Misadventures in Atlanta

By Lady J

July 6, 2007 8:26 AM | Link to this

Morning Good People! This is a cute topic Diva!:)

By The NSG

July 6, 2007 8:40 AM | Link to this

If it’s so cute, comment on it!

Good morning everybody. Wait, nobody’s here. Anyway, a guy should have experience in these three areas:

At least these three types. Two more didn’t make the list that I may offer up later.

Happy Friday folks!

By The NSG

July 6, 2007 8:40 AM | Link to this

If it’s so cute, comment on it!

Good morning everybody. Wait, nobody’s here. Anyway, a guy should have experience in these three areas:

At least these three types. Two more didn’t make the list that I may offer up later.

Happy Friday folks!

By The NSG

July 6, 2007 8:40 AM | Link to this

If it’s so cute, comment on it!

Good morning everybody. Wait, nobody’s here. Anyway, a guy should have experience in these three areas:

At least these three types. Two more didn’t make the list that I may offer up later.

Happy Friday folks!

By M.

July 6, 2007 8:42 AM | Link to this

Hey Wise. The girl that most left an impression on me was a girl who was studying theology. I learned that nobody is perfect and as in the movie 40 year old virgin,”never put anybody on a pedestal”. Was I wrong or what! This woman did everything under the sun. I learned exactly what I don’t want in a woman. It was a good experience. As I always heard, ex’s are ex’s for a reason.

My list of Must Dates Are:

Jersey Chasers i.e. Groupies of any sort (NFL, NBA, Entertainments, etc) (They will make you appreciate regular women so much more)

Career Woman (They will motivate and frustrate you at the same time)

Veteran (You can learn a lot from her and also it will keep you motivated either way)

Eye Candy (Do this just for fun! This is like a new car, you just gotta show it off no matter how the payments treat you !!)

By Lady J

July 6, 2007 8:52 AM | Link to this

MR. The NSG…It is cute and my experiences would not add anything positive…Just thought it was cute to imagine if I could experienced a decent date while reading it! It is Friday so please list yours and keep it moving potnah!

By Foots

July 6, 2007 9:02 AM | Link to this

Good Friday morning!! Hmmm, I don’t think I’ve dated a lot of guys that I could classify into type. Except maybe one in college. He was the “You just don’t understand my art” type. And I was the “I sure as hell don’t cause this ish is ugly” type.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 6, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday everybody!! And good morning at the same time.

I once dated a guy that made my head hurt b/c he was so insecure. Every little thing had him running off a million questions and claiming he felt “disrespected”. I was so glad that was over with, I actually had to break myself out of the habit of explaining everything I did. He was sweet just had a few issues that made it hard for us.

As far as must dates: let me think on it and I’ll comment in a lil bit!

Hey Lady J

By b.o.o.h.o.o.

July 6, 2007 9:07 AM | Link to this

Not many men stand out, that’s what makes the ones who do special. I have attracted very nice looking ones, but they are not necessarily interesting or know how to treat a woman. The last guy stands out for the best sex ever, but that might be because for women, it does get better as you get older! If you can find someone who wants to do it with you!

By The NSG

July 6, 2007 9:08 AM | Link to this

Late addition: Ms. Gotta Have The Last Word (RE: Lady J, LOL).

By b.o.o.h.o.o.

July 6, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

I did read a survey that said Professors want to have sex the least frequently, while firemen want it the most often…the last guy I dated was a professor, so I think I’d like to try dating a firement next…

By Lady J

July 6, 2007 9:11 AM | Link to this

Hey MO!!!:) Happy Friday!

By SexyCool

July 6, 2007 9:16 AM | Link to this

must dates…and i do mean date ONLY…

mister 9-to-5…mister ghetto…mister thug-boy…mister hook-up…mister athletic…mister lazy…mister unemployed…mister fatboy…mister sports fanatic… mister hoe…mister boring…mister know-it all…mister lies…mister short-d ck…mister mandingo…mister hump-hump-c ome…mister is he gay?…mister average…mister beautiful…mister GQ…mister perfect…and last but not least…mister right…

but who you really want to be with is…mister right for you…

By T-Mango

July 6, 2007 9:18 AM | Link to this

Good morning to the WLB and the MLB

One guy that left a lasting impression on me was a graphic designer that I once dated. We meshed on multiple levels. Only one problem…his fiancee’(long story). However, the creative level that we shared was unlike any other I experienced. Hard to explain that connection in words…it just was-

If you could list certain types of people that we all should have a chance to date, who would make the list? 1.) I would like to date a body sculpted, tatted up, motor cycle ridin’ bad boy because he’d bring out my alter ego. 2.) A Preacher’s Kid (PK)…he could very well be the same person as the bad boy. But, we’d make church on Sunday. LOL. 3.) But, for the long-term…I’d like a man with a creative mind. I have a strong affinity for men that can express themselves artistically.

I’m off to do community service at the shelter today. Y’all be easy & have a good weekend.

By Lady J

July 6, 2007 9:20 AM | Link to this

@The NSG…Glad you know!:)lololol

By melo

July 6, 2007 9:21 AM | Link to this

@b.o.o.h.o.o., are yu 65?

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 6, 2007 9:28 AM | Link to this

Happy Friday to Everyone!!

LOL at NSG types!!

In college I dated Mr. Smooth Operator he was everyone’s friend and very sociable. The thing that I liked most about him started to wear on my patience and trust.

I dated Mr. Career he was very ambitious about his career and I admired his tenacity. His philosophy was to work hard and play harder. There were so many positive things about this guy….too bad he moved away!

Then I dated Mr PhD he was very analytical and an overall great guy! We would spend Friday nights at Borders. He was an avid church goer and read the Bible. The problem with Mr. PhD was he would get caught up in the paralysis of the analysis and we would argue about nothingness.

Now, I’m dating The Doctor he is a combination of all the men above, well, he’s NOT a smooth operator. But he’s very ambitious, social, and analytical.

The most important characterists/types are those that will love you faithfully and respect you greatly.

By Lady J

July 6, 2007 9:29 AM | Link to this

Too cute SexyCool!!!:)

By The NSG

July 6, 2007 9:31 AM | Link to this

Lady J, just because you gotta have doesn’t mean you get it…

By b.o.o.h.o.o.

July 6, 2007 9:38 AM | Link to this

melo: no, 47 and still looking pretty good but don’t seem to have what men are looking for in a woman…where I live no matter what age they are they’re looking for coeds. Still hope to be getting some at 65 too! thanks for asking???

By Lady J

July 6, 2007 9:39 AM | Link to this

Mr.The NSG…Okay you got it today! Your point is well taken…Along with my compliments regarding the topics I will post or not say anything at all!!! Is this suffice to you or do you prefer I disappear totally? It is totally up to you since you will have the last word on this issue brotha! Will be waiting on my directives from you!:)

By Jake

July 6, 2007 9:54 AM | Link to this

What up Folks:

My list starts and ends with Ms. Fat Booty…LOL

Seriously, I don’t have any specific list. You never know what you’ll get, its a crapshoot.

By The NSG

July 6, 2007 9:55 AM | Link to this

OK Lady J, I’m leaving you alone. You can re-appear, and even speak when not spoken to, LOL. No hard feelings, just enjoying a light Friday on the job.

On topic: I’ve not been in the dating game for a long long time, but I’ve dated enough. And each of my previous examples (thanks for the kudos Lady Dark w/Dimples) are noteworthy because they help me to see people for who they really are. I’ve seen parts of myself in some of the WLB examples already. It’s a valuable education on the opposite sex that I hope will soon pay off. That said, more examples:

The “Cougar”: I believe another example titled this lady the “Veteran”. Nothing like an older woman who appreciates some youngness in her life! She’ll pop that thang on you and then hit you with some life advice. Good and gooder.

The “Student”: They are young and their world is tiny, but they don’t know that. Helps you to put things in perspective.

By Raqi

July 6, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this

Every woman should have the honor of dating Mr. Everything. But just keep in mind that “It’s to be good to be true” is very much the truth.

Then there is Mr. Get-Around, who will drive over 50 miles out of the way to go on a date to avoid running into people that know him.

Mr. Plain and Simple. Period.

Last but not least Mr. Understanding and Accommodating, which is my biggest challenge.

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 6, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this

TGIF and good morning yall

I’ve dated white collar to blue collar to no collar. I learned something from all of them whether it was about myself or something in that person I just didn’t want to contiue seeing. One guy that stood out the most is The Greiving Widower now this joker played my sympathy to the fullest. Long story will tell at another time, can’t forget Mr Receipt Man the one who tried to sue me for dates he took me on and Mr Popup oh my oh my, every corner I turned he was always there.

I have nothing manadatory on my dating list this summer, since I have a lot of projects that will keep my mind clustered (which is a good thing).

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 6, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

okay back to post on topic

In college I dated the clingy guy, every move I made, everywhere I went I swear he was there. That child bout drove me insane, I felt like I couldnt breathe! Taught me that I love, appreciate and need some ME time every now & again.

The military guy, great personality but was trying to marry a sistah within 4days of knowing me! I was like HELLZ NAW. He didnt see why I would “bother” going to college when he could take care of me. Needless to say this didnt last long cause I got tired of arguing w/him about my life. Taught me that I dont want to be the one sacrificing my entire life just to say “I’m married!” Nor do I want to be controlled.

Lastly was the love of my life, the guy who was everything I said I didnt want. He went to a different college, was very active in his student government, athletic, shorter than what I had dated and he was a renaissance man (and since I love the arts he should have been perfect). He was my Darius Lovehall (for you ‘Love Jones’ fans). I was head over heels in love with this man. I never would have thought that HE would have had me wrapped up the way he did but he was a great guy. For some reason, our timing was always bad. He taught me alot, he was ambitious, the oldest in is family, very responsible, goal oriented, etc. Mo getting misty eyed reminiscing…

By The Truth

July 6, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

Good morning bloggers. Hip hugs to the WLB and elbow smash to the MLB.

On topic: All women are great learning experiences for men. Even a straight fruitcake chick can teach you something, if nothing else what to avoid. Actually women have taught me alot in life. Mainly they are stronger than most men give them credit for and being soft on them is an insult. Funny things is, women are never soft on a man. Heres a real life lesson I learned. I was stationed at Ft Stewart (about 21 yo) and I was at a store with a friend and I was looking at this chicks chest. She was about 30 yo with some d’s. Anyway, she caught me, mainly bcause I was staring with my mouth open, and walked over to me and said if your man enough to ask I’m woman enough to show you. I asked and she showed. We were friends the whole time I was there. Now, IF I want something from a woman I ask. I don’t even care if she says no. I want her to know exactly what it is I want and she can decide what she wants to do. Some women say I’m very direct but I think they appreciate it more than they resent it. I wish every dude could meet a chick that brings it like that. I forgot her name but I never forgot her lesson. Anyway, one of my learning experiences.

PP I read your posts late yesterday as I had to run out. I think I know what your challenge is. You think someone gives a flying fug what you feel. Your wrong. Nobody in this whole world cares how you feel, except you. Everyone else only cares about what you produce. I think thats a fantasy alot of women have tho, that someone actually cares how they feel. Test my theory right now. Go to your boss and tell him how you FEEL. Tell him all the many feelings you have and thoughts and how your hurt and blah blah. Then wait for security to escort you out of the building. Also, if you gave up to much azz in the past and you think your gonna balance it out by holding out on your future mates you are in for a rude awakening. I am interested in findng out when this little experiment ends tho. (I went back and reread this post and its going to come across as mean or harsh but its not meant to be. I’m laughing but I’m serious. The same applies to me. Nobody cares how I feel, they only care about what I produce. The difference between me and you is I am 100% comfortable with that fact. As I have said before, women have the luxury of living life in their fantsies.)

By Lady J

July 6, 2007 10:08 AM | Link to this

Thanks for the access granted and will continue to speak when not spoken to! lolol

Anyway…Gots to go folks…Everyone enjoy your weekend…Preparing to go out of town…Peace!

One Love The NSG…The dating game could probably use you!:)

Bye

By SeanJohnson3000

July 6, 2007 10:09 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog..TFIG

Blog Ladies..what type of must date female are you..

@Jake..i feel you bruh…my must date list really starts at Ms Fat Booty and then they fall into sub catergories..But having a certain type really limit yourself and limit your experiences.

By Ladylike

July 6, 2007 10:11 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog, put’cha fist down it’s Friday.

Every woman should date: Mr. Ultrasensitive, usually he just seem confused to me, but nice guy nonetheles.
Mr. MoneyBags, I learn something new from them everytime, and oh, Mr. Experience&MoneyBags now you have to be grown to date these types. If you are not mature enough they will take you for a ride. Sometimes I like the ride. Next, let’s see, Mr. FixIt, truth be told, I love Mr. FixIt, he can fix anything, aaahhhhhh. Last but not least, Mr. SayAmen, will make you appreciate all of the above, especially once you find out they are all the same.

By Ladylike

July 6, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog, put’cha fist down it’s Friday.

Every woman should date: Mr. Ultrasensitive, usually he just seem confused to me, but nice guy nonetheles.
Mr. MoneyBags, I learn something new from them everytime, and oh, Mr. Experience&MoneyBags now you have to be grown to date these types. If you are not mature enough they will take you for a ride. Sometimes I like the ride. Next, let’s see, Mr. FixIt, truth be told, I love Mr. FixIt, he can fix anything, aaahhhhhh. Last but not least, Mr. SayAmen, will make you appreciate all of the above, especially once you find out they are all the same.

By Ladylike

July 6, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog, put’cha fist down it’s Friday.

Every woman should date: Mr. Ultrasensitive, usually he just seem confused to me, but nice guy nonetheles.
Mr. MoneyBags, I learn something new from them everytime, and oh, Mr. Experience&MoneyBags now you have to be grown to date these types. If you are not mature enough they will take you for a ride. Sometimes I like the ride. Next, let’s see, Mr. FixIt, truth be told, I love Mr. FixIt, he can fix anything, aaahhhhhh. Last but not least, Mr. SayAmen, will make you appreciate all of the above, especially once you find out they are all the same.

By Ladylike

July 6, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog, put’cha fist down it’s Friday.

Every woman should date: Mr. Ultrasensitive, usually he just seem confused to me, but nice guy nonetheles.
Mr. MoneyBags, I learn something new from them everytime, and oh, Mr. Experience&MoneyBags now you have to be grown to date these types. If you are not mature enough they will take you for a ride. Sometimes I like the ride. Next, let’s see, Mr. FixIt, truth be told, I love Mr. FixIt, he can fix anything, aaahhhhhh. Last but not least, Mr. SayAmen, will make you appreciate all of the above, especially once you find out they are all the same.

By Ladylike

July 6, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

Morning Blog, put’cha fist down it’s Friday.

Every woman should date: Mr. Ultrasensitive, usually he just seem confused to me, but nice guy nonetheles.
Mr. MoneyBags, I learn something new from them everytime, and oh, Mr. Experience&MoneyBags now you have to be grown to date these types. If you are not mature enough they will take you for a ride. Sometimes I like the ride. Next, let’s see, Mr. FixIt, truth be told, I love Mr. FixIt, he can fix anything, aaahhhhhh. Last but not least, Mr. SayAmen, will make you appreciate all of the above, especially once you find out they are all the same.

By melo

July 6, 2007 10:18 AM | Link to this

@b.o.o.h.o.o,where do u live?47 is very young by me, if u take care of self.There is plenty of grown places to go in the A for a 47.

By Ladylike

July 6, 2007 10:20 AM | Link to this

Okay, I’m sorry for the many post, I was looking thru my purse and talking on the telephone at the same time. Opps!

By Raqi

July 6, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this

hmmm?

By Skegee (formerly She Speaks, formerly Skegee)

July 6, 2007 10:21 AM | Link to this

Mr. Was/Is We started seeing each other when he and his GF had broken up, then they got back together, then they broke up, then they got back together…we had a great time when I could say he was in a relationship but now I have to admit that he is in a relationship. DAMNIT!!!

By Li'Demi

July 6, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this

Transformers was a good movie Dayumit!!!

By SeanJohnson3000

July 6, 2007 10:25 AM | Link to this

@ Truth…good post to Purp …i feel you…ALOT of women feel like this..and u are right it applies to everyone..especially sensitive men and women..women have the luxury of living life in their fantsies.)bruh we see eye to eye on a lot of things…

By b.o.o.h.o.o

July 6, 2007 10:30 AM | Link to this

melo, I don’t live in the ATL but close enough to visit, so how about a list of suggestions for the over-35 crowd?

By Bre

July 6, 2007 10:36 AM | Link to this

Transformers was great!!!! Optimus Prime ahhhhh is all I can say. Even Tyrese did ok. I forgot he was an actor now.

By crazydiamond

July 6, 2007 10:38 AM | Link to this

Truth

Nobody in this whole world cares how you feel, except you. Everyone else only cares about what you produce

Man, that’s a pretty jaded outlook. I am truly sorry you feel that way. Sounds to me like you need a new circle of friends. In my group, 95% of us really, truly care about what is going on with the others and how it has affected them. Personally, I don’t associate with many people that don’t have a caring heart. If you do and you show it, then we will probably get along for life. I know one of my biggest problems is caring about others, almost to the point of neglecting myself.

I do know what you are talking about, it is what I have been referring to as the “Preoccupation of your own existence.” It really hit me in the airport one day. Everyone was headed toward baggage claim. I was just kind of taking note of who seemed to be intuned to the others around them. All of the sudden this lady in the middle of the crowd just stopped and it sent a wave/ripple effect to everyone around her. This hole just opened up, and it slapped me in the face how when we don’t take into account those around us, then we don’t recognize the impact our actions make on others, big or small.

By b.o.o.h.o.o

July 6, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

booya, crazydiamond

By Foots

July 6, 2007 10:53 AM | Link to this

SeanJ3G what type of must date female are you..

I wish that I could ask someone this question who has dated me and seen the good and the bad. Maybe I can sum it up as “Ms. Keep It Moving”. I always have my man’s back until too much BS has gone on that I feel stupid for hanging in there. Then I “Keep It Moving”. LOL!

Do you think you could answer this question about me based on what you’ve read in previous posts?

Would it be an all-out war if we could try to identify each other’s must-date type? (would we all still be blog-friends??)

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 6, 2007 10:54 AM | Link to this

UM Truth What?? I don’t live in a fantasy world. I know some people don’t give a flying hoot about another person’s feeling, I’ve been guilty of being the same way myself. And as for me “holding” out and waiting for a mate that’s what I choose to do and it’s not b/c of giving up too much “azz” as you so graciously put it, it’s because I have a choice. That’s right a choice something that we all have. Honey the world is not just black and white there’s a rainbow of colors to choose from.

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 6, 2007 11:04 AM | Link to this

Said it well Crazy I now care about me if I don’t care about myself how in the same hellz am I going to care about anybody else?

Here’s to you Truth What the world needs now Is love sweet love it’s the only thing that there’s just too little of….

Everybody please let’s show some love to Truth and SJ

By The Truth

July 6, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

Crazy you are scaring the hell out of me. Actually you are starting to reveal your age. Bruh, believe me, nobody on the face of this earth gives a ish what you feel. Production is the only thing that matters. Check this out. Lets say your a real caring, sensitive, dude, kinda like yourself. You tell a woman how much you care for her and how you feel daily. The thing is you can’t produce. No income, you can’t handle your business. Guess what, that chick (even though she loves you)is gonna be outta there like 20 going west. On the other hand you have a dude that can produce but may not be in tune with his feelings. He’s always going to have an audience. Now, even if the chick that loves you stays she’s going to be looking at ol boy because women respect a dude that can produce. Even if they don’t like him they respect him. If your spending all of your time in your feelings you can’t spend time producing. Unless your a hairdresser. Are you?

I have 2 close partners. If one of them called me right now and said he was shot I don’t “feel” one way or another. I may have hoped it wouldn’t have happened but I don’t feel like he feels. He’s shot, not me.

Finally, if you feel for everyone you are an emotional sponge, sopping up all the ish they throw out. Thats not good for the soul. Honest question: Do you have low self esteem? You don’t even need to answer becuase every soft azz dude I’ve met had low self esteem.

You say its jaded I say its liberating. Jaded is thinking that someone cares for who only cares because it benefits them to do so. Liberating is knowing life is and always will be a shark tank. People will eat you up if you let them. Listen to some of these chicks. I simply say if you turn to bite me I’m biting back. Actually, I may bite you first if its to my advantage to do so.

Another honest question: No joke. Are you gay? You sound gay.

By The Truth

July 6, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

PP I love me first and foremost. If me and you can work out something that works thats cool but it all starts with me loving me. I’ve been thru alot in this world, some good and some bad. The one person I could always bank on was me. The love you refer to is the ish they sell on the oxygen channel. Its funny you talk about love when your trying new and creative ways to find it. I’m not changing a thing, my thing works for me.

By Foots

July 6, 2007 11:22 AM | Link to this

Truth Like others have said, everything has shades of gray. You’re great for noting extremes, but most people like folks with a little balance to them. I respect a man who can “produce” as well as “feel”.

What I DON’T respect are men who run roughshod over everybody believing that it makes them more of a man. It doesn’t. What I DON’T respect is a man who cries more than I do believing that it makes them relate to me better. It doesn’t. The great responsibility of having power (and empathy) is knowing when to use it.

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 6, 2007 11:23 AM | Link to this

They do study on your kind all the time: In the mind of a serial (you fill in the blank). Dude it’s sad you feel this way. Someone who ever they are has ripped out your conscience. To say what you’ve said, I thank God that everyone doesn’t feel the same way you do. It sounds as if you don’t care about yourself either. The worst person to be around is someone who don’t care about themselves. I choose to be in the company of good people and it’s not a large crowd either.

By SeanJohnson3000

July 6, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

@ Purp…why do u feel like i need some luv?? Truth’s post to you was on point..and CZ sounds like he is a very sensitive and over emotional dude that has been sheltered from real life situations…no offense CZ..Now..i dont tottally agree with Truth on the post to CZ..if a close friend or even a stranger gets merked under fck up circumstances..my heart goes out to them and their family…Do i cry..nah..its life..Do i think CZ is gay…nah…just sensitive…some men are like that..its just that i am not..cant afford to be…i have people depending on me…so i HAVE to produce….i have a mouth to feed..my question to you and CZ was together..what will yall do if hard times or a black cloud ever follow you? will both of yall stand in the kitchen crying feeling sorry for youselfs or the situation? I am a man because i handle and deal with shyt…dont need a hug or a speech either or any other type of motivation..

By melo

July 6, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

so how about a list of suggestions for the over-35 crowd?.., b.o.o.h.o.o

The over 35 on the blog can suggest 4 u, although i think over 35 and over 40 is not quite like-minded, interests wise!

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 6, 2007 11:30 AM | Link to this

Truth we all got a story to tell…. your’s is no better or worst than the next.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 6, 2007 11:32 AM | Link to this

Foots You need an ambitious men who knows what he wants out of life..both professionally and personally. You need someone who can take charge of any situation because if he won’t you will! You need someone who will show you new experiences…in every aspect of your life. You need someone who is sincere and values family and friends. You can appreciate someone who wants to spend time with you, but also provides you with some ME time too…

Did I leave anything out? I know I’m right!!

Truth…any prostitute off the street will do…all he has is to do isleave her some money (production) on the table and she’ll keep coming back! Because we already know he doesn’t care about her and she doesn’t care about him. He’s not trying to please her physically so financially may be the way to go!

Kinder I think someone with a good heart and is straightforward will work for you. I think you’re pretty out going and fun-hearted so someone with a sense of humor (oh yeah, you too foots) will keep you laughing. I think someone who is very compassionate and considerate will have your heart in their hands.

Jake/Musing sounds like good guys so they need someone like me! lol

SJ hmmmm, Just borrow one of those girls from the latest hip hop video and you’ll be just fine….they’ll keep it moving as well

I’ll be back to finish with the rest of y’all

By b.o.o.h.o.o

July 6, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

A lot of us women have to “produce” too, and if we don’t want to get bitter, we try to keep having some feelings. I dont’ need a hug or a cry either, but they are nice to have - crying is the body’s way of releasing that stuff chemically so you don’t have a heart attack, etc. at a young age. Being strong doesn’t have anything to do with whether you are a man or a woman; I have dealt with some intense stuff in my life, especially the last year, with no SO around; do count on my friens just for some comic relief, etc. Some people are stronger because the ARE sensitive. on the club suggestions whatever, ok, 40 and up have any suggestions? melo, if you’re under 35 and you think 47 is young, you have a great life ahead of you…

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 6, 2007 11:39 AM | Link to this

SJ I have faced alot of hard times. I’ve lost loved ones to the hands of man. I have been in stituations that still to this day I wipe my forhead and give thanks that I made it thru. Life have issues, we can’t run from the issues of life no matter how much money or brains we have. Black clouds have followed me and some are forming right now, and no I don’t turn over and cry I get up and keep going because I know the power that lies in me and what ever I may face I can face it and come thru it.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 6, 2007 11:40 AM | Link to this

SJ3000 I think my exs would classify me as the i-just-dont-give-a-flip female or Ms Emotionless. I have been told alot of times (as I have said before) that I am really stoic. I am really laid-back and cool unless I am provoked to be otherwise. ;0) But I will ask an ex of mine and see what he says…

By Jake

July 6, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

LDD

You know Musing is on deck for the long ride, so its me who is good for you. Hey catch these, winks and kisses.

By Demi

July 6, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

Truth Even I must agree with you…

Bre hey babe!!

Skegee young cutie waz up!!!

By SeanJohnson3000

July 6, 2007 11:44 AM | Link to this

@ Double Dimples..damn..can i get a women with azz & asspirations??? real ones…chick with substance..

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 6, 2007 11:45 AM | Link to this

Hello Everybody

Wise If i didn’t know any better i would swear you was one of my girlfriend based on your blog topics and your views.

Truth Why do you appear to be so mean and bitter?? I disagree with your statement—there are people that care about other people feelings. Like right now i am wondering what past experience happen to you to cause such a root of bitterness. You appear to be the type of person that may one day flip and kill everybody in your surrounding..Mr.Angry As HELL Foots Great Idea!!

SJ you changing up on me bruth. What’s up with that?? MR. Multiple Personality

By SeanJohnson3000

July 6, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

MsU…what u mean?

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 6, 2007 11:54 AM | Link to this

Non church hugs and triple decker cotton candy lipgloss kisses to you Truth

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 6, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

Truth I understand where you are coming from, dont necessarily agree, but I understand….life experiences shape everyone’s outlook. And if it works for you, no matter how crazy it seems to everyone else, then do you. There is someone for everyone, you just have to find your one…

By Ladylike

July 6, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

Often times I am very entertained by reading you guys. When I go out I hope I met some of you in person, it would really be interesting.

SJ3000 you are right, you and Truth do read the same on many points, which is what tells me Truth is hard but not that hard. Everybody’s gotta a shield.*
All of this talk about love, we need to be honest and realize love starts with self and being selfless so if you want to smell the roses, understand that your fingers will get pricked by the thorns, that’s with anything you do. Love hurts at times and cost you something.

By Wise Diva

July 6, 2007 12:00 PM | Link to this

it’s hilarious how the blog becomes The Truth Show day in day out, LOL. He can be entertaining, no? Seriously though, all I am going to say is, pay attention to what you read/hear, but keep it in perspective. There are many words of wisdom, humor, and intrigue on the blog and many people feel comfortable pontificating things they don’t get a chance to say to people face to face. All of us have different experiences and perspectives and NOBODY can really say what is right or wrong.

By The Truth

July 6, 2007 12:01 PM | Link to this

Don’t go getting all emotional on me. SJ just summed it up for ya. When the black clouds come its time to get going and alot of folks don’t have that gear in them. Their to busy feeling sorry for themselves. Low self esteem is a big cause of that.

Your right PP we all do have stories, and truth be told you don’t give a dam about mine as I stated in my previous post because theirs nothing in it for you. Once again, where all selfish bastards masqurading as loving adoring people.

Nipples your right, a good ho will do now. I have stated many times I don’t want to be married now so azz is all I’m concerned with.

That reminds me of a married friend that see’s a chick and makes sure he drops some cash on her. Not for the booty but so that she knows this is just business.

By Demi

July 6, 2007 12:03 PM | Link to this

Mo I am dating a Idon’tgivedamn type now…she is about 40, so getting to know her has been pretty tough…but worth it.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 6, 2007 12:05 PM | Link to this

SJ* You started out being this nice understanding guy. You look at things from both side (female/male) and you seemed so sown to earth. You had this hard but sensitive persona about yourself. But now you seem nonchalant. Have you been hanging out with TRUTH? I want my old SJ back.(LOL)

By Foots

July 6, 2007 12:08 PM | Link to this

Dark Dimples That was good! I think we’d be looking for the same dude! But to add to that, you have an awesome sense of adventure, so you need a guy who is definitely a daredevil of sorts.

Now if I could just find a dude that can put up with the no-nonsense part of me along with the part of me that is prone to eating cotton candy in bed and doesn’t mind that I dance when I eat something REALLY good, then I’ll be set!! I’m mad that you already claimed Jake though. I don’t think he’d mind a little pink sugar stuck to his taco meat. LOL!!

LadyJ I think that you need a dude who is extremely loyal and trustworthy. I don’t think that looks matter a bunch to you, you’d just appreciate a dude who was “there” for you in every sense of the word.

By b.o.o.h.o.o

July 6, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

“azz & asspirations”…I like that…that’s me

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 6, 2007 12:13 PM | Link to this

Demi I care, but I dont show my emotions all the time. Like I said, I am really laid back. Also i am not good (admittedly) with expressing myself. I am working on it though…. :0)

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 6, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

Whoa Truth again I say, I don’t proclaim to a high roller almighty make no mistakes my way or the highway kinda woman. I’ve made mistakes still making mistakes, learn from them and still got more to learn. You were the one coming on here smashing me talking about caring and how you display your lack there of. I will take account for what I say or do that’s being responsible. I’m not knocking you for the way you feel, sometimes life experience brings out the best in us and sometimes not.

By The Truth

July 6, 2007 12:21 PM | Link to this

MSU why in the world would you take anything I write as bitter. If you were here you’d see I was laughing as I type this. And tell me who these people are that care so much. Are they your family, your lover, your boss? Which ones?

Lady where does being hard come into it? I’ve worked with people that would officially be considered hard and even they weren’t hard. They were able to talk, rationilize, etc… They have feelings, like we all do. Being hard is not the correct word. Being realistic is a better word. I know without a doubt that not everyone is looking out for my welfare. Thats what sets me free. I don’t have to give a dam about them either. Even someone that once looked out for my welfare can change for whatever reason they see fit. I may just be better at recognizing that moment whereas some of you will hold on hoping that things are going to change back, “For Love”.

WD your right, none of us know what is right or wrong. We’re all just taking a swing at life. Thats what makes this thing so much fun. There are no wrong answers. Just learning experiences.

By b.o.o.h.o.o

July 6, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

Diva : word! I was lurking the other day, Truth was not around, and someone commented that they missed his input…I was surprised that I did too! Keep it comin’ people…

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 6, 2007 12:22 PM | Link to this

Foots should we start calling you “Cupid”? Good looking on the match making! :0) Not Cotton Candy in the bed!!

By melo

July 6, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this

@b.o.o.h.o.o,melo, if you’re under 35 and you think 47 is young, you have a great life ahead of you… Biologically, iam over 40, but have been 35 psychologicaly&spiritualy and in my whole outlook on life, for a number of years now!

I am taking care of my portfolio tho, coz i dont want to be caught off guard by the man- made labor rules!!

By b.o.o.h.o.o

July 6, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

@melo:”The over 35 on the blog can suggest 4 u, although i think over 35 and over 40 is not quite like-minded, interests wise!” After your last text (Biologically, iam over 40, but have been 35 psychologicaly&spiritualy and in my whole outlook on life, for a number of years now!) which I feel, why can’t you suggest some? Don’t get it

By Demi

July 6, 2007 12:30 PM | Link to this

Mo, I know…it takes a lot for emotions to show through y’all armor…I am in a Icouldcarelesshowyoufeel mood at the moment so it works out for me. I am the youngest guy she has dated, so it has been an uphill battle…just to get my foot in the door, LOL

I want her chocolate a$$ and I gotta have her and she know it…

By Jake

July 6, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this

Foots

I’m flattered sweetie…as for the cotton candy, I’d rather eat the pink sugar off you…but who knows what will happen if I like that dance you do…LOL

By Foots

July 6, 2007 12:31 PM | Link to this

why in the world would you take anything I write as bitter. If you were here you’d see I was laughing as I type this

Man, I BET I’m laughing harder than you are right about now!!! LMAO!!! ROTFLMAO!!!

They have feelings, like we all do.

Truth!! When did you get feelings?!?! Just yesterday you said you didn’t have any. I would give you a hug, but for some reason, I think you’d prefer if I showed you the girls instead. LOL!!

By Ladylike

July 6, 2007 12:32 PM | Link to this

Where the grown folks at? Just asking.

On topic: Once I dated Mr. AllStar he was from a good family, nice parents, grandparents, but steriods user boy am I glad that I stopped dating him, he could get a little violent. Then there was Mr. RapStar, please stop, everybody was not cut out for that line of work, go to school!

By Jake

July 6, 2007 12:37 PM | Link to this

Hey Elvis, what it do bruh…LOL

By Demi

July 6, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

I am taking care of my portfolio tho, coz i dont want to be caught off guard by the man-made labor rules!!

Melo now that was funny!! LOL

The Truth dayum bruh…how do they read, you being bitter from your posting today?

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 6, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this

Truth Being that you are laughing, should we take your post as serious or just funny? You got me worried hiny (LOL)

Who cares Well here goes you ask: God Family ( There not a day go by that we don’t talk and express our love—mom,dad,my kids)

Church Member( We set aside days where we get together and pray for one another and not ourselves)

Guy/Girl Friends (Give advice when things aren’t good/ there to cheer you on when things are— ready to help in the time of hardship- will answer they phone late at night when i can’t sleep or dealing with something and need someone to talk to) Last but not least Trth cause he cared enough to ask GOD BLESS

By Foots

July 6, 2007 12:43 PM | Link to this

Ladylike I did meet a guy once who wanted to be Mr Rap Star. He had just moved here and was living with his uncle a few houses down, talking bout “I came to the ATL to get my big break.” It must have worked, cause he shole was broke! LOL!

By crazydiamond

July 6, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this

Truth

First of all, no I am not gay, and just your insinuation that I am, well it shows a lack a maturity. Am I sheltered, far from it. I grew up with an alcoholic father who would get violent when he drank. I am the one that would step in and have fist fights with him, just to keep him focused on me and not on my mother or sister. I was also the counselor for my parents, they would not be together today and he would not have become a recovering alcoholic if not for me. I even prevented dad from being arrested at the age of 14 while on vacation in Orlando, the bartenders could not believe I was 14. Neither did this 20 year old nanny from Holland, that’s another story. If I had not been that person, they would have split and dad wouldn’t have ever stopped. He is now a minister, for a year. I have seem him grow from a Back woods, redneck ready to brawl at a moments notice into one of the most caring people you will ever meet. I have been through alot in my 30 years, and it began at a young age.

You talk about not being able to produce, being a nice, sensitive, caring guy makes me strive for what I want, which means I do produce. When do I know that I developing feelings for a WOMAN? When I see myself wanting to become a better man. The day I quit growing as an individual is the day they take me to the morgue. Don’t worry, I know why I scare you, it is because I have people in my life that care about me, and you dont’ seem to have that in your life. I do feel for you and understand your outlook a little more. As for low self esteem, nope. No problem there. I don’t act this way for people’s approval and I don’t really mind if they don’t approve, I will not change. I will still care for them even if they don’t care for me, it’s just my nature. What reason do I have for having low self esteem? I make great money, I am athletic to the point to where I am suprised when i loose at something, I am smart, funny, have a great group of friends, I am artistic(guitar, mandolin, drawing, etc…), I am an original, you will never find anyone like me. I always say, I am not normal, normal is boring and we tend to forget normal, however, we always remember those that are different. I hope someone comes along and is able to show you that there are people that care, you might not notice them, but they are there. It sounds like you need some prayers for you man, don’t worry I got your back.

By kinderbabe

July 6, 2007 12:45 PM | Link to this

good afternoon, all:)

ladyd what’s up, girl? are you psychic? lol i had to pop in when i saw your 11:32 post about my type of guy. i was sitting here reading saying: wait, i didn’t even post today! lol you wrote: I think someone who is very compassionate and considerate will have your heart in their hands. you must know me or something…lol. that was definitely on point. i managed to get a comment on topic and hadn’t even posted. amazing!! lol anyway, how’s your day going?

By melo

July 6, 2007 12:47 PM | Link to this

@b.o.o.h.o.owhich I feel, why can’t you suggest some? Don’t get it What do u like, what are ur interests etc. When i know, then i may have an idea of which places you can go to and hang out. In addition, since u may like to mix and mingle, do u want to do it with ur age group,under group or over.Some ur age like the young red-blooded ones, others dont. Give me some to work with!

By crazydiamond

July 6, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this

SJ

The black clouds have been around me for a long time, but I tend to deal with those situations with one easy phrase from a cheesy a$$ movie. “When there are problems and there is a solution, then there is no reason to worry. If there is a problem and there isn’t a solution, then there is no reason to worry.” Problems don’t bother me, it is life, I deal with it and move on. The things I have dealt with in the past are the same reason why I became who I am today, and I wouldn’t change it for the world. Now will I continue to improve myself? Hell yes, nobodies perfect. this is also a big reason I am still single, is that I can’t stand to be with someone that can’t handle the pressure when the sh!t hits the fan. Me, I just put on my golashes and sludge through the crap until it’s gone.

By Ladylike

July 6, 2007 12:50 PM | Link to this

Now see Truth I’m trying to stay on topic…Realistic, Hard call it what you want, that works better for you, okay. The point I’m making is that we all have shield. Life experiences makes us who we are, and I don’t doubt that some don’t care how I feel, I’m sure many people don’t. But The Truth is I know someone does care, may not be who I want to give a flying flip about me, but somebody cares. “Nothing changes back, either it’s Love or it’s not.” Gosh these roses smell so good, let me touch it, Ooouch, that hurt my finger. Oh well, guess that’s what I get for trying smell them roses. LOL

By Raqi

July 6, 2007 12:52 PM | Link to this

(Just sitting here thinking about the Title and not so much the entry itself.)

Mandatory Dating…Dating is Mandatory.

I haven’t been on a real date in nearly 7 weeks. Why? Because I have allowed other things to completely engulf my time therefore falling into the mind-set of “I’ll get back to it”. I said that 5 weeks ago. It’s been seven complete weeks now. It is so easy to fall into that rut. And it’s not you are doing it on purpose or care less about your S/O or you all’s relationship. It’s just that you can become so preoccupied until weeks and then months pass when you look back and say Wow where did the time go.

That’s the challenge of being with an understanding and accommodating mate. You have to remain mindful of their needs also. Really though…just because they are that way doesn’t mean there is not a limit. There is always a limit that anyone can be pushed to.

From my experience it started off with absolute necessities. Then other things came up and I thought in my mind “Well he understands”, which he does, he understands. But after a while you find yourself on the borderline of neglecting. I promised myself long time ago that I would not let myself get too caught up to where my partner starts to feel “what about me?”.

There I was going along thinking we are getting ready to go on vacation and we will have that time to spend together. But at the start I never stopped to think that it would be over a month before we actually went.

My motto: Prioritize but minimize. (Just some random thinking)

By SeanJohnson3000

July 6, 2007 12:54 PM | Link to this

@ MsU…i am still the same person.very understaning and i look at things different than most men…but the part of me relates and understand Truth’s pov…yall gotta understand..dont know if yall pay attention..but Truth’s background is military and he worked in the prison system..so thats where the no nonsense ..black and white thing comes from….its not bitter but reality

@ LadyLike..are u from Fla?

By Ladylike

July 6, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this

Foots girl, that Mr. Rap Star was crazy. He taught not to go to dinner with him, it was as if he was trying to tell everyone who he was, when he wasn’t exactly anyone just yet. I just wanted to crawl up under the table. LOL

By Demi