it video taped? Sure, why do you need evidence of this type of act? But is 10 years too much for consensual s3x? Hellz yeah! And how bout the tape being released to the media? I’m telling you, what is the world coming to?

Slim A Different World was my favorite show! I watch it on re-runs every chance I can get. I have the Whitley and Dwayne wedding on tape!!!

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 1:37 PM | Link to this

@Truth you are a pure mess LOL

Update on my workout: Monday did 65 reps on the roller abs, Tuesday recovered from the roller abs, Today hitting ab roller again.

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 1:41 PM | Link to this

The only bugs For Real seems to turn up in his house were two dead cockroaches, a dried up centepede and some rat droppings. He slips on some leftover toe jam and falls face down in the rat poo Ewwww

Lacey Now the NAACP is burying the N word. I hope it doesn’t take as long as it did to bury James Brown Gurl you are going to make me choke on my baked potato! lmao

By NCGirlfromATL vacationing

July 11, 2007 1:42 PM | Link to this

Sadly Truth I have to agree w/ you about the so-called leaders. It’s all about being a celebrity, and getting your name in the tabs on a regular. Paris Hilton and Nicole Richie have made a “career” out of it.

Tazzee I have waivered on the dating hiatus thing. I have had a few decent dates lately, but the truth is, I really like one guy. Don’t know what to do about it.

Blog Q: How does a woman get out of the FZ? How do you let a guy know that you really like him w/o it sounding all high school? “Will you go w/ me?” lolol!!

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

July 11, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this

Lacey You go girl!! It’s hard to stay motivated with excercising. I know. I usually walk for about 30 minutes to an hour a day, except for Sunday. But when it rains I really have nothing I can do. I try work out tapes, but my living room isn’t made for working out. But I make do. Keep doing your thing girl!!!

By For Real

July 11, 2007 1:46 PM | Link to this

Truth We don’t want to be saved so I might as well profit from the decline. I got to disagree with you on that bruh. You can quit if you want to but I want. How are you going to say all black people? That’s what the media does. Also, who ever said that Jesse and company are black folks leaders? I don’t remember a vote being held. People like Bill Cosby are just as guilt as the people that don’t take responsiblity for their actions. Everyone wants to point out and comment on what is wrong but nooooo one wants to do anything about it.

As far as BET is concerned. It’s owned byhe rest of the media. All they want to do is create sheeps that will respond to whatever they decide to call entertainment, news, or facts.

For Real now setting his soapbox on fire.

By Tazzee

July 11, 2007 1:48 PM | Link to this

Demi - actually this most recent guy and the last guy that I actually went on more than one date with were non-Americans, LOL. Yeah - I’m done. Now I’m focused on trying to set my friend up with someone.

OK, I feel so old! I just called my high school to see if they still had my SAT scores on file. The office assistant was like Ms. Tazzee, I’m looking at your information, but I can’t tell what it is because the information is so old All I could do was laugh. I have to call back in about an hour to talk to her superior - who may or may not be as old as me, LOL.

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 1:49 PM | Link to this

Sean J I wasn’t aware it was a female. I guess I never really gave it much thought on the gender, just assumed it was a dude.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

July 11, 2007 1:50 PM | Link to this

Mochalatte jumping out with the blog shield trying to protect NCGirl from the spray of blog bullets

Jackie, don’t do it girl. Don’t do it.

Be cautious when asking these types of questions girl!

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this

that was ab roller not roller abs, sorry had a liquid lunch today mixed with rain.

By For Real

July 11, 2007 1:53 PM | Link to this

NC slide a note to here friend

Dude: (While opening the note) Let me see what she want now.

Meet me underneath the staircase in the basement for some hard hunching.

Check One: Yes_ No or Maybe

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 1:53 PM | Link to this

NC Whoa, a girl trying to get out of a guy’s FZ?!!! Dang, we don’t hear about these situations often. Most times it’s the other way around. Give us some background on you and FZ guy.

By For Real

July 11, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this

For Real sneaks into Slim’s house and removes all of the toilet seats and change the direction of all of her toilet paper.

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 1:58 PM | Link to this

Thanks Mocha I’ve used the ab roller before and that thang really works. Quick results too although it is very painful until you get used to it. It’s a totally upper body workout. Wally world carry it for 19.95. I ususally do bench press when the weather is bad outside. My son get a kick seeing me bench press 80 lbs.

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 2:01 PM | Link to this

Tazzee Don’t feel old girl. I used my Original Birth Certificate to travel with this past week. One of the gate agents told me “Wow, you really should put that in a safe somewhere and I’m sure the state of Alabama would have an newer one sent to you. This one is so old.” Thanks Delta!

By SeanJohnson3000

July 11, 2007 2:03 PM | Link to this

regardging the Roboho comment..i totally blame Beyonce…now folks are gonna talk about u no matter what when u are on top.so they are gonna talk about her…but for a few years .. her stock with me as far a being a bad bia..has dropped…reasong being..no doubt the chic can sing ….no doubt she has looks…no doubt..she has a nice body..she has/had a powerful rich man on her arm…BUT in almost every video..and in every award show she performs in something skimpy doing her best stroker girl dance impressions…when u got talent, looks, class and money..let those speak for you..rely on your skills….let the buffy’s and kitoy’s that have to do that kinda work do that..stay classy 24/7 well 22/7

By Tazzee

July 11, 2007 2:04 PM | Link to this

Dang - I forgot about the workout updates. Well I actually worked out one day while at Essence in addition to all the walking we did. I also ate a lot of salads. However after being worn out from that trip, this morning was the first time I had a full-fledged workout since Friday. bad Tazzee If I’m going to plane hopping and road-tripping for the rest of the year, I need to find a way to shorten my recoup time.

NCGirl - How deep is the friendship? Are you willing to do without him as a friend? If so, just tell him - Hey Jim, you know I love hanging out with you, right? Well my interest in you goes beyond the platonic and I was wondering if you were open to exploring that with me?

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 11, 2007 2:06 PM | Link to this

@Forreal *Meet me underneath the staircase in the basement for some hard hunching.

Check One: Yes_ No or Maybe*

You are FUNNY!!

By NCGirlfromATL vacationing

July 11, 2007 2:06 PM | Link to this

For Real You may have something there…hmmm…lolol!!!

Slim The deal is this: He and I live in diff states. Me in NC, him in MD. So, the distance is largely the reason for the FZ status. We’ve known each other for about 1 1/2 yrs and although our relationship/friendship/whatever is mostly by telephone, we really click. He’s flat out said that if we lived closer to each other, “us” would be a no brainer. But, while the distance is a valid concern, I tend to think it’s an excuse. For what, I don’t know. We’re both willing to make the effort to see each other, but apparently not often enough for his tastes. Ironically, he’s getting ready to move (I won’t say where, in case he reads this blog LOL!!), and not closer to me, but it will be a loooooot easier for us to see each other more regularly once he moves. I won’t go into the details of that, other than to say, where he’s moving to is not chock full of my nosy-azz family (as it is where he currently lives)! LOL!

By The Truth

July 11, 2007 2:11 PM | Link to this

For Real you bring up valid points. However, if there is a n abscence of leaders and you offer yourself up for that post then you catch the noise. Actually theres not much that can be done at this point. We as a people only come together for church and the BET awards. There is no unifying cause so we are independent agents without a community to call our own. There are small patches of resistance but this war has been lost. Now we must wait for a natural correction which will probably happen in the near future (40-50 years), historically speaking. In the meantime more kids will be raised without the tools to function in this world.

Now hand me those matches so I can burn my box too. LOL

NC you can always do the “butt naked move”. Go visit him casually and then go in the bathroom. Come out butt naked with oil all over you. You will either be out of the FZ or realize ol boy is gay. Really, why don’ you call him and tell him how you feel? Here’s my number, you can practice on me 555-555-5555. Later come on over and we’ll practice the butt naked move. LOL

Workout update: Last nite I walked my pooch for an hour. This morning I downed some crunchy cheetos. Dayuum I’m hooked on those things. I’m so weak when something tasty is in my face. (Thats for MO)

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 11, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

SJ no havent had a guy lather me up and such. I never thought to ask and have never been asked if I needed help. My last relationship was pretty methodical in a lot of ways so I always had to be creative. At the same time I was shut down so many times that now I am probably the boring one! LOL Dont be surprised if I start asking advice from you guys on how to keep it exciting!!

Truth can I get a raincheck? LOL I have already been cleaned up!

For Real my song please!

NCGirl I want an answer to that question as well, how does a chick get out of the FZ?

By Tazzee

July 11, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

SlimOne but that passport application is in process right?

By MusingLee

July 11, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

Musing walks into the office after lunch like Busta Rhymes on “In the Ghetto” video….All slow motion and ishh…wearing Rick James wig

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 2:15 PM | Link to this

Okay, I see we’ve moved to the usual afternoon r-rated topics.

Demi you know yo bruhs are gonna clown you for that….But non-American, not a bad suggestion though.

Truth Do you have a license for that? Sexi now looking for number for trim board, there may be a violation here…. lmsao

By Demi

July 11, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

Tazzee if you where in ‘the A’, I would buy you breakfast, lunch, and dinner for you post to NC(hey you!!)…I love your honestly and straight forwardness!!!

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

Nooooo, I know my toilet paper isn’t going the wrong way. I’m going to get that little numb nut For Real

Slim sneaks into For Reals crib and blocks all sports chanels on every tv, steals all rolls of toilet paper, paper towels, napkins, his entire basement collection of photos, and last but not least his hotpockets and frozen chicken pot pies. Right before leave Slim takes a hellafied dump leaving all evidence behind

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 11, 2007 2:23 PM | Link to this

I don’t think a woman can get out of FZ? Men typically have specific reasons (distance, not that attracted to the girl, etc) for putting women in FZ…and it’s damn near impossible to get out of it…they’re stubborn like that! Once they have something made up in their mind…they like to stick to it!

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this

@NC go for it, you only live once, you don’t want to look back and say “what if” right? Tell him how you feel and take it from there, for all you know yoll may be on the same page.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 11, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this

Mo now blushing in response to Truth’s last post Now I know what your weakness is!! ;0)

NCGirl best of luck to you with ole boy. It sounds like once he moves you guys should be able to hook-up. I cant wait to hear some responses on how to handle that one..

By NCGirlfromATL vacationing

July 11, 2007 2:35 PM | Link to this

Tazzee Yeah, I’ve thought a lot about that. I’ve decided that the relationship is good as friends, but it’s not what I want it to be. So, I can stay in a relationship that is less than I want it to be or I can take a chance that it can be all that I want it to be. It’s not a question of whether or not I want to tell him. I do. It’s more a question of how. I’m terrible at this kind of stuff, and I don’t want to drag it out and he’s like WTF? Nor do I want to be too on the nose about it. LOL!

NC (calling him after work): Hey hon, how was your day?

MD: (on his cell in the car) Good. How was yours?

NC: Good. Listen, while I’m sitting here on vacation, I’ve been thinking. I like you. A lot. And I wanna know if you like me. More than just, you know, like friends. You feel me?

MD: (skids off the highway into the bushes wondering what else NC has been thinking about on her vacation)

By For Real

July 11, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

Here you go Mo something for the rainy day.

Good times they come and they go Never going to know What fate is going to blow Your way just hope that it feels right Sometimes it comes and it goes You take it ever so slow and then you lose it, then it flows right to you

So we rely on the past Special moments that last Were they as tender as we dare to remember Such a fine time as this What could equal the bliss The thrill of the first kiss It’ll blow right to you

It’s never as good as the first time Never as good as the first time

Good times they come and they go Never going to know It’s like the weather One day chicken next day feathers The rose we remember The thorns we forget We’d love and leave We never spend a minute on regret

It is a possibility the more we know the less we see Second time, second time is not quite what it seems Natural as the way we came to be Second time won’t live up to the dream

It’s never as good as the first time Never as good as the first time

Natural as the way we came to be Second time won’t live up to the dream Natural as the way we came to be Second time is not quite what it seemed

It’s never as good as the first time As the first time (never as good as the first time) The first time

Natural as the way we came to be Second time won’t live up to the dream Natural as the way we came to be Second time is not quite what it seemed

It’s never as good as the first time As the first time (never as good as the first time) The first time

By The Truth

July 11, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this

After Sexi’s trim board license post,The Truth pulls blinds closed, locks door, boards up windows, pulls the phone cord out of the wall, and officially closes his once thriving vagmotology business. Thanks Sexi.

Cosigning PP’s 224 post. Just do it.

By Sexione

July 11, 2007 2:40 PM | Link to this

LDD So true, and I’m the same way. Once you’re just a friend (and it is for a reason), there is nothing else to discuss. I wonder why people say friend zone, when most times the person being put there is not really a friend, just an acquaintance. I’m not one to use the “f” word loosely

Alrighty, I’m out, check with ya’ll from the urban hang suite!! Safe travels!!

By SeanJohnson3000

July 11, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

@ Slim…yeap…we are “here” SJ staring at slim… motioning the peace fingers at each others eyes..lol

By For Real

July 11, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

For Real comes home to a stench so rank he is convinced that Slim has an undigested Krystal burger in her lower intestine.

After cleaning up the mess that Slim left behind For Real sits down to watch sportcenter. Awwwww Dayummmm she done did it now. You can kick my dog or play around with my check but nobody and I mean nobody f/k with my sports channels. It is on Slim.

For Real assumes the Thinking Man position to plan retaliation.

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

LDD That had me scratching my head too. I figured if a dude had a chick in the FZ then probably isn’t that attracted to her. Even if a dude doesn’t want a relationship with a chick, don’t they still excercise the Puddy card if it’s available?

By NCGirlfromATL vacationing

July 11, 2007 2:51 PM | Link to this

Slim the convo you’re referring to actually happened within the first few weeks of us meeting. Since then, we’ve spent some time getting to know each other, and at one point, I even stopped talking to him b/c he was being kind of…well…childish, and it was getting on my nerves. After about a month of no contact, he called, smoothed things over, and has been a much better friend than before. I’m not so conceited to think that he missed me so much that the month hiatus kicked him into gear. LOL! But, I do think it had some impact on our relationship. He’s been a lot more open w/ me, as opposed to his very guarded method of communication before the hiatus. I mentioned him once before on the blog as my “favorite bachelor”. He’s a great guy! And although he tells me regularly that he reeeeeeeally wants to be in a relationship, I also know that doesn’t mean he wants me. But, when he talks about what he’s looking for, in my head I’m jumping up and down, screaming “hellooooooooooooo!!! Over heeeeeeere! Oh-ver heeeeeeeeeeere!!”

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

SJ one way i see a female getting out of the friend zone is…be there when he is at rock bottom…then when he comes up he’ll get brand new on yadudes that are hurt/wounded can fall for a friend zone femaleis that the same as pity s_x

By For Real

July 11, 2007 2:57 PM | Link to this

NC & Lw/2D’s It is much easier for a lady to come out of the friend zone than it is for a man. Men never close the door of possiblity when it comes to women. So if you really want out of the friend zone just show him by doing things that he speaks about with passion.

example: If he loves to watch you with For Real while he massage your Jerry Springer with everything he can image. Then do that and he will said Man she really cares for me.

Sorry but I have already used up my one serious post.

By Tazzee

July 11, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this

NCGirl - IMHO you should discuss this face to face. I mean really - just talking on the phone can’t be killing you. If you don’t have a visit scheduled - make it happen and then when you’re with him make it known. Make sure you put on a little rouge and show some cleavage so he’ll have the visual of what you’re offering, LOL.

SlimOne I just have this belief that everyone should get a passport at age 30 if they don’t already have one. You never know when life might call you out of the country.

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 2:59 PM | Link to this

NC Well maybe you should wait until after his move is complete and bring it up then. That way he won’t be all sidetracked with all that moving entails.

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 3:01 PM | Link to this

@NC girl the man has been telling you all the long. some men don’t know how to say what they mean, you know they are simple creatures LOL. He may feel that you may reject him that’s why he’s throwing hints hoping you would catch it.

By SeanJohnson3000

July 11, 2007 3:04 PM | Link to this

@ LacyPurple..lol..no it isnt…i got my eye on you..from you messing with undercover leroys …to you being celibate..to you doing back ground checks…you run/ran with a helluva circle.lol….are you the early 90’s prn star purple passion?…just asking

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 3:09 PM | Link to this

Tazzee I’ll have mine before the end of this year and I can’t fathom why I would suddenly be called out of the country. lol

By QC

July 11, 2007 3:11 PM | Link to this

Can’t balance my report cause i keep reading For Real’s comments…

By NCGirlfromATL vacationing

July 11, 2007 3:12 PM | Link to this

I guess I’m just frustrated. I feel like I’m walking the fine line btw the booty call and the FZ.

So if you really want out of the friend zone just show him by doing things that he speaks about with passion.

Actually For Real I am helping him w/ a personal project of his right now. He’s been running into some road blocks, and I’ve been trying to help him make contact w/ some people I know to help him complete his project.

By For Real

July 11, 2007 3:15 PM | Link to this

For Real sneaks into Slim’s house and remove all power outlets and light switches. He then removes all of the handles in her house (including the toilet). Then For Real puts her peanut butter in the freezer.

For Real then breaks into Slim’s car while it’s parked at her job and pushes the driver seat all the back and then weld it in place.

By SexyCool

July 11, 2007 3:17 PM | Link to this

MsU…sorry to take so long to get back with you…little buddy is four years old…

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 3:19 PM | Link to this

@SJ lol neva a porn star but I have been videoed back in my hayday. Here’s what had happened me my ex bought a new video camera and made lots of movies trying many different positions. We were up to about 18 when he left me.

By MusingLee

July 11, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this

NCgirl while you are helping him with a project you should also show him a boob…That will create emphasis that you are interested in him……As well as give your boob a little air.

By T-Mango

July 11, 2007 3:22 PM | Link to this

NC…On your question-That’s a tricky one. Of course it doesn’t hurt to try…(MLB members please stop reading here)

…Maybe when he moves closer by, tell him that you’d like to cook him dinner as a way to say congrats on his move. Make a nice meal and have his favorite drink available and/or some wine. Create a cool vibe. Put on some music (no slow jams). This may tip him off. Talk/laugh and take a trip down memory lane (since y’all are friends). Watch for signals. Send him subtle signals. Then, if the both of you are really feelin’ each other you may share a moment which could kick open the convo that you’d like to have or kick off something else…Good luck :-)

By Tazzee

July 11, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this

SlimOne in my mind, an awesome fare sale to Italy is an instance when life might call you out of the country. And while you might not be in the position to just up and leave right now - you never know when you will be. Just being a little proactive, LOL.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

July 11, 2007 3:25 PM | Link to this

NC Girl no offense, but it seems like you are the only one holding a candle here. I mean really, it seems like it’s time for him to put up or shut up. I don’t like games, but it seems like it’s time for you to talk to the coach about getting some playing time for real. Just go on and put it out there a final time and let him know about. If he doesn’t want to get involved, you may just want to chalk this one up to a loss. But don’t short change yourself waiting for someone who may or may not come around. There are a lot of nice guys out there just waiting for a chick like you to snap em up.

By The Truth

July 11, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this

PP lets revive your movie career. I think I can get you up to 30 positions, then I’ll leave you.

NC its ego that prevents you from moving forward. Butt naked move or phone call but do it today. And take pictures for the bloggers.

I had a chick I put in the FZ once. She was fine as hellz. DD’s, redbone, very oral, a* like whoa. We were cool for 10 years. Sometimes I slap the ish out of myself for not hitting that azz. She even told me it was ok but by then she was like a little sister. Next time I was her she was married with 3 children. NC carry that azz up there and lay it out for him. I’ll give you a discount on a trim job. LOL

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

Who in the hail put peanut butter in my freezer? I don’t even eat this shyt. Ugggh, I had to be that good for nuttin For Real. I’ll get him yet.

Slim does the ole switcharoo on For Real. She takes the expensive rims off his car and replace them with Target Spinning Hub Cap Covers. Then she dips out to his crib swapping out all his undies and dress socks with women G-strings and fishnet panty hose. Then at the front door Slim busts out the light and lays out a twister board covered in KY Jelly on the floor while setting up one of his own camera’s to catch the fall. Muuaahh ha ha ha ha Slim leaving his place dancing around like Diddy. Take dat, take dat, take dat

By Tazzee

July 11, 2007 3:37 PM | Link to this

or what Mochalatte said…

By SeanJohnson3000

July 11, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

@ Truth…lol…

@ PurplePassion…back in your hayday?? so its not as good as it use to be?

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

@Truth LOL I heard there’s over 100 positions, SJ the snapper still got years of snap left in her LOL

By NCGirlfromATL vacationing

July 11, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

Mochalatte That’s exactly why I’m at the point where I am now. In the beginning, I was interested, but didn’t know him well enough to be reeeeeeeeally interested. It’s taken a while for us to get to this point. I guess I’m also thinking, ish or get off the pot. Oh, and I haven’t been waiting around for him. But, I also don’t plan to do so in the future. Patience is not my strong suit. LOL!

Musing a little boobie, eh? Hmmm…

Truth You’re right. I don’t want to get my ego crushed if he’s not interested. But, at the same time, I don’t want to continue pretending like I don’t like him. So, I guess I’ve gotta make a move. Just don’t know what it’s going to be. (intentionally ignoring your offer to get butt naked for you.)

By Bre

July 11, 2007 3:46 PM | Link to this

SlimOne/ForReal You two are going to get me fired. They think I’m over here crying…..zero work done. Thanks.

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this

Slim now posting ads all around town for a young gentleman to whisk her off to Italy on the next airfare sale thanks to Tazzees advice. lol

NC I still say wait till he moves which it sounds like it’ll be soon. Either you two can meet in the middle, you go there or have him come up your way. Hangout, have fun, laugh a lot and definitely flirt. After you two have caught up and relaxed just tell him you’ve thought about him in more than just a friend kind of way.

By QC

July 11, 2007 3:49 PM | Link to this

finishedddd & balanced

peanut butter in da freeza, target spinnin hub caps, man undies switched to g-strings & fish net panty hose, ky jelly on da flo, & got For Real on camera…PRICELESS! LOL

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

July 11, 2007 3:50 PM | Link to this

Tazzee Been there, done that, got a t-shirt and had to have it reprinted because I had worn it out so much! No matter how much you show someone you care and are there for them only they can decide if they want to take the time out to see if anything pans out. You can only do you. If you do you, all I can say is you’ll never regret it. Guys have a way of being ready when they are ready and in most cases you can’t push their hand on it.

By For Real

July 11, 2007 3:53 PM | Link to this

NC taking T-Mango’s advice…

NC: Hey how about coming over to my house and let me cook you a nice meal to celebrate your move.

Dude NC Stalking: Ok that sound nice. You are sooo sweet. Heyyyyy wait a minute. Didn’t you tell me that you me that you request extra cabinet space in the spot where your stove goes because you don’t cook???

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

July 11, 2007 3:54 PM | Link to this

NC I feel ya girl. Hang in there. Might be a bumpy ride.

By SeanJohnson3000

July 11, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

@ PurplePassion…i hear you…..who holds the rights to the movies?

By The Truth

July 11, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

SJ theres 3 times when the puddy is good. When their pregnant, unhappily married and boning you, or when there fuggin for a ring. Thats good stuff. I think I can get PP back up to snuff tho.

Mocha please explain in detail where the EXTRA CREAM comes from. Ty hun. LOL I must be slow because I just read that last part of your name.

NC these chicks are talking to you like a chick. Ol boy wants to see you bring that thang to him and set it out. That warm-up thing is for you. Also, moving, staying, sleeping, we don’t care. Crack it open and he’ll drop what he’s doing. Did I mention the discount on the trim job? You’ll have to meet me a secret spot tho.

By NCGirlfromATL vacationing

July 11, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

Slim yeah, I think you’re right. It’s already a pretty relaxed relationship now. I’ll wait until then. But, after that…it’s on like pop-pa-pop-pop-pop-popcorn!

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

July 11, 2007 4:10 PM | Link to this

Truth I’m surprised at you just reading the Extra Cream part of my name.

Well if you lean a little closer I’ll tell you why..

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 4:12 PM | Link to this

NC You so crazy. make sure you throw some extra butter on that thang. lol j/k…but I do like extra butter tho. :-D

By Kat-823

July 11, 2007 4:16 PM | Link to this

trim job? you have your own lawn service “TheTruth” if so how much do you charge cause my lawn really needs trimming from all this rain, so let me know.

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

July 11, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

Slim A little butter could help a sticky situation. You never know…

Mochalatte removing the “I can’t believe it’s not butter” from the fridge and contemplating the possibilities…

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 4:20 PM | Link to this

SJ you know I got all the rights. I was director of most of them LOL

By Mochalatte Peach with Extra Cream

July 11, 2007 4:22 PM | Link to this

Alright, well the kid is out. Ya’ll be safe now, ya hear?

By MusingLee

July 11, 2007 4:24 PM | Link to this

LOLOLOLOL @ Kat-823 trying to get the lawn cut..hahahaha

Musing now watches as Truth prints fake business cards on his inkjet

I’m out, er’one drive safely.

By Demi

July 11, 2007 4:25 PM | Link to this

Kat-823 LOL sup!!!

By SlimOne

July 11, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this

Mocha You might be on to something.

Slim now putting butter on squeaky door hinges and a litte on her dry slip-n-slide

By The Truth

July 11, 2007 4:30 PM | Link to this

Kat I don’t do lawns. LOL

The Truth leans in close to Mocha to get the 411.

If you want to be grossed out check that video of 2 billion rats in china. DISSSSGUSTING. I rather fight an inmate.

By SeanJohnson3000

July 11, 2007 4:31 PM | Link to this

@ Truth….you might wanna check to make sure that aint Kat Williams..lol

@ Lacy…prove it..

By Demi

July 11, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this

And who is LovingPizza?

Hot Sauce How are you by the way?

By Kat-823

July 11, 2007 4:35 PM | Link to this

Ok after reading “earlier comments” i see it’s not a lawn service, lol - my bad The Truth. Well i always enjoy reading this blog maybe i’ll join in one day

By Dr. Rockso

July 11, 2007 4:36 PM | Link to this

First of all if your so busy to even look for a date, do you really think you have the time to put into someone? Second, I can’t stand dating websites, all those sites prove to me is that people are too lazy to get off thier dead arses and go find SOS. Being a Established Single Man I take things very, very slow, slow enough to prolly try someones nerves. The reason I do this, well Women test men with odd games, so I devised a game to Test Women. One of which I dress kinda grungy/homely, throw in a week or two of not shaving and hit the town in my not so flashy second car in hopes that I might find a good hearted lady. I have had some humorous tales to tell. One of which I met a young lady at a coffee shop in buckhead, I asked her out, she told me that I looked like I had nothing really to offer but it was sweet of me to ask. Roughly three weeks later my father held a company dinner in down town Atlanta which I was invited to and little did I know but the young lady worked in one of the offices in my fathers building and was also invited. Being well dressed, well groomed, and almost appearing to be a totally different guy, she approached me, we talked for about 10mins, she asked me about the way I looked when she first met me three weeks earlier and asked so how about that Date. I smiled warmly and told her that it was test and she had failed it and it was just coincidence that she worked with my father and we met again, I finished it up with but it was sweet of you to ask. I got the biggest look of disbelief I have ever seen which was great, and I have since then come up with a couple other tests to expose gold diggers and I share them with close male friends, cuase in this day in age a man needs to protect himself and his assets.

By QC

July 11, 2007 4:38 PM | Link to this

Night night bloggers

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 11, 2007 4:39 PM | Link to this

NC don’t listen to Truth…you’ll go from FZ to bootycall

By For Real

July 11, 2007 4:40 PM | Link to this

Ok I see how Slim wants to play this. Now I got to go buy some new draws. I hate going to the store to buy draws. The cashier always look at me funny. Like what happen to your other draws.

For Real breaks into Slim’s house and replaces her body cream with HGH. Then For Real take all of Slim’s sheets, comforters, blankets, and towels. And then he pours water on every piece of clothing she has. For Real then set her A/C to -2 degrees(Wait till she get next month bill). For Real turns on Slim’s sprinkler system on a non-watering day. And finally For Real places a round trip ticket to Italy on Slim’s bed. The ticket has 127 transfers (Her passport will expire by the time she arrive in Italy).

By NCGirlfromATL vacationing

July 11, 2007 4:41 PM | Link to this

Truth thanks, but I have a professional…ummm…trimmer. A waxologist, if you will. But, I might have some friends who might want to partake of your services. By the way, where are those pics of you?

And I saw the rats video too. It was nasty!!

By For Real

July 11, 2007 4:42 PM | Link to this

lol @ Kat-823 with the lawn request

Truth now hand writing new business cards

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this

SJ time and place-I’ll bring all the accessories needed. Don’t be skerd

lights, camera ACTION

By Demi

July 11, 2007 4:50 PM | Link to this

Dr. Rockso your late self, comeback tomorrow if you can…your post isn’t far from the Truth… LOL

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 11, 2007 4:54 PM | Link to this

Good nite and be safe

Peace!!