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Friday, June 29, 2007
One last problem to solve
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I can’t believe this is my last entry ever on this blog! I have really enjoyed talking to each and every one of you over the past year and a half. But I know I leave the blog in good hands with Wise Diva and Bella, and I am sure that all of you will keep on keepin’ on.
So for today’s entry, I tried really hard to think of a big issue, one that is one of my No. 1 concerns when it comes to dating. Hopefully y’all can leave me with some good advice as I go on my way.
As I know many of us do, I tend to fall for people who aren’t exactly what I had in mind. And once I fall, I fall hard. Now while I think that there is some definite value in keeping your expectations and your options open, sometimes, we have standards for a reason.
I know, intellectually, for example, that I don’t really want to date a guy who isn’t pursuing a career, or one who doesn’t make enough time for me, or who drinks too much or does drugs. But sometimes, our hearts take precedence over our heads, and even though I know that rationally “hey, this may not be the guy for me,” I can’t help but feeling strongly.
It’s this problem that has gotten me embroiled in several relationships that left me really hurt, and this problem also that has left me very entwined with exes who I know are bad news but whom I emotionally can’t resist.
So do you put your heart or your head first when it comes to dating? And what happens when they disagree? Should I end up with Mr. Big because my heart says that there’s something special there, even though my head says he should treat me better, for example?
How can you learn to ignore your rational side and go with your gut, or ignore what your heart is telling you and listen to the reasonable pros and cons in your mind?
Which is more important when it comes to love, your emotions or your reason? What experiences have you had that tell you the truth of this?
Maybe if you guys can solve this one for me, I’ll finally be able to bring my love life to where it ought to be.
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