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Let’s not play that game

By Wise Diva | Monday, July 2, 2007, 08:00 AM

The Atlanta Journal-Constitution

I turned 35 last week and as usual, my birthday brings about new perspectives about life. I always reflect on past decisions, and of course this includes dating. I have finally arrived at the conclusion that I am exhausted with playing the dating game. It just isn’t something I want to put energy into. I fully intend to be married one day, however, I have grown a bit weary of participating in the dating games people play - and we all play them.

Let’s see, there’s the “I like you, but..game” - this is the one when you find ridiculous issues and nitpick a new date to death, because you are too afraid to take a chance on someone. Then my personal favorite, “I don’t feel that passion I felt for (insert horrible example of a relationship) game. You know this one, right? Nobody gives you that same intense feeling as the wild chemistry you once felt for that guy or girl, who didn’t last for a reason.

Can you name a dating game that you are guilty of playing?

If I wanted to get philosophical about dating, I could say that we all go through this game playing phase for a reason. So what is the point? What are we out to win, exactly?

If there are so many games being played to get what we want, then who decides the rules?

Does it have to be complicated, complex, and challenging or are we making it that way?

Do you think that romantic relationships will always involve game playing to some degree?

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By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 8:12 AM | Link to this

Good Morning since Slim is not here i came by early to drop off these stale muffins…and some Kool-aid

winks to the WLB

Head nod to the all powerful MLB

Nice topic Wise “I’ll be back” (said in my Terminator voice)

By QC

July 2, 2007 8:31 AM | Link to this

Morning Bloggers

I’ll check back later, where did the weekend go? Thanks goodness tomorrow is my friday, GA.man your usual “morning fix” is in on the left side of the bar in the blog cafe

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 2, 2007 8:45 AM | Link to this

Morning ALL!! Mo strolls in and sees the stale muffins and kool-aid GAMan left out Now I know you dont think we are eating this GAMan!! I cant wait til Slim gets back!! LOL

Mo is off to get a FRESH muffin and a cup of joe…Daggone GAMan got my Monday started all wrong!! :0)

By QC

July 2, 2007 8:54 AM | Link to this

GA.man you put a 5ive pound bag of sugar in this kool-aid, after i drink this 32 oz cup i’ll be all wired up all day

Note to self, do not try to balance my report today cause i know i’ll be out of balance

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 8:55 AM | Link to this

Thanks QC girl what would i do without you

By binford

July 2, 2007 9:02 AM | Link to this

I brought some donuts!

I have been accused of being both too shallow and too picky. My response is that I am neither but that I am keying on a few non-negotiable traits that I need to continue on (and I look for a “cute” girl who ages gracefully, and not “hot” that tends to burn out quickly).

If a girl’s best hobbies are watching TV and eating - you can be rest assured I am kicking her to the curb. Because that is counter what I know I want and need.

By Sexione

July 2, 2007 9:03 AM | Link to this

Morning!!

QC Tomorrow is my Friday too!!!! Enjoy your mini-vacation!! lol I’m not having any of GAmans sugaraid because I need my recon to balance! lmsao

Wise Now you understand my statement from many blogs ago……….why I’m not interested in playing the (dating) game….I have ZERO tolerance for the BS…..hehehehe

By MusingLee

July 2, 2007 9:10 AM | Link to this

Morn’in All,

Wise I reached that point of my life years ago…Always looking for the bigger, better deal…Sometimes you just have to hang on to a good thing while it’s looking at you in the face…A few of my guy friends look at my relationship with my girl and say “I want something like that”, and I look over and say “Dude, you had that with ol’girl you were dating..but you didn’t give it a chance”…Being in a relationship isn’t like buying a new car, er’thing works great right off the lot…It’s more like an old classic, it requires work to get er’thing working great, you paint it and make it shiny…Then when people see it all they see is the fun part, but it took a while to get it looking that great.

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this

good morning all!! hope your weekend was fabulous!:)

hey mo! how are you?

did anybody go to playdate on saturday?

By QC

July 2, 2007 9:15 AM | Link to this

You’re welcome GA.man

^5 SexieOne enjoy your mini-v also!

Geesh, i gotta add some water to this sugaraid

By T-Mango

July 2, 2007 9:18 AM | Link to this

Good morning to the WLB and the MLB.

Does it have to be complicated, complex, and challenging or are we making it that way? I think many of us make it more complicated and challenging than it needs to be. I know I sound like a scratched CD, but if we are honest in our intentions and treat others as we want to be treated, dating would be MUCH easier. It might even be more fun…

Do you think that romantic relationships will always involve game playing to some degree? It’s unfortunate that games have to be played…(especially when you’re over 30). I played my games in my 20’s. In my 30’s I have no patience for it. The saying “game always recognizes game” applies now. Therefore, I can tell if someone is trying to play games very early on.

I think “game playing” is a defense mechanism…we do it to keep from being hurt, being tied down, and/or revealing our shortcomings-been there done that, got a t-shirt. If you are in a true relationship, there shouldn’t be any games played. You’re supposed to be showing each other who you are and enjoying the process of getting to know each other on different levels. If you’re playing games while you’re in a relationship then that is a problem.

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 9:21 AM | Link to this

musing that was very well put.:) very mature and reflective.

By binford

July 2, 2007 9:25 AM | Link to this

I brought some donuts!

I have been accused of being both too shallow and too picky. My response is that I am neither but that I am keying on a few non-negotiable traits that I need to continue on (and I look for a “cute” girl who ages gracefully, and not “hot” that tends to burn out quickly).

If a girl’s best hobbies are watching TV and eating - you can be rest assured I am kicking her to the curb. Because that is counter what I know I want and need.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 2, 2007 9:27 AM | Link to this

Good Morning Everyone!!

I can honestly say that I do not play any dating games…never have, hopefully never will. My approach to dating has always been very simple…don’t go out with a guy unless you think he’s a good catch and serious. I have avoided the guys who appear risky as a precautionary move and a defense mechanism. I purposely didn’t date athletes when I was at Tech because of their reputations. My sorors dated them and I would hear the horror stories and didn’t want to go down that road. Discipline in dating has served me well over the years…although it doesn’t prevent being hurt, it has avoided the games in dating. All my boyfriends have come from referrals… so people tell them upfront that I don’t play, either step seriously or don’t step at all. When I am not in a relationship I’m usually kicking it with friends…I’d rather spend time with friends than on a date with a stranger most nights!

I say all that to say…be very selective up front on who you chose to date and it will greatly reduce the amount of games you will encounter.

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 9:27 AM | Link to this

Musing gets the GaMan early morning post of the day……great stuff man…i wish you nothing but happiness….here have some Kool-aid

i also just brought this Tang in for ya’ll that dont do Kool-aid

By abc

July 2, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

Just stop playing games. Game playing runs the good ones off, anyway. Nobody with any sense is into dealing with such games, playing with their head, etc.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 2, 2007 9:30 AM | Link to this

Hey Kinderbabe!! How are you? I am doing well, just trying to enjoy the summer! Its going by so quick! How is Grad School treating you (I plan on going that route within the next year)?

By The Truth

July 2, 2007 9:34 AM | Link to this

Good morning blogsville. Wax on wax, off azz rub to the WLB. Chinese bow to the MLB.

WD I think we have an option that wasn’t available, to a large degree, to previous generations. Being single. It throws the dating game out of wack. We are constantly weighing our current situation v. some future potentail mate, and alot of us are not willing to take the risk. The situation that MUSE describes is the only one worth considering, and we all know how often that comes along. Coincidentaly, I saw a previous gf this weekend and it reminded me how good it is to be single.

Good morning QC glad to see you before your normal cute 2pm entrance. LOL Morning MO. Morning Sexi.

Gaman these dam donuts have rocks in em. You handle the entertainment, we’ll let the ladies handle the refeshments. (The Truth now heads to the dentist to have stones removed from his teeth)

Workout update: 2 hours of yard work on saturday had a bruh drained. Took off yesterday, didn’t even walk the dog. Did 45 mins this morning. Ate skinless chicken and rice all weekend. Waiting for the ol metabolism to kick in so I can see the scale move.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 2, 2007 9:39 AM | Link to this

Good Morning My Wonderful Blog Family!!

Games, Games dont’ have time for it. I agree with Sexione, Musing &T-Mango well said nothing more to add.

Happy Belated B-day WISEY

By QC

July 2, 2007 9:41 AM | Link to this

Hey Truth thanks for da azz rub*

hey kinderb, Musing

GA.man brought that Tang in, i’m gonna add it to this Metamucil i found in the medicine cabinet and put it in this kool-aid; i’m going to serve it to all the MLB’s they’ll think it’s orange juice, lol, hey Musing here’s some OJ with a nice warm muffin, lol

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 9:46 AM | Link to this

Thruth i ate on of the dang donuts too…but Binford brought them in…..

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 9:48 AM | Link to this

welcome to the 35 year old club Wise…….hey Kinder,Mo

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 9:51 AM | Link to this

mo glad to hear you’re doing well.:) grad school is over for the summer. the last day was on the 28th of june. i was actually in class from 9-4 monday thru friday (can’t do the online thing, i wouldn’t do my work, lol) we resume on august 20th. can’t wait! i’m excited about completing the program. i know that it will be challenging but not overwhelming. let me know if you ever want info about the program i’m in. i can send it to you when you’re ready.

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 9:53 AM | Link to this

hey QC how are you?

By The Truth

July 2, 2007 9:56 AM | Link to this

Ok, I see all the replies are going in the direction of nobody in here is a game player. We all are playing games, even if its just the defense game. I know I’m guilty. I like to officially call my game stalking. I’m surveying the prey to find the exact one I want. Thats the one I’ll pounce on. I just play around with the rest. LOL

Good morning Nipples.

By SexyCool

July 2, 2007 9:57 AM | Link to this

Happy Belated, Wise!!!

I’ll be joining the three-five club in less than four months. How excited am I?

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 2, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this

Here’s a tip for those who are trying to implement a good workout and eating plan…Eggplant Lasagna. It’s a low-carb alternative because you’re using the eggplant in place of noodles. It’s one of those healthy meals that taste so good…and for those of you who might say uggh to eggplant…you don’t even tast the eggplant.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 2, 2007 9:59 AM | Link to this

QC Not the Metamucil!!! LOL This should be an interesting Blog day!! :0)

Truth I missed my azz rub, was getting my coffee and muffin! ;0)

Biff now you know if you bring dounuts its gotta be krispy kreme!!

Kinderbabe Thanks and I will. Gotta get a few more things in order first(i.e child in daycare)!

By QC

July 2, 2007 10:00 AM | Link to this

KinderB i’m good thanks just trying to wake up; how are you?

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 2, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this

Good morning yoll

For the grown and sexy I brought some mimosa

I don’t play games when dating. No need, either I’m interested or I’m not period, no need to play games.

By crazydiamond

July 2, 2007 10:02 AM | Link to this

Hello to the WLB and the MLB. Left work early on friday after injecting my thoughts into the discussion. Went back looking for the banning from the MLB and to my suprise, someone nominated me for an honorary membership to the MLB. However, I did not recieve the package that explains to me what the URANG is and why my memebership is dependent upon me not using it?

About games, You know it seems to me that alot of times if your not willing to play the games, then you are put back on the bench. Why is this? So many times, I have tried to be upfront and honest, not play the normal games. It seems to do nothing but take out the attraction. It seems to reflect that when you take the mystery/questions out of your intentions, then it causes things fizzles out very quickly. Makes me believe that when you know you can have something, then it doesn’t taste as sweet. Why is this? Which comes back to the issues of always wanting what you can’t have….

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 10:03 AM | Link to this

mo i understand, childcare is very important. i hear my classmates talk about it often.:)

ladydark that sounds good and i just love eggplant. could you post the recipe?

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 2, 2007 10:07 AM | Link to this

Truth I’m taking applications for a pool boy.

By MusingLee

July 2, 2007 10:12 AM | Link to this

Hey QC

It throws the dating game out of wack. We are constantly weighing our current situation v. some future potentail mate, and alot of us are not willing to take the risk.

Truth Man you said it right here…This is correct. You have to be ready to take that chance to make something happen. I have friends who will hang out with a chick that seems cool to me, but next time I see him, he’s got a new chick…I’m like what happened, and he’ll say “ohhh, but this chick got this going on”…Then I’ll say “that’s the same thing you said about the other girl.”..LOLOLOL….He really isn’t ready mentally as much as he claims.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 2, 2007 10:13 AM | Link to this

Lacey Good lookin out on the Mimosa!! ‘Preciate ya!

LadyDark Please post that recipe! I have heard that before but wasnt brave enough to try eggplant.

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

Crazy first of all the Grandpoba wants you in so i will be handling your membership…..

The URANG is our car..it is a DURANGO..well it was until Musing changed some stuff around in it……let me be the first to welcome you to our club….

now fill out these forms it is only 23 of them….and by all means understand we (MLB) will help you when you put your foot in your mouth on here from time to time…but sometimes you have to defend your statemnets on your own if noone co-signs it…got it…thats all for now

Here you will need these …if not today one day….Blogvest Blogfacemask BlogBallprotector….anything else you need ..you have to go see Musing his office is down the hall….third door on the right

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 10:14 AM | Link to this

QC i’m fine. just enjoying my time off.

By QC

July 2, 2007 10:17 AM | Link to this

Mo you know i gotta make sure all the MLB’s are up on their game…those orange muffins w/real orange slices are full of metamucil also,lol

Now sneaking into the MLB’s bathrooms and taking all the scott tissue, replacing it with those hard brown paper towels off the cleaning ladie’s cart

By QC

July 2, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

Well enjoy yourself kb

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 10:23 AM | Link to this

QC lol!! not metamucil!! trying to clean the MLB out, literally…lmao.

By crazydiamond

July 2, 2007 10:24 AM | Link to this

GA.man Trying this new equipment out, does the Vest offer any protection from behind, if not, can I get another one to put on backwards? As for the forms, my lawyer is reading through them as we speak.

By QC

July 2, 2007 10:31 AM | Link to this

kb they need a good cleaning out before they start eating all that bbq…..CrazyD enjoy those orange muffins & OJ i have for all the MLB’s, you can use the “20 oz glass” since you’re new….enjoy!!! lol

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 10:33 AM | Link to this

Crazy i am th e attorney for the MLB either you are in or not…aint no negotations on our membership….dont have me notify the Grandpoba of this..now if you are always attacking from the front you dont need no back protection..but if you have to run then maybe you needed a kick in the butt….so thats all of your stuff for now…..now take yo crazy self down the hall and see Musing he has some other stuff for you…..Dang gome new folks always looking to get the hook-up…lololol

matter fact here have some Kool-aid i will call Musing for you so you wont get lost……

GaMan replacing the good tissue that QC stole

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 10:37 AM | Link to this

QClol…you’re right. you’re saving them money on colonics…lmao.

By For Real

July 2, 2007 10:39 AM | Link to this

What up Blog Fam!!!

Wise Please step away from the ledge. Don’t give up so soon. Your life isn’t over yet. You have a decent amount of time left on this planet to maybe, possibly, could fine that someone special. Cmon down now. Here I have two mydols and an estrogen shot waiting for you. Lets drink some of GaMan’s kool aid..

Lw/2D’s Slap across the back of your head Eggplant Lasagna… it’s too early for that…

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 2, 2007 10:40 AM | Link to this

Being in a relationship isn’t like buying a new car on point Musing much blessing on your relationship.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 2, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

Mo/Kinder I’m going off of memory so work with me:

Eggplant: You buy 1 Large eggplant and peel it. You slice it about 1/4 inch lengthwise. Lay them on a cookie sheet and put salt on them. This is called sweating the vegetable (trying to get the moisture out of it). Do it on both sides of the slices and give it 15 mins on each side.

Meat Sauce Ground your choice of meat (ground turkey or sirloin) with minced garlic and chopped onions….season as you like. Then apply a jar of your favorite spaghetti sauce.

Cheese Mix Buy a tub of approximately 16oz (2 cups) of ricotta cheese. Mix low fat ricotta cheese, one egg, and grated parmesan cheese in a bowl together.

Arrangement:

Spray nonstick spray on a baking dish. Layer the meat sauce on the bottom. Then put a layer of the eggplant. Next layer the ricotta cheese mix, mozzarella cheese, meat sauce and then repeat again. On the top layer you put meat sauce and mozarella chees only.

Bake covered on 325 for about an hour

Note subsitute low-fat or part-skim when necessary…you won’t be able to tell the difference with cheese.

Let me know how it goes if/when you try it…I also have a teriyaki, pecan=crusted salmon recipe that is awesome…I love to cook healthy meals. The main thing my man complains about is the wheat pasta…he hates it, but I can’t really tell a big difference.

By Tazzee

July 2, 2007 10:41 AM | Link to this

Morning all!

Musing you are making some good points this morning, keep them coming.

On Wise’s questions:

Can you name a dating game that you are guilty of playing? I can honestly say that I don’t play any dating ‘games’. There is a weeding out process and some may consider my dating style as a game - but its honestly me trying to determine if a guy is worth more of my time.

So what is the point? What are we out to win, exactly? When I did play games, the point was to get the guy to be more into me than I was into him. It was also to have the upper hand in the relationship.

If there are so many games being played to get what we want, then who decides the rules? I think everyone is playing their own game and therefore there are no universal rules. Not that this would be considered a ‘game’ but I still have a 90 day period before I ever consider being exclusive with a guy. That is my rule. A guy would have to be oh so fabulous before I break that one.

Does it have to be complicated, complex, and challenging or are we making it that way? If the ultimate goal is marriage - I think it should be challenging. There should be some complexity to determining if this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Even if that person is a perfect fit - I would think there would be some internal challenges you have to deal with before making that life-long commitment.

Do you think that romantic relationships will always involve game playing to some degree? No.

Have a great day bloggers - since tomorrow is also my Friday, I got some work to do!

By crazydiamond

July 2, 2007 10:45 AM | Link to this

Thanks for the Muffins, I think I will pass on the OJ…

Don’t worry, I’ve already signed, just wanted the lawyer to make sure I didn’t use my alias anywhere, got to be legal. I never know who is actually in control.

I sure am glad GaMan brought back out the good paper. Would have hated to use the guest towels

By QC

July 2, 2007 10:46 AM | Link to this

Hey ForReal have some of the ice cold OJ & warm muffins i brought in for all the MLB’s…

Now once again taking the “good tissue” GA.man took and replacing it with “sand paper” and now hiding the rest of the blog tissue

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 2, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

Anytime MO, I love me some mimosa and eggs florentine w/ mornay sauce :)

Gaman any critics on Live Free Die Hard?

By SeanJohnson

July 2, 2007 10:49 AM | Link to this

Sup Blog…

@ DarkDimples…you dont strike me as being a hard nose dater….

@ Truth ..i feel you on beig single..and weighing all options and not even considering commitment unless its something really good..piece of mind is too valuable. Yet i dont really play games..i get accused of it for not wanted to be in a serious relationship..just because u want to date more than one person..u are labeled a player by women..

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 10:55 AM | Link to this

@SJ, so it is ok to date more than one chick? Can women do the same without getting caugt up emotinally?

By The Truth

July 2, 2007 10:58 AM | Link to this

GAMAN wtf is going on bruh. I didn’t get any of that gear when I joined up. No wonder these chicks keep kicking me in the nuts. Send over my gear azap, especially the ballprotector.

Crazy I want you to know upfront I didn’t support your membership, however, I was overruled so I’ll abide by the councils decision. You came in a little soft on some of your statements and I have a diabloical plan to make the MLB some real chest thumping, barbaric, bone breaking dudes. Anyway, as I said I was overruled so welcome to the group. Every once in a while say something real crazy to let us know your “holdin a pair”.

MUSE this whole thing is about mental mindset. I don’t know about the ladies but for a dude the minute you decide you really want a nice one you can find her. There’s still some gems out there, even if you have to dust em off a little. Do your thang man and I wish you the best.

Pee Pee your poolman is here for you baby. ( The Truth now bends over with his thong speedo to pick up around the pool. How’d that baby oil get on my cheeks? LOL)

QC I’ve been to the bathroom 5 times already. Now I know why. You ain’t right. Payback is a mufugger. I do feel a little lighter tho.

Nipple post that recipe, I may give it a try too.

Does anyone do oatmeal for breakfast? I put raisins and honey in mine. Keeps you regular.

Has anyone read a book called “Things Fall Apart” by Chinua Achebe?

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 11:01 AM | Link to this

I had this guy tell me a story over the weekend how he was invovled with two sorrity sisters and they knew each other and when they found out he was with both of them they went off on him…He felt he was just invovled with one seriously and the other was just physical…I feel it is sorta risky being invoved/dating multiple parties bc #1 there is not enough time…Someone will get slighted and that is were the game playing/lies come into play…It is tiring trying to figure out where one is coming from when we know that we know, I feel…MOO…

By SeanJohnson

July 2, 2007 11:06 AM | Link to this

@ LadyJ..i am not married..so its fine to date more than one female..its perfectly legal in all 52 states..And some women do date more than one man..and dont get caught up emotionally….You have some that get caught up emotionally..and thats gotta be bad…because after each fail relationship..its the same ole feeling..like being hurt over and over and over again..i guess thats where baggage and scares come from..

By QC

July 2, 2007 11:07 AM | Link to this

Truth lol, you are more than welcome, i left y’all some baby wipes on the counter cause i know wiping yo azzes with that sand paper will probably have you a little raw back there…lol!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 2, 2007 11:08 AM | Link to this

SJ I’m sure that is just one of the many surprises you’d find out about me. I’m really hard-nosed when it comes to who I entrust my heart to….I don’t date frivously at all. When my EX and I broke up I didn’t go on one date for over a year. The very next date I went on was with my current SO. The guys who were trying to holla either didn’t seem serious enough to warrant my time or I wasn’t remotely interested in others to give of my time. I kicked it with my girlfriends and male friends and resuscitated my aching heart in the meantime…

By MusingLee

July 2, 2007 11:11 AM | Link to this

Rummaging through the MLB closets and drawers…handing ishh to Crazy and Truth…

Here is your MLB magnifying glass, keys to your office, MLB Handbook, Rain jacket, speedo, “Taco Meat” Care kit, MLB “Demi’s five steps to happiness” book, Picture of the MLB Civic w/door pass codes, and your MLB “Atomic Dog” CD.

Ok, now you both need to report to Demi for orientation…His office is on the roof.

Ok, now you both need to report to Demi for orientation…His office is on the roof.

By crazydiamond

July 2, 2007 11:12 AM | Link to this

Truth

Don’t worry, when the time is right and I have lulled everyone into a false sense of security, then look out, the OJ will come out of your nose. Besides, I just play a nice guy on TV, and yes, I stayed at a Holiday Inn last night.

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 11:14 AM | Link to this

Dag SJ, okay got you brotha…

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 11:15 AM | Link to this

thanks ladydark i’ll make the veggie modifications.:)

hey ladyj:)

By Blatino aka BMW aka BLT

July 2, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

MORNING BLOG FOLKZEZ!!!

Chest bump to the MLB, and a playful but too hard shove to the WLB…

@Truth, Whatup big bruh?? Your objections to Crazy’s membership were duly noted, and appreciated. It’s a probationary membership and can be revoked for any reason in the first 30 days.

@CRAZY…. Ok, here’s how it is, bruh. I nominated you cuz I can appreciate your plight as a former shoot straight good boy myself, and still one at heart. But, if you really wanna roll with the MLB, then you gotta be willing to ball up and take the manly side at least every once in a while. Just FYI, your post today was kinda weak. You good n d@mn well that in the ATL, everyone plays the game. We’ll let that one go though.

ON TOPIC: the Grand Poobah BMW is definitely guilty of the “I just don’t get the heat like i did with (insert random ghetto girl’s name here)” game. I call it getting the butterflies. If i don’t get the butterflies when I’m around you from the get, it aint gonna happen.

By abc

July 2, 2007 11:20 AM | Link to this

There are 50 states in the U.S.A., one for every star on the flag, or is that vice versa? Ha.

I went shopping yesterday for clothing that had flag elements on them, and almost every store I went to didn’t have any: Macy’s, Parisian, Pennys, Kohls, Old Navy, Target, Wal Mart, every boutique in the mall… only Sears and New York & Co. had any. What’s up with that, week before July 4th? No patriotism?

By crazydiamond

July 2, 2007 11:21 AM | Link to this

Musing…Where’s my secret decoder ring? or are there certain tasks I must perform before I am trusted with that type of information?

Guess it’s not a secret anymore, damn first day and I gave up the wrong info

Now since the good paper is gone, and I ain’t no baby, I guess it is back to the guest towels. Quick question? Embroidered side out?

By For Real

July 2, 2007 11:24 AM | Link to this

Thanks QC I will take a gallon of the OJ.

For Real now pouring the gallon of OJ in the WLB’s drinking water system.

SJ3Stacks I’m in the same situation. I keep hearing I’m a playa or I am playing games bc I don’t want to be in relationship. I am single and I going to date. I don’t put any holds on anyone that I date so I expect them not to put any holds on me.

By SeanJohnson

July 2, 2007 11:26 AM | Link to this

@ Dark Dimples..since you have the no non sense dating approach…are u going to give your current SO a time table or ultimatum to be married soon? all in your kool aid at i….and now that i think about it..with your new business venture…is it going to change anything with your plans of wanting to be married and have kids soon..

@ LadyJ…sounds like your heart and your “love below” are hard wired together…can you honestly say u can have sx with someone and not be emotionally attached?

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

Hey Kinderbabe!

By For Real

July 2, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

Lw/2D’s didn’t seem serious enough

What do you mean by this?

By The Truth

July 2, 2007 11:27 AM | Link to this

QC we don’t need baby wipes. We need gauze packs. LOL

SJ thats what me and my boys have been talking about for the last year. Piece of mind. It seems as soon as some of these chicks determine you are marriage material they start turning the screws. It kills the piece of mind and makes it real easy to move on. Not that at this point it takes much. They ruin the feng shui.

Muse what kind of groove does your girl bring. Is it peaceful, hectic, smooth, rushed? What does she bring? If its smooth does she have an identical twin and if so set up lunch with her at noon, today. LOL

(Crazy, take note of this next statement. Its used to incite a riot in here. First put on your gear)

If these broads could just chill out and enjoy the process I think alot more would be in serious relationships. (Now duck Crazy)LMAO

By SeanJohnson3000

July 2, 2007 11:33 AM | Link to this

@ 4real…i have been hearing that for a minute..females cant understand the logic of NOT wanting to be in a committed relationship at our age…and i am so far from being a playa these days..

By QC

July 2, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

Way to go CrazyD

Ladies, looks like Ming Lee finally replaced our water with Papya/Pineapple Juice we ordered last week…oh wow this is good & cold too….wait, wait one dang minute….is this “sniff sniff” damn For Real!

now running to WLB bathroom….what the hellz….who locked the door. MUSING!!!!! “oh no”…..

clean up on WLB aisle 4

By For Real

July 2, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

LadyJ can you honestly say u can have sx with someone and not be emotionally attached? How about we prove 3Stacks wrong on this one point about you?

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 11:34 AM | Link to this

Well WD, are you ready for a LTR…Wondering when does dating become misleading? Dating is funny..You have to truly be prepared for every scenerio and not be too consumed with wanting more if one is just “light” dating…What in the heck am I saying but oh well just wanted to chime in…lol

By QC

July 2, 2007 11:38 AM | Link to this

Truth how about some tucks

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL!!!!………..

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 11:43 AM | Link to this

SJ after the newness of dating has worn off I do want more…Who wants to just have sex and it not be warrented for anything but that…It gets tired and boring just f*** to me….I just want more I think but who does not…

By Blatino aka BMW aka BLT

July 2, 2007 11:48 AM | Link to this

Crazy, take notes. This is an official cosign of THE Truth’s 11:27 post. We in it now, fellas.

….repositioning BlogBallzProtector for comfort reasons, anticipating the worst….

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 11:50 AM | Link to this

What prove what For Real? You know I will flunk early on…I am not ready…Relationship mode is some how implanted in my bran…

SO no comittment but gots to hit it…Come on people it gets old!

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 11:51 AM | Link to this

Question to all…Does the milk theory apply to men or just women only?

By The Truth

July 2, 2007 11:52 AM | Link to this

ROTFLMAO @ QC. Told you, payback is a mug.

Crazy we’re expecting big things from you. Scan back to fridays topic and notice the level of expertise Jake used to incite a blog riot. Truly a piece of art.

What up ol grand pooba BLAT? Good to see you up early this morning. Hey, do new recruits still have to give up their seats, answer phones, and clean up the spot? If so send Crazy over for some domestic training. How is life on the internet dating scene? If you find any busty chicks with low self esteem and low morals let a bruh know. LOL

Fellas, a dude is seriuos about dating when he pledges in writing and on the 1st meeting that he is seeking a wife and children and forever…Other than that he’s a player.

By Tazzee

July 2, 2007 11:53 AM | Link to this

see that’s the problem, most of you men are running around here with only a piece of a mind, LOL.

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 11:57 AM | Link to this

ladyj i’m w/you on that one..Who wants to just have sex and it not be warrented for anything but that…nobody does!! at least not any woman that’s worth a damn. some people call it “maturity”, especially men who say “if you’re grown, you’ll give me some w/no strings.” puhleeze…ain’t nobody trying to her that ish.

By MusingLee

July 2, 2007 11:59 AM | Link to this

Truth my lady is actually really cool…She is definitely a decision maker on her job, but when we are at home she won’t even attempt to “tell” me what to do…She will “ask” me to do something and she doesn’t mind being the Woman in the relationship…(The Men know what I mean)…Yet, she steers me in the right direction if I don’t know something and vice versa…She really is a help mate, picking up the slack if I miss something.

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 12:04 PM | Link to this

Kinderbabe, As always, Thanks!

I am so disappointed with the mind set of these good BROTHAS out here!!! It is some good ones to but they are not hearing comittment!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 2, 2007 12:06 PM | Link to this

SJ Good question…one I thought about this week. Me and the SO was online last night looking at homes that will be equally positioned between his practice and my new venture. I’m not considering timetables right now because I trust that he’ll do the right thing…at the right time. I guess this will be my practice in letting him lead, while trusting him to do what’s best for us both. No, I still want marriage and kids….the business will always come second to that desire!

4Real Let me first say that there isn’t anything wrong with a man who is not ready for a committed relationship and says so. It just hightlights that we’re looking for different things…we’ll keep it moving. So that’s what I mean, the guys who aren’t looking for a serious relationship was not/is not attractive to me. I don’t even fool myself with games that he’ll change for me…not interested!

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

* I just got back from Kroger….ahhh now we have a month supply of tissue and I locked the door so QC can’t get these…*

Dating is what it is….i like you enough to eat with you or go to the movies with you…just dont expect me to fall head over heels with you…and dont come to my place trying to change iisshhh around…

Live free or Die Harder here it is ladies and gents….this movie start out with a bang…and they never stop coming….I mean i really liked this one…John did his thang in this one…the cyber crooks were cool too…if you like anything that looks like a computer…then you will love this movie for all it is worth…* read this part very slowly…this movie has *No Slow parts..it will keep you on edge it is that good

Drumroll…….I give this movie 5 out of 5 stars…for keeping with the story line and making it smooth…..plus alittle bit of an inside if you have not seen it….John’s daughter kicks alittle butt(i said alittle) but it is soooo cool. so go check it out….it is worth the money and some popcorn…..Until then I’m GaMan…doing what i do …so you wont have to….

MLB for Life

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 12:10 PM | Link to this

Dogs do that the actual animals from one dog to another…we are humans…lolol

Also if the milk theory does not apply to men I feel they are man/w*…I know I am about to get blasted but I don’t care…If you are not dating to want more you just merely sleeping with many partners and one of those partners are going to want more and she is going to be so kicked to the curd if she go agaisnt the grain to want more! I am a victim talking from expereiece and it is a total flop and waist of time to invest in someone who just want the milky milk…lol I am cracking myself up and you men!

By Jake

July 2, 2007 12:14 PM | Link to this

What up Peeps:

SJ3000/For Real Cosigning the whole “where are we going situation”, some ladies just don’t LISTEN when you tell them you are not looking for a LTR, then she trys to fugg you into one, but that will never work, by the time a dude is 26, he has plenty of Grade A puddy before, the puddy alone will not win him over if he does not want that type of relationship.

Truth Thanks for the compliment…LOL

By QC

July 2, 2007 12:15 PM | Link to this

Truth yeah whatever…ok we’re even now aight?!

Now pouring Milk of Magnesia in MLB’s pineapple smoothie mix they’re gonna have for lunch….enjoy the shake gentlemen you can also have that smoothie on a waffle cone if you like..hahahahahahaha!

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 12:19 PM | Link to this

So Jake is the p*** is not holding what does? Why the multiple partners and no commitment…What are single men truly seeking?

By lawgirl

July 2, 2007 12:20 PM | Link to this

aawwww butterflies!!! I thought I was the only one who got butterflies.

It’s true, only a select few can bring that feeling on……..sometimes I hate when I get them, but then again, it lets me know that I’m really feeling the guy.

I guess the game part comes into play when I don’t reveal how much I like the him.

I’m definitely a defensive player…even if it makes the game drag on. It’s best to savior every play rather than rush down the line and lose interest before half time!!

By QC

July 2, 2007 12:23 PM | Link to this

GA.man I brought Chester the maintenance man’s lunch so he let me into the MLB’s “private stock closet” so it’s back to wiping with sand paper for you guy’s unless you can “hold it” til you get home, lololol!

Now hiding all the MLB’s tissue in Demi’s office on the roof, i think he’s off today so ain’t nobody going up there

By Linguist

July 2, 2007 12:25 PM | Link to this

Morning/Afternoon Blog Fam Well, It’s official - a reason that I’ve been under the weather - anyone guess what it is?

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this

@Ga.man Dating is what it is….i like you enough to eat with you or go to the movies with you…just dont expect me to fall head over heels with you…and dont come to my place trying to change iisshhh around…

Is sex involved and if it is and she wants more out of it how do you handle that if you don’t?

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 12:28 PM | Link to this

GaMan now kicks QC in the shin….takes back all the tissue..now the WLB doesnt have any tissue..hahahahahahah

By QC

July 2, 2007 12:29 PM | Link to this

Hey Jake come on down & get you a nice smoothie on a waffle cone, enjoy!!!

Jake is a sweetie pie i’m sure he’ll come back for more, lol

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 12:33 PM | Link to this

ladyj the multiple partners for men often comes from dodging one commitment after the next…and for women, one disappointment after the next. b/c as one of the blog men said, giving it up doesn’t change anything for them. hardly anyone goes from jump off to wifey. it just doesn’t happen. however, most men are smart enough to know that pu**y always comes in a combo w/emotions and heartstrings. any woman who told them otherwise was lying. that’s just the way we were wired. that’s why women are attached to their babies when they pass through the birth canal. it is a part of our make up/nature. when someone enters/exits your body in that way, as women, we become attached. it is not just an emotional but a physiological fact.

By The Truth

July 2, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

LadyJ if I introduced you to a bruh that only wanted a serious committment you’d know he was suspect. Life isn’t like that. A chick that is intent on being in a committed relationship is no better than a dude whose sole purpose is to hit the azz. You can’t lock into any goal like that and expect to be happy. Hence all the unhappy women out there. Chill, enjoy every day and when something comes your way that is appealing, you pounce on it like a panther in heat. LOL Also, every dude on the face of the earth wants the milk, its on you to offer more than just the milk to peak his interest. You sound like you have some good booty. LOL

Who woke up KB? LOL Are you saying nobody hits the skins unless its a long term gig? No casual, i’m horny as hellz sex in your camp? Enquiring minds wanna know

GAMAN I may catch a matinee this afternoon. sounds good.

Muse you mean she’s not a “chick with a dick”? LOL What plans do you have for her and how long have you been together?

OOops, I should have said peace of mind. Gave Taz an easy shot at a low blow. Sorry.

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

Ling is with child

By QC

July 2, 2007 12:34 PM | Link to this

Linguist Are you pregnant? if not i hope you’re feeling better……

By T-Mango

July 2, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this

@Linguist…There isn’t a rattle involved is there? LOL

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 12:36 PM | Link to this

ling congratulations!! i hope i’m right, lol. is it a baby?:)

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 2, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

Okay, I know the ladies of the WLB are not gonna agree with me here, BUT I am guilty of dating and not wanting a relationship. Like GAMan said Dating is what it is. I am not saying that I sleep with everyman I date. But I do what I want in dating and I make my intentions/desires known up front. If I dont want a LTR then I will not be in one until I am ready, period. If all I want is a cut buddy then that is all you will be (and if you try and flip it on me talking some ole ullbish then I will cut that relationship too, you are NOT my man). If you expect someone to be monogamous then you have to put that out there and if they arent then you move on. You cant make someone do what you want them to and you shouldnt have to settle for something you dont want.

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 2, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

GA.man Dating is what it is….i like you enough to eat with you or go to the movies with you…just dont expect me to fall head over heels with you

And why not? Unless you tell me that you’re not looking for a serious relationship…what’s wrong with that expectation…if it doesn’t happen then we’ll keep it moving. But I think the deal is…many women date with a goal in mind. We have girlfriends and cool male friends to kick it with…go eat and to the movies with….With someone I’m dating seriously, I’m looking to share a great portion of my life and dreams with….that’s my goal. That’s why I make it clear upfront….again, it’s served me well!

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 12:39 PM | Link to this

LadyJ sometimes sex might be a part of it..but remember i cant force you into it…I mean i want more than just a booty call….i can get that in the “A”..no prob….but like one of my boys said…..i am looking for that one that can be shined up..and she can shine me also….then when ppl see us they will be looking with glossy eyes….now if she comes in and thinks she has the bomb pduddy…and its suppose to make me say yes i am yours then she is wrong…it takes more than some azz to make me think about a future with you

I mean i am not looking for a prfect woman, but she must be Ms. Right….but that still does not mean….you can try to change a person..you have to look at my faults as i will look at your….either we like it and can put up with each other or its back to kicking rocks

By QC

July 2, 2007 12:42 PM | Link to this

GA.man now that’s a real low blow…..blog violence! oh on & poppin’ now pimpin…….

Now scanning MLB book i found in their closet and putting it on the damn internet, nah

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 2, 2007 12:43 PM | Link to this

kinder co-signing your 11.57 post

By SeanJohnson3000

July 2, 2007 12:43 PM | Link to this

@ KB…especially men who say “if you’re grown, you’ll give me some w/no strings.” puhleeze…ain’t nobody trying to her that ish….you know its not even like that..i know as open minded as you are..u should understand…

By crazydiamond

July 2, 2007 12:44 PM | Link to this

BLT I think I got it now, so what your saying is that you gotta keep them guessing, nice guy, bad boy, nice guy, bad boy. We can just hit, we got to play the field also. Being offensive is a good defense, oh yeah, Chicks Dig the Long Ball, or, um, somewhere in the same area code…

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 2, 2007 12:46 PM | Link to this

GA.man okay, read your post. I’m good.

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 12:48 PM | Link to this

Lady w/darkness it can be that way…sometimes getting away from your friends is good….it gives you a different look at what is out there…..we all have the friends who give good advice and the ones who give bad advice….all i am saying is that…to go and enjoy yourself….i mean come on..if something comes out of it cool….if not then you got a buddy to go and do things with….

Sometimes that is what messes things up…a lady will go out with a guy and before the date is over you are picking out wedding colors……Gimme a break…

enjoy the movie…food..and laughs..if it comes more and more then we can start to look at these things but for now…..you should not be going out with someone and thinking of getting serious right away..just something we all should look at…there is no way to say i am your man after a couple of dates….**This is why guys start to run..cause a woman will wanna start bringing her stuff over after a couple dates..that shoud not happen for awhile…

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 2, 2007 12:48 PM | Link to this

Congrats LING!!! Mo now planning a baby shower for Ling….all early and ish!!!*

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this

Its ok QC..thats not the real book anyway..we knew we couldnt trust Chester so Musing switched that book with the real one…lololol

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 12:49 PM | Link to this

truth i’m not saying that. i have had experiences where i fooled myself into thinking that it was o.k. to just have a casual sexual relationship…but as i grew, i realized that it wasn’t normal. and the number one reason that i found myself in those situations was b/c i wanted a relationship. i was hoping that things would changed but i’ve learned, it doesn’t work like that. how it starts, is how it finishes. in recent years, i have put my focus on guys who are interested in relationships. not, i’m trying to wife you up in the first five minutes, lol. but guys who were at a point that they wanted to get to know someone on a serious level, not looking for a cut buddy. if they’re not interested in a relationship, i keep things limited to light stuff like dinner, movie, etc. in other words, no nookie…lol. i’m not knocking someone who is/has taken that path. all i’m saying is that, it gets old and it’s not for me.

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 12:51 PM | Link to this

Truth I screamed laughing at your post!!! Too funny but thatnks for the MLB perspective!!!

KB thanks for the breakdown and Mo I am just trying to get to that point! I have this mind frame though when I turn 30 I will think like you post but I probably won’t bc the core stays the same in most!

By Linguist

July 2, 2007 12:55 PM | Link to this

Ling, looking pale and ghastly, moves said trash can into position, arms the desk with crackers and ginger-feakin-ale… realizes that the gig is up and must own up to the fact that yes… she is with child..

Yep… I’m knocked up! Am I excited.. um, in part.. scared at the thought of having 4 kids? You betcha… I was right in the middle of changing careers, making a move - literally - from Cali to ATL on a permanent basis… e’rthing was going according to plan, and then I started feeling ill. I think in the back of my mind I knew it, but I deliberatetly pushed the thought away. I forged through with interviewing, putting everything in motion… Until, the dreaded visit to the Doctor. Which went something like this:

DR: “Ling you are pregnant”

Ling: “I’m sorry, what did you say?”

Dr.: “If you put the blackeberry down then you would’ve heard me”

Ling: “Okay, I just needed to answer this important email. I’ve put it away.. what did you say?”

Dr.: “No, it’s still on your lap.Young lady you need to focus!”

Ling’s hubby was sitting in a chair inside the office, he normally shaves his head, and sports a nice “dome”.. today, for some reason hair started growing back as he was sitting there..

Hubby: Ummmm, doc what does this mean?

Dr. Where did the two of you go to school again? I said you are expecting a baby!

Hubby LING! How did you let this happen!!

Ling went to bring the car to the front of the office while Hubby stayed behind with the doc who had to administer oxygen to him… true story :)

By QC

July 2, 2007 12:57 PM | Link to this

If it’s not the “real thing” Gman, why are there naked pictures of you, Musing, & Demi playing dress up????

Now calling 1-800-rentabillboard and have these pictures posted on a 65x60 bill board down by 5ive points…..hello, rentabillboard…

By T-Mango

July 2, 2007 12:58 PM | Link to this

@Mo (12:39). There is nothing wrong with what you’re saying… I think people date for different reasons. Like you said, you make your intentions clear clear from the beginning. Once you give the facts, it’s up to the person to decide if they call rock with you or not.

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 12:59 PM | Link to this

SJ i am open-minded. that’s how i see it though. the grown thing is played. giving up “p” has nothing to do w/being grown. and men know that they don’t have any respect for a woman that they’re just cuttin. i’m just being real. now i’ll be as open-minded and school teacher freaky w/ONE person that wants to be in a relationship w/me….lol. but that’s it.

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 2, 2007 1:00 PM | Link to this

@LDD will you paste the recipe on salmon- I love salmon!!!

SJ Good brotha gone Bad.. Do you let these women you are dating know that it nothing more than a date??

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 1:01 PM | Link to this

Truth I finally Mastered the Milk Theory and trust not a participant anymore! I even suprised myself when I was out Friday night…Dude and I met…We danced…didn’t ask for my number but was pressed we hang out the rest of the night…Mind you I don’t know his name he just start comically talking to me…cool…As I was preparing to exit he is like why are you leaving I am like bc I am going home he is like I am off all summer and I am like I am too so why is it pressing we hang out tonight…we just met…anyway I did nt even fall for the okie doke there…Dude probably had a live in girlfriend or LTG or just truly trying to hit the skins and keep it moving…Not getting Lady Js and he moved right along did even ask for anything else from me and I am like see that Negro is not right…Trust one night stands happen and all parties don’t b*** like I do but I am not with it at all…It is empty to me that is all so as my breasmilk dried up so will the love below til I find the relationship that fits me…

By crazydiamond

July 2, 2007 1:01 PM | Link to this

Co-Sign for both Truth at 12:34 and GaMan at 12:48

By MusingLee

July 2, 2007 1:02 PM | Link to this

Truth That’s one of the things that attracted me to her…She knows how to separate home life from work life…It’s rare that you find a Woman wanting/knowing how to do that…She grew up in a small community that values old fashion family values and I think that’s why she is how she is. She has a Daddy and her parents been married 50+ years…Definitely not materialistic, loves her family, and humble in her accomplishments….We’ve been together for 2 1/2 yrs and get married in about 2 months.

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 1:04 PM | Link to this

Go right ahead…by the way those are pics of your husband….slim’s ex and Ling’s ex from college…girl i told you …you got to get up early in the morning to pull one on the **MLB…we dont even roll like that

By T-Mango

July 2, 2007 1:06 PM | Link to this

@Ling Congratulations!!

By The Truth

July 2, 2007 1:06 PM | Link to this

Today is a sad day for The Truth. Today I found out my Little Ling Ling (her pet name) has been seeing someone else and is now with child. She told me she was busy but come to find out she’s been getting busy. Sob Sob I will never give out my heart again and pledge from this moment forward to only want women for one thing, da puddy.

By MusingLee

July 2, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this

QC that picture clearly isn’t either one of us…Those are just monkeys holding up MLB signs…Just a classic WLB trick to throw us off our game.

Said while spray painting the WLB 1972 Gremlin

By crazydiamond

July 2, 2007 1:07 PM | Link to this

QC your to late on the Billboards, already rented them all. What’s on them….

Ladies, want us to STAY, then be ready to PLAY

By QC

July 2, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this

Congratulations Ling

looks i’ve gotta get pretty early in da merning to mess with GA.man……

dammit, that ain’t even them on the picture….oh no…ewww is that…..oh my it sure is!!!!!

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 1:09 PM | Link to this

Congrats Ling!!!:)

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 2, 2007 1:13 PM | Link to this

Congratulations Ling!!

By QC

July 2, 2007 1:21 PM | Link to this

QC is waving her white flag cause i give up, but i did start out strong….until y’all ganged up on me, but it’s all good

CrazyD just joined today and already up on his game..geesh!

By SeanJohnson3000

July 2, 2007 1:22 PM | Link to this

@ KB…i run across a lot of females with that mind set..if i am not mistaken..u are 29/30..around the same age of the females i have talked to about that..and what they told me was….is what u are pretty much saying to truth…after going through there early mid twenties..they are tired of meaningless sx and or thinking something is going to come out of causual sx..they are now looking for something real and something committed if sx is going to be involved..i cant fault or blame you…i just do thing the other way around…

@ MsU….how am i bad? i am always honest and upfront..its not like i am out for one thing…now..i am going to get it…but i do wanna go out on dates too..

LadyJ…where did this happen?

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 1:23 PM | Link to this

GaMan and Musing now filling all of QC’s shoes with that nasty cheese in a can….lolololol

By QC

July 2, 2007 1:24 PM | Link to this

GA.man QC ain’t married :)

off to lunch…

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 2, 2007 1:26 PM | Link to this

@ Ling

I hear the stork is coming. You go girl! @Lady J i am co-signing your 1:01 post.

By MusingLee

July 2, 2007 1:27 PM | Link to this

On the phone with her doctor

Ling: Doc I aint feeling so good…And I gained four pounds…I get up at night to eat wierd stuff and I’ve got gas…Can I come in?

Doc: Hmmmm, Sounds like you might be pregnant.

Ling: What!?!?! Pregnant?!?!

Ling now passing the fk out….Husband finding her hours later still clutching the phone

By Tazzee

July 2, 2007 1:30 PM | Link to this

Congratulations Ling 4 kids…I admire you.

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 1:33 PM | Link to this

SJ i understand what you’re saying about doing things the other way around. the only thing i can say is it will be harder to find someone special that way. a really good woman won’t feel comfortable starting out as just a sexual partner. she’ll expect more for herself and of you. oh and by the way, i’m 31.:)

By MsUnderstood aka MsU

July 2, 2007 1:36 PM | Link to this

@ SJ Okay judging from your previous post you seem to be a pretty decent guy.LOL Okay with that being said why is it so hard to date one woman at a time. If she is a good woman and things are going good why mess that up cause you want to check out the sister around the way ??

I’m 28 and i’m already exhausted with the dating scene. Just when you think you have master the real from the fake someone comes along and fool you again. Some guys deserve an oscar for the acts they put on.

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 1:36 PM | Link to this

Thanks MsUnderstood aka MsU…SJ, Seasons and I was dsiappointed with that place too but not about to vent about it but hey being single and true to yourself can truly be a growing experience! A year or two ago I truly would have fell like a nut and he would have had it and that would have been it…It is a dirty feeling for me…I am just gald I am growing up and incoperating what is best for me…

By For Real

July 2, 2007 1:40 PM | Link to this

Congrats Ling on the new baby.

Disclaimer just for the record: IT AINT MINES!!

Kinder, LadyJ & Lw/2D’s That’s a personal choice. You can’t speak for everyone nor judge what anyone else does. If I do not want to be in a serious relationship (whatever that means Lw/2D’s) why should I allow someone to force me just because we have had sex and spent time with each other. For me a serious relationship means marriage. Is that yall’s definition of serious relationship? If so, then that should answer a lot questions that you have about some of the guys you have dated.

By crazydiamond

July 2, 2007 1:40 PM | Link to this

QC Don’t give up, if anything, today should be teaching us that you got to Play to get Paid

By For Real

July 2, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this

For Real sneaks into WLB headquarters and increase the psi on all of the toilets to 900psi.

MLB 4Life

By QC

July 2, 2007 1:45 PM | Link to this

Why am i smelling cheese & i’m eating a turkey sandwich with lettuce/tomato….wth! I know GA.man saw me waving my white flag! I just got my toes done dammit! let me call my Shakweeta & have all his shyt turned off i.e. water, cable, lights, cell/home phone, internet svc, cancel his car insurance…and move his car to another spot and put the gremlin in his parking spot, lol

By QC

July 2, 2007 1:49 PM | Link to this

^5 MissU you are sooo on point with your 1:36 comment!

By The Truth

July 2, 2007 1:51 PM | Link to this

Ladies, sex is a great way to start a relationship. It may not last long but it’ll end with a bang. LOL Really though, alot of women are ruined with that all or nothing mentality. Its a shame. The flip side is any dude that wants to touch that market needs to get his committment game down.

From the 48 Laws Of Power by Robert Greene

Law 32 “Play to peoples Fantasies”

Law 38 “Think as you like but behave like others”

QC really did good for awhile. Now thats she’s gone to lunch lets go to work guys. What will it be, roaches in her desk? Nude pics of women on her computer for all her coworkers to see? Lets do this one big. LOL

SJ you and I both know that all these chicks on here are gonna get lonely and give up some azz. Patience is a virtue. LOL I wish the ones that are so locked in on relationships would remember how bad they wanted one when their in the courtroom cleaning a bruh out.

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this

forreal whatever, of course i know it’s a personal choice b/c i made the comment. i never said anything about forcing someone into anything. i talked about my feelings and reasons i made the decisions that i did as well on reflect the reasons i think people do what they do. you’re sounding like a true commitment phobe. don’t be so paranoid, relax. ain’t nobody trying to trap you, boo. it’s not that serious…lol.

By QC

July 2, 2007 1:52 PM | Link to this

Ok, thanks CrazyD

lol @ For Real it ain’t mines

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 1:53 PM | Link to this

QC we saw the white flag after we did your shoes…sorry….but it is what it is…and you know your girl comes by to get the oil changed so..she aint turning nothing off…….MLB for LIFE

By Linguist

July 2, 2007 1:55 PM | Link to this

Thanks for the congrats e’rybody…I’ll do my best to post more regularly now since I will probably be staying put for a while.

Disclaimer… pregnancy hormones may be dangerous to the mental well-being of the MLB… be cautious, and tread lightly.. This warning is especially geared to Truth, For Real GA.Man, Musing, ABC, ALvin, SJ, well… all MLB members at large..

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 2, 2007 1:57 PM | Link to this

4Real Where did you get anything about being forced???? You can either roll with me or not…it’s all good either way. It goes back to being honest with who you are and what you want out of a relationship. It will help people not waste time with people who want different things out of a dating situation.

A serious relationship is one that is monogamous with the end goal being marriage. Again, if that doesn’t work for many men then that’s fine. Really, my approach has served me well. I don’t have ANY complaints about the guys I’ve dated…all wonderful great men! Things just didn’t work out between us, but would highly reccommend them all!

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 1:59 PM | Link to this

You are right For Real it is personal and my opinion not passing judgement…Do what you do brotha! I will too! I just will not fool myself to think most guys are serious and before marriage you have to become serious on some level that is what I talking about just not dating multiple people…When you are about to marry you are not going to call it off with the other five are you no bc you have been with your potential wife…Anyway to each their own…

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 2:05 PM | Link to this

amen! ladydark and ladyj^5

By crazydiamond

July 2, 2007 2:06 PM | Link to this

From Lady Dark I don’t have ANY complaints about the guys I’ve dated…all wonderful great men! Things just didn’t work out between us, but would highly reccommend them all!

Can I get a witness, I have never heard such nonsense from a woman before. I could see this when talking about a single man, but all that you have dated? Come on, who’s playing games now…Seriously though, that’s pretty impressive to be able to compliment all of them that way.

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 2:06 PM | Link to this

TRUTH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Whew I am about to lose my cool!!! I turned 4 shades red!! WHATEVER and if I do give it up it will be with clear thoughts and not a relationship thought but right now it is not happening Bruh! You men!!!!!!

By QC

July 2, 2007 2:06 PM | Link to this

TRUTH! I’m right here at my desk blogging/having lunch and why would you do that to me, i thought you were my friend??? GA.man so you’re who she was talking about! damn! i give up for real now………..

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 2:07 PM | Link to this

GaMan sneaks over to untie Ling’s shoestrings*…hey get this tied back up…lololol

you said it not me….*pregnancy hormones may be dangerous to the mental well-being of the MLB… be cautious, and tread lightly.. *

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 2:10 PM | Link to this

Thanks for your post Lady Dark w/Dimples…

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 2:12 PM | Link to this

Hey enough of this jumping on For real…like we said it is what it is…..ladies..ladies…ladies…if you are with dude and he is cool..then it kosher..but if he is not then kick rocks….

Ya’ll know i cant let ya’ll just jump my boy and not stop this….I might not agree with everything he says..but he is a card carrying member of the MLB……

GaMan now twists all of Lady w/darkness computer wires so when she types it comes outbackwards..like this….. ssenkrad /w yadL lolololol

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 2:14 PM | Link to this

ladyj stay cool girl. don’t break a sweat..lol.

By QC

July 2, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

Welcome to the Blog CrazyD

By SeanJohnson3000

July 2, 2007 2:17 PM | Link to this

@MsU..i am more than a decent dude…but am honest with myself and others and came to realize in women..i like variety….i dont want to limit myself…..thats why i choose not to commit…what did dude do?

@ LadyJ…good judgemnt…

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 2:18 PM | Link to this

Naw QC i am single…..you know you can call a brotha….its ok….

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 2, 2007 2:21 PM | Link to this

Years ago I had a friend who met a young lady. After talking for a breif time she revealed to him that she is a hermaphodte. He was crushed by what he learn about her and refuse to carry on the relationship any furture but on the other hand he was really torn by his feelings for her and what she told him. It’s been years since I’ve talked to him so I don’t know the outcome of the relationship. My question for the guys are would knowingly date a hermaphodite?

By QC

July 2, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

QC now has a mirror trying to read the blog comments….

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 2, 2007 2:22 PM | Link to this

GAMan stop pickin on the pregnant woman!! See ya’ll are already startin up in here.

Lady J dont worry chica! Dont let Truth ruffle your feathers. If you choose to get yours, do so with no regrets b/c it was what you wanted. You choose to hold out, do so. All of us went without s3x for a while, it can be done again! :0) Again, you dont have to settle. Make you intentions known, find out what the other person’s intent is and go from there. Roll with it or leave it alone..

By For Real

July 2, 2007 2:24 PM | Link to this

Kinder No phobes here… And no I don’t believe anyone is trying to trap me. I just hear how alot of the women on this board talking about letting LTR happen but how can you do that if you want some dude to walk through the door ready to marry befoer he even knows who you are you?

Lw/2D’s How can some look at you from a distance and know that you want to be married? That’s impossible. So, are telling the dudes on the first date that you want to be in serious monogamous relationship with the end goal being marriage? if so, what where the guys responses?

LadyJ So a guy can’t be serious about you without wanting to marry you? That’s the old “all or nothing mentality” as Truth puts it so well. If that is the case then you are giving a guy an Ultimatum.

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this

See CrazyD you just have to be able to make a statment and defend it..and boy do i mean good..as you can see the WLB aint no joke…but mostly we get them..but man they do give some mean low blows..this is a nice day…

By QC

July 2, 2007 2:27 PM | Link to this

So GA.man we kewl right no more tricks & stuff aight!

Now calling the “Reep what you Sow” tar company telling them not to pour tar in his front yard

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 2:29 PM | Link to this

GaMan now sneaks into to Kinders closet..and grabs the right shoe..of every pair she owns…now she only has left ones left…lololol

By crazydiamond

July 2, 2007 2:30 PM | Link to this

QCThanks for the Welcome, you might not be saying that a week from now. I am still in my new/shy stage, once I feel comfortable, you might be asking me to leave…

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 2:31 PM | Link to this

GaMan now sneaks into Mo place and switches the Sugar with the Salt

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 2, 2007 2:32 PM | Link to this

Thanks Gaman for the props on Live Free Die Harder. What about Sicko?? What happen to Mrs Lion KIng? 3 weeks ago you were up here singing hakuna mata what happened to that?

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

@For Real is your alter ego talking for you today? Come on you know what I mean but whatever…HOW ARE YOU GOING TO MARRY SOMEONE AND NOT BE SERIOUS? Come on…Stay focus!

Thanks MO!!!:)

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 2:33 PM | Link to this

forreal i’m talking about being in the frame of mind to be serious. there are some men and women who are in the mind frame of having a LTR when dating. that’s their approach, just like some people’s casual approach to dating. i’m not suggesting by any means that you just jump into a LTR w/whoever. it has to click. you have to be compatible. but why waste time w/someone who says on the first date, “i’m not looking for anything serious.”??

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this

Marriage is a serious matter so the foundation has to start from somewhere and why not seek your potential wife?

What are single men seeking??????????????

By crazydiamond

July 2, 2007 2:36 PM | Link to this

GA.Man Are you saying you have a problem with the low blows? Statements like these are usually where I would push the dialogue to far…

By Tazzee

July 2, 2007 2:37 PM | Link to this

Ladies, the thing is, as women you know you want to be married some day. You can’t expect the same from a man. The problem is when you meet a man that’s marriage minded. In your head you guys are dating to see if you are to be married. In dude’s mind (if he’s already made up his mind he’s ready to be married) you’re just going through the motions before getting married. So what happens is, down the road you determine that while you want to be married, you don’t want to be married to him. And dude is looking like ‘wait, I thought she was my wife…’

I said all that to say - whether or not a guy wants to go down the path toward marriage shouldn’t be an issue until you decide that you want to be married to him

I’ve posted this link before, but this article - in my mind - really speaks to why there are so many hurt people in the dating world:

The Illusion of Commitment

By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

July 2, 2007 2:38 PM | Link to this

Lacey she is kicking rocks…it is what it is…..ya’ll know the rest..she is cool though..we talk and text but hey It is what it is

By The Truth

July 2, 2007 2:39 PM | Link to this

Gaman For Real kicked it to em straight so its bound to ruffle a few feathers. It helps em grow emotionally to get it straight.LOL

QC* we are tight baby but if you revolt aginst the **MLB its like the charge of the light brigade, thanks to your metamucil. LOL We’re like the musketeers “One for all and all for a piece of azz” or something like that. LMAO

LadyJ the truth has that affect on people. Hold the booty as long as you need to but eventually you’ll throw it at some unsuspecting bruh. We just have to lay in the cut and wait. Y’all can’t hold water let alone keep those pannies above your waistline. LOL Atlanta WEATHER FORECAST: Its raining puddy.

By SeanJohnson3000

July 2, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

@ Purple Lace..no offense..but what kinda circles do you run in?..lol…

@ 4real..KB and DarkDimples remind me of the typical females i encounter…educated…single..with out kids…singing.. the dont want to play games song…in other words…tick..tock…tick..tock..they think the bioligical clock is ticking…thats all it is..had they have had kids..they would be like Moeisha’s mind frame..trust me..

By Tazzee

July 2, 2007 2:42 PM | Link to this

kinderbabe but why waste time w/someone who says on the first date, “i’m not looking for anything serious.”?? Because he may be someone fun to pass the time with until you meet the guy that is looking for something serious.

Apparently something attracted you to the man to go on the first date with him. And apparently, you aren’t seriously seeing anyone at the time. So why not just enjoy one another’s company?

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

@Truth…No matter what the wait we know who won’t be getting it! LadyJ will be just fine! lol

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 2, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

crazy Can I get a witness, I have never heard such nonsense from a woman before. I could see this when talking about a single man, but all that you have dated?

You say this like you know me??? Is it nonsense because it’s hard for even a man to think that there are good men out there? If I was male bashing would that make you feel more comfortable or make it more believable?

4Real I don’t know what guys think when they see me from a distance…I don’t date those guys. I’ve NEVER dated a guy that I met in a club, bar, etc. The only guys that I’ve dated have been referrals…I just feel more comfortable that way and it’s worked for me. I don’t know if it was the first, second, or third date….but it early enough to know whether they need to keep it moving or not.

But I don’t understand the big deal here…if you want a serious relationship (as I define it) then cool, if not, then cool too! You may think it’s an ultimatum…it’s simply my criteria.

By crazydiamond

July 2, 2007 2:44 PM | Link to this

Truth As long as it’s not raining cats and DOGS

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 2, 2007 2:45 PM | Link to this

Mo now casing her countertops out, wondering who in the heck left so much mess on the counter GAMan, the next time you want to sneak into my place, at least clean up the residuals!!! LOL

Lady J I gotcha back girl!!

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 2:47 PM | Link to this

GAman why you gotta steal a sistah’s shoes?? lol have me limping around atlanta…lol.

By T-Mango

July 2, 2007 2:50 PM | Link to this

I wish the ones that are so locked in on relationships would remember how bad they wanted one when their in the courtroom cleaning a bruh out.

Truth-Well at least you have a sister trying to leave the relationship with a little extra spending money. Her heart will heal in time especially with a nice monthly stipend ordered by the judge.

By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

July 2, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this

LOL SJ I have a bunch of stories to tell. I’ve traveled in the past and because of that I’ve met a lot of people with a lot of stories.

Gaman sorry to hear that…it is what it is…

By SeanJohnson3000

July 2, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this

@LadyJ..u really should ask..what are you looking for and try to attract and or date someone with the same interest…dont try to conform to what anyone else wants..come as is..u will be successful that way…u feel me?

By Lady J

July 2, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this

Headed out good people…As always a war with the sexes and Men are from MARS!:)

Bye

By Tazzee

July 2, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this

Lady Dark I thought you met your current SO hanging at the bar at Fox Sports Grill. Am I getting you mixed up with someone else?

y’all change names so much…

By For Real

July 2, 2007 2:52 PM | Link to this

Ok Kinder & LadyJ I understand your point but my point is you are willing to bypass someone who may be the one for you simply because that person at the beginning of the dating cycle isn’t looking to be serious. Hey and lets just stop saying serious and call it what it is. MARRIAGE.

So no I don’t want to be married. Does that make me bad guy all of a sudden? Does that make me a playa? Does that mean I am now playing games? All because I choose not to be married.

By crazydiamond

July 2, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

Lady J What are Single Men seeking?????

It depends on the guy obviously, what they want in the future, what they want from a partner. As for myself, I do want the family and before I am too old to be outside throwing the baseball, football, or any other type of sports my kids want to play. As for what I want in a woman. I want an independent woman that has a life of her own, not to take mine as hers. These women tend to understand the need for a guy to get out with his friends, because this gives her time with the girls. Then we can meet back at the house for desert. Someone that will continue to grow in a way other than her physique, but doesn’t feel the need to be out around town all week long. She has to be comfortable staying at home some during the week, but ready to do anything life offers come the weekend.

By Jake

July 2, 2007 2:54 PM | Link to this

QC hey sweets, how are you.

LadyJ So Jake is the p* is not holding what does? Why the multiple partners and no commitment…What are single men truly seeking?

Its not a multiple partners issue. I think you may have heard this before, but there is a shift for men around 30ish if he is on his ish, he is cool with companionship, but not necessarily commitment. We also know that we have become a better catch and are not going to allow anyone to get in easy, (to much to lose). It gets easier for men, the more established you are, the easier it is to find companionship even if its just for a night, eventually we all come back around and want something significant, but if you meet a dude when he isn’t loking for someone, its just how it will be. No matter how good the lovin is!!!

Single men are seeking sex or a soulmate, its one of the two, not much in between, but we want sex in both scenarios!

If a dude does not have the Vacancy light on at the hotel, you can’t stay there, you may be able to take a nap in the lobby, even get a quick shower, but you will not get a room.

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 2:58 PM | Link to this

SJ since you’re so full of info…i’ll let you know like this before you classify me w/anyone else again. biology is not in my head when making my decision to keep it to myself unless it’s something serious. my child bearing opportunities have left me due to medical complications SO i’m not looking for a sperm donor. my views come from me genuinely wanting to share my life w/someone. that’s it…

tazzee i’m am very familiar w/the concept of dating and have found in my experiences that people who give disclaimers such as the example i gave “i’m not looking for anything serious”, usually are looking for piece of azz w/a little dating on the side. when i wasn’t looking for anything serious, i enjoyed going out doing light-hearted things. don’t get my wrong, every date i’ve gone on in life hasn’t been in pursuit of a husband…lol. it’s just that when i did get to that point, i wanted to make sure the people i chose weren’t in the market for a booty call. i wanted to meet people who were in the frame of mind of wanting to meet someone special for a LTR. i am currently involved w/someone who is interested in just that…and we click.

By crazydiamond

July 2, 2007 3:00 PM | Link to this

Lady Dark

Just never heard any woman make a general statement about all the men she has dated and it end up being a positive one. Do men really know the percentage of good guys out there, I doubt it. It can only be in theory, because you couldn’t prove it. I guess it is like life in space, we know there has to be, but we just can’t seem to prove the existence…

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 2, 2007 3:03 PM | Link to this

SJ I’m really confused…what exactly do you want to hear? That we’ll give to whomever, whenever?

Silly child, tricks are for kids!!

Tazzee So why not just enjoy one another’s company? The struggle here is that many of women have tried to just enjoy the company but it more than often leads to hurt feelings. It’s more frequent than not that if you continue to spend time with someone you develop feelings over time and then you start to want more, maybe even slip up and go there physically with them. Then dude is like, I told you that I was just out to have fun! If more women could compartmentalize their feelings and actions then this would be a viable option….unfortunately/or fortunately most women can’t. So, for preventative measures we just avoid the potentially dangerous situation anyway…can hang with my girls or best bud for that!

By kinderbabe

July 2, 2007 3:04 PM | Link to this

forreal yes i am willing to bypass someone who says they’re not looking to be serious on the first date b/c at the point they parted their lips and said that ish, they bypassed me.

ladydark i’m w/you on the criteria thing. just like anybody else, you have to make the best choices for you. why waste time and compromise your values? it’s pointless…i’m definitely w/you on that. ^5

By Demi

July 2, 2007 3:06 PM | Link to this

QC how to you do it? even when you type angry/non lady like…you still sound cute.

By SeanJohnson3000

July 2, 2007 3:06 PM | Link to this

@KB…i didnt know..if i offended you ..i am sorry…you know i dont mean any harm….gimme a hug…

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 2, 2007 3:07 PM | Link to this

Tazee Yes, at Fox, but through mutual friends. All my romantic partners have been introduced through mutual friends….makes it easy that way. I trust that they ain’t crazy and they wouldn’t introduce me to someone who is crazy.

By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

July 2, 2007 3:08 PM | Link to this

SJ3000 Thanks for the compliment in your 2:42pm post (I guess). But my mindframe had nothing to do with having my little one. I obtained that in college. See, I talked to my father about everything (he gave me my s3x talk as a teenager) and he gave it to me straight about how men can be. Couple that with being on a HBCU campus where the female/male ratio is around 20 to 1 and you start thinking why should I settle when these men arent. Now the same way a man can say I’m not lookin for anything serious, I will too! Especially if I’m not. I learned that the bottomline is we all derserve to be happy, but you have to be real with yourself in finding that happiness. That means not settling and also hearing that brutha (no matter how much you dig him) when he says “I’m not looking for a relationship just somebody to kick it with”. He has said what he wants, take it literally til he says otherwise. (Its all a part of a man’s game to say those words and still do the “right” things to get the puddy, at least they seem “right” cause you are diggin him)…

By NCGirlfromATL

July 2, 2007 3:10 PM | Link to this

Afternoon all!

Wise Great topic! As you might have seen from my posts last Friday, I’m sick and dayum tired of the game. Yes, I know it must be played in order to be a part of the dating world. But LAWD! Isn’t there a cut off age? Shouldn’t there be a certain number of points your receive in life where you are exempt from the game, and you can just waive in?

Ling Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!!!

GaMan You might want to remind your brethern at the MLB that hazing is illegal. So, please don’t send crazy over to the WLB headquarters anymore in Truth’s knuthuggers and do-rag begging for empty soda cans and trying to wash the Range’s windshield. We can’t seem to get rid of Truth as it is. LOLOL!!

By Lady Dark w/Dimples

July 2, 2007 3:13 PM | Link to this

crazy Yes, I can say that…but that doesn’t mean that they didn’t hurt me. It just means that I believe that the character of the person is a good one….otherwise, I shouldn’t have been dating them right?!?

By SeanJohnson3000

July 2, 2007 3:16 PM | Link to this

@ DarkDimples….i think your statement from the jump …don’t go out with a guy unless you think he’s a good catch and serious…based on previous posts…has holes in it..

By Tazzee

July 2, 2007 3:19 PM | Link to this

kb I guess it must be the men I’m meeting in my old age because they are desiring exclusivity early on - and I’m like let’s just hang out to see if we can stand each other for more than 2 hours at a time. But I have to agree - if what Jake says is true, its either sex or a soulmate for the guys - then you definitely have to spend your time wisely.

What I’ve learned is that I have to keep my intentions vague in the beginning (is that a game?). If I say I am looking for something serious - they automatically assume its with them. If I say that I’m keeping my options open, they automatically assume I’m a player. So I won’t say anything - and since most guys try to wait on the woman to bring up the ‘where is this going’ topic - I can get a good 3 weeks of no pressure hanging out. That is, until he tries to get the sex or soulmate out of me.

By The Truth

July 2, 2007 3:21 PM | Link to this

Pee Pee hellz naw I’m not dating a hermaphrodite. Where do you meet these people, the circus? Y ou need to change your circle of friends.

By crazydiamond

July 2, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this

NCGirl

Those weren’t Truth’s. I was told that was the uniform, Darn you guys and your inititation. Now how am I supposed to acurrately represent the MLB like this. Forget it, I am walking back to headquarters all natural, better than these darn bike shorts. Nah, forget headquarters, I am going to sit in everychair in the WLB home, in the buff. Just be glad it isn’t as hot today…

By For Real

July 2, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this

Lw/2D’s Questions:

  • If this method of yours works so well. Why are you not married now?

  • So how much time have you wasted in the past using this method?

  • If your current relationships do not end in marriage, will you feel like you wasted your time?

    • By Demi

    July 2, 2007 3:24 PM | Link to this

    kinderbabe Dayum babe, you can have no kids…nor can I…I hope I run into you one day, LOL

    By melo

    July 2, 2007 3:28 PM | Link to this

    I told u a long time ago but Shyless and the crew went atomic on me. If u dont want game, date married men like melo. We tell u upfront and give u the liberty to mix and mingle with the single & young ones at ur pleasure. We even provide counseling on how to deal with guys. I wish more single girls were this savy!

    By T-Mango

    July 2, 2007 3:29 PM | Link to this

    remind me of the typical females i encounter…educated…single..with out kids…singing.. the dont want to play games song…in other words…tick..tock…tick..tock..they think the bioligical clock is ticking…thats all it is..had they have had kids..they would be like Moeisha’s mind frame..trust me..

    SJ…If this were true, wouldn’t a woman give into and play the “games” as a way to snag a man in hopes of increasing the possibility of her having a partner to procreate with? Wouldn’t she also seek out multiple partners to increase her chances?

    …Dating is an investment. Even if you “hit it and quit it” you still invested your time (and maybe $$ for a few outings). The same way you choose to have variety, we can choose to seek out the companionship of one person…or no companionship at all. It’s a personal decision. And the biological clock is not the driving force within all women-for some, but not all.

    By For Real

    July 2, 2007 3:30 PM | Link to this

    Yo Jake I don’t know if I agree with your sex or soulmate. For me sex isn’t in my top five of important things. I can get it whenever I wanted anywhere in this country. At this particular stage of my life pdussy is just not that valauble. So holding out or trying to throw it on me is not going to change it’s value to me. As far as the soulmate thing. I am not ready for and I don’t want the obligations of such a relationship.

    By Tazzee

    July 2, 2007 3:31 PM | Link to this

    Lady Dark I gotcha on the hanging out deal. When I say hang out - I mean truly hanging out. None of that kissing and stuff that will lead to slipping up and giving him some. But I guess most guys aren’t going for that.

    By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

    July 2, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this

    Nc you know we got to put him in right….now just give him the cans ya’ll got in the trash and he will be on his way

    By QC

    July 2, 2007 3:34 PM | Link to this

    Hey Demi you missed the muffins & OJ i had for the MLB this am…CrazyD you’re welcome, i’d never ask you or anyone to leave, you fit right in with us..Truth ok so we still kewl, good! GA.man you wrong for taking all her “right shoes” lol hey JakeJ, i’m having soooooooo much fun today! Demi if anything is missing from you ooffice on the roof, i did not take it…

    By kinderbabe

    July 2, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this

    SJ it’s cool. i just get mildly p** when i hear men pull the “women want babies” card out. it’s still a sore spot b/c i know that’s not me. hug accepted.:)

    tazzee i understand. you’re not wanting to move to fast to soon. just b/c you want to be serious doesn’t mean you want to be serious w/that particular guy. gotcha. i had to laugh about your “getting along for more than 2 hours at a time” comment..lol. that’s so true!

    demi yep, we’re in the same boat. something i already knew by age 30. that would be no pressure though if we got together, huh?? lol i’ll let you know if my current boo doesn’t work out…lol.

    By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

    July 2, 2007 3:36 PM | Link to this

    Demi Kinder is spoken for…you gonna have to back off this one bruh…now you know i would never hate…but this time i just gotta let you know…..ONE LOVE

    By Demi

    July 2, 2007 3:38 PM | Link to this

    Wise when you hit 36…I will really find you sexy then, LOL

    Heeey Tazzee how are you doing sis?

    Lady Dark w/Dimples just say doing you…

    MO I hurt a few lady friends this weekend because I cut them off…I told them once I find a cute who wants me for herself and not just as friend, I am cutting them off…I found her, so they’re out of the picture…LOL

    Demi hates jealous for my time lady friends.

    By Lady Dark w/Dimples

    July 2, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

    4Real

    Are you insinuating that what I tell someone early on when I meet them has something to do with the fact that i’m not married??? Naw, I don’t think you could be that crazy to make such a stupid comparison. But to answere your questions:

  • The method works well for me because I can date with my self esteem and confidence still in check. I didn’t compromise what I wanted for anyone and that makes me happy. The reason why I’m not married is because I haven’t found that one that I want to spend the rest of my life with. The time in the relationship uncovered that….

  • This questiond doesn’t apply to me

  • No, I use my time efficiently always…doing the things I want to do at that time.

    • By For Real

    July 2, 2007 3:39 PM | Link to this

    NC So, what games are you running into? Please be pacific…

    By Tazzee

    July 2, 2007 3:42 PM | Link to this

    kinderbabe I missed the part about you not being able to have children. I’m sorry to hear that. I have a question for you - how does your guy feel about that? Not trying to get all in your business, but personally I’ve found that to be a problem in dating - men who want children.

    By crazydiamond

    July 2, 2007 3:43 PM | Link to this

    I am out for the day, everyone have a great night. GA.man, Truth, Demi, Blatino and other memebers of the MLB, thanks for making me sign so much, My hand is worn out, (insert Joke Here!!!). Thanks for the protective gear, I have a feelin I will not even realise I am wearing it after a few days.

    A good night, courtesy bow to the lovely ladies of the WLB

    By Lady Dark w/Dimples

    July 2, 2007 3:44 PM | Link to this

    Demi that’s a good hurt…they’ll appreciate it in the long run!!

    By Tazzee

    July 2, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

    Hey Demi!

    Get ‘em Lady Dark - guys always think just because you are still single you should change your methods. I guess it can’t just be that you haven’t met the right guy at the right time… Or it just can’t be that you aren’t THAT pressed to be married that you feel a change is needed. If the methods don’t work with Jim, you can move on to John and keep it popping - with your self-esteem intact.

    By kinderbabe

    July 2, 2007 3:48 PM | Link to this

    GAman are you sure you and my guy aren’t boyz…lol. you made sure that demi knew the deal…lol.

    By The Truth

    July 2, 2007 3:50 PM | Link to this

    Hello NC 3:30 azz slap hun. Dam you got a nice azz.

    Fellas, you can discount 10% of what these ladies are saying and totally disregard the other 90%. Their fishing for hope. That committment thing has the same effect as taking the pope to an orgy. It ends it before anything gets started. And we all know that if you catch them on the right day its face down azz p. Anyway, let them take a moment and vent here.

    MLB for life baby.

    By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

    July 2, 2007 3:51 PM | Link to this

    Demi those ladies are mad with you b/c they were hoping that they would be the one you were looking for. You told them that once you found what you were looking for they were out the window. She (the ladies) didnt even care to really evaluate your statement: you had already told her (them) she wasnt the one and they didnt catch that. Had they, you wouldnt have had to deal with the jealous bs!! LOL You made your intentions known but they chose to stick around anyway. DAYUM

    By SeanJohnson3000

    July 2, 2007 3:53 PM | Link to this

    @ KB…..being that u are a teacher..you have 20-25 kids…

    @ Tango..i feel you..i was generalizing..i need to work/stop doing it so much..but in some cases..its true

    By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

    July 2, 2007 3:53 PM | Link to this

    SHHHhhhhhh you weren’t suposseee to say nuthin’……*

    By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

    July 2, 2007 3:56 PM | Link to this

    GaMan now sneaks over to Tazzee’s computer and put half of stale cheese sandwich in her hard drive…..she cant figure out why she cant log on anymore without thinking of cheesetoast

    By kinderbabe

    July 2, 2007 3:58 PM | Link to this

    tazzee thanks. it’s o.k. that you ask.:)my guy is cool w/it. he has an 8 year old son and doesn’t want more children. so it works for us. i usually don’t tell people right away. only when i feel like it’s on that level, you know? it’s something i was really self-conscious at first but i’m feeling better about it now. i realize that if someone wants me, they want me. there are guys out there who are o.k. w/not having kids. it’s just a matter of meeting them.

    By Lady Dark w/Dimples

    July 2, 2007 3:59 PM | Link to this

    Tazzee I know right…I’m just talking about what works for me…not saying anyone has to do anything or that my way is the right way and everyone else is wrong…I’m just saying that I’m happy with where I am and that my experiences have served me well, not because I’m married or NOT. But because I’m happy and full of self confidence and esteem. You would think that people would be happy to hear that and applaud it if they’ve found something that works for them….but nooooooo, it’s like people want you to be unhappy, miserable, and sad!

    By QC

    July 2, 2007 4:00 PM | Link to this

    You all see they’ve changed Laney’s picture to Bella’s

    By IslandGirl

    July 2, 2007 4:03 PM | Link to this

    @MO….^5 on your 3:08 post. I totally agree with your mindset. Although I have no clue what you guys are talking about…I’ve not read Wise’s intro, but I managed to read your post.

    Just wanted to say hello to the ladies of the WLB and blow a kiss to the guys of the MLB

    Hope everyone had a great weekend. I’m buried under work, so I won’t do much blogging…I will try to get in where I can fit in. Stay blessed. IG

    By NCGirlfromATL

    July 2, 2007 4:04 PM | Link to this

    crazy GIT YO @ZZ UP! Eeeeeeeewww!! You must be a friend of For Real’s cuz you sho know how to funk up a chair! Spraying Lysol and Fabreeze all over WLB headquarters!

    For Real Answering that question would take a lifetime. You name it, I’ve probably heard/seen it, and been a participant in that game. It’s a part of life. And like many things in life I’d like to see change, such as war, poverty, famine and taxes, there’s only so much I can do about it to effect change. So, I do my part, and pray that everyone else does theirs! LOL!

    GA Nah mayne! We have city ordinances about homeless (looking) people rummaging thru the trash and stuff. Ok, ask *Musing * to come by in the URANG and we’ll see about bagging up the cans. But please…OH PLEASE…get that man some real shorts! We didn’t need to see all of that first thing this morning…at least not without some warning and SARS mask! LMAO!!!

    By T-Mango

    July 2, 2007 4:04 PM | Link to this

    SeanJohnson3000…I understand what you’re saying & it is valid for some women.

    And by the way…you have cutback on the generalizations in the past few months:-)^5

    By kinderbabe

    July 2, 2007 4:05 PM | Link to this

    SJ you’re right! i do have kids at school..a lot of them too, lol.

    By Jake

    July 2, 2007 4:06 PM | Link to this

    Tazzee/4Real

    I’m glad you both commented, so I can expound on the sex or soulmate deal. Its JMO, but if you are dating a woman you want to see a couple of things, either you are making the investment in her for her soulmatism-having the qulaities of what you want in the big picture, OR, she cool as hell, and you wouldn’t mind tapping that’taz, otherwise you have a friendship. If there is any intimate thoughts involved, you seeking the right one or the right now one, any other purpose is useless. I’m not saying you are consciously on the hunt for sex or soulmate, but that’s what it is in the end.

    By QC

    July 2, 2007 4:10 PM | Link to this

    lol @ GA.man

    By kinderbabe

    July 2, 2007 4:16 PM | Link to this

    hey IG:)

    By Lacey (formally purplepassion)

    July 2, 2007 4:16 PM | Link to this

    LOL Truth I don’t hang out at the circus, afraid of clowns since the movie IT by Steven King

    By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

    July 2, 2007 4:17 PM | Link to this

    What’s for dinner tonight QC?

    By SeanJohnson3000

    July 2, 2007 4:17 PM | Link to this

    @ KB…one perk being with you…after u exchanging results..any LT SO can feel the “wet wet”..lol

    By Tazzee

    July 2, 2007 4:17 PM | Link to this

    GAman I have been craving a good grilled cheese sammich!

    kb I’m happy for you. I know there are some men out there that don’t want children, I just haven’t met one yet - well, one that was cute, LOL. My problem is, I give them hope when I say (my exact words) ‘I would hope that if I met the love of my life, I would consider having one for him if he REALLY wanted a child’ - the last guy I semi-dated was like ‘but I thought you said you would have one if your man wanted one’ - and I’m thinking ‘dude, I’m not even sure if I can stand being around you for more than 2 hours straight’.

    By Foots

    July 2, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

    Hey all…

    I believe that neither a woman nor a guy can possibly know on a first date (or second or whatever) if they will be married to each other, but at least they can both have the mindset that they would like something serious. I don’t agree that marriage has to be the end goal for a like-minded couple, I wouldn’t want to stifle things by saying “we are serious, so we must get married”. That’s not the point. The point to me is that I get to know him and see if I still like him after a few months. Cause y’all know that I keeps it moving. But like we have all heard, a man (or woman) will not even consider getting married if he or she is not in that frame of mind, no matter what.

    On the other side though, it’s fine to only date the type of man or woman that you could see yourself marrying based on initial impressions, even if it never gets that far. It’s like passing by a beautiful house and you say, “I would love to live in a house like that” but doubting that you’d live in that particular house. At least you are in the right neighborhood if you can say that.

    Basically: Are you fine with the idea of settling down or do you still want to play and date around? Nothing wrong with knowing that up front, or as close to up front as you can get without looking like you’re already carrying the ball and chain.

    By Blatino aka BMW aka BLT

    July 2, 2007 4:19 PM | Link to this

    MLB Council, looks like Crazy’s startin to get it…. “Kid, I’m a scary judge of talent…”

    By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

    July 2, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this

    Yeah i agree Blat…he might be able to hold his own…but i will hold my final vote until he goes head to head with either….NC or Sexione, heck any of the WLB…then his talent will come out….but he has to be able to take the hits from different angles..and still shoot back…he is a rookie, so i will watch, but thats what i want to see

    By Lady Dark w/Dimples

    July 2, 2007 4:26 PM | Link to this

    FOOTS On the other side though, it’s fine to only date the type of man or woman that you could see yourself marrying based on initial impressions, even if it never gets that far.

    There you go…well said!

    By kinderbabe

    July 2, 2007 4:29 PM | Link to this

    tazzee thanks.:) the guys that i dated who didn’t want kids usually already had some. i only met a couple who didn’t have any and didn’t want any. do you not want to birth any or do you not want kids around at all? you might meet someone who has joint custody so the kids would be w/him part time. i know i’m playing out a lot of scenarios..lol. they’re just all things that i’ve thought about. i know what you mean when people think you’ll change your mind for them. that’s not cool. it’s important for whoever you deal w/to truly respect and accept your decision.

    By kinderbabe

    July 2, 2007 4:31 PM | Link to this

    SJ no you didn’t!!! lmao you are a mess!! that is a good point though.:)

    By The Truth

    July 2, 2007 4:34 PM | Link to this

    Crazy I owe you an apology dude. You came in with your guns blazing. good work. However, you do have to wear my old nuthuggers until you get out of church sunday, then your initaion is over. Good work Blat.

    By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

    July 2, 2007 4:37 PM | Link to this

    very well said Kinder……ok all i got to go… as always…If you got problems…put GOD in them…he can fix anything…you can take that to the bank…

    MLB for LIFE

    Blat lets see how he does tom.

    By IslandGirl

    July 2, 2007 4:42 PM | Link to this

    Hey Kinder…hope you’re doing well.

    By QC

    July 2, 2007 4:43 PM | Link to this

    Night night everyone!!!!!

    By Demi

    July 2, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this

    QC why do I have an office in the roof top? Sure I love making out with women on the roof tops, but it’s a little too too hot for that now, LOL

    By Tazzee

    July 2, 2007 4:44 PM | Link to this

    kb I don’t want kids around all the time so if a guy has joint custody - I would like that. I actually like children to a certain degree - but I don’t think I could handle them constantly.

    But who knows - if the right man comes along I might be popping them out left and right, LOL.

    By QC

    July 2, 2007 4:45 PM | Link to this

    GA.man you can have what ever you want for dinner……..

    By For Real

    July 2, 2007 4:47 PM | Link to this

    All right Blog Fam I am out!

    As always drank one for me or give me the money…

    By kinderbabe

    July 2, 2007 4:49 PM | Link to this

    tazzee that sounds like a plan. you know what you want.:) it’s cool to change your mind, as long as it’s your choice.

    have a great evening everyone!! peace, love and SSSSOOOOUUUULLLLL! lol

    By NCGirlfromATL

    July 2, 2007 4:50 PM | Link to this

    Blat lets see how he does tom.

    Whose Tom?!? And why do you want him to do him?1?! LMAO!!!!

    By Mo (now known as Moeisha)

    July 2, 2007 4:53 PM | Link to this

    IG what’s up Chica!

    Kinderbabe I am glad you found someone that has the same interests as you! ^5

    Hey NCGirl

    By Demi

    July 2, 2007 4:59 PM | Link to this

    Mo none of them wanted to get with me, because they felt I was too nice…so I cooly place myself in the FZ…And once she came along seeking a relationship as I was, I let most of my lady friends go…They felt I was too nice to get with them…I never change my attitude with women…I simply waited for a woman who was worth and enjoy a man who will treat her like a Queen, day in and day out. Most of their mate treated them like dirt anyway…So it worked out for the best.

    I have no time to heal broken hearts

    Night All!!!

    By GA.man AKA "Mr. Entertainment

    July 2, 2007 5:01 PM | Link to this

    Funny Nc you knew what i meant

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